Also want to say that you do a great job of explaining what’s going on with your divorce without airing dirty details. Very authentic yet classy. I always appreciate that about your videos.
Wait, I thought she mentioned in a video that they just grew apart and there was no cheating involved? I don’t have a chance yet to watch the video, but either way I love how she’s taking back more of her literal and figurative space. Out with the trash and in with the new!
@@ImpetuousPorkusshe has said things like she was never treated nicely and that he did “sus” things which to me means cheating. But she’s never directly said and I don’t think will!
Watching you declutter and get rid of/burn unwanted things, you can see more weight has been lifted off your shoulders and you have reached another level of happiness ❤😊
My 1st marriage ended badly, and when he left for the third time, that was it! I sat on my front porch, and with some scissors, cut up my beautiful wedding dress, thinking of all the lies and deceitfulness that had been told to me in 1 1/2 year marriage. Cut it into tiny itty biddy pieces,then threw it away. That was 42 years ago, my husband now is such a wonderful man, and we’ve been married 40 years! I’m so happy you found your new love!
So glad you filmed burning the items. Love your message about empowering victims. Far too often society wants victims to remain silent. Happy to see you have found your voice and your peace.
14:14 I love this so much! Unapologetically choosing yourself first (most likely for the first time in a long time after being a wife and also an amazing mother). It is so refreshing to see this as a young woman myself. Thank you for sharing your story.
Girl, I am going through what you went through RIGHT NOW. Divorcing my cheating, lying, gaslighting, narcissistic sorry excuse for a husband. I’m already feeling the mom guilt and it’s just the beginning. 😢 I relate to what you said about just trying to make everything seamless and feeling guilt for not keeping the family together so that they can have both parents. I also have been spoiling them a lot to try to make up for what’s happening to them/around them. I have 3 young beautiful girls ages 4, 2, and 5 months. Literally the ONLY good thing that came from the marriage. Ahhhhh, the joys of life. 😅
I am very fortunate enough to have a great husband. But my sister has gone through this. She burned her wedding dress and pictures pre kids. She is now happily married and expecting her 3rd baby!! You got this!!
As someone who tries to give away as much as possible and burning stuff makes me worry about the toxins, I LOVE THIS! I've followed your journey for years and remember your last memorabilia declutter... This felt very cathartic and important. So happy to see you come out on the other side like this 🥰
Love this video, it gave me a bit of courage yo do the same as I am going through this only difference is I am currently 20 weeks pregnant. I will never go back so I may as well burn everything too x
The Cleanse is just a positive as the burn!! Stay true and keep the restoring of your heart, mind, and spirit up! That fire roars on in your motivation for a healing journey!
Love this for you, double whammy free of all the stuff that doesn’t bring you joy and a great overhaul of the attic it looked great and 2 things now gone from your life that were weighing you down. Could definitely see how much joy it brought you doing it 💖
Love that you burned everything! I know exactly what you’ve been through. I’m not dating currently as divorce not finalized yet. But I’m excited for this next chapter. You give me so much hope.
Yes!!!! I’ve been waiting for this video! Since u’ve met ur handsome cowboy, ur videos give me goosebumps. I can feel the happiness, and butterflies when u smile and talk about him. I wish we could all find of handsome cowboys and be happy. ❤❤. Sending love from Ontario Canada
You WERE kind. You were KIND to yourself. I know you have to explain to try and head off the ludicrous comments. You didn't do it in anger or spite you did it after thought reflection and time. That should be explanation enough. Yes you can have a little smirk you not only survived it your florishing. I enjoy your channel and wanted especially to support you on this one.
There's a reason photographers do Trash the Dress sessions. If those things were weighing you down, GET RID OF THEM! There's always going to be someone that will say it could be reused. The dress could be repurposed (but it has bad juju). The canvases could be painted over (but you'll always know what's under it). It's a fresh start and I'm glad you're getting that!
I am 100% with u. U don't need to give any explanation. It is ur memorabilia n u can do whatever it is u choose to do to close that chapter of ur life n move on. U were the one that went through that hurtful experience. Not anybody else. N hey maybe u help someone else out there who is going through something similar or may have gone through it. I could see that a huge weight has been lifted. N am happy that u r happy n found love again. Tfs😘🙂
If you have some books pre-kids might want to keep a few for the kids. My parents separated when I was young but I do have 1 album of them and I do cherish it. I'm 37 now and my parents still can't stand each other lol
Keep pics of your wedding if your parents, grandparents are in it… it’s all you have after family dies… 💔 I recently decluttered pics from my x and my wedding too But i kept a lot because my parents, or family that are deceased were in it and it’s irreplaceable now … remember at one time it was a beautiful time..and priceless
There is so much joy/ freedom in burning things! I had an ex (boyfriend) who did me wrong, took advantage of my niceness, so after we broke up, i burned everything that had any connection to him and our relationship! Good for you!🎉
Even though it’s a bad memory…donate the dress to a company that makes dresses and donates them to babies that passaway. It’s such a way to get rid of the bad juju !!!!! Lol
Girl I don't blame you for burning it all. I shattered my beautiful frame that held our photo with our cake I was so missed about the whole situation when we had to separate.
Good for you 🎉your happy now and going towards more happy days ahead seeing your past litterally burn creates the sense of closure to feel better if other people cant see that good for them never havung been in a bad or toxic relationship before
How can you forgive someone that lied with such cruelty?! Not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It would be so hard for me to forgive and not burn the entire house down. I hope you find completely healing and freedom from all the lies ❤️
The happiness on your face when you’re talking about burning them is the most genuine happiness I’ve seen. Such a rare joy. I’m so happy you are out of that relationship. I’m terrified to know about it. It sounds dark. You are in the best part of your life thus far and your happiness is contagious! You’re so kind and beautiful inside and out! I agree with everything youve said and that was awesome seeing it all burn!!! 100% doing this if I ever have to. Lolll. HAHAHAAH the ending😂
I’m so proud of you!! I’ve been watching your videos for years and I remember that being a difficult time. And honestly this was the best video for me to watch right now. I’m experiencing a 4 year relationship breakup. It’s a good reminder that things do eventually get better. Maybe I’ll be burning things soon too. 😂❤
Mai what is your eyeshadow combo? You were sitting there talking about your traumatic divorce and I was like "wow her makeup is sooooo pretty" 🙊sorry girl!
I feel like the relationship with my ex was a lie, too. He had issues. I left because he was abusive. Whenever I think back to the later of issues that were lies, I can't comprehend it. I literally wasted years of my life being with him. He ruined jobs for me. He even kept me from college classes.
Good for you! Fire can be renewal too, right? Not only destruction. Hope you could let some of the hurt go with the smoke. Also, I'm glad you posted another video. Missed you.
Good for you Mai! I did the same thing with the pics I had....... actually, I need to go through them again one day, because I liked your idea of just keeping the pics with the kids in them. Mine, I believe have just "Him" in them, so those can go! Thanks for the tip! Santa Fe is so pretty at Christmas. ❤
This is an awesome video! So glad you were able to get to declutter the attic and get rid of the bad relationship junk. The wedding dress is pretty for what I could tell but yes it has bad vibes or juju not worth keeping!
I’m married and this is inspiring to when my husband pisses me off although we have no intention of separating LOL. Still might burn somethin🤣🤣🤣 I love your videos and humor. And decluttering wooo!!🙌🏻
I am sooo second hand happy and satisfied you burned the stuff!! Also - I really love your makeup in this video! You look so beautiful! What eyeshadow did you use?
I loved that video! I should have done that back then, instead of that, I sold my stuff and made money from it, it was a good idea too. I totally understand where you are coming from, I’ve been there.
Married 18 yrs here, and when I left my only concern was taking all my kids stuff and any personal things I had from people I loved. Just wanted out from a sad life
Watching you sit there munching a cake pop with a smile on your face while you watch the burn was truly inspirational!
Enjoying the simple things of life.
@ 😂😂true
I love how your eyes light up whenever you say you are going to burn things! 🔥🔥🔥🔥
😂😂😅😅
I know some people may not have agreed but I am proud of your strength.
This may have been my favorite video of all time...A woman taking her power back like the epic badass that she is. Well done!
Also want to say that you do a great job of explaining what’s going on with your divorce without airing dirty details. Very authentic yet classy. I always appreciate that about your videos.
Cheaters stink ! Yay finally a video and not a short
Wait, I thought she mentioned in a video that they just grew apart and there was no cheating involved? I don’t have a chance yet to watch the video, but either way I love how she’s taking back more of her literal and figurative space. Out with the trash and in with the new!
She will never say, but read between the lines
@@ImpetuousPorkusshe has said things like she was never treated nicely and that he did “sus” things which to me means cheating. But she’s never directly said and I don’t think will!
Watching you declutter and get rid of/burn unwanted things, you can see more weight has been lifted off your shoulders and you have reached another level of happiness ❤😊
My 1st marriage ended badly, and when he left for the third time, that was it! I sat on my front porch, and with some scissors, cut up my beautiful wedding dress, thinking of all the lies and deceitfulness that had been told to me in 1 1/2 year marriage. Cut it into tiny itty biddy pieces,then threw it away. That was 42 years ago, my husband now is such a wonderful man, and we’ve been married 40 years! I’m so happy you found your new love!
Ayeee congrats!!
The shot of you with the cake pop sitting behind the fire was so badass!! 🍰 🍭 🔥
So glad you filmed burning the items. Love your message about empowering victims. Far too often society wants victims to remain silent. Happy to see you have found your voice and your peace.
14:14 I love this so much! Unapologetically choosing yourself first (most likely for the first time in a long time after being a wife and also an amazing mother). It is so refreshing to see this as a young woman myself. Thank you for sharing your story.
Burning things that have negative energy is the BEST! So happy you have gotten to this point. ❤❤
Girl, I am going through what you went through RIGHT NOW. Divorcing my cheating, lying, gaslighting, narcissistic sorry excuse for a husband. I’m already feeling the mom guilt and it’s just the beginning. 😢 I relate to what you said about just trying to make everything seamless and feeling guilt for not keeping the family together so that they can have both parents. I also have been spoiling them a lot to try to make up for what’s happening to them/around them. I have 3 young beautiful girls ages 4, 2, and 5 months. Literally the ONLY good thing that came from the marriage. Ahhhhh, the joys of life. 😅
Going through the same. You’re not alone! We will be ok ❤
@@Erica-wz8yv I’m sorry that you can relate. Yes, it can only get better from here.
You go girl!!! The attic looks great!!! YOU look great!!! That FIRE was GREAT!!!
Congratulations, on freeing yourself for the past . Good luck in the future and take care.
Thank you for sharing your journey!!! I love your videos!!
i'm here for your COLD HARD TRUTH, BOLD DECISIONS, ZERO EFFS GIVEN
I am very fortunate enough to have a great husband. But my sister has gone through this. She burned her wedding dress and pictures pre kids. She is now happily married and expecting her 3rd baby!! You got this!!
Awww so happy she took another chance at love 🩷
I’m usually not for burning stuff but you may have just converted me😂 this was so beautiful and empowering and POWERFUL to witness. You go, queen!!!!
I’m glad I’m not the only one that gets satisfaction from burning junk. 😅 the happiness in your face says it all; keep thriving sis!💕
This is unhinged in the best way! 😅
hahahaha thank you!
You do you girlie. It's like another cleansing ❤
😂😂😂
I remember watching you a couple of years ago and this is the happiest I’ve seen you and I’m so proud of you!
As someone who tries to give away as much as possible and burning stuff makes me worry about the toxins, I LOVE THIS! I've followed your journey for years and remember your last memorabilia declutter... This felt very cathartic and important. So happy to see you come out on the other side like this 🥰
Loved this video Mai!! You can see the happiness you are living in the present moment. So happy for you. 😊
Love this video, it gave me a bit of courage yo do the same as I am going through this only difference is I am currently 20 weeks pregnant. I will never go back so I may as well burn everything too x
Reminds me of the Friends episode where they burned all their ex’s stuff. Good stuff.
Have to try this just to see if I get half the joy you recieved. This came at the perfect time.
I'm so glad that you're doing videos
The Cleanse is just a positive as the burn!!
Stay true and keep the restoring of your heart, mind, and spirit up!
That fire roars on in your motivation for a healing journey!
Love this for you, double whammy free of all the stuff that doesn’t bring you joy and a great overhaul of the attic it looked great and 2 things now gone from your life that were weighing you down. Could definitely see how much joy it brought you doing it 💖
Girl I F**king love this!!! And you’ve inspired me to get back to my own videos and burning everything from my ex 😅
Thanks for the smiles!
Ive done the same thing with reminders of past painful memories, it is quite theraputic!
Love that you burned everything! I know exactly what you’ve been through. I’m not dating currently as divorce not finalized yet. But I’m excited for this next chapter. You give me so much hope.
Loves this! You rock girl! Piss on anyone that screws you over.
so happy that you've been able to get to this point for yourself and your healing, girl!!
Yes!!!! I’ve been waiting for this video! Since u’ve met ur handsome cowboy, ur videos give me goosebumps. I can feel the happiness, and butterflies when u smile and talk about him. I wish we could all find of handsome cowboys and be happy. ❤❤. Sending love from Ontario Canada
You WERE kind. You were KIND to yourself. I know you have to explain to try and head off the ludicrous comments. You didn't do it in anger or spite you did it after thought reflection and time. That should be explanation enough. Yes you can have a little smirk you not only survived it your florishing. I enjoy your channel and wanted especially to support you on this one.
There's a reason photographers do Trash the Dress sessions. If those things were weighing you down, GET RID OF THEM! There's always going to be someone that will say it could be reused. The dress could be repurposed (but it has bad juju). The canvases could be painted over (but you'll always know what's under it). It's a fresh start and I'm glad you're getting that!
I am 100% with u. U don't need to give any explanation. It is ur memorabilia n u can do whatever it is u choose to do to close that chapter of ur life n move on. U were the one that went through that hurtful experience. Not anybody else. N hey maybe u help someone else out there who is going through something similar or may have gone through it. I could see that a huge weight has been lifted. N am happy that u r happy n found love again. Tfs😘🙂
If you have some books pre-kids might want to keep a few for the kids. My parents separated when I was young but I do have 1 album of them and I do cherish it. I'm 37 now and my parents still can't stand each other lol
I literally LIVE for your videos. I wish you posted every week, actually in honesty I wish you posted all the time haha! I’m here for it!!
Keep pics of your wedding if your parents, grandparents are in it… it’s all you have after family dies… 💔
I recently decluttered pics from my x and my wedding too
But i kept a lot because my parents, or family that are deceased were in it and it’s irreplaceable now … remember
at one time it was a beautiful time..and priceless
There is so much joy/ freedom in burning things! I had an ex (boyfriend) who did me wrong, took advantage of my niceness, so after we broke up, i burned everything that had any connection to him and our relationship! Good for you!🎉
You burning all that was blessed. You are SO YOUNG and your whole life is about to start again! Woohoo!!!!!
Commitment to living an authentic life.
So savage and I'm here for it! I'm sorry what happened, but so happy for what you have now. ❤❤❤❤
Bonfire = “how (Mai) got her groove back” + I love how you remembered the snacks! Lol
No need to be sorry! The people that can relate have learned from it and are with you! I shredded everything but that’s just bc of my fear of fire 😂
The Best, and I totally agree.
Even though it’s a bad memory…donate the dress to a company that makes dresses and donates them to babies that passaway. It’s such a way to get rid of the bad juju !!!!! Lol
I very much relate to your story and I loved this video....I threw my wedding dress into the dump!
What you did was right for you…we can see it in your face…you go girl!! 😊❤️🇨🇦
you really look happy, which makes me happy for you!
Girl I don't blame you for burning it all. I shattered my beautiful frame that held our photo with our cake I was so missed about the whole situation when we had to separate.
I have been a subscriber for a few years. You are in such a better way. Before you always seemed stressed! Hugs and much love 😘!
Good for you!! ❤❤❤❤
I’m so sorry for what you have been through xx
I had a burn party with my sister years ago... it was so cathartic!
Good for you 🎉your happy now and going towards more happy days ahead seeing your past litterally burn creates the sense of closure to feel better if other people cant see that good for them never havung been in a bad or toxic relationship before
Amen sister!
Legendary 👑
Loved watching this 😂
Hooray! 🎉 miss your longer format videos!
Hey Mai so happy to see you thriving, the fire made me happy cry 😭😭😭
This video will go viral
@Mai i am very proud of you. Stop justifying urself! Ur an excellent mom and ur SO funny. Love ur videos so much😊
Justifying myself doing basic, legal, things is a bad habit 😆😅
Yup burned all the ex's pictures when it was over and yeeted gifts I was given. Good for you keep living your life.
How can you forgive someone that lied with such cruelty?!
Not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It would be so hard for me to forgive and not burn the entire house down.
I hope you find completely healing and freedom from all the lies ❤️
I burned all items that were reminders of my failed marriage.....it was very cleansing of the soul ...so happy you did that!
Haha , love the burning happy hour 🎉😂❤
The happiness on your face when you’re talking about burning them is the most genuine happiness I’ve seen. Such a rare joy. I’m so happy you are out of that relationship. I’m terrified to know about it. It sounds dark. You are in the best part of your life thus far and your happiness is contagious! You’re so kind and beautiful inside and out! I agree with everything youve said and that was awesome seeing it all burn!!! 100% doing this if I ever have to. Lolll. HAHAHAAH the ending😂
You’re future grandkids will thank you for giving them a dad who are brought up to be a natural part of the household.
Good for you, Mai! Also, I love that the shopping list was Starbucks and lighter fluid lol.
Good for you!!❤
I’m so proud of you!! I’ve been watching your videos for years and I remember that being a difficult time. And honestly this was the best video for me to watch right now. I’m experiencing a 4 year relationship breakup. It’s a good reminder that things do eventually get better. Maybe I’ll be burning things soon too. 😂❤
Mai what is your eyeshadow combo? You were sitting there talking about your traumatic divorce and I was like "wow her makeup is sooooo pretty" 🙊sorry girl!
Loved it! Good for you!
You do you. Let it burn. 🔥
You go girl! Period
I feel like the relationship with my ex was a lie, too. He had issues. I left because he was abusive. Whenever I think back to the later of issues that were lies, I can't comprehend it. I literally wasted years of my life being with him. He ruined jobs for me. He even kept me from college classes.
PS Thanks for the book recs
Good for you! Fire can be renewal too, right? Not only destruction.
Hope you could let some of the hurt go with the smoke.
Also, I'm glad you posted another video. Missed you.
HOPE your wrist is just fine. I feel bad that you hurt it when you lifted that really heavy bin. HUGS
Good for you Mai! I did the same thing with the pics I had....... actually, I need to go through them again one day, because I liked your idea of just keeping the pics with the kids in them. Mine, I believe have just "Him" in them, so those can go! Thanks for the tip! Santa Fe is so pretty at Christmas. ❤
WOW! You are so strong!!!! 🥺
Send love from Germany 😊
To a new start 🎉
SO SORRY he hurt you and hurt you so much. You are a fantastic person. HIS loss.
I'm so happy for you!! Go Mai!!! I can totally relate...
This is an awesome video! So glad you were able to get to declutter the attic and get rid of the bad relationship junk. The wedding dress is pretty for what I could tell but yes it has bad vibes or juju not worth keeping!
I’m married and this is inspiring to when my husband pisses me off although we have no intention of separating LOL. Still might burn somethin🤣🤣🤣 I love your videos and humor. And decluttering wooo!!🙌🏻
I am sooo second hand happy and satisfied you burned the stuff!!
Also - I really love your makeup in this video! You look so beautiful! What eyeshadow did you use?
That was awesome 😁
🔥Fire!!!🔥
Burning can be quite therapeutic. ♡
I loved that video! I should have done that back then, instead of that, I sold my stuff and made money from it, it was a good idea too. I totally understand where you are coming from, I’ve been there.
Powerful!
LOVE this video! Burn It all! I see your joy, you needed It ❤
This is amazing, your declutters are always super entertaining but this one, I dunno I was like a moth to the flame 😂 glad you’re in a good space! ❤
Good morning Mai how are you happy Wednesday morning to you and I enjoy your channel and you are amazing supporter
Married 18 yrs here, and when I left my only concern was taking all my kids stuff and any personal things I had from people I loved. Just wanted out from a sad life
Literally REFUSED to buy a secondhand wedding dress because I am a very big believer in juju. I don't blame you for burning it!!
Good job 👏🏼