Just remember you may not pick up everything right away but YOU are the one doing it. So your kids may not be perfect but giving them a purpose that contributes to the fam (even if they don’t do it perfectly) is so good for them😊I worked in a transitional program for young adults with challenges and I loved seeing their progress by the time they graduated was amazing! I am new here also and thank Midwest magic cleaning for finding your channel. I love it!
Mack at MMC sent me and while we aren’t encouraged to be too… “Well if you would just…” BUT as a mom with a neurodivergent family- this worked for us… we would set a timer for 15 minutes (or 3-4 songs) and everyone had to help clean a space- usually the living room. Then they were free. It really helped me to “feel” like everyone was helping. And when we were consistent we could even mop and clean windows in that 15 minutes… or I would move in to the kitchen and the kids would do the 15 min living room clean…. Anyway- enjoyed the video and you can take this or leave it- no judgement intended
My God you give me motivation to clean my livingroom and kitchen. Watching you in your big house and me in my one bedroom apartment- makes me feel I can conquer the world.
I’ve written in a gratitude journal every day for years. Just 3 lines a day. Grateful for manicure, to-do list completed, to prayers answered for friend who beat cancer. From the smallest to the biggest. Anything. Truly a great way to start your day! Love your videos and your commentary. You crack me up.
Good morning, sweet lady. Well, I want you to hear me... (I wish we could talk or email)... there is nothing you have to fix. I would love for you to find peace inside for yourself. You aren't broken, you are you. Who cares if your house is messy, it's lived in with a family and pets and busy lives. You can clean it when you clean it. And I'm not be disrespectful or bossy. You are loved just the way you are. We love your house, cardboard mountain, dirty feet and kitty litter. And you. Happiness and peace and inner joy! That doesn't mean there isn't pain, bad days, dirty dishes, bugs and laundry. Love yourself, sweetheart!! Cliché, but eat, play, laugh and clean❤❤❤
I love the way that you never give up. I see you have days where nothing is going to happen today but always get back to it when you can. Please keep being a real human being X
OMG, I’ve never related to someone so much in my life! I’m only 20 minutes in, but you’re literally voicing my exact thought processes. The house chaos, over thinking, Zelda, cats, and WW2 (etc) documentaries is so on point it’s scary. The bit about not wanting to be a hypocrite with kids and chores? Yup, that’s gonna be me someday, and I’m already resigned to it 😭 Also, your cat and the glass of water thing was adorable and I'm obsessed with them. I think this might be my new favorite channel
My kids didn't help much until I had a good cry once in a while in front of them with the whole slam the cupboard doors thingy. After that they would help for a while because of shame and that includes my hubby. Slowly they grew out of it and helped and I haven't had one of those crying jags in a long long time. They finally realized it is a families duty to pull together to keep the house up. That is my experience to confess.
Btw your videos are so relaxing to me and also motivational at the same time. I absolutely love your content and style. You’re hilarious and we have the same sense of humor. Love ya!!❤
I really love your transparency. You’re so relatable; I feel like I’m in your kitchen just listening to you talk and clean. You inspired me to unload my dishwasher and empty the sink I’ve been avoiding all day so thank you for the motivation!Subscribed!❤
I wish I could help you out girl! I have my own small cleaning business and I love helping people so much!!! You’re doing amazing despite all the twists and turns of life. Also I love your humour so much! Sending you love from Canada hahaha ❤
@@feraltradwifeHonestly it’s really intimidating allowing people to enter your home and see your everyday mess and clutter. Hell! I feel intimidated when I have anyone over and I’m a professional cleaner hahahahaha. It’s a lot and I completely understand but I really hope one day someone close by reaches out and gives you a break. You need rest ❤
Diagnosed, or not, you are describing my ADHD brain's functioning and thought-patterns. I learn more about myself from others. My thanks to you and Mac for explaining the neuro-divergent soul. As I blunder through life, I am constantly amused by my favorite form of humor - absurdity - which life offers in abundance!
I go around my house trying to find more trash to fill up the bag! 😅 I love listening to you and watching you clean! Hang in there! You’re fabulous BECAUSE of the way you are! ❤❤❤
I have struggled like you, thinking that I am just messy and I can never have a clean house UNTIL I extremely decluttered. I am not a minimalist or anything but I have so much less stuff and my anxiety around cleaning has completely changed. Of course when I get sick or something things pile up but now I just know it’s not going to take 10 years to catch back up bc there is just less to clean and pick up. Game changer!
Having a professional cleaner come in once a week to help you maintain things is a very reasonable accomodation for disability. It could definitely help prevent injury and chronic illness from the stress. It's a lot better to practice radical acceptance. You can't change your disability, only accommodate yourself. Let the people with other abilities help.
Beth, while I was listening to you…I started cleaning my bedroom…especially the top of my large dresser that I couldn’t even see the top of because of so much crap on top of it. Anyway, I got it done…threw a lot of crap away….miracle of miracles. Heaven only knows how long it had been there.😅
Penelope in Montana...i finally quit beating myself up when i learned about nuerodivergent. Whenever i find myself going down the road of self criticism i stop and say, " I'm not a messy slob, etc, i say I'm not...fill in the blank...i am NUERODIVERGENT!!" As though it is a blessing or a compliment. Life is short. You are a fabulous woman. We all love you because you are very entertaining!
Keep going girl. I love your messy house it’s a real home and not just a show house. Your banter is brilliant so for crying out loud don’t change it just wouldn’t be the same if everywhere was spotless plus there would be no post and that would deprive us all of a bloody good chuckle every week.
Not me nearly in tears over the cats making it out of the fire. 😭😭😭 also, I just love you and listening to your voiceovers. You’re so authentic and real and TH-cam needs more people like you.
After I left this comment I kept listening and heard about the boyfriend and felt like a total ass. Here I am cheering for the cats and this man is put in a coma! 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ so happy that this family I don’t know but am now invested in is safe
This is the second video of yours that I’ve seen- I immediately took a screenshot of the title and your name, sent it to my best friend and said “I think she’d be our best friend” your personality is so shining and I love your humor!
I would suggest a bullet journal. Just a tiny bullet for each thing you have to complete each day. It has changed my habits this past year because if I write it down I love to check it off.
Sending hugs from Maine! I resonate with this so much! I work best when I am late for something or I am angry or spiteful as well! It is easy to move through the aches and pains and lack of energy. I love your humor and sarcasm through the hardest times. Cheers! Coffee is also my fuel! LOL!
I love watching you do total transformations , from Messy to clean . I’m a messy person too , and set my dishes on back of couch . If I were to get up fir every little thing I would feel like some kind of robot 🤣. I just get it all at once later on my way to the kitchen . I think I’m like work smarter not harder . I enjoy listening to you, you make me able to laugh at myself , Thankyou for your witty honest humor I love it ! ❤
Thank you so much, I want to break the habit of leaving the dishes there? Like maybe I should force myself to put them in the kitchen the next time I stand up
I think you can make it a family effort, as in we can all work on doing better with picking up and then set a goal for yourselves, even if it's just keeping the floor clear of clothes. You can do it! ❤
I identify with SO MUCH of the feelings you expressed here. I can't even spell it all out, but just know you're not the only one. I'm 43, I have two sons with ASD & ADHD, lifelong slob 😇, trying to figure out how to balance expectations for my family members when I myself am all over the place. Thanks for the cleaning motivation!
🎵It's the most stressful time of the year🎵. I'm also feeling that it's super hard to keep up with pretty much anything. You're doing an amazing job, Beth! Also, sprinkling baking soda on those grease stains will make them come off easier with less elbow grease since it's mildly abrasive. -Sarah (so you don't have to try to remember while overwhelmed)
Man! This whole "rant" is hitting me right in the feels. 😅 Was seriously just talking to my husband about all of this for the last couple of days. I'm struggling not just with my adhd, and my messes/piles, but also the asking for help. Bc I really do feel like "how dare I ask them to do more than I do" like when did it get like this! Lol like I haven't been like this for 40 years 😅
Just because you are a tradwife, doesn't mean you are the slave to everything everybody needs/wants all the time. Others can take responsibility for their commitments. I was a tradwife too and I did get resentful from time to time.
Mack did a shout-out to you in his last video, and that is how I found you. I LOVE YOU!! I love how you just chat away on your videos about whatever crosses your mind! I retired from the military about 18 months ago and struggle with sleeping at night because my mind just runs about random things. Then I spend the day worrying about what I'm not getting done because I'm so tired. Thankfully it's just me and my husband now. Anyway, I totally get you and love your videos!
Awesome cleaning video! Worth the long wait. Kidding. I understand that you need breaks from them. It’s just that my house doesn’t get cleaned until I watch a new housecleaning video of yours. And my house was desperate for a new housecleaning video of yours! Motivation is here, so gotta go!
Sweetheart, take the pressure off yourself, please! There is not one of us with a perfect house, perfect figure and perfect everything. That would be boring as 💩 You are you, perfectly imperfect! You’ve helped me so much tonight, my dad is in hospital awaiting heart surgery on Thursday and I’m house sitting his cat. You’ve given me some laughs and comfort, so thank you for being you. Love you 🥰
Good morning, Get a Stanley thermos for your coffee, fill it with hot water to heat it while your coffee is brewing, I've been doing this for years and I made coffee 4 hours ago, just poured a cup, still hot and tasty. Loved the video, I'm like a piece of loose popcorn while living everyday life, so concentrated cleaning is a struggle...
I finally gave away most of my mugs and use my 24 oz Yeti every day. When I hang a Tile tracker from the handle, it’s easier to figure out where I left it. 😂
You are me!! I'm just further down the road of life! My kids are grown but one lives with me. I'm remarried after a long 27 year marriage. I'd love to be a minimalist-but not really. I live like you and love all the little reminders life gives us. I have 2 dogs, my live in daughter has 2 cats, and I saved my 20 year old cats last month from my ex husband. He was moving and hates me so much he was having them euthanized. They are old but healthy and happy. So we live in a 75 year old empty nester house with 4 adults, 4 cats and 2 dogs. There definitely isn't a place for everything, and it's everywhere. My mom has Alzheimer's so that takes time too. Life is messy for sure!! You make it normal, funny and worth working on. Thank you!!!!!
I'm new here and I clicked your video because of the title 😂 I can relate to you so much and your video has me cracking up and agreeing to everything you're saying and feeling! I freaking love it here ❤😂
lol!!! Welcome Cindy!! Also if you stay just know we are all prepping to steal a cruise ship to go to New Zealand during the zombie apocalypse, so that’s fun.
Sometimes, when my kitchen (or any other room) is a mess, and I HAVE to get it clean I just pretend I’m like you and I’m cleaning at 2X speed. I’m probably not ADHD because I haven’t been diagnosed, but I do know I’m a perfectionist so I end up cleaning with a toothbrush and a needle and sorta get lost in the details until I run out of steam. It helps me to attack the big picture better if I go at 2X like you do😊.
I also struggle with hypocrisy and feeling like there’s not a lot of hope. BUT… if you look back I think you’ll see how much you’ve grown and learned. Even if your house still gets messy, it’s ok.
The anount of work you have done. OMG. Just do us a small favor and be proud of yourself. I am a really tidy person, my daughters aren't. I always wonder why they didn't take my example. That's life i quess. You are awesome. not crazy.
I can relate on so many levels from the interruption of a task by “those people” to trying to sequence how I’m going to attack the current challenge. My philosophy, if you miss dusting (or whatever) it will be there for the next burst of energy. As far as cooled cups of coffee goes-add ice! It doesn’t taste the same warmed up and so I learned to sit down and enjoy the cup, only make a half cup at a time, or use a thermal carafe to keep it from the bitter taste that happens from sitting on the burner too long. Thank you for being yourself. You’re perfectly imperfect like the rest of us. Blessings from VA.🪴
This was INCREDIBLY SATISFYING to watch! Beautiful job!! I was laughing when you were talking about the kitty litter and how the big box came the day after you were talking about it 😂. Id ve annoyed too. Awesome Awesome video my friend! ❤❤❤
When i first met the best doctor i ever had (in the days of doctors who were not employed at patient processing centers) i asked him if there is one piece of advice he would say was key to longevity - besides all the obvious stuff like exercise, nutrition, etc. He said: Always wear good, supportive, shoes. Everywhere. Definitely AT HOME. When your feet go, he said, you loose your mobility, and when i see my geriatric patients lose their mobility, is the moment they start a much steeper decline. You really need to support your feet. Carpeting doesn't support them. It's important.
Yes!!! I bought some orthopedic house slippers following a visit with my new podiatrist. No more pain or numbness. I was barefoot on stone floors. Feet used to kill me
I am AuDHD with a side order of Bipolar. Right now, I am taking a break from cleaning (I need to put the towels in the washer...ACK!). Between you and MMC, I have been busier than a bee.
There you are!! been lonely having coffee by myself. Everyone needs a time out. you were so missed. My depression has been kicking my butt all month. and I m just now coming out of it enough to be motivated. Welcome back
I’m a new subscriber and I have to tell you that I love your videos! You are so real and you make me laugh because the stuff you say is just so me & I get it. I also completely understand the center island struggle. I clean mine 3 times a day and new stuff just seems to materialize there!! 😂. I also, feel that you should know that Leroy is my spirit animal!! 🐶
I had that exact vacuum and loved it for years! Same weird orange too. Also, I feel compelled to tell you that I love love love watching you mop. That's super weird to say but I'm comfortable with it, this is a clean with me right? So it's perfectly acceptable, I give myself permission. Also also, I've said this before but it can't be said enough, I love the way you're brain works! Hearing your thought rambles just sooooothes my headspaces and makes me feel so much more comfortable with my own weird brain rambles. Thanks buddy. 🙃
The struggle is real lol Also don't forget about the greatest walking tour in Savannah - Savannah Dan! and PS I started watching because of the messy house and the cleanup, I stayed because of you....don't change or change if you want to.....we are here for you xo
You are definitely not alone. Here are two thoughts that I keep having to share with you (but I didn't want to comment while you were in Savannah!): 1. You mentioned once that you have to drag the bins out. Girl, for decades we have had "Dump night", the night before the truck comes through. Grab a trash bag, hand to one child to a. pick up any trash in their rooms, and b. empty bathroom trash. Pass on to next child. Empty the cat boxes. Get trash from upstairs and empty trash cans. Mark can do the office and school areas, plus master bath while you do the kitchen and fridge declutter. You are empowering everyone to work together as a family to care for your home. Yay!! 2. If you and Mark don't eat in your bedroom, then (after the bugs and bin of dishes) then maybe it's time to say "No dishes and cups in bedrooms. We ALL eat at dining room table or in the living room." You will all be on the same level then. Same rules for everyone. I hope that you find some time to listen to Millenial Meg ((yes, I checked her channel out!)). She was speaking to you. Lovey, you aren't being a hypocrite. You want to break the cycle and empower your kids to live their best lives. You want to empower yourself. You can do this as a family. (And, honestly, I have cried being overwhelmed at all that was on my plate. I would hate for a future caregiver for the twins to be in a bathroom ugly crying.) I am big on research so I checked out autism, teens, life skills and will post in the comments. You are doing an awesome job!!!!!
My 'friend who wouldn't have actually cared if my house was a mess but who I wanted to clean for because I love her' came up last weekend, so of course I stayed up until 1am 3 nights that week to get my house way cleaner than it needed to be just so we could sit and eat szechuan chicken and chat for hours which we could have done in a messy house. Now it is taking every fiber of my being to maintain this level of clean as much as I can so I won't have to do it all again before the holiday season. I swear the teen is actively working against me. Leaving earrings on the coffee table is clearly a declaration of war.
Not only a declaration of war but also a hate crime. I’m sure of it. You may or may not keep it clean. You may or may not have to clean all over again for the holidays. But what we do know to be true, all things can be accomplished through spite. Let the rage pour through you as you scrub and tidy. Godspeed.
Hello, so, i always put my completely dirty dishes in the dishwasher and they will get perfectly clean. You could try this aswell. It saves you a lot of time. :)
This is my first time coming across your channel and I typically don’t like talking videos but this is some of the funniest commentary I have ever heard.
Hi! Not sure how this will sound but just know I am typing this with kindness. These videos help me so much more than the other cleaning videos I normally see (of like 3 pieces of clothes on the floor and some crumbs). THESE kind of videos make me feel like I'm not alone when I fall behind in cleaning. I have ADHD - so I feel very overwhelmed and distracted from one task to another. Your videos help me to stay focused and that a BIG task can be conquered. TYSM for your vulnerability with showing us your home and allowing us to clean together.
omg so funny - I just realized after I wrote this comment that the title of this video is literally called "ADHD burnout" ... I have found my people LOL
God Bless you girl. We would be great best buddies if i was close by. I suffer from Obsessive cleaning disorder. I literally cannot stop cleaning or thinking about cleaning. I would love to just follow you around and pick up after your ADHD :) Love your heart. Dont sweat the petty things and dont pet the sweaty things lololol
The battle between you and the cats was hysterical! I had a male cat named "Brat Cat" for a reason! It's ok to give up sometimes! It's good for your mental health because you've chosen to not deal with the issue! ❤❤❤❤❤
The idea of Canadians being even remotely bad enough to warrant the Geneva Convention is hilarious because they are NOTORIOUS for being nice - worse than Midwestern Americans. 😂 I would have lost my $#!t about the RV - I’m not a nice wife. 😢 But I have a great husband. My last life must have been better than my next - karma will get me! I love you Beth and cannot figure out why I stopped getting notifications of you videos IMMEDIATELY! I think it’s the Swiftie curse. I’ll figure it out. Remember you are a comfort and inspiration to thousands of people! ❤❤
I love that you are so honest about how seemingly little things annoy you because I feel the same way sometimes. I am so familiar with the feeling of rage cleaning.
Declutter is the best advice. Then you will have less stuff to manage. I’m not a great housekeeper either, but there’s a limit and everyone should be helping you….
This might be a stupid comment. I'm new here. But, doesn't anyone in your house help clean even a little bit up??? Your husband? Kids? Why can't they help to throw out trash or pick up empty boxes...? Watched more. That kitchen getting clean and then immediately piled up again made ME angry.
Put your house in different zones like Zone 1 would be the bar Zone tool to be your kitchen counter each day if you do that you might be able to keep your house a little bit up-to-date so it's just a Worth to try that's what I do to keep my house kind of up-to-date daily
great video, sweetie. i have so much in common with you....not a morning person, not good at keeping up with household chores, adhd (well, maybe not you!) and i feel a lot of these things are part of my personality. i procrastinate, as well. joke around our house was we need to arrange for someone to visit, so the house would get cleaned!! had to care for family and pick up after all of them and help them keep up with all the things they did ~ activities, etc. i always thought i needed to change all those years and would try different things to do so. now, at my old age, i just try to accept me and my quirks as how i am. so, i don't try to change them any longer!! maybe acceptance is a good thing and then i can feel better when i do clean up, but not feel badly that i don't do it as often as what others think is best!! but, what keeps me watching is your personality, you keep trying to do what you can and your humor. i am happy about how much you love yourself, a concept i have never grasped for myself. i hope i can learn how to do that from you!!
Midwest cleaning referred me to you also... I can relate to you sooo much I love your honesty thank you for sharing your stories.. you are awesome ❤ also I have ADHD that sucks lol.. I'm not a psychiatrist I really think you have ADHD you have so many symptoms.. also you crack me up😂
You have a beautiful home. I would suggest getting into a routine of a nightly re-set with the whole family involved. Not cleaning, but just putting things away. Trying to tackle clutter & cleaning is exhausting. Baby steps.
Last week I did the whole house. Spotless. Ran upstairs to put washing away…my daughter (special needs) decided to come in from her garden room and literally traipsed mud all over the house. Every floor I’d cleaned. Even the stairs and her bedroom 😮😢. I swear I nearly burst out crying! So I feel your pain over the island not staying clean for even ten minutes. 😂The kids mean well…😅🤦🏼♀️
Babbbbbeeee. I have done the break down crying from the same. I am so sorry. Especially when you hit the overwhelm part of this whole rollercoaster. Super hugs ❤️
I came to watch your channel after Midwest cleaning recommended you a few times! Loving your channel so far
Welcome!!
I always feel weird throwing away an empty trash box (the box that holds the trash bags). It feels like I somehow betrayed it.
New phone, who dis?
Me toooo!! Empty Kleenex boxes are great for holding trash and the plastic on tops keeps the trash from falling out.
Never even thought of that before and now i know i cant unknow, new anxiety level reached 😂
Midwest 😍 we love u ❤
Just remember you may not pick up everything right away but YOU are the one doing it. So your kids may not be perfect but giving them a purpose that contributes to the fam (even if they don’t do it perfectly) is so good for them😊I worked in a transitional program for young adults with challenges and I loved seeing their progress by the time they graduated was amazing! I am new here also and thank Midwest magic cleaning for finding your channel. I love it!
Welcome!
Mack at MMC sent me and while we aren’t encouraged to be too… “Well if you would just…” BUT as a mom with a neurodivergent family- this worked for us… we would set a timer for 15 minutes (or 3-4 songs) and everyone had to help clean a space- usually the living room. Then they were free. It really helped me to “feel” like everyone was helping. And when we were consistent we could even mop and clean windows in that 15 minutes… or I would move in to the kitchen and the kids would do the 15 min living room clean…. Anyway- enjoyed the video and you can take this or leave it- no judgement intended
No I love timers! They help so much ❤️
OMG, you are literally the best person I’ve seen online in a loooong time. THANK YOU for being you, and sharing!
My God you give me motivation to clean my livingroom and kitchen. Watching you in your big house and me in my one bedroom apartment- makes me feel I can conquer the world.
Yes Alison! Get yo crap done!
Feeling this video so hard right now. Thank you for reminding me I am not a failure, I just am a human, with a lot on their plate.
You are not a failure. And I am right here with you and I love you
@@feraltradwife 💯 for you both♥️
@@elisamvm42 hugs from Florida 🌞💚
You’re definitely not alone…right there with you…❤
@@feraltradwife the Everest concerns though, I am so glad it's not just me there too!!!!
I feel this rant to my core. We are all messy and I’m the only one that cleans up, it feels like. You’re not alone.
Thank you Amber ❤️
I’ve written in a gratitude journal every day for years. Just 3 lines a day. Grateful for manicure, to-do list completed, to prayers answered for friend who beat cancer. From the smallest to the biggest. Anything. Truly a great way to start your day! Love your videos and your commentary. You crack me up.
@@marshagoodwin5830 I love love love that so much.
Good morning, sweet lady. Well, I want you to hear me... (I wish we could talk or email)... there is nothing you have to fix. I would love for you to find peace inside for yourself. You aren't broken, you are you. Who cares if your house is messy, it's lived in with a family and pets and busy lives. You can clean it when you clean it. And I'm not be disrespectful or bossy. You are loved just the way you are. We love your house, cardboard mountain, dirty feet and kitty litter. And you. Happiness and peace and inner joy! That doesn't mean there isn't pain, bad days, dirty dishes, bugs and laundry. Love yourself, sweetheart!! Cliché, but eat, play, laugh and clean❤❤❤
Babe email me at feraltradwifeoffical@gmail.com. I would LOVE to talk with you! ❤️❤️❤️
Exactly 💯!!!
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You have to make the home a family effort. Everyone has a specific set of chores you enforce regularly it becomes less of a burden. 🎉❤ great job
Me too, especially with my bedroom, I hate when I clean but it doesn’t look clean, I feel like I have to trow away things I like so it looks clean.
I love the way that you never give up. I see you have days where nothing is going to happen today but always get back to it when you can. Please keep being a real human being X
Thank you Teresa! ❤️❤️❤️
OMG, I’ve never related to someone so much in my life! I’m only 20 minutes in, but you’re literally voicing my exact thought processes. The house chaos, over thinking, Zelda, cats, and WW2 (etc) documentaries is so on point it’s scary. The bit about not wanting to be a hypocrite with kids and chores? Yup, that’s gonna be me someday, and I’m already resigned to it 😭 Also, your cat and the glass of water thing was adorable and I'm obsessed with them. I think this might be my new favorite channel
I deleted the Amazon app from my phone. I haven't ordered anything from Amazon in two weeks. Bezos is going to declare bankruptcy any day now.
@@marylove909 if I delete it I would have to actually go to a store
Lol... your personality is what keeps me coming back for more.
lol, thanks my love!
My kids didn't help much until I had a good cry once in a while in front of them with the whole slam the cupboard doors thingy. After that they would help for a while because of shame and that includes my hubby. Slowly they grew out of it and helped and I haven't had one of those crying jags in a long long time. They finally realized it is a families duty to pull together to keep the house up. That is my experience to confess.
Btw your videos are so relaxing to me and also motivational at the same time. I absolutely love your content and style. You’re hilarious and we have the same sense of humor. Love ya!!❤
Thank you ☺️
I really love your transparency. You’re so relatable; I feel like I’m in your kitchen just listening to you talk and clean. You inspired me to unload my dishwasher and empty the sink I’ve been avoiding all day so thank you for the motivation!Subscribed!❤
So proud of you for tackling the extremely stupid task of dishes. It’s for sure my least favorite. That and folding and putting away laundry
I wish I could help you out girl! I have my own small cleaning business and I love helping people so much!!! You’re doing amazing despite all the twists and turns of life. Also I love your humour so much! Sending you love from Canada hahaha ❤
I love that you help people like me. It’s so important. I used to panic clean before my house cleaner got to my house 🤣
@@feraltradwifeHonestly it’s really intimidating allowing people to enter your home and see your everyday mess and clutter. Hell! I feel intimidated when I have anyone over and I’m a professional cleaner hahahahaha. It’s a lot and I completely understand but I really hope one day someone close by reaches out and gives you a break. You need rest ❤
Thank you for making me feel so normal!
Thank you for making me feel normal too love!
Diagnosed, or not, you are describing my ADHD brain's functioning and thought-patterns. I learn more about myself from others. My thanks to you and Mac for explaining the neuro-divergent soul. As I blunder through life, I am constantly amused by my favorite form of humor - absurdity - which life offers in abundance!
Yes!!! I love the absurd. Like sometimes I’m not even that bothered by a bad outcome if it’s at least the funniest outcome
I'm so glad to see you doing a long video. I love them.
You are so fun to watch, love your humor.
Thank you Donna!
I love you and how real you are! This is totally me. Everything you say is my thoughts and feelings exactly!
Thanks babe!!
@@feraltradwife I seriously mean it when I say I think we are the same person lol. I even collect coffee mugs! Ha!
I go around my house trying to find more trash to fill up the bag! 😅 I love listening to you and watching you clean! Hang in there! You’re fabulous BECAUSE of the way you are! ❤❤❤
I have struggled like you, thinking that I am just messy and I can never have a clean house UNTIL I extremely decluttered. I am not a minimalist or anything but I have so much less stuff and my anxiety around cleaning has completely changed. Of course when I get sick or something things pile up but now I just know it’s not going to take 10 years to catch back up bc there is just less to clean and pick up. Game changer!
I love that you have way less anxiety!! How freeing!
Oh girl that poor Dawn Power Wash on your counter is all you needed for that stubborn pan! It is pure MAGIC.
You make the mundane hilarious! That is what makes this so amazing ❤
Thanks love!!!
Having a professional cleaner come in once a week to help you maintain things is a very reasonable accomodation for disability. It could definitely help prevent injury and chronic illness from the stress.
It's a lot better to practice radical acceptance. You can't change your disability, only accommodate yourself. Let the people with other abilities help.
Beth, while I was listening to you…I started cleaning my bedroom…especially the top of my large dresser that I couldn’t even see the top of because of so much crap on top of it. Anyway, I got it done…threw a lot of crap away….miracle of miracles. Heaven only knows how long it had been there.😅
Yesss Angie that’s my dream!!! I want you to Pavlovian dog train you all to be productive to the sound of my voice!
Good work love
@@feraltradwife😂 just keep ringing a bell and give the ones who clean a coffee as the reward 😂
Penelope in Montana...i finally quit beating myself up when i learned about nuerodivergent. Whenever i find myself going down the road of self criticism i stop and say, " I'm not a messy slob, etc, i say I'm not...fill in the blank...i am NUERODIVERGENT!!" As though it is a blessing or a compliment. Life is short. You are a fabulous woman. We all love you because you are very entertaining!
Thank you Penelope!! ❤️
Keep going girl. I love your messy house it’s a real home and not just a show house. Your banter is brilliant so for crying out loud don’t change it just wouldn’t be the same if everywhere was spotless plus there would be no post and that would deprive us all of a bloody good chuckle every week.
lol thank you Kathy!!
Not me nearly in tears over the cats making it out of the fire. 😭😭😭 also, I just love you and listening to your voiceovers. You’re so authentic and real and TH-cam needs more people like you.
After I left this comment I kept listening and heard about the boyfriend and felt like a total ass. Here I am cheering for the cats and this man is put in a coma! 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ so happy that this family I don’t know but am now invested in is safe
He was fine by all accounts so don’t feel too badly my love! I was so scared about the cats too!!!
This is the second video of yours that I’ve seen- I immediately took a screenshot of the title and your name, sent it to my best friend and said “I think she’d be our best friend” your personality is so shining and I love your humor!
I would suggest a bullet journal. Just a tiny bullet for each thing you have to complete each day. It has changed my habits this past year because if I write it down I love to check it off.
Sending hugs from Maine! I resonate with this so much! I work best when I am late for something or I am angry or spiteful as well! It is easy to move through the aches and pains and lack of energy. I love your humor and sarcasm through the hardest times. Cheers! Coffee is also my fuel! LOL!
I’m moving in with you soon. I feel like early summer? We can go catch lobsters with our bare hands.
I love watching you do total transformations , from
Messy to clean . I’m a messy person too , and set my dishes on back of couch . If I were to get up fir every little thing I would feel like some kind of robot 🤣. I just get it all at once later on my way to the kitchen . I think I’m like work smarter not harder . I enjoy listening to you, you make me able to laugh at myself , Thankyou for your witty honest humor I love it ! ❤
Thank you so much, I want to break the habit of leaving the dishes there? Like maybe I should force myself to put them in the kitchen the next time I stand up
1st thank you for your service in the Army:) 2nd I am obsessed with your island. I love how massive it is. I enjoy watching your videos
1) it was my honor, 2) I’m also obsessed. It was 97% why I bought the house to be honest
I think you can make it a family effort, as in we can all work on doing better with picking up and then set a goal for yourselves, even if it's just keeping the floor clear of clothes. You can do it! ❤
I identify with SO MUCH of the feelings you expressed here. I can't even spell it all out, but just know you're not the only one. I'm 43, I have two sons with ASD & ADHD, lifelong slob 😇, trying to figure out how to balance expectations for my family members when I myself am all over the place. Thanks for the cleaning motivation!
Yes!!! We are basically the same love!
🎵It's the most stressful time of the year🎵. I'm also feeling that it's super hard to keep up with pretty much anything. You're doing an amazing job, Beth! Also, sprinkling baking soda on those grease stains will make them come off easier with less elbow grease since it's mildly abrasive.
-Sarah (so you don't have to try to remember while overwhelmed)
Thank you Sarah!! ❤️❤️❤️
Man! This whole "rant" is hitting me right in the feels. 😅 Was seriously just talking to my husband about all of this for the last couple of days. I'm struggling not just with my adhd, and my messes/piles, but also the asking for help. Bc I really do feel like "how dare I ask them to do more than I do" like when did it get like this! Lol like I haven't been like this for 40 years 😅
@@alidoll5678 right?! It’s so hard to not feel like a whole ass hypocrite!
Amazing job. I just love you, Beth.
Love you babe!
Got my dishes done while watching. Thanks for the motivation.
@@AmberMaynard-vp4dp most welcome sugar butt!!
Just because you are a tradwife, doesn't mean you are the slave to everything everybody needs/wants all the time. Others can take responsibility for their commitments. I was a tradwife too and I did get resentful from time to time.
Some days it’s less fun than others
Absolutely agree that a half-filled trash bag is wasteful!!
Mack did a shout-out to you in his last video, and that is how I found you. I LOVE YOU!! I love how you just chat away on your videos about whatever crosses your mind! I retired from the military about 18 months ago and struggle with sleeping at night because my mind just runs about random things. Then I spend the day worrying about what I'm not getting done because I'm so tired. Thankfully it's just me and my husband now. Anyway, I totally get you and love your videos!
That’s how my brain works! I hate the going to bed and worrying about how bad of a job you did at life during the day.
Awesome cleaning video! Worth the long wait. Kidding. I understand that you need breaks from them. It’s just that my house doesn’t get cleaned until I watch a new housecleaning video of yours. And my house was desperate for a new housecleaning video of yours! Motivation is here, so gotta go!
Sweetheart, take the pressure off yourself, please! There is not one of us with a perfect house, perfect figure and perfect everything. That would be boring as 💩 You are you, perfectly imperfect! You’ve helped me so much tonight, my dad is in hospital awaiting heart surgery on Thursday and I’m house sitting his cat. You’ve given me some laughs and comfort, so thank you for being you. Love you 🥰
Sending Prayers! 🙏 I just LOVE Beth's personality and Realness!🫶
Thank you sweetheart!!
Good morning,
Get a Stanley thermos for your coffee, fill it with hot water to heat it while your coffee is brewing, I've been doing this for years and I made coffee 4 hours ago, just poured a cup, still hot and tasty. Loved the video, I'm like a piece of loose popcorn while living everyday life, so concentrated cleaning is a struggle...
I have a yeti mug but that’s only regulated to travel. Maybe I should use it in my home. That’s what my husband does!
@@feraltradwifeI meant the large thermos that holds 6-8 cups.
@ omg YESSSSSS
I finally gave away most of my mugs and use my 24 oz Yeti every day. When I hang a Tile tracker from the handle, it’s easier to figure out where I left it. 😂
I'm dying over here with the "maybe this new journal will change my entire life" 🤣
There’s always the dream!
You are me!! I'm just further down the road of life! My kids are grown but one lives with me. I'm remarried after a long 27 year marriage. I'd love to be a minimalist-but not really. I live like you and love all the little reminders life gives us. I have 2 dogs, my live in daughter has 2 cats, and I saved my 20 year old cats last month from my ex husband. He was moving and hates me so much he was having them euthanized. They are old but healthy and happy. So we live in a 75 year old empty nester house with 4 adults, 4 cats and 2 dogs. There definitely isn't a place for everything, and it's everywhere. My mom has Alzheimer's so that takes time too. Life is messy for sure!! You make it normal, funny and worth working on. Thank you!!!!!
I'm new here and I clicked your video because of the title 😂 I can relate to you so much and your video has me cracking up and agreeing to everything you're saying and feeling! I freaking love it here ❤😂
lol!!! Welcome Cindy!! Also if you stay just know we are all prepping to steal a cruise ship to go to New Zealand during the zombie apocalypse, so that’s fun.
Sometimes, when my kitchen (or any other room) is a mess, and I HAVE to get it clean I just pretend I’m like you and I’m cleaning at 2X speed. I’m probably not ADHD because I haven’t been diagnosed, but I do know I’m a perfectionist so I end up cleaning with a toothbrush and a needle and sorta get lost in the details until I run out of steam. It helps me to attack the big picture better if I go at 2X like you do😊.
I love that Gail. I can often get way sucked into the tiny details as well and lose the forest for the trees
Even though I'm a trashy Canadian, lol, If I were your neighbor, I'd be coming over to help you. You're the best, Beth!
Boooo not trashy babe. Just horrible.
😂😂😂
@@rebeccapiironen3699 same!
Just LOVE watching you clean babes!💖💖
Thanks Tammi!!!
I also struggle with hypocrisy and feeling like there’s not a lot of hope. BUT… if you look back I think you’ll see how much you’ve grown and learned. Even if your house still gets messy, it’s ok.
I love you
I totally enjoy watching you. Also, I agree with needing to fill a trash bag in every inch.
Your house is GIANT! With each new video I'm astonished at the size of each area!
I love you 😂❤ you are so real. Great cleaning up ❤
I love you Linda! You make me so happy
The anount of work you have done. OMG. Just do us a small favor and be proud of yourself. I am a really tidy person, my daughters aren't. I always wonder why they didn't take my example. That's life i quess. You are awesome. not crazy.
I can relate on so many levels from the interruption of a task by “those people” to trying to sequence how I’m going to attack the current challenge. My philosophy, if you miss dusting (or whatever) it will be there for the next burst of energy. As far as cooled cups of coffee goes-add ice! It doesn’t taste the same warmed up and so I learned to sit down and enjoy the cup, only make a half cup at a time, or use a thermal carafe to keep it from the bitter taste that happens from sitting on the burner too long. Thank you for being yourself. You’re perfectly imperfect like the rest of us. Blessings from VA.🪴
Thanks Linda 🥰
Thanks!
Thank you Daina!!!!
“The torture and horror of going to an actual physical store…” 😂I felt that.
Right?!?
@@rhondasmith7413 I really struggle with that and even ordering and picking it up. It feels like a huge task to leave the house!
This was INCREDIBLY SATISFYING to watch! Beautiful job!! I was laughing when you were talking about the kitty litter and how the big box came the day after you were talking about it 😂. Id ve annoyed too. Awesome Awesome video my friend! ❤❤❤
lol thank you my dear!!! ❤️
When i first met the best doctor i ever had (in the days of doctors who were not employed at patient processing centers) i asked him if there is one piece of advice he would say was key to longevity - besides all the obvious stuff like exercise, nutrition, etc. He said: Always wear good, supportive, shoes. Everywhere. Definitely AT HOME. When your feet go, he said, you loose your mobility, and when i see my geriatric patients lose their mobility, is the moment they start a much steeper decline. You really need to support your feet. Carpeting doesn't support them. It's important.
Yes!!! I bought some orthopedic house slippers following a visit with my new podiatrist. No more pain or numbness. I was barefoot on stone floors. Feet used to kill me
I HATE that advice but will take it seriously and talk to my doctor about it when u see her again
@@feraltradwife future you will thank you. I wish someone told me
I am AuDHD with a side order of Bipolar. Right now, I am taking a break from cleaning (I need to put the towels in the washer...ACK!). Between you and MMC, I have been busier than a bee.
There you are!! been lonely having coffee by myself. Everyone needs a time out. you were so missed. My depression has been kicking my butt all month. and I m just now coming out of it enough to be motivated. Welcome back
Hey babe! I’m sorry you’re struggling. I’ve so been there. I’ll be around more, primise
You keep me going and to get things done in my home
Yesssss!!!!
You taught me something new! I didn’t know that I could zoom in on a video.
SINNER
I’m a new subscriber and I have to tell you that I love your videos! You are so real and you make me laugh because the stuff you say is just so me & I get it. I also completely understand the center island struggle. I clean mine 3 times a day and new stuff just seems to materialize there!! 😂. I also, feel that you should know that Leroy is my spirit animal!! 🐶
Welcome Donna! I’m so happy you are here ❤️
Rage cleaning is sometimes pretty awesome.I recommend it to everyone.
Agreed!
You have a busy life. It's best to just go with the flow!! Enjoying your videos ❤
Thanks babe!
I get exactly the same but I have found that if I rage clean it always comes out better somehow. 😂😂 Sending huge love from the uk. ❤❤
Rage clean is the cleanest clean
I had that exact vacuum and loved it for years! Same weird orange too.
Also, I feel compelled to tell you that I love love love watching you mop. That's super weird to say but I'm comfortable with it, this is a clean with me right? So it's perfectly acceptable, I give myself permission.
Also also, I've said this before but it can't be said enough, I love the way you're brain works! Hearing your thought rambles just sooooothes my headspaces and makes me feel so much more comfortable with my own weird brain rambles. Thanks buddy. 🙃
Love your channel! I love that you mentioned drinking coffee from your Nebraska mug! I live in Nebraska! 🥰🥰
Progress not perfection is one secret to happiness. You made it better. Well done
The struggle is real lol Also don't forget about the greatest walking tour in Savannah - Savannah Dan! and PS I started watching because of the messy house and the cleanup, I stayed because of you....don't change or change if you want to.....we are here for you xo
Yes!!! I’ll write it down!
You are definitely not alone. Here are two thoughts that I keep having to share with you (but I didn't want to comment while you were in Savannah!): 1. You mentioned once that you have to drag the bins out. Girl, for decades we have had "Dump night", the night before the truck comes through. Grab a trash bag, hand to one child to a. pick up any trash in their rooms, and b. empty bathroom trash. Pass on to next child. Empty the cat boxes. Get trash from upstairs and empty trash cans. Mark can do the office and school areas, plus master bath while you do the kitchen and fridge declutter. You are empowering everyone to work together as a family to care for your home. Yay!!
2. If you and Mark don't eat in your bedroom, then (after the bugs and bin of dishes) then maybe it's time to say "No dishes and cups in bedrooms. We ALL eat at dining room table or in the living room." You will all be on the same level then. Same rules for everyone.
I hope that you find some time to listen to Millenial Meg ((yes, I checked her channel out!)). She was speaking to you. Lovey, you aren't being a hypocrite. You want to break the cycle and empower your kids to live their best lives. You want to empower yourself. You can do this as a family. (And, honestly, I have cried being overwhelmed at all that was on my plate. I would hate for a future caregiver for the twins to be in a bathroom ugly crying.)
I am big on research so I checked out autism, teens, life skills and will post in the comments. You are doing an awesome job!!!!!
My 'friend who wouldn't have actually cared if my house was a mess but who I wanted to clean for because I love her' came up last weekend, so of course I stayed up until 1am 3 nights that week to get my house way cleaner than it needed to be just so we could sit and eat szechuan chicken and chat for hours which we could have done in a messy house.
Now it is taking every fiber of my being to maintain this level of clean as much as I can so I won't have to do it all again before the holiday season.
I swear the teen is actively working against me. Leaving earrings on the coffee table is clearly a declaration of war.
Not only a declaration of war but also a hate crime. I’m sure of it.
You may or may not keep it clean. You may or may not have to clean all over again for the holidays. But what we do know to be true, all things can be accomplished through spite. Let the rage pour through you as you scrub and tidy. Godspeed.
Hello, so, i always put my completely dirty dishes in the dishwasher and they will get perfectly clean. You could try this aswell. It saves you a lot of time. :)
Yes. This is what I was going to ask: is it cultural thing? In Europe I do not think anybody washes dishes before washing. Why? What is the reason ?
This is my first time coming across your channel and I typically don’t like talking videos but this is some of the funniest commentary I have ever heard.
Welcome babe! I talk sooooo much. 🤣
Hi! Not sure how this will sound but just know I am typing this with kindness. These videos help me so much more than the other cleaning videos I normally see (of like 3 pieces of clothes on the floor and some crumbs). THESE kind of videos make me feel like I'm not alone when I fall behind in cleaning. I have ADHD - so I feel very overwhelmed and distracted from one task to another. Your videos help me to stay focused and that a BIG task can be conquered. TYSM for your vulnerability with showing us your home and allowing us to clean together.
omg so funny - I just realized after I wrote this comment that the title of this video is literally called "ADHD burnout" ... I have found my people LOL
Welcome and I’m so so happy to have you Justine. ❤️
I never think it's hypocritical. I am allowed to be lazy and make messes because nobody picks up after me but ME!
God Bless you girl. We would be great best buddies if i was close by. I suffer from Obsessive cleaning disorder. I literally cannot stop cleaning or thinking about cleaning. I would love to just follow you around and pick up after your ADHD :) Love your heart. Dont sweat the petty things and dont pet the sweaty things lololol
I would always stress that I would send you into a full meltdown. We would be a lovely pair of walking disasters!
The battle between you and the cats was hysterical! I had a male cat named "Brat Cat" for a reason! It's ok to give up sometimes! It's good for your mental health because you've chosen to not deal with the issue! ❤❤❤❤❤
They’re so so funny to me.
The idea of Canadians being even remotely bad enough to warrant the Geneva Convention is hilarious because they are NOTORIOUS for being nice - worse than Midwestern Americans. 😂 I would have lost my $#!t about the RV - I’m not a nice wife. 😢 But I have a great husband. My last life must have been better than my next - karma will get me! I love you Beth and cannot figure out why I stopped getting notifications of you videos IMMEDIATELY! I think it’s the Swiftie curse. I’ll figure it out. Remember you are a comfort and inspiration to thousands of people! ❤❤
I did a No Buy November, not as bad as I thought of course still have 10 days to go. Haven’t bought anything but groceries and gas. VERY different.
I’m really going to do it in January. I bet I can buy a Lear Jet with the savings.
It’s been a VERY rough few weeks for me. Being able to sit and watch your video and laugh with you, is everything to me. Thank you friend 😊
Kristina I hate that it’s been so rough for you. I’m glad we can hang out together for a little bit and help your spirits.
I love that you are so honest about how seemingly little things annoy you because I feel the same way sometimes. I am so familiar with the feeling of rage cleaning.
Thank you babe! I am always like…. This feels petty..HOWEVER
Declutter is the best advice. Then you will have less stuff to manage. I’m not a great housekeeper either, but there’s a limit and everyone should be helping you….
This might be a stupid comment. I'm new here. But, doesn't anyone in your house help clean even a little bit up??? Your husband? Kids? Why can't they help to throw out trash or pick up empty boxes...? Watched more. That kitchen getting clean and then immediately piled up again made ME angry.
Your house is huge. It would take a robot vacuum running 24/7 to keep up!
Baby girl I have to say yes I have missed you, I do hope you are doing much better now. And I have enjoyed this very much thank you God bless you 🙏❤️🌹
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Hi Dorene! I missed you as well.
Put your house in different zones like Zone 1 would be the bar Zone tool to be your kitchen counter each day if you do that you might be able to keep your house a little bit up-to-date so it's just a Worth to try that's what I do to keep my house kind of up-to-date daily
Oh I have a full blown app for that. It’s unsuccessful 🤣
great video, sweetie. i have so much in common with you....not a morning person, not good at keeping up with household chores, adhd (well, maybe not you!) and i feel a lot of these things are part of my personality. i procrastinate, as well. joke around our house was we need to arrange for someone to visit, so the house would get cleaned!! had to care for family and pick up after all of them and help them keep up with all the things they did ~ activities, etc. i always thought i needed to change all those years and would try different things to do so. now, at my old age, i just try to accept me and my quirks as how i am. so, i don't try to change them any longer!! maybe acceptance is a good thing and then i can feel better when i do clean up, but not feel badly that i don't do it as often as what others think is best!! but, what keeps me watching is your personality, you keep trying to do what you can and your humor. i am happy about how much you love yourself, a concept i have never grasped for myself. i hope i can learn how to do that from you!!
Thank you Duana! We are so similar, aren’t we?
Midwest cleaning referred me to you also... I can relate to you sooo much I love your honesty thank you for sharing your stories.. you are awesome ❤ also I have ADHD that sucks lol.. I'm not a psychiatrist I really think you have ADHD you have so many symptoms.. also you crack me up😂
I really think so too! Thank you babe
You have a beautiful home. I would suggest getting into a routine of a nightly re-set with the whole family involved. Not cleaning, but just putting things away. Trying to tackle clutter & cleaning is exhausting. Baby steps.
I absolutely need that
Love the Swifties! LOL! Cracks me up!
I laugh every time
Last week I did the whole house. Spotless. Ran upstairs to put washing away…my daughter (special needs) decided to come in from her garden room and literally traipsed mud all over the house. Every floor I’d cleaned. Even the stairs and her bedroom 😮😢. I swear I nearly burst out crying! So I feel your pain over the island not staying clean for even ten minutes. 😂The kids mean well…😅🤦🏼♀️
Babbbbbeeee. I have done the break down crying from the same. I am so sorry. Especially when you hit the overwhelm part of this whole rollercoaster. Super hugs ❤️
@@feraltradwifeit’s one of those isn’t it.🤷🏼♀️. I just sat down for ten minutes and started again. 😂