INFJ here, this is the truth. Im now 33 and was working on myself for about 5 years to let my self be shown and let myself be more vulnerable infront of others because otherwise u wont ever be able to form real authentic connections with the people you like. TIll the age of 28 i always played different kinds of roles for different kind of people and even for romantic relationships which didnt last very long of course because its so mentally draining to keep the act up and cant be your real self. We need to stop being ashamed of ourselfs and start using our INFJ powers. Ive seen a lot of good INFJ videos on youtube, which really helped me stay on the Journey to liking my authentic self without being too afraid of the judgement of other people.
Thank you so much for commenting and sharing your story! It saddens me you've experienced that shame. I know how absolutey gut wrenching and devastating that feeling is together with playing out all those pleasing roles.. Exhausting.. Shame and secrets lurk in the shadows and rot, while tainting your mind and body slowly but surely. It's a terrible state to be in. I'm very glad you were able to step into the light and start living more authentically. What a relief that must've been!
I've gotten into too many scuffles with setting my boundaries and often told to stop talking back when someone did slight me growing up and they couldn't take a hint of my attempts at diplomacy. And I would surprise them with my sassy savage, clap backs all the fucking time. I'll go from cuddling you in a tender moment, to "Bitch try me if you want to" real quick on your ass. People, have gotten mad at me for saying no to them sometimes for certain things. My mother raised me, to have my own thoughts and feelings 💕
This is a terrifically good and painfully astute video - but is it quite the whole story? There was a time when I was loving and loyal and passionate and I would have given my all for a relationship in which the depth of my feelings was reciprocated. In the event? I sacrificed what could (with belated hindsight) have been an amazing media career, in favour of being an unregarded and frankly exploited doormat. I only begin to realise, now that it's too late, how close I came to the top, and how much had been within my grasp. All gone. So try not to beat yourself up, or be too tough on yourself? And don't allow belated realisations and revelations to drive you deeper into (yes) self-loathing, as they are doing with me? Instead, keep on making inspirational videos for us 🎉 An unworthy, uncaring, self-serving and profoundly disappointing world might not be entirely your fault - you know? 🤗
Thanks for sharing that personal story. I agree, let's do our best, because an unworthy, uncaring, self-serving and profoundly disappointing world means we still have some work to do!
INFJ here, this is the truth. Im now 33 and was working on myself for about 5 years to let my self be shown and let myself be more vulnerable infront of others because otherwise u wont ever be able to form real authentic connections with the people you like. TIll the age of 28 i always played different kinds of roles for different kind of people and even for romantic relationships which didnt last very long of course because its so mentally draining to keep the act up and cant be your real self. We need to stop being ashamed of ourselfs and start using our INFJ powers. Ive seen a lot of good INFJ videos on youtube, which really helped me stay on the Journey to liking my authentic self without being too afraid of the judgement of other people.
Thank you so much for commenting and sharing your story! It saddens me you've experienced that shame. I know how absolutey gut wrenching and devastating that feeling is together with playing out all those pleasing roles.. Exhausting.. Shame and secrets lurk in the shadows and rot, while tainting your mind and body slowly but surely. It's a terrible state to be in. I'm very glad you were able to step into the light and start living more authentically. What a relief that must've been!
I've gotten into too many scuffles with setting my boundaries and often told to stop talking back when someone did slight me growing up and they couldn't take a hint of my attempts at diplomacy. And I would surprise them with my sassy savage, clap backs all the fucking time. I'll go from cuddling you in a tender moment, to "Bitch try me if you want to" real quick on your ass. People, have gotten mad at me for saying no to them sometimes for certain things. My mother raised me, to have my own thoughts and feelings 💕
I love myself that is why I can love others
Thanks for commenting, how did you reach that point of loving yourself?
Unhealthy INFJ is hard to love, but healthy INFJ is hard to hate
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Awesome video!
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This is a terrifically good and painfully astute video - but is it quite the whole story? There was a time when I was loving and loyal and passionate and I would have given my all for a relationship in which the depth of my feelings was reciprocated. In the event? I sacrificed what could (with belated hindsight) have been an amazing media career, in favour of being an unregarded and frankly exploited doormat. I only begin to realise, now that it's too late, how close I came to the top, and how much had been within my grasp. All gone.
So try not to beat yourself up, or be too tough on yourself? And don't allow belated realisations and revelations to drive you deeper into (yes) self-loathing, as they are doing with me?
Instead, keep on making inspirational videos for us 🎉 An unworthy, uncaring, self-serving and profoundly disappointing world might not be entirely your fault - you know? 🤗
Thanks for sharing that personal story. I agree, let's do our best, because an unworthy, uncaring, self-serving and profoundly disappointing world means we still have some work to do!