When God Reveals The One, This Will ALWAYS Happen . . .
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- How will you really know when God has revealed "the one" to you? How will God tell you who to marry one day? Here are 3 things that always happen when God is truly revealing the one to you.
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When I use the phrase, “the one,” I’m not talking about a soul mate. I’m not saying that there is only one perfect divinely ordained person for everyone and you can thus marry someone who is not the one for you. What I am referring to is simply the person God planned for you to marry.
Because God allows us to sin, God allows us to marry people he is telling us not to marry. Once you marry someone, that person then becomes the one for you. In God’s sovereignty he allows for us to make bad choices while still being able to accomplish his will for us.
But before you are married, God has something to say about who you marry. There is one specific person out there that he wants you to marry and there are other people out there God does not want you to marry. I believe this because according to Scripture, God has a sovereign plan for everything. Therefore, to be theologically consistent we have to believe that even our marriage partners are included in God’s one sovereign plan that he has preordained to occur.
For example, Ephesians 1:11 states, “In him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will.” It doesn’t say God works “all things except relationships according to the counsel of his will.” It says God “works all things according to the counsel of his will.”
There are two types of “God’s will” in the Scriptures. The first type of God’s will is his “sovereign will.” This is what God predestined to occur and will always happen because God is going to make it happen. The second type of God’s will is God’s “prescribed will.” This is what God has commanded us to do in his word. It is God’s will that we obey God’s word. We can break this type of “God’s will.”
When it comes to what God wants for you, we have to look at the second type of God’s will - his will of command. Why? Because God’s sovereign will works in the sinful choices of people but still produces the outcomes God wants.
No one can fully articulate how God’s will and man’s free will work together, but in Scripture it’s clear that man can break God’s prescribed will while God can still accomplish his sovereign will. This means that God lets us make bad choices and reap negative consequences and still sovereignly produces the exact outcomes he wants. But again, within God’s sovereign plan there will be sinful things that we do and that occur to us, and when we look through the lens of God’s “prescribed will” we know this means things happen that God does not approve of (meaning sin).
All that to say, throughout the course of your life, God will be leading you to accomplish his will by leading you to obey his word - his will of command. Therefore, when we apply this truth to the process of meeting the person he wants you to marry, we can say that when God is leading you to the one he wants for you, he will never tell you to marry someone that he already told you not to marry in his word. For example:
-God would never tell you to marry an unbeliever because in 2 Corinthians 6:14 and 1 Corinthians 7:39 he already commanded us not to do this.
-God would never tell you to marry someone living in sexual sin and who is encouraging you to commit sexual sin because God says it’s his will that we be sanctified from sexual sin in 1 Thessalonians 4:3.
-God would never tell you to marry someone who is abusing you because God commands us to guard our hearts in Proverbs 4:23.
Again, you could choose to marry someone like this but that would not mean God led you to marry this person. It would be a sin to marry someone who God tells you not to marry in his word. When God is leading you to marry the person he wants for you, this relationship will always be biblical because God never contradicts himself, for “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever” (Hebrews 13:8). 2 Timothy 3:16-17 also states, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.”
Thank you, this clarifies many things for me.
So, if a person sins in 2 different "marriages" because at the time this person was young, naive, thought they had the go-ahead from God, both "marriages" turned out to be disasters, abusive, horrible. First one ended in divorce, 2nd one annulled. Has this person blown it, will they get a chance still to have God bring them a mate He chooses and be able to have joy and peace in a God-honoring marriage?
This may not have been your intent But that is some beautiful, esoteric, and thought provoking apologetics.
Thank you!! Mark this is really deep and great insight straight from God’s Word. I understand the way you explained and used scripture that is concise.
May we all accept God’s mercy and Grace through His love for us.
If it’s the Lord’s Will for us to be married, may we be with the spouse God planned for us wholeheartedly 🙏❤️
God bless you all Brothers and Sisters in Christ🙏 May God bless you and family Mark🙏 Your videos are helpful and inspiring 🙂
Thank You.
Thanks a lot brother for all this. Pls i have been very confused and tired in my relationship with a particular nice guy.,my entire family and friends both my uncle who's also a Pastor says he's the one but i just don't feel all that connection with him. I've been struggling with him for many years now he's really been there for me and all but i still don't feel that connection. Yet i dont not want to miss the one God has for me. Pls help
Dear Lord, we pray for any random person reading this, please open the doors of heaven and shower you love and mercy upon them, protect and guide they thoughts, actions and words. In Jesus Name. Amen
Amen
God bless!
@@vanessachiunda7262 God bless you
Amen 🙏🏾 God Bless ✝️
@@STRENGTHFROMABOVE thank you 🥺 you're too kind. I pray God's mercy and grace be forever in your favour.
Adam had it easy. He just woke up one day and BAM, special delivery. #nocompetition
😂😂 for realll
...and he still couldn't keep his relationship without messing it up...
@@BluDrop5 you'll find that it was Eve that was to blame!!
@@perrysaker1526 Please site scriptural evidence for your claims. Thank you!
lol! But even they had their issues :)
I cannot agree enough with #2!!! I can write a book on the many, many times I thought that "this guy" was God's choice for me...only to find out I was wrong. I depended too much on my feelings, my infatuated daydreams, my placement of random circumstances as God's signs for me .... all the while NOTHING materialized between me and this guy. I'm the one praying about him, seeking godly counsel about him, noticing this guy, having my mind filled with dreams of a wedding together, having so many feelings for him .... meanwhile, this guy is off in his own world without a clue that any of this is going on (think Gwyneth Paltrow and Babyface "Just My Imagination"). Then, when I finally get the hint that it's not gonna happen, I move on to the next guy. Lather, rinse, repeat. Brother Mark is totally right ... if this is a leading from God, there will be agreement with the BOTH of you. It won't just all be in your head
Appreciate this comment. 🕊
Are you reading my mind or something?
Correct. God will never create confusion that's why he gives confirmation on both sides. The birth of Jesus as messiah was announced to both Mary & Joseph & the message was the same
In my case my 2 exes both said I was the one. They were convinced I was heaven sent. Talking about serving Christ. Marriage. They were lying narcs. Careful.
1. Your relationship with this person will be in obedience to God's leading in all three ways that you can obey God's leading: Direct obedience to clear commands in the Scripture; Wise application of Biblical principles through the Spirit's leading; Live every second of your day in a way that honours God. 2. Eventually, there must be a mutual agreement that this is happening between you both. 3. You will get married to this person.
Both people needs to be fully convinced.
Amen Aileen :)
I feel like I'm going to be single forever
there is no such thing as a soul mate. You can love anyone. Godly man is so hard to find.
I feel the same.
@@badbonezthlegnd2049 were not supposed to be afraid, if you are get more into the word of God. Or as it is often said, put on the armor of God. Fear has a energy that is picked up on, if your giving off that energy it's like a stink. Same as being afraid you wont meet someone will. God is the only thing were supposed to fear, not death of the flesh or rejection. Fear will make you settle into a relationship that leaves you wanting and you'll end up wishing you were alone, the only thing worse than being single is being in an unhappy relationship. God bless!
Same. But hey, there's always hope. Keep praying. God bless you
@Robert L Robert I have been out with men at Church so called christian men pretenders in the Church and there are a lot of men in the church today who are not Godly, Christ like men. It is hard to find a honest, decent and Godly man who is faithful to the Lord and others. It is not easy for a woman today to find a true Godly man.
The best advise from this video is that both people KNOW that it's perfect. That's the subconscious thought placed by the Lord in the mind when they both meet the one. As depressing as this might be, it's probably the best because if it's one sided love, then it could lead to complications later on. Never lose hope people. Keep praying and trusting the Lord. Thank you for sharing, Mark!! God bless you!
I get what you mean about both knowing it's right. But I wouldn't use the word "perfect" since even "the one" is someone you will have issues with in a relationship. but I get what you mean :)
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger You are right, Mark! No relationship will be without an issue since humans have pretty complicated personalities, and life does have ups and downs. I guess when in love with "the one", everything might seem perfect, or even if not, they both will know that together they can handle all the problems! Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Mark. I forgot how complicated human beings are! Nothing is perfect but we do make it so through understanding and compassion :)
I agree! It must be mutual or reciprocal. Everything will fall into place as confirmation that God wants you to marry the person. 💕
I have never committed adultery or infidelity and am very content flying solo to my grave in the loving name of Jesus Christ
@BayJay May God's face smile upon you and your loved ones.
I love Jesus and dogs too and feel the same. Men on earth are not Jesus!
I definitely feel it. I don't know if she is there but if I feel this strongly about it, she must feel something. I think we've both had a long time being single and we have to open our minds and hearts and lives to each other. We're still in that separation stage working on our lives and our hearts getting ourselves ready for each other. I am waiting on her because I think she is behind me in this process. I think she's around 3 years behind me so in 3 years she'll be where I am today. Hopefully sooner.
Maybe move on 3 years is too long. Many are engaged in 3 months, if you are both right for one another…🙏🏾
@@JoannA-sweetly Yes I did 3 months ago but I'll still see her and it feels like the door will never be closed for me unless I find someone else which I will try to do.
Same situation as you
I don't think she's it. God doesn't like to DRAG it out. Your not teenagers right? She's confused and probably stuck in sin. Let her go.
She ain't ready. She ain't ready. Bye. These people usually can't end it because there was some sexual activity going on. Soul ties or bonds. For real.
@4:58; This is true. 4 years back, I was extremely attracted to this girl in the office. Not just physically, but listening to her upcoming goals and her pleasant humility caught me off guard. As months passed, when I made a point to speak to her or give her office appropriate gifts, I kept telling myself "if it's not mutual, it's not happening". Though I was distracted with my mother in the hospital, looking back, I never got a compliment or a "thank you" from that girl despite our pleasant interactions.
God bless Nate
The Lord will provide you with many blessings to come. He provides everyone with what they need. May the Lord bless you one hundred fold. 🌹🌹🙏🌹🌹
Aww, Nate… I know how that feels.🥲🥺. Going through a much similar situation. Hopefully you have either moved on or that girl came around by now. God bless🙏🏼
Goals and humility won't cut it. She must love the Lord wholeheartedly. Talk is cheap.
Crazy how God put this on my mind the other day
So glad this vid was relevant for you :)
Thanks on time. I pray and talk to God about this the other day I'm going to have to wake up read and watch this again. My fiance of 1 year and been together for 6 years wants to get married real soon. But I keep asking God is this what he wants me to do I get answers like God knows what he is doing and what u are saying as well. Our relationship been through so much with God and each other. Never been married before so I don't want this to end up BAD. I also had to show him a lot of things its almost like rising a man please forgive me for this he also had brought me to Jesus 🥰. As much as he knows about the bible before I did he should be living a lil different then he is please not judging. I try my best to pray talk to God and do as he say to the point I drive my self crazy and have to tell myself or he have to tell me its ok nobody perfect but Jesus. Ever day my goal is to be more like Jesus he save my life I didn't know him. So in my head I was thinking God wouldn't u want me to married somebody that move a lil like me. Its hard cause I try not to live in Sin and I know that I will BUT STILL I TRY NOT TO. He not doing the same well not consistency. It's hard to not sin in the ways that I wouldn't if I wasn't with him well thats how i feel.. Sometimes I fell like he want to married soon cause the hold no sex thing i just started. Well Thank you and your beautiful wife for everything ❤ have a great day!!!!!!
@@bianca5353 praying for you and your fiance
@@JPGellabroke thank you
This is a great plan. Can't lose then. Will be following His will in each step.
God bless!
One thing that a person is the one is that there is a biblical text that really coincides to that person and that person also loves you. Also this person is motivating you to develop your character and inspiring you to become a better person.
She doubts it. She said no. But God is leading me to a second chance. I have no choice, even if it might hurt. This requires a massive faith and lots of prayer. God, let Your will be done.
How are you now?
Yes how are u now
It didn't work.
Wow your hair is silky smooth and really black like a Barbie doll great vid.😁👏🏾
Lol so random
lol! Thank you I think :) I've been playing around with my lighting setup, lol
Much need to hear this..
God is truly Amazing.
Love you my God.
Yes I Obey to my Heavenly Father..
Thank you God forgive for my sins.
In Jesus Name I pray Amen
Alicia
God is good! So glad this was helpful!
I relate! Me and my boyfriend both “just know” we’re for each other. He’s the most open and honest person I’ve ever met so our relationship is a little unique 😆 I am open to being wrong and God leading in a different direction, but for the past 2.5 months we’ve both been dead convinced, there’s been a few signs. Praise God and thank you for this video
Did you marry
@@franceshaggitt3104 not yet no, are you in a relationship?
I just prayed about this 💗
So glad it was helpful!
Do it God 🙌!! GLOOOOORY
God is good!
I love and value your teachings! The Lord always confirms to me through them! Greetings from Dominican Republic!
So glad you are enjoying this content!
Oooooo I've actually found a video uploaded on the exact day for the first time😃😃😃😃😃💃💃💃
Nice!
I met someone that gets me. Then one I can’t seem to get out of mind . We do devotionals together
God bless as you follow the Lord's leading
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger THANK YOU! Please pray that God's will be done! My name is Frank and her name is Rory. She depends on God more than anything and I been building my relationship with Jesus since I accepted him, the more I learn about him the more I want more of him! We are praying, laughing and feels like it was meant be
pray for wisdom
@@GreenGo731 Rory 😇😇😇, that’s a pretty 🤩 name
Thank you Mark for explaining “The One”. I understand more clearly now. Blessings...
We need the Holy Spirit’s wisdom!
Amen!
God bless you Sir. Your videos have helped me through since last year after coming across your channel. Thank you.
I'm so glad this content has been helpful to you Vanessa, God bless as you continue to follow the Lord's leading!
Amen Brother
The leading of the Holy Spirit
Is key in the Life of the believer
You will get married to the person
Or this person is not the one
On the nose brother🤭
Thanks
God bless Jessy!
A lot of females in the church with Pretenders to
@@jamespratt6739
Don’t worry about who is doing what
Be salt and light
The authentic and true
Wow video is so revealing to me, just confirmed what I have been thinking...God is good!
God is good!
Hoping God will bless me with a faithful partner someday.
God bless, Mark. 🙏🏻
I will never have a husband. That's how it goes. Some people get and some dont.
@@marshachesbro5969 if that's what you declare in your life, so be it.
@@shinchan7266stop shaming .some people never do find love despite trying .
@@marshachesbro5969I can relate except im a guy who will never have a wife .I hate when people especially christians promote this false idea that everyone finds love
The water is clearer now. Thank you for this, you are an instrument. God bless you.
I’ve lost track of how many “the one”s I’ve been convinced were it at one point or another. 😂Thanks for the help, I need it.
I'm praying for my sister who came with her mom at my doorstep .soon I will ask her out and will find out soon if she the one God has sent to me. God bless you and your family for this vidz.
Very helpful to us all God Bless you pastor
So glad it was helpful Joshua!
How can two walk together unless they agree.
If we don’t agree about who “we” are in the spirit, then “we” are not a “we”, but a “you and me...”
Let’s agree...
Oh, I see :)
Oooh that's so good
HALLELUJAH & TY MARK 😊😊😊🙌🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏🙏!!!! VERY CLEAR & UNDERSTOOD🌈💥💞🤸😇🙏!!! GOD BLESS YOU😇🙏🙏🙏!!!
God bless!
GOOD GODLY INFORMATION!!!THANKS SO MUCH!!! BE BLESSED!!!
Yes God i will trust ur plans to my life AMEN 🥺🙏
Unfortunately it is possible for one of the people to ignore God's clear will and guidance, that the season of that particular togetherness is lost.
Very helpful, thank you🙏🏽🙏🏽
Glad it was helpful Nikki!
Amen thank you
Hallelujah and thank you Mark
My pleasure D. Washington!
Great explanation Mark 👍🌸 Love the videos and Thank you for being YOU 🙏🌸
You are so welcome Lisa, so glad it was helpful!
Thank you for the messages that I heard...it helps me a lot....
My man is long distance. He sees me and points out what he sees that I can’t. Has a strong relationship with God. We are supposed to get married when he gets home but he’s away at work. Gods timing has not brought us back together again. I know he’s coming home. My friends say no. I believe it when I hear “ do not rely on your own understanding unless God gives me peace. Please pray Mark gets home. Power in prayer comes when three or more join in unity
So good!! Can you link handouts or something? I always feel like I need a worksheet,
lol! not a bad idea :)
First! Nice video. This will definitely help me :D
So glad it was helpful!
Here we go I’m here again.... THE ONE I NEED TO KNOW I FEEL LIKE THIS ONE GUY MIGHT NOT BE THE ONE BUT ON THE OTHER WAY I FEEL SOMETHING KEEPING ME BACK.... I WANT GODS WILL AND I WANT YOU TO HELP ME IF HES NOT THE ONE GOD MAKE HIM LEAVE ME ALONE..... I DONT WANT TO BE USED OR BE CHEATED ON ME ...... GOD HELP ME .... THE devil can use someone to deceive you BE AWARE .... IM PUTTING THIS CASE IN GOD M..... I RATHER BE SINGLE THEN TO BE USED
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Thank you so much this was a great help
God bless you
Glad it helped Landon!
News: the friend that didn’t want to be my friend anymore decides to reach back out to me. He said he realized that he made a mistake of letting our friendship end after the death of a friend. He finally realized that I was a good friend to him. This is also the same person that I told my feelings to. Any Godly advice? 🧐🤔
Hold this loosely. You can forgive but don't rush back to full trust until he shows he's not so unstable still. Just my thoughts
I agree with Mark also 😁 Keep it simple and here and there. Acquaintance like 😁🌸 God bless your kind heart 🙏💜
@@lisalee2885 thank you my sista.
I agree with Mark.
@@lisalee2885 ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you brother Mark! God bless you!
You are very welcome
Bless you my brother a awesome vessel...u are ..amen thank u Father
So glad this was helpful, all glory to God!
51 years old and i haven't met the one yet. Feel like I'm running out of time.
Keep trusting what the lord has prepared for you, praying for you from the UK 🙏
I love someone who is 19 years elder than me. He is from Sweden and I'm from India but we both met in Greece. Before meeting him my favourite foreign name was Chris and his name is also Chris. We met in 2018 and his car's number plate is 1802 and my birthday is on 18/12.At first I had crush on him but slowly slowly I fell in love with Chris.I asked God to get one of his photo and God gave me then I asked God to help me finding his address and I have found his address .I'm very shy to ask him where he lives that's why I tried to ask God for help.
Sounds like you're doing the pursuing of this man when biblically the man should pursue you.
He is too old for you anyways
I just recently ended my marriage because it was not God’s will for the reason stated due to sexual sin and abuse. I pray to Jesus daily to forgive me!
Jesus sorted your sin with His death and resurrection, however you are correct in that we need to bring our personal sin to God regularly. Where you are struggling is that you have done this but your feelings are lying to you because you feel that you haven't been forgiven when you have. This is a psychological problem, you need to believe God's word that He forgives you when you repent otherwise you will be trapped and unable to move on and live the life you should, worse you may repeat your past mistakes because it hasn't been dealt with in your mind. If you are unable to do that on your own you need to get help, do not be ashamed, sometimes things can be to difficult to handle alone, speak to friends or church leaders that you trust to find a good Christian counsellor who has the knowledge and experience to help you. God Bless.
@@cameronwaddel4072 thank you! That was what I needed to hear that and you’re right, I haven’t forgiven myself. I have been isolated for so long that i struggle to get close to people and I do need to find good Christian people that I can talk to and have mentor me! Thanks again!
@@mirandaparis6079 I pray and have prayed that God will bring good Christian people into your life. He does it for people trying to get away from Him, many stories where they bump into Christians everywhere. In your case you are going towards Him, He says seek Me and I will be found. Pray to meet people and you won't be able to avoid them. I am sure it will happen and soon. God Bless.🙂🙏
God bless as you seek the Lord's healing
You realize that you cannot get married again, right?
so basically is that we can't miss the opportunity if it is God's will
1. If God Truly Is Revealing
"The One" to You, Your Relationship With This Person Will Be In Obedience to Gods Leading In All Three Ways That You Can Obey Gods Leading.
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2. If God is Truly Revealing
"The One" to You, Eventually There Must Be a Mutual Agreement Happening Between You Both!
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#Timestamps
But I Always Recommend To Watch The Whole Video!
Thank you 😇
God bless :)
Yes, amen.
I feel that Jesus is by my side. I believe I always be single. I wish Barry would come see me.💞. I miss him so much. God please bring Barry I have so much feeling and passion for him.
Sometimes it's best to pray for the "right" one rather than "that" one
No one can or ever will love you more than the Lord. His vocation for you is His gift to you. When you receive Holy Communion, ask Him what state of life you can best serve Him, and don't deny Him. You don't say no to the Lord. He is perfect love and perfect wisdom. He is all knowing. He plans the best for all of us, His children.🌹🌹🙏🌹🌹
Not every person you marry is one God has for you. God gives us Free Will to make our own choices, even if it isn’t the right ones & sometimes we don’t make the wisest choice🤷🏼♀️
Your heart can also fool you lets not forget
Big time
Is it possible that God has not purposed anyone for some people. Therefore some people are meant to be alone.
Yes
This is incredibly scary. Mark you Uploaded an amazing video a few days ago and your 1st point was to admit to God but you want to be married and you said some things that I needed to hear like it's OK to want a human to depend on its OK to want a human to go through life with it doesn't mean you love God any less if you want to be married. I need it to hear that and I admitted to God all of the above I wanted a mate I wanted a husband to do life with I wanted a husband to depend on to come home to to touch to be verbal I intimate with. I wanna husband to grow old with to share financial burdens with. It feels so good to be so vulnerable to God. It feels so good to not have to be strong all the time I think that's the most draining thing in the world when you're single is to just know that you have no one to depend on except yourself. You have to make decisions on your own you have to move that chair from one Room to the other. You have to earn enough income to see you through to your death. There is nobody else that's going to help you with your income it's all on your shoulders and obviously God provides for you but he provides for a couple too. Being single is scary and the scariest part is to depend on God to provide for you
@@overcomer4226 Hi...I'm single too! Have been off and on through the years. I understand your point of view. I have learned to embrace being single and how empowered I feel 😁 Free to make choices...YEA! Free to spend time with whomever or where ever..Yea! Free to create me and my life, home, friends...it is exciting and I literally walk through my day thanking God for every little thing. When you choose to be happy each day..your inner light glows...good things come..even good people. 🌸🙏🌸
@@overcomer4226 Being single shouldn't be a scary feeling to you. In all honesty if you have that mindset. It seems as though you are not ready for marriage yet. Prior to marriage you must develop a healthy and complete relationship with Christ and self first. You have to learn how to fully trust God and rely on God in your singleness. Because even in marriage, you and your spouse must fully trust and rely on God for everything. He must be the head of your life first as individuals, in order to have a healthy, successful, and blessed marriage. I pray that all goes well for you in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen.
Yup. Jesus and Paul weren't married.
I believe I did marry the one' even though we got divorced. We were both believers. It changed both of us although very painful. I learned so much about myself during the decades of being divorced. Although I don't recommend this but I see Gods hand in both our lives. I wouldn't have said this even 8 years ago. We did make our peace.
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I've been struggling with this recently because I took time to work on my relationship with God and healing after a break up, and not engaging in any type of relationship with any guy. I've stood my ground and want to trust that God will reveal him to me when his time for me is right. But there have been a few people that have come forward pursuing me, and I'm kind of torn. They're good guys, and seem serious. But I'm not attracted to them like that, let alone feel a connection. I'm scared now that, am I the problem? Could I be too picky? Could God have brought one of them my way and am I the problem for not wanting to give it a chance? Because I'm scared that I'd end up with someone just because they were there, at the expense of my own happiness. In One of your videos about waiting for the one, you said one could wait for someone with unreasonable reasons like maybe they'll like me if I wait long enough. And I don't want to be that person but still so torn. Apologies for the lengthy text😥🙏🏽
Dating should be held loosely :) I think it's wise to give a good guy a chance if there is any hope of liking him. But if the feelings never come or after a date or two you are still feeling the same, then just be honest and tell him you don't see a future together. So I don't think you are too picky, but you might want to give some guys a chance to see if your feelings change and you then do want them in that way
Get rid of all social media first. Too much distractions come with it and leads you to do not good things because of feelings. When two finally meet only then create maybe a FB together. Never have a “just a friend” with the opposite sex if you want someone to stay.
Somethings you have to ask the Holy Spirit to give you the fruit of self control.
If you lack self control, yes that would be a good thing. If you are more mature and following the word of God, that's not going to matter because you're going to have self control.
I need work on my character
Hey Mark! great video, what if someone's character does line up with the word of God however, you just don't seem to be interested in this person ?
You could give it some time and get to know them more to see if your feelings change. But if they don't this means they are not the one. Marriage is only for those who want it, so you shouldn't force a relationship if you don't want it :)
This was such a helpful video
I guess it’s too late for me since I’ve been divorced twice: first marriage I was young & made lots of mistakes. Second marriage, he was verbally, emotionally, & mentally abusive. Neither time did I ask Gods direction. I didn’t know or understand anything about an equally yoked marriage. I didn’t even know this term until a few months ago.
I know people who are twice divorced and remarried and now they're doing ministry with their current spouse. There's redemption for everyone. It's not too late
Never too late dear.
Will God ever lead you back to someone after a period of separation? I watched one of your videos on not waiting for someone I believe .... But I have dreams that seem like guidance of a past person ..... the dreams are never dark ... I have been seeing some dreams even come to fruition with this specific person
I’m in the same boat right now!!!!!!
So true!
I love love all these videos!!!! But I still don’t know for sure if the man I’m with is the man God wants me to marry 😫😫😫😫😫
I needed to hear this !!
Amen
I feel I am going to be single no one is for me.
Very good thanks
Most welcome!
Amen to that.
Thank you so much for clarification on the one ☝️ God has for us. Your word was very helpful for me and it made a lot of sense. I’m definitely going to follow this path God has spoken to me once again through you. Amen 🙏🏽 thank you and May God continue to minister to you and through you to help others.
Thank you Mark
You are very welcome Jerry!
Hmmm I know this contradicts What you have said but I do not believe there is one single person for another person I believe we could be suited to many different people. I believe there are many people we could have a happy marriage with and God's will would be carried out. What I find very interesting is what you said about people could sin yet God's sovereign will is still accomplished.
Yes, "the one" is not the person you would be most happy with. It's not a "soul mate." I believe "the one" is simply the person God wants you to marry. I believe God has a plan and a specific person in that plan, but it's not as though there is a chance you could marry the wrong soul mate and thus screw up all kinds of other matches. I talk more about this here:
th-cam.com/video/ba5uqQdsL6Q/w-d-xo.html
In reality God have created certain people to come together to do His will. You can be content and happy with someone. But the main thing is letting the Lord lead you to the one that He have for you to do His will. If He intend for you to marry. Some people marry the person that God led them to marry, but that person pass away. And the Lord can lead them to marry someone else later on, but it is still in His plan. And they are to become one, and focus on the Father's business. It is not just about finding someone you think will make you happy.
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How about when the Holy Spirit didn't give you peace but rather unrest before the wedding but you went ahead with the wedding anyways? Do God allow free will or the person whom you marry is always the one?
Amen 🙏
The very sad thing is that many more women nowadays are really into each other more and more. And many of us men are becoming obsolete.
Yep .not to mention women only want the top percent of men which is exactly why most young men are single
Thanks
My pleasure!
I need advice...: I didn't grew up as a Christian. My boyfriend is a Christian and we both go to the church (because he is a Christian and 2 years ago i considered it too but i was scared) so he feels like he's the one for me❤ But i don't know how to know? I would be thankful if i get some advice / clearer vision at this! 😃
Here's some more video's I've done on this subject: th-cam.com/video/K0LNEttoDsI/w-d-xo.html
God brings marriages together, not us. There will be supernatural confirmations.
Amen ❤️❤️❤️🙏
What if he is a new believer in Christ but hasn’t received the Holy Spirit yet ... and isn’t as up to speed spiritually BUT has a desire for these things. I feel like a grow at such a fast rate and sometimes question if this means it’s not a good fit
I dont believe God would let one marry another then lose it after so long. 32 years later I'm divorced. Is this God's sovereign will? For me to be alone again?
No, Jesus Himself says God desires there be no divorce but because of the hardness of our hearts He allowed Moses to permit divorce in certain circumstances, like adultery. Now people get divorced for any (or no) reason. That is not God's will in any sense. It's human free will and sin. I'm sorry you are going through this. Lean on God to help you through.
I'm sorry that has happened to you. Divorce is not Gods perfect will, but we live in a fallen world. Mike Winger has some good videos on divorce, really looking at Scripture & determining what is a justifiable divorce & what is not. Depending on your situation, I don't think you have to remain alone. But God could also give you the grace to remain single & enjoy it. The important thing is to seek God first, & receive a wife when He gives her. Rather than seek a wife as if she is the key to your happiness.
God's sovereign will does not overrule personal choices, rather, it works through personal choices. So we can't blame God for bad or sinful things. But we can't mistrust his power to bring to pass what he wants. The pinned comment on this video may help you
I don't think that just because you didn't marry them they are not the one. I mean some people even though God, brothers and sisters in Christ told them it is not wise, it will bring destruction... They still get married. And... It brought the destruction people foresee.... So someone can decide wrong and end up marrying the perfect disaster for their life.
Yes, God's sovereign plan works through sinful choices. we can't fully understand it, but God accomplishes his will and people can make bad choices which they reap negative consequences by. I would review the pinned comment on this video to further understand this point :)
Amen.
I've been single for 9 years.. I'm ok with that.. quite frankly I've pretty much gave up on love. But what would it mean if a girl approaches you and is into you and everything is going good after talking for a bit she showed me music plenty of eye contact and out of nowhere the next day you never see her again? Basically a girl was hired at my job for a day because she was only able to work 1 day a week. Ever since i haven't seen or heard of her. Can't get her out of my mind.
I’m already married but my husband doesn’t believe I am the one
Marriage counseling can be helpful if both are willing
You and your husband have all of your value in the Lord, not in people. You are both children of the Lord. I agree that counseling will help to heal any and all deep seeded fears, and issues. I pray that you and your husband know that you are both in my intentions. Pray the novena to St. Monica. May the Lord bless you and your husband one hundred fold.🌹🌹🙏🌹🌹
This happened twice in past 5 years. These so called 'brothers' told me they loved me. Wanted to follow Jesus and wanted marriage to me. Turns out they chased me because they thought I was attractive. They were challenged by my love for God and my chastity. They were going to say anything to get me in bed. My 2 ex boyfriends!! Pure jive. It was heartwrenching but I got over them.
So I see you said that he’ll never lead us to marry an unbeliever. What about someone who believes but fell off and wants to do better? Shouldn’t we be a light for them? (Not saying you didn’t say this btw. Just asking) 😇
1 Corinthians 7 talks about this
I believe that the lord has revealed to me the name of my husband.. As anthony...and i have a friend named anthony...But...He isn't a christan..And he isn't like most guys who flirt or..Anything. He has respect for my beliefs And we use to like eachother before i got saved...could this mean something?
Question it’s impossible to be friends with a married man, in whom you honor and respect. I am single never had a date since my divorce in 1985.
Yes Thank You Jesus Amen!♡
I watched your videos and a week ago the guy I like called me when I was praying asking for a sign and was thinking about him but currently aren’t spiritually matched he is more spiritual and I’m more in the Bible do you think that was God or the devil. I’m wondering if he is the right guy but the wrong time. Any advice?? I know God used me as example to him while he was here. But he hasn’t reached out to me since. He asked me lots of personal questions and even asked about kids but he doesn’t see us getting married we only know each Otis like for a week I think and I have known him for a short time.