Been through anxiety, rumenance, depression only to find out i got low self esteem and only accepting what pthers think of me and say about me rather than what i want and what i am.
Thanks for sharing of your knowledge and wisdom. As all mammals posses a fully functional self, which shows in group interactions and at least in trans species interactions and behavior, the concept of shame seems to me as much overestimated to humans, while inexisting in animals. As a consequence the other functional components of the self are undervalued. Shame is a child of philosphical ethics and morals, not of biology.
How do I “allow” / open my mind to see the positive side of myself when the negative filter been in place for decades… I still didn’t made my brain to see any positive trait of my own 🙈 ( there must be but I do not see it/feel it )
It starts in your head, and then with practice, moves into feeling it, as well. On this journey, you'll have to tolerate the dissonance of the old rebelling against the new. Over time, that goes away, but at first you'll feel a lot of inner resistance to seeing and feeling your strengths and value. All the best 💖
Maybe ask a good friend or family member to help you brainstorm your positive personal traits? Sometimes those close to us see us better than ourselves. It will give you some practice accepting compliments with an open ❤too 😊
@ I would love to, but only person whom knew me on that level was my ex-partner ( I never could distinguish between his projections of what he wish I was and my actual traits) … I do not have close friends , close family writes only messages or 10 minute calls. connection as far as I can remember has always been kept superficial… I did asked in past for their views on my personality … reply : of course you have positive traits, we know you do … ( they never been able to name even one, or never did out loud anyway) … whom else is there to ask?
@@kateseivwright9919 I am sorry about that, it certainly makes things more difficult for you, but not impossible by any means. Like Dr. Steinborn advised you here above, get started seeing yourself from the inside out. If you have made it this far in your life you are resilient and capable. The fact that you recognized your need to do this kind of personal inner work at all is your first step towards tackling the hard stuff. By the way, self-reliance and independence are two positive traits that I can see in you just from this simple interaction. I wish you well and Good luck.😊
This is an important question 💗, and at the same time, I'm not sure I can give a satisfactory answer in a short comment. It may take long, deep conversations to really arrive at a helpful conclusion. I'll try my best, though. For the people who are directly affected, who have witnessed pain inflicted upon or lost a close person, or who were directly abused themselves, the best option would be to seek out psychotherapy sessions with a mental health professional. I realize that due to accessibility issues this is not a realistic option for everyone. In that case it helps to write about what's going on in your inner world. Many studies have demonstrated beneficial effects of journaling on mental health. For everyone else in the world who is witnessing this from afar, therapy and journaling are helpful, too. In addition, it can help to do something (even if it's small) to help the victims.
Can't get rid of the notion that "self-worth" is merely an illusion, as it depends on the subjective perception of an individual. Otherwise great explanation, Maika!
We all want admiration from others, don't we? To some extent, all of us want status, good reputation etc. So how is it that wanting these things indicate counter attacking my emotions? What is actually healthy in this case? I am someone who wants to achieve great things in life and I do want admiration from others. But I also feel like others opinions influence me easily and I don't have that strong of a self worth because of which I'm struggling to find what's really right and what's not.
Yes, 💯! It's absolutely human & natural to want to be accepted, admired, loved and to belong. This in itself isn't a dysfunctional coping mechanism yet. It's counter attacking emotions, when these goals come from a place of feeling deficient, unlovable & not good enough. This means wanting to achieve will become a mechanism to want to become good. When performance comes from a healthy sense of self worth, it's an expression of your values and inner enthusiasm. You feel good enough and want to share what you have to give with the world.
On improving your core beliefs of yourself.. words or affirmations Will not help? Like.. There is no way of actually believing that if you are indeed a hyper-sensitive person who often become the victim of bullying both as a child and in your workplace or friend groups? Its like they can sense it and your so used to it you go along with it. Damn
Words and affirmations can help, but you'll have to see which ones. Sometimes it takes a bit of rethinking to figure out which words and affirmations can help you personally to permanently change your core beliefs.
Thank you so much 😢
The information in this video is incredibly valuable, thank you.
I love your charts and figures. This is so useful. Signed fellow psychologist
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Good. Explanation.
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Your channel is a goldmine. Thank you for all that you do! 🙏🏻✨💛
Thank you 🙏😊💖
Dr Steinborn, thank you for all your life saving content!
Wow,very helpful video. Thank you very much. Respect !!! ❤
very helpful thank u
Thank you!
Great videos …. You present and speak very clearly. Oh and stunning eyes too lol
Great video
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Been through anxiety, rumenance, depression only to find out i got low self esteem and only accepting what pthers think of me and say about me rather than what i want and what i am.
Thanks for sharing of your knowledge and wisdom. As all mammals posses a fully functional self, which shows in group interactions and at least in trans species interactions and behavior, the concept of shame seems to me as much overestimated to humans, while inexisting in animals. As a consequence the other functional components of the self are undervalued. Shame is a child of philosphical ethics and morals, not of biology.
How do I “allow” / open my mind to see the positive side of myself when the negative filter been in place for decades… I still didn’t made my brain to see any positive trait of my own 🙈 ( there must be but I do not see it/feel it )
It starts in your head, and then with practice, moves into feeling it, as well. On this journey, you'll have to tolerate the dissonance of the old rebelling against the new. Over time, that goes away, but at first you'll feel a lot of inner resistance to seeing and feeling your strengths and value. All the best 💖
Maybe ask a good friend or family member to help you brainstorm your positive personal traits? Sometimes those close to us see us better than ourselves. It will give you some practice accepting compliments with an open ❤too 😊
@ I would love to, but only person whom knew me on that level was my ex-partner ( I never could distinguish between his projections of what he wish I was and my actual traits) … I do not have close friends , close family writes only messages or 10 minute calls. connection as far as I can remember has always been kept superficial… I did asked in past for their views on my personality … reply : of course you have positive traits, we know you do … ( they never been able to name even one, or never did out loud anyway) … whom else is there to ask?
@@kateseivwright9919
I am sorry about that, it certainly makes things more difficult for you, but not impossible by any means. Like Dr. Steinborn advised you here above, get started seeing yourself from the inside out. If you have made it this far in your life you are resilient and capable. The fact that you recognized your need to do this kind of personal inner work at all is your first step towards tackling the hard stuff. By the way, self-reliance and independence are two positive traits that I can see in you just from this simple
interaction. I wish you well and
Good luck.😊
Dr Maika, any psychological tips about coping with trauma from Genocide inflicted on children and women of Gaza ?
This is an important question 💗, and at the same time, I'm not sure I can give a satisfactory answer in a short comment. It may take long, deep conversations to really arrive at a helpful conclusion. I'll try my best, though.
For the people who are directly affected, who have witnessed pain inflicted upon or lost a close person, or who were directly abused themselves, the best option would be to seek out psychotherapy sessions with a mental health professional. I realize that due to accessibility issues this is not a realistic option for everyone. In that case it helps to write about what's going on in your inner world. Many studies have demonstrated beneficial effects of journaling on mental health.
For everyone else in the world who is witnessing this from afar, therapy and journaling are helpful, too. In addition, it can help to do something (even if it's small) to help the victims.
Can't get rid of the notion that "self-worth" is merely an illusion, as it depends on the subjective perception of an individual. Otherwise great explanation, Maika!
❤😢😊
We all want admiration from others, don't we? To some extent, all of us want status, good reputation etc. So how is it that wanting these things indicate counter attacking my emotions? What is actually healthy in this case? I am someone who wants to achieve great things in life and I do want admiration from others. But I also feel like others opinions influence me easily and I don't have that strong of a self worth because of which I'm struggling to find what's really right and what's not.
Yes, 💯! It's absolutely human & natural to want to be accepted, admired, loved and to belong. This in itself isn't a dysfunctional coping mechanism yet. It's counter attacking emotions, when these goals come from a place of feeling deficient, unlovable & not good enough. This means wanting to achieve will become a mechanism to want to become good. When performance comes from a healthy sense of self worth, it's an expression of your values and inner enthusiasm. You feel good enough and want to share what you have to give with the world.
On improving your core beliefs of yourself.. words or affirmations Will not help? Like.. There is no way of actually believing that if you are indeed a hyper-sensitive person who often become the victim of bullying both as a child and in your workplace or friend groups? Its like they can sense it and your so used to it you go along with it. Damn
Words and affirmations can help, but you'll have to see which ones. Sometimes it takes a bit of rethinking to figure out which words and affirmations can help you personally to permanently change your core beliefs.