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@@EngineerYLShow could you please speak in English or translate when speaking other language? I like your content but the language 🥲🥲 I we are getting lost
One would think that we (women in general) would have learned something by now.Women have been whining about the same issues ( men )for decades and still feel exempt from the consequences of making foolish decisions.As long as they continually blame men and refuse to be responsible for their actions nothing will change.
May God compensate her, besides being silly for cohabiting with a man double her age she is kind, calm and doesn't sound bitter. I wish her healing, genuine love and happiness 😊😊
@@syathokozahlophe9011 Cohabitating in intervals is ideal if u want to see someone's true persona before marriage (3-6 months is engh, no one can hide their persona for that long). Imagine if this girl never moved in with him, she wldnt have known that he's this typa person and married him and got mistreated in marriage. Break up is better than Divorce. Her problem is staying fr sooo long despite seeing the red flags in just a few weeks.
From this lady's story, let's forever be weary of the people we call "friends". Because it's clear her friend was just an enemy waiting to attack her when she was at her most vulnerable.
Thank you for bringing this beautiful conversation Lungelo. As women we may watch from the sidelines and pass judgement and sometimes even ask questions like, "Why didn't you leave?". And one thing I value is learning from the experiences of other women without judgement. May we normalize having platforms where such vulnerability is allowed and extend compassion. Everyone deserves to win at life and love and I pray Lungelo heals from this unfortunate experience.
@@pumlamandiwana293 The Question Of “Why Didn’t You Leave” Is A Genuine Question That Provides More Insight On The Nature Of The Relationship. And The Answers To That Question Can Serve As A Cautionary Tale To Young Girls.
@simnikiwemajiki8265 most of these men who unapologetically cheat on their women without any remorse only start being loyal when they realise that their days are numbered... Because those side chicks would have spent their money and moved on to the next target, they've got no time to be nursing a dying man.
You mean thats "insert guys name" for you. We can also complain about the terrible women we dated but unlike you we are mature enough to understand it is the individual not the gender you are dating. Choose wisely and run away once you see these red flags
Me 😂 watching this after moving in with a man after 2 months of dating 😭and he's a cop. But I have cash for emergency , really cannot be over comfortable with anybody
I remember Nota talking about kids who are raised by grandparents and how they have abandonment issues. They look for love in the wrong places. Longing for mommy and daddy's love and acceptance. I hope she faces that void and replenishes herself. Such a gorgeous lady, love and light❤❤❤
Not true...I was raised by my gran, I know my value, I run as soon as I see what I consider as redflags in a man, I am in a secure relationship where I am able to express my feelings as an adult, communicate effectively if something is wrong...My grandmother raised a very confident, healthy mental able woman...so naaaah not all of us.
@syeh779 I was too, I don't have this lady's issues but I still agree with Nota. There are complexities and different dynamics with every person's story.
It is how she is emphasizing that she loved him and from where I am that wasn't love. Love would never make one go through everything she went through. Love and lights to sis Lungelo ❤
At some point people need to accept that they are enablers of the harm they suffer in life. Seld love and self worth will make you put yourself first in all things. You can never be an equal with someone twice your age. Wishing her healing energy still.
Women who do NOT love themselves are often victims of predator males. Abuse an being used is all they know and think they deserve. Women need to decentralize male and focus on themselves AGAIN. There are too many brainwashed women around who worship the pen*s and not loving themselves FIRST. It's insane!
Out of everything Never cohabit no matter how tempting it is Few days to 2 weeks is okay but don’t move in until marriage to avoid such situations…especially in our generation? Don’t do it
@@Arike-c3qNot cohabitating doesn't change a person's true colours, if this girl didn't move in with him, all those red flags wld have been hidden in plain sight and imagine if she got married to him without knowing he's that type of person. She wld been trapped in a bad marriage. She saw red flags in 2 weeks that ppl only see after getting married, her problem was not running ASAP. Cohabitation done at intervals is beneficial for a couple, living with a person for at least 3-6 months helps u to see things u're willing to tolerate in marriage unlike marrying someone blindly. (No one can pretend that long) After that time u can move out to avoid y'all getting too comfortable. Breaking up is better than divorce.
In plain language, this young lady was groomed and he was fascinated with her for a while and then got tired and moved onto the next one as all predators do. The promises he made to her on his death bed about leaving everything to her, were manipulative lies to keep her cleaning after him. He had plenty of opportunities to change his policies- he didn’t. He had time to write a will- he didn’t. So he was very intentional about using her. I hope she gets counselling and builds her self up in a more wholesome way before jumping into another relationship💫.
You nailed it!! Nothing to add, just agreeing with you. I truly hope she gets all the help she needs to heal and renew her life.... May our younger people learn from these stories and protect themselves from these predators
I am speechless. I hope wherever she is, she is okay and healed from what she allowed herself to be exposed to, I get numb every time she says "but then again I stayed"
We all need to know that being in a relationship is not a ticket to a good life or to acquiring assets. This understanding will save us from pain and shame of failing to claim for things and money you didn't work for.
I moved in with my now husband the night we met and have a 2 yr old, we’ve been inseparable since. So these things really don’t have a formula, sh*t can happen to anyone
@@morongwabapela6524 your experience is what we call an exception❤️ beautiful but not one we can look at and think I "myself" can also experience that. I don't know how to further explain it but it's not a reliable source of hope.
That's true, but how often does it happen regardless of the outcome, how often do people move in together the day they meet. Also, as much as there's no formula to life, that's not something we want youth to stand on when they make decisions to move in with their partner. Even at an older age, moving in with someone on the same day you meet them is very rare.
God my heart left my chest 😢i can't let a madala chew my heart like that😢,Lungelo your beautiful hle❤your story is like your were crying for a father figure
Being with the wrong person can set you so far back in your own life. It’s unfortunate that he had to pass away for her to finally separate from him but I hope she takes this time to pour into herself and put herself first. May she find love within herself so she can recognise a good or bad relationship from afar ❤
Well done Lungelo. Your interaction with your guest is impeccable. Asking the right questions at the right time and helping us picture it. Keep shining.
This is the first time i watched someone's story and realised the girl was just delulu from the start. She seems to be delulu even now. From where i'm standing the guy never manipulated her, it was her who wanted to force a relationship that didn't exist. Ppl don't just change out of no where. The guy must have shown him from the start that he stopped liking her but being delulu the girl refused to see it. So to her it seemed like a shock when the guy brought someone the first time.
I agree that she had her delusions but its a lie to say people do not change. You know very well that people can be deceitful in the beginning and wait till later to reveal their true selves. That definitely happens.
@@Missfab86Ai sisi, i said people don't change out of nowhere. If someone falls out of love with you, you will feel it unless you have blinkers on. It might be a slip of the tongue at one point, his behaviour or something. But most girl stay in that relationship even through those signs and then blame the guy later on when they eventually get hurt. Signs will be there regardless. Perhaps most guys are good actors but i don't know in this situation with the way the girl told her story, to me it doesn't seem like the guy had put that much energy in deceiving her.
Going with the flow doesn't want a dululu person ..."shouldn't do it for long"..it must have expiring date or else otloba victim ...its like seeing red flags then stay hope a person will change kante nex your draining and will end up with depression of mjolo .
Don't worry my sister God will reward you ten times ten. Thank you for educating others. You were young you didn't know better. Older women are still falling in the same holes. You are a lovely soul with a big heart. God will reward you. Take time to heal and look after yourself first.
😢😢my yhoo's has depleted. Sis Lungelo is gullible. She is easily convinced and takes no time to trust someone without studying their behaviors/traits first. I wish you healing, you are kind, humble and lovely. May God restore what you have lost abundantly. ❤
Sorry girl. Following from Kenya. My husband passed on 10yrs back but I thank God unlike your story they stood by me... up to now. May God give you peace that surpasses human understanding.
Unfortunately he wasn’t married to her, it will be a long road ahead. He should have married her if he wanted her to make decisions and benefit! Since he has children, those children will benefit, unless she can prove she was relying on him financially. When our parents preach the importance or marriage, they aren’t being ‘old school’. I hope we all learn from this
People pleasing doesn't work sometimes, no matter how kind you are some in some situations you need to force yourself.The pain of being nice and considerate is greater than that of being rude and mean. Where were they when you were using your energy and resources to help their father.
@@tibuCooks True sana, I've never been a people pleaser and I'm ruthless when it comes to making decisions that affect my life (both positive and negative)... -I don't waste time mina.💅 -I'm glad I am an overthinker, it helps me to often make the right decisions coz I outline the pros and cons.
This girl o mborile, I don’t want to lie.😂 yho! She’s been given a chance to be compensated for ukbekezela and recover from the financial loss she’s experienced while taking care of this man and she still didn’t do anything. O mamela ka batho too much. She’ll forever be a victim of being scammed just because she’s fallen in love with a man.
The question I have is why the late brother was not marrying my sister when he was alive but had the guts to order her to keep all his insurance claims knowing very well that it would create a family chaos, and he won't be there to defend the sister. Please bring her for Part 2 dwelling very much on viewer's questions.
Im so upset with myself after this. What are we doing, how are we raising our kids? Im scared and also grateful for watching this, indeed it did change my perspective about how im raising my girl. Yooooo this chapter engineered my night, my day, my life. Uffff Lord this girl was abused and manipulated, my this narcissistic soul( the boyfriend)rest in peace and find forgiveness.
There's a lot of things that can attract a young woman to an older man. Young women tend to think an older man will provide stability, safety and security. They also believe that with his age comes maturity and commitment but an older man who is single and not widowed is a huge red flag. Most of them have been rejected by their peers because of their lack of maturity. Run from these men, they want young women because they know that they don't have enough experience to see through them. Run!!!!
Lungelo is one of the best hosts in Podcats, actually. Keep it up, man . Relationships are a risky business. You can lose or win . Others moves in after a few days and still in good relationships. This can happen in marriage even. It's not only about cohabiting 😢😢😢
Haebo! This is so crazy, this whole story sounds exactly like mine and my baby daddy, we were together 14 years, one day he asked for a break, then polygamy, after I left he then wanted me back but he was still sleeping around and having group sessions!😢 when you hearing the story from someone else it sounds insane that I stayed
Your interview skills are really good. I'm a new sub. African languages are beautiful especially for non SA people. Put subtitles when your guests use local languages.
To be honest. It's not love. Since she was unemployed I personally think that it was because of lack of financial support. There is no way u can love a person who constantly betrays u. We women we survivors ,wait till we get our independence we take ourselves out of the toxicity. I was once in a situation where I was abused emotionally and I sat down and questioned myself if I'm really inlove or it's just the situation but to my surprise after what he put me through i realized I don't really love my man. I'm staying because the situation didn't allow me to leave him but as soon as I got my independency I left him in peace. And again I feel it's also the system that our elders possessed in our minds ukuthi bekezela. What do u persevere for?toxicity?humiliation?abuse
I dated someone who was hiding his status & defaulted. He got so sick, became blind and had to bath/feed him. Itjoo it was painful. People should never default on treatment
Oh my gosh! That's exactly what I thought when she said he turned blind and got very sick. Considering his lifestyle etc. he probably defaulted, I know someone who had TB and defaulted, as a result got meningitis and now they are taking anti-psychotics! Even though they recovered but they are not the same anymore, sometimes they mess themselves because they have fecal incontinence etc. PLEASE take your meds people, some diseases are no joke!
My brother is subrenting with a girl,I asked him why not just marry her and he said i should leave him be 😂 they talk on phone late night when not together 😂 I asked him if she knows he is not looking forward to marriage and he said yes but i know he is lying....some girls will have to learn the hard way unfortunately,can't save everyone especially if they are not willing to be saved.
I feel for you my dear my uncle left nothing for his girlfriend he lived with for years, he was bedridden because of heart failure. He wrote the ex wife and all his kids in his will and nothing for her it was so sad when she told my mom that she thought that he would at least leave something for her since she hasn't worked in like 3 years because she was taking care of him. Funny enough he even renewed his will months before he died, he made arrangements for his funeral and gave his lawyer his laptop and phone and documents since his sickness was terminal. Ladies please be careful out there some men will just use you knowing very well who will benefit at the end of the day 😢
One thing that has irked me in this life is men that treat everyone terribly or the women in their lives but fall back and start “acting nice” when they’re sick and have no choice and they’re usually lucky to have the same women they’ve hurt take care of them in their last days. No it’s not flattering when someone can only treat you well when they’re sick. Happened with my mum. My dad abandoned her and us and then he came back near when he was sick and she took care of him till his last days, organized a very good funeral. Life ain’t fair and a lot of men can be really selfish.
😂😂😂 Cohabitating is not the problem here, in fact God tried to show her the signs to run but she missed them and stayed for so long. Imagine if she married him without seeing those red flags, she'd then have to divorce him and stuff. Or worse stay in marriage with the shame of not wanting to be a divorcee. Breaking up is better than divorce.
just allow people to speak their home language as they will narrate the story in a fun way; forcing them to stick to english limits them 🙄 its your job to add subtitles
@@kayy5404 adding subtitles is not as easy as using viewers think. It’s a timely and surprisingly expensive process. So extend grace because they aren’t getting sponsors for the amount of input they invest in making content for us. Just try to understand and extend some grace for the efforts they made
Engineers, grateful that you’re always here to consistently watch our show.
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@@EngineerYLShow could you please speak in English or translate when speaking other language? I like your content but the language 🥲🥲 I we are getting lost
Self love will save one from so many troubles 🌝
@@nonodlamini so true
Trueer that true
You can say that again!
100%
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i understand manipulation. but we need to look at how we played a role in our own suffering
One would think that we (women in general) would have learned something by now.Women have been whining about the same issues ( men )for decades and still feel exempt from the consequences of making foolish decisions.As long as they continually blame men and refuse to be responsible for their actions nothing will change.
People must stop staying in abusive and unhappy, humiliating relationships just so that they have a story to tell!
@@barbararichardson2747 I no longer feel sorry for such people! Red flag after red flag after red flag and she still blames "love"! 😏😏😏😏😏
Spot On..
@@leahlinki5683 she's more likely to find herself in the same situation because it was only love responsible 🤞🏾💔
May God compensate her, besides being silly for cohabiting with a man double her age she is kind, calm and doesn't sound bitter. I wish her healing, genuine love and happiness 😊😊
She definitely deserves better
Atleast he took you to school❤a win is a win🎉
😂😂😢
She is so beautiful ❤
Can't get over her beauty....her aura....
Sorry about her experience.
Very beautiful!
She not a 6.
@@engulfed4372what are you talking about?
Very ❤
Loving a person more than yourself.. This are the Results..
plus low self esteem
@@twinmom9728 True that
@@cebilendwandwe6857 you could find yourself doing things you will question down the line. Then they say that man bewitched you😅
Lungelo is so soft.. her heart is so pure shem.. Hope she finds genuine love.
She said she got nothing out of the relationship....but she doesn't realize that she got so much. She got lessons nobody can take away from her.❤
@@GinahTshabalala this is so beautiful l.hope she finds this comment
Aii, if you wanna put it that way, this woman was a hospice wife🤦🏽♀️🙄
“ I can’t blame the family; he’s the one that failed me first “ . True ! The story is a warning to all women
Our grannies were not insane when they told us umkipito will show you flames....🤧🤧
Mjolo is older than us shem
Very true… I will never co-habit even if we are 1km away with the guy …
A human being will show you flames 🔥 whether mjolo,mkipito or worst case scenario marriage
My mom always preaches this and I know she’s right. I don’t want to even try.
@@syathokozahlophe9011 Cohabitating in intervals is ideal if u want to see someone's true persona before marriage (3-6 months is engh, no one can hide their persona for that long).
Imagine if this girl never moved in with him, she wldnt have known that he's this typa person and married him and got mistreated in marriage. Break up is better than Divorce. Her problem is staying fr sooo long despite seeing the red flags in just a few weeks.
The issue is that you loved him more than you loved yourself…. Sending healing and positive vibes ✨
From this lady's story, let's forever be weary of the people we call "friends". Because it's clear her friend was just an enemy waiting to attack her when she was at her most vulnerable.
Thank you for bringing this beautiful conversation Lungelo. As women we may watch from the sidelines and pass judgement and sometimes even ask questions like, "Why didn't you leave?". And one thing I value is learning from the experiences of other women without judgement. May we normalize having platforms where such vulnerability is allowed and extend compassion. Everyone deserves to win at life and love and I pray Lungelo heals from this unfortunate experience.
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@@pumlamandiwana293 The Question Of “Why Didn’t You Leave” Is A Genuine Question That Provides More Insight On The Nature Of The Relationship. And The Answers To That Question Can Serve As A Cautionary Tale To Young Girls.
@pumla Beautifully said ❤
For example, this lady didn't leave because uyihlongandlebe@@sundaes_za
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He only became loyal because his sickness was getting worse and no other lady wanted to associate with him anymore, that's men for you.
Exactly! He couldn’t galavanta anymore, umzimba wawungasavumi.
@@mphosa995 yhooo
@simnikiwemajiki8265 most of these men who unapologetically cheat on their women without any remorse only start being loyal when they realise that their days are numbered... Because those side chicks would have spent their money and moved on to the next target, they've got no time to be nursing a dying man.
I swear. Selfish!
You mean thats "insert guys name" for you. We can also complain about the terrible women we dated but unlike you we are mature enough to understand it is the individual not the gender you are dating. Choose wisely and run away once you see these red flags
Moving in with someone double your age after 2 weeks is MAD MAD business
Moving in with someone regardless of age rarely ends well.
The 2 weeks is the scariest part. She was running away from past traumas. She needs professional help.
Me 😂 watching this after moving in with a man after 2 months of dating 😭and he's a cop. But I have cash for emergency , really cannot be over comfortable with anybody
@ Prudence! Prudence! Prudence! How many times did I shout your name?
@@PrudenceMody Good luck, you gonna need it
I remember Nota talking about kids who are raised by grandparents and how they have abandonment issues. They look for love in the wrong places. Longing for mommy and daddy's love and acceptance.
I hope she faces that void and replenishes herself. Such a gorgeous lady, love and light❤❤❤
Not true...I was raised by my gran, I know my value, I run as soon as I see what I consider as redflags in a man, I am in a secure relationship where I am able to express my feelings as an adult, communicate effectively if something is wrong...My grandmother raised a very confident, healthy mental able woman...so naaaah not all of us.
@syeh779 I was too, I don't have this lady's issues but I still agree with Nota. There are complexities and different dynamics with every person's story.
So beautiful lady, the only thing was lacking from her side was to know her worth.
The way this is convincing me to teach my daughter to never let anybody treat her like a dummy. As soon as you're uncomfortable you leave
@nonzak8362 You should my dear .
I will always do
Very important
Everytime she said "I had a choice to leave, but then again, I stayed".😢😢😢😢😮Just want to thank beautiful Lungelo for sharing with us her story.
😂😂😂😂
I am watching now 20min in and she os saying exactly this.
Paused to read comments instead. 😢
I don't think I can watch this whole thing.
When she says “that’s how much I loved him” yhuu kuthi ngimshaye
@@streetkos1130 that's why Lungelo must have imvubu in his studio 🤣🤣🤣
It is how she is emphasizing that she loved him and from where I am that wasn't love. Love would never make one go through everything she went through. Love and lights to sis Lungelo ❤
She let everything slide. People-pleasing will kill us!!!!😪
True ,yoooo Mina I was gonna show them flames Mnxa
And she blames "love"! 😮😮😮😮
But shes not gonna tell if a mo shaya ka pitsa n stuff though😅😅😅😅…shes was too calm
I was going to sell the furniture and go claim after that. She was too nice for my liking.
Why ddnt she claim.... whyyyyyyyy she had none to lose by doing that
She's so STRONG and so HUMBLE and CALM... Askies, please accept my condolences. All of the best
She's so strong for being able to talk about such a recent death 😢
You need to get subtitles , storytelling in our language is so beneficial
And for us who do not understand your language?
@@Anonymous4you-8519 Hence the proposal for subtitles
@@Anonymous4you-8519you obviously don’t know the meaning of subtitles
@@GigglesGrowth-jo5bi totally agree. Also, allowing guests to speak in their language of choice makes them more comfortable and fluent
@@Anonymous4you-8519obviously you can’t read ;no wonder
At some point people need to accept that they are enablers of the harm they suffer in life. Seld love and self worth will make you put yourself first in all things. You can never be an equal with someone twice your age. Wishing her healing energy still.
True, she enabled him
@@mphihlengmagoro2957 amen and hallelujah
Women who do NOT love themselves are often victims of predator males. Abuse an being used is all they know and think they deserve. Women need to decentralize male and focus on themselves AGAIN. There are too many brainwashed women around who worship the pen*s and not loving themselves FIRST. It's insane!
Exactly.
Absolutely ! The minute she said triple my age ! I thought oh Daddy issues ! sugar daddy vibes ! girl what else did you expect !
Young ladies! Listen and hear her! These men are dangerous and you can never get your time back!
And also encourage young women to make better choices when choosing their partner.
Out of everything
Never cohabit no matter how tempting it is
Few days to 2 weeks is okay but don’t move in until marriage to avoid such situations…especially in our generation? Don’t do it
@@Arike-c3qNot cohabitating doesn't change a person's true colours, if this girl didn't move in with him, all those red flags wld have been hidden in plain sight and imagine if she got married to him without knowing he's that type of person. She wld been trapped in a bad marriage. She saw red flags in 2 weeks that ppl only see after getting married, her problem was not running ASAP.
Cohabitation done at intervals is beneficial for a couple, living with a person for at least 3-6 months helps u to see things u're willing to tolerate in marriage unlike marrying someone blindly. (No one can pretend that long) After that time u can move out to avoid y'all getting too comfortable. Breaking up is better than divorce.
Very True. Time wasted can never be regained.
@@ayakhasokabo8816yea true
This is where you realise that marriage is not just a piece of paper. It has its stressors, but it brings you honour.
In plain language, this young lady was groomed and he was fascinated with her for a while and then got tired and moved onto the next one as all predators do.
The promises he made to her on his death bed about leaving everything to her, were manipulative lies to keep her cleaning after him.
He had plenty of opportunities to change his policies- he didn’t. He had time to write a will- he didn’t. So he was very intentional about using her.
I hope she gets counselling and builds her self up in a more wholesome way before jumping into another relationship💫.
Perfect! Exactly! Spot on!!!
You nailed it!! Nothing to add, just agreeing with you. I truly hope she gets all the help she needs to heal and renew her life.... May our younger people learn from these stories and protect themselves from these predators
Yes !
Absolutely. And the victims most of the time don't understand grooming as they confuse it with love sadly.
He would have married her.
I am speechless. I hope wherever she is, she is okay and healed from what she allowed herself to be exposed to, I get numb every time she says "but then again I stayed"
We all need to know that being in a relationship is not a ticket to a good life or to acquiring assets. This understanding will save us from pain and shame of failing to claim for things and money you didn't work for.
I moved in with my now husband the night we met and have a 2 yr old, we’ve been inseparable since. So these things really don’t have a formula, sh*t can happen to anyone
@@morongwabapela6524 your experience is what we call an exception❤️ beautiful but not one we can look at and think I "myself" can also experience that. I don't know how to further explain it but it's not a reliable source of hope.
That's true, but how often does it happen regardless of the outcome, how often do people move in together the day they meet. Also, as much as there's no formula to life, that's not something we want youth to stand on when they make decisions to move in with their partner. Even at an older age, moving in with someone on the same day you meet them is very rare.
You can never love someone more than you love yourself. I hope you heal Lungelo and thanks for being so vulnerable
@@nomfunekonosilela3895 Literally
God my heart left my chest 😢i can't let a madala chew my heart like that😢,Lungelo your beautiful hle❤your story is like your were crying for a father figure
I think that you are right!
Yes many females would want that outside because they would be trying to close that void of not having a father 🤷it's very sad yet very true. 😢
@@charmainekopolo3865she is very right
You are so right.
Exactly what I concluded.
I Love her so much...she didn't blame anyone or anything she just chose what she wanted .....and stayed. God bless you Lungelo
In closing leave mjolo alone in your 20s, that's why these men go for younger women because their age mates are wise and can see through their BS
No we go for young women cos our age mates are way too old for us it's called nature. Stop tryna shame man cos you're sagging
Being with the wrong person can set you so far back in your own life. It’s unfortunate that he had to pass away for her to finally separate from him but I hope she takes this time to pour into herself and put herself first. May she find love within herself so she can recognise a good or bad relationship from afar ❤
Honestly I'm not judging her...this was a life lesson. Ube right mama ❤
Well done Lungelo. Your interaction with your guest is impeccable. Asking the right questions at the right time and helping us picture it. Keep shining.
God bless you for your kind words. They are encouraging ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏿
You are gorgeous babe. May you heal and find happiness
This is the first time i watched someone's story and realised the girl was just delulu from the start. She seems to be delulu even now. From where i'm standing the guy never manipulated her, it was her who wanted to force a relationship that didn't exist. Ppl don't just change out of no where. The guy must have shown him from the start that he stopped liking her but being delulu the girl refused to see it. So to her it seemed like a shock when the guy brought someone the first time.
@athi771 I agree. A man does things a lady don't think on purpose so that she can leave her.
I agree that she had her delusions but its a lie to say people do not change. You know very well that people can be deceitful in the beginning and wait till later to reveal their true selves. That definitely happens.
@@Missfab86Ai sisi, i said people don't change out of nowhere. If someone falls out of love with you, you will feel it unless you have blinkers on. It might be a slip of the tongue at one point, his behaviour or something. But most girl stay in that relationship even through those signs and then blame the guy later on when they eventually get hurt. Signs will be there regardless. Perhaps most guys are good actors but i don't know in this situation with the way the girl told her story, to me it doesn't seem like the guy had put that much energy in deceiving her.
Agreed, never let a man show you he doesn't want you more than once
Delulu 😂😂😂😂you say 😅😅😅😅
Lungelo you did get something. He paid for two qualifications you have right now.
She is so young and beautiful
So many of us become willing participants in the things people put us through.
I haven't watched the full vid
But this is me. I want to stop 😮
One thing about men? Once you allow “go with the flow” you will never escape that zone! You will end up going with the flow for a whole decade!😭😭
Going with the flow doesn't want a dululu person ..."shouldn't do it for long"..it must have expiring date or else otloba victim ...its like seeing red flags then stay hope a person will change kante nex your draining and will end up with depression of mjolo .
Don't worry my sister God will reward you ten times ten. Thank you for educating others. You were young you didn't know better. Older women are still falling in the same holes. You are a lovely soul with a big heart. God will reward you. Take time to heal and look after yourself first.
She was too understanding and is still hurting
That's what happens when u love someone so much 😢
She really loved the guy ; such things do happen ; I pray she heals 😢
These men will finish us 😢,stay strong sis
Ifa leziwudla lidliwa abahlakaniphile. You're too soft my sister. Kona At least he gave you education. All the best 🎉🎉
She's an angel i wouldn't have done any of what she did for him disrespectful human being.
Couldn't pay me enough to put self through that😭😭😭
Oh what a beautiful humble soul, may the Amighty God bless you my love.
😢😢my yhoo's has depleted.
Sis Lungelo is gullible. She is easily convinced and takes no time to trust someone without studying their behaviors/traits first. I wish you healing, you are kind, humble and lovely. May God restore what you have lost abundantly. ❤
Your partner's family is not your family period
Even in marriage
Sorry girl. Following from Kenya. My husband passed on 10yrs back but I thank God unlike your story they stood by me... up to now. May God give you peace that surpasses human understanding.
Unfortunately he wasn’t married to her, it will be a long road ahead. He should have married her if he wanted her to make decisions and benefit! Since he has children, those children will benefit, unless she can prove she was relying on him financially. When our parents preach the importance or marriage, they aren’t being ‘old school’. I hope we all learn from this
she wouldn't have left if he hadnt passed away. I thought id get tips on how to leave
And he would've continues cheating had he not fallen ill
Dating someone old enough to be your parent will always be wild
Listening is a skill, since when is 12 years older old enough to be ones parent?
@@mapulemosidi7345but why are you catching feelings ??? Are you dating someone old enough to be your parent my dear?
@mapulemosidi
I believe she said the he was twice her age isn’t that old enough for him to be her dad?
Lol she said her and the daughter are peers meaning he was old enough to be her dad
@@Lethukuthula-i8u😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 hehehhehhehehhe hai
Everytime she said: "Because i loved him so much" juuu sisi, iphi i SelfLove????💔💔💔💔😭
@@princessdiana9742 yho sana oko ndikhuza xa esitsho 🙆🏽♀️🤦🏾♀️
@ForeignWifeZA yooo haiiii sana, I felt like slapping her whenever she said that! Aiiii🚮🤞🏾🤞🏾😭
Thank you so much that she spoke in english cause this allows for subscribers to be international.
People pleasing doesn't work sometimes, no matter how kind you are some in some situations you need to force yourself.The pain of being nice and considerate is greater than that of being rude and mean. Where were they when you were using your energy and resources to help their father.
Ave learned that the hard way now am brutal asf
@@tibuCooks True sana, I've never been a people pleaser and I'm ruthless when it comes to making decisions that affect my life (both positive and negative)...
-I don't waste time mina.💅
-I'm glad I am an overthinker, it helps me to often make the right decisions coz I outline the pros and cons.
Lungelo always make his guests feel comfortable, Zero judgement.
1st res flag, moving in together after 2 weeks of talking. Red flag number 2, double/triple her age.
This girl o mborile, I don’t want to lie.😂 yho! She’s been given a chance to be compensated for ukbekezela and recover from the financial loss she’s experienced while taking care of this man and she still didn’t do anything. O mamela ka batho too much. She’ll forever be a victim of being scammed just because she’s fallen in love with a man.
@@chantellemodisane She's a people pleaser
💯 Agree. This could easily happen to her again
Moral of the story: Don't tell everybody your business. Keep your cards close to the chest. Trust nobody, shem.
Diary of a mad black woman - this story literally reminds me of that movie
True sis....get that ring...if you are willing to stay and love...get that paper...I cant stress this enough...GET THE PAPER..
The question I have is why the late brother was not marrying my sister when he was alive but had the guts to order her to keep all his insurance claims knowing very well that it would create a family chaos, and he won't be there to defend the sister. Please bring her for Part 2 dwelling very much on viewer's questions.
Nathi we love too much sometimes, even to our own detriment.
So she was not even listen in the list of beneficiaries ? Yoh this old man played this kid😮
The men lied to her even in his dying days .Wow
We learn everyday im glad i left umkipito im glad sis dnt have a child with this guy unlike someone of us❤ sending love strength wisdom and selflove
Lobola is marriage. I see most people still think it's an engagement.
Im so upset with myself after this. What are we doing, how are we raising our kids? Im scared and also grateful for watching this, indeed it did change my perspective about how im raising my girl.
Yooooo this chapter engineered my night, my day, my life.
Uffff Lord this girl was abused and manipulated, my this narcissistic soul( the boyfriend)rest in peace and find forgiveness.
Story of my life. I'm sorry nana, God is looking over you. You will make it and find someone who gonna love you❤
Lungelo did a great job here for us to get the story. 💯 Great job 👏
Right! She was just not giving us all the details 😢
She's very pretty 😊
There's a lot of things that can attract a young woman to an older man. Young women tend to think an older man will provide stability, safety and security. They also believe that with his age comes maturity and commitment but an older man who is single and not widowed is a huge red flag. Most of them have been rejected by their peers because of their lack of maturity. Run from these men, they want young women because they know that they don't have enough experience to see through them. Run!!!!
Lungelo is one of the best hosts in Podcats, actually. Keep it up, man .
Relationships are a risky business. You can lose or win . Others moves in after a few days and still in good relationships.
This can happen in marriage even. It's not only about cohabiting 😢😢😢
That's why I judge old people who aren't married or atleast a divorcee...what were you doing bro? 😂
7:30 Thank you for doing this. I can’t stand it when they switch in between English and the native language. Thank you soo much 🙏🏽
Haebo! This is so crazy, this whole story sounds exactly like mine and my baby daddy, we were together 14 years, one day he asked for a break, then polygamy, after I left he then wanted me back but he was still sleeping around and having group sessions!😢 when you hearing the story from someone else it sounds insane that I stayed
Oh marn 😮❤❤you’re strong hle
❤ag shame baby ,you went through alot!
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@@nadampupu4242 I wish, I break down everyday
@@espinekambato5903 I still am lol
Your interview skills are really good. I'm a new sub. African languages are beautiful especially for non SA people. Put subtitles when your guests use local languages.
@@Claire-rq9cg good constructive point
I concur‼️💯💯
To be honest. It's not love. Since she was unemployed I personally think that it was because of lack of financial support. There is no way u can love a person who constantly betrays u. We women we survivors ,wait till we get our independence we take ourselves out of the toxicity. I was once in a situation where I was abused emotionally and I sat down and questioned myself if I'm really inlove or it's just the situation but to my surprise after what he put me through i realized I don't really love my man. I'm staying because the situation didn't allow me to leave him but as soon as I got my independency I left him in peace. And again I feel it's also the system that our elders possessed in our minds ukuthi bekezela. What do u persevere for?toxicity?humiliation?abuse
Lungelo's smile though lightens the soul, she is just beautiful ❤
I hope she went ahead with claiming because her time was taken by that man and she had to be his care giver 😢love and light to this lady and blessings
willingly, unmarried.
He educated her that's enough and the money should go to his kids.
@@ZodwaMkwanazi Who are you to say? He told her to take it because she cared for him if they were married it would’ve been hers
@@pmgumeebear where you there when he told her? Why did he have a file for beneficiaries and her name was not there?
Nah. She was volunteering that's it.
I dated someone who was hiding his status & defaulted. He got so sick, became blind and had to bath/feed him. Itjoo it was painful. People should never default on treatment
@relebogile...💔💔
Yoh did you get infected?
@@ScissorN No by God's grace, I did not get infected.
Oh my gosh! That's exactly what I thought when she said he turned blind and got very sick. Considering his lifestyle etc. he probably defaulted, I know someone who had TB and defaulted, as a result got meningitis and now they are taking anti-psychotics! Even though they recovered but they are not the same anymore, sometimes they mess themselves because they have fecal incontinence etc. PLEASE take your meds people, some diseases are no joke!
What a pure soul.
Very !i hope God ne Dlozi blesses her
Not even the FBI would get this information out of me 😂😂
Ma'am!!! Amahloni angangiyenzani!
😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Chomi I'm confused!!!!😢😂
Lol it’s her way of healing😅
Im only 20 mins in, and it's sounding like a movie.😮
@@NosizweZiqubu its the “come to your house for me “
I was shocked 😮
My brother is subrenting with a girl,I asked him why not just marry her and he said i should leave him be 😂 they talk on phone late night when not together 😂 I asked him if she knows he is not looking forward to marriage and he said yes but i know he is lying....some girls will have to learn the hard way unfortunately,can't save everyone especially if they are not willing to be saved.
They will always call you “jealous “
Even if you were the friend, ex or “baby mama” GENUINELY trying to warn
Don't involve yourself 😏why do you even care
@@cherylmoche4744 involve myself where?is English a problem babes.
I’m good guys, I’m good living alone next level is marriage or nothing.
I Fully stand with you, same here
Exactly. Maintain that standard
@@lungelomntungwa934 yesssss
You're such a strong gorgeous person!! Love ❤️ and light ✨️
I feel for you my dear my uncle left nothing for his girlfriend he lived with for years, he was bedridden because of heart failure. He wrote the ex wife and all his kids in his will and nothing for her it was so sad when she told my mom that she thought that he would at least leave something for her since she hasn't worked in like 3 years because she was taking care of him. Funny enough he even renewed his will months before he died, he made arrangements for his funeral and gave his lawyer his laptop and phone and documents since his sickness was terminal. Ladies please be careful out there some men will just use you knowing very well who will benefit at the end of the day 😢
Lobola is marriage,he was married
Yes it is. That woman (the wife) can come back and claim what's lawfully hers. Imagine that. Lol
This lobala thing being marriage is just trapping men..
One thing that has irked me in this life is men that treat everyone terribly or the women in their lives but fall back and start “acting nice” when they’re sick and have no choice and they’re usually lucky to have the same women they’ve hurt take care of them in their last days. No it’s not flattering when someone can only treat you well when they’re sick. Happened with my mum. My dad abandoned her and us and then he came back near when he was sick and she took care of him till his last days, organized a very good funeral. Life ain’t fair and a lot of men can be really selfish.
Could not agree with you more!
I'm sorry about your dad. Youe mom did an honorable thing yena.
May God restore you girl. You're beautiful from inside out❤
The problem is not vat n sit…it’s being in a relationship & accepting nonsense over & over again. Self-love & respect is important.
"I met him at the bottle store"- Obviously this was not gona end well 🙄
Bathong....where were they supposed to me so that the relationship works
😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅
@@pheladitau6762 at church🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
mara😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂you went there
I'm so sad..God please keep this woman...give her Grace
Generation curse of Co habitating. Break that 1:02:08 Generational curse.
Sex clouds your judgment of a person.
Sex is For Marriage
Ujesu should also say "No cohabiting"
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Cohabitating is not the problem here, in fact God tried to show her the signs to run but she missed them and stayed for so long. Imagine if she married him without seeing those red flags, she'd then have to divorce him and stuff. Or worse stay in marriage with the shame of not wanting to be a divorcee. Breaking up is better than divorce.
just allow people to speak their home language as they will narrate the story in a fun way; forcing them to stick to english limits them 🙄 its your job to add subtitles
@@kayy5404 adding subtitles is not as easy as using viewers think. It’s a timely and surprisingly expensive process. So extend grace because they aren’t getting sponsors for the amount of input they invest in making content for us. Just try to understand and extend some grace for the efforts they made
I couldn’t agree more.