People Judge You by These 2 Things - How to make better first impressions at work |
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ต.ค. 2024
- To succeed in business, is it more important to be competent or to be warm?
In business, people tend to predominantly focus on conveying their value & trustworthiness through their competence.
It’s based on the idea that if you’re perceived as being very good at what you do, then you’re trusted and accepted.
However, when it comes to being trusted, Harvard researchers learned that your competence is second in priority to your warmth.
This is because the first and most important criteria on which people base their judgements of trust, are qualities of sincerity, approachability and being genuine.
While competence is more quantifiable for companies, the ability to demonstrate warmth through values, a service-oriented culture and social corporate responsibility is what facilitates trust from a human-centric perspective.
And fundamentally, isn’t business is all about people?
(Since posting to this short video to TikTok 2 months ago, it’s amassed 1.9M views, so clearly it’s something people find intriguing).
I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!
How can you leverage the quality of warmth to help you at work?
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Life changing advise .. one can read the entire library of books and yet may not find a gem like this. 👏🏻🙏🎊
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Actually
First thing learned in a Jewish synagogue or yeshiva.
Well said
@@billybanter9573 thanks.
Thinking is difficult.. that's why most people judge.. Carl jung .
No, not true. Its basically how we are hardwired, that's why we tend to judge those based on appearance. Its like saying you can control your emotions, well, not true, you can manage them. "Limbic system"
This is why people put on make up.
You dress for other people.
acon c
We are also hardwired to think and learn. We have a “conscience” and it’s what differentiates us from other animals. We judge, but our thinking “should” correct our judgement.
I cannot more agree with you more.
@@lucasm4299 well said, Luke!
Did it in highschool.
Go to your friend showing warmth
"hey bro whats up? "
Once they trust you then
U punch em in the nuts 👊
Simp
Hahaha,..i hate that man😑
@@sunnydforfree7145 do u know the meaning of the word simp?
Hahaha
I remember in my highschool the guys would twist their pecs... Weirdos
It's so powerful that you make so much sense in so short a duration! Really efficient and very engaging till the very last second.
However you also quickly forget
Wow, certainly resonates with me! I've been working solely in the IT field for the past 6 years and have seen some of the most competent technicians have very difficult time with customers because they just don't know how to "people!" 😄
warm and competent
She deserves more subscribers..I love her❤
Never ever heard more beautiful voice in English than this.
Thanks for the tips.
Amazing content sis. Iv'e just read an article in less than 60 seconds. I'm always blown away by the consistency of this series and how valuable they are
Warmth and Competence form the foundation of charisma.
People judge us through what they know and what they experienced in life.. We dont have sny control over how someone judges us.. Even if we try to manipulate their judgement, their judgement keeps changing..
Exactly and most of the people think they can go by this model she is talking about until they get smacked hard.
Yes! Never try to manipulate people into liking you. This research needs to be used in a way that helps improves our relationships at work and to create trust. The only control we have is how we choose to show up in the world. And the only thing we should judge is actions yesterday and to focus on doing better today.
We definitely do have some influence over what others think of us.
@@nihalh6482 Just have to be careful it doesn’t turn into people pleasing. Becoming too approachable and too available can cause problems when you deal with people that don’t respect boundaries.
That's extremely true. Sadly, those who are warm enough, their incompetency are disregarded. That's life.😅
People trust whatever appeals to them, their niches, hobbies, addictions and if someone can con them with gimmicks, illusions and words.
Doesn't matter the nich, warmth appeals, secretly or not, to everyone. And competence is the respect in others opinion, is credibility you give someone. The funny thing is: you'll never trully know someone's competence if you're not competent yourself. So this "competence" is mainly appearence, acting confidently about what you say, but if you're not, this will eventually show...I mean, if you're competent enough to notice.
Well said!!
I see!
I've been recieving great support from top people in the niche I'm into. Even tho I'm a beginner!
I'm the kind of person you described and now it makes total sense. 😄
😂😂😂 I liked that roaring👍🏽 You can kill me no problem 😘
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Warmth, Trust & Competence.
I like those short tips, keep them up! 💪🏻
Thanks Luka! A bunch more are coming!
@@ShadeZahrai So short, yet so impactful. Kuddos to you.
Relax Man She answered... And I'm married so you're shooting at the wrong target. Peace! 🤜🏻
Them videos should have been 10 minutes long. Because that is how TH-cam should be
@@ShadeZahrai I'm waiting
So true. Humility is the most important trait. 💛
Wow. This is deep and a powerful message. I’ve learnt a lot in this very short video. God bless you
Thank you for making these impactful videos @shade. Whenever I see any of your videos on my feed I love watching them.
Back at Microsoft, my manager would spend a lot of time in small talk and getting to know the other person who he needs to work with. I used to think that was a waste of time. It took me many years to realise the importance of it.
People will value you based on those two factors, agreed but sometimes warmth doesn’t help. The more warmth you are the more down they look on you.
As long as you are smart and a person who seeks success, you will always face difficulties caused by others. Automatically people are triggered to hinder your success no matter what.
Best things to do is to understand the negativities around you first then choose to implement or not to a fake warmth and move on. Bad people like to be treated nicely while they look down on you. Look them at the same level with a big smile, warmth but don’t over please them.
This is actually true. I’ve seen and done it myself without being super conscious of it.
Therefore being cool is out and the opposite of cool is warm
Haha! Pretty sure you can be both cool and warm - what a paradox! :P
@@ShadeZahrai ~ oh! most certainly ... I am both :-p .. I suppose I was making a stereotypical reference and your response was somewhat unexpected and I am all smiles :)(:
Best comment lol
@@stnickleless ~ thank you Nicholas. People that are approachable and easy to speak with are what I consider 'warm' ..such as yourself :)
@@ShadeZahrai ~ now if we were taking this phrase in a biblical sense it would not be possible. If I remember correctly...lukewarm is spewed lololol. Yuck! Somebody heat this up will ya :-D
Love your advice, so eloquent with your words and amazing voice.
I jump scared of shocked when she's turned into a killer with that spear! 😱
I agree. This is 100% truth in corporate environment. Good content.
They judge us on our money,our expensive car,clothes
Yeah you would know, wouldnt you trump
Some people do. Smart people do too, but in reverse.
People with really nice clothes and cars are probably in big debt to afford that lavish lifestyle. You don't want to do business with people like that.
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My best teacher.. learning from u.. nice job shade
Every one things that they are the only one superior on this planet, when they go to a foreign land and see someone experiencing a more impactful or quality lifestyle, they get jealous and try to label them as downgraded . people should understand we should give respect to others for being who they are and not based on some materialistic things , even we should avoid ranking others 😊
Couldn't agree more! We should respect everyone and avoid comparing ourselves to others. It's not about being better or worse than anyone else, just being committed to our own personal growth. Thanks for the comment.
Her advice is always so on point. A true professional.
*So many Indian men here drooling over this Iranian lady’s appearance* 😳😳😳
And you feel jealous ? 😁
Koroglu Rustem
I’m also from the same background as her. It’s cringeworthy and creepy, just look at all these comments 😐
Yup, they all sound soo creepy
PAKman109
It’s pathetic and annoying. She even told them she’s married.
Inayah Daneen because she’s from “Jannat” without “bourkha”
your voice is heart touching
This is how myth spreads. People make judgements about a person in the first 30 seconds of meeting you based on your looks, position and what you say.
Myth
That's what she said just said different
Position - which would be how confident you are
What you say - is your warmth
Just love ur voice n calmness
Damn you’ve got a great voice u should definitely get into Audio books, all the best
Simp
Or phone sex
What an Eye opening wisdom! Thank you for sharing! 🔥
Shade, first impression i got that you are beautiful and second impression your youtube content nice . All the best.. Take care,🌟
I can feel your warmth
😊🙏
I find the eloquence in your speech to be equally if not more superior to your physical beauty. Would love to see you sing a song.
Meow meow you’re adorable
Warmth = vibe for oneself and in extension others
Competence = ability to authentically climb the dominance hierarchy in the groups one is in
Damn, you’re gorgeous.
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I don't know what she's talking about but I just keep watching
Simp
Shade I agree with you people mostly judge others on the basis of their look ,personality nobody cares about character though character is the soul of the person it is definition of the person. We are more empathized with looks don't get me wrong but many watch your videos because of your alluring personality. Thank you shade you always teach me great lessons you just give us crux of what is good for improving ourselves which is best rather than blabbering and making a long video like others do.
I didn't hear a word she spoke 😂
Because she is that pretty, isn't it?😅
@@FashionHouse1017 Indeed she is ..
She is smart and gorgeous.
Staying professional is always the better choice. But when one wants to be warm, in most cases one is, or will be taken advantage of due to whatever reason financial demographics etc. In the end, as an mid aged adult, I guess I could say staying open minded but nonetheless, keep a threshold (when it comes intimacy, friendship, or courtship), is the best route..
So apt. I love this no-nonsense approach videos. Straight to the point and very clear. Really helpful. Thank you for this.
How can you take anything seriously when its presented from an evolutionary perspective?
You are very warm and competent.
Aww thank you 😊🙏
Instead of saying "from an evolutionary perspective", try saying "from a design perspective". It's really not very reasonable to believe (regardless of what you've been taught) that a finely tuned universe just popped into being out of nothing and that the complex information codes required to sequence even the simplest proteins just happened through chance collisions of atoms. If humans prioritize warmth over competence, it's because we've been designed by a loving and ingenious creator.
I hope for your sake you rate highly on warmth.
Short, well researched and valuable advice! Your contents are gold nuggets. Thank you! ❤
BS. according to “that”, “this”...BS. just work passionately.. finish and go home .
You're not wrong. The problem and an important secret to this world is that it really does run on BS. If one is a BS artist, the sky is the limit. If one is allergic to BS, all one can do is the best they can, have passion, and go home.
The head of my department said you can’t teach what I have and it was my personality and growth mentality. It was a very nice compliment to hear. But she was more concerned about that than the knowledge and competence in the beginning. Smart woman. 😊
Thank you!! I am learning a lot from you, and I love it. Thanks once again.
I am a warm person, I always have, and what people normally expect from me is incompetence and it is quite hard to change their mind once they have that idea about me. What I do now is just the opposite of what she says in the video, to show less warmth at first, specially in working environments and it is working very good, at least for me.
She looks like an angel 😍
I just saw your other vid, I found you warm and friendly....I believe you, and everybody else, portrays themselves as warm and friendly not by your vocabulary, but by diction or how clear and secure the tone of your voice comes across to others.
Beautifully explained!!
Simple tip that’s part of my personality. Warmth is such a great way to feel connected & competency is correlated with confidence. 🎉
You are so right !
She is so gorgeous 🥰
That's why you're doing so well Shade`, naturally so warm and competent 👌
This is an absolute truth up to this day. You nailed it Shadé
Be kind first rather be right first !
Such good advice!!! Thank you ❤
Beauty with beautiful tips😎
Shade I must tell you that I always love your content, it's the best I've come across in this space so far .. And this video short of yours was the funniest I've seen. I didn't expect you being a savage for just a second or two, I enjoyed the sudden levity.
Hehe, thank you for the lovely message. You have to thank my husband's creativity. 😂
Very true!! My mentor at my first job was a very warm and friendly guy. He got excellent evaluations many times and his coworkers supported him. I definitely learned a lot from this guy and wish him all the best!
I liked your look by the way in this video ❤👍🏻
Thanks, I believe this, I’ve seen people get close to warm people.
Wonderful Teaching
Magnificent Message Shade!
Very insightful and articulate.
Hence your advice is really a great lesson again! Thank you so much
Love these daily. Thanks.
Glad you like them!
I can definitely feel the warmth.
This is so very accurate ❤
You are right
Lol! The basics and only the basics, LOVE IT😜!
Thank you lady well noted and understood.
Agreed, trust, then good performance. 👍
I agree with warmth over confidence. It can seem untrustwothy or even like a know it all. I've done it before
That was very useful
Thank you so much
Thank you sister. Mahalo🤙🏼
Brilliant ideas you have , so many books I have read but this is something unique 🙏 thank you
I tried to listen to all that you said but then, I was diverted by your beauty.❤️
When it's cold here, I see your video to get warmth
I've been doing this unconsciously for the past few years and the results are great
Not only are you pretty, you're also full of value 😃❤️. Thanks.
To add, you're very consistent!
Wow just your voice. Thanks
Thank you 😊🙏
I am the warmest person I have ever known! 😃
She looks warm and cozy. I bet she's competent too.
Hahahahaha Shadeee!! Thank you so much for doi g that Hahaha, That is so brave of You!! So proud of You.
Your content has really really really helped me, and I have to hug you whenever I see you! Thank you! God bless you!
You are saying great things to us keep on going. I will follow.
I love this insight, and from such a beautiful lady. Thank you Shadé.
We judge you because of your beauty
Dear Ms. Zahrai n team,
First congrats on making such precise and awesome videos. Really useful. Thank you.
Here I would differ with you on context of Peter Principle as competency is relative. An extremely competent and self assured person will prefer to have same qualities in her surroundings. And the reverse for a person with self doubts. Thus, same person maybe judged differently by different set of individuals.
I hope we can agree to disagree. Continue the good work.
Thank you so much! 🙏😊❤
Great tips! Thank you.
Agree, thank u, like your explanation of this natural behaviour.