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- How To Finally Escape The Never Ending Cycle Of Self Improvement
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In this video I talk about the concept of being plateaued. Most people always have ups and downs, stagnating in the long run.
We want to change this, so that we either improve incrementally, even when we are in a rut, by changing our standards and identity.
Or we can change by completely making our goal as our baseline standard, which is the lowest we can possibly tolerate. This is much harder though.
I highly recommend working through the sheet, as working on it alone will make more connections in your brain and you will remember and think about this concept more often during your days, so that you can actually use it to improve.
I hope you have a great day.
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People ain’t going to escape self improvement hell by buying some TH-camrs course and program 😭
only thing that worked for me was 'Unveiling Your Hiidden Potential' by Bruce Thornwood
Burnout speedrun any%
Real 😭
"You have to have something worth working for" oooooh boy, that's the real problem for so many of us guys.
it really is
It use to be to build a family and provide for them but society has made this extremely difficult
How's it made difficult in your opinion @@Warren_Lifts
@@Warren_Lifts Exactly man, I've been thinking about these for a few weeks. At the age of 23 I should be married or in a stable relationship, that love from my partner would give the the driving force to face my struggles as a man, the sheer thought of being happily married to a woman I love and have my kids with her will be my "release" in my difficult times I know the red pill community gonna come at me saying oh no you gotta build yourself, woman ain't everything, start semen retention bla bla but its all bullshit. Love drives and motivates men like nothing else..
But getting woman let alone being married in today's world is like shopping for a luxury car, and its getting even worse. Nobody wants a prospect, everyone wants a product. Back in the 60's an average worker could have a family full of kids. Nowadays both the man and the woman can have a job and still struggle to make the ends meet. This is the sad reality.
I fell sorry for you guys from Europe and America, i always hear that your society is f***ed up etc. As a young fella from Russia and you may not believe this, we have way less problems as you guys. Stay strong, life is going on and maybe in a month, a year or a decade you will have something worth working for.
Self improvement is masturbation.
thanks
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Why so true
i think i found the missing piece
Most single young men today are working like they have a loving wife and 4 kids to support. Your mental health with go up a lot if you stop working extra for nothing. Im not saying just give up and be lazy, but just live life on cruise control or autopilot and only put in as much work and effort as you need. If the prospect of having a family is damn near impossible, why the fuck should i still put in the work like i have a family?
2:01 you watch merve ?
Bro thinks he's rock lee
The solution is Islam.
How To Escape Self Improvement Hell ? like clicking unrecommend all self improvement channels like yourself
If you want to learn more about building good habits etc i can recommend atomic habits. It has much more to offer than just babit building.
So the entire purpose of this video is a bunch of people coping for the fact they can’t be consistent?
If you ACTUALLY LISTENED to videos especially from Hamza you’d realize how smart his approach is when it comes to consistency.
People in the comments claim that self improvement made them feel like they can’t fk up and due to that they feel stress ,
But if you only have watched how Hamza is constantly bashing no fap movement for being that way and how realistic his approach is for when you start new habits .
What I’m saying is, stop hating on self improvement just because it’s harder than you thought and because you ain’t doing it correctly.
Self improvement > stress > procrastination > repeat
Exactly, help please
@@Player_is_Ino one can help you except yourself and u need to realize that
Same I try but I get so stressed and will just procrastinate on everything
Always set the standard upper and upper, so you never reach the point of satisfaction with your persona and be in constant despise with yourself. Good instruction, but i would prefer living a life with happiness
Easier way
Learn how to fight
This seems helpful. Maybe if you surround yourself with people who only grow and only watch people who constantly show how they are growing, especially those similar age to you, you will be more motivated to grow (maybe not idk)
When at this stage do you get to start enjoying life and stop hating yourself? It seems like the goal is just to be permanently unhappy with where you are of your own volition
there is nothing as self improvement, there is acceptance of self.
and there is thin line between there, delusions of grandeur, yes. you all want to be so big and cast shadows upon all.
none of us will be, none in this existence of ours.
time is the greatest of beings that would cast shadow upon us all.
you dont like yourself ? okay then you gotta do something because nobody but you own the temple.
do something with the tools you have, not the tools you dont have.
you have this on your hand right ? okay play around that, try to vision possibilities of shape you can accquire, something unique with the tools you have given.
fuck people, people are assholes, you cant satisfy their own imaginary expectations, just satisfy yourself.
i dont give a fuck how you feel like this or that or what angle you on, just be okay with whatever you are.
girl didnt like me, boy didnt like me for all people gay, lesbian, straight just say "pfft whatever keep moving" you will not die if somebody didnt liked your company with them.
dont get sad over sentimental things as only the bearer would understand not the listener cope as much as you want but this is the bitter truth.
everything is fixable, because human is limitless potential.
thank you, wish you all great lives.
I read once in a book: "Improvements are only temporary until they become part of who you are". For example: the goal is not to read a book, the goal is to become a reader.
What then defines a reader?
@@bruhman5829 to consistently read
Nice
Listen. The best way (for me) to fix my life was to become a femboy. I started caring about my body and going to the gym, i started getting educated in many diffrent topics and i were eating healthier.
I think everyone needs to find thier true self before they start investing thier time and effort into it.
0:22 probably because most content creators want to profit and not actually help people
The way to self improvement is not to always take steps forward. You go three steps forward, two steps back, so on and so forth.
Hey brother i watched your video. i really liked your thumbnail and i know you must have spent precious time on making it. But would you mind if i reuse it and give you credits in description
absolute bs
The entirety of self-improvement is
bro i stopped showering properly and sopped bruhing teeth tfk do i do now
I’m guessing you watched that one Charlie Morgan vid lol
Just read atomic habits and apply it in your life. Love to yall❤
Ive been on self improvement for 2 years, but i never actually started to get stuff done 💀💀 i hope this will help me
lmk how it goes man!
@@tobi44221 Same here man
same bro
Same but I've been on it for FIVE years
Then you actually haven’t been on self improvement
Based video
Nicee
The second method seems like a surefire way to get a burnout lol. Interesting as a theory but when nothing's ever enough and you always dislike yourself until you reach that ideal state which you will never reach, it's never sustainable. Eventually you're gonna hit a breaking point and fell to an all time low
A string that's too slack will be dull and lifeless. A string that's too taught will snap. That's what buddha discovered during his early period of meditation
Exactly what I thought man
It's like this civilation cycle:
hard times create strong men,
strong men create easy times,
easy times create weak men,
weak men create hard times,
Sometimes i think, this cycle is a natural thing and we should accept it or maybe voluntarily cause hard times and eliminate easy times. I guess, cavemen never had easy times.
Accurate
4:57
Me having a bi panic attack 😭😭😭
Thanks man
Deny your situation
video is stolen completly from charlie morgan
Real
W bro this helps
this is a good fucking video
2:38 Ir "ESTANDARIZANDO" habito por habito.
3:17 Gráfico de esto.
yeah just stop watching sellout self improvement youtubers
Easy or not is necessary
2:13 cool
god bless you
11/5/2024
Hamza in the thumbnail 😂
Brandon Carter says
“You don’t rise to your ambitions, you fall to your standards.”
This is a great visual representation of that.
And similarly by James Clear in atomic habits “You don’t rise to the level of your goals.You fall to the level of your systems.”
@@ismandar983I was thinking the same
nice video bro.
The video is nice
From experience the second way of improving causes me to crash and burn. Currently trying out the first method for the first time
Noice
How would one stop numbing the pain at the bottom, slowly decreasesing standards?
Just gotta slowly get better each day .if you try and achieve it instantly you will crash, allow yourself to relapse sometimes
Nice vedoo bro.❤❤🌿🌿
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"But still you brush you teeth and shower" Yeah I'm might cooked
you get this from charlie morgan?
Bro, the second method would never make you satisfy by your current situation, and you'll always be in a stress state.
God and Islam is the ultimate self-improvement which excells all means of improvement.
I'm always asking: WHY DO YOU NEED ANYONE TO TELL YOU TO DO SOMETHING?! Its only you that can help YOURSELF!
trader well more relate to this graph
You trade Futures?
Your last strategy sucks. 24/7 self hatred won’t work for anyone. I agree with making your new habits the bare minimum for each day, but that shouldn’t be because you think you’re not good enough. Permanent self hatred (as opposed to temporary self hatred) has never motivated anyone to achieve great things about themselves.
yea cuz some things don't have to be working with everyone... and u gotta figure out urself
True, i have hated myself on not doing something and it discourages me even further.
I have to somehow bekind towards myself, and make my tasks easy and manageable, slowly carefully adding tasks or increasing difficulty.
Im still learning for what works for me
Actually, think of it this way. All of us are being sold the idea of time, progressive overload, etc.
But Elon and other great entrepreneurs didn't do all that. They were in a constant situation of pain, and that's why they are where they are. They were never complacent. They had a super strong 'why'. They signed a contract with themselves that they won't be satisfied unless their purpose has been achieved. Pain and more pain, this was their constant state of being. They went this harsh and fast route.
Ask them if they're satisfied and proud. Answer is guaranteed to be 'no'.
But we peasants, we're doing this the other way around. We don't have a strong why. Our 'why' stops at money, sex, and mere material possessions. We need to find a deeper 'why' for ourselves, and I believe that's where philosophy comes in. To get a man to find his very own personal North Star.
North Star should be such that when you expand your hand out to reach it, you realise that you're nothing. The North Star is so large, massive, and you need to travel all that distance to finally touch it.
The North Star just gets you up, makes you feel that you're getting closer, you visualize and get so desperate to reach it that you get your ass out and start working. Every single day. 0 willpower required.
But diving into philosophy, studying it, picking out your own deeply personal 'why' requires time. Perhaps a lot of it.
yea i used to always have self hatred basically my entire life and it just lead to nothing but constant complaining about myself and not doing anything about it except pushing it off for later
For me the biggest thing was being able to forgive myself for screwing up. I used to completely hate myself when I would make a mistake after having made progress because my standards would increase. Very often it would lead to me having a mental breakdown and cause me to binge bad habits again. Literally just saying to myself over and over "I choose to forgive myself for my mistakes" during meditation has helped immensely.
You’re not alone
blud watched sam ovens. massive W
Yoooo, we have the same name
Pov me coming back and seeing intro
Create a new identity which have the lowest standards as your current highest standards
Thnx mate
Just stop watching any video that add big chinned poorly drawned man. And actually look for solid advice
Tbh. Just organise yourself. Like, put on a note what you want to do. And then, put a Daily Routine. Obviously, you need to know what exercise to do on your Daily basis.
I feel like i'm in "Escape from Self improvement hell" hell, because that's like, 8th video on the same topic I've watched
That thing with the teeth hurt right in my meow meow... Im 27 and ive lost half my teeth already... Brush your teeth kids
The 2 Nd Part Was Already Known To Me
Stuck in a cycle for 4 almost 5 years bruh 😂
I am fcking enlighted
i address this issue to myself every week but i rarely get any answer and i dont get anywhere honestly
So our life cycle is a sinusoidal function, lol
i feel like constantly being productive 24/7 can be harmful too
No no I completely disagree! This isn't healthy! What helps me is understanding that per one day there's a limited amount of energy I have. I can't overwork myself or I will pay for it tomorrow. Another important thing is that sometimes you need days where you don't do anything at all, for regeneration. You can't keep going faster and faster, everyone has their own natural tempo. Your own natural speed and you must go with it not above it or below it. You can sometimes go faster and more intense but that's rare and should be. Really intense days should be an exception not a rule. You can't keep on sprinting, because sprinting is your maximum (metaphorically). Being on your maximum all the time is not good for you. Balance! It all needs balance not too much not too little! And you feel when you overwork yourself or underwork yourself.
Self improvement is a trap or well the version of self improvement that’s fed to us. Truth is the industry behind it basically makes up non existent fluff based on insecurities then sells you a doctrine that’s basically slapping a band aid on a gaping wound.
You’ll hear things like “masculine traits” “alpha/sigma male” “attract women” “success” the stuff that any individual wants.
If you’re a dude you do not need to worry about masculinity, you do not have to worry about confidence or being attractive or being an alpha. It’s about as factual as star signs.
Best thing you can do is ignore it and start thinking for yourself. You pretty much have all the answers and it’s not hard to make beneficial decisions in your life without having to pay frauds to tell you the answers.
Lastly don’t be afraid to follow your interests. Those interests lead to skills and eventually the more proficient you become the more you start to realise that seemingly completely different skill sets will bleed into each other.
Those two things are all you need “masculine” traits automatically develop as a cause to skill building, you will become competent/confident as a result. You will become an alpha/sigma or a better way to put it you will become an authority in your particular fields of interests. Success comes with time making good decisions.
Lastly on the topic of being attractive, there‘s no blanket science to attract everyone. You can have money, a fast car and “game” but really you’re just cheating it. As a result you’ll attract the sorts of people that value shallow things. Body counts are dumb and unfulfilling, after a while everyone wants a decent GF. The best ones that will make large impacts on your life are the ones that are on your wavelength, you’ll know because they’ll like you for you and it feels effortless, they won’t be perfect and neither are you no matter how many “mentors” you pay for.
In essence everything will come together automatically as you grow up. Hope this helps anyone confused and wasting their money and time.
I know this guy watched Charlie Morgan
Not showering and not brushing your teeth are you sure about that?
Not gonna lie, your content is so unreplacable with other content creators man, you got something good going on. ( i like to see you more of your content BUT your life matters more so I do hope you can make some from time to time )
if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved;
I think you just need to work so hard that your minimal standarts rise
Indeed, you must have a strong stimul to do this second way, but will the results be even worse when you start falling to the lowest point? The fall may be colossal!
Going to be honest, I was into self improvement for years, up to a point where I got intoxicated by it ; always felt guilty, burnt out, yet not productive. Objectively, I know I'm a better version of myself in many aspects from who I was years ago, but still... I still feel like that 18 years old loser.
How old are you ?
@@rainofilm-xw3yx I'm 30
man i always have that good 3 months where its all going very well then i end up makign the shitiest decsions and back to 0 we go for the rest of the year
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Did u get this from charlie morgan?
I think burnout isn't taken into account in this vid
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