@@covalentbond7933 it’s not really chance at all. It’s completely knowing oneself. Many people are in denial about their own neediness. Cover every angle as to why you want another person in your life…what needs are you wanting them to provide? Then go deeper. Your subconscious is operating in opposition to the conscious, most of the time. Until one becomes aware of their subconscious programming, conditioning, and core wounds, they are at the whim of the direction of the subconscious. The conscious mind can’t out-will the subconscious. Believing that it’s all chance…is a learned helplessness narrative. If you’re truly connected to self, aware, empowered, you’d never think much was chance. Power of belief and law of attraction are powerful. Check any cognitive distortions, root out any limiting beliefs. I hope you can get to the place where you deeply understand. To be in that place, is unexplainable.
@@Alphacentauri819 who and when you meet someone is all chance, you seem to have watched a video or two on philosophy and now you think you know enough to write this block of vague nonsense, why put so much effort into writing so much BS? You know how limited words are so it's already difficult to express basic ideas, pls keep this nonsense to yourself, thanks
@@covalentbond7933 wow, you must not follow Eckhart much at all. Here you are with your ego front and center, trying to dictate to others what to do. Telling me to keep nonsense to myself…hilarious, and hypocritical. Follow you own rules. I have every much of a right to post in this space as you do. The fact you tried to control me says a lot. I was in medicine, worked cardiac for over 10 years and now I’m in neuroscience..far from watching a few philosophy videos. Nice narrative btw. To make meaning out of things without much evidence (assumption), is exactly what a cognitive distortion is. It appears your thinking is rife with them, just in the comments you’ve written. So sad. You don’t even see your own blindness. Maybe a touch of anosognosia, eh? Now, as I have a policy…having been a medical practitioner…not to engage with those who seem mentally incompetent, I’m out. This is my last comment to you and I’m muting you. Don’t bother replying (doesn’t feel nice to be told what to do, huh?) as I am refusing to engage further. Boundaries.
I am deeply touched not only by Eckhart's wisdom, but also by the lady who posed the question. I'd like to thank the lady - thank you for being so true to yourself. That alone is touching to me.
Genuine help for people who tend to do negative self-talk. This book makes you understand what factors are important for your own happiness and what you can get rid of in order to be emotionally strong. I read it over and over so that I can apply what the book teaches to my everyday life. I also got this sense that I’m communicating with the author through the author’s personal experiences. It’s definitely worth a purchase. search 'kit for emotional stability' on amazon
I am thankful for rejection and abandonment experiences now, because the inner peace that's slowly growing somewhere within me is really liberating, and nourishing on a much deeper level. ❤️
11:33 “The more you live from the deep * I * the less you need that person. That also means the more deeply you can relate to them. Because you can relate to them no longer through your neediness, but through your aliveness. And then the other [my words: might] want to spend more time with you because it feels so lovely to be around someone who doesn’t need you.” 11:33
Eckhart, I left a hate comment on two of your videos not too long ago and I regret it. However, this was the moment when everything started to change within myself. I came back to your videos and I'm glad I did, it started a process that has been great. Throughout this time, about one and a half month, I have watched many of your videos. You have been a mentor when there was none for me, and I am immensely grateful for all of your insightful and beautiful videos. They have been great support... it is clear you are wise but also have a great sense of humor, which I think actually go together, or they should. Even though you probably never read them, I am sorry for my hateful comments. Thank you so much for your teachings.
@@lovejustifiesexistence The ego cannot understand, for it is selfish. What came over you was trying to interperet what he's saying through your ego. So you express that through a reaction without really understanding what is really happening. I am glad you have experienced some ego detachmeny recently. We have an ego but we are not it and in moments of resistance or argument, it is just a conflict of ego where there is no understanding, no winner or loser.
When I last had a house, I had a large chalkboard in my kitchen where I wrote some wisdom to remember. One was, "Learn to want what you already have." It has helped me to let go and appreciate MORE of what is present.
Eckhart Tolle you have Changed my life. Whenever I’m becoming bothered by my ego or thoughts I listen to your videos. They help me immensely. You are a gift to humanity 💓
I'm learning to detach with love💕if i need something, i try to keep myself in my own peace & joy by meditating so neediness isn't there. I see detachment brings closeness too
@@Zelchinho That's the problem, you can't think your way into it. As Elkhart teaches, you must observe your mind rather than live in it. Becoming what you need or becoming love happens when you connect with your soul/consciousness, which can be accessed by quieting the mind and observing it, rather than thinking.
When you can get to a place in mind that says... "everything is taken care of" you let go of neediness and like he said things you previously "needed" just start to either show up in your life or you get little nudges to take action towards a certain thing or doors just start opening for you, it is really quite amazing.
@@kingsakoura6241 It is not in the Quran. It is a saying of the Prophet. I'll put it in Arabic for you هذا الحديث رواه الترمذي (2465) عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: مَنْ كَانَتِ الآخِرَةُ هَمَّهُ جَعَلَ اللَّهُ غِنَاهُ فِي قَلْبِهِ وَجَمَعَ لَهُ شَمْلَهُ، وَأَتَتْهُ الدُّنْيَا وَهِيَ رَاغِمَةٌ، وَمَنْ كَانَتِ الدُّنْيَا هَمَّهُ جَعَلَ اللَّهُ فَقْرَهُ بَيْنَ عَيْنَيْهِ، وَفَرَّقَ عَلَيْهِ شَمْلَهُ، وَلَمْ يَأْتِهِ مِنَ الدُّنْيَا إِلَّا مَا قُدِّرَ لَهُ .
@@thomaskeets3194 ego makes us believe we can't survive without having it..but the truth is nothing is needed to make you feel complete..understanding our egoic pattern is helpful and gives freedom.Assume what you want you have it and trust the universe it will deliver to you,the main thing is the emotion is it of wanting or of gratitude
Me too. I think it is because if you get it when the ego is too much a part of the desire, the fulfillment strengthens the ego / false self more. In Christianity, they talk of God as the Giver and the thing we desire as the gift. (You can also think of God, in Tolle's terms as the Deep "I") When the ego is too involved, the gift can easily become more important than the Giver and we become attached to "it" more and more for our sense of fulfillment. We forget that the real treasure is already within us. That's how I look at It anyway. But I've often had the experience of getting things like you say, when I am no longer craving them or seeking them intensely. (But it is much easier to say than do.)
I can't remember how Alan W. Watts said it but, "The more you let go of it, the more you have it... But not to try and obtain power over the rest of the universe, because that will only disturb it all the more." I believe the talk is named: How to trust the universe; and this is what Eckhart Tolle is talking about towards the end of the video. Amazing.
I've experienced this irony so many times in my life and I never quite knew how to explain it to people. It is only when I already had something within myself that I would reach or gain it in the material world but then it was never that giant event of happiness I had formerly imagined when I was still craving it. More like the quiet peace of things just being in place.
This is so true, after weeks with trying of meditating everyday, yesterday for the first time I reached the state of being absolutely present in my "deep I". Once there, there were no thoughts, it was not possible for the thoughts to enter this state. It's truly amazing and a bit scary because it's unusual for the self. After this I watch another video of Eckhart Tolle and I felt actually blessed for those who made me suffer so I could take the decision to become present.
You’ve never lost it! It’s ever-present and always available to you. It’s only when the mind says “I’ve lost it” and is seeking too much that it gets lost in thinking and concepts again, so the presence isn’t lost, only overlooked. What I’ve realised and forgotten over and over again is just how simple accessing the deep I is. You’re reading this text right now, now notice that you’re aware of the fact you’re aware of reading the text. That’s as simple as it is. When you find an anchor of presence that works very well for you, bring all of your attention there. But then after that is established become conscious that you are conscious, and that is pure awareness. Very little room for thinking, or feeling like “I’ve lost it” because you realise you ARE it. All that’s required is the willingness to go there, the conscious choice to be conscious, and to be open to whatever comes into your experience 😊. I wish you wellness and peace ✌️
I came from a mother who suffered from schizophrenia and a father who wasn't able to cope with my mothers illness, so he left. I was shoved from piler to post into different foster homes as a young child, eventually to be placed in a children's home in N. Ireland. My sense of identity and belonging was always a challenge and I've arrived at many deep reailzations through my unique journey. I'm now 40 and have drawn much awareness through my experiences. And to find such Incredible teachings by Eckhart has aided me immensely. I am currently learning to control my pain body from rising through awareness and I am also practicing to become less needy through this exact teaching from Eckhart...I've had allot of rejection in my life and it's been incredibly difficult for my ego to let go of that searching and yearning for the love I never received from my parents and my brother... The yearning has been incredibly strong, but through that, I've learned that it's only possible for people to resonate on the level of consciousness they are on... I am learning to let go of expectations I put onto others and accept the frequencies others are on. It's insane to think friends/ family will love me in exactly they way I desire. It's impossible. I think drawing this awareness through Eckhart's and Kim's teaching has really helped ease my pain and I feel more ease with letting go in my expectations of love and neediness. I am deeply greatful for these wise, clarified teachings. I love you very much Eckhart. Thank you for helping me along in realization. ~X~
Hi, Please know u are not alone. No one gets out of this life without great pain. U have had so much, maybe more than most but it is said great wisdom comes from great pain. You sound very wise to me. I am praying for all people like u and me!!! KFTGF.
I agree with the spiritual aspect of eckharts teachings but it's also important to acknowledge our needs on the emotional dimension. especially when they were suppressed in childhood because of abusive caregivers.
Infinite thanks, Eckhart! I surprised myself being quite suffocating, demanding towards my friends, needing them to be there for me. Remembering the fleeting nature of everything, also the impermanence of all forms, taking a deep breath, made things, situations easier, diminishing the heavy weight of clinging to another person.
I agree, my ego thinks it really really sucks to need to be around someone and that person not wanting to be around you because you depend on him/her for your happiness.
I love how he breaks up the concept of individual awareness ("I"), to help me understand the complex layers with which I can function. For the longest time, that "uneasy" surface part of me has been taking the forefront of my relationships. I lose my sense of identity in other people. I just need to be conscious and remember the deep "I" which has never left me, and embrace stillness. It is in stillness that I am deeply rooted in myself. I sincerely love this.
Instead of laughing realize that some people need just this . Their understanding is different from those who laugh and that's OK. Enjoy the laughing because without laughing we suffer.
This was the first Eckhart Tolle video I saw and I understood the 'Deep I' right away and after awhile I started noticing the "glimpses", of still presence, as he said. It's been about one year since I saw this and I'm amazed the change deep within me. I watch or listen to ET nearly every day and now, finally, practise presence every day. This is still my favourite video despite doing the Conscious Manifestation online course which is amazing too!
I think Eckhart talks with honesty and sincerity. He is a very genuine and sensitive man who always makes me feel entirely at ease. He also has a child like innocent laugh. Very unique but entirely authentic...💚
I love the sky and can truly relate to that. It’s so beautiful and magnificent even when it’s cloudy and dark. The spaciousness it’s so powerful. Thank you Eckhart for your wisdom 🙏
Thank you for existing. I'm always amazed that whenever I get caught up in life and feel it becoming heavier there's always a video of you that help me feel lighter again and not identify with my ego as much.
I absolutely love how genuine you are when you're explaining something. It's almost evident that you speak through your experiences and not a place of "I know things" Thank you for everything. :)
Whatever you're afraid to loose you've already lost. When you want nothing from anyone else, you're safe for anyone to be with. Byron Katie 10:45 meeting at a connective level 4:19 The superficial me 13:01: the irony of the universe
Hi Eckart :) I love you and I'm so happy that you exist in my time. I really believe that you are one of the greatest teachers of all time. You are wise and yet, humble. You actually listen to people and answer accordingly and it's like the universe is talking through you to me. As though you always needed to exist for me to access my channel to the universe. Thank you for choosing to teach all you know and not relaxing in a cave somewhere with your eternal internal peace.
Omg I love this. What he says about stillness and spaciousness. Often find myself looking deep into the sky when I crave grounding, it's so neat to see him describe the same thing. Try it sometime.
Realizing home is peace. At home with myself is really peace within myself. I've been seeking this peace all my life but didn't know that's what I was seeking.
She is brave and wise to ask the question. And Eckhart’s answer was illuminating. And she is beautiful to me…I’ve never said that sort of thing in online comments before. Her personality is magnetic to me.
Every time I hear his voice it reminds me of om, home....since being a significant role in my awakening process. Love and gratitude for Eckhart always.
I think in this personal growth / entrepreneur scene there is this idea of 'staying hungry'. I guess some people might take that as staying with unease. That feeling always at unease is what they need to propel them forward. But it can be a crappy experience. Always chasing some goals in the future and never getting to fully enjoy what you're doing now. I believe it's possible to be motivated out of inspiration. A huge desire to get to a destination but not because there's a void within you. But because you're inspired by a compelling future. And then you get to enjoy the process. You get to enjoy what you're actually doing now with more ease and flow instead of anxiously chasing an idea of the future.
@@marisah6947 Yes that's right! It's a challenge not to get your ego and identity invested in anything you're going full pelt at hoping to manifest your desires. But I believe it's possible to have a deeply desired goal, and yet be open to the possibility of it not happening. Perhaps they'll be some disappointment, but it doesn't have to destroy you. The key is acceptance of whatever happens.
I appreciate your insightful comment and articulation of the spiritual unrest I have seen in the entrepreneurial/self-development community, as wonderful as it is! Looked over your channel and subscribed! Your content looks great!
The thing to understand is that people like Tolle have plenty of $$$$$ so their financial futures are taken care of. Put him on the street with no money and no food and you'll probably find that he will plan a way to a better future maybe even write another best seller.
Mr. Tolle, I asked a friend to pray with me today because I felt I really needed wisdom and I felt very anxious. Quite unexpectedly while just surfing youtube for something entertainment/distraction, I happened upon and clicked on one of your videos. And I realized as I was watching that here was the answer to my prayer. Thanks very much.
I am trying to love a girl with Scizophrenia. I searched trough the internet for answers. None of the dating advice I found covered it. So I returned to Eckhart Tolle. I love her but I struggle when she suddenly drops off the face of the Earth every now and then. I have to accept that she has bad days and practice not reacting when she is unreachable. She is probably having a lot of stress and her actions have nothing to do with me. I am happy I have friends to talk with and that I have come this far. If I can love a girl with Schizophrenia, I think I can love anyone and everyone.
She has no idea how she asked a question and got an answer to it. What I'm trying to say is she saved my life by asking this question. I was in such a deep hole and after hearing what he said I feel like I'm born again. Years of pain finally understood. Thank you to both.
I think many people confuse presence for passive living .Theres still outward moving as the polarity to inwards being and there is no way to complete dissolve the ego just be aware of it and use it and view life as a play,a game . You can still strive towards things like fame as an experience but not requiring as part that will make you whole or better.
Thats so right! There is such a thing is positive ego. Some of these new age guroos demonise the ego way too much. At its core it is just our basic survival mechanisms which serve us good in the moment but can become problematic if we hang on to negative things for too long. Emotional intelligence needs to be a bigger part of our education system. On the flip side anyone claiming to have no ego is an ego within itself.
Yes. "Engaging emotionally" with things. Letting preconditionings decide for our life, instead of pure logic and observance. But is it safe to leave the preconditionings as the inner alarm system, and fully trust the semi-robot logic, and the wagely-known intuition, that is sometimes mistaken for the preconditionings themeselves. Sorry for my confusion.
LOVE looking at the sky! I think that is also why I loved skydiving 😊 but also why I love being in the mountains... and being away from city lights like in southwest US. Such a meaningful response. Thank you Eckhart💗
When I was 10 yrs old and separated from both my extended family and living with a new extended family member in N.C. I would frequently lay out, on the grass, just looking at the sky. Wasn't conscious enough to know that was freedom and peace simultaneously . smh
Excellent talk that can be delivered ONLY by a master with direct experience. Eye opening and mind switching, very practical and helpful to those who are open minded enough
I used everything I had studied all the meditation martial arts energy healing studying all world religions n their amazing secrets. Mind control.. ancient yoga... so much I studied.. then one day I was gifted your book power of now... it was mind blowing in conjunction with everything I learned.. your amazing.. Thankyou for your intense words.. it was life changing
I understand the paradox concerning neediness. I see it as letting it go at the conscious presence level (spiritually); my neediness will then be satisfied in a way unknown to me. Ty, Eckhart
It's an incredible time in life that knowledge like this is at our fingertips.
Totally. We can choose superficial videos or those like this which enrich our conciousness and life.
Keep on searching for truth, knowledge.
Ikr! The internet got me out of depression.
Clay Black
Yes !
*conscious awareness
I love how he giggles like a little kid. It's adorable.
he excuses kindness
That's so sweet, you have elevated, I still find his laugh to be hella weird
He really reminds me of winnie the pooh, and thats a high compliment
My favourite giggle😂. Love you Eckhart ❤
Agree completely @@NextLevelMeNow
Eckhart you would love Nebraska skies! They are the most expansive I've ever seen.
I’ve been single for 22 years! But when I stopped being needy I got in a relationship!! This is so powerful! 🌟💪🏼
WoW that's beautiful to hear! Were you an anxious attachment style person..? How did u heal ur childhood wounds and became securely attached? 🙏🏻❤☺
I've not been needy for years, still no relationship, it's all chance lol
@@covalentbond7933 it’s not really chance at all.
It’s completely knowing oneself. Many people are in denial about their own neediness. Cover every angle as to why you want another person in your life…what needs are you wanting them to provide? Then go deeper.
Your subconscious is operating in opposition to the conscious, most of the time. Until one becomes aware of their subconscious programming, conditioning, and core wounds, they are at the whim of the direction of the subconscious. The conscious mind can’t out-will the subconscious.
Believing that it’s all chance…is a learned helplessness narrative. If you’re truly connected to self, aware, empowered, you’d never think much was chance.
Power of belief and law of attraction are powerful.
Check any cognitive distortions, root out any limiting beliefs.
I hope you can get to the place where you deeply understand. To be in that place, is unexplainable.
@@Alphacentauri819 who and when you meet someone is all chance, you seem to have watched a video or two on philosophy and now you think you know enough to write this block of vague nonsense, why put so much effort into writing so much BS? You know how limited words are so it's already difficult to express basic ideas, pls keep this nonsense to yourself, thanks
@@covalentbond7933 wow, you must not follow Eckhart much at all.
Here you are with your ego front and center, trying to dictate to others what to do. Telling me to keep nonsense to myself…hilarious, and hypocritical. Follow you own rules.
I have every much of a right to post in this space as you do. The fact you tried to control me says a lot.
I was in medicine, worked cardiac for over 10 years and now I’m in neuroscience..far from watching a few philosophy videos. Nice narrative btw. To make meaning out of things without much evidence (assumption), is exactly what a cognitive distortion is. It appears your thinking is rife with them, just in the comments you’ve written.
So sad. You don’t even see your own blindness. Maybe a touch of anosognosia, eh?
Now, as I have a policy…having been a medical practitioner…not to engage with those who seem mentally incompetent, I’m out. This is my last comment to you and I’m muting you.
Don’t bother replying (doesn’t feel nice to be told what to do, huh?) as I am refusing to engage further. Boundaries.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if these videos were taught as classes in our schools?!
I am deeply touched not only by Eckhart's wisdom, but also by the lady who posed the question. I'd like to thank the lady - thank you for being so true to yourself. That alone is touching to me.
How can u not love Tolle's laugh. Brightens my heart!
Adorable ✨
So gentle and genuine 🤍
❤️
"It's just about letting the universe know what you want, and then working toward it while letting go of how it comes to pass.”
-Jim Carrey
Yep
staying focused on the present!
TRUST the Universe. It is far more capable of providing... than we are. Set your intention on worthy goals and leave it to Source
Genuine help for people who tend to do negative self-talk. This book makes you understand what factors are important for your own happiness and what you can get rid of in order to be emotionally strong. I read it over and over so that I can apply what the book teaches to my everyday life. I also got this sense that I’m communicating with the author through the author’s personal experiences. It’s definitely worth a purchase.
search 'kit for emotional stability' on amazon
So true...love this quote
I am thankful for rejection and abandonment experiences now, because the inner peace that's slowly growing somewhere within me is really liberating, and nourishing on a much deeper level. ❤️
That is part of my journey too, nice.
You sum it up beautifully. I'm also coming to embrace this :)
I hope to get there soon, I’m in the midsts of feeling the uncomfortable & painful feelings.. I’m hopeful to know that this can be healed
“Allow the tree to teach you stillness”
Love this!! ❤️
Kind of. When I see a tree, it is intensely alive.
11:33 “The more you live from the deep * I * the less you need that person. That also means the more deeply you can relate to them. Because you can relate to them no longer through your neediness, but through your aliveness. And then the other [my words: might] want to spend more time with you because it feels so lovely to be around someone who doesn’t need you.” 11:33
Eckhart, I left a hate comment on two of your videos not too long ago and I regret it. However, this was the moment when everything started to change within myself. I came back to your videos and I'm glad I did, it started a process that has been great. Throughout this time, about one and a half month, I have watched many of your videos. You have been a mentor when there was none for me, and I am immensely grateful for all of your insightful and beautiful videos. They have been great support... it is clear you are wise but also have a great sense of humor, which I think actually go together, or they should. Even though you probably never read them, I am sorry for my hateful comments. Thank you so much for your teachings.
If they contributed in a sense to make you more conscious they served a good purpose.
Did anyone find it? What did he say?
@@lovejustifiesexistence reality did.
@@lovejustifiesexistence The ego cannot understand, for it is selfish. What came over you was trying to interperet what he's saying through your ego. So you express that through a reaction without really understanding what is really happening. I am glad you have experienced some ego detachmeny recently. We have an ego but we are not it and in moments of resistance or argument, it is just a conflict of ego where there is no understanding, no winner or loser.
@@soma7891
When I last had a house, I had a large chalkboard in my kitchen where I wrote some wisdom to remember. One was, "Learn to want what you already have." It has helped me to let go and appreciate MORE of what is present.
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Woow ..
Eckhart Tolle you have Changed my life. Whenever I’m becoming bothered by my ego or thoughts I listen to your videos. They help me immensely. You are a gift to humanity 💓
Who is the one being bothered by the ego?
@@chrismccaffrey8256 the jins
I'm learning to detach with love💕if i need something, i try to keep myself in my own peace & joy by meditating so neediness isn't there. I see detachment brings closeness too
It's so lovely to be around someone who doesn't need anything. 🙂💚💚💚💚💚
Need attracts more need, and Love attracts more Love; Become what you need and you'll no longer need it... Ironic. CF
Become what u need. How? Lol. I try think myself into it but idk if it works
Zelchi if u need love become love itself. then you’ll attract someone who’s aligned too
Oh ok. How?
@@Zelchinho What are the qualities of love? I bet if you continually create and focus on those qualities within you'll figure it out.
@@Zelchinho That's the problem, you can't think your way into it. As Elkhart teaches, you must observe your mind rather than live in it. Becoming what you need or becoming love happens when you connect with your soul/consciousness, which can be accessed by quieting the mind and observing it, rather than thinking.
When you can get to a place in mind that says... "everything is taken care of" you let go of neediness and like he said things you previously "needed" just start to either show up in your life or you get little nudges to take action towards a certain thing or doors just start opening for you, it is really quite amazing.
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We have a saying in my religion that states exactly this.
When we stop chasing after life out of need, life will come to us.
mashallah
I am a Muslim too. Can you tell me what sourate it is ?
@@kingsakoura6241
It is not in the Quran.
It is a saying of the Prophet.
I'll put it in Arabic for you
هذا الحديث رواه الترمذي (2465) عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: مَنْ كَانَتِ الآخِرَةُ هَمَّهُ جَعَلَ اللَّهُ غِنَاهُ فِي قَلْبِهِ وَجَمَعَ لَهُ شَمْلَهُ، وَأَتَتْهُ الدُّنْيَا وَهِيَ رَاغِمَةٌ، وَمَنْ كَانَتِ الدُّنْيَا هَمَّهُ جَعَلَ اللَّهُ فَقْرَهُ بَيْنَ عَيْنَيْهِ، وَفَرَّقَ عَلَيْهِ شَمْلَهُ، وَلَمْ يَأْتِهِ مِنَ الدُّنْيَا إِلَّا مَا قُدِّرَ لَهُ .
@@kingsakoura6241 it's also told by Rumi the Sufi Saint..
Thank you for this comment. It has come to me at a perfect time.
Its true ..things manifest when you are not longing for it..always had this experience
preeti jaiswal, I know, but the part the sucks is when you want something so badly!
@@thomaskeets3194 ego makes us believe we can't survive without having it..but the truth is nothing is needed to make you feel complete..understanding our egoic pattern is helpful and gives freedom.Assume what you want you have it and trust the universe it will deliver to you,the main thing is the emotion is it of wanting or of gratitude
Even when you want to find a proper person to share your love and life with? Did you have that experience?
@@lordaiesan5050 I had that experience. My dream job, and my beautiful friend turned my wife
Me too. I think it is because if you get it when the ego is too much a part of the desire, the fulfillment strengthens the ego / false self more. In Christianity, they talk of God as the Giver and the thing we desire as the gift. (You can also think of God, in Tolle's terms as the Deep "I") When the ego is too involved, the gift can easily become more important than the Giver and we become attached to "it" more and more for our sense of fulfillment. We forget that the real treasure is already within us. That's how I look at It anyway. But I've often had the experience of getting things like you say, when I am no longer craving them or seeking them intensely. (But it is much easier to say than do.)
I can't remember how Alan W. Watts said it but, "The more you let go of it, the more you have it... But not to try and obtain power over the rest of the universe, because that will only disturb it all the more." I believe the talk is named: How to trust the universe; and this is what Eckhart Tolle is talking about towards the end of the video. Amazing.
I've experienced this irony so many times in my life and I never quite knew how to explain it to people.
It is only when I already had something within myself that I would reach or gain it in the material world but then it was never that giant event of happiness I had formerly imagined when I was still craving it.
More like the quiet peace of things just being in place.
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.- Matthew 6:33. The kingdom of God is within you.
Leah O truth when we want something outside us it is not the Kingdom of God anymore.
This came to mind immediately. N now i think I've found my answer to the question I've been asking my whole life.
Amen
I never understood this until I started following Eckhart Tolle’s teachings
Eckhart’s just such a beautiful, shining gift from God. We’re all so lucky he’s touched our lives. Don’t know where I’d be without his teachings. ❤🙏☮️
This teaching really pulls me back from excessive worry and thinking. I’m so grateful
The lady who asked the question is really wise.
This is so true, after weeks with trying of meditating everyday, yesterday for the first time I reached the state of being absolutely present in my "deep I". Once there, there were no thoughts, it was not possible for the thoughts to enter this state. It's truly amazing and a bit scary because it's unusual for the self. After this I watch another video of Eckhart Tolle and I felt actually blessed for those who made me suffer so I could take the decision to become present.
same happened to me. but now i lost it
How did you do it
That’s beautiful that you are thankful for suffering in that it pushed you into the state of presence in the deep I.
You’ve never lost it! It’s ever-present and always available to you. It’s only when the mind says “I’ve lost it” and is seeking too much that it gets lost in thinking and concepts again, so the presence isn’t lost, only overlooked.
What I’ve realised and forgotten over and over again is just how simple accessing the deep I is. You’re reading this text right now, now notice that you’re aware of the fact you’re aware of reading the text. That’s as simple as it is.
When you find an anchor of presence that works very well for you, bring all of your attention there. But then after that is established become conscious that you are conscious, and that is pure awareness. Very little room for thinking, or feeling like “I’ve lost it” because you realise you ARE it.
All that’s required is the willingness to go there, the conscious choice to be conscious, and to be open to whatever comes into your experience 😊. I wish you wellness and peace ✌️
@@adamdownes4725 thank you so much for this
The only teacher i hve no doubts about . He was born for me 🗽🗽🗽🙋🏻♂️🙋🏻♂️🙋🏻♂️🙋🏻♂️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yes this is so true Eckhart! Neediness causes more neediness…and all we really need is ourselves😊🙏
I came from a mother who suffered from schizophrenia and a father who wasn't able to cope with my mothers illness, so he left. I was shoved from piler to post into different foster homes as a young child, eventually to be placed in a children's home in N. Ireland. My sense of identity and belonging was always a challenge and I've arrived at many deep reailzations through my unique journey. I'm now 40 and have drawn much awareness through my experiences. And to find such Incredible teachings by Eckhart has aided me immensely. I am currently learning to control my pain body from rising through awareness and I am also practicing to become less needy through this exact teaching from Eckhart...I've had allot of rejection in my life and it's been incredibly difficult for my ego to let go of that searching and yearning for the love I never received from my parents and my brother... The yearning has been incredibly strong, but through that, I've learned that it's only possible for people to resonate on the level of consciousness they are on... I am learning to let go of expectations I put onto others and accept the frequencies others are on. It's insane to think friends/ family will love me in exactly they way I desire. It's impossible. I think drawing this awareness through Eckhart's and Kim's teaching has really helped ease my pain and I feel more ease with letting go in my expectations of love and neediness. I am deeply greatful for these wise, clarified teachings. I love you very much Eckhart. Thank you for helping me along in realization. ~X~
Hi, Please know u are not alone. No one gets out of this life without great pain. U have had so much, maybe more than most but it is said great wisdom comes from great pain. You sound very wise to me. I am praying for all people like u and me!!! KFTGF.
If yoda was a man!! You are a wise and adorable man who has learned to use the force and Thankyou for your teachings 🙏💗
Exactly what I was thinking of him
Ooh Man thats soo truuue
I agree with the spiritual aspect of eckharts teachings but it's also important to acknowledge our needs on the emotional dimension. especially when they were suppressed in childhood because of abusive caregivers.
It's beautiful how much care and time he takes with each person, not that many people truly care from their heart. So enlightening!
Infinite thanks, Eckhart! I surprised myself being quite suffocating, demanding towards my friends, needing them to be there for me. Remembering the fleeting nature of everything, also the impermanence of all forms, taking a deep breath, made things, situations easier, diminishing the heavy weight of clinging to another person.
I agree, my ego thinks it really really sucks to need to be around someone and that person not wanting to be around you because you depend on him/her for your happiness.
Whoever gets to hang out with Eckhart is so darn lucky! ☮️✌️☮️
Everyone needs to Listen to this. Especially if your in a relationship
What a beautiful human being Eckhart is! :)
I love how he breaks up the concept of individual awareness ("I"), to help me understand the complex layers with which I can function. For the longest time, that "uneasy" surface part of me has been taking the forefront of my relationships. I lose my sense of identity in other people. I just need to be conscious and remember the deep "I" which has never left me, and embrace stillness. It is in stillness that I am deeply rooted in myself. I sincerely love this.
What a great time to be alive!! I love you all ❤️
So uncredibly helpful Eckhart.. and I believe it without a shadow of a doubt.
Funny to see a title about neediness pop up tonight while I'm feeling very alone and needy indeed. Eckhart always delivers ❤
"well that sucks" - the moment I laughed so hard during this video... I love these teachings ❤️
😂😂😂
Yess me to 😂😊
xD me too
Joy
Instead of laughing realize that some people need just this .
Their understanding is different from those who laugh and that's OK.
Enjoy the laughing because without laughing we suffer.
For whoever has, to him more will be given, and he will have abundance; but whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him.
This was the first Eckhart Tolle video I saw and I understood the 'Deep I' right away and after awhile I started noticing the "glimpses", of still presence, as he said. It's been about one year since I saw this and I'm amazed the change deep within me. I watch or listen to ET nearly every day and now, finally, practise presence every day. This is still my favourite video despite doing the Conscious Manifestation online course which is amazing too!
Love you Eckhart Tolle...
You have changed my life...love & gratitude 🙏💜🙏
When the student is ready the teacher will appear. Great wisdom from a great teacher! ❤️💫🌼
Yes it is a miracle that such invaluable knowledge is available anytime to us without visiting places and people. Thanks Allah. It is a blessing.
I think Eckhart talks with honesty and sincerity.
He is a very genuine and sensitive man who always makes me feel entirely at ease. He also has a child like innocent laugh.
Very unique but entirely authentic...💚
I love the sky and can truly relate to that. It’s so beautiful and magnificent even when it’s cloudy and dark. The spaciousness it’s so powerful.
Thank you Eckhart for your wisdom 🙏
Thank you for existing. I'm always amazed that whenever I get caught up in life and feel it becoming heavier there's always a video of you that help me feel lighter again and not identify with my ego as much.
I absolutely love how genuine you are when you're explaining something. It's almost evident that you speak through your experiences and not a place of "I know things" Thank you for everything. :)
Beautiful smile 🙏🏻
Whatever you're afraid to loose you've already lost. When you want nothing from anyone else, you're safe for anyone to be with. Byron Katie
10:45 meeting at a connective level 4:19 The superficial me 13:01: the irony of the universe
Phoenix Rising
(Lose)
Yes unfortunately I used to care about nothing and had so much but I was ungrateful but now I really want it but can’t have it no more
"Ommm... Ommm... Hommme"
This specific topic has really resonated with me. Thank you Eckhart.
Tolle changing the youtube spiritual game
Hi Eckart :)
I love you and I'm so happy that you exist in my time. I really believe that you are one of the greatest teachers of all time. You are wise and yet, humble. You actually listen to people and answer accordingly and it's like the universe is talking through you to me. As though you always needed to exist for me to access my channel to the universe. Thank you for choosing to teach all you know and not relaxing in a cave somewhere with your eternal internal peace.
Such beauty. Put a smile in a very lost, sad face today. Thank you
Omg I love this. What he says about stillness and spaciousness. Often find myself looking deep into the sky when I crave grounding, it's so neat to see him describe the same thing.
Try it sometime.
Realizing home is peace. At home with myself is really peace within myself. I've been seeking this peace all my life but didn't know that's what I was seeking.
Thanks for the great pointers about not fighting neediness, but transcending it!
She is brave and wise to ask the question. And Eckhart’s answer was illuminating. And she is beautiful to me…I’ve never said that sort of thing in online comments before. Her personality is magnetic to me.
Every time I hear his voice it reminds me of om, home....since being a significant role in my awakening process. Love and gratitude for Eckhart always.
I love the way you laugh Eckhart!!! It touches my heart deeply!!!💓 not sure why😊
I think in this personal growth / entrepreneur scene there is this idea of 'staying hungry'. I guess some people might take that as staying with unease. That feeling always at unease is what they need to propel them forward. But it can be a crappy experience. Always chasing some goals in the future and never getting to fully enjoy what you're doing now. I believe it's possible to be motivated out of inspiration. A huge desire to get to a destination but not because there's a void within you. But because you're inspired by a compelling future. And then you get to enjoy the process. You get to enjoy what you're actually doing now with more ease and flow instead of anxiously chasing an idea of the future.
@Winchestah Hi! It was actually the topic of my first video. But perhaps I think I'll make another one extending the concept soon. :)
I think the point is that, even if the ‘compelling future ‘ does not exist or happen, your deep self can accept that possibility and still be at ease.
@@marisah6947 Yes that's right! It's a challenge not to get your ego and identity invested in anything you're going full pelt at hoping to manifest your desires. But I believe it's possible to have a deeply desired goal, and yet be open to the possibility of it not happening. Perhaps they'll be some disappointment, but it doesn't have to destroy you. The key is acceptance of whatever happens.
I appreciate your insightful comment and articulation of the spiritual unrest I have seen in the entrepreneurial/self-development community, as wonderful as it is! Looked over your channel and subscribed! Your content looks great!
The thing to understand is that people like Tolle have plenty of $$$$$ so their financial futures are taken care of. Put him on the street with no money and no food and you'll probably find that he will plan a way to a better future maybe even write another best seller.
E.T is a alien indeed. Thank you Sir!
Eckhart is really evolving. His humour & his awareness of ' real life' , is making watching these videos very enjoyable.
It's beautiful that we have grown in conciousnes to desire such content and even to understand the teaching
Eckhart, you're so awesome. A divine golden gift for planet earth.
Dear Eckhart, thank you for helping me wake up.
"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."
❤❤🤗🤗🥺🥺wow this healed everything in me!! Thankyou Divinity🤗❤💐💐😊😊🌟🌟❤❤🤗🤗
Eckhart is divine❤🤗
his laugh is the most beautiful thing in the world ❤️
Mr. Tolle, I asked a friend to pray with me today because I felt I really needed wisdom and I felt very anxious. Quite unexpectedly while just surfing youtube for something entertainment/distraction, I happened upon and clicked on one of your videos. And I realized as I was watching that here was the answer to my prayer. Thanks very much.
I love love love the way Ekhart laughs , makes me smile everytime ❤❤❤
Beautiful Eckhart
I am trying to love a girl with Scizophrenia. I searched trough the internet for answers. None of the dating advice I found covered it. So I returned to Eckhart Tolle. I love her but I struggle when she suddenly drops off the face of the Earth every now and then. I have to accept that she has bad days and practice not reacting when she is unreachable. She is probably having a lot of stress and her actions have nothing to do with me. I am happy I have friends to talk with and that I have come this far. If I can love a girl with Schizophrenia, I think I can love anyone and everyone.
By the end of this video I felt better than what I felt when I first clicked. Thank you Eckhart, I will always reread your book.
Thank you I love listening to you
The well that sucks bit was so funny. Such humility and such humour.
Spiritual, poetic, pure, wise, wonderful. Thank you
I think this just saved my life
Seek first the kingdom within!
She has no idea how she asked a question and got an answer to it. What I'm trying to say is she saved my life by asking this question. I was in such a deep hole and after hearing what he said I feel like I'm born again. Years of pain finally understood. Thank you to both.
I think many people confuse presence for passive living .Theres still outward moving as the polarity to inwards being and there is no way to complete dissolve the ego just be aware of it and use it and view life as a play,a game . You can still strive towards things like fame as an experience but not requiring as part that will make you whole or better.
thanks! right on the button - I was thinking of that only today
Thats so right! There is such a thing is positive ego. Some of these new age guroos demonise the ego way too much. At its core it is just our basic survival mechanisms which serve us good in the moment but can become problematic if we hang on to negative things for too long. Emotional intelligence needs to be a bigger part of our education system.
On the flip side anyone claiming to have no ego is an ego within itself.
Tolle talks about making that mistake once. He says that's how he ended up living on a bench in London. He says action is required.
@@yuppers1 but he says that he was in such a complete state of joy while he was on the park benches, he was just being. So where is the mistake?
Yes. "Engaging emotionally" with things. Letting preconditionings decide for our life, instead of pure logic and observance. But is it safe to leave the preconditionings as the inner alarm system, and fully trust the semi-robot logic, and the wagely-known intuition, that is sometimes mistaken for the preconditionings themeselves. Sorry for my confusion.
I love this little guy. Just can't help it..
"Yesterday's home runs don't win today's games." --Babe Ruth ♡*
That’s deep
Could Eckart Tolle be anymore charming and fun, and also pack 15 mins with a magnum of wisdoms to be shared. I am so grateful. Sheer grace. Thank you
LOVE looking at the sky! I think that is also why I loved skydiving 😊 but also why I love being in the mountains... and being away from city lights like in southwest US. Such a meaningful response. Thank you Eckhart💗
I totally and utterly get it...but it it does need a little practise...thanks. x
When I was 10 yrs old and separated from both my extended family and living with a new extended family member in N.C. I would frequently lay out, on the grass, just looking at the sky. Wasn't conscious enough to know that was freedom and peace simultaneously . smh
Ernestine Morrison ❤️
Somehow I dropped tears listening to this..This is beautifulll...
Excellent talk that can be delivered ONLY by a master with direct experience. Eye opening and mind switching, very practical and helpful to those who are open minded enough
listening to this is like meditation
Universe delivers, always, and the timing is beautifully orchestrated.
I used everything I had studied all the meditation martial arts energy healing studying all world religions n their amazing secrets. Mind control.. ancient yoga... so much I studied.. then one day I was gifted your book power of now... it was mind blowing in conjunction with everything I learned.. your amazing.. Thankyou for your intense words.. it was life changing
When you realize all is well things flow easily to you
Its a pleasure and joy to listen to him . Pure joy . Thank you .
Become more comfortable with yourself and spend time by yourself ❤️ love yourself first
I understand the paradox concerning neediness. I see it as letting it go at the conscious presence level (spiritually); my neediness will then be satisfied in a way unknown to me. Ty, Eckhart