I understand the feeling of frustration at the 'stereotypical'-ness of your situation vs Dan's post baby but to me this is the definition of feminism and is so empowering watching you know that something isn't working for you and actively taking the time to think about why and really understanding your own emotions instead of ignoring them in the pursuit of what you think you 'should' be doing. investing in yourself and building a career and a lifestyle that serves you is feminist, and sharing the process with other people is incredibly helpful. it is a lot of work to change an entire career, but showing people that you are worth doing that for is, to me at least, very inspiring. congratulations!
I love how much of a celebration this feels like. I'm sure the years you were wrangling with this were hard - you so deserve to celebrate everything you have accomplished in this period of your career, and celebrate all the future success you are moving towards. Really lean into that tarot card reading ;)
Oh my gosh... when I got to 19:30. I can relate!!! My husband has gotten raises and promotions since we had our kid (she is 2). He's finally in a job he really loves and where he feels respected. Meanwhile, I quit my job because I was barely covering childcare, and feeling stressed. But on the plus side I'm now going to school part-time (switching careers) and feeling better about the future.
I know I'm a stranger, but proud of you for following your heart and switching careers even though I know it can't be easy. All the best for your studies and the future!
The way you swerved from a spreadsheet with detailed scoring system and analysis of personal value to a tarot reading… Loved it! Super relatable :) Definitely the way I make decisions also. Very happy for you!
There’s this idea in programming of “rubber ducking” where you just say what’s happening in the program out loud (to a rubber duck, so that you don’t have to bother another programmer 😂) but just like the peer coaching, it works because you already have the knowledge and answers! But talking it through out loud forces you to be methodical and logical about it, and it exposes any illogical or wrong assumptions that you’ve been making.
I recently decided to quit my phd and everything you say is so relatable! It's a different scenario but the flip-flopping ups and downs, the feeling of relief,... I 100% know what you mean.
@@pandaseal1611 Sure. First, I want to preface by saying that doing a PhD is different from country to country, from university to university and even from lab to lab within a university. You get paid differently, have different responsibilities and a different amount of supervision. I still think doing a PhD can be a great thing and my experiences are not universal! What I found to be the most important part is that you have enthusiasm for the specific topic you will be researching. This sounds stupid, but when you are not really "into" your topic, that makes everything 10 times harder. For me, while I still love the field of research that I am in, my primary focus was on robots and I just don't find them super interesting. The supervision style needs to fit your needs. Also, and again this may be different at different labs, it would have been super helpful for me to have my primary social circle at university. If you hang out at the lab constantly you will come up with silly ideas that turn into amazing projects. Me on the other hand.. I wanted to be home in time for dinner.
Well done for making the decision you feel is right for you and wishing you all the best! My best friend quit her phd last year and its been such a relief and pleasure to watch her glow in her new job, I hope similar things for you!
Love what you’ve said about people changing careers all the time - it’s just that most people don’t have to do it in public! Proud of you for following your heart!!!
Congratulations Hannah! I have a Tarot deck and while I don't "believe" in it, I use it as an excellent self-reflection tool. If the cards I pull have no relevance to me or bring up no reactions or thoughts beyond "eh" then I just ignore it. But if they trigger any thoughts or feelings, even in the negative (e.g. "absolutely not"), then I've learned something about myself and it's worth further thought and reflection. That also includes how I feel emotionally as a gut reaction to what the card/s say/s.
I'd been upset about my career direction even before I finished uni, yet it took me completely unravelling during the pandemic, with heightened anxiety and paralysis, and subsequently being fired, to finally realize I could just... Switch careers if I didn't like the direction the current one was taking me. So I totally understand this simmering, quiet building up of a decision, that you end up only making after a catalyst. (I may be going through it again with the new career I started building during the pandemic, but shh. I'm not ready to think too deeply about it yet.)
I appreciate your openness and honesty in sharing your journey to this significant decision. And congratulations once again! Joining in the celebration of your incredible past and looking forward to your bright future 💛🌻 I've been a viewer since I was 18; now, at 27, it's safe to say your influence has been profound and I learned so much! Thank you for all the fantastic work you've done and for being an amazing online creator.
I had something similar happen to me last year. What helped me figure things out was attention. Attention to my surroundings, how I felt in my day-to-day, how my business was doing, how my health was... If you're in a crisis, it can be hard to know where to start. Writing things down and then putting some order in your thoughts really helps. I also created a Pinterest board of what I wanted 2023 to look like (location, feelings, general *vibes*-wise) and it led me to make a hard, but ultimately freeing decision. Good luck to anyone facing that crossroads, and congratulations again Hannah for taking that leap!
Yes I love that emphasis on attention to how you’re feeling and the vibes Pinterest board - amazing! Congrats on figuring it out for yourself last year too!
I feel like I'm right in the middle of "it took me a while...and then no time at all" with regard to my career shift. A lot of the journaling that you highlighted speaks to a feeling of burnout on my current path, but I'm still struggling to make a jump to another path because I keep thinking "what if I can rekindle my passion for this, maybe that would be a better idea then building a new road." I definitely need a peer coaching session, I think that with enough self-assessment and planning I'll get to some clarity sometime...I hope. Suffice it to say, this video resonates with me and I'm glad you found your clarity.
I really appreciate you outlining how long this decision has been brewing. I'm also on the way to making a big decision that I'm not quite ready for yet so it's helpful to know that others don't make immediate decisions either
Congratulations on your decision! The things that have helped me make the big decision in the past career wise is asking myself some basic questions. Am I still learning new things? Does it feel like I'm just going through the motions? Do I dread the thought of work on my weekend? Am I constantly frustrated? If I'm not learning and dreading everything. It's time to move on.
First of all: congratulations with your decision! I remember you talking about the hamster wheel starting some years ago and seeing you happy + fulfilled now is wonderful and all I as a viewer could hope for you! The peer coaching reminded me of an exercise we did at work today. Person A would describe an issue they were facing at work (in our case related to academic career development). Person B would then turn the issue into a concrete scenario ("what would you do in situation x"). Then Person A would give advice on how to go about that scenario - basically giving yourself advice!
I think the cool thing about Hannah's channels is the variety. I personally love the 24 hrs w/ the baby series and the videos about motherhood and pregnancy. Whilst another person may love the videos about books or sex Ed.
Proud of you hannah! I found you when I knew nothing about sex and relationships, and a few years ago I kinda stopped watching your sex ed content because I just didn't feel as into the topic. I've always continued watching your more hannah content, it makes a lot of sense why you are doing this and you should be proud of your decision!
I'm a queer person living in russia, and the big decision I'm trying to make is to leave the country (for obvious reasons) the situation here is getting worse amd worse, last couple of years especially a week ago a law has been passed that pronounced lgbt an "extremist organisation". ffs... i really want to move, but I'm not in the best financial situation and my mental health holds me back a lot. I've never even travelled alone and such a big move scares me so much i hope that one day i will find courage to do this. thank you for your inspirating video ❤
Мой родители уехали в девяностые, без Английского, и без таких преимуществ как интернет. Поверь мне, они ни когда не жалели. Да нам было тяжело, и мы жили долго очень не богато. Я пошла в школу не зная языка. Тебе будет лучше там где ты можешь быть собой, а в рашке это быстро не случится! Удачи! Желаю тебе смелости, и хорошего здоровья
Awww god you sound so relieved and happy. I'm simmering too at the minute. I really dread going back to work. I'm currently on maternity leave. I just have lost all passion for public administration and really enjoy being in the baby world. I don't know i often feel like thats not allowed as that is the feminist thing to do.
The most feminist thing you can do is exactly whatever makes you happy and what you want to do. It’s all about choice and if you want to stay in the ‘baby world’ then you can do exactly that. Congratulations on your baby and enjoying it so much!
First of all: thank you for sharing and congratulations on this life move! For what it’s worth, I’ve been following you for a long time and I follow you for everything other than the sex ed content. I would still watch it and consume it but more out of curiosity and to learn some more from someone whose work I trust and can relate to. I feel like we kinda grew together and from all the content creators I follow you are the one I would see myself being friends with (I am aware this might sound very weird and out of boundaries because you have no idea who I am). So I can’t help but feel very happy for you, I’m sure anything that comes will be awesome and you’ll keep following what fulfills you and that in itself is actually a bit inspiring for someone who is on this side of the screen. Once again thank you for sharing! You go girl!!!
Sooo exhiting. I think I'm actually at the stage of being in the middle of both paths and I think is because the new path was not as clear, but I'm getting there ✨
you know i have had similar experiences after having had kids. realizing im not happy with my job, and how i work. but its not because the kids make me weak or demand my time, its because having a kid and becoming a mom puts things into perspective. so dont feel bad for it. it made you braver and more honest. quitting your job and jumping into the unknown is bloody couragious.
Firstly, I am so glad for you, Hannah. 💚 Your videos have meant a lot to me over the years, & taught me so much. I am also glad for the things you have said in them that others would shy away from, that needed be said & put out in the world today. Similar to you, I made very big, frightening, but exciting changes in my life this year. I learned to drive, proposed to my partner, married them two months later, quit my job, & moved to the complete opposite side of the United States, to California. I am also not very spiritual as of late or knowledgeable about tarot, but my best friend told me one of my birth tarots is The World. It felt fitting then & it still does now.
I make big decisions in a very similar way to you. Sometimes I overthink the shit out of it and am still worried whether or not I made the right call. But often I also feel that 'switch' that you're referring to and 100p agree. Once that switch has flipped, there is no going back.
I really appreciate you sharing all the aspects of making this decision. I had a similar career fork in 2020 and did a set of sessions with a coach to work through it; one of the most valuable things she recommended I do was to write break-up/goodbye letters to the old projects I was stopping.. it was the closure I really needed to let them go. Best of luck for your next move x
Two things. The first is a Hemingway quote: “How Did You Go Bankrupt?” “Two Ways. Gradually and Then Suddenly.” *Which quote comes off as rude, now I realize. 😂 I usually use it to show how change happens at first slowly then suddenly. The second: It was very heartwarming to watch you in this video. I felt that you are more alive and beaming - in some ways you are the ‘old Hannah’. That’s the energy that made me love your videos. Congrats on the decision and also, I hope I will have the chance to catch more of the beaming in future videos. 😊
I find it hard to quit things. And I think what you said in the Hannah Witton side video rang true. That the scaling down isn't shared as much and also it's ok to do something else and change things if it's not working for you. It was freeing and gave permission in ways and I'm always so grateful to hear your voice. Your advice and sex positivity was a movement, a good one.
A silent viewer for years, but I just wanted to say that I am starting on my TH-cam journey and would be ABSOLUTELY HONORED to learn from you the ropes of the game!!! I will be following along for any work you may do with baby fetus creators like myself
Hi Hannah! I learned about your channel a while back from one of your collab videos with Tome Scott. It might be a bit of overstatement to say I am a fan but I do like a lot of your contents. One thing I really like about the Japanese entertainment industry is that they call a career change from a certain role being "graduating" from that role (e.g. graduating from an idol group, or from being a vtuber). That way of thinking about career changes has been really great for me as it conveys that you are not abandoning or quitting what you were doing, and your experience in that role would stay with you in the future stages of your career.
Oof, this is a painful one for me, especially Abigail's "how would you feel if you couldn't do X any more" question. I'm a writer and I think I would feel relieved too, but I'd also be really sad and worried because I don't feel that I can do anything else. I'm a chronically ill/disabled and probably neurodivergent mum and writing is really all I have. I think I'd be so much happier to not work and just raise my kid, but I don't have that option financially. Also I feel like I might get bored or feel unfulfilled as there are some parts of writing that are important and interesting to me. And totally get what you're saying about worrying about the feminist angle, too!
This was fantastic! I loved hearing about your process. Your experience has me thinking about how I can apply this to my own life! Thanks for being so open! ❤
I really like that this video makes it clear that this big decision was a long time in the making. We often feel like things happen all at once, but that's not always the case.
This is so helpful! I'm considering leaving social work after burnout, underpay, and frustration with the system. I'm hoping to use some of these tools shared to explore what is next for me :)
I love the way you used so many different methods to make this decision, from spreadsheets and group exercises to journalling and tarot cards! It’s amazing how accurate the cards were! I’m feeling like I need to make a change but I don’t know what… maybe I’ll get a tarot card reading?
Such a great video! I have made several big decisions in my adulthood (moving cross-country twice, several company/job changes, buying a house) and I spent A LOT of time going "plan A, plan B, plan C, plan D...." My main guiding question tends to be "Do I want that more than what I'm currently doing?" Much like your "old way, new way" example. If the plans match the gut, then I know what to do. If something is misaligned and I'm not miserable, I let it simmer for a little while longer. Also, something to keep in mind that you spelled out explicitly in your main channel vid and that I think, societally, we struggle with is "it's okay to change your mind". All of this to say is thank you for putting this out there! I'm excited for this next step for you.
For big life changing decisions, I tend to make the decision, cry, change my mind, ruminate over it a year, and then go through with the decision. Downsizing? I put a contract on a condo, cried every day for a week, rescinded the contract, one year later, put the contract on again and followed through. Retirement? Announced retirement, cried every day, rescinded retirement, and it hasn't been quite a year yet, so I guess we'll see what I do. LOL
The way you describe your decision making process is so familiar to me!!!! I think that's why I really like this video and just listening to your process in general. It feels like listening to someone who understands me 💛
I started following you because of your content surrounding how you deal with and relate to a chronic health condition as you proceed through life. I hope we will occasionally see videos on this as time and situations develop. Congratulations on taking the time to feel comfortable with this life changing decision 🎉.
Congratulations on the career change! Super interesting to hear how you made the call. Looking forward to seeing what happens next - would love to hear more about organisational/project management stuff!
Long time viewer, first time commenter. I am currently in the ‘Stuck’ phase of knowing I need a change but not being sure what, and it’s hard to describe what this video means to me. I feel calm, and I feel understood. Knowing this decision took you years makes me feel much better about how quickly I feel I should be ‘fixing’ this. I also understand what you mean about worrying about general social trends about gender. I’m not a mother, but I am a Woman in Tech and I have been told so many times that there are not enough senior women in tech and that a huge percentage of women leave tech after 10 years. I dislike that I feel personally responsible for changing that statistic, at cost to my happiness. I’ve started a journal based on the format you shared, fingers crossed it helps me find the change I want to make. Thank you Hannah.
Huge THANK YOU Hannah for this very insightful video! Congrats on your decision as well 😊 I'm currently on my way to career-change. I've been working in a typical office job which became very frustrating and unrewarding. I really wanted to figure out what to do next, but had now idea where to start. Now I know how to handle the process 😁 Thank you again and wish you all the best!
I made a very big decision this year as well, which had been simmering for a while too. Saying goodbye to something made me go through phases of grief almost. It was so interesting to observe. Did you feel the same way? Like now that I’m starting to break the news to some people and they’re like “oh no, really?!” I’m already done processing it and I feel at ease with the decision.
I've also met up with a career coach, and from that it has always been clear that I should pursue a PhD. However, bc the market is so competitive for that, I never manage to get past an interview and out of desperation I ended up working in IT. Now I'm in IT and love the freedom but I lack the passion and the engagement with peers and interesting discussions never take place. Now I'm just in a spot where I think most of us have BS jobs and just have to suck it up 😭. It's so depressing and I hope this is just a rut and that I can get a better attitude/perspective soon, or a job that inspires me 🤞🏼 Anw good job on figuring it out and sharing your procese with us. The confusion is never fun.
Thank you for sharing! I'm excited for you for this change. I've been a subscriber of yours for, idk, a decade? Following on and off, but also feeling a sense of connection with both of us growing up and figuring out life, diving into our niches, and then backing off when it's not quite right. Even this video was helpful for me as I am starting more seriously to listen to the bubbling of needing a shift in order to continue to be passionate. I journaled after watching this video!
thank you so much for sharing this! absolutely loved hearing more of the details and love to hear and see how completed you're feeling! you're kind of giving off the energy of a full-bodied sigh of relief, and i'm so glad you're getting to experience that. also side note but thank you for sharing the parallel lines of "old and new" imagery that you learned! my jaw actually dropped in realising how i also relate to it in a trauma recovery and neuroplasticity way
I have an idea for your last video outro..... stand by the lightswitch, turn off the overhead light, walk out the door and fade to a dimmed shot of your desk and chair with dimming to 40% suggesting that it is over and your are gone but with the fade at 40% that you might be around still.
I get super overwhelmed by big things that are sprung on me and simmer my own ideas , and then I "over think" / ruminate stuff for ages and then pick apart the details until I have a clear idea about it
I should do that systeem with the numbers for all the social media accounts I have… I struggle so much with visibility on socials in my career but I also love shiny new things (a YT channel here, a podcast there) including their own socials etcetera. It’s making me guilty when I don’t post on one of the channels and then I get stressed. I need to do an actual cleanse/elimination and I think that could really help!
I've worked a lot of different jobs over the years, moved a lot, and owned 2 homes at different times, so I've made decisions others would probably consider "big decisions," but for me they felt natural and easy. I really cannot think of any decisions in my life that were difficult to decide, so I don't think I have any advice for you in this regard. It's just me, and I'm easy to please, so I've just drifted my whole life. The only downside is I've never earned much money, so these days I have a lot of debt from going to college and from serious health issues racking up bills (yes, I live in the US) that I feel like I'll never pay off. Aside from finances, though, my life is pretty stress-free and simple. I'm 53 and just looking forward to the day I retire and don't have to worry about working any longer (if I can ever afford to retire), if my health problems don't kill me off first. lol. I guess I just don't take life all that seriously, and that works for me. I enjoyed this video! I am glad you figured out your path and are working towards those goals now. Having a destination in mind makes it much easier to arrive there. :)
As someone who's currently simmering about a career change, this has been super useful. Thank-you so much for sharing the stages of this journey! (And yes the timeline is super helpful!!)
That overthinking bit/still being a feminist even though gender norm trajectory is what feels right point was spot on. I haven't seen anyone else express that in a way that I think/feel about it until now! Thank you for all you have and will do for the sex education community. It is okay go choose yourself and what feels less stress inducing. You are allowed to choose the path that is filled with relief and joy and less hard.
The stress about gender norms and becoming a "statistic", aka a mom that starts to "lean out" of her career... is painful. I hate that becoming a mom has meant I care less about my job, but keeping a little person alive/breastfeeding/sleep deprivation has humbled me. I wish I could divide myself into two people, one could go back to work full-time and one could stay home with my 4 month old son full-time. And I have a very supportive partner, so I can't imagine the struggle with a less involved partner (it's just hard for things to be equal in the beginning in heterosexual relationships because of the physical toll and hormonal experience of the birthing/nursing partner).
I make decisions the same way (i guess many people do) and a dear friend always says: decisionmaking is like growing an apple: it takes a long time, it just takes the time it takes. If the apple's ready -plop! No turning back.
This is such an interesting video! I will be revisiting it when I have my next career crisis (I predict the 2nd half of next year or early in 2025 😂). I was definitely disappointed when I read the news, but then I realized that your ideas and content style won't be going away. It will just be someone else in the video. I can't wait to see what you do next! (And hopefully can take a bit of a break first.)
Congratulations Hannah! I really related to that part about having two parallel alternatives and the confusion and turmoil that comes with being back and forth or in the middle - I was in a long distance relationship for years experiencing similar and though it was scary to commit to the big life change of us moving in together for the first time (which meant us getting married!) I am so much happier and calmer now and I think a big part of that is being relieved now to be on just one track! I found Sheila Heti’s motherhood really useful for making that decision - although that’s about her choice whether or not to have a child I think her musing is helpful for lots of kinds of decisions. For example it really struck me when she wrote something about how not making a decision is a decision in itself (so doing nothing carries the same weight as doing something and isn’t the safe choice), and also that if you find yourself really torn between choices it probably doesn’t really matter which way you end up going (both routes have equal amounts of happiness as the other)- the things in our life that are really essential to our happiness we know for sure.
Congratulations Hannah! Thank you for all your amazing work and fabulous videos over the years. I hope you enjoy your new career change 💗 Love from Queensland Australia
Thank you for everything you have done. I have been following you since 2014/15 (its been a long time). Watching your journey nevigating your health, especially as someone with IBD, you showed me what recovery looks like after major hospitalizations. Watching you become a parent as well has given me so much hope for my own future and has made me more confident in knowing what I want in life. Thank you for the sex education that I never knew I needed. ❤ Just thank you!
I definitely relate to the two lines and then being in limbo and having thought about things for a long time, but when I know everything happens at once. Three months ago I broke up with my girlfriend and got her it was sudden, but for me I had know for ages and not let myself know. And I also got together with my current partner in the same week. I would not advise my self to do that, but it's the best thing I've done for a long time and I'm so happy I didn't hold myself back from it.
I started typing a comment and deleted it because I realized I need to give myself credit. I have successfully stopped a lot of things in my life, and I am better for it. The thought patterns that have helped me were: - Everything ends. If I don't know how long I want to do this, what if ending it could be in my control? - If you take a break (of any length) and feel a weight lifted, pay attention to that feeling. - It's not always about solving things in one go; sometimes, the only step you can take is simply making things a little better. - Sometimes, you've given a lot but still know in your gut that you're not having a good time. So happy for you to have made a decision that feels right. You didn't do this lightly, and I know that your intentional nature will help you do well in the future. To the next phase!
Congratulations for coming to this decision Hannah. I have never commented in one of your videos but have watched for a long time and your content has been incredibly helpful to me. I am very happy you made a decision for yourself. I have recently changed career too and I relate to what you have said in terms of happening very slowly and then very quickly, the years of unknown are so much more difficult than the decision itself. What helped me personally was my therapist pointing out the very overused quote “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results”, realising I was showing up to my work expecting to fall in love with it if changed a couple of things but that never happened. Went back to uni this September and it is amazing to feel in the right place. Best of luck to you.
I am so torn by the zoom jump cuts. I find them distracting, I notice them every. single. time. BUT.... Somehow I don't hate them as much as I thought I did at first, and wonder if I should try adding some to my edits as well. Maybe just not as many. Anyway, love your stuff, been watching the other channel for MANY years. Good on you for following your heart and doing what you want. ❤
I appreciate your openness and honesty in sharing your journey to your significant decision and congratulations once again! Looking forward to a bright future ❤️❄️🎅🏻💚🎄🎄🎅🏻🎅🏻❄️❤️❤️🎅🏻🎄🎄💚❤️❤️❤️❤️🎅🏻💚🎄💚❄️❤️❤️❤️❤️❄️🎅🏻💚💚💚🎅🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❄️🎅🏻💚🎄💚🎅🏻❤️❤️❤️❄️🎅🏻🎅🏻💚💚❄️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❄️🎅🏻💚🎄🎄🎄🎄💚❄️❤️❤️❤️❄️🎅🏻🎅🏻
Firstly I want to say congratulations! It does seem from your demeanour in this vid that it is absolutely the right time to make this change. Do you regret getting the work done on the rebrand? I feel sad knowing how much time you spent on it
I know you don't want to become a "mum vlogger" but I'd absolutely love if you spoke about stuff like weaning, toddler stuff etc!! I have an almost one year old and I love your baby related content (even without seeing Rowan). I only really watch this channel anyway so I'm so glad you're keeping it! xx
Are all the different TH-cam channels you made going away/chapters closing or just this one/certain ones? Sorry friends, I'm a bit lost 😅 Either way, I'm in full support of what makes YOU happy & healthy Hannah
I’m interested to know what your future looks like being a PM, how you’ll find those projects, how financially sustainable it is vs TH-cam, if you’ll still be doing sporadic videos on more Hannah, and if yes, then will it be just you without editors and producers? I super super super understand and support your decision, I’m just trying to visualize the day to day of it all. I worked in the film industry for some time and I loved it deeply, but I had to let go of it because I loved my own mental health and free time more. Then I was a freelancer for a long time during my 20’s and now I’m in my 30s and wondering about a more stable corporate route. We grow, we change, it’s natural to want different things and I’m glad you decided this for yourself.
This video is so timely for me! I am about to go on my second mat leave, and was made redundant a month ago and I’ve decided to take a year off to parent and also to think about what I want to do next. Sorry if I missed this, are you able share the name of the career coach you worked with? 😬
Please impart knowledge on me, Hannah, my life has been a vicious cycle of stress and shame, and I feel I’m getting to the end of the rope. I feel on the edge of a meltdown if I so much as catch my sleeve on a door handle. I feel like my job would be logistically the easiest thing to change, but this comes with shame and it would be an adjustment financially, but maybe it’s what needs to happen.
I will say on the feminism aspect - I do think there's an innate desire to step back for most women. The first 5 years of motherhood are so biologically driven, up until fairly recently, all children under 5 were considered babies. I don't think it's unfeminist to recognise that a lot of us do feel that natural pull away from a busy full time career. I think instead, the feminist response may be building a society that actually supports that.
While this reeks of choice feminism for me, pragmatically yes, it probably is a good point that it couldn't hurt to make women less dependent on the income / benevolence of one man often for the rest of their lives (rippling effects of lost income up to pension). Even though in an ideal world the sole responsibility for a child should not just be on the mother imo
I am very much in a similar place you were in early July. I was wondering if you could share the charts/format you used to do your ranking? I understand if not if it was proprietary to your career coach! I'm just having such a hard time figuring out what I want to do. Or do I want to do anything? Is this just burn out that will pass? The part where Abigail answered the question about acting and you responded that you would feel relieved RE: TH-cam, really resonated with me. I think, while I like what I do conceptually, if I didn't have to do it, I'd feel relieved big time.
I also get super frustrated when I fall into a stereotypical role. I feel like I’m just a number, it’s not a nice feeling. I’m chronically ill and it’s taken me many years to get to a point now where I can vaguely function in society. Which, kinda just looks on paper like “took a few years to find the right treatment, now recovering”. idk. I guess it just feels dismissive of my struggles and my experiences through those years. And the uncertainty. Hindsight makes my life path look so much smaller and more predictable, but when you’re in it you never know what’s ahead and it’s difficult to have to convince yourself ever day that this state you have been in for *literally years if not your whole life* is temporary. There’s a lot of basic achievements that I’ve aimed for every day for my entire life that I’ve only managed to reach in the last few months. Suddenly they seem so much smaller and less important and it seems as if I just did nothing for all those years. It’s a very confusing feeling to have. Every accomplishment feels great but simultaneously feels almost like it’s dramatically overshadowing the past version of myself inside me.
Exciting new things ahead by the sounds of it😍 And honestly I get what you mean about your situation VS Dan’s but I think I dropped off watching you specifically because of the baby content, not because you had a baby
It wasn’t really a case of telling Dan because it’s something I’ve talked about and processed out loud with him for years so it wasn’t like I had to break the news to him. He was involved in a lot of the conversations I had trying to figure it all out. But with my team, that was definitely more of a breaking the news thing which I did with them individually in early September.
I always go back to Tarot when making decisions or questioning something... I find it helps give some clarity... Best thing to remember with Tarot is that you are the master of your own destiny and if you don't like it agree with what the cards predict then you have the ability to change the outcome 💚
I am not spiritual, but I did study tarot for sneezes and giggles for a few months and holy cow, the 10 of swords. For those of you who aren’t deranged and looking up spirituality for inspiration, the 10 of Swords is about something being over. It typically depicts a dead guy with 10 swords in his back. Some tellers also pay attention to “right side up” or “upside down” where the upside down version is worse… so normal Swords X is “give up”, upside down Swords X is “You will be forced to quit kicking and screaming.” As it depicts the agony of a guy sliding down 10 swords. If you follow tarot, she’s DONE!
Have you made a 'forecast' what that means for your finances? Like of course not having to spend money on one end but also a lower income from the other end? I think it would be interesting to compare your forecast to what it actually will be like after a year 😊
I understand the feeling of frustration at the 'stereotypical'-ness of your situation vs Dan's post baby but to me this is the definition of feminism and is so empowering watching you know that something isn't working for you and actively taking the time to think about why and really understanding your own emotions instead of ignoring them in the pursuit of what you think you 'should' be doing. investing in yourself and building a career and a lifestyle that serves you is feminist, and sharing the process with other people is incredibly helpful. it is a lot of work to change an entire career, but showing people that you are worth doing that for is, to me at least, very inspiring. congratulations!
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I love how much of a celebration this feels like. I'm sure the years you were wrangling with this were hard - you so deserve to celebrate everything you have accomplished in this period of your career, and celebrate all the future success you are moving towards. Really lean into that tarot card reading ;)
Haha thank you!!
Oh my gosh... when I got to 19:30. I can relate!!! My husband has gotten raises and promotions since we had our kid (she is 2). He's finally in a job he really loves and where he feels respected. Meanwhile, I quit my job because I was barely covering childcare, and feeling stressed. But on the plus side I'm now going to school part-time (switching careers) and feeling better about the future.
such a common experience!!
I know I'm a stranger, but proud of you for following your heart and switching careers even though I know it can't be easy. All the best for your studies and the future!
The way you swerved from a spreadsheet with detailed scoring system and analysis of personal value to a tarot reading… Loved it! Super relatable :) Definitely the way I make decisions also. Very happy for you!
when you're in an extreme state of confusion you'll try anything tbh!!
There’s this idea in programming of “rubber ducking” where you just say what’s happening in the program out loud (to a rubber duck, so that you don’t have to bother another programmer 😂) but just like the peer coaching, it works because you already have the knowledge and answers! But talking it through out loud forces you to be methodical and logical about it, and it exposes any illogical or wrong assumptions that you’ve been making.
I recently decided to quit my phd and everything you say is so relatable! It's a different scenario but the flip-flopping ups and downs, the feeling of relief,... I 100% know what you mean.
Hi I am considering doing a PhD would you be willing to share your experience at all?
@@pandaseal1611 Sure. First, I want to preface by saying that doing a PhD is different from country to country, from university to university and even from lab to lab within a university. You get paid differently, have different responsibilities and a different amount of supervision. I still think doing a PhD can be a great thing and my experiences are not universal!
What I found to be the most important part is that you have enthusiasm for the specific topic you will be researching. This sounds stupid, but when you are not really "into" your topic, that makes everything 10 times harder. For me, while I still love the field of research that I am in, my primary focus was on robots and I just don't find them super interesting.
The supervision style needs to fit your needs. Also, and again this may be different at different labs, it would have been super helpful for me to have my primary social circle at university. If you hang out at the lab constantly you will come up with silly ideas that turn into amazing projects. Me on the other hand.. I wanted to be home in time for dinner.
Well done for making the decision you feel is right for you and wishing you all the best! My best friend quit her phd last year and its been such a relief and pleasure to watch her glow in her new job, I hope similar things for you!
@@svenja1989 thank you so much for replying 😊
Love what you’ve said about people changing careers all the time - it’s just that most people don’t have to do it in public! Proud of you for following your heart!!!
Congratulations Hannah!
I have a Tarot deck and while I don't "believe" in it, I use it as an excellent self-reflection tool. If the cards I pull have no relevance to me or bring up no reactions or thoughts beyond "eh" then I just ignore it. But if they trigger any thoughts or feelings, even in the negative (e.g. "absolutely not"), then I've learned something about myself and it's worth further thought and reflection. That also includes how I feel emotionally as a gut reaction to what the card/s say/s.
I'd been upset about my career direction even before I finished uni, yet it took me completely unravelling during the pandemic, with heightened anxiety and paralysis, and subsequently being fired, to finally realize I could just... Switch careers if I didn't like the direction the current one was taking me. So I totally understand this simmering, quiet building up of a decision, that you end up only making after a catalyst.
(I may be going through it again with the new career I started building during the pandemic, but shh. I'm not ready to think too deeply about it yet.)
I appreciate your openness and honesty in sharing your journey to this significant decision. And congratulations once again! Joining in the celebration of your incredible past and looking forward to your bright future 💛🌻
I've been a viewer since I was 18; now, at 27, it's safe to say your influence has been profound and I learned so much! Thank you for all the fantastic work you've done and for being an amazing online creator.
Thank you so much!
I had something similar happen to me last year. What helped me figure things out was attention. Attention to my surroundings, how I felt in my day-to-day, how my business was doing, how my health was... If you're in a crisis, it can be hard to know where to start. Writing things down and then putting some order in your thoughts really helps. I also created a Pinterest board of what I wanted 2023 to look like (location, feelings, general *vibes*-wise) and it led me to make a hard, but ultimately freeing decision. Good luck to anyone facing that crossroads, and congratulations again Hannah for taking that leap!
Yes I love that emphasis on attention to how you’re feeling and the vibes Pinterest board - amazing! Congrats on figuring it out for yourself last year too!
I feel like I'm right in the middle of "it took me a while...and then no time at all" with regard to my career shift. A lot of the journaling that you highlighted speaks to a feeling of burnout on my current path, but I'm still struggling to make a jump to another path because I keep thinking "what if I can rekindle my passion for this, maybe that would be a better idea then building a new road." I definitely need a peer coaching session, I think that with enough self-assessment and planning I'll get to some clarity sometime...I hope.
Suffice it to say, this video resonates with me and I'm glad you found your clarity.
I really appreciate you outlining how long this decision has been brewing. I'm also on the way to making a big decision that I'm not quite ready for yet so it's helpful to know that others don't make immediate decisions either
It's so fun getting a Hanukkah vlogs, i only ever see Christmas vlogs
Congratulations on your decision! The things that have helped me make the big decision in the past career wise is asking myself some basic questions. Am I still learning new things? Does it feel like I'm just going through the motions? Do I dread the thought of work on my weekend? Am I constantly frustrated? If I'm not learning and dreading everything. It's time to move on.
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First of all: congratulations with your decision! I remember you talking about the hamster wheel starting some years ago and seeing you happy + fulfilled now is wonderful and all I as a viewer could hope for you! The peer coaching reminded me of an exercise we did at work today. Person A would describe an issue they were facing at work (in our case related to academic career development). Person B would then turn the issue into a concrete scenario ("what would you do in situation x"). Then Person A would give advice on how to go about that scenario - basically giving yourself advice!
yes very similar!! a lot of working through hypotheticals
me and taha "answer in progress" khan unlocking your realisation via the medium of 20 minutes of questions feels very fitting
also that tarot reading is WILD omg!!
Right?!?!!
I found you through this channel first and love your "non-toxic productivity self help" content
I think the cool thing about Hannah's channels is the variety. I personally love the 24 hrs w/ the baby series and the videos about motherhood and pregnancy. Whilst another person may love the videos about books or sex Ed.
Proud of you hannah! I found you when I knew nothing about sex and relationships, and a few years ago I kinda stopped watching your sex ed content because I just didn't feel as into the topic. I've always continued watching your more hannah content, it makes a lot of sense why you are doing this and you should be proud of your decision!
I'm a queer person living in russia, and the big decision I'm trying to make is to leave the country (for obvious reasons)
the situation here is getting worse amd worse, last couple of years especially
a week ago a law has been passed that pronounced lgbt an "extremist organisation". ffs...
i really want to move, but I'm not in the best financial situation and my mental health holds me back a lot. I've never even travelled alone and such a big move scares me so much
i hope that one day i will find courage to do this. thank you for your inspirating video ❤
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rooting for you, whatever you decide to do ❤
@@magnoliaskogen thank you
Мой родители уехали в девяностые, без Английского, и без таких преимуществ как интернет. Поверь мне, они ни когда не жалели. Да нам было тяжело, и мы жили долго очень не богато. Я пошла в школу не зная языка. Тебе будет лучше там где ты можешь быть собой, а в рашке это быстро не случится! Удачи! Желаю тебе смелости, и хорошего здоровья
Awww god you sound so relieved and happy. I'm simmering too at the minute. I really dread going back to work. I'm currently on maternity leave. I just have lost all passion for public administration and really enjoy being in the baby world.
I don't know i often feel like thats not allowed as that is the feminist thing to do.
The most feminist thing you can do is exactly whatever makes you happy and what you want to do. It’s all about choice and if you want to stay in the ‘baby world’ then you can do exactly that. Congratulations on your baby and enjoying it so much!
First of all: thank you for sharing and congratulations on this life move! For what it’s worth, I’ve been following you for a long time and I follow you for everything other than the sex ed content. I would still watch it and consume it but more out of curiosity and to learn some more from someone whose work I trust and can relate to. I feel like we kinda grew together and from all the content creators I follow you are the one I would see myself being friends with (I am aware this might sound very weird and out of boundaries because you have no idea who I am). So I can’t help but feel very happy for you, I’m sure anything that comes will be awesome and you’ll keep following what fulfills you and that in itself is actually a bit inspiring for someone who is on this side of the screen. Once again thank you for sharing! You go girl!!!
What. A. Video. 👏🏻 Sharing with my partner because I feel like he is at a similar crossroads with his career that past Hannah was in.
Sooo exhiting. I think I'm actually at the stage of being in the middle of both paths and I think is because the new path was not as clear, but I'm getting there ✨
you know i have had similar experiences after having had kids. realizing im not happy with my job, and how i work. but its not because the kids make me weak or demand my time, its because having a kid and becoming a mom puts things into perspective. so dont feel bad for it.
it made you braver and more honest. quitting your job and jumping into the unknown is bloody couragious.
Firstly, I am so glad for you, Hannah. 💚 Your videos have meant a lot to me over the years, & taught me so much. I am also glad for the things you have said in them that others would shy away from, that needed be said & put out in the world today. Similar to you, I made very big, frightening, but exciting changes in my life this year. I learned to drive, proposed to my partner, married them two months later, quit my job, & moved to the complete opposite side of the United States, to California. I am also not very spiritual as of late or knowledgeable about tarot, but my best friend told me one of my birth tarots is The World. It felt fitting then & it still does now.
Thanks for sharing Hannah! I think this has helped me figure out the next step for what I want to do creatively :)
Ooh exciting!!
I make big decisions in a very similar way to you. Sometimes I overthink the shit out of it and am still worried whether or not I made the right call. But often I also feel that 'switch' that you're referring to and 100p agree. Once that switch has flipped, there is no going back.
I really appreciate you sharing all the aspects of making this decision. I had a similar career fork in 2020 and did a set of sessions with a coach to work through it; one of the most valuable things she recommended I do was to write break-up/goodbye letters to the old projects I was stopping.. it was the closure I really needed to let them go. Best of luck for your next move x
Two things. The first is a Hemingway quote:
“How Did You Go Bankrupt?” “Two Ways. Gradually and Then Suddenly.” *Which quote comes off as rude, now I realize. 😂 I usually use it to show how change happens at first slowly then suddenly.
The second: It was very heartwarming to watch you in this video. I felt that you are more alive and beaming - in some ways you are the ‘old Hannah’. That’s the energy that made me love your videos. Congrats on the decision and also, I hope I will have the chance to catch more of the beaming in future videos. 😊
I find it hard to quit things. And I think what you said in the Hannah Witton side video rang true. That the scaling down isn't shared as much and also it's ok to do something else and change things if it's not working for you. It was freeing and gave permission in ways and I'm always so grateful to hear your voice. Your advice and sex positivity was a movement, a good one.
Happy Hanukkah and I am VERY proud of you
A silent viewer for years, but I just wanted to say that I am starting on my TH-cam journey and would be ABSOLUTELY HONORED to learn from you the ropes of the game!!! I will be following along for any work you may do with baby fetus creators like myself
Hi Hannah! I learned about your channel a while back from one of your collab videos with Tome Scott. It might be a bit of overstatement to say I am a fan but I do like a lot of your contents. One thing I really like about the Japanese entertainment industry is that they call a career change from a certain role being "graduating" from that role (e.g. graduating from an idol group, or from being a vtuber). That way of thinking about career changes has been really great for me as it conveys that you are not abandoning or quitting what you were doing, and your experience in that role would stay with you in the future stages of your career.
Oof, this is a painful one for me, especially Abigail's "how would you feel if you couldn't do X any more" question. I'm a writer and I think I would feel relieved too, but I'd also be really sad and worried because I don't feel that I can do anything else. I'm a chronically ill/disabled and probably neurodivergent mum and writing is really all I have. I think I'd be so much happier to not work and just raise my kid, but I don't have that option financially. Also I feel like I might get bored or feel unfulfilled as there are some parts of writing that are important and interesting to me. And totally get what you're saying about worrying about the feminist angle, too!
This was fantastic! I loved hearing about your process. Your experience has me thinking about how I can apply this to my own life! Thanks for being so open! ❤
Such valuable insight into how to make big life decisions!
I really like that this video makes it clear that this big decision was a long time in the making. We often feel like things happen all at once, but that's not always the case.
This was VERY interesting! Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for exploring the "how" in a video. Internalizing! Especially because I want to end up in the same place.
This is so helpful! I'm considering leaving social work after burnout, underpay, and frustration with the system. I'm hoping to use some of these tools shared to explore what is next for me :)
I love the way you used so many different methods to make this decision, from spreadsheets and group exercises to journalling and tarot cards! It’s amazing how accurate the cards were! I’m feeling like I need to make a change but I don’t know what… maybe I’ll get a tarot card reading?
Such a great video! I have made several big decisions in my adulthood (moving cross-country twice, several company/job changes, buying a house) and I spent A LOT of time going "plan A, plan B, plan C, plan D...."
My main guiding question tends to be "Do I want that more than what I'm currently doing?" Much like your "old way, new way" example. If the plans match the gut, then I know what to do. If something is misaligned and I'm not miserable, I let it simmer for a little while longer.
Also, something to keep in mind that you spelled out explicitly in your main channel vid and that I think, societally, we struggle with is "it's okay to change your mind".
All of this to say is thank you for putting this out there! I'm excited for this next step for you.
For big life changing decisions, I tend to make the decision, cry, change my mind, ruminate over it a year, and then go through with the decision. Downsizing? I put a contract on a condo, cried every day for a week, rescinded the contract, one year later, put the contract on again and followed through. Retirement? Announced retirement, cried every day, rescinded retirement, and it hasn't been quite a year yet, so I guess we'll see what I do. LOL
The way you describe your decision making process is so familiar to me!!!! I think that's why I really like this video and just listening to your process in general. It feels like listening to someone who understands me 💛
I started following you because of your content surrounding how you deal with and relate to a chronic health condition as you proceed through life. I hope we will occasionally see videos on this as time and situations develop. Congratulations on taking the time to feel comfortable with this life changing decision 🎉.
Congratulations on the career change! Super interesting to hear how you made the call. Looking forward to seeing what happens next - would love to hear more about organisational/project management stuff!
Long time viewer, first time commenter. I am currently in the ‘Stuck’ phase of knowing I need a change but not being sure what, and it’s hard to describe what this video means to me. I feel calm, and I feel understood. Knowing this decision took you years makes me feel much better about how quickly I feel I should be ‘fixing’ this. I also understand what you mean about worrying about general social trends about gender. I’m not a mother, but I am a Woman in Tech and I have been told so many times that there are not enough senior women in tech and that a huge percentage of women leave tech after 10 years. I dislike that I feel personally responsible for changing that statistic, at cost to my happiness. I’ve started a journal based on the format you shared, fingers crossed it helps me find the change I want to make. Thank you Hannah.
Huge THANK YOU Hannah for this very insightful video! Congrats on your decision as well 😊 I'm currently on my way to career-change. I've been working in a typical office job which became very frustrating and unrewarding. I really wanted to figure out what to do next, but had now idea where to start. Now I know how to handle the process 😁 Thank you again and wish you all the best!
I made a very big decision this year as well, which had been simmering for a while too. Saying goodbye to something made me go through phases of grief almost. It was so interesting to observe. Did you feel the same way?
Like now that I’m starting to break the news to some people and they’re like “oh no, really?!” I’m already done processing it and I feel at ease with the decision.
I do recall, took notes on, and used some tools from the toolkit, so thank you Hannah.
I've also met up with a career coach, and from that it has always been clear that I should pursue a PhD. However, bc the market is so competitive for that, I never manage to get past an interview and out of desperation I ended up working in IT.
Now I'm in IT and love the freedom but I lack the passion and the engagement with peers and interesting discussions never take place. Now I'm just in a spot where I think most of us have BS jobs and just have to suck it up 😭. It's so depressing and I hope this is just a rut and that I can get a better attitude/perspective soon, or a job that inspires me 🤞🏼
Anw good job on figuring it out and sharing your procese with us. The confusion is never fun.
Thank you for sharing! I'm excited for you for this change. I've been a subscriber of yours for, idk, a decade? Following on and off, but also feeling a sense of connection with both of us growing up and figuring out life, diving into our niches, and then backing off when it's not quite right. Even this video was helpful for me as I am starting more seriously to listen to the bubbling of needing a shift in order to continue to be passionate. I journaled after watching this video!
thank you so much for sharing this! absolutely loved hearing more of the details and love to hear and see how completed you're feeling! you're kind of giving off the energy of a full-bodied sigh of relief, and i'm so glad you're getting to experience that.
also side note but thank you for sharing the parallel lines of "old and new" imagery that you learned! my jaw actually dropped in realising how i also relate to it in a trauma recovery and neuroplasticity way
Very insightful!
I have an idea for your last video outro..... stand by the lightswitch, turn off the overhead light, walk out the door and fade to a dimmed shot of your desk and chair with dimming to 40% suggesting that it is over and your are gone but with the fade at 40% that you might be around still.
I get super overwhelmed by big things that are sprung on me and simmer my own ideas , and then I "over think" / ruminate stuff for ages and then pick apart the details until I have a clear idea about it
I should do that systeem with the numbers for all the social media accounts I have… I struggle so much with visibility on socials in my career but I also love shiny new things (a YT channel here, a podcast there) including their own socials etcetera. It’s making me guilty when I don’t post on one of the channels and then I get stressed. I need to do an actual cleanse/elimination and I think that could really help!
I've worked a lot of different jobs over the years, moved a lot, and owned 2 homes at different times, so I've made decisions others would probably consider "big decisions," but for me they felt natural and easy. I really cannot think of any decisions in my life that were difficult to decide, so I don't think I have any advice for you in this regard.
It's just me, and I'm easy to please, so I've just drifted my whole life. The only downside is I've never earned much money, so these days I have a lot of debt from going to college and from serious health issues racking up bills (yes, I live in the US) that I feel like I'll never pay off. Aside from finances, though, my life is pretty stress-free and simple. I'm 53 and just looking forward to the day I retire and don't have to worry about working any longer (if I can ever afford to retire), if my health problems don't kill me off first. lol. I guess I just don't take life all that seriously, and that works for me.
I enjoyed this video! I am glad you figured out your path and are working towards those goals now. Having a destination in mind makes it much easier to arrive there. :)
As someone who's currently simmering about a career change, this has been super useful. Thank-you so much for sharing the stages of this journey! (And yes the timeline is super helpful!!)
That overthinking bit/still being a feminist even though gender norm trajectory is what feels right point was spot on.
I haven't seen anyone else express that in a way that I think/feel about it until now!
Thank you for all you have and will do for the sex education community. It is okay go choose yourself and what feels less stress inducing. You are allowed to choose the path that is filled with relief and joy and less hard.
The stress about gender norms and becoming a "statistic", aka a mom that starts to "lean out" of her career... is painful. I hate that becoming a mom has meant I care less about my job, but keeping a little person alive/breastfeeding/sleep deprivation has humbled me. I wish I could divide myself into two people, one could go back to work full-time and one could stay home with my 4 month old son full-time. And I have a very supportive partner, so I can't imagine the struggle with a less involved partner (it's just hard for things to be equal in the beginning in heterosexual relationships because of the physical toll and hormonal experience of the birthing/nursing partner).
I'll have to watch this later since it sounds way too useful to process today :)
this video is a big slay thank you for sharing x
I make decisions the same way (i guess many people do) and a dear friend always says: decisionmaking is like growing an apple: it takes a long time, it just takes the time it takes. If the apple's ready -plop! No turning back.
Haha yes!
omg love the colours in this video like in the background and intro section slides
This is such an interesting video! I will be revisiting it when I have my next career crisis (I predict the 2nd half of next year or early in 2025 😂).
I was definitely disappointed when I read the news, but then I realized that your ideas and content style won't be going away. It will just be someone else in the video. I can't wait to see what you do next! (And hopefully can take a bit of a break first.)
Thank you! And good luck with your maybe inevitable career crisis in a few years 😅😅
Congratulations Hannah! I really related to that part about having two parallel alternatives and the confusion and turmoil that comes with being back and forth or in the middle - I was in a long distance relationship for years experiencing similar and though it was scary to commit to the big life change of us moving in together for the first time (which meant us getting married!) I am so much happier and calmer now and I think a big part of that is being relieved now to be on just one track! I found Sheila Heti’s motherhood really useful for making that decision - although that’s about her choice whether or not to have a child I think her musing is helpful for lots of kinds of decisions. For example it really struck me when she wrote something about how not making a decision is a decision in itself (so doing nothing carries the same weight as doing something and isn’t the safe choice), and also that if you find yourself really torn between choices it probably doesn’t really matter which way you end up going (both routes have equal amounts of happiness as the other)- the things in our life that are really essential to our happiness we know for sure.
Congratulations Hannah! Thank you for all your amazing work and fabulous videos over the years. I hope you enjoy your new career change 💗 Love from Queensland Australia
Thank you for everything you have done. I have been following you since 2014/15 (its been a long time). Watching your journey nevigating your health, especially as someone with IBD, you showed me what recovery looks like after major hospitalizations. Watching you become a parent as well has given me so much hope for my own future and has made me more confident in knowing what I want in life.
Thank you for the sex education that I never knew I needed. ❤ Just thank you!
I definitely relate to the two lines and then being in limbo and having thought about things for a long time, but when I know everything happens at once.
Three months ago I broke up with my girlfriend and got her it was sudden, but for me I had know for ages and not let myself know. And I also got together with my current partner in the same week. I would not advise my self to do that, but it's the best thing I've done for a long time and I'm so happy I didn't hold myself back from it.
I started typing a comment and deleted it because I realized I need to give myself credit. I have successfully stopped a lot of things in my life, and I am better for it. The thought patterns that have helped me were:
- Everything ends. If I don't know how long I want to do this, what if ending it could be in my control?
- If you take a break (of any length) and feel a weight lifted, pay attention to that feeling.
- It's not always about solving things in one go; sometimes, the only step you can take is simply making things a little better.
- Sometimes, you've given a lot but still know in your gut that you're not having a good time.
So happy for you to have made a decision that feels right. You didn't do this lightly, and I know that your intentional nature will help you do well in the future. To the next phase!
Love that the Tarot reading resonated enough for you to share! 💛
Congratulations for coming to this decision Hannah. I have never commented in one of your videos but have watched for a long time and your content has been incredibly helpful to me.
I am very happy you made a decision for yourself.
I have recently changed career too and I relate to what you have said in terms of happening very slowly and then very quickly, the years of unknown are so much more difficult than the decision itself. What helped me personally was my therapist pointing out the very overused quote “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results”, realising I was showing up to my work expecting to fall in love with it if changed a couple of things but that never happened.
Went back to uni this September and it is amazing to feel in the right place.
Best of luck to you.
I am so torn by the zoom jump cuts. I find them distracting, I notice them every. single. time. BUT.... Somehow I don't hate them as much as I thought I did at first, and wonder if I should try adding some to my edits as well. Maybe just not as many. Anyway, love your stuff, been watching the other channel for MANY years. Good on you for following your heart and doing what you want. ❤
I appreciate your openness and honesty in sharing your journey to your significant decision and congratulations once again! Looking forward to a bright future ❤️❄️🎅🏻💚🎄🎄🎅🏻🎅🏻❄️❤️❤️🎅🏻🎄🎄💚❤️❤️❤️❤️🎅🏻💚🎄💚❄️❤️❤️❤️❤️❄️🎅🏻💚💚💚🎅🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❄️🎅🏻💚🎄💚🎅🏻❤️❤️❤️❄️🎅🏻🎅🏻💚💚❄️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❄️🎅🏻💚🎄🎄🎄🎄💚❄️❤️❤️❤️❄️🎅🏻🎅🏻
omg yes i'm so excited! tbh i'd completely forgotten chanukah was coming up
Firstly I want to say congratulations! It does seem from your demeanour in this vid that it is absolutely the right time to make this change.
Do you regret getting the work done on the rebrand? I feel sad knowing how much time you spent on it
Very best wishes for the future
You’re awesome Hannah! Good luck with everything to come 😍
I promise I've been paying attention to the actual video, but I LOVE your jumper, where did you get it??
I usually don't comment on videos but I wanted to say congratulations! 🎉
Happy vlog-nukah! I love to see Jewish presence on social media, now more than ever.
I know you don't want to become a "mum vlogger" but I'd absolutely love if you spoke about stuff like weaning, toddler stuff etc!! I have an almost one year old and I love your baby related content (even without seeing Rowan). I only really watch this channel anyway so I'm so glad you're keeping it! xx
Are all the different TH-cam channels you made going away/chapters closing or just this one/certain ones? Sorry friends, I'm a bit lost 😅 Either way, I'm in full support of what makes YOU happy & healthy Hannah
I’m interested to know what your future looks like being a PM, how you’ll find those projects, how financially sustainable it is vs TH-cam, if you’ll still be doing sporadic videos on more Hannah, and if yes, then will it be just you without editors and producers? I super super super understand and support your decision, I’m just trying to visualize the day to day of it all. I worked in the film industry for some time and I loved it deeply, but I had to let go of it because I loved my own mental health and free time more. Then I was a freelancer for a long time during my 20’s and now I’m in my 30s and wondering about a more stable corporate route. We grow, we change, it’s natural to want different things and I’m glad you decided this for yourself.
This video is so timely for me! I am about to go on my second mat leave, and was made redundant a month ago and I’ve decided to take a year off to parent and also to think about what I want to do next. Sorry if I missed this, are you able share the name of the career coach you worked with? 😬
so interesting hannah
Please impart knowledge on me, Hannah, my life has been a vicious cycle of stress and shame, and I feel I’m getting to the end of the rope. I feel on the edge of a meltdown if I so much as catch my sleeve on a door handle. I feel like my job would be logistically the easiest thing to change, but this comes with shame and it would be an adjustment financially, but maybe it’s what needs to happen.
I will say on the feminism aspect - I do think there's an innate desire to step back for most women. The first 5 years of motherhood are so biologically driven, up until fairly recently, all children under 5 were considered babies. I don't think it's unfeminist to recognise that a lot of us do feel that natural pull away from a busy full time career. I think instead, the feminist response may be building a society that actually supports that.
While this reeks of choice feminism for me, pragmatically yes, it probably is a good point that it couldn't hurt to make women less dependent on the income / benevolence of one man often for the rest of their lives (rippling effects of lost income up to pension). Even though in an ideal world the sole responsibility for a child should not just be on the mother imo
I am very much in a similar place you were in early July. I was wondering if you could share the charts/format you used to do your ranking? I understand if not if it was proprietary to your career coach! I'm just having such a hard time figuring out what I want to do. Or do I want to do anything? Is this just burn out that will pass? The part where Abigail answered the question about acting and you responded that you would feel relieved RE: TH-cam, really resonated with me. I think, while I like what I do conceptually, if I didn't have to do it, I'd feel relieved big time.
I also get super frustrated when I fall into a stereotypical role. I feel like I’m just a number, it’s not a nice feeling. I’m chronically ill and it’s taken me many years to get to a point now where I can vaguely function in society. Which, kinda just looks on paper like “took a few years to find the right treatment, now recovering”. idk. I guess it just feels dismissive of my struggles and my experiences through those years. And the uncertainty. Hindsight makes my life path look so much smaller and more predictable, but when you’re in it you never know what’s ahead and it’s difficult to have to convince yourself ever day that this state you have been in for *literally years if not your whole life* is temporary. There’s a lot of basic achievements that I’ve aimed for every day for my entire life that I’ve only managed to reach in the last few months. Suddenly they seem so much smaller and less important and it seems as if I just did nothing for all those years. It’s a very confusing feeling to have. Every accomplishment feels great but simultaneously feels almost like it’s dramatically overshadowing the past version of myself inside me.
Exciting new things ahead by the sounds of it😍
And honestly I get what you mean about your situation VS Dan’s but I think I dropped off watching you specifically because of the baby content, not because you had a baby
How did you tell your team and how did they react? What about Dan?
It wasn’t really a case of telling Dan because it’s something I’ve talked about and processed out loud with him for years so it wasn’t like I had to break the news to him. He was involved in a lot of the conversations I had trying to figure it all out. But with my team, that was definitely more of a breaking the news thing which I did with them individually in early September.
vlognukah!! woo!
I always go back to Tarot when making decisions or questioning something... I find it helps give some clarity... Best thing to remember with Tarot is that you are the master of your own destiny and if you don't like it agree with what the cards predict then you have the ability to change the outcome 💚
I am not spiritual, but I did study tarot for sneezes and giggles for a few months and holy cow, the 10 of swords.
For those of you who aren’t deranged and looking up spirituality for inspiration, the 10 of Swords is about something being over. It typically depicts a dead guy with 10 swords in his back. Some tellers also pay attention to “right side up” or “upside down” where the upside down version is worse… so normal Swords X is “give up”, upside down Swords X is “You will be forced to quit kicking and screaming.” As it depicts the agony of a guy sliding down 10 swords.
If you follow tarot, she’s DONE!
Have you made a 'forecast' what that means for your finances? Like of course not having to spend money on one end but also a lower income from the other end? I think it would be interesting to compare your forecast to what it actually will be like after a year 😊
I always thought you were calling it Hannah-ka, but maybe it's just a British accent thing! Anyway, Chanukah sameach!