by Kevin Samuels trying to develop higher level responsibility on my job. Got my master’s in the field (public health) and I work for county government (Los Angeles). Stable, but stuck in dead end clerical position because they won’t give me opportunities to grow professionally. Have the experience and work ethic. So I’m taking time to teach myself new data management/ statistical tools and excel at it with a personal timeline. Eventually they won’t be able to deny me because of my skills. Learning to be more assertive
People around me want me to quiet down and be humble but I’ve been improving myself so much. They loved me when i was weak and goofy. The more of a man i become the more they shun me and try to throw me off of my purpose. Thank you for this video, perfect timing.
It's why crashing parties is so super awesome.. "Party Crashers" ... Dress at or above those you're crashing the party; own the room and then 'feast' on whomever ... Or not. Giving you deep secrets here brothers.
You'll not be asked when you're at or above everyone there.. But if so.. Say something like, "I came dressed for an event I missed; the wrong address turned out right; Kismet.. I'm thinking fate has me here for a reason..." .. TIME TO LEVEL UP MEN!
@@coreypack That has been my mistake and its cost me dearly! My inner person is to be friendly and easy-going with the "false" expectation that the other person will reciprocate. How wrong I've been wrong!! The problem comes in now when I become something else..
Very true. Winners encourage other winners to go harder. Sadly, alot of family members feel threatened when you start winning and progressing as well. The weak and threatened want you to fail. I keep my successes to myself and very quiet. Haters can't sabotage what they aren't aware of.
This is called an abundance mindset. Wealthy people understand that there is enough money to go around if you have the motivation and intelligence to go get it. People that aren't successful have a scarcity mindset, they believe that they would be rich if you weren't Rich first. That you're somehow taking all the money from them or they would have made it
The more I wanted to accomplish, the quieter I learned to become. If you waste too much time speaking about what you're going to do, you'll have no time left to actually do it. And the best part is, once you accomplish your goals, they'll speak so loudly, you won't even have to say a damn word to anyone.
That's the kind of perspective that's going to get you places and WON'T result in everyone you know and love turning on you. You don't need to be an arsehole to be successful.
He was absolutely correct- and it worked for me. Case and point- I saw a woman at my brother’s graduation. I asked him if he knew her. He cut me off and said, “She’s out of your league. Don’t even bother.” I thought otherwise. He introduced us anyway. My brother chatted with her afterwards. He said she thought I was the most arrogant SOB she ever met. Long story short- 7 digits, one wedding, thirty years and three kids later… SCOREBOARD! Arrogance can get you ANYWHERE!!!! PB
Same thing happened for me. Liked this girl who rejected some random guy at my university, the guy came up to me telling me I shouldn’t even try and that she was hard to get. Well funny how things turn out a lot of times. Trust your gut is my advice
I found Kevin after his death and I wish I can bring him back to this world. I listen two contents a day and it's changing my life. Rest in Peace King!
I'm going to play this video in the morning to motivate me. Being a man that lacked confidence and divorcing a woman that thought she was "better than me"... I've learned the consequences of displaying lack of confidence and trying to be the nice guy.
I’m glad you’re trying to get better. There’s so much difference in being kind vs. being a pushover. The wrong type of woman will try to take advantage of a good man. Sorry about your divorce, and I wish you luck in your future. It’s also on guys to seek the right kind of woman. Sometimes it’s a repeating cycle because of choosing the same kind of bad mates over and over. Same thing happens with women who ‘end up with’ abusive and/or low quality men.
So true. When I became successful, I lost so called friends and family. I did everything on my own, no help involved. It's great getting a bag while I sleep.
I am a teacher and was in the hall this morning with some of my female colleagues. They asked me where was my ugly Christmas sweater, I replied I’m too handsome for ugly things. Of course they were like oooooo!!!!, u full of yourself, etc. an hour later on of those women put a note on my desk wanting me to meet up for coffee tomorrow morning
You just left us. This is what I'll keep with me. Rest in power. Anytime i feel unsure of myself, i listen to this. Thanks godfather, those words will follow me until i finally meet you
The difference between cocky and confident is not in you. To those who are jealous of you, you are cocky: to those who like you, you are confident. It's the exact same trait. It's their point of view.
Facts, many woman are insecure to the well rounded man and it shows, they will call u cocky for accomplishing things and due to their own feeling of inadequacy try to make u the bad guy and feel guilty. Leave broken women alone they will call u cocky while also shaming and calling all men bums... delusional species
@Pimpin never simpin No it isn't. People call you cocky. It is their impression of you. If they think you are insecure pretending to be confident, that is their opinion. They don't know who you are. It's their opinion.
@Pimpin never simpin Not necessarily. There is nothing in the definition of cockiness that has anything to do with insecurity, or pretense. Look it up if you don't believe me. If it is your belief that a particular confident person has nothing to be confident about, that judgement is on you. There are many dictionaries online if you don't have one. They are useful.
@Pimpin never simpin Yes. Confidence is seen as a positive quality while cockiness is seen to be a negative quality. If someone thinks you are arrogant they will see you as cocky.
I used to get teased for dressing business professional, but I was always first to be picked to be promoted when I was an employee. Now that I am a multi-business owner and employer at 33, I lead my employees and contractors to follow suit and they are becoming high earners.
I can't co-sign this enough! It reminds me of the flack l catch for running for public office and losing. The only people who toss that in my face are those who didn't have the will to do what l did. Little do they realize that those losses opened up more doors than l ever thought possible. It as a man said to me...'l've been insulted by better people'
I respect you for running for public office. I too was going to run for public office but I let the present political system tell me it was not my time yet. A big mistake I made.
a run for public office nets experience and exposure. power on brother and of course never lose humility. arrogance is never a good thing in my opinion, confidence yes
I walk tall, and I walk with my chest sticking out. When I don’t feel confident on a certain day, I fake it. When I feel confident, I show it. I’m proud of who I am, and I’m proud of who I am becoming! I’m not arrogant, but I’m not about to stop being who I am because someone doesn’t like it.
This was me in grade school... I dumbed myself down and it eventually became my norm. My paradigm. Now I find myself underachieving a lot because of my past decisions. This video hit home! Appreciate this!
The crazy thing about dumbing yourself down is that its really becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. People begin to treat you as so and you instinctively believe them.
Me too. I was in a small class for people with a high iq that I went to during lunch. I was embarrassed to go to it because it made me feel different. Ever since then I dumb myself down and people treat me that way
Kevin's words resonate with so much sapiens! He was a master of the trade of putting words to thoughts in a beautiful and understandable way. He will be missed but his legacy is for all to share!
This is the greatest mistake I’ve made my time while I was in school, with my friends, adults and teachers. Dimming your light so others can feel comfortable around you can effect your time going into adulthood and it will put you in a huge conflict with your self esteem. Boy I wish I have done this earlier so I can already be ahead where I am now
I relate to this 100%, in year 12 at the moment, but all my school life, mostly primary school and part of high school I dumbed myself down or “dimmed my lights” to make my mates feel comfortable and because I was taught all my life to not show off, when I was very young, I use to be the biggest show off but was proud of what I was achieving when I was in early primary, but all my teachers and family have hammered this thought into my head to not show off your talents/don’t be cocky or brag. I need to learn to build my self esteem back up man
My best friend recently told me I inspire him to become better. This is coming from a guy I already respect his accomplishments and lifestyle, so I was very moved by that. It tells me I must be living my purpose. Very encouraging.
Same happened to me. This guy is way hard on himself. And he accomplishes his goals. I took a job that I was under paid for. I desperately needed the job, I didnt care about salary. And I worked myself.. sometimes 24 hrs at work. I got better, learned alot too. Later he told me he was impressed that I took that job and despite being laughed at behind my back for taking such a low salary. I was moved.
@@porkerpete7722 Sheep can't begin to touch a lion; if you fear or concern yourself (I know.. The gynocentric culture and court systems) with sheep you'll be in a 'pit' until, in time, you realize they're not jack S' ... In time you'll see this. They 'blew their wad'; and in the first few years it'll seem like everything; but in time, you'll realize, it's not all that.. And years pass... When you can listen to Christmas music again without crying... Or it being like nails on a chalkboard.. And smile and be happy.. THEN you'll know you're healed!
When a woman calls you arrogant it's because she fears you being inaccessible to mend her own insecurities that she refuses to deal with... brokenness gets people attention sometimes.
Not always..... Arrogant to be nasty to people is the flip of the coin i dont like. Confident men who know they got this inspire me i love that in a man
@@ImpermColumn No, I am not offended by the wise words of Great Mother Sharadzah Ali either. He nor she are the first and won't be the last ppl to point out our issues, particularly regarding the relationship between the Black man and woman until they are resolved.
This video may not be geared toward women. But as a human being, I felt this, so very much. I have been picked on all my life for being different, and I have always downplayed myself in order to be "accepted". But you're right -- it never mattered what I did, people STILL didn't like me. After a situation with some "mean girls" in my mid 30s, I realized something. I'm not simply "different". I'm actually BETTER than they are. Because the choices they've made, the things they choose to do, the way they treat people -- I don't do ANY of that. It had been hard for me to accept being "better", even back in school. I felt we were all the same, we just had different lives, that's all. I met my husband at 23, and I didn't have to downplay myself to him. So we married (and we are STILL married, I'm 40 and we've been married 16 years, after knowing one another for 9 months). But I still wasn't secure in myself and continued to tone myself down for the world. When that nonsense happened, I realized it was being BETTER that was making me different. And YES -- based on my track record, I have the right to be arrogant about my intelligence, the way I make my decisions, etc etc. So thank you for this. If I'd had this video 20 years ago, I probably would've been happier but it took alot of pain for me to accept and embrace ME, and be okay with being called arrogant, as well. (And just for stats, just in case there are any nay-sayers ready to troll me -- I've basically been married my entire adult life, we have 3 homeschooled children, the oldest of which has graduated at 15, is starting college at 16 and has won $160,000 in scholarships. We have two businesses, one belonging to me and one to him, which employ black people and black contractors. We have land both here AND overseas, and we have investments as well. I'm 5'7", the most I've ever weighed is 160 and that's AFTER having his 3 children and getting older than 35. We still work out and eat moderately healthy. We were financially ambitious people and we are STILL ambitious, and it is that drive that insists that we move forward)
@@Lozie82 thank you, you too; TH-cam didn't alert me to any responses at all to this comment until just now! 🙀 I didn't know. ❤ Continued blessings to all!
Well that was a happy ending of the highest order! That was a great read/story. Downplaying yourself in order to be accepted - and no matter what you did, it didn't matter etc. You have no idea - even as a man - how much I relate to what you went through. This was my past as well. Nowadays I esteem myself much higher and as I ought to - and the difference is clear, in noticing how others interact with me. My former circle were a bunch of crabs - and I stayed in that bucket for far too long. If only I knew then, what I know now - but better late than never!
I've lost friends over having an EGO apparently. Even though I'm the first person to help, give advice, and fix their problems lol. These people can't be helped. They lack self confidence, so other confident men are threats. Boosting yourself up is essential for Morale. Why wouldn't you vocalize your capabilities. It should boost your other friends morale too.
I’m just a 17 year old girl from Georgia, but I’ve been watching your content since I was 15 and I really appreciate all that you have done. I’m still devastated over your passing but I want u to know how much I truly appreciate and honor you. You are the father I never had.😓
A friend recommended that I watch this video. He believes that I am too humble, unassertive and I don't celebrate myself and my accomplishments enough. Not in the tone of being weak, I just don't seek attention; introvert. Humility is just in my spirit, but I believe it's time to turn it up a notch! Many Blessings 🙏🏽
I was arrogant about a year ago, and life was roiling smooth because of it. I was always firm on my standards and what I expect of myself but people around said things such as " That's not fair" or " It can be that way", Every time the answer was and still very much simple; Life isn't fair. Now that "I'm not arrogant anymore" (according to those who see me in their perceived way) Life has been going down hill as more peers tell it should be this way and not my way. Short story never again will I take advice from women or men who act like women/who bow to women. BE ARROGANT, You could do so much more but because someone has a bad life or they may think they are in a good light you take their terrible advice and apply it without trail first and now your life is worse than if you stayed the way you where. Be a man, never show emotion not even once, a small sign of weakness shows the world you can be hurt by the slightest touch/statement. Don't back down show Dominance. Remember BE ARROGANT.
I've grown accustomed to walking solo because of this very reason. I have a small circle of people that I receive godly counsel from but I'm also open to recieved feedback for what it's worth. Staying confidently humble is a fine line but for me it's worth walking. I appreciate this word.
🔥🔥Salute! This is what I need to hear right now. It’s a known truth but society does such a good job telling you otherwise. Keep spreading the good word!
I love it! It’s hard to be selfish & put myself 1st at times. I get a guilty feeling when I do, but I noticed I’ve gotten the best results when I did tho. You can be confident & assertive without putting others down. If they feel a type of way. That’s their problem not yours. Stand tall & keep pushing forward. Never dim your light to make others feel comfortable.
I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS. THANK YOU. I was always taught to be humble and find myself dumbing myself down so I don't make other people uncomfortable. Worried about if success will change me or how people see me. even caught me trying to convert one of my best friends to do it.
Life lessons taught me this fr! Humbled myself to make people feel better and they still ended up hating on me for doing better smh. Now I just own it.
Ur right ive enjoyed him alot but hes just s killer. Same matter and words everyday using people for video money and acting like an ass hold instead of speaking real talk. Tom brady is a every mam kevin grew up angry shity on people cuz he thinks money made him man. He will never change and will die alone next to people waiting for his money
I had this friend over the years who I have no idea why I listened to him or even hung out with him, but after I quit some shitty jobs I was able to build my resume and got a better job I was able to afford better clothes, better restaurants, was able to travel whenever I wanted. Then after sometime he told me why was I buying all these things, or why was I giving my money to other people by going to concerts (as if he was giving me financial/economical advise). I was like,....uh well, I dont want to punch down but ok....After a few years this same guy was asking me to let him borrow $400 several times. Thats when I realized I needed to be cocky and proud of myself and that this guy's life was miserable and he had no direction in life to be asking people to watch their pockets as if was his's. After a few times he tried to get me to let him borrow money, his unemployed self blocked me and I guess will only speak to people that will be narrowed minded instead.
I love this. I tell people it’s harder when you announce you gonna do something and get it done. It’s easy work in silence and fail because no one knows. There’s no pressure in that.
Or those of us that had one and STILL didn’t tell us. Given how weak my daddy is always been as a husband, it would’ve been totally awkward to hear him teaching such lessons.
I had a friend who tried to keep me down , it worked from time to time .. and we even had a few falling outs I cut him off for good , 4 woman Within a month later, a better work life , a better home , running my own farmstead and my life has never been so fucken bright . I’ll never dumb myself down again for anybody, I don’t care if it’s family I’m not putting the ball down .
This was a hard one for me because I valued what my friends thought. It took me a while to realize me and my friends weren’t going to the same places in life, which equated to them not being there or not being able to provide that value when I needed it. I don’t mean to discredit anyone but for lack of a better term, they were average losers who wanted me to get drunk and high like them so I was on there level. Never again brotha never again!
I know this is an old vid, but I just got in a fight with my gf over my arrogance. Admittedly… I think I’m better than most people. In every way. I make 6 figures, I’m a war veteran, I’m a SWAT officer, I’m jacked, I’m ripped, I’m good looking and tall, and my best feature is that I’m very smart. My hard work paid off and people notice it. We’ve been going to a new gym lately and a lot of the girls there have been staring at me and acting a little desperate around me. It’s made her insecure and jealous acting. So she’s saying that my ego is out of control and it’s causing issues in the relationship. Literally things were going really well one second and then she had a melt down. I don’t think it’s ok to be an arrogant person and I do want to change that… but I don’t know if I should.
Always think highly of yourself, but at the same time, be willing to learn and always be gracious when people compliment you. It's the insufferable ones who can't take a compliment without making people feel small.
You do not have arrogance, you have Discipline personified. There’s a reason us military men and first responders stick out in a crowd in our bearing, word and action. Subconsciously the population, male and female, will seek us out to know who to get behind when the shit hits the fan. I would bet my Old Veteran ass the traits that you espouse attracted your wife to you in the first place. To shame you for that now over something YOU attained through hard work sacrifice and self control is her shortcoming. Instead of busting your balls, she should be claiming her man and chasing away the other alley cats. She knows the female nature. I’m sure if the rolls were reversed any bug eyed drooler would be dealt with swiftly and “professionally” to make a point to mediate that situation to her need and approval. Don’t change. There are very few MEN of caliber left and your example is needed by many men as what and who they should/could be in the world. Instead of bitching your woman should be blessing you. Be safe out there, complete the mission, and get home to a happy hearth and heart.
Wow this is what I needed Kevin, there’s always those type of men that try to dumb you down because of your aura. But little do they know the aura was created and is a product of your work.
And then there’s those men who compliment your aura and are friendly because they share the same aura and confidence and winner mentality, and the girls , you got options i put it like that.
Very true. I've always been insulted and shamed for wanting to succeed and make it and when I made it my "friends and family" never was happy for me but jealous and would try to make me feel bad. Leave that negative energy. Surround yourself with successful people to keep leveling up.
The great ones are only with us for a short period of time. He did his work and now there are hundreds of male and female youtube influencers carrying his message; carrying the torch. He his has course corrected so many lives.
6:04 is the best way to describe how I've dumbed myself down literally. I love to dress business casual and sometimes it may be a bit too much for some one working in IT. So, I started to dress down with baggy pants, plain shirts, dusty shoes just to fit in and not look like I'm better than everyone else. Now, after seeing this. Fudge cake it, I'm going to keep my hair tapered, wear my cologne, dress shirts, boots and all, damn if I'm a IT professional or out in public.
Same here and I'm a woman. You'd be surprised at how older disheartened people can try to tear you down in the workplace. I have a supervisor who prides herself in "dressing for comfort" but gives me back handed compliments when I'm dressed for success in my dress, shoes, and accessories. Asked me if I was going to a wedding a couple weeks ago I'll never forget that. The week after, she started dressing up too. Not for herself, but out of jealousy. She didn't last a full week and I does this everyday. Show up and show out every time. We all have a choice. Choose to be great!
Bro, that sounds like me twenty years ago. I was working in IT but also had side projects, so I was flush with cash. I always dressed sharp, and had designer bags, shoes etc. The other IT staff had little fashion sense or if they did, it didn’t follow them into the office. They hated me, but I didn’t dress down to fit in. I was also quite young, and wasn’t paper qualified like my colleagues, but I felt they resented me for securing an IT job without the paper certificates 😂 Long story short, no body in the team really liked me, but I was popular in other areas of the firm, as well as being popular with the ladies. It was a girlfriend that enlightened me to the fact that they were just jealous. They were Just a bunch of haters. I recall the looks on their faces when I showed up at an office party with a 6ft tall blonde model girlfriend, priceless. They couldn’t believe their eyes and wonders how my short 5.7” black Tupac looking ass, did it 😂🤣👍🏾
@@tundeuk man that's crazy. IT is all I know so I'm not going any where. But previously I always been thr only black guy in the team. I think another of people be resenting me too. I'm like a level 2/3 support tech that interacts with people and physically touch stuff. Sometimes I think thr people on the service desk taking calls be jealous probably or wonder htf a guy like me work this position lol. But you're lucky to even have a gf at the time or a woman liking you. None of the woman AND I MEAN NONE say a thing to me, look at me, avoid, etc. I'm just a small 5'5 130lb black dude.
@@jbway86 What you mean you are just a 5.5 black dude??? You gotta believe that you have the DNA to be somebody special. As a black man you have the advantage of getting into good shape by going to the gym. You also do not need to tan, like white people need to. Since you are in IT, what’s stopping you from creating apps?? Or looking at how you can contract developers to creat apps for you, which you can then sell on or provide as a service??? Get your entrepreneurial spirit in gear and go for it.
What is your BIGGEST goal
right now that you are struggling
to accomplish?
Shiny suit syndrome. Always running to new trends for making money.
by Kevin Samuels trying to develop higher level responsibility on my job. Got my master’s in the field (public health) and I work for county government (Los Angeles). Stable, but stuck in dead end clerical position because they won’t give me opportunities to grow professionally. Have the experience and work ethic. So I’m taking time to teach myself new data management/ statistical tools and excel at it with a personal timeline. Eventually they won’t be able to deny me because of my skills. Learning to be more assertive
Trying to excel in my sales career
Physical Fitness goals. I’m eating clean and training to push my body past its limits fighting against underlying medical conditions.
I am trying to finish my master degree, but my health is getting in the way.
People around me want me to quiet down and be humble but I’ve been improving myself so much. They loved me when i was weak and goofy. The more of a man i become the more they shun me and try to throw me off of my purpose. Thank you for this video, perfect timing.
Boss Mann i would ask her was her happiness more important than the survival of the family. Happiness comes and goes.
P. MILLY
Yo, this hit me. Thanks for your comment fam.
P. MILLY that’s how it is. It’s crowded at the bottom and it’s at time a lonely road to the top. #staystrong
@@PMILLY-id4wx 🔥
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Like Rick Ross said, "ever been in a room full of failures feeling out of place?"
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It's where predators decide what to eat... Or not..
It's why crashing parties is so super awesome.. "Party Crashers" ... Dress at or above those you're crashing the party; own the room and then 'feast' on whomever ... Or not. Giving you deep secrets here brothers.
You'll not be asked when you're at or above everyone there.. But if so.. Say something like, "I came dressed for an event I missed; the wrong address turned out right; Kismet.. I'm thinking fate has me here for a reason..." .. TIME TO LEVEL UP MEN!
"Smarter than your average bear Boo Boo!" :)
Stop breaking yourself into bite size pieces, stay whole and let them choke.
Embrace your 'dark side'
I fucking LOVE this
I learned this the hard way! Being friendly and easy-going in TODAY's world as a man will make you a sheep to lions and wolves!
@@coreypack That has been my mistake and its cost me dearly! My inner person is to be friendly and easy-going with the "false" expectation that the other person will reciprocate. How wrong I've been wrong!! The problem comes in now when I become something else..
Be a narcissist. Let yourself go. Be super ignorant.
@@darkspace5762not narcissistic
Very true. Winners encourage other winners to go harder. Sadly, alot of family members feel threatened when you start winning and progressing as well. The weak and threatened want you to fail. I keep my successes to myself and very quiet. Haters can't sabotage what they aren't aware of.
This is called an abundance mindset. Wealthy people understand that there is enough money to go around if you have the motivation and intelligence to go get it. People that aren't successful have a scarcity mindset, they believe that they would be rich if you weren't Rich first. That you're somehow taking all the money from them or they would have made it
Iron sharpens iron and steel recognize steel.
@@andrewcarlson2178 This was a good jewel to learn. Thank you
@@ighsight I was gonna say the first part, but love the second part... but you were there first
@@mercenarymike1397 Great minds...
The more I wanted to accomplish, the quieter I learned to become. If you waste too much time speaking about what you're going to do, you'll have no time left to actually do it. And the best part is, once you accomplish your goals, they'll speak so loudly, you won't even have to say a damn word to anyone.
AMEN!
This is powerful I had to screen grab this
Yes lawd
Word .
That's the kind of perspective that's going to get you places and WON'T result in everyone you know and love turning on you. You don't need to be an arsehole to be successful.
He was absolutely correct- and it worked for me.
Case and point-
I saw a woman at my brother’s graduation. I asked him if he knew her. He cut me off and said, “She’s out of your league. Don’t even bother.” I thought otherwise. He introduced us anyway. My brother chatted with her afterwards. He said she thought I was the most arrogant SOB she ever met.
Long story short- 7 digits, one wedding, thirty years and three kids later…
SCOREBOARD! Arrogance can get you ANYWHERE!!!! PB
Amazing
Checkmate!
Sad but true! I gotta be a SOB to get the drawers but reality is what is!
Same thing happened for me. Liked this girl who rejected some random guy at my university, the guy came up to me telling me I shouldn’t even try and that she was hard to get. Well funny how things turn out a lot of times. Trust your gut is my advice
😂😂i like that!!!
I tell my boys "Your friends don't always tell you what you're doing wrong but your haters ALWAYS tell you what you're doing RIGHT!"
Amen!
So true!!
Facts
ufffff - this is my 10th year in business and the other day some dude who never had one is directing me how to "improve" my business.... lol
True
When people tell me you think you are better than me, my answer is: "No; you think I am better!" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'd simply ask, "Am I supposed to say no?"
Facts
Exactly, why think 🤔 that !!
Same thing I say
It usually comes from a place of insecurity.
I found Kevin about 4 months before he passed. I still can’t get enough. He is truly irreplaceable. RIP Brother Kevin
I found Kevin after his death and I wish I can bring him back to this world. I listen two contents a day and it's changing my life. Rest in Peace King!
Nothing wrong with talking the talk if u can walk the walk. Kevin did both. Call it arrogance or confidence as long as ur getting it done.
Accurate AF
why did he die?
@@DeeKeyLP they never really came out with it. I heard it was a bad heart. I think someone killed him.
I'm going to play this video in the morning to motivate me. Being a man that lacked confidence and divorcing a woman that thought she was "better than me"... I've learned the consequences of displaying lack of confidence and trying to be the nice guy.
I had the same problem. I was trying to be the nice guy my whole life and didn't get confidence because I cared too much what others thought.
I’m glad you’re trying to get better. There’s so much difference in being kind vs. being a pushover. The wrong type of woman will try to take advantage of a good man. Sorry about your divorce, and I wish you luck in your future. It’s also on guys to seek the right kind of woman. Sometimes it’s a repeating cycle because of choosing the same kind of bad mates over and over. Same thing happens with women who ‘end up with’ abusive and/or low quality men.
@Bruce Blazer Shut up.
@Bruce Blazer PISSY PISSY ON YOUR PAMPERS?
Never let a woman smell insecurity/unconfidence on a man.
The greatest video he ever made…..Rest easy Kevin❤️
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It Really is❤
I miss him, rest easy
Rember when me and kevin message each other..man
Check out "Black man you belong there too" that's his best video imo
Woah I had no idea Kevin passed, dude you help inspired a lot of people thanks for everyone R.I.P brother.
This man was really helping young and older black men realize there true value and we all know who hates that but I appreciated you brother SHALOM
Facts! Shâlôwm brotha. ✊🏽
Facts
As a Mexican he helped more than just my brother blacks, he was a truly great man and will be missed., descanse en paz 🙏
@@reynaldobaca3403 mucho respecto mi hermano✊🏾
Kevin was the VOICE MEN NEEDED.
The irony is that the people who rail against you the most, are also the ones who usually turn to you in their time of need.
amen to that
BINGO
Yep
Damn
💯💯💯
So true. When I became successful, I lost so called friends and family. I did everything on my own, no help involved. It's great getting a bag while I sleep.
Don't ever doubt yourself. Has happened to me also.
Big facts. They say the love but they really just want to maintain their idea of life, so when you change, they hate you.
100% facts
Facts bro
AMEN
I watch this video like once a month when I’m feel drained, tired, or frustrated. I’m really doing my thing out here. Thanks for the wise words Kevin.
This is who we lost. Just a sad moment. Keep pushing brother. Let's keep his spirit alive.
Faxxxxx
walk the talk big dog. F** the critics!
Word
Keep it up man. We all need some push. This comment was mine. Thank you.
This 100% true. Never dumb yourself down to please someone else’s ego. Achieve greatness.
I am a teacher and was in the hall this morning with some of my female colleagues. They asked me where was my ugly Christmas sweater, I replied I’m too handsome for ugly things. Of course they were like oooooo!!!!, u full of yourself, etc. an hour later on of those women put a note on my desk wanting me to meet up for coffee tomorrow morning
LOL
Clapping them erasers!!!!
@@Splatterpunk_OldNewYork This
@@Splatterpunk_OldNewYork why
@@wkei3540 don’t shit where you eat. If it ends poorly it could affect his livelihood but to each their own
You just left us. This is what I'll keep with me. Rest in power. Anytime i feel unsure of myself, i listen to this. Thanks godfather, those words will follow me until i finally meet you
The difference between cocky and confident is not in you.
To those who are jealous of you, you are cocky: to those who like you, you are confident.
It's the exact same trait. It's their point of view.
This is a very true statement brother
Facts, many woman are insecure to the well rounded man and it shows, they will call u cocky for accomplishing things and due to their own feeling of inadequacy try to make u the bad guy and feel guilty. Leave broken women alone they will call u cocky while also shaming and calling all men bums... delusional species
@Pimpin never simpin No it isn't. People call you cocky. It is their impression of you. If they think you are insecure pretending to be confident, that is their opinion. They don't know who you are. It's their opinion.
@Pimpin never simpin Not necessarily. There is nothing in the definition of cockiness that has anything to do with insecurity, or pretense.
Look it up if you don't believe me.
If it is your belief that a particular confident person has nothing to be confident about, that judgement is on you.
There are many dictionaries online if you don't have one. They are useful.
@Pimpin never simpin Yes. Confidence is seen as a positive quality while cockiness is seen to be a negative quality. If someone thinks you are arrogant they will see you as cocky.
Been called arrogant and cocky my whole life never understood why I so misunderstood, but now I do. This was very inspiring. Thnx again
You mean you been a a$$hole your whole life? 🤔😂
As long as your still moving with respect but not tolerating any bs … your winning bro . Keep grinding
Same here I block girls they don’t block me.. many men can’t say they do that.
@@MarcoGonzalez-bi6cgjust block anyone by pressing a button. That's not impressive...
Being arrogant is one of the most fun things about being a human! It’s awesome to be better then everyone!
Fr I’m better than you but you have a good mindset about it boy … keep at it and you’ll become almost like me some day one love 👊
@@guyfawx5878cringe
@@guyfawx5878I have a large johnson, u lol? Settle down
I used to get teased for dressing business professional, but I was always first to be picked to be promoted when I was an employee. Now that I am a multi-business owner and employer at 33, I lead my employees and contractors to follow suit and they are becoming high earners.
That's what's up
That's awesome! Your smile was just extra ☺️
Get it sis.
Yea yea we hear u
Congrats keep going
I can't co-sign this enough! It reminds me of the flack l catch for running for public office and losing. The only people who toss that in my face are those who didn't have the will to do what l did. Little do they realize that those losses opened up more doors than l ever thought possible. It as a man said to me...'l've been insulted by better people'
I respect you for running for public office. I too was going to run for public office but I let the present political system tell me it was not my time yet. A big mistake I made.
You may have inspired the next great black politician whos _for the people_
a run for public office nets experience and exposure. power on brother and of course never lose humility. arrogance is never a good thing in my opinion, confidence yes
Facts. Happens in my life since i was born. To be fearless and go get what you want. Simple minds cannot do it they want to keep you down their level
People hate anyone who’s tryna do something imagine if nobody did anything cause of the fear of failure
I walk tall, and I walk with my chest sticking out. When I don’t feel confident on a certain day, I fake it. When I feel confident, I show it. I’m proud of who I am, and I’m proud of who I am becoming!
I’m not arrogant, but I’m not about to stop being who I am because someone doesn’t like it.
“I’m sorry if my confidence triggers your insecurity”
Deion “Prime Time” Sanders
Coach Prime😎💯💯💯👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Check coach out in a wedding dress dancing singing Madonna
This was me in grade school... I dumbed myself down and it eventually became my norm. My paradigm. Now I find myself underachieving a lot because of my past decisions.
This video hit home! Appreciate this!
The crazy thing about dumbing yourself down is that its really becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. People begin to treat you as so and you instinctively believe them.
@@lesEnfantTerrible facts. I had to fix it
Go on Bro
@@feratomixxx4182 Oh the bounce back gas been real these lest several years.
Me too. I was in a small class for people with a high iq that I went to during lunch. I was embarrassed to go to it because it made me feel different. Ever since then I dumb myself down and people treat me that way
Kevin's words resonate with so much sapiens! He was a master of the trade of putting words to thoughts in a beautiful and understandable way. He will be missed but his legacy is for all to share!
This is the greatest mistake I’ve made my time while I was in school, with my friends, adults and teachers. Dimming your light so others can feel comfortable around you can effect your time going into adulthood and it will put you in a huge conflict with your self esteem. Boy I wish I have done this earlier so I can already be ahead where I am now
Wanted to run to work everyday and never did it to not seem like a show off or arrogant, so scared of that, you made me realize that now
I relate to this 100%, in year 12 at the moment, but all my school life, mostly primary school and part of high school I dumbed myself down or “dimmed my lights” to make my mates feel comfortable and because I was taught all my life to not show off, when I was very young, I use to be the biggest show off but was proud of what I was achieving when I was in early primary, but all my teachers and family have hammered this thought into my head to not show off your talents/don’t be cocky or brag. I need to learn to build my self esteem back up man
My best friend recently told me I inspire him to become better. This is coming from a guy I already respect his accomplishments and lifestyle, so I was very moved by that. It tells me I must be living my purpose. Very encouraging.
Same happened to me.
This guy is way hard on himself. And he accomplishes his goals.
I took a job that I was under paid for. I desperately needed the job, I didnt care about salary.
And I worked myself.. sometimes 24 hrs at work. I got better, learned alot too.
Later he told me he was impressed that I took that job and despite being laughed at behind my back for taking such a low salary.
I was moved.
@@luckyelmsworld Good to hear! Keep it up. I am.
@@Mortikar I now got a better job that pays 3 times more.
Exactly!! Good shit sir
Y'all have a great friendship
Never put anyone down for your success , lift others ,but don’t let others bring you down.
5:54 "It ain't bragging if it's true". Right on!
The Lion doesn’t concern himself with the opinions of the sheep. 💪🏾
Unless they're coming for his ass
@@porkerpete7722 ive never seen sheep hunt before, let alone hunt a lion.
@@porkerpete7722 sheep literally never hunt lion you dumbass
Unless he's trying to F them! In which case the 'plot thickens' .. Hehe..
@@porkerpete7722 Sheep can't begin to touch a lion; if you fear or concern yourself (I know.. The gynocentric culture and court systems) with sheep you'll be in a 'pit' until, in time, you realize they're not jack S' ... In time you'll see this. They 'blew their wad'; and in the first few years it'll seem like everything; but in time, you'll realize, it's not all that.. And years pass... When you can listen to Christmas music again without crying... Or it being like nails on a chalkboard.. And smile and be happy.. THEN you'll know you're healed!
Kevin you were truly a winner. RIP 🙏🏽
When a woman calls you arrogant it's because she fears you being inaccessible to mend her own insecurities that she refuses to deal with... brokenness gets people attention sometimes.
Not always..... Arrogant to be nasty to people is the flip of the coin i dont like. Confident men who know they got this inspire me i love that in a man
Same with a men
They prefer you to be a jerk, than you being a Star.
For a woman, an arrogant man is one that is not willing to ignore the flaws in her that she's in denial about.
Spot on. Believe in yourself and choose yourself.
💯🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 This Black woman truly appreciates what you gave to this world. Rest easy brother 💫
Dm me, let’s have a conversation
Wait, you aren't offended by him??????????? Unreal
@@ImpermColumn No, I am not offended by the wise words of Great Mother Sharadzah Ali either. He nor she are the first and won't be the last ppl to point out our issues, particularly regarding the relationship between the Black man and woman until they are resolved.
I appreciated what he gave to this world. So sad that he's gone
U smart glad u respect his wise words
This video may not be geared toward women.
But as a human being, I felt this, so very much.
I have been picked on all my life for being different, and I have always downplayed myself in order to be "accepted". But you're right -- it never mattered what I did, people STILL didn't like me.
After a situation with some "mean girls" in my mid 30s, I realized something.
I'm not simply "different".
I'm actually BETTER than they are. Because the choices they've made, the things they choose to do, the way they treat people -- I don't do ANY of that.
It had been hard for me to accept being "better", even back in school. I felt we were all the same, we just had different lives, that's all.
I met my husband at 23, and I didn't have to downplay myself to him. So we married (and we are STILL married, I'm 40 and we've been married 16 years, after knowing one another for 9 months). But I still wasn't secure in myself and continued to tone myself down for the world.
When that nonsense happened, I realized it was being BETTER that was making me different.
And YES -- based on my track record, I have the right to be arrogant about my intelligence, the way I make my decisions, etc etc.
So thank you for this. If I'd had this video 20 years ago, I probably would've been happier but it took alot of pain for me to accept and embrace ME, and be okay with being called arrogant, as well.
(And just for stats, just in case there are any nay-sayers ready to troll me -- I've basically been married my entire adult life, we have 3 homeschooled children, the oldest of which has graduated at 15, is starting college at 16 and has won $160,000 in scholarships. We have two businesses, one belonging to me and one to him, which employ black people and black contractors. We have land both here AND overseas, and we have investments as well. I'm 5'7", the most I've ever weighed is 160 and that's AFTER having his 3 children and getting older than 35. We still work out and eat moderately healthy. We were financially ambitious people and we are STILL ambitious, and it is that drive that insists that we move forward)
Amen, God bless you ❤️
Litt, God bless you and your family sis 🗣💞💗🤸🏿♀️💃🏿💆🏿♀️
Loved reading this along with other comments here. I’m glad you realized your greatness. Happy Holidays 🙂
@@Lozie82 thank you, you too; TH-cam didn't alert me to any responses at all to this comment until just now! 🙀 I didn't know. ❤
Continued blessings to all!
Well that was a happy ending of the highest order! That was a great read/story. Downplaying yourself in order to be accepted - and no matter what you did, it didn't matter etc. You have no idea - even as a man - how much I relate to what you went through. This was my past as well. Nowadays I esteem myself much higher and as I ought to - and the difference is clear, in noticing how others interact with me. My former circle were a bunch of crabs - and I stayed in that bucket for far too long. If only I knew then, what I know now - but better late than never!
What did Katt Williams say?”If you dont have haters your doing something wrong”
"Yain the shit if they hardly hatin" - Cheif Keef
Katt Williams is too busy imagining people are calling him the N word.
A to the f'ing men!
There's other people way before kat Williams who said that. But yeah its true.
Every man needs to hear this. Rest in Pride KS, you did a fantastic job.
It's a battle of egos out here. People operate like crabs in a bucket. They can't see anyone else rise or they have to throw dirt and pull them down.
Make your moves in silent. No announcement
Why?
True bro
To each their own
FACTS
Muhammad Ali didn't do that
Thank you Godfather. RIP
He is needed so much.
OMG. This is the kind of talk we need to hear daily. Kevin, keep doing your thing brother.
I've lost friends over having an EGO apparently. Even though I'm the first person to help, give advice, and fix their problems lol. These people can't be helped. They lack self confidence, so other confident men are threats. Boosting yourself up is essential for Morale. Why wouldn't you vocalize your capabilities. It should boost your other friends morale too.
Never be weak
Do understand that some people are abused and compassion and sympathy can help.
RIP Uncle. May you rest in peace. No matter what, you helped so many of us men. You made it to heaven. Thank you, sir.
Never Dim Your Light for a person that doesn't want to to turn there's up 💯💯💯
Been on my purpose for almost 3 years now and I’m 23 , focus on you , it’s always lonely when your the truth but it’s good🙏🏾
Humility doesn’t mean weakness. All it means is knowing what you know, and knowing what you don’t know
Webster disagrees you agent of confusion
Damn! I’ve had everyone call me everything, but my name. Leveling up every single day!
Every African man not just black but every African need to hear this, rest in peace king. Thank you sir
I’m just a 17 year old girl from Georgia, but I’ve been watching your content since I was 15 and I really appreciate all that you have done. I’m still devastated over your passing but I want u to know how much I truly appreciate and honor you. You are the father I never had.😓
Still in high school and watches KS. Blessings! Don't let them high school boys put a baby in you. Pursue a career but always make room for a man
A friend recommended that I watch this video. He believes that I am too humble, unassertive and I don't celebrate myself and my accomplishments enough. Not in the tone of being weak, I just don't seek attention; introvert.
Humility is just in my spirit, but I believe it's time to turn it up a notch!
Many Blessings 🙏🏽
You don't have to say it from the mountain top. Your actions speak louder than your words.
Not tryna be rude but don't let your confidence ruin your femininity. It's possible to be confident and feminine but it often blurs into arrogance.
@@khalil7011 That wouldn't be a problem, I ooze femininity. I have alot of grace and poise. 😉👌🏽
This is advice for men.
@@chraosta He give advice to men and women. The message isn't one-sided.
I was arrogant about a year ago, and life was roiling smooth because of it. I was always firm on my standards and what I expect of myself but people around said things such as " That's not fair" or " It can be that way", Every time the answer was and still very much simple; Life isn't fair. Now that "I'm not arrogant anymore" (according to those who see me in their perceived way) Life has been going down hill as more peers tell it should be this way and not my way. Short story never again will I take advice from women or men who act like women/who bow to women. BE ARROGANT, You could do so much more but because someone has a bad life or they may think they are in a good light you take their terrible advice and apply it without trail first and now your life is worse than if you stayed the way you where. Be a man, never show emotion not even once, a small sign of weakness shows the world you can be hurt by the slightest touch/statement. Don't back down show Dominance. Remember BE ARROGANT.
you sound so silly lol
This is one of the biggest things I took from your wisdom in your time here. Thank you. Rest in peace, Mr. Samuels.
“The Lion dose not concern himself with the opinions of sheep”... 🔥🔥🔥😎
I've grown accustomed to walking solo because of this very reason. I have a small circle of people that I receive godly counsel from but I'm also open to recieved feedback for what it's worth. Staying confidently humble is a fine line but for me it's worth walking. I appreciate this word.
Yes. I’m the same. I role solo because dudes are so catty these days. Especially when women are involved
This is one of the coldest self motivation you can get that brother was on it
Once you approach greatness, you learn who is a true friend, they are the few who cheer you on.
🔥🔥Salute! This is what I need to hear right now. It’s a known truth but society does such a good job telling you otherwise. Keep spreading the good word!
I love it! It’s hard to be selfish & put myself 1st at times. I get a guilty feeling when I do, but I noticed I’ve gotten the best results when I did tho. You can be confident & assertive without putting others down. If they feel a type of way. That’s their problem not yours. Stand tall & keep pushing forward. Never dim your light to make others feel comfortable.
My mother told me be the best person for yourself and don't let people mistreat you. Thanks Mom💙🙏
This was a right on time video, I’ve had issues accepting myself as a high value confident man.
Thank you Mr. Samuels 🌹🕊️ RIP
I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS. THANK YOU. I was always taught to be humble and find myself dumbing myself down so I don't make other people uncomfortable. Worried about if success will change me or how people see me. even caught me trying to convert one of my best friends to do it.
Life lessons taught me this fr! Humbled myself to make people feel better and they still ended up hating on me for doing better smh. Now I just own it.
F. F . f f. R r. F f.
My God!! Why did I find this after he was gone?!! This man was priceless- He is so missed😞. Thumbs up if you also found this after he passed.
I needed to hear this. I'm always dumbing myself down to avoid the bullshit people bring me.
This is something that I struggle with, dumbing myself down around others. Thanks Kevin.
RIP TO THE LEGEND!!!
There’s a thin line between confidence and arrogance.
Confidence:SMILES
Arrogance:SMIRKS
Brilliant!
OOOOoooo.... Slow Burn To Sizzle..
And that "difference" is irrelevant to both men.
"There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance, it's humility."
@@YNYNYNYNYNYN That’s why you’re broke bum.
This video is IT! Absolute killer.
I agree
💯
It was perfect!
Ur right ive enjoyed him alot but hes just s killer. Same matter and words everyday using people for video money and acting like an ass hold instead of speaking real talk. Tom brady is a every mam kevin grew up angry shity on people cuz he thinks money made him man. He will never change and will die alone next to people waiting for his money
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I had this friend over the years who I have no idea why I listened to him or even hung out with him, but after I quit some shitty jobs I was able to build my resume and got a better job I was able to afford better clothes, better restaurants, was able to travel whenever I wanted. Then after sometime he told me why was I buying all these things, or why was I giving my money to other people by going to concerts (as if he was giving me financial/economical advise). I was like,....uh well, I dont want to punch down but ok....After a few years this same guy was asking me to let him borrow $400 several times. Thats when I realized I needed to be cocky and proud of myself and that this guy's life was miserable and he had no direction in life to be asking people to watch their pockets as if was his's. After a few times he tried to get me to let him borrow money, his unemployed self blocked me and I guess will only speak to people that will be narrowed minded instead.
This one of my favorite videos of Kevin had to come back to it. RIP
"All winners have haters" what a great quote😏
I love this. I tell people it’s harder when you announce you gonna do something and get it done. It’s easy work in silence and fail because no one knows. There’s no pressure in that.
Kevin thank you for being a positive role model for younger men who didn't have a father to tell us these things
Or those of us that had one and STILL didn’t tell us. Given how weak my daddy is always been as a husband, it would’ve been totally awkward to hear him teaching such lessons.
Found you yesterday big brother I was a foster child never had a strong male 💪 figure
Thank you for these gems 💎
"All winners, have haters " period ❤
I had a friend who tried to keep me down , it worked from time to time .. and we even had a few falling outs
I cut him off for good , 4 woman Within a month later, a better work life , a better home , running my own farmstead and my life has never been so fucken bright .
I’ll never dumb myself down again for anybody, I don’t care if it’s family I’m not putting the ball down .
I still listen to this at least once a month. What great advice he gives here.
Same here✊🏽
Love you Godfather... all of your words of wisdom will live on through myself and the men that will carry your message. Rest in power King
Man I needed this, I’ve had haters since I was young before I had any money or an ounce of success. This really helped me out today, thanks man.
Still teaching and uplifting from the other-side, Rest In Power Godfather✊
it's sad we've lost such a great man
This was a hard one for me because I valued what my friends thought. It took me a while to realize me and my friends weren’t going to the same places in life, which equated to them not being there or not being able to provide that value when I needed it. I don’t mean to discredit anyone but for lack of a better term, they were average losers who wanted me to get drunk and high like them so I was on there level. Never again brotha never again!
God bless this man’s soul !
I know this is an old vid, but I just got in a fight with my gf over my arrogance. Admittedly… I think I’m better than most people. In every way. I make 6 figures, I’m a war veteran, I’m a SWAT officer, I’m jacked, I’m ripped, I’m good looking and tall, and my best feature is that I’m very smart. My hard work paid off and people notice it. We’ve been going to a new gym lately and a lot of the girls there have been staring at me and acting a little desperate around me. It’s made her insecure and jealous acting. So she’s saying that my ego is out of control and it’s causing issues in the relationship. Literally things were going really well one second and then she had a melt down.
I don’t think it’s ok to be an arrogant person and I do want to change that… but I don’t know if I should.
Excellent comment. I got a few words that might help: PRIDE GOES BEFORE THE FALL. I'm glad you at least consider what you should do next.
Always think highly of yourself, but at the same time, be willing to learn and always be gracious when people compliment you. It's the insufferable ones who can't take a compliment without making people feel small.
You do not have arrogance, you have Discipline personified. There’s a reason us military men and first responders stick out in a crowd in our bearing, word and action. Subconsciously the population, male and female, will seek us out to know who to get behind when the shit hits the fan. I would bet my Old Veteran ass the traits that you espouse attracted your wife to you in the first place. To shame you for that now over something YOU attained through hard work sacrifice and self control is her shortcoming. Instead of busting your balls, she should be claiming her man and chasing away the other alley cats. She knows the female nature. I’m sure if the rolls were reversed any bug eyed drooler would be dealt with swiftly and “professionally” to make a point to mediate that situation to her need and approval.
Don’t change. There are very few MEN of caliber left and your example is needed by many men as what and who they should/could be in the world.
Instead of bitching your woman should be blessing you.
Be safe out there, complete the mission, and get home to a happy hearth and heart.
Wow this is what I needed Kevin, there’s always those type of men that try to dumb you down because of your aura. But little do they know the aura was created and is a product of your work.
And then there’s those men who compliment your aura and are friendly because they share the same aura and confidence and winner mentality, and the girls , you got options i put it like that.
Very true. I've always been insulted and shamed for wanting to succeed and make it and when I made it my "friends and family" never was happy for me but jealous and would try to make me feel bad. Leave that negative energy. Surround yourself with successful people to keep leveling up.
I’m loving being arrogant, it raises my confidence and vibration & gives me courage , I LOVE it 😍
Kevin I love how you coach and challenge men to take the restraints off. Do the work.
Live On My Brother. LIVE ON!!!💯💯💯✊🏿
RIP Kevin, respect for the content you put out.
Thank you for always keeping it real, Kevin. RIP 🕊
Gosh I miss you God Father. Guide for live.
I will watch this over and over again, and my children when will watch your content too.
Like you said in one of your previous videos make them uncomfortable with your excellence.
Kevin is the Man!!!!!. I love how you put all of this. Us men need men like you to put game down like this. So many of us need to hear it and feel it.
The great ones are only with us for a short period of time. He did his work and now there are hundreds of male and female youtube influencers carrying his message; carrying the torch. He his has course corrected so many lives.
6:04 is the best way to describe how I've dumbed myself down literally. I love to dress business casual and sometimes it may be a bit too much for some one working in IT. So, I started to dress down with baggy pants, plain shirts, dusty shoes just to fit in and not look like I'm better than everyone else. Now, after seeing this. Fudge cake it, I'm going to keep my hair tapered, wear my cologne, dress shirts, boots and all, damn if I'm a IT professional or out in public.
I get fly everday FOR ME. Nobody can ever tell me im "overdressed". This is me!
Same here and I'm a woman. You'd be surprised at how older disheartened people can try to tear you down in the workplace. I have a supervisor who prides herself in "dressing for comfort" but gives me back handed compliments when I'm dressed for success in my dress, shoes, and accessories. Asked me if I was going to a wedding a couple weeks ago I'll never forget that. The week after, she started dressing up too. Not for herself, but out of jealousy. She didn't last a full week and I does this everyday. Show up and show out every time. We all have a choice. Choose to be great!
Bro, that sounds like me twenty years ago.
I was working in IT but also had side projects, so I was flush with cash.
I always dressed sharp, and had designer bags, shoes etc. The other IT staff had little fashion sense or if they did, it didn’t follow them into the office. They hated me, but I didn’t dress down to fit in.
I was also quite young, and wasn’t paper qualified like my colleagues, but I felt they resented me for securing an IT job without the paper certificates 😂
Long story short, no body in the team really liked me, but I was popular in other areas of the firm, as well as being popular with the ladies.
It was a girlfriend that enlightened me to the fact that they were just jealous. They were Just a bunch of haters.
I recall the looks on their faces when I showed up at an office party with a 6ft tall blonde model girlfriend, priceless.
They couldn’t believe their eyes and wonders how my short 5.7” black Tupac looking ass, did it 😂🤣👍🏾
@@tundeuk man that's crazy. IT is all I know so I'm not going any where. But previously I always been thr only black guy in the team. I think another of people be resenting me too. I'm like a level 2/3 support tech that interacts with people and physically touch stuff. Sometimes I think thr people on the service desk taking calls be jealous probably or wonder htf a guy like me work this position lol. But you're lucky to even have a gf at the time or a woman liking you. None of the woman AND I MEAN NONE say a thing to me, look at me, avoid, etc. I'm just a small 5'5 130lb black dude.
@@jbway86 What you mean you are just a 5.5 black dude??? You gotta believe that you have the DNA to be somebody special. As a black man you have the advantage of getting into good shape by going to the gym. You also do not need to tan, like white people need to.
Since you are in IT, what’s stopping you from creating apps?? Or looking at how you can contract developers to creat apps for you, which you can then sell on or provide as a service??? Get your entrepreneurial spirit in gear and go for it.