Love is safe. Every man that has ever loved me (My Dad, brothers) has made me feel safe. Safety is very important to me. If I don't feel safe with a man I don't want to continue.
Protect, provide and play. The 3 P's of relationships. God to Christ, Christ to man, man to woman, woman to children, children to pets, pets to goldfish.
As someone who was born into a toxic narcissistic family & then married a narcissist, it's important to do the work to heal your childhood wounds before you get into a serious relationship and/or have children. These wounds get handed down from generation to generation. Your future spouse, children and grandchildren will thank you. No one deserves to be born into a toxic mess that will ultimately affect them for life.
Rebecca, your ending had me shouting. I refuse to be unhappy. I refuse to not live my life. I refuse to.repeat my parents. I.do.not want their relationship. I refuse to be miserable. I refuse to lose myself. I chose peace and happiness for life.
To have known this when I got married young, would have been everything and a life changer. 27 years ago, I got married to a toxic man at 23 y/o. I made him my center, until I got tired at 25 y/o. What a blessing, I knew to get away two years later.
Growing up with a single mom and not having a positive/good father or father figure in my life I didn’t know what a healthy, loving relationship was. Once I found out about you and some other people, I now know a little bit of what a healthy, loving relationship is supposed to be like.
Healthy Love DEFINITELY starts at home. If we have received the toxic love or abuse in the past including our childhood, it is our responsibility to seek the Godly and professional help. My prayer is that ME and MY future hubby are healed mentally, emotionally, spiritually, financially, and physically. Yes I know that relationship and MARRIAGE is not easy, but I chose PEACE IN THE NAME OF JESUS!
Me and my girl will be watching this together tonight. We both have the same problem. We’re both In Threapy now. The pass has truly played a role in our future. We’re fight to make a difference in our lives.
The women that raised me are narcissistic I didn't know It wasn't normal to get cussed out and snapped on for anything I just thought that's how women are I have to really remind myself that all women aren't the same especially attractive women this channel gives me hope it's out there
I don't think that makes them narcissistic. Unfortunately we run with this word so often now and diagnose people. They may have just been toxic and bitter. My father has great qualities but now that he's older and life's set in he tends to curse any and everyone out for whatever reason..he's angry and possibly not satisfied with the way life turned out for him. I line to think he's an old grump but he's still loving protective sensitive and will give you the shirt off his back. Doesnt make him narcissistic but definitely defines him as broken and toxic.
This was a word. A lot of us out here trying to figure out why people who are married into our family ike uncles, nieces and husbands are having a tough time. They come from a different walk of life. People think I am crazy that I planned my children. Honey I come something different we not ripping and running through life. You sit down, talk, plan and stay prayed up and thankful.
I am with mine today!!! I was 13, he was 17. I was childhood best friends with his younger sister. Of course he never flirted or hit on me at that time but we knew eachother as "family friends". He was an introvert, guitar player, I was cheerleading captain and class president in HS. He of course adored me, cherished the place I had in his family with his sister, and his parents. Years went by, he moved got married, I moved got married. We both divorced around the same time. I was home visiting family 3.5 years ago (I'm 40 yrears old now) and I was visiting his sister, which I have always done throughout the years. He stopped by randomly to drop something off to her that day. It was new years eve day... I was asking his sister to go out with me but she didn't feel well and she suggested that we both go out for new years, that it would be fun since we both recently went through our divorce. We went out that night and he has literally been obsessed ever since. He actually cried on our second date saying that the idea of us being together is something he could have never dreamed or imagined. He's written songs for me, changed jobs so that he could visit me, he lives every day just to put a smile on my face. He protects me physically but also emotionally. He has never once played games or acted stupid with me. He took me on a trip to Mexico three weeks ago and asked me to marry him. The ring he bought for me is way more than I ever could have expected. We are planning a "fairytale" wedding for March of next year with horse and carriage and the whole nine yards. I could go on and on...To think in the beginning I was reluctant, didn't think he had enough swagger or good looks, etc...He was so emotionally available to me and good to me that it was a turn off for me. I was so UNHEALED!!! I am so glad I gave it time and really took a good look at myself and the men I had dated prior...I asked myself the hard questions, as you say, and I am now living in such perfect harmony and peace. There is no doubt that God sent this man to me at the perfect time. 🙏❤
I just became a certified life coach. This video is a real eyeopener. I struggled with attracting healthy whole relationships for years! Im constantly doing the self-work. Its so many layers of mess, programing, and cycles of abuse that I am working through from my childhood and toxicity in relationships. I've to been counseling, had mentors, and still investing in my mental health because I know the importance. I also get my healing through helping others. I thank God that I was lead to your channel. Your videos have helped me in many ways and are continuing to bless me. Blessings and more abundance to the Pope family!
I wish people could look at it as being friends so I can be comfortable and vulnerable. Instead the other party may take it as being "friend zoned" or wasting thier time.
I keep attracting the good guys that wants to be with me but subconsciously not feeling good enough. Thinking I’m not beautiful enough. Afraid to open up, maybe they won’t like me for me. 😬
My parents were the closest example of marriage I had and from a very young age I felt marriage wasn’t something I wanted. I remember when my mom passed, one of my biggest triggers was when people automatically responded with “that’s a blessing” when it was brought up they were married over 30 years. That literally infuriated me because I considered their marriage toxic and I partly held it responsible for my mom dying
Yes I had to seriously learn a lot about what healthy love is because I grew up in a toxic home. Had to really analyze myself after a serous hurt and see my accountability in my relationship. Fear and nurture plays a huge part. Conditioned to toxic behaviors. But thank God for it all because I had overcome so much and help from you guys! Saved my life and relationship.
Rebecca sometimes I wonder if you are watching my life..lol.. My first boyfriend was the same way. I didn't realize it either until I got in my twenties that the way he treated me really set the standard.. It does make a difference. This was so helpful.
Needed this. I literally moved away from home where I grew up in dysfunction. That what took for me to realize my toxic ways from my upbringing. I thank God for helping me to realize I am worthy of healthy love and life all together.
Wow. My father was a narcissist. And my mom died of cancer too. 😭 I now value my health and peace more than anything in the world especially money and men. I take MY TIME and So much SPACE in any potential relationship. I respect a man’s freedom. I won’t hope on anyone’s potential!
Thank You for speaking on this. Even with the pandemic gave us an opportunity to look inside maybe it’s me. When things don’t go our way we start with the name blaming they a narcissist. Not knowing that a narcissist is a mental illness not only that they point out you to you.
My Dad gotta high off playing the family hero. So because he NEVER set boundaries with people, NEVER held anyone accountable and therefore is definitely enabler. And I saw myself repeating the same pattern. I started attracting users and manipulators. Until like you said. I had to be honest with myself. Self-awareness
Rebecca, Rebecca! In some parts it was as though you were talking about my Father and my Mother My mother was so kind. She was a nurse and my father was something else!! My father was full of himself.I am the only female offspring but did not wish to have a man like my father!
Healthy love was never modeled in front of me because I came from a single-parent home and my parents are narcissists. I am now in therapy to heal from my trauma and I need to break my trauma bonds. I must make sure that a healthy family comes from me. Thanks for sharing your story, Mrs. Rebecca!
I needed to hear this. My husband and I have had this talk so many times. I don’t come from a background of love and wasn’t raised in a loving and caring home. Everyday I push to be better and truly understand who I am and etc.
We all need to know what healthy love looks and feels like. The idea of being evenly yoked is also prominent. The idea of ROMANCE is as fake as can be. What does practical LIFE life look like and how are we to respond? To have a loving person to go thru with you the thick and the thin is marvellous!
I feel so connected to you Rebecca. I want to meet you !❤️ I am actually 21 years old and my mom went through hell with my dad. Sometimes, I tell her to get divorce but she doesn’t want too. Like you said , I love my parents but I don’t want their results so I am doing therapy + your healing masterclass. The unhealthy and unhappy marriage of my parents made me want to become a therapist, love coach, healer, speaker and etc. Been following you since 2020 and I can definitely say that God himself made me find you through social media. You are a source of inspiration and I really appreciate your work. Thank you for your wisdom again❤️
It is the exact same story about my parents... my mother died from stomach cancer at 57 in 2007! I begged her to leave my father! Now...he is just a shell of a man now that she is gone... all those years of him cheating, abusing, and mismanaging our livelihood took her out!
First of, your make up looks beautiful! Secondly, I’m so happy and grateful I came across you and Kerry’s channel. Thank you both for giving me life changing advice that I know I needed and thank you Rebecca for speaking the truth WITH LOVE at all times..and thank you soo soo soo much for encouraging me to take the work masterclass. I know my life won’t be the same after that class . There’s gonna be a beautiful difference. Amen.
💘 is a beautiful thing between 2.people on same page. Once u been in love and the person u love in mutual agreement. U will never accept any thing less.
There are people out here promoting women to stay in dysfunctional marriages or go get that husband back for the sake of having a family. The truth is that family will continue in dysfunction and be no good for each other and keeps bringing that dysfunction into more generations. Many of the families they idolize from back in the day had trauma and dysfunction. Your parents story I’ve heard way too often.
She’s actually right… I know a few people who have deep rooted issues within their family or marriages, family or generational curses, and it takes a toll on them. It deteriorates their life because of all the stress and unhappiness inside. Your right 💯 But may God bless your mother’s soul. ❤️✝️
This video is just what I needed today! Its a self reflection of my dating life and where I have gone wrong. Im implenting more self love before getting into another relationship! I didn't have these role models as a child from either of my parents.
Omg!! I’m listening to this Mrs. Rebecca you have just started showing up on my recommendation . Me and my family are doing 10day corintined and I click on this and man you really have hit all the right things that I need to hear! Thank you and there is a lot I have already been knowing that the love in every area relationships in my family ,marriage was love in all the wrong ways and all places. Sad but true! Thank you! God bless you! I have alot to think about and fix in myself and be willing to do the work to better my love life and love relationships. I have already have been working on But I choose the most is to keep my peace!🙏😇
This is so true. Why do my relationships keep ending up the same way and why am I treated differently from other women if that same man was with someone else.
My so feel like you're the big sis i never had. Here you go laying down thought provoking jewels yet again! Your spirit is so beautiful and eminates through my phone and connects to mine EVERYTIME I watch you. So warm. So genuine and wise. When you said, I'm trying to save my mom and dad...WOW!! IMMEDIATE MISTY EYES! You're definitely walking in your calling. Thank you for being here! God bless you! But, what happened to Rob? I hope he's still a good one and life's experiences hasn't tainted his goodness!
As a side note both John Bowlby and Erik Erikson came from childhoods plagued with upheaval and issues with identity. Think about looking into Diana Baumrind's work on Parenting Styles
I love that you had a standard because my first love set my standard in my early 20s. I knew then what love was but settled until I met my second love. We didn't end up together but I know what love is and not settling and will continue to work on me while God is working on my third love.
Hi Rebecca. Watching this video has definitely answered some questions that I've been pondering when it comes to my self perception and relationship choices. Thank you beautiful! 🙌🏾💃🏾🌟💕
Over here in tears. I'm only 33 and describing both of your parents is describing me this life is hard I have been doing the work for the past 4 years and I still feel like I'm in your father's shoes the thing is my income is not where it needs to be to get professional help one on one consistently
Thank you SO MUCH Ms. Pope! You held up a mirror of my own family, and my own dedication to breaking generational curses. This message is truly a blessing! Again, THANK YOU!!! 🙏💝
Man Rebecca! I do wish I had this info twenty years ago with my ex wife who came from a traumatic background, spent 15 years in a marriage from hell and I didn't start to understand that childhood had anything to do with it until it was much too late, I was much like you with church background who over compensated and enabled, I preaches a sermon called " when the mentality complexes personality conflicts" people talk about that sermon to this day
I had a Rob as a teen and evey thing you said was right as rain.i saw disfunsnal Love growing up and I go back to the way I was treated and won't give up on letting the Love find me again there is nothing like it..I've seen toxic relationships all my life it's not for me it's true when you have had the Rob kinda love that's all u will allow in..and there is nothing wrong with haveing it bad and doing the work to getting it right we all deserve the Love and respect 👏🏼 Bravo MRS Pope💐
Healthy love looks like sticking to the principles, not feelings... Feelings are temporary. Majority relationships are for transfer of funds, emotional building, etc instead of one getting their own funds, building their own emotions. People thinking they level up but really they losing because they dont do the principals...
The problem with "friendship as a fou dation" is that many women don't desire it in the context of romance. Zmen go into it expecting friendship to be a prelude to romance but many modern women don't see it that way..
Additionally, I think if your role models of Love is Dysfunctional You can push away or devalue someone who is a quality person. I believe coming terms with childhood trauma is VITAL Thank You for this Presentation
A lot of this is insecure attachment. We don't realize because we are programmed with this insecurity. Research in this area, we can attain wholeness and healing.
Can you do an updated video about a husband self sabotaging, false accusations against the wife, child involved, his anger issues he wont address? We're in our early 20s. How can I get out of this constant drama. Both of his parents cheated, he got cheated on 3 times as a teen who was kicked out of the home. He blames all his issues on me, and I need to get out soon. He says it's me who is the issue and uses a scorecard after trying to rile me up (I am very easygoing). He's been documented as a teen and young adult as having explosive anger issues but gaslights me. Before this marriage my life was better and I was happier. I need advice as I'm only in my early 20s. I know I married the wrong person too young and he even tells me to go find someone else better than him. Even while pregnant he told me to leave. Please just any video on boundaries or how to walk away. I have tried counseling, I have and do pray, I have spoken calm, I have gotten angry. Nothing works with this man. He will not get PERSONAL help. How can I help myself and not teach our young child these bad forms of communication??
Love is safe. Every man that has ever loved me (My Dad, brothers) has made me feel safe. Safety is very important to me. If I don't feel safe with a man I don't want to continue.
So true!
Protect, provide and play. The 3 P's of relationships. God to Christ, Christ to man, man to woman, woman to children, children to pets, pets to goldfish.
@@cinematv7370 LOL pets to goldfish in that order.
BAM!!!
Your were blessed.
As someone who was born into a toxic narcissistic family & then married a narcissist, it's important to do the work to heal your childhood wounds before you get into a serious relationship and/or have children. These wounds get handed down from generation to generation. Your future spouse, children and grandchildren will thank you. No one deserves to be born into a toxic mess that will ultimately affect them for life.
Rebecca, your ending had me shouting. I refuse to be unhappy. I refuse to not live my life. I refuse to.repeat my parents. I.do.not want their relationship. I refuse to be miserable. I refuse to lose myself. I chose peace and happiness for life.
Wishing the best for you......
U touch my heart with this my grandmother passed at 52 so beautiful and loving women miss her till this day😢🌻
Many people viewed dysfunction as a form of love. Hell I'm against dysfunction and I grew up in Dysfunctional households.
To have known this when I got married young, would have been everything and a life changer. 27 years ago, I got married to a toxic man at 23 y/o. I made him my center, until I got tired at 25 y/o. What a blessing, I knew to get away two years later.
Growing up with a single mom and not having a positive/good father or father figure in my life I didn’t know what a healthy, loving relationship was. Once I found out about you and some other people, I now know a little bit of what a healthy, loving relationship is supposed to be like.
"Healthy LOVE" is Godly and, therefore, Heavenly, centered around peacefulness!!)😇🙏🦅
This made me cry because you are talking about me. I have a good man that I can't love properly because of my childhood trauma. I want to fix it.
Healthy Love DEFINITELY starts at home. If we have received the toxic love or abuse in the past including our childhood, it is our responsibility to seek the Godly and professional help. My prayer is that ME and MY future hubby are healed mentally, emotionally, spiritually, financially, and physically. Yes I know that relationship and MARRIAGE is not easy, but I chose PEACE IN THE NAME OF JESUS!
Me and my girl will be watching this together tonight. We both have the same problem. We’re both In Threapy now. The pass has truly played a role in our future. We’re fight to make a difference in our lives.
The women that raised me are narcissistic I didn't know It wasn't normal to get cussed out and snapped on for anything I just thought that's how women are I have to really remind myself that all women aren't the same especially attractive women this channel gives me hope it's out there
I don't think that makes them narcissistic. Unfortunately we run with this word so often now and diagnose people. They may have just been toxic and bitter. My father has great qualities but now that he's older and life's set in he tends to curse any and everyone out for whatever reason..he's angry and possibly not satisfied with the way life turned out for him. I line to think he's an old grump but he's still loving protective sensitive and will give you the shirt off his back. Doesnt make him narcissistic but definitely defines him as broken and toxic.
When you know better you do better !
You are so real. Thank you for your transparency.
This was a word. A lot of us out here trying to figure out why people who are married into our family ike uncles, nieces and husbands are having a tough time. They come from a different walk of life. People think I am crazy that I planned my children. Honey I come something different we not ripping and running through life. You sit down, talk, plan and stay prayed up and thankful.
I am with mine today!!! I was 13, he was 17. I was childhood best friends with his younger sister. Of course he never flirted or hit on me at that time but we knew eachother as "family friends". He was an introvert, guitar player, I was cheerleading captain and class president in HS. He of course adored me, cherished the place I had in his family with his sister, and his parents. Years went by, he moved got married, I moved got married. We both divorced around the same time. I was home visiting family 3.5 years ago (I'm 40 yrears old now) and I was visiting his sister, which I have always done throughout the years. He stopped by randomly to drop something off to her that day. It was new years eve day... I was asking his sister to go out with me but she didn't feel well and she suggested that we both go out for new years, that it would be fun since we both recently went through our divorce. We went out that night and he has literally been obsessed ever since. He actually cried on our second date saying that the idea of us being together is something he could have never dreamed or imagined. He's written songs for me, changed jobs so that he could visit me, he lives every day just to put a smile on my face. He protects me physically but also emotionally. He has never once played games or acted stupid with me. He took me on a trip to Mexico three weeks ago and asked me to marry him. The ring he bought for me is way more than I ever could have expected. We are planning a "fairytale" wedding for March of next year with horse and carriage and the whole nine yards. I could go on and on...To think in the beginning I was reluctant, didn't think he had enough swagger or good looks, etc...He was so emotionally available to me and good to me that it was a turn off for me. I was so UNHEALED!!! I am so glad I gave it time and really took a good look at myself and the men I had dated prior...I asked myself the hard questions, as you say, and I am now living in such perfect harmony and peace. There is no doubt that God sent this man to me at the perfect time. 🙏❤
Thanks for sharing your beautiful story, it’s so inspirational.
💌🕯💝 thanks for sharing.
thank you sweetheart, the bit about your mum got to me. thank you
I just became a certified life coach. This video is a real eyeopener. I struggled with attracting healthy whole relationships for years! Im constantly doing the self-work. Its so many layers of mess, programing, and cycles of abuse that I am working through from my childhood and toxicity in relationships. I've to been counseling, had mentors, and still investing in my mental health because I know the importance. I also get my healing through helping others. I thank God that I was lead to your channel. Your videos have helped me in many ways and are continuing to bless me. Blessings
and more abundance to the Pope family!
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I wish people could look at it as being friends so I can be comfortable and vulnerable. Instead the other party may take it as being "friend zoned" or wasting thier time.
I keep attracting the good guys that wants to be with me but subconsciously not feeling good enough. Thinking I’m not beautiful enough. Afraid to open up, maybe they won’t like me for me. 😬
Same here I'm like her father sabatoge every relationship due to trauma from past relationships (from love and family)
My parents were the closest example of marriage I had and from a very young age I felt marriage wasn’t something I wanted. I remember when my mom passed, one of my biggest triggers was when people automatically responded with “that’s a blessing” when it was brought up they were married over 30 years. That literally infuriated me because I considered their marriage toxic and I partly held it responsible for my mom dying
Yes I had to seriously learn a lot about what healthy love is because I grew up in a toxic home. Had to really analyze myself after a serous hurt and see my accountability in my relationship. Fear and nurture plays a huge part. Conditioned to toxic behaviors. But thank God for it all because I had overcome so much and help from you guys! Saved my life and relationship.
Rebecca sometimes I wonder if you are watching my life..lol.. My first boyfriend was the same way. I didn't realize it either until I got in my twenties that the way he treated me really set the standard.. It does make a difference. This was so helpful.
Needed this. I literally moved away from home where I grew up in dysfunction. That what took for me to realize my toxic ways from my upbringing. I thank God for helping me to realize I am worthy of healthy love and life all together.
Wow. My father was a narcissist. And my mom died of cancer too. 😭
I now value my health and peace more than anything in the world especially money and men.
I take MY TIME and So much SPACE in any potential relationship.
I respect a man’s freedom. I won’t hope on anyone’s potential!
Thank You for speaking on this. Even with the pandemic gave us an opportunity to look inside maybe it’s me. When things don’t go our way we start with the name blaming they a narcissist. Not knowing that a narcissist is a mental illness not only that they point out you to you.
Therapy or life coaching is so so needed. Many people have trauma
My Dad gotta high off playing the family hero. So because he NEVER set boundaries with people, NEVER held anyone accountable and therefore is definitely enabler. And I saw myself repeating the same pattern. I started attracting users and manipulators. Until like you said. I had to be honest with myself. Self-awareness
@@Joy2theworld24 Thank you 😊
Rebecca, Rebecca! In some parts it was as though you were talking about my
Father and my Mother
My mother was so kind. She was a nurse and my father was something else!! My father was full of himself.I am the only female offspring but did not wish to have a man like my father!
Healthy love was never modeled in front of me because I came from a single-parent home and my parents are narcissists. I am now in therapy to heal from my trauma and I need to break my trauma bonds. I must make sure that a healthy family comes from me. Thanks for sharing your story, Mrs. Rebecca!
I needed to hear this. My husband and I have had this talk so many times. I don’t come from a background of love and wasn’t raised in a loving and caring home.
Everyday I push to be better and truly understand who I am and etc.
We all need to know what healthy love looks and feels like. The idea of being evenly yoked is also prominent.
The idea of ROMANCE is as fake as can be. What does practical LIFE life look like and how are we to respond?
To have a loving person to go thru with you the thick and the thin is marvellous!
OMG FINALLY FINALLY FINALLY THE TRUE FACTS!!![999]
And this is still the truth 1 year later. HalleluYAH 🙌
I feel so connected to you Rebecca. I want to meet you !❤️ I am actually 21 years old and my mom went through hell with my dad. Sometimes, I tell her to get divorce but she doesn’t want too. Like you said , I love my parents but I don’t want their results so I am doing therapy + your healing masterclass. The unhealthy and unhappy marriage of my parents made me want to become a therapist, love coach, healer, speaker and etc. Been following you since 2020 and I can definitely say that God himself made me find you through social media. You are a source of inspiration and I really appreciate your work. Thank you for your wisdom again❤️
It is the exact same story about my parents... my mother died from stomach cancer at 57 in 2007! I begged her to leave my father! Now...he is just a shell of a man now that she is gone... all those years of him cheating, abusing, and mismanaging our livelihood took her out!
I sure didn't know until this past year. I have finally found true love.❤
First of, your make up looks beautiful! Secondly, I’m so happy and grateful I came across you and Kerry’s channel. Thank you both for giving me life changing advice that I know I needed and thank you Rebecca for speaking the truth WITH LOVE at all times..and thank you soo soo soo much for encouraging me to take the work masterclass. I know my life won’t be the same after that class . There’s gonna be a beautiful difference. Amen.
💘 is a beautiful thing between 2.people on same page. Once u been in love and the person u love in mutual agreement. U will never accept any thing less.
There are people out here promoting women to stay in dysfunctional marriages or go get that husband back for the sake of having a family. The truth is that family will continue in dysfunction and be no good for each other and keeps bringing that dysfunction into more generations. Many of the families they idolize from back in the day had trauma and dysfunction. Your parents story I’ve heard way too often.
Ahem Kevin Scamuels.
Thank you, I needed to hear this ❤️ This is why I share as much knowledge with my parents as I can 🙏🏾 I’m helping us all heal together 🙌🏾
She’s actually right… I know a few people who have deep rooted issues within their family or marriages, family or generational curses, and it takes a toll on them. It deteriorates their life because of all the stress and unhappiness inside. Your right 💯 But may God bless your mother’s soul. ❤️✝️
You look beautiful Mrs. Rebecca...looking so young and vibrant...
You are talking to me 🙋♀. Thank you for sharing this raw and powerful message ❤
This video is just what I needed today! Its a self reflection of my dating life and where I have gone wrong. Im implenting more self love before getting into another relationship! I didn't have these role models as a child from either of my parents.
You just keeping looking better and better!
Wonderful message. Thank you 😊💯
Omg!! I’m listening to this Mrs. Rebecca you have just started showing up on my recommendation . Me and my family are doing 10day corintined and I click on this and man you really have hit all the right things that I need to hear! Thank you and there is a lot I have already been knowing that the love in every area relationships in my family ,marriage was love in all the wrong ways and all places. Sad but true! Thank you! God bless you! I have alot to think about and fix in myself and be willing to do the work to better my love life and love relationships. I have already have been working on But I choose the most is to keep my peace!🙏😇
This is so true. Why do my relationships keep ending up the same way and why am I treated differently from other women if that same man was with someone else.
My so feel like you're the big sis i never had. Here you go laying down thought provoking jewels yet again! Your spirit is so beautiful and eminates through my phone and connects to mine EVERYTIME I watch you. So warm. So genuine and wise.
When you said, I'm trying to save my mom and dad...WOW!! IMMEDIATE MISTY EYES! You're definitely walking in your calling. Thank you for being here! God bless you!
But, what happened to Rob? I hope he's still a good one and life's experiences hasn't tainted his goodness!
Here goes Rebecca with another gem! Thank you for this.!🖤
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾. It's ovah anyway!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 I wanna live! Bump that!
God is truly using you to speak to people ❤
Your Advice is filled with so much Love.Thank you❣
Please do the healing class again.
I'm so grateful for all the content you provide and work you do, THANK YOU!
As a side note both John Bowlby and Erik Erikson came from childhoods plagued with upheaval and issues with identity. Think about looking into Diana Baumrind's work on Parenting Styles
I love that you had a standard because my first love set my standard in my early 20s. I knew then what love was but settled until I met my second love. We didn't end up together but I know what love is and not settling and will continue to work on me while God is working on my third love.
You look flawless👏🙏💕
Hi Rebecca. Watching this video has definitely answered some questions that I've been pondering when it comes to my self perception and relationship choices. Thank you beautiful! 🙌🏾💃🏾🌟💕
I so needed to hear this message. You were definitely talking to me.
Preachhhhh !!!!! ❤️💯
Over here in tears. I'm only 33 and describing both of your parents is describing me this life is hard I have been doing the work for the past 4 years and I still feel like I'm in your father's shoes the thing is my income is not where it needs to be to get professional help one on one consistently
Thank you SO MUCH Ms. Pope! You held up a mirror of my own family, and my own dedication to breaking generational curses. This message is truly a blessing! Again, THANK YOU!!! 🙏💝
Wow this is your WHY
Yes it is
Man Rebecca! I do wish I had this info twenty years ago with my ex wife who came from a traumatic background, spent 15 years in a marriage from hell and I didn't start to understand that childhood had anything to do with it until it was much too late, I was much like you with church background who over compensated and enabled, I preaches a sermon called " when the mentality complexes personality conflicts" people talk about that sermon to this day
you are the truth
Thank you!!!! So so true 🥀❤️
I had a Rob as a teen and evey thing you said was right as rain.i saw disfunsnal Love growing up and I go back to the way I was treated and won't give up on letting the Love find me again there is nothing like it..I've seen toxic relationships all my life it's not for me it's true when you have had the Rob kinda love that's all u will allow in..and there is nothing wrong with haveing it bad and doing the work to getting it right we all deserve the Love and respect 👏🏼 Bravo MRS Pope💐
Appreciate your advice so much!
Ouch and Amen. This one really hit home.
Wow this is so powerful!
Healthy love looks like sticking to the principles, not feelings...
Feelings are temporary.
Majority relationships are for transfer of funds, emotional building, etc instead of one getting their own funds, building their own emotions.
People thinking they level up but really they losing because they dont do the principals...
This was good. Thank you!
This is one of the best videos I have ever watched, thank you very much 💞
Looking good auntie!!!!
You are so spot on-awesome topic , your content is awesome and healing!!!
The problem with "friendship as a fou dation" is that many women don't desire it in the context of romance. Zmen go into it expecting friendship to be a prelude to romance but many modern women don't see it that way..
Wao, this is so beautiful. I can relate to your parents story and mines. I am unwilling to live the way they lived.
Thank you for this message! I was blessed tremendously ❤️❤️
I’m new to your channel and your a gorgeous lady ! Thanks for your wisdom 🥰
Your messages are always on time!💕
Additionally, I think if your role models of Love is Dysfunctional You can push away or devalue someone who is a quality person. I believe coming terms with childhood trauma is VITAL Thank You for this Presentation
You look GORGEOUS!!! 😍💖
🗣 Yes! Just Gorgeous 😍 lady! But thank you for all that you do❣
A lot of this is insecure attachment. We don't realize because we are programmed with this insecurity. Research in this area, we can attain wholeness and healing.
Wow, this is for me.
Can you do an updated video about a husband self sabotaging, false accusations against the wife, child involved, his anger issues he wont address? We're in our early 20s. How can I get out of this constant drama. Both of his parents cheated, he got cheated on 3 times as a teen who was kicked out of the home. He blames all his issues on me, and I need to get out soon. He says it's me who is the issue and uses a scorecard after trying to rile me up (I am very easygoing). He's been documented as a teen and young adult as having explosive anger issues but gaslights me. Before this marriage my life was better and I was happier. I need advice as I'm only in my early 20s. I know I married the wrong person too young and he even tells me to go find someone else better than him. Even while pregnant he told me to leave. Please just any video on boundaries or how to walk away. I have tried counseling, I have and do pray, I have spoken calm, I have gotten angry. Nothing works with this man. He will not get PERSONAL help. How can I help myself and not teach our young child these bad forms of communication??
What a timely video. Wow!!
You look gorgeous
Thank you love ❤️
Talk about it. Love this
Great message Rebecca👏🏽👏🏽
I need help I been through trauma seeking therapy. In a relationship but we bump heads ever so often.. Did not have have a good childhood
You’re beautiful Mrs pope
Deep message sis!
I know amazing love and will not accept anything for myself that is not within my standards of acceptance
Thank you
what are the fees for the courses? why aren't they listed on the site upfront?
I don't want to lose myself in a toxic relationship.
Love the makeup
Not everyone is lucky, many people just don't have a chance, you need to be lucky to have an experience like you had when you were at 13