Yea, for real, this is one of the main reasons of the Reddit Exodus last year, when they stopped allowing access to third party apps. The blind community originally led the charge, before it somehow became a mod revolt, and counter-revolt against power tripping mods. The official Reddit app doesn't have adequate accessibility features.
I was going to comment on this. Developers should get in contact with visual challanged people to help figure out features to make everything more accesable for them. Thank you for taking in the feedback!
There has to be a fear of not being safe involved. I’m a paraplegic wheelchair user, and meeting someone new always has a bit of trepidation because you don’t know what their intentions are.
One of my neighbour married a deaf lady, beautiful ,he was so good for her. 3 cute kids. After 18 years he divorce her. He say,being she was jealous of everything make hard living. 😢
I would be more than happy to date someone who is deaf. I’d totally learn sign language for a loved one. But it’s just hard meeting that special someone in general and then you don’t wanna be a creepy fetishist who’s seeking to date someone deaf specifically 😂
@@mimimosa259 Me too 😂 it's not like I seek them out but I would be open to dating and adapting to their needs. Oddly I have never found someone (deaf/blind/mute? Not sure what the word is, English isn't my first language) in dating apps. Or maybe they don't like puting it in their profiles
That wouldn't bother me. 😄 And learning a new language would be amazing. I always wanted to learn sign when I was younger! There's a channel Sign Duo and they're so cute. Iirc they started dating in school, he's fully deaf and went to a school that had schooling for the deaf. She is fully hearing but thought he was cute so asked him to teach her to sign and the rest is history. 🥰
Has Matthew seen that video of a guy being blind in a food court? He's wearing sunglasses and going at some ice cream. Meanwhile those seeing him think he's staring right at them and getting all *oh my* he's checking me out as he's licking the ice cream. Then he gets up and unfolds his white cane and all the ones that thought he was flirting or checking them out just went...WTH. Bloody hilarious!
That's hilarious and shows how different the view of people sharing the same experience is. One thinks you're flirting, the other just enjoys their ice-cream. 😊
I love you both! I’ve only been blind for about 10 years. To this day, my biggest struggle with all of it is loneliness. Through watching your videos and reading comments, I feel (even if for just a few minutes) like this giant weight is lifted off of me. Genuinely, thank you for reminding me that I’m still human. Be well!
I really liked this video highlighting some accessibility features. I have a friend who is blind, and one of the things she does is she has a setting that when she gets a message, the flashlight on her phone will start flashing. Another thing, that was actually something I was able to help her with, was that she had a black phone case, and would frequently lose her phone in her purse. I found this out after sitting with her in a waiting room for a few hours. After watching her struggle to find her phone multiple times, I helped her order a bright pink phone case. Now she has a lot less trouble figuring out where she put her phone. It's something that I didn't realize was an issue until I watched her struggle with it. I like to think I'm getting better when it comes to helping people with disabilities (as well as food allergies and intolerance, though that one I have more practice with since I like cooking for people), but I'm glad to see more ways to even just be aware
I love how endearing these two dorks are with one another!! The way they explore the different facets of Paul's blindness, TOGETHER is inspiring and more informative.... and even more entertaining!😂 The myth busting of blindness, the difficulties, the capabilities of available tools, the comparing and contrasting of life experiences, based on their different levels of vision, etc.is done with such grace!! It's such a breath of fresh air to see a couple with a real PARTNERSHIP!! The way Matthew looked at Paul when he spoke of the snow static invading his usable vision for a second, and that he didn't know why, and the, "Oh, no" that Matthew uttered, was touching. The look said a thousand things, the prevailing thing I heard, was that Matthew was RIGHT THERE with Paul. It was as if it was happening directly to him... I miss seeing that ride or die mentality in relationships!! The info on blindness is always really cool, too! Living in the same household as my Grandparents growing up (Along with my Parents and Sis) gave me the foundation I have with blindness affecting the blind, and those who love them. As my loving, strong, stubborn Grandpa went fully blind when I was 5. I will never forget that morning!!! Nor the empathy it taught me, watching a beloved love one grapple with everything it takes to go on, while they're dealing with a new norm, but without the instructions or tools that us sighted take for granted. It's nice we have the internet now to help the blind, the disabled, and our loved ones learn the complexities of the diseases. The wrath of emotions that comes along with blindness, and other disabilities is often as tough to fight, or deal with as the disabilities themselves!! And tools , like this beautiful channel are SO helpful!! I wish we'd had them when my Grandpa was still alive. You fellas are an indispensable resource for many!! And a great source of humor, as well!!! 😂 ❤❤❤ Take Care! Amanda Heath
I'm sight impaired and going through the accessibility features while watching this video and accidentally hit auto brightness. Cursing pursued. I also now have a dx of degenerative high myopia and will eventually go blind. I'll have to adapt my life but life is good.
In all fairness when it come to dating in general, aren't we all going in blind? 😁 But, for real, can't wait to hear this story. Appreciate you sharing your real life experiances and both your insights.
I'm also disabled, but opposite to Paul I've always included info on that in my dating profiles. I don't want to meet someone who first thinks I'm just like everyone else and then gets annoyed at me for not being able to do things. My disabilities are psychiatric and neuropsychiatric, so it comes with a lot of prejudice and I do NOT want to waste my time with people who believe depression is being a little sad or ADHD is being lazy. Of course I don't list all my diagnoses, but I write that I don't want contact with people who have never had personal or seen up close mental health problems. It's just not gonna work since I've been severely ill for 20 years. In dating profiles we get to choose what people we want to meet, and if I can avoid it I will DEFINITELY not meet ableist and prejudiced people.
@@SamirCCat Oh agreed, I follow another channel. They have a disability and say the same thing for themselves. I understand both sides. On one hand, you don't want to be reduced to just your disability. But, on the other hand, you don't want to waste your time on people who can't manage it. I'm fully abled. But, I would have no problem dating someone who has a disability. But, I'll admit I'd like to know beforehand. This way, I can research and have a better understanding of the person, on a very basic level, obviously, but enough to get an idea of what limitations they have. IE they're paralyzed, and I planed a rock climbing date.
@@Dragonmoon8526 But I don't get reduced to only my disability if I just mention it as part of my profile tex?? It's not gonna be the only thing I write! I'll start with my interests and personality etc, and mention it towards the end. 1 sentence doesn't make the other 20 disappear. My disabilities are part of me, but not the whole me. I'm not ashamed and there's nothing I can do to cure them. I shouldn't be such a big thing that divides the masses, it's just a part of the essential information about me. If you think you're reduced to something just because you mention it, that stands for YOU.
@@SamirCCat Agreed. All accurate and valid points. In truth, most people probably aren't so narrow-minded. It's the ones that determine your challenges for you. Based on their own preconceived notions, ones that they have inaccurately assumed, based on information gained from television, books, or movies. Granted in the social media age plus the internet in general, I would think this is less of a problem. But, it's surprising the level of some people's ignorance.
Matthew's dating profile is FIRE! Gorgeous pic. Awesome interests. I'd be like he can't be real. You both are perfect together. I met my hubby on a dating app. It was free at the time. I think you need to pay now. But with that came a lot of "toads" for me. I was about to give up and then I found the one. So it definitely happens. I do wish after Paul was explaining all the things that help him. I wish a lot of things in this world were accessible. So much is not. And so many companies and even people don't care about making things accessible either. So I definitely feel for anyone who needs accessibility and they can't get it.
Wow, I've learned a ton from this! The video had me cracking up, it was so entertaining! Paul, I'm actually a runner just like you. I gotta say, I really admire your bravery and determination in taking on a marathon. I genuinely hope that the science of CRISPR advances enough to help improve your sight. And can I just say, I absolutely adore the bond that you three share. It's amazing how you guys tackle everyday challenges with such creativity, humor, and pure joy. You're an inspiration! In support to your channel am ordering a few books to give them to my nurse friends who are expecting and just have a baby. Keep up the great work. Mathew your sweet heart and a strong foundation to the household.
It is so interesting to see what accessibility settings you use on your phone. I'm visually impaired and have a Samsung phone. I use easy mode which makes all the apps larger and simplifies the layout of my phone. I also use zoom, bold text, and color vibrancy. I struggle to read white text on black it hurts my eyes so I just use the standard look of black text on white. Easy mode also comes with a magnifier app that helps me a lot. I also take screenshots when I can't zoom in. I do this a lot with Instagram stories and reels when the text is way too small or in a weird font. I have so many random screenshots on my phone. I also use screenshots for my reference pictures for my art. It makes it easy to zoom in on the details. I also use standard brightness since I have a lot of light sensitivity due to my eye disease. Thank you so much for sharing this video. I can't wait to watch part 2.
I am not blind but I do have a visual processing disorder. I was going through the settings with y’all. I also felt my eyes relax after making it bold and making the text slightly larger. Thanks for the help. :)
I feel the need to clarify for fellow sighted and curious viewers that the use of Voiceover is not limited to those with no vision but otherwise, great video as always! Always love hearing what you all have to say and learning more about the blind community.
I can relate to the sensory overload and exhaustion sooo much. I have only 30 % of my sight left and am also extremely sensitive to light. Plus I am an introvert... social interaction and all the chaotic impressions coming in... Sometimes I need days to recover.
Thank you for sharing. This has been so great for us sighted folks. My father in law was legally bling and he was given a low vision reader ( like an overhead projector) that allowed him to read the newspaper, books etc. So much is available now for visually impaired people that just a few years ago was not available. Thank you so much for a very insightful video!!!!! Rob
Thank you for this blast from the past, with some descriptive embellishments to the original His and His story. Of COURSE that a-hole was vapid and shallow. Sorry you had to sit through an entire evening to figure that out, Paul. I hope the food was decent, at least! Love, love, love.
I think you're so brave using dating apps with your disability. I'm fully sighted, yet the thought of meeting and hooking up with a total stranger terrifies me. You are B R A V E !!! I'm so glad it worked out for both of you. You are definitely a perfect match!! ❤
LOL, dating apps are just a way of meeting people. It definitely doesn't necessarily mean you're planning to hook up with a stranger! Most people never do that... they meet up for coffee or something, and then if they hit it off they meet a few more times etc.
Oh my god you found your princess! My husband and I have been together for 25 years, I couldn’t imagine using a dating sight now let alone using it as a visually impaired person! The plus is that you don’t get caught up in the physical attraction and can focus more on the actual person, although you nailed it with handsome Matthew! I am really so happy for the both of you, such a perfect match! Rob
Not only do I get entertainment, but also education from you both. I've learned so much about blind and seeing impaired people. Plus I've learned how to better respect a blind person and not ask the wrong questions! Thank you so much Matthew and Paul. Love and light to you both, and to Mr Maple
I think if they developed it to a “Siri” function for smart homes it would be helpful. You would ask the info and it reads it and also you could suggest about the photo feature for developers, I’m sure they’d love to say they’re seeing impaired friendly ❤ And btw, you are both very handsome men and the cutest couple ever!
Apple also has a zoom feature, it gives a little joystick on the screen and it can do full screen zoom and window zoom. I use it instead of taking screenshots and it works with smart invert
First time seeing a full video, I have only been watching the shorts, which are hilarious! I absolutely Love you both. So adorable and are naturals in front of the camera! I have vision in only one eye, and for some reason people think that it is normal. Um no, you try looking at everything with one eye closed and see how you would go through life. Of course, I am lucky to have vision, but it is really hard. Sending Love from Florida!
The problem with privacy, at least on my side of the disability space, is that it’s nearly impossible for me to pass ANYONE’s vibe check without disclosing that I’m disabled. Social disabilities are a totally different beast than physical ones; we’ve got it a lot easier in most ways, but (at least in my case) most people hate me within ten seconds if they aren’t told that 1) I feel the same emotions and the same empathy as a normal person and 2) I am trying my absolute hardest to translate that into a form everyone else recognizes. It’d be nice not to have to disclose my autism to every random person in the world, but my vibes have to be graded on a curve.
Looking forward to Paul using the AI function of be my eyes to screenshot Mathew’s profile and have his interactive convo with AI to describe what he looks like! Using AI to describe folks on dating apps is always a fun time
❤🎉omg videito de mi.pareja fav q me ha enseñado tanto 😮nunca pensé q vería a Paul en apps de citas 😮😅,pero tendré la alegría de Paul ,q siempre tiene una sonrisa,y veremos la reacción de Matthew 🥺❤❤😊
I have dyslexia and I use the colour filter option because then I can actually read what is on my phone but when I’m watching TH-cam I have to turn it off or else it looks weird lol 😂
i'm a nurse and i work in healthcare technology. this is super interesting! will definitely keep in mind when working on patient-facing projects. thanks for being awesome!
This video was so informative and it came at such a wonderful time I felt the need to just say thank you. I spend four months in Florida for the winter and I have neighbors who are in their 80s and I love them from the minute I moved in. They have been married for over 60 years and the wife passed away. The husband suffers from glaucoma and over the years it has gotten increasingly worse. He has one adult child who lives in another state and I can see that they are ready to push him into a slot he is not ready to go into. I know how hard it is to slowly lose your independence not just as a personal thing but as people see you and I want to make him as independent as he can be before I leave again in June. this video showed me a lot and tomorrow I will be trying to show him a lot. Thank you again I hope I never need to use these accessibility opportunities but I’m glad that I know that they are there. Thanks💜
I love you explaining different "blind" options and also saying with different levels of blindness. So many people assume blindness is no vision at all
I love how you are discussing kissing toads before you find your prince And you think Matthew looks like Prince Eric from the Little Mermaid. So I guess you kissed enough toads and frogs to find your prince! Congratulations!
This is SO helpful. I'm sighted, but I have disabilities that make me sensitive to light. I hadn't realized how much more comfortable I could make my phone. Thank you!!!
Noticed that there’s a Zoom section in the accessibility options (when turned on can activate by double tapping with three fingers). Is that something you’ve tried playing around with vs doing the screenshot method?
Thank you for this comment, I didn't know about that option and have just added the shortcut to my screen and look forward to zooming on so many webpages that don't have native zooming allowed.
Thank you, Paul, for enlightening the sighted community on the trials and tribulations of your life. This helps people understand what you and your husband go through on a daily basis. ❤
Paul I love your laugh/ smile. It makes my days ☺️. Such positive relationship❤️I met my husband online we are 20 years together 16 married and 3 teenager 🤗🤗🤗 and our golden retriever ☺️🤗🤗🤗. Lots of love from Ireland
I looove you two chatting, explaining and showing! This is great entertainment with high learning value ❤🎉 I just can't stand the little soundeffects to make it more "interesting" or "exciting" bc it allready is without the effects.
I can see but I very bad eyesight I like to have the letters bigger so I can see what I’m texting. Thanks for explaining the different blindnesses that people have. It’s good to know people really don’t explain things like that and then people don’t know what that person‘s going through. ❤
Hi both of you thank you for this video as a severely visually impaired person myself I have been fortunately married for nearly 20 yrs we met before all this tech stuff I was lucky not to have to deal with all the tech problems as well as my own needs
This is really interesting to see from the other side of the spectrum. I have severe light sensitivity, so my screens are always on "dark mode" with the "eye comfort shield". I light my house with glorified night lights, and when I'm outside or under fluorescent lighting, I'm nearly always in wrap around, very dark sunglasses. I love your content; thank you for sharing your life with us.
I like the Speak Screen feature because I can choose the speaking speed and I can tap on what I want it to read OR i can just press “play” and it’ll read the whole page! I actually mostly use it to hear messages in japanese because while I can understand it, it’s harder for me read!
Sensory overload is a very real thing. I wind up hiding somewhere, shaking and sometimes whimpering. Fortunately, I'm rarely alone & someone in my friends group helps me. I'm also disabled, but in different ways from Paul. I can listen in and provide my feedback. I need black text on white. White on black destroys my focus and produces a halo around the text. And hurts. I've met someone who needs low contrast because he can't read either black/white or white/black. As soon as Paul said 'my eyes relaxed a little'. Oh how well I know that. "See that, that word's too small for me". Yep. Me too. Websites that force text size are the seventh circle of hell.
There actually is a zoom feature in the accessibility features! You use three fingers to tap to zoom and unzoom, and drag with three fingers to navigate while zoomed in. So you might not need to screenshot everything!
You two are amazing!!! If you didn’t know, there’s a feature that allows you to put a magnifying glass thing on your screen by tapping twice with three fingers, and settings can be added to the magnifier like invert, grayscale, etc. as well as amount of zoom, and many other things that I haven’t tinkered with! Not sure how useful it would be to a blind person as I am not, but something to experiment with if you like (and if you didn’t know about that setting lol) Stay awesome
I love your easy mutually caring give and take with each other. You inspire me to be a better wife to my husband. I love watching your lives together. Thank you. From a fan in Oregon. You should come to the Columbia River Gorge. You won't be disappointed!
oh Paul and Matthew, I will so save this video and pull it back up once I am at my mum's house ( I live in France and she lives in the Netherlands). She has macula degeration and the options to enlarge things on her phone or Ipad would be so useful for her. Especially the rim around buttons you can push would be useful as to her they are invisible. I find tech daunting, but this shows me what to look for, so I hope I can experiment with her with screen reversals or voice overs and enlarging letters. Thank you so much! 🥰
Thank you for sharing this!! So insightful and it really shows the progress that still needs to be made on phones and apps for those with vision disabilities. Thankfully AI is a thing now and hopefully that will help improve things
I have physical disabilities myself and ive never dated but its still one of the things I worry about when I think about it. Mine can flare up randomly (sometimes I can feel alright but a minute later I can get to the point where just being out of bed can be really difficult, and it can sometimes last over a week) so I struggle with making and keeping plans. And even just the thought bringing up or trying to explain my disabilities to potential dates is nerve-racking. Or even telling friends. I have a few online friends, most of which ive known since middle school (time ive known them ranges between 5-15 years) and most of them I've only recently started going into my disabilities with (though my disabilities have progressed over the years and weren't quite as debilitating as when I first met them) And while my friends have been really supportive, it still feels different than telling a potential date because I would be dating with the intent of possible marriage, so a future boyfriend may end up needing to live with my disabilities and probably even needing to help with them at some point, so its scary to think about, and I wouldn't know when in the relationship to bring it up P.S. Sorry for the long comment, I tend to ramble even when typing, lol
17:12 Some people even advise to not disclose on your dating profile if you are disabled because it makes you a target for people with bad intentions!!!
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My sight is pretty good for my age, but I seldom use my phone for anything much except calls and texts. I almost exclusively use my tablet which is lots bigger and easier to see with. I've also just started using a lighted magnifying glass that I got on Amazon. It's great for reading very small print.
So, lemme see if i got this, you let Matthew set up your dating app? What could possibly go wrong? "Lonely vulnerable blind man looking for company. Serial killers only."
As a guy with a physical disability (Cerebral Palsy, full wheelchair user for mobility) and it is almost impossible for me to get a date with the apps and everything..... Im 34 and I already feel like I'm destined to die alone, surrounded by puppies/kittens..... which doesn''t sound too bad in theory :D. Guys always seem to pass me by or put me in the "too hard" category.... I miss affection and cuddles at this point :)
As an app developer, this is such illuminating feedback. Thanks y’all!
Yea, for real, this is one of the main reasons of the Reddit Exodus last year, when they stopped allowing access to third party apps. The blind community originally led the charge, before it somehow became a mod revolt, and counter-revolt against power tripping mods. The official Reddit app doesn't have adequate accessibility features.
I was going to comment on this. Developers should get in contact with visual challanged people to help figure out features to make everything more accesable for them. Thank you for taking in the feedback!
Also it's quite simple to allow it, but even just apps that allow you to use a dyslexia friendly font !
@@DizzyBusywhat do you mean? Most mods are blind?
There has to be a fear of not being safe involved. I’m a paraplegic wheelchair user, and meeting someone new always has a bit of trepidation because you don’t know what their intentions are.
Being Deaf, it is crazy hard to find a hearing person who is willing to date someone like me.
One of my neighbour married a deaf lady, beautiful ,he was so good for her.
3 cute kids.
After 18 years he divorce her. He say,being she was
jealous of everything make hard living.
😢
I would be more than happy to date someone who is deaf. I’d totally learn sign language for a loved one. But it’s just hard meeting that special someone in general and then you don’t wanna be a creepy fetishist who’s seeking to date someone deaf specifically 😂
@@mimimosa259 Me too 😂 it's not like I seek them out but I would be open to dating and adapting to their needs. Oddly I have never found someone (deaf/blind/mute? Not sure what the word is, English isn't my first language) in dating apps. Or maybe they don't like puting it in their profiles
Wouldn't bother me at all
That wouldn't bother me. 😄 And learning a new language would be amazing. I always wanted to learn sign when I was younger! There's a channel Sign Duo and they're so cute. Iirc they started dating in school, he's fully deaf and went to a school that had schooling for the deaf. She is fully hearing but thought he was cute so asked him to teach her to sign and the rest is history. 🥰
Paul be blind, but found his exact match in the end ❤ no seriously, they look like a matching set.😂👍🏽 ❤
Has Matthew seen that video of a guy being blind in a food court? He's wearing sunglasses and going at some ice cream. Meanwhile those seeing him think he's staring right at them and getting all *oh my* he's checking me out as he's licking the ice cream. Then he gets up and unfolds his white cane and all the ones that thought he was flirting or checking them out just went...WTH. Bloody hilarious!
That's hilarious and shows how different the view of people sharing the same experience is. One thinks you're flirting, the other just enjoys their ice-cream. 😊
I remembwr that bing a prank ! 😅
Matthew’s Dating Profile >>>>>>>>>>>>>
"You're SINGLE!?!?!?! BUT-"
"I mean, when we- when we met we were single"
so cute you two 😭💙
I love you both! I’ve only been blind for about 10 years. To this day, my biggest struggle with all of it is loneliness. Through watching your videos and reading comments, I feel (even if for just a few minutes) like this giant weight is lifted off of me. Genuinely, thank you for reminding me that I’m still human. Be well!
I really liked this video highlighting some accessibility features. I have a friend who is blind, and one of the things she does is she has a setting that when she gets a message, the flashlight on her phone will start flashing. Another thing, that was actually something I was able to help her with, was that she had a black phone case, and would frequently lose her phone in her purse. I found this out after sitting with her in a waiting room for a few hours. After watching her struggle to find her phone multiple times, I helped her order a bright pink phone case. Now she has a lot less trouble figuring out where she put her phone. It's something that I didn't realize was an issue until I watched her struggle with it. I like to think I'm getting better when it comes to helping people with disabilities (as well as food allergies and intolerance, though that one I have more practice with since I like cooking for people), but I'm glad to see more ways to even just be aware
I love how endearing these two dorks are with one another!! The way they explore the different facets of Paul's blindness, TOGETHER is inspiring and more informative.... and even more entertaining!😂 The myth busting of blindness, the difficulties, the capabilities of available tools, the comparing and contrasting of life experiences, based on their different levels of vision, etc.is done with such grace!! It's such a breath of fresh air to see a couple with a real PARTNERSHIP!! The way Matthew looked at Paul when he spoke of the snow static invading his usable vision for a second, and that he didn't know why, and the, "Oh, no" that Matthew uttered, was touching. The look said a thousand things, the prevailing thing I heard, was that Matthew was RIGHT THERE with Paul. It was as if it was happening directly to him... I miss seeing that ride or die mentality in relationships!! The info on blindness is always really cool, too! Living in the same household as my Grandparents growing up (Along with my Parents and Sis) gave me the foundation I have with blindness affecting the blind, and those who love them. As my loving, strong, stubborn Grandpa went fully blind when I was 5. I will never forget that morning!!! Nor the empathy it taught me, watching a beloved love one grapple with everything it takes to go on, while they're dealing with a new norm, but without the instructions or tools that us sighted take for granted. It's nice we have the internet now to help the blind, the disabled, and our loved ones learn the complexities of the diseases. The wrath of emotions that comes along with blindness, and other disabilities is often as tough to fight, or deal with as the disabilities themselves!! And tools , like this beautiful channel are SO helpful!! I wish we'd had them when my Grandpa was still alive. You fellas are an indispensable resource for many!! And a great source of humor, as well!!! 😂 ❤❤❤
Take Care!
Amanda Heath
That’s only half of the old saying:
“ Curiosity killed the cat
But satisfaction brought him back”!
That's what I was going to say!😂
I was gonna say that too!😂
The way Matthew looks at paul❤
I'm sight impaired and going through the accessibility features while watching this video and accidentally hit auto brightness. Cursing pursued.
I also now have a dx of degenerative high myopia and will eventually go blind. I'll have to adapt my life but life is good.
Paul is me regretting my life choices on a dating app
Oh sorry
@@Storm-k1b No, no, it’s fine. It’s usually my fault.
In all fairness when it come to dating in general, aren't we all going in blind? 😁
But, for real, can't wait to hear this story. Appreciate you sharing your real life experiances and both your insights.
I'm also disabled, but opposite to Paul I've always included info on that in my dating profiles. I don't want to meet someone who first thinks I'm just like everyone else and then gets annoyed at me for not being able to do things.
My disabilities are psychiatric and neuropsychiatric, so it comes with a lot of prejudice and I do NOT want to waste my time with people who believe depression is being a little sad or ADHD is being lazy. Of course I don't list all my diagnoses, but I write that I don't want contact with people who have never had personal or seen up close mental health problems. It's just not gonna work since I've been severely ill for 20 years.
In dating profiles we get to choose what people we want to meet, and if I can avoid it I will DEFINITELY not meet ableist and prejudiced people.
@@SamirCCat Oh agreed, I follow another channel. They have a disability and say the same thing for themselves.
I understand both sides. On one hand, you don't want to be reduced to just your disability.
But, on the other hand, you don't want to waste your time on people who can't manage it.
I'm fully abled. But, I would have no problem dating someone who has a disability.
But, I'll admit I'd like to know beforehand. This way, I can research and have a better understanding of the person, on a very basic level, obviously, but enough to get an idea of what limitations they have.
IE they're paralyzed, and I planed a rock climbing date.
@@Dragonmoon8526 But I don't get reduced to only my disability if I just mention it as part of my profile tex?? It's not gonna be the only thing I write! I'll start with my interests and personality etc, and mention it towards the end. 1 sentence doesn't make the other 20 disappear. My disabilities are part of me, but not the whole me. I'm not ashamed and there's nothing I can do to cure them. I shouldn't be such a big thing that divides the masses, it's just a part of the essential information about me. If you think you're reduced to something just because you mention it, that stands for YOU.
@@SamirCCat Agreed. All accurate and valid points. In truth, most people probably aren't so narrow-minded. It's the ones that determine your challenges for you. Based on their own preconceived notions, ones that they have inaccurately assumed, based on information gained from television, books, or movies.
Granted in the social media age plus the internet in general, I would think this is less of a problem. But, it's surprising the level of some people's ignorance.
Matthew's dating profile is FIRE! Gorgeous pic. Awesome interests. I'd be like he can't be real. You both are perfect together. I met my hubby on a dating app. It was free at the time. I think you need to pay now. But with that came a lot of "toads" for me. I was about to give up and then I found the one. So it definitely happens. I do wish after Paul was explaining all the things that help him. I wish a lot of things in this world were accessible. So much is not. And so many companies and even people don't care about making things accessible either. So I definitely feel for anyone who needs accessibility and they can't get it.
Wow, I've learned a ton from this! The video had me cracking up, it was so entertaining! Paul, I'm actually a runner just like you. I gotta say, I really admire your bravery and determination in taking on a marathon. I genuinely hope that the science of CRISPR advances enough to help improve your sight.
And can I just say, I absolutely adore the bond that you three share. It's amazing how you guys tackle everyday challenges with such creativity, humor, and pure joy. You're an inspiration! In support to your channel am ordering a few books to give them to my nurse friends who are expecting and just have a baby. Keep up the great work.
Mathew your sweet heart and a strong foundation to the household.
Y’all are so cute, it was nice hearing Matthew explain what made him interested in Paul. Y’all are both such well rounded, emotionally wise beings ❤
It is so interesting to see what accessibility settings you use on your phone. I'm visually impaired and have a Samsung phone. I use easy mode which makes all the apps larger and simplifies the layout of my phone. I also use zoom, bold text, and color vibrancy. I struggle to read white text on black it hurts my eyes so I just use the standard look of black text on white. Easy mode also comes with a magnifier app that helps me a lot. I also take screenshots when I can't zoom in. I do this a lot with Instagram stories and reels when the text is way too small or in a weird font. I have so many random screenshots on my phone. I also use screenshots for my reference pictures for my art. It makes it easy to zoom in on the details. I also use standard brightness since I have a lot of light sensitivity due to my eye disease.
Thank you so much for sharing this video. I can't wait to watch part 2.
I am not blind but I do have a visual processing disorder. I was going through the settings with y’all. I also felt my eyes relax after making it bold and making the text slightly larger. Thanks for the help. :)
I'd love to hear more of Matthew's violin.
I feel the need to clarify for fellow sighted and curious viewers that the use of Voiceover is not limited to those with no vision but otherwise, great video as always! Always love hearing what you all have to say and learning more about the blind community.
I can relate to the sensory overload and exhaustion sooo much. I have only 30 % of my sight left and am also extremely sensitive to light. Plus I am an introvert... social interaction and all the chaotic impressions coming in... Sometimes I need days to recover.
Thank you for sharing. This has been so great for us sighted folks. My father in law was legally bling and he was given a low vision reader ( like an overhead projector) that allowed him to read the newspaper, books etc. So much is available now for visually impaired people that just a few years ago was not available. Thank you so much for a very insightful video!!!!! Rob
And Paul found Prince Eric!!!! Love you guys!!!
Thank you for this blast from the past, with some descriptive embellishments to the original His and His story. Of COURSE that a-hole was vapid and shallow. Sorry you had to sit through an entire evening to figure that out, Paul. I hope the food was decent, at least! Love, love, love.
I love how happy Mr Maple was for finishing his dinner 😂 to cute 🥰 love you guys! ❤
I think you're so brave using dating apps with your disability. I'm fully sighted, yet the thought of meeting and hooking up with a total stranger terrifies me. You are B R A V E !!! I'm so glad it worked out for both of you. You are definitely a perfect match!! ❤
LOL, dating apps are just a way of meeting people. It definitely doesn't necessarily mean you're planning to hook up with a stranger! Most people never do that... they meet up for coffee or something, and then if they hit it off they meet a few more times etc.
Oh my god you found your princess! My husband and I have been together for 25 years, I couldn’t imagine using a dating sight now let alone using it as a visually impaired person! The plus is that you don’t get caught up in the physical attraction and can focus more on the actual person, although you nailed it with handsome Matthew! I am really so happy for the both of you, such a perfect match! Rob
I pray that I get to meet these two one day. They're the template for my love life.
Or be like them with a partner 😊
@@Nathan_Bookwurm You get it 😭😭😭😈
I love you both so much, and Maple is just the icing on the cake. He is just the happiest boy ever.
From dating app to finding the right man, Paul you and Matthew are perfect for each other
Not only do I get entertainment, but also education from you both. I've learned so much about blind and seeing impaired people. Plus I've learned how to better respect a blind person and not ask the wrong questions! Thank you so much Matthew and Paul. Love and light to you both, and to Mr Maple
I think if they developed it to a “Siri” function for smart homes it would be helpful. You would ask the info and it reads it and also you could suggest about the photo feature for developers, I’m sure they’d love to say they’re seeing impaired friendly ❤ And btw, you are both very handsome men and the cutest couple ever!
Oh my, great video. Thank you both for teaching all about the phone accessiblity features, I can now see my phone better.
Apple also has a zoom feature, it gives a little joystick on the screen and it can do full screen zoom and window zoom. I use it instead of taking screenshots and it works with smart invert
I absolutely adore you guys. You always make my day much brighter and better. i'm so happy I came across your channel!
First time seeing a full video, I have only been watching the shorts, which are hilarious! I absolutely Love you both. So adorable and are naturals in front of the camera! I have vision in only one eye, and for some reason people think that it is normal. Um no, you try looking at everything with one eye closed and see how you would go through life. Of course, I am lucky to have vision, but it is really hard. Sending Love from Florida!
The problem with privacy, at least on my side of the disability space, is that it’s nearly impossible for me to pass ANYONE’s vibe check without disclosing that I’m disabled. Social disabilities are a totally different beast than physical ones; we’ve got it a lot easier in most ways, but (at least in my case) most people hate me within ten seconds if they aren’t told that 1) I feel the same emotions and the same empathy as a normal person and 2) I am trying my absolute hardest to translate that into a form everyone else recognizes.
It’d be nice not to have to disclose my autism to every random person in the world, but my vibes have to be graded on a curve.
Looking forward to Paul using the AI function of be my eyes to screenshot Mathew’s profile and have his interactive convo with AI to describe what he looks like! Using AI to describe folks on dating apps is always a fun time
❤🎉omg videito de mi.pareja fav q me ha enseñado tanto 😮nunca pensé q vería a Paul en apps de citas 😮😅,pero tendré la alegría de Paul ,q siempre tiene una sonrisa,y veremos la reacción de Matthew 🥺❤❤😊
I have dyslexia and I use the colour filter option because then I can actually read what is on my phone but when I’m watching TH-cam I have to turn it off or else it looks weird lol 😂
i'm a nurse and i work in healthcare technology. this is super interesting! will definitely keep in mind when working on patient-facing projects. thanks for being awesome!
This video was so informative and it came at such a wonderful time I felt the need to just say thank you. I spend four months in Florida for the winter and I have neighbors who are in their 80s and I love them from the minute I moved in. They have been married for over 60 years and the wife passed away. The husband suffers from glaucoma and over the years it has gotten increasingly worse. He has one adult child who lives in another state and I can see that they are ready to push him into a slot he is not ready to go into. I know how hard it is to slowly lose your independence not just as a personal thing but as people see you and I want to make him as independent as he can be before I leave again in June. this video showed me a lot and tomorrow I will be trying to show him a lot. Thank you again I hope I never need to use these accessibility opportunities but I’m glad that I know that they are there. Thanks💜
I love you explaining different "blind" options and also saying with different levels of blindness. So many people assume blindness is no vision at all
I love how you are discussing kissing toads before you find your prince
And you think Matthew looks like Prince Eric from the Little Mermaid. So I guess you kissed enough toads and frogs to find your prince! Congratulations!
This is SO helpful. I'm sighted, but I have disabilities that make me sensitive to light. I hadn't realized how much more comfortable I could make my phone. Thank you!!!
Noticed that there’s a Zoom section in the accessibility options (when turned on can activate by double tapping with three fingers). Is that something you’ve tried playing around with vs doing the screenshot method?
Thank you for this comment, I didn't know about that option and have just added the shortcut to my screen and look forward to zooming on so many webpages that don't have native zooming allowed.
@@beeb6730 So happy I could help 😄
@@beeb6730 So happy I could help 😄
Thank you, Paul, for enlightening the sighted community on the trials and tribulations of your life. This helps people understand what you and your husband go through on a daily basis. ❤
I love this conversation about accessibility ❤ Thank y'all for sharing
Paul I love your laugh/ smile. It makes my days ☺️. Such positive relationship❤️I met my husband online we are 20 years together 16 married and 3 teenager 🤗🤗🤗 and our golden retriever ☺️🤗🤗🤗. Lots of love from Ireland
I looove you two chatting, explaining and showing! This is great entertainment with high learning value ❤🎉
I just can't stand the little soundeffects to make it more "interesting" or "exciting" bc it allready is without the effects.
When everyone was masking because of Covid, I realized how much I was lip reading because I had so much trouble understanding people.
You both have beautiful eyes. Such a beautiful loving couple ❤❤
Blind date! Love is blind! ( sorry I'll se myself out)🤣🤣🤣💖
Love you guys! You need to start making vlogs rather than sit down videos! Would love to watch you live your every day lives like a reality show ❤
I'm so glad you found each other. Its a good, strong match and you're so sweet with each other!
Well that was a fun watch!! ❤
I can see but I very bad eyesight I like to have the letters bigger so I can see what I’m texting. Thanks for explaining the different blindnesses that people have. It’s good to know people really don’t explain things like that and then people don’t know what that person‘s going through. ❤
Hi both of you thank you for this video as a severely visually impaired person myself I have been fortunately married for nearly 20 yrs we met before all this tech stuff I was lucky not to have to deal with all the tech problems as well as my own needs
Omg! Can’t wait to already
Thank you for this. I’m not blind, but do have some serious vision problems. This will help me. And you guys are fun.
I just love Matthew's smile 😊 It's so genuine and so real and loving.
This is really interesting to see from the other side of the spectrum. I have severe light sensitivity, so my screens are always on "dark mode" with the "eye comfort shield". I light my house with glorified night lights, and when I'm outside or under fluorescent lighting, I'm nearly always in wrap around, very dark sunglasses. I love your content; thank you for sharing your life with us.
I like the Speak Screen feature because I can choose the speaking speed and I can tap on what I want it to read OR i can just press “play” and it’ll read the whole page! I actually mostly use it to hear messages in japanese because while I can understand it, it’s harder for me read!
This is beautiful. My favorite was when you said good grammar was the metric for going forward 😂 same here!!
Sensory overload is a very real thing. I wind up hiding somewhere, shaking and sometimes whimpering. Fortunately, I'm rarely alone & someone in my friends group helps me.
I'm also disabled, but in different ways from Paul. I can listen in and provide my feedback.
I need black text on white. White on black destroys my focus and produces a halo around the text. And hurts. I've met someone who needs low contrast because he can't read either black/white or white/black.
As soon as Paul said 'my eyes relaxed a little'. Oh how well I know that.
"See that, that word's too small for me". Yep. Me too.
Websites that force text size are the seventh circle of hell.
There actually is a zoom feature in the accessibility features! You use three fingers to tap to zoom and unzoom, and drag with three fingers to navigate while zoomed in. So you might not need to screenshot everything!
I really love how you’re so in love and secure and healthy that your husband can interview you about your dating life
This was so helpful! I've been trying to help my 85 yr old friend configure her phone. I only knew about text size
Oh my Paul, I love dim lights and cannot stand fluorescent lighting. But I would wear sunglasses indoors if I had to.
Matthew really DOES look like prince eric. He's an irl disney prince T_T
I was thinking the same thing!
You two are amazing!!!
If you didn’t know, there’s a feature that allows you to put a magnifying glass thing on your screen by tapping twice with three fingers, and settings can be added to the magnifier like invert, grayscale, etc. as well as amount of zoom, and many other things that I haven’t tinkered with!
Not sure how useful it would be to a blind person as I am not, but something to experiment with if you like (and if you didn’t know about that setting lol)
Stay awesome
I love your easy mutually caring give and take with each other. You inspire me to be a better wife to my husband. I love watching your lives together. Thank you. From a fan in Oregon. You should come to the Columbia River Gorge. You won't be disappointed!
Love this! ❤ can’t wait for part 2! 😊
oh Paul and Matthew, I will so save this video and pull it back up once I am at my mum's house ( I live in France and she lives in the Netherlands). She has macula degeration and the options to enlarge things on her phone or Ipad would be so useful for her. Especially the rim around buttons you can push would be useful as to her they are invisible. I find tech daunting, but this shows me what to look for, so I hope I can experiment with her with screen reversals or voice overs and enlarging letters. Thank you so much! 🥰
Thank you for sharing this!! So insightful and it really shows the progress that still needs to be made on phones and apps for those with vision disabilities. Thankfully AI is a thing now and hopefully that will help improve things
This was so interesting!!
I have physical disabilities myself and ive never dated but its still one of the things I worry about when I think about it. Mine can flare up randomly (sometimes I can feel alright but a minute later I can get to the point where just being out of bed can be really difficult, and it can sometimes last over a week) so I struggle with making and keeping plans. And even just the thought bringing up or trying to explain my disabilities to potential dates is nerve-racking.
Or even telling friends. I have a few online friends, most of which ive known since middle school (time ive known them ranges between 5-15 years) and most of them I've only recently started going into my disabilities with (though my disabilities have progressed over the years and weren't quite as debilitating as when I first met them)
And while my friends have been really supportive, it still feels different than telling a potential date because I would be dating with the intent of possible marriage, so a future boyfriend may end up needing to live with my disabilities and probably even needing to help with them at some point, so its scary to think about, and I wouldn't know when in the relationship to bring it up
P.S. Sorry for the long comment, I tend to ramble even when typing, lol
When Matthew said 'curiosity killed he cat' 😂
Paul's laugh is so infectious so Mathew can play or should continue to play pranks on him.
LovelyOnes!!!! Always!!!! With Lovely Cute Maple!!!! Always!!!!
I love you two so much ❤ ❤❤. Thank you for sharing your lives with us !!!
Guys your dating profiles are both 🔥🔥, cant wait to hear the upcoming stories.
Where does Mr. Maple go the loo. Do the flats have a garden? Does he let you know when he wants to go out?
17:12 Some people even advise to not disclose on your dating profile if you are disabled because it makes you a target for people with bad intentions!!!
you compliment each other very well 💝
Matthew you are such a good Husband to Paul ❤️
The title of this video almost gave me a heart attack!!! I’m like, “Why is Paul using dating apps!!?!?!?!?”😱🤬
this video helped me learn how to turn my Whatsapp from light to dark mode lol, thanks!!
Paul you make my day when you laugh!💜
Guys!!!! My two Pengrooms Books and the gorgeous plushies arrived today ❤❤❤ One is for my best friend who has been dating a lady for more than a year and they are really Close ❤ I will give it to her for her Birthday 🎉 And one is for me and my pupils (age 6 to 10). You got yourself a loving supporter from Austria 🇦🇹☺️
Love U Guys, the book is amazing and the plushie is so cute ❤ Thank you and stay strong and loving ❤❤❤🎉
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Gives a new meaning to a blind date hihi jk ofc
Thank you for telling about smart invert :)
My sight is pretty good for my age, but I seldom use my phone for anything much except calls and texts. I almost exclusively use my tablet which is lots bigger and easier to see with. I've also just started using a lighted magnifying glass that I got on Amazon. It's great for reading very small print.
I have a question. Where do you order the zodiac book at, I don’t see it on in your store? Also the Mr. Maple plushie, I don’t see that either.
They have information in some of their videos, but you can always search for kickstarter and then adoroscopes.It’s only 3 days left now..
I went on a date off an app once and I had told him before I aS visually impaired but he went on to ask why my eyes were weird.
So, lemme see if i got this, you let Matthew set up your dating app? What could possibly go wrong? "Lonely vulnerable blind man looking for company. Serial killers only."
As a guy with a physical disability (Cerebral Palsy, full wheelchair user for mobility) and it is almost impossible for me to get a date with the apps and everything..... Im 34 and I already feel like I'm destined to die alone, surrounded by puppies/kittens..... which doesn''t sound too bad in theory :D.
Guys always seem to pass me by or put me in the "too hard" category.... I miss affection and cuddles at this point :)
You two are very special ❤ and unique
Before there were TH-cam videos for everything I accidentally went into the voice mode and yes it was very challenging. 😂😂