“your label is allowed to change” this was super great to hear as a young queer person :) im figuring out my validity as a person and a label that works for me and this was really nice to hear :) thanks
Feel the exact same way! Don’t like using gay cause i grew up in a world where it was used as something to be laughed at. I never felt like it was „cool“ to be gay and others saw themselves as something better. (It was never really talked abt in media and if it was, it was something to make fun of a lot of the time.) I turned out never identifying with the term because of it. Goes to say: the trauma you faced and the way terms are used in you surroundings effect how you perceive them and how you feel like using them later in life.
@ville__ It really isn’t. I cannot speak for everyone, though through my (and many others’) experience, it has never been a choice. I’m not gay, though I’ve been attracted to many different people throughout my life, regardless of their gender. For example, my first crush was my (at the time) best friend who was a girl (I’d like to add the context that during this time I was often seen as a girl also, despite feeling differently). We haven’t been in contact for a long time, though I still remember the times back in elementary school where I’d do anything to make her smile, sending butterflies into my stomach. And while those feelings are not caught by choice, I suppose being in a relationship with someone of the same gender is. TLDR, the feelings caught are not by choice, though I guess you can say that willingly dating someone despite being the same gender is an option. (Just want to add rq that if I sound rude in this reply, I don’t mean to. I’m just sharing my thoughts and such)
I identify as queer because figuring things out in detail is mind melting. I just know i am the way i am and dont feel the need to look deeper? But im not out to my parents, since my mum still strongly believes that queer is a bad word. When i say it in passing she just goes 'oh, dont use that awful word.' I get that in her generation it wasnt used nicely, but things change 🫡
Queer is also just an umbrella term for someone who falls under the LGBTQ+ label! It is often used to mean genderqueer, but can also mean things like sexuality
It's not my trauma. It takes a lot to say that, and it's so meaningful, to put a stop on a train of generational thought and trauma that you won't inherit. It's so meaningful, I didn't realize I needed to hear someone being like that
A part of me hopes that one day we'll have a society where people can be like (example) Cisgender male just gets a boyfriend and introduces him to friends & family without "coming out" or "labels" because no one expected him to like women just because he's male. This would go all ways for all identities, but things would be a lot more casual & chill rather such a big deal as they are right now (obviously this is in an accepting society)
this is a concept i love so much. but sadly it only exists in extremely open minded families and places, where the child already knows the parents don't need them to come out, and will accept them regardless of who they are and who they love. i often feel like gender and sexuality is too culturally integrated into who a person is. i'm a bisexual trans man, but i'm still the same person as i was when i was a 12 year old, still wondering whether the gender i was assigned is the right thing for me, just matured into who i was always meant to be.
My whole class but not me r saying : ur gay I rlly don’t like the fact that there using that and to girl they use ur lesbian They wanna only cool cuz in my county it’s cool to vape and bully ppl with gay or lesbian If someone askes me do u like that boy I say: no I’m bi and I’m with a girl Than they say: eww just admit your lesbian it’s so gross your gross And that kinda hurts me and I’m glad ppl in this chat r not homofobic atleast I hope so
This is what I hope for the future as well. I think to get there though, more and more of us need to keep coming out publicly - but only those who feel comfortable and safe doing so of course! The more people who can say “I know someone who is queer and they’re ok”, the more the collective thinking of our societies will change. We need numbers. With numbers comes greater visibility, understanding, and acceptance. And with that comes greater influence and power to change legislation and increase freedoms. And here’s the thing. Bisexuals and unlabelled folks in particular could be instrumental in bringing about this change. Statistically, we far outnumber gays, lesbians, trans, etc. combined. Yet we tend to be far more closeted. Many of us are in straight-facing relationships, enjoying the privileges of passing in a cis-het world. If we started a grass-roots effort to encourage and support bisexuals and unlabelled people to come out, I think we would be amazed at how quickly queerness would be normalized. We would be well on our way to a world where labels and coming out are a thing of the past.
My moms preferred queer because of the common protest chant: "We're here, we're queer! Get used to it!" And it kinda just stuck with all us kids. So even our cis het sibs are queer because they are aggressive allies and wear whatever they want because clothes have no gender so people often assume they're not cis or het. I wanna say they only correct that notion when someone is the same gender asks them out. It's adorable because they're always so flattered. My brother once sighed and said he wished he was gay because the guy that asked him out was a new kid in the area that he'd already considered a great friend. But he just didn't think of him like that and whined that is that friend was a girl, he'd probably be drooling over a 'chick that was into all the same things he was' the way his buddy was. They're still friends btw
I love this, this is my thoughts exactly, label or don’t label urself as whatever u want and use whatever labels in whatever as long as they are correct and sincere usages in whatever way u want, I identify as queer to myself and to friends, but when i come out to people I generally say bisexual just because its a readily understandable term, still too much for my Christo-loony family to accept me but at least it was clear cut and explained just by the use of one word. Queer has been used as a word among others to insult me in my childhood originating community but me using it in a positive and voluntary way has disarmed it for me, i still get called a f-slur but i feel like that word is almost comically overused at this point that some of its potency has been lost through that.
Youre so real for this. Self education is very important and its okay to ask for help when you dont understand. Same for trauma- we understand bad things happen and you can ask us to tone down but don't get pissy with us for being a human being. :) If you read this I hope you have/had a good day.
So well said. When I was discovering myself there were none then few words/categories/ labels....I hated and still dislike labels. Ask the younger generations are figuring themselves out and we have become a spectrum instead of a few slotted boxes I find that I understand myself better over time even though I've been an adult for a quarter of a century (damn😮). Just keep on being your wonderful self❤❤❤
i personally do not call myself gay due to growing up being bullied or even fetishized for it, but i DO use queer because it was a bit outdated by the time i got to middle school s it was never used against me!
This was a great explanation for ppl who need it i think!! Also loved the part where you said you don't have to have a label or it can change bc it's so true. And also true that no one NEEDS to know your sexuality unless you wanna share!! It's kinda nuts how entitled ppl on the internet can be when it comes to knowing things like that about strangers
I felt you saying that you didn’t want to identify as gay or bisexual so hard. When I was first figuring out who I was, there was immense pressure to pick one of those two labels. But queer is the best label for me, so thank you for making this video :)
I'm queer, let's be clear, when I say the word queer, I don't only mean eccatric or weird and let me tell you all that I'm being sencire, when I say that there's nothing wrong about being queer
Btw, I feel like I need to note that the original was written by John on the Thomas Sanders (or the Thomas Sanders and friends, I'm not sure) channel on video "sing it" or something similar. The original song can also be found if you TH-cam "I'm gay, Thomas Sanders"... I just modified the second verse
I love the fact that you're very transparent secondly you take the time to explain your standing or why you feel a certain way without disrespecting anyone it's admirable
I couldn't agree more! The reason I use queer myself is because its easier than explaining where I am regarding gender, sexually, and who I find attraction for, plus its not most folks business to begin with. So I'm queer ❤
Does anyone ever ask if you're gay or queer though?(like this is a real question though) Plus, I would think to myself at least in the modern day and times they would not care to ask in the slightest bit because, one it truly doesn't matter and two most people are way too preoccupied to be worried about that.
@@For_The-namesakesnake Not OP but I do have people ask this, and a lot of my queer (and even cis/straight) friends get that question a lot, too. People care more than you think! More than I used to think as well 😅
@@For_The-namesakesnake I dont get out much anymore but back when I did, oh yeah absolutely, I think its a combo of general curiosity, leading into the pronouns question (more people care about others pronouns than bigots would let on), and wanting to know if you're safe, if you're compatible with them or their friends (and if they can hook you up with said friends lol), and some folks unfortunately care because they are bigots, and the more they know the more targeted their abuse is.
I would say I'm bi. I know some people hate labels but for me at least I love it. Having a label after not knowing for so long just felt like I was at ease finally and didn't have to worry. I'm really proud of my bi label but I get it if you don't want to label yourself. I've always seen Queer as like a LGBTQ+ blanket term in a way? Like you're questioning your sexuality cause you're sure you're not straight but none of the labels appeal? Maybe try using Queer as a blanket term for now and see how you feel? Thats the way I've interpreted it.
I usually refer to myself as bi when speaking or bi/pan when writing but I also use queer a lot. I haven’t really figured out if bi or pan fits better for me so I like the vagueness of queer. I can just be me, and like who I like, and focus less on trying to figure out which label applies. 😊
Thank you so much for this video :> You explain things in a way that’s easy for me to understand, and I really value that. I had been wondering for so long what “queer” actually meant, and hearing your definition helped clear up some of my confusion. I hope that if you see this, you know that you are helping make a lot of people’s day better, mine included. So thank you!!!
A loved one of mine is an elderly LGBTQIA community member who laments that "gay" became the acceptable term and wishes that "homo" had been chosen instead. 'Homo' is short for homosexual which is not a bad word and matches with "hetero" and "bi". "Gay" to Frederic's point was and is a slur, right up there with "funny" "silly" "skippy" (all real btw). But also to Frederic's point, langauge is fluid, much like sexuality and gender identity.
" you don't go up to a stranger and ask there sexuality" meanwhile middle schoolers at my school: some random person: " what's ur sexuality?" The other random person: " oh I'm bi :)" 😂😂😂
Same. I like using the word queer cause it is a term that was never used in my country and growing up the terms gay and lesbi was always used like swear words that you use to insult others.
This is EXACTLY my experience w the term queer as well. I’ve been through so many labels and they’ve all felt too restrictive and just not right for me. I feel like I’m constantly changing and growing and my interests and passions take me all over the place, and oftentimes my identity kind of goes along for the ride as well. Using the term Queer, it feels like it goes beyond sexuality and gender identity, it just encapsulates me and how I see myself and interact with the world. Everything I do is queer because I am queer. It lets me change and grow and still feel and know that I’m being true to myself. Idk, it’s just a very freeing word, it feels less like a label and more just like, a descriptor, if that makes any sense at all? Idk. Also bonus points because the Queer flag is gorgeous
god, I feel exactly like this! queer was never used against me and for myself personally i love having a very broad term. i dont fit into any specific label and i prefer having one that encompasses so much.
Queer is the only label that has stayed with me the entire time I've been questioning my gender identity and sexuality. No matter where I fall on the spectrums between ace & allo or cis & trans or homo & hetero, I *am* Queer. I am not cis or straight & this much I know *for sure*. As for specifics? I'm happy that those who've been searching for the correct labels have found them. I'm happy that we have more words in our vocabulary to describe to others our internal experiences and our attractions. Back when everyone was first having crushes on others & figuring out their personalities and attractions & some folks were (bravely) coming out in high school... I didn't even know that nonbinary was a thing, let alone all the other labels that have come into existence. That isn’t to say it didn't already exist. I mean, I existed in my weird "not like other xyz", hating the overly gendered colors and clothing pieces that I was sometimes forced to wear and the weirdness I felt saying I was my agab. But the terms weren’t there to describe that feeling to everyone else around us, at least, not that I knew of. So it's nice that we *have* them now. Still, that doesn't mean anyone has to utilize them if they don’t want to or has to stick to one that they chose previously if they’ve found a new one that fits better. Labels are changeable, just as much as our genders and sexuality are fluid. Thankfully, Queer exists as an umbrella term because while there are some that fit *more* than others, none of them feel like me. I guess the closest would be gendervoid but even then it feels... *limiting*. Like a box I have to fill. So.
Thank you! I prefer saying I’m queer because explaining to every single person what pan is and what it means to me personally only to hear them say “I don’t get it isn’t that just bi?” is exhausting. I don’t like calling myself gay because technically I’m not, I can’t say I’m straight. Queer fits, it’s simple, and it’s not a rigid definition where people can tell me what it means and that I’m wrong for using it or that I should be using a different term. Also your makeup is stunning and I love it so much 🥰
Honestly adore your channel and that look is so beautifully done!! Although tbh the poppin green eye is giving bullseye the target dog, my brain couldn't ignore it. Still loving all your looks and thank you for your activism for the community ❤
1) Your look is gorgeous😍 2) I identify as queer, because I like that this word is all-encompassing, and even if I can also identify as biromantic ace, I don't necessarily want to go into specifics, and I am not necessarily feeling the same day to day. What I definitely know is that I'm not heterosexual, so queer fits perfectly for me personally.
I absolutely love your eye glasses lanyard. It frames your face beautifully and the makeup is really lovely on your pretty face! And I love the cute flower lamp !
i’m more comfortable just saying i’m bi now, but i used to say bi/queer. bc i was in a constant state of feeling like i needed to validate myself due to the biphobia i saw online, i felt like queer have me more breathing room! now i just say im a queer person, and i’m good with saying bi is my sexuality specifically. i love that queer has been reclaimed. i’m so glad you said that fruity and zesty are used as slurs. i feel like young kids online have gotten too comfortable using them to describe someone 😭
I call myself queer because it not only describes my sexuality and gender, it also applies to the other ways I don’t fit into society like being autistic, ADHD and fat. Those aspects of myself have been perceived as ‘queer’ so I choose to use that label for myself
Thanks for talking about this! I never really found a label that I really liked and queer always felt the most like me. I do get a lot of shit from other people in the community for it so Im glad you are explaining this
I love your makeup- and nobody asked me- but I think it would’ve been even better if the natural side was a brighter color too! Like a pop of orange instead of neutral browns. I say this because i can’t stop staring at the blue eye like it’s 10x bigger 😂!
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I am so on board with this! I myself have a very complicated relationship with my gender and sexuality that is. SO difficult to explain the nuances of to anyone who isnt as genderweird or mspec as me, so i default to using queer because its just easier. Id rather spend my time socializing and talking about things i love over the nuances of what my gender is
Queer squad!!! I also personally feel like queer is both an identity…and a philosophy almost? Like yeah, sexuality isn’t a choice, gender isn’t a choice, but to me *queer* is about the *choice* to embrace the outside of the norm. To me, it’s looking the “gay people just want to be normal and live a normal life!” rhetoric in the eyes and saying, “yes, and for those people, I hope they get to live the life they want. But my fight does not end there. My fight is for the right of people who have NO DESIRE (or perhaps no ability) to live inside the norm to have the right to live their lives happily in peace.” Being queer to me is about wanting to do away with the idea that one’s identity must fit prescriptive factors that can be generalized to be understood by others in order to be valid. I love the “label” queer with how free it is. I didn’t leave one community that told me how I should be who I am only to find ANOTHER community to tell me who to be (now with the New and Improved Girlkissing update!!). I just want to be free of those expectations and queer gave that to me 🥰 Lots of love 💕
I actually do like labels....and I have a lot of them. 😅 I use queer for myself both because that is what I am, and also as an umbrella term for all of MY labels. It's a very useful term.
I personaly don't think it's neccessarily wrong to ask someone aboit their sexuality/gender, I just think it's about accepting if someone doesn't want to disclose it and not dwelling on it
Words are words you use the ones that are more comfortable to you I guess... I'm actually heterosexual so I can't understand what you guys go through ^^ BUT YOUR MAKEUP IS JUST AMAZING I think man should start using makeup queer or not, it's art, it's pretty and it's such a nice way to express yourself
I usually say that I'm queer because I have SO MANY labels. I only go into specifics if you want to hear a nuanced take on my gender and its relation to my sexuality
"I'd rather just be not normal" Same, but also, What *is* normal but a standard that restricts individuality? Be you. There is no normal. No one tries to be not normal, people try to be normal, and it's a goalpost that is moved on every axis wherever you almost reach it. But if you take your attention off that goalpost, there is no goalpost to be seen. It has no real meaning, therefore it doesn't exist. The goal is to live as authentically as possible, and understand what you mean to yourself.
also ur label is allowed to not necessarily be accurate if that makes sense example: i use the terms biromantic and demiaroace however, some more accurate terms would be panromantic and grey-aroace but i dont like the assumptions that people make abt my sexuality with those terms and i prefer the terms i use
For me personally I think you become Queer when you stop letting your gender or people stop you from doing whet you want to do. ❤ Queer simply means Unique or special. 😊
I also prefer that my sexuality is labeled with one definition. For me it's hard to define myself as being bisexual. I don't like just male and female, I am just attracted to attributes that can be on both. It's my own preferences that cannot be defined in a simply.😅 :)
When it comes to queer, I never use it for someone I don't know because many people don't like it. BUT I will use it for myself because it's what feels good to me.
“Queer” was definitely a slur along with “gay” where I’m from, but I use both terms and I use queer all the time as an umbrella term for myself or for the community in general. I’d say it’s definitely a reclaimed term at this point
I feel the same way most people would consider me a lesbian but my feelings and my gender identity fluctuate so much that ive just started saying im queer gay or i like girls because thats the olny constant thing for me i find i worry about it less when i dont have a specific label
i have my very specific labels and if i’m speaking that in depth i’ll use them but it’s way quicker and easier to say i’m queer than to talk about my gender non conforming trans male asexual panromantic self, especially if we’re talking specifics of transition and that sort of thing. also because i appear to be a cishet man a lot of the time.
I refer to myself as queer because I'm not one to get hung up on small things like labels. I'm allowed to like whoever I want and go by whatever I want, and I shouldn't have to go into extreme detail just for someone to understand that. As long as it makes you happy and doesn't hurt anyone, do whatever you want! 🫶🏽
What if I want to ask your sexuality because I'm interested 🧐 No Im kidding, you're pretty but I've got someone else on my mind. I dont actually know my gender, I use she/her pronouns in person but online I find myself leaning toward more male characters and OCs. I'm not gender fluid because I adore dressing pretty, I guess... Maybe I just want the male parts? This may sound weird or dumb or offensive but I think I want the male parts for the pleasure. But I don't think I could give up dressing pretty. It just wouldn't make sense to transition because a) I'm not even sure if it would be the same effect and b) because taking the time to become male, but still use pretty clothes seems counter intuitive. But I still loving making and using/playing as male OCs. For this reason, I am genderqueer (until I figure out what to actually call it) with she/her pronouns and a lot of... _pent up energy_
“your label is allowed to change” this was super great to hear as a young queer person :) im figuring out my validity as a person and a label that works for me and this was really nice to hear :) thanks
This I fully agree with my teacher said it takes time so don't worry about it too much you will find out eventually
Same ive always felt like i had to put a label on it but these types of videos help me realize i dont need to if i dont want to
Same :)
Your makeup is absolutely gorgeous!
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@@FredericChenyou looking like a clown and that’s an understatement 💀😭
Ikr!❤
Feel the exact same way! Don’t like using gay cause i grew up in a world where it was used as something to be laughed at.
I never felt like it was „cool“ to be gay and others saw themselves as something better. (It was never really talked abt in media and if it was, it was something to make fun of a lot of the time.) I turned out never identifying with the term because of it.
Goes to say: the trauma you faced and the way terms are used in you surroundings effect how you perceive them and how you feel like using them later in life.
@ville__ It really isn’t. I cannot speak for everyone, though through my (and many others’) experience, it has never been a choice. I’m not gay, though I’ve been attracted to many different people throughout my life, regardless of their gender. For example, my first crush was my (at the time) best friend who was a girl (I’d like to add the context that during this time I was often seen as a girl also, despite feeling differently). We haven’t been in contact for a long time, though I still remember the times back in elementary school where I’d do anything to make her smile, sending butterflies into my stomach. And while those feelings are not caught by choice, I suppose being in a relationship with someone of the same gender is.
TLDR, the feelings caught are not by choice, though I guess you can say that willingly dating someone despite being the same gender is an option.
(Just want to add rq that if I sound rude in this reply, I don’t mean to. I’m just sharing my thoughts and such)
I identify as queer because figuring things out in detail is mind melting. I just know i am the way i am and dont feel the need to look deeper? But im not out to my parents, since my mum still strongly believes that queer is a bad word. When i say it in passing she just goes 'oh, dont use that awful word.' I get that in her generation it wasnt used nicely, but things change 🫡
“Are you straight or gay?”
“I’m odd.”
That’s my own reason for going with queer lol
“Are you gay or straight?” ***Im worst*** -Brandon Rogers
Queer is also just an umbrella term for someone who falls under the LGBTQ+ label! It is often used to mean genderqueer, but can also mean things like sexuality
It's not my trauma.
It takes a lot to say that, and it's so meaningful, to put a stop on a train of generational thought and trauma that you won't inherit. It's so meaningful, I didn't realize I needed to hear someone being like that
A part of me hopes that one day we'll have a society where people can be like (example)
Cisgender male just gets a boyfriend and introduces him to friends & family without "coming out" or "labels" because no one expected him to like women just because he's male.
This would go all ways for all identities, but things would be a lot more casual & chill rather such a big deal as they are right now (obviously this is in an accepting society)
this is a concept i love so much. but sadly it only exists in extremely open minded families and places, where the child already knows the parents don't need them to come out, and will accept them regardless of who they are and who they love. i often feel like gender and sexuality is too culturally integrated into who a person is. i'm a bisexual trans man, but i'm still the same person as i was when i was a 12 year old, still wondering whether the gender i was assigned is the right thing for me, just matured into who i was always meant to be.
I feel the same
My whole class but not me r saying : ur gay
I rlly don’t like the fact that there using that and to girl they use ur lesbian
They wanna only cool cuz in my county it’s cool to vape and bully ppl with gay or lesbian
If someone askes me do u like that boy I say: no I’m bi and I’m with a girl
Than they say: eww just admit your lesbian it’s so gross your gross
And that kinda hurts me and I’m glad ppl in this chat r not homofobic atleast I hope so
@ville__ So is being a homophobe. Read a science book and educate yourself on the facts about gender and sexuality. The more you know 💫
This is what I hope for the future as well. I think to get there though, more and more of us need to keep coming out publicly - but only those who feel comfortable and safe doing so of course!
The more people who can say “I know someone who is queer and they’re ok”, the more the collective thinking of our societies will change.
We need numbers. With numbers comes greater visibility, understanding, and acceptance. And with that comes greater influence and power to change legislation and increase freedoms.
And here’s the thing. Bisexuals and unlabelled folks in particular could be instrumental in bringing about this change. Statistically, we far outnumber gays, lesbians, trans, etc. combined. Yet we tend to be far more closeted. Many of us are in straight-facing relationships, enjoying the privileges of passing in a cis-het world. If we started a grass-roots effort to encourage and support bisexuals and unlabelled people to come out, I think we would be amazed at how quickly queerness would be normalized.
We would be well on our way to a world where labels and coming out are a thing of the past.
My moms preferred queer because of the common protest chant: "We're here, we're queer! Get used to it!"
And it kinda just stuck with all us kids. So even our cis het sibs are queer because they are aggressive allies and wear whatever they want because clothes have no gender so people often assume they're not cis or het. I wanna say they only correct that notion when someone is the same gender asks them out. It's adorable because they're always so flattered. My brother once sighed and said he wished he was gay because the guy that asked him out was a new kid in the area that he'd already considered a great friend. But he just didn't think of him like that and whined that is that friend was a girl, he'd probably be drooling over a 'chick that was into all the same things he was' the way his buddy was.
They're still friends btw
This is the most wholesome story. Thanks so much for sharing. I love all of this. ❤
I love this, this is my thoughts exactly, label or don’t label urself as whatever u want and use whatever labels in whatever as long as they are correct and sincere usages in whatever way u want, I identify as queer to myself and to friends, but when i come out to people I generally say bisexual just because its a readily understandable term, still too much for my Christo-loony family to accept me but at least it was clear cut and explained just by the use of one word. Queer has been used as a word among others to insult me in my childhood originating community but me using it in a positive and voluntary way has disarmed it for me, i still get called a f-slur but i feel like that word is almost comically overused at this point that some of its potency has been lost through that.
I’m mostly listening but I’m also a litttleeee “oooh pretty glasses accessory :o”
A beautiful human being saying what's what in the simplest way, I wish more people would just be chill regarding others' journeys
Youre so real for this. Self education is very important and its okay to ask for help when you dont understand. Same for trauma- we understand bad things happen and you can ask us to tone down but don't get pissy with us for being a human being. :)
If you read this I hope you have/had a good day.
I felt the same about gay and it took a lot of work to unlearn that.
So well said. When I was discovering myself there were none then few words/categories/ labels....I hated and still dislike labels.
Ask the younger generations are figuring themselves out and we have become a spectrum instead of a few slotted boxes I find that I understand myself better over time even though I've been an adult for a quarter of a century (damn😮).
Just keep on being your wonderful self❤❤❤
i personally do not call myself gay due to growing up being bullied or even fetishized for it, but i DO use queer because it was a bit outdated by the time i got to middle school s it was never used against me!
This was a great explanation for ppl who need it i think!! Also loved the part where you said you don't have to have a label or it can change bc it's so true. And also true that no one NEEDS to know your sexuality unless you wanna share!! It's kinda nuts how entitled ppl on the internet can be when it comes to knowing things like that about strangers
I felt you saying that you didn’t want to identify as gay or bisexual so hard. When I was first figuring out who I was, there was immense pressure to pick one of those two labels. But queer is the best label for me, so thank you for making this video :)
Thank you, this is spot on for me and why I use this term for myself 😊
Yes! I don't feel the need to be specific when I tell others my identity or sexuality so queer works for me.
This is something that definitely need to be heard by others!
I'm queer,
let's be clear,
when I say the word queer,
I don't only mean eccatric or weird
and let me tell you all that I'm being sencire,
when I say that there's nothing wrong about being queer
Btw, I feel like I need to note that the original was written by John on the
Thomas Sanders (or the Thomas Sanders and friends, I'm not sure) channel on video "sing it" or something similar. The original song can also be found if you TH-cam "I'm gay, Thomas Sanders"... I just modified the second verse
I love the fact that you're very transparent secondly you take the time to explain your standing or why you feel a certain way without disrespecting anyone it's admirable
I couldn't agree more! The reason I use queer myself is because its easier than explaining where I am regarding gender, sexually, and who I find attraction for, plus its not most folks business to begin with. So I'm queer ❤
Does anyone ever ask if you're gay or queer though?(like this is a real question though) Plus, I would think to myself at least in the modern day and times they would not care to ask in the slightest bit because, one it truly doesn't matter and two most people are way too preoccupied to be worried about that.
@@For_The-namesakesnake Not OP but I do have people ask this, and a lot of my queer (and even cis/straight) friends get that question a lot, too. People care more than you think! More than I used to think as well 😅
@@For_The-namesakesnake I dont get out much anymore but back when I did, oh yeah absolutely, I think its a combo of general curiosity, leading into the pronouns question (more people care about others pronouns than bigots would let on), and wanting to know if you're safe, if you're compatible with them or their friends (and if they can hook you up with said friends lol), and some folks unfortunately care because they are bigots, and the more they know the more targeted their abuse is.
As a straight person i rate this 8/10
Most reasonable Lgbtq+ person I have seen today.
YOU'RE SO PRETTY I LOVE YOUR MAKEUP SO MUCH!!!
I would say I'm bi. I know some people hate labels but for me at least I love it. Having a label after not knowing for so long just felt like I was at ease finally and didn't have to worry. I'm really proud of my bi label but I get it if you don't want to label yourself.
I've always seen Queer as like a LGBTQ+ blanket term in a way? Like you're questioning your sexuality cause you're sure you're not straight but none of the labels appeal? Maybe try using Queer as a blanket term for now and see how you feel? Thats the way I've interpreted it.
I usually refer to myself as bi when speaking or bi/pan when writing but I also use queer a lot. I haven’t really figured out if bi or pan fits better for me so I like the vagueness of queer. I can just be me, and like who I like, and focus less on trying to figure out which label applies. 😊
Thank you so much for this video :>
You explain things in a way that’s easy for me to understand, and I really value that.
I had been wondering for so long what “queer” actually meant, and hearing your definition helped clear up some of my confusion.
I hope that if you see this, you know that you are helping make a lot of people’s day better, mine included.
So thank you!!!
A loved one of mine is an elderly LGBTQIA community member who laments that "gay" became the acceptable term and wishes that "homo" had been chosen instead.
'Homo' is short for homosexual which is not a bad word and matches with "hetero" and "bi".
"Gay" to Frederic's point was and is a slur, right up there with "funny" "silly" "skippy" (all real btw).
But also to Frederic's point, langauge is fluid, much like sexuality and gender identity.
“I’d rather be not normal”
One of my fav words spoken by you 💅❤️
" you don't go up to a stranger and ask there sexuality"
meanwhile middle schoolers at my school: some random person: " what's ur sexuality?"
The other random person: " oh I'm bi :)"
😂😂😂
I identify as queer too! I am so glad you addressed this!
Same. I like using the word queer cause it is a term that was never used in my country and growing up the terms gay and lesbi was always used like swear words that you use to insult others.
"I'd rather just be not normal"
This is now my absolute favorite quote of all time
This is EXACTLY my experience w the term queer as well. I’ve been through so many labels and they’ve all felt too restrictive and just not right for me. I feel like I’m constantly changing and growing and my interests and passions take me all over the place, and oftentimes my identity kind of goes along for the ride as well. Using the term Queer, it feels like it goes beyond sexuality and gender identity, it just encapsulates me and how I see myself and interact with the world. Everything I do is queer because I am queer. It lets me change and grow and still feel and know that I’m being true to myself. Idk, it’s just a very freeing word, it feels less like a label and more just like, a descriptor, if that makes any sense at all? Idk.
Also bonus points because the Queer flag is gorgeous
That makeup is so fire!!!
Thank you!! This was all so well said!! I've sort of gone down a rabbit hole of your vids. You're awesome! 🎉 🦄
god, I feel exactly like this! queer was never used against me and for myself personally i love having a very broad term. i dont fit into any specific label and i prefer having one that encompasses so much.
Queer is the only label that has stayed with me the entire time I've been questioning my gender identity and sexuality. No matter where I fall on the spectrums between ace & allo or cis & trans or homo & hetero, I *am* Queer. I am not cis or straight & this much I know *for sure*.
As for specifics? I'm happy that those who've been searching for the correct labels have found them. I'm happy that we have more words in our vocabulary to describe to others our internal experiences and our attractions. Back when everyone was first having crushes on others & figuring out their personalities and attractions & some folks were (bravely) coming out in high school... I didn't even know that nonbinary was a thing, let alone all the other labels that have come into existence. That isn’t to say it didn't already exist. I mean, I existed in my weird "not like other xyz", hating the overly gendered colors and clothing pieces that I was sometimes forced to wear and the weirdness I felt saying I was my agab. But the terms weren’t there to describe that feeling to everyone else around us, at least, not that I knew of. So it's nice that we *have* them now. Still, that doesn't mean anyone has to utilize them if they don’t want to or has to stick to one that they chose previously if they’ve found a new one that fits better. Labels are changeable, just as much as our genders and sexuality are fluid.
Thankfully, Queer exists as an umbrella term because while there are some that fit *more* than others, none of them feel like me. I guess the closest would be gendervoid but even then it feels... *limiting*. Like a box I have to fill. So.
OMG!
I just want to thank you for all the happiness you give your videos you bring light and love into the universe ❤
Your glasses are adorable, and your makeup looks even better-
The jewelry and the makeup is gorgeous
I wish I could meet you I love your content and it helps me so much to not feel weird in public by acting gay❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you! I prefer saying I’m queer because explaining to every single person what pan is and what it means to me personally only to hear them say “I don’t get it isn’t that just bi?” is exhausting. I don’t like calling myself gay because technically I’m not, I can’t say I’m straight.
Queer fits, it’s simple, and it’s not a rigid definition where people can tell me what it means and that I’m wrong for using it or that I should be using a different term.
Also your makeup is stunning and I love it so much 🥰
This really helped me thank you 🤍
If ppl are “queer” or “zesty” they’re allowed to use the words even if u don’t like it
Honestly adore your channel and that look is so beautifully done!! Although tbh the poppin green eye is giving bullseye the target dog, my brain couldn't ignore it. Still loving all your looks and thank you for your activism for the community ❤
Your makeup always makes me happy when I dont feel so great. its beautiful and magical 😭💗you have magical fairy powers....i cant even explain it .
1) Your look is gorgeous😍 2) I identify as queer, because I like that this word is all-encompassing, and even if I can also identify as biromantic ace, I don't necessarily want to go into specifics, and I am not necessarily feeling the same day to day. What I definitely know is that I'm not heterosexual, so queer fits perfectly for me personally.
Your glasses look so good omg where did you get them?
warby Parker, it’s linked in my bio
thank you you look stunnimg btw@@FredericChen
I love love love how thorough u r
I absolutely love your eye glasses lanyard. It frames your face beautifully and the makeup is really lovely on your pretty face! And I love the cute flower lamp !
I like to call myself "Double queer", because I am weird and part of the LGBTQ community!
i’m more comfortable just saying i’m bi now, but i used to say bi/queer. bc i was in a constant state of feeling like i needed to validate myself due to the biphobia i saw online, i felt like queer have me more breathing room! now i just say im a queer person, and i’m good with saying bi is my sexuality specifically. i love that queer has been reclaimed.
i’m so glad you said that fruity and zesty are used as slurs. i feel like young kids online have gotten too comfortable using them to describe someone 😭
i absolutely agree
the whole look is beautiful btw love it
Darling, as long as there's mutual respect and consent, spend your time with whoever strikes your fancy.❤
Your in depth video about umbrella bisexuality helped me to finally find a label I’m comfortable with: Polysexual. Thank you 🩷
Love the glasses with the heart pieces.
Yeah I had to watch twice. Couldn't focus on anything but his makeup the first time
Is this a compliment or what? Im sorry im horrible at telling these sort of things 😭😭
@@brídeann I meant it like a compliment lol
@@nunya2587 oh good lol. sorry I’m horrible at this 😭
I call myself queer because it not only describes my sexuality and gender, it also applies to the other ways I don’t fit into society like being autistic, ADHD and fat. Those aspects of myself have been perceived as ‘queer’ so I choose to use that label for myself
By mistake slipped into gay side of yt💀
I love you!! You’re such an inspiration I’ve learned a lot from your videos and I also have four cats!!
Glitter eye look slays on you 💅
YEEEESSSSSS thats so facts and I can never articulate it that well
Your make up and hair style is so cute I love it
Thanks for talking about this! I never really found a label that I really liked and queer always felt the most like me. I do get a lot of shit from other people in the community for it so Im glad you are explaining this
I love your makeup- and nobody asked me- but I think it would’ve been even better if the natural side was a brighter color too! Like a pop of orange instead of neutral browns. I say this because i can’t stop staring at the blue eye like it’s 10x bigger 😂!
Queer was an olden day word for strange or odd, or curious
Now there are many labels for it
And they are all amazing
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The dangly stuff on your glasses is so cute
I am so on board with this! I myself have a very complicated relationship with my gender and sexuality that is. SO difficult to explain the nuances of to anyone who isnt as genderweird or mspec as me, so i default to using queer because its just easier. Id rather spend my time socializing and talking about things i love over the nuances of what my gender is
Thank you for the explanation I was a bit confused on what queer meant also I love your makeup looks you do and your cool
You gave me happiness❤🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Queer squad!!!
I also personally feel like queer is both an identity…and a philosophy almost? Like yeah, sexuality isn’t a choice, gender isn’t a choice, but to me *queer* is about the *choice* to embrace the outside of the norm.
To me, it’s looking the “gay people just want to be normal and live a normal life!” rhetoric in the eyes and saying, “yes, and for those people, I hope they get to live the life they want. But my fight does not end there. My fight is for the right of people who have NO DESIRE (or perhaps no ability) to live inside the norm to have the right to live their lives happily in peace.” Being queer to me is about wanting to do away with the idea that one’s identity must fit prescriptive factors that can be generalized to be understood by others in order to be valid. I love the “label” queer with how free it is. I didn’t leave one community that told me how I should be who I am only to find ANOTHER community to tell me who to be (now with the New and Improved Girlkissing update!!). I just want to be free of those expectations and queer gave that to me 🥰
Lots of love 💕
Oh I love this perspective
The makeup hits different in all their videos 💜
Thank you soo much i am a 12 year old in a very conservative town and I love your videos!❤
I actually do like labels....and I have a lot of them. 😅 I use queer for myself both because that is what I am, and also as an umbrella term for all of MY labels. It's a very useful term.
I personaly don't think it's neccessarily wrong to ask someone aboit their sexuality/gender, I just think it's about accepting if someone doesn't want to disclose it and not dwelling on it
This makeup is giving me 55 year old cougar vibes and I love it.
I need to know where you got your glasses chain, because it's absolutely giving.
I always say im queer because I don't want a label. I don't care as long as I can love the person that's all that matters!
Words are words you use the ones that are more comfortable to you I guess... I'm actually heterosexual so I can't understand what you guys go through ^^ BUT YOUR MAKEUP IS JUST AMAZING I think man should start using makeup queer or not, it's art, it's pretty and it's such a nice way to express yourself
I usually say that I'm queer because I have SO MANY labels. I only go into specifics if you want to hear a nuanced take on my gender and its relation to my sexuality
"I'd rather just be not normal"
Same, but also,
What *is* normal but a standard that restricts individuality? Be you. There is no normal. No one tries to be not normal, people try to be normal, and it's a goalpost that is moved on every axis wherever you almost reach it. But if you take your attention off that goalpost, there is no goalpost to be seen. It has no real meaning, therefore it doesn't exist. The goal is to live as authentically as possible, and understand what you mean to yourself.
also ur label is allowed to not necessarily be accurate if that makes sense
example: i use the terms biromantic and demiaroace however, some more accurate terms would be panromantic and grey-aroace but i dont like the assumptions that people make abt my sexuality with those terms and i prefer the terms i use
For me personally I think you become Queer when you stop letting your gender or people stop you from doing whet you want to do. ❤ Queer simply means Unique or special. 😊
❤ All of this.
And your make up is amazing, too!
You made me find out that I was queer. Thank you! ☆
I also prefer that my sexuality is labeled with one definition.
For me it's hard to define myself as being bisexual. I don't like just male and female, I am just attracted to attributes that can be on both. It's my own preferences that cannot be defined in a simply.😅 :)
When it comes to queer, I never use it for someone I don't know because many people don't like it. BUT I will use it for myself because it's what feels good to me.
“Queer” was definitely a slur along with “gay” where I’m from, but I use both terms and I use queer all the time as an umbrella term for myself or for the community in general. I’d say it’s definitely a reclaimed term at this point
I feel the same way most people would consider me a lesbian but my feelings and my gender identity fluctuate so much that ive just started saying im queer gay or i like girls because thats the olny constant thing for me i find i worry about it less when i dont have a specific label
i have my very specific labels and if i’m speaking that in depth i’ll use them but it’s way quicker and easier to say i’m queer than to talk about my gender non conforming trans male asexual panromantic self, especially if we’re talking specifics of transition and that sort of thing. also because i appear to be a cishet man a lot of the time.
Okay but this outfit is so good though????
I refer to myself as queer because I'm not one to get hung up on small things like labels. I'm allowed to like whoever I want and go by whatever I want, and I shouldn't have to go into extreme detail just for someone to understand that. As long as it makes you happy and doesn't hurt anyone, do whatever you want! 🫶🏽
What if I want to ask your sexuality because I'm interested 🧐
No Im kidding, you're pretty but I've got someone else on my mind.
I dont actually know my gender, I use she/her pronouns in person but online I find myself leaning toward more male characters and OCs. I'm not gender fluid because I adore dressing pretty, I guess... Maybe I just want the male parts? This may sound weird or dumb or offensive but I think I want the male parts for the pleasure. But I don't think I could give up dressing pretty. It just wouldn't make sense to transition because a) I'm not even sure if it would be the same effect and b) because taking the time to become male, but still use pretty clothes seems counter intuitive. But I still loving making and using/playing as male OCs. For this reason, I am genderqueer (until I figure out what to actually call it) with she/her pronouns and a lot of... _pent up energy_
I use queer as i change a lot from lesbian to bi to anything i want to 😊
Can you do a hair tutorial I love your hair!
This is the best explanation I've ever heard！！！