learning how to fail
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 มี.ค. 2023
- Learning to embrace failure is one of the hardest things we will have to do. Sometimes it takes years to even be open to the idea of it, but once you learn how to fail and take rejection, you will open yourself up to so many opportunities that you never even knew existed.
I hope one day you find the courage to push through the discomfort that comes with this process:)
Love youu,
Michelle
Hello my lovely people
Grew up being the student that always did well, got awards, was told "I was gonna go places", seemingly always had things figured out. Only to graduate high school and be completely confused as to what I want to do with my life. Now I'm just watching everybody around me attend university/have jobs while I'm just here, stuck and feeling like a failure, and yes it's especially harder because I've never really had to deal with this feeling.
trust me I know exactly how you feel, and ive never related so much to a comment😭 its hard comparing yourself to people that doing that things that you thought you wanted for yourself. But trust me, you know what is best for you, and your future self will thank you for following your gut, even when there are moments where it feels like you're stuck
Life has its own way of working out, even if it wasn’t your intended plan. I know it’s hard, feeling like you should be somewhere else right now than where you are. We tend to fantasize “what ifs” too. I think of it like maybe now isn’t the time and maybe my future self can handle that situation better than present me can. Even thought you may not get what you want now, you still might get it in the future ❤ we just gotta hang in there
@@MichelleGia I'm glad you could relate! And yes, that's what I keep telling myself, that I'm doing what's best for me.
@@alexisb646 I love this perspective sm bc it's sooo true! Thank you for sharing
@@nicoyahoulton No problem! I try to tell myself this everyday because I'm not fully happy where i am right now either. Just making little progresses day by day and trusting the process. I'm learning to accept where i am right now! :)
I think the problem we have is labels. We fail, we succeed, these things do not define us. All we can do is keep trying our best until we reach our goals.
you said it perfectly❤️ Thank you!!
We must fail in order for us to grow and learn in our life.Thank you for this video!
Yes exactly🥰and of course!
People rarely talk about things going wrong. We must truly embrace our failures, they make us who we are. Taking risks is the only way to find success
yes exactly❤️ thank you for the lovely comment!
I always looked at failure this way: the more I fail, the better I get. So at some point I started really embracing the failures of my life, as THEY are actually the way around the obstacles. Failures are great, it just depends on how we use them.
i literally love this comment sm, thank you
I resonate with this so much 😭 I worked so hard in HS to be a top student, but once I got to college something broke in me and it honestly feels like my brain has regressed… I just feel dumb all the time now :( currently in a soul sucking and draining job but have made it a goal to go back for grad school and try to regain an interest in actually learning. Honestly the fear of rejection is holding me back but it’s better to have tried and failed than not have tried at all :) thanks so much for your videos Michelle and being so raw and authentic
I understand you completely:( I know without a doubt you will figure it out. This stage def sucks, but it’s all a part of the process❤️ just be easy on yourself and take your time:) wishing you all the best!!
Your videos has been a huge source of comfort for me. My first year of college, I was very hopeful and motivated. Then the pandemic hit and my life has been a rollercoaster of the highest highs and the lowest lows. The last two years have been so difficult. Right now I am a senior who will be graduating in December.I try to take it day by day. I am so proud if I can make it through the day without a panic attack. Thank you for sharing your personal life and it can't be easy to be authentic on the internet. I can't wait to see more of your content!!!
Hii I’m so sorry you went through that:( I know how you feel, and trust me you are not alone. The pandemic was no joke and you should be so proud of yourself for being able to get through that, even if it seems like things haven’t turned around yet. Please be easy on yourself during this time❤️ I’m also so so proud of you for being able to get through the days, and I hope you feel better soon. I know you will do great:)
& I appreciate you taking the time to watch and comment, it means a lot!
I failed a unit in Uni this semester and I thought it was the end of the world for me and that I would fail the rest of my units. On top of that, it will take me 4 more years to graduate as I can't do full-time anymore and switch to part-time. I was shocked, sick to my stomach and I cried, which I felt like a failure, but honestly, god has plans and I feel like part-time would be a lot better for me as I stress out so much and it gives me anxiety. Pray for me that I do well.
Another banger 🔥 ..it is weirdly freeing when you've been on easy mode too long and just say " f*ck it, I might fail & go broke but I have to pursue my dreams". Stressful too though 😅
hahaha exactly, life is too short to be living on the safe side all the time:) theres challenges to both paths, but might as well pick the struggle youre more passionate about
@@MichelleGia is your struggle something art related by any chance?
I’m an IB student in school and nobody around me has the mental capacity to “fail”. I have the CAS project now and it’s so difficult! If you’re an IB student you’d know how hard it is.
The fear of rejection and failure has stopped me from doing so many things I wanted to, because I was afraid. When I took the courage to confront this, even when faced with rejection, I've always felt better knowing that I tried my best. It'll take time and I'm still working on it but I've become more comfortable with facing failure and rejection - and knowing that it'll make me a better person and get me closer to where i want to be.
Thanks for sharing Michelle
yes exactly❤️ ! Im so proud of you for taking the risks girly, I've always admired you for all the dedication you put into the things you did, even if you were unsure at times:) I love you!! Thank you for always being there for me:)
You are very relatable. But I’m kind of the opposite. I’ve failed so many times and i look at myself in a bad way weather it be in school, friendships, or relationships. I blame myself for so much and feel like a burden even though i care so much about these things. I can’t seem to give myself credit for how much I’ve done for others and it doesn’t seem to be enough. Always great hearing your insight on things.❤️
we all mess up in life sometimes, the important thing is to recognize and learn from them:) dont be so hard on yourself❤️ we're all just trying our best with what we know!
Hi Han
Hehe I love you❤️
Labels don’t define you. You are a success put your mind to it and you will receive !
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there is strength in vulnerability, thank you for always creating such a warm and accepting space through your videos. wishing you the best in everything, good luck and take care, michelle !!! sending love and big bear hugs
its always an honour❤️ thank you for being on this journey with me:) your support means everything to me, and I wish you nothing but the best
I appreciate your channel so much thank you for these videos
It's kinda amazing how things that are for you will always circle back as long as you allow them to. I'm working on this project and I'm a complete beginner. I can't start because of how much pressure I'm putting on myself and how much it means to me. Lately I've started failing and tbh it was quite a hit to perfect little me who always got everything right without too much effort, although I am learning to deal with it, this video really spoke to me and told me what I had refused to hear myself say.
Always feels like I’m on FaceTime while watching your videos 😂❤
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You never fail to impress me with these videos. You don't have captivating or exciting editing, or yelling or tons of dopamine inducing things happening on the screen to make you keep watching.
However, your storytelling, your authenticity, your relatability and your ability to form and articulate a solid point or argument makes your videos impossible for me to miss. As a content creator myself, I can relate to this. I'm also taking notes and observing how well you put all this together. Well done Michelle. Very proud of you 🙏❤️
thank you so much James!! that means a lot❤️ Im so grateful for you support and I wish you nothing but the best when it come to your channel:) Youre doing great so far, cant wait to see how far you go!
@@MichelleGia ❤appreciate the love Michelle
Im 19 now and ive basically experienced almost everything even tho i havent mastered everything, lol because thats going to take some time. But looking back what mattered wasnt hard work or comfortably relaxing, what has meant the most for me and made me the most happy in life was going on adventures with my friends when i was a kid. Playing together outside, we had these walkie-talkies while we spied on the girls and then they would chase us for it and we would throw apples at each other and have this big fight. I knocked on every kids door because i wanted everyone to be involved in this amazing feeling i felt, playing cops and thieves together or playing football together. That made me so happy, and thats why after ive become an electrican now in february ill try to move somewhere and work on some creative musical project, and ill keep connecting to people even tho it might be awkward sometimes, because people are amazing and the adventures to come is worth it. So what ive learned is, money cant buy true happiness, and doing something is better than doing nothing. Theres a balance, we are supposed to have fun while also making things work. Hakuna Matata
hi michellle, thankyou so much for making this video. you've given me such a different perspective of failure and i never thought about it this way. we always hear that failing means you atleast tried but you actually made me understand this statement so much better. i love your videos and i wish you so much happiness
awe im so glad that I was able to help, your comment made me so happy❤️ I wish you all the best, sending you lots of love
How did I miss this one?? Ugh I love your vids - they always hit on the deepest levels. 💜
Ahh thank you so much!
this is exactly my story... low grades in 12th grade are killing me rn but nvm i"m gonna still try... thankyou so much for this video michelle😊
No worries🥰🫶🏼
you're my favorite TH-camr. i feel like i can really relate to your videos on a deeper level-- the way you analyze and emotionally process things. i am really proud of you and i always look forward to your videos just to hear updates on your life.
omg that is such an honour🥺 thank you so much for such a sweet comment, wishing you all the best❤️
You spoke to me in such a relatable and awe-inspiring way, pretty lady! : D Your hoodie is awesome and sets a super comfy mood for the video! Thank you for the encouraging and strong message here too - I completely agree. It's the things we fail in life of trial and error that we also learn the most from in certain cases. 😎
hehe thank you:) Im so happy you enjoyed! Yes, that is exactly it❤️ its all just a part of the process, wishing you all the best!
I haven’t seen this video yet, but I needed this so much. I am supposed to be graduating, and I am not, and I have no idea what job I want to do after college and feel like a failure in so many ways atm not even about the school, just in general, and I just needed this video, so before I watch it I want to say thank you ❤
I get how you feel exactly:( sometimes I feel behind too because I'm not following the traditional timeline of things, but life is not a one size fits all thing, and sometimes we cant really understand why until later on in life. Dont be so hard on yourself please:) I bet youre doing great!
Michelle I swear you have some magical abilities and intuition; just last week my two applications for scholarships in Japan were rejected(by my lovely Uni :))) I was and still am so angry and unmotivated, partly because my uni best friend was failed by a kanji professor for the second time, meaning I’ll be learning alone next year. But hey what can you do, I’ll keep going and keep trying, maybe one day I’ll turn things around 💀 I wish for the best outcome for both of us 🧡
omg im so sorry Jules:( I know how painful that must feel. Im sorry things didn't turn out how you wanted, but im so proud of you for persevering❤️ The dedication you have towards the things that you care about is so inspiring and admirable:) I hope things all work out eventually, and if things dont go how you planned, I hope that it turns out even better than you expected!!
Thank you for your lovely comment once again:*)
Definitely needed this video, very comforting
So happy it helped🥹🫶🏼
I grew up in schools not really interested in education, failed , showed significant improvement and graduated high school a little late. At 20 I’m 30 now. Living on my own and doing things that would give 20 year old me much anxiety. Life is about growth and as you’ve said through your example failure and rejection is apart of life. Steve Jobs failed many times in his attempt to create Apple even spoke on this subject of failure.look at apple today!!!
Thank you so much for this video ! Just so you know that it helped me a lot bc I’m right now in a period of my life where I experienced many failures in a row at the point that I don’t even have strength anymore to keep trying you know ? But earring your words made me want to try again n again n again !! ❤️
Sorry if my English is a bit rusty
I get how you feel completely, im so proud of you for not letting that stop you from ever trying again:) its all just a part of the process and you will only get stronger from here❤️ wishing you all best! Youre doing great, dont worry
Your videos always come on time 💕💕
So glad🥹❤️
i needed this ❤️ love you
glad it was helpful❤️ ilyyy!
I really needed this rn 😢❤️
❤️❤️hope you’re well
OMG I can relate to this video soooooo much! Whew! I’m trying to get to a point in which I’m taking risks and being okay with the result. I’ve played it safe for soooooo long, but playing it safe doesn’t get us too far. I have GAD, so uncertainty and failure are true enemies for me…*sigh* I’m going to take more chances and be okay even if failure takes place. Whew! You’re all up in what my therapy has focused on the last few years!
Im so proud of you:) it definitely is not an easy thing to do and im still learning to embrace it as well! Im so glad that this is something that youre working on and I wish you nothing but the best in the future!!
After watching your video "stopped using social media" i stoped using it as well and i am soooooooo happy right now just wanna say THANKYOU !
No problem🥰❤️❤️
Tysm for this
Coming back to this video as comfort for dealing with college stress ❤
wishing you all the best
Failure doesn’t exist, I learned just that
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relatable af, thanks for this!
❤️❤️of course!
this was amazing especially right now i am going through my final exams and this definitely helped me out with my stress
Im so happy to hear:) wishing you all the best with your exams, you got this!!!
@@MichelleGia Thankyou that means alot to me 💕💕
normally I don't comment on youtube videos, but you always seem to know what to say when I need to hear it. I hope you never stop making these videos!! if you're still doing it, and if you're up for it, you should update us on your social media detox :) I'm currently considering doing it
awe thank you, your comment means a lot to me❤️ im really happy i was able to help:) and I've been thinking of doing that hehe maybe i will soon! You should def try it if youre able to:D
I really feel like we’re soul sisters in some way or another. Thank you for your words. Thank you for this reminder
Of course lovee, I’m always happy to help on any way🥰❤️
thank you
I received a pretty bad grade in terms of my standards but I'm not even mad about it. I think I have grown to see my value with or without amazing grades.
love this for you queen
the mindset not the grade LOL
@@MichelleGia thanks queen 😗💪
Really Thanks 😊 to motivating me 🙏🏻
No problem!🤭
Thank you for this video :)
Of course:)
She back❤
🥹🫶🏼!!
Hope you are well Michelle.
Thank you Philip🫶🏼you as well!
This is amazing! Love hearing this since its so relatable and just what I need. Glad to hear that we all think alike. You have definitely helped my anxiety.
Hehe I’m happy I could help❤️
I will gladly be your friend, Michelle. Welcome to TH-cam. 👋🏾
hehe thanks!
Love you sm
Hehe ilyyy❤️
This video feels like I'm talking to my best friend on face time🧡 I am so devastated and miserable since I dropped out of Uni 2 months ago. Nothing makes sense and I just can't figure out what to do now with my life. After I dropped out I applied for an apprenticeship to become a biology lab technical but got rejected twice from two different companies..I feel so stuck and so behind everyone.
I don't even know if I should apply in a couple months again for the next year or just give up. I really hoped to work in a lab since I've always been so interested and good at science related subjects.
trust me i am in the exact same boat, sometimes the self doubt really creeps in and we cant help it:( I know how discouraging that can be, but please dont let that keep you from continuing to try. It can be hard not to compare yourself, but if you know its something you love, dont worry about anyone else's timing but your own❤️ whatever you decide, i know it will be great
Michelle i hope doing well like always and feel happy off twitter
Thank you love❤️❤️I hope you’re doing great!
this is so relatable ahaha
Denzel Washington " FAIL BIG "
Exactly!!!
a wise man once said you miss 100% of the shots you don't take!
Yes!!🥰
I don’t think you’re a failure I have fails all the time
Hehe miss u buddy
Miss you too auntie
Hey do you have an official instagram Account i mean a professional one?
hiii, no i dont unfortumately:(
@@MichelleGia oh ok but still love your youtube channel
@@carina08 awe thank you sm!!
@@MichelleGia no prob