I had a very (very very)smaller thing: 1. Lobola 2. Traditional exchange amongst families 3. Invited few friends to a braai at home 4. Signed at the magistrate I don’t even think everything cost 5k excluding the lobala And here we are 11 years of marriage and 17 years together. We wanted to celebrate our tenth year anniversary, but COVID happened and we just said agg whatever let’s buy another house rather 👌🏾🥰
Am not married nor in a solid relationship, but I always look forward to what you guys are going to talk about and I always learn alot and get light.... May God continue to bless you and keep being a blessing to us
We have 8 guests coming, literally our only big cost is flights to the destination for our parents and we got those on sale even. It’s literally all about the marriage. Also ndingumntu weNerves so I cannot imagine myself being a bride at a big wedding, yho my heart would stop 🙊
I had 40 guests at my wedding, 20 from my side and 20 from my husband's side. We found a secluded church in the Midlands, I had 1 bridesmaid and my sister was my maid of honor. I would have my small wedding all over again as a super introverted person, I enjoyed how intimate the day was
"You don't have to stop the marriage because you can't afford the wedding " -Mpoomy Ledwaba You just articulated our thoughts two years ago when we decided to get married. The Lord spoke and led and we followed and that was more than enough for us.
"We did what was best for us" Thank you both. You won't believe the amount of pressure people put themselves under. It is ridiculous. Some families also make it difficult for young couples. If you can't afford to get married, it's okay to wait.
Its okay to have a big wedding. Its okay to have a white wedding💙🤜if thats what YOU want... everyone has their preference I have a big family and i couldn't do a small wedding😁
I always say there's a distinction between marriage and wedding and it's sad that even at the weddings no one offers availability to walk us through the marriage. Brenden is right if you have the desire it's fine. "Is not how big or small the wedding is but the Grace of God that will carry us in the marriage" great topic 🙌
Honesty is answering truthfully when asked something. Transparency is offering up the truth without being asked or prompted. Transparency is preferred because sometimes you don’t think of everything you should be asking. I get where Mpoomy is coming from.
Did ours on Christmas Day cause we knew many people wouldn’t come since they would be spending time with their families and oh my dress was R900 from YDE. 5 years later in and haven’t even thought about doing a bigger one. Am glad we never got pressurised to doing a big white wedding cause Wow Ngabe sikuphi manje🤣😂
I am 18 years but I've been listening to you guys. I feel full and so inspired and i know i am equipped for the years to come. Thanks Mpoomy and Brenden🤗
Very important what Brenden said 'If you have the means and the desire' Its also okay to want the big celebration if you've planned efficiently for it and it's what the couple wants.
Most people don’t understand marriage, they’re only focus is on the wedding and people’s options. The pressure we put ourselves in when it comes to this marriage thing, is the reason why other people don’t get married at all or even marry for the wrong reasons. Imagine there’s a ring 💍, lobola, Big wedding and then the Honeymoon , all of that is before the actual marriage. Only do it when you can afford it🌸
Most people have 2 weddings (traditional and white wedding) even. Yhooo! Hayi bethuna, maybe it’s the accountant in me but I don’t see the benefit of spending so much on a wedding
Having deep rooted conversations, like Spirituality and finances are extremely important! Some people get married with a “What’s your favourite colour” mentality, and sometimes works and it’s okay, but conversations need to happen🌸. No judgement to anyone though!🥰💕
The most important thing when discussing finances is also to discuss the type of marriage contract that you guys will be signing That is very important!
I think weddings are beautiful, whether small or big. Whether it's just a braai or whatever....its important that people do what makes them happy, what they afford. And yes transparency is key, about everything, even the not a big deal things Brenden is referring to 🤣🤣
I think now having the celebration (wedding) has moved to denote your financial standing and so getting married is a symbol of being financially stable rather than uniting families and that’s why the bride and groom pay for their wedding.
Also had about 50 people at our Marriage Blessing. If it were up to us, there would have been less people. It’s really about the Blessing and the big celebrations will follow if need be. Big celebrations are also beautiful when one can afford them.
Currently planning our wedding, and I definitely want a less stressful, simple wedding. Before now I was low-key concerned about what the family wants😕 but after listening to thissssss✌️💪
Lobola is some sort of an expensive game bayalobola, than u take imali yonke u buy them umabo and furniture isiphelile imali umshado become the expense of icouple it a lot I don't want to lie, but nginani klento eniyishoyo, imagine starting your marriage in negative 100k
I love how you guys always emphasize that everything you say is what works/worked for you two, hoping that God continues to bless and strengthen your marriage forever and ever, Amen!
When we started building our marriage, our perspective changed completely. Celebration our love is great but we had to put the wedding on hold and decide what we want not what others or our families want. I remember when we had this conversation we were so glad because both of us where concerned about what others think we should do. Love you guys keep Inspiring us with your experiences because it is so relatable ❤
Mark me present here🔥🔥 Mpoomy's wisdom is on another level...and you are so beautiful Brendan on the other hand 🙌so powerful ....This journey is Immaculately beautiful But this was too short 🥺❤️❤️❤️🔥
I love this topic, thank you for always opening such insightful and necessary conversations. We have been married (lobolad) for 7years (together for 9) and still haven't felt the need to do the big wedding or celebration and I'm glad we chose to build and prioritize our plans over spending on a wedding first. A 10yrs anniversary wedding sounds like a good plan, as Brenden said "atleast we will be celebrating something that is there"😂
We had these conversations when we started dating because we were soooo tired of wasting time in relationships that weren't going anywhere. We are now married and see the value in the foundations we built. Thank you guys for such simple yet impactful discussions. ❤️
Lol 😂 love the end.. I totally agree with all the points, and with Mpoomy on the last point. Disclose everything… in order to build together WELL we should be transparent and open about everything in my opinion
We had a traditional wedding actually lobola celebration 8 years ago.I still want my white wedding but on a debt its a no no..God will afford me a wedding one day for now we are happy building our lives together
Thank you for the awesome video. It was very relatable. Can you please do a video on the hype of engagement and wedding rings. I’d love to get your guys’ opinions and thoughts on it (expectations, budgets, size, brand etc.)
Full transparency. Full transparency. I won't think of all the questions so so the sake of our marriage we must all disclose everything beforehand. ... especially things that may affect us in the long run. That 1,5 may be little to the one party but it might be the reason he or she can't do one two or three expected of them in the marriage. FULL TRANSPARENCY
@Disagreement Convo at the END: My opinion I agree with the WIFE that FULL TRANSPARENCY is needed and sharing. No surprises please! I love how you ended that disagreement. You are free to respectfully disagree.The over drafts etc will come up later any way and I appreciate a man that is being honest. So, lay it on the table and trust God! No need to ask lay it openly on the table about finances and other major issues. Sex? Children? Money? Etc
This is beautiful. I love how you used the example of that game “broken telephone!”. Also I like that you didn’t upload the entire podcast on TH-cam so that people feel compelled to sign up for the podcast on a different platform available to them…❤️
And these are the 2 people winning left right but chose a small wedding for themselves not for the world. Mpoomy you've changed my view on debt Sis and yes it will take someone to change someone, some of us are fortunate to have access to these types of talks cause we hardly sit down with family members to speaks about these things. I remember after my Capetown trip which was credit card financed you said "we don't do debt here, if we don't have, we don't do it" since then I've been on snowball method, cause debt etla hurda. Kore even if you have the means to, take it as aiii. Yes your house and maybe car debts but eish.
Being debt free is so liberating! Im currently working towards paying off my car in the next 6 - 12 months. Only debt left will be our home. Took big sacrifices but has been all worth
Yes pliz to starting from zero. N I agree with Mpoomy, transparency whether yo asked or not pliz. This is your life partner they should be with you knowing full well who you are
A wedding is 1 celebration where both parties that are getting married really have no control over. Most specially in black culture, well at least from my family. Everybody is trying to push thier own agenda. Most specially the female side of the family. All in the name of its "culture". Im not married yet but the fights and arguements we have whiles watching little shows like bo "Our perfect wedding " i can already see drama when who ever is coming to marry me comes. Hee hee your educated, you have cousins from no where that i have not even met must be here. Hee hee they want to please others with my future husbands pockets!. Lord KNOWS im ready to buy a getaway ticket with my husband and just say our vows on some island with just 2 withnesses. Once his done ka lobola; im going to shock them!🤞Stru!!🤞😂🤣🤣🤣
For about 3 years ngila but it's my first time seeing you guys having an argument, but I like it cause it is a fair argument and complete your love journey I guess
I am just a young woman you stopped believing in love because of not being treated deservingly. Watching you guys is such a blessing. I am learning a lot from you in almost every corner and somehow, you just happen to speak exactly what my soul needed to hear❤❤
I agree. I think it’s honestly all about your means and your desires. Weddings are absolutely beautiful, honestly my favourite event to attend because it’s a celebration of love and it’s generally just good vibes man. Buuuuttt this shouldn’t trump the purpose of a marriage and one should NEVER go into debt for a wedding. You can always celebrate your love later… anniversaries or whenever you choose to. Don’t allow families (or anyone for that matter) to pressure you into doing things beyond your means at the time!♥️
I believe and understand that each individual must do what will make them happy and what they afford at that certain moment ....because wedding celebration is broad in a way that we still have people doing a white and traditional wedding at the same time hence others prefer to celebrate nge white wedding only or signing off at home affairs and Lobola payment. Its goes back to the mind(power house)what has been instilled in your mind growing up and what you will dicide to do. There is no wrong or right answer on how married people should celebrate their wedding hence people should be financially conscious Thank you Mpoomy for being soo transparent about your wedding celebration because it shows off the benefits of having a small wedding as it's not mostly shown off like the big wedding that last for two days.❤🙏
We had a beautiful wedding, 80 people, we had a blast, and I'd do it all over again. I love weddings and the feeling of togetherness, it's purpose, family, kids laughter, the event nje, it's just beautiful. Small is also nice, preferences. I also understand what you guys are saying. At the end do what makes you happy, life's too short.
I love weddings so much. I love it when the bride dances and you can see that she is so happy. The guests are also so happy. I love the dancing! Argh weddings make me so happy 😍
One thing about me, I’m not not spending so much money on a wedding. When I was younger, I was obsessed with these big white wedding celebrations, but the older I get, I’m like “nah”. Whether or not I have the means, I don’t want a wedding. I’d rather take that money and we use it ta travel. Go away for 3 weeks or so, come back and use the money our living expenses... Brendon is right, it’s better ta have a big celebration for your 10th anniversary, that way, you celebrating something that’s there 🙌🏼👌... I’m no where near planning a wedding, but my mom is already fighting with me coz of this idea I have of not having a wedding 🤦🏼♀️
Hey guys😍😍😘u just touched me with this topic of beliefs.. Am 25 turning 26 and am not married I was having the same discussion with some young person nd literally he saw that this is very important.. Because different beliefs really make marriages difficult and it doesn't work.. Same beliefs make ur love to work for good.. Mina I think to marry someone with same belief it's a good and rty decision ever.. Love u guys🔥🔥🤩🤩😍
You guys are so cute man!!😂😍 I loved the end of the video. Where Brandon says "this is not a fight" and the outro says "this is our love story" 😇😭💯 ahh come on somebody ❤love is such a beautiful thing 💚❤🔥 I enjoyed the video...thank you😇😇🔥❤❤
Culture is not cast on stone but something that is constantly evolving. Traditionally in some black cultures it was the woman's family that paid for the wedding. I think this was done because people married young back in 1930/ 40 etc. So most people were not marrying when older and financially independent. Also, a wedding is a celebration so just because there was no white wedding or a big celebration does not mean that there's no marriage. It's surprising today that most people confuse the celebration (wedding) with the marriage ( the actual union).
Guys i really wanna a small wedding bcz of my finances but my mom n his mom wants us to do a big one.. Im now stressing bcz i dnt want to start my marriage with debts...
Tell them to take care of the finances then. Your wedding shoud be fun & a happy day, not you stressing about the debts. So sis girl, stick to your small wedding or what your pocket can afford. My friend's parents wanted a big wedding but she told them if they wanted a big one then they should be the ones to pay. So yes, the family ended up giving the big chunk because they are the ones who wanted to show off. So girl put your foot down & make it clear to them.
Oh my Gosh guys for a while I thought something is rong with me and my husband because at our wedding we forgot about the cake and we had no step, all we cared about was to say 'I do' that's was about it. Oh and to have a lot of food there coz it was important to us that people leave with full stomachs. Thank you Mpoomy and Brenden for talking about this
Can we take a moment and appreciate how beautiful Mpoomy looks bakwethu?! Akamhle!!! Also, Brenden, I see the mehluko in your weight mtakabawo. Ya'll look good.
Yey!!! notification gang!!!
Silaaaaaa💃💃💃
We are here 🙌🏾🔥
Re Mo💃
Location 📍
We should be saying this and not you😂🤭
I had a very (very very)smaller thing:
1. Lobola
2. Traditional exchange amongst families
3. Invited few friends to a braai at home
4. Signed at the magistrate
I don’t even think everything cost 5k excluding the lobala
And here we are 11 years of marriage and 17 years together. We wanted to celebrate our tenth year anniversary, but COVID happened and we just said agg whatever let’s buy another house rather 👌🏾🥰
Am not married nor in a solid relationship, but I always look forward to what you guys are going to talk about and I always learn alot and get light.... May God continue to bless you and keep being a blessing to us
Sis thats me here am glad to find out am not alone
+1. My future partner and I will watch these together one day! I love their wisdom 🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽
That’s me n you sisy, and I learn a lot from them.
Same here sis we here for this wisdom😊
My favorites
“Ucelebrate into ikona”Brenden is so funny 😂❤️
🤣🤣🤣
He’s literally so funny, I’m always laughing at what he has to say🤣
We have 8 guests coming, literally our only big cost is flights to the destination for our parents and we got those on sale even. It’s literally all about the marriage. Also ndingumntu weNerves so I cannot imagine myself being a bride at a big wedding, yho my heart would stop 🙊
Same wasup group ntombi !am just social awkward🤦♀️
Ncooh that is cute though. 🥰
Girl same
I had 40 guests at my wedding, 20 from my side and 20 from my husband's side. We found a secluded church in the Midlands, I had 1 bridesmaid and my sister was my maid of honor. I would have my small wedding all over again as a super introverted person, I enjoyed how intimate the day was
"You don't have to stop the marriage because you can't afford the wedding " -Mpoomy Ledwaba You just articulated our thoughts two years ago when we decided to get married. The Lord spoke and led and we followed and that was more than enough for us.
"We did what was best for us" Thank you both. You won't believe the amount of pressure people put themselves under. It is ridiculous. Some families also make it difficult for young couples. If you can't afford to get married, it's okay to wait.
Its okay to have a big wedding.
Its okay to have a white wedding💙🤜if thats what YOU want... everyone has their preference
I have a big family and i couldn't do a small wedding😁
Thank you for this. I want a big wedding and I often feel so judged 😂
"This is our love story...this is our journey"🎶...singing along to the intro song☺
I always say there's a distinction between marriage and wedding and it's sad that even at the weddings no one offers availability to walk us through the marriage. Brenden is right if you have the desire it's fine. "Is not how big or small the wedding is but the Grace of God that will carry us in the marriage" great topic 🙌
Honesty is answering truthfully when asked something. Transparency is offering up the truth without being asked or prompted.
Transparency is preferred because sometimes you don’t think of everything you should be asking. I get where Mpoomy is coming from.
💯, Brenden udlala ngathi🤣🤣
Did ours on Christmas Day cause we knew many people wouldn’t come since they would be spending time with their families and oh my dress was R900 from YDE. 5 years later in and haven’t even thought about doing a bigger one. Am glad we never got pressurised to doing a big white wedding cause Wow Ngabe sikuphi manje🤣😂
I love that 👌🏽👌🏽☺️
Love it! Ni share i anniversary nokuzalwa kwa Jesu😝😍
@@AllThingsLindo yebo sis 😂🤗
What does Ngabe sikuphi manje mean?
@@teeworld9524 “it means where would we be now” financially
I am 18 years but I've been listening to you guys. I feel full and so inspired and i know i am equipped for the years to come.
Thanks Mpoomy and Brenden🤗
Very important what Brenden said 'If you have the means and the desire'
Its also okay to want the big celebration if you've planned efficiently for it and it's what the couple wants.
Most people don’t understand marriage, they’re only focus is on the wedding and people’s options.
The pressure we put ourselves in when it comes to this marriage thing, is the reason why other people don’t get married at all or even marry for the wrong reasons.
Imagine there’s a ring 💍, lobola, Big wedding and then the Honeymoon , all of that is before the actual marriage. Only do it when you can afford it🌸
Most people have 2 weddings (traditional and white wedding) even. Yhooo! Hayi bethuna, maybe it’s the accountant in me but I don’t see the benefit of spending so much on a wedding
So true.
Having deep rooted conversations, like Spirituality and finances are extremely important! Some people get married with a “What’s your favourite colour” mentality, and sometimes works and it’s okay, but conversations need to happen🌸. No judgement to anyone though!🥰💕
Dating with a vision and purpose 🤲🏽🤲🏽
@@wanderingcucamber7082 Amen!
This video is for me 😭 so amazing how God speaks through people, I am in awe 🙌 y'all don't understand
I totally understand you, i feel the same sis
Yah hey😊😊
So excited for my small wedding 💃
I feel you my sister
The most important thing when discussing finances is also to discuss the type of marriage contract that you guys will be signing
That is very important!
I think weddings are beautiful, whether small or big. Whether it's just a braai or whatever....its important that people do what makes them happy, what they afford. And yes transparency is key, about everything, even the not a big deal things Brenden is referring to 🤣🤣
I think now having the celebration (wedding) has moved to denote your financial standing and so getting married is a symbol of being financially stable rather than uniting families and that’s why the bride and groom pay for their wedding.
We also 50 people 😅 I didn’t have a big white wedding even the traditional one 🤣 now 5 year later I still don’t want a big wedding
Home affairs, take the money deposit a home and much later have the big wedding. That's my plan.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Also had about 50 people at our Marriage Blessing. If it were up to us, there would have been less people. It’s really about the Blessing and the big celebrations will follow if need be.
Big celebrations are also beautiful when one can afford them.
' As for u celebrate-a intekhona'😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂...makes sense vele to have a big anniversary than a big wedding
Currently planning our wedding, and I definitely want a less stressful, simple wedding.
Before now I was low-key concerned about what the family wants😕 but after listening to thissssss✌️💪
Glad this could free you
Lobola is some sort of an expensive game bayalobola, than u take imali yonke u buy them umabo and furniture isiphelile imali umshado become the expense of icouple it a lot I don't want to lie, but nginani klento eniyishoyo, imagine starting your marriage in negative 100k
Love this, thanks for engaging in this topic. Its the marriage not the wedding ♥
Also thinking that instagram culture has emphasized the wedding over the marriage.
I love how you guys always emphasize that everything you say is what works/worked for you two, hoping that God continues to bless and strengthen your marriage forever and ever, Amen!
I preferred a small one, but family wanted a big one so we did that, I am planning the one I wanted for our anniversary
When we started building our marriage, our perspective changed completely. Celebration our love is great but we had to put the wedding on hold and decide what we want not what others or our families want.
I remember when we had this conversation we were so glad because both of us where concerned about what others think we should do.
Love you guys keep Inspiring us with your experiences because it is so relatable ❤
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@@wanderingcucamber7082 💞💞💞
Mark me present here🔥🔥
Mpoomy's wisdom is on another level...and you are so beautiful
Brendan on the other hand 🙌so powerful ....This journey is Immaculately beautiful
But this was too short 🥺❤️❤️❤️🔥
I love this topic, thank you for always opening such insightful and necessary conversations. We have been married (lobolad) for 7years (together for 9) and still haven't felt the need to do the big wedding or celebration and I'm glad we chose to build and prioritize our plans over spending on a wedding first. A 10yrs anniversary wedding sounds like a good plan, as Brenden said "atleast we will be celebrating something that is there"😂
The game is called broken telephone, also I feel this was too short 😉
The full episode is available on Most podcast platforms
We had these conversations when we started dating because we were soooo tired of wasting time in relationships that weren't going anywhere. We are now married and see the value in the foundations we built.
Thank you guys for such simple yet impactful discussions. ❤️
🥰🥰 I love this! Dating with a purpose!
@@wanderingcucamber7082it's so important hey!
Blessings to you sis😊
The level of Wisdom on these podcasts🔥🔥😩😍 siyabonga guys
The hair😍 you look so beautiful Mpoomy❤
That little disagreement at the end was the cutest thing, I keep rewatching just to get to that part🤣🤣❤️
Lol 😂 love the end.. I totally agree with all the points, and with Mpoomy on the last point. Disclose everything… in order to build together WELL we should be transparent and open about everything in my opinion
I also think it's important to be transparent even with the little things to build a habit of transparency in the marriage.
We had a traditional wedding actually lobola celebration 8 years ago.I still want my white wedding but on a debt its a no no..God will afford me a wedding one day for now we are happy building our lives together
Hi mpoomy and brenden i love you guys, may God keep u n strengthen your union so you continue being a blessing in our lives
Thank you for the awesome video. It was very relatable. Can you please do a video on the hype of engagement and wedding rings. I’d love to get your guys’ opinions and thoughts on it (expectations, budgets, size, brand etc.)
I don’t know if this is intentional… but I love how the video is 11:11 minutes 🥲🥰
Thought I was the only one who noticed 🥺🥺
Guess what, also The likes to your comment are right now 11... Someone better not ruin it. Lol😊
@@delightnomfundo5106 well it’s gone now sis😂✨
@@pabi7840 Arh 🤧😂
🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Love how short and informative this is. It's a full video 🙌✔
Full transparency. Full transparency. I won't think of all the questions so so the sake of our marriage we must all disclose everything beforehand. ... especially things that may affect us in the long run. That 1,5 may be little to the one party but it might be the reason he or she can't do one two or three expected of them in the marriage. FULL TRANSPARENCY
Got married at Home Affairs 3 years later did our wedding with only 100 people
I want to do this but I get scared that other things will take financial priority and we'll end up never having a wedding 🙁
@@omphilemoerane2569 I’m with u in this.., specially once we start investing in a house,
The game is broken telephone 😍😍😍😍fun game that.... I love how you used it as a practical example.
@Disagreement Convo at the END:
My opinion I agree with the WIFE that FULL TRANSPARENCY is needed and sharing. No surprises please! I love how you ended that disagreement. You are free to respectfully disagree.The over drafts etc will come up later any way and I appreciate a man that is being honest. So, lay it on the table and trust God! No need to ask lay it openly on the table about finances and other major issues. Sex? Children? Money? Etc
I still want the step😅😅 but you guys made valid points, Thank you for sharing.
Great Great Example Mpooomy, wooooow wooow, love that scenario of the Game!!!!! Amazing
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Saying the truther after being asked is honesty. Telling the truth before being asked is transparency... I think married people should be transparent.
This is beautiful. I love how you used the example of that game “broken telephone!”. Also I like that you didn’t upload the entire podcast on TH-cam so that people feel compelled to sign up for the podcast on a different platform available to them…❤️
"Ucelebrate into e khona"😂😂😂
What does that mean? Why's everyone commenting about it?
@@klaudiaekandjo8870 he basically said you'd be celebrating something that's already there.
@@mohaumamatela4890 ok
@@mohaumamatela4890 ok thanks
And these are the 2 people winning left right but chose a small wedding for themselves not for the world.
Mpoomy you've changed my view on debt Sis and yes it will take someone to change someone, some of us are fortunate to have access to these types of talks cause we hardly sit down with family members to speaks about these things.
I remember after my Capetown trip which was credit card financed you said "we don't do debt here, if we don't have, we don't do it" since then I've been on snowball method, cause debt etla hurda.
Kore even if you have the means to, take it as aiii. Yes your house and maybe car debts but eish.
Being debt free is so liberating! Im currently working towards paying off my car in the next 6 - 12 months. Only debt left will be our home. Took big sacrifices but has been all worth
@@AllThingsLindo Sis goodos to you. Debt is the reason most of us live beyond our means and not even seeing progress from our 9 to 5 jobs.
Yes pliz to starting from zero. N I agree with Mpoomy, transparency whether yo asked or not pliz. This is your life partner they should be with you knowing full well who you are
notification gang :) Sila!! Thank you guys!
A wedding is 1 celebration where both parties that are getting married really have no control over.
Most specially in black culture, well at least from my family. Everybody is trying to push thier own agenda. Most specially the female side of the family. All in the name of its "culture". Im not married yet but the fights and arguements we have whiles watching little shows like bo "Our perfect wedding " i can already see drama when who ever is coming to marry me comes.
Hee hee your educated, you have cousins from no where that i have not even met must be here. Hee hee they want to please others with my future husbands pockets!.
Lord KNOWS im ready to buy a getaway ticket with my husband and just say our vows on some island with just 2 withnesses.
Once his done ka lobola; im going to shock them!🤞Stru!!🤞😂🤣🤣🤣
😂😂Finally found someone who thinks like me😂
So glad you guys are talking about this because I'm asking myself what is important or not regarding a wedding. Thank you Guys. ❤️
Do what makes you happy love but obviously be realistic 🤌🏽
For about 3 years ngila but it's my first time seeing you guys having an argument, but I like it cause it is a fair argument and complete your love journey I guess
Weddings are beautiful. “You don’t have to stop the marriage because you cannot afford the wedding “. Love that.
I am just a young woman you stopped believing in love because of not being treated deservingly. Watching you guys is such a blessing. I am learning a lot from you in almost every corner and somehow, you just happen to speak exactly what my soul needed to hear❤❤
Was literally thinking about the podcast just now 🥺❤️
"M.m.m, Brendan take back the statement "And the look on her face 🤣🤣
I agree. I think it’s honestly all about your means and your desires.
Weddings are absolutely beautiful, honestly my favourite event to attend because it’s a celebration of love and it’s generally just good vibes man. Buuuuttt this shouldn’t trump the purpose of a marriage and one should NEVER go into debt for a wedding.
You can always celebrate your love later… anniversaries or whenever you choose to. Don’t allow families (or anyone for that matter) to pressure you into doing things beyond your means at the time!♥️
🇿🇲 in the house, awesome content!
I believe and understand that each individual must do what will make them happy and what they afford at that certain moment ....because wedding celebration is broad in a way that we still have people doing a white and traditional wedding at the same time hence others prefer to celebrate nge white wedding only or signing off at home affairs and Lobola payment.
Its goes back to the mind(power house)what has been instilled in your mind growing up and what you will dicide to do.
There is no wrong or right answer on how married people should celebrate their wedding hence people should be financially conscious
Thank you Mpoomy for being soo transparent about your wedding celebration because it shows off the benefits of having a small wedding as it's not mostly shown off like the big wedding that last for two days.❤🙏
We had a beautiful wedding, 80 people, we had a blast, and I'd do it all over again. I love weddings and the feeling of togetherness, it's purpose, family, kids laughter, the event nje, it's just beautiful. Small is also nice, preferences. I also understand what you guys are saying. At the end do what makes you happy, life's too short.
I love weddings so much. I love it when the bride dances and you can see that she is so happy. The guests are also so happy. I love the dancing! Argh weddings make me so happy 😍
Great insights❤ I think the game is called "broken telephone "
One thing about me, I’m not not spending so much money on a wedding. When I was younger, I was obsessed with these big white wedding celebrations, but the older I get, I’m like “nah”. Whether or not I have the means, I don’t want a wedding. I’d rather take that money and we use it ta travel. Go away for 3 weeks or so, come back and use the money our living expenses... Brendon is right, it’s better ta have a big celebration for your 10th anniversary, that way, you celebrating something that’s there 🙌🏼👌... I’m no where near planning a wedding, but my mom is already fighting with me coz of this idea I have of not having a wedding 🤦🏼♀️
Yhu sis you are me, iam you. I feel the exact sameway. I dont think im ready to spend thousands on a one day event. The smaller the better❤💯📌...
Celebrating into ekhona😂
Makes perfect sense Brenden yazi
Great conversations guys, love you.
Hey guys😍😍😘u just touched me with this topic of beliefs.. Am 25 turning 26 and am not married I was having the same discussion with some young person nd literally he saw that this is very important.. Because different beliefs really make marriages difficult and it doesn't work.. Same beliefs make ur love to work for good.. Mina I think to marry someone with same belief it's a good and rty decision ever.. Love u guys🔥🔥🤩🤩😍
solid relationship 👌💯❤same beliefs in the relationship very important I fully concur👌
I really appreciate how you teaching us about real important things in life, thank you
Been on a break from TH-cam cause of work deadlines, I’m so glad to be back!!!😍
You guys are so cute man!!😂😍 I loved the end of the video. Where Brandon says "this is not a fight" and the outro says "this is our love story" 😇😭💯 ahh come on somebody ❤love is such a beautiful thing 💚❤🔥 I enjoyed the video...thank you😇😇🔥❤❤
1 min and you made me see it’s about you and your partner ❤️ not the extra materials
😭 you guys am so happy for this podcast i have been waiting for your next podcast for a while
Wow you guys gave me a good laugh. Awesome conversation.
'Broken telephone' is the name of the whispering game
Culture is not cast on stone but something that is constantly evolving. Traditionally in some black cultures it was the woman's family that paid for the wedding. I think this was done because people married young back in 1930/ 40 etc. So most people were not marrying when older and financially independent. Also, a wedding is a celebration so just because there was no white wedding or a big celebration does not mean that there's no marriage. It's surprising today that most people confuse the celebration (wedding) with the marriage ( the actual union).
It's Mrs Mom dashing some Sotho language for me🥰❤💫💫💫
Lol you guys are so sweet 🥰
Thank you guys for normalizing this. It really changed my perspective
Mpoomy coming through with that tswana/pedi. Go girl🙌🏾🙌🏾
Weddings are so dramatic these days! Wow. I agree that debts isnt a good way to start a wedding
Love is beautiful... Am soo inspired by you guys... I love u
Today my fiance watched this video with me and I it will help us a lot regarding our wedding plans... Thank you family ❤️😍
InterFaith marriage or relationship are more hard when kids are involved 😔
Guys i really wanna a small wedding bcz of my finances but my mom n his mom wants us to do a big one.. Im now stressing bcz i dnt want to start my marriage with debts...
Tell them to take care of the finances then. Your wedding shoud be fun & a happy day, not you stressing about the debts. So sis girl, stick to your small wedding or what your pocket can afford. My friend's parents wanted a big wedding but she told them if they wanted a big one then they should be the ones to pay. So yes, the family ended up giving the big chunk because they are the ones who wanted to show off. So girl put your foot down & make it clear to them.
Sending hugs
Tell them to pay for their big wedding.
Oh my Gosh guys for a while I thought something is rong with me and my husband because at our wedding we forgot about the cake and we had no step, all we cared about was to say 'I do' that's was about it. Oh and to have a lot of food there coz it was important to us that people leave with full stomachs. Thank you Mpoomy and Brenden for talking about this
I loooooooved this sooooo much. Thanks guys for the lovely video, raw and real. 🥰🥰🥰🥰
“We did the best thing for us” as well we tend to be pushed by our families believes.
Can we take a moment and appreciate how beautiful Mpoomy looks bakwethu?! Akamhle!!! Also, Brenden, I see the mehluko in your weight mtakabawo. Ya'll look good.
But guys, when are you releasing the Love Journey theme song? It's such a banger💃❤
Much love guys. Would love for you to shed more light on honesty and transparency in relationships obviously due to the last part of the show.
Mara Brenden 🤦♀️😂🤣
Thank you Mrs Mom I'm learning the importance of transparency.
This is invaluable for building a marriage. Weddings as a debt trap party are a disaster for the foundation.
I love the song that plays b4 the video! 🤭🥺😍😍😍
So much truth in this!!! Really enjoyed ❤️