You do realise no guy ever says that about themselves. Those roles you described are traditional gender roles women used to perform while the man worked and provided and that’s what made them independent.
@kongking6860 these "traditional" gender roles weren't common for hundreds of years. It only became more common in the 50s due to changing finances and men returning from war Women always worked.
Him calling her a "female" was a red flag, but saying "You're not even that special"?... How dare you say that to your own girlfriend?! I think we all can agree on how manipulative he intended to be with that... what an absolutely disgusting male
“They just want them to be their mothers” THANK YOU FOR DEFENDING THAT! Of course it’s not okay to treat a girlfriend like that but we tend to gloss over that these men treat their mothers like trash. She is a person too and her life isn’t about just doing things for you!
I had a panic attack for 36 hours and it totally drained me. My boyfriend sat in the shower with me, washed my hair, washed my face, dried me off, and made me soup. We ate together and watched our favorite show- he soothed me enough to sleep for the first time since the panic attack started. I know for a fact that if i asked him to peel 100 oranges he would do it, and I’d do the same for him. All these guys expect a trad wife when they aren’t giving trad husband…She deserves better.
I am so happy you found this kind of love and I hope everyone else does too! sorry that you had such an awful panic attack, I hope that whatever is causing them gets resolved soon and am so glad that you've got such a sweet person to help you get through them ❤
Preaching to the woman who just did your laundry for you about “being independent and doing things for yourself” has to be one of the most insane things I’ve ever heard from a man.
Then she needs to get a separate basket and stop doing his laundry. She's the one who decided to do his laundry expecting him to peel her orange for a video.
Then what is the point in being in a relationship if your partner doesn't want to do sweet things for you every once in a while, like how she did the laundry for him. I guess he doesn't like to do sweet things for his gf. @@summerbrewster5555
@@summerbrewster5555 what..? Are you serious??? She probably did his laundry because he was too lazy to do it. He’d probably complain if she hadn’t. All she asked of him was to just peel an orange. Even if she didn’t do his laundry I don’t understand why he had to say all that stupid stuff…. You missed the entire point of my comment. He preached independence but she was the one doing his laundry… make it make sense. 😭
I was feeling super ill and had the most random craving for oranges. My husband paused his game, put on a sweatshirt, drove to the grocery store, bought me an orange, peeled and separated it, and brought it to me in bed. NEVER SETTLE.
I mean... you should really learn to control your short term impulses for your own sake. Otherwise nothing will stop you suffering 😭 in-between the craving and getting the orange 🍊.
The video isn't real. This is the couples thing for views. He has a video on his channel asking her the same thing and she berates the fuck out of him, even worst than how he talked to her. I'm honestly surprised Cooper didn't figure that out before posting a video.
Even if he did, he still won't peel a orange for his gf/wife, like damn, he's so... selfish. Like my dude, your gf asks you to do something, just do it.
When he said he does everything for her it was code for "I have sex with you! Y'know, that activity that I only derive joy out of?" (Obviously women can enjoy sex but I don't think he's physically or emotionally capable of pleasuring a woman sexually considering how selfish he seems to be)
I asked my boyfriend to peel an orange for me and he immediately took it and as he was peeling it he said “but why? You hate oranges”😂 our daughter was happy with her randomly peeled orange haha
My little sister asked me to peel an orange for her and I’d just done my nails but she really wanted it so I just went for it anyway and then at the end I carved the last bit with a knife. Because she’s my sister and she asked me to
Also literally saw a girl asking her boyfriend to insult her for a video and he said he can‘t and wouldn‘t ever not even for a video… just proves the point
A few weeks back I read a post where someone said more straight men are heterosexual, but not heteroromantic, and they'd sooner admire, respect, and spend time with other men, and everything I've been exposed to since has only been confirming that unhinged theory.
The men I’ve met think love is me exploiting myself on their behalf, and their love is existing, allowing me to exploit myself on their behalf … I’ve decided to stay single for the next 7 years then marry myself once I turn 30 because “the wall” lol. Just gonna have fun with life, visit places and learn stuff until I croak 😂
Romantic orientation is still an orientation. These men value their male friendships far more than their relationships with women, but that doesn’t mean they’re romantically attracted to their male friends. An argument could be made that they are not in a romantic relationship with their girlfriends, only a purely sexual one. When you say that they aren’t heteroromantic that leaves the question: what is their romantic orientation? It’s not homoromantic. Are you saying they are aromantic? Because if you’re claiming the reason these guys are awful is that they are just “incapable of real love” then that is really aphobic. I understand that you probably didn’t mean anything by it, but as an aromantic person it just hurts a lot
I'm aroace and don't want a relationship but if I had a SO and they would say this to me, I would have a mental breakdown right then and there. Needless to say that my self-esteem is already none existing but it would go to the earth core after hearing something like this.
The video isn't real. jesus. Which is just proof that so many of yall project your own feelings on to these videos. Her boyfriend has the same video on his channel where he asks her to peel an orange for him and she is meaner than he is in her video.
The fact that she doesn’t seem that phased by it means 1. It actually is a skit 2. She’s been verbally and emotionally abused so much that it’s “normal” for her…
My abusive ex was just like this. Exactly like this. It gave me flash backs “as if I don’t do enough for you” “you don’t do anything for me” “you’re not special get it through your head” “I’m making you a better person by not being good to you” “do it yourself”
Saying ‘I want to build you up as a strong independent female’ is what you say when you’re showing her change a tire, or showing her how to check her oil. Not peeling a orange
@@atomseve9858 Tino saying this to his gf is condescending, switching ‘female’ with ‘woman’ is better wording for others because it’s true. Wanting nieces, daughters, sisters to be strong and independent is how this world should turn
Even when showing her the process of changing a tire and checking the oil, that would be super fucking condescending to make her learning these skills a part of her becoming an “strong independent female” and not just a basic skill. Like, when I was taught how to do that, it was “watch me do this, son.” Not “congratz, i’m making you a strong independent male!! omg you go boy, you’ll dominate out there now!! King~” Like it’s a simple skill. I honestly think “strong independent woman” is a stupid phrase to begin with though, because it assumes that most women these days are weak and dependent on big strong and more capable men to help them, which I’ve never noticed to be true.
My ex husband started acting like this right after I gave birth to our son. A year of doing everything later, he was upset that he was "excluded" all the time and I never talked or interacted with him (plus our son only trusts me which also upset him). I then served divorce papers.
in hindsight, were there any red flags before you got married? my worst nightmare is going so far into a relationship with someone (ie marriage/kids) only for them to flip and become the worst person alive
@@fashionvibe101 not as many as I would have liked to be honest. I think more than red flags it was listening to his goals rather than looking at his work ethic. Basically, if your partner says they are hardworking but always end up shoving the majority of tasks on you, then it will get worse as soon as you are vunerable. Also, dont let your acts of service (because thats my love language) cloud the percieved willingness of them to do things. And just because they dont usually do a chore, doesnt mean they cant do it the right way or take constructive criticism. He would often say (when he did do a shared chore) that I couldnt expect him to (for example) load the dishwasher so the dishes got washed properly if he is the one doing it because hes not "good at details". I wish I had compared his willingness to take on a task (and do it correctly because I didnt have a backup person to fix it after) to my own. Also, promises mean nothing - he has broken so many promises, so many "dont worry, Ill take this task from you next week", "Ill take the day/night shift", etc. that Ive lost count.
@@fashionvibe101 oh, and one more thing - never ever ever double down. If you think you want out now, then its better to walk away and possibly rekindle later than wish you had left and feel trapped. There was some terrible behavior from him when we were 2 years into marriage (I was selling our condo and buying a house while being the only income and he was spending all his time at the bar with friends and specificly one female friend) and I thought "nows the perfect time to leave, I just sold the condo, I havent bought a house yet, my stuff is in storage..." but I didnt want to admit I chose wrong and I didnt want to throw away a majority of my lifes progress to that point. Well, 4 years after that Im now throwing away far more progress and struggling much more to do so. Dont double down, its ok to admit you were wrong.
It’s a little concerning how often this type of this happens- you have a nice woman who is being used/mistreated by her bf/husband and the internet sees and goes “leave” and then most of the time she doesn’t :/ Edit: I’m also not trying to say it’s easy to leave an abusive relationship, however, when the whole world is telling you to leave, don’t ignore the signs!!
THEY REALLY SAYING SHIT LIKE "no he's really different off camera, he's actually really nice" GIRL. If you have to convince people that badly, it ain't true
I usually hate little “relationship tests” like this- HOWEVER… this one is so much more than an ORANGE. That being said, I did this with my chronically OFFLINE husband… and there was no break. He got up, peeled it for me and brought it to me on a plate already pulled apart with some chocolate chips on the plate too.😂 this video made me sick to my stomach. Run girl.
I feel the same way. I hate these relationship tests too, but the way he spoke to her was not necessary. It was like he was scolding a teenage son for not cleaning up his room, not talking to his wife that just did his gosh darn laundry.
It’s gotta be biological… IDK I’m not a scientist but doesn’t it seem like an echo of the past??? Like I can imagine every one of my ancestors going back to before cavemen like basically monkeys in trees where even then you’d still probably peel the bananas for your ape friends/family Look up the story for Burial 9 from 4000 years ago and Shanidar I from 45,000 years ago… people cared about making sure their loved ones were full and taken care of even back then and under dire circumstances, this guy is more brutal than a neanderthal or “primitive” hunter gatherers (I can’t undersell that for their community to keep someone alive and in good condition that long is basically inventing hospice care before agriculture, medicine or germ theory)
it is a psychological instinct within us ALL unless they have disorders which those people are dangerous as fuck if they arent seeking help or worse not selfaware of the damage they can cause. it is in MEN AND WOMEN we are social entities thats why our offspring need to be nurtured and protected and guided . we have empathy FOR A REASON. it is survival. @@healgoth if a man doesnt know love hes a freak and should be shunned because those people are the most dangerous.
My ex fiance was exactly like that but then would turn around and bring me an orange to peel for him AND IM ALLERGIC. I left him after 3 LONG years and met my husband a few months later, he would and does do anything for me no questions asked
True. Those are the loony "alpha male" guys who keep trying to apply a disproven theory about *wolves* to humans. Embarrassments to the human race basically. 😂
I kid you not, these group of people responded to an argument similar to yours with “yeah we call ourselves sigma males like how we call you females.” Made me truly laugh
Her boyfriend is acting like a mom trying to get their kid to be more independent. Which is DEFINITELY a red flag- like dude, you arent her parent, youre her significant other, you should show her affection.
Right and even my child I wouldn't speak to like this... 'you're not special' ?? Like wow dude that's not a joke that's actively talking down to someone to make them feel worthless. His whole tone is so gross.
all the while expecting her to treat him like he's her child. he wants the authority of a parent but none of the inconvenience. and really, you should never want to have a parent/child relationship with your significant other
If your boyfriend denies you for this small of a request. Like STRONGLY denies you. Dump him. He even gives her the "You're not that special". Dude if you love your partner, you won't say that.
im just baffled as to how he turned such a simple request into that intense of an argument. he seems so small and fragile. not like a cute lil baby more like a piece of sugar glass set up in a bar scene in an action film. he was ready to crumble.
Dude their videos are fake. They have hundreds of shorts on Facebook and tiktok. She is just as savage as he is, but their is never any outrageous reactions by either of them nor any conclusions. They just post another skit the next day.
Please stay away from men (or anyone) who use the word "female" as a derogatory term towards women 😭🙏 Obviously it's fine in most contexts but it's always a red flag if you're using it like you're talking about another species. Fyi I'm a man and I'm not going to pretend I know what it's like to be a non-man but going on a date with one of these guys made me sympathize with every woman ☠
As someone that uses "human", "female", and "male" as a mixture of derogatory and out of habit because I just generally see people as autopsy samples. True. Take OPs advice. If it makes people happy, it's more as a want to open human bodies up and less out of hatred for people.
If you go through their TikTok, you'll see that their energy together is intense and loaded with just toxicity on both ends. I'm guessing it's their dynamic, but it's so charged with negativity on her end and his.
Oil n water dont mix. The two were never on the same page. A bit of effort like maybe rehearsing the script prior to recording woulda helped the authenticity? Obviously a Skit yall ok man? I mean hey Brahs get real
i was sick and my boyfriend literally went to the store, bought me a bag of oranges, peeled them for me at my bedside, and then fed them to me slice by slice. that guy is such a loser, he should go do his own laundry
As someone who had an ex who told her "you know you're not special, right?" completely unprompted one day, this is cathartic. I'm reading all these hate comments and extrapolating that to all the worlds shitty bfs and exes.
My ex never told me "you aren't special" but he did say "you're lucky I'm with you" even after behaving like a sentient pile of rotting garbage. I wish I had dumped him sooner but at least he's gone.
I doubt their relationship started out that way, people like him slowly become more comfortable treating you badly and you slowly become more tolerant of it because they've destroyed your self-esteem and you're desperate to please them in hopes that one day they'll revert back to the person you fell in love with. Knowing that you would die for someone who is indifferent to or even finds joy in your suffering is the worst and loneliest feeling in the world. I hope she can get away from him, it's not always easy if you have been abused
exactly how my last relationship went and it went on so for so long i was noticing i was doing the same things he did and after breaking up i noticed how much of a crappy ass person i was turning into bc you get so used to it you don’t notice anymore it’s like oh well he’s always been like that he moved on in two days and got mad i talked to one guy when we were broken up 😟
Yeah that happened to me. It got to the point that checking my texts gave me anxiety. Hell, I felt so isolated and alone that I downloaded one of those ai friend apps and deadass the ai treated me better than he did and it was just a program. Like damn you know you messed up when a bloody Replika is nicer than you. 💀 But it took my current bf (at the time friend) coming into my life and making me happier than I had been in years for me to dump my ex.
@@wolvie1618good for you!! Your current bf showed up when you needed him the most and helped you get out of a toxic situation- I hope he is treating you like you deserve ❤ it’s hard to tell after an awful/ abusive relationship bc any sort of kindness seems like the greatest thing ever. I have been in a similar situation and I am so happy you are out of it!
He def not italian and not of italian culture. Doing small acts of service and sharing food, like peeling yo wife's fruit is considered alpha here, even my toxic masculinity infused grampa did that lmao
I asked my partner the other day if they would peel an orange for me, they said yes immediately, no questions asked. They then told me they weren't feeling good. My point is that even though they weren't feeling good they would still be willing to do that small act of service. I can't believe people can be as awful as that dude 🙄
and then others will argue that peeling an orange is very simple and you shouldn’t ask your partner to do it, what if you’re like sick and don’t wanna move or you’re too busy doing something else at the moment, also even like she said she had nails on, those things are so hard to clean sometimes so it would just be very messy for her
@@kyluvs_even if it was an easy task i’d still do it for my partner because i love them and i want to make them happy lol it’s that simple to me i can’t imagine full on refusing like the guy in the video 😭
@@millystars LITERALLYYYY, just cuz it’s simple doesn’t mean it wouldn’t make them happy and feel loved, who cares if it’s literally just peeling an orange it’s still a nice thing to do😭 and adding the whole “ur not special” line made it 100% worse
Literally!! Rocking back and forth is a form of self-soothing when you're anxious. Especially when your man has never ever done a single fucking thing to put you at ease.
@@antoine7611saying this is a skit is crazy, so she’s also pretending to have anxiety and scared too? I know you don’t actually believe that, I just think you enjoy watching it because you wish you could do the same thing. Jokes are confessions, and being obtuse, is a confession.
as an italian with many korean friends, we're equal. we bond over our different types of noodles and we DONT treat our partners like we're middle school bullys
It's all fake skit. You should see how savage she can be to him in their skits. But none of them ever really shock the other it's always calm reactions. They don't even hide their cameras.
Its videos like this that make me realize i'm worth more than being treated like crap by my boyfriend. I swear these keep coming out and give me self worth
This morning I woke up and simply said 'ugh I don't feel like making breakfast' (just complaining bc I was tired, no expectation at all) out loud and my bf instantly started making me some eggs. He already ate too, so it was only for me and I didn't even ask, he was just being nice. Never settle ladies, healthy relationships make life easier for both parties
It honestly makes me think of Andrew Tates daddy issues. He idolized his dad because he wasn't around to see how terrible dad was while vilifying his mother because "mommy sent my perfect daddy away," even tho mom did everything possible to provide a good home life. Obviously in men who start to feel superior to all women, that can lead to vilifying and hating all women. I think it's a somewhat common situation.
Honestly, she looks like she's about to cry in that orange video. Like she's holding in her tears because she's on camera. I feel so sad for her. She seems like such a lovely person. I hope she finds her One.
i can’t even imagine what she’s dealing with off camera. i’ve had an ex tell me i’m not special and so many more horrible things along those lines. there’s no way it just ends there.
It's fake they have hundreds of videos going back years. If you think that's bad you should see what she says to him. But it's all staged hence why they never have over reactions and the camera is always out in the open.
@@buzuxijust my opinion but even if it’s staged, it cannot be healthy for him to talk to her like that and for her to listen to it every single day. it seems a little too natural.
what matters now is that you got out and can focus on treating yourself the way you should be and meeting new people who will appreciate and care for you the way they should
If this is indeed serious she's probably going to be hearing "you're not special" in her head for decades to come whether she leaves him or not. That kind of verbal abuse sticks with you. 😔
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Noooo I literally believe Jasmine's story, my husband is exactly like that. Unless he's very tired or the stores are closed, if I so much as say "I wish we had some x," as long as it's not junk food, he'll put on his shoes and head out to pick it up without a word. I'm so lucky.
My Dad does that for my Mom (and vice versa) and honestly it's so wild to see. I've seen the other side and can say these little acts are mountains, not molehills.
Dont really care whether or not if its real or fake but whats stressful about it in perspective is that there are people that genuinely think that its okay to treat their partners like this and to them there's no way out of it.
That's the thing! Like, okay, it's likely scripted and an exaggeration - but that too is a problem!!!! It's normalizing behavior like this, even though she's upset and telling him why, because it's showing it in a natural-looking interaction. It's very easy to believe that someone who DOES think along these lines would see that not only is someone else portraying it, falsely or not, but that it's someone with "clout." Being someone with a platform and posting toxic things like this gives that thing legitimacy, when really, no one should treat their partner the way he does in the video. Also, thinking this is "funny" is a red flag, because scripted or not, it's anything but.
I think the number of ppl pretending this is fake are just men confessing they are sadist. If you think about it, there is no real for a group of people that make fake scenarios about women in their head to jump to the conclusion this is just a skit. Really just think about that….
@@ericaholloway1751another comment said the boyfriend posted basically the same video but with the roles swapped and if they’re telling the truth then yeah it is fake
14:16 that's Scumbag Dad (who ironically seems to be a great dad), who mainly makes skits about quick, fake content like 'kindness influencers'. He and his _very_ large friend group stage skits with dramatic plot twists and he also pokes fun at 'POV: *insert cliche'* videos. He's really good imo, highly recommend.
Yes id assume so Thanks for the personal recc...ive seen their work tho corny lacking creativity its entertaining n well cast. My drawback is habitual conceilment of lead lady nattural beauty n top tier skills of partnering. Overly edited im saying
My advice as a fan would be Jus dont overthink the work product. Edits n efforts to hide are hindering at least on anything i see but im sure my opinion lacks alot i cant dial up n view
My bf heard me say once that I hate talking plastic off of frozen pizzas and he made it a point the next time to do it and When he started taking it off I was like “oh thanks” and he was like “well you said you hated it didn’t you? It’s not a big deal” like I almost cried
Dude, if he's saying these kinds of things to her, I'm worried he might DO worse things. I hope for the best for this girl and hope she gets freed from this man.
@shroomi1214 oh yeah it’s definitely still problematic what they’re doing, but like both the people in the skit are in on it. both of them are rage baiting not just the bf. like she’s definitely in on it as much as he is. their both pretty scummy for doing this
@@swarmofgeesestill going to be honest, i'll never understand skits like these where it just makes you look stupid. like if it were me, i'm making sure i comment it's all fake or something because no way i would want ppl to think this is real (since behaviour like this is real).
@@ggundercover3681 fr fr !! content like this makes it harder for actual victims to speak out as deniers will point to videos like this where people fake it for clout. such a scummy thing to do and all for some views
Why is he with her if he doesn’t think she’s special? Like yeah, no one’s perfect, but you should, idk, like your partner at least?? It’s giving “I hate my wife” energy.
“DO NOT talk to your mother like that. She’s been through enough!” I completely 100% agree. Also, God help me if I talked to my mother like that. She’d get her chancla so fast even though I’m a grown woman
i simply cannot accept that behavior in a man bc i was spoiled by my 3 older brothers. I know men/boys can be thoughtful and sweet bc i experienced it. There’s legit no excuse for any romantic partner of yours to put you down
i have three older brothers and my experience was living with men like this to the nth degree … the fact you had the opposite experience actually doesn’t compute in my brain. neither does the happiness I feel for you. tell your brothers I love them.
my two brothers are also the sweetest boys in the world! i could never understand how my friends could tolerate dating a man who refused to do the little kind things (sharing food, getting me water, getting me napkins, staying up with me when i was anxious/scared, etc.)
@@gmb2321I can compute, I can also compute that the same sweet acting men could secretly be scum we should be scraping off our shoes (I know an example).
Right? My brothers were (and are) amazing men. So is my father. They showed me how real men treat a woman. I will not settle for less. If that means ‘I’ll end up alone’ I’m totally okay with that.
My husband and I call each other “bud” but that’s because we were friends first and consider each other our “best friend/best bud” so it’s always said sweetly. IF we ever use “buddy” it’s in jest. He and I would Never talk to each other seriously like this guy does to her
@@SleepiestYawner Thank you!!! He's the coolest person I know and a total sweetie, and he tells me I'm pretty and makes me food and I make him laugh and sorry just gotta gush about him I STILL have a crush on him lol
Like sometimes people might use the term buddy to talk down at someone but it's also used in contexts that are friendly or endearing. Like I'd call a friend or partner buddy but I'd never tell someone they aren't special like wtf.
the fact that this video was posted as engagement bait angers me so much more than the boyfriend’s words honestly. preying on people’s kindness for revenue is the oddest thing about the internet lately.
@@cheeling794 engagement bait is when an account online posts something purely because the poster knows that people WILL have some sort of reaction to the content that causes the viewers to engage, in turn making sure it’s pushed in the algorithm so more people see it = more money. it’s takes many forms. it could be as harmless as someone being like “comment if you’re an aries or sagittarius” or it could be what we see here, a couple fake fighting and preying on other women’s insecurities to come to the girlfriend’s defense, therefore getting more engagement on their video and showing it to more people.
@@ariamadd3617 i am definitely talking about the video Cooper is talking about in the video. i mention the girlfriend in my other comments but context clues are hard on the internet lmao!
My heart breaks for her. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and he would say shit like this all the time. He made me believe no one else would ever love me so it's him or no one. I met my husband a couple years later. He doordashed coffee to me when I mentioned I had run out of creamer at work. He gets me flowers when I'm sad. He printed out a binder full of writing exercises when I said I wanted to get back into writing more. I'm grateful for him every day.
The fact that it's an orange. And the peeling of it, is the symbol of soft and kind (mundane) love in lots of poems (or something along those lines). The thing every poet has been raging to do for someone. I know that this trend probably came from that symbolism but still damn
My fiancé has rubbed my legs down in Vaseline when I didn’t feel like it & was joking around like a whiny baby. He looked me dead in my eyes & said, “You’re lucky I love you,” as he rubbed it in between my toes. 😂 I couldn’t imagine him saying of those things to me…
bro ur curing my depression just by talking. thank you so much. this is my second video of urs. sometimes my mind isnt registering what u are saying but ur lightning up my mood. thanks bro😇. and did i mention ur beautiful
GOSH YES, though I'm not allergic, so I'm not as much of a legend BUT U CLEARLY ARE hhh I mean it's simple but meaningful. Same w cooking, everyone (hopefully)can cook, but does it make everyone happy when someone cooks for them?YES. And, unlike cooking, peeling fruit takes VERY little time, so it's weird to be stubborn about not doing it for someone.
i dont get how someone could be so cruel to their partner but the way you said “dont run FLY awAAAaAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAaaAAaaAaAAaaAAAAy from him” made me cackle
He literally spoke to her like she was a little boy he was babysitting. That right there would have made me get up and leave immediately. Idk how she can put up with him
Honestly I don't know if it's just me but I feel like so many guys treat their girlfriends the same way they do their sisters. Like if I didn't know they were dating I would've thought they were siblings
Even then, if my sister _sincerely_ asked me to peel an orange for her, I’d do it. Of course I’d put up a good song and dance of loud groans and complaining beforehand, but I’d still do it.
It makes me so sad that I was just like her and I thought that’s how I was supposed to be loved. I then met an amazing man who taught me how I should be taken care of. Do NOT settle!!
I'm so tired of women posting their terrible boyfriends for laughs then goes to his defense when the internet tells her that her terrible boyfriend is terrible and she should leave. Like, we're way past the point in society where we pretend this is ok or tolerable behavior from a SO. Either stand up for yourself or stop whining to strangers about it. (I'm obviously not passing judgment on victims of DV. Just people with asshole partners)
I genuinely also believe part of it is that they've been with them for so long that they have either become used to it or are more afraid of what would happen if they left. If it's all they've known and are afraid to start again. I wish they could just leave though.
Mmm, I don’t know about that. If someone is in a relationship willingly then that person thinks it is at least tolerable enough to stay in it. It usually isn’t a case of, “I know they’re terrible and I could leave but I don’t” (unless it’s an abusive or codependent dynamic and they’re aware of that). They don’t think their partner is treating them all that badly. And we all complain about people close to us from time to time, that’s normal. We all fight or have annoying habits. That doesn’t mean we wanna cut off anyone close to us if they do something frustrating every once in a while. So it’s unfair to expect people who are in bad relationships to not complain because it is expecting them to have the sort of awareness that would make them leave the relationship in the first place.
I think another comment here said it well but I want to go into more detail. Yeah you’re kind of assuming that the people you just said are posting their partners for laughs are also complaining to the Internet constantly? Now I think this is more of a thing where your toxic dysfunctional dynamics that you’re steeped in all day start to look normal to you, so you start telling stories that you think are funny, and they’re actually terrifying to everyone around you. Those of us Who grew up like that know the vibes.
the thing is, you don't know who is a victim and who isn't. a few years ago i went through a similar situation on a different social media platform, where i posted about my abusive boyfriend and then panicked when people started calling him abusive. and judging me for how i handled it when behind the scenes i was being horrifically abused. he had tried pushing me off a balcony when i was pregnant, str4ngl3d me, gave me multiple brain injuries. i agree that there are women who are not victims who do this, but it's not up to anybody to decide if a stranger on the internet is a DV victim or not. the abuse was bad enough, having thousands of strangers judge me for how i was handling it made it absolutely unbearable.
I’ve never once thrown anything at my partner, but if MY HUSBAND spoke like that to me I’d be shocked if that orange didn’t make contact with his face. That man is talking an awful lot of crap for someone that just gave his girl what is essentially a weapon in the right hands
I think the pain in her eyes speaks for itself. You can SEE it's not a skit because if you pay close attention to her body language, she looks completely done with him and his deprecating bs. What a shtty thing to do to your girlfriend honestly
He really started trying to teach a life lesson- I. CANNOT. She just did his laundry and god knows how many other things for him and he said “it isn’t all about what your boyfriend can do”?! Damn right it isn’t because you can’t do anything
As an Italian-American, we are toxic af. No one in my immediate family can get through a conversation with each other without busting into attitude at some point.
I agree. Everyone in my family also says not to get with an Italian. I'm not American Italian but European and half of the family is Italian. There's so much drama and the dudes are especially misogynistic
@thesecretshade When I was in Rome some dude grabbed my butt on the street while holding hands with another woman (I'd assume it was a romantic partner)... Like, love, why are you with this piece of sh*t. It happened in the middle of the day, too... Not at night in a night club area... So I don't even think he was drunk. Why are some people this gross and disrespectful?
@@seafairyclips as someone who used to work retail, I can confirm - Italians are the worst. Italians, Indians, english from particular areas (middle class, think new money makes them special - think kardashianesque) Americans. In that order.
A relationship is a partnership, you work as a team. If peeling an orange in return for having your clothes, laundered, dried, ironed and folded is too much, then I think he needs to seriously work on himself before he's ready for a relationship.
0:31 the way he says "bUddy" im dead like what also i get calling your partner buddy in like, a fun way, but this just looks like a weird kind of friendzoning
her bf (hopefully soon to be ex) is so lame and from the snippet we get to see on tiktok it’s quite clear he spends a lot of time belittling and treating her like an overworked mom to a ungrateful child
So my shitty ex that I didn't live with was like this. He would tell me how selfish or whatever I was and I would point out that I had done his laundry or gotten his groceries and he would say that it didn't count or he didn't have to reciprocate bc I only did that stuff to be thanked and to hold it over him.
Wow that's crazy, she really needs to leave him. To say to her, "you're not that special" that is severely fucked up. He should be left in the dirt.... I'd kick him out
Honestly, every time. I hate to quote Family Guy but it’s literately that line “Oh he’s not that bad, you should see how gentle he hits me when we’re alone.” These poor women have been degraded so much that they don’t realize their self worth.
I am grateful to you for calling out these narcissists and abusers. Do you ever do videos of women. There are just as many narcissistic and selfish women. Every toxic relationship stems from selfishness. It is when one or both people in a relationship care more about what they are getting out of the relationship than caring about their partner.
She should stop doing his laundry, cooking and cleaning, to help him become a strong, independent male.
Loll
You do realise no guy ever says that about themselves. Those roles you described are traditional gender roles women used to perform while the man worked and provided and that’s what made them independent.
Lmao
@kongking6860 these "traditional" gender roles weren't common for hundreds of years.
It only became more common in the 50s due to changing finances and men returning from war
Women always worked.
@@kongking6860women always worked
Him calling her a "female" was a red flag, but saying "You're not even that special"?... How dare you say that to your own girlfriend?! I think we all can agree on how manipulative he intended to be with that... what an absolutely disgusting male
okay actually we need to start calling every man who uses "female" unironically "male" in their comments and see how they like it
@@gracegrrl007Agreed.
@@gracegrrl007 um i prefer moid
@@iloveumorethananything hey I love Sufjan Stevens :O
just for you fellow sufjan enjoyer?? i will call you moid 😌
The video isn't real. He has the same video on his channel, except he asks her to peel the orange and she is even meaner than he is.
“They just want them to be their mothers” THANK YOU FOR DEFENDING THAT! Of course it’s not okay to treat a girlfriend like that but we tend to gloss over that these men treat their mothers like trash. She is a person too and her life isn’t about just doing things for you!
I had a panic attack for 36 hours and it totally drained me. My boyfriend sat in the shower with me, washed my hair, washed my face, dried me off, and made me soup. We ate together and watched our favorite show- he soothed me enough to sleep for the first time since the panic attack started. I know for a fact that if i asked him to peel 100 oranges he would do it, and I’d do the same for him. All these guys expect a trad wife when they aren’t giving trad husband…She deserves better.
That is the most wholesome thing I’ve read today. Idk you but I love this for you
I am so happy you found this kind of love and I hope everyone else does too! sorry that you had such an awful panic attack, I hope that whatever is causing them gets resolved soon and am so glad that you've got such a sweet person to help you get through them ❤
Oh i'm so jealous lol. You and him sound lucky :)
your boyfriend is a real one
Your boyfriend would peel your orange without you even asking. That's a real man right there.
Preaching to the woman who just did your laundry for you about “being independent and doing things for yourself” has to be one of the most insane things I’ve ever heard from a man.
Absolutely 💯
Then she needs to get a separate basket and stop doing his laundry. She's the one who decided to do his laundry expecting him to peel her orange for a video.
Then what is the point in being in a relationship if your partner doesn't want to do sweet things for you every once in a while, like how she did the laundry for him. I guess he doesn't like to do sweet things for his gf. @@summerbrewster5555
@@summerbrewster5555 what..? Are you serious??? She probably did his laundry because he was too lazy to do it. He’d probably complain if she hadn’t. All she asked of him was to just peel an orange. Even if she didn’t do his laundry I don’t understand why he had to say all that stupid stuff…. You missed the entire point of my comment. He preached independence but she was the one doing his laundry… make it make sense. 😭
@@user-cupidscorner ikr, it took more effort to say all that crap than to just peel the freaking orange
I was feeling super ill and had the most random craving for oranges. My husband paused his game, put on a sweatshirt, drove to the grocery store, bought me an orange, peeled and separated it, and brought it to me in bed. NEVER SETTLE.
Oranges are so good when you’re sick 😍😍
@@T-swizzle-fan13 actually 😂
just eat an apple or smt
I mean... you should really learn to control your short term impulses for your own sake.
Otherwise nothing will stop you suffering 😭 in-between the craving and getting the orange 🍊.
wait that’s so sweet
As someone who just got done with chemotherapy because of a malignant tumor, I fully agree with Cooper that this man is a malignant tumor in her life.
Oh hey congrats on finishing with chemo!
@@sparklepugtea thank you so much! ❤️
The video isn't real. This is the couples thing for views. He has a video on his channel asking her the same thing and she berates the fuck out of him, even worst than how he talked to her. I'm honestly surprised Cooper didn't figure that out before posting a video.
@@cosodesign8953 what's the dude's channel ?
i read ur comment at the exact same time he said it. kinda scary
I love how he says "cmon you know I do everything for you" yet can't name a single thing he does for her
Even if he did, he still won't peel a orange for his gf/wife, like damn, he's so... selfish. Like my dude, your gf asks you to do something, just do it.
@@kiraphobia222exactly, and if he actually did stuff for her then this really isn’t a big deal or big request at all
When he said he does everything for her it was code for "I have sex with you! Y'know, that activity that I only derive joy out of?"
(Obviously women can enjoy sex but I don't think he's physically or emotionally capable of pleasuring a woman sexually considering how selfish he seems to be)
These same men who ask: “what do you bring to the table?”
@@lianxie5582 The patience it takes to be in the same room with a D-bag who would ask a woman that.
I asked my boyfriend to peel an orange for me and he immediately took it and as he was peeling it he said “but why? You hate oranges”😂 our daughter was happy with her randomly peeled orange haha
“as if i don’t do enough” peeling an orange is not that hard 😭 .. just peel it for someone who’s SUPPOSED to be special to you
and he doesnt even do his own laundry 💀
@@al3xisd3ad i’m surprised she hasn’t broken up w/ him sooner😭 when i heard that she does his laundry my jaw dropped
Fr like I hate oranges but I peel them for my siblings all the time and I'd do the same for my lover
@@lyric8710 I know this isn't related to the video, but I LOVE your pfp 🤩
My little sister asked me to peel an orange for her and I’d just done my nails but she really wanted it so I just went for it anyway and then at the end I carved the last bit with a knife. Because she’s my sister and she asked me to
As an Italian, we don’t claim him. Also, if he talked to his mother like that I’m sure he’d get smacked with a wooden spoon😭
As half Italian , any woman who behaves like a spilt brat would be smacked by the father too .
not the spoon 💀💀
Nah he fits italian
100% un maranza 💀
No non nostro he has been disowned. You respect the family or you on your own
Also literally saw a girl asking her boyfriend to insult her for a video and he said he can‘t and wouldn‘t ever not even for a video… just proves the point
A few weeks back I read a post where someone said more straight men are heterosexual, but not heteroromantic, and they'd sooner admire, respect, and spend time with other men, and everything I've been exposed to since has only been confirming that unhinged theory.
The men I’ve met think love is me exploiting myself on their behalf, and their love is existing, allowing me to exploit myself on their behalf … I’ve decided to stay single for the next 7 years then marry myself once I turn 30 because “the wall” lol. Just gonna have fun with life, visit places and learn stuff until I croak 😂
I 100% agree
Romantic orientation is still an orientation. These men value their male friendships far more than their relationships with women, but that doesn’t mean they’re romantically attracted to their male friends. An argument could be made that they are not in a romantic relationship with their girlfriends, only a purely sexual one. When you say that they aren’t heteroromantic that leaves the question: what is their romantic orientation? It’s not homoromantic. Are you saying they are aromantic? Because if you’re claiming the reason these guys are awful is that they are just “incapable of real love” then that is really aphobic.
I understand that you probably didn’t mean anything by it, but as an aromantic person it just hurts a lot
Holy shit you just blew my mind by saying that
That makes a lot of sense actually.
I feel bad for her when he is saying she's not special. She looks so hurt.
Imagine saying that to your partner - like why are you dating me then????
I'm aroace and don't want a relationship but if I had a SO and they would say this to me, I would have a mental breakdown right then and there. Needless to say that my self-esteem is already none existing but it would go to the earth core after hearing something like this.
@@athena8335 that's because it's abuse
it’s so sad id literally dump him right there no questions if my so said that to me
The video isn't real. jesus. Which is just proof that so many of yall project your own feelings on to these videos. Her boyfriend has the same video on his channel where he asks her to peel an orange for him and she is meaner than he is in her video.
The fact that she doesn’t seem that phased by it means
1. It actually is a skit
2. She’s been verbally and emotionally abused so much that it’s “normal” for her…
Probably 2. Womenn stay with them thinking they'll change so they give them chance after chance.
@@Amanita._.Verosa._. I second this comment, my mom did exactly that
An orange
@@Amanita._.Verosa._. yall would prefer a woman to be abused than to actually let go of your stupid bias
it is 1. the whole series of “bad boyfriend” is just rage bait, he posts the same kind of content with her being a “bad girlfriend”.
nah if my boyfriend calls me "buddy" and tells me "im not special" im literally running away from him...
edit: IT'S MY OPTION GUYS
As you should!!!
As we all should
Run away? If my boyfriend says that, I’m going to jail on an assault charge. We are not the same
@@jackiealexander92530 im trying to control my anger 😭
Literally grounds for divorce
Him calling himself daddy but also refusing to peel an orange for her. What is it Tino because thats not very daddy behaviour
FR!!! lol.
Exactly!!
he‘s not daddy, he‘s ‚tough love‘ father who really just doesn‘t want to be a father
@@wa11ie i don’t see the love either honestly
A DADDY WOULD PEEL THAT ORAAAAAANGGEEE
My abusive ex was just like this. Exactly like this. It gave me flash backs “as if I don’t do enough for you” “you don’t do anything for me” “you’re not special get it through your head” “I’m making you a better person by not being good to you” “do it yourself”
I’m making you a better person by being hard on you , it’s tough love you have to be tough on the people you love so they don’t turn out dumb
Saying ‘I want to build you up as a strong independent female’ is what you say when you’re showing her change a tire, or showing her how to check her oil. Not peeling a orange
@@atomseve9858 Tino saying this to his gf is condescending, switching ‘female’ with ‘woman’ is better wording for others because it’s true. Wanting nieces, daughters, sisters to be strong and independent is how this world should turn
Also it not his job to decide when to “teach” her stuff she isn’t asking you to teach her
And it's so ironic how you can live independently never peeling an orange again but can't say that about doing laundry lol
Even when showing her the process of changing a tire and checking the oil, that would be super fucking condescending to make her learning these skills a part of her becoming an “strong independent female” and not just a basic skill.
Like, when I was taught how to do that, it was “watch me do this, son.” Not “congratz, i’m making you a strong independent male!! omg you go boy, you’ll dominate out there now!! King~” Like it’s a simple skill.
I honestly think “strong independent woman” is a stupid phrase to begin with though, because it assumes that most women these days are weak and dependent on big strong and more capable men to help them, which I’ve never noticed to be true.
@@callahardy8639yeah this too, he’s not her father.
My ex husband started acting like this right after I gave birth to our son. A year of doing everything later, he was upset that he was "excluded" all the time and I never talked or interacted with him (plus our son only trusts me which also upset him). I then served divorce papers.
congrats on the divorce gosh got rid of a malignant tumor
in hindsight, were there any red flags before you got married? my worst nightmare is going so far into a relationship with someone (ie marriage/kids) only for them to flip and become the worst person alive
@@fashionvibe101 not as many as I would have liked to be honest. I think more than red flags it was listening to his goals rather than looking at his work ethic. Basically, if your partner says they are hardworking but always end up shoving the majority of tasks on you, then it will get worse as soon as you are vunerable. Also, dont let your acts of service (because thats my love language) cloud the percieved willingness of them to do things. And just because they dont usually do a chore, doesnt mean they cant do it the right way or take constructive criticism. He would often say (when he did do a shared chore) that I couldnt expect him to (for example) load the dishwasher so the dishes got washed properly if he is the one doing it because hes not "good at details".
I wish I had compared his willingness to take on a task (and do it correctly because I didnt have a backup person to fix it after) to my own. Also, promises mean nothing - he has broken so many promises, so many "dont worry, Ill take this task from you next week", "Ill take the day/night shift", etc. that Ive lost count.
@@fashionvibe101 oh, and one more thing - never ever ever double down. If you think you want out now, then its better to walk away and possibly rekindle later than wish you had left and feel trapped. There was some terrible behavior from him when we were 2 years into marriage (I was selling our condo and buying a house while being the only income and he was spending all his time at the bar with friends and specificly one female friend) and I thought "nows the perfect time to leave, I just sold the condo, I havent bought a house yet, my stuff is in storage..." but I didnt want to admit I chose wrong and I didnt want to throw away a majority of my lifes progress to that point. Well, 4 years after that Im now throwing away far more progress and struggling much more to do so. Dont double down, its ok to admit you were wrong.
gj on getting rid of a nuisance
my boyfriend unironically calls me “big dog” as an inside joke and the bit where it got brought up got me so bad
It’s a little concerning how often this type of this happens- you have a nice woman who is being used/mistreated by her bf/husband and the internet sees and goes “leave” and then most of the time she doesn’t :/
Edit: I’m also not trying to say it’s easy to leave an abusive relationship, however, when the whole world is telling you to leave, don’t ignore the signs!!
THEY REALLY SAYING SHIT LIKE "no he's really different off camera, he's actually really nice"
GIRL. If you have to convince people that badly, it ain't true
Me but i never posted to the Internet, luckily I got out because i had a shitty awakening
@@ElmiraVT abusive relationships are hard to leave
Abusive relationships can be so hard to leave
@@mcoofannoyingperson7069 unfortunately that’s true, I really hope someday people like this will be able to leave them
I usually hate little “relationship tests” like this- HOWEVER… this one is so much more than an ORANGE. That being said, I did this with my chronically OFFLINE husband… and there was no break. He got up, peeled it for me and brought it to me on a plate already pulled apart with some chocolate chips on the plate too.😂 this video made me sick to my stomach. Run girl.
As they say "Make his pockets hurt" or his... nails? In this case.
It's never just about the orange, as well as it isn't about the worm in "would you love me if I was a worm"
I feel the same way. I hate these relationship tests too, but the way he spoke to her was not necessary. It was like he was scolding a teenage son for not cleaning up his room, not talking to his wife that just did his gosh darn laundry.
It’s gotta be biological… IDK I’m not a scientist but doesn’t it seem like an echo of the past??? Like I can imagine every one of my ancestors going back to before cavemen like basically monkeys in trees where even then you’d still probably peel the bananas for your ape friends/family
Look up the story for Burial 9 from 4000 years ago and Shanidar I from 45,000 years ago… people cared about making sure their loved ones were full and taken care of even back then and under dire circumstances, this guy is more brutal than a neanderthal or “primitive” hunter gatherers (I can’t undersell that for their community to keep someone alive and in good condition that long is basically inventing hospice care before agriculture, medicine or germ theory)
it is a psychological instinct within us ALL unless they have disorders which those people are dangerous as fuck if they arent seeking help or worse not selfaware of the damage they can cause. it is in MEN AND WOMEN we are social entities thats why our offspring need to be nurtured and protected and guided . we have empathy FOR A REASON. it is survival. @@healgoth if a man doesnt know love hes a freak and should be shunned because those people are the most dangerous.
My ex fiance was exactly like that but then would turn around and bring me an orange to peel for him AND IM ALLERGIC. I left him after 3 LONG years and met my husband a few months later, he would and does do anything for me no questions asked
if your boyfriend calls women “females” literally just break up with him 😭😭🙏 instant red flag oh my GOD.
to call women „females“ is literally an insult in german, mayor red flag
or if he refers to women as b*tches 😬😬
Sneako fans be like
True. Those are the loony "alpha male" guys who keep trying to apply a disproven theory about *wolves* to humans. Embarrassments to the human race basically. 😂
I kid you not, these group of people responded to an argument similar to yours with “yeah we call ourselves sigma males like how we call you females.” Made me truly laugh
Her boyfriend is acting like a mom trying to get their kid to be more independent. Which is DEFINITELY a red flag- like dude, you arent her parent, youre her significant other, you should show her affection.
Right and even my child I wouldn't speak to like this... 'you're not special' ?? Like wow dude that's not a joke that's actively talking down to someone to make them feel worthless. His whole tone is so gross.
all the while expecting her to treat him like he's her child. he wants the authority of a parent but none of the inconvenience. and really, you should never want to have a parent/child relationship with your significant other
Plus!!! SHES the one caring for him! It’s like parentification.
@bee1411
I was parentified. My parents acted like that exactly
@@Iamagoblingivemeyourstuff SAMEEE
If your boyfriend denies you for this small of a request. Like STRONGLY denies you. Dump him.
He even gives her the "You're not that special". Dude if you love your partner, you won't say that.
im just baffled as to how he turned such a simple request into that intense of an argument. he seems so small and fragile. not like a cute lil baby more like a piece of sugar glass set up in a bar scene in an action film. he was ready to crumble.
This is a great simile but all I can hear is "Let's get ready to CRUMBLEEEEEEEEEEEE"
The videos are fake........
Thanks for reminding me how much I love seeing movie stunts with breakaway glass lol
@@maschaorsomething Did you even watch the video? Coop explains clearly why they're not
Dude their videos are fake. They have hundreds of shorts on Facebook and tiktok. She is just as savage as he is, but their is never any outrageous reactions by either of them nor any conclusions. They just post another skit the next day.
Please stay away from men (or anyone) who use the word "female" as a derogatory term towards women 😭🙏 Obviously it's fine in most contexts but it's always a red flag if you're using it like you're talking about another species. Fyi I'm a man and I'm not going to pretend I know what it's like to be a non-man but going on a date with one of these guys made me sympathize with every woman ☠
Or the term woman come here..
Fr! They act like women aren’t also people??
It's so incely lmao
As someone that uses "human", "female", and "male" as a mixture of derogatory and out of habit because I just generally see people as autopsy samples. True. Take OPs advice.
If it makes people happy, it's more as a want to open human bodies up and less out of hatred for people.
@@qwmx... I hope you're doing okay.
If you go through their TikTok, you'll see that their energy together is intense and loaded with just toxicity on both ends. I'm guessing it's their dynamic, but it's so charged with negativity on her end and his.
5 months late but they are all skits
Oil n water dont mix. The two were never on the same page. A bit of effort like maybe rehearsing the script prior to recording woulda helped the authenticity? Obviously a Skit yall ok man? I mean hey Brahs get real
i was sick and my boyfriend literally went to the store, bought me a bag of oranges, peeled them for me at my bedside, and then fed them to me slice by slice. that guy is such a loser, he should go do his own laundry
That's so sweet, omo
OMG THATS SO CUTE
where can i get someone like this 😭
LA boys def aren’t like this 💀
how do i find one like that
@@london_inlove same here 💀 seriously..
As someone who had an ex who told her "you know you're not special, right?" completely unprompted one day, this is cathartic. I'm reading all these hate comments and extrapolating that to all the worlds shitty bfs and exes.
My ex never told me "you aren't special" but he did say "you're lucky I'm with you" even after behaving like a sentient pile of rotting garbage. I wish I had dumped him sooner but at least he's gone.
I dated someone once when I was younger who told me I wasn't *important*. Not even that I wasn't special. Trash. Straight in the trash
@@wolvie1618 i believe in u girl youre strong ❤❤
@@wolvie1618happened to me too, hope you're doing a lot better now tho 🩷
Ugh same! It’s just them trying to drag our self esteem and happiness down to their level, we can’t let them win!
hearing Cooper yapping is honestly better then therapy.
“You gotta do things for yourself dude” YOU CANT SAY THAT TO YOUR GF- SHE DID YOUR LAUNDRY 😭😭😭😭😭
Right, and calling her dude and bud. 🤦🏻♀️
Thank you Kenny from South Park I agree.
@@kanyanavanathan3786 of course
I named my dog after kenny 😂@@SleepiestYawner
The machines does the work. So how is that a valid reason.
I doubt their relationship started out that way, people like him slowly become more comfortable treating you badly and you slowly become more tolerant of it because they've destroyed your self-esteem and you're desperate to please them in hopes that one day they'll revert back to the person you fell in love with. Knowing that you would die for someone who is indifferent to or even finds joy in your suffering is the worst and loneliest feeling in the world. I hope she can get away from him, it's not always easy if you have been abused
exactly how my last relationship went and it went on so for so long i was noticing i was doing the same things he did and after breaking up i noticed how much of a crappy ass person i was turning into bc you get so used to it you don’t notice anymore it’s like oh well he’s always been like that he moved on in two days and got mad i talked to one guy when we were broken up 😟
@@dia4024 I'm so sorry, you deserve so much better ♡
Yeah that happened to me. It got to the point that checking my texts gave me anxiety. Hell, I felt so isolated and alone that I downloaded one of those ai friend apps and deadass the ai treated me better than he did and it was just a program. Like damn you know you messed up when a bloody Replika is nicer than you. 💀
But it took my current bf (at the time friend) coming into my life and making me happier than I had been in years for me to dump my ex.
@@wolvie1618good for you!! Your current bf showed up when you needed him the most and helped you get out of a toxic situation- I hope he is treating you like you deserve ❤ it’s hard to tell after an awful/ abusive relationship bc any sort of kindness seems like the greatest thing ever. I have been in a similar situation and I am so happy you are out of it!
Yeah I feel like this 😢
He is SO insecure. Trying to break her self esteem so she never leaves.
as an italian, i would like to say that we do not claim this man
Esatto!!!
He def not italian and not of italian culture. Doing small acts of service and sharing food, like peeling yo wife's fruit is considered alpha here, even my toxic masculinity infused grampa did that lmao
Same 😁
as an italian, i support this decision
I asked my partner the other day if they would peel an orange for me, they said yes immediately, no questions asked. They then told me they weren't feeling good. My point is that even though they weren't feeling good they would still be willing to do that small act of service. I can't believe people can be as awful as that dude 🙄
and then others will argue that peeling an orange is very simple and you shouldn’t ask your partner to do it, what if you’re like sick and don’t wanna move or you’re too busy doing something else at the moment, also even like she said she had nails on, those things are so hard to clean sometimes so it would just be very messy for her
@@kyluvs_even if it was an easy task i’d still do it for my partner because i love them and i want to make them happy lol it’s that simple to me i can’t imagine full on refusing like the guy in the video 😭
@@millystars LITERALLYYYY, just cuz it’s simple doesn’t mean it wouldn’t make them happy and feel loved, who cares if it’s literally just peeling an orange it’s still a nice thing to do😭 and adding the whole “ur not special” line made it 100% worse
Did you ask him? Or use manipulative words to get him to peel it.
Watch the video, she never actually asks him
He felt the manipulation.
@@hangtownranger I asked them?- a good partner would be willing to without manipulation- do you need help?
if my boyfriend was calling me buddy and saying im not that special. let me tel you im ending up on national news.
lmao
Did anyone else notice how she rocks herself when she’s really close to him, her brain is literally uncomfortable because of his proximity
Literally!! Rocking back and forth is a form of self-soothing when you're anxious. Especially when your man has never ever done a single fucking thing to put you at ease.
it’s a skit
Sounds a lot like confirmation bias, but alright
She fidgets when she talks to him. Anyone that defends this secretly loves abusing ppl idc.
@@antoine7611saying this is a skit is crazy, so she’s also pretending to have anxiety and scared too? I know you don’t actually believe that, I just think you enjoy watching it because you wish you could do the same thing. Jokes are confessions, and being obtuse, is a confession.
as an italian with many korean friends, we're equal. we bond over our different types of noodles and we DONT treat our partners like we're middle school bullys
Tell that to my ex lol
this got a lot more likes than i thought it would lmao
It's all fake skit. You should see how savage she can be to him in their skits. But none of them ever really shock the other it's always calm reactions. They don't even hide their cameras.
Its videos like this that make me realize i'm worth more than being treated like crap by my boyfriend. I swear these keep coming out and give me self worth
This morning I woke up and simply said 'ugh I don't feel like making breakfast' (just complaining bc I was tired, no expectation at all) out loud and my bf instantly started making me some eggs. He already ate too, so it was only for me and I didn't even ask, he was just being nice. Never settle ladies, healthy relationships make life easier for both parties
my bf and i are lazy so we take turns picking up food lolol
awww , hope you guys continue together
lol@@mightymeatymech
And you deserve it because I'm sure you'd do the same for him. 😊 That's a healthy relationship between equals.
My partner is like this too. She just wants to see me happy. I try to do the same for her 🖤
The daddy issues RADIATE off him. Wonder how many times his dad talked to him like that
It honestly makes me think of Andrew Tates daddy issues. He idolized his dad because he wasn't around to see how terrible dad was while vilifying his mother because "mommy sent my perfect daddy away," even tho mom did everything possible to provide a good home life. Obviously in men who start to feel superior to all women, that can lead to vilifying and hating all women. I think it's a somewhat common situation.
Honestly, she looks like she's about to cry in that orange video. Like she's holding in her tears because she's on camera. I feel so sad for her. She seems like such a lovely person. I hope she finds her One.
i can’t even imagine what she’s dealing with off camera. i’ve had an ex tell me i’m not special and so many more horrible things along those lines. there’s no way it just ends there.
It's fake they have hundreds of videos going back years. If you think that's bad you should see what she says to him. But it's all staged hence why they never have over reactions and the camera is always out in the open.
@@buzuxifr it even looks fake with how unnatural she talks
@@buzuxijust my opinion but even if it’s staged, it cannot be healthy for him to talk to her like that and for her to listen to it every single day. it seems a little too natural.
i dated my loser boyfriend for 4 years, broke up in 2021 and i'm still salty i let myself be controlled that way for so long and thought it was ok
what matters now is that you got out and can focus on treating yourself the way you should be and meeting new people who will appreciate and care for you the way they should
Same. The brainwashing is real
Definition of narcissist: this boyfriend.
If this is indeed serious she's probably going to be hearing "you're not special" in her head for decades to come whether she leaves him or not. That kind of verbal abuse sticks with you. 😔
Prague is the capital of the Czech Republic. The Czech Republic is a landlocked country in Central Europe. It is bordered by Germany to the west, Austria to the south, Slovakia to the east and Poland to the north.
No it’s not.
@@Lowki-ki What do you mean "No it's not."? Everything they said is true...
If your mate says, "You're not that special. Get that through your head. " Run. You deserve someone who believes you are special.
if he's comfortable speaking like that to his girlfriend on camera, imagine how he treats her off-camera. yikes.
It's not real.
@@maschaorsomething source?
It’s not even the refusal to peel the orange that’s a red flag. It’s the language and the fact she did his FUCKING LAUNDRY FOR HIM
Noooo I literally believe Jasmine's story, my husband is exactly like that. Unless he's very tired or the stores are closed, if I so much as say "I wish we had some x," as long as it's not junk food, he'll put on his shoes and head out to pick it up without a word. I'm so lucky.
My Dad does that for my Mom (and vice versa) and honestly it's so wild to see. I've seen the other side and can say these little acts are mountains, not molehills.
Dont really care whether or not if its real or fake but whats stressful about it in perspective is that there are people that genuinely think that its okay to treat their partners like this and to them there's no way out of it.
That's the thing! Like, okay, it's likely scripted and an exaggeration - but that too is a problem!!!! It's normalizing behavior like this, even though she's upset and telling him why, because it's showing it in a natural-looking interaction. It's very easy to believe that someone who DOES think along these lines would see that not only is someone else portraying it, falsely or not, but that it's someone with "clout." Being someone with a platform and posting toxic things like this gives that thing legitimacy, when really, no one should treat their partner the way he does in the video.
Also, thinking this is "funny" is a red flag, because scripted or not, it's anything but.
I think the number of ppl pretending this is fake are just men confessing they are sadist. If you think about it, there is no real for a group of people that make fake scenarios about women in their head to jump to the conclusion this is just a skit. Really just think about that….
@@ericaholloway1751another comment said the boyfriend posted basically the same video but with the roles swapped and if they’re telling the truth then yeah it is fake
Even if it were fake, the way it just rolled off his tongue shows he means it…
And her face was very telling…
14:16 that's Scumbag Dad (who ironically seems to be a great dad), who mainly makes skits about quick, fake content like 'kindness influencers'. He and his _very_ large friend group stage skits with dramatic plot twists and he also pokes fun at 'POV: *insert cliche'* videos. He's really good imo, highly recommend.
Yes id assume so Thanks for the personal recc...ive seen their work tho corny lacking creativity its entertaining n well cast. My drawback is habitual conceilment of lead lady nattural beauty n top tier skills of partnering. Overly edited im saying
My advice as a fan would be Jus dont overthink the work product. Edits n efforts to hide are hindering at least on anything i see but im sure my opinion lacks alot i cant dial up n view
The internet is WILD
ALSO the amount of buddy he said concerns me lmaooo. as if he's talking to a kid.
God, Cooper might be the most babygirl ever and I’m living for it
My bf heard me say once that I hate talking plastic off of frozen pizzas and he made it a point the next time to do it and When he started taking it off I was like “oh thanks” and he was like “well you said you hated it didn’t you? It’s not a big deal” like I almost cried
Dude, if he's saying these kinds of things to her, I'm worried he might DO worse things. I hope for the best for this girl and hope she gets freed from this man.
it’s a skit like the rest of their page is videos like this trying to bait
@@swarmofgeesethank you omg. people are so brain rotted
@shroomi1214 oh yeah it’s definitely still problematic what they’re doing, but like both the people in the skit are in on it. both of them are rage baiting not just the bf. like she’s definitely in on it as much as he is. their both pretty scummy for doing this
@@swarmofgeesestill going to be honest, i'll never understand skits like these where it just makes you look stupid. like if it were me, i'm making sure i comment it's all fake or something because no way i would want ppl to think this is real (since behaviour like this is real).
@@ggundercover3681 fr fr !! content like this makes it harder for actual victims to speak out as deniers will point to videos like this where people fake it for clout. such a scummy thing to do and all for some views
Why is he with her if he doesn’t think she’s special? Like yeah, no one’s perfect, but you should, idk, like your partner at least?? It’s giving “I hate my wife” energy.
I can just tell by her body language and his speech patterns that this is a BAD relationship
If I was dating someone and they kept calling me buddy in such a disrespectful way Id feel so upset.
Treat yourself well, your bf/husband should never be calling their gf/wife buddy or bro or dude or anything like that.
“DO NOT talk to your mother like that. She’s been through enough!” I completely 100% agree. Also, God help me if I talked to my mother like that. She’d get her chancla so fast even though I’m a grown woman
He’s treating her like his child. I mean BUDDY!?
i simply cannot accept that behavior in a man bc i was spoiled by my 3 older brothers. I know men/boys can be thoughtful and sweet bc i experienced it. There’s legit no excuse for any romantic partner of yours to put you down
i have three older brothers and my experience was living with men like this to the nth degree … the fact you had the opposite experience actually doesn’t compute in my brain. neither does the happiness I feel for you. tell your brothers I love them.
my two brothers are also the sweetest boys in the world! i could never understand how my friends could tolerate dating a man who refused to do the little kind things (sharing food, getting me water, getting me napkins, staying up with me when i was anxious/scared, etc.)
@@gmb2321I can compute, I can also compute that the same sweet acting men could secretly be scum we should be scraping off our shoes (I know an example).
Right? My brothers were (and are) amazing men. So is my father. They showed me how real men treat a woman. I will not settle for less. If that means ‘I’ll end up alone’ I’m totally okay with that.
“Tough luck buddy” WHAT U DONT CALL UR GF BUDDY
My husband and I call each other “bud” but that’s because we were friends first and consider each other our “best friend/best bud” so it’s always said sweetly. IF we ever use “buddy” it’s in jest. He and I would Never talk to each other seriously like this guy does to her
@@gracesblythe yeah but the tone he was using was very aggressive. I’m glad you and your husband have that relationship! That’s so sweet!!
@gracesblythe same. We've been married for so long we've got all kinds of names but none are disrespectful
@@SleepiestYawner Thank you!!! He's the coolest person I know and a total sweetie, and he tells me I'm pretty and makes me food and I make him laugh and sorry just gotta gush about him I STILL have a crush on him lol
Like sometimes people might use the term buddy to talk down at someone but it's also used in contexts that are friendly or endearing. Like I'd call a friend or partner buddy but I'd never tell someone they aren't special like wtf.
As an italian i can confirm we DO NOT claim him 🙅♀️🙅♀️
the fact that this video was posted as engagement bait angers me so much more than the boyfriend’s words honestly. preying on people’s kindness for revenue is the oddest thing about the internet lately.
Oddest thing about the world too, honestly.
what's engagement bait?
@@cheeling794 engagement bait is when an account online posts something purely because the poster knows that people WILL have some sort of reaction to the content that causes the viewers to engage, in turn making sure it’s pushed in the algorithm so more people see it = more money. it’s takes many forms. it could be as harmless as someone being like “comment if you’re an aries or sagittarius” or it could be what we see here, a couple fake fighting and preying on other women’s insecurities to come to the girlfriend’s defense, therefore getting more engagement on their video and showing it to more people.
Are you talking about this video or the one being reacted to? Because I don’t think that’s coopers style. Tf
@@ariamadd3617 i am definitely talking about the video Cooper is talking about in the video. i mention the girlfriend in my other comments but context clues are hard on the internet lmao!
this dude treats his girlfriend how my brother treats me (derogatory)
THATS WHAT I WAS THINKING
LIKE HE TALKS TO HER LIKE A SIBLING 😭
Ok but even with siblings id sarcastically say no while also pealing the orange
no because with how he calls her 'dude' and 'bro' ?? sibling word choices😭
@@amandatownsend5132 SAME LOL, my brother would be like "NO I DONT WANNA PLAY!!!" but joins me anyway
@@amandatownsend5132 NO YEAH 100%
LIKE BROTHER IT IS AN ORANGE
My heart breaks for her. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and he would say shit like this all the time. He made me believe no one else would ever love me so it's him or no one. I met my husband a couple years later. He doordashed coffee to me when I mentioned I had run out of creamer at work. He gets me flowers when I'm sad. He printed out a binder full of writing exercises when I said I wanted to get back into writing more. I'm grateful for him every day.
No joke, he just got home with pizza and flowers 😍🥰
The fact that it's an orange. And the peeling of it, is the symbol of soft and kind (mundane) love in lots of poems (or something along those lines). The thing every poet has been raging to do for someone. I know that this trend probably came from that symbolism but still damn
My fiancé has rubbed my legs down in Vaseline when I didn’t feel like it & was joking around like a whiny baby. He looked me dead in my eyes & said, “You’re lucky I love you,” as he rubbed it in between my toes. 😂
I couldn’t imagine him saying of those things to me…
bro ur curing my depression just by talking. thank you so much. this is my second video of urs. sometimes my mind isnt registering what u are saying but ur lightning up my mood. thanks bro😇. and did i mention ur beautiful
iron man analogy was gold. Also referring to him as a malignant tumor was spot on.
as the designated "girl who has nails" i peel everyone oranges even though im ALLERGIC TO THEM
GOSH YES, though I'm not allergic, so I'm not as much of a legend BUT U CLEARLY ARE hhh I mean it's simple but meaningful. Same w cooking, everyone (hopefully)can cook, but does it make everyone happy when someone cooks for them?YES. And, unlike cooking, peeling fruit takes VERY little time, so it's weird to be stubborn about not doing it for someone.
You really shouldn't if you are allergic.... you could accident lick your fingers.
@@RandomSwiftie13 im o-okay as long as i wash my hands after, its a very mild allergy :3
@@goopygirl still be careful! sometimes repeated exposure to allergens can make reactions worse overtime. stay cautious!
Wdym you mean by everyone? Like your kids?
i dont get how someone could be so cruel to their partner but the way you said “dont run FLY awAAAaAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAaaAAaaAaAAaaAAAAy from him” made me cackle
He literally spoke to her like she was a little boy he was babysitting. That right there would have made me get up and leave immediately. Idk how she can put up with him
Good move 👍👍
She is gorgeous, he is probably under her league, and he is trying to bring her to his level.
he is the husband we all wish we had. him and his wife are very lucky to have each other💗
Honestly I don't know if it's just me but I feel like so many guys treat their girlfriends the same way they do their sisters. Like if I didn't know they were dating I would've thought they were siblings
Even then, if my sister _sincerely_ asked me to peel an orange for her, I’d do it. Of course I’d put up a good song and dance of loud groans and complaining beforehand, but I’d still do it.
Probably because their only experience with women is with their sister or mother 💀
It makes me so sad that I was just like her and I thought that’s how I was supposed to be loved. I then met an amazing man who taught me how I should be taken care of. Do NOT settle!!
And he called her a “female”?! Oh this dude is done 😂😂😂
Imagine having a boyfriend or girlfriend
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how is it that these breeds of men can get the most gorg women but we can’t 😭
Man this is relatable asf 😂🤣😂🤣😂 (I'm convinced that I will die alone and unloved) 😂 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
Down bad thread (me too)
imagine having a friend
I love when people say it’s “just a skit” because I guess that means all these men are just suspiciously good actors
Lmao exactly, it's the ultimate cope 😂
this guy gave me severe ptsd from my ex, like i physically cannot stand what he’s saying to her, HIS GIRLFRIEND, omg i can’t
I'm so tired of women posting their terrible boyfriends for laughs then goes to his defense when the internet tells her that her terrible boyfriend is terrible and she should leave. Like, we're way past the point in society where we pretend this is ok or tolerable behavior from a SO. Either stand up for yourself or stop whining to strangers about it. (I'm obviously not passing judgment on victims of DV. Just people with asshole partners)
I genuinely also believe part of it is that they've been with them for so long that they have either become used to it or are more afraid of what would happen if they left. If it's all they've known and are afraid to start again. I wish they could just leave though.
Yup. They love to complain but don’t you dare tell them to leave
Mmm, I don’t know about that. If someone is in a relationship willingly then that person thinks it is at least tolerable enough to stay in it. It usually isn’t a case of, “I know they’re terrible and I could leave but I don’t” (unless it’s an abusive or codependent dynamic and they’re aware of that). They don’t think their partner is treating them all that badly. And we all complain about people close to us from time to time, that’s normal. We all fight or have annoying habits. That doesn’t mean we wanna cut off anyone close to us if they do something frustrating every once in a while. So it’s unfair to expect people who are in bad relationships to not complain because it is expecting them to have the sort of awareness that would make them leave the relationship in the first place.
I think another comment here said it well but I want to go into more detail. Yeah you’re kind of assuming that the people you just said are posting their partners for laughs are also complaining to the Internet constantly? Now I think this is more of a thing where your toxic dysfunctional dynamics that you’re steeped in all day start to look normal to you, so you start telling stories that you think are funny, and they’re actually terrifying to everyone around you. Those of us Who grew up like that know the vibes.
the thing is, you don't know who is a victim and who isn't. a few years ago i went through a similar situation on a different social media platform, where i posted about my abusive boyfriend and then panicked when people started calling him abusive. and judging me for how i handled it when behind the scenes i was being horrifically abused. he had tried pushing me off a balcony when i was pregnant, str4ngl3d me, gave me multiple brain injuries.
i agree that there are women who are not victims who do this, but it's not up to anybody to decide if a stranger on the internet is a DV victim or not. the abuse was bad enough, having thousands of strangers judge me for how i was handling it made it absolutely unbearable.
I’ve never once thrown anything at my partner, but if MY HUSBAND spoke like that to me I’d be shocked if that orange didn’t make contact with his face.
That man is talking an awful lot of crap for someone that just gave his girl what is essentially a weapon in the right hands
I think the pain in her eyes speaks for itself. You can SEE it's not a skit because if you pay close attention to her body language, she looks completely done with him and his deprecating bs. What a shtty thing to do to your girlfriend honestly
He really started trying to teach a life lesson- I. CANNOT. She just did his laundry and god knows how many other things for him and he said “it isn’t all about what your boyfriend can do”?! Damn right it isn’t because you can’t do anything
As an Italian-American, we are toxic af. No one in my immediate family can get through a conversation with each other without busting into attitude at some point.
I agree. Everyone in my family also says not to get with an Italian. I'm not American Italian but European and half of the family is Italian. There's so much drama and the dudes are especially misogynistic
@thesecretshade When I was in Rome some dude grabbed my butt on the street while holding hands with another woman (I'd assume it was a romantic partner)... Like, love, why are you with this piece of sh*t. It happened in the middle of the day, too... Not at night in a night club area... So I don't even think he was drunk. Why are some people this gross and disrespectful?
See we are rude as shit but I still know how to fucking respect my partner lmao
Speak for your self, don't pull us italians into your problems
@@seafairyclips as someone who used to work retail, I can confirm - Italians are the worst. Italians, Indians, english from particular areas (middle class, think new money makes them special - think kardashianesque) Americans. In that order.
A relationship is a partnership, you work as a team. If peeling an orange in return for having your clothes, laundered, dried, ironed and folded is too much, then I think he needs to seriously work on himself before he's ready for a relationship.
0:31 the way he says "bUddy"
im dead like what
also i get calling your partner buddy in like, a fun way, but this just looks like a weird kind of friendzoning
her bf (hopefully soon to be ex) is so lame and from the snippet we get to see on tiktok it’s quite clear he spends a lot of time belittling and treating her like an overworked mom to a ungrateful child
So my shitty ex that I didn't live with was like this. He would tell me how selfish or whatever I was and I would point out that I had done his laundry or gotten his groceries and he would say that it didn't count or he didn't have to reciprocate bc I only did that stuff to be thanked and to hold it over him.
Wow that's crazy, she really needs to leave him. To say to her, "you're not that special" that is severely fucked up. He should be left in the dirt.... I'd kick him out
In college, my FRIEND happily started peeling oranges for me when she realized i hated doing it. What is wrong with this man?!
It’s sad that most girls who’s boyfriends treat them like this are always like “Oh no! He’s so nice off camera!” when truly he’s not
Honestly, every time. I hate to quote Family Guy but it’s literately that line “Oh he’s not that bad, you should see how gentle he hits me when we’re alone.”
These poor women have been degraded so much that they don’t realize their self worth.
@@TDArulesclub4Sadly they won't make scenes like that anymore.
I am grateful to you for calling out these narcissists and abusers. Do you ever do videos of women. There are just as many narcissistic and selfish women. Every toxic relationship stems from selfishness. It is when one or both people in a relationship care more about what they are getting out of the relationship than caring about their partner.
It is also ironic that (fe)male means iron male considering a lot of us are anemic.