Fr he was definitely only into the fact her pretty gets him attention. It’s almost like Munchhausen’s by proxy but without the medical stuff. Idk what that called is that just called being a leech?
@@dynogamergurlit’s called a “trophy wifing” he likes her beauty bc he sees her as “his” and his pretty thing to show off. Essentially it’s objectifying women down to how they make him look like a “winner”
I dated a man very recently that was very much into my looks. Even told me how I could dress less conservatively to "piss off other bitches" (like, really?). Mix together me not using my noggin and his wholesome demeanor and I somehow did not run immediately far, far away. Fast forward 6 months, I cut ties and am rebuilding my self esteem. There's no way to build a partnership with someone so focused on physical attractiveness alone.
Also the videos where he was “hyping her up” felt more just like him complaining about her “pretty privilege” than him talking about her being beautiful
Yeesssss I felt that too. Would never want my partner to talk about me like that, don’t know why people were swooning. She’s a person not a different species to observe and research anthropologically lmao.
Yeah my bf will notice it sometimes but he never makes me feel bad about it, i could be remembering wrong but i think he told me once to go into places by myself to get free stuff😂 (as a joke of course) Hes never threatened by it unless it escalates (like the guy at the gas station who was always **nice** to me that he caught staring at my ass. honestly it makes ME more uncomfortable than him. He knows id never cheat, but i dont know what these men will do. The free stuff used to be nice because i had no regard for my life or safety, but now unless its just a small act of kindness i try to avoid it because it can become transactional really quickly. Its honestly really scaring when men will just walk up to you on the street to talk to you. I know it sounds twisted because thats how people used to interact but its not like that anymore, decent guys dont do that anymore, its always threatening now. So unless you’re a starbucks barista, pls don’t give us “pretty privilege”
I can't believe the dude said "she fought for the relationship" like it was a BAD thing. Like god, how horrible that she cared and wanted to build a life with you.
i heard my brother say to his gf "if you have to talk about me in therapy then were over" followed by shit talking couples therapy like yeah i hope its over, hope she leaves your ass, but damn!!!!
My ex tried to fight for a relationship when we were 3 months post breakup and I started to meet with my now bf, he just showed up at my house without an invite and tried to force me to get back with him That’s toxic imo
@@Grinchillahrecognizing a problem is the 1st step in the right direction. So there's probably no hope for this douche canoe but there is hope for you! 🤣
@@reaverkai To be completely fair I have the EQ of a newly earthed sweet potato. I try but it's really not easy I partly blame society but I'm also autisic so that probably plays a factor
“Ummm actually I’m a perfect little prince and have not a single flaw or am not even capable of making a misstep; and if I do well it’s justified pwomise!!!”
meanwhile my most healthy relationship (which is my current one) is the one where we allow ourselves to have disagreements and address any issues as soon as they come up. it’s lovely and reassuring to know that he’s not just hiding anything that bothers him and instead gives me a chance to explain things or adjust accordingly, and he does the same for me 🥰
That man is so jealous of her. Everytime he documented them BOTH getting free stuff because she’s so beautiful, he sounded annoyed and unimpressed. He was jealous and he did not like that girl. And he proves it by saying he didn’t fight for the relationship but she did… I’m glad she’s not with him anymore oof
You’re right- I don’t think the majority of people going into a relationship even anticipate their partner being jealous of them as a even possible factor. No one would like to place a vindication so heavy on someone they care about without it coming across as vain- especially since you’d anticipate appreciation and admiration to come from your partner and jealousy/envy to remain a factor of people outside your relationship since ultimately, you’re both supposed to be the winners together.
I've been jealous of women I liked before. Artists, singers, stuff like that. It's easy to feel insecure when somebody is super beautiful and talented. What you do as an adult is realize that it's a personal problem and you're just insecure and have to deal with it.
Your so spot on, he really does seem so annoyed and more so jealous of her than appreciative, she will find much better out there and he will just be a lesson in the past
I think he ended things with her because he couldn’t control her. He gives me narcissistic vibes. Very similar to my ex in his mannerisms and the way he condescends everyone. He’s never wrong, he’s a perfect and rational being, he knows all and everyone else needs to recognize that.
Knowing nothing about the tiktok drama before watching cooper’s video, I clocked that immediately and knew he was going to be problematic. Obviously there’s nothing wrong with hyping your girlfriend’s beauty, but it should never be the only thing you tell people about. Honestly it should never be the first thing you tell people about. I had to learn that lesson the hard way, numerous times. I hope the girl in the video knows how to clock that red flag now.
I bet you Owen is thinking “she can only fly planes cause she’s pretty… bees only like her cause she’s pretty… they only let her help in legal work because she’s gorgeous.”
@@Starfish-kx3du I highly doubt that was the truth, sounds like he was trying to take OP down a notch for revenge. You don't stay married to someone for 8 years for "lust" lmao
@@Starfish-kx3duhe doesnt mean it. He did love her in whatever capacity narcissists are capable of, but now that they broke up, he needs to hurt her and tear her down and "regain his power" by telling her that he never loved her and devaluing how important she was to him. It's to make himself feel better and her feel worse
You’re a real ally for women without being a white knight - rarely do I come across men who have insight and empathy but without an ulterior motive to get validation from women … this feels authentic
@@fkuropinion292I’m a feminist and also think he deserves praise. It’s so rare to find men who will call out other men out for their mistreatment of women. Misogyny is so pervasive in this world it’s hard for women not to be influenced let alone men.
He wasn't hyping her up, he was bragging. All his content was about her because having a hot girlfriend was the best thing he had going for him in the masculinity olympics, and once he no longer had a hot girlfriend, the best thing he had going for him was positioning himself as being too good for his hot ex-girlfriend.
What makes me angry is when people would say "she's not even that pretty" like what an ah thing to say. If she was the one bragging, ok but she's not the one who was labeling herself pretty.
Nobody in a relationship wants to only be recognized for their looks. Yes it feels amazing for your partner to compliment your looks on the daily but when that’s the only thing you compliment, it seems like you’re just in it for the looks. Dude his girlfriend was an artist, and an amazing one. Compliment her art, talk about how talented she is, tell others to support her art, except he never did. To my knowledge he’s never even talked about her account until after their breakup when she finally talked about him and he lost the control he had on the view of their relationship.
And I don't even think this was about looks, it was more... the effect her looks had on the world. That's what he "liked" and "valued" about her. He didn't say, "she's so beautiful _to me_" Which is the only thing that matters in a relationship!
the whole "my girlfriend gets stuff because she's pretty" gives me the ick, if your only thing you have to say about your girlfriend is that you think she's pretty and that she only ever gets things because she's pretty is just.. 🚩
It sounds so toxic. The mindset is “oh she just gets stuff handed to her bc of her looks.” She’s gorgeous, but I’m sure there are plenty of things she had to work for. Pretty privilege exists, but no one is handed everything because they just look that good. And most of the attractive people I know don’t just get handed things based on their appearance anyway, so that’s kind of a skewed view of reality.
@@elleumm exactly! I just feel like a person has to either be really insecure or not value their girlfriend as a person to assume that the only reason she gets anything is because she's pretty
I want to say as an adult married for 26 years there is ALWAYS work to do in a relationship. This jerk is just trying to make himself feel better because he has the delusion that people care about him.
Ugly doesn't always pertain to looks. Someone's attitude, mindset, and/or personality can all be considered ugly regardless of their physical appearance
@@AvaEFF umm because ppl who act like him are ugly. You’re the superficial one by thinking I meant “looks” If you have a bad personality, you’re ugly. If you have no morals, you’re ugly. If you treat others badly, you’re ugly. If you hurt the people who love you, you’re ugly.
@user-ff5zm7ic4v i did not ask for a whole essay 🔥🔥 js say you’re a butthurt dude and move on ain’t no one care + all he did was comment on her looks so he kinda outed himself there
Really telling how often men and the church will say “wives should submit to their husbands” and not bring up that other verse about husbands sacrificially loving their wives
Him: A relationship works when two people that are their own individuals come together Also, him: *makes his entire online identity about his then-girlfriend and now-ex*
Watching your video is healed a part of me because I think most women who allowed themselves to date around in their 20s have encountered this personality type
Was not expecting Cooper to pop off with a healthier biblical perspective than 99% of “Christian” influencers. As a Christian who has a hard time calling herself one, for the fear of being associated with goofs like this guy, thank you for making this video. I laughed, I cried, I cringed at sir Owen. And boy are you right, she dodged a bulllllllet.
like i love god and jesus but when i say i’m christian i literally see people talk to me differently and change and it’s so frustrating- like i’m not gonna hurt you
@@greenteiii Jesus said before he left though that “if they hate you, know that they hated me first” the fact that you lowkey feel ashamed to call yourself a Christian bc of other ppl is a little hurtful-not to them, but to God who’s created us. He has feelings and emotions and I’m sure it’s grieving the Holy Spirit to know that we have this much fear to even claim God or say we believe him. When you’re a Christian the Word already tells us what we’re getting into, it says we’ll be hated, that if you want people of the world to love you-they’ll love you, but they hate Jesus and as soon as you claim Him they’ll hate you too. You’re an alien of this world and a citizen of heaven (Ephesians 2:6) Jesus said in Matthew and Luke that if you love your father, mother, the world, anyone else more than him then you’re not worthy to follow him (Luke) He also said if deny him in front of man, he’ll deny you in front of His Father in heaven. So idk about you, but we should pray about not caring what people think and not have that be the reason your faith is affected.
@@greenteiii You shouldn’t care what people think about Christians tbh, the Bible lays it out pretty clearly that “if they hate you, remember they hated me first” and that there would be a “falling away” of Christians from the faith. it sucks what people think about Christians, but ultimately falls in line with what the Bible says is gonna happen (Timothy) So I wouldn’t worry about it too much, you're a citizen of heaven therefore an alien to this world (Ephesians) so be careful about feeling sad or offended over this bc it says in the word that Jesus didn't come down to send peace, but a sword, and he would put enmity between mother, brother, stepbrother etc and if you love the world or other people more than him you're not worthy of him and if you deny him before men, he'd deny gou before the father (Matthew & Luke)
He comes off as an actual psycho...like i had to check in with my partner because hearing him speak was triggering my cPTSD and post narcissistic victim syndrome. Ive been in therapy over a decade attempting to heal and untangle the mess that kind of abuse created in my head and this man took me right back into it. Glad she got away before it got any worse.
Unpopular opinion, relationships aren’t always better at the beginning!! now that my partner and i are over two years into our relationship , we are happier than ever, have solid communication skills and have a better relationship than we did in the beginning💗
Yeah, definitely not better…. But easier? No wait… less complex? Typically. There are so many factors. Generally speaking, it’s cohabitation that’s hard, be it a romantic relationship, family, friends, or just roommates. You can love someone to death, but not be able to live peacefully under the same roof. 🤭
the nonchalant men who "don't like fighting" and "just wanna chill fr" make me want to fight them on purpose, like they awaken my fight or fight response. like to them every discussion is a fight and by dismissing the very notion of discussing, they automatically anger me and we end up fighting, "proving their point". no my guy, you're just awful at listening and validating other people's feelings.
The way you bully boys who hurt women is so therapeutic because I never felt like “putting my emotionally& mentally abusive ex on blast” because eff him but the way you make me laugh at these men means so much. & knowing 100s of other people are also laughing is priceless 😂🎉❤
My ex who I broke up with a few years ago did something similar. He's a local "public figure" so to speak, and when we were dating he was always posting things with me. When we broke up, he went on this extremely long Instagram rant about the details of our breakup. I ended up getting a lot of nosy or hate messages from it. It was humiliating. He made me out to be this bad guy when in reality, we both knew it wasn't working. But instead of talking with me directly, talking to family/friends, or seeking therapy, he aired all of our personal grievances on social media. Luckily I'm now celebrating my anniversary with the man who became my husband :)
Guys like that are so insecure and destructive. It's so nice to read a comment like this that has a nice ending. I hope the best for you and your husband
made me subscribe instantly! i love to see people not listening to idiots about what scripture "says" and instead combatting it with real scripture. made my heart happy. :))
3:41 a guy literally did this to me, he would pick fights (and later ADMITTED to picking fights) and then said we weren’t compatible because “relationships should be easy in the beginning” 🙄 and dumped me. I have to stop watching because I hate this guy on principle but I’m glad you covered the topic
Ive been mind blow for the past 30 minutes, we were friends in middle school and went to high school together, Ervena has always been the most genuine and kind person
girl the way my jaw dropped, was going to message you but didn't want to bring back any reminders, hope you're doing amazing after dropping that POS❤ @@Aquavena854
That seems evident by the way she handled things with class and grace. When she was not given the same respect. I'm glad you got to experience her kindness and friendship ❤️
I’m so grateful for this video. Its so validating to hear from someone else that this kind of talk is not at all okay because I’ve heard men say this stuff so much and I always felt like I was bad or messed up. So thank you.
im processing a break up rn and when you said 'if you just listen to me youll know im right and your wrong' genuinely made me stop and actually realize that my ex did that shit too... why are men so manipulative
because no we arent? women do the same thing, but if I said why are women so manipulative it would be a disservice to all wonderful women who arent like that you are using your bad experiences to justify bad and wrong generalisation, and im sorry for your bad experience but it doesnt justify it nor does it make it a fact
ISTG this is so fuckin validating. I'm almost 40 and when my ex husband used to speak to me with those condescending facial expressions while gaslighting me about literally everything, I would gaslight MYSELF into believing that I was actually crazy bc I thought he had condescending facial expressions... Jesus fuckin Christ y'all. Marry someone who doesn't do that shit. Be kind to yourself and listen to yourself. Thank you for this video, it was refreshing, even to an old lady like myself 😂😂 I wish you all the best ❤️
This. I'm so glad you mentioned the facial expressions because that's what I said to my partner I was like it's his FACE just the expressions he makes are triggering and make me want to punch air.
As a Christian, we do not claim this man. Pastor Cooper is correct, women are described as the crown jewel upon a man’s head and should be treated like treasure 😌✨
Literally the gaslighting and the slow “I’m better than you” way of talking he has is exactly what my ex did. You explain it so well and it really is extricating to deal with
As a Christian, I am not only surprised but sad at his outlook on this. No wonder people think Christians nowadays are crazy. Also cant explain how much it meant that not only you fire back at him with scripture (which is what the Bible says to do) but that you also knew the background on Ephesians. Thanks for another awesome video, Cooper!
I just want to point out it’s almost him painting her as this “pretty girl” (obviously she’s stunning) but there’s so much more to her….but hes either ignoring or missing the reality that she “gets” all of these perks and things not from her looks but also- BECAUSE she is just nice and a sweet person. He based everything around her being “pretty girl” and this “pretty girl privilege” but actually people just like Ervena. She’s easy to be nice to, she’s smart, talented, kind, and courteous to others. People respond back to that and so does the universe. There is so much more to her than her “pretty face” Shame on you Owen- makes me sad to see this behavior from yet another man but also makes me happy that the internet can rally together for what’s right- not letting people make others feel small and use the bible as a weapon to look like a good person when your actions show very clearly that you aren’t!
This is straight up narcissism. That smirk when reacting her to her video is just pure delight that he got a rise out of her, nothing more. She should block him, delete all numbers, remove from her life altogether.
Ok girl. He saved you! He saved you from yourself honey. He saved you from himself. Go ahead and be grateful that you were pushed out of the way of a military grade tank that was coming your way.
Him saying Aquavena kept getting perks because she’s so beautiful immediately reminded me of the Seinfeld episode where Jerry is dating a woman who kept getting perks for being so beautiful just like that. She even got him out of a speeding ticket. 🤣 As I’m about to start typing this comment, I noticed you’re wearing a Seinfeld t-shirt! Well done! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I’ve said this a million times and i’ll say it again: men (like Owen) can NEVER keep a bad b*tch. His ex is drop dead gorgeous and that probably made him so insecure that losing her made him go actually insane. This happened with my ex, sort of. All I can say is that they’re both narcissists and can’t face the reality or face the consequences of their actions.
"were not compatible..because like-" because her list of accomplishments are a mile long (artist, world traveler (including Antarctica) , pilot ect. and you..well you dated her
i personally think that two fully compatible people in a relationship will have an easy time, without outside forces. it’s hard to find that though, and if you want to work through slight incompatibilities you totally can. he’s really weird though. he wasn’t looking for either of those lol
like even platonically. my friend’s that i’m the most compatible with, we hardly ever argue and if something pops up it’s easy to resolve. like we can disagree, and talk about that but it isn’t ever hard
Me and my husband don't fight or argue and people constantly tell us that this is wrong, that it is healthy to fight each other. We're happy and agreeable and have been together almost 18 years so...
Yeah like theres a difference between having some conflict and working through it, and fighting all the time. Its completely reasonable to say you're not compatible w someone bc you're fighting all the time. My now divorced parents were always fighting and i see where the guy is coming from of seeing unhealthy relationships w lots of conflict and then wanting to only have relationships w very little conflict.
You are so right! Relationships take two people coming together to discuss problems or issues with a solution mentality. If you're gonna be together for the long haul it is not always going to be smooth and easy , but when two people are working together towards a goal those bumps are easier to navigate.
I know nothing about a single person in this video including the person making it before I watched it. Somehow I ended caring about this story anyway because of the way you presented it, so I'd say you've got yourself a new follower 😂 nice work
Just a quick reminder. Healthy relationships are not hard, they are work. If a relationship is hard, then it’s not healthy. Love without respect isn’t enough.
I disagree. Every one has times where it can be harder than other times and it can have nothing to do with the other person. At the end of the day, a relationship IS hard work. People go into relationships thinking they will be easy and that is why so many people are unhappy nowadays no matter how many relationships they sift through
@@Jigglexphysics I don’t think you understand what I’m saying. When you say hard work, it’s about the work which is on both sides. Hard times just mean difficult times. When I say relationships shouldn’t be hard, I mean just hard. Hard as in painful and unhealthy and exhausting. These are teaching that literally came from a class on avoiding domestic abuse. Relationships can be complicated and take a lot of effort, but if you’re sitting thinking to yourself “this is so hard, why can’t they treat me better” that’s not good
I hope Owen finds a woman he loves and they have a couple kids together, but then she realizes this guy sucks and leaves him and they have shared custody of the kids but they have a way cooler step-dad they talk about constantly and also Owen has to step on a Lego atleast once a day before work
@@its-a-dog that's why I tried adding that she found someone better. That's who the step-dad is supposed to insinuate lol. And it's shared custody, so he gets them sometimes but then most of the time they hang out with mom and step dad and have a better time than with Owen
This isn't about gender, it's about who is respectful and mature in handling the breakup, you can't say she wasn't being respectful and mature in handling it. He was out if line crossing privacy boundaries and was in the wrong..
I hope Owen finds the person he deserves (and never has children) lmao let him end up with an equally toxic women instead of dragging in innocent bystanders
Conflict is not always bad. It just means that you have differencing opinions and that you guys need to communicate together and communicate civilly without it turning into something chaotic.
I would definitely say my husband and I had a harder time up front. We compared it to learning to speak the same language. The longer we've been married (12 years now) the better and easier it's gotten as we learned to work together.
Right! When you first start dating someone you don’t yet know the things that make them uncomfortable or what their communication style it. It’s more tough and clunky to communicate when you don’t know each other yet! I feel that it gets better as time goes on
And isn't it so beautiful? My hubby and I just made 9 years, and I look back and am filled with joy and pride. We've worked hard and continue to work hard to find that equilibrium and it's beautiful! And very much like learning how to speak each other's language.
My theory is this dude thinks relationships should be easy in the beginning- because he HIDES who he is in the beginning, or is used to relationships where one or the other mask and hide themselves, and then the more comfortable they become they reveal themselves and conflict occurs later. Me- I'd rather someone be themselves upfront from jump, we work through thr conflict of inter-meshing personalities and thr harmony comes later through work and honesty and transparency and trust. That dude is a red flag
That was genuinely the best youtuber apology video I've seen. He didn't feel bad at all and admitted it instead of pretending. A+++ for honesty. Didn't even try to trick anyone into thinking he's not an asshole!!!!! I wish they would all just come out and say it. 😂
I loved how you shouted out good christians near the end, made me real happy because that piece of crap was acting like it was christian to mistreat girls
i appreciate how you are able to incorporate the humor that we love about your channel while taking things seriously. I feel like so many commentary youtubers make everything a joke, but you are able to speak about things in a way that feels enjoyable to watch but also like you're taking the subject matter seriously. I think some other youtubers should take notes
1, he was a red flag from the beginning because he *only* made videos about her being pretty. regardless of whether he actually thought she was pretty or not, he didn’t publicly say anything else about her other than that she was pretty, and that she had pretty privilege. it’s like that one barbie clip where she’s a princess and the prince dude who likes her is like ‘you’re beautiful’ and she’s like ‘thanks, but is beauty really all that matters to you?’. he’s looking for a conventionally pretty, probably traumatized, insecure trophy wife, who won’t notice he’s being manipulative, and that he’s gaslighting her. 2, you should paint your nails purple
SWAN PRINCESS MENTIONED 🗣🗣🗣 “you’re all I’ve wanted, you’re beautiful!” “Thank you… but what else?” “What else??” “Is beauty all that matters to you” “w…what else is there?” You should write a book! How to offend women in five words or less!
I literally had an ex like Owen. It feels so validating seeing Cooper’s perspective on this guy because I felt like I was reliving my past relationship with a man like this lol so condescending and full of himself as if he’s not outing himself and his character with every snide and self absorbed comment. As if the public can’t make their own conclusions of how disgusting he’s being towards Aquavina. Men like these are a disease lol
@user-ff5zm7ic4v again, where did she openly talk about her issues in their relationship with him for people to observe on the internet? The fact he went into detail about their private issues shows his character of dismissing boundaries. If he really was that redeemable of a person he would just keep that offline. He flat out his showing how much he does not give a damn about maintaining respectful boundaries by “spilling tea” for views. This lady has way more class for choosing not to speak ill of him the way he was. He literally put it out there that he was superficial about the whole relationship. You are probably one of those same men trying to defend this grotesque species of man.
@user-ff5zm7ic4v oh that just makes this so much more disappointing knowing you’re defending this gaslighting and manipulative male who took pride in the benefits of his ex’s looks which is just ick behavior to begin with, then proceeds to go on about the details of their break up which is PRIVATE MATTERS. I understand everyone has a right to express themselves on the internet but how the public decides to perceive you is also THEIR right. Tbh he looks like desperate fool for attention and has his priorities mixed up in the wrong things and as a woman it’s sad you seem to wanna defend that kind of behavior. Disappointing and quite frankly you seem to be part of the problem in backing up these types of toxic men.
@user-ff5zm7ic4v also she didn’t need to entertain this idiot by stopping to his level. She posted things here and there to express HERSELF, pay attention closely, she did not go into detail about their issues by any means as Owen did, and that’s called HAVING CLASS, HONEY. Try it sometime.
@user-ff5zm7ic4vyou are basing your ENTIRE point on an assumption you’ve made, and youre ignoring the blatant evidence that he is not a good guy. he aired out their dirty laundry for money, he constantly belittled her because she had ‘pretty privilege’, he put no effort into the relationship, he broke up with her OVER TEXT, and he explained why he broke up with her more to the internet than her. how in this situation is the girl the bad guy? if anybody is like this guy it isnt ok, stop trying the ‘well if the roles were reversed’ because decent people exist, and would definitely call the person being a dick out for their actions. please stop making excuses for this shitty guy.
Didn't expect to go to church this Sunday at the end of this video. Shout out for emphasizing what those verses say to husbands. People love to highlight "wives submit" and forget the verse before that section and forget the section after.
Honestly, I never fought with my ex. Never, not even once. And that was not a healthy relationship *at all* folx! As Cooper mentioned, it‘s normal to have friction in the beginning and it‘s good to learn how your partner deals with conflict imo. Thanks for sharing this with us all, I love all the real people drama you do recently 💌
this guy reminds me of my ex who when we broke up told me *drumroll* im not confusing enough and just tell him what my problem is and dont make his guess...... like sir excuse me? you cant even get it when i tell you why would i think you could guess? same vibes as "she was trying to fix it and i didnt want to"
Not my boyfriend, but yesterday, this coworker who has been objectifying and sexualizing me at work was gaslighting me. He said, 'What did I even say to make you uncomfortable? Why are you scared of me?' When I started listing things he said or did that made me feel uncomfortable, before I could even finish one sentence, he said, 'Ok, no, that didn’t happen, and I don’t want to hear about this anymore. I’m gonna leave it alone,' and then he ran away. It was the most annoying thing ever. Why did he pretend like he wanted to fix it if he didn’t want to fix it? 😭 It’s been like 3 weeks, and he expected me to just forgive him and be friends again like nothing happened, when he never even fixed the issue or apologized. So, he keeps bringing it up and then running away. He’s all annoyed that I haven’t gotten over it yet. I told him I will be upset about it until he apologizes or owns up to what he did, So he said, 'Sorry I didn’t own up to it at first. I'm just in the habit of lying to protect myself from my dad because my dad yells at me a lot, I guess you can’t take a joke and It’s my fault for opening up to you too fast, Im really sorry ok bye” I never felt so gaslit in my life. I bet the guy in the video was upset that she wouldn’t get over something he did but it’s his fault that she wouldn’t get over it because he wouldn’t properly address it. So then he breaks up with her because she “has the same issues every week” instead of taking accountability and resolving the issue.
@@raya6508girl its time to go to HR. Im so mad that you have to endure such an asshole, wtf, who acts like that towards coworkers. And then to blame it on trauma? Why would you care about his daddy issues? If he knows his actions are wrong and he knows he has issues, then solving them should be in his best interest. Please make sure to document his conduct, like messages, mails and maybe camera footage if your work has some. Im rooting for you 🙌
My ex was just like this guy. Very dismissive, gaslighting, didn’t put in any effort, and would shut down and withdraw from conflict rather than try to fix things. And I can confirm it was infuriating. But he would never post about it like this human embodiment of cringe.
@@Cube6529"Gaslighting is a colloquialism, loosely defined as manipulating someone into questioning their own perception of reality. The expression, which derives from the title of the 1944 film Gaslight, became popular in the mid-2010s. Merriam Webster cites deception of one's memory, perception of reality, or mental stability."
cooper i know you probably won’t see this, but i’m going through a really hard time right now and your videos always make me smile! thank you for being here and making me feel a bit better.
I'm willing to bet that every fight they had was essentially about the same thing and if he had actually fixed the issue in the first place, their relationship would've been better, but idk I wasn't there so 💁🏽♀️
I bet when she would bring up concerns, he would turn it around on her like she was the problem. She wanted to communicate and he turned those into fights.
What he did during their breakup (broke up with a text, made tiktoks about it instead of talking to her about it, tried to "burn" her on tiktok) is almost exactly what one of my exes did to me, so thank you for validating my feelings on the situation lol
Exactly! I believe people tend to project their insecurities onto others that they feel they can’t control and so want to put them down. The guy is really insecure. All the best to the lady!🥂
I whole heartedly agree that healthy relationships are not a “lack of conflict”, it’s how you take care of each other through the conflict. Also stress, you’ll learn the most about your partner in the face of difficulty so experience as much as you can together!
Like how he never describes her personality or traits but only her looks and what benefits they give him
Fr he was definitely only into the fact her pretty gets him attention. It’s almost like Munchhausen’s by proxy but without the medical stuff. Idk what that called is that just called being a leech?
@@dynogamergurlit’s called a “trophy wifing” he likes her beauty bc he sees her as “his” and his pretty thing to show off. Essentially it’s objectifying women down to how they make him look like a “winner”
@@dynogamergurlit’s called narcissism 💀
I dated a man very recently that was very much into my looks. Even told me how I could dress less conservatively to "piss off other bitches" (like, really?). Mix together me not using my noggin and his wholesome demeanor and I somehow did not run immediately far, far away.
Fast forward 6 months, I cut ties and am rebuilding my self esteem. There's no way to build a partnership with someone so focused on physical attractiveness alone.
It’s almost like he’s bragging about how he is perceived by virtue of dating her… and sorta obsessed about the status it gives him.
Also the videos where he was “hyping her up” felt more just like him complaining about her “pretty privilege” than him talking about her being beautiful
Exactly it felt like he was actually belittling her
Oh absolutely! He wasn't talking her up at all-- he was alluding to her being lucky because she's pretty.
Yeesssss I felt that too. Would never want my partner to talk about me like that, don’t know why people were swooning. She’s a person not a different species to observe and research anthropologically lmao.
Reeeeeal, this bro was so insecure he was trying desperately to neg her befoe she got wise. I'm so shocked it didn't work lol
Yeah my bf will notice it sometimes but he never makes me feel bad about it, i could be remembering wrong but i think he told me once to go into places by myself to get free stuff😂 (as a joke of course) Hes never threatened by it unless it escalates (like the guy at the gas station who was always **nice** to me that he caught staring at my ass. honestly it makes ME more uncomfortable than him. He knows id never cheat, but i dont know what these men will do. The free stuff used to be nice because i had no regard for my life or safety, but now unless its just a small act of kindness i try to avoid it because it can become transactional really quickly. Its honestly really scaring when men will just walk up to you on the street to talk to you. I know it sounds twisted because thats how people used to interact but its not like that anymore, decent guys dont do that anymore, its always threatening now. So unless you’re a starbucks barista, pls don’t give us “pretty privilege”
I can't believe the dude said "she fought for the relationship" like it was a BAD thing. Like god, how horrible that she cared and wanted to build a life with you.
Yea, guys like that don't want relationships, they want control.
I guess fighting for a relationship with that guy specifically would be a bad thing 😂
i heard my brother say to his gf "if you have to talk about me in therapy then were over" followed by shit talking couples therapy
like yeah i hope its over, hope she leaves your ass, but damn!!!!
My ex tried to fight for a relationship when we were 3 months post breakup and I started to meet with my now bf, he just showed up at my house without an invite and tried to force me to get back with him
That’s toxic imo
@@alexcody5859right I think this guy is reaching
men will litteraly say they dont want to put any effort into a relationship and still find a way to blame the woman
Why are they like that?
Im no expert but Ill bet on lower EQ
@@Grinchillahrecognizing a problem is the 1st step in the right direction. So there's probably no hope for this douche canoe but there is hope for you! 🤣
@@reaverkai To be completely fair I have the EQ of a newly earthed sweet potato. I try but it's really not easy
I partly blame society but I'm also autisic so that probably plays a factor
so glad im gay
“This is my apology video, I’m not sorry I’m gonna read the Bible to you.” Feels like something a politician would do lol.
Least he didn’t get out a ukulele 😂
lmfao
Facts@@dynogamergurl
as a Christian, the rant Cooper went on was really impressive
my jaw legit DROPPED lol
the dude legit said "if fight = relationship bad, if no fight = relationship good"
😂
I broke up with her because uhhhh
She has conflict resolution skills
“Ummm actually I’m a perfect little prince and have not a single flaw or am not even capable of making a misstep; and if I do well it’s justified pwomise!!!”
meanwhile my most healthy relationship (which is my current one) is the one where we allow ourselves to have disagreements and address any issues as soon as they come up. it’s lovely and reassuring to know that he’s not just hiding anything that bothers him and instead gives me a chance to explain things or adjust accordingly, and he does the same for me 🥰
It’s crazy how a lot of men thinks having a disagreement means you’re no longer compatible
That man is so jealous of her. Everytime he documented them BOTH getting free stuff because she’s so beautiful, he sounded annoyed and unimpressed. He was jealous and he did not like that girl. And he proves it by saying he didn’t fight for the relationship but she did… I’m glad she’s not with him anymore oof
Also anybody who brings up the Bible or God only after doing something bad is ALWAYS GUILTY in my book
You’re right- I don’t think the majority of people going into a relationship even anticipate their partner being jealous of them as a even possible factor. No one would like to place a vindication so heavy on someone they care about without it coming across as vain- especially since you’d anticipate appreciation and admiration to come from your partner and jealousy/envy to remain a factor of people outside your relationship since ultimately, you’re both supposed to be the winners together.
I've been jealous of women I liked before. Artists, singers, stuff like that. It's easy to feel insecure when somebody is super beautiful and talented.
What you do as an adult is realize that it's a personal problem and you're just insecure and have to deal with it.
Your so spot on, he really does seem so annoyed and more so jealous of her than appreciative, she will find much better out there and he will just be a lesson in the past
I think he ended things with her because he couldn’t control her. He gives me narcissistic vibes. Very similar to my ex in his mannerisms and the way he condescends everyone. He’s never wrong, he’s a perfect and rational being, he knows all and everyone else needs to recognize that.
He’s so superficial. Y'all notice he only ever commented on her looks? Good for her for dropping him. Red flags alllllll over
Knowing nothing about the tiktok drama before watching cooper’s video, I clocked that immediately and knew he was going to be problematic. Obviously there’s nothing wrong with hyping your girlfriend’s beauty, but it should never be the only thing you tell people about. Honestly it should never be the first thing you tell people about. I had to learn that lesson the hard way, numerous times. I hope the girl in the video knows how to clock that red flag now.
He has more red flags than a flag store!
Only time he ever talked about who she was as a person was when he said she was starting fights all the time
He was very jealous of her looks and how she was treated, it’s all he ever talked about
@@LakinMae5More red flags than China!
"I'd like to apologize for my actions; I am not sorry, here's a Bible excerpt"
Jesus definitely said “never show humility and never admit you’re wrong” it’s in the Bible, right?
Ervena’s an artist, paralegal, pilot, beekeeper, has been to Antarctica, and is incredibly accomplished and well-spoken. Owen is sooooo goofy
That is actually fucking cool. She seems like a well rounded person.
I bet you Owen is thinking “she can only fly planes cause she’s pretty… bees only like her cause she’s pretty… they only let her help in legal work because she’s gorgeous.”
She is everything. He's not even kenough.
@@loveisonlyforthebrave3942 he doesn't even make it to that
@@loveisonlyforthebrave3942Oi! Ken is Kenough! This dude is not
He is a classic narcissist. I was married to one. My ex had the audacity to tell me he was never “in love” with me. Just “lust”. For 8 years.
That's disgusting. Glad you're out of there.
Dang, that's crazy but look on the bright side he told you the truth and you got out of that unauthentic relationship.
@@Starfish-kx3du I highly doubt that was the truth, sounds like he was trying to take OP down a notch for revenge. You don't stay married to someone for 8 years for "lust" lmao
@@Starfish-kx3duhe doesnt mean it. He did love her in whatever capacity narcissists are capable of, but now that they broke up, he needs to hurt her and tear her down and "regain his power" by telling her that he never loved her and devaluing how important she was to him. It's to make himself feel better and her feel worse
Same
I honestly feel so bad for her, she seems like such a sweet person. Hope she finds someone amazing and gets treated like a queen❤️
the way my jaw dropped when he revealed all this was over a four month relationship bro chill
Ya this man is unhinged
His pre-breakup videos reeked of insecurity and jealousy.
He’s a textbook narcissist for sure!
Typical man. Now that you have what you want, Are you happy?
Yesss!!! He was so jealous it was so apparent
Yesssss🙏🏼
@@habibio4085idk what kinda men you know. But that’s definitely not a typical “man” in my world… 🤔 such a pity for you.
You’re a real ally for women without being a white knight - rarely do I come across men who have insight and empathy but without an ulterior motive to get validation from women … this feels authentic
Mmmh
love him but dont praise him for the bare minimum pls
@@fkuropinion292I’m a feminist and also think he deserves praise. It’s so rare to find men who will call out other men out for their mistreatment of women. Misogyny is so pervasive in this world it’s hard for women not to be influenced let alone men.
@@vigilauntie8381it’s rare yes, but it’s still the bare minimum. Sad asf that a lot of people feel this deserves appraisal lol
He wasn't hyping her up, he was bragging. All his content was about her because having a hot girlfriend was the best thing he had going for him in the masculinity olympics, and once he no longer had a hot girlfriend, the best thing he had going for him was positioning himself as being too good for his hot ex-girlfriend.
Yep!
Facts! Christian tool style! 😎😇
What makes me angry is when people would say "she's not even that pretty" like what an ah thing to say. If she was the one bragging, ok but she's not the one who was labeling herself pretty.
Dude she's like... pretty symmetrical with high cheekbones. Classically beautiful 😅😂
I'm telling you straight men (most not all) are in love with other men but their bodies are in love with women, they don't view women as humans
guys like that think a "fight" is when their girlfriend has cramps and doesn't want to watch all the marvel movies in order for the 10th time
This made me cackle lol
LMAO 😭😭😭
THIS IS WAY TOO REAL.
this has almost literally happened to me. blew. my. mind.
What’s worse, I can actually see this exact scenario happening
Nobody in a relationship wants to only be recognized for their looks. Yes it feels amazing for your partner to compliment your looks on the daily but when that’s the only thing you compliment, it seems like you’re just in it for the looks. Dude his girlfriend was an artist, and an amazing one. Compliment her art, talk about how talented she is, tell others to support her art, except he never did. To my knowledge he’s never even talked about her account until after their breakup when she finally talked about him and he lost the control he had on the view of their relationship.
Just obsessed over beauty?
Immediate RED FLAG
And I don't even think this was about looks, it was more... the effect her looks had on the world. That's what he "liked" and "valued" about her.
He didn't say, "she's so beautiful _to me_" Which is the only thing that matters in a relationship!
the whole "my girlfriend gets stuff because she's pretty" gives me the ick, if your only thing you have to say about your girlfriend is that you think she's pretty and that she only ever gets things because she's pretty is just.. 🚩
he is mad that men don’t think he is pretty enough to buy stuff for 😅
It sounds so toxic. The mindset is “oh she just gets stuff handed to her bc of her looks.” She’s gorgeous, but I’m sure there are plenty of things she had to work for. Pretty privilege exists, but no one is handed everything because they just look that good. And most of the attractive people I know don’t just get handed things based on their appearance anyway, so that’s kind of a skewed view of reality.
@@elleumm exactly! I just feel like a person has to either be really insecure or not value their girlfriend as a person to assume that the only reason she gets anything is because she's pretty
EXACTLY
I don’t agree a I think he was proud of the fact he had a managed to get a beautiful girl. What he did after they book up is another matter
I want to say as an adult married for 26 years there is ALWAYS work to do in a relationship. This jerk is just trying to make himself feel better because he has the delusion that people care about him.
and he only has fans because of her
Yeah 😭❤️
Congratulations on 26 years of marriage. I hope the two of you have 26 more.
@@elleummthank you so much!
26 years! congratulations 🎊 thats amazing.
Billie Eillish said it best “give an ugly guy a chance and he thinks he rules the world”
Why are you quoting that like it was a good thing to say instead of incredibly superficial and shitty? 😂
@@AvaEFF because the dude is ugly, inside and out. Being ugly isn’t just looks, it’s also how u treat others, what u say and what u do
How being ugly affects anything here?
Ugly doesn't always pertain to looks. Someone's attitude, mindset, and/or personality can all be considered ugly regardless of their physical appearance
@@AvaEFF umm because ppl who act like him are ugly. You’re the superficial one by thinking I meant “looks”
If you have a bad personality, you’re ugly. If you have no morals, you’re ugly. If you treat others badly, you’re ugly. If you hurt the people who love you, you’re ugly.
“relationship ended” I WONDER WHY 💀 and still referring to her as his girlfriend after they broke up, ick
poe and karl pfp?? i love it
a huge ick fr
YOOO BSD PFP
POE PFP WOOO (also so true)
@user-ff5zm7ic4v i did not ask for a whole essay 🔥🔥 js say you’re a butthurt dude and move on ain’t no one care + all he did was comment on her looks so he kinda outed himself there
I love how Cooper covers somewhat depressing topic but always manages to make me laugh out loud. XD
He is magic ✨
FRRR my fav yt!
Yaaas he's got the Gift!
the valorant in the back at 4:23 explains it all
Really telling how often men and the church will say “wives should submit to their husbands” and not bring up that other verse about husbands sacrificially loving their wives
👐Preach👐😇
Men pretending to be religious:
Him: A relationship works when two people that are their own individuals come together
Also, him: *makes his entire online identity about his then-girlfriend and now-ex*
Watching your video is healed a part of me because I think most women who allowed themselves to date around in their 20s have encountered this personality type
Was not expecting Cooper to pop off with a healthier biblical perspective than 99% of “Christian” influencers. As a Christian who has a hard time calling herself one, for the fear of being associated with goofs like this guy, thank you for making this video. I laughed, I cried, I cringed at sir Owen. And boy are you right, she dodged a bulllllllet.
Oooof girl SAME
This
like i love god and jesus but when i say i’m christian i literally see people talk to me differently and change and it’s so frustrating- like i’m not gonna hurt you
@@greenteiii Jesus said before he left though that “if they hate you, know that they hated me first” the fact that you lowkey feel ashamed to call yourself a Christian bc of other ppl is a little hurtful-not to them, but to God who’s created us. He has feelings and emotions and I’m sure it’s grieving the Holy Spirit to know that we have this much fear to even claim God or say we believe him.
When you’re a Christian the Word already tells us what we’re getting into, it says we’ll be hated, that if you want people of the world to love you-they’ll love you, but they hate Jesus and as soon as you claim Him they’ll hate you too. You’re an alien of this world and a citizen of heaven (Ephesians 2:6) Jesus said in Matthew and Luke that if you love your father, mother, the world, anyone else more than him then you’re not worthy to follow him (Luke) He also said if deny him in front of man, he’ll deny you in front of His Father in heaven. So idk about you, but we should pray about not caring what people think and not have that be the reason your faith is affected.
@@greenteiii You shouldn’t care what people think about Christians tbh, the Bible lays it out pretty clearly that “if they hate you, remember they hated me first” and that there would be a “falling away” of Christians from the faith. it sucks what people think about Christians, but ultimately falls in line with what the Bible says is gonna happen (Timothy)
So I wouldn’t worry about it too much, you're a citizen of heaven therefore an alien to this world (Ephesians) so be careful about feeling sad or offended over this bc it says in the word that Jesus didn't come down to send peace, but a sword, and he would put enmity between mother, brother, stepbrother etc and if you love the world or other people more than him you're not worthy of him and if you deny him before men, he'd deny gou before the father (Matthew & Luke)
THAT'S DRAKE'S "YOU BROKE MY HEART" that makes so much sense lmfao
Shoutout thanks that would have bugged me
Lol perfect.🎯😂⚰️
isnt it for all the dogs scary hours edition?
DUDE I WAS LOOKING FOR WHAT IT WAS TY
@@aylade yep but i was almost completely sure that the song was you broke my heart 😭especially with the context
He comes off as an actual psycho...like i had to check in with my partner because hearing him speak was triggering my cPTSD and post narcissistic victim syndrome. Ive been in therapy over a decade attempting to heal and untangle the mess that kind of abuse created in my head and this man took me right back into it. Glad she got away before it got any worse.
Wishing you healing and happiness. I’m sorry you had to experience that.
Unpopular opinion, relationships aren’t always better at the beginning!! now that my partner and i are over two years into our relationship , we are happier than ever, have solid communication skills and have a better relationship than we did in the beginning💗
exactly you learn each others communication styles and habits. gets easier the longer it goes
Yesss same!! 3 years in and better than ever. Now we know how to communicate and love each other the right way.
Yeah, definitely not better…. But easier? No wait… less complex? Typically. There are so many factors. Generally speaking, it’s cohabitation that’s hard, be it a romantic relationship, family, friends, or just roommates. You can love someone to death, but not be able to live peacefully under the same roof. 🤭
@@YellaBellaRenoIf your significant other does not bring you peace... Are you okay?
Totally! If your relationship is just getting worse over time…it’s probably a bad relationship
the nonchalant men who "don't like fighting" and "just wanna chill fr" make me want to fight them on purpose, like they awaken my fight or fight response. like to them every discussion is a fight and by dismissing the very notion of discussing, they automatically anger me and we end up fighting, "proving their point". no my guy, you're just awful at listening and validating other people's feelings.
I don't want to fight= I want you to do everything I want immediately with no questioning
A million times this! These men have ZERO accountability
The immaturity that comes from thinking any relationship should come without conflict is so real. Get a blow up doll, dude. Save yourself the pain.
@@shiversivegotemomg YES!!!!
Fight or fight response made me chuckle 😂
The way you bully boys who hurt women is so therapeutic because I never felt like “putting my emotionally& mentally abusive ex on blast” because eff him but the way you make me laugh at these men means so much. & knowing 100s of other people are also laughing is priceless 😂🎉❤
My ex who I broke up with a few years ago did something similar. He's a local "public figure" so to speak, and when we were dating he was always posting things with me. When we broke up, he went on this extremely long Instagram rant about the details of our breakup. I ended up getting a lot of nosy or hate messages from it. It was humiliating. He made me out to be this bad guy when in reality, we both knew it wasn't working. But instead of talking with me directly, talking to family/friends, or seeking therapy, he aired all of our personal grievances on social media. Luckily I'm now celebrating my anniversary with the man who became my husband :)
Guys like that are so insecure and destructive. It's so nice to read a comment like this that has a nice ending. I hope the best for you and your husband
As a devote Christian, Cooper pulling out the scripture and calling out hypocritical Christians at the end made by day
Same bro 😂
sameeee
I’m a pagan but I studied other books too. It’s good to know the words, it can come back to call out the bigots. 😊
yessss, gotta love this man for fighting false Christians with the word of God
made me subscribe instantly! i love to see people not listening to idiots about what scripture "says" and instead combatting it with real scripture. made my heart happy. :))
Having dealt with emotionally immature, abusive, narcissistic partners, your video and commentary are healing my soul 😭😂🙏 Thank you!
3:41 a guy literally did this to me, he would pick fights (and later ADMITTED to picking fights) and then said we weren’t compatible because “relationships should be easy in the beginning” 🙄 and dumped me. I have to stop watching because I hate this guy on principle but I’m glad you covered the topic
Ive been mind blow for the past 30 minutes, we were friends in middle school and went to high school together, Ervena has always been the most genuine and kind person
❤ love you Sarah
girl the way my jaw dropped, was going to message you but didn't want to bring back any reminders, hope you're doing amazing after dropping that POS❤ @@Aquavena854
@@Aquavena854 if this is your ex, you were always far too good for him. I'm glad you are no longer near him. ❤😊
That seems evident by the way she handled things with class and grace. When she was not given the same respect.
I'm glad you got to experience her kindness and friendship ❤️
I’m so grateful for this video. Its so validating to hear from someone else that this kind of talk is not at all okay because I’ve heard men say this stuff so much and I always felt like I was bad or messed up. So thank you.
im processing a break up rn and when you said 'if you just listen to me youll know im right and your wrong' genuinely made me stop and actually realize that my ex did that shit too... why are men so manipulative
Gave me a little fight or flight response not gonna lie.
Not all men. Film Cooper would never.
Toxic *people* manipulate. Not just men. I know more manipulative women than men in my life
@@stop.followingmeExactly, some men. ❤❤
because no we arent? women do the same thing, but if I said why are women so manipulative it would be a disservice to all wonderful women who arent like that
you are using your bad experiences to justify bad and wrong generalisation, and im sorry for your bad experience but it doesnt justify it nor does it make it a fact
He really tried to gaslight, gatekeep, girlboss but forgot the girlboss part.
He broke up with the girl boss
“Does this give you flashbacks?”
…100 yard stare
Yes! I've also had a flashback with that stare! They always have those dead/almost glass like eyes.
The way I was not expecting to be called out with the “lesbians from Pennsylvania” bit is nuts
This is why I came to the comments lmao
he clocked us hard lol
SAME I WAS LIKE YES HELLO???????
We need your answer. Is he right?
ISTG this is so fuckin validating. I'm almost 40 and when my ex husband used to speak to me with those condescending facial expressions while gaslighting me about literally everything, I would gaslight MYSELF into believing that I was actually crazy bc I thought he had condescending facial expressions... Jesus fuckin Christ y'all. Marry someone who doesn't do that shit. Be kind to yourself and listen to yourself. Thank you for this video, it was refreshing, even to an old lady like myself 😂😂 I wish you all the best ❤️
hope youre doing ok now stranger! live ur best life!!
Im sorry you had to go through that, but im glad hes your ex now 💗
Old ladies with gross exes unite!!
This. I'm so glad you mentioned the facial expressions because that's what I said to my partner I was like it's his FACE just the expressions he makes are triggering and make me want to punch air.
Congratulations on your freedom!
As a Christian, we do not claim this man. Pastor Cooper is correct, women are described as the crown jewel upon a man’s head and should be treated like treasure 😌✨
Him flipping the scripture back around on the gaslighter was the card I wasn’t expecting and I’m HERE for it 😂
That moment hyped me up probably more than it should have lol
This whole situation is condescending as HELL! *This* is why you never pick a trophy partner, especially if they’re an influencer 😤
I think Owen is the problem here, not the girl. But the girl is wayyy out of owens league
@@meg7221I thought is was a reference to Simone Biles’ husband antics. He wants to be a prize but lives in the partner’s shadow.
Fr she’s waaaay too pretty for him@@meg7221
@@Bigroacheater I think meg's saying that she can do wayyy better than him
@@Pforzie oh woopsie I read it wrong 😅 work has got me so tired.
that’s valorant on his computer screen 😭😭 bro lost a game then hopped on tiktok to overshare about his ex LMAOO
the guy’s a catch 😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂
if anyone asks how my mood swings work i’m gonna show them a film cooper video
LMAO FR
HAHAH
Literally the gaslighting and the slow “I’m better than you” way of talking he has is exactly what my ex did. You explain it so well and it really is extricating to deal with
this is why I judge my friends/families new partners until I trust them
As a Christian, I am not only surprised but sad at his outlook on this. No wonder people think Christians nowadays are crazy. Also cant explain how much it meant that not only you fire back at him with scripture (which is what the Bible says to do) but that you also knew the background on Ephesians. Thanks for another awesome video, Cooper!
I swear my favorite part of your videos is just how easily you can go on a tirade about something that barely relates 😂😂😂
I love how cooper is both so chill and so deeply enraged by this man its beautiful
I just want to point out it’s almost him painting her as this “pretty girl” (obviously she’s stunning) but there’s so much more to her….but hes either ignoring or missing the reality that she “gets” all of these perks and things not from her looks but also- BECAUSE she is just nice and a sweet person. He based everything around her being “pretty girl” and this “pretty girl privilege” but actually people just like Ervena. She’s easy to be nice to, she’s smart, talented, kind, and courteous to others. People respond back to that and so does the universe. There is so much more to her than her “pretty face” Shame on you Owen- makes me sad to see this behavior from yet another man but also makes me happy that the internet can rally together for what’s right- not letting people make others feel small and use the bible as a weapon to look like a good person when your actions show very clearly that you aren’t!
❤️ love you sis
This is straight up narcissism. That smirk when reacting her to her video is just pure delight that he got a rise out of her, nothing more. She should block him, delete all numbers, remove from her life altogether.
Ok girl. He saved you! He saved you from yourself honey. He saved you from himself. Go ahead and be grateful that you were pushed out of the way of a military grade tank that was coming your way.
Him saying Aquavena kept getting perks because she’s so beautiful immediately reminded me of the Seinfeld episode where Jerry is dating a woman who kept getting perks for being so beautiful just like that. She even got him out of a speeding ticket. 🤣 As I’m about to start typing this comment, I noticed you’re wearing a Seinfeld t-shirt! Well done! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
The way you whipped out that Ephesians 5:25 was a proper read. Brought tears to my eyes pastor.
😭
LOVED THIS
I’ve said this a million times and i’ll say it again: men (like Owen) can NEVER keep a bad b*tch. His ex is drop dead gorgeous and that probably made him so insecure that losing her made him go actually insane. This happened with my ex, sort of. All I can say is that they’re both narcissists and can’t face the reality or face the consequences of their actions.
"were not compatible..because like-"
because her list of accomplishments are a mile long (artist, world traveler (including Antarctica) , pilot ect. and you..well you dated her
Now you know why he was there. His insecurity.
i personally think that two fully compatible people in a relationship will have an easy time, without outside forces. it’s hard to find that though, and if you want to work through slight incompatibilities you totally can.
he’s really weird though. he wasn’t looking for either of those lol
like even platonically. my friend’s that i’m the most compatible with, we hardly ever argue and if something pops up it’s easy to resolve. like we can disagree, and talk about that but it isn’t ever hard
compatible communication styles make it easier to understand criticism and therefore improve yourself
preach
Me and my husband don't fight or argue and people constantly tell us that this is wrong, that it is healthy to fight each other. We're happy and agreeable and have been together almost 18 years so...
Yeah like theres a difference between having some conflict and working through it, and fighting all the time. Its completely reasonable to say you're not compatible w someone bc you're fighting all the time. My now divorced parents were always fighting and i see where the guy is coming from of seeing unhealthy relationships w lots of conflict and then wanting to only have relationships w very little conflict.
You are so right! Relationships take two people coming together to discuss problems or issues with a solution mentality. If you're gonna be together for the long haul it is not always going to be smooth and easy , but when two people are working together towards a goal those bumps are easier to navigate.
Gustav looked so confused when he fell and luckily landed on his paws😭
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She seems to be a sweetheart. He made her Look so superficial and Stuck up. But it seams like he didnt try to know her at all
Classic narc. He only saw what he wanted her to be and when it ende, there comes the smear campaign. Loser..
I know nothing about a single person in this video including the person making it before I watched it. Somehow I ended caring about this story anyway because of the way you presented it, so I'd say you've got yourself a new follower 😂 nice work
Just a quick reminder. Healthy relationships are not hard, they are work. If a relationship is hard, then it’s not healthy. Love without respect isn’t enough.
I disagree. Every one has times where it can be harder than other times and it can have nothing to do with the other person. At the end of the day, a relationship IS hard work. People go into relationships thinking they will be easy and that is why so many people are unhappy nowadays no matter how many relationships they sift through
@@Jigglexphysics I don’t think you understand what I’m saying. When you say hard work, it’s about the work which is on both sides. Hard times just mean difficult times. When I say relationships shouldn’t be hard, I mean just hard. Hard as in painful and unhealthy and exhausting. These are teaching that literally came from a class on avoiding domestic abuse. Relationships can be complicated and take a lot of effort, but if you’re sitting thinking to yourself “this is so hard, why can’t they treat me better” that’s not good
I hope Owen finds a woman he loves and they have a couple kids together, but then she realizes this guy sucks and leaves him and they have shared custody of the kids but they have a way cooler step-dad they talk about constantly and also Owen has to step on a Lego atleast once a day before work
I wouldn’t wish that on another woman
@@its-a-dog that's why I tried adding that she found someone better. That's who the step-dad is supposed to insinuate lol. And it's shared custody, so he gets them sometimes but then most of the time they hang out with mom and step dad and have a better time than with Owen
Yes! Just wild inconveniences for the rest of his life? Lmao 🤣
This isn't about gender, it's about who is respectful and mature in handling the breakup, you can't say she wasn't being respectful and mature in handling it. He was out if line crossing privacy boundaries and was in the wrong..
I hope Owen finds the person he deserves (and never has children) lmao let him end up with an equally toxic women instead of dragging in innocent bystanders
Conflict is not always bad. It just means that you have differencing opinions and that you guys need to communicate together and communicate civilly without it turning into something chaotic.
Gaslight, Gatekeep, Gospel.
I would definitely say my husband and I had a harder time up front. We compared it to learning to speak the same language. The longer we've been married (12 years now) the better and easier it's gotten as we learned to work together.
Right! When you first start dating someone you don’t yet know the things that make them uncomfortable or what their communication style it. It’s more tough and clunky to communicate when you don’t know each other yet! I feel that it gets better as time goes on
And isn't it so beautiful? My hubby and I just made 9 years, and I look back and am filled with joy and pride. We've worked hard and continue to work hard to find that equilibrium and it's beautiful! And very much like learning how to speak each other's language.
Honestly the beginning of a relationship is the hardest I think! When you still are trying to figure out your dynamic.
My theory is this dude thinks relationships should be easy in the beginning- because he HIDES who he is in the beginning, or is used to relationships where one or the other mask and hide themselves, and then the more comfortable they become they reveal themselves and conflict occurs later.
Me- I'd rather someone be themselves upfront from jump, we work through thr conflict of inter-meshing personalities and thr harmony comes later through work and honesty and transparency and trust.
That dude is a red flag
yes
He acts like he's jealous of her.
That was genuinely the best youtuber apology video I've seen. He didn't feel bad at all and admitted it instead of pretending. A+++ for honesty. Didn't even try to trick anyone into thinking he's not an asshole!!!!! I wish they would all just come out and say it. 😂
I loved how you shouted out good christians near the end, made me real happy because that piece of crap was acting like it was christian to mistreat girls
Cooper slays at being a perfect boyfriend and never admitting it bro he knows he treats his girl CORRECTLY
cooper just taught me more about relationships in an hour than I knew about them my whole life thank u for the insight
i appreciate how you are able to incorporate the humor that we love about your channel while taking things seriously. I feel like so many commentary youtubers make everything a joke, but you are able to speak about things in a way that feels enjoyable to watch but also like you're taking the subject matter seriously. I think some other youtubers should take notes
1, he was a red flag from the beginning because he *only* made videos about her being pretty. regardless of whether he actually thought she was pretty or not, he didn’t publicly say anything else about her other than that she was pretty, and that she had pretty privilege. it’s like that one barbie clip where she’s a princess and the prince dude who likes her is like ‘you’re beautiful’ and she’s like ‘thanks, but is beauty really all that matters to you?’. he’s looking for a conventionally pretty, probably traumatized, insecure trophy wife, who won’t notice he’s being manipulative, and that he’s gaslighting her.
2, you should paint your nails purple
Wasn’t that the swan princess? I don’t think that was Barbie… unless Barbie did a swan princess,too. why do I know so much about this 😅
@@Melanie-jy2nwBarbie did do a swan lake, but the how-to-offend-women-in-five-syllables-or-less is from the swan princess 💯
SWAN PRINCESS MENTIONED 🗣🗣🗣 “you’re all I’ve wanted, you’re beautiful!”
“Thank you… but what else?”
“What else??”
“Is beauty all that matters to you”
“w…what else is there?”
You should write a book! How to offend women in five words or less!
i found this channel today… i’ve never binged YT videos but here i am! YOU JUST NEVER MISS
You know its gonna be a good day when cooper AND danny gonzalez post.
EDIT: kurt posted too. this is monumental
exactly what I thought
Literally Danny’s video is next in my queue
Omg I just finished Danny’s video and came here
real
Danny posted....brb
I literally had an ex like Owen. It feels so validating seeing Cooper’s perspective on this guy because I felt like I was reliving my past relationship with a man like this lol so condescending and full of himself as if he’s not outing himself and his character with every snide and self absorbed comment. As if the public can’t make their own conclusions of how disgusting he’s being towards Aquavina. Men like these are a disease lol
@user-ff5zm7ic4v again, where did she openly talk about her issues in their relationship with him for people to observe on the internet? The fact he went into detail about their private issues shows his character of dismissing boundaries. If he really was that redeemable of a person he would just keep that offline. He flat out his showing how much he does not give a damn about maintaining respectful boundaries by “spilling tea” for views. This lady has way more class for choosing not to speak ill of him the way he was. He literally put it out there that he was superficial about the whole relationship. You are probably one of those same men trying to defend this grotesque species of man.
@user-ff5zm7ic4v oh that just makes this so much more disappointing knowing you’re defending this gaslighting and manipulative male who took pride in the benefits of his ex’s looks which is just ick behavior to begin with, then proceeds to go on about the details of their break up which is PRIVATE MATTERS. I understand everyone has a right to express themselves on the internet but how the public decides to perceive you is also THEIR right. Tbh he looks like desperate fool for attention and has his priorities mixed up in the wrong things and as a woman it’s sad you seem to wanna defend that kind of behavior. Disappointing and quite frankly you seem to be part of the problem in backing up these types of toxic men.
@user-ff5zm7ic4v also she didn’t need to entertain this idiot by stopping to his level. She posted things here and there to express HERSELF, pay attention closely, she did not go into detail about their issues by any means as Owen did, and that’s called HAVING CLASS, HONEY. Try it sometime.
@user-ff5zm7ic4vyou are basing your ENTIRE point on an assumption you’ve made, and youre ignoring the blatant evidence that he is not a good guy. he aired out their dirty laundry for money, he constantly belittled her because she had ‘pretty privilege’, he put no effort into the relationship, he broke up with her OVER TEXT, and he explained why he broke up with her more to the internet than her. how in this situation is the girl the bad guy? if anybody is like this guy it isnt ok, stop trying the ‘well if the roles were reversed’ because decent people exist, and would definitely call the person being a dick out for their actions. please stop making excuses for this shitty guy.
He said "they were fighting". They both. And that he wanted a more harmonious relationship. That's totally ok.
Didn't expect to go to church this Sunday at the end of this video. Shout out for emphasizing what those verses say to husbands. People love to highlight "wives submit" and forget the verse before that section and forget the section after.
Honestly, I never fought with my ex. Never, not even once. And that was not a healthy relationship *at all* folx! As Cooper mentioned, it‘s normal to have friction in the beginning and it‘s good to learn how your partner deals with conflict imo. Thanks for sharing this with us all, I love all the real people drama you do recently 💌
She is stunning. Im a woman and even I want to "put a ring on it." I would owe my life to making her smile. He fumbled bad.
I so appreciate when people like you cover things like this, so I get the drama but don't have to give them any views.
this guy reminds me of my ex who when we broke up told me *drumroll* im not confusing enough and just tell him what my problem is and dont make his guess...... like sir excuse me? you cant even get it when i tell you why would i think you could guess? same vibes as "she was trying to fix it and i didnt want to"
Not my boyfriend, but yesterday, this coworker who has been objectifying and sexualizing me at work was gaslighting me. He said, 'What did I even say to make you uncomfortable? Why are you scared of me?' When I started listing things he said or did that made me feel uncomfortable, before I could even finish one sentence, he said, 'Ok, no, that didn’t happen, and I don’t want to hear about this anymore. I’m gonna leave it alone,' and then he ran away.
It was the most annoying thing ever. Why did he pretend like he wanted to fix it if he didn’t want to fix it? 😭
It’s been like 3 weeks, and he expected me to just forgive him and be friends again like nothing happened, when he never even fixed the issue or apologized. So, he keeps bringing it up and then running away. He’s all annoyed that I haven’t gotten over it yet. I told him I will be upset about it until he apologizes or owns up to what he did, So he said, 'Sorry I didn’t own up to it at first. I'm just in the habit of lying to protect myself from my dad because my dad yells at me a lot, I guess you can’t take a joke and It’s my fault for opening up to you too fast, Im really sorry ok bye”
I never felt so gaslit in my life.
I bet the guy in the video was upset that she wouldn’t get over something he did but it’s his fault that she wouldn’t get over it because he wouldn’t properly address it. So then he breaks up with her because she “has the same issues every week”
instead of taking accountability and resolving the issue.
@@raya6508girl its time to go to HR. Im so mad that you have to endure such an asshole, wtf, who acts like that towards coworkers. And then to blame it on trauma? Why would you care about his daddy issues? If he knows his actions are wrong and he knows he has issues, then solving them should be in his best interest. Please make sure to document his conduct, like messages, mails and maybe camera footage if your work has some. Im rooting for you 🙌
@@raya6508 you need to stay away from that coworker. he is bad, bad news
@user-ff5zm7ic4vhow are we assuming if we're judging based off of how he acts and talks about his ex girlfriend? 😂
@user-ff5zm7ic4v what tells you he was mistreated?
My ex was just like this guy. Very dismissive, gaslighting, didn’t put in any effort, and would shut down and withdraw from conflict rather than try to fix things. And I can confirm it was infuriating.
But he would never post about it like this human embodiment of cringe.
not the gaslighting 😭😭
What gaslighting?
Love your pfp and user
@@Cube6529"Gaslighting is a colloquialism, loosely defined as manipulating someone into questioning their own perception of reality. The expression, which derives from the title of the 1944 film Gaslight, became popular in the mid-2010s. Merriam Webster cites deception of one's memory, perception of reality, or mental stability."
There was never any gaslighting, you’re crazy
@@SilentReader-wr6pq💀
cooper i know you probably won’t see this, but i’m going through a really hard time right now and your videos always make me smile! thank you for being here and making me feel a bit better.
You got this ❤ stay strong!
I hope the good times roll through soon ❤❤
Thank you so much for not being a typical dude blaming it all on the woman and seeing both sides without gender bias ❤❤
I'm willing to bet that every fight they had was essentially about the same thing and if he had actually fixed the issue in the first place, their relationship would've been better, but idk I wasn't there so 💁🏽♀️
I had the same thought.
I bet when she would bring up concerns, he would turn it around on her like she was the problem. She wanted to communicate and he turned those into fights.
What he did during their breakup (broke up with a text, made tiktoks about it instead of talking to her about it, tried to "burn" her on tiktok) is almost exactly what one of my exes did to me, so thank you for validating my feelings on the situation lol
Exactly! I believe people tend to project their insecurities onto others that they feel they can’t control and so want to put them down. The guy is really insecure. All the best to the lady!🥂
“Hey guys I just wanted to come on here to apologize… but not for the videos.. Now bible” 😭😭😭 my goodness, good for her for dodging a bullet
I whole heartedly agree that healthy relationships are not a “lack of conflict”, it’s how you take care of each other through the conflict. Also stress, you’ll learn the most about your partner in the face of difficulty so experience as much as you can together!
14:56 cooper’s face 😭
ALSO get the colors in the silly Lucifer painting for ur nails
Learning Cooper watches Psych made me realize how much he acts like Spencer 😭😭
He does
Im proud of you!!!☝️
Probably part of why I like him so much lol
C’mon son!😤
@@FilmCooper it all makes sense now