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- There are perks to being an only child (yay, no hand-me-downs) but some downsides, too. Three only children share what it's like!
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I'm an only child. Who here is an only child too
Reaper Racing meh
I'm not but I'm the middle child
Reaper Racing me
Me! 😀
Reaper Racing me
I cry my self to sleep sometimes because of how Lonely I feel
Angelica Leon :(
Angelica Leon I cry harder....... its not just lonlyness....
I have a son should I give him a bro/sis?
Keelo Grammer yes please do don’t leave him alone, I’m the only child and I’m 19 and I tell my parents all the time y’all should have had another child and it kinda makes them sad because they see that I get in to dangerous situations, when I get around my friends because I’m a little to reckless when I finally get around people, instead of being around myself all day, so yeh give him brothers or sister so he won’t be alone and he can stay out of trouble.
Angelica Leon sameee i cry every night i get you..
I’m an only child and the only thing I related to in this whole video is being scared about the day my parents die and it’s just me, I’ll have no one to lean on or have someone who is going through the same pain. Everything else it so stereotypical, I never wished for siblings and was never lonely or loud?
I am also a only child and I also think the same
I'm the same
Yes and I will have to pay for both of my parents funerals :(
@@d.v2796 Get a green burial is better for the environment and costs 50 dollars.
By the time your parents die wouldn’t you have a family of your own?
I'm an only child and it is what it is. I've never known life any other way. I can't miss what I never had. That's just what my life is.
emily cathcart ditto
Preach
same way i feel about having a dad lmfao
@Rookielove1 exactly. And honestly I have really bad social anxiety and hate having anyone around me now as time went on. Wish I was lucky enough to have my own room and thinking time.
I really wish you had a sibling for 1 year ,it's super fun I have two brothers
Being an only child is tough when you're introverted, have a limited social battery and it's even harder when you have aging parents.
i feeeel uuu
I feel you at a spiritual level
i feel this so much
I feel the same
@@nishaalizasurin8240 I'm currently 14 and my mom is closing in 50 she's fragile already and my dad is around his 50s still standing strong but worried on his health, very anxious if i have capacity to take care all of them, or even they would be able to witness my success. I don't want this hard work for nothing without compensating them. 😭😭
I'm an only child. It has its perks but it kinda sucks tho
Pingu Robo Hobo same
Pingu Robo Hobo same
Imagine you have siblings and you don't have anything in common and they're like a complete stranger to you. I've experienced it. There is also the constant comparison.
Emisalome well stop complaining
Imane Pink thanks! I will 💗
Who else is only child like if you are
I feel sorry for you guys. How boring was your life at home :(
not so boring, you can read, draw, and play games.
@@lynxyt_194 I actually like being a only child and its really fun :D...
Me
@@lynxyt_194 it's not boring you have the whole house only for you you don't have to share your things with siblings
Heh. They forgot about the crippling lonliness.
Sarah Miko Thank you. You are so right.
Jordan Hill I know right?! And then when you complain, everyone else is like "oh at least you didn't have to deal with siblings!"
Sarah Miko I sucks and i hate it when people are mean to their siblings,I WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR A BROTHER OR SISTER
Sarah Miko true wish I had a sis or brother
Sarah Miko ikr );
I just learned to have fun on my own. I dont need imaginary friends. I have myself.
Yoshi Plush exactly we don’t need any siblings most people with siblings can’t stay alone for a minute
also we got yt xd
@@d.v2796 ya i like my alone time..
So that's why I'm such an introvert xD
Dalayza Vilchez totally not true! I have 3 brothers and believe me I looove to be alone!
"Oh you're an only child? You must be spoiled" 🙄🙄🙄
OhSoAdrianna I haaaaaaaate that shit.
OhSoAdrianna IKR most families who spoil their kids especially on TH-cam are families who give birth to 2-3 kids not only 1 child!! #facts
OhSoAdrianna yass I always hear that but it's not true
OhSoAdrianna bruh💀💀
OhSoAdrianna well I'm spoiled
Im an only child and growing up was great. Never wished I had siblings. People make it seem like being an only child some kind of disease or handicap.
I know! These people are very ignorant and think they know the way of life. Pathetic
HollyPanda88 -New- yes you do your parents STOP COMPLAINING being the only child is a gift
HollyPanda88 -New- I do when I get angry with them then I talk and we go back to being happy unless my dad ate the last bag of Doritos
HollyPanda88 -New- of course jk if you see me everyday then you would get scared because I am so weird apparently the teachers were worried for me
HollyPanda88 -New- Doritos sounds good right now
Every only child could relate to this :
They are very close to their cousins and love them alot.
my cousins would come to my place for a sleepover during the vacation and stay for weeks or even 2 months to avoid their siblings lol judging from my cousins id make a heck of a big sister but it wasnt meant to be i guess :(
anita chamoli i relate i love my cousins i have 3 but they are all younger than me
My family is splitting up so I’m not close to my cousins and I’m an only child.
Not really. I’m an only child and I’m not connected to my cousins. Except one.
Yes! I was always able to sleep over at my cousins houses and my cousins were able to sleep over! I’m not as close with them anymore as I was when I was little since we all got older but I remember the countless memories of loving my cousins to death!
A couple downsides to being an only child: crippling depression, lonely, boredom, nobody there for you, anxiety, socially awkward, crying yourself to sleep, nobody there to stand up for you, nobody to comfort, hard to make friends, less quality time, overprotective parents
Edit: Hey it's me from 10 months later, looking back at this comment I wrote, none of these match up with my circumstances at all. Its safe to say I was just really delusional or having a bad day.
I can agree with everything besides hard to make friends but my mother is way to overprotective
As somebody who has a shit brother, everything except overprotective parents checks out
Hey, Its me 10 months after writing that comment, I just wanted to let you know that everything I wrote in that comment is not true, I was just exaggerating being delusional, or having a bad day, etc. I acknowledge now that there are people who are going through worse things than I am and I apologize.
I don’t think that’s because you’re an only child, there are bigger underlying issues. I know firsthand having a sibling doesn’t cure depression. But I hope you seek help and feel better soon love.
@@user-md7dk9cn8e cute 😘
As an only child, I have a very close relationship with my parents. Instead of annoying my nonexistent siblings, I annoy my parents 💀🤚
sameeee
Me too 😂
Same here😂
sameee, especially my mom
sameeee omgg
the thing is, I’ve always been told by my friends, “oh you’re so lucky to be an only child. I hate my siblings”. that’s gotta be the saddest thing I’ve heard. How selfish you have to be to think that like I’ve got the perspective of being so absolutely lonely to the degree I cried myself to sleep for a good chuck of time because I just realized oh my god, I’m so lonely. I have no one to turn to. I literally have had to learn so many things on my own because of the fact I don’t have someone to relate to. I can’t reflect on someone, I can only grow from my parents who essentially shelter me. As the people said in the video, thinking of my parents death TERRIFIES me. I’m going to be the ONLY one who truly had a strong connection with these two individuals my entire life and will have to go through that alone in the future. It’s disheartening. I’ve grown alone, struggled with coping, and I’ll end up continuing on this my entire life because I just don’t have anyone. If you’re the lucky individual who has a sibling, for the love of god be grateful of them. Give them a hug, call them stupid. Cherish that relationship. Don’t let petty feelings get in the way of you seeing how much you actually love them. If I could, I’d definitely trade the world for a sibling. :(
I relate to this so much omg
Andrew Thomas agreed
THEY LITERALLY THREW ME OUTSIDE NAKED.YOU WANT THAT?
me too
I feel you!
I am an only child and for me
Con were:
Sometimes I felt lonely
My parents were really overprotective
I was really shy and it was hard for me to open up to someone
Pros:
My parents doted on me
The friends I did make are like my family
I get on really well with people who are older than me
Growing up I was never obligated to share anything with someone
I became much more independent early on
Same+ I got emotionally mature at a young age
@@abdalrazaknasr6730 agreed to another level😭🥺
True..... but now my friends who're like family to me don't care about me anymore😭🥺
i had to share befote
The first pro is a con for me
Siblings aren’t a magic pill that will improve your life. I know plenty of people with siblings who are extremely unhappy with their family dynamics. Did you know sibling abuse is often downplayed and the most underreported type of abuse? Plenty of people are in therapy or should be in therapy because of how they feel about their siblings. Only children tend to glamorize sibling life because they don’t know what it would have been like with siblings. What if you had a sibling and your parents’ relationship fell apart because of it? What if it caused your mother to be permanently disabled (many people develop chronic illness after they have a baby)? What if your mother or father developed depression because of the changes two children brought your family? What if your parents couldn’t afford much with more than one child? The whole point is, whatever your family dynamic pining after what could have been is so useless. It would be worth talking to your parents about why they chose to/could only have one. Your parents might reveal some very hard and beautiful truths.
This is the most sensible comment I've read here
@@musingsofamomma621 why thank you 💜
The grass is always greener on the other side. I appreciate this comment.
An abusive sibling is like a bully for life
@@user-wh6ir8rk4bI had an abusive Olde brother now we're adults he seemed to have forgotten thebl trauma he cause me growing up. I don't like him and I wish I would never contact me again!
WHOS A ONLY CHILD AND CAN BASICALLY RELATE TOO ALL THIS?
XOXShadowGamer me all of it
MEEEEE
Me
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yes like i never thought there was a whole world for other only child’s!
Just turned 20 and the more I grow up, the more I get really sad about not having any siblings and I’ve wanted them my whole life. Imagine not having anyone to share those little moments and memories with that actually shaped your identity. I had cousins but none my age, and I get so jealous seeing the inside jokes, the fights, the hate, the love they share with each other that I might just never get. I’m also scared to get into relationships cuz i don’t want my s/o to judge me for not having any siblings and just having my mom. It’s a lot of overthinking and loneliness. That’s why I gotta make sure my kids have lots of siblings so they never feel that way.
You just wrote down my feelings. I m in a relationship and my girlfriend always talks about her brother who is 18 months younger than her. She shares how they love annoying each other and how much she loves him. They are always having fun and My lonely ass is always listening to their fun siblings stories. I wish my parents understood how being an only child feelz.
Although too many siblings could also be an issue
Personally, I love my siblings but we don't really care about quality time with each other. Yes, we share inside jokes, fights, the hate and the love with each other but that happens only sometimes. I have 2 Big sisters myself but I feel lonely. I felt that way since I was born and I still feel this way now. We live together but we're more like neighbours who help each other but don't hang out. I've been taught that just because we're sisters doesn't mean that we'll have to bond or spend quality time with each other. We have a bond but it's not deep, it's the kind that says 'because you're my sister, Ill protect and help you'. But we don't mind. Sometimes, I envy my cousins for being so close to each other that they can't live without each other. But that's my life. I don't have friends but I'm used to living this kind of life.
I also don't spend time with my parents that much. Right now I'm studying math so who has the time for bonding.
@@gklb_2xx7 i feel you but at least you have people where no matter what they’ll always be in your life and at the end of the day they love and care about you and visa versa even tho they might not show it and you might not feel close. You’ll always have siblings there that know you and love better than most people. The fights and the jokes and all may seem meaningless but it lowkey builds your character and adds value to your life :)
@@Alanislynx thanks for cheering me up^_^. I just felt so bad inside recently (sorry for the previous comment). Like, there is something inside my heart that makes me feel like I'm not fine. Telling my parents is my last option because I'm scared of how they would react. I would talk to my middle sister but my mom would somehow get involved and they'll start fighting (as always). My eldest sister is already busy with her college work and she's usually tired.
Im scared of being involved in my sisters lives because to me they are sophisticated college students who will join engineering and I'm just a weak crybaby who will join high school next month. Im scared of what might happen if I do anything wrong. Also they are already busy with their own lives so who cares about me, right?
Personally, I would like 2 kids in the future and I'll make sure that their age gap is small. But I respect your decision 😘
I'm an only child and when people say being an only child is lonely it's not really I learned how to be self-sufficient and I played by myself most of the time which was fun because I had no one to fight with. the only thing about being an only child is if you don't want children of your own your parents blood line stops at you.
i love cheesecake yep but it's really fun especially if I play with my parents they don't cheat or complain when they loose to me the ULTIMATE GAME MASTER CAT THING
💯
Yes this! I think the people who complain of being lonely onlies either had lazy parents that made no effort to set up playdates or activities or anything. I could draw on my own for hours, but my parents always made sure I had plenty of opportunities to socialise.
@@tainoroyal6585 as one of those onlies, your actually kinda right, but i do draw alot.
As you grow up more, you will realise how it feels when you don't have a sibling🤷♀️ I am 19, being an only child feels lonely more and more.
I am an only child that was raised by my mom who was also an only child. I never knew my father so I dont really have a lot of relatives. People always pity me or feel sad or sorry for me but you know what? Its what I'm used too. I couldnt imagine it any other way. My mom passed away about a year and a half ago and I made all the arrangments and stuff by myself since there really is no one else to help out. It was hard but I did what I had to do. I miss you mom. Love you forever.
I am also a only kid raised by my mom who was also an only kid.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I do not have a family of my own. I still live with my mom.
@@keironforbes9512 I live with my mom who has 6 siblings and my dad livs somewhere else.
I wish people didn't say they wish they were an only child. I lost my brother when I was eight, and I can confirm it was way better having someone closer to my age to spend time with (well there is a ten year different but it's better than the age difference between my parents and I lol). Anyways, the point is to cherish your siblings and not dwell on wishing you were an only child !!!
octoem 😶♥️♥️
I’m so sorry for your lost :((
Im sorry for your loss❤
Our siblings are a gift im so sorry for your loss
I have a similar experience. I was a miracle child that wasn't guaranteed life because of my mom's age, but I survived. When I was about three, my mom became pregnant again. However, she lost the child and in a later explanation she blamed it on herself. This not only left me with more questions but also the thought that I was so close to having a sibling and trying to imagine life with one. If that child never existed, maybe I would've been more content about my situation. But now I can't stop thinking about this life I could've had and it kinda hits me hard when people say that I'm lucky or that they wish they were an only child.
something that breaks me and makes me feel I've missed a part of life is that ill never understand that sibling dynamic of "I hate you!" playing tricks on each other and annoying each other. it's so beautiful and I've never been able to relate to that dynamic even when people try to be that way with me as friends, I just dont... know how to do it. in a way, you miss out on being a child as you're expected to act like an adult.
Yeah especially since people are always talking about it, it feels like we’re left out.
polesmoker, if you had a sibling you wouldn't get that either.
polesmoker, I don't know any only children who are expected to act like an adult.
@@renealexander2703 when you're surrounded by adults all the time in your family and have no one to play with, you're expected to either be seen and not heard in your own world (no one to play with, and they don't want you disrupting their adult conversation) or join in the conversation to not feel left out, so you learn how to navigate adult conversations earlier. did you grow up as an only child?
@@nobodysXghost , didn't you go to school? Why did you need someone to play with all the time? Why can't you play by yourself or with your parents or with a cousin or a neighbor? You are at school most of the day. Isn't that enough play for you? What if a sibling did not want to play with you? And even with ONE baby sibling you still would be around adults and a baby sibling all the time. But, again, don't you go to school?
There are two types of only child I seem to notice:
Those who are content on being an only child
And those who have the crippling loneliness
It differs with age and the world works now
When I was a kid I had more time my friends, play games no problem s with loneliness I just keep myself busy.
But when I turned 21, it is not easy to mingle talk people.. i prefer the old way.. (no chatting in messaging apps)crippling with loneliness
when i was around the ages 5-11 i never really cared that i was an only child, but now i’m a teenager it can get so lonely, especially because my parents are divorced and my mum is the only one in the house and we aren’t particularly close, and i don’t have a best friend :(
jessica same, i have a single mom because my parents divorced and i dont have that many friends at my school or close family relatives. It’s unfortunate because I’m 14 and I should be going outside and talk to people 😔.
mostly crippling loneliness
ugggh loneliness
I am used to be alone. Still it would have been nice if i had a sibling.
Sk8rblaze I have 4 siblings. Can be annoying and fun but you never feel lonely. There’s always something happening in the home
FlameHead _ yep I relate lol 😂😂
@@lynxyt_194 same to 😂 they are helping me sometimes but they are so annoying atleast iam not lonley😀
Even if I had only one sibling I want to be alone, so I have 10 siblings
I have siblings and I wish I was an only child
I do agree with some of what they said, but I just think that it's hard to generalize such a big group of people based on the experiences of 3 humans. My parents were always working for a large amount of my childhood and that made me a very lonely person. I guess I didn't realize it at the time, but that shaped me into having certain struggles that I feel like could've been avoided if I had always had someone there to talk to. That's just my story as being an only child, and though this video depicts a strong image of what it's like, I still do believe that everybody goes through loads of different stuff.
Hi Hannah, thank you so much for sharing your story. We totally agree that every only child experience differs from person to person, so we super appreciate your take on this! Something to remember moving forward! Thanks for watching :)
FLARE Oh of course :) I think my comment came off a bit harsh, so I would like to say that I do really enjoy the content you guys put out !!
You are right about it being impossible to put everyone in a category. I hated having a sister because she was not a nice person. My husband was beaten up by his brother. I haven't met an adult only child that hated it but this comment section proves that many do. I think it's important for people to adjust because the grass is not always greener on the other side.
the loneliness when you get older is overwhelming, appreciate your fellow kid in your family guys. It’s a blessing. I wish I had someone who could relate to me.
With or without brothers you will alone as an adult
yeah my parents don’t understand me
I'm super lonely as an adult and I have four siblings. We all went our separate ways.
I don't understand how there's only children that are super loud and outgoing like I'm an only child but I'm super shy and quiet and it's really hard for me to be open and speak my mind with new people and I just think that it's because I never had the influence of siblings fighting with me or playing or you know doing that kind of stuff, idk I just wish I didn't feel so lonely and I had an extrovert personality
d s Same lol
For me if im with friends im am extremely outgoing but if im alone i will definantly be super quiet and shy. Not sure if thats an only child think tho
d Same I only half brother but he does not count since I only saw one time and he has another fainly
Same
Aww! I’m an only child basically, and I am both introverted and extroverted. More extroverted because I LOVE talking to people. I love love LOVE being out of my house and being around people and I think being an only child helped me with that, since being so lonely all the time, I wanted to go out where people are.
My friends always say I’m so lucky to be an only child but little do they know *the pain*
I can feel you
I have siblings and I can say its much worse than being an only child
totally agree. for me it has always felt extremely lonely and now that my parents have died it is like a great big hole in my soul. And as long as i can remember I was always afraid that they would die, because that would mean that i would be all alone. Nobody I can talk to about how things were when at home when I was a child. How my mother would make peasoup in the winter, or my father could play the harmonica like nobody else. For me there is nothing great about it.
I’m literally crying rn because I’m so lonely and I really wish I could have a brother or sister with me :( i would love them so much
P a i n
I dont understand all these lonley only children, I am an only child and I absolutely loved it. I was never board or lonley, I got showered with attention and because I spent so much time around adults I feel like I was very emotionally mature at a young age. I also think it was beneficial because when I left home I didnt find it scary to be on my own as I was use to it. I do understand everyones experiences are different, but I felt it was important to point out the positives as being an only child often gets a bad rap.
jennifer Beagle SAME
God, the emotionally mature part! So true!!
Well u know People Have Their Own Minds And Opinions, I too an only child, but i want a little Sister or adorable brother I WANNA ANNOY THEM AND SQUISH THEM, But yeah i grow up With adults Since My parents are working Somewhere else, But I do love Childrens, well now i feel old
Yeah me too being an only child is life. Don't know everyone else is so miserable.
jennifer Beagle same.
I am only child I just lived with my mom
Mr. Snowy Snowman! same
Mr. Snowy Snowman! Same! Still had contact with my dad too! My mom is absolute universe.
I'm the same!
I also have a single mom!
Same
As an only child, you may get all the attention and good stuff but, you also get the full attention when your parents are angry meaning they take it out on you, there is no one to protect you or talk to, it’s unbelievable how lonely you become.
I hate being followed up by my parents 😭😭
It's weird when people ask if I miss having siblings. How can I miss what I never had?
I agree.
Well ask them, do you miss not having siblings?😂
True bro . Having no siblings is more advantage than cons . But at the same time you can also feel lonely and bored when you have no siblings + no friends
People always ask me: so how many siblings do you have?
Me: why are you assuming I have siblings?
I love being an only child. I'm very creative, gained a lot of Independence. I was never spoiled. I worked as a teenager and made my own money. I'm not easily bored. I can do many things on my own. I'm only needy with my Mom but hardly with anyone else. You learn a lot about life, especially when you lose someone you love. I have been blessed with having close friends who became my siblings. I thank God for them. I do have half-siblings older than me. Out of all of them, I'm the only one that earned a college degree. I'm independent at work; I like to get the tasks done. Sorry if my post doesn't fit the negative stereotype of only children. Be Blessed Only Children. Remember you are fantastic 🌟
I'm extrenely happy to be an only child. I never felt any loneliness or desire for siblings. But I'm introverted and independent. My best friend is basically the sister I got to choose. Both of my parents came from big families and their horror stories and even their fond memories of growing up with siblings seems like it would've been suffocating to me.
I come from a very big family and I have all the horror stories you can imagine. ALL. I've seen it all.
Big families can be crazy and can traumatize a kid more than small families
Suffocating is the right word: drama, noise, pointless competition, lack of privacy/discretion. I only ever theoretically gave thought to siblings (just one, preferably older and only around to help out with aging parents. Otherwise I enjoyed/still enjoy my quiet life that happens on my terms). I have a friend who comes from a large family and he freely told me he couldn't leave that environment fast enough. Other have mixed experiences. Siblings aren't for everyone.
@@Mayrita77 to be fair, the "wrong" parents can traumatise the hell out of an only child who can be easily isolated from the world.
----Only child...
1- most children dont care about it .
2-most children love it and never think about it.
3- The ones that type negative comments on a video are the ones that seek the video in the first place.
Being lonely at night is not that same as being depressed every day .No child is depressed just from being an only child.
4- every human gets lonely from time to time especially kids at bed time !!!
5-Being sad from time to time is normal ..
6- is he/she happy??? YES !!! Does he/she love life ? YES!!!
7- Being an only child is better than being sick in a hospital bed ,better than having an abusive father ,,,better than having abusive mother ,,better than being in foster care ,better than being abused in a system,,, ,,better than being unloved ,better than being sick,,,,better than being ignored by parents ,,,better than having drugged out parents ,,,if You have 2 loving parents you win !!!!
STOP LOOKING AT WHAT YOU DONT HAVE AND LOOK AT WHAT YOU DO HAVE ..
Best comment on here thanks
i was actually meant to have three siblings, but they passed away before they really got to live. guess it wasn't meant to be. :/
:(
Ayera the same
Ayera same that happened to me too!
Ayera me too. Always wondered how things would have been
Ayera same I was supposed to have a older sister but she died before I was born
Both me and my husband are only children and we have an only child. We all love it. Life is quiet, calm, no competition or conflict. You get all the love and attention from your parents and all their money!
I'm an only child, I don't even have cousins or any other same aged relatives. I love it!
I'm an only child due to circumstances and I love it too. I have a cousin in Germany who's way older than me and I have like 10 cousins on my dad's side who live in another state who I've never met before, but I don't really care. I've always enjoyed being alone.
What it’s really like to be an only child
Written by a 12 year old who’s an only child...
I’ve always wanted a sibling. My parents spoil me rotten but.... There’s 1 thing that they could never grant me. A sibling. If I talk to one of my friends about it I said if I could see my sibling and then die for them I would. I would give up everything I own and go homeless for this child. I’m a family oriented child and... I cry myself to sleep most nights. I’m crying while I’m writing this, it’s 1am.
All I want in the world is a sibling.
Everyone I know has a sibling, and nobody wants their sibling. They always say so many mean things and.... I wouldn’t do that.... I want this more than anything
I’m not a normal 12 year old girl, I don’t like makeup, I don’t like anything like that
I don’t want anything....
I just want a sibling....
Leaholly 052 aww that's soo sweet
i wish i could adopt you as my little sister, this is how i felt 10 years ago when i was 12... id do anything for my little sister but ill never have one....
I feel the same way and I’m 20. Wish I had a United little family with a sister or brother who was my age. When I’m depressed, I can’t be alone, I have to have physical connection or talk to someone. - I wish I had a sister who I loved and got along with, talked about stuff and showered her with my affection!
I feel you
literally me
One of the worst things about being an only child is when your parents pass, it’s just you with those memories, and you’re the person sole responsibility falls on. My mom passed when I was 15, so it’s just me and my dad and my dad is starting up with dementia-I’m only 19. It’s hard, there’s no one else to rely on but myself, but I feel like I learned (for me personally) independence and how to be at peace with just me. It’d be nice to have other people around, but I don’t need them at the same time.
As an only child,i always found more con's than pro's,mainly because i didn't quite get to look at the pro's.The benefits of being an only child are that,as you grow all by yourself,you learn to be independent.I,myself,prefer to do works by myself as i don't have to listen to other's opinions and that i have to please nobody but myself with how i do it.Other benefits are that,after a whie,loneliness ain't that bad.Another benefit is creativity.As said before,an ony child is,indeed,quite alone.That's why we have to constantly find a way or another to entertain ourselves.I tend to talk to myself,for example.I tend to divide mysef into two different persons and just talk about whatever.I like to do that as it's like having a twin who knows everything about you but doesn't laugh at you,and you can talk about anything that crosses your mind.
Con's of being an only child is lack of activity.Being the only one in the house of your(or close) to your age is very boring.Of course we,only childs have friends,but we don't share a house.We find ways to entertain ourselves,but after a while,it gets boring not to talk to someone like you,but only people who are *at* *least* in their 30's.And cousins,we all have cousins,but we don't see eachother everyday.The only cousins i met,for example,two of them are siblings,and they're young.One is 5-6 years old,and the ther one is 1-2 y/o.And the third and last cousin is only a few days old.
Other things about being an only child is that,no,we're not spoiled,and we don't get everyhing we want.We're raised just like you are,but we simply don't have to share anything.And,by the way,there are some of us who actualy would *love* to have one or more siblings.
I'm an only child. I don't have a dad. I often worry about what might happen to her, and what I might do.
Problems of being an only child:
Loneliness
Anxiety
Deal with all of your problems
Family trips will turn into Grown up trips (I'm still waiting to grow up and have friends so I can have a fun Friends trip)
No friends= Extreme loneliness
Take care of your parents when u grow up
Feeling awkward going to someone's house or out
Get all your tips from TH-cam
Overprotective parents which's kinda annoying tbh
Can't imagine knowing someone that has the same blood as you
Never saw your mom pregnant
There's no one there for u it's just 'You'
Cried at least once knowing u don't have siblings
No one can experience your parents problems (It's always my fault)
If I once want McDonald's (There's no one there who would also want it) so she says No
Sometimes your parents won't let u buy things cause there's no one there who'll use it if I don't use it
Can't borrow clothes
If u see new things it's either u bought It or your parents did (Nothing new in this house)
Parents will be more strict
My parents are divorced and it's pretty hard for me being an individual person who takes care of themselves at the age of 15
There's no (My brother's friend) or (My sister's friend) You Stay At home alone with ur parents
No pranks, fights, Drama, Fun Just Same thing for months
It's more harder figuring out who you are (at least for me)
You can't go out alone unless u have friends or siblings
I bet u experienced eating alone at home or a restaurant
You experience being more shy eating infront of people
You don't have someone to tell u if you're "Annoying" or "bad at something" you just get confused why people won't be your friend
It's harder for u to socialize
Can't relate with people
People think you're "spoiled"
You at least once went to any place alone etc. Skating
You'll still be jealous when your mom plays with another women's child 😂💯
Bro this is so true. I cried a lot because i was alone. Honestly I'm still crying sometimes because of this
@@vadimyakovlev8753 Ikr I don't even see my cousins :(
@@me-hk4ro ugh.... same....
And you're right: No fights, no pranks, no fun....
Man i really love this side of TH-cam, it shows me i'm not the only one who goes through all of this..
@@Asiaocci i just realized that we are together because of our loneliness
I'm surprised at how many people find being an only child boring and lonely, for me I'm just used to my own company so it's easy to entertain myself and I rarely ever find myself feeling bored or lonely
“You’re an only child you must get whatever you want.” Yeah I have this thing called parents. And they’re ten times more protective than those with siblings
Exactly ☺
I’m an only child and people always say they hate their siblings and wish they were only children. I would trade ANYTHING for a sibling
same :/
I felt like I was the only one that is an only child 😂 just love your siblings for the people that don’t have siblings
Same!!! I know that I’m the only, only child in my grade and probably the only one in my age group in my school!!
THANK YOUUUU OMG
Like can people stop yelling "LUCKYYY" or "you must've been spoiled" in my face when I say I'm an only child
Spoiled is when a kid is demanding and wants everything if a child doesn't act like that then their not spoiled that's a fact you can tell someone next time they say your spoiled
They say only child’s get whatever they want but I wanted a sibling but I never got that...
Now I feel bad for saying I wish I had no siblings
Only child’s suffer too
I am the oldest of 3 and the oldest of many grandkids. I had several friends who were only children and I thought their lives were better than mine. I always wished to be an only. What these kids don't realize is siblings don't always get along. They cause more problems. You are lucky to be an only.
As an only child, I was blamed for everything (including what my parents did), I was lonely, was constantly watched regardless of age. It's true, I had a lot more than most, like more tech, a larger room, but I wasn't really allowed to share any of it because of my parents "you didn't buy it so it's not yours" mentality, I had no idea how to socialize, I always thought I was targeted because I didn't understand humor (my parents didn't want me to tell annoying jokes so I was taught everything was serious unless it was slapstick), and EVERYTHING was censored, my mother hated that I watched Star Wars as a kid, and hated even more that it was a huge part of my life (it still is), and I was essentially yelled at at school when I didn't know things, I almost got in trouble at school (early school) because I was "causing trouble" asking people how to space, since I didn't know how to use a keyboard (I wasn't allowed on the computer because if I had the internet, ALL the censorship would go out the window), I know my life wasn't bad, but in my experience compared to people, that I know at least, with siblings, being an only child absolutely sucked
the fact that this comment-I understand-is true.
I want someone that I know wont end up leaving. I hate being a only child- I feel so lonely.
I was an only child until I was 10, so I remember it pretty well, but then my mum had twin boys!! I'm 18 now and I actually really miss the quietness at home & the time I got from my parents, though I do remember how lonely and left out I'd feel from all of my friends having siblings. To only children reading this who are wondering, having siblings is honestly like the same feeling as when your best friend comes over for a sleepover and they start to piss you off after a while and you want them to go home lol, it's exactly what it feels like haha
Oh sweet boy i like ur view a lot ..same thought as me
i have no pets or siblings and i live with my parents in a tiny apartment. just alone in my room all the time, not many friends and stuck in quarantine. i have a hard time talking to people my age and am just so used to being alone.
You will be fine.Trust me.
I’m not an only child, but it feels like it, because my brother has been an adult almost my whole life. It gets really lonely sometimes. People with siblings, I know that they can be annoying, but you at least don’t have to be lonely a lot of the time.
Thank you for coming to my Ted talk lmao
People: you're an only child!! You're So lucky
Me: you'll never understand how lonely it gets
Same
Not for me! As an only child I never get lonely.
@@angelwilliams8965 Same. I never got lonely because I enjoy being alone.
One of the worst thing I heard was when my parents told me about my older bro getting his death just after his birth, I am the second one and now I am the only child, it hurts so badly that I can't even explain......
I feel bad 😭🤧
the thing i like about being an only child is that youre always alone, and nobody bothers you. but i feel so left out when people do sibling tiktoks, memes, etc. it makes me want to have a sibling even more.
If you heard their parents comparing them, if you saw them fighting, name-calling each other, stealing their stuff, and doing other more horrible things siblings can do to each other, you wouldn't want to have one
Ugh, this comment make me cringe
totally relating. id love to have someone to just like atleast go to when im bored to mess with them or smth. growing up as an only child makes me feel so empty sometimes ngl.
My worst fear is both of my parents dying at the same time then who tf would I turn to
I can relate to this so much.
Spouse, friend, other family?
I'm an only child and I enjoy it! I don't have to share anything with anyone, nobody bothers me, my parents only take care of me, I don't have to worry about my sister or brother... Totaly perfect! Like if you agree.
It's hell in lockdown when you don't have anyone to tourchoure
I’m An Only child and I Love it!
Lucky you
I loved being an only child, and I still do as an adult. Of course, there are downsides but that can be said of having siblings as well. Some people hate their siblings. I'm thankful I was raised an only child because I grew up with an incredibly vibrant inner world that I still have. I always know how to entertain myself, and I am very very good at being alone. I'm more self reliant than I feel I would have been if I had had siblings. I can spend an entire day in my own company, not talk to anyone, and be completely fine. My parents and I are a solid trio, even though having all of their attention can sometimes be a double edged sword, like when I went through my rebellious teenager phase and all I wanted was space. There were times I wished they had someone else to focus on. I also feel like I struggled to relate more to my peers as a kid, my teachers would always put on my report cards that I was bright but did not perform well in groups. Of course, time and maturity helped.
I have a sibling and we are close and support each other. However and sadly, this is not the norm with a lot of siblings. I have seen so many people with siblings not on talking terms with each other or going through ugly fights due to inheritance issues as well.
There’s pros and cons to everything in life but ultimately we come alone to this world and leave alone regardless of siblings or not.
Sometimes I literally talk to myself because I have no one to talk too🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'm an only child and it feels lonely that I searched it on youtube and I'm glad that I watched this video I can totally relate
I did the same 😢
As an only child, I feel really lonely sometimes, u know. Often, when I look at ppl having brothers and sisters, I get upset for not getting tht feeling of love for brothers and sisters. The feeling of being left out whenever there's family gathering just hurts. You put every ppl u meet close to you. Friends mean a lot to you. But, life's life, you live it. Hope every single child always be happy.
@Rookielove1 Sure. 😊Hope they're okay too. I'm not arguing. Just wanted to let some things off my chest. Have a great day!
Honestly being an only child is the best 😅 You get so much more freedom and independence (and gifts!)
Facts man, life is good. Money, games, and electronics. Livin it up
I never wished I had siblings... People make me feel sad..By saying so
Don't listen to them if you don't want one then you don't have to being a only child isn't so bad I mean yes it gets boring but atleast you have a little peace and not always brats fighting or some shit
The scariest thing about being an only child is knowing that if you don't have children you become the end of your families lineage. After you there's nothing. No memories to pass on, no heirlooms, it's the end. So try to have at least two children to avoid sending an only child into an endless panic.
that truly made me cry man because of how true that is, plus I've never had a girlfriend before, so I'm most likely never having kids at this point. It will become a reality for me
What if you have cousins
I dont a fck if my lineage ends
When I married, I insisted on having at least two children, and we had three. When my first child was born though, I'd never held a baby before or even been near one, and I was terrified of dropping him. Seeing how close my two sons and daughter are and the lovely teasing and fun which goes on between them, I really envy them
@@annmorgan5130 you envy your sons? Bruh 💀
It’s fun since you get most of the attention, your the only disappointment your family has to deal with, you get stuff like a game system or something amazing you don’t have to share, no one can annoy you, and many other things.
Downsides because there are many that it must be a list:
- lonely
- no one to play with
- no one to fight with
- no one to talk to when you need it
- over protection from your parents (or whoever takes care of you)
- the constant attention sometimes gets annoying
- your parents expect the most out of you, even when you try
- parents blame you for not doing specific actions that you didn’t know had to be done
- no one to blame when you get in trouble (the pets don’t work either)
- you rely on friends for social interactions
- having the constant wish for siblings every single time you want one and the pain that you might never get one
- no one to do your homework
- no one to defend you from the adults in the family
- no one to share moments with
Tell me if I missed any downsides to having no siblings 😂
I wanna know what's it is like having a sibling LOL
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Edit: Wow... seems like the sibling life is very HARD
If u got a siblings I give props to you for the annoying things that ur siblings has done
Jadeee :3 beat the crap out of yourself and you will see what its like having siblings 😂
Hell
Jadeee :3 same
Jadeee :3 I was the youger sibling
Jadeee :3 Trust me it sucks
Hi, I am 11 , I am a girl
It's really hard to not have siblings because there is no one to support you when you fight with your friends and it feels really lonely to be without a sibling.
Here comes a sad part I have only 4 cousin's and 3 live really far and they are rude too.
I only have 1 more which lives far but I like to play with her she is only 2 .
All of my friends have siblings but I don't
All of my friends are playing with their siblings the whole day . And they never call me ofcourse .
My wish is in my birthday I can adopted a brother or sister.
But still I can get whatever we want.
Me too
Then why they are your friends?
As a neurodivergent only child I definitely needed the support. The only bad thing is I’m spoiled rotten because my parents wanted a child so badly and I’m the only one they got lol
I had always wanted a sibling and when I was in 3rd grade my mom told my family she was pregnant.
A week later she told my family she had a miscarriage
lol No aww man
I’ve seen a lot of comments saying that they don’t understand the opposite side of their experience. It’s important to remember that everyone has different experiences when being an only child. Just because you had a great time being an only child doesn’t mean it invalidates someone who was lonely and didn’t have a good time. Vice versa
Exactly.
I’m an only child and i always feel lonely especially since i’m socially awkward but i have friends, but everything still feels distant and i hate that i gotta deal with everything alone. I worry about my future the most. And my parents would be overprotective, and being an only child was one of the reasons why i became somehow depressed. While my friends who has siblings tells me that i’m so lucky. *LOL U THOUGHT*
(I mean don’t take my problems lightly)
"Ooo you're an only child! You must be pampered a lot!"🙄
Never getting bored and Worried about not having a shoulder to lean on, I can both relate to as a only child
It sucks. I want to talk to someone except my parents most of the time, i want to joke with someone, i want to play with someone, but really you're just alone. And God help you if you don't have any friends.
I'm an only child and I honestly have almost no problems with it LOL
If I suddenly got a sibling rn, I wouldn't talk so much with her/him... I'm not someone that talks a lot
Same as well, if I had sibling. I wouldn't have talk much to them either.
it all started when my mom met my dad, they fell in love and they had me! only me. hi i’m ame, and my life is kinda lonely lol
Only child here had an amazing childhood never wanted siblings, didn't like to share my parents either. But as I get older and especially after my Father passed i feel like having a sibling would help me deal with my emotions and situation.
I'm an only child. I was wishing I had siblings from the time I was old enough to think. But I never got them. It was probably for the best, because then my NDad would've had more innocent children to abuse. I grew up scared, sad, codependent, anxious, socially inept, minimally functional, and completely, utterly, devastatingly alone. My advice to good parents is to have at least two children. For every only child who says they're more independent because of it, there'll be two people like me who were genetically hardwired to only respond to external cues and validation for happiness, and/or are an HSP like me (another lovely rare genetic mutation that makes you hypersensitive to everything). My advice to bad parents is to get sterilized.
Being an only child sucks no matter what age you are. Only gets worse.
Im an only child,
1. I always walk around the house doing nothing
2. Boring
3. I make alot of messes
4. I have no one to play with
5. I would rather have a sibling and share than play by myself
6. I never have alot of fun
7. To sum this all up, ITS LONELY AS SHIT.
SparkleRainbow agreed
You forgot about not having siblings to share chores with, so your chore list takes the whole afternoon to finish. At the end of it, your parents complain you rushed the chores, so they don't pay you.
At least that's the way it is for me.
I think it's great.
I'm an only child, I'm 50, and I already lost my dad, but now my moms getting older, and I'll be loosing her soon, and I'm freaking out, because I have no idea how to accept being completely alone
Yes
I've always wondered what it would be like to have siblings
Same
It sucks
Umm ok I’ll try to describe my daily with my two brothers and my sister. I am the second child of my family and since my big bro is one year older and my sis two years younger people often tells us we seem very close. (I guess we are 🤷♀️) My mother raised us quite in same time so we kinda don’t see years difference that much. My little bro came later and he grew up watching us. My mom often jokes that he was raised by us and not her lol. Soon we didn’t get enough room to plug us. I share my room with my sister since forever as girls. Having siblings is fun to have people to goof around and idk watch series and stuff.( Messing up at the table to piss of parents is the best thing ) The only thing is... As a teen it’s normal to kinda want some privacy. Y’a know, you go to work and when you’re back you feel like just rest and be alone but there’s always someone around. You need to share stuff too. It’s difficult for me to invite people over because the house is never for me alone. Studying is a problem too...
Anyway besides all that it’s kinda cool... we never sleep during road trips because we laugh to much or we spend time in other’s room all night during quarantine... Things like that
I ended up being my own sibling in a way
Lucky you
I'm an only child, originally I was supposed to have 3 older brothers but they died due to complications. And I'm one if those lonely ones because my parents are always busy with work and stuff and I don't have anyone to talk too because all my friends are busy with things. I always told my parents that I wanted a sibling but they would just shut it out saying I'm enough for them.
I love the fact I'm an only child.
Same
It's all about perspective. There are definitely pros and cons to both. But it's also about the parent's approach. I probably would have a relationship with my mum if I didn't have siblings. I felt invisible as a child and I'm super lonely as an adult. I have four siblings. None of us are close, we wish we were but the relationship between us all has been tarnished with trauma.
I have an older brother who never cared or loved me, was selfish to the core, didn't share any of his stuff with me. Most of the time he would dominate over me and make me feel worthless. I would always think 'why am I not the ONLY child of my parents'?! Now as adults, we are not in talking terms, he lives in another continent and me very far away from him. I do not miss him nor do I want him.
Tbh for a long time I thought it was "lonely" when I was younger....
It sucks, I’m so lonely. And especially not because of the quarantine. I have nobody to talk to. I hate it:
Im just about to experience the sadness of having a sibling
As an only child, I can totally relate to the third girl. My mom also passed away, and I have a lot of cousins.
Natalie Pelz How many
i also have a lot of cousins. 11 of them (counting 1st cousins only. if it is about 2nd cousins, 3rd cousins, 1st cousins once removed i have plenties of them)
@@playpro2360 15 first and 5 second and I believe 5 third but I don't count those lol