Interesting story . Six kids well done your looking good on it.. Stay positive there are a lot of us in the same boat regading your points on finance. Health and happyness are the keys along with a little bit of love and affection nothing else really truly matters ! Stay young.:-)
Thanks for being so open an honest. A refreshing change on YT believe me. I thought my upbringing was dysfunctional until I heard your story. I grew up in Harrow not very far from Acton. Briefly, my mother was a strange woman , she seemed permanently angry. My dad was the butt of all this anger, he did nothing to deserve it. He had served in the army in World War ll but was invalided out. My mother was a nurse and four years older than him. My (deceased) relatives told she made all the running in their courtship and then spent the rest of the marriage running him down. She was still doing it after he died. When we were little she would lecture me and my brother on how bad he was. Today we would call this child abuse but there was no such thing then. I used to lie in bed listening to her verbally attacking my dad. He never argued back. But it took its toll on me and I ended up with panic disorder and later agoraphobia, although those things did not exist then either. I was just told to stop being silly. By the time I was in my twenties we started to fall out. I was working, I had many friends and I could see their home lives were very different from mine. More importantly my education had taught me to think for myself and challenge things. So even though my father and brother asked me not to, I could not resist challenging and asking her to justify some of her wilder claims. She could not deal with this and just went ballistic. When I was 26 I told her I was getting married so she threw me out. It became apparent that my wife was pregnant shortly after we married. So we scraped together about every penny we had, which was about £500 and managed to buy a maisonette for £6000. This was in 1974. It was much easier to get on the property ladder then. Now our daughter who is nearly 50 is the head teacher of a high school and has two degrees (as have I!) and I think her upbringing was a lot happier than mine. After I retired and my mother had died, I started doing family history research on my mother. She would never say anything about her upbringing except that she was an orphan. This was not true. She grew up in Manchester at the height of the depression. Her mother was a dress maker and her father seems to have been a bit of a wide boy. She had two sisters of whom I knew nothing. Her father deserted the family early on. Her mother ie my maternal grandmother was apparently a nasty piece of work and the three daughters did not get on with her or each other. My mother left the area in 1930 to train to be a nurse and never went back. I learned much of this from my newly found Manchester relatives . So I saw my mother in a new light. She was a woman who was damaged by her upbringing and was just looking for love and had been screwed up by her early life. I think maybe I was unfair to her in the light of all this. It just shows how one generation cannot affect the next one, much in the way you described. So sad really.
Yes Met....They do say what goes around, comes around and it really does....I promised. I'd never be like my mum and for many years, i think i did really well. (My mother, though spoilt, I think went through some sort of abuse ) For one, her mother called her , her "Cross to Bear" My mother has apologised for how she bought my sister and I up and has tried to change but she cannot help some things that have just stuck. She can be really lovely but in a moment, she can say the most hurtful outlandish things that , just no one would say.... In my recent (last 3 years) I have sadly failed in many ways and my last three teens, may well say that i have not been the best mum (although they seem to have forgotten the many years I was doing all I was supposed to as a wife and mother) I'm disappointed with myself but there are some details that I cannot disclose which have mounted up inside me over the years and I have finally just crashed! TH-cam isnt really the place for this I suppose and I do mean to encourage and pump people up more at some point, I just think, I have to be real first with who I am, just a little. I'm glad you found out that your mother had some stuff she was carrying and therefore, got some context as to why she behaved the way she did.
Thank you for sharing your story! I’m trying to do the same (share trauma on TH-cam). It’s been messy so far, but so healing as well. I had a very childlike mother, also, and lots of yelling in the household, among lots of other things. I’m excited to watch you grow on here. Subscribed!
Ahh, you are a lovely sweet lady that 's for sure. I heard somewhere that wealth is not about having loads of money, its more about the treasured loved ones who are always there for us. You look about 22 by the way.
It is true....and thank u Peter and thanks for your kindness.....Money does help though...I mean, without it, you cannot even look after your health in this country properly...Forget seeing the world, you could die waiting for an appointment on the NHS sadly....The world has shifted 🤔
@@NattiGeeOver50 Totally agree Natti we will all end up with barcodes. I just hope that they don't put it on my forehead. Anyway on a more cheerful note, your personality is both lovely and highly infectious and being such a beautiful and intelligent lady, I think that you may become a bit of a legend around here. I hope you don't mind me asking but i think that I should love to hear one of your songs, have you any on youtube? Take care.
@@peterpiper6837 Hi Peter I'm not sure if it will let me put a link here but if you look on my channel description, and click more, i have my Natzcoverz channel there or perhaps if you don't see that, you can simply type in Natzcoverz in youtube and it may find me.... Me a legend? I'm actually not so popular at the moment with my community as i have changed alot and have just constantly wanted space which is really sad but I cannot seem to help it. I need to sit on a desert island and just be still and enjoy the waves and the quiet..... About the barcodes on the forehead.....Sad but true 😞that or the right hand!
Very interesting and beautifully spoken.
Interesting story .
Six kids well done your looking good on it..
Stay positive there are a lot of us in the same boat regading your points on finance.
Health and happyness are the keys along with a little bit of love and affection nothing else really truly matters !
Stay young.:-)
Awww, thanks Suffany, that's kind...
Thanks for being so open an honest. A refreshing change on YT believe me. I thought my upbringing was dysfunctional until I heard your story. I grew up in Harrow not very far from Acton.
Briefly, my mother was a strange woman , she seemed permanently angry. My dad was the butt of all this anger, he did nothing to deserve it. He had served in the army in World War ll but was invalided out. My mother was a nurse and four years older than him. My (deceased) relatives told she made all the running in their courtship and then spent the rest of the marriage running him down. She was still doing it after he died. When we were little she would lecture me and my brother on how bad he was. Today we would call this child abuse but there was no such thing then.
I used to lie in bed listening to her verbally attacking my dad. He never argued back. But it took its toll on me and I ended up with panic disorder and later agoraphobia, although those things did not exist then either. I was just told to stop being silly. By the time I was in my twenties we started to fall out. I was working, I had many friends and I could see their home lives were very different from mine. More importantly my education had taught me to think for myself and challenge things. So even though my father and brother asked me not to, I could not resist challenging and asking her to justify some of her wilder claims.
She could not deal with this and just went ballistic. When I was 26 I told her I was getting married so she threw me out. It became apparent that my wife was pregnant shortly after we married. So we scraped together about every penny we had, which was about £500 and managed to buy a maisonette for £6000. This was in 1974. It was much easier to get on the property ladder then. Now our daughter who is nearly 50 is the head teacher of a high school and has two degrees (as have I!) and I think her upbringing was a lot happier than mine.
After I retired and my mother had died, I started doing family history research on my mother. She would never say anything about her upbringing except that she was an orphan. This was not true. She grew up in Manchester at the height of the depression. Her mother was a dress maker and her father seems to have been a bit of a wide boy. She had two sisters of whom I knew nothing. Her father deserted the family early on. Her mother ie my maternal grandmother was apparently a nasty piece of work and the three daughters did not get on with her or each other. My mother left the area in 1930 to train to be a nurse and never went back. I learned much of this from my newly found Manchester relatives .
So I saw my mother in a new light. She was a woman who was damaged by her upbringing and was just looking for love and had been screwed up by her early life. I think maybe I was unfair to her in the light of all this. It just shows how one generation cannot affect the next one, much in the way you described. So sad really.
Yes Met....They do say what goes around, comes around and it really does....I promised. I'd never be like my mum and for many years, i think i did really well. (My mother, though spoilt, I think went through some sort of abuse ) For one, her mother called her , her "Cross to Bear"
My mother has apologised for how she bought my sister and I up and has tried to change but she cannot help some things that have just stuck. She can be really lovely but in a moment, she can say the most hurtful outlandish things that , just no one would say....
In my recent (last 3 years) I have sadly failed in many ways and my last three teens, may well say that i have not been the best mum (although they seem to have forgotten the many years I was doing all I was supposed to as a wife and mother)
I'm disappointed with myself but there are some details that I cannot disclose which have mounted up inside me over the years and I have finally just crashed! TH-cam isnt really the place for this I suppose and I do mean to encourage and pump people up more at some point, I just think, I have to be real first with who I am, just a little.
I'm glad you found out that your mother had some stuff she was carrying and therefore, got some context as to why she behaved the way she did.
Thank you for sharing your story! I’m trying to do the same (share trauma on TH-cam). It’s been messy so far, but so healing as well.
I had a very childlike mother, also, and lots of yelling in the household, among lots of other things.
I’m excited to watch you grow on here. Subscribed!
Thanks Julie....Really kind of you and I have also subscribed from both my channels!😉
@ Thank you! I appreciate it! ❤️
Ahh, you are a lovely sweet lady that 's for sure. I heard somewhere that wealth is not about having loads of money, its more about the treasured loved ones who are always there for us. You look about 22 by the way.
It is true....and thank u Peter and thanks for your kindness.....Money does help though...I mean, without it, you cannot even look after your health in this country properly...Forget seeing the world, you could die waiting for an appointment on the NHS sadly....The world has shifted 🤔
@@NattiGeeOver50 Totally agree Natti we will all end up with barcodes. I just hope that they don't put it on my forehead. Anyway on a more cheerful note, your personality is both lovely and highly infectious and being such a beautiful and intelligent lady, I think that you may become a bit of a legend around here. I hope you don't mind me asking but i think that I should love to hear one of your songs, have you any on youtube? Take care.
@@peterpiper6837 Hi Peter
I'm not sure if it will let me put a link here but if you look on my channel description, and click more, i have my Natzcoverz channel there or perhaps if you don't see that, you can simply type in Natzcoverz in youtube and it may find me....
Me a legend? I'm actually not so popular at the moment with my community as i have changed alot and have just constantly wanted space which is really sad but I cannot seem to help it. I need to sit on a desert island and just be still and enjoy the waves and the quiet.....
About the barcodes on the forehead.....Sad but true 😞that or the right hand!
Watching now....Real talk is always good 👍🏾
Thanks TOC