+jammidodger While I can understand that the question is extremely personal, I'm sure there have been some people who've asked the question who are trying to better understand the ftm journey. Rather than simple puerile interest, some people asking this question genuinely want to understand the process of deciding whether or not to have bottom surgery. The why or why not to have the surgery, and how the experience was (or wasn't) for you, is just as much something that interests people as all that you've shared about having top surgery. The only difference between talking about top surgery and bottom surgery is that most people are raised to think of their genitals as something they discuss only with a very select group of people (as you outlined in your video). Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that you should answer that question even though you're uncomfortable with it. Obviously, the choice to talk about it or not should be left entirely up to you. But I do think that your supposition that no one asking the question has the proper motivation is in error. Yes, it's true. Some people are just rude asshats. But I think a lot of people are just looking for some guidance and/or better understanding of the ftm process and the choices transitioning people have to make.
If wanting to know about the journey to bottom surgery was the goal, then that person would ask a more constructive question, such as "have you felt it necessary to complete bottom surgery to fulfill your gender identity?" No one simply asks "do you have a penis?" under the guise of deeper knowledge; it's pure Rude curiosity. Can you honestly say it's any different than some random person asking a woman "what's your cup size?" Sure, they could be asking because they like how the bra fits the woman nicely & thusly want to know what brand it is. But if that's the goal, wouldn't the more pertinent question be, "what brand of bra are you wearing?" It's simply and plainly rude to ask blunt questions like those. This is the internet for f'ing sake... one can take Time to write a Mindful question that actually captures the Meaning behind why one's asking it in the first place.
So... click bait? I clicked here to learn about ftm Trans and all I leaned was "don't be curious." sorry. I'm curious. Guess I'll resume my search elsewhere. perhaps retitle the video with something like, "what not to ask a ftm"
He gave his reaction to a question people often ask him. Just because he didn't wish to share a rather personal detail about himself doesn't mean the title is misleading.
@stijn slim -- If you are curious about such things and click on a video entitled, "Ask a heterosexual woman: Do I have a smelly vagina?" "Do I swallow semen?" and then get told that you shouldn't be curious about such things, you would have a right to feel mislead by the title. If you walk up to an unassuming person on the street and say, "Hey, do you swallow semen?" then yeah, you might be stepping out of line. However, if the person invites your curiosity, then reprimands you for having it, you are not the one in the wrong. As to your suggestion, I did google that. This person's video was at the top of the google results page.
I'm not interested but still I understand people that ask about it. If you share publicy about your changes in voice and apperance why do not share about other parts of your body?
Allow me to respectfully disagree with your opinion. Transgenger and transsexual people are a recent reality in humankind (yes, there have been transgenders for a long time, but being allowed to be one openly is something from the 20th century). If people like you are making videos to create awareness and understanding, you shouldn't feel offended if people who don't know your reality ask you about genitalia. Biology tells us that the main difference between men and women is the reproductive system. You are a person with a female reproductive system but a male appearance. Having people asking what kind of genitalia you have is just normal. It's obvious that some can get confused and need enlightment.
+VeraDonna Creating awareness and understanding does not require people to know the status of trans peoples genitals. It isn't normal to ask a stranger about their genitalia, and it shouldn't be thought of as okay just because someone is transgender. If you think you need to fulfill a curiosity to understand people who are transgender, and think genital status is something that is relevant to raising awareness, then you are seriously mistaken.
+Jammidodger i hate when people ask if i still have a penis. i know your pain! if i walked up to a female and asked if she was menstruating it would not be good. same thing should apply to asking about trans genitals.
+VeraDonna Actually, it is/was accepted and sometimes even highly respected to be transgender in other cultures. People have been openly trans for a long time, of course, each culture explains it uniquely.
you're a huge inspiration to me. im ftm (not transitioned and not out to my family) and seeing your videos brings me a lot of joy because it gives me hope. I recently came out to one of my friends and he said "no, you'll always be a girl" and it really hurt because it was such a hard thing to tell him, but I just found your videos and I don't really know why, but I just felt all the sadness in my heart disappear. :)
It does indeed come from a place of curiosity, and that curiosity is in and of itself pure interest in the trans process and desire to understand trans people more. So yes, it would actually help if the question was answered, though i understand that it is personal.
Jamie I’m so sorry that people have been so disrespectful to ask you that. In the video I could see how uncomfortable that question makes you. It’s people being nosey, disrespectful, and mean. I know you have seen this side to people a lot due to being Trans... them people aren’t even worth the time. You are so much better than that level of class. You have all you need. A great personality, great looks, great family, great friends, great supporters, and most of all a great partner. You rock and don’t forget it!
It's because people treat you differently if you do or don't. They will do it subconsciously, but they consciously have to ask so they know how to categorize you within their prejudices.
I'm reading the comments on this and I don't get it when cis people defend the question as curiosity. Just because you're curious about something doesn't mean it's appropriate to ask about it. Even if you only take our word for it, well, we're the ones you're asking, so you basically have to listen to us when we say it's rude to ask that.
If you're trans, you have got to understand something: PEOPLE ARE CURIOUS, and you need not take offense to the inevitable questions. Hell, I STILL don't understand all of the terminology and what's what, let alone to try to imagine how a penis can even be constructed and look relatively normal....when you tell people that your trans, well....they're going to have questions and you should expect that. If it were me, I wouldn't mind these questions at all; then again, I've always been very open and I have no problem discussing anything sexual about myself, trans or not.
Meiko Elias FTM transitioning is a lot less recognized (which is beyond stressful) so the surgeries at this point arent worth it because of the result. i would know because im trans but i have yet to begin my transition.
plasticpeach I wasn't being sarcastic when I said that I loved that he didn't answer the question. I legitimately love that he didn't. Thank you for informing me about FTM's. I've been in transition for 10 years, so I'm well aware of the FTM experience. And FYI, It's probably best if you didn't speak negatively about surgeries that you don't have extensive knowledge or experience with. It's fine that some trans people don't want surgery, but there are amazing outcomes that are possible for folks that need them. And very well "worth it".
It sounded a lot like you were being sarcastic so I simply read it differently. I wasn't aware that you were FTM so it wasn't my fault that I misinterpreted what you said. Don't tell me I don't have experience. I don't want to be belittled by someone like me only because I don't have the privilege or support to come out and transition. I speak negatively about the surgeries because I've looked everywhere to find out about something that will end up actually looking decent and I have yet to find anything. I would prefer not to cut the skin of my arms and legs to form something that doesn't even remotely resemble a penis. That's only my opinion. As much as it kills me that I don't have male body parts, I wouldn't want to regret something so serious.
I'm so jealous of your height mate I'm 14 and I'm 5 feet 3 inches but My brother is 5 feet 10 and I'm planning on coming out to my dad this weekend because my mum was terrible
You've no obligation to answer any question you don't want to. That's actually well covered by ettiquette, regardless of the nature of the question. It does get dodgy when you make parts of your life more public, but rules of ettiquette still apply. Good luck in everything.
Dude, I'm crying right now because in all honesty you're my hero. Your T comparisons give me hope, and they just show me that you CAN like what you see in the mirror. I'm a fifteen year old transboy, and you're just....you're an inspiration mate. There's no other words for me to say that won't sound like some sort of creep. Thank you, so much, for giving me, and the entire trans community, either direction, hope.
+Flexglitcher807 Thank you so much, this is awesome! I really appreciate you saying all this, it makes me so happy to know that I can help people with their own transitions :D All the best with everything!
I just thought of this comment, I'm eighteen now and three weeks on The :) I still feel the way I did about you being a role model when I wrote this original comment, and I still watch your videos every day they come out, and I've recently discovered (And started binge watching) Shaaba's vlogs. You're an incredible man, Jamie. Please keep doing what you're doing.
THANKS! and patience, for the journey is as long as the ignorance that needs to be battled every day. Our world is changing with more brave people like you who take the time to show many that there´s always another option on how to realease or reorganize the pressure in our heads. Stay as cool as possible when the insults and vulgar curiosity strikes from those who are only reflecting their own pressures; "they" may not have the same issues to deal with, the same lessons nor the same support from others.. but, that "pressure".. that one is always the same.. We all drown in our own glass of water. My best to you. Admiration.
Jamie, I can't express enough how much I admire how you respond to questions such as these that your receive. Your honesty and calmed forward attitude towards it all shows how proud you are of yourself. Keep being you is all I will say.
To me asking this question is due to curiosity, for those of us who aren't going through this transition or don't personally know anyone who is but still support it. There's nothing wrong with wanting more knowledge about it. For me I watched the buzz feed video about him and then I went to his profile and watched some of his videos and on his buzz feed video he said he thought he was a boy growing up which implies that he in fact had a penis when he was a child and there is absolutely nothing wrong with asking the question. I say that but let me also state that I do respect his decision to keep his answer a secret bc it is his choice. And I admire how brave he is for putting his business out there for people to know and to help those of us who are curious about the transition. 😊
I was just going through your videos, but I feel so much regret on us that how we question anyone sexuality... I'm still amazed that how proudly you answer these questions.
Slightly off topic but I just came from your first uploaded video straight to this one after the previous one ended and wow to your voice! The voice in your first vid could actually be from both a girl or a boy which made it extra interesting since you were just transforming if I recall correctly. But this voice is undoubtedly masculin. Amazing.
I think internet has little information about how transition surgery works and how the new genitalia functions. I really wanted someone to explain what one can and cannot do as trans (like having erections for example) just to understand the struggles better. But I see how uncomfortable it may be so I never ask anyone
+Larissa Pinheiro Trans men can get erect, pee normally, have sex and all that that your average cis man can do (cis- a person who identifies with the gender they were assigned at birth) only thing we can't really do is produce sperm
+Larissa Pinheiro Hey, there is lots of information available online, you just need to Google it. But this is a topic I would be comfortable to talk about, discussing bottom surgery options is completely different to being asked if I have a penis.
Unless said person you're asking about parades themself all over youtube and obsesses over it to themselves and the world. Then makes a video called "Do I have a penis?" and doesn't actually answer the question in their title... I feel like I walked into the twilight zone.
Imo it's a perfectly legitimate question, not necessarily to ask just like that in a casual conversation, but more for the enlightment of the common cisgender people (which I am part of). What I think most of the people want to know are things like: Can a trans person have a fully functional sex life with new genitelia? Does a trans man have erections and does a trans woman naturally lubricate? Is there a certain proportion of trans people who choose to relate to their sexual identity but to live their life with the genitelia they were born with? As a gay man, I can relate to the "What's going on in my bedroom is none of your business" part, but I think it is our duty to give answers on several subjects to help people understand us more. On a more personal level, I came here because I've seen a few trans people on dating apps and I just couldn't figure out if dating a trans man could be something I would be confortable with and what are the things someone can expect in regard of sex life... I know it's probably very different with each person, but I think it would make things a lot easier not only for us cisgender, but also for you trans and queer people, to tell us some scenarios we can relate to.
Wow calm down Phi Phi... Normally I would just assume a guy I would fool around with has a penis. I actually went through the same process as when I was questioning my sexuality: would I go out with a man with a vagina? I tried to watch "pussy boy" porn and turns out I'm not interested, turns out I like penises and not vaginas, even on a boy. Does that make me a perverted fuck? No, just a plain gay man who likes dick. Now I'm sure there's more to it than men with vaginas, but the VAST MAJORITY OF THE PEOPLE OUT THERE know virtually NOTHING on this subject. To which extend does a "fake penis" work and how? Can it be erect? Try giving answers instead of insulting people.
I understand how people could wonder this out of curiosity but Jamie has been so thorough with information about top surgery, I think some people might have also just been wondering if there is any info about bottom. This channel is about information and it's one of the questions that can be brought up while looking for information. I'm new to watching his videos so I could be totally off with things but that is what I feel.
I would think that it should be obvious to people that that's a very personal, intrusive question that would especially make the person being asked deeply uncomfortable or irritated. It amazes me people would actually ask such a rude and tactless question, but I guess that's us as humans. We're so nosy and inquisitive about other people.
Even if they respect him less based on the answer, why should people be given respect to those who have things handed to them inside the womb? It's way cooler being somebody who works hard for everything
I´m with you... I´m happy for you but these videos (as I wrote before) are pointless... title of your video promises answer and people didn´t get any... that will create more questions. Sorry it is like click bait... If anyone ask me, I´ll answer... and If I think that question is too personal I´m not making videos about it.
Hey, I appreciate where you're coming from, and I get that people are frustrated thinking they will get the answer. But I made this video (and the other one you commented on) to highlight just how often I am asked these questions, how invasive they are, and how inappropriate it is to expect an answer (and even to ask in the first place) just because I'm trans. I tried for a very long time to just ignore the questions, but I've literally been asked about my genitals and sex life hundreds of times both online and in real life. The titles are the questions because the content is my answer to them - as well as highlighting a few other points in relation to them - they're just not the answers that the people who ask are looking for.
+natwixterthan18 but knowing body anatomy is also part of being educated. i fully support people personal space but sadly i dnt know much about trans community as from where i am they are not treated well and we dnt get to know about them either. i know there is google but some time i feel talking to an actual person would be nice too.
furmal86 I just think you shouldn't ask questions unless you know the person first. What if someone you just met asked you how much you have in your bank account? You shouldn't expect someone to answer your questions just because you are curious.
natwixterthan18 thats true , and i wouldn't ask someone on the street but here on internet when someone is promoting awareness about certain issues he/she must be ready to answer all the question, in this case body anatomy. also i dnt have much in my account :P
+furmal86 I don't understand your logic. Yes I am promoting awareness, and educating people who are trans and also who are not trans, but that doesn't mean you can ask me about my genitals. Please tell me how the answer would increase education, awareness or help people understand better? Because I don't see how it does any of those. It instead would just satisfy curiosity (Google is amazing for this by the way). It doesn't matter how much I put myself online, I NEVER have any obligation to answer any questions that I find too personal, invasive or rude.
Say it for the people in the back! What's in your pants is your business and people knowing that doesn't help them understand themselves or trans issues at all.
I just hope who ever is reading this understands that pretending to be a man or pretending to be a women won't help u bc ur private part isn't wht makes ur character u do
I'm not saying that it's not awkward to ask but it's a real question. If someone asked a non trans person what's in their pants than they would not really hesitate to say a penis or vagina as long as they are not in a place that is formal like school or work. If a lot of people are curious then just tell them. I think you shouldn't add a taboo to sex and your sexuality since all that does is create stigmas around the FTM community
I am really impressed with his transition through the years. The penis question is really not all about being transgender. As a male we find that the penis fixation of any kind is just an all around male thing. Granted that the transgender genital curiosity does have a play when it comes to the general public, men are just absolutely obsessed with male genitalia especially in the "Gay" world. Guys can attempt to defend themselves against this but it would only be absolute denial. Famous Gay bar quote: "How big is it, cut or uncut?"
I love watching all of your videos and I show them to my friends and we started to fall in love with you and your videos we can't believe your so brave and humble and that you don't care what people think of you ❤️❤️
Amazingly handsome and manly guy. I agree. That question is irrelevant and offending. For those who need to know: he has big balls. Huge. On of the bravest men around!
+jammidodger I saw that monster willy you took delivery of! it was like a python. Ain't nobody got time fo' that! On a serious note, I totally agree with you. You're a guy, no matter what is down yonder. It is only the business of your partner and your physicians what junk you're packing. I love your vlogs, you're extremely funny and charismatic. People need to take their mind out of people's pants and concentrate on what they have to say. Lots of lurveeeeee 👌
I think for me, it's the curiosity of knowing why you choose to have the surgery for it or not. Like with a hysterectomy, it's just how you see certain parts of your body and relates to dysphoria. However, I understand that it must be way frustrating to get asked this question by transphobics who don't understand the difference between sex and gender.
I was considering asking because I'm having issues with my gender and considering transitioning if I can break down the mental walls but I don't know if I want bottom surgery. At this time I don't know if I want full top surgery or to just wear binder or the open shirt binding method. I just dunno and I know most people look at your chest or legs when trying to determine gender if they can't tell by face or hair and I dunno if it's considered rude or bad to wear something in your underwear like socks or something. I felt bad asking so I didn't but I mean, I dunno.
Hey, this video wasn't at all aimed at people who are asking because they are trans themselves/questioning their gender, and are asking in terms of bottom surgery. (I have made a video recently on bottom surgery and my opinions on it, if you're interested). This video was for people who are literally just curious, or think that they can learn more about trans people but knowing about their genitals, which isn't the case. In terms of yourself, I would recommend just taking things at a slow pace, experiment with different options of binding and see how that makes you feel, and there is nothing rude or bad about wearing something in your underwear. It's called packing, and you can do DIY version, like socks, or you can buy a packer (which is essentially a silicone penis).
@@CatSmith87 not saying he did, it is just a bit odd to title the video as a question u don't answer in the video. If it is such an annoying question to answer then word it better if u are only going to talk about the question & not so much the answer
Hi Jammi! I'm a female currently but I've always felt like a boy. I've really considered going on T and my two major questions are this: How old were you when you started T? And how tall were you when you started it and did you grow at all? I'm 15, 5'4 and I feel like I would be really self conscious about my height if I didn't grow taller.
+Taylor Stark Hey, I was 17 when I started T and I was around 6ft. I grew an inch after starting T, but I don't believe that was caused by the T. You've still got a few more years that you could grow!
+Slash/Avria so why even talk about being Trans. If they want it to be no different then heterosexual, where the word sex is in there why not talk about it when it's trans and make it transsexual?
I honestly never would have thought that would be an offensive question if not asked in a deliberately offensive way, but now that you've explained it I totally understand how it would be and feel stupid for not considering that before. One thing though, with regard to only asking in the two scenarios you mentioned, in the first one I'm not sure I agree that a person would have to be on the verge of having sex with you to want to know that. For some people, it would be important for them to know that before entering into any kind of romantic/sexual relationship with you at all, because, while they may not have an issue with the fact that you weren't born in a man's body, they may have a certain physical preference that they are attracted to, and if you don't have it, it may not work out. Some may or may not consider that to be closed-minded, but there will be people who wouldn't be able to entertain the idea of a relationship without knowing the physical details. My point is that when someone has a growing romantic interest in you, it may not be inappropriate for them to ask such a question before pursuing a relationship if it's the kind of thing they'd consider a "deal breaker."
+Daniela Contreras - What is wrong with you people? If he'd really have wanted to tell you he would have. The fact that his video is about how much he hates being asked this question, then you go and ask it again shows your ignorance and insensitivity....
It shouldn't matter whether or not he has certain parts, if he says he's male, he is. He doesn't have to have a penis to be male. If he has his mind made up then that's all that matters.
A lot of transgenders out there would ask this question too. As I understand it, there is the general top surgery that people transitioning FTM do. The bottom, however, is not readily visible to the world like breasts and pecks so its very optional. I guess the problem I see is that there's a lot of trans who feel free talking about the progress in their top surgery and zero that talk at all about bottom surgery. Seems very prudish and hypocritical to me. There's those that ask just for some immature giggle and theres those that ask for actually good, helpful, reasons. Your video only seems to address the former, ignoring your fans, the latter.
Charles Hoots I made this video because I got so many anonymous messages literally just saying "Do you have a penis?". So yes my video does just address the people who ask purely out of curiosity, or for some other immature reason. If you don't understand that, then you missed the point of the video. I am not addressing people who ask because they want to find out more about a certain procedure and are seeing if I can give them information, nor am I addressing those who want to find out if bottom surgery is something I have done/am considering. This is because if people send me a sensible message asking for information or for help because they do not know what to do, then I will do my best help them and share my personal experiences. This video definitely does not address those people. I am not being prudish or hypocritical by not answering the question "do I have a penis?" to random strangers who ask me on the internet for no other reason than curiosity. I do not have to answer any questions about my genitals. To anyone. Ever. So even if I didn't help out people who send me sensible messages about this topic, I would still not be being prudish of hypocritical. No one would be, as no one has any obligation to talk about, or answer questions to strangers online about things that they wish to remain private. I hope this could help you understand the video more, and who it was aimed at.
im sort of debating my own sexual identity (im born with a woman's body, although sometimes i think i would be WAY more comfortable being a man) and i really dont understand how the surgery works for someone like me (or how you had it). it is a touchy subject and i do understand where youre coming from, but its a genuine concern on a lot of people in your audience
This video was not addressing questions about surgery, if I knew enough to make a video about lower surgery procedures, then I would. This was addressing being asked about my genitals by people who have no interest in how lower surgery works, they are just being intrusive. If you want to know more about lower surgery options, then look into phalloplasty and metoidioplasty - those are the two broad types of lower surgery trans guys can get, and then within this there are variations and different combinations of procedures.
Jammidodger thank you so much, I definitely will look more into it. I really love your channel and your videos are helping me to discover my own identity, please keep making great videos. I'm sorry about people being intrusive (or if I have been with my comment, it was never my intention), no one should have the right to demand information about someone's genitals unless there's a medical/sexual relationship going on, which is pretty much what you're saying here. The fact that you're so calm and nice about it is incredible
Hey, no worries, hope you find what you need. Thank you, really glad my videos could help you. You weren't intrusive at all, I understand that had I made this video in response to questions about lower surgery, it wouldn't have been the best answer. All the best with everything :)
this video is so important. I'm trans and I HATE it when people ask stuff like this. WHY DO YOU NEED TO KNOW MY GENITALS??? that's so gross and weird. people need to mind their business.
So I'm not sure if this channel is even monitored anymore, but I thought I would post this question to get a better idea of where I'm headed personally. I'm not quite sure how to word it correctly so here it goes anyways. What was it like starting T? I'm from a small area where everyone has a small town mind set? So obviously I'm interested in the mental side of things, but also the physical side of things. what was it like in the beginning?
+Beth-Anne Rogers Hey, I do still monitor and upload to the channel, just not as often as I used to. If you look through all my videos I talked about all the changes in the beginning and have made a couple of videos where I talk about mental/emotional changes too :)
But then why announce you're trans? Based on your logic, isn't that offensive for people to know as well? Or is it just specific questions related to sexuality that you personally find offensive? Whenever I'm personally offended by something, it's usually because I'm the one with the issue, not the world. Just sharing. have a great week all!
So I’m struggling with bottom dysphoria and clicked this video, because I want to know how other transmen are dealing with this situation. Instead of helping, you start shaming me for being curious. Thanks.
If you truly are a trans guy you should know that these questions can make people extremely uncomfortable and feel even more dysphoric and while being curious is okay, hurting others while doing so is not
me at 1:10-- Oh look! kitty! me the rest of the time-- yes, this is something I relate to. I'm a guy, deal with it. I hate the question, just know I'm a guy and bug off.
I totally agree with you. No one has the right to ask anyone what's in their pants. This is simply no body's business but the person whose pants they are. And what's this premium on the penis? Look at the mess the penis brigade has made of this world.
I was thinking about the ftm surgery, and I was wondering If I would get a penis, because I do want one. But it is extremely rude to ask if somebody has one. It's ridiculous. Loved this video :)
I have been reading some of the comments and I know by saying this it will get that one guy to hate but it is HIS right to keep that private. I know people argue curiosity but some things are better off left unknown. I don't think TH-cam is that place to be this open about something. I am not saying to go up to him and ask but just don't be stupid. If the man says he doesn't want to talk about it, don't talk about it. He has done enough by answering your questions don't make him get awkward and shut his channel down!
Biological men will ask that because they think in terms of anatomy. The concepts of "biological men" and "artifical men" are still fairly new. Most biological men adhere to the notion that just because u say u are something doesn't mean you are all that thing. So by asking, "do u have a penis?" they want to know at what stage in ur transition are you? Are u still a biological woman? or have u taken the step to become an artifical man?
How he put it it made it look like he didn't have one lol. If I was doing this video I would of been like " yes I got a f***ing stick under my pants and made the video like 10 sec long lol
You said that we shouldn’t ask. Where I live it’s like 3rd world and I don’t know much about these things. It’s new to us. I would love to learn more about transgender.
+jammidodger While I can understand that the question is extremely personal, I'm sure there have been some people who've asked the question who are trying to better understand the ftm journey. Rather than simple puerile interest, some people asking this question genuinely want to understand the process of deciding whether or not to have bottom surgery. The why or why not to have the surgery, and how the experience was (or wasn't) for you, is just as much something that interests people as all that you've shared about having top surgery. The only difference between talking about top surgery and bottom surgery is that most people are raised to think of their genitals as something they discuss only with a very select group of people (as you outlined in your video).
Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that you should answer that question even though you're uncomfortable with it. Obviously, the choice to talk about it or not should be left entirely up to you. But I do think that your supposition that no one asking the question has the proper motivation is in error. Yes, it's true. Some people are just rude asshats. But I think a lot of people are just looking for some guidance and/or better understanding of the ftm process and the choices transitioning people have to make.
If wanting to know about the journey to bottom surgery was the goal, then that person would ask a more constructive question, such as "have you felt it necessary to complete bottom surgery to fulfill your gender identity?" No one simply asks "do you have a penis?" under the guise of deeper knowledge; it's pure Rude curiosity.
Can you honestly say it's any different than some random person asking a woman "what's your cup size?" Sure, they could be asking because they like how the bra fits the woman nicely & thusly want to know what brand it is. But if that's the goal, wouldn't the more pertinent question be, "what brand of bra are you wearing?"
It's simply and plainly rude to ask blunt questions like those. This is the internet for f'ing sake... one can take Time to write a Mindful question that actually captures the Meaning behind why one's asking it in the first place.
I've watched a few videos in a row now and in each one, I've seen evidence of a cat. And finally I see the cat!!! What's your cat's name?
+Barbara Alejandra You see him properly in my video called Free Willy! He's called Apollo :)
So... click bait? I clicked here to learn about ftm Trans and all I leaned was "don't be curious." sorry. I'm curious. Guess I'll resume my search elsewhere. perhaps retitle the video with something like, "what not to ask a ftm"
He gave his reaction to a question people often ask him. Just because he didn't wish to share a rather personal detail about himself doesn't mean the title is misleading.
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@stijn slim -- If you are curious about such things and click on a video entitled, "Ask
a heterosexual woman: Do I have a smelly vagina?" "Do I swallow semen?"
and then get told that you shouldn't be curious about such things, you
would have a right to feel mislead by the title. If you walk up to an
unassuming person on the street and say, "Hey, do you swallow semen?"
then yeah, you might be stepping out of line. However, if the person
invites your curiosity, then reprimands you for having it, you are not
the one in the wrong.
As to your suggestion, I did google that. This person's video was at the top of the google results page.
JessBisme123 bingo!
I'm not interested but still I understand people that ask about it. If you share publicy about your changes in voice and apperance why do not share about other parts of your body?
Because its just too personal. Its non of our business.
+Emma Aßmann And everything else is not personal..?
+Da Atte He can choose what he want to show. don't being intrusive is a polite signal.
+Andrea Suárez I know I know but I just personally think this whole process is quite personal. At least for some.
+Da Atte Yeah. It really is very personal. I agree with you. But just like Andrea said. He can choose what he wants to show. You know?
Allow me to respectfully disagree with your opinion. Transgenger and transsexual people are a recent reality in humankind (yes, there have been transgenders for a long time, but being allowed to be one openly is something from the 20th century). If people like you are making videos to create awareness and understanding, you shouldn't feel offended if people who don't know your reality ask you about genitalia. Biology tells us that the main difference between men and women is the reproductive system. You are a person with a female reproductive system but a male appearance. Having people asking what kind of genitalia you have is just normal. It's obvious that some can get confused and need enlightment.
+VeraDonna Creating awareness and understanding does not require people to know the status of trans peoples genitals. It isn't normal to ask a stranger about their genitalia, and it shouldn't be thought of as okay just because someone is transgender.
If you think you need to fulfill a curiosity to understand people who are transgender, and think genital status is something that is relevant to raising awareness, then you are seriously mistaken.
+Peter M. your a douchbag. its becoming normal whether you like it or not so screw off! we are people too.
+Jammidodger i hate when people ask if i still have a penis. i know your pain! if i walked up to a female and asked if she was menstruating it would not be good. same thing should apply to asking about trans genitals.
+Claire Bacon I did never say, that you are not people, i said your are unnormal people, meant in sense of biology.
+VeraDonna Actually, it is/was accepted and sometimes even highly respected to be transgender in other cultures. People have been openly trans for a long time, of course, each culture explains it uniquely.
you're a huge inspiration to me. im ftm (not transitioned and not out to my family) and seeing your videos brings me a lot of joy because it gives me hope. I recently came out to one of my friends and he said "no, you'll always be a girl" and it really hurt because it was such a hard thing to tell him, but I just found your videos and I don't really know why, but I just felt all the sadness in my heart disappear. :)
Its been 4 years, but I still believe in you. Don't let jerks get you down by purposely calling you a woman. Your a man and always were a man
I hope everything is working out! Would love an update 😄
Something about the combination of your face and your voice and your expressions reminds me of an awesome guy I went to school with for a while.
It does indeed come from a place of curiosity, and that curiosity is in and of itself pure interest in the trans process and desire to understand trans people more. So yes, it would actually help if the question was answered, though i understand that it is personal.
Tell strangers about the state of your genitals first. We really want to understand the non-trans experience.
Aw your cat forcing its way into the room while you are filming is so adorable
Jamie I’m so sorry that people have been so disrespectful to ask you that. In the video I could see how uncomfortable that question makes you. It’s people being nosey, disrespectful, and mean. I know you have seen this side to people a lot due to being Trans... them people aren’t even worth the time. You are so much better than that level of class. You have all you need. A great personality, great looks, great family, great friends, great supporters, and most of all a great partner. You rock and don’t forget it!
I'll take that as a no
+Alison Gauthier Take it as whatever you want :)
+Alison Gauthier - I'll take that as you're just being rude for no reason! Unbelievable!
Saaaaaaaame
saaaaaame , but i like tha "guy" any way
Same
It's because people treat you differently if you do or don't. They will do it subconsciously, but they consciously have to ask so they know how to categorize you within their prejudices.
Short answer? None of your fucking business. :* Jamie, you are awesome!
His cuteness is killing me
She a her.
@@r.w.7232 respect people’s pronouns please.
@@vexationnn Absolutely not! Would you acknowledge someone if they identified as a dog? That's ridiculous.
@@r.w.7232 yes, yes I would
@@r.w.7232 it’s 2020, people can be who they want to be.
Jammi, your goodness speaks to us even before you open your mouth to speak words. Thank you for who you are.
if u guys stop asking this kind questions maybe he will not title his videos to answer u this way
I'm reading the comments on this and I don't get it when cis people defend the question as curiosity. Just because you're curious about something doesn't mean it's appropriate to ask about it. Even if you only take our word for it, well, we're the ones you're asking, so you basically have to listen to us when we say it's rude to ask that.
If you're trans, you have got to understand something: PEOPLE ARE CURIOUS, and you need not take offense to the inevitable questions. Hell, I STILL don't understand all of the terminology and what's what, let alone to try to imagine how a penis can even be constructed and look relatively normal....when you tell people that your trans, well....they're going to have questions and you should expect that. If it were me, I wouldn't mind these questions at all; then again, I've always been very open and I have no problem discussing anything sexual about myself, trans or not.
I love that you didn't answer the question.
Meiko Elias he shouldnt have to. its not his job to tell you what he has downstairs. that's personal.
Meiko Elias FTM transitioning is a lot less recognized (which is beyond stressful) so the surgeries at this point arent worth it because of the result. i would know because im trans but i have yet to begin my transition.
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plasticpeach
I wasn't being sarcastic when I said that I loved that he didn't answer the question. I legitimately love that he didn't. Thank you for informing me about FTM's. I've been in transition for 10 years, so I'm well aware of the FTM experience. And FYI, It's probably best if you didn't speak negatively about surgeries that you don't have extensive knowledge or experience with. It's fine that some trans people don't want surgery, but there are amazing outcomes that are possible for folks that need them. And very well "worth it".
It sounded a lot like you were being sarcastic so I simply read it differently. I wasn't aware that you were FTM so it wasn't my fault that I misinterpreted what you said. Don't tell me I don't have experience. I don't want to be belittled by someone like me only because I don't have the privilege or support to come out and transition. I speak negatively about the surgeries because I've looked everywhere to find out about something that will end up actually looking decent and I have yet to find anything. I would prefer not to cut the skin of my arms and legs to form something that doesn't even remotely resemble a penis. That's only my opinion. As much as it kills me that I don't have male body parts, I wouldn't want to regret something so serious.
I'm so jealous of your height mate I'm 14 and I'm 5 feet 3 inches but My brother is 5 feet 10 and I'm planning on coming out to my dad this weekend because my mum was terrible
Congrats on turning 20 bud
You've no obligation to answer any question you don't want to. That's actually well covered by ettiquette, regardless of the nature of the question. It does get dodgy when you make parts of your life more public, but rules of ettiquette still apply. Good luck in everything.
+Danielle Anner Thank you :)
Dude, I'm crying right now because in all honesty you're my hero. Your T comparisons give me hope, and they just show me that you CAN like what you see in the mirror. I'm a fifteen year old transboy, and you're just....you're an inspiration mate. There's no other words for me to say that won't sound like some sort of creep. Thank you, so much, for giving me, and the entire trans community, either direction, hope.
+Flexglitcher807 Thank you so much, this is awesome! I really appreciate you saying all this, it makes me so happy to know that I can help people with their own transitions :D All the best with everything!
I just thought of this comment, I'm eighteen now and three weeks on The :) I still feel the way I did about you being a role model when I wrote this original comment, and I still watch your videos every day they come out, and I've recently discovered (And started binge watching) Shaaba's vlogs. You're an incredible man, Jamie. Please keep doing what you're doing.
THANKS! and patience, for the journey is as long as the ignorance that needs to be battled every day. Our world is changing with more brave people like you who take the time to show many that there´s always another option on how to realease or reorganize the pressure in our heads. Stay as cool as possible when the insults and vulgar curiosity strikes from those who are only reflecting their own pressures; "they" may not have the same issues to deal with, the same lessons nor the same support from others.. but, that "pressure".. that one is always the same.. We all drown in our own glass of water. My best to you. Admiration.
Jamie, I can't express enough how much I admire how you respond to questions such as these that your receive. Your honesty and calmed forward attitude towards it all shows how proud you are of yourself. Keep being you is all I will say.
That sort of question just objectifies and dehumanizes trans people. There is a difference genuinely wanting to learn and being just a jerk.
Oh my goodness thank you for making this!! I've been asked so many times if I have a penis I hate it when people do thank you!!
yea the fact you didnt even answer the queshtion is just hillarious
To me asking this question is due to curiosity, for those of us who aren't going through this transition or don't personally know anyone who is but still support it. There's nothing wrong with wanting more knowledge about it. For me I watched the buzz feed video about him and then I went to his profile and watched some of his videos and on his buzz feed video he said he thought he was a boy growing up which implies that he in fact had a penis when he was a child and there is absolutely nothing wrong with asking the question. I say that but let me also state that I do respect his decision to keep his answer a secret bc it is his choice. And I admire how brave he is for putting his business out there for people to know and to help those of us who are curious about the transition. 😊
We support you man
Good for you. Dont listen to people hating. I'm transgender and wanna be a guy because I don't feel comfortable in my female body
I was just going through your videos, but I feel so much regret on us that how we question anyone sexuality...
I'm still amazed that how proudly you answer these questions.
he hasn't answered it really
@@cebujuanamarikit1463 No, you are not entitled to the answer you are seeking. Jamie is showing how to set necessary and appropriate boundaries.
For me it is between your ears meaning ( In Your Brain ) not between your legs..
Slightly off topic but I just came from your first uploaded video straight to this one after the previous one ended and wow to your voice! The voice in your first vid could actually be from both a girl or a boy which made it extra interesting since you were just transforming if I recall correctly. But this voice is undoubtedly masculin.
Amazing.
I think internet has little information about how transition surgery works and how the new genitalia functions.
I really wanted someone to explain what one can and cannot do as trans (like having erections for example) just to understand the struggles better.
But I see how uncomfortable it may be so I never ask anyone
+Larissa Pinheiro Trans men can get erect, pee normally, have sex and all that that your average cis man can do (cis- a person who identifies with the gender they were assigned at birth) only thing we can't really do is produce sperm
***** it isn't plastic wtf. It is made of your skin and flesh like a normal penis
+Larissa Pinheiro Hey, there is lots of information available online, you just need to Google it. But this is a topic I would be comfortable to talk about, discussing bottom surgery options is completely different to being asked if I have a penis.
A good rule of thumb to follow when asking people about their genitals:
don't.
Unless said person you're asking about parades themself all over youtube and obsesses over it to themselves and the world. Then makes a video called "Do I have a penis?" and doesn't actually answer the question in their title...
I feel like I walked into the twilight zone.
don't make a video about a question that u won't answer😑
Ikr
Yeah, ikr
What a fucking loser
Some people are obnoxious just ignore them. You deserve the life you wanna be. It yours and will be yours. I support you.
Imo it's a perfectly legitimate question, not necessarily to ask just like that in a casual conversation, but more for the enlightment of the common cisgender people (which I am part of). What I think most of the people want to know are things like: Can a trans person have a fully functional sex life with new genitelia? Does a trans man have erections and does a trans woman naturally lubricate? Is there a certain proportion of trans people who choose to relate to their sexual identity but to live their life with the genitelia they were born with?
As a gay man, I can relate to the "What's going on in my bedroom is none of your business" part, but I think it is our duty to give answers on several subjects to help people understand us more. On a more personal level, I came here because I've seen a few trans people on dating apps and I just couldn't figure out if dating a trans man could be something I would be confortable with and what are the things someone can expect in regard of sex life... I know it's probably very different with each person, but I think it would make things a lot easier not only for us cisgender, but also for you trans and queer people, to tell us some scenarios we can relate to.
Bullshit. You gonna fuck him? Then you dont need to know any of that, you fucking perverted fuck.
Wow calm down Phi Phi... Normally I would just assume a guy I would fool around with has a penis. I actually went through the same process as when I was questioning my sexuality: would I go out with a man with a vagina? I tried to watch "pussy boy" porn and turns out I'm not interested, turns out I like penises and not vaginas, even on a boy. Does that make me a perverted fuck? No, just a plain gay man who likes dick. Now I'm sure there's more to it than men with vaginas, but the VAST MAJORITY OF THE PEOPLE OUT THERE know virtually NOTHING on this subject. To which extend does a "fake penis" work and how? Can it be erect? Try giving answers instead of insulting people.
you are a great person and I wish I could have the same confidence you have
Curiosity is never bad.
I understand how people could wonder this out of curiosity but Jamie has been so thorough with information about top surgery, I think some people might have also just been wondering if there is any info about bottom. This channel is about information and it's one of the questions that can be brought up while looking for information. I'm new to watching his videos so I could be totally off with things but that is what I feel.
I was watching buzzfeed then I saw the video of you, a transgender person, so then I looked at your channel and I will subscribe :)
Lol me too i came here from buzzfeed
Same!!!
Joey Jolie SAME!!!
I 100% agree with you. I understand people get curious, but it's not something they should go off and ask.
I would think that it should be obvious to people that that's a very personal, intrusive question that would especially make the person being asked deeply uncomfortable or irritated. It amazes me people would actually ask such a rude and tactless question, but I guess that's us as humans. We're so nosy and inquisitive about other people.
Even if they respect him less based on the answer, why should people be given respect to those who have things handed to them inside the womb? It's way cooler being somebody who works hard for everything
Now Trump gonna ban all this bs@@theoroche27
I 100% agree with Jamie on this one. It’s so unnecessary, stop asking it lol.
I´m with you... I´m happy for you but these videos (as I wrote before) are pointless... title of your video promises answer and people didn´t get any... that will create more questions. Sorry it is like click bait... If anyone ask me, I´ll answer... and If I think that question is too personal I´m not making videos about it.
Hey, I appreciate where you're coming from, and I get that people are frustrated thinking they will get the answer. But I made this video (and the other one you commented on) to highlight just how often I am asked these questions, how invasive they are, and how inappropriate it is to expect an answer (and even to ask in the first place) just because I'm trans. I tried for a very long time to just ignore the questions, but I've literally been asked about my genitals and sex life hundreds of times both online and in real life. The titles are the questions because the content is my answer to them - as well as highlighting a few other points in relation to them - they're just not the answers that the people who ask are looking for.
I think people should just get more educated about personal space
Ikr like why do people care
+natwixterthan18 but knowing body anatomy is also part of being educated. i fully support people personal space but sadly i dnt know much about trans community as from where i am they are not treated well and we dnt get to know about them either. i know there is google but some time i feel talking to an actual person would be nice too.
furmal86 I just think you shouldn't ask questions unless you know the person first. What if someone you just met asked you how much you have in your bank account? You shouldn't expect someone to answer your questions just because you are curious.
natwixterthan18 thats true , and i wouldn't ask someone on the street but here on internet when someone is promoting awareness about certain issues he/she must be ready to answer all the question, in this case body anatomy. also i dnt have much in my account :P
+furmal86 I don't understand your logic.
Yes I am promoting awareness, and educating people who are trans and also who are not trans, but that doesn't mean you can ask me about my genitals.
Please tell me how the answer would increase education, awareness or help people understand better? Because I don't see how it does any of those. It instead would just satisfy curiosity (Google is amazing for this by the way).
It doesn't matter how much I put myself online, I NEVER have any obligation to answer any questions that I find too personal, invasive or rude.
Say it for the people in the back! What's in your pants is your business and people knowing that doesn't help them understand themselves or trans issues at all.
So you are the person who never answer questions after all.
Lake House mind your own business u inappropriate f ck
@@hatersgoingstohateyae5127 No, they are not inappropriate. Just stating fact.
I just hope who ever is reading this understands that pretending to be a man or pretending to be a women won't help u bc ur private part isn't wht makes ur character u do
Stay strong dude 💪
I'm not saying that it's not awkward to ask but it's a real question. If someone asked a non trans person what's in their pants than they would not really hesitate to say a penis or vagina as long as they are not in a place that is formal like school or work. If a lot of people are curious then just tell them. I think you shouldn't add a taboo to sex and your sexuality since all that does is create stigmas around the FTM community
I am really impressed with his transition through the years. The penis question is really not all about being transgender. As a male we find that the penis fixation of any kind is just an all around male thing. Granted that the transgender genital curiosity does have a play when it comes to the general public, men are just absolutely obsessed with male genitalia especially in the "Gay" world. Guys can attempt to defend themselves against this but it would only be absolute denial. Famous Gay bar quote: "How big is it, cut or uncut?"
If they ask a stupid question give them a stupid answer.
Be like i dunno
Yes it is, very dtupid, listen what he is talking about, did he said MY DICK ?
A stupid answer? So "Yes".
I love watching all of your videos and I show them to my friends and we started to fall in love with you and your videos we can't believe your so brave and humble and that you don't care what people think of you ❤️❤️
Short answer is NO.
I hate to admit it but ive been crying all day because of that question, I feel that i'd just never be able to answer it with a YES.
There is nothing wrong with this question. Men have penises.
Amazingly handsome and manly guy. I agree. That question is irrelevant and offending. For those who need to know: he has big balls. Huge. On of the bravest men around!
I feel you! IM 10 AND PEPOLE ASK THAT. I respect them but that's not something I like to talk about.
If you're 10 then you obviously don't have one.
Ritsu_oAo I know but young kids ask me
Lildigga Welp, what are ya gonna do eh. They mean no harm. :)
Ritsu_oAo I know that's why I say u respect them I just say. You'll never know... Their reaction us priceless
@@mitchlel227you are 18 now and you still unstable of gender?
Thanks for explaining
+jammidodger
I saw that monster willy you took delivery of! it was like a python. Ain't nobody got time fo' that!
On a serious note, I totally agree with you. You're a guy, no matter what is down yonder. It is only the business of your partner and your physicians what junk you're packing. I love your vlogs, you're extremely funny and charismatic. People need to take their mind out of people's pants and concentrate on what they have to say.
Lots of lurveeeeee 👌
I think for me, it's the curiosity of knowing why you choose to have the surgery for it or not. Like with a hysterectomy, it's just how you see certain parts of your body and relates to dysphoria. However, I understand that it must be way frustrating to get asked this question by transphobics who don't understand the difference between sex and gender.
I was considering asking because I'm having issues with my gender and considering transitioning if I can break down the mental walls but I don't know if I want bottom surgery. At this time I don't know if I want full top surgery or to just wear binder or the open shirt binding method. I just dunno and I know most people look at your chest or legs when trying to determine gender if they can't tell by face or hair and I dunno if it's considered rude or bad to wear something in your underwear like socks or something. I felt bad asking so I didn't but I mean, I dunno.
Hey, this video wasn't at all aimed at people who are asking because they are trans themselves/questioning their gender, and are asking in terms of bottom surgery. (I have made a video recently on bottom surgery and my opinions on it, if you're interested).
This video was for people who are literally just curious, or think that they can learn more about trans people but knowing about their genitals, which isn't the case.
In terms of yourself, I would recommend just taking things at a slow pace, experiment with different options of binding and see how that makes you feel, and there is nothing rude or bad about wearing something in your underwear. It's called packing, and you can do DIY version, like socks, or you can buy a packer (which is essentially a silicone penis).
You don't even answer the question
He doesn't have to
@@CatSmith87 not saying he did, it is just a bit odd to title the video as a question u don't answer in the video. If it is such an annoying question to answer then word it better if u are only going to talk about the question & not so much the answer
Such a mature response.
So happy that this was your response.
Hi Jammi! I'm a female currently but I've always felt like a boy. I've really considered going on T and my two major questions are this: How old were you when you started T? And how tall were you when you started it and did you grow at all? I'm 15, 5'4 and I feel like I would be really self conscious about my height if I didn't grow taller.
+Taylor Stark Hey, I was 17 when I started T and I was around 6ft. I grew an inch after starting T, but I don't believe that was caused by the T. You've still got a few more years that you could grow!
Alright thank you, that helps a lot!
Good answer really!
Sincerly Avria
Nobody should be asked something like this
+Slash/Avria so why even talk about being Trans. If they want it to be no different then heterosexual, where the word sex is in there why not talk about it when it's trans and make it transsexual?
I honestly never would have thought that would be an offensive question if not asked in a deliberately offensive way, but now that you've explained it I totally understand how it would be and feel stupid for not considering that before. One thing though, with regard to only asking in the two scenarios you mentioned, in the first one I'm not sure I agree that a person would have to be on the verge of having sex with you to want to know that. For some people, it would be important for them to know that before entering into any kind of romantic/sexual relationship with you at all, because, while they may not have an issue with the fact that you weren't born in a man's body, they may have a certain physical preference that they are attracted to, and if you don't have it, it may not work out. Some may or may not consider that to be closed-minded, but there will be people who wouldn't be able to entertain the idea of a relationship without knowing the physical details. My point is that when someone has a growing romantic interest in you, it may not be inappropriate for them to ask such a question before pursuing a relationship if it's the kind of thing they'd consider a "deal breaker."
so? do you have or not?
+Daniela Contreras you missed the point.
+Daniela Contreras lol i scrolled to find this.. and still got no answer :D
+Daniela Contreras - What is wrong with you people? If he'd really have wanted to tell you he would have. The fact that his video is about how much he hates being asked this question, then you go and ask it again shows your ignorance and insensitivity....
Daniela Contreras he has a vergina thank you for passing by 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Kaw tar no no no... IT has a vagina
It shouldn't matter whether or not he has certain parts, if he says he's male, he is. He doesn't have to have a penis to be male. If he has his mind made up then that's all that matters.
Kid Cantwalk 420 if i say i wanna wake up tomorrow and be a mushroom does that mean i am?? Naw it doesn't SHE has a vagina and will never have a penis
A lot of transgenders out there would ask this question too. As I understand it, there is the general top surgery that people transitioning FTM do. The bottom, however, is not readily visible to the world like breasts and pecks so its very optional.
I guess the problem I see is that there's a lot of trans who feel free talking about the progress in their top surgery and zero that talk at all about bottom surgery. Seems very prudish and hypocritical to me. There's those that ask just for some immature giggle and theres those that ask for actually good, helpful, reasons. Your video only seems to address the former, ignoring your fans, the latter.
Charles Hoots I made this video because I got so many anonymous messages literally just saying "Do you have a penis?". So yes my video does just address the people who ask purely out of curiosity, or for some other immature reason. If you don't understand that, then you missed the point of the video.
I am not addressing people who ask because they want to find out more about a certain procedure and are seeing if I can give them information, nor am I addressing those who want to find out if bottom surgery is something I have done/am considering. This is because if people send me a sensible message asking for information or for help because they do not know what to do, then I will do my best help them and share my personal experiences. This video definitely does not address those people.
I am not being prudish or hypocritical by not answering the question "do I have a penis?" to random strangers who ask me on the internet for no other reason than curiosity. I do not have to answer any questions about my genitals. To anyone. Ever. So even if I didn't help out people who send me sensible messages about this topic, I would still not be being prudish of hypocritical. No one would be, as no one has any obligation to talk about, or answer questions to strangers online about things that they wish to remain private.
I hope this could help you understand the video more, and who it was aimed at.
+Tobias Ravn You evidently have one inserted into your personality :')
+Tobias Ravn u got served he's more of a man than you'll ever be I mean who sets hitler as there profile pic ???
+Tobias Ravn how does it feel knowing social evolution will eventually breed out idiots like yourself?
im sort of debating my own sexual identity (im born with a woman's body, although sometimes i think i would be WAY more comfortable being a man) and i really dont understand how the surgery works for someone like me (or how you had it). it is a touchy subject and i do understand where youre coming from, but its a genuine concern on a lot of people in your audience
This video was not addressing questions about surgery, if I knew enough to make a video about lower surgery procedures, then I would. This was addressing being asked about my genitals by people who have no interest in how lower surgery works, they are just being intrusive.
If you want to know more about lower surgery options, then look into phalloplasty and metoidioplasty - those are the two broad types of lower surgery trans guys can get, and then within this there are variations and different combinations of procedures.
Jammidodger thank you so much, I definitely will look more into it. I really love your channel and your videos are helping me to discover my own identity, please keep making great videos. I'm sorry about people being intrusive (or if I have been with my comment, it was never my intention), no one should have the right to demand information about someone's genitals unless there's a medical/sexual relationship going on, which is pretty much what you're saying here. The fact that you're so calm and nice about it is incredible
Hey, no worries, hope you find what you need. Thank you, really glad my videos could help you.
You weren't intrusive at all, I understand that had I made this video in response to questions about lower surgery, it wouldn't have been the best answer.
All the best with everything :)
this video is so important. I'm trans and I HATE it when people ask stuff like this. WHY DO YOU NEED TO KNOW MY GENITALS??? that's so gross and weird. people need to mind their business.
So I'm not sure if this channel is even monitored anymore, but I thought I would post this question to get a better idea of where I'm headed personally. I'm not quite sure how to word it correctly so here it goes anyways. What was it like starting T? I'm from a small area where everyone has a small town mind set? So obviously I'm interested in the mental side of things, but also the physical side of things. what was it like in the beginning?
+Beth-Anne Rogers Hey, I do still monitor and upload to the channel, just not as often as I used to. If you look through all my videos I talked about all the changes in the beginning and have made a couple of videos where I talk about mental/emotional changes too :)
+Jammidodger u look so cute i so wanna kiss ur lipssss
Sigh...
People, the point of this video is that IT'S NONE OF YOUR GODDAMN BUSINESS. PERIOD.
But then why announce you're trans? Based on your logic, isn't that offensive for people to know as well? Or is it just specific questions related to sexuality that you personally find offensive? Whenever I'm personally offended by something, it's usually because I'm the one with the issue, not the world. Just sharing. have a great week all!
And NOT only do trans see this side to people. We ALL DO!
And I forgot to say great family ❤️💜💙💚
Can you please provide subtitles
So I’m struggling with bottom dysphoria and clicked this video, because I want to know how other transmen are dealing with this situation. Instead of helping, you start shaming me for being curious. Thanks.
If you truly are a trans guy you should know that these questions can make people extremely uncomfortable and feel even more dysphoric and while being curious is okay, hurting others while doing so is not
it's a simple yes or no...
People are like "you're sharing the changes in your voice and facial hair, why not talk about YOUR GENITALIAS? Decency is dead.
Who even asks a person that kinda question. It's so invasive. Jesus... kudos to you Jaime!!
me at 1:10-- Oh look! kitty!
me the rest of the time-- yes, this is something I relate to. I'm a guy, deal with it. I hate the question, just know I'm a guy and bug off.
I totally understand
I totally agree with you. No one has the right to ask anyone what's in their pants. This is simply no body's business but the person whose pants they are. And what's this premium on the penis? Look at the mess the penis brigade has made of this world.
It seems like it would be most fulfilling and satisfying for people to embrace the biological sex they were born with.
I was thinking about the ftm surgery, and I was wondering If I would get a penis, because I do want one. But it is extremely rude to ask if somebody has one. It's ridiculous. Loved this video :)
How could they ask u such question. That's none of their Business. 😐😐
i love all videos! thanks very much for shared your transformation and your progress ;)
So I'm assuming the answer is no you don't
I have been reading some of the comments and I know by saying this it will get that one guy to hate but it is HIS right to keep that private. I know people argue curiosity but some things are better off left unknown. I don't think TH-cam is that place to be this open about something. I am not saying to go up to him and ask but just don't be stupid. If the man says he doesn't want to talk about it, don't talk about it. He has done enough by answering your questions don't make him get awkward and shut his channel down!
Biological men will ask that because they think in terms of anatomy. The concepts of "biological men" and "artifical men" are still fairly new. Most biological men adhere to the notion that just because u say u are something doesn't mean you are all that thing. So by asking, "do u have a penis?" they want to know at what stage in ur transition are you? Are u still a biological woman? or have u taken the step to become an artifical man?
your eyes are like HUGE
Big eyes are a female trait
Elijah are they tho
Female eyes are usually proportionally bigger then male eyes because female's have smaller mouths, noses, chins, etc...
wow not so true
wow nope not at all
How he put it it made it look like he didn't have one lol. If I was doing this video I would of been like " yes I got a f***ing stick under my pants and made the video like 10 sec long lol
you are fantastic dude!
You said that we shouldn’t ask. Where I live it’s like 3rd world and I don’t know much about these things. It’s new to us. I would love to learn more about transgender.
Gosh I agree with you in so many levels.
So true preach!