Bereavement leave is not federal law. There are some states that have it but I think it's only 4 or 5. So it's mostly on an employer basis. This is unfortunate and should be looked at.
Especially if it's only convenient for the management. But they weren't acting like a family when you needed time to be there for your family to leave work in and you were willing to work extra hours or work from home to make app for that time. But they're trying to make it difficult because. They want everything to be convenient on their end
When my brother-in-law died and my sister needed me and my Mom, my work not only gave me as much time off as I needed - they footed the ENTIRE BILL for our travel because we didn't have the money. I cried when I had to leave that job. Good companies are far and few, but they do exist.
I worked for my local POLICE. My dad passed "unexpectedly" at the age of 59. I was given 3 days "compassionate leave". Because it was an unexpected death it had to go to the coroner. It was Saturday so the coroner didn't get to it until Monday. My dad passed on 22 November and we buried him on the 2nd Dec. All time beyond the 3 days "compassionate leave" was taken from my annual leave. To bury my dad. Then I was told I would not receive my PERFORMANCE related pay rise due to my "Attendance". I resigned shortly after.
My employer did something similar after my mum died. I took 2 weeks annual leave as I was not coping very well. She died during the COVID lockdowns and I was dealing with it by myself. When I got back to work I was called into my supervisor’s office and written up for a mistake I had made, told to box my belongings immediately and moved to another department. I was then marked down on my annual appraisal, with the following statement: Needs to learn to deal with her personal life better, and not allow it to affect her work.
I had one job where the manager said I couldn't get the time off to go see my dying grandmother. I immediately called HR in front of him and asked for an emergency leave of absence, for the 3 weeks I asked for, they said granted. They emailed my manager within minutes that the time off was approved. *When it comes to family, never accept NO as an answer. Go over their heads until you get the answer you want. And be willing to quit to get what you need.* *Family is forever, jobs come and go.*
@@whatsamatteryou791 Hi, Deepest sympathies. Not every HR is a good one. Sometimes it's in the words, and phrasing that you use. Sound plain and simple, get treated that way. Use big fancy legal sounding words to say the same thing, and they grow a little bit afraid of what you're capable of. Works for me usually. I just say a quick prayer first, and ask God to send me the right words to say. Worked so good one time, I had to go home and look in the dictionary to find out what those words meant...and I used the right words correctly. I just don't ever remember learning those words until that day. Maybe I heard them on TV, IDK.
I once had a job that denied my leave to take off for my sons kindergarten graduation, I put the request in two weeks ahead, that was denied, then offered to come in late after the graduation, denied…I went back to my desk and started packing my personal things, one of my co-workers asked me what was going on, I explained…my son was not going to lookout into that audience at 5yrs old and not see anyone there for him, the sacrifices of a single parent…the next day I started job hunting…
When people (or a company) show you who they are, you need to believe them. Good for you - jobs are plentiful, but graduating kindergarten only happens once. A 5 yr old brain is still developing, and deciding how secure to feel in the world based on how important we show them they are. Well played Mama..
Isn't that sad that corporations don't care about that? But I bet you one thing that the executives of that company probably go to their children's events without questioning. So why do they have the right to tell their employees not to go?
@@davidgilbert7853 even when the execs do that, the reasoning for it might be different. For example, narcissists only do this for the sake of being seen as "good" parents - however not by their children, but others around them. Bosses and managers (also politicians) often ARE narcissists. They crave for jobs, that bring them attention and power over others.
I think it started with the creation of stock market, when even your boss start having to report to someone above them, and money became more important than humans
Personally, when you’re in a company that has over 50 employees, they don’t care for you at all bottom and top line! They just want to use employees like toilet paper.😊😊😊😊
Lol! The correct question is when did they START caring? Back in the day if you got injured and couldn't work, too bad, so sad. There was another guy right behind you waiting for that job. Companies do what they do for employees because it's better to retain people than to have to constantly train new hires because everyone is leaving. Some companies are better than others but they all still slaves to the bottom line. It is what it us.
I think it's more like Batman, Patrick Bateman, and Veronica. The difference? No actual superpowers, but damn, that brain that the power behind the words 😂
Didn’t have a funeral, but my father just took a bad fall and my boss’s response was ‘let me know what I can do to help’. I’ve had to take off two days to take my mom to the hospital to be with him as surgery got pushed back. ‘Your mom needs you right now - keep me posted and I’ll bepraying for your dad.’
@@ryanellis2502 I've been in toxic environments and good ones. I'm beginning to think companies like @trenae77's are more common. I am very lucky in my current situation, but that is not the case for some of my friends.
@@ryanellis2502in my experience this is normal for big corporations and has been getting worse. At least in my company all decent managers were specifically targeted and removed
@@ryanellis2502 even an earlier supervisor with whom I had a rough relationship proved supportive when issues arose. I remember her telling me when I was taking Sick Leave to cover for my mom (she had a day care and was dealing with a uterine cancer diagnosis) ‘it’s called Family Emergency Leave - your mother is family and this is an emergency for her’
I had started a new job and was t-boned. I asked my supervisor if I could work through my lunches so that when I went to physical therapy I wouldn't have to lose any time. She told me no; that I had to just miss the time, but she was letting another employee do it. When it came time for the deposition, I fixed my schedule so that I wouldn't miss any appointments. ( I worked two hours from home). She called a supervisor higher than she, the program manager, and then told me that he said that if I left I could consider myself terminated. I emptied my desk of my property, completed my class, and gave her my ID and keys. 40 days later, I was working my current job. Here I am 15 years later and still there. She meant it for my bad, but God meant it for my good. 😊
My uncle died and i found out while i was on my way into work. When i did get there to let them know i would not be there, i was a crying mess, and my manager looked me in the eyes and said "you dont get any bereavement days. Since an uncle is not considered immediate family". I said i would be taking the day and i left. Freakin heartless.
I’m sorry for your loss. Yes, my job doesn’t count aunts or uncles as immediate family. They do count in laws (including SIL and BIL). That was weird to me because you know your aunt and uncle as a young child.
Happened to me as well at the previous company I worked for, also my uncle. Unfortunately as I had no transportation at the time I couldn't go and still had to work even though he was blood relative, sad till this day. No matter what they threaten you with, companies are just people in buildings doing everyday business that can go on for a very long time. Family memories and time with loved ones can never be replaced, don't live with regrets like me, it will crush you 😢
@@GamegirlGamegirlGood advice!! I’m sorry for your loss, and I’m even more sorry that you were forced out of going to be with your family. It wasn’t your fault. ❤
(do not remember the name of the online commenter) Stated that he gave company 6 weeks notice in writing that he is quitting. Called in sick next day; never went back.
Good for you! I hope your next job is more how people should be! I mean, honestly, why can’t people just treat their employees with respect? Being nice is just a better way to live!
When my dad died, I had already worked my shift and call my boss and told her I needed to go. She said she could not allow me to go. I told her that I was not asking I was telling. And that when I get back, we would have a discussion on the way she was treating me. Her reply was that she would need a copy of the obit published in the local paper as proof Dad actually died. (What?) When I returned to work, I went to her office and made the paint peel off the walls. I did not use foul language but absolutely stood my ground. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. I did not usually take the power lead but when I do it's satisfying. I always had outstanding job performance awards every year, so I felt I was a very good employee. Always accommodated when they needed extra things done. Always did my job100% every day. She was crying as I walked out.
@@carlyofearth I assume you mean when I got back. I put the newspaper with the obit in her inbox, I was always at work a couple hours before she started and neither I nor she ever said anything, she avoided me for a really long time. I think she thought she was punishing me by not speaking to me. I think maybe she thought I would go away. But I did not. And a year or so later I got a nice gold ring with a small diamond and company name on it for years of service and usually they were given out at a company function, she put it in my inbox and never mentioned it.
@@samridhithapliyal9014 Actually I really don't remember but there was a lot of how dare you's and what were you thinking when talking to me like that. And I will not allow you or anybody to treat or speak to me like that. But know, I always worked hard (I got outstanding job performance awards every year with bonus) and gave it my all and I was very good at what I did, and I acted like I did not need the job. I always treated those around me with loyalty, kindness and respect and I demand the same. Another trick I used, when someone says something that was what I considered wrong, just stand in a straight stance, look them in the eye and say nothing and just wait. They get uncomfortable and start stammering. Works every time just as long as you don't use it too often. I did notice towards the time I decided to call it quits that the new hires of the younger generation were different in attitude and work ethic, old tricks were not quite as effective.
When my brother passed, I told work I’m taking 3 days bereavement. They didn’t have that policy and I was out of PTO days. They REWROTE the policy to include 3 days bereavement. My brother always made my life better. Still does 💕
@@bunniewood how many do you get and how big are families where you live? Where I come from, if it was standard to take 3 days per family member, we would never work
Companies have really turned on their employees in the last decade. I’ve been told, after expressing interest in another department that I’m easily replaceable. Well good because they’ll be replacing me when I resign.
The harsh reality is that we’re all seen as replaceable as far as managers are concerned. There are reasons why employees are often called resources and just referred to as capacity in planning.
@@e-moshe True and the customer is not always right or cared for anymore because replacing an employee means MISTAKES! It takes time for new employees to learn equal to the one replaced. It can take a year or more. Customers notice. Customers get irritated. First thing customers say is WHERE IS EVERYONE? WHO ARE YOU PEOPLE! You can see the disgust and worry about mistakes. It hurts the company to have unhappy customers, but they'd rather stomp that boot on the employee especially if due for a pay raise
I remember when my grandmother died and the woman I worked for at the time told me.I know your Grandma just died, but it's not fair to the company that you're going to be gone for 4 days.Can you not go to your grandma's funeral....best believe I went
And can bet if that happens in the person life abd they advise the office and you say same time what she said to you ot would be considered as inconsiderate and insubordination.
@stephanoc9814 yuuuuuuup. She tried withholding my paycheck. I'm not from New york, but my grandmother is. We needed one day to drive to New york, one day for the wake, one day for the burial ceremony and one day to drive back
This was my experience with my former, micromanaging director. The pandemic was actually a God-send, since it allowed me to work from home and away from the toxic environment of the office. When we were finally allowed to return to work, that's when I decided to retire. It was a really hard decision because I loved my job and it had been a source of joy for a quarter of a century. I just couldn't take working with the director and her small circle of sycophants.
I love Veronicas perspective. Would love to hear if she has ever actually said these things in the work place, because when I have I was fired later or management made my job so toxic I had to leave. Veronica has my complete respect.
Exactly! I've never been fired. As long as you're good at your job, they're stuck up shit's creek. I stuck around until something better came up and they scrambled for years to replace me. 😂
1., 2., 3., document, document, document 4. Be amazing at your job 5. Don’t check your personal email, Facebook, Instagram, make copies or anything else that is against company policy on company equipment. 6. Be a team player 7., 8., 9. Read the company handbook/policies and procedures thoroughly, be familiar with your local, state, federal laws as they apply to you., Don’t let them play you. 10. Be professional & learn skills to be better and more efficient. 11. Save $ and have a side hustle. It’s always good to have more than one source of income. Even if it’s a little. 12. Be Veronica
they are dishonest they know they are screwing with you and know they are lying but they are gaslighting you since they need you more than you need them, especially when no wants to work anymore or you have special skill set that they cannot hire cheap workers off the street. so basically in their hearts they are dishonest the bible calls that want of heart, lacking good motive.
Remember this country, United States, had slavery for many years as well as indentured servitude. Perhaps, that has something to do with being treated like crap in the USA workplace.
I'm so glad i have the management i have in my current role. When my dad died, i called my supervisor and said, See you in a week. She had no problem with that, and the team took turns covering for me. THAT is what a workplace should be.
power play had nothing to do with the company but you will do as I say or else. she was punishing her by refusing to let her earn her pay at home. humans sometimes handle power very badly, maybe that is why they get hired as managers?
I had this almost exact same conversations with my micromanager boss in Northvale, NJ. Only I said, "Test my patience, if you like. My lawyer loves people like you in court." It was way before coronavirus! She was questioning why I needed 2 days off for surgery. Asking me, "What kind of surgery? Why would I need 2 days? Who is your doctor? Why can you not come back to work the same day?" My response to each of these questions was, "Apologies, but I do not feel comfortable discussing my medical needs with anyone except my doctors. Please respect that." Micromanager then dragged me into HR. Where I told HR representative the same thing and had my attorney on my cell phone speaker. Oh, the micromanager was "reprimanded". But I left a year & 7 months later when I was only given an $.08 an hour raise because, "You disrespected our work family protocols. I expect answers to my questions whether, or not, I am your doctor." Micromanager still works there with a really crappy staff which she wholeheartedly deserves!!!
My department was put under a different VP and she tried that family bullshit with me while also gaslighting me. I quit asap and I had been working there for 22 years.
You should not have had to quit. I wish she had had to quit. These videos are helpful for building skills. They assist in helping people have better and more effective responses.
I'm the supervisor who has a toxic director and she wants me to treat my team of 12 like they are children who can't be trusted. I refuse to do that, which leads to my continually being in trouble. I will bend over backwards for my team because they are hard-working, productive, and intelligent adults who work as a team. I got into management to become a better boss than I'd ever had and my newish boss hates that I am liked and respected by my team, so she's doing whatever she can to destroy that.
Having been in call centers and customer service way too long...Veronica knows exactly how we're treated. She's my hero helping me get through a few more years of abuse before I finally retire.
I lasted five years in a toxic call-center. At one point 1/3 of my department was out on "stress leaves"; true story. I can remember bursting out in tears on many drives home from work after being belittled, brow-beaten and just treated so horribly by a narcissistic manager. I made very good money there, and pinched my pennies so I could get out of there. I finally did and am now retired. These days I still cry once in awhile, but they're tears of joy because I feel so blessed to be where I am.
@@deerhaven3350 I think if everyone was required to work for a period of time as a restaurant server and in a call center...there would be much more empathy. I went into one of the largest banks in the world being a complete loving people person and left there nearly hating the human race. It paid more than I had ever made up to that point, but I felt like I sold my sold to the devel. It was one of the last few jobs to offer a pension, so I was determined to vest in the 5 years required. I quit the very day I qualified. It won't be much of course, about a hundred twenty dollars a month for as long as I live. I'm now 4 years away from locking into a state pension, hopefully my last job forever. Like you, I have saved nearly every penny I could and lived below my means to be free of this enslavement. Congratulations on your retirement. It's a dream, hard earned, well deserved come true.
Easiest way I shut down that "we're a family" thing at one workplace "If I died tomorrow y'all might be sad, but you can replace me. But if I died tomorrow, my parents could never replace me. So, they come first."
03:20 “I don’t understand why this is becoming such a big deal right now because I’m not going to do it. Like, no matter what you say. You can ask me to leave but I’m not going to do this, no matter what. You could pay me a million dollars an hour and I would not do this for you. And you can test me to see if I’m kidding.”
Im curious...why IS IT that the US is literally 50 years behind everyone else? I mean this is basic stuff, it is. Bereavement leave is a fact for the rest of the world. I dont get it, why is it the "greatest nation in the world" is so backwards? Im serious. Why?
When a company brings up being a work family they usually arent. If they always tell you they are team they usually arent. If you ever hear these things in an interview run. A work family/team never has to say they are those things. They also wont brag about it or say it at all. They will show you, and not talk about being one.
My employer once told me that my grandmother who raised me wasn't my immediate family and that they were docking my pay for the time off, several months after the fact. I had to make the arrangements and clean out her home and deal with all of the legal stuff, plus my devastating grief. Their reaction caused me to have panic attacks, which they used as an excuse to fire me because they feared it may become an issue for them.
I was with you until the panic attack stuff. I mean you can go find another job or not be corteus to them like Veronica here but start acting without control of yourself is something that can't exactly be tolerated. Is not kindergarten.
i have done about 70 k unpaid overtime over the last 10+ yrs for my current employer as a construction supervisor , not being paid extra for that role , training & running crews of 3 - 10 people daily , i always accepted it because i had the experience & skills to pick up the slack for my employer & wanted the company to be succeed . speaking to my employer recently i realised they have no appreciation & don't even want to acknowledge what i have done for them .These short stories are quite relevant in regards to the workplace .
I have NEVER requested time off. I've TOLD them WHEN I was taking time off, purely as a favor to the other employees, so management can staff appropriately.
PERFECT response. "You can pay me a million dollars an hour and I still won't do it. And you can test me to see if I'm kidding". Exactly. They couldn't care less about your tragedy in the family but they expect you to hop to it when they have some BS emergency. These employers are something else.
I have had similar incident happen. My boss and colleagues take 5-6 weeks vacation in entire year in separate slots of 1-2 weeks at one time, but I asked for 4 weeks in entire year to visit my sick mom and I don't even take a day off otherwise in entire year, but was denied that due to too much workload, they won't approve it. Then I told my boss that I am taking vacation just like he and others on the team are, he said he will think about it, I still submitted 4 weeks request and it was approved eventually. I am yet to make the trip, but I hope they don't create last minute drama because of my vacation.
Let them do what they want, go anyhow. They will survive without you, and if they can't- ask for a pay increase. Besides, you need to spend some time with your mom. You take care of you and those you love, there are plenty of companies looking for good employees who actually show up. ❤❤
Hey hey hey. If your with gives you trouble about visiting your mom, take the days off as FMLA. Your job can't say no and there is legal recourse if they act out
@@acecala3576 Go, do not allow any drama to stop it. I think the point is this, if you ask for earned time off and it's within the time period they require, why should you have to say what it's for?? That just allows everyone to be judgemental and decide if it's really necessary to their standards. We all put value on different things. If you asked off, you want off. Period. Now funerals are an exception. You don't have the notice to give and it should never be a problem. If it is take it up with HR and get everything in writing.
Dad got cancer in 97. Was terminal and had months to live. In august i took leave , fmla. I was a medic so i kept him home till last 3 days. He passed in December. I returned to work right after the funeral. Boss (local government) said i left them once, why should he take me back? After a very short legal battle, he was fired, i accepted a settlement, a raise with a promotion. His job. F you buddy. LoL
When the people around you say, "I'll do what's best for the company" as a response to decisions they have free will on- that's a sign of the "family" cult brainwash.
"Self-starter" They want you think it means you are proactive. What it really means is you'll get no support or guidance from management and you'll only hear from them when there's a problem you need to fix that they caused.
Screw the boss, and take real time off to mourn your loss. Personally, when my Dad who was the survivor spouse, took ill I took three weeks off of unpaid Family Medical Leave before his passing, (it’s your right and human dignity to observe these rights. The law allows up to three months off work for this purpose). Thereafter was the funeral and staging his home for sale. I know it’s difficult to exercise what seems right to you. Do it anyhow. It’s good for the mind and the souls. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Worked in an office of 50 people. Every single person but me worked from home (but could come to the office if they wanted; most didn't). Some days, I was the only person in the office. Every time I asked to WFH, I was told my role wasn't a remote one and someone had to be there to answer the phones and grab packages (99% of my role was computer based). I eventually quit without notice because this wasn't the only issue. IYKYK.
If the phrases "team player" and "family" come up, just get up and walk out. You already have a family that expects you to do stuff for free. You don't need another one.
After working 12 years at a company, I was let go with 100 other people because we made too much and we were qyickly replaced for 1/2 the $. Ever since then, I've quit every job I've ever had and after 1-2-3 months off, then I start looking for another job, and it's always been much better 🎉 It's so important to save up as much as possible, so that we are not forced to do something that compromises our own work ethic for a company that is extremely selfish.
A manager told me a week after when I had a death in my family, "So why are you bringing your home problems to work? Yes I remember about your family member dying but you shouldn't have brought that to work." I didn’t, he was threatening to fire me because i refused to do a task because they wanted to put me back in my station which would get me behind if i had to do both. So he told me that I had a choice to do what he asked or to go home and not ever come back. He was the very first person I told of the death and he gave me this annoyed or disgusted look. Some people just have no empathy.
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Wow. After all the toxic work experiences I’ve endured, your videos feel extremely cathartic. That makes me realize how many of these scenarios I’ve been through. I was punished for taking off on a Sunday at work, after my Dad had a stroke and was bleeding all over the place. My Mom couldn’t handle that and needed my help. The punishment was that everyone had to do these stupid tasks, and it was openly stated that it was because I took off, even though someone else had just taken off on a Sunday for family purposes, with 0 retaliation. I ended up quitting like a week later, on the spot, after being yelled at in front of everyone for something insignificant, and then given a second talking to in a meeting. Damn. That was years ago and it still burns. Thanks for your videos 🙏🏽
In cases like that, you should not ask, you should just INFORM! And if the company does not agree, F them! Get fired from a company like that could be a blessing in disguise!
When my aunt was laying on her death bed & I told my manager I couldn’t come in because I was going to be at the hospital with her. My manager said, “well that’s too bad & I totally understand. What days do you pick to make up your days that you have to be in the office?” I will never work there again for nothing. Most of these jobs don’t give a damn about you
I had a death in the family and for the entire bereavement my boss was calling and texting me about work I had pre-submitted in anticipation of the time I would need off. He was calling me while I was AT THE FUNERAL and I literally told him that I didn't have access to my laptop because I was at the church and the casket was being brought out. When I came back to work I was told that I was overreacting.
I had numerous doctors say I needed work from home as a reasonable accommodation but my job said no. One year later the pandemic hit and suddenly work from home was ok. I asked if it could continue like my doctors suggested when we return to the office and was told no. I quit before I had to return and intentionally left a mountain of work for them to cover once I was gone.
My BFF was working night shift at a veterinary hospital. Her grandfather passed away and she was told she could get the night off after the funeral but not the day of. So she had to work all night, go home, get ready and go to the funeral and family events all on no sleep. I should add all her family is in the area and they are very close and she was raised just a few houses down from her grandparents so this was a huge loss for her. Just a toxic culture all around. Now this was many years ago and I still work there and am seeing the younger, newer staff just not tolerating this kind of thing and when faced with similar just walking away. I applaud them for that. They used to tell us we were replaceable but now there are so few replacements so staffing is a constant issue. Wonder why?.
This is MY workplace now. They asked us to drive in to work when we didn't have ANY electricity after Hurricane Beryl to contact our clients when WE ALL WORK REMOTELY! We had our families and pets at home in 100 degree weather.
Companies are only toxic so long as employees are spineless enough to LET them be toxic. More people need this sort of attitude. 1) Informing your employer of time off (ESPECIALLY when it comes to family) is in no form a "request", it's a courtesy) 2) Don't ever do extra work for the "we're family" workplace unless you're being compensated in an amount/way that YOU find suitable. 3) Never fall into the "two week notice" trap. Companies don't give a two week notice when they fire employees, so don't give them a two week courtesy when you quit. So long as companies are only giving you money (something you can make as much of as you desire) in return for your TIME (your most precious resource that you will NEVER get more of), the power is in the hands of the employee, and it's about time that companies be MADE to realize this.
This is exactly how treated my wife Veronica at her job. She was loyal and very dedicated to the organization and she lasted over 20 years at that toxic pathetic place. Thank God she was always prepared and invested and saved and she managed to retire at the age of 50. We are now enjoying our retire lives together away from her chaotic, toxic work environment. Keep making these videos because some companies don't deserve dedicated workers that sometimes sacrifice everything for them and they give nothing in return.
They denied me time off when my father died. I took it anyway. Told 'em fire me if they wanted but I'd sue because it's federal law.
Good For You and I'm sorry for your loss. How did your employers take it?
i egt you. i would hate it too if my father died and i would miss a chance to dance over his dead body
It is not a federal law.
No, federal FMLA doesn't include bereavement, however, some states like Oregon have additional protections under state law.
Bereavement leave is not federal law. There are some states that have it but I think it's only 4 or 5. So it's mostly on an employer basis.
This is unfortunate and should be looked at.
Whenever I hear “you need to be a team player” or “our workplace is like a family”, INSTANT red flag.
My family is toxic, so... Yeah...
Recently learned the last "family" reference last year followed by being let go in the tech (i.e., cyber) industry.
Or “give 120%”. For a cashier job at Dairy Queen🤦🏻♀️
Especially if it's only convenient for the management. But they weren't acting like a family when you needed time to be there for your family to leave work in and you were willing to work extra hours or work from home to make app for that time. But they're trying to make it difficult because. They want everything to be convenient on their end
Right !!!
The longer you work the more you realize that the company doesn't care about you, so why should you care about the company.
😢😂🎉😅😢😮❤😂😢😮
Its called ..PAYCHECK
@@1thatgotaway974 You can get those anywhere.
@@1thatgotaway974Which is why it makes no sense to do them any favors or buy into the family bs
Amen
When my brother-in-law died and my sister needed me and my Mom, my work not only gave me as much time off as I needed - they footed the ENTIRE BILL for our travel because we didn't have the money. I cried when I had to leave that job. Good companies are far and few, but they do exist.
Rare gems.
What was that job?
@@forastero54321 I was a homeschool curriculum counselor.
Why did you have to leave?
You must be white 😏 this happens all the time.
I worked for my local POLICE. My dad passed "unexpectedly" at the age of 59. I was given 3 days "compassionate leave". Because it was an unexpected death it had to go to the coroner. It was Saturday so the coroner didn't get to it until Monday. My dad passed on 22 November and we buried him on the 2nd Dec. All time beyond the 3 days "compassionate leave" was taken from my annual leave. To bury my dad. Then I was told I would not receive my PERFORMANCE related pay rise due to my "Attendance". I resigned shortly after.
Unconscionable!
Should have made that precinct's sick behaviour public.
My employer did something similar after my mum died. I took 2 weeks annual leave as I was not coping very well. She died during the COVID lockdowns and I was dealing with it by myself. When I got back to work I was called into my supervisor’s office and written up for a mistake I had made, told to box my belongings immediately and moved to another department. I was then marked down on my annual appraisal, with the following statement: Needs to learn to deal with her personal life better, and not allow it to affect her work.
@@poppy5986Oh wow! That’s awful! I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope your days are bringing you more happiness lately ❤
As you should. Sorry for your loss.
Where do companies get this whole "family" shit from? I don't know you and... I don't even like my own family, let alone you!🤣
I love your comment.....I love my blood family tho😂😂😂
That part
I have a ready answer for that family bs - "I need 100$, don't be a scrooge, we are a family"
@@FUB654 While I love my family we need to keep in their proper place. Some family members will take advantage of u
"Family" shit comes from managers who try to guilt employees into doing things that they very well know is illegal or against company policy!
Your boss and coworkers are not your family. In fact, they’re not even second cousins twice removed! That’s crazy conversation.
Might not even be your friend even after you've been through thick and thin
@@danielle2451
Oh boy, tell me about it.
Work is NOT family 😂😂😂😂
The dissapointment is mutual! Lol
No one likes her that is why
I had one job where the manager said I couldn't get the time off to go see my dying grandmother. I immediately called HR in front of him and asked for an emergency leave of absence, for the 3 weeks I asked for, they said granted. They emailed my manager within minutes that the time off was approved.
*When it comes to family, never accept NO as an answer. Go over their heads until you get the answer you want. And be willing to quit to get what you need.* *Family is forever, jobs come and go.*
Not at my job. HR is in on it.
@@whatsamatteryou791 Hi,
Deepest sympathies. Not every HR is a good one. Sometimes it's in the words, and phrasing that you use. Sound plain and simple, get treated that way. Use big fancy legal sounding words to say the same thing, and they grow a little bit afraid of what you're capable of. Works for me usually. I just say a quick prayer first, and ask God to send me the right words to say. Worked so good one time, I had to go home and look in the dictionary to find out what those words meant...and I used the right words correctly. I just don't ever remember learning those words until that day. Maybe I heard them on TV, IDK.
@@BROUBoomerperhaps God did put the Words in your mouth as you prayed and asked Him to😊
@@BROUBoomerI did the same exact thing and it worked! Prayer for the right words.❤
"The disappointment is mutual" 😂
I once had a job that denied my leave to take off for my sons kindergarten graduation, I put the request in two weeks ahead, that was denied, then offered to come in late after the graduation, denied…I went back to my desk and started packing my personal things, one of my co-workers asked me what was going on, I explained…my son was not going to lookout into that audience at 5yrs old and not see anyone there for him, the sacrifices of a single parent…the next day I started job hunting…
When people (or a company) show you who they are, you need to believe them. Good for you - jobs are plentiful, but graduating kindergarten only happens once. A 5 yr old brain is still developing, and deciding how secure to feel in the world based on how important we show them they are. Well played Mama..
@@relaunchinglife…💪🏻, and my son is now 30yrs old, has a great career and soon to step into Fatherhood for the first time…
@ericanadine1854 congratulations! And he knows his mom is behind him 100%. Always has been, always will be ❤
Isn't that sad that corporations don't care about that? But I bet you one thing that the executives of that company probably go to their children's events without questioning. So why do they have the right to tell their employees not to go?
@@davidgilbert7853 even when the execs do that, the reasoning for it might be different. For example, narcissists only do this for the sake of being seen as "good" parents - however not by their children, but others around them.
Bosses and managers (also politicians) often ARE narcissists. They crave for jobs, that bring them attention and power over others.
The toxicity is REAL. The gaslighting is real too. When did companies stop caring about their employees? This is a common occurrence... Very sad.
I think it started with the creation of stock market, when even your boss start having to report to someone above them, and money became more important than humans
Replaceable. That's how some companies treat employees. Veronica must be very talented at her job.
When dividends to shareholders became the be-all-end-all of business.
Personally, when you’re in a company that has over 50 employees, they don’t care for you at all bottom and top line! They just want to use employees like toilet paper.😊😊😊😊
Lol!
The correct question is when did they START caring? Back in the day if you got injured and couldn't work, too bad, so sad. There was another guy right behind you waiting for that job. Companies do what they do for employees because it's better to retain people than to have to constantly train new hires because everyone is leaving. Some companies are better than others but they all still slaves to the bottom line. It is what it us.
It's always about power and control by management and executives.
How do you know?
Psychopathy/Sociopathy is real.
Managers acting like this are ridiculous because they forget they’re cogs as well. 😂
Exactly 💯
Not everyone keeps that energy. Seriously.
There's Spider-man, Wonder Woman and now Veronica. Three powerful superheroes.
Absolutely 💯💯🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂
Yeah. Eff a Wanda, or Captain Marvel. 🫡
@@MrARhodes Wanda's a villain.
I think it's more like Batman, Patrick Bateman, and Veronica. The difference? No actual superpowers, but damn, that brain that the power behind the words 😂
Didn’t have a funeral, but my father just took a bad fall and my boss’s response was ‘let me know what I can do to help’. I’ve had to take off two days to take my mom to the hospital to be with him as surgery got pushed back. ‘Your mom needs you right now - keep me posted and I’ll bepraying for your dad.’
Shockingly this is the normal boss' response but the internet glorifies and exemplifies bad cases
@@ryanellis2502 I've been in toxic environments and good ones. I'm beginning to think companies like @trenae77's are more common. I am very lucky in my current situation, but that is not the case for some of my friends.
@@ryanellis2502in my experience this is normal for big corporations and has been getting worse. At least in my company all decent managers were specifically targeted and removed
@@ryanellis2502 even an earlier supervisor with whom I had a rough relationship proved supportive when issues arose. I remember her telling me when I was taking Sick Leave to cover for my mom (she had a day care and was dealing with a uterine cancer diagnosis) ‘it’s called Family Emergency Leave - your mother is family and this is an emergency for her’
A good boss is such a blessing, especially when you're having such a rough time ❤ I hope all is well with your family ❤
And they wonder why the great resignation happened the way it did. When a toxic company like this one files for Chapter 7 an angel gets its wings.
An angel gets its' wings? I thought a CEO got a golden parachute...
@@Kevlin0069 You’re not wrong.
❤YESSSSSS
I had started a new job and was t-boned. I asked my supervisor if I could work through my lunches so that when I went to physical therapy I wouldn't have to lose any time. She told me no; that I had to just miss the time, but she was letting another employee do it. When it came time for the deposition, I fixed my schedule so that I wouldn't miss any appointments. ( I worked two hours from home). She called a supervisor higher than she, the program manager, and then told me that he said that if I left I could consider myself terminated. I emptied my desk of my property, completed my class, and gave her my ID and keys. 40 days later, I was working my current job. Here I am 15 years later and still there. She meant it for my bad, but God meant it for my good. 😊
Glory be to God for he is always good! What was meant to tear you down God turned into your launch pad! Hallelujah!!!
My job years ago only gave the funeral day for a parent. That's it. Not even 3 days. That is how much America values family and mental health.
That must be where the 'We are family here at 'Name your company' comes in. Your true family does not matter
while at the same time the government is demonizing people for not having families. adds up.
"The disappointment is mutual" lol
There is no 'family' in the work place.
Family owned business?
And there is no 'U' in 'Team Player'!!
My uncle died and i found out while i was on my way into work. When i did get there to let them know i would not be there, i was a crying mess, and my manager looked me in the eyes and said "you dont get any bereavement days. Since an uncle is not considered immediate family". I said i would be taking the day and i left. Freakin heartless.
I’m sorry for your loss. Yes, my job doesn’t count aunts or uncles as immediate family. They do count in laws (including SIL and BIL). That was weird to me because you know your aunt and uncle as a young child.
Happened to me as well at the previous company I worked for, also my uncle. Unfortunately as I had no transportation at the time I couldn't go and still had to work even though he was blood relative, sad till this day. No matter what they threaten you with, companies are just people in buildings doing everyday business that can go on for a very long time. Family memories and time with loved ones can never be replaced, don't live with regrets like me, it will crush you 😢
@@GamegirlGamegirlGood advice!! I’m sorry for your loss, and I’m even more sorry that you were forced out of going to be with your family. It wasn’t your fault. ❤
😡heartless never the less
America does not value family.
This is EXACTLY how the company I work for right now is! The double standards are outrageous and I'm quitting without notice in two weeks!
(do not remember the name of the online commenter) Stated that he gave company 6 weeks notice in writing that he is quitting. Called in sick next day; never went back.
How'd it go?
Good for you! I hope your next job is more how people should be! I mean, honestly, why can’t people just treat their employees with respect? Being nice is just a better way to live!
When my dad died, I had already worked my shift and call my boss and told her I needed to go. She said she could not allow me to go. I told her that I was not asking I was telling. And that when I get back, we would have a discussion on the way she was treating me. Her reply was that she would need a copy of the obit published in the local paper as proof Dad actually died. (What?) When I returned to work, I went to her office and made the paint peel off the walls. I did not use foul language but absolutely stood my ground. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. I did not usually take the power lead but when I do it's satisfying. I always had outstanding job performance awards every year, so I felt I was a very good employee. Always accommodated when they needed extra things done. Always did my job100% every day. She was crying as I walked out.
@@carlyofearth I assume you mean when I got back. I put the newspaper with the obit in her inbox, I was always at work a couple hours before she started and neither I nor she ever said anything, she avoided me for a really long time. I think she thought she was punishing me by not speaking to me. I think maybe she thought I would go away. But I did not. And a year or so later I got a nice gold ring with a small diamond and company name on it for years of service and usually they were given out at a company function, she put it in my inbox and never mentioned it.
That is really low. It's your Dad for the love of God
Wondering what you told the manager, that made her cry.
I'll be taking notes.
@@samridhithapliyal9014 Actually I really don't remember but there was a lot of how dare you's and what were you thinking when talking to me like that. And I will not allow you or anybody to treat or speak to me like that. But know, I always worked hard (I got outstanding job performance awards every year with bonus) and gave it my all and I was very good at what I did, and I acted like I did not need the job. I always treated those around me with loyalty, kindness and respect and I demand the same. Another trick I used, when someone says something that was what I considered wrong, just stand in a straight stance, look them in the eye and say nothing and just wait. They get uncomfortable and start stammering. Works every time just as long as you don't use it too often. I did notice towards the time I decided to call it quits that the new hires of the younger generation were different in attitude and work ethic, old tricks were not quite as effective.
Good, I hope she had to swim in her guilt.
When they need you = family,
When they dont need you = i paid you.
Exactly
Veronica says all the things I would like to have said to all the toxic people I worked for. Corporations are a bunch of a-holes.
I agree. I wish I could have had her lines. And courage. And confidence.
When my brother passed, I told work I’m taking 3 days bereavement.
They didn’t have that policy and I was out of PTO days.
They REWROTE the policy to include 3 days bereavement.
My brother always made my life better. Still does 💕
Now that’s a company that cares about their employees 😊
@@TheRealdal I think it was more they had never had anyone like me 🤣
A family member dies and you only get 3 days off?!! What world is this?
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm close with two of my brothers, and they make my life better, too.
@@bunniewood how many do you get and how big are families where you live?
Where I come from, if it was standard to take 3 days per family member, we would never work
Companies have really turned on their employees in the last decade. I’ve been told, after expressing interest in another department that I’m easily replaceable. Well good because they’ll be replacing me when I resign.
The harsh reality is that we’re all seen as replaceable as far as managers are concerned.
There are reasons why employees are often called resources and just referred to as capacity in planning.
@@e-moshe True and the customer is not always right or cared for anymore because replacing an employee means MISTAKES! It takes time for new employees to learn equal to the one replaced. It can take a year or more. Customers notice. Customers get irritated. First thing customers say is WHERE IS EVERYONE? WHO ARE YOU PEOPLE! You can see the disgust and worry about mistakes. It hurts the company to have unhappy customers, but they'd rather stomp that boot on the employee especially if due for a pay raise
I remember when my grandmother died and the woman I worked for at the time told me.I know your Grandma just died, but it's not fair to the company that you're going to be gone for 4 days.Can you not go to your grandma's funeral....best believe I went
"Can you not go to your grandma's funeral." - absolutely insane request.
And can bet if that happens in the person life abd they advise the office and you say same time what she said to you ot would be considered as inconsiderate and insubordination.
Man…who raised these sort of immoral people/bosses
@stephanoc9814 yuuuuuuup. She tried withholding my paycheck. I'm not from New york, but my grandmother is. We needed one day to drive to New york, one day for the wake, one day for the burial ceremony and one day to drive back
@DancingLobster1 that's truly sad. I'm sorry for your loss
This was my experience with my former, micromanaging director. The pandemic was actually a God-send, since it allowed me to work from home and away from the toxic environment of the office. When we were finally allowed to return to work, that's when I decided to retire. It was a really hard decision because I loved my job and it had been a source of joy for a quarter of a century. I just couldn't take working with the director and her small circle of sycophants.
I love Veronicas perspective. Would love to hear if she has ever actually said these things in the work place, because when I have I was fired later or management made my job so toxic I had to leave. Veronica has my complete respect.
It helps that she’s a Spanish speaker in Florida. So many job listings there require it.
The trick is to document it.
Exactly! I've never been fired. As long as you're good at your job, they're stuck up shit's creek. I stuck around until something better came up and they scrambled for years to replace me. 😂
@@runningfromabear8354gross
1., 2., 3., document, document, document
4. Be amazing at your job
5. Don’t check your personal email, Facebook, Instagram, make copies or anything else that is against company policy on company equipment.
6. Be a team player
7., 8., 9. Read the company handbook/policies and procedures thoroughly, be familiar with your local, state, federal laws as they apply to you., Don’t let them play you.
10. Be professional & learn skills to be better and more efficient.
11. Save $ and have a side hustle. It’s always good to have more than one source of income. Even if it’s a little.
12. Be Veronica
Why is it they can do whatever they want but as soon as you do whatever you want or just stand up for yourself then you’re not being a “team player“?
Their management philosophy is 'Do as I say, not as I do".
You're not the team, you're just a player. Something like that
You're not supposed to fight back and they hate it when you do
they are dishonest they know they are screwing with you and know they are lying but they are gaslighting you since they need you more than you need them, especially when no wants to work anymore or you have special skill set that they cannot hire cheap workers off the street. so basically in their hearts they are dishonest the bible calls that want of heart, lacking good motive.
Remember this country, United States, had slavery for many years as well as indentured servitude. Perhaps, that has something to do with being treated like crap in the USA workplace.
When my little brother died my boss just said "Take as long as you need."
I'm sorry for your loss
That’s the right answer. Different people process loss differently . Someone needs more time.
I'm so glad i have the management i have in my current role. When my dad died, i called my supervisor and said, See you in a week. She had no problem with that, and the team took turns covering for me. THAT is what a workplace should be.
This is so sad. They wonder why people don't want to work. Reiterate. Work for them!
When a company is always hiring most likely you do NOT want to work . . .for them.
My lead asked me the other day what was I doing, I told her working on my resume
😂😂😂
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Cheers!
“The disappointment is mutual.” Love 🤣🤣🤣
They don't want you to take time off, but also won't let you work from home instead. Make it make sense
power play had nothing to do with the company but you will do as I say or else. she was punishing her by refusing to let her earn her pay at home. humans sometimes handle power very badly, maybe that is why they get hired as managers?
I had this almost exact same conversations with my micromanager boss in Northvale, NJ. Only I said, "Test my patience, if you like. My lawyer loves people like you in court." It was way before coronavirus!
She was questioning why I needed 2 days off for surgery. Asking me, "What kind of surgery? Why would I need 2 days? Who is your doctor? Why can you not come back to work the same day?"
My response to each of these questions was, "Apologies, but I do not feel comfortable discussing my medical needs with anyone except my doctors. Please respect that."
Micromanager then dragged me into HR. Where I told HR representative the same thing and had my attorney on my cell phone speaker. Oh, the micromanager was "reprimanded". But I left a year & 7 months later when I was only given an $.08 an hour raise because, "You disrespected our work family protocols. I expect answers to my questions whether, or not, I am your doctor." Micromanager still works there with a really crappy staff which she wholeheartedly deserves!!!
Wouldn’t proof needed to be presented?
@@rogerthemanfulno. Other than a doctor’s note, the company is not in any legal way entitled to proof or private medical information of an employee.
@@TheMissouriSpartan a doctors note would be enough. Anything else is needless prying and intrusiveness at that point
@@rogerthemanful exactly
My department was put under a different VP and she tried that family bullshit with me while also gaslighting me. I quit asap and I had been working there for 22 years.
You should not have had to quit. I wish she had had to quit.
These videos are helpful for building skills. They assist in helping people have better and more effective responses.
This is spot on, I learned many years ago that being a "Team Player" actually means inconvenience yourself when we, the company, demand it 😂😂😂
Exactly 😂❤
The best thing about retirement is the toxic work environment goes out the window!
AMEN to that. Don't miss that part of my life at all.
I'm the supervisor who has a toxic director and she wants me to treat my team of 12 like they are children who can't be trusted. I refuse to do that, which leads to my continually being in trouble. I will bend over backwards for my team because they are hard-working, productive, and intelligent adults who work as a team. I got into management to become a better boss than I'd ever had and my newish boss hates that I am liked and respected by my team, so she's doing whatever she can to destroy that.
Sounds about right... But big kudos to you!
We need more people like you! You keep standing your ground!
Having been in call centers and customer service way too long...Veronica knows exactly how we're treated. She's my hero helping me get through a few more years of abuse before I finally retire.
I lasted five years in a toxic call-center. At one point 1/3 of my department was out on "stress leaves"; true story. I can remember bursting out in tears on many drives home from work after being belittled, brow-beaten and just treated so horribly by a narcissistic manager. I made very good money there, and pinched my pennies so I could get out of there. I finally did and am now retired. These days I still cry once in awhile, but they're tears of joy because I feel so blessed to be where I am.
@@deerhaven3350 I think if everyone was required to work for a period of time as a restaurant server and in a call center...there would be much more empathy. I went into one of the largest banks in the world being a complete loving people person and left there nearly hating the human race. It paid more than I had ever made up to that point, but I felt like I sold my sold to the devel. It was one of the last few jobs to offer a pension, so I was determined to vest in the 5 years required. I quit the very day I qualified. It won't be much of course, about a hundred twenty dollars a month for as long as I live. I'm now 4 years away from locking into a state pension, hopefully my last job forever. Like you, I have saved nearly every penny I could and lived below my means to be free of this enslavement. Congratulations on your retirement. It's a dream, hard earned, well deserved come true.
Easiest way I shut down that "we're a family" thing at one workplace
"If I died tomorrow y'all might be sad, but you can replace me. But if I died tomorrow, my parents could never replace me. So, they come first."
Oooh… Now that’s some genius right there! We need this on tshirts!
Love this statement!
03:20 “I don’t understand why this is becoming such a big deal right now because I’m not going to do it. Like, no matter what you say. You can ask me to leave but I’m not going to do this, no matter what. You could pay me a million dollars an hour and I would not do this for you. And you can test me to see if I’m kidding.”
Sadly, this scenario is realistic for SO many workplaces.
Im curious...why IS IT that the US is literally 50 years behind everyone else? I mean this is basic stuff, it is. Bereavement leave is a fact for the rest of the world.
I dont get it, why is it the "greatest nation in the world" is so backwards? Im serious.
Why?
When a company brings up being a work family they usually arent. If they always tell you they are team they usually arent. If you ever hear these things in an interview run. A work family/team never has to say they are those things. They also wont brag about it or say it at all. They will show you, and not talk about being one.
Exactly. In fact, most things ANYONE brags about are either exaggerations or bald-faced lies - otherwise they wouldn’t be bragging.
Those red flag phrases just mean that the company expects you to dedicate your life to the job, even if you have a family. I agree - run.
This happened to me. They fired me and I threatened to sue. They paid me out a lump sum.
My employer once told me that my grandmother who raised me wasn't my immediate family and that they were docking my pay for the time off, several months after the fact. I had to make the arrangements and clean out her home and deal with all of the legal stuff, plus my devastating grief. Their reaction caused me to have panic attacks, which they used as an excuse to fire me because they feared it may become an issue for them.
I'm sorry they treated you that way. no one should have to endure that. they be acting like sociopathic assholes
A grandmother is immediate family, whether they raised you or not. What they did was so illegal. I'm sorry
I was with you until the panic attack stuff.
I mean you can go find another job or not be corteus to them like Veronica here but start acting without control of yourself is something that can't exactly be tolerated.
Is not kindergarten.
@@SIPEROTH panic attacks are involuntary
Eat shit. It's exactly this type of anti-empathy that allows, and encourages, employers to take advantage of, and abuse, their workers.
i have done about 70 k unpaid overtime over the last 10+ yrs for my current employer as a construction supervisor , not being paid extra for that role , training & running crews of 3 - 10 people daily , i always accepted it because i had the experience & skills to pick up the slack for my employer & wanted the company to be succeed . speaking to my employer recently i realised they have no appreciation & don't even want to acknowledge what i have done for them .These short stories are quite relevant in regards to the workplace .
I have NEVER requested time off. I've TOLD them WHEN I was taking time off, purely as a favor to the other employees, so management can staff appropriately.
👏👏👏👏👏 me 2!
"Be a team player and bend over" is what employers really like to say. People are waking up in this broken system.
PERFECT response. "You can pay me a million dollars an hour and I still won't do it. And you can test me to see if I'm kidding". Exactly. They couldn't care less about your tragedy in the family but they expect you to hop to it when they have some BS emergency. These employers are something else.
sounds to me like that don’t know what an emergency is!
“And you can test me to see if I am kidding”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Veronica is my hero
Absolute sociopaths.
I have had similar incident happen. My boss and colleagues take 5-6 weeks vacation in entire year in separate slots of 1-2 weeks at one time, but I asked for 4 weeks in entire year to visit my sick mom and I don't even take a day off otherwise in entire year, but was denied that due to too much workload, they won't approve it. Then I told my boss that I am taking vacation just like he and others on the team are, he said he will think about it, I still submitted 4 weeks request and it was approved eventually. I am yet to make the trip, but I hope they don't create last minute drama because of my vacation.
Let them do what they want, go anyhow. They will survive without you, and if they can't- ask for a pay increase. Besides, you need to spend some time with your mom. You take care of you and those you love, there are plenty of companies looking for good employees who actually show up. ❤❤
Hey hey hey. If your with gives you trouble about visiting your mom, take the days off as FMLA. Your job can't say no and there is legal recourse if they act out
@@acecala3576 Go, do not allow any drama to stop it.
I think the point is this, if you ask for earned time off and it's within the time period they require, why should you have to say what it's for??
That just allows everyone to be judgemental and decide if it's really necessary to their standards. We all put value on different things. If you asked off, you want off. Period.
Now funerals are an exception. You don't have the notice to give and it should never be a problem. If it is take it up with HR and get everything in writing.
Dad got cancer in 97. Was terminal and had months to live. In august i took leave , fmla. I was a medic so i kept him home till last 3 days. He passed in December. I returned to work right after the funeral. Boss (local government) said i left them once, why should he take me back? After a very short legal battle, he was fired, i accepted a settlement, a raise with a promotion. His job. F you buddy. LoL
The disappointment is mutual.
It's AMAZING how just listening to this #toxicworkenvironment brings up sooooo much job related ABUSE from the past!!!
That "manager" is what being brainwashed looks like. I wish I was more like Veronica.
And those BS corporate responses. Puke 🤮 worthy.
The Level of Hypocrisy is astounding!
Red flag words:
Team player 🚩
Family 🚩
Keep going
When the people around you say, "I'll do what's best for the company" as a response to decisions they have free will on- that's a sign of the "family" cult brainwash.
Exactly !
"Self-starter"
They want you think it means you are proactive. What it really means is you'll get no support or guidance from management and you'll only hear from them when there's a problem you need to fix that they caused.
Screw the boss, and take real time off to mourn your loss. Personally, when my Dad who was the survivor spouse, took ill I took three weeks off of unpaid Family Medical Leave before his passing, (it’s your right and human dignity to observe these rights. The law allows up to three months off work for this purpose). Thereafter was the funeral and staging his home for sale.
I know it’s difficult to exercise what seems right to you. Do it anyhow. It’s good for the mind and the souls. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Worked in an office of 50 people. Every single person but me worked from home (but could come to the office if they wanted; most didn't). Some days, I was the only person in the office. Every time I asked to WFH, I was told my role wasn't a remote one and someone had to be there to answer the phones and grab packages (99% of my role was computer based). I eventually quit without notice because this wasn't the only issue. IYKYK.
“And you can test me to see if I’m kidding.” Love it!
I absolutely love these!!! So ACCURATE! BUT they also trigger the hell outta me because I’ve experienced ALL this BS in the workplace.😢😂😮
Same
Toxicity comes from the top and downward. It's a people problem.
If the phrases "team player" and "family" come up, just get up and walk out. You already have a family that expects you to do stuff for free. You don't need another one.
Management and HR try to 'manage expectations' by purposely ignoring emails, calls and requests.
They need an ego check
After working 12 years at a company, I was let go with 100 other people because we made too much and we were qyickly replaced for 1/2 the $.
Ever since then, I've quit every job I've ever had and after 1-2-3 months off, then I start looking for another job, and it's always been much better 🎉
It's so important to save up as much as possible, so that we are not forced to do something that compromises our own work ethic for a company that is extremely selfish.
A manager told me a week after when I had a death in my family, "So why are you bringing your home problems to work? Yes I remember about your family member dying but you shouldn't have brought that to work." I didn’t, he was threatening to fire me because i refused to do a task because they wanted to put me back in my station which would get me behind if i had to do both. So he told me that I had a choice to do what he asked or to go home and not ever come back. He was the very first person I told of the death and he gave me this annoyed or disgusted look. Some people just have no empathy.
If I hear work family, I'm quitting on the spot.
This
My Dad was out of town for work when my Grandma died. They sent the company plane to bring him home. Can't find those companies anymore.
thanks for being the only animation channel who tags the audio's original creator.
to the viewers, if you see other channels using veronika's audio, per her request, please block them. dont comment as it boosts their engagement.
TRANSLATION:Don't call me when you need me when you can't be there for me in my time of need.
Wow. After all the toxic work experiences I’ve endured, your videos feel extremely cathartic. That makes me realize how many of these scenarios I’ve been through. I was punished for taking off on a Sunday at work, after my Dad had a stroke and was bleeding all over the place. My Mom couldn’t handle that and needed my help. The punishment was that everyone had to do these stupid tasks, and it was openly stated that it was because I took off, even though someone else had just taken off on a Sunday for family purposes, with 0 retaliation. I ended up quitting like a week later, on the spot, after being yelled at in front of everyone for something insignificant, and then given a second talking to in a meeting. Damn. That was years ago and it still burns. Thanks for your videos 🙏🏽
It is so sad, because it is so true. You give and give... and when you need something important- nothing!
In cases like that, you should not ask, you should just INFORM!
And if the company does not agree, F them!
Get fired from a company like that could be a blessing in disguise!
Once we have the money to take care of our family for the rest of our life then that person is the real king.
Love how she dodged answering the question 3:00 lmaooo. man these supervisors are such booty
"You can test me to see if im kidding"😂
“You’re definitely not Family, mine is way way way more dysfunctional. Telling you no is cake” ~ Veronica
When my aunt was laying on her death bed & I told my manager I couldn’t come in because I was going to be at the hospital with her. My manager said, “well that’s too bad & I totally understand. What days do you pick to make up your days that you have to be in the office?” I will never work there again for nothing. Most of these jobs don’t give a damn about you
I had a death in the family and for the entire bereavement my boss was calling and texting me about work I had pre-submitted in anticipation of the time I would need off. He was calling me while I was AT THE FUNERAL and I literally told him that I didn't have access to my laptop because I was at the church and the casket was being brought out. When I came back to work I was told that I was overreacting.
You worked in the Northvale, NJ office? Or the Texas office? I seem to remember this exact situation. SMH, I wish I was kidding here!
I wouldn't have answered the damn phone!!!!
That's when you file a lawsuit for harrassment, bullying, and a hostile work environment. Also emotional and mental harm.
I was interrupted at my father‘s funeral and his wake by work I will never forgive them for that looking for another job
I had numerous doctors say I needed work from home as a reasonable accommodation but my job said no. One year later the pandemic hit and suddenly work from home was ok. I asked if it could continue like my doctors suggested when we return to the office and was told no. I quit before I had to return and intentionally left a mountain of work for them to cover once I was gone.
Not cool about the mountain of work because another employee will have to take care of that. Your boss won't do anything except delegate.
Not cool about the mountain of work because another employee will have to take care of that. Your boss won't do anything except delegate.
@@lisabrightly that was the idea. The staff were far from innocent on things that went down at that place.
“You can test me to see if I’m kidding.” 🤣
When will they realize that Veronica is not the one to be tried?
I felt so sorry for Veronica. My heart broke when she was simply asking for help. Company profits should never take precedence over human compassion.
Sounds like Walmart. My grandmother passed away while I was a cashier and they gave me one day - ONE DAY - of bereavement without being penalized.
The "....test me to see if I'm kidding", was 🔥 🔥 🔥!!!
My BFF was working night shift at a veterinary hospital. Her grandfather passed away and she was told she could get the night off after the funeral but not the day of. So she had to work all night, go home, get ready and go to the funeral and family events all on no sleep.
I should add all her family is in the area and they are very close and she was raised just a few houses down from her grandparents so this was a huge loss for her. Just a toxic culture all around.
Now this was many years ago and I still work there and am seeing the younger, newer staff just not tolerating this kind of thing and when faced with similar just walking away. I applaud them for that.
They used to tell us we were replaceable but now there are so few replacements so staffing is a constant issue. Wonder why?.
As soon as people figure out the company couldn’t care less about you. The better off you are!
I just love these characters! What goes around comes around.
That boss is crap.
This is MY workplace now. They asked us to drive in to work when we didn't have ANY electricity after Hurricane Beryl to contact our clients when WE ALL WORK REMOTELY! We had our families and pets at home in 100 degree weather.
I love it! Only thing I would have done differently is give them my two week notice on the spot when my bereavement time was denied.
Companies are only toxic so long as employees are spineless enough to LET them be toxic. More people need this sort of attitude.
1) Informing your employer of time off (ESPECIALLY when it comes to family) is in no form a "request", it's a courtesy)
2) Don't ever do extra work for the "we're family" workplace unless you're being compensated in an amount/way that YOU find suitable.
3) Never fall into the "two week notice" trap. Companies don't give a two week notice when they fire employees, so don't give them a two week courtesy when you quit.
So long as companies are only giving you money (something you can make as much of as you desire) in return for your TIME (your most precious resource that you will NEVER get more of), the power is in the hands of the employee, and it's about time that companies be MADE to realize this.
Some companies are just pure evil!!!
This is exactly how treated my wife Veronica at her job. She was loyal and very dedicated to the organization and she lasted over 20 years at that toxic pathetic place. Thank God she was always prepared and invested and saved and she managed to retire at the age of 50. We are now enjoying our retire lives together away from her chaotic, toxic work environment. Keep making these videos because some companies don't deserve dedicated workers that sometimes sacrifice everything for them and they give nothing in return.
I hate the term. Team Player
She said GO kick rocks! I'm eatting cake and it almost came out So funny!! 🤣🤣🤣