Very interesting that he said that we're afraid that our families are going to cut us off. but they already have emotionally in many ways. a long time ago. Learning a lot about narcissism
Wow. Best ACA talk I’ve ever heard. Thank you so much! 11:55 13:00 14:45 17:00 turn negative into positive 18:50 What part of me still wants to believe that I didn’t amount to anything? 21:00 25:00 stuffing feelings is like leftovers in the back of the fridge! 26:30 swim to the bottom of the pool! Touch the drain!!! 🤣❤️🤩 29:00 12 steps equal MEDICINE!! Do both! 32:30 stop and receive the good, the compliments, the love 33:20 DOOM AND GLOOM IS JUST AROUND THE CORNER 34:00 How do we get back in the solution? How do we move out of isolation into the healing and the helpful? 41:30 Invited to stay with other’s in their homes! 🤩❤️
This counseling works for me! Thank you. I am 88 and struggling with cptsd and physical health issues. But Jehovah and his written word give me hope and then incentive. I once used the illustration that putting on the Christlike personality is like Wearing a new dress while dieting. It may feel uncomfortable for a while but if one keeps trying to improve, it eventually does fit and feels comfortable. ❤
Wow. When he talked about his mother having a panic attack on the mono rail at Bush Gardens, I had completely forgotten about a similar experience when I was a child. My father was sitting next to me on The Scream Machine at 6 Flags. My sister was in the cart behind us and slipped underneath the safety bar and into the floor board. It was a wooden roller coaster. When the father realized he started panicking. Reaching around behind him trying to get his hands on her to hold her down. I can remember his eyes bulging and not being able to reach her. We never talked about it afterwards. I have had a fear of bridges and I know it was that experience that has not been healed. How could it, it was buried. Thank you for sharing. You were heard.
Soooo when I first met you with my grandson and his dad. I have since the last month been following your vids. I think they are fabulousI and want to know if you can council with someone in Arizona?
I am tentatively scheduled to speak at the ACAlunchtime.com meeting November 14th at noon (Sydney, Australia timezone). I think that's Saturday November 13th 5pm PST.
@The Zack, you raise a good point. I think it depends on if you are "faking" what and how others want/expect you to be. On the other hand, if you attempting to ignore negative self talk, and are "faking" the confidence you wish to attain, then that is a different scenario. Did you like the presentation? This was the first time, ever, that I gave a speech in front of a large audiance. I was used to interactive seminars, which is much different than carrying an entire presentation. I sat down with my sponsor the week before to do a trial run... and nothing came out of my mouth. Total blank. I became terrified that this would happen on the night of confrence. How did I overcome this? "Fake it 'till you make it." I emulated the great speakers who I have heard before. I chose who I wanted to be, and faked it until I got there. It's like a Dumbo feather. You have the ability to become your own Loving Parent. You hold onto that feather until you realize you really didn't really need it all along. :-) Thanks for listening!
No, I ended the presentation by inviting everyone to stand and join in a little YMCA fun with me. The intro you hear at 8:41 was just a tech glitch by the sound person. We got there eventually!
Love this, Thank you! Really great! Side note: Have to mention that gas is higher in places (countries) where healthcare and education is more accessible because of the gas tax. Gas companies profited $200B in 2022 in the U.S. We might be grateful that we have the option and privilege of complaining to our politicians 😉
So another expert speaker ...so much influence/ control over a group of people which gives the authority to tell peeple what to do.. when a speker says 'all raise your glass' l think three things..control/arrogance/and lack of humility... so, sorry to say...there is NO message here for me.. Ps..good luck with that speaking career..
I couldn’t have said it better. 30 years ago I discovered ACOA . Here in Ireland, And it has changed my life. That support group is no more. What’s ther now are control freaks from AA and Alanon. . Tony A would be ashamed of the control structures . So as a result, I set up a group biased on a 30 year old format. Which basically says this . Yesterday’s pain is today’s lessons . Today’s lessons are tomorrow’s blessing. I have been reparenting my self with gentleness , humour-love and respect.
Very interesting that he said that we're afraid that our families are going to cut us off. but they already have emotionally in many ways. a long time ago. Learning a lot about narcissism
We are starving for the crumbs we get and fearful of losing even that.
@@TheIntimacyGram that's really terrible and I'm doing my best to let go of them.
I don't want crumbs anymore.
@@TheIntimacyGrambe canceled 😡😡
Wow. Best ACA talk I’ve ever heard. Thank you so much!
11:55
13:00
14:45
17:00 turn negative into positive
18:50 What part of me still wants to believe that I didn’t amount to anything?
21:00
25:00 stuffing feelings is like leftovers in the back of the fridge!
26:30 swim to the bottom of the pool! Touch the drain!!! 🤣❤️🤩
29:00 12 steps equal MEDICINE!! Do both!
32:30 stop and receive the good, the compliments, the love
33:20 DOOM AND GLOOM IS JUST AROUND THE CORNER
34:00 How do we get back in the solution?
How do we move out of isolation into the healing and the helpful?
41:30 Invited to stay with other’s in their homes! 🤩❤️
This counseling works for me! Thank you. I am 88 and struggling with cptsd and physical health issues. But Jehovah and his written word give me hope and then incentive. I once used the illustration that putting on the Christlike personality is like Wearing a new dress while dieting. It may feel uncomfortable for a while but if one keeps trying to improve, it eventually does fit and feels comfortable. ❤
May Jehovah continue to bless you ❤
Wow. When he talked about his mother having a panic attack on the mono rail at Bush Gardens, I had completely forgotten about a similar experience when I was a child. My father was sitting next to me on The Scream Machine at 6 Flags. My sister was in the cart behind us and slipped underneath the safety bar and into the floor board. It was a wooden roller coaster. When the father realized he started panicking. Reaching around behind him trying to get his hands on her to hold her down. I can remember his eyes bulging and not being able to reach her. We never talked about it afterwards.
I have had a fear of bridges and I know it was that experience that has not been healed. How could it, it was buried. Thank you for sharing. You were heard.
I left AA this is what i need
Wow really amazing talk!! So clearly explained and such good points!!
Thank you so much! It warms my heart to know that after all this time, the message is still timeless.
Wow. This is resonating with me so much right now.
So glad I found you in my favorite place. I hoped to know more and here you are😍
EXCELLENT TALK…💯💯💯💯💯💯!!!
Thank you. This was my first formal "speech". It was a labor of love.
I love u man for these words. THANK YOU. 👍
This was an incredible talk. Thank you so much.
Wonderful thank you ! OMG this is incredible helpful 💜 WOW
He is, so, good. Thank you.
Really enjoyed this talk . Thank you so much😊
Glad you enjoyed it! 😊
Soooo when I first met you with my grandson and his dad. I have since the last month been following your vids. I think they are fabulousI and want to know if you can council with someone in Arizona?
Unfortunately, I am only licensed to practice in the state of California
Conversation is on point.
more of these, please 🙏
I am tentatively scheduled to speak at the ACAlunchtime.com meeting November 14th at noon (Sydney, Australia timezone). I think that's Saturday November 13th 5pm PST.
I have a hard time accepting the “fake it til you make it” idea because I faked being ok so much as a kid. Is this really a healthy practice?
@The Zack, you raise a good point. I think it depends on if you are "faking" what and how others want/expect you to be. On the other hand, if you attempting to ignore negative self talk, and are "faking" the confidence you wish to attain, then that is a different scenario.
Did you like the presentation? This was the first time, ever, that I gave a speech in front of a large audiance. I was used to interactive seminars, which is much different than carrying an entire presentation. I sat down with my sponsor the week before to do a trial run... and nothing came out of my mouth. Total blank. I became terrified that this would happen on the night of confrence. How did I overcome this? "Fake it 'till you make it." I emulated the great speakers who I have heard before. I chose who I wanted to be, and faked it until I got there.
It's like a Dumbo feather. You have the ability to become your own Loving Parent. You hold onto that feather until you realize you really didn't really need it all along. :-)
Thanks for listening!
Is it me or did the opening split second of YMCA come on around 8:41? Must have taped over it when they made this.
No, I ended the presentation by inviting everyone to stand and join in a little YMCA fun with me. The intro you hear at 8:41 was just a tech glitch by the sound person. We got there eventually!
King of the pregnant pause!
Are you still with Kaiser? I need therapy dealing with these issues.
Yes, I work in the Addiction Medicine Department.
Love this, Thank you! Really great!
Side note: Have to mention that gas is higher in places (countries) where healthcare and education is more accessible because of the gas tax. Gas companies profited $200B in 2022 in the U.S. We might be grateful that we have the option and privilege of complaining to our politicians 😉
Not a big fan of the numerous random commercials
A lot of them
WHAT THE HELL DOES POLITICS HAVE TO BE INJECTED? TIRED OF IT.
NOT INTERESTED IN YOUR BACKGROUND. GET TO THE POINT.
So another expert speaker ...so much influence/ control over a group of people which gives the authority to tell peeple what to do..
when a speker says 'all raise your glass' l think three things..control/arrogance/and lack of humility...
so, sorry to say...there is NO message here for me..
Ps..good luck with that speaking career..
I couldn’t have said it better. 30 years ago I discovered ACOA . Here in Ireland, And it has changed my life. That support group is no more. What’s ther now are control freaks from AA and Alanon. . Tony A would be ashamed of the control structures . So as a result, I set up a group biased on a 30 year old format. Which basically says this . Yesterday’s pain is today’s lessons . Today’s lessons are tomorrow’s blessing. I have been reparenting my self with gentleness , humour-love and respect.
Kind of cerebral. I've had enough of therapy.
NO one can do the work for you . You have to do it! Then you will find the results. :) It will change your life.