Even if they don’t say it, sometimes they act like a troubled family or a codependent relationship. Nobody wants to utter real truths or criticism to management or "the boss", for fearing they "won’t love them anymore".
I had a boss who once tried to get me to give more to work “ Because they had three years invested in me.” I told him that I had 12 years invested in my family. I told my wife that I bet I knew why my boss was five years older than me and on his third wife.
I’m autistic and working my first job as an engineer in the industry at a growing startup and your channel has genuinely helped me understand corporate BS and how to navigate these uncomfortable situations. I get so worried about saying the wrong things to upper management, I just want to thank you for giving me the words to properly stand up for myself in the corporate space. It is invaluable what you do for people ❤❤❤
Unless you like your team lead or boss and they have your back, then I give a bit. I support those that support me. E.g. A women was tasked to set up a system on Christmas eve. It would take hours. So I helped her, just as she helped me when I started. We finished at 10:00 pm.
@@douglaslindsaychapman5188 Right, there's a distinction between supporting individuals at work who had your back vs overall corporate culture. I would also extend this advice to include passing it forward. If you like the place you work at and the people you work with, to continue the positive work environment, with new people I try to offer my help as well (within reason, within my capacity, etc). But I wouldn't randomly work for free... Lol.
We own a software company. Our server guy is autistic. And he dealt with it by demanding nobody bother him during his work. If anyone did, he would quit. If anyone lied to him, he would quit. I've tried very hard to make sure he knows how much I value him because he is amazing. He works from home, and we really do feel like he is family. No amount of doctor's visits, going on trips, or other issues will ever get us to fire him. I really do love him like a brother and would protect him with my life.
@@joeh858bikes can be over 200 dollars for adults. If they can’t afford to get their car fixed right then, what makes you think they can afford to just- buy a bike on the fly if their car breaks down- Additionally, Chances are if the car broke down, you are either on your way, or were about to leave. Either way the average person walks at 3-4 miles an hour. Say you drive 10 minutes to work, that’s about an hour walk. (Speaking from experience). So say you leave 30 minutes before your shift starts. If you walk the whole way, you will end up being about 30 minutes late or more. That’s assuming the weather is nice. Because let’s say you DID have a bike even! If it’s pouring down rain, snowing, hailing, windy. Chances are by the time you arrive for work you will be in violation of the dress code! (Soaked clothes, messy hair, smeared makeup, ect). And you’ll likely still be late! (A 10 minute drive translates roughly to a 30-40 minute bike ride, again from experience) and it’ll be worse if you walk. Still definitely a chance you’ll get fired or reprimanded. So, in short, tell me you lack critical thinking skills, without telling me you lack critical thinking skills-
@@williamkim9861 the first time I think I lasted about an hour, guessing it took a little bit of time for them to get everything they needed to can me. The second boss was someone the whole team and I would exchange verbal quips and blows all the time with. Don't remember what I said to her exactly, but she responded with 'now you're grounded, go to your desk and think about what you did." She was a fun boss
@@williamkim9861 Does it matter??... It's a business and unless SPECIFICALLY stated that it's a family business and you are ACTUALLY part of the family your supervisor should never say that to you, it's rude, demeaning, condescending and exploitative. Because let's be realistic there won't be a monetary compensation or compensation of any kind and if the rolls were reversed they would tell you to take a hike and when cuts come around the fact you "are family" won't matter a flight f**k
Bringing up the "prioritization" issue is key here. It wasn't really emphasized but I've found it to be enormously helpful. Can't do everything all at once so we need to prioritize. When everything is urgent, nothing is.
@Schilani moving away from family can really help the relationship. My dad always talked freely how much vitriol was in his teenage/young adult years between him and my grandparents. Growing up, living 400+ km away from them, I never noticed it. The space allowed my grandparents to see my dad as an adult, and my dad being more lenient towards their more old-fashioned values.. Plus of course grandkids lol
I just just received an email announcing yet another major reorg at the top levels. I can't wait to see how this shakes out... generally, it means folks attached to the outgoing executives are now going to lose their jobs or get shuffled someplace with a dead end. I give it a 50/50 chance that all of my current urgent projects no longer matter.
@amigos4erin “We trained hard-but it seemed that every time we were beginning to form up into teams we were reorganized. I was to learn later in life that we tend to meet any new situation by reorganizing, and what a wonderful method it can be for creating the illusion of progress while actually producing confusion, inefficiency, and demoralization.” That's the quote, though I don't know why stpeter didn't quote it himself
The way “urgent projects” can just evaporate…sometimes I just sit there biting back an I TOLD YOU SO. Like, damn, I could’ve told people so many times that a project wasn’t worth our time and resources but it wouldn’t have mattered.
" we need more of a team player" literally only means "we need you to do every single thing we tell you to without you giving your opinion at all. Just listen and shut up. It doesn't matter if you're already doing your work and other people's work. You're not a team player until you shut up and listen to what I say". I don't stand for it. I'm actually currently pretty screwed over because I walked out of a job that tried to Tell me this even though I was doing the work of a literal manager as a crew member making 17.50 an hour The workload I was doing easily deserved $25 an hour. Tell me I need to be more of a team player. You need to be more a team manager and pay me right You dumb piece of trash. Simply put. That's just how it is
Something fun to listen for is how Business English uses so many latin based words, and informal English uses more words that have always been English--more consonant clusters, less syllables.
Business English being a subset of academic English--it is, in fact, two different languages. That's why English language learners in American schools have such a hard time. They're learning both conversational English and academic English at the same time, and they need to excel in the latter to pass their classes. English is already a morass of weird grammar, spelling, and contradictory rules (ie, "I before E except after C, or when sounded as A as in neighbor or weigh [unless their height is weird]"), due to how many other languages it pulls from (without also teaching us the history/origin of the word in question), making it difficult to learn--especially since we don't use diacritical marks for some strange reason. It's also not just English. There are academic versions of French, Spanish, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Norwegian, Russian, etc., etc., etc.--but not Arabic, for some odd reason. Most language classes teach the conversational version of the language--unless it's an immersion school, which is basically what English language learners in US schools are dealing with. This includes students who speak AAVE at home, and those whose parents simply don't speak in academic English at home at all (my parents were both from farm families, and while they both graduated college, I don't think they even considered speaking academic English around the dinner table as something they should be doing to help their kids get a proverbial leg up at school).
If we're family.. Then we cuss at each other almost all the damn time.. So.. I'm not fucking taking on any more projects on my personal time without getting compensated for that shit
In an interview I tell the person point blank, "I do not lie. Not because of any moral perogative or anything. I don't lie simply because I am lazy. If I lie I have to remember the lie. If I never lie I never have to remember what I told you and what I didn't. So don't ask me a question you aren't prepared for an honest answer." They usually blink at me. I had one ask me what I thought of the secretary in the next room. "Cute, bit sexy really, wears way too much makeup and I bet she causes problems with the fact she has too many buttons undone on her blouse." The dude was legit shocked. The woman in the room looked just as shocked and blurted out. "What do you think of my outfit?" I told her it held business modesty while being modern enough to show femininity and suited her yet the jacket is what should probably be left off if she didn't need it as it was the only non flattering part of the dress/suit. Lady open mouthed blinked at me. Dude said I was hired. I no longer work there and they STILL reach out to me offering me contract work. Being brutally honest has lost me friends and jobs, but it does earn me some too.
Lol... My work life for the past 16 yrs. I started saying 'no' to more projects last year because I had a full load. Duing my review, my boss basically stated that I hadn't been pulling my weight. What he failed to realize is that when I was a 'yes' person, others were not pulling their weight.
Boss must be saying that same line on everyone there.... Hope you kept your written records of work done for times such as these to "refresh" both your memories..
Lmfao savage. I feel grateful for my job every time i see these. We lost some members last year and management has been replacing and being really lenient about how overwhelming it may get
Agreed. My current workplace is the best place I have been. They focus on doing the job right the first time. Quality over quantity. Kinda important when your stuff either protects people or goes into space. A supervisor like this has only popped up a couple times and people have been able to go to the ethics department and address concerns. Those supervisors don’t last long. Our working hours are set and if we work beyond them we ALWAYS get overtime.
one of the best things that ever happened to me was getting severanced from my 11 year post as an IT Director for a company that went from $70M to $425M while I was there. This channel is SO real, funny and cathartic.
Hahahaha! I gave my boss that warning once! I was told that I needed to start acting like family, I just laughed and said "if you think I'm sarcastic as it is, you don't want me to act like I do around my family." They tried to force it. It didn't last. Then they tried to pull the "professionalism" behavior card out. Eventually, they gave up. Controlling me is like herding cats. Some of the higher ups figured out that I was more effective when I was left alone with open instructions and challenging (but not impossible) deadlines. Fun times. Miss that place
I don't know. It just frustrates me. In the real world, they would make up something and fire you. In most cases, you do what they ask and start looking for another job.
I’m going through this right now at my job. I’m supposed to take on a huge part of my boss’s job for no title or compensation boost (in a company with basically no upward mobility and is a nonprofit, so I don’t make much anyway). I just started the job search today 😓
Girl first thing my manager said was oh happy new year upper management will be watching everyone’s production very closely and I’m like 😅 better buckle up for the show
“As your sister, working with you can suck” i felt that. Honestly if you as a company are prepared to say “we are a family” you best be ready to be treated like family 😂😂
The moment I hear "we are family" I would be unable to stop a fully belly laugh that the entire office would hear. I don't even serve my own family like that, in fact I'd tell them no much quicker than my work. Train up or train out but remember never stop training because that line is a major cue that you need to start running.
i love how detailed she is with these skits. Not only the Clothes, Tone of the respective character and their Posture, she even take into account the LIGHTING! notice how the corporate lady has more direct lighting from the computer while the employee with healthy boundaries has softer one and more to the side
Which thankfully is highly illegal where I live and work. So long as you keep the evidence, there isn't a tribunal in the nation that would side with the employer in that case. I'm in the UK btw, so solid employment rights are something people should appreciate more than they do.
Thanks to you and these videos! I decided to ask manger for a raise! Too many changes occurring in my department and my role have been constantly changing! I have a follow up meeting in two weeks! Hopefully I get a raise!! 😊
Speaking from experience, if, at any time, from interview to termination, an employer mentions that the company is like "family", then gather your things, thank them for the time, and run. Run as if you are escaping from a cult. Because thats exactly what you're doing.
Mmm. Not always. I work at a small company and they told me that they were like family. When my mother was dying from cancer, I was able to leave work whenever to see about her and my pay wasn't docked. When she was in the hospital and it was her last day, they came to the hospital and sat with me. Whenever I need to leave (furniture is being delivered, etc.) I can and they still pay me for that time. They insist that I take vacation and they pay OT and yearly bonuses. I've been here for over 9 years and have no intention of leaving.
@misspriss2482 Exactly. People are overreacting. Most companies mean your colleagues become "like" a family, not your actual family. It's not a cult-like behavior to say that most of the time. It can be a cult (like Amway), but it is usually said innocently. Some people interpret this as being your actual family, which coworkers/managers/CEOs are obviously not.
@@mjblcmichael Just remember: the strong reaction is from people working for large corporations who absolutely try to squeeze their workers this way for better executive bonuses, and managerial incentives. I've personally experienced this more than once.
I’m grateful that you’re honest about your bandwidth. I’ve pushed myself so many times and just got fired because I burnt out so bad I fell asleep at work and cried in the bathroom
never thought I would need these videos but i’ve found myself in a toxic job just like this 😭 it’s so hard to assert those boundaries when everyone else is just working overtime without question 😢😢
I love this. I am so often helping my friends discover how to understand these “family” dynamics that companies push. It’s lazy and obvious. Also, marketing “we about family” is equally lazy and ineffective. Love your channel!
That's actually still kinder than what I would have said to my sister. But I can look her in the eyes and be like "you must actually be deluded if you think I'm going to do that. Seriously, what is wrong with you?"
my previous company fed me with family bs. it ruined everything for me. in my current company, they call us "resources". at first I thought wth, but then realized that if I'm a resource, I don't owe anything apart from what is in the contract. no more manipulating family bs. 100% much better with this approach.
I love your videos. I went through bosses that treated me like this for years. No matter what extra work you do or long hours you put in, it is never enough. When there ready they just get rid of you, as if you never meant anything to them at all.
Omg this literally is what the end of last year was like. I went from two clients I’d been working with for years now now five clients, four of them new, with no change in compensation I’m so tired
"We are a family here" is actually the most honest things corporations say because most families are dysfunctional with only one or two people putting forth any effort.
I saw the tagline "family" and hoped like hell that it would feature ageism-free new hire employee Eric. Even without blowing off and blaming it on the dog he's still worth every penny!
Congratulations on your brilliant videos! You not only expose the tyranny/ugliness of the corporate/management world, but provide inspiration to those individuals suffering - I almost said “working” - under the brutish, inhuman policies of management. And, your mug is fantastic! I trust you will keep up the good work. Thank you!
If it was really family, she would be like, I am pregnant again and we need a bigger home upgrade. That will cost us 150k and you are footing the bill for your family.
If they are truly family, then family doesn’t screw each other over lol. Unless they’re that one family member who’s constantly in jail. Maybe that’s what they’re trying to say hehe
My dad always hated this bs talk about family. He had an interview and the boss said to him that all are a family in his company. My dads response: "Great! Now my daughter will get a breather! She is looking after my old mother who needs care 24/7. When will your kids or your secretary start their turn?" The boss was shocked and backpedalled quickly, that was not what he meant when he said family. My dad: "Then do me a favour and stop this bs." Yes, my dad worked there for some time, the company was great. And the boss thought about the slogans they use and stopped saying "family".
a family member was in a similar situation. she quit and her managers were desperately trying to get her to come back because they needed to exploit her labor to operate. none of this included a pay raise, of course. companies suck
I worked a job that was family, but it really was. We would encourage each other, laugh, and just have a great time. We were honest and vulnerable and management really gave us a lot of trust. That job was awesome; only left because I moved. I still wish I could go back. 🤷♂️
Lol. I love the “UNT” cup 😉. My daughter got one from her best friend, because she always speaks her truth which is not so common anymore apparently. Love your short videos.
my workplace has just eliminated a position and everyone is asking the corporate higher-ups how they expect the work that was being done by those in that position is going to get done now that the position no longer exists and theyve basically just shrugged and told us to figure it out. your videos have inspired me to ask whether the rest of us can expect an increase in pay to reflect the increase in workload now that we will be taking on additional tasks. it probably wont amount to anything bc we're just the worker bees in a massive corporation but at least i can say i tried
About a year into the corporate world and one of the biggest things I’m extremely grateful for is having management that is supportive and a union that will have my back when management does overstep their boundaries.
"We're all family here" only works if you are literal family, which I have experienced working with my whole family before. Went a lot better than expected to be honest
I call this phenomenon "responsibility creep." The longer a job is held, the more responsibility is pushed onto the employee, and happens just as much within blue collar jobs. This is a large factor why turnover within certain business remains high to the detriment of the worker, the customer, and to the company's bottom line which has yo coniniously pay for training new workers in a merry-go-round of employment.
I heard something once, the expressed qualities of companies often are those the company lacks I’ve worked for a company asking for innovations, honesty, kindness and teamwork, it was the most self centered, dishonest, sneaky and inflexible environment I could have think of
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Any company I've worked for that has referred to themselves as a "family" has been the most toxic jobs I've ever worked tbh
Been there/done that, not once but twice. Ran like hell from the second one & burned the tee shirt.
@@momcat2223 same though. Last one I worked for had me in therapy for a few months it was so messed up. Made me scared to work at another office
Even if they don’t say it, sometimes they act like a troubled family or a codependent relationship. Nobody wants to utter real truths or criticism to management or "the boss", for fearing they "won’t love them anymore".
truth. Us old farts roll our eyes when this starts.
Truth!!
"You are replaceable at work but not at home." Best quote ever and every manager who uses the word "family" should refer to it.
I had a boss who once tried to get me to give more to work “ Because they had three years invested in me.” I told him that I had 12 years invested in my family. I told my wife that I bet I knew why my boss was five years older than me and on his third wife.
Soo ...."If I'm irreplaceable to my family, and my job is my family. Cool 😎 i now get paid for zero work and you can't fire me."
if you are male you are also replaceable at home
@@joeh858 lol, go do some introspection. Your self esteem is low.
@@joeh858nah I replaced my mom a while back
I’m autistic and working my first job as an engineer in the industry at a growing startup and your channel has genuinely helped me understand corporate BS and how to navigate these uncomfortable situations.
I get so worried about saying the wrong things to upper management, I just want to thank you for giving me the words to properly stand up for myself in the corporate space.
It is invaluable what you do for people ❤❤❤
Unless you like your team lead or boss and they have your back, then I give a bit. I support those that support me. E.g. A women was tasked to set up a system on Christmas eve. It would take hours. So I helped her, just as she helped me when I started. We finished at 10:00 pm.
@@douglaslindsaychapman5188 Right, there's a distinction between supporting individuals at work who had your back vs overall corporate culture. I would also extend this advice to include passing it forward. If you like the place you work at and the people you work with, to continue the positive work environment, with new people I try to offer my help as well (within reason, within my capacity, etc). But I wouldn't randomly work for free... Lol.
We own a software company. Our server guy is autistic. And he dealt with it by demanding nobody bother him during his work. If anyone did, he would quit. If anyone lied to him, he would quit. I've tried very hard to make sure he knows how much I value him because he is amazing. He works from home, and we really do feel like he is family. No amount of doctor's visits, going on trips, or other issues will ever get us to fire him. I really do love him like a brother and would protect him with my life.
@@funnyanimalshorts643Are you going to be posting for a new server guy? If he reads this, he's very likely to quit.
"We're a family here."
"My car broke down. I can't afford to fix or replace it and there's no public transportation."
"You're fired."
That would be terrible, my boss has always helped with things like that. Guess that's why I am coming up on 20 years with my company.
get a bike or walk
@@joeh858bikes can be over 200 dollars for adults. If they can’t afford to get their car fixed right then, what makes you think they can afford to just- buy a bike on the fly if their car breaks down-
Additionally, Chances are if the car broke down, you are either on your way, or were about to leave. Either way the average person walks at 3-4 miles an hour. Say you drive 10 minutes to work, that’s about an hour walk. (Speaking from experience). So say you leave 30 minutes before your shift starts. If you walk the whole way, you will end up being about 30 minutes late or more.
That’s assuming the weather is nice. Because let’s say you DID have a bike even! If it’s pouring down rain, snowing, hailing, windy. Chances are by the time you arrive for work you will be in violation of the dress code! (Soaked clothes, messy hair, smeared makeup, ect). And you’ll likely still be late! (A 10 minute drive translates roughly to a 30-40 minute bike ride, again from experience) and it’ll be worse if you walk. Still definitely a chance you’ll get fired or reprimanded.
So, in short, tell me you lack critical thinking skills, without telling me you lack critical thinking skills-
@@joeh858 How do you get a bike when there is no transportation to get the bike
@@joeh858 Have you ever tried becoming a human?
"Okay mom, you know the rules, if you want to assign me more chores you have to increase my allowance"
Yeah........not in my world.
Lol, no I don't.
😂😂😂
Mom removes her slipper…
Fair but yes not likely
I've addressed a manager like this a couple times and the look they give you is absolutely worth it.
And how long did you keep those jobs?
@@williamkim9861 the first time I think I lasted about an hour, guessing it took a little bit of time for them to get everything they needed to can me. The second boss was someone the whole team and I would exchange verbal quips and blows all the time with. Don't remember what I said to her exactly, but she responded with 'now you're grounded, go to your desk and think about what you did." She was a fun boss
@@williamkim9861 Does it matter??... It's a business and unless SPECIFICALLY stated that it's a family business and you are ACTUALLY part of the family your supervisor should never say that to you, it's rude, demeaning, condescending and exploitative. Because let's be realistic there won't be a monetary compensation or compensation of any kind and if the rolls were reversed they would tell you to take a hike and when cuts come around the fact you "are family" won't matter a flight f**k
@@williamkim9861 Where I'm from not only would few to none request this, 99.9% would respond the same way and their job would be perfectly safe.
…. and everybody started applauding
Bringing up the "prioritization" issue is key here. It wasn't really emphasized but I've found it to be enormously helpful. Can't do everything all at once so we need to prioritize. When everything is urgent, nothing is.
"What 8 hours of work do you want me to do today?"
My workplace pulled that shit. With how rough the job market is rn, it took 4 months but im proud to say that i start my new job on Monday 😂🎉🎉
How do you like the new job a few months in?
My response would be "If we're a family, I'm moving 1000 miles away from you and only talking to you once a week". That's what I did to my family...
Very little contact can do wonders for one’s psyche 😊
Wait, you moved 1000 miles away but STILL talked to them once a week? At this point I am not sure if you like them or not.
@Schilani moving away from family can really help the relationship.
My dad always talked freely how much vitriol was in his teenage/young adult years between him and my grandparents.
Growing up, living 400+ km away from them, I never noticed it.
The space allowed my grandparents to see my dad as an adult, and my dad being more lenient towards their more old-fashioned values..
Plus of course grandkids lol
@@SchilaniBefore I left, I didn't talk to them at all. So I suppose the distance improved our relationship.
That's just sad.
I just just received an email announcing yet another major reorg at the top levels. I can't wait to see how this shakes out... generally, it means folks attached to the outgoing executives are now going to lose their jobs or get shuffled someplace with a dead end. I give it a 50/50 chance that all of my current urgent projects no longer matter.
There's a famous quote, attributed to Petronius Arbiter, a Roman author at the time of Nero. It seems to be the mantra of most corporations:
@amigos4erin “We trained hard-but it seemed that every time we were beginning to form up into teams we were reorganized. I was to learn later in life that we tend to meet any new situation by reorganizing, and what a wonderful method it can be for creating the illusion of progress while actually producing confusion, inefficiency, and demoralization.”
That's the quote, though I don't know why stpeter didn't quote it himself
@@kozinc I did but the comments didn't like my cut-and-paste. I guess that'll get me a bollocking from management . . .
The way “urgent projects” can just evaporate…sometimes I just sit there biting back an I TOLD YOU SO. Like, damn, I could’ve told people so many times that a project wasn’t worth our time and resources but it wouldn’t have mattered.
We got that at the end of 2023, and they announced they didn't expect to make any profits in 2024 💀
"We're family here" translates to "Run"
Cult behavior.
Absolutely!
We are like a (broken) family 😊
I DRANK THE KOOL-AID and jumped in head first when my job said 'We're Family'! I'm still traumatized 😅😅😅😢
And if a company says that they hire from within, it generally means that they have horrible retention numbers
Companies always claim "we're a family", but watch how easy they will dispose you without a whim.
The wild thoughts that go throughout mind when dealing with a manager like this!😂
Stabby thoughts😐😐😐😐😐😐
These are the kinds of managers you’re tempted to plant an ied in their vehicle’s muffler
" we need more of a team player" literally only means "we need you to do every single thing we tell you to without you giving your opinion at all. Just listen and shut up. It doesn't matter if you're already doing your work and other people's work. You're not a team player until you shut up and listen to what I say". I don't stand for it. I'm actually currently pretty screwed over because I walked out of a job that tried to Tell me this even though I was doing the work of a literal manager as a crew member making 17.50 an hour The workload I was doing easily deserved $25 an hour. Tell me I need to be more of a team player. You need to be more a team manager and pay me right You dumb piece of trash. Simply put. That's just how it is
Difference between Business English and informal English. That really feels like 2 different languages for me 😅
Something fun to listen for is how Business English uses so many latin based words, and informal English uses more words that have always been English--more consonant clusters, less syllables.
I could not speak like this regularly, as it sounds overly manipulative and dishonest.
Business English being a subset of academic English--it is, in fact, two different languages. That's why English language learners in American schools have such a hard time. They're learning both conversational English and academic English at the same time, and they need to excel in the latter to pass their classes. English is already a morass of weird grammar, spelling, and contradictory rules (ie, "I before E except after C, or when sounded as A as in neighbor or weigh [unless their height is weird]"), due to how many other languages it pulls from (without also teaching us the history/origin of the word in question), making it difficult to learn--especially since we don't use diacritical marks for some strange reason.
It's also not just English. There are academic versions of French, Spanish, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Norwegian, Russian, etc., etc., etc.--but not Arabic, for some odd reason. Most language classes teach the conversational version of the language--unless it's an immersion school, which is basically what English language learners in US schools are dealing with. This includes students who speak AAVE at home, and those whose parents simply don't speak in academic English at home at all (my parents were both from farm families, and while they both graduated college, I don't think they even considered speaking academic English around the dinner table as something they should be doing to help their kids get a proverbial leg up at school).
If we’re ‘family’, I’m talking to you like family. And family needs to sometimes hear things nobody else is brave enough to say.
so true
If family can’t tell you no one can! It is family’s job to prevent you from being or appearing to be an ass or an embarrassment to yourself. 😎
"We're family here."
Uh oh, does that mean we're gonna start fighting and the cops are gonna show up?
If we're family.. Then we cuss at each other almost all the damn time.. So.. I'm not fucking taking on any more projects on my personal time without getting compensated for that shit
In an interview I tell the person point blank, "I do not lie. Not because of any moral perogative or anything. I don't lie simply because I am lazy. If I lie I have to remember the lie. If I never lie I never have to remember what I told you and what I didn't. So don't ask me a question you aren't prepared for an honest answer."
They usually blink at me. I had one ask me what I thought of the secretary in the next room. "Cute, bit sexy really, wears way too much makeup and I bet she causes problems with the fact she has too many buttons undone on her blouse." The dude was legit shocked. The woman in the room looked just as shocked and blurted out. "What do you think of my outfit?" I told her it held business modesty while being modern enough to show femininity and suited her yet the jacket is what should probably be left off if she didn't need it as it was the only non flattering part of the dress/suit. Lady open mouthed blinked at me. Dude said I was hired. I no longer work there and they STILL reach out to me offering me contract work.
Being brutally honest has lost me friends and jobs, but it does earn me some too.
Lol... My work life for the past 16 yrs. I started saying 'no' to more projects last year because I had a full load. Duing my review, my boss basically stated that I hadn't been pulling my weight. What he failed to realize is that when I was a 'yes' person, others were not pulling their weight.
Boss must be saying that same line on everyone there.... Hope you kept your written records of work done for times such as these to "refresh" both your memories..
Bingo! Exactly. I had the same problem, doing other people's jobs for them. Not any more.
Ding ding ding ding ding ding ding ding ding dinggggg
She’s saying what I’m sure everyone has thought at some point in their lives.
Nah, I never met my extended family , but from what I know on both sides all remaining relatives seriously hate each other.
It’s the toodaloo fam for me!!😂😂😂😂😂
"You're giving me an extra 30% work for the Same pay scale? PASS!!! Expand my compensation and I'll try to work more."
Woah that non-sarcastic truth bomb before calling her sis was mighty 🔥
Lmfao savage. I feel grateful for my job every time i see these. We lost some members last year and management has been replacing and being really lenient about how overwhelming it may get
Agreed. My current workplace is the best place I have been. They focus on doing the job right the first time. Quality over quantity. Kinda important when your stuff either protects people or goes into space. A supervisor like this has only popped up a couple times and people have been able to go to the ethics department and address concerns. Those supervisors don’t last long. Our working hours are set and if we work beyond them we ALWAYS get overtime.
one of the best things that ever happened to me was getting severanced from my 11 year post as an IT Director for a company that went from $70M to $425M while I was there. This channel is SO real, funny and cathartic.
Me to manager: "I'm sure as YOU are the head of the "family " YOU will be taking on the major part of the new workload."😉
If they call themselves "family" they better help me when I need help to move out, that fridge ain't gonna carry itself bro
This is why I’ll never work a salaried job again, they think it’s an excuse to work you to death.
Hahahaha! I gave my boss that warning once! I was told that I needed to start acting like family, I just laughed and said "if you think I'm sarcastic as it is, you don't want me to act like I do around my family."
They tried to force it. It didn't last. Then they tried to pull the "professionalism" behavior card out. Eventually, they gave up. Controlling me is like herding cats. Some of the higher ups figured out that I was more effective when I was left alone with open instructions and challenging (but not impossible) deadlines. Fun times. Miss that place
The other day someone at my work said we're a big family! I bust out laughing and said okay, you've never seen how I treat my family 🤣😂🤣😂
Who's the spouse and when's date night?
😂😂😂
This is my favourite channel about how to tell someone politely to feck off 😂
I don't know. It just frustrates me. In the real world, they would make up something and fire you. In most cases, you do what they ask and start looking for another job.
A famous quote about Diplomacy: the art of telling someone to go to hell in such a way they look forward to the trip. 😅
@@Ozzy_2014 Hahaha love it
I’m going through this right now at my job. I’m supposed to take on a huge part of my boss’s job for no title or compensation boost (in a company with basically no upward mobility and is a nonprofit, so I don’t make much anyway). I just started the job search today 😓
Same. I’m searching too…
Girl first thing my manager said was oh happy new year upper management will be watching everyone’s production very closely and I’m like 😅 better buckle up for the show
“As your sister, working with you can suck” i felt that. Honestly if you as a company are prepared to say “we are a family” you best be ready to be treated like family 😂😂
The moment I hear "we are family" I would be unable to stop a fully belly laugh that the entire office would hear. I don't even serve my own family like that, in fact I'd tell them no much quicker than my work. Train up or train out but remember never stop training because that line is a major cue that you need to start running.
Okay, if we’re family, I’m going to have Mom call you. She’ll tell you to stop taking advantage of your sister. 😂
"Really? We're family? What is my share of the inheritance when you kick the bucket?"
It's a testament to how good your acting is that I cannot stand corporate you, but worker you would get a cookie and fist-bump.
i love how detailed she is with these skits. Not only the Clothes, Tone of the respective character and their Posture,
she even take into account the LIGHTING!
notice how the corporate lady has more direct lighting from the computer while the employee with healthy boundaries has softer one and more to the side
Very accurate, except for the fact that her answers will always result in retaliation by the manager/supervisor.
That's why it feels so good to live where that's not possible and the supervisor/manager knows it darn well.
@@tkps Where are you referring?
@@rmora1dreamland 😂😂😂
@@tkpsmost places I worked in would have replaced me even if I was doing my job correctly just to increase their margin. Where do u work?
Which thankfully is highly illegal where I live and work. So long as you keep the evidence, there isn't a tribunal in the nation that would side with the employer in that case. I'm in the UK btw, so solid employment rights are something people should appreciate more than they do.
Thanks to you and these videos! I decided to ask manger for a raise! Too many changes occurring in my department and my role have been constantly changing! I have a follow up meeting in two weeks! Hopefully I get a raise!! 😊
Start looking for another job just in case
Good luck to you!!
@@RealengoPrimordialDemonditto man. HR don't have a soul.
@@LisaMT1218 Thank you very much! I received a Promotion a couple of weeks ago.
Speaking from experience, if, at any time, from interview to termination, an employer mentions that the company is like "family", then gather your things, thank them for the time, and run. Run as if you are escaping from a cult.
Because thats exactly what you're doing.
Mmm. Not always. I work at a small company and they told me that they were like family. When my mother was dying from cancer, I was able to leave work whenever to see about her and my pay wasn't docked. When she was in the hospital and it was her last day, they came to the hospital and sat with me. Whenever I need to leave (furniture is being delivered, etc.) I can and they still pay me for that time. They insist that I take vacation and they pay OT and yearly bonuses. I've been here for over 9 years and have no intention of leaving.
@misspriss2482 Exactly. People are overreacting. Most companies mean your colleagues become "like" a family, not your actual family. It's not a cult-like behavior to say that most of the time. It can be a cult (like Amway), but it is usually said innocently.
Some people interpret this as being your actual family, which coworkers/managers/CEOs are obviously not.
@@mjblcmichael Just remember: the strong reaction is from people working for large corporations who absolutely try to squeeze their workers this way for better executive bonuses, and managerial incentives. I've personally experienced this more than once.
I’m grateful that you’re honest about your bandwidth. I’ve pushed myself so many times and just got fired because I burnt out so bad I fell asleep at work and cried in the bathroom
We are family here… everyone has heard that at work. Better run…
Yeah the only time that's a good thing is when it's coming from employees talking about how well they're treated.
love you! this is pure essence what most of employers deserve to hear
I love the "we are a family" argument, as if many families weren't dysfunctional messes that are only hold together by economical circumstances.
never thought I would need these videos but i’ve found myself in a toxic job just like this 😭 it’s so hard to assert those boundaries when everyone else is just working overtime without question 😢😢
"Work longer hours."
"Will I get paid overtime?"
"No."
"Then no."
If only we could speak to upper management like this lol
You absolutely can.
Once.
@rcslyman8929 True. I'll do it prior to retirement
@@rcslyman8929 Be a tall white suicidal male and upper management won't say a thing back. The Ada has some amazing vice grips on the work force
You can, they’ll either try to get rid of you or they’ll have the angrily accept that they set themselves up this way
I love this. I am so often helping my friends discover how to understand these “family” dynamics that companies push. It’s lazy and obvious. Also, marketing “we about family” is equally lazy and ineffective.
Love your channel!
Yoooo...I'm dead! They stay throwing the word family around. That sh*t be having me crying at work 😆😂
That's actually still kinder than what I would have said to my sister. But I can look her in the eyes and be like "you must actually be deluded if you think I'm going to do that. Seriously, what is wrong with you?"
I *"LOVE"* these "family" ones because theres so many possibilities and you just keep nailing them XD!
my previous company fed me with family bs. it ruined everything for me. in my current company, they call us "resources". at first I thought wth, but then realized that if I'm a resource, I don't owe anything apart from what is in the contract. no more manipulating family bs. 100% much better with this approach.
I love your videos.
I went through bosses that treated me like this for years. No matter what extra work you do or long hours you put in, it is never enough.
When there ready they just get rid of you, as if you never meant anything to them at all.
Love the Sister mode!!!
Omg this literally is what the end of last year was like. I went from two clients I’d been working with for years now now five clients, four of them new, with no change in compensation I’m so tired
"We are a family here" is actually the most honest things corporations say because most families are dysfunctional with only one or two people putting forth any effort.
I like these stand up for yourself videos. I miss terribly the characters. Donna Sue, etc. were so much fun.
😂 I love these! Wish I had this insight and was able to say no when I was in corporate.
I saw the tagline "family" and hoped like hell that it would feature ageism-free new hire employee Eric.
Even without blowing off and blaming it on the dog he's still worth every penny!
For the avoidance of doubt among our colonial cousins "blowing off" is a long-established Briddish polite euphemism for farting aka flatulence.
The dad/dog fart was priceless!
Ty@@warringtonminge4167
Congratulations on your brilliant videos! You not only expose the tyranny/ugliness of the corporate/management world, but provide inspiration to those individuals suffering - I almost said “working” - under the brutish, inhuman policies of management. And, your mug is fantastic! I trust you will keep up the good work. Thank you!
If it was really family, she would be like, I am pregnant again and we need a bigger home upgrade. That will cost us 150k and you are footing the bill for your family.
If they are truly family, then family doesn’t screw each other over lol. Unless they’re that one family member who’s constantly in jail. Maybe that’s what they’re trying to say hehe
My dad always hated this bs talk about family. He had an interview and the boss said to him that all are a family in his company. My dads response: "Great! Now my daughter will get a breather! She is looking after my old mother who needs care 24/7. When will your kids or your secretary start their turn?" The boss was shocked and backpedalled quickly, that was not what he meant when he said family. My dad: "Then do me a favour and stop this bs."
Yes, my dad worked there for some time, the company was great. And the boss thought about the slogans they use and stopped saying "family".
Wow, this is an amazing piece! I also appreciate you sharing your process with us.
“Toodaloo fam” is my new favorite line
Where's the Brenda, Bethany, and Donna Sue videos? I miss them! I need an update on what they've been up to, please. Thank you!
Agreed!
Never work for a company that calls itself a family. They’ll want you to work for free.
a family member was in a similar situation. she quit and her managers were desperately trying to get her to come back because they needed to exploit her labor to operate. none of this included a pay raise, of course. companies suck
I worked a job that was family, but it really was. We would encourage each other, laugh, and just have a great time. We were honest and vulnerable and management really gave us a lot of trust. That job was awesome; only left because I moved. I still wish I could go back. 🤷♂️
when going into "family mode" there should definitely be some swears thrown in 😂😂
You do an excellent job pinpointing such unacceptable corporate behavior. You’re a example for many people up to now not there to step up.
When they try to convince you that they all like family, its time to run
I literally just found this page and love how every single short ends with "toodaloo" keep this brilliance going 😂
Lol. I love the “UNT” cup 😉. My daughter got one from her best friend, because she always speaks her truth which is not so common anymore apparently. Love your short videos.
I never lived this level of corporate but you videos especislly this one always make me laugh, hope fam gets a life outside of work.
Amazing acting! It is so surprising that this is the same person in all roles!
my workplace has just eliminated a position and everyone is asking the corporate higher-ups how they expect the work that was being done by those in that position is going to get done now that the position no longer exists and theyve basically just shrugged and told us to figure it out. your videos have inspired me to ask whether the rest of us can expect an increase in pay to reflect the increase in workload now that we will be taking on additional tasks. it probably wont amount to anything bc we're just the worker bees in a massive corporation but at least i can say i tried
About a year into the corporate world and one of the biggest things I’m extremely grateful for is having management that is supportive and a union that will have my back when management does overstep their boundaries.
These vignettes are awesome. 👏👏👏👏👏
Emloyer did say "family". That was the nicest response corporate could have gotten for the crap they just tried to pull.
Great change of tone. Love it
These family jokes are becoming a real staple, and it's absolutely perfect
true . you cant expect someone to expand their limits, workload, and to get everything done the best way without giving them a larger thing in return
She’s getting sassy in the New Year, I’m here for it.
For me the number 1 indicator for a toxic workplace environment is a higher up saying we're a family.
"We're all family here" only works if you are literal family, which I have experienced working with my whole family before. Went a lot better than expected to be honest
Truth bombs! Love it.
You did great on capturing the corporate person that is confused by what a functional family is
She does such a good job that I forget it’s the same person playing 2 different roles. I really think it’s 2 different people sometimes.
I love her hair as the employee, the curls!
Nice to meet Sir Nicholas. Great vest. I love your creative, stylish little desert hedgehog. I really love your channel.
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we're a family? exactly why I love teleworking so much, none of that drama
I call this phenomenon "responsibility creep." The longer a job is held, the more responsibility is pushed onto the employee, and happens just as much within blue collar jobs. This is a large factor why turnover within certain business remains high to the detriment of the worker, the customer, and to the company's bottom line which has yo coniniously pay for training new workers in a merry-go-round of employment.
I heard something once, the expressed qualities of companies often are those the company lacks
I’ve worked for a company asking for innovations, honesty, kindness and teamwork, it was the most self centered, dishonest, sneaky and inflexible environment I could have think of
I often find Some shorts of yours good, some I don't agree on the attitude, but I have to say this one made me laugh out loud! good one!
I'm so glad I'm self employed when these videos pop up
The way she said "figure it out" was right out of Letterkenny!
I love these skits. I wish that I could say this at my job. "Toodaloo Fam". 😂
Love you. Thank you for these posts 😂❤😂❤😂❤
I love this woman! So how do you professionally say screw you? I really needed that one! 😅
The "UNT" mug was a nice touch