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Never ask someone to do something you wouldn't do yourself and you'll not be corrupted. Don't allow fear to dictate what you do, fear is the greatest sin against God as it shows him you have no faith in his power. You help so many sir, but who is there for you? I prayed for you while battling your addiction, I defended you against those who hurling their hypocritical slings and arrows at you. We may never meet face to face, but know there are regular people like myself that see the value you bring to the world and will protect that with fire if needed. God bless you and all of yours sir and thank you for the help I received from your wisdom.
Your a very interesting man who is obviously a deep thinker so Sir you would be a person I would go for a pint with and interesting conversation. I am 66 years old so a little older but love k look listening.
Yup. 45 here..had children young with an awful human. I love my children and I'm proud. But they're all still at home and all over 20 yo. I'm looking forward to having my own space. To just tidy after me. To do as I please. I can't wait x
I'm 43 I've spent my whole life around douchbags backstabbing completely gave my time to the wrong people. Had children with the wrong person. Being alone is honestly the most beautiful peaceful feeling I've ever had.
It's curious that so many more younger people are more aware sooner. Maybe it's the Internet that's helped. It's hard to gage when I was 20 Internet didn't exist. But I can say that looking back on those years I wasn't aware at all. I was floating around from one situation to the next. Having such an awareness at an early age can be tough I think. Becauee there's times now where Im so aware....I think so what now. Cars don't interest me. Big fancy houses don't interest me. When you pull away from material things and attachments you just think....so what now.
Exact Same age here. Same Deal, minus the kids. Its been a rough first 6 months, learning to engage in life all over again from a fresh start, but the silence...its amazing.
I don't know. I have a family. But sometimes it feels like that would be better. I didn't think that when I was young but now. I'm not suicidal but if death came along tomorrow,that would be ok. I only would feel bad for the kids even though they are grown.
I was alone my entire life in my early 30’s i joined the fire service met 50 amazing men and women that would fight with me. It changed my life forever having no family to having 50 brothers and sisters. I thought I was an “introvert” there’s no such thing, humans are social beings and I wouldn’t trade this for anything.
@@ShawShank-kr9wqI can believe that. There are actually nice people out there who are worth being around, but I also think they are a minority. To answer the original question. Yes yankeetango, you might be missing something. Don't close your "door". Live your life the way you like it, and if you stumble across a nice person, maybe stay a little longer to get to know him or her better.
My dad had no regrets - he lived his life fully - he always said “you can’t live forever” he died at 59 but he had really enjoyed his life & did exactly what he wanted to do.
Thanks for honoring freedom of speech. When I believed in the existence of a god and that the god was watching me and judging my every thought and deed ... I never believed that I WAS "alone." When I stopped believing in the existence of a god ... the thought of being alone ... resulted in me having a feeling of relief ... and ... comfort in my own company. It was then that I realized that how I would treat others was my responsibility only ... and if I couldn't be as kind to others as each situation allowed ... I would be the one falling short of "my own mark."
I've had difficulties when dealing with people that disappointed me before and had lots of mood swings, but it becomes easier when I understand that good times are not owed to me by anyone and that I have to move towards making every moment enjoyable
Man I’ve always had that same sentiment. “Idk if hell follows or it’s always here”. That makes so much sense to me. Thank you for all your work Dr. Peterson.
"Elvis became an Elvis impersonator by the time he died", dam, that hit hard... For those who have done the internal work required, time alone is a gift, and once appreciated, you are very careful about who you give it up for......
I’m 26 and married the wrong woman. This was such a blessing in disguise despite the extreme consequences that came as a result. I have never felt such tranquility in my adult years since the divorce. I reconsidered who I allowed into my life and have absconded from every person who was a net negative to my mission and goals. Ive replaced them with likeminded people. I’ve built myself up so that I have the capability to increase my potential outreach but walk with a determined level of circumspection now. Thank you Jordan Peterson for the wisdom you’ve spread throughout the years. Your words are actively changing lives.
Wow, this conversation actually made me cry a bit. I think about death all the time too. I really love this man, how deep his thinking goes and how articulate his speaking is but he’s not afraid to say, I don’t know. That’s true wisdom in my book.
Why? I know the answer. It's because he's articulated. Why, when I speak of it that way, am I shunned and seen as morbid? I am on a mission to become more articulated so that I might be understood. Fiancee, children, and a big family. I shouldn't, but I feel so alone.
By looking around yourself and seeing- discovering the wonders of this universe its great beauty, its magical quality then you can live in bliss knowing there is much more to life then death!
It's sad, but I totally understand what this feels like. I am also ready to be done. Death does not bring me fear as much as the thoughts of living long into old age.
I be 85 in few months... old age itself is not an desirable state but has it good side. I am a total loner and this allows me to do what I love the most. LEARNING! Discovering the wanders and the magic in our universe which I was not aware when I was young. The world is filled with beauty.
death is not a companion but a state of mind. Human reality is made up from, made up by many many different considerations. for starter: we are conceived, then we born then we live- have alife, then we get old and we dies... OK... ALL THIS HAPPENS TO MATTER, only matter can be shaped and only form can live -- change over- reshape itself in its cycle of living: TIME SPAN And only matter can dessove, die and be no more. WE ARE SPIRITUAL ENTITIES-BEINGS WE ARE NOT MADE OF ANYTHING THEREFORE WE CANNOT DIE. WE live, we occupies bodies but this do not makes us matter. SPIRIT MEANS JUST THAT A SPIRIT which has no shape or form. Spirit cannot die but we can experience how matter- bodies live and we have many considerations about what is life or death . We are what we believe in and nothing more. OUR OWN PRIVATE UNIVERSE IS AS BIG AS WHAT WE BELIEVE IN. No more and no less.
Beautiful and really intelligent questions. Maybe that's what Jordan needs most. More people like you in his life. That would make for a better life for all of us, because he certainly is a shapeshifter who isn't embarrassed by his opinions, even when they are maybe slightly wonky. We need people like the two of you. And don't ever succumb to hubris about yourselves - in the expanse of our Judeo-Christian civilisation you are significant, but not yet giants.
Loneliness has helped me become a businessman and writer etc but I long for companionship like the majority but its easy to say when you're not alone that being alone is key
That is great ...you should be very proud . .lots of us myself include process our lonliness in nagative ways through various addictions booze, sex, drugs, food, gambling etc. If no one else tells you this today there is one person here battling his own form of lonliness in his early 50s that is super proud of you for facing yours the right way. 👍👊💪
@johngallagher72 thank you so much for you're message I pray in jesus mighty name you receive deliverance and clarity from the Lord.. I still got my own personal battles but I'm striving to connect with pur lord ans saviour jesus I hope you can find time and courage to read the bible brother amen thank you so much foe the message
@@JohnMack-f3f Then the question arises. Is life worth living given the amount of suffering associated with a human life? Even if one is the nicest person on earth and a vegetarian, there will always be more suffering than joy. (see: Arthur Schopenhauer) I see life as the "original curse" that threw us out of "paradise" and the only way out of this path of suffering is to break the vicious circle of procreation and death that we find ourselves in. For this reason, I have not brought any children into this world. 😊
Mr. Peterson is obviously a brilliant (and most astonishingly) an honest, and candid man. His commentary rings like a church bell through a town. In my own time and wisdom, I have spoken (as best I could) this to people who have sought my counsel, "most things in this life stare you in the face; you just don't want to look at them."
Choosing to be alone, that most people can't handle, as it forces a person to rely only on themself. Which is very big self confidence thing, especially, when traveling abroad to destinations you have never been before!
A true loner is never forced to be a loner... be alone is not a feeling a sensation. it cannot be explained. Being alone is SIMPLY IS... A NATURAL STATE!
In my mid 30s I was told I have Asperger's which was fashionable at the time. I have certainly spent most of my life alone. Being around people is hard work for me and never quite works - feels like banging my head against a brick wall, so nice when I stop. In my 20s I spent 6 months in Japan and discovered how useful it can be to be an outsider. You don't have to fit in. At 30 I emigrated and when people found me odd, they put it down to my being a foreigner. I had a career and now at 76 I have a comfortable retirement. My partner is the only person that I have discussed this with though she thinks I am just making excuses for being ornery. We are born and we die and filling in the time in between is called life... have to make the best of it.
This is so ironic coming across this podcast after hearing the news of the unfortunate death of Dr Michael Mosely whilst on holiday in Greece..He did die alone and his body wasn’t found for four days…this is a stark reminder that there often is no warning..and there you have it..distraught family and a big fan base from being a much loved celebrity on the BBC.
Question for you. How would you know if you have fully embraced whatever that is. after all there is no limit what we as Spiritual beings are able to accomplish.
If you're miserable when alone, then obviously you are in bad company.... This is the correct one. Bad company here refers to one's own inner-self. We create misery and -ve thoughts ourselves in our own mind.
So to be in good company, in this context, you have to take charge of your mind. As Sadhguru says your mind should not consume you, you should be able to use your mind for your well-being.
Some people are constantly aware of their mortality, and some people avoid any thoughts of it, go to great lengths to ignore it, and pretend it's never going to happen to them.
I have never had much of a fear of death. Even as a kid. Maybe that's because I grew up in a really harsh environment. My brother used to say I was like a lemming when I was a kid, doing so many crazy things, like climbing buildings and trees and falling out of them. I never broke any bones from these activities. I certainly got some scars though. I think both my parents could quite easily be classed as having a narcissistic personality disorder. They came from more isolated communities just mainly around relatives and just close family, so their behaviour was never called into check. I grew up in a large village/small town close to a major city. I was trying to explain from the age of 5 to my parents why they were never invited to the neighbours parties and I was. Most of the neighbours were afraid to be around them, especially my dad who was close to being a psychopath, prone to violence. I think it's quite clear that Jordan has never had a spiritual experience and his soul is crying out for one. He has never felt a oneness with the Universe. Time doesn't matter. You don't have to always be working. You can live a balanced life. You will never escape the viciousness of others for too long but you can build out comfort zones for yourself in life between the harshness. I agree with what he said though, the feeling of oneness is only on the other side of hell. You have to go through hell to experience it. You have to speak the truth when everyone else around you is lying, everyone else around you is going along with power. You don't have to constantly speak it though, as believe me, you will be murdered, but you have to focus on it at least within your own heart. You will meet very few people who speak the truth in life. Almost everyone goes along with power most of the time and is caught up in a maelstrom of lies. They do not even know which way to turn to find the truth. Just constantly looking to follow the crowd so that they are not personally attacked. I think though, when you see so much viciousness and pain, and people dishing those out doing well, it makes you question the nature of the Universe. What a mess the Unified spirit has created in man, in the realm of physical existence. I can only say that once you focus on truth and give up on life, the world and on the sense of God itself, on the other side of hell, when despair is just a distant mirage on the horizon, then you can feel the oneness in a very strong format. I wouldn't recommend this as a path to anyone though, and there are many other ways to experience this that are less difficult. Get away from the cities. Go to nature. Get away from all city lights where you can fully take in the beauty of the night sky and the stars. Use all natural methods to try and feel this oneness. The unnatural methods are ok to tide you over until you can get the reserves and time to experience these brief moments of oneness again. There are many other methods to feel this to some extent also. Laughter, love, music, etc. Jonathan Haidt mentions some in his book the Happiness Hypothesis. Jordan should focus on just looking for methods to have spiritual experiences. Give up all pharmaceutical methods to balance yourself. Go through the pain without them. Get away from cities. Best of luck to everyone.
I experienced that wild moment of being surrendered to God and being unafraid hiking in the mountains. There were lots of moments I threw myself into the moment I lost my fear of death.
It's a good thing that you are lonely or feel alone. Because that's a sign for you to improve yourself in all aspects and also your financial situation. You have nothing but time for yourself! Use it wisely.
Thriving whilst being alone is the best thing that ever happened to me. I am no longer susceptible to the sort of women who my ex wife was to me or so many ex abusive bosses.
Looking into the abyss until you see the light is a choice....if you only see darkness, you're looking to hard or you're not allowing the light to come in.....keep looking until you see the light. I totally agree with Jordan on that. Wisdom comes with experience and the older you get the more clarity comes to you. Hell might be just a mindset where we believe we are not worthy of heaven. 🤔 Good video thanks. 🙏 🤗
Hitting rock bottom/gazing into the pit is the only way, IMHO, to find out who you really are and what you are made of, we all have a choice when we are there, fight back and make positive decisions/changes, or dwell in the pit of and numb yourself with vice and self destruction (HELL)..
Gazing into the abyss would be like looking up at night. You see one star....then another appears and another. Then before you know it you see hundreds of stars
The truth always comes to light no matter how many betrayers are in the way - there’s always a paper trail and now everything is digital. I have no fear because now I’ve educated myself on the ways of the world and the ways of men…justice will prevail and times puts everything and everyone in their place. What is mine as the oldest will be mine regardless of whom is in the way. 😊
If you want be PM in his country this gentleman should have 3 hr interview with each candidate Future PM Pierre did good mature conversation with him. Was nice listening two smart men talk like adults about that awful country
@soloauditor Solo, me saying l'm dreading the death of the Doc ( of old age, in time) is just an old school ' figure of speech ' l picked up growing up to convey maybe the world could be worst off without him.
" Si tu regardes l'abîme assez longtemps tu vois la lumière, pas les ténèbres " que c'est vrai, absolument nécessaire d'être des DIGGERS ❤ Vous nous y aider Mr. J ! Tant de gens acceptent d'aller chez le proctologue mais ne se laissent pas sonder par l'Esprit-Saint....!
people do not get this concept ''spirit'' because they associate self with matter, they do believe that they are bodies-meat therefore they will die- dessove, rot away etc. religions teach and preach that we are SPIRITUAL ENTITIES yet they also believe and preach about death too... WE CANNOT BE BOTH AT THE SAME TIME. We are Spirits who accupie a meat body and move on into a different experience -life after this body expires ----kicks the bucket. We are Infinite.
I kept the glass to the black picture frames and reframed them into a similar design made from fence palings that were sheered down to a smaller size. The dimensions of the black frame were kept. I simply removed the black frame and replaced it with fence paling wood. Then I varnished or painted depending on the affect I desired. n.b., they're coming through the speakers on the pc as an overlay;) One of the Bond Directors visited the suburb in recent times; Ergo, it's probably one of their family;)
There's a big difference between WANTING to die, and feeling relief at the prospect of being dead. The person who wants to die has decided that it's not worth carrying their burden. The person who feels relief at the idea of being dead, but DOESN'T want to die, is continuing to strive because he believes that his burden matters.
Each and every moment is freedom to be, to be with life as it is.....to be with life "as it is". To be in that moment not wanting to change that moment. To Be......to be.... "being"......being is super to doing. To be..😊❤😊 Being....Being..❤
well, look at it this way, by listening to it you know what alone means because none of the above applies. By the way: we all have our own definitions what ALONE MEANS and we do not need to be thought or told this.
and you do, after all you are a SPIRITUAL ENTITY-BEING who never dies. Only matter dies- expires, dissolves , kicks a bucket, keel over, ruts away. A spiritual Entity is bodiless therefore can never dies since never born in the first place. mat
What made me realize that it was simply an audio overlay (recorded) at the very beginning before it commenced, an audio came as an overlay saying that it has nothing to do with me, and that of course, means that it does.
When I was turning 40, I suddenly became afraid of dying because of it was often mentioned in news, etc that men were susceptible to heart attacks starting at that age.. Now closing in on 80 I find it less frightening. In hind sight I think at 40 I had a lot more living to do so that caused my fear. Now my body is wearing down, a lot of family and friends have passed away and I am more at peace with my future related to death. I once had an elderly woman who reach the age of 100 yrs. Tell me she was ready to die. I asked her why. She indicated it was because all the people she knew including her children had passed away and she had nothing further to live for…I think that is the reality of life and death. I am reach that point myself.
48. Something I learned along the way. A few close calls in the military and in civilian life. I don't fear death. Sometimes I feel like I'm ready to go. At this age,all I want is peace. I don't know what it feels like. I still haven't found it.
OF COURSE I WANA BE ALONE IM MY SONS SHIELD I NEED TO WALK MY BURDEN OFF SO I CAN RAISE MY WINGS WHILST I FINISH MY BOOK THEN ILL BE WITH THE PEOPLE OF FAITH
I was trained to be a "people pleaser" right from childhood! "We brought you into this world in order to take care of us when we're old", my mother said. Well she robbed me of 20 years of my life later on when I was middle aged. Being self employed I was to " please people" if I did things cheap or worked for free! This is especially the case if you belong to some church group. They'll keep you busy and demand most of your spare time because all of a sudden the congregation's problems become your problem...especially if you have skills! Then a marriage or two comes along and you are fleesed 50% of you life savings, then old age comes along and you have an accident and if you were able to have all the "free time" in the world you wouldn't know what to do with them because you were never given the chance to have any time for yourself for the past 50+ years!
Wonder if its my only child-ness? Ive always loved being alone since i was little. I love just doing things and piddling around my house, solo. I have so much loving family but my alone time? Thats just as fufilling❤🎉
Well, you have to prepare for something to be alone. Or loneliness alone will drive anyone mad. You must dedicate yourself to the world's part you must fullfill.
prepare to be alone????? loneliness has a totally different meaning then being a loner! you have confusion about this. being a loner is not a state of madness, or sickness...
"I'm always more afraid of death than hell." - Jordan Peterson God's word says that hell is the 2nd death. The 1st death is of the flesh and the 2nd death is of your spirit. This is one reason why we must be born again.
The only way to combat the fear of death is to know where you are going after you die.And I know I will be in Heaven with my Lord.I have no fear of death, nor man and will live my days craving His love, guidance and peace. Man will take your peace...the Lord keeps me stable and strong.And able to give to others which brings happiness.If you know where you are going,( heaven) know whose you are(the Lord"s) .......living life with confidence and dieing with peace is what I forsee in my life.
I sense Jordan feels we in the west are about to go through a massive famine, perhaps even a planned catastrophe as what happened in soviet Russia or China....any one else getting that vibe? i am 62, had a stroke almost died...death does not fear me now, I am OK and given my sight issues and cognitive issues, I am ready to meet the Bardo once again....but I agree with Jordan, for me all I have left is a dogged dedication to be accurate in my speech...that may mean being truthful...I don't know but I strive for accuracy....Thank you for posting this!
I don't fear Death she is my closest companion. I fear being alone with no living relatives, no friends, no meaningful connections beyond my children. I have goals, I have projects I work on doing, these keep me busy but having no on to talk to but La Santa Muerte and my ancestors as I go about things, my mind does tent to get rather gloomy. It is strange but I love Death more than I love life. She won't let me leave yet though because she wants me to learn to love life first.
Please do not romanticise loneliness. It is not fear of oneself. It is not enjoying this or that. Do not escape to the generalisation. Have you ever been hugged or kissed by a good, understanding soul? Being alone can be alright with you but it is not per se. The preference does not affect the essence of the things. Your way of life just drives you to this romanticising.
WOW.... to you this what loneliness means.... But loneliness does not mean the same as being a LONER! There isn't any fear in the Loners universe- World! A loner is who knows who and what they are and they live with their best and worst because they have confronted self!
Those who cannot stay alone, who must have company, must belong, are the ones who are scared of their own thoughts, who cannot and never have confronted themselfs. To these person being alone is a punishment, suffering agony.
I can confirm that you can live alone if you had so many adventures, that by 40 years I left Europe and went to Africa. I was so exhausted, I had experienced so much in my 40 years, great, good, and bad. Mediocre, is what I am living now, but stable...
If the love of your life dies, it changes your fear of death. I will never be the same after my life partner of 55 years left before I did. There is nothing left to do.
Born 1957 and sometimes I want to die - but it is not real. If something is real is that I want to get rid of the old stuff. Leave old limitations that make me suffer and step in to new areas and a new time.
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Never ask someone to do something you wouldn't do yourself and you'll not be corrupted. Don't allow fear to dictate what you do, fear is the greatest sin against God as it shows him you have no faith in his power. You help so many sir, but who is there for you? I prayed for you while battling your addiction, I defended you against those who hurling their hypocritical slings and arrows at you. We may never meet face to face, but know there are regular people like myself that see the value you bring to the world and will protect that with fire if needed. God bless you and all of yours sir and thank you for the help I received from your wisdom.
Your a very interesting man who is obviously a deep thinker so Sir you would be a person I would go for a pint with and interesting conversation. I am 66 years old so a little older but love k look listening.
Really?? And you make how much money??
Yup. 45 here..had children young with an awful human. I love my children and I'm proud. But they're all still at home and all over 20 yo. I'm looking forward to having my own space. To just tidy after me. To do as I please. I can't wait x
I'm 43 I've spent my whole life around douchbags backstabbing completely gave my time to the wrong people. Had children with the wrong person. Being alone is honestly the most beautiful peaceful feeling I've ever had.
You just told my story. I'm a couple years younger but you just told my story...
I’m 33 years old and I figured it out at 20 years old. Fuck people, love yourself and do what you want
It's curious that so many more younger people are more aware sooner.
Maybe it's the Internet that's helped.
It's hard to gage when I was 20 Internet didn't exist.
But I can say that looking back on those years I wasn't aware at all.
I was floating around from one situation to the next.
Having such an awareness at an early age can be tough I think.
Becauee there's times now where Im so aware....I think so what now.
Cars don't interest me. Big fancy houses don't interest me.
When you pull away from material things and attachments you just think....so what now.
44 and same here ❤
Exact Same age here. Same
Deal, minus the kids.
Its been a rough first 6 months, learning to engage in life all over again from a fresh start, but the silence...its amazing.
It is better to be alone than in bad company.
I learned that in jail…
@@JohnMack-f3f good one. I learned the same living with my family!
I spend 95% of my time alone and I enjoy it. Sometimes though, I do wonder if I'm missing something.
I don't know. I have a family. But sometimes it feels like that would be better. I didn't think that when I was young but now. I'm not suicidal but if death came along tomorrow,that would be ok. I only would feel bad for the kids even though they are grown.
@@Rufio1975I know exactly how you feel
Me too
I was alone my entire life in my early 30’s i joined the fire service met 50 amazing men and women that would fight with me. It changed my life forever having no family to having 50 brothers and sisters. I thought I was an “introvert” there’s no such thing, humans are social beings and I wouldn’t trade this for anything.
@@ShawShank-kr9wqI can believe that. There are actually nice people out there who are worth being around, but I also think they are a minority.
To answer the original question. Yes yankeetango, you might be missing something. Don't close your "door". Live your life the way you like it, and if you stumble across a nice person, maybe stay a little longer to get to know him or her better.
My dad had no regrets - he lived his life fully - he always said “you can’t live forever” he died at 59 but he had really enjoyed his life & did exactly what he wanted to do.
May he rest in peace
Thanks for honoring freedom of speech.
When I believed in the existence of a god and that the god was watching me and judging my every thought and deed ... I never believed that I WAS "alone."
When I stopped believing in the existence of a god ... the thought of being alone ... resulted in me having a feeling of relief ... and ... comfort in my own company.
It was then that I realized that how I would treat others was my responsibility only ... and if I couldn't be as kind to others as each situation allowed ... I would be the one falling short of "my own mark."
I've had difficulties when dealing with people that disappointed me before and had lots of mood swings, but it becomes easier when I understand that good times are not owed to me by anyone and that I have to move towards making every moment enjoyable
Thank you dr Peterson
Youre welcome.
Man I’ve always had that same sentiment. “Idk if hell follows or it’s always here”. That makes so much sense to me. Thank you for all your work Dr. Peterson.
"Elvis became an Elvis impersonator by the time he died", dam, that hit hard... For those who have done the internal work required, time alone is a gift, and once appreciated, you are very careful about who you give it up for......
I’m 26 and married the wrong woman. This was such a blessing in disguise despite the extreme consequences that came as a result. I have never felt such tranquility in my adult years since the divorce.
I reconsidered who I allowed into my life and have absconded from every person who was a net negative to my mission and goals. Ive replaced them with likeminded people. I’ve built myself up so that I have the capability to increase my potential outreach but walk with a determined level of circumspection now.
Thank you Jordan Peterson for the wisdom you’ve spread throughout the years. Your words are actively changing lives.
love my own company, never lonely. feel most lonely surrounded by people, think im an outlier. actually do not care for most people.
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I get it. I sometimes get 'lonely' though, although it may just be boredom.
I’m trying to reach that state of mind like yours but sometimes it gives me anxiety and fear. I wish I could be like you!
I don’t like being with people, I love being with my animals, thats when I really appreciate how beautiful the world is and the power of love.
Wow, this conversation actually made me cry a bit. I think about death all the time too. I really love this man, how deep his thinking goes and how articulate his speaking is but he’s not afraid to say, I don’t know. That’s true wisdom in my book.
Why? I know the answer. It's because he's articulated. Why, when I speak of it that way, am I shunned and seen as morbid? I am on a mission to become more articulated so that I might be understood. Fiancee, children, and a big family. I shouldn't, but I feel so alone.
By looking around yourself and seeing- discovering the wonders of this universe its great beauty, its magical quality then you can live in bliss knowing there is much more to life then death!
It's sad, but I totally understand what this feels like. I am also ready to be done. Death does not bring me fear as much as the thoughts of living long into old age.
Agree
I be 85 in few months... old age itself is not an desirable state but has it good side. I am a total loner and this allows me to do what I love the most. LEARNING! Discovering the wanders and the magic in our universe which I was not aware when I was young. The world is filled with beauty.
God bless you Dr. Peterson- you are in my prayers❤
How about that! I have something in common with Dr Peterson! I am continually aware that death is my constant companion.
The Mystics have been teaching that long time ago... When you live with that type of thinking every second you are almost Awake!
death is not a companion but a state of mind. Human reality is made up from, made up by many many different considerations. for starter: we are conceived, then we born then we live- have alife, then we get old and we dies... OK... ALL THIS HAPPENS TO MATTER, only matter can be shaped and only form can live -- change over- reshape itself in its cycle of living: TIME SPAN
And only matter can dessove, die and be no more. WE ARE SPIRITUAL ENTITIES-BEINGS WE ARE NOT MADE OF ANYTHING THEREFORE WE CANNOT DIE. WE live, we occupies bodies but this do not makes us matter. SPIRIT MEANS JUST THAT A SPIRIT which has no shape or form. Spirit cannot die but we can experience how matter- bodies live and we have many considerations about what is life or death . We are what we believe in and nothing more. OUR OWN PRIVATE UNIVERSE IS AS BIG AS WHAT WE BELIEVE IN. No more and no less.
Beautiful and really intelligent questions. Maybe that's what Jordan needs most. More people like you in his life. That would make for a better life for all of us, because he certainly is a shapeshifter who isn't embarrassed by his opinions, even when they are maybe slightly wonky. We need people like the two of you. And don't ever succumb to hubris about yourselves - in the expanse of our Judeo-Christian civilisation you are significant, but not yet giants.
Loneliness has helped me become a businessman and writer etc but I long for companionship like the majority but its easy to say when you're not alone that being alone is key
That is great ...you should be very proud . .lots of us myself include process our lonliness in nagative ways through various addictions booze, sex, drugs, food, gambling etc. If no one else tells you this today there is one person here battling his own form of lonliness in his early 50s that is super proud of you for facing yours the right way. 👍👊💪
@johngallagher72 thank you so much for you're message I pray in jesus mighty name you receive deliverance and clarity from the Lord.. I still got my own personal battles but I'm striving to connect with pur lord ans saviour jesus I hope you can find time and courage to read the bible brother amen thank you so much foe the message
I don't know who said I refer back to this all the time, I'm often alone but I'm never lonely .
then you are not a true loner in the first place. Go solve your problem by moving back into the group.
@@soloauditor for many the group is where the problem originates .
I am exhausted. Trusting Jesus brings me peace. Now to rid myself of the trauma of life…
Life is about surviving, not winning.
@@JohnMack-f3fI love this comment and so true, “happiness” and “success” are so fleeting and false aspirations
@@williamzirpoli6914 it took fifty years for me to accept that. I suffered from needs, wants and longings for my whole adult life.
@@JohnMack-f3f Then the question arises. Is life worth living given the amount of suffering associated with a human life?
Even if one is the nicest person on earth and a vegetarian, there will always be more suffering than joy. (see: Arthur Schopenhauer)
I see life as the "original curse" that threw us out of "paradise" and the only way out of this path of suffering is to break the vicious circle of procreation and death that we find ourselves in.
For this reason, I have not brought any children into this world. 😊
@@Ren-1979 we follow the same type of path. Buddhism teaches suffering is constant and it has to be relieved. It’s prayer that helps my suffering.
Mr. Peterson is obviously a brilliant (and most astonishingly) an honest, and candid man. His commentary rings like a church bell through a town. In my own time and wisdom, I have spoken (as best I could) this to people who have sought my counsel, "most things in this life stare you in the face; you just don't want to look at them."
Choosing to be alone, that most people can't handle, as it forces a person to rely only on themself. Which is very big self confidence thing, especially, when traveling abroad to destinations you have never been before!
A true loner is never forced to be a loner... be alone is not a feeling a sensation. it cannot be explained. Being alone is SIMPLY IS... A NATURAL STATE!
I love Jordan. It seems to me that his focus on his own mortality gives him that extra sensitivity and empathy that makes him so special.
In my mid 30s I was told I have Asperger's which was fashionable at the time. I have certainly spent most of my life alone. Being around people is hard work for me and never quite works - feels like banging my head against a brick wall, so nice when I stop. In my 20s I spent 6 months in Japan and discovered how useful it can be to be an outsider. You don't have to fit in. At 30 I emigrated and when people found me odd, they put it down to my being a foreigner. I had a career and now at 76 I have a comfortable retirement. My partner is the only person that I have discussed this with though she thinks I am just making excuses for being ornery. We are born and we die and filling in the time in between is called life... have to make the best of it.
Ornery?
This is so ironic coming across this podcast after hearing the news of the unfortunate death of Dr Michael Mosely whilst on holiday in Greece..He did die alone and his body wasn’t found for four days…this is a stark reminder that there often is no warning..and there you have it..distraught family and a big fan base from being a much loved celebrity on the BBC.
Embracing life's potential fully not only enriches our experiences but fortifies us against existential fears. 💡
Question for you. How would you know if you have fully embraced whatever that is. after all there is no limit what we as Spiritual beings are able to accomplish.
About being ,alone, !!! The truth is -- you are never alone -- God is always close !!
THANK YOU DEAR DR. For ALL your HELP and for LOVING HUMANS. 💗 🕊️ 🎁
The will to live.... not survive. The will to live will save millions and beyond.
If you're lonely while alone then you're in bad company !!
Wow that's profound
@@Vi7IsSandrait's not mine, sartre or camus I think ?!
That's Sadhguru.
If you're miserable when alone, then obviously you are in bad company.... This is the correct one.
Bad company here refers to one's own inner-self. We create misery and -ve thoughts ourselves in our own mind.
So to be in good company, in this context, you have to take charge of your mind.
As Sadhguru says your mind should not consume you, you should be able to use your mind for your well-being.
Some people are constantly aware of their mortality, and some people avoid any thoughts of it, go to great lengths to ignore it, and pretend it's never going to happen to them.
Until it’s over…
I have never had much of a fear of death. Even as a kid. Maybe that's because I grew up in a really harsh environment. My brother used to say I was like a lemming when I was a kid, doing so many crazy things, like climbing buildings and trees and falling out of them. I never broke any bones from these activities. I certainly got some scars though. I think both my parents could quite easily be classed as having a narcissistic personality disorder. They came from more isolated communities just mainly around relatives and just close family, so their behaviour was never called into check. I grew up in a large village/small town close to a major city. I was trying to explain from the age of 5 to my parents why they were never invited to the neighbours parties and I was. Most of the neighbours were afraid to be around them, especially my dad who was close to being a psychopath, prone to violence.
I think it's quite clear that Jordan has never had a spiritual experience and his soul is crying out for one. He has never felt a oneness with the Universe. Time doesn't matter. You don't have to always be working. You can live a balanced life. You will never escape the viciousness of others for too long but you can build out comfort zones for yourself in life between the harshness.
I agree with what he said though, the feeling of oneness is only on the other side of hell. You have to go through hell to experience it. You have to speak the truth when everyone else around you is lying, everyone else around you is going along with power. You don't have to constantly speak it though, as believe me, you will be murdered, but you have to focus on it at least within your own heart.
You will meet very few people who speak the truth in life. Almost everyone goes along with power most of the time and is caught up in a maelstrom of lies. They do not even know which way to turn to find the truth. Just constantly looking to follow the crowd so that they are not personally attacked.
I think though, when you see so much viciousness and pain, and people dishing those out doing well, it makes you question the nature of the Universe. What a mess the Unified spirit has created in man, in the realm of physical existence. I can only say that once you focus on truth and give up on life, the world and on the sense of God itself, on the other side of hell, when despair is just a distant mirage on the horizon, then you can feel the oneness in a very strong format. I wouldn't recommend this as a path to anyone though, and there are many other ways to experience this that are less difficult. Get away from the cities. Go to nature. Get away from all city lights where you can fully take in the beauty of the night sky and the stars. Use all natural methods to try and feel this oneness. The unnatural methods are ok to tide you over until you can get the reserves and time to experience these brief moments of oneness again. There are many other methods to feel this to some extent also. Laughter, love, music, etc. Jonathan Haidt mentions some in his book the Happiness Hypothesis.
Jordan should focus on just looking for methods to have spiritual experiences. Give up all pharmaceutical methods to balance yourself. Go through the pain without them. Get away from cities. Best of luck to everyone.
Keep it short
Wow wow something to think about. I for sure have . Live your day as it is your last. Feel blessed and pray always for the good
Nobody’s alone not even you.
I experienced that wild moment of being surrendered to God and being unafraid hiking in the mountains. There were lots of moments I threw myself into the moment I lost my fear of death.
It's a good thing that you are lonely or feel alone. Because that's a sign for you to improve yourself in all aspects and also your financial situation. You have nothing but time for yourself! Use it wisely.
great words, thanks for putting your thoughts to words
Thriving whilst being alone is the best thing that ever happened to me. I am no longer susceptible to the sort of women who my ex wife was to me or so many ex abusive bosses.
I am 40 and i feel younger than i did at 30... once more into the breach
Looking into the abyss until you see the light is a choice....if you only see darkness, you're looking to hard or you're not allowing the light to come in.....keep looking until you see the light. I totally agree with Jordan on that. Wisdom comes with experience and the older you get the more clarity comes to you. Hell might be just a mindset where we believe we are not worthy of heaven. 🤔 Good video thanks. 🙏 🤗
Hitting rock bottom/gazing into the pit is the only way, IMHO, to find out who you really are and what you are made of, we all have a choice when we are there, fight back and make positive decisions/changes, or dwell in the pit of and numb yourself with vice and self destruction (HELL)..
Great discussion! I liked it a lot.
Gazing into the abyss would be like looking up at night. You see one star....then another appears and another.
Then before you know it you see hundreds of stars
❤ I like it
'You're more likely to die terribly if you live in a manner that brings you to hell'. (JP)
All the time. True.
The truth always comes to light no matter how many betrayers are in the way - there’s always a paper trail and now everything is digital. I have no fear because now I’ve educated myself on the ways of the world and the ways of men…justice will prevail and times puts everything and everyone in their place. What is mine as the oldest will be mine regardless of whom is in the way. 😊
If you want be PM in his country this gentleman should have 3 hr interview with each candidate
Future PM Pierre did good mature conversation with him. Was nice listening two smart men talk like adults about that awful country
BRING IT ON!
Push came to shove, and I found out.
I keep on dreading the death of Dr Jordon Peterson, we are so lucky to witness a living legend ❤❤❤
I was too but realizing he is only 55, gives me great hope that we will have him another 50 years❣️
Have faith.
@@kellycuckoo3143 Yes - he's younger than I thought. May he have many more years - and may they be joyful ones.
that is negative thinking.... no ok. you want us to believe you care by posting something like this.
@soloauditor Solo, me saying l'm dreading the death of the Doc ( of old age, in time) is just an old school ' figure of speech ' l picked up growing up to convey maybe the world could be worst off without him.
Wow it would be a relief indeed
" Si tu regardes l'abîme assez longtemps tu vois la lumière, pas les ténèbres " que c'est vrai, absolument nécessaire d'être des DIGGERS ❤ Vous nous y aider Mr. J ! Tant de gens acceptent d'aller chez le proctologue mais ne se laissent pas sonder par l'Esprit-Saint....!
I trust in the promise of Jesus so I’m never alone.
I think he means physically alone, not spiritually
I don't think I've ever seen a more highly strung person than J. Peterson...
Perhaps it’s just extreme empathy, and compassion.
And extreme intellect
Aloness and loneliness dìffirent 😊
I made it all wored for me ❤😊🎉
I will life long and happy life 😊
I’m lucky I like being alone, fortunately I’ve never felt lonely.
a true loner is never lonely... To us this concept does not exists.
Jordan, I SO ADORE YOU.! How open and honest you are …sincere in “Pursuing HEAVEN”
I believe HE LOVES US SO MUCH HE KEEPS AFTER US..
💗🎁🔥❤️🕊️😘
I ❤ being alone. People are exhausting. I have zero fear of death. I had a near death experience. It was peace. Death is nothing to fear.
Interesting. Deep.
I am alone but I’m not lonely ❤
All Anger stems from loss...find what you lost and discover the root of your Anger...Toa de Ching
There is NO death. The soul lives forever. People that are afraid of it are slaves.
people do not get this concept ''spirit'' because they associate self with matter, they do believe that they are bodies-meat therefore they will die- dessove, rot away etc. religions teach and preach that we are SPIRITUAL ENTITIES yet they also believe and preach about death too... WE CANNOT BE BOTH AT THE SAME TIME. We are Spirits who accupie a meat body and move on into a different experience -life after this body expires ----kicks the bucket. We are Infinite.
Lex Fridman has the best podcasts!
Blessings 🙏✝️
“If”, “maybe”
I am not concerned about dying, it’s how I might die that is the worry. Lol.
I kept the glass to the black picture frames and reframed them into a similar design made from fence palings that were sheered down to a smaller size. The dimensions of the black frame were kept. I simply removed the black frame and replaced it with fence paling wood. Then I varnished or painted depending on the affect I desired. n.b., they're coming through the speakers on the pc as an overlay;)
One of the Bond Directors visited the suburb in recent times; Ergo, it's probably one of their family;)
There's a big difference between WANTING to die, and feeling relief at the prospect of being dead.
The person who wants to die has decided that it's not worth carrying their burden.
The person who feels relief at the idea of being dead, but DOESN'T want to die, is continuing to strive because he believes that his burden matters.
Each and every moment is freedom to be, to be with life as it is.....to be with life "as it is". To be in that moment not wanting to change that moment. To Be......to be.... "being"......being is super to doing. To be..😊❤😊 Being....Being..❤
Who was the interviewer (towards the end)? I liked the way he created an open spaciousness for vulnerability.
the dullness of lex friedman is blinding
Great video, but don't know what it has to do with being alone.
well, look at it this way, by listening to it you know what alone means because none of the above applies. By the way: we all have our own definitions what ALONE MEANS and we do not need to be thought or told this.
I like how bold you are, but I don’t actually know you. I’ve been listening to your videos for years.
As a Christian I don't view death as death.
I've always wanted to live forever.
and you do, after all you are a SPIRITUAL ENTITY-BEING who never dies. Only matter dies- expires, dissolves , kicks a bucket, keel over, ruts away. A spiritual Entity is bodiless therefore can never dies since never born in the first place. mat
Wow!
What made me realize that it was simply an audio overlay (recorded) at the very beginning before it commenced, an audio came as an overlay saying that it has nothing to do with me, and that of course, means that it does.
When I was turning 40, I suddenly became afraid of dying because of it was often mentioned in news, etc that men were susceptible to heart attacks starting at that age.. Now closing in on 80 I find it less frightening. In hind sight I think at 40 I had a lot more living to do so that caused my fear. Now my body is wearing down, a lot of family and friends have passed away and I am more at peace with my future related to death. I once had an elderly woman who reach the age of 100 yrs. Tell me she was ready to die. I asked her why. She indicated it was because all the people she knew including her children had passed away and she had nothing further to live for…I think that is the reality of life and death. I am reach that point myself.
48. Something I learned along the way. A few close calls in the military and in civilian life. I don't fear death. Sometimes I feel like I'm ready to go. At this age,all I want is peace. I don't know what it feels like. I still haven't found it.
Please keep going, we all need your opinion.
I love Jordan Peterson, not in a shallow sense, I love him because I relate to him. Maybe kinship is a better way to express my feelings.
You'd turn to a tv channel and all you could hear was, "I am good. I am wonderful". This went on for months.
OF COURSE I WANA BE ALONE
IM MY SONS SHIELD
I NEED TO WALK MY BURDEN OFF
SO I CAN RAISE MY WINGS
WHILST I FINISH MY BOOK
THEN ILL BE WITH THE PEOPLE OF FAITH
I was trained to be a "people pleaser" right from childhood!
"We brought you into this world in order to take care of us when we're old", my mother said. Well she robbed me of 20 years of my life later on when I was middle aged. Being self employed I was to " please people" if I did things cheap or worked for free! This is especially the case if you belong to some church group. They'll keep you busy and demand most of your spare time because all of a sudden the congregation's problems become your problem...especially if you have skills!
Then a marriage or two comes along and you are fleesed 50% of you life savings, then old age comes along and you have an accident and if you were able to have all the "free time" in the world you wouldn't know what to do with them because you were never given the chance to have any time for yourself for the past 50+ years!
Erickson believed that if we live through the natural stages of the human life cycle we can then face an "active death". I agree.
"You're more likely to die horribly if you live a life that brings you to Hell." ❤ JP
Somebody did an audio overlay in Brisbane once and played their programs to the whole suburb
Wonder if its my only child-ness? Ive always loved being alone since i was little. I love just doing things and piddling around my house, solo. I have so much loving family but my alone time? Thats just as fufilling❤🎉
Well, you have to prepare for something to be alone. Or loneliness alone will drive anyone mad. You must dedicate yourself to the world's part you must fullfill.
prepare to be alone????? loneliness has a totally different meaning then being a loner! you have confusion about this. being a loner is not a state of madness, or sickness...
"I'm always more afraid of death than hell." - Jordan Peterson
God's word says that hell is the 2nd death. The 1st death is of the flesh and the 2nd death is of your spirit. This is one reason why we must be born again.
If we were all born again we would be standing on thousands of people 😂
Death is only a heartbeat away. However, we dont know when that might be.
8:21 I could not relate more
Someone had said I am not afraid of dying i just don’t want to be there when it happens.
I thought that was either Oscar Wilde or Noel Coward, but am persuaded by Google that it was Woody Allen.
The only way to combat the fear of death is to know where you are going after you die.And I know I will be in Heaven with my Lord.I have no fear of death, nor man and will live my days craving His love, guidance and peace. Man will take your peace...the Lord keeps me stable and strong.And able to give to others which brings happiness.If you know where you are going,( heaven) know whose you are(the Lord"s) .......living life with confidence and dieing with peace is what I forsee in my life.
I sense Jordan feels we in the west are about to go through a massive famine, perhaps even a planned catastrophe as what happened in soviet Russia or China....any one else getting that vibe? i am 62, had a stroke almost died...death does not fear me now, I am OK and given my sight issues and cognitive issues, I am ready to meet the Bardo once again....but I agree with Jordan, for me all I have left is a dogged dedication to be accurate in my speech...that may mean being truthful...I don't know but I strive for accuracy....Thank you for posting this!
I don't fear Death she is my closest companion. I fear being alone with no living relatives, no friends, no meaningful connections beyond my children. I have goals, I have projects I work on doing, these keep me busy but having no on to talk to but La Santa Muerte and my ancestors as I go about things, my mind does tent to get rather gloomy. It is strange but I love Death more than I love life. She won't let me leave yet though because she wants me to learn to love life first.
Loneliness is fear of oneself.
Solitude is enjoying who you are :)
Loneliness is the lack of meaningful kisses…
Please do not romanticise loneliness. It is not fear of oneself. It is not enjoying this or that. Do not escape to the generalisation. Have you ever been hugged or kissed by a good, understanding soul? Being alone can be alright with you but it is not per se. The preference does not affect the essence of the things. Your way of life just drives you to this romanticising.
WOW.... to you this what loneliness means.... But loneliness does not mean the same as being a LONER! There isn't any fear in the Loners universe- World! A loner is who knows who and what they are and they live with their best and worst because they have confronted self!
Those who cannot stay alone, who must have company, must belong, are the ones who are scared of their own thoughts, who cannot and never have confronted themselfs. To these person being alone is a punishment, suffering agony.
Afraid of death? Its gonna be like coming home, but you cant force it.
Life is a test of survival, not treasure.
I can confirm that you can live alone if you had so many adventures, that by 40 years I left Europe and went to Africa. I was so exhausted, I had experienced so much in my 40 years, great, good, and bad. Mediocre, is what I am living now, but stable...
If the love of your life dies, it changes your fear of death. I will never be the same after my life partner of 55 years left before I did. There is nothing left to do.
That's Lex Fridman with him. I like his style of podcast..
every prophet who came spent time alone when they received the revelations from God. Or missions.
We never had children and I can honestly say, my life is full. Knowing that Jesus is working for us and not against us helps with the loneliness ❤
My life continues…unending
Just in different phases
Born 1957 and sometimes I want to die - but it is not real. If something is real is that I want to get rid of the old stuff. Leave old limitations that make me suffer and step in to new areas and a new time.