When you get SICK around a narcissist
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 ก.ย. 2024
- Most narcissists absolutely hate it when you get sick. They cannot stand to take care of you because they feel like you are a burden in their lives and they hate it. You being sick becomes a big inconvenience to them.
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I slipped in the tub and broke my shoulder. He refused to take me to the emergency room for 12 hours. It was so painful and resulted in surgery. Four years later, I went to the emergency room by ambulance. My friends sat in a trailer next to the ER for 7 hours because of covid. My former husband never came. I was in ICU for 24 hours, due to extremely low sodium before he ever showed up.This condition was because I had diarrhea for 8 days, due to the stress of the relationship for 18 years. When he came after 24 hours of me being in ICU, he cussed me out for 5 minutes and left. My friends took care of me for 4 days. End of the story I finally realized who I was dealing with. I filed for divorce, have been living healthy and in peace for 2 years!
Wow!! What a disrespectful a-hole!! 😡 like, he had NO CARE in the world for you being in the hospital for crying out loud!! Smh!!! Thats so childish...let alone bitching you out and leaving..IN THE HOSPITAL!!! 😡😡 wow...slipping and falling and getting injured was not your fault...smh, he surely acted like you did it on purpose!! Thats SOO VERY EXTREMELY messed up in every which way!!! Glad to hear you're no longer living or dealing with that pos!! 👍😊😁😁 good for you for divorcing!! 😁👍 you definitely deserve peace!!! 😍😁
Omgoodness he cursed you out WHILE IN ICU!!! wow!!! So glad you filed for divorce! For him to do that screams mental help!!!
Absolutely true. Their extreme lack of empathy for sick people is common amongst people who have NPD.
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It was so hard when he blamed me every time our child was sick...and if i got sick he was so angry. Silent treatment. I would wake up wondering why he was so mad at me every day. Sometimes it was because he didn't like dinner the night before. I decided to divorce him. Love my freedom.
If you've seen through the narcissist but are still there then you are effectively already as sick as they are but yeah, they're mighty impatient with vulnerable persons, children, animals, plants, basically anyone or anything that cannot give them supply on tap.
Soo much yes! I fractured my spine when I was with my ex narc. It ended up ending my career. And omg the total lack of empathy! And irritation
I was constantly “sick” in my marriage with a narcissist. Funny thing is; I haven’t been sick since we split. 🤷♀️ He was bad for my health. 🤦♀️
Can you even imagine how my narc reacted when 3 months after getting married, I was diagnosed with a rare and aggressive disease that has no cure. There is a quota on how many times that I'm allowed to ask for help. And that number changes every day.
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My narcissist does it very simply. When I was sick he just went to his affair and left me alone with a high fever for several days. Once I had an infection and I was in real pain and I was crying and he said to me, sorry but it can't be that bad and then he went to sleep. A little later it turned out that I had the infections from him and his affair. I found the chat where she told him that she had an infection. After that there was no more physical contact from my side. He will catch more thinks at some point than an infection.
This was the biggest problem in my marriage, it slowly destroyed my health. I’ve been regaining my health over the last year. It was the most insane thing I’ve ever seen, I could NOT be sick, and that made me sick because I wasn’t allowed to rest. I couldn’t even rest after having babies.
I do recognize when he was sick he was the biggest baby ever !!! When I’ve been sick he would be absolutely mean !! I had never met anyone this mean before!!! I was sicker then a dog and he was yelling and screaming at me !! No one has ever treated me that ways
Ever !!!! He was putting pressure on me to do things for him when I was sick !!! He needed to be left alone when he was sick. I never even treated him like that ever !!! What a mean little shrimp !!! He screwed everything up on purpose !!!
Also I had made plans for this guy who does landscaping and helps do things for my dad that he can’t do anymore. He built the fence over there and mowed the grass. He’s a great guy so I paid him to love this antique Victorian love Seat to my place and he did. I couldn’t and believe this guy did this oh who I have been dating !!!!He said he can give me money for the chair but he can’t give me a ride over there !!! That was a very uncomfortable situation and mean thing to do it’s like he needs to keep score on everything!!! He was creating a huge problems for me !!! I said you know I need your help and you won’t help me out. He said your on my time the nerve of him !!’ I didn’t even know what to say other then he did this on purpose to be intentionally mean to me !!!! He wasn’t taking me over there ? Do you see he became unavailable I am sure he did it on purpose!!!! Who in the world would go that far to be petty about something absolutely ridiculous and petty !! I came to the conclusion he is just a very mean person to out me through such nonsense!!! Trying to make EVERYTHING hard on me on purpose!!! He was creating more problems and more drama. I said I made the plans and he said he wasn’t going to get involved with it !’ He said your on my time and those people are on his time. He said you will get over there earlier. I said I’m supposed to go over there at 5:00 not before that !!!! He wanted to be mean and humiliate me !!! What a messed up mess person he is !!!He went that far to be mean on purpose I mean who was this loser !!!’ I had to tell the people that he wouldn’t cooperate with the time I was supposed to be there at ❤. I said I am so sorry that I got here to early. She seemed concerned I said he lost control over me and he is trying to get it back !!!! How embarrassing for ME that I had to explain how he intentionally messed everything up !!’ I said I am sorry I said I didn’t know how u was getting over there. He put me in a bad situation on purpose so he could create drama and nonsense so he could be in control! I was shocked that he acted so mean to me that was the first time he needed to be so mean !’nn
I would have terrible cramps. Crying, can't walk etc. He would always get mad when I couldn't bare the pain. But when he got sick he was the biggest baby. Wanted to be catered too by any means
I could write a book on this subject. It is so true and completely bizarre.
Or when you are sick they act overly empathic and caring. Then when you are better throw it up in your face "All that they did for you when you were sick and you are unappreciative"
Thank you, Lee. Sometimes I start missing my narcissists and forget why I left them, then videos like this remind me. My narcissists were my parents. I wasn’t allowed to be sick or injured. When I was in the hospital after a car accident in high school, they were in the hospital “by my side”….. kicking the hospital bed at 2am bc ACTUAL QUOTE “if they don’t get to sleep neither do I.” Fun fact… I wasn’t even the driver in this accident, I was a passenger. I wasn’t allowed to get a drivers license…..To be clear, they were not just narcissists they were psychopaths. #notallnarcissists
This is so true!!! My soon to be ex-husband was awful every time I was sick, or our daughter was sick. The worst time was when I was in labor with our daughter. He tried telling me I wasn't in labor and refused to call an ambulance because he didn't want to get stuck at a hospital. So I had to walk to a neighbor while he chose to take a shower to see if she could take us and put her bike rack on her car (so he wouldn't be stuck). He wouldn't let me go in an ambulance because then he wouldn't have a way to get toe. (He destroyed 4 of my cars, so I didn't have a car at that time). We got to the hospital, and I was rushed upstairs. When he finally came to my room, he refused to even look at me or be supportive because a $5.00 piece broke off the bike I bought him. I went through contractions while he bitched at me and then eventually fell asleep. When they had to do an emergency c-section, the nurses tried to wake him several times. After she was born and was brought to me in the recovery room, he disappeared for the rest of the day. I had pre-eclampsia and they had to give me magnesium. The doctors and nurses told him he had to stay to help with our daughter because I would be extremely weak. He threw a complete fit because he wanted to go out and smoke instead of helping take care of our newborn... the nurses eventually just told him to go, and a nurse stayed in the room with me to help. It just gets worse as time goes on. He was abusive as well, which made everything a million times worse. I finally broke free and filed for divorce. My daughter and I are over 2,000 miles away from him. But he still continues to try and reach out. I wish he would just leave me alone.
I was going through bad morning sickness he told me “get rid of it. I’m sick of seeing you crying”
@lindseycruz813 wow.. that's ridiculous!! Morning sickness you can't help or control...anybody knows their own body...
Speaking from bitter personal experience, I know beyond any shadow of any doubt that sickness (or any other misfortune) will NEVER elicit empathy from a narcissist; in all probability, the narcissist might gloat over your misery or accuse you of being troublesome! Narcissists are evil to the core as far as deficiency in compassion and empathy is concerned.
This is so true! I used to wonder how he could be SO MEAN whenever I was hurt or sick, to the point I would fake being ok just not to deal with his rudeness and passive aggressive comments about why I’m feeling how I’m feeling. One time I was 28 weeks pregnant and blacked out while we were in line at a buffet (mind you I had food poisoning the night before and vomited/had diarrhea all the night before) and this man scolded me in front of everyone! For passing out!! I got my bearings, walked to my car calmly, and cussed him A to Z once we were in the car
Best believe you better stop the world for them when they get sick. 🤦♀️
That's absolutely true. When I told my ex that I needed gallbladder surgery. He promised me that he would be there when I had the surgery. He was nowhere to be found. 😢😢😢
THIS IS CRAZY! I have an incredibly rare disease that only 60,000 people roughly have and was diagnosed in the fall and he hasn’t been more cold or unhelpful!
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Wow, I was in a 5 year relationship with a narcissist
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" Spent twenty years one night ".
I was choking on a piece of chicken from dinner that him and I had got and brought back to the house to eat I was literally choking he was maybe a foot away from me and just ignored it like it wasn't even happening
Oh my goodness
Yeah he just sat there n acted like it wasnt happening. @MentalHealness
Sad, but true.
That's how my mother sister and brothers are they're selfish, inconsiderate they have bullied, harassed, threatened, verbally abused me and this has been going on for years. I can't get sick or hurt myself sometimes when I do get sick or hurt I don't tell them because of the attack I will get.
He would always get mad & cause drama if the kids & I were sick or hurt. He actually dragged my middle school son out of bed sick & said if he had to work sick my son had to go to school. He always abandoned us. Same as when I got pregnant.
My own roommate actually said i am been lying about being injured when he seen me fall and he never cared we just went back to the apartment afterwards and knewn I had been living with this injury since November 2018, never wanted to take me to the hospital.
This is exactly what happened to me. When I called her to come to the emergency because I was sick. She treated me like I stole something from her & didn’t even wait around after I got out. She talked to the ER Dr like she didn’t want to know anything. And that’s when I got rid of her ass!! 💯. It’s a true saying “you don’t know people till you get sick”.
You want to see a Narc leave you alone become sick😢
This is what ended it all for me. The way I was treated when I almost broke my back. Heartless
My narcissistic husband only gets in gear when I am really sick. He put it together when I had a bowel obstruction and had major surgery but was ready for me to be normal capacity after a week
Your are right Lee they show no sympathy & are cold hearted individuals. I went into hospital twice for surgery & not once he was there supporting me not even a message to ask how I'm doing they can be so cruel & evil. He ghosted me at the time I went in.
My brother broke his leg when he was a little younger than 10 yrs old. He was riding his bike and went off a very small homemade ramp wrong and hit a tree. My stepmother refused to take him to the hospital and said he was fine for 2 weeks until the fracture finally gave under his weight and he fell down the stairs. She made him walk on his leg and shamed him for complaining about the pain before and after he was put in a cast, because she had told him not to use the ramp while she was inside. Just one of the many times she displayed this behavior 😞
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They wont leave you alone they keep bugging you
Im sorry ti hear that. I've developed an anxiety around this i see the people sorrounding me, awknowledge that, and suddendly got anxious. I think my only choice is to cut with those perssons, but I have no one and since have'nt enouth money I lost therapy, so I can't talk abouth it. Man this sucks. I can't even express how much it hurts me, and really nobody cares, as you say, I'm a burden, or I am alone. My choice, narcissist says. "no one in the world can do anything"
I think we lost what made us human, we are here to help precissely with this issues, cause "people are empathic".
But the reality in this world it's that everybody is alone.
My narcissist was useless when I was sick. Actually, since we divorced 17 years ago, I haven't been sick. He was making me sick and he didn't help me, even though he was causing it.
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They dont care at all when they hit you and frighten you that makes them fueled and strong especially when they hit as hard and make you injured and bleed they will leave you and once they are called they ghost you scared and hiding and affraid to face consequences.
Thanks for sharing this
I've found that men in general, for the most part, absolutely hate being forced into a caregiver role. They hate when their wives/girlfriends give birth and they have to make dinner for a week or whatever. In my life experience, men who can actually step up to the plate and help out are the exception to the rule.
He literarly became Michael from Two and half men every damn time I got sick.I was in a Hospital for a week due to a Chocolate cyst burst open,had to have a surgery to clean out my whole abdomen area.He came to visit me once or twice.They discharged me on my birthdate.He never even both me a birthday present,til I got home in the evening,then he went out with a friend in a hurry to a local store at 10 pm to get me a store brand smal cake and a facial night cream to help me with my fine lines...😅Geee I was so grateful and speachles I forgot to Thank him in my surprised moment.Then he got annoyed with me and gave me a silent treatment for 3 days.
WHEW! The FACTS you outlined in this video are priceless
Ohhhhhh yes!I shattered my kneecap had to have emergency surgery and the recovery process was 8 months .He was nowhere around it was way too inconvenient for him and stumped his "good" times.Saw the true colors come through.Well he can go be inconvenient with someone else!BYE BYE BYE !!!
I've completely lost my sanity.and it's making me miserable.i really need help.
Your narc will have been so lovely to you at the start of your relationship (love bombing). You as the victim will keep searching for that “perfect” partner just as a heroin addict keeps chasing the high they had with their first fix of heroin. But the perfect partner never, ever shows up again. All you’ll get is your character assassinated and your confidence and happiness wrecked. I want to help you as I’m in the same situation myself and I know the only way out is to maintain a no-contact policy with your partner. I know it’s hard if you love them - in reality it’s the fake persona they showed you at the start of the relationship that you love, not the actual narc. If your partner had shown their true colours right from the beginning you would have said “bye bye, go find another victim”. But you were drawn in by false love and affection the memory of which is hard to shake off. But you can do it - I can do it. You and me can both leave our narcissistic partner and find happiness again. Good luck! xxx
@@HilaryYorkshire I left my job and move to another country with him where he was.we live together,I don't have a job yet.still searching.
He's the only one I have here.
Sad but true, I'm stuck at the moment
After listening to most of your episode,I feel safe knowing it's not something I'm doing wrong.i Bless God because it's still an engagement and not marriage.
I have completely become a different version of me just within 3months.i just pray God give me a job so I can face my life in this strange country he brought me to.
I pray God shows me mercy for going against his command.
I can't even explain how I got into premarital sex.
God please show me mercy,I know I'm filthy but I still trust you for mercy 😢😢
I’m 5 months pregnant I can count how many times I’ve actually seen him in person
I break up with him he begs and promise to do better then nothing
He’s always the busiest the one more tired than me
back in the day let be honest we were heavy on comet, bleach and so forth to clean. i was extremely sick and pregnant with our 3rd baby, he didn’t care he told me to clean anyway he wasn’t doing it
OMG he would cry why wouldn’t u tell me u was sick and stay gone… but wanted me stuck to his side if he was sick…
I was on our 3rd baby having painful cramps, he didn’t take me to the hospital I went and stayed at the hospital alone.
Thats fuels their ego and once they hit you they are shocked of their doing then blame you why they do that actions and it sucks once they hit you thats their true colors thats the memories i will never forget they wont help you intime emergency causing death already then when they are called up they ghost you or frightened and scared thats why my actions until now serves my justice never settle for less dont let the past in forgive and move on you cant change them just let them healed and prayers for them to see the and embrace the light.
Our son almost died due to a ruptured appendix and my ex acted like a baby and threw a fit because he had to stay with his child so I could go home and shower after being at the hospital 24/7. I started filming him when he acted this way.
I could NEVER be sick because I was faking or just lazy.
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Why did they wanted me? They knew I was disabled. It's noises and breathing
He would be nice for a day. Then sneak off to "work"...no matter what is was or what shape I was in.
When I had my surgery. My husband separated from each other. I was out of work for 4 weeks.he never cook,clean or do laundry. I had to crawl out of bed to cook,clean etc.and waited hand and foot on him.I had stitches and had to becareful not to tare my stitches open.
When I had COVID and need to go to the hospital he was all to accommodating to take me to the hospital so I will be out of the house and out from under his ass. He never called to check up on me how I was do. BUT when it came time after 5 days to be discharged and I told him my daughter will pick me up he tripped all over himself and INSISTED he come to get me from the hospital! 😅
I almost passed out 2days ago and this man was just there manipulating his phone.
Thank God for my neighbors who stood by me althrough.
When I told him I wasn't feeling well,he asked me to go get something to help myself and he was so bittered as usual.
I still can't stop thanking God for my neighbors.😢😢😢
It's so painful God!!!
After leaving my job and relocating to this country with this man,God please help me 😢😢😢
I can't even explain the bedroom story and others,😢😢
Same goes for pregnancy..
@@Indigazure ABSOLUTELY! I had hyperemesis gravidarum… he did not care.
He came over got too drunk and I took care of him the next night I got too drunk and got sick and he just looked at me and asked what's wrong with you.
I got covid and I was sooooo sick for 10 days. I had been unable to get up from the fever and difficulty breathing, and every day my husband would come into the bedroom and ask what’s for supper for him and the kids. Mind you our kids were 16 and 18, and he was 61. FFS!!!! Grow up and make them KD!!! I was inconveniencing him 🤬 I divorced his ass!
Haha i had foot surgery and i "dont remember" what happened but i was in a cast and had to get to the bathroom and im pretty sure he pushed me down and i had to crawl. He put me through so much during that time i contemplated my life. Just wanna say its been a year and 2 months that i moved away from him! I have a fiancée who liatens to my stories and is not him...life is good!
I haven't really gotten sick but when I was pregnant with his kid and I felt like I needed him for support I felt abandoned. I asked him to take me to the er when I felt like something was wrong and he didn't take me I had to ask my brother. But we saw him outside his house smoking when we passed by his house. I can feel how angry my brother was I felt so disappointed in myself. Then when I got an abortion he made every excuse not to take me so i had to ask my brother again, i felt so alone. What happens when they get sick like with a horrible disease?
Soooo I’m hearing that maybe since I have 2 different disabilities that are progressive and untreatable.
That, it’s possible I can’t save this relationship or it’ll end up being too late for me
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