Gift Opens Up About Her Past! Madrid Spain 🇪🇸

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  • While Gift and I are vacationing in Madrid Spain, Gift opens up for the first time since we been together, about her past.
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  • @oncall21
    @oncall21 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +52

    I read the title and thought Gift used to be a Spanish bull fighter! Thank you Gift for being so open about your painful past. You deserve the happiness that you and Joe share. You are a fantastic couple and I wish you every happiness in the future together. 🙏

    • @thaigirlgiftforeignerjoe7774
      @thaigirlgiftforeignerjoe7774  27 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Thank you 🙏 so much ka.

    • @geobrad6377
      @geobrad6377 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Joe & Gift, very special video, thank you Gift for sharing, blessings to you both 🙏

  • @AintNecessarilySo69
    @AintNecessarilySo69 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +18

    Gift is a perfect example of a South East Asian true and Special Lady. Warm, giving, kind, loyal, deep, honest and hard working! Family oriented and also always hungry. Beautiful story Gift. Well done Joe for being a good man and taking care of your Special Lady. Lovely couple. ♥

  • @user-vf8oj5gc2x
    @user-vf8oj5gc2x 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +38

    I love Gift even more after sharing her story. Amazing woman Joe. Protect her. Glad you’re in her life now!

    • @thaigirlgiftforeignerjoe7774
      @thaigirlgiftforeignerjoe7774  27 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you 🙏 so much ka.

    • @intsccents
      @intsccents 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I could not have said it better ! im so happy for both of them but even more so Gift...

  • @stephenhayes1660
    @stephenhayes1660 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +20

    This is the best vlog you have made , I could always see Gift was a good kind and lovely lady and after hearing her life story you can see how strong and caring she really is and her integrity shines through with every word . Joe you are one lucky guy

  • @chrisoutdoors
    @chrisoutdoors 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +33

    Gift, you are so strong, resilient and compassionate, with a heart of gold. We knew this already of course, and your story in today's video, as sad as it is, really shows what a wonderful human being you are.

  • @nathandavid2431
    @nathandavid2431 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +18

    This has to be close to the top of your videos Joe and Gift. Thanks for sharing with all us strangers!! ❤

  • @tommyj3071
    @tommyj3071 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

    Thank you Gift - many of us have much respect for you and with this story I have even more !

  • @fisherlord2438
    @fisherlord2438 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

    Great story! Brought me to tears on Gift’s loss. Glad Destiny brought you two together! ❤

  • @simonbolivar2092
    @simonbolivar2092 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    I really enjoyed this video.
    I don't know if you realize Joe how significant it was that Gift spoke that much about her past. That was almost shocking. Many Thai women never share that much about their past. I am very happy for you guys. I am going to show this video to my wife and see if she will share. Thankyou again.

  • @GatorJake
    @GatorJake 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    Gift truly lives up to her name -- such a gift she is. Phitsanulok is a place where angels are born. I've been married to a P-loke angel for 27 years now. Thank you, Gift for opening up and giving a glimpse into your past. In my humble opinion, your meeting was not as much about fate as it was divine intervention. It wasn't random, it was in the life plan for both of you. Enjoy the rest of this EPIC trip. The streets of Madrid look spotless. Mrs. Jake and I may need to put that on a list. Cheers, brother.

  • @riccholland585
    @riccholland585 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Wow, it's beautiful to see Gift soo natural and open at close-up. Now you see how beautiful Gift is, heart and soul...

  • @ZeekmanEats
    @ZeekmanEats 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    What a story...tears in my eyes...Congrats on experiencing a beautiful life!

  • @craigh714
    @craigh714 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    WE LOVE YOU GIFT!!!!!! Such a strong and special lady!

  • @noyesv1
    @noyesv1 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    So touching Gift sharing her story. Much happiness to you both🥰

  • @robertjean659
    @robertjean659 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Thanks for sharing this with us Gift and Joe. Gift is such a sweetheart. Enjoy the rest of your holiday. 🇦🇺🇦🇺😀😀

  • @chrisoutdoors
    @chrisoutdoors 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    Absolutely incredible architecture. No matter which way you have your camera pointed, it looks like you're walking straight into a painting.

  • @paulamitchell3854
    @paulamitchell3854 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Thank you for sharing your life story with us Gift. You are a very strong , beautiful woman. And fate did bring the two of you together. May you have joy and love all the days of your lives.

  • @VikingPreparedness
    @VikingPreparedness 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Really nice "getting to know" Gift better. Excellent vid.

  • @crystalpersuasion148
    @crystalpersuasion148 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Love you Gift. Hugs to you. You are so sweet. Brought tears to my eyes the way you remember your dad❤️

  • @user-dt1bb7mt9z
    @user-dt1bb7mt9z 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    Gift, you are a very strong woman. After all you went through with your father, you still had much love for him.

  • @gideonrubina5188
    @gideonrubina5188 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    Thank you for sharing your story with us 🎉❤😊

  • @cjinparadise
    @cjinparadise 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    You know this Joe nobody has to tell you. You have a Gem that shines so bright in your life a wonderful lady. Happy and live life.

  • @darylm3126
    @darylm3126 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    That was really nice of the both of you sharing heart felt times. Thank you.

  • @Tlo392
    @Tlo392 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Joe ,you take good care of this girl ,she is truly deserving and uniquely special !

  • @davidmc2326
    @davidmc2326 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Please thank Gift from my wife, Kob and me. Her talking about her dad and her determination to do the right thing
    Was a great testimony. Fate, God, Karma, whatever, we are both glad that you two have met and are together. Thank you for sharing, this was perhaps the best video from you two. Be careful of Gypsy pickpockets in Madrid!

  • @popscouk
    @popscouk 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Truely a Gift that keeps on giving.

  • @dennisgonya4500
    @dennisgonya4500 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    The time Gift slept on the couch when you were in the hospital is so touching and then when you both first went on a trip together was the start of the trip you both are on now. Your videos are so heart warming and I hope to go to Thailand with my wife and meet both of you. I think about the two situation above quite often. I know Gift and my wife would hit it off or more like right out of the ball park. Via con Dios.

  • @davidroach4370
    @davidroach4370 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Gift you brought tears to my eyes with your story...you now have a good man in Joe looking after you peace and love to you both ❤️🙏👍

  • @timothyrill3825
    @timothyrill3825 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Wow....Gift, you are the best! Joe....you have a good wife and you are not bad yourself. This is a true love story! Spain, as the other countries in Europe have beautiful architecture. The food and baked goods look very good and for you two , being able to experience it is priceless. Thank for sharing....we love you two !❤

  • @chill8936
    @chill8936 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Thank you for sharing and trusting us.

  • @Walt-ck5qn
    @Walt-ck5qn 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Really enjoy the vintage style of the buildings and streets. Nice to maintain and preserve the past for future generations. True craftsmen and artisans; hard to imagine anyone trying to replicate or duplicate such wondrous beauty. Interesting sad story of her childhood and history with her father. What you said is so true Joe, words to live by! My long -standing sentiments too. Joe, you and Gift are so lucky to have each other. I love that Gift was comfortable enough and love you to the point of sharing "her" story. Being Asian myself, I believe all that Gift has told you! A true love story! Even with Gift's own words, the tale was so endearing and romantic. I was tearing up myself!

  • @carleto9597
    @carleto9597 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    The Paella rice dish looked great, you ordered the real deal dish there. Well it must have been hard for Gift to open up to tell everyone of her past and what happened back then. So tells you and everyone what a kind and strong person Gift is. So you Joe know, you got a keeper there, Gift. Enjoy Madrid you two and take care.

  • @mallya9424
    @mallya9424 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Hello Joe and Gift glad you guys are enjoying your Europe trip so are we after listening to Gift stories i understand even more now how strong her family are together thank you for sharing your most heartfelt experience with us it’s such a kind caring loving thing to do for our family no matter what

  • @rolfts5762
    @rolfts5762 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Thanks for sharing Gift(&Joe) 💚 ,, Enjoy your trip(s)

  • @formica.
    @formica. 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I don't think I ever heard Gift speak before. This needs to be a new feature! It was a sad and touching story, thank you for sharing, I see so much support for you in the comments. And Madrid is so beautiful, I had no idea, that you for sharing your trip. too, Joe and Gift.

  • @HNolte3470
    @HNolte3470 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    A touching story. Life can be hard - we all know that and some of us have experienced it. Your advice "We do not know what tomorrow will bring..." is very true. Thank you for sharing.

  • @leshogg217
    @leshogg217 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Hmmmm my eyes watered up watching this one, you got a good lady there mate that is for sure.

  • @americaninthailand8760
    @americaninthailand8760 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Thanks for sharing this. Time to go hug my wife now....

  • @jennymark7403
    @jennymark7403 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Wow that was so hard for gift, I really felt it , Joe she is amazing, and with you both together life will be beautifull, she's grown up and changed alot from your first video, yes we have followed you that long, were so happy she found you and you her, life long romance and love bless you both, forever we are so happy to follow your channels the first and second one , thank you for the adventures and being part of your lives . ❤

  • @kennybourke5512
    @kennybourke5512 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    You have a good girl there Joe. Very personal what gift said on camera. Enjoy the rest of your trip 👍👍🙏

  • @bradleylocke4336
    @bradleylocke4336 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    We all carry our own scars as we pass through this life Gift,you carry yours beautifully,all the best going forward to you and Joe.

  • @user-ic4zm3gt9x
    @user-ic4zm3gt9x 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I have a Thai wife mate, she to is a wonderful person as is Gift.

  • @junebarnick3089
    @junebarnick3089 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Oh my Gift had me crying 😢 what a lovely lady Gift ❤ so happy she met you Joe ❤ FATE

  • @justinmcintosh6554
    @justinmcintosh6554 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Very touching story. It only makes me respect Gift more. I am so happy to see how her life has turned out with you Joe.

  • @MisterMitchMM
    @MisterMitchMM 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Love and miss you both brother 💝🙏🙏🙏

  • @trishandrews2773
    @trishandrews2773 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    What a beautiful soul is Gift. She deserves to be spoilt you are such a lovely couple. You came into her life at the right time Joe 🌹

  • @s.c.6367
    @s.c.6367 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you for sharing. Blessings to you there's hope for us all. 🙏🏻😃

  • @joeshmooo5327
    @joeshmooo5327 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thanks for sharing Gift. Your english is fantastic. Love me some Aum!

  • @michaelkoerner3921
    @michaelkoerner3921 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wonderful Joe! Gift you are very brave for sharing. Thank You.

  • @kanda28
    @kanda28 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you, Tiger Gift and Joe, for sharing your incredible journey. Tiger Gift, your story about reuniting with your father and caring for him in his final days was deeply moving. Your strength and resilience are truly inspiring. Joe, you are lucky to have such a strong and compassionate partner-it's clear you two are meant to be together.
    I also loved seeing the beautiful architecture of Madrid, Spain, in your video. The city's rich history and stunning buildings were amazing. Thank you for opening up your lives and sharing these moments with us. You're both incredible!

  • @Bubba73wjh
    @Bubba73wjh 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you Gift for sharing this with us

  • @blackcoffeeclub
    @blackcoffeeclub 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Touching video you two. I just lost my dad. Brought tears to my eyes thinking about him while listening to Gift's story. We never forget. Big hugs.

  • @buddeek8044
    @buddeek8044 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you for sharing Gift and Joe! Sending my sympathies. I too have experienced the loss of parents. Dad in 2019, and my mom 2 days after mother's day last year. I understand the pain that you are enduring! 🙏🏿

  • @Richard-nj6kh
    @Richard-nj6kh 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Albeit sad, but still a very nice story, thank you for sharing. Cheers

  • @1Horst
    @1Horst 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Gift, you are a strong good woman. I have much respect for you and know what it feels like coming from a broken home.
    I'm happy that you talked about it to Joe and let us in on it too.
    I'm sure, faith and destiny brought you together.
    You're a great couple that is happy together.
    Thank you for your serce Joe and thank you Gift for sharing. You both have my respect.
    Continue on your journey and be happy together for many many years......
    ❤❤😊😊

  • @markfoley2220
    @markfoley2220 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    You are loved Gift. Thank you for sharing🙏🏼

  • @ewengillies9826
    @ewengillies9826 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Out of darkness comes light. Joe is the light of Gifts life there will be no more darkness. If you are a believer there's a higher deity that brought you together to share the greatest gift of all .. LOVE. No wonder Gift has such strong family ties. ATVB in whatever you do together always. Bushyboy Oz

  • @intsccents
    @intsccents 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Gifts life story is a story of forgiveness and it reminds all of us to be better people. Let your life with Joe be filled with happiness and joy and love you so deserve it...

  • @FOCUSonASIA13
    @FOCUSonASIA13 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Shows how caring Gift is, even after their father left them she and her sister still took care of him in the end

    • @intsccents
      @intsccents 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      That is truely forgivness and what the Thai call a kind heart....

  • @lescline2246
    @lescline2246 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thanks for sharing your story Gift..you did what you could and you are a compassionate person. Alcoholism is far too common still in Thailand and has ruined alot of relationships, good thing you have Joe as a rock you can't get much better than him. Enjoy your trip.

  • @genoeckley3442
    @genoeckley3442 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Joe, you've changed her life, not just this trip or others. In many ways, you were her gift for everything life had given her. You were her Knight in Shiny Armor. FATE indeed, destiny, meant to be. I was a dumb Marine I call it LOVE. Sukanya said, "See he's a good guy".
    By the way, I am glad the Paella was as good as it looked.

  • @mariettathornton5924
    @mariettathornton5924 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Awww- thanks for opening up & sharing your story with us Gift! On a good note, I think you & Joe were destined to meet 😊 Gotta love Madrid and thanks for posting your adventures with us:)

  • @marybuchanan1982
    @marybuchanan1982 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    What a perfect love story Thai Girl Gift shared with us subscribers there is no doubt she loves Foreigner Joe, so thank you for showing us all those beautiful buildings in Madrid. enjoyed this video immensely Thank you and please stay safe...

  • @gordonbchristensen8727
    @gordonbchristensen8727 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    That was very special, thank you.

  • @user-om1wr8jp7j
    @user-om1wr8jp7j 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Love watching your videos. It was fate that brought you both together. I too am a veteran (retired Navy) and now about to retire again as a DoD civilian. I've been watching your videos since you retired from DoD Joe. My wife is also Asian (Filipina) and I truly believe that it was fate when we found each other 40 years ago and are still together today. I couldn't imagine life without her. Anyway, thank you Gift for opening your past and sharing with us. Best wishes for you both for a long and happy life together!

  • @anniemanley5642
    @anniemanley5642 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thanks for your story Gift.xx

  • @paulscott3022
    @paulscott3022 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Joe you are lucky to have a lovely lady, Gifts story was very moving. I am not a believer in dragging skeletons out of the cupboard ( English saying ) but you must give her credit for telling you. No more questions move on mate! Remember we all have things in life if we had our time over again we would have done differently. Take both of you ❤️

  • @jim-uu2db
    @jim-uu2db 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Joe, God sends everyone an angel, yours was Gift and mine was my wife Linda 30 years ago.

  • @bellwoodmissouri9983
    @bellwoodmissouri9983 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    What a story by Gift! This is my second favorite video beside your military retirement ceremony. Can't believe that We have been watching you for 6 years! ❤

  • @colleenrodamer9497
    @colleenrodamer9497 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Gift is a great daughter many blessings from North Texas ❤

  • @PaulinAsia_
    @PaulinAsia_ 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you Gift for sharing your story. You are a wonderful daughter. You found a good guy in Joe. Madrid looks very nice.

  • @ceciliafransson4946
    @ceciliafransson4946 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Amazing Gift!

  • @billyjohnson9166
    @billyjohnson9166 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Beautiful architecture.

  • @richardbrighton3381
    @richardbrighton3381 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I made a comment on one of your earlier vlogs that Gift was a keeper and this just reinforces that thought! Lovely to hear Gifts story, as sad as it was, someone with a big heart. Lovely to see behind the sun glasses too ;-) - Enjoy your travels and stay safe 🙂

  • @harrywaterman4554
    @harrywaterman4554 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    WoW that was Beautiful Joe didn't ever let that angle get away from you keep her close and give her lots of love.

  • @Good2befrank
    @Good2befrank 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Truly an amazing women. Bless you Gift. ❤

  • @karenstokes1490
    @karenstokes1490 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you Gift for sharing. I believe in fate. Wishing you much happiness.

  • @AdamKidd1972
    @AdamKidd1972 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Holding unto anger is like drinking poison expecting the other person to die. I helped my wife Chatchada take care of her drunk brother until he past away 2022. I would not give him money but gave food and shelter near us. I did pay for his funeral to ease the burden of the family since he never married. My wife loved him remembering the man he once was. I know saying your last Farwell to someone you love is very hard beyond imagination. I am glad you both found each other creating a beautiful life together. Most Thai's have a beautiful loving heart always willing to help others in need. I am very thankful for being blessed in life with my wife.

  • @bigdaddyl-rob7445
    @bigdaddyl-rob7445 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you , Gift for opening up about your relationship with your father. i KNOW that YOU know Gift is a very special person, Joe! It's a privilege to see you both on this journey together!

  • @thomasr53
    @thomasr53 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    What a sad story about Gift's Dad, so nice that he had you girls there at the end, i'm sure he felt guilty of the past and loved you Gift. Never judge and be kind. It is fate that you and Joe are together and your Joe certainly takes care of you, as you do him. God bless

  • @lillianrosbottom7366
    @lillianrosbottom7366 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I think gift is lucky she met you. You a good man. You seem perfect together

  • @varparn
    @varparn 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Amazing Gift,iam happy people like her still exist❤❤❤

  • @paulbateson7882
    @paulbateson7882 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Interesting story of Gift's Father. Madrid Paella was very saap. I fly to Estepona, Spain next month. Estepona is about 50 minutes on drive from Malaga. The town is mostly Britons retired that live there.

  • @cdenver
    @cdenver 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you for your story. I've been watching you guys for two years now. Great people

  • @1NickyFan69
    @1NickyFan69 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Really enjoyed the video, confused about a few things but great video, thanks

  • @andy_oneness00
    @andy_oneness00 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thanks for sharing Gift!

  • @quentint8742
    @quentint8742 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I am so glad that the two of you found each other ❤. You make Gift very happy, and her you. Every time I hear her say my joe, my heart melts a little. I wish I was blessed like both of you

  • @RichLiberation
    @RichLiberation 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    ❤❤❤

  • @GM-tb2lu
    @GM-tb2lu 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Such a nice couple!

  • @staciaohira
    @staciaohira 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Blessings to Gift what a wonderful powerful soul she has

  • @phillipsharpe6459
    @phillipsharpe6459 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Obviously a very painful memory, but gift is a incredibly strong woman, joe you should feel very blessed to have such a beautiful and caring person in your life, ❤👍

  • @stewartgrant7724
    @stewartgrant7724 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    HI Joe & Gift Thank you for another great video and realy glad to hear that you are enjoying your time in Madrid.
    Thank you Gift for opening up on life yes it was very emotional and really glad to hear that you have found the happiness in Joe who is a wonderfull person wish you bot lots of happiness for years to come.
    I found it funny that every street you were about to go up was always going upwards and could see Gift saying not another one just tell here there may be a Starbucks at the top.
    Well you seem to be having lots of great food and I am really proud to see Gift trying different food which must be very strange for here but you can see the thumbs up saying I like this.
    Anyway have a great day.

  • @user-tz6xf9mz4w
    @user-tz6xf9mz4w 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Great show guy's! 😊 Wow Gift really opened up. Truly a amazing story as well as life. Take care and as alway's stay cool 😎 kind and generous!

  • @teefossum9923
    @teefossum9923 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Hi gift so sorry about your Dad . I’m happy for you now you with Joe ❤🌹I’m also Thai

  • @HeatherBloyer-tq9ly
    @HeatherBloyer-tq9ly 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you for sharing your story Gift. You are such a beautiful woman inside & out. So happy you found Joe. Wishing you both all the best!

  • @tg213
    @tg213 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I always like to eat Thai food at least once on my foreign trips just to see the differences in authentic Thai and imported Thai.

  • @karenglaicar5486
    @karenglaicar5486 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thanks Gift for sharing with us. Nice to see that you found happiness. Thanks and take care.

  • @debrakearbey5575
    @debrakearbey5575 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I wanted to say Joe I have enjoyed you and Gift trip to Spain and Italy beautiful enjoyed seeing your handsome family. Gift is so loving you could see all love she has for your family and Her Joe .God Blessed you with a beautiful Gift🙏❤️🌹

  • @miguellucio2946
    @miguellucio2946 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Very sad, but thank you Gift for sharing. You and your sister are very good daughters.

  • @dominiquelaurain6427
    @dominiquelaurain6427 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thanks sharing story. Good people meet not only by chance but by wise choices too ;-)