As a millennial I love this, because my apartment gets to be furnished with practical and high quality items from the thrift store. Solid wood furniture, original paintings, fine china. Easy to donate back when I move elsewhere, almost a rental situation.
I love Kon-Mari. She says to literally hold each item. If it lifts your spirits, keep it. If you only have it because somebody gave it to you but it doesn't serve a purpose or lift your spirits, sell or give it away. My suggestion: box or (black) bag everything you decided to get rid of. Then have a yard sale. List it for an hour LESS than you wish to be out there. (Want to quit at noon? State "til 11.") After everybody still there at 11leaves, put up signs "fill a grocery bag for $5." After the 11:30 people, change it to $2." At 11:50, announce the rest for free.
Most people are working and taking care of a lot of “stuff” is time consuming. The less is more theory works better in this time era ! And family’s are becoming smaller there fore houses are smaller. People want efficient homes , simple and easy to keep clean. I am 81 and I thought the more “things” in a room looked more warm and homey . I was wrong , you can still achieve that same warmth homey feeling with less stress ! I am finding that with less furniture ,less decorations I have a more open space yet not bare bones . And my time is more my own ! I am less stressed with ‘ keeping house” because my house is easily kept clean and in neater condition ! The things you choose to use in your home is the key to a better “living space “ for yourself and family as well ! 💕🦋🌈👵🏻🐶🐱🖖👽👍
Boomers grew up with nothing and were taught to acquire as much as possible. Millenials grew up with everything and have learned it doesn't bring happiness, there's no desire to horde such things.
There was a period in the eighties of decorating where it was the style to cover almost every inch of your walls and have very crowded Arrangements on every table. Dozens of pillows, dozens of silk flower arrangements that just collected dust. I've gotten rid of so much stuff. my mother who is 86 has a 3000 square foot house with a store room in the back and I am dreading how we're going to move her to a small condo. It will take months to get rid of all that stuff. One coffee table has 20 picture frames on it. Money was abundant. It's just not that way anymore.
Mina Rosered Hey Mina, it may be really helpful to hire a professional organizer to help you purge through all that clutter. Professional organizers receive training in helping people like the elderly let go of sentimental items.
Tyson, I think that my generation is called Baby Boomer's I was born after the WW2 depression era I was born in the '50's...my daughter was born in '77. From the time I was born until the time I got married, I had EVERYTHING. Food, clothes, roof, utilities....my mother, I'm learning, saved everything! "In case" there's a shortage...we lived in Los Angeles! Anyway, my daughter and I had nothing after her dad ditched us so we didn't have any thing to save. NOW, my daughter collects houses.. she so aware that a stable environment and a roof over your head is A#1. I think shes called a GenX .... Hope this helps
I’m a millennial and I get anxiety going to my moms house where every square inch is packed with crap. Not as bad as an episode of hoarders, but just so much unnecessary clutter. I really, really don’t look forward to having to clear out her house one day. She lives alone in a 3 story, 4 bedroom, 3 bathroom house, a basement full of shite, a garage full of crap. Every closet, drawer, cabinet is crammed full of useless clutter. I hate it. And she’s always loading my kids up with junk for birthdays and holidays and I DONT WANT IT
Emilie, I was cleaning out my house in 2018. I was 50 and she was 28. I picked up some stuff that my mom and I worked on together. I asked her if she wanted it. She said MOM I wasn't there it doesn't mean anything to me. It hurt my feelings for a while. However, it really helped me to let go of a lot of STUFF. 5 years later I am finally getting my house in order. It feels really good. It really helps to hear your thoughts about issue.
But I don't know anyone who has that many china pieces. No one would want that much. Minimalist or not. And if they have that much of it chances are it's not great quality. I think since" Walmart " a lot of people have acquired a lot of "junk. But there are still those who own quality pieces and priceless antiques. There's a big difference.
I don't blame anyone for not wanting to have a lot of stuff. It smothers me. I am talking about your normal heirloom pieces not a house full of stuff. I don't think you have to go to the extreme either way. As long as you have what you need and cherish. I don't think your Dad blew the money if he got pleasure out of collecting it. But I can understand your feelings if its a lot.
It's not just millennials. I'm 60 and I have always craved a simple life with just the things I need and love. I was a minimalist before it became popular. If we dont start consuming less i dont know when the earth will run out of resources and places to put all this unwanted stuff.
Throwing out your parents' stuff is NOT consuming less. It's CONSUMING MORE--double the stuff. If you really cared about the environment, you would cherish the older things already in existence instead of buying new. Manufacturing the new stuff for people to buy after discarding the old uses up precious resources and also adds to pollution. I call BS.
I'm sorry but I'm a musician, have 2 grand pianos, 1 I bought, the other gifted me afterwards, a 1914 Steinway. I have musical instruments and play them all (I am a conductor), and I have a lot of filing cabinets of music treasures from the entire 20th Century and before. My grandchildren and SONS appreciate it all. I am 72. I earned my living with music, and I wouldn't think of throwing away Bach, Beethoven or Brahms, let alone all the 20th Century music my grandchildren can play! I have fine china (beautiful) to go along with fine music. Millenials are short-sighted in my opinion, and thankfully there are none of them in my family.
@@MargaretWalkerCellist you cannot compare one thing to the other. Musical instruments are valuable and expensive pieces, and many of the old ones are very good quality and even collectible. In here we are talking about clutter (some even worthless items) that just ocupy space in your home. Apples and oranges.
@@deniseatthelake not the same people. Same generation, but individual human beings with different opinions. Imagine that. I buy most everything thrifted BECAUSE I love 50s/60s design.
Odd how there are different reasons for people holding on to stuff in general. My mother grew up incredibly poor in Mexico City back in the 60's and never even had toys or even a meal some days. Once she started earning good money after years of hard work, she started buying tons of things she deemed valuable just because they were expensive. After last year's earthquake, her whole perspective on her belongings changed. She realised the few truly "valuable" items would've been impossible to rescue if her home were destroyed for any reason so she has slowly started to downsize and re-evaluate what she spends her money on. She also stopped saying how much she wanted me to inherit all her stuff. While I still lived with her, I would declutter half of my closet hoping to keep it that way and she'd feel like she needed to "replenish" what I had "lost"- and most of it I'd end up giving away because I had no real use nor love for it. Now she prefers to take me out for food, a movie, a drink or even just for a walk instead of giving me things to keep and she seems much happier now. The general mindset is slowly shifting in favour of experiences rather than things.
The Lenox Eternal pattern shown CAN be put in the dishwasher on china setting. Warm your plates before serving food. Enjoy family china, crystal and silver on any occasion - it will make it special. Most important, enjoy making memories with friends and loved ones, face to face and put down the devices.(How many of those are piling up??)
I put my Wedgwood china in the dishwasher and don’t have a problem with it...I agree with Allison Klein- it’s a pity that young people all want to live in white plain rooms that are so conforming....they don’t seem to have the ability to be individual or creative and don’t appreciate anything with history or character- a shame 😕🏡🤗
This is all quite silly really, reading the comments. Anything of *value* will still be appreciated. Most of this stuff has no value. A generational full silver set or a true antique will likely still be appreciated. A set of dated old plates and ugly nick nacks that were purchased in the 50s will not.
There are people who still love the old goofy stuff. This is not a new phenomenon, my mother didn't want her mother's stuff and that was a hell of a long time ago. To try and make this a a new thing is so REDICULAS. My daughter has cherry picked thru my house and told me what she is taking, from collectables to furniture and even clothing. My kitchen cookware and serving pieces aren't safe from her 5 finger requisitioning even now. The report is very narrow minded and just rediculas.
I honestly dont get the point of those weird porcelain figurines collections.. kids cant play with them, and you need to buy a bookshelf or a table of some sort to display them.. and they just sit there collecting dust..kinda creepy imo
Damn I love vintage. The furniture is more sturdy and the kitchen appliances don’t break that easily. Today’s stuff is crap. I keep it minimalistic and clutter free by skipping on the modern stuff and being selective about the vintage I bring in the house.
I'm not a Millennial. But space is an issue. I've had to turn down things from family members and about 4 years ago, had to get rid of quite a bit of my own stuff when moving into a place almost half the size I had before. Even now I'm trying to look at clearing the 'clutter'. Also have told many as well not to even give me presents. It cost them a lot and just adds to the clutter. Told many who still insist that if they are still so inclined to donate the money they would have spent to a charity. It would make me happy and help someone else.
It is a new style and I love that. More of a Scandinavian approach to life. Old stuff is a bit morbid. My mother never had clutter. None. She just thought it was all junk. She was right and she was born in 1930.
I am a boomer and grew up around antiques. My family relatives bought quality and took pride in their belongings. I was taught to appreciate their working to acquire lovely things. I always appreciated their beautiful homes. Gradually, as they passed I found my siblings didnt want the family heirlooms. I.tried to keep many items,but over time,they became more of a burden. I had to insure many pieces. I am 74 now and my children,do not want much of what I have saved. I made the mistake of just giving away,to get rid of things. Then I realized,I could sell to.antique stores. I was amazed at each generation'sTASTE in decor. No one under 60,wants their relatives BELONGINGS,unless they can sell. Some,do appreciate the items, but most do not want things that will cost to insure or move. Their attitude is,they can buy more. With the antique malls and yard sales they can buy much cheaper. I watch the vintage videos and it amazes me,what people throw away. For myself,it is hard to let go,of things that were acquired over time and that were evidence of hard work. Now, I am downsizing and it is painful to get rid of my things,let alone those that belonged to the elders. I do realize, I cant take it with me,if I go to a nursing home or when I get a smaller home. So ,I have been getting rid of things,because my family will not want much of what I have. It is a bittersweet situation. I do,however,wish I had reached this stage years ago. I enjoy my antiques and stuff because I loved the relatives,who left them to me. I, on the other hand ,do feel relieved,that hopefully my family will not have to go through my belongings ,while I am alive and. I CAN'T say where they go. While, I can still have control it is making it easier. I experienced others helping and it cost much emotional pain,and even a few friendships. So now I donate to shelters or churches for families who are needy. I am happier. I have given to my family,what they wanted. So I don't have to be concerned about any feuding or hurt feelings. I feel better and don't buy anything that is not absolutely necessary. It just makes life better. I HAVE Friends who have inherited and have beautiful homes,but we are all realizing our children will sell or discard faster than we think. So many of us are downsizing,while we can have a say. A few will leave much , but their children do not live close or want our generation's belongings. They will have estate auctions,immediately. My thought, sell now or donate now. The MILLENNIUMS WANT MONEY!. MY FAMILY WILL GET AN OLD CAR AND SOME VINTAGE HANDKERCHIEFS 🤗
I'm gen X. I love going to antique shops and looking at all the items. I have my every day dishes which are still very nice Portmerion botanical gardens from England. I had the chance to live in England in the 1990's and I love my dishes. I don't use paper plates or plastic. I also have some furniture from Korea since I had the chance to live there in the late 1980's. Now days people have a lot of cheaply made furniture that in my opinion has no style.
I'm going through this right now! I have 3 storage units full Stem to Stern full of crap! A lot of what she's saying is true!!! Nobody entertains anymore! Families are scattered like dandillion seeds in the wind!
Yesterday I found an entire medium sized uhaul box full of baseball cards and Pokemon cards ....I can't help but feel like I "might have" given away that $1.5 mil bbcard! But it's gone NOW! I just haven't the time to rumage through it all! I just don't! It's one thing to go through it when your doing nothing else but housework and the house is paid off but it's another day when your paying $700-$1000 for storage units.
I'm an only-child and I do not look forward to the day I need to clean out my Boomer parents' 3,000 sq. ft. suburban home packed to the gills with THINGS. Family heirlooms will always be important, but cheap tchotchkes are straight up clutter.
get them started now ! my poor Aunt was the only one who had the most time to go through my Grandmas stuff and she had to wade through 3 large u-hauls and one trailers worth of "stuff" from a 3 bedrm 2 bath home and full sized basement. most of it was tchotches :(
Amanda H My mom was hired to go through a 90 yo womans house. She filled trashcan after trashcan with this woman lifetime of knick knacks. I got a nice set of pink pyrex bowls and a ugly purple scale and a small step ladder. You never know where your stuff will end up! That said, I've got a basement full of stuff...
Marc, I hear you loud and clear. I’ve been in the antique business for 25 years and now I am liquidating so my dear Son doesn’t have to get rid of my “junk” - Time to pass it along to the next owner.
765respect : If you have the all the nesting pink Pyrex bowls..those go for about $250.00 *Not everything is just junk.....know what you have before you toss*
Also is that I'm 63 I love my great grandmother's things and my grandmother's things and I have some of my mother's things.. but in time I realized only I see the people in my past in my mind's eye my children and grandchildren and great-grandchildren will never know them. Even the pictures I have does not interest my grandchildren.. so sad
that is sad !! I would have liked pictures! I have very little pictures and I would have liked to see the greats I came from to see the family semblance!
It's too sad if they don't want to know,because there will someday be someone in your family in another generation who will want to know the people in these photographs you have...Unfortunately people other than yourself aren't thinking of that possibility. Enjoy your pictures,look at them and don't throw them out.Maybe one day when we both have our turn to.move on from this earth one person may rescue those photos...It won't hurt anyone who doesn't care..So we won't have to feel guilty that we threw away our past connections who helped us get here!
Not wanting pictures is completely strange. Don’t people want to know where they come from? Ok, 50 albums of printed stacks is a lot, but a few is invaluable to grandchildren. A few curated of photos throughout their lifetime is fine
They’re not trying to be mean but they’re quality of life is a lot better without the clutter. I thrift a lot and the good useful stuff will find a home if you donate it.
Donate last. Even freecycle first. I donated Pyrex and computer monitor stands for desks at a time folk had them. When I was asked to carry the boxes through I found the person sorting had no idea what some of the stuff was so simply put in outside in the skip. "Thought it was electrical." It costs them to get the skip removed. Just as easily have told me "No thanks." I advertised stuff on Freecycle and eventually sold it on Facebook Market Place.
Y'all make Millennials look like terrible people. We understand memories aren't attached to stuff. I don't want to own furniture I can't sit on or plates I only use when company comes over. I don't want to buy a huge house just to have places to put all that stuff.
musicianonamission...millenials can only make themselves look bad; look at what you are doing..its not one extreme or the other...everyone is free to choose their own lifestyle, profession, dishes, houses/aptmts/condos so do it....who says you need a big house or alot of things? You need whatever makes you happy and fits your lifestyle, and remember, your priorities will change as you get older. What you like when you are 20, will change at 30, 40 and 50, etc. that is what is fun about life, you get to change it up whenever you want!
(Read my post right above this): I am also a musician, pianist, cellist, violinist, conductor, and I sit on all my furniture in the house and teach my grandchildren how NOT to sit in a chair. My excellent-condition sofas are 40 years old, and they sit in them comfortably. My house is full of china, sterling, and Bach, Beelthoven and Brahms, and my children (none a "Millenial") have told me not to throw away ANYTHING! :) It's a matter of upbringing, I think. They see the value of yesteryear. I also planted an orchard here of over 250 trees, so our food is of excellent quality also. I am 72, like our President. :)
@@MargaretWalkerCellist I already love your house. When people visit me they always comment " you have such an European style home" I enjoy eating on good china, using sterling flatware and fabric napkins.
Many of us women recognize the drudgery of hand washing something that you cannot put in the dishwasher, constantly polishing silver, having to iron linens. Plus the money it takes to have a huge entertainment setup. We were told that we had to spend money on a lot of things and they had to be impressive for our company to see. Really, it's all about spending time with people who don't care that you have the complete dinner wear set. As a Gen X-er, I find the Millennial way of looking at things refreshing and good for my pocketbook. Plus, who wants anyone to pawn off all their extra stuff onto you just so they don't have to deal with selling or getting rid of it???
I know, GXer here too, and I just don't want loads of useless stuff either. My daughter, who should be the one to embrace the less stuff aesthetic, has stuff for days! Lol!
i'm like 4 years late to this so i apologize for the notification lul. but as Millennial who still lives with his parents I'm of 2 minds on this. On one hand I agree with you. I look at all the clutter I have around the house and keep asking my dad "just throw all this shit away, we don't need it" but he keeps saying to either sell it or that we need it. It's maddening, we don't need 2 mattresses and an extra bed fame! But on the other hand when ever I see the way some of my friends live or heaven forbid the way other Millennials live I get sad. It's like they lived with too much clutter and now think having literally anything other than the necessities is clutter. some of these rooms don't even have a bed frame. just a mattress on the ground in the corner. Like at a certain point I want my space to looked lived in. Not an empty void devoid of life.
@@weirdo3116I like a happy medium. I wouldn't want extra mattresses and bedframes but I do like nice furniture and a curated amount of art and small curios (in a display case, easy to dust)
Not just the young adults !! I am seeing this in 2018 and retired two years ago at 62 and went through this with my Mothers things when she went into a care home, I have no need or want for shelves of colored avon bottles, collections of lighters and ashtrays, amber glass, blue glass, etc etc etc etc etc, boxes of it upstairs, downstairs, basement and garage!!!!! we did a quick go through and I literally took a couple pictures off the wall and a small grocery sack with a few kitchen tools I wanted and that is IT! We literally boxed it allllllll up and called Goodwill to come in a BIGGG truck and hauled it away and what they would not take we hauled to the dump, (old encyclopedias, records etc) just too much stuff for anyone to have, people used to live in larger homes and when they married got the usual 2/3 bedroom two bath with a yard and garage and filled it up! I now get so stressed out if I have too much clutter and if I find a small thing or two that I want and need I get it, and it has my own memories attached, not everyone elses, I like ease of movement and easy cleaning, I recently cleaned out my house and hauled boatloads to the local Discovery center (American cancer society thrift store) and they were glad to take it all, the Re-Store for habitat for humanity, and books and magazines to the retirement home and Dr's waiting room! I just like to have my couch, table, computer desk and bed, so I can experience things as I want, not worry about what to clean or move around today, I told all of my things (verbally and out loud) "Goodbye old friends, go have a new life with someone else, thank you"!
I think most people just need help adding these quality, useful items to their decor. I have my husbands childhood bedroom set (double bed with chest of drawers) in the spare bedroom. It's solid wood, medium in color and not overly detailed. With fresh linens and a modern color palette it is wonderful! The juxtaposition of the old with the new is perfect! Same can be said with dishes. Start with your own simple modern plates/bowls and add a beautiful old crystal case with fresh flowers and antique linen napkins. Perfect....simple......classy.....and a nod to the past!
Actually, what would be good for the planet is to stop manufacturing stuff. Then, instead of buying new items, the next generations need to accept the hand-me-downs and buy used things at resale shops. THAT is what is best for our planet.
Minimalism? These are the people who drink bottled water and buy a new cell phone every time a new one comes out. Collectibles are just that... you keep them, and pass them on.
@@mariannelottes7922 , me too honey. I'm about to retire soon and I want to get a smaller place. My kids don't want my stuff either. I told them I'm going to sell it all and donate what's left. Don't it feel great just getting rid off all the stuff you really don't need ?
The American dream is dead. The big family homes with the white picket fence and two car garage is out of reach for most millennials who are drowning in student loans and find it hard to keep up with the bills and rising cost of living. Many boomers got their start in a world which was very different and so they think millennials just don't have an appreciation of the past, which isn't true. We just don't have room for this stuff.
EXACTLY. I have a LOT of heirlooms... I use them at least a half dozen times a year for special family occasions. I have a 12 person set of bone china and I take great pride in using it as often as possible, because I love to entertain. I am a single gay man, who lives in a 3000 sq ft. home... and guess where the family spends the holidays? MY HOUSE... because it's full of history!!
Abbey Grantham Did you even watch the video? It's not like we're talking about a pair of shoes or music genre. People are embracing this lifestyle out of *necessity*. As long as making a decent living remains a challenge, this "fad" will remain as long as people need it.
Hey Hey Hey. I.m in yr 82 & I don't want this clutter either. If I have people in to dine, I use the very best paper plates & napkins. My cat has 2 ceramic dishes, however as he deserves the best.🙄😙
Geez, I should have shipped all my mom's over the top frilly crap to LA. NO ONE in Florida wants it--but then again, Florida IS known as 'God's Waiting Room' . Hee
Oleander, I wonder if the stuff "flying off the shelves" has to do with people needing only small, single decorative pieces. Or just a chair. Rather than an entire set of anything. I wouldn't know about Los Angeles. I live in San Antonio and have visited consignment shops. I really enjoy going through the shelves and occasionally see something I like. But I rarely buy anything for my one bedroom apartment. And soon, to help my parents, I may downsize to something smaller. And I'm okay with that. I already did that when I moved from Salt Lake City from a studio apartment. I gave away, sold, or donated almost everything and was just fine with it.
I’ve noticed that everything sells, individual pieces and sets and at the nicer smaller thrifts which are run by volunteers and better organized ( as opposed to chains like Goodwill and Salvation Army) the prices are high and if you see something and don’t buy it it will often be gone in a couple of hours when you return. It might be the sheer number of people living in Los Angeles County something like 7 million. So of course things are going to sell. I have to say that the quality is better here than in some states I’ve visited and as it has gotten more expensive to live here even more so.
I go to thrift shops and Goodwill and they are ALWAYS packed full of people and I don't mean necessarily people who are lower income. This video is misleading because it's stating family heirlooms are out. That's really not the case where I live!
In the last 10 year, I have inherited shitload of things from my cousins after my uncles and aunts passed away. They don't want most of the stuff they left behind and just give away most of the things they don't like and couldn't sell. I ended up getting a lot of Enamels, China, Silver, Brass, Crystals, Books, Furnitures, and many other stuff that people won't buy. I keep most of it in my garage, and I find it sad that these things my relatives once held with regard are now sitting in my garage, covered in dust.
@Alex Shuysky - throw the dusty whole lot away or donate them to Goodwill / the Salvation Army. They are taking up valuable space in your garage, going unused and unappreciated. I see people with so much stuff in their garage and it looks like a junk yard. Like Sanford and Son. You will thank me later.
I'm the exact opposite. I entertain frequently, and 'formal' for me is the everyday norm. For the life of me, I cannot understand the mindset of those who want to go through life 'making do with less'. I love polishing my silver, and hand-washing my fine china and crystal stemware.
dm8057bk I would say it depends on your lifestyle and what you can afford. Most of the younger generation are up to their eyeballs in student loans and debt and could barely afford to pay their rent, much less fancy entertaining. And most of them need to be more mobile to go where job opportunities are so less stuff to carry is better for a lot of them. 🤷♀️
I dont think of minimalism as "making do" with less, it's about not having only the things that add value to your life by making you happy and/or are useful to you in your every day life.. I got the cheapest, plain white plates from ikea that I use every day and if i have company over, i put the plates on a gold charger and it instantly looks fancy shmancy lol Sometimes I fantasize about hosting an event at my house but in reality I know that's not gonna happen anytime soon so what's the point of keeping a few different sets of plates or cups or silverware? I do however have more than 10 plants and I'm obsessed with getting more but one of my friends recently told me to her it would be such a hassle to have even 1 plant You see what I mean?
experiences>stuff that's why we buy things in the first place - buying it is an experience, but the thrill is gone within a week. Go on a trip or have a nice party and remember it forever.
@@HeavymetalHylian So if you have that party, you're gonna need household stuff in order to entertain...you can travel and have parties AND a roof over your head with the things you love and the things you need to live life well. It not either or.
TheRisky9...you make it sound like having a furnished home is automatically 'cluttered". Are you going to live under a bridge somewhere? It is not "either or". You can have a beautiful home AND LIVE in that home with family, friends and children and have great memories! Some folks even have cottages or second homes and have a darned good time doing it! Being a nomad with nothing sounds awfully boring and empty to me.
LOL. "I don't want your stuff"! I just heard those words coming from my Daughter, who just bought a house. I have been saving things for her and well now I have to find someone else. I wish I said those words to my Mother when she gave me everything I want to pass down. I never liked it either!
This is also funny...I hear many say they have downsized yet the fridge door is covered with junk and there will be boxes and baskets of junk all over in plain sight instead of stored out of sight.
Traditions have changed alot and families are smaller and non-traditional-many different lifestyles...today friends and family meet at restaurants and are even going out for holiday dinners, and no more Sunday dinners at grandma's where the entire family gathered-people are transient with less ties to family and rarer still for extended families to live in the same town... Gone are the traditional families and jobs, where the wife cooked dinner for hubbies boss. No one wants to polish the silver or slave over big dinner parties unless they have help. I enjoyed collecting antiques, gardening and decorating my homes, and having people over when I was young, but dont enjoy that anymore; I prefer to travel, and dine out with friends now...lifestyles change as you get older. I moved around so much when I was a child that having a stable home with beautiful things and gardens was important and I made sure that happened; it was very stabilizing for me, and gave me a lot of happiness. Now I have a cottage like home with gardens, much smaller and am very happy with that too. Downsizing and decluttering is natural as one gets older.
I just got married at 36 years old. I've dreamed of getting married my whole life and of having Lenox plates and other decorative items in a beautiful breakfront to display them. But no one my age even visits each other anymore! No one has dinner parties where women now can use these nice things ! I think people see each other on Facebook and don't feel the need for an in-person visit. And truthfully, I work full time as does my husband and I don't have time to iron fancy linen tablecloths and polish silverware. So, my bridal registry was filled of more practical gifts but most wedding guests ended up just giving us money. It's just a different time now.
mascara1888 good point. It cracks me up when I watch decorating shows and they always talk about entertaining. Who's doing all the entertaining? Nobody I know period and on those rare occasions when I entertain I use paper plates I'm too lazy to wash all those dishes. let's face it we just don't want all that old stuff oh, if we do want stuff we want stuff that reflects our personality
you know thats sad.. My friends and I have worked out a day every week where we'll go and coffee at each others houses and spend time together for cpl hours. You should make time to do that.. if your friends dont ,then find friends who will and make time for yourself.. working all the time will kill you faster than you want.. working all the time is not healthy
Congratulations. My family meet together for meals together, though we have to plan ahead re 5 different work schedules. We keep it simple and later, we play our favourite music whilst we chill and chat. What a blast. I have a friend's meal get together as well. We take turns hosting. Go for it, girl.
@@Amateur_Pianist_472 I gave up because most of my girlfriends work full time as well and we are all exhausted and end up catching up on Zoom. And I live 3 hours away.
No we haven't. It's just media hype. You are just as important. The millenials have trouble sticking to anything. The true millenial would have been born after 2000. My son was born in 2000. He works, goes to school and is a hard worker. Already has been on his first job a year and a half. Those people born in the late 80's and 90's still have boomer parents.
I have a friend who is Gen X. (I'm 64 and he's 54 - he says he's Gen X at least.) He made the comment once, "Like most people of my generation I don't get along with others of my generation. I prefer to hang out with Milennials." He's single and I think the translation is, "I'm an older guy who wants a young chick." LOL I thought it was an odd comment at the time.
As for me, chinaware, crystal, and silverware is getting passed along to the kids, or charity. But I am keeping, or buying some antiques... tools, and such. Some items from the ‘50s are desirable to me. Even items that need restoring. And if I were to choose between an Emeril cast iron pan, or my grandmas well used cast iron pan... well, not a hard choice there.. old cast iron is amazing, and if it was my grandmothers, even better. Still, I lean towards downsizing as well. Too much physical clutter bothers me, and is too much work in upkeep and organizing.
I like the old refillable compact case of my great grandmothers that she used for homemade blush she made. It's very precious to me and is a reminder of where I got my DIY attitude at times ^_^
@@alicehallam7949 My parents sold their home and downsized when I was in my fifties - as were my older sisters. We did not want their stuff then because we already had our own homes, fully furnished to our tastes. My mother especially was shocked. Apparently she thought we coveted her things most of our adult lives.
I am heart broken over this. I am 67 and have treaures and heirlooms from my family 5 & 6 generations back. I have respected, loved and appreciated that it was handed down to me. There are so many stories linked to these treasures that I don't want forgotten. I came from a different era 😳
Take photos of it and write the stories down. The times have changed, and those are from a bygone era. It will be good to have the stories of when people used to actually use fine china and sit down to a meal at a well dressed table with manners and no cell phones! Write it all down. Then get rid of it because no one does those things anymore unless they are in the top 1%.
You are so right Bobbi. It has taken me some time to get to the point as seeing as MY inheritance. I will be looking into how to sell these things the best way and enjoy the rest of my life the best that I can. Thank you !
P.S. I sleep in my g-g-grandmother's brass bed, that some of the last 3 generations were born in. I have always cherished this bed. It gives me peace, comfort and connection with the family I cherish. I am surrounded with these treasures in my home, it makes me feel comforted by family that have passed on.
I think it's a combination of "different era" and personality - I'm 64 so same generation as you and I never liked a lot of "stuff" and have embraced minimalism. I want the items I do keep to be extra-special and/or high quality. Sentimental items are the hardest but I recently sold my grandfather's wedding band and my engagement ring (been divorced over 20 years) for needed cash so...it's easier now. As for photos, I plan on purchasing a hand-scanner and digitalizing those I keep.
Good for you! it is hard at first but gets much easier! I just gave someone my Mothers wedding ring, It had been in my jewelry box almost 50 yrs, I dont wear jewelry, I dont have grandkids, or neices and nephews, so the person I asked was elated!! to get it, I cleaned it and gave it to her and she is wearing it now! so it is alot better than sitting in a box in the closet, I have a collection of china and ceramic dolls of good quality and am donating them to a thrift store too, been in the closet forever because I did not want them to get "dirty and dusty" and realized what is the freaking point!! am I comforted just by the fact I have them?? so off they go to a new life.
That's why I like things that are neutral. Like my dishes are clear glass. Nothing special but very versatile and pretty much timeless. Clear glass never goes out of style 😊
Then why is everything retro now? Millenials dont realize they are actually buying designs their grandparents bought in the 50's! LOL! Don't criticize a generation unless you know about their history, lifestyle and traditions...things change but they also cycle back in-everything old is new again is so right; many of my parents friends had lovely homes and collections and I am a boomer.
@@deniseatthelake Exactly all the hot Furniture styles, the mid century pieces, the Barcelona chairs are all semi and just plain antiques. The new furniture is absolute garbage and horrible for your environment. A lot of the older stuff was made of woods that are no longer available to the average home buyer. I just keep the case goods and change soft goods because styles do repeat.
just wipe out American history and your family history - and I bet you have the works as far as "stuff" goes. The furniture, tv, dvr, cable, the latest phone and computer equip. This is as sick as these fing millennials are. Fuck the millenials. Fuck them
Sweetheart, the reason most people are not wanting all this stuff now days is because it actually IS unncecessary! i dont know how old you are but I am in my sixties and I dont expect my two girls to take anything I have, I actually told them the other day "anything, and I mean anything I have if you want it come and get it NOW" and then I can get rid of whatever I had decided (and I did, lots and lots) we come to a point where our possessions are possessing us! You dont have to get rid of everything you own, just realize that family or American history as you stated is not because of what we owned, it is because of who we are! My family history was not defined by my Mothers myriad boxes of knick-knacks and dishes, but by our own memories of time together, they stuff just happened to be there too. You can remember and value your memories, you dont need the physical items, and you dont have to be millennial to think this way, I have a Mother who is in a care home (as I stated in another comment) and after three months of driving back and forth on the weekends to clean her place out after she moved was a monumental project and I had decided waaaay before that that it was all going, they were my Mothers things and memories and not mine, things she bought, not me, things she used, not me, memory has nothing to do with it. it was somebody else's before it was hers and now it is someone else's again, the only value put on the things she had acquired was the story she told me on some things, I was not there, dont remember the people and did not know them, I am not being disrespectful but it meant nothing to me, just someone elses story. The fact that a relative had something for a long time does not make it special, it just makes it special to you if you value the memory of it.
SomeGirls what are you so angry about? Im just stating my opinion about this video. Of course i care about my family and history. Just because other people or myself do not want to keep certain items from our family, doesn't mean that were wiping out history. There are some items that i have kept and will keep forever because i use them. Other items i didn't take, because it didn't have no sinifigance or i just loved the memories from it more. Some people like to keep it all, some like myself keep a small percentage, some part with all of it. Like i said a few days ago, it is just stuff. When we leave this earth, that stuff won't be coming with us.
They run up so much credit on their credit cards they can't enjoy anything their first thought is to sell it because they need to make a payment. Most of them spend all their money on cell phones and cell phone bills. In any event nobody wants junk. They don't realize the difference between junk and antiques. If you ever watch all the shopping hauls they video then you know what they define as valuable. LOL
They are not making stuff like they used to. I think people will regret what they passed up and didn't value. I agree collectibles and the treasure-hunting activity they used to represent have fallen out of favor. Less is more because today we are practically nomadic with how we move around. Commitment and stability are old fashioned values. Sad.
Sad? "A rolling stone gathers no moss." There was a time when rolling was considered bad and moss considered good. In the past several decades, the sense of this adage has been reversed: Rolling is considered good and moss considered bad. It is cultural shift.
I've seen estate "sales" where a house' contents are free, because they want to clear the place fast. Or sales where stuff is 75% off after only a day of full price. Many of these homes are fully packed with worthless junk that should have been discarded decades ago. One estate sale company I've encountered admits that they are just clearing houses full of marginal goods, with little profit for the home owner or heirs and what little money raised is taken by the estate liquidators as their fee.
I just can't understand the older generations need to have so much special stuff that was never used because it was so special. My mother threw out her wedding China when we moved. Guess how many times it was used. Never. It was super special and expensive and had to be hand washed. Since it was too stressful to use, it wasn't. The blender she got for her wedding was used weekly. Seems like more practical things are what needs to be focused on. Something you can use every day and remember who gave it to you and why. When I get married I'm going to ask for some fiesta ware dishes in turquoise. Fancy enough for a dinner party, but inexpensive enough to use everyday. And I'll get to remember why I have them every time I use them. Previous generations seem to be over saturated with things too special to use. If they aren't ever used when your kids are growing up, why would it be anything special to your kids? Not their wedding China, just a box of dishes kept in a cabinet that were never used. My grandma had a fancy living room set that was only used 1-2 times a year. Why would any of it be special to me? Zero memories with any of the stuff. Do you know what dishes I did want? The cheap 1970s corelle dishes with the avacado green flowers around the edge. We used them every time we were there, and now every time I see a piece in a thrift store it makes me smile. It's nice to have nice things, but not so nice that people can't relax and enjoy them.
It's very sad that people are not getting together in each other's houses, as it's part and parcel of the epidemic of loneliness that's around. Restaurants are really uncomfortable and rip-off places and there's no substitute for long dinners around a table, followed by chatting in the living room for hours afterwards, even if it does leave a lot of washing-up to do.
This is so true!! Boomer here. Just downsized, and all four of my millennial Children passed on things I thought they’d be proud to have. No one wants a gravy boat anymore.
All this stuff is mostly the result of people who went through the great depression and couldn't let go of anything. It was a different time and way of life. My grandmother and mother didn't have to work so their home was their sense of pride and joy and they liked to fill it with beautiful things to look at and talk about. Having a nice set of China meant your husband was a good provider and you wanted to show it off to your friends. Bored women tend to shop and collect things. They didn't have the large walk In closets filled with clothes tho, like you see now. The men were more about the cars, the house, the boat. Stuff that was usually traded off or sold later. People are becoming less materialistic I think, which is a good thing. You can't take it with you.
P J I remember my Grandma born in 1914 would even save foil, and sometimes I think twice before I throw it away now. She lived through the depression, and now with me, I think of the planet more, in saving it.
@@dbkyhere9229 , yes my grandmother saved foil too! I remember seeing her rinse it off in the sink My mother would even save the plastic bags that bread came in and reuse them. She would make us put them over our socks before we put our shoes on in the winter so our feet wouldn't get wet walking to school in the snow. Good old days. ..lol
Reusing plastic bread bags makes more sense than buying n discarding countless sandwich bags and storage containers. In my fridge, right now, I have a bag of cooked chicken thighs, a bag with /2 a cabbage and 1/2 a green pepper, a bag within a bag of previously opened spinach...oh, ditto for 3 dif bagged salads (I combine them) A bag of carrots, one of green beans, another bag slipped over a plate of cornbread, one over 1/2 plate of enchiladas....oh, cool...won't have to cook tonite! In my cabinet, I have more bag within a bag tortilla chips, crackers, macaroni, rice ...
My family stopped using fine china on Christmas years ago. No one in the family wants to spend an hour hand washing every single piece. By then the tryptophan from the turkey has set in and everyone just wants to fall asleep on the couch next to dad. Paper plates mean less time washing and more time being with loved ones. Not mention all the other days of the year where the china sits in the cupboard unused, taking up valuable space.
@@thefrillyfarmhouse Paper plates are great when your plumbing's gone bad and you can't work on it right away or get help for a while...I love using my Moms' pretty stoneware dishes.They are heavy and I wash them by hand.I hate auto-dish-washers,and will,God willing ,start using my Grandmas' China too for my family' dinner
@@thefrillyfarmhouse Enjoy using the beautiful stuff of the past..The fun and pleasure you get from appreciating them and presenting your food on them are worth it!😍
My childhood Little Golden Books are the most difficult to know what to do with because my parents dated & signed each one of them with my name as well as theirs! I intended to pass them on to my child & now I just save them for me! I'm almost 65 & when I die she will just have to decide if she will keep them or toss them.
We're probably about the same age - I'll turn 65 on Dec. 24 but I don't have children nor siblings. I haven't thought that far ahead...heh. I really should update my will to donate my belongings to a charity so they can sell them for whatever money they bring. When I've inherited a few things that do mean a lot to me from my grandparents, my mother will say, "The buck really does stop with you."
Sherry Dee Donate them to schools!!! Kids always need books to read and there are always schools that would probably appreciate the books. Especially if the kids can take them home and keep them. Just a thought
Put them inside deeper inset frames and hang up a few! They might look cute and cool on your wall.I bet most people would be surprised how many cool things they could display differently...Just set them inside,and don't dismantle the books.Pop them in wow! Hallway,Front door wall on the inside,on an easel etc.
I was born during the depression, then war came and shortages and rationing. I am a collector and proud of it. Fine to make the choice to be a minimumalist, quite another to be one with no choice. I love to polish, starch and iron and all the rest. Doing without is not all that much fun. I went one whole year during the war without a coat, reason, my mother couldn't find one. Everyone is given so many hours in the day, how you choose to use them or waste them is up to each one of us. I love my things and don't ask anyone to do it for me.
Storage unit sites are popping up everywhere. We're attached to 'things'. Just because it's sentimental to us doesn't mean it's special to someone else. Sell that stuff and go on a nice vacation and make some lasting memories.
I say , keep things around your home that MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD! Be happy. For some it may be Heir looms for some memories. Some families are sad , so they wouldn’t want stuff. Be true to yourself.
Ah, just wait. Life goes through cycles, and when the children and grandchildren of millennials grow up and want to know what happened to grandma or great grandma’s crystal or whatever else, handing them a “vintage” piece of electronic hardware instead won’t pass on their heritage. More and more often younger teens are embracing reading actual printed on paper books and writing notes and letters by hand as something worth doing - it’s something “new”. Junk is junk, and a lot of boomer stuff is truly junk; but there are always some items that carry sentiment from the giver and trigger memories in the receiver; and that makes them treasures worth holding on to. There are also boomer treasures that are examples of craftsmanship that no longer exists: many becoming so rare they are effectively now one of a kind. Once they are relegated to the land fill there is no getting them back. Never lose sight of tomorrow because of what is happening at this minute.
That's what those old people get for spending their money on all this crap. They should have gone on trips or bought long term insurance with that money instead. Bunch of horders. Don't burden your kids with all your crap.
My in-laws were highly offended when I told them I don't want any of their stuff except a beautiful vintage bowl set. They collect antique furniture and were highly offended until my MIL had to clean out her own mother's house recently and she realized what a burden all this junk is!! Now she's starting to downsize too.
That's kind of sad, because some of those old pieces are just so beautiful..Maybe at some point in time, a new generation will appreciate this old stuff. You know that old saying: "What's old is new again!"
We have a natural tendency to cling to things (objects, relations...). We would like to escape the fact that everything changes. Especially now, everything changes fast. Being a minimalist also helps following this trend of accelerated movement. It's way easier to move when you just have a laptop and a few clothes.
@@MeTreesndirt I have a microbe zoo then,perhaps even a microbe farm or factory....Maybe I'll start selling designer sets complete with collector microbes,vintage kind.....
A lot of them are reviewers who will be talking about that stuff for their TH-cam channel. I watch a lot of Booktubers and another type of video they like to do is the "unhaul" where they actually get rid of books.
LOL!!! TRUTH! So so so much crap--multiple sets of china, enough stemware to entertain a small army, and all the fake 'collectible' junk from Franklin Mint to Beanie Babies to various Hallmark dust collectors (along with figurines like the ones shown in this video---SO MANY figurines). That was Mom's house for certain. I assume someday that many millennial's children will be complaining about having to get rid of their parent's Star Wars and Marvel 'collectibles' -- yep, as you say, nothing new! LOL
Absolutely! The folks who lived through the great depression held on to everything. The boomers didn't want their old stuff, they wanted bright and shiny new things back in the 70s and 80s.
I was born in 1961. A disabled sibling and I are the only people left in our family. There are no children who might want family items. I had to sell off a lot once our parents were gone, some things went to a local museum and a bit more will go there when I'm gone. I'm a minimalist or close to being one.That's the best arrangement for me in terms of preference, budget, and for when someone will have to deal with my belongings of which there aren't that many (apart from books that will be donated) as I live in an efficiency apartment.
I see a lot of baby boomers complaining that their kids don’t want family photos either but they’ve put zero effort into the transition. They usually offer shoeboxes full of unlabeled photos. If boomers want their kids to care at all, the parents need to make an effort. Digitize and scan the photos, name the people in the photos and document any memories. These are the parent’s memories so it’s not something their kids can even do themselves. A shoebox full of photos of strangers isn’t helpful but it could be an important piece of family history with a half year of effort.
I do not know how everyone thinks but speaking for myself...I do not like fussy dinnerware...frilly is not my thing...over done embellishments,decals,ruffles,figurines, silverware with extreme decoration, I lean more to clean simple plain interiors...not the over the top extreme frilly. Just me.
Generally agree, but sterling silver's always beautiful. Be hard to have so much that it made your space looked overly fussy...oh, to have THAT problem!
What? Wow, you are speaking for many people. How do you know they didn't put away cash for their kids? I mean, your comment is so general, It's like you know thousands upon thousands of people. Don't judge everybody according to your won tastes. Live and let live. You assume way too much!
@@tigermoon44 I agree. It is how an older generation lived does't make it wrong. Allot was passed down. That is just what families had always done generation's after generation. 🐾💜
The bright side is that high-quality candy dishes, commemorative plates. and figurines can be had for cheap! Smart move: load up on Beanie Babies right now and hoard them until the craze returns, as surely it will! Then make a killing!
I try to sell my mother's stuff for her, but she can't fathom how little value things have nowadays. The internet has saturated the market. (Anybody need a sterling silver baked potato serving fork? Mm, didn't think so.)
I recently had to have 'the talk' with a parent about not wanting silverware. You could see the disappointment and sadness but i dont have time or room for special silverware that can only be washed by hand and used maybe twice a year. Was hoping this parent will sell it, nope. Its in a basement in a corner waiting for fashions to change...... Guess ill be doing a clean out too. I dont get it. Im hoping im blessed with the family art but the silverware is the emotional part?😅
The boomers didn't collect it. Our parents, the Greatest Generation, did. And their parents. Now they've left it to us, and we don't want it all either. The generation gap between them and the boomers, with our different values, is still playing out.
the silent generation appreciated fine high quality stuff and just a bit of it. Unfortunately the boomers bought into the commercialization garbage of mass production.
Amanda H In my case, my 83 year old mom fell hook, line and sinker for commercial, fake collectibles and endless tcotchkes. Not a boomer by any stretch.
@@HeleneLogan That's exactly what happened to me, too. I'm a boomer, and I'm trying to deal with my 88 yo Mom's stuff. Mom and Grandma saw it as a legacy, but I don't want it, and neither do my kids. I'm determined I'm not going to do this to them.
My mother in law has three generations worth of plates and knick knacks, more than she will ever need, her kids don't want it but she will not part with them. She never uses them. They just sit there. And it'll be me and her son that have to go through it all. I am beginning to resent them for not making decisions and forcing us to make that decision ourselves later on. Delayed decisions become a burden for those you leave behind.
We should also be asking the question why our parents are trending towards downsizing where as our grandparents did not. None of the average Americans in any generation can afford (money wise or residential permanence) a large home and many processions. Baby boomers have found their retirements emptied and newer generation are finding gainful employment harder (large debt necessary to get a job and smaller salaries and benefits). We've found a way around this downward spiral by my mother moving in with my brother and I (in my thirties) live with 2 other adults committed to each other long-term suburban commune style.
I live in a 22 room Victorian farm house, filled with Victorian furniture, lamps, rugs, decor. Fine china and chrystal glasses, two sets of flatware silver. A collection of antique dolls 67 of them. Some so large they are child size. Trunks full of antique linens. My two daughters don't want much of anything i have. Not even my monster antique pump organ or player piano. They do however want all my saddles and tack 😂
I cook, I have loved cooking all my life, my daughter is the same. She wants all my kitchen stuff that has been aquired from countries all over the world. She doesn't want my other stuff and that's ok!
My mother's formal rooms are bursting at the seams with "shiny" please don't touch expensive stuff. I did take all the silver service pieces to put in my formal rooms because they are family treasures passed down from generations of long ago. I love it, but I hate polishing it. It's displayed in mostly airtight glass cabinets and builtins. I have my own passion for Swarovski figurines. They are all limited pieces with original boxes and certificate's. I always wonder who will get them when we are gone. Will they know their value and will they be loved as much as we have loved them? Probably not.
There aren't shelves in caskets; you can't bring all of that crap with you.
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Who has time now days to entertain? BBQ/grilling in the yard using paper plates is way to go when family visit. Friends meet to eat out. Stuff means more cleaning and org. stuff. No time, women work.
Require not aquire. Hummel figurines and tons of useless tchotchkes just clutter up your life and mind. Who wants to spend all day Saturday dusting these things? I'm 61 and got fed up with serving "things". Sold it all and hit the road. Now I can clean my house in 15 min.
When you live with your Grandparents who grew up DIRT poor, they tend to keep everything. EVERYTHING. Even food, if you only eat half of your granola bar, it will be kept. Old bags, bread ties, everything is kept. So excuse me if I don't want to keep some old plates, I don't want to hoard everything that I have no use for.
This is so true and downsizing is very emotional, all of the generations are dealing with it right now, sadly.
As a millennial I love this, because my apartment gets to be furnished with practical and high quality items from the thrift store. Solid wood furniture, original paintings, fine china. Easy to donate back when I move elsewhere, almost a rental situation.
I love Kon-Mari. She says to literally hold each item. If it lifts your spirits, keep it. If you only have it because somebody gave it to you but it doesn't serve a purpose or lift your spirits, sell or give it away.
My suggestion: box or (black) bag everything you decided to get rid of. Then have a yard sale. List it for an hour LESS than you wish to be out there. (Want to quit at noon? State "til 11.") After everybody still there at 11leaves, put up signs "fill a grocery bag for $5." After the 11:30 people, change it to $2." At 11:50, announce the rest for free.
Most people are working and taking care of a lot of “stuff” is time consuming. The less is more theory works better in this time era ! And family’s are becoming smaller there fore houses are smaller. People want efficient homes , simple and easy to keep clean. I am 81 and I thought the more “things” in a room looked more warm and homey . I was wrong , you can still achieve that same warmth homey feeling with less stress ! I am finding that with less furniture ,less decorations I have a more open space yet not bare bones . And my time is more my own ! I am less stressed with ‘ keeping house” because my house is easily kept clean and in neater condition ! The things you choose to use in your home is the key to a better “living space “ for yourself and family as well ! 💕🦋🌈👵🏻🐶🐱🖖👽👍
No..homes r small because no one can afford the old 1500 days. Ft. norm.
You’re Awesome and soooooo wise! Much Love, Be Safe!🥰❤️😘
Boomers grew up with nothing and were taught to acquire as much as possible. Millenials grew up with everything and have learned it doesn't bring happiness, there's no desire to horde such things.
There was a period in the eighties of decorating where it was the style to cover almost every inch of your walls and have very crowded Arrangements on every table. Dozens of pillows, dozens of silk flower arrangements that just collected dust. I've gotten rid of so much stuff. my mother who is 86 has a 3000 square foot house with a store room in the back and I am dreading how we're going to move her to a small condo. It will take months to get rid of all that stuff. One coffee table has 20 picture frames on it. Money was abundant. It's just not that way anymore.
Tyson boomers grew up with nothing? Really? It was their parents who lived through WW2 who are able to complain yet they don’t.
Mina Rosered Hey Mina, it may be really helpful to hire a professional organizer to help you purge through all that clutter. Professional organizers receive training in helping people like the elderly let go of sentimental items.
Tyson *hoard
Tyson, I think that my generation is called Baby Boomer's I was born after the WW2 depression era I was born in the '50's...my daughter was born in '77. From the time I was born until the time I got married, I had EVERYTHING. Food, clothes, roof, utilities....my mother, I'm learning, saved everything! "In case" there's a shortage...we lived in Los Angeles! Anyway, my daughter and I had nothing after her dad ditched us so we didn't have any thing to save. NOW, my daughter collects houses.. she so aware that a stable environment and a roof over your head is A#1. I think shes called a GenX ....
Hope this helps
I’m a millennial and I get anxiety going to my moms house where every square inch is packed with crap. Not as bad as an episode of hoarders, but just so much unnecessary clutter. I really, really don’t look forward to having to clear out her house one day. She lives alone in a 3 story, 4 bedroom, 3 bathroom house, a basement full of shite, a garage full of crap. Every closet, drawer, cabinet is crammed full of useless clutter. I hate it. And she’s always loading my kids up with junk for birthdays and holidays and I DONT WANT IT
Emilie,
I was cleaning out my house in 2018. I was 50 and she was 28.
I picked up some stuff that my mom and I worked on together. I asked her if she wanted it. She said MOM I wasn't there it doesn't mean anything to me.
It hurt my feelings for a while. However, it really helped me to let go of a lot of STUFF.
5 years later I am finally getting my house in order. It feels really good.
It really helps to hear your thoughts about issue.
sorry i can´t afford a home thats big enough for 5000 decorative china pieces
But I don't know anyone who has that many china pieces. No one would want that much. Minimalist or not. And if they have that much of it chances are it's not great quality. I think since" Walmart " a lot of people have acquired a lot of "junk. But there are still those who own quality pieces and priceless antiques. There's a big difference.
I don't blame anyone for not wanting to have a lot of stuff. It smothers me. I am talking about your normal heirloom pieces not a house full of stuff. I don't think you have to go to the extreme either way. As long as you have what you need and cherish. I don't think your Dad blew the money if he got pleasure out of collecting it. But I can understand your feelings if its a lot.
😂 too true
get a real job then
Too much stuff in decorating is claustrophobic for some. Not calming or serene
It's not just millennials. I'm 60 and I have always craved a simple life with just the things I need and love. I was a minimalist before it became popular. If we dont start consuming less i dont know when the earth will run out of resources and places to put all this unwanted stuff.
Throwing out your parents' stuff is NOT consuming less. It's CONSUMING MORE--double the stuff. If you really cared about the environment, you would cherish the older things already in existence instead of buying new. Manufacturing the new stuff for people to buy after discarding the old uses up precious resources and also adds to pollution. I call BS.
I'm sorry but I'm a musician, have 2 grand pianos, 1 I bought, the other gifted me afterwards, a 1914 Steinway. I have musical instruments and play them all (I am a conductor), and I have a lot of filing cabinets of music treasures from the entire 20th Century and before. My grandchildren and SONS appreciate it all. I am 72. I earned my living with music, and I wouldn't think of throwing away Bach, Beethoven or Brahms, let alone all the 20th Century music my grandchildren can play! I have fine china (beautiful) to go along with fine music. Millenials are short-sighted in my opinion, and thankfully there are none of them in my family.
@@MargaretWalkerCellist you cannot compare one thing to the other. Musical instruments are valuable and expensive pieces, and many of the old ones are very good quality and even collectible. In here we are talking about clutter (some even worthless items) that just ocupy space in your home. Apples and oranges.
Margaret Walker a fucking grand piano is not comparable to a dusty old plate
One thing that didn't get mentioned: Younger people have a different design/taste aesthetic. They just hate that stuff.
LOL, I'm old and I hate that stuff.
I'm young - and I *love* that stuff!
Then why do they buy 50's retro furniture, dishes, etc? Its laughable, many are criticizing the very era they decorate their own places with!
@@deniseatthelake not the same people. Same generation, but individual human beings with different opinions. Imagine that.
I buy most everything thrifted BECAUSE I love 50s/60s design.
I do not want China made in China. So millennials. Contemporary and authentic style is on.
Odd how there are different reasons for people holding on to stuff in general. My mother grew up incredibly poor in Mexico City back in the 60's and never even had toys or even a meal some days. Once she started earning good money after years of hard work, she started buying tons of things she deemed valuable just because they were expensive. After last year's earthquake, her whole perspective on her belongings changed. She realised the few truly "valuable" items would've been impossible to rescue if her home were destroyed for any reason so she has slowly started to downsize and re-evaluate what she spends her money on. She also stopped saying how much she wanted me to inherit all her stuff. While I still lived with her, I would declutter half of my closet hoping to keep it that way and she'd feel like she needed to "replenish" what I had "lost"- and most of it I'd end up giving away because I had no real use nor love for it. Now she prefers to take me out for food, a movie, a drink or even just for a walk instead of giving me things to keep and she seems much happier now. The general mindset is slowly shifting in favour of experiences rather than things.
Young people are so smart to travel light. You can expect to move a lot before finally settling down. Stuff is such a burden.
The Lenox Eternal pattern shown CAN be put in the dishwasher on china setting. Warm your plates before serving food. Enjoy family china, crystal and silver on any occasion - it will make it special. Most important, enjoy making memories with friends and loved ones, face to face and put down the devices.(How many of those are piling up??)
I put my Wedgwood china in the dishwasher and don’t have a problem with it...I agree with Allison Klein- it’s a pity that young people all want to live in white plain rooms that are so conforming....they don’t seem to have the ability to be individual or creative and don’t appreciate anything with history or character- a shame 😕🏡🤗
This is all quite silly really, reading the comments. Anything of *value* will still be appreciated. Most of this stuff has no value. A generational full silver set or a true antique will likely still be appreciated. A set of dated old plates and ugly nick nacks that were purchased in the 50s will not.
@pennellkay I don't collect anything from the 80s (my childhood) - its all crap lol
There are people who still love the old goofy stuff. This is not a new phenomenon, my mother didn't want her mother's stuff and that was a hell of a long time ago. To try and make this a a new thing is so REDICULAS. My daughter has cherry picked thru my house and told me what she is taking, from collectables to furniture and even clothing. My kitchen cookware and serving pieces aren't safe from her 5 finger requisitioning
even now. The report is very narrow minded and just rediculas.
No one wants silver tea sets. Maybe in the South. They need polishing and are too fancy.
@@sonsaraeronnow4404 it's "ridiculous"
I honestly dont get the point of those weird porcelain figurines collections.. kids cant play with them, and you need to buy a bookshelf or a table of some sort to display them.. and they just sit there collecting dust..kinda creepy imo
Damn I love vintage. The furniture is more sturdy and the kitchen appliances don’t break that easily. Today’s stuff is crap. I keep it minimalistic and clutter free by skipping on the modern stuff and being selective about the vintage I bring in the house.
I'm not a Millennial. But space is an issue. I've had to turn down things from family members and about 4 years ago, had to get rid of quite a bit of my own stuff when moving into a place almost half the size I had before. Even now I'm trying to look at clearing the 'clutter'.
Also have told many as well not to even give me presents. It cost them a lot and just adds to the clutter. Told many who still insist that if they are still so inclined to donate the money they would have spent to a charity. It would make me happy and help someone else.
It is a new style and I love that. More of a Scandinavian approach to life.
Old stuff is a bit morbid. My mother never had clutter. None. She just thought it was all junk. She was right and she was born in 1930.
I am a boomer and grew up around antiques.
My family relatives bought quality and took pride in their belongings.
I was taught to appreciate their working to acquire lovely things.
I always appreciated their beautiful homes.
Gradually, as they passed I found my siblings didnt want the family heirlooms.
I.tried to keep many items,but over time,they became more of a burden.
I had to insure many pieces.
I am 74 now and my children,do not want much of what I have saved.
I made the mistake of just giving away,to get rid of things.
Then I realized,I could sell to.antique stores.
I was amazed at each generation'sTASTE in decor.
No one under 60,wants their relatives BELONGINGS,unless they can sell.
Some,do appreciate the items, but most do not want things that will cost to insure or move.
Their attitude is,they can buy more.
With the antique malls and yard sales they can buy much cheaper.
I watch the vintage videos and it amazes me,what people throw away.
For myself,it is hard to let go,of things that were acquired over time and that were evidence of hard work.
Now, I am downsizing and it is painful to get rid of my things,let alone those that belonged to the elders.
I do realize, I cant take it with me,if I go to a nursing home or when I get a smaller home.
So ,I have been getting rid of things,because my family will not want much of what I have.
It is a bittersweet situation.
I do,however,wish I had reached this stage years ago.
I enjoy my antiques and stuff because I loved the relatives,who left them to me.
I, on the other hand ,do feel relieved,that hopefully my family will not have to go through my belongings ,while I am alive and. I CAN'T say where they go.
While, I can still have control it is making it easier.
I experienced others helping and it cost much emotional pain,and even a few friendships.
So now I donate to shelters or churches for families who are needy.
I am happier.
I have given to my family,what they wanted.
So I don't have to be concerned about any feuding or hurt feelings.
I feel better and don't buy anything that is not absolutely necessary.
It just makes life better.
I HAVE Friends who have inherited and have beautiful homes,but we are all realizing our children will sell or discard faster than we think.
So many of us are downsizing,while we can have a say.
A few will leave much , but their children do not live close or want our generation's belongings.
They will have estate auctions,immediately.
My thought, sell now or donate now.
The MILLENNIUMS WANT MONEY!.
MY FAMILY WILL GET AN OLD CAR AND SOME VINTAGE HANDKERCHIEFS 🤗
Lillian Williams Thank you for sharing! Take good care, Be Safe🥰
I'm gen X. I love going to antique shops and looking at all the items. I have my every day dishes which are still very nice Portmerion botanical gardens from England. I had the chance to live in England in the 1990's and I love my dishes. I don't use paper plates or plastic. I also have some furniture from Korea since I had the chance to live there in the late 1980's. Now days people have a lot of cheaply made furniture that in my opinion has no style.
I'm going through this right now! I have 3 storage units full Stem to Stern full of crap! A lot of what she's saying is true!!! Nobody entertains anymore! Families are scattered like dandillion seeds in the wind!
Yesterday I found an entire medium sized uhaul box full of baseball cards and Pokemon cards ....I can't help but feel like I "might have" given away that $1.5 mil bbcard! But it's gone NOW! I just haven't the time to rumage through it all! I just don't! It's one thing to go through it when your doing nothing else but housework and the house is paid off but it's another day when your paying $700-$1000 for storage units.
I'm an only-child and I do not look forward to the day I need to clean out my Boomer parents' 3,000 sq. ft. suburban home packed to the gills with THINGS. Family heirlooms will always be important, but cheap tchotchkes are straight up clutter.
get them started now ! my poor Aunt was the only one who had the most time to go through my Grandmas stuff and she had to wade through 3 large u-hauls and one trailers worth of "stuff" from a 3 bedrm 2 bath home and full sized basement. most of it was tchotches :(
Amanda H My mom was hired to go through a 90 yo womans house. She filled trashcan after trashcan with this woman lifetime of knick knacks. I got a nice set of pink pyrex bowls and a ugly purple scale and a small step ladder. You never know where your stuff will end up! That said, I've got a basement full of stuff...
Marc, I hear you loud and clear. I’ve been in the antique business for 25 years and now I am liquidating so my dear Son doesn’t have to get rid of my “junk” - Time to pass it along to the next owner.
I don’t wanna do that to my kids when time comes. My home is less than 600 sq feet, and I have very little stuff.
765respect : If you have the all the nesting pink Pyrex bowls..those go for about $250.00
*Not everything is just junk.....know what you have before you toss*
Also is that I'm 63 I love my great grandmother's things and my grandmother's things and I have some of my mother's things.. but in time I realized only I see the people in my past in my mind's eye my children and grandchildren and great-grandchildren will never know them. Even the pictures I have does not interest my grandchildren.. so sad
that is sad !! I would have liked pictures! I have very little pictures and I would have liked to see the greats I came from to see the family semblance!
It's too sad if they don't want to know,because there will someday be someone in your family in another generation who will want to know the people in these photographs you have...Unfortunately people other than yourself aren't thinking of that possibility. Enjoy your pictures,look at them and don't throw them out.Maybe one day when we both have our turn to.move on from this earth one person may rescue those photos...It won't hurt anyone who doesn't care..So we won't have to feel guilty that we threw away our past connections who helped us get here!
Not wanting pictures is completely strange. Don’t people want to know where they come from? Ok, 50 albums of printed stacks is a lot, but a few is invaluable to grandchildren. A few curated of photos throughout their lifetime is fine
They’re not trying to be mean but they’re quality of life is a lot better without the clutter. I thrift a lot and the good useful stuff will find a home if you donate it.
They're = They Are "..... but THEIR quality of life....." And yes, I AM the grammar police.
Donate last. Even freecycle first. I donated Pyrex and computer monitor stands for desks at a time folk had them. When I was asked to carry the boxes through I found the person sorting had no idea what some of the stuff was so simply put in outside in the skip. "Thought it was electrical." It costs them to get the skip removed. Just as easily have told me "No thanks." I advertised stuff on Freecycle and eventually sold it on Facebook Market Place.
Or go into a museum and trip over on the stairs and knock it over costing a small fortune and months of work to glue back together.
I was born in 1981 and I took some of my Grandma’s beautiful German made, blue flower pattern china after she passed. It means a lot to have it.
So nice of you! I am German and I like and have quality modern things...not Kitsch. Enjoy your Oma's china. 💚
Y'all make Millennials look like terrible people. We understand memories aren't attached to stuff. I don't want to own furniture I can't sit on or plates I only use when company comes over. I don't want to buy a huge house just to have places to put all that stuff.
I totally get it. I am a Boomer. My Mom and Grandma had collections of STUFF that I declined to inherit. I don't like to dust!
I mean parents are downsizing and want there kids to basically store it for them...
musicianonamission...millenials can only make themselves look bad; look at what you are doing..its not one extreme or the other...everyone is free to choose their own lifestyle, profession, dishes, houses/aptmts/condos so do it....who says you need a big house or alot of things? You need whatever makes you happy and fits your lifestyle, and remember, your priorities will change as you get older. What you like when you are 20, will change at 30, 40 and 50, etc. that is what is fun about life, you get to change it up whenever you want!
(Read my post right above this): I am also a musician, pianist, cellist, violinist, conductor, and I sit on all my furniture in the house and teach my grandchildren how NOT to sit in a chair. My excellent-condition sofas are 40 years old, and they sit in them comfortably. My house is full of china, sterling, and Bach, Beelthoven and Brahms, and my children (none a "Millenial") have told me not to throw away ANYTHING! :) It's a matter of upbringing, I think. They see the value of yesteryear. I also planted an orchard here of over 250 trees, so our food is of excellent quality also. I am 72, like our President. :)
@@MargaretWalkerCellist I already love your house. When people visit me they always comment " you have such an European style home"
I enjoy eating on good china, using sterling flatware and fabric napkins.
Many of us women recognize the drudgery of hand washing something that you cannot put in the dishwasher, constantly polishing silver, having to iron linens. Plus the money it takes to have a huge entertainment setup. We were told that we had to spend money on a lot of things and they had to be impressive for our company to see. Really, it's all about spending time with people who don't care that you have the complete dinner wear set. As a Gen X-er, I find the Millennial way of looking at things refreshing and good for my pocketbook. Plus, who wants anyone to pawn off all their extra stuff onto you just so they don't have to deal with selling or getting rid of it???
I know, GXer here too, and I just don't want loads of useless stuff either. My daughter, who should be the one to embrace the less stuff aesthetic, has stuff for days! Lol!
i'm like 4 years late to this so i apologize for the notification lul. but as Millennial who still lives with his parents I'm of 2 minds on this. On one hand I agree with you. I look at all the clutter I have around the house and keep asking my dad "just throw all this shit away, we don't need it" but he keeps saying to either sell it or that we need it. It's maddening, we don't need 2 mattresses and an extra bed fame! But on the other hand when ever I see the way some of my friends live or heaven forbid the way other Millennials live I get sad. It's like they lived with too much clutter and now think having literally anything other than the necessities is clutter. some of these rooms don't even have a bed frame. just a mattress on the ground in the corner. Like at a certain point I want my space to looked lived in. Not an empty void devoid of life.
@@weirdo3116I like a happy medium. I wouldn't want extra mattresses and bedframes but I do like nice furniture and a curated amount of art and small curios (in a display case, easy to dust)
Not just the young adults !! I am seeing this in 2018 and retired two years ago at 62 and went through this with my Mothers things when she went into a care home, I have no need or want for shelves of colored avon bottles, collections of lighters and ashtrays, amber glass, blue glass, etc etc etc etc etc, boxes of it upstairs, downstairs, basement and garage!!!!! we did a quick go through and I literally took a couple pictures off the wall and a small grocery sack with a few kitchen tools I wanted and that is IT! We literally boxed it allllllll up and called Goodwill to come in a BIGGG truck and hauled it away and what they would not take we hauled to the dump, (old encyclopedias, records etc) just too much stuff for anyone to have, people used to live in larger homes and when they married got the usual 2/3 bedroom two bath with a yard and garage and filled it up! I now get so stressed out if I have too much clutter and if I find a small thing or two that I want and need I get it, and it has my own memories attached, not everyone elses, I like ease of movement and easy cleaning, I recently cleaned out my house and hauled boatloads to the local Discovery center (American cancer society thrift store) and they were glad to take it all, the Re-Store for habitat for humanity, and books and magazines to the retirement home and Dr's waiting room! I just like to have my couch, table, computer desk and bed, so I can experience things as I want, not worry about what to clean or move around today, I told all of my things (verbally and out loud) "Goodbye old friends, go have a new life with someone else, thank you"!
Good for you!! It sounds like you had a great, workable plan!
I think most people just need help adding these quality, useful items to their decor. I have my husbands childhood bedroom set (double bed with chest of drawers) in the spare bedroom. It's solid wood, medium in color and not overly detailed. With fresh linens and a modern color palette it is wonderful! The juxtaposition of the old with the new is perfect! Same can be said with dishes. Start with your own simple modern plates/bowls and add a beautiful old crystal case with fresh flowers and antique linen napkins. Perfect....simple......classy.....and a nod to the past!
It’s high time people stoped buying so much junk. Minimalism is the best hope for the planet.
Actually, what would be good for the planet is to stop manufacturing stuff. Then, instead of buying new items, the next generations need to accept the hand-me-downs and buy used things at resale shops. THAT is what is best for our planet.
Minimalism? These are the people who drink bottled water and buy a new cell phone every time a new one comes out. Collectibles are just that... you keep them, and pass them on.
Agreed.
that's for sure . i am 72 years old but i understand that nobody wants my stuff . so i got rid of it already . i am not attached to stuff .
@@mariannelottes7922 , me too honey. I'm about to retire soon and I want to get a smaller place. My kids don't want my stuff either. I told them I'm going to sell it all and donate what's left. Don't it feel great just getting rid off all the stuff you really don't need ?
The American dream is dead. The big family homes with the white picket fence and two car garage is out of reach for most millennials who are drowning in student loans and find it hard to keep up with the bills and rising cost of living. Many boomers got their start in a world which was very different and so they think millennials just don't have an appreciation of the past, which isn't true. We just don't have room for this stuff.
Lisa Zoria and don’t forget that Baby Boomers destroyed the economy (amongst many other things) that made it impossible to have “The American Dream”
EXACTLY. I have a LOT of heirlooms... I use them at least a half dozen times a year for special family occasions. I have a 12 person set of bone china and I take great pride in using it as often as possible, because I love to entertain. I am a single gay man, who lives in a 3000 sq ft. home... and guess where the family spends the holidays? MY HOUSE... because it's full of history!!
michael soweto I love that you took pride in your family history. Best to you and yours.
Abbey Grantham
Did you even watch the video? It's not like we're talking about a pair of shoes or music genre. People are embracing this lifestyle out of *necessity*. As long as making a decent living remains a challenge, this "fad" will remain as long as people need it.
I don't have the room, nor I don't care for it.
Hey Hey Hey. I.m in yr 82 & I don't want this clutter either. If I have people in to dine, I use the very best paper plates & napkins. My cat has 2 ceramic dishes, however as he deserves the best.🙄😙
Ann Brown you’re cute god bless you 🦋🌈
Yet thrift shops in Los Angeles where I’m from sells this stuff like crazy. It flies off shelves.
Geez, I should have shipped all my mom's over the top frilly crap to LA. NO ONE in Florida wants it--but then again, Florida IS known as 'God's Waiting Room' . Hee
Oleander, I wonder if the stuff "flying off the shelves" has to do with people needing only small, single decorative pieces. Or just a chair. Rather than an entire set of anything. I wouldn't know about Los Angeles. I live in San Antonio and have visited consignment shops. I really enjoy going through the shelves and occasionally see something I like. But I rarely buy anything for my one bedroom apartment. And soon, to help my parents, I may downsize to something smaller. And I'm okay with that. I already did that when I moved from Salt Lake City from a studio apartment. I gave away, sold, or donated almost everything and was just fine with it.
I’ve noticed that everything sells, individual pieces and sets and at the nicer smaller thrifts which are run by volunteers and better organized ( as opposed to chains like Goodwill and Salvation Army) the prices are high and if you see something and don’t buy it it will often be gone in a couple of hours when you return. It might be the sheer number of people living in Los Angeles County something like 7 million. So of course things are going to sell. I have to say that the quality is better here than in some states I’ve visited and as it has gotten more expensive to live here even more so.
I go to thrift shops and Goodwill and they are ALWAYS packed full of people and I don't mean necessarily people who are lower income. This video is misleading because it's stating family heirlooms are out. That's really not the case where I live!
I agree, in Chicago thrifting is very lucrative.
So true! Yet I (baby boomer) treasure a few momentos to keep connected to the past! This is history! Please save just a piece or two!
In the last 10 year, I have inherited shitload of things from my cousins after my uncles and aunts passed away. They don't want most of the stuff they left behind and just give away most of the things they don't like and couldn't sell. I ended up getting a lot of Enamels, China, Silver, Brass, Crystals, Books, Furnitures, and many other stuff that people won't buy. I keep most of it in my garage, and I find it sad that these things my relatives once held with regard are now sitting in my garage, covered in dust.
@Alex Shuysky - throw the dusty whole lot away or donate them to Goodwill / the Salvation Army. They are taking up valuable space in your garage, going unused and unappreciated. I see people with so much stuff in their garage and it looks like a junk yard. Like Sanford and Son. You will thank me later.
So true! I've told my mom exactly which family heirlooms I'll take on & care for so she can plan for the rest.
talk to her about getting them now!! that is what I did with my two girls, do it while she is still here and can see you enjoy them!
I'm the exact opposite. I entertain frequently, and 'formal' for me is the everyday norm. For the life of me, I cannot understand the mindset of those who want to go through life 'making do with less'. I love polishing my silver, and hand-washing my fine china and crystal stemware.
dm8057bk I would say it depends on your lifestyle and what you can afford. Most of the younger generation are up to their eyeballs in student loans and debt and could barely afford to pay their rent, much less fancy entertaining. And most of them need to be more mobile to go where job opportunities are so less stuff to carry is better for a lot of them. 🤷♀️
You're my twin😃
Because u got class.That's a woman 2 me.Thank you!!!
I dont think of minimalism as "making do" with less, it's about not having only the things that add value to your life by making you happy and/or are useful to you in your every day life.. I got the cheapest, plain white plates from ikea that I use every day and if i have company over, i put the plates on a gold charger and it instantly looks fancy shmancy lol
Sometimes I fantasize about hosting an event at my house but in reality I know that's not gonna happen anytime soon so what's the point of keeping a few different sets of plates or cups or silverware?
I do however have more than 10 plants and I'm obsessed with getting more but one of my friends recently told me to her it would be such a hassle to have even 1 plant
You see what I mean?
Old.
This is one thing that I do like about millennial. They don't want clutter and junk. They just want to live.
experiences>stuff that's why we buy things in the first place - buying it is an experience, but the thrill is gone within a week. Go on a trip or have a nice party and remember it forever.
They want cash because they're head over heels in debt with their credit cards.
@@HeavymetalHylian So if you have that party, you're gonna need household stuff in order to entertain...you can travel and have parties AND a roof over your head with the things you love and the things you need to live life well. It not either or.
TheRisky9...you make it sound like having a furnished home is automatically 'cluttered". Are you going to live under a bridge somewhere? It is not "either or". You can have a beautiful home AND LIVE in that home with family, friends and children and have great memories! Some folks even have cottages or second homes and have a darned good time doing it! Being a nomad with nothing sounds awfully boring and empty to me.
LOL. "I don't want your stuff"! I just heard those words coming from my Daughter, who just bought a house. I have been saving things for her and well now I have to find someone else. I wish I said those words to my Mother when she gave me everything I want to pass down. I never liked it either!
Sing "LET IT GO" and move on. It's still hard but I promise you will feel better when it's done.
This is also funny...I hear many say they have downsized yet the fridge door is covered with junk and there will be boxes and baskets of junk all over in plain sight instead of stored out of sight.
I agree. Leah is no minimalist.
When they. Get older they will wonder what happened to the antiques that Mom loved so much!
Traditions have changed alot and families are smaller and non-traditional-many different lifestyles...today friends and family meet at restaurants and are even going out for holiday dinners, and no more Sunday dinners at grandma's where the entire family gathered-people are transient with less ties to family and rarer still for extended families to live in the same town... Gone are the traditional families and jobs, where the wife cooked dinner for hubbies boss.
No one wants to polish the silver or slave over big dinner parties unless they have help.
I enjoyed collecting antiques, gardening and decorating my homes, and having people over when I was young, but dont enjoy that anymore; I prefer to travel, and dine out with friends now...lifestyles change as you get older. I moved around so much when I was a child that having a stable home with beautiful things and gardens was important and I made sure that happened; it was very stabilizing for me, and gave me a lot of happiness. Now I have a cottage like home with gardens, much smaller and am very happy with that too. Downsizing and decluttering is natural as one gets older.
I just got married at 36 years old. I've dreamed of getting married my whole life and of having Lenox plates and other decorative items in a beautiful breakfront to display them. But no one my age even visits each other anymore! No one has dinner parties where women now can use these nice things ! I think people see each other on Facebook and don't feel the need for an in-person visit. And truthfully, I work full time as does my husband and I don't have time to iron fancy linen tablecloths and polish silverware. So, my bridal registry was filled of more practical gifts but most wedding guests ended up just giving us money. It's just a different time now.
mascara1888 what’s stopping you from inviting friends over? You don’t need to be fancy.
mascara1888 good point. It cracks me up when I watch decorating shows and they always talk about entertaining. Who's doing all the entertaining? Nobody I know period and on those rare occasions when I entertain I use paper plates I'm too lazy to wash all those dishes. let's face it we just don't want all that old stuff oh, if we do want stuff we want stuff that reflects our personality
you know thats sad.. My friends and I have worked out a day every week where we'll go and coffee at each others houses and spend time together for cpl hours. You should make time to do that.. if your friends dont ,then find friends who will and make time for yourself.. working all the time will kill you faster than you want.. working all the time is not healthy
Congratulations. My family meet together for meals together, though we have to plan ahead re 5 different work schedules. We keep it simple and later, we play our favourite music whilst we chill and chat. What a blast. I have a friend's meal get together as well. We take turns hosting. Go for it, girl.
@@Amateur_Pianist_472 I gave up because most of my girlfriends work full time as well and we are all exhausted and end up catching up on Zoom. And I live 3 hours away.
Sent this to my mum, we’ve inspired each other to declutter. :)
It's like everyone forgot about Gen X.
Van Vasko we are stuck in the middle lol
No we haven't. It's just media hype. You are just as important. The millenials have trouble sticking to anything. The true millenial would have been born after 2000. My son was born in 2000. He works, goes to school and is a hard worker. Already has been on his first job a year and a half. Those people born in the late 80's and 90's still have boomer parents.
I have a friend who is Gen X. (I'm 64 and he's 54 - he says he's Gen X at least.) He made the comment once, "Like most people of my generation I don't get along with others of my generation. I prefer to hang out with Milennials." He's single and I think the translation is, "I'm an older guy who wants a young chick." LOL I thought it was an odd comment at the time.
Yes, that is what he meant. Always been lots of "Those guys" around. LOL Roll of eyes. Get to be 64 and then they are just an old pervert.
He's not in Generation X. He is still a baby boomer.
i love vintage and antiques and cherish what i've collected , even my 33 year old daughter has begun to collect antiques etc , which makes me happy
As for me, chinaware, crystal, and silverware is getting passed along to the kids, or charity.
But I am keeping, or buying some antiques... tools, and such. Some items from the ‘50s are desirable to me. Even items that need restoring. And if I were to choose between an Emeril cast iron pan, or my grandmas well used cast iron pan... well, not a hard choice there.. old cast iron is amazing, and if it was my grandmothers, even better.
Still, I lean towards downsizing as well. Too much physical clutter bothers me, and is too much work in upkeep and organizing.
They don't want it now but after their parents get rid of it, they will get their home and then they will want it and have to buy it back. 😯
I like the old refillable compact case of my great grandmothers that she used for homemade blush she made. It's very precious to me and is a reminder of where I got my DIY attitude at times ^_^
@@missyk2454 Wish I had Grandma's hat pins. 👒
@@alicehallam7949 My parents sold their home and downsized when I was in my fifties - as were my older sisters. We did not want their stuff then because we already had our own homes, fully furnished to our tastes. My mother especially was shocked. Apparently she thought we coveted her things most of our adult lives.
Kate Yare
Could be. She worked hard to get them, and she loved them. ☺
I am heart broken over this. I am 67 and have treaures and heirlooms from my family 5 & 6 generations back. I have respected, loved and appreciated that it was handed down to me. There are so many stories linked to these treasures that I don't want forgotten. I came from a different era 😳
Take photos of it and write the stories down. The times have changed, and those are from a bygone era. It will be good to have the stories of when people used to actually use fine china and sit down to a meal at a well dressed table with manners and no cell phones! Write it all down. Then get rid of it because no one does those things anymore unless they are in the top 1%.
You are so right Bobbi. It has taken me some time to get to the point as seeing as MY inheritance. I will be looking into how to sell these things the best way and enjoy the rest of my life the best that I can. Thank you !
P.S. I sleep in my g-g-grandmother's brass bed, that some of the last 3 generations were born in. I have always cherished this bed. It gives me peace, comfort and connection with the family I cherish. I am surrounded with these treasures in my home, it makes me feel comforted by family that have passed on.
I think it's a combination of "different era" and personality - I'm 64 so same generation as you and I never liked a lot of "stuff" and have embraced minimalism. I want the items I do keep to be extra-special and/or high quality. Sentimental items are the hardest but I recently sold my grandfather's wedding band and my engagement ring (been divorced over 20 years) for needed cash so...it's easier now. As for photos, I plan on purchasing a hand-scanner and digitalizing those I keep.
Good for you! it is hard at first but gets much easier! I just gave someone my Mothers wedding ring, It had been in my jewelry box almost 50 yrs, I dont wear jewelry, I dont have grandkids, or neices and nephews, so the person I asked was elated!! to get it, I cleaned it and gave it to her and she is wearing it now! so it is alot better than sitting in a box in the closet, I have a collection of china and ceramic dolls of good quality and am donating them to a thrift store too, been in the closet forever because I did not want them to get "dirty and dusty" and realized what is the freaking point!! am I comforted just by the fact I have them?? so off they go to a new life.
Not only are millennials keeping less, let's be honest- a lot of that stuff is ugly by today's standards.
Yeah, that’s right. Grandma’s stuff would be more appealing with a Pokémon sticker on it. Lol, millennials...the lost generation.
Agreed
That's why I like things that are neutral. Like my dishes are clear glass. Nothing special but very versatile and pretty much timeless. Clear glass never goes out of style 😊
Then why is everything retro now? Millenials dont realize they are actually buying designs their grandparents bought in the 50's! LOL! Don't criticize a generation unless you know about their history, lifestyle and traditions...things change but they also cycle back in-everything old is new again is so right; many of my parents friends had lovely homes and collections and I am a boomer.
@@deniseatthelake Exactly all the hot Furniture styles, the mid century pieces, the Barcelona chairs are all semi and just plain antiques. The new furniture is absolute garbage and horrible for your environment. A lot of the older stuff was made of woods that are no longer available to the average home buyer. I just keep the case goods and change soft goods because styles do repeat.
Well, problem is when people identify with stuff...thank God that new generations are starting to realize it
At the end of the day, it is just stuff. You won't be taking it all with you when you go. Less is better!
just wipe out American history and your family history - and I bet you have the works as far as "stuff" goes. The furniture, tv, dvr, cable, the latest phone and computer equip. This is as sick as these fing millennials are. Fuck the millenials. Fuck them
Sweetheart, the reason most people are not wanting all this stuff now days is because it actually IS unncecessary! i dont know how old you are but I am in my sixties and I dont expect my two girls to take anything I have, I actually told them the other day "anything, and I mean anything I have if you want it come and get it NOW" and then I can get rid of whatever I had decided (and I did, lots and lots) we come to a point where our possessions are possessing us! You dont have to get rid of everything you own, just realize that family or American history as you stated is not because of what we owned, it is because of who we are! My family history was not defined by my Mothers myriad boxes of knick-knacks and dishes, but by our own memories of time together, they stuff just happened to be there too. You can remember and value your memories, you dont need the physical items, and you dont have to be millennial to think this way, I have a Mother who is in a care home (as I stated in another comment) and after three months of driving back and forth on the weekends to clean her place out after she moved was a monumental project and I had decided waaaay before that that it was all going, they were my Mothers things and memories and not mine, things she bought, not me, things she used, not me, memory has nothing to do with it. it was somebody else's before it was hers and now it is someone else's again, the only value put on the things she had acquired was the story she told me on some things, I was not there, dont remember the people and did not know them, I am not being disrespectful but it meant nothing to me, just someone elses story. The fact that a relative had something for a long time does not make it special, it just makes it special to you if you value the memory of it.
@Codi Bell ... True!
I hope millennials go away so fast - you are all wrong. Don't you care about your family or country's history?
SomeGirls what are you so angry about? Im just stating my opinion about this video. Of course i care about my family and history. Just because other people or myself do not want to keep certain items from our family, doesn't mean that were wiping out history. There are some items that i have kept and will keep forever because i use them. Other items i didn't take, because it didn't have no sinifigance or i just loved the memories from it more. Some people like to keep it all, some like myself keep a small percentage, some part with all of it. Like i said a few days ago, it is just stuff. When we leave this earth, that stuff won't be coming with us.
It's not just our stuff, they don't want anybodies stuff. LOL
They run up so much credit on their credit cards they can't enjoy anything their first thought is to sell it because they need to make a payment. Most of them spend all their money on cell phones and cell phone bills. In any event nobody wants junk. They don't realize the difference between junk and antiques. If you ever watch all the shopping hauls they video then you know what they define as valuable. LOL
@@abbeygrantham1191 ooo who hurt you
I love this. Dont pawn your trash off on to me. I dont care who it used to belong to, its not my burden to drag around the rest of my life...
I really liked this news report. Interesting, well written. Charming reporters/hosts. :)
They are not making stuff like they used to. I think people will regret what they passed up and didn't value. I agree collectibles and the treasure-hunting activity they used to represent have fallen out of favor. Less is more because today we are practically nomadic with how we move around. Commitment and stability are old fashioned values. Sad.
Sad? "A rolling stone gathers no moss." There was a time when rolling was considered bad and moss considered good. In the past several decades, the sense of this adage has been reversed: Rolling is considered good and moss considered bad. It is cultural shift.
I've seen estate "sales" where a house' contents are free, because they want to clear the place fast. Or sales where stuff is 75% off after only a day of full price. Many of these homes are fully packed with worthless junk that should have been discarded decades ago. One estate sale company I've encountered admits that they are just clearing houses full of marginal goods, with little profit for the home owner or heirs and what little money raised is taken by the estate liquidators as their fee.
I just can't understand the older generations need to have so much special stuff that was never used because it was so special. My mother threw out her wedding China when we moved. Guess how many times it was used. Never. It was super special and expensive and had to be hand washed. Since it was too stressful to use, it wasn't. The blender she got for her wedding was used weekly. Seems like more practical things are what needs to be focused on. Something you can use every day and remember who gave it to you and why. When I get married I'm going to ask for some fiesta ware dishes in turquoise. Fancy enough for a dinner party, but inexpensive enough to use everyday. And I'll get to remember why I have them every time I use them. Previous generations seem to be over saturated with things too special to use. If they aren't ever used when your kids are growing up, why would it be anything special to your kids? Not their wedding China, just a box of dishes kept in a cabinet that were never used. My grandma had a fancy living room set that was only used 1-2 times a year. Why would any of it be special to me? Zero memories with any of the stuff. Do you know what dishes I did want? The cheap 1970s corelle dishes with the avacado green flowers around the edge. We used them every time we were there, and now every time I see a piece in a thrift store it makes me smile. It's nice to have nice things, but not so nice that people can't relax and enjoy them.
It is great young people are minimalist, First time I travel had 10 pieces of Luggage, now one small one is good enough.
It's very sad that people are not getting together in each other's houses, as it's part and parcel of the epidemic of loneliness that's around. Restaurants are really uncomfortable and rip-off places and there's no substitute for long dinners around a table, followed by chatting in the living room for hours afterwards, even if it does leave a lot of washing-up to do.
Peepl should do that. Use paper plates and cups. Only real utensils to was. A few posts n pans.
This is so true!! Boomer here. Just downsized, and all four of my millennial Children passed on things I thought they’d be proud to have. No one wants a gravy boat anymore.
All this stuff is mostly the result of people who went through the great depression and couldn't let go of anything. It was a different time and way of life. My grandmother and mother didn't have to work so their home was their sense of pride and joy and they liked to fill it with beautiful things to look at and talk about. Having a nice set of China meant your husband was a good provider and you wanted to show it off to your friends. Bored women tend to shop and collect things. They didn't have the large walk In closets filled with clothes tho, like you see now. The men were more about the cars, the house, the boat. Stuff that was usually traded off or sold later. People are becoming less materialistic I think, which is a good thing. You can't take it with you.
P J I remember my Grandma born in 1914 would even save foil, and sometimes I think twice before I throw it away now. She lived through the depression, and now with me, I think of the planet more, in saving it.
@@dbkyhere9229 , yes my grandmother saved foil too! I remember seeing her rinse it off in the sink My mother would even save the plastic bags that bread came in and reuse them. She would make us put them over our socks before we put our shoes on in the winter so our feet wouldn't get wet walking to school in the snow. Good old days. ..lol
Reusing plastic bread bags makes more sense than buying n discarding countless sandwich bags and storage containers. In my fridge, right now, I have a bag of cooked chicken thighs, a bag with /2 a cabbage and 1/2 a green pepper, a bag within a bag of previously opened spinach...oh, ditto for 3 dif bagged salads (I combine them) A bag of carrots, one of green beans, another bag slipped over a plate of cornbread, one over 1/2 plate of enchiladas....oh, cool...won't have to cook tonite! In my cabinet, I have more bag within a bag tortilla chips, crackers, macaroni, rice ...
Stacey Kersting . 😁😁
@@michelle-zd2nc , I know right😂 I'm gluten free. No hoarding bread bags for me!😂
My family stopped using fine china on Christmas years ago. No one in the family wants to spend an hour hand washing every single piece. By then the tryptophan from the turkey has set in and everyone just wants to fall asleep on the couch next to dad. Paper plates mean less time washing and more time being with loved ones. Not mention all the other days of the year where the china sits in the cupboard unused, taking up valuable space.
@@thefrillyfarmhouse Paper plates are great when your plumbing's gone bad and you can't work on it right away or get help for a while...I love using my Moms' pretty stoneware dishes.They are heavy and I wash them by hand.I hate auto-dish-washers,and will,God willing ,start using my Grandmas' China too for my family' dinner
@@thefrillyfarmhouse Enjoy using the beautiful stuff of the past..The fun and pleasure you get from appreciating them and presenting your food on them are worth it!😍
@@thefrillyfarmhouse Thank you for your invite!🐴That's my crazy grin! Ha,ha!😄
My childhood Little Golden Books are the most difficult to know what to do with because my parents dated & signed each one of them with my name as well as theirs! I intended to pass them on to my child & now I just save them for me! I'm almost 65 & when I die she will just have to decide if she will keep them or toss them.
What a treasure. They are keepers!
We're probably about the same age - I'll turn 65 on Dec. 24 but I don't have children nor siblings. I haven't thought that far ahead...heh. I really should update my will to donate my belongings to a charity so they can sell them for whatever money they bring. When I've inherited a few things that do mean a lot to me from my grandparents, my mother will say, "The buck really does stop with you."
Scan and save them digitally.
Sherry Dee Donate them to schools!!! Kids always need books to read and there are always schools that would probably appreciate the books. Especially if the kids can take them home and keep them. Just a thought
Put them inside deeper inset frames and hang up a few! They might look cute and cool on your wall.I bet most people would be surprised how many cool things they could display differently...Just set them inside,and don't dismantle the books.Pop them in wow! Hallway,Front door wall on the inside,on an easel etc.
I was born during the depression, then war came and shortages and rationing. I am a collector and proud of it. Fine to make the choice to be a minimumalist, quite another to be one with no choice. I love to polish, starch and iron and all the rest. Doing without is not all that much fun. I went one whole year during the war without a coat, reason, my mother couldn't find one. Everyone is given so many hours in the day, how you choose to use them or waste them is up to each one of us. I love my things and don't ask anyone to do it for me.
Storage unit sites are popping up everywhere. We're attached to 'things'. Just because it's sentimental to us doesn't mean it's special to someone else. Sell that stuff and go on a nice vacation and make some lasting memories.
I say , keep things around your home that MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD! Be happy. For some it may be Heir looms for some memories. Some families are sad , so they wouldn’t want stuff. Be true to yourself.
Living spaces are getting smaller and fashions change
I periodically go through my stuff and clothes and donate to Goodwill what I haven't used or worn in a year or two.
Ah, just wait. Life goes through cycles, and when the children and grandchildren of millennials grow up and want to know what happened to grandma or great grandma’s crystal or whatever else, handing them a “vintage” piece of electronic hardware instead won’t pass on their heritage.
More and more often younger teens are embracing reading actual printed on paper books and writing notes and letters by hand as something worth doing - it’s something “new”.
Junk is junk, and a lot of boomer stuff is truly junk; but there are always some items that carry sentiment from the giver and trigger memories in the receiver; and that makes them treasures worth holding on to.
There are also boomer treasures that are examples of craftsmanship that no longer exists: many becoming so rare they are effectively now one of a kind. Once they are relegated to the land fill there is no getting them back.
Never lose sight of tomorrow because of what is happening at this minute.
That's what those old people get for spending their money on all this crap. They should have gone on trips or bought long term insurance with that money instead. Bunch of horders. Don't burden your kids with all your crap.
My in-laws were highly offended when I told them I don't want any of their stuff except a beautiful vintage bowl set. They collect antique furniture and were highly offended until my MIL had to clean out her own mother's house recently and she realized what a burden all this junk is!! Now she's starting to downsize too.
That's kind of sad, because some of those old pieces are just so beautiful..Maybe at some point in time, a new generation will appreciate this old stuff. You know that old saying: "What's old is new again!"
We have a natural tendency to cling to things (objects, relations...). We would like to escape the fact that everything changes. Especially now, everything changes fast. Being a minimalist also helps following this trend of accelerated movement. It's way easier to move when you just have a laptop and a few clothes.
This is so true. Antiques have gone down in value because the young think its ugly
I hate old stuff unless it's functional. Old textiles are gross. Ancient microbes in old rugs. 199 yr.s of crud on them u can't get out. UG
@@MeTreesndirt I have a microbe zoo then,perhaps even a microbe farm or factory....Maybe I'll start selling designer sets complete with collector microbes,vintage kind.....
Wait, there thousands of you tube videos about young people and their "shopping hauls".
You're right! And all of it cheap crap.
But it's current crap, not second hand outdated crap from decades ago.
A lot of them are reviewers who will be talking about that stuff for their TH-cam channel. I watch a lot of Booktubers and another type of video they like to do is the "unhaul" where they actually get rid of books.
@@JayneTenn this is hysterical
TH-camrs make up a very tiny minority of the population.
Nothing new. Baby boomers went through this when their parents were downsizing.
LOL!!! TRUTH!
So so so much crap--multiple sets of china, enough stemware to entertain a small army, and all the fake 'collectible' junk from Franklin Mint to Beanie Babies to various Hallmark dust collectors (along with figurines like the ones shown in this video---SO MANY figurines). That was Mom's house for certain.
I assume someday that many millennial's children will be complaining about having to get rid of their parent's Star Wars and Marvel 'collectibles' -- yep, as you say, nothing new! LOL
Absolutely! The folks who lived through the great depression held on to everything. The boomers didn't want their old stuff, they wanted bright and shiny new things back in the 70s and 80s.
I know, I'm 57 and I have all of my in-laws old shit.
@@SparklingSilverCurls my grandma used to send me to school with my lunch in an empty bread bag. 😂
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I was born in 1961. A disabled sibling and I are the only people left in our family. There are no children who might want family items. I had to sell off a lot once our parents were gone, some things went to a local museum and a bit more will go there when I'm gone. I'm a minimalist or close to being one.That's the best arrangement for me in terms of preference, budget, and for when someone will have to deal with my belongings of which there aren't that many (apart from books that will be donated) as I live in an efficiency apartment.
Not just millennials. I’m so done with clutter. Minimalism is the thing. I have very very few passed down items. And I’m generation X.
Millennials don't know quality as evidenced at 1:36. The girl's apartment didn't look minimal. It looked junky.
She lives with roommates
I see a lot of baby boomers complaining that their kids don’t want family photos either but they’ve put zero effort into the transition. They usually offer shoeboxes full of unlabeled photos. If boomers want their kids to care at all, the parents need to make an effort. Digitize and scan the photos, name the people in the photos and document any memories. These are the parent’s memories so it’s not something their kids can even do themselves. A shoebox full of photos of strangers isn’t helpful but it could be an important piece of family history with a half year of effort.
I do not know how everyone thinks but speaking for myself...I do not like fussy dinnerware...frilly is not my thing...over done embellishments,decals,ruffles,figurines, silverware with extreme decoration, I lean more to clean simple plain interiors...not the over the top extreme frilly. Just me.
Generally agree, but sterling silver's always beautiful. Be hard to have so much that it made your space looked overly fussy...oh, to have THAT problem!
Some of these antiques could be priceless in the future .
Should have never purchased it to begin with and put the money in investments , every child can use some cash
What? Wow, you are speaking for many people. How do you know they didn't put away cash for their kids? I mean, your comment is so general, It's like you know thousands upon thousands of people. Don't judge everybody according to your won tastes. Live and let live. You assume way too much!
YELENA PEFFLE but that’s no fun 😏
@@tigermoon44 I agree.
It is how an older generation lived does't make it wrong. Allot was passed down. That is just what families had always done generation's after generation.
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Don't set aside nothing for this generation!! Bunch of ingrates!!! Me me me!!!! Damn bratz!!! Lol!!!!
...so they can buy stuff.
Would love some of the old pieces
The bright side is that high-quality candy dishes, commemorative plates. and figurines can be had for cheap!
Smart move: load up on Beanie Babies right now and hoard them until the craze returns, as surely it will! Then make a killing!
I try to sell my mother's stuff for her, but she can't fathom how little value things have nowadays. The internet has saturated the market. (Anybody need a sterling silver baked potato serving fork? Mm, didn't think so.)
Yep, we literally were giving my mother's china, etc. away.
Many people are no longer pretending to be something that they are not.
Sure! that's what you think........have you looked at people's instagram pages??? Nothing but a bunch of wanabies.
I recently had to have 'the talk' with a parent about not wanting silverware. You could see the disappointment and sadness but i dont have time or room for special silverware that can only be washed by hand and used maybe twice a year. Was hoping this parent will sell it, nope. Its in a basement in a corner waiting for fashions to change...... Guess ill be doing a clean out too.
I dont get it. Im hoping im blessed with the family art but the silverware is the emotional part?😅
Like the air we breathe and the blood ruining through our veins, our objets must move around.
Lady: you can pour wine in any shape of stemware and call it dinner.
Lol, hrmmmm. Dinner huh?
The boomers didn't collect it. Our parents, the Greatest Generation, did. And their parents. Now they've left it to us, and we don't want it all either. The generation gap between them and the boomers, with our different values, is still playing out.
the silent generation appreciated fine high quality stuff and just a bit of it. Unfortunately the boomers bought into the commercialization garbage of mass production.
Amanda H In my case, my 83 year old mom fell hook, line and sinker for commercial, fake collectibles and endless tcotchkes. Not a boomer by any stretch.
@@HeleneLogan That's exactly what happened to me, too. I'm a boomer, and I'm trying to deal with my 88 yo Mom's stuff. Mom and Grandma saw it as a legacy, but I don't want it, and neither do my kids. I'm determined I'm not going to do this to them.
My mother in law has three generations worth of plates and knick knacks, more than she will ever need, her kids don't want it but she will not part with them. She never uses them. They just sit there. And it'll be me and her son that have to go through it all. I am beginning to resent them for not making decisions and forcing us to make that decision ourselves later on. Delayed decisions become a burden for those you leave behind.
We should also be asking the question why our parents are trending towards downsizing where as our grandparents did not. None of the average Americans in any generation can afford (money wise or residential permanence) a large home and many processions. Baby boomers have found their retirements emptied and newer generation are finding gainful employment harder (large debt necessary to get a job and smaller salaries and benefits). We've found a way around this downward spiral by my mother moving in with my brother and I (in my thirties) live with 2 other adults committed to each other long-term suburban commune style.
LOL...her place still seems cluttered!
Her place has no pride.
She lives with roommates, it's pretty clean for a shared apartment
Didn’t look minimalist to me either. But maybe compared to what she used to have it is.
I live in a 22 room Victorian farm house, filled with Victorian furniture, lamps, rugs, decor. Fine china and chrystal glasses, two sets of flatware silver. A collection of antique dolls 67 of them. Some so large they are child size. Trunks full of antique linens. My two daughters don't want much of anything i have. Not even my monster antique pump organ or player piano. They do however want all my saddles and tack 😂
I hold onto my Grandmothers and Mothers stuff. Hard to let go.
I cook, I have loved cooking all my life, my daughter is the same. She wants all my kitchen stuff that has been aquired from countries all over the world. She doesn't want my other stuff and that's ok!
My mother's formal rooms are bursting at the seams with "shiny" please don't touch expensive stuff. I did take all the silver service pieces to put in my formal rooms because they are family treasures passed down from generations of long ago. I love it, but I hate polishing it. It's displayed in mostly airtight glass cabinets and builtins. I have my own passion for Swarovski figurines. They are all limited pieces with original boxes and certificate's. I always wonder who will get them when we are gone. Will they know their value and will they be loved as much as we have loved them? Probably not.
There aren't shelves in caskets; you can't bring all of that crap with you.
Who has time now days to entertain? BBQ/grilling in the yard using paper plates is way to go when family visit. Friends meet to eat out. Stuff means more cleaning and org. stuff. No time, women work.
YES! Less drudgery and more time enjoying life. Cheers L. A! *Raises the everyday water glass containing her Mohito*
You don't need fancy dishes, but preparing a more "special" meal from time to time to enjoy with wine and friends is nice, I think.
Require not aquire. Hummel figurines and tons of useless tchotchkes just clutter up your life and mind. Who wants to spend all day Saturday dusting these things? I'm 61 and got fed up with serving "things". Sold it all and hit the road. Now I can clean my house in 15 min.
Why should I hoard the things my parents do not want anymore and stuff my little apartment with it?
When you live with your Grandparents who grew up DIRT poor, they tend to keep everything. EVERYTHING. Even food, if you only eat half of your granola bar, it will be kept. Old bags, bread ties, everything is kept. So excuse me if I don't want to keep some old plates, I don't want to hoard everything that I have no use for.