Hey y'all, this video is starting to blow up again which is absolutely incredible! Thank you everyone for all of the comments; unfortunately, there are just too many for me to reply to at the moment, but I'm reading every single one! People who resonate with the video, or who were helped by it, and those that disagree too, thank you all for the great discussion and feedback! More videos coming soon! Just very busy with college
Great video man. Really real and sensible. I really think the best advice which I use all the time is taking a break. I think what most people feel is a burnout in games hence why they say it’s not fun anymore. Much Love man loved the video.
yo bro thanks for the vid! i recently picked up mw2 again after being burnt out from it. I set a goal. Get gold on ever base gun. So far it's going great. I love the challenge. Today I got gold on the ARs. So thanks for the ideas!
It’s both very sad but also very comforting knowing that there are a lot of people out there who feel this way. I have recently been trying to find that love for games I had when I was a kid and this video was just the thing I needed!
Same here. I managed to find a factor that was draining my whole life energy and motivation and it was social media. Since last week i was suggested to log out to try and i realized that as there were moments where the game was loading i looked into social media and I ended up having the game as background and being instead immersed into reels and tiktoks. You dont realize it at first but you can find yourself entering social posting feeds (specially the ones with short videos that come after swiping to another endlessly) and being there for hours. These last couple of days I have been focusing on some new life goals i am working towards and the time i find to play now feels a lot more gratifying. Now I am plainly taking the best out of my leisure time and productivity.
@@friendlyneighbourhood7367 i definitely had the same problem but didn't realize it till I read this most of my free time even if it's just for a couple minutes at work is being taken up by reels and tik toks. Might be time to get rid of social media for a while and do some inner reflection and focus on my life and family rather than somebody else's thanks for that spicy take gave me the push I needed stay classy brother
in my experience, i found that as a teenager i couldnt buy any game i wanted, just one every so often when my mom could spare the money. so when i got that game i would play it to death and 100%. now as an adult, i can afford the games myself and buy a bunch that interest me, but the desire to play them diminishes because i have a surplus of games. The sad part is i too always dreamed of being able to buy any game when i was younger, now when i can finally do it, just isnt the same
I had the same problem although Im still like in high school. I started to pirate games(ik its bad but I'm kinda broke and my parents buy me games like once a year) once I got a PC and I first I was very happy but I soon realized I would play for a bit and then burn out because I knew I could do something else. Like playing pokemon now feels terrible but as a kid I was spend hours and even restart it. Its that feeling scarcity that makes you appreciate games even more now than you do.
I agree when you finally got that game you’ve been wanting so long you play it to death. Now that I’m older it’s hard to even finish a game. Sometimes it just feels like a choir to play one. Now that I don’t have as much time to play since I’m usually working or recovering from work. Just a happier time playing games when we were younger less stress and less stuff to deal with just got to sit back and play some games with your friends after school with no worries.
It's the same as with streaming and food delivery services, too many choices lol. I end up spending more time choosing something instead of actually playing/watching/eating it lmao
Literally what I'm going through right now. Just got the Steam Deck a few weeks ago to get through my backlog but what ended up happening was I bought more games thanks to the Winter Sale and now I'm not sure if I'll ever finish any of them.
I've discovered that this video applies to many hobbies, not just playing games. In fact, a lot of these tips apply for watching movies. I've seen thousands upon thousands of movies but I still have fun watching new ones, even rewatching old ones, because I make watching movies a big deal and I watch them with friends every weekend. This is the reason it continues to be fun for years.
@@wodkdnwiwondsn I have watched almost the entirety of a few TV shows and anime with someone. I definitely recommend, even if you have seen the shows before.
Mental health issues are a big thing as well. Depression and anxiety are a MFer. It builds this internal stress of "Responsibility vs relaxation". I've sat at my desk for hours looking at my library, play a game for a couple minutes and close it out and find something else. All the while thinking about my life's responsibilities. Finding a better job, getting in shape and out of pain, cleaning my dirty house, spending time with my wife, and so on. Finding ways to work around it is good, but finding the root cause of the problem is best. Sometimes you just need to ask yourself: "What is going on in my life that has me so anxious and depressed that playing a simple game just is not fun anymore?" then really reflect on it.
So true man when I was young I had no responsibility so funniest thing I did.But know I have no desire play video games off rather upgrade in real life .
Video games are trash nowadays. Look at the strategy big gaming firms are using. Re skin everything, change story lines, same maps. It’s boring. Then when a game comes out it’s full of bugs, and problems they make you download patches for the next year. Video games have died imo.
My issue was depression. I had no idea why, but I couldn't enjoy games anymore. I spent hundreds of dollars on games looking for anything to enjoy. And found nothing. I took a break. I was in my late 20s and very unhappy with myself and life. I focused on my health, appearance, career and overall self reflecting. I'm way happier now. Although I'm extremely busy now (in my 30s currently), I definitely have that spark back. Whenever I have time, I get super excited about playing video games either by myself or with my wife. A lot of times, I've come to find out, it's not that video games aren't fun necessarily, but that there's a much deeper issue that's preventing you from enjoying them.
As a 20 year old myself, I'm currently in that same boat your past self was in. To me, video-games aren't fun anymore and I don't enjoy them as much as I did when I was a teenager. I have over 70+ games in my steam library and I just can't bring myself to play any of them anymore due to depression. Watching this video and reading your comment has prompted me to respond and I rarely comment on youtube. I have several questions for you, how did you get out of your slump? What motivates you to play video-games now? and finally, what advice would you give a youngin like myself to better my overall motivation for games or life in general? I know this might seem like a lot coming from a random stranger so you don't have to answer these questions lol. I'm just glad to see from this video and other commenters that I'm not the only one struggling to reignite my passion for the thing I used to love immensely.
@@vincentmejia2897 I wanna say about 3 to 4 years..? The first 2 years was basically no video games whatsoever. Then I slowly started incorporating them in my life once I took care of the important things that needed my full attention.
@@Mio-mt7sp I was extremely unhappy where I was in life. I used video games as an escape to avoid the enormous pile of mistakes I made in my life. Up until it was so bad I couldn’t even enjoy the one thing that brought me happiness. It wasn’t easy getting out of the slump. First I started by constantly working out & eating healthier. Which in result landed me into the health & fitness community which also helped my mental health which ALSO resulted in saving my relationship lol. Being so insecure had my relationship hanging by a thread. I had no education, I felt like the dumbest human being on earth for failing high school. So I spent about a year reintroducing myself to all your basic high school subjects. I got my GED. I’d be lying if I said it was easy. I failed a few times but finally did it. I was working at this depressing warehouse job that payed well. So I worked a ton of overtime to get a ring to propose to my gf. She dealt with a lot of my bs over the years & wanted to make it up to her. The day I proposed I told her I was enlisting to the military to use all the benefits to start a life with her. She said yes & we got married at a court house. (We’re doing the wedding later down the line). Cut to a year later, I’m currently in the military. The benefits are fantastic. It’s hard as hell here but I have my life planned out & couldn’t be happier. Every night, me & my wife play Monster Hunter online when I’m far from home. When I am home we play Borderlands or I watch her beat a random game on weekends. And vice versa. I wanna say the whole process took about 4 years. But I honestly couldn’t be happier. I’m actually enjoying video games more than ever. So basically. Try & figure out what you’re missing in your life. Video games will always be there waiting for you. Give it all you got. Focus on building a happy life or relationship. Don’t be scared to fail (you will). Once you find out & fix what you’re really missing in life, video games will just be an addition to your happiness. Sorry for the essay, but I truly hope this helps in any way.
@@PotatoesFromSaturn I just wanna say thank you for sharing your story. I'm not sure why , if it's the way you worded it or just hearing it in this context but I think it really helped me understand a few things. I guess my situation is just all too relatable to ignore yours. I'll try my best and hope I can get that happiness back in my life so I can enjoy the things I love, but even if I don't, thank you
When I started Amnesia: The Dark Descent for the first time, it opened with a very interesting note. It said something like 'Please take the time to read and explore, and don't feel rushed to get to the end. Immerse yourself in the game, mechanics, and story to reach the full potential the game has to offer you.' So I did that. I told myself I'm going to do what they asked of me, and I had such a great playthrough of the game. I used to never care for reading in game books or texts, and I forced myself to change my outlook on these things. Now I carry this method into every game I play. There was something about acknowledging that this game is an experience, and I shouldn't try to make it into an experience it's not capable of being.
I cannot tell you how much I needed to see this. I’m only 18 still a teenager and I’m starting to find games not as enjoyable anymore. I can’t wait to use these tips to help rekindle my passion for gaming soon. Thank you so much
If you're 18 you shouldn't be playing video games.... You should be out there experiencing life, don't waste the best years of your life as a teenager stuck inside playing video games, it's a sad and pathetic existence.... Go back to gaming in your 30s or 40s when you have already experienced most of what life has to offer.... Don't waste your teenage years playing video games like a loser.
something that could be interesting to explore is the nostalgia/childhood factor, spending all day and night playing minecraft bc you have no other real responsibilities, transforming into adulthood where we're all stressed all the time, always on a time limit, often having to choose between which of the equally important things (playing games, relaxing vs housework vs college work vs social commitments etc) we can do in our limited time
1.) Clear your schedule and relax 2.) Pull out your old console and games 3.) Take a trip down memory lane and tap into that carefree mindset 4.) Realize you've been playing a childhood game for 8 hours and you should probably go to sleep 5.) Repeat with new games
Yeah.. I know that now.. games are super boring now that my friends moved on without saying anything. So I've been on my own since the start of covid.. and one of them said I was his bf and that I listen well... So much for that I guess. Seems I was that friend you create a new group and ignore....
One really big thing for me is when I'm playing games, making sure I'm completely present with that game. No other music or TH-cam video going on in the background. No food to munch on and get distracted by. Just immersing myself completely in a game and giving it my full attention.
Thats the problem bro maybe you have a tip for me. for an excample im playing Starfield right now but i cant enjoyed i need to watch youtube videos or listen to something because i cant focus in the game. I was so hyped to Starfield because i love sc fi and bethasda games but i cant enjoy it without watching videos :( you know i dont get the feeling to fall in the game
Agree, that button in the middle of the controller almost killed gaming, trying to play Dark Souls and clicking TH-cam every time your frustrated. It's hard for games to hold your attention.
Game variety has been the biggest factor as I've gotten older. Increasing the scope of the type of games that I play has kept gaming enjoyable for me. My go to games right now are cities skylines, trackmania, total war atilla, kenshi, and halo. All are different genres, and very different from one another I'll plan to play 2 each week. One of saturday, the other on sunday. And they all can take a while per playthrough. Each playthrough of a total war game can be 10-20 hours, kenshi is way longer than that (can be a few hundred hours), and skylines can vary from a few hour's, to a few hundred. Whilst halo and trackmania are continuous, as you play with and against others Next year, I'll swap out all but trackmania and halo (although I may also swap them out for maybe an mmo, and a different fps) Also, I'll completely sub in games to play with friends if we're free and can organise. If not, I have halo and trackmania for that and specific people I know who I only play said games with
I've been playing dishonored 1 and 2 recently, it's fun in general, but it's even more fun when I set a challenge for myself that I'm not going to be detected and I'm not going to kill anyone, the game become much more fun that way lol
I do this with plenty of games. Like i just bought Elden Ring and something i did to make combat harder for myself in DS 2 was to use only caestus, so im doing the same thing in ER. Its a blast and a pain but it makes things interesting.
@@Chad-bc9vi I am doing similar with Watch Dogs 2. I played the game the first time and just bought guns and slaughtered any enemies I came across. That was when it came out, I had a desire to play it again so I started a new game, and am forcing myself to use only the stun gun with slow ass reloads and limited range, and melee attacks as well as trying to stealth the mission as much as possible, sort of forced by the fact that I don't have deadly force
what the hell? this video is so good -- the narration, the clips, the way its structured -- i was thinking you were going to have something like 300k subs and whatnot. amazing quality, great points, lovely video! thank you for sharing :D
I just noticed the subscriber count after reading this comment, man I think it's this guys second channel or something no way this high quality , super bro support from India
the last one is so real. this summer i started playing video games again after a three-years break, and now i've never been THIS excited to play a game my whole life.
What made me fall in love with video games again was forcing myself to play them without looking stuff up and also forcing myself to take my time and immerse myself in the game. I fell into the pattern of wanting to do the most optimized way to play the game, which took all the fun out of it. There's immense fun in trial and error and just finding things out, I had to learn how to enjoy it again.
I've been doing the same bro and is actually fucking relaxing. Just gotta smoke rq first and then turn the lights off and immerse yourself in the game. I'm playing RD2 btw.
@@sebas41201 its fun for the first few months but if you do it everyday it gets less and less enjoyable until you can't even enjoy a game sober happened to me just had to take a good break and went back to normal though
I literally just learned this with Starfield. I saw way too many videos telling me where and how to get X thing, or where and how to find Y secret, which of course I had to have. Next thing you know I'm level 5, jumped around half the star systems, and have full legendary everything without starting the story. I literally had to restart because it felt so wrong. If I played Skyrim that way I would have hated it too. You gotta just experience it yourself
Tip #4 is hard for me, not because people are hard to find but the problem of not being able to play together for a long time. I understand people have their life to take care of, but as a person who loved being in a big group of friends doing silly stuff together and enjoying every little thing, it gets way sad to see them slowly moving away from the games we used to play together. And it got hard for me to get to know newer gaming buddies that close in fear of feeling sad like that again.
I get that, but it's good to remember the fun times you *do* get. I know it's fucking cliche, but with matters such as friend groups you should try avoiding feeling sad because it's over, but rather be happy because it was a thing in the first place. Just remember that you can always find a new group if this one drifts apart too. I know it seems dismissive, but moping around really isn't a fun way to spend your time.
@@isaacbuiltdifferentRL A lot actually, cuz I just play most games I find interesting. I'm just a bit bad with fps and horror games, others are ok. I'm very casual.
I had this problem so I started to upload to TH-cam, I play horror games mostly and Its so fun. When you record your gameplay you end up interacting with the game on a deeper level since you have an “audience” it’s given video games a new perspective for me that’s really helped reignite my enthusiasm
Thing is as a kid, you're worry free... No rent, no work, no major chores and you play video games with a relaxed mind. So yes, playing video games as an adult with responsibilities can be in fact, tiring and can be stressful. I think we associate fun with games, and that's why after we're done working, we would like to think the video game is STILL the escape that we grew up on. But in reality, when we're not working.. we actually just want to rest our minds.
@@benrace_ It could be that maybe you're really not enjoying games anymore, or it could be that you just don't like the games you've been playing and if you tried some other ones from a different genre it could bring just as much or even more enjoyment than you used to have. One of the best things to experience as a gamer imo is trying out a new genre and realizing there's a ton of things you like about it, and now there's a whole new world of games out there for you to try since now you know you'll love them.
I’ve been struggling with this and getting back into Skyrim has brought back the love I had for it so long ago. Adventuring in a familiar and beautiful world with so many characters just feels like home. The progression and stories keep me engaged and I’m just so excited to play it every day. If anyone hasn’t played this game yet, you need to give it a try.
If you were struggling to revitalize your passion for games as a Skyrim/Fallout player, the answer is simple friend. Mods. I've been away from Skyrim for a good few years. Coming back, I was stunned at how far the modding community has come. It was already massive before. Now it's legendary. MCO for combos, True directional movement with target lock on, dodging, parrying, the nemesis engine replacing the obsolete FNIS, DAR revolutionizing animations. And that's only the technical side. The armor mods, graphical overhauls, spell packs, weapon mods, animation packs etc. You can literally customize the combo animations for every weapon. Syn gaming has some very good videos that give a general review of them. I highly recommend you start off there. It's incredible. You can turn it into a souls like if you damn well please. And the fallout games have just as much. Have fun!
I played it a little back in the day, because of having a low spec PC that is as much as I got from it, I need to get back on it, thank you for your fine suggestion!
I love open world games but there haven’t been many interesting ones lately. Because of this I always end up falling back into The Elder Scrolls games and Breath of the Wild
I love how all these tips can be applied to everyday life. Setting goals, getting out of your comfort zone, connecting with a group of people where your desired behaviour is the normal behaviour. Good video!
I’ve wondered why I drifted to basically only playing competitive multiplayer games and not single player games that dominated my childhood. I think tip 1 is really helpful to me. The challenge of constant improvement is what makes me want to grind these multiplayer games. Achievement hunting has helped me get back into single player games. Currently trying to get all of skyrims achievements.
what really worked for me is realising that games are just meant to be fun, I was stressing myself out even with games like stardew valley because I wanted to be as productive as possible. Now that I just play at my own pace and don't really care if I am being "productive" I enjoy them alot more.
Yeah I had the exact same experience playing Stardew. I mean I loved playing it, but it would definitely be more fun to explore and find out things on my own rather than googling how to be efficient at every fucking thing even stuff like egg hunting.
This is true. I spent too much time doing things I didn't enjoy. Some times when my friends watch me play they think I'm psychotic for walking past drops or not being optimal with builds, but learning to let go of those obsessive thoughts and just enjoy the game has helped immensely.
@@kryptikk5695 same, this is why I would get so bogged down in modern Assassin's Creed games is there's sooooo many collectibles I get overwhelmed and end up finishing that session and never booting it up again because it feels like almost a chore, and definitely a commitment
i felt the same and found installing the time speed mod and just slowing the days down but a bit really helped me relax while playing but without taking away the slight challenge of getting things done in time, but you can go as far as pausing time with it so you can find whatever works for you
In my experience, games stop being fun when you're unfulfilled. I went through this experience in high school where literally my only hobby outside of doing school stuff was playing video games or watching TH-cam, and I eventually just got bored of it. It always felt like there were better things for me to be doing, and there honestly were, but I always made excuses. It also made me realize that I wasn't really happy with myself and the things I had achieved up until that point. I honestly couldn't say I was good at anything or had any particular talents, or that I even had a lot of close friends. I really pushed myself to be a more productive person once I started college, and I delved into a bunch of new hobbies, and ended up making a ton of new friends. I'm pretty busy with a lot of stuff nowadays, but I genuinely have a sense of fulfillment within my life, and anytime I do get to play a video game, I don't feel guilty or bored for doing it - I genuinely have fun. A few more small things: if you have a backlog or whatever, don't worry about it. Literally just play whatever you feel like playing. Don't fall into the sunk cost fallacy or worry about missing out on anything, because it really doesn't matter in the end. Nobody's going to care if you've played a specific game or not. It's all about having fun, so make sure you're enjoying yourself. The second you're not enjoying a game, just stop and find something else.
Mid 20s here kind of going through the same thing. Have a career starting up, making decent money, go to the gym 4+ times a week for over an hour, literally picked up litter for a couple of hours today just to do something nice, and yet even after all that I come home, play the games that USE to bring me fulfillment, but now they don't, and it seems like no games do, but yet...There's just nothing to do. Don't know what to do.
BS. i have had video games for 26 years almost 27 and your saying stop and find something else? whether you mean stop entirely or just find other games....like i said in my message up top....there are no other games that are even decent anymore its about online games and how much bullshit can i take before going off on someone thats what games are these days...and if you do mean stopping entirely.....then you dont know what video games truly mean to someone after 27 years of playing
I’m glad you touched on depression/ADHD, i struggle with every day things all the time because of my ADHD, and no one really ever takes it seriously because it’s such a common disability. I’m trying really hard to focus and enjoy the things I enjoy doing, but I struggle and sometimes I just sit in my chair for hours not doing anything because I can’t focus or start on something..anything by that point. So thank you for making this video, it meant a lot. Here’s a sub ❤
99% of "gamers" have depression... Sitting inside all day just supports their depression if not directly causing it... It's a vicious cycle that goes around and around... Ever notice all your "gamer" friends and you have terrible sleep schedules? Best thing to do is find balance.... You shouldn't be playing video games for more than an hour or 2 a day, at the very most..... You need to find ither hobbies and things to do with your time that make you go outside and experience life.... Hiding away in your house trying to find happiness in a video game is NEVER going to happen....
@@ThatTempesTGuy I am in a situation where I moved around a lot my whole life. Every time I made friends growing up it was time for me to move somewhere new. So during that time I turned to games, and I didn't really have a problem with that because I enjoyed them. But now that I'm older, I'm tired of video games because I've been playing them for so long and I can't really NOT play them at this point because I have no friends to do things with. If I was to do a hobby that involved me going outside I'd just be doing it alone anyways which would not be fun and also weird in most people's eyes.
A big one for me was finding other hobbies outside of gaming. Finding something that is away from electronics like camping, hiking, sports, or whatever else was a huge help. Having an "unplugged" hobby made it all that much more enjoyable when I returned to my computer.
True, I noticed the people who claim games aren’t fun anymore are the same people who either constantly play the same games (or genre of games) over and over again, or all they do is play games, not realising there’s more to life than gaming
@@justinthematrixI’m pretty much the same as you I think. I stopped enjoying games, however I always had hobbies like sports to watch and play, but I started gymming and now I hate gaming even more but I’ll still play just with my mates, mostly just for the social aspect really. I just don’t enjoy playing anything, there’s better things to do with my time now I’m grown up
This. I’m in high school marching band and because I’m away from home for an 3 hours a day it makes being able to hop and play that much more enjoyable.
@@ashhabimran239 Let me tell you something. I am or I was one of those people who only played games the whole life. Maybe you haven't considered that those people are just more happier in the virtual world than in real life because they are socialy awkward, feel to ashamed in public due to bodyshaming (I don't mean being fat but born with genetics that you can't easily change), introverted or many other countless reasons. Like I said I played games 24/7 my whole life which was the best time of my life and now I completely turned my life around. I study abroad in Japan, experience nice things in real life like climbing the highest mountain here, visiting all the beautiful places, the food, new culture and people and the list goes on but still sometimes I feel like Gaming would bring me the same enjoyment but more constantly.
(1) I've found that getting into nature (beach, hiking, etc.) and getting some sun just makes me feel more energized and healthy, and getting back into a game after that is so much more fun. (2) Modding is one way of almost endlessly enjoying a particular game in many more ways. Nice video!
#1 all the way, get out and enjoy life. The brain needs real stimuli that games can only virtually tease. Come back to gaming with fresh new ideas mother nature throws your way and you will find fun in anything.
I don't know about everyone else but when I was a kid I was outside a lot, in addition to all the time spent a school. Video game time was like a respite... perfect for when I used up my energy physically. Like with many things, both sides of that coin help you recharge and be ready for more of the other.
That 4th point of making friends reminds me of the time I stood up for someone who was getting shit talked for having a bad game and he ended up adding me after the game ended. 6 years later we still play new games together and vibe really well. Honestly just being respectful online is a good way to meet good people.
For sure. I was playing console Deep Rock Galactic for a long time but after the performance issues, my interest in modding my games to absolute hell, and the fact that I was missing out on the games biggest upside; the community I decided to make the switch and haven't regretted it since. I've made great friends, great times and strive to spread the same positivity that my peers had. Makes me happy every time that I hop on that I won't be ridiculed for how I play as long as I contribute what my team needs, and a few drinks at the bar. Rock and stone ⛏
Had a horrible phase in 2020 when i didn't even have 'motivation' to play any games, what helped me was to wake up with a positive mindset, cleaning up the bed instantly, getting a good breakfast and just getting 10-15minute of sunlight (walking or just sitting in the backyard) and this made everything so much better. Now i still keep up that same mindset but sometime's games do get boring, then its just up to me to make sudden challenges or goals in the game i wanna play and the phase is over in less than a week. Love this video man!
I personally have always felt guilty, even when I was a kid and teen, buying new games or downloading new things because it made me feel inconsistent and indecisive; it makes me feel better to know that's not a bad thing.
These days, as an adult gamer, the biggest tip I can give anyone is to make sure your game area/house is clean. Also make sure that you’re not neglecting anything else. For me, I always clean the house and ask the wife if there’s anything she needs me to knock out before the day ends. This enables me to take care free. One other thing is to wake up early for a gaming sesh. Something about waking up early af and playing before the fam wakes up is AMAZING.
for me it's difficult to find a game i can play a long time that's not to difficult to learn or play because of my autism, there is almost nothing out there anymore :(
@@notjulianwest Imagine being such a robotic sheep that you refer to things as "CoNtEnT".... What is there not to understand... Past 5-10 years people all a sudden started saying "ConTenT" when referring to videos and stuff.... Why do they say it? Simply because someone else said it, so they say it.... Thats a follower/herd mentality and is pathetic. I'll be back I'm going to go eat the content.... (of my steak)... See how weird that sounds
@@notjulianwest What's the problem with being a mindless follower who repeats the same catch phrases and words they hear? Oh nothing except the fall of society and the human race, noone thinks for themselves anymore they just follow.... Why do you think kids always talk about the "MeTa" in video games....? Because it's another way for them to not have to think and just mindlessly follow the masses.... Its terrible to say words like "CoNteNt" and spread the mindlessness.
This video only just now hit my recommended section, and I would say I'm on the tail end of this feeling and this is all great advice that I ended up having to come up with myself before coming across this video. Undiagnosed depression turned out to be a key thing that needed diagnosis and treatment and for me to really put the elbow grease in with a therapist to figure out the various ways I'm not content in other areas of my life. Having a better understanding of myself and what I need helped me approach games from a different perspective. Surprisingly, the streaming tip was something I came up with on my own about a year or ago and it helped me grind through games in my back-catalogue that I've never touched, and it also helped me replay some of my favorite games and reignite that joy I have for games. The real trick is that-- because we've all grown up-- we need to reconsider the role games play in our lives. It's okay to step back from them and find a better balance between your life and the things you like to do, and actually finding that balance helps you enjoy those things because you're not saddled with the guilt of procrastination / inactivity.
In the past, I enjoyed multiplayer games. But during the past few years, I've transitioned to single player games, which alleviates my frustration with cheaters and hackers. Open-world games with a single player mode add an extra level of enjoyment. Currently, my main objective is to finish Horizon Zero Dawn before it gets adapted into a movie or Netflix series. That's why I'm thrilled to be back into playing a game.
This is a big one, so many people get burnout because they only play multiplayer games, competitive shooters and the like. It can be so refreshing to play single player games
Facts. I was a Call of Duty kid from 2008 till 2020. I played it daily for those 12 years. I've usually been buying the new ones but I don't playt them nearly as much cause I'd rather play different games, mainly singleplayer. I'm a much more chill gamer now. If I'm yelling, I'm laughing now. I used to be raging if I was yelling
Thank you everyone for watching my video and leaving such kind comments, I'm currently working on some similarly styled videos that should be out soon!
Thanks this has made me feel better about not having fun anymore playing games coz I don't really have many friends so I don't really play online much and when I do I get upset when I play on games like minecraft coz people I see on some servers are just not nice
One thing I think is important is knowing when it’s time to walk away from a game. I’ve had times where I thought my love for video games was dwindling, when in reality it was just the game I was stuck playing. Happens more with seasonal games like Destiny and COD where they create a “need” to continue playing or you fear you might miss a weapon/armor/etc… that season. Your gaming time becomes more grind than play, and when you recognize that it probably means it’s time to move on. Nice thing with games like those is that you can always come back down the road and enjoy playing it for a while since it’s fresh again.
As someone who gamed a lot as a kid and can't bring myself to game much today, the last point is the most important imo. Games aren't everything! Don't interpret video game burnout as something wrong but as a sign it's time for something new. I have a bunch of new non gaming hobbies and interests I'm super jazzed about. I will probably never game again like i did when I was younger but my overall enjoyment of life is way up.
I took a few years off & I enjoy video games much more now. But I don’t play more than a couple hours & I do all my important tasks during the day & play video games as a sort of reward/ relaxation at the end of the day
I'm almost 40, and in the last year or so I've decided every game I start, I'm going to finish. To me, finishing means completing the main story. It absolutely changed the way I viewed playing games and the enjoyment I got out of them, plus a nice little sense of accomplishment when the list of games I "finished" has grown and grown
32 here, i recently finished Doom 3. I remember how hyped I was Back in the days, but my PC was Just Not ready for it. I'm so Happy I finally finished it ^^ And Like the Video creator i have a huuuge list of unplayed games. Having a "finished" list in Steam is a great Idea, gonna do that aswell :)
I think having too many choices and trying to play too many games at once is contributing to the problem. I used to play only 1 or 2 games at a time, on a physical disc on xbox, when I was about to finish one, only then would I buy the next one. Games stopped being fun for me exactly after I built my first gaming PC and started accumulated tons of Steam games, which are accessible at any time, creating choice paralysis and fomo.
Exactly, I only install one game and take the time with it, I am 35 yo and sometimes it takes a month, sometimes 4 months (as it's the case with RDR2)..I have almost 400 games rated or reviewed on Gamespot site, it was very popular in the old days..
Same here. I'm 43 and I rediscovered gaming 2,5 years ago, when I bought my first console. I started going through a list of all the games that I always wanted to play and I'm having a blast. I also play one game at a time, until I complete it. I don't worry about a backlog, I don't chase new releases, I'm just enjoying myself.
I've recently only noticed that when i was younger, my playtime (be it videogames or in general) was very short and limited. Every time i would be playing a game and actually start to get into it, it would already be past my allowed time. "Aww man I only just started tho!" was such a nostalgic and sort of sad felling as well, but only now i realise how essential it was. I used to cherish my hours of playtime and would always stay excited in the build up to it, which made it althemore precious and enjoyable. "All good things must come to an end," was the same mantra that was told to me after every finished play session, and as I grew oler I started to understand what it meant and felt it's psychological value too. Now I'm much older and I play games for hours upon hours, with no one to stop me and only close it once I'm bored. I now understand that the more you force yourself to end things early, when they are "just starting to get good" helps in valuing the thing/ activity more, thus resulting in you having more fun and find it more satisfying once you've actually started to do it. That would be my tip.
I relate to this on a spiritual level. I wasn't allowed to play games when I was younger so I'd somehow sneak and find some time to play games. I cherised games a lot then. I always dreamed of being older just so that I could have the freedom to play games for as long as I want. Now I have so many games and I do bingeplay sometimes but it feels so empty. I genuinely feel like I'm forcing myself through it just because I used to love it once. It's all so weird. Perhaps, the rarity of having something is what makes it much more important.
honestly, playing with friends (or playing a single player game while voice calling a friend) made it different and exciting. Noticed that when i talk to myself or talk out what I'm doing in the game makes it more immersive too.
This list applies not just to games but to life itself. If you're feeling empty, wanting to do something but not having the drive to make it happen, try using the video tips in your own life. Put goals on paper, write down what you wanna do, give yourself a challenge, do stuff with friends, and just have fun. Don't get bogged down on frustrating stuff cos ultimately, nothing really matters. Just do what makes you happy.
Brother, I was just talking to some friends about giving up on games totally just because it's not fun like it used to be when I was growing up but as soon as I got off the phone with them this video popped up in my feed. This is exactly what I needed. I appreciate you tackling this topic and making this video. My subscription towards your channel is a token of my appreciation.
I took a 3 month break from video games after spending around 40-50 hours/week on it. At this time I just quit my job and had tons of money. So I took a few vacations, got in contact with all my friends and family, went skateboarding everyday, started new hobbies, and once I came back to videogames I once again truly enjoy them. And after this break I really value the real world so much more and would much rather spend a day with all my friends than to sit grinding my rank or a new game I found.
As a kid I had little money and lots of time. Now I have lots of money and little time. I have a switch and a huge library of games. But usually I get home from work and I just turn on TH-cam. I’m just tired. I have found if I force myself to just start a game I most often will get into it and suddenly hours fly by. What I try to do is play a big game, then a small indie title. And then for the next big game switch genres. And then there are times I need to just chill out so I will play TOTK or Skyrim and just wander around aimlessly. Really great stress relief. Good video!
"Listen to some music from the game to get you hyped up." - An awesome underrated tip! I cannot count how many times I've visualized how awesome (or calm and cosy depending on the game) my upcoming gaming session will be like while I'm getting ready to play. It's probably why opening themes like on Cyberpunk or Doom hit so hard when you're in the menus.
I've been playing racing games since I was child, almost 20 years now that I think of it, and I find that even thought I've played nearly every type of game, I always find that racing games are my go to because I can see the improvement over time. Quicker lap times, better racing lines, and understanding the difference in driving mechanics in game, I personally need to be able to see my improvement. And although it doesn't happen as much as it used to, being in 1st place against someone who is right on you for the whole race is heart racing, although now it's harder and harder to find other racers online who are around my skill level, I still enjoy time trials and pushing myself to be faster. But nothing beats when you feel your heart pumping knowing that one early break or one poor driving line gets them closer to you.
Great racing games are about the only games I still enjoy. Those and great platformers, which are almost non existant. Still love the Portal games too. Wish they make a third
ah yes glorious game dirt, ill never forget playing dirt 2 ds version on my dsi as a kid and finding an exploit onto runing over all the ai's on hardest pro difficulity...
The point about having the right environment is spot on. I used to lounge on a bean bag playing and would always zone out or start falling asleep quickly. I replaced the beanbag with a sofa and games were suddenly interesting again and I could play for hours. Make sure you are comfy!
ever since I was very very young I used to have such a bad bad urge to play minecraft with a group of people that would play similarly to an smp, even to this day about 20 years old seeing so many people together just like in 6:51 brings a smile to my face knowing others have made it
This video popped up on my recommendations at the perfect time. I've been feeling kinda empty lately, even when I played games. I just finished a session of playing a game I used to love earlier today. I only ended up playing for an hour, and it was fun, but sometimes stressful. Maybe a break is what I need. This is such a well-made video, your voice and the music choices made it so relaxing
It feels comforting to see others feeling the same way. I always thought the sudden lack of motivation was due to stress or depression or some illness because all I use to do was think about and play games in my childhood
Growing up with games was incredible, my older brother who never let me play the games he played ultimately fueled my desire to find out what I was missing out on. In 2014 a mentor and brother figure started playing destiny on PS4. I managed to get a good handful of friends to play it with me and I look back at trophies and achievements that have dates attached to them and I feel I can almost recall my thoughts about that time. Since then I play with people I've met playing online. Most of them I've never seen a face or don't even know where they live. All with all great memories attached to them.
ngl Destiny was on a whole other level back in 2014, as a kid the game felt too inmersive, even after months and months of crucible and raids i couldn't stop playing, despite all the bad things the game had i still consider it a masterpiece
@@Milanesa3032 right, it's my favorite game all time. i've never heard of any other game where the whole community as a collective find amazing friends in
I started enjoying games again by not making it my main activity. Getting into fitness helped with that. I treat video games as something special, a reward basically. Activity diversity is important for mental health.
I really love videogames, I kinda went into a spiral of stop liking them after not finding a job after college. So I first I took a little break of them, stop playing multiplayer, and daily missions of games, and start playing different titles, from: Platformers to shooters, puzzles, visual novels, rpgs, every genre that you though you will hate it's great giving them a try. Also a bonus tip is try making them. I love playing but also making them, so both is a great idea.
That intro is exactly what I feel. The problem that I have discovered for myself is that I feel guilty for not having fun doing the things that younger me would have given anything to be able to do. I feel like I owe it to younger me to go and play every game that I didn't get to play. To get those achievements and experience everything that I wanted to 10 years ago. My father was abusive and video games were my escape. Now that I'm grown, I'm having to discover what I truly enjoy in life now that I don't have an abusive relationship to escape and it seems that video games aren't it, and that's okay.
Taking a break helped me out I started getting bored of playing video games so I ended up finding other hobbies and not playing for almost a year, not only did it help me enjoy games again it also improved my life and fitness.
THAT TO DO LIST IN MC IS GENIUS!! Thank you for that awesome inspo. Something I definitely agree with is setting goals for your playtime/session, or each match. It's how I play DBD now, rather than just playing to play I enjoy getting my challenges. The issue is when I don't get any progress towards my challenge, but otherwise it's really enjoyable.
Risk of Rain 2 reminds me of the simplicity, yet effective part of playing it. It's being a video game that challenges you as you progress. And it's just that, challenge and progress while feeling different everytime you play.
I couldn’t agree more on #2, making your space more enjoyable with your own aesthetics can definitely make a huge difference, I found myself setting up a set of led lights in my room and through on some vaporwave on my turntable and played some ocarina of time on my n64!
Dude, this is the exact type of stuff I want to make, and you executed it perfectly. I hold a massive amount of respect towards you. You just became my inspiration. I hope you make it big one day, you deserve it.
Taking breaks from gaming has really help me. I'm now into gunpla and every time I start feeling tired of games, I go and build one of the cheap gunpla I can find. Its a nice hobbie, very chill, and once I'm done with it, I feel more interested in games! some times you don't even need to stop playing games. Some times just adding other hobbies to your weekly routine helps out a lot! if you make gaming your one and only hobbie, you will get burned out. So try doing other things to have fun!
Tips Reminder: 1:13 - Put any challenge into your game like completing all achievements, changing game mode to hard mode etc. 3:02 - Before starting launch button, think that as if it is a rendez-vous 4:08 - Leave your prejudice towards other kinds of game. Maybe you're fps gamer but you should at least try other types of games. 5:42 - Some games are more fun with people so try to make friends like by joining discord channels about the game you're trying to play. If it doesn't work out the people you've found, then find new people. Gaming community is huge. 6:57 Play your games while sharing with other people (Live streaming). Do this if you wanna earn money or not for the sake of money. It is up to you. Commentating on games is actually a painkiller for stressful games. 8:13 - Take a break. By doing this, you create a sense of more wanting to play games. So create rarity.
The issue #1 is caused partly by modern games. In the past, games were much more challenging. Also they had linear progression, so you always had a clear goal to pursue, but now with the ubiquity of open-world games, this has been blurred. Lack of clear purpose and low difficulty contributes to boredom in games.
Bro... This hit hard, i'm 16 but have been gaming for a large portion of my life since I was 3. I never got bored of video games until now, but because of Covid and Quarantine, I have had the biggest burnout yet. I've tried everything on this list as I myself have gone through a 9 month break to feel the same enjoyment I once had. Those two years messed up video games a lot as nothing seems fun anymore, not just old games I used to play but even the new ones that are out right now.
Setting in-game goals has been one of these tips that has helped me immensely. I’ve struggled with this same issue and I worried that I just didn’t enjoy gaming anymore. It scared me because games are such a big part of who I am. Just the simple goal of beating the next level, or unlocking the next attachment, etc. has helped me enjoy games just a bit more. Gaming is still not quite the same being 25 now, but hey it’s enough!
When I first got a job, all I could think about was all the games I was gonna buy and how excited I was to finally be able to play whatever I wanted. The more games I got, whether it was through Steam, Humble Bundle, or free games on Epic Games the more my library grew and the more overwhelming it became to pick and commit to one game. I think it's because when I was a kid, getting a new game was such an event. The excitement of going to the store, picking out a game (usually based on which cover looked coolest), getting in the car and spending the whole ride home reading the manual, now that it's so much easier and more acessible to buy games that element how gone almost completely. A lot of the time I'll waste hours and hours trying to decide and then when I did, getting bored and burnt out inside a hour. Now that I'm working a lot more, I think I have to accept I'll never ever be able to finish even 1/4 of the games I own BUT I really hope one day I can make a change and be able to sit down a play the games I want to without feeling burnout.
One thing that helped me a TON, is reduce my choices. If we have too many choices, we aren't willing to put the effort into something that can be hard. When we were kids, we had only a couple choices, so we focused on those and took them further than we do today. Pick 3 games each week, and ONLY play those games that week.
One thing that got me to enjoy gaming more which kind of falls under the first tip is achievement hunting, it can be frustrating but its addictive and you get that sense of achievement
Often that's a reason why I may choose to get a certain game for the Xbox rather than PC, even though the PC version may be better and I have a proper gaming PC that would make sure it is. Similar with Microsoft exclusives on PC like Forza Horizon, Halo and MSFS, which I'd purchase via Microsoft instead of Steam, so the achievements actually contribute to my Xbox gamerscore that I've already been building up the past decade.
@@azizalfa752 Sometimes I will avoid a game entirely even though it may seem really interesting and enjoyable because it has an achievement that I know I won't ever get. Lately I've had to force myself to let go of the thoughts of getting that blue ribbon (Steam), and just see what happens.
leaving your comfort zone is really really good if you enjoy what you're playing, I had never played any rouge like games, until one day I gave one a try and it was such an amazing experience, I spent hundreds of hours in a genre that I didn't knew existed
Elden ring, ultrakill, and the steam version of dwarf fortress are what did it for me. The first games in years that made me excited to get home after work to play more just like when i was a kid in school.
I didn't grow up playing video games and I've been trying to get into it to see if I could love it the way my friends do and even make my own... At first it felt like the difficulty was so big it wasn't worth it and I could never have fun gaming, it always felt like a chore, or with games like Pokemon it felt so slow and decision based I couldn't understand what people liked about it. Now that I got an actual controller, am picking easy games and focusing on one challenge at a time instead of whole games it feels better, but I still needed some push forward. So I hope these work! Thanks man
My biggest change to encourage myself to play games again is to finish the games I already own before buying new ones. So I play through one or two games that I'm interested in right now before I buy one. It's more a rule of thumb rather than anything specific. So the number of games that I finish don't have to be equal to the ones I buy. But it just helps with reducing the chance of an ever growing backlog.
Burnout is by far the biggest struggle I've started having as I get older. I can remember putting thousands of hours into a single game while hardly or not at all playing other games. These days I've learned to switch games more often, so I avoid burning out on the games I love while getting the chance to find new games to love.
I feel like it's a blessing when I'm not getting sucked into games. It gives me time to focus on creating something or taking in other forms of art. Music is absolutely incredible for individuals and also groups. Also the nostalgia associated with playing games back in the day, has a lot to do with hanging with friends. That's what's valuable. Find humans, love them, make each other think about things. Extract meaning from as many different things in life as possible. Your body will tell you if you're doing well or not. Energy levels, interest levels etc dip for a reason. Listen to the instrument you're provided with. It knows things that your conscious mind does not.
I’ve struggled with this a lot recently, and although it’s far too late/early in the morning to put any of these to the test, they all sound like fantastic options and I can’t wait to try some
the bit about how extensively planning something makes it a lot more enjoyable is honestly just solid advice for life in general. three cheers for prep time
I took a break from video games for around 3-4 months without realizing it (I was focused on the gym, college and stuff) and when I played again I had the most fun playing video games I ever had in years. It was truly awesome (well now I'm addicted once again but it's ok lmao)
I’m the opposite I took a break for a similar period of time and now all I can think about are sports teams and school. I can’t get back into my true passion : (
Something thats helped me tremendously is i stopped watching reviews of games, i simply watch various gameplay instead. It's helped me establish more what is my actual style of games instead of just following the games everyone plays.
These tips are actually really helpful, talking from experience. Especially the last 2. Streaming can be sooo fun and random. And taking a break (no matter from what) can be life changing for real. Take care everyone
This style of narration and general pace of the video is excellent. Reminds me of some fairly popular documentary / thought experiment channels. Please do more of this, I was devastated when I checked your channel and this seemed to be the only video like it.
These tips are all amazing! Best one as we get older is to "take a break". It doesn't need to be weeks or months, but begin finding some other interests to give your life variety. You might like drawing, reading, cooking, hiking, trivia nights, board game nights, etc.. and that all helps add variety and then you will appreciate the 2-4 hours when you get a chance to play a video game.
Another tip that’s helped me is if you like multiplayer pvp games, try playing competitively with some friends. Playing ranked with a group of friends helps me lock in and really focus but it’s also fun cause your joking and bantering with friends. Just make sure you have a group that doesn’t care too much about winning or losing, but also find people who care enough that it’s not a waste of time or you’re losing every game cause they are throwing. Honestly the way to do that is to play to the best of your abilities and lock in when you can but don’t yell or be too mad at your friends if someone makes a mistake or if you lose the match. Definitely for this tip it works best with a game you’ve played enough to be good at. You don’t have to be a pro just know the controls, the way to play and be decent enough to hit your shots, make your goals, whatever that multiplayer game requires.
I don't have friends that play competitively. They're all casual and I'm honestly tired of carrying in normal matches, let alone in ranked. This leads me to mostly playing solo and then getting bored after like, 2 matches.
One more thing that's helped me is to not look stuff up online / get stuck in the minutia and stats. It helps preserve the exploration and excitement of the unknown, and to focus on the experience rather than the numbers. Two great examples are Pokemon and High on Life (very different lol) but both have expansive worlds to explore and reward your curiousity with rarity and secrets that feel way more intimate when you discover them yourself. Stellar video
You hit on a lot of the same things I've found through years and years with this struggle, but I will add a couple of things. I've noticed for me ADHD and depression are usually the reason I can't get into, or stay into, games. I know you mentioned them, but I can't emphasis how important it is to realize that sometimes, because at times there's not much you can do to 'fix it'. That doesn't necessarily mean you have to stop, it's just better when you know what's going on. The one thing I've found, as someone with ADHD and a tendency to hyperfocus, is that even in these kinds of times there can be very specific genres, gameplay elements, or gameplay loops that my brain is interested in, even when I'm not consciously aware of it. It requires a lot of introspection, and thinking about the various games available to me and what I might like, sometimes watching trailers for upcoming games, before I find that genuine pull, then I can go and have fun with what I found. (Although sometimes it'll be for an experience not released yet, and that part's just torture. :P) You can also try taste testing, going into a lot of stuff even if you don't particularly find yourself in the mood, until something grabs you. The search isn't always fun, and it can be frustrating when you want to play but can't find the game that holds your attention, but just remember that this is a temporary thing and you'll find that excitement again before you know it. Another thing I would like to say to my fellow ADHDers is don't punish or hate yourself when you hit that point where your brain is bored and ready to move on. You haven't failed, you aren't abandoning the mission, and you aren't "robbing yourself of enjoyment". Put it down for a few days and try again... and if you're still not in it, or have already moved on to hyperfocusing on something else, that's okay too. If you have a mind like mine, you aren't going to enjoy yourself if your brain isn't into it, and that can happen more quickly than we would like, but it's okay. Maybe push through if you know you're very near the end, but the point is to have fun, and you gotta just accept it when you know you're not in it because your weird brain has suddenly decided it's bored. No offense intended, my brain is weird like that too.
I have to comment on this. Your 1st tip is amazing. I did that on the old DOS games when I was a kid, playing on my Windows 95. Games like Blake stone aliens of gold, commander keen, catacomb abyss 3D, etc, I gave myself challenges to enjoy a game more then once. Now these days we have to many new options. Actually getting myself a old system again to enjoy the good old days. Anyway, yeah, such a underrated tip!
Incredibly high quality video. Only 1.45K subs is a crime. I know so many people (including past me) who’s enjoyment could be doubled by watching this video. Again praising the video quality and thanks for spending the time to make this
I actually tried the branching out tips. I used to be a open-world survival action type of guy, but recently I've been enjoying more rhythm games right now. It was not my alley back then, but eventually pressing buttons while being on beat with your favorite song is actually a fun change. Loved this video, dude :)
@@alvinrajendrarabani4504 awesome, man. don't get discouraged on guitar. it's usually harder than one thinks in the beginning, but eventually you get the hang of things and can play your favorite stuff effortlessly
Such a well put together video, relating it to personal experience and stories, great commentary and a calming voice to do such a video with. Keep up the good work and keep the videos coming. Only sad thing for me is I haven’t come across the video before. Keep up the good work!
I like what you said in this video about the challenges!!! Never from the time I was 14 and playing the first Gran Turismo all the way up to a few years ago playing the last most recent Gran Turismo game, I never settled for silver or bronze- And this also gives you a reason to enjoy a game more !! Treat it like the challenge. It really is, but at the same time don't waste your time on challenges that certain games put out there when they do not give you the equal tools to overcome the challenge? Gran Turismo has always done a fabulous job, especially if you are good at racing in general and even more if you have a good force feedback racing wheel? Either way you got to play the game like you're really wanting to get better at it and if that still doesn't work for you, maybe you just grown out of games and there's nothing wrong with that either ? At the end of the day, it is up to you !
The last one applies to everything you might enjoy doing. Watching series, movies, and anime, playing videogames or even reading some books. If you take a break from doing what you enjoy, it's more fun or recomforting when you come back in my experience. Thanks for the video btw
I've been on anime watching break since 2017 I wonder to myself everyday when or if I should "return" There has been 2 or 3 watched during the break but nothing like it used to be.
When I was introduced to online flash games by my older brothers when I was 4-ish, I simply could _not_ have enough of any kind of game. They introduced me to Halo as well, which also seeded a fascination for science fiction themes, war themes, and blends of both. I indulged actively in this newfound hobby for 14 years, going from silly flash games and Nintendo emulators to more powerful, capable machines. It wasn't until almost two years ago that by talking to myself and thinking out loud--home alone, of course--I came to the realization that I didn't enjoy videogames anymore, that I played them to distract me from reality. Being the cynical, phlegmatic idiot that I am, I kept on playing regardless. One evening, I looked at my library of games and I said to myself, ''Damn. I don't feel like playing any of these,'' and that same sensation washed over me once again. I had run all the games I had into the ground and no means of getting any new games, until I remembered I could sign up for a one-month-membership of Xbox Game Pass for one dollar. I thought, ''Fuck it. I might as well. I have nothing to lose (besides that dollar).'' Thanks to Game Pass, I came across Grounded, Generation Zero, Kingdom Come: Deliverance, Mount & Blade: Warband, and several other games that I am very glad I gave a try and were a very-much-needed breath of fresh air. I have been a Game Pass stickler ever since. Almost a month ago I was looking for new games to play, as I usually am, and one particular survival-horror game stood out to me. _Signalis._ I downloaded it then, and I let it stand in a corner in my library, rejected and gathering up virtual dust. It wasn't until less than a week ago that I decided to get back to it and since I got off my first session, I couldn't wait to get back to playing it again. I finished it in 17 hours. I want to replay it to get a different ending, as a matter of fact, and I several times have noticed myself thinking about it throughout the day ever since I finished it. Not only did it impact me as a gamer because of how well-made it was despite it having been created by *_two people._* It also impacted me as an aspiring storywriter in how bleak and melancholic it is, how well the characters are written, and how the game's narrative and storytelling makes you care and feel empathy for them. I am still hurting because of the ending that I got, and I hate it. I love the game, and I loved every second of it that I played, but I hate how it makes me feel. Do I regret playing Signalis? Not at all. Do I recommend it? Absolutely. Now, if you've read all this, first of all, thank you. Second of all, you may be wondering about what I'm getting at. The answer to that is nothing else besides: *_try new things, gamers._* This kinda ties into Erdrix's ''get out of your comfort zone'' point. Maybe you don't enjoy games anymore because all you play is competitive shooters. Give Stardew Valley (cutesy farming game with a chill soundtrack) a chance. Give Chivalry 2 (medieval combat game with a Monty Python-ish kind of sense of humor to it. Beware of sweats) a chance. Give Insurgency: Sandstorm (cool tactical shooter I got into a few weeks ago) a chance. Don't play games because of the stimulation their visuals and sounds give you. Play a game because of the level of interest its story inspires into you. You never know what game will become your next favorite if you never bother to look for one. The better kind of videogames are those that are like a fine film and, if you're like me, you should choose those ones instead of those that are like greasy, foul fast food you shove down your craw and leave you hooked and wanting more because of how they stimulate your senses. Next in my roadmap is Omori, I think. I've been eyeballing this one called Chained Heroes, too.
It's so nice whenever I stumble upon a fellow Irish creator, let alone one who resonates with me! Having become a full time indie dev a couple years back, I swear my relationship with actually *playing* games hasn't really been the same. My work means that I only have the spare mental energy to devote to playing a game like... 3 days a month? And even then, I just don't get the same enjoyment as I once did; looking at things from a more purely analytical point of view, always referring it back to my own work and how it can be improved, etc. I imagine it's not too dissimilar to what TH-cam videogame essayists like yourself might feel whenever playing a game? - having to force thoughts and opinions for possible ideas, rather than just *having* them organically, it kinda prohibits that "escapism" that I long for from the days of playing games as a kid lmao I'm definitely going to give some of these tips a go! I just need something to get me playing long enough to "break through" because once that happens, I can still find playing games to be such a rich and fulfilling experience! You've deffo earned a subscriber, keep doing what ya doin buddy! 🔥🔥
Thank you! I enjoy hearing about other's experiences, especially game developers and the different views they can end up having on gaming. Also heck yeah, irish creator!
Great video, one thing that helped me along with things in this video was replaying some of my favorite games. It's difficult to keep up with all of the latest and greatest games, especially with how many games get made these days. Replaying older games is fun, and helped me rediscover why I love gaming.
On the 5th tip: Giving a break to games is great, but don't confuse this with "abandoning all means of recreation", we still need to do something fun in our free time! All work and no play makes jack a dull boy, don't forget. The thing that helped me love video games a bit more was: Retro Gaming. One day I thought "I don't have anything to play" and realised that I never played games that are CONSENSUS that are great. And this led me to new experiences and to become more critical of games. I got to find out that Goldeneye aged terribly, Beyond Good and Evil is awesome and that FFVII is my favorite fucking media. Just open some random "Best games ever" list and try the one that grabs your attention! You won't regret it, even if it sucks. Maybe that was good because I'm just 22, but for older gamers it could have a different appeal.
I'm 28 and if I'm being honest, the most fun I have in video games is indie titles or classic games. I played most of the best of lists of yesteryear and they're gems for a reason even if I don't like them. The older games are just made to be video games not movies.
Agreed! I often find myself unattracted to the idea of an old or outdated game until I start looking back at how much fun I was having playing those titles.
A tip from a very close friend of mine when I got burnt out was to try doing new things in games, for example, speedrunning. it helped me enjoy the games I love and even helped me understand how they work better, which I find incredibly fun
I thought at one point of my life that I was also getting tired of games and it kinda bummed me out to realize. But ever since then, I've come to learn that I just have phases where I feel like gaming more and where I feel like gaming less. I'm now 39 and the last month has been so full of all kinds of games again and it's damn enjoyable in many ways. So I do think these are all good tips on the video, but also would add that; If you don't feel like gaming at that time, don't force it in fears of you losing your interest. It feels so much nicer to hop back on when you actually feel like picking up a game again. Usually a break just works like a palette cleanser and it all starts feeling fresher again :)
Hey y'all, this video is starting to blow up again which is absolutely incredible! Thank you everyone for all of the comments; unfortunately, there are just too many for me to reply to at the moment, but I'm reading every single one! People who resonate with the video, or who were helped by it, and those that disagree too, thank you all for the great discussion and feedback! More videos coming soon! Just very busy with college
Great video man. Really real and sensible. I really think the best advice which I use all the time is taking a break. I think what most people feel is a burnout in games hence why they say it’s not fun anymore. Much Love man loved the video.
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yo bro thanks for the vid! i recently picked up mw2 again after being burnt out from it. I set a goal. Get gold on ever base gun. So far it's going great. I love the challenge. Today I got gold on the ARs. So thanks for the ideas!
As a recently-former college student (I got my associates at least!), that's the right choice! Good luck as well!
im here rn hahahhaa
when i have free time i lose the interest to play games but when im extremely busy its the exact opposite, great video btw
I'm the exact same, whenever I dont have time my brain is like "yep, I really wanna play some games right now"
I made a spreadsheet of what to play and that helped out a lot for me
My brother you may have Inattentive ADHD
that's because you don't get much dopamine from your work
I feel the exact same way it could be my ADHD tho
It’s both very sad but also very comforting knowing that there are a lot of people out there who feel this way. I have recently been trying to find that love for games I had when I was a kid and this video was just the thing I needed!
Same here. I managed to find a factor that was draining my whole life energy and motivation and it was social media. Since last week i was suggested to log out to try and i realized that as there were moments where the game was loading i looked into social media and I ended up having the game as background and being instead immersed into reels and tiktoks. You dont realize it at first but you can find yourself entering social posting feeds (specially the ones with short videos that come after swiping to another endlessly) and being there for hours. These last couple of days I have been focusing on some new life goals i am working towards and the time i find to play now feels a lot more gratifying. Now I am plainly taking the best out of my leisure time and productivity.
@@friendlyneighbourhood7367 i definitely had the same problem but didn't realize it till I read this most of my free time even if it's just for a couple minutes at work is being taken up by reels and tik toks. Might be time to get rid of social media for a while and do some inner reflection and focus on my life and family rather than somebody else's thanks for that spicy take gave me the push I needed stay classy brother
@@michael_scot I needed that push too don't worry. Happy I could help someone out :). You'll realize your hobbies will be more enjoyable now
Me too man growing up sucks
me too!! I've been playing so many games lately even if I didn't felt like it at first just to realise that hey I still very much enjoy playing
in my experience, i found that as a teenager i couldnt buy any game i wanted, just one every so often when my mom could spare the money. so when i got that game i would play it to death and 100%. now as an adult, i can afford the games myself and buy a bunch that interest me, but the desire to play them diminishes because i have a surplus of games. The sad part is i too always dreamed of being able to buy any game when i was younger, now when i can finally do it, just isnt the same
I had the same problem although Im still like in high school. I started to pirate games(ik its bad but I'm kinda broke and my parents buy me games like once a year) once I got a PC and I first I was very happy but I soon realized I would play for a bit and then burn out because I knew I could do something else. Like playing pokemon now feels terrible but as a kid I was spend hours and even restart it. Its that feeling scarcity that makes you appreciate games even more now than you do.
I agree when you finally got that game you’ve been wanting so long you play it to death. Now that I’m older it’s hard to even finish a game. Sometimes it just feels like a choir to play one. Now that I don’t have as much time to play since I’m usually working or recovering from work. Just a happier time playing games when we were younger less stress and less stuff to deal with just got to sit back and play some games with your friends after school with no worries.
It's the same as with streaming and food delivery services, too many choices lol. I end up spending more time choosing something instead of actually playing/watching/eating it lmao
@Trent Mortensen we also just had more time and energy back then lol
Literally what I'm going through right now. Just got the Steam Deck a few weeks ago to get through my backlog but what ended up happening was I bought more games thanks to the Winter Sale and now I'm not sure if I'll ever finish any of them.
I've discovered that this video applies to many hobbies, not just playing games. In fact, a lot of these tips apply for watching movies. I've seen thousands upon thousands of movies but I still have fun watching new ones, even rewatching old ones, because I make watching movies a big deal and I watch them with friends every weekend. This is the reason it continues to be fun for years.
u so lucky to watch em with friends also do u watch tv shows series anime and stuff
@@wodkdnwiwondsn I have watched almost the entirety of a few TV shows and anime with someone. I definitely recommend, even if you have seen the shows before.
Mental health issues are a big thing as well. Depression and anxiety are a MFer. It builds this internal stress of "Responsibility vs relaxation". I've sat at my desk for hours looking at my library, play a game for a couple minutes and close it out and find something else. All the while thinking about my life's responsibilities. Finding a better job, getting in shape and out of pain, cleaning my dirty house, spending time with my wife, and so on. Finding ways to work around it is good, but finding the root cause of the problem is best.
Sometimes you just need to ask yourself: "What is going on in my life that has me so anxious and depressed that playing a simple game just is not fun anymore?" then really reflect on it.
Vwey few epic games now and playing all these broken incomplete games made my mind sick of trying more broken or woke trash.
So true man when I was young I had no responsibility so funniest thing I did.But know I have no desire play video games off rather upgrade in real life .
This slapped my cheeks real hard just before last xmass.
Games are just a catch-all for , TV, movies. music, and books.
Video games are trash nowadays. Look at the strategy big gaming firms are using. Re skin everything, change story lines, same maps. It’s boring. Then when a game comes out it’s full of bugs, and problems they make you download patches for the next year. Video games have died imo.
My issue was depression. I had no idea why, but I couldn't enjoy games anymore. I spent hundreds of dollars on games looking for anything to enjoy. And found nothing. I took a break. I was in my late 20s and very unhappy with myself and life. I focused on my health, appearance, career and overall self reflecting. I'm way happier now. Although I'm extremely busy now (in my 30s currently), I definitely have that spark back. Whenever I have time, I get super excited about playing video games either by myself or with my wife. A lot of times, I've come to find out, it's not that video games aren't fun necessarily, but that there's a much deeper issue that's preventing you from enjoying them.
How long did it take you to get that spark back?
As a 20 year old myself, I'm currently in that same boat your past self was in. To me, video-games aren't fun anymore and I don't enjoy them as much as I did when I was a teenager. I have over 70+ games in my steam library and I just can't bring myself to play any of them anymore due to depression. Watching this video and reading your comment has prompted me to respond and I rarely comment on youtube. I have several questions for you, how did you get out of your slump? What motivates you to play video-games now? and finally, what advice would you give a youngin like myself to better my overall motivation for games or life in general? I know this might seem like a lot coming from a random stranger so you don't have to answer these questions lol. I'm just glad to see from this video and other commenters that I'm not the only one struggling to reignite my passion for the thing I used to love immensely.
@@vincentmejia2897 I wanna say about 3 to 4 years..? The first 2 years was basically no video games whatsoever. Then I slowly started incorporating them in my life once I took care of the important things that needed my full attention.
@@Mio-mt7sp I was extremely unhappy where I was in life. I used video games as an escape to avoid the enormous pile of mistakes I made in my life. Up until it was so bad I couldn’t even enjoy the one thing that brought me happiness. It wasn’t easy getting out of the slump. First I started by constantly working out & eating healthier. Which in result landed me into the health & fitness community which also helped my mental health which ALSO resulted in saving my relationship lol. Being so insecure had my relationship hanging by a thread. I had no education, I felt like the dumbest human being on earth for failing high school. So I spent about a year reintroducing myself to all your basic high school subjects. I got my GED. I’d be lying if I said it was easy. I failed a few times but finally did it. I was working at this depressing warehouse job that payed well. So I worked a ton of overtime to get a ring to propose to my gf. She dealt with a lot of my bs over the years & wanted to make it up to her. The day I proposed I told her I was enlisting to the military to use all the benefits to start a life with her. She said yes & we got married at a court house. (We’re doing the wedding later down the line). Cut to a year later, I’m currently in the military. The benefits are fantastic. It’s hard as hell here but I have my life planned out & couldn’t be happier. Every night, me & my wife play Monster Hunter online when I’m far from home. When I am home we play Borderlands or I watch her beat a random game on weekends. And vice versa. I wanna say the whole process took about 4 years. But I honestly couldn’t be happier. I’m actually enjoying video games more than ever. So basically. Try & figure out what you’re missing in your life. Video games will always be there waiting for you. Give it all you got. Focus on building a happy life or relationship. Don’t be scared to fail (you will). Once you find out & fix what you’re really missing in life, video games will just be an addition to your happiness. Sorry for the essay, but I truly hope this helps in any way.
@@PotatoesFromSaturn I just wanna say thank you for sharing your story. I'm not sure why , if it's the way you worded it or just hearing it in this context but I think it really helped me understand a few things. I guess my situation is just all too relatable to ignore yours.
I'll try my best and hope I can get that happiness back in my life so I can enjoy the things I love, but even if I don't, thank you
Wow. TH-cam actually recommending small channels with stellar editing?
Keep up the good work buddy, you're going places.
Thank you!! :)
True
Yep
@@stupidcat9591 kitty
Fr by the video itself i thought he had like a million subs
When I started Amnesia: The Dark Descent for the first time, it opened with a very interesting note.
It said something like 'Please take the time to read and explore, and don't feel rushed to get to the end. Immerse yourself in the game, mechanics, and story to reach the full potential the game has to offer you.'
So I did that. I told myself I'm going to do what they asked of me, and I had such a great playthrough of the game.
I used to never care for reading in game books or texts, and I forced myself to change my outlook on these things. Now I carry this method into every game I play.
There was something about acknowledging that this game is an experience, and I shouldn't try to make it into an experience it's not capable of being.
I cannot tell you how much I needed to see this. I’m only 18 still a teenager and I’m starting to find games not as enjoyable anymore. I can’t wait to use these tips to help rekindle my passion for gaming soon. Thank you so much
Same here. This vid is just a masterpiece, glad to see that TH-cam finally recommended me something useful.
same
If you're 18 you shouldn't be playing video games.... You should be out there experiencing life, don't waste the best years of your life as a teenager stuck inside playing video games, it's a sad and pathetic existence.... Go back to gaming in your 30s or 40s when you have already experienced most of what life has to offer.... Don't waste your teenage years playing video games like a loser.
@@ThatTempesTGuy npc ahh comment
@@ThatTempesTGuy I mean to a certain extent but not completely, games sometimes is fine
something that could be interesting to explore is the nostalgia/childhood factor, spending all day and night playing minecraft bc you have no other real responsibilities, transforming into adulthood where we're all stressed all the time, always on a time limit, often having to choose between which of the equally important things (playing games, relaxing vs housework vs college work vs social commitments etc) we can do in our limited time
@danitaku
same
Arg arg arg screw social commitment I’m a deadbeat
1.) Clear your schedule and relax
2.) Pull out your old console and games
3.) Take a trip down memory lane and tap into that carefree mindset
4.) Realize you've been playing a childhood game for 8 hours and you should probably go to sleep
5.) Repeat with new games
Having friends is probably the most important thing. Playing with awesome people makes almost anything in any game fun its like magic
Yeah all my friends stopped playing so did I
Same my man…. Same
i wish i had atleast 1 friend ,i never had 1 single friend..
Yeah.. I know that now.. games are super boring now that my friends moved on without saying anything. So I've been on my own since the start of covid.. and one of them said I was his bf and that I listen well... So much for that I guess. Seems I was that friend you create a new group and ignore....
honestly you can be playing the boringest game out there but if you're playing it with friends the game just becomes 10x funnier
One really big thing for me is when I'm playing games, making sure I'm completely present with that game. No other music or TH-cam video going on in the background. No food to munch on and get distracted by. Just immersing myself completely in a game and giving it my full attention.
Thats the problem bro maybe you have a tip for me. for an excample im playing Starfield right now but i cant enjoyed i need to watch youtube videos or listen to something because i cant focus in the game. I was so hyped to Starfield because i love sc fi and bethasda games but i cant enjoy it without watching videos :( you know i dont get the feeling to fall in the game
@@DerZenji gotta reset your dopamine. Take a couple weeks off from gaming and social media like youtube.
Agree, that button in the middle of the controller almost killed gaming, trying to play Dark Souls and clicking TH-cam every time your frustrated. It's hard for games to hold your attention.
Yes @@PalaceMidasMusic
That's why I smoke weed...
In short tips are :
- Challenge
- Comfort
- Plan you gaming
- New game/gamemode
- Find people to play with
- Livestreaming
- Take a break
Legend, thanks
Game variety has been the biggest factor as I've gotten older. Increasing the scope of the type of games that I play has kept gaming enjoyable for me. My go to games right now are cities skylines, trackmania, total war atilla, kenshi, and halo. All are different genres, and very different from one another
I'll plan to play 2 each week. One of saturday, the other on sunday. And they all can take a while per playthrough. Each playthrough of a total war game can be 10-20 hours, kenshi is way longer than that (can be a few hundred hours), and skylines can vary from a few hour's, to a few hundred. Whilst halo and trackmania are continuous, as you play with and against others
Next year, I'll swap out all but trackmania and halo (although I may also swap them out for maybe an mmo, and a different fps)
Also, I'll completely sub in games to play with friends if we're free and can organise. If not, I have halo and trackmania for that and specific people I know who I only play said games with
Thx
Thx bro
or just quit games , as we age we see that its a waste of money and time , i regret paying for skins or stuff.
The challenge one actually makes sense why competitive games is the one game that you always come back to
I always find myself coming back to fighting games, to practise that one combo I simply couldn't do before
@@sapphiredagon fighting games are fun and exciting but sometimes you sit down and watch your favorite character fight on TH-cam
I've been playing dishonored 1 and 2 recently, it's fun in general, but it's even more fun when I set a challenge for myself that I'm not going to be detected and I'm not going to kill anyone, the game become much more fun that way lol
I do this with plenty of games. Like i just bought Elden Ring and something i did to make combat harder for myself in DS 2 was to use only caestus, so im doing the same thing in ER. Its a blast and a pain but it makes things interesting.
@@Chad-bc9vi I am doing similar with Watch Dogs 2. I played the game the first time and just bought guns and slaughtered any enemies I came across. That was when it came out, I had a desire to play it again so I started a new game, and am forcing myself to use only the stun gun with slow ass reloads and limited range, and melee attacks as well as trying to stealth the mission as much as possible, sort of forced by the fact that I don't have deadly force
what the hell? this video is so good -- the narration, the clips, the way its structured -- i was thinking you were going to have something like 300k subs and whatnot. amazing quality, great points, lovely video! thank you for sharing :D
Thank you so much! ;-; that means so much to me to hear, I'm glad you liked the video!
@@Erbble well done
@SVPlays well yeah, of course! people get big for a reason though c;
I just noticed the subscriber count after reading this comment, man I think it's this guys second channel or something no way this high quality , super bro support from India
@@NeonSkull0 "gets you verified"
Do people care about this?
the last one is so real. this summer i started playing video games again after a three-years break, and now i've never been THIS excited to play a game my whole life.
1. Make it a challenge 1:14
2. Make it a big deal 3:01
3. Leave your comfort zone 4:08
4. Find people to play with 5:43
5. Take a break 8:13
6. Play Factorio
7. ignore the guy above
8. Read 7.
9. Read 8
10. Read 9.
What made me fall in love with video games again was forcing myself to play them without looking stuff up and also forcing myself to take my time and immerse myself in the game. I fell into the pattern of wanting to do the most optimized way to play the game, which took all the fun out of it. There's immense fun in trial and error and just finding things out, I had to learn how to enjoy it again.
I've been doing the same bro and is actually fucking relaxing. Just gotta smoke rq first and then turn the lights off and immerse yourself in the game. I'm playing RD2 btw.
don't smoke, you will live less @@sebas41201
@@sebas41201 its fun for the first few months but if you do it everyday it gets less and less enjoyable until you can't even enjoy a game sober happened to me just had to take a good break and went back to normal though
Try this with Stardew valley
I literally just learned this with Starfield. I saw way too many videos telling me where and how to get X thing, or where and how to find Y secret, which of course I had to have. Next thing you know I'm level 5, jumped around half the star systems, and have full legendary everything without starting the story. I literally had to restart because it felt so wrong. If I played Skyrim that way I would have hated it too. You gotta just experience it yourself
Tip #4 is hard for me, not because people are hard to find but the problem of not being able to play together for a long time. I understand people have their life to take care of, but as a person who loved being in a big group of friends doing silly stuff together and enjoying every little thing, it gets way sad to see them slowly moving away from the games we used to play together. And it got hard for me to get to know newer gaming buddies that close in fear of feeling sad like that again.
I get that, but it's good to remember the fun times you *do* get. I know it's fucking cliche, but with matters such as friend groups you should try avoiding feeling sad because it's over, but rather be happy because it was a thing in the first place. Just remember that you can always find a new group if this one drifts apart too. I know it seems dismissive, but moping around really isn't a fun way to spend your time.
@@omppusolttu5799 Yeah, I understand what you're trying to say. Maybe I'll get some energy to do that in the future.
What type of games do you play?
If u on PS me n my friends yould adopt u XD
@@isaacbuiltdifferentRL A lot actually, cuz I just play most games I find interesting. I'm just a bit bad with fps and horror games, others are ok. I'm very casual.
I had this problem so I started to upload to TH-cam, I play horror games mostly and Its so fun. When you record your gameplay you end up interacting with the game on a deeper level since you have an “audience” it’s given video games a new perspective for me that’s really helped reignite my enthusiasm
Thing is as a kid, you're worry free... No rent, no work, no major chores and you play video games with a relaxed mind. So yes, playing video games as an adult with responsibilities can be in fact, tiring and can be stressful. I think we associate fun with games, and that's why after we're done working, we would like to think the video game is STILL the escape that we grew up on. But in reality, when we're not working.. we actually just want to rest our minds.
im 15 with like no stress but my games haven’t felt fun since like i was 12
That was a great comment. You didnt need to end it with lol lol
@@benrace_ It could be that maybe you're really not enjoying games anymore, or it could be that you just don't like the games you've been playing and if you tried some other ones from a different genre it could bring just as much or even more enjoyment than you used to have. One of the best things to experience as a gamer imo is trying out a new genre and realizing there's a ton of things you like about it, and now there's a whole new world of games out there for you to try since now you know you'll love them.
That's so true and I feel nowadays all games are too much of a commitment and end up stressing me out more than being fun or relaxing.
@@postproductions dam lol I'll edit it
I’ve been struggling with this and getting back into Skyrim has brought back the love I had for it so long ago. Adventuring in a familiar and beautiful world with so many characters just feels like home. The progression and stories keep me engaged and I’m just so excited to play it every day. If anyone hasn’t played this game yet, you need to give it a try.
If you were struggling to revitalize your passion for games as a Skyrim/Fallout player, the answer is simple friend. Mods.
I've been away from Skyrim for a good few years. Coming back, I was stunned at how far the modding community has come. It was already massive before. Now it's legendary.
MCO for combos, True directional movement with target lock on, dodging, parrying, the nemesis engine replacing the obsolete FNIS, DAR revolutionizing animations. And that's only the technical side. The armor mods, graphical overhauls, spell packs, weapon mods, animation packs etc.
You can literally customize the combo animations for every weapon.
Syn gaming has some very good videos that give a general review of them. I highly recommend you start off there.
It's incredible. You can turn it into a souls like if you damn well please. And the fallout games have just as much. Have fun!
I played it a little back in the day, because of having a low spec PC that is as much as I got from it, I need to get back on it, thank you for your fine suggestion!
I returned to New Vegas and Fallout 3 and felt the same way. Also checking out all the new mods I've missed was crazy fun too.
I love open world games but there haven’t been many interesting ones lately. Because of this I always end up falling back into The Elder Scrolls games and Breath of the Wild
Finally, someone I can relate with. Skyrim and Fallout 4 brought back the spark of enjoying video games for me.
I love how all these tips can be applied to everyday life. Setting goals, getting out of your comfort zone, connecting with a group of people where your desired behaviour is the normal behaviour. Good video!
Exactly!
I’ve wondered why I drifted to basically only playing competitive multiplayer games and not single player games that dominated my childhood. I think tip 1 is really helpful to me. The challenge of constant improvement is what makes me want to grind these multiplayer games. Achievement hunting has helped me get back into single player games. Currently trying to get all of skyrims achievements.
what really worked for me is realising that games are just meant to be fun, I was stressing myself out even with games like stardew valley because I wanted to be as productive as possible. Now that I just play at my own pace and don't really care if I am being "productive" I enjoy them alot more.
Yeah I had the exact same experience playing Stardew. I mean I loved playing it, but it would definitely be more fun to explore and find out things on my own rather than googling how to be efficient at every fucking thing even stuff like egg hunting.
That's a very good tip. I have an addiction on focusing way too much on secondary missions and collectibles, so your tip will come in handy.
This is true. I spent too much time doing things I didn't enjoy. Some times when my friends watch me play they think I'm psychotic for walking past drops or not being optimal with builds, but learning to let go of those obsessive thoughts and just enjoy the game has helped immensely.
@@kryptikk5695 same, this is why I would get so bogged down in modern Assassin's Creed games is there's sooooo many collectibles I get overwhelmed and end up finishing that session and never booting it up again because it feels like almost a chore, and definitely a commitment
i felt the same and found installing the time speed mod and just slowing the days down but a bit really helped me relax while playing but without taking away the slight challenge of getting things done in time, but you can go as far as pausing time with it so you can find whatever works for you
In my experience, games stop being fun when you're unfulfilled. I went through this experience in high school where literally my only hobby outside of doing school stuff was playing video games or watching TH-cam, and I eventually just got bored of it. It always felt like there were better things for me to be doing, and there honestly were, but I always made excuses. It also made me realize that I wasn't really happy with myself and the things I had achieved up until that point. I honestly couldn't say I was good at anything or had any particular talents, or that I even had a lot of close friends.
I really pushed myself to be a more productive person once I started college, and I delved into a bunch of new hobbies, and ended up making a ton of new friends. I'm pretty busy with a lot of stuff nowadays, but I genuinely have a sense of fulfillment within my life, and anytime I do get to play a video game, I don't feel guilty or bored for doing it - I genuinely have fun.
A few more small things: if you have a backlog or whatever, don't worry about it. Literally just play whatever you feel like playing. Don't fall into the sunk cost fallacy or worry about missing out on anything, because it really doesn't matter in the end. Nobody's going to care if you've played a specific game or not. It's all about having fun, so make sure you're enjoying yourself. The second you're not enjoying a game, just stop and find something else.
Thanks for sharing! I can 100% relate
Same bro I’m in high school and can also 100% relate
Mid 20s here kind of going through the same thing. Have a career starting up, making decent money, go to the gym 4+ times a week for over an hour, literally picked up litter for a couple of hours today just to do something nice, and yet even after all that I come home, play the games that USE to bring me fulfillment, but now they don't, and it seems like no games do, but yet...There's just nothing to do. Don't know what to do.
I feel you brother
BS. i have had video games for 26 years almost 27 and your saying stop and find something else? whether you mean stop entirely or just find other games....like i said in my message up top....there are no other games that are even decent anymore its about online games and how much bullshit can i take before going off on someone thats what games are these days...and if you do mean stopping entirely.....then you dont know what video games truly mean to someone after 27 years of playing
I’m glad you touched on depression/ADHD, i struggle with every day things all the time because of my ADHD, and no one really ever takes it seriously because it’s such a common disability. I’m trying really hard to focus and enjoy the things I enjoy doing, but I struggle and sometimes I just sit in my chair for hours not doing anything because I can’t focus or start on something..anything by that point. So thank you for making this video, it meant a lot. Here’s a sub ❤
99% of "gamers" have depression... Sitting inside all day just supports their depression if not directly causing it... It's a vicious cycle that goes around and around... Ever notice all your "gamer" friends and you have terrible sleep schedules? Best thing to do is find balance.... You shouldn't be playing video games for more than an hour or 2 a day, at the very most..... You need to find ither hobbies and things to do with your time that make you go outside and experience life.... Hiding away in your house trying to find happiness in a video game is NEVER going to happen....
@@ThatTempesTGuy well, I don’t play games for hours on end, I personally took his advice on more than just video games but I appreciate the input.
@@ThatTempesTGuy I am in a situation where I moved around a lot my whole life. Every time I made friends growing up it was time for me to move somewhere new. So during that time I turned to games, and I didn't really have a problem with that because I enjoyed them. But now that I'm older, I'm tired of video games because I've been playing them for so long and I can't really NOT play them at this point because I have no friends to do things with. If I was to do a hobby that involved me going outside I'd just be doing it alone anyways which would not be fun and also weird in most people's eyes.
You gave him a sub but I'm giving you a hug ❤.
I'm sorry you have to deal with that.
Taking adhd meds helps me focus on games I’ve found
A big one for me was finding other hobbies outside of gaming. Finding something that is away from electronics like camping, hiking, sports, or whatever else was a huge help. Having an "unplugged" hobby made it all that much more enjoyable when I returned to my computer.
True, I noticed the people who claim games aren’t fun anymore are the same people who either constantly play the same games (or genre of games) over and over again, or all they do is play games, not realising there’s more to life than gaming
Well I started going to the gym and I’d rather go to the gym than play video games in my free time.
@@justinthematrixI’m pretty much the same as you I think. I stopped enjoying games, however I always had hobbies like sports to watch and play, but I started gymming and now I hate gaming even more but I’ll still play just with my mates, mostly just for the social aspect really. I just don’t enjoy playing anything, there’s better things to do with my time now I’m grown up
This. I’m in high school marching band and because I’m away from home for an 3 hours a day it makes being able to hop and play that much more enjoyable.
@@ashhabimran239 Let me tell you something. I am or I was one of those people who only played games the whole life. Maybe you haven't considered that those people are just more happier in the virtual world than in real life because they are socialy awkward, feel to ashamed in public due to bodyshaming (I don't mean being fat but born with genetics that you can't easily change), introverted or many other countless reasons. Like I said I played games 24/7 my whole life which was the best time of my life and now I completely turned my life around. I study abroad in Japan, experience nice things in real life like climbing the highest mountain here, visiting all the beautiful places, the food, new culture and people and the list goes on but still sometimes I feel like Gaming would bring me the same enjoyment but more constantly.
(1) I've found that getting into nature (beach, hiking, etc.) and getting some sun just makes me feel more energized and healthy, and getting back into a game after that is so much more fun.
(2) Modding is one way of almost endlessly enjoying a particular game in many more ways.
Nice video!
#1 all the way, get out and enjoy life. The brain needs real stimuli that games can only virtually tease. Come back to gaming with fresh new ideas mother nature throws your way and you will find fun in anything.
Best comment ever
I don't know about everyone else but when I was a kid I was outside a lot, in addition to all the time spent a school. Video game time was like a respite... perfect for when I used up my energy physically.
Like with many things, both sides of that coin help you recharge and be ready for more of the other.
AKA being in nature is so miserable that it makes you feel better once you're not in it anymore
You underestimate how busy our lives are! There’s no time to do all that and still play games.
That 4th point of making friends reminds me of the time I stood up for someone who was getting shit talked for having a bad game and he ended up adding me after the game ended. 6 years later we still play new games together and vibe really well. Honestly just being respectful online is a good way to meet good people.
For sure. I was playing console Deep Rock Galactic for a long time but after the performance issues, my interest in modding my games to absolute hell, and the fact that I was missing out on the games biggest upside; the community I decided to make the switch and haven't regretted it since. I've made great friends, great times and strive to spread the same positivity that my peers had. Makes me happy every time that I hop on that I won't be ridiculed for how I play as long as I contribute what my team needs, and a few drinks at the bar.
Rock and stone ⛏
I often played games for my friends, I knew the time when everyone started playing, and I eagerly waited for each game.
Had a horrible phase in 2020 when i didn't even have 'motivation' to play any games, what helped me was to wake up with a positive mindset, cleaning up the bed instantly, getting a good breakfast and just getting 10-15minute of sunlight (walking or just sitting in the backyard) and this made everything so much better. Now i still keep up that same mindset but sometime's games do get boring, then its just up to me to make sudden challenges or goals in the game i wanna play and the phase is over in less than a week. Love this video man!
I personally have always felt guilty, even when I was a kid and teen, buying new games or downloading new things because it made me feel inconsistent and indecisive; it makes me feel better to know that's not a bad thing.
These days, as an adult gamer, the biggest tip I can give anyone is to make sure your game area/house is clean. Also make sure that you’re not neglecting anything else. For me, I always clean the house and ask the wife if there’s anything she needs me to knock out before the day ends. This enables me to take care free. One other thing is to wake up early for a gaming sesh. Something about waking up early af and playing before the fam wakes up is AMAZING.
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for me it's difficult to find a game i can play a long time that's not to difficult to learn or play because of my autism, there is almost nothing out there anymore :(
Good advice, you a real one
Why do you boomers always say “the wife”
Yeah man it’s all about having discipline and taking care of yourself then you enjoy yourself more with the hobbies around you
You can tell this dude has good potential as a content creator. Looking forward to see this channel grow!
"CoNteNt BrOooO CoNteNT"..... Imagine being such a souless robot that you refer to things as "CoNteNt".....🤡
@@ThatTempesTGuy what....
@@notjulianwest Imagine being such a robotic sheep that you refer to things as "CoNtEnT".... What is there not to understand... Past 5-10 years people all a sudden started saying "ConTenT" when referring to videos and stuff.... Why do they say it? Simply because someone else said it, so they say it.... Thats a follower/herd mentality and is pathetic. I'll be back I'm going to go eat the content.... (of my steak)... See how weird that sounds
@@ThatTempesTGuy idk whats the problem about saying content
@@notjulianwest What's the problem with being a mindless follower who repeats the same catch phrases and words they hear? Oh nothing except the fall of society and the human race, noone thinks for themselves anymore they just follow.... Why do you think kids always talk about the "MeTa" in video games....? Because it's another way for them to not have to think and just mindlessly follow the masses.... Its terrible to say words like "CoNteNt" and spread the mindlessness.
This video only just now hit my recommended section, and I would say I'm on the tail end of this feeling and this is all great advice that I ended up having to come up with myself before coming across this video. Undiagnosed depression turned out to be a key thing that needed diagnosis and treatment and for me to really put the elbow grease in with a therapist to figure out the various ways I'm not content in other areas of my life. Having a better understanding of myself and what I need helped me approach games from a different perspective. Surprisingly, the streaming tip was something I came up with on my own about a year or ago and it helped me grind through games in my back-catalogue that I've never touched, and it also helped me replay some of my favorite games and reignite that joy I have for games. The real trick is that-- because we've all grown up-- we need to reconsider the role games play in our lives. It's okay to step back from them and find a better balance between your life and the things you like to do, and actually finding that balance helps you enjoy those things because you're not saddled with the guilt of procrastination / inactivity.
In the past, I enjoyed multiplayer games. But during the past few years, I've transitioned to single player games, which alleviates my frustration with cheaters and hackers. Open-world games with a single player mode add an extra level of enjoyment. Currently, my main objective is to finish Horizon Zero Dawn before it gets adapted into a movie or Netflix series. That's why I'm thrilled to be back into playing a game.
Same here, but also because of my terrible internet
Yes!! Zero Dawn is incredible, enjoy the journey!
This is a big one, so many people get burnout because they only play multiplayer games, competitive shooters and the like. It can be so refreshing to play single player games
Facts. I was a Call of Duty kid from 2008 till 2020. I played it daily for those 12 years. I've usually been buying the new ones but I don't playt them nearly as much cause I'd rather play different games, mainly singleplayer. I'm a much more chill gamer now. If I'm yelling, I'm laughing now. I used to be raging if I was yelling
Yea bro I’ve been real into the red dead’s and gtas cause I played online for them forever and never got to enjoy the story mode
Thank you everyone for watching my video and leaving such kind comments, I'm currently working on some similarly styled videos that should be out soon!
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Thanks this has made me feel better about not having fun anymore playing games coz I don't really have many friends so I don't really play online much and when I do I get upset when I play on games like minecraft coz people I see on some servers are just not nice
For me the trick was to change the genre every so often kept thing fresh for me
I play singleplayer games only if that means anything
@@anaveragegamer359 thanks for the advice
@@maikeru_uzmaki7125 was it good advice
One thing I think is important is knowing when it’s time to walk away from a game. I’ve had times where I thought my love for video games was dwindling, when in reality it was just the game I was stuck playing. Happens more with seasonal games like Destiny and COD where they create a “need” to continue playing or you fear you might miss a weapon/armor/etc… that season. Your gaming time becomes more grind than play, and when you recognize that it probably means it’s time to move on. Nice thing with games like those is that you can always come back down the road and enjoy playing it for a while since it’s fresh again.
As someone who gamed a lot as a kid and can't bring myself to game much today, the last point is the most important imo. Games aren't everything! Don't interpret video game burnout as something wrong but as a sign it's time for something new. I have a bunch of new non gaming hobbies and interests I'm super jazzed about. I will probably never game again like i did when I was younger but my overall enjoyment of life is way up.
good for you. but just bc you stopped or took a much needed break doesnt mean others can
I took a few years off & I enjoy video games much more now. But I don’t play more than a couple hours & I do all my important tasks during the day & play video games as a sort of reward/ relaxation at the end of the day
@@Insomnia-uu2zq if that's the case than its simply unhealthy
I'm almost 40, and in the last year or so I've decided every game I start, I'm going to finish. To me, finishing means completing the main story. It absolutely changed the way I viewed playing games and the enjoyment I got out of them, plus a nice little sense of accomplishment when the list of games I "finished" has grown and grown
Im 23 and im going trough the same haha , I just wanna finish games and have the same feeling like watching a movie
32 here, i recently finished Doom 3. I remember how hyped I was Back in the days, but my PC was Just Not ready for it. I'm so Happy I finally finished it ^^ And Like the Video creator i have a huuuge list of unplayed games. Having a "finished" list in Steam is a great Idea, gonna do that aswell :)
I think having too many choices and trying to play too many games at once is contributing to the problem. I used to play only 1 or 2 games at a time, on a physical disc on xbox, when I was about to finish one, only then would I buy the next one. Games stopped being fun for me exactly after I built my first gaming PC and started accumulated tons of Steam games, which are accessible at any time, creating choice paralysis and fomo.
Exactly, I only install one game and take the time with it, I am 35 yo and sometimes it takes a month, sometimes 4 months (as it's the case with RDR2)..I have almost 400 games rated or reviewed on Gamespot site, it was very popular in the old days..
Same here. I'm 43 and I rediscovered gaming 2,5 years ago, when I bought my first console. I started going through a list of all the games that I always wanted to play and I'm having a blast. I also play one game at a time, until I complete it. I don't worry about a backlog, I don't chase new releases, I'm just enjoying myself.
I've recently only noticed that when i was younger, my playtime (be it videogames or in general) was very short and limited. Every time i would be playing a game and actually start to get into it, it would already be past my allowed time. "Aww man I only just started tho!" was such a nostalgic and sort of sad felling as well, but only now i realise how essential it was. I used to cherish my hours of playtime and would always stay excited in the build up to it, which made it althemore precious and enjoyable. "All good things must come to an end," was the same mantra that was told to me after every finished play session, and as I grew oler I started to understand what it meant and felt it's psychological value too. Now I'm much older and I play games for hours upon hours, with no one to stop me and only close it once I'm bored. I now understand that the more you force yourself to end things early, when they are "just starting to get good" helps in valuing the thing/ activity more, thus resulting in you having more fun and find it more satisfying once you've actually started to do it. That would be my tip.
I relate to this on a spiritual level. I wasn't allowed to play games when I was younger so I'd somehow sneak and find some time to play games. I cherised games a lot then. I always dreamed of being older just so that I could have the freedom to play games for as long as I want. Now I have so many games and I do bingeplay sometimes but it feels so empty. I genuinely feel like I'm forcing myself through it just because I used to love it once. It's all so weird. Perhaps, the rarity of having something is what makes it much more important.
honestly, playing with friends (or playing a single player game while voice calling a friend) made it different and exciting. Noticed that when i talk to myself or talk out what I'm doing in the game makes it more immersive too.
This list applies not just to games but to life itself. If you're feeling empty, wanting to do something but not having the drive to make it happen, try using the video tips in your own life. Put goals on paper, write down what you wanna do, give yourself a challenge, do stuff with friends, and just have fun. Don't get bogged down on frustrating stuff cos ultimately, nothing really matters. Just do what makes you happy.
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its not that deep bro
@@noah89436 No, but it's good advice. It's nice to give yourself some plans and goals if you're feeling a little bit lost.
@@noah89436that's what your moma said
I'll give it a shot. Gaming is my last hobby. All my others are dead. I am very empty inside. it's hard to describe it
Brother, I was just talking to some friends about giving up on games totally just because it's not fun like it used to be when I was growing up but as soon as I got off the phone with them this video popped up in my feed. This is exactly what I needed. I appreciate you tackling this topic and making this video. My subscription towards your channel is a token of my appreciation.
Thanks for listening to my needs Siri 🤗
@@narwhal8113 bro ikr that is scary af nowadays like talk about bicycles and the next day you get ads from bicycles
You prolly on console smh
@@AOETAUNT I am tbh
I took a 3 month break from video games after spending around 40-50 hours/week on it. At this time I just quit my job and had tons of money. So I took a few vacations, got in contact with all my friends and family, went skateboarding everyday, started new hobbies, and once I came back to videogames I once again truly enjoy them. And after this break I really value the real world so much more and would much rather spend a day with all my friends than to sit grinding my rank or a new game I found.
As a kid I had little money and lots of time. Now I have lots of money and little time. I have a switch and a huge library of games. But usually I get home from work and I just turn on TH-cam. I’m just tired. I have found if I force myself to just start a game I most often will get into it and suddenly hours fly by. What I try to do is play a big game, then a small indie title. And then for the next big game switch genres. And then there are times I need to just chill out so I will play TOTK or Skyrim and just wander around aimlessly. Really great stress relief. Good video!
"Listen to some music from the game to get you hyped up." - An awesome underrated tip!
I cannot count how many times I've visualized how awesome (or calm and cosy depending on the game) my upcoming gaming session will be like while I'm getting ready to play.
It's probably why opening themes like on Cyberpunk or Doom hit so hard when you're in the menus.
Cyberpunk 2077 spotify playlist always gets me hyped to meet some chooms and kick Arasakas butt
For real. The music from the new Euphrosyne raid in FFXIV has me wanting to go complete a bunch of stuff in it!
@@kylehighclub5967 say what you will about cdpr but they are damn good at making soundtracks that make you want to kill people
I've been playing racing games since I was child, almost 20 years now that I think of it, and I find that even thought I've played nearly every type of game, I always find that racing games are my go to because I can see the improvement over time. Quicker lap times, better racing lines, and understanding the difference in driving mechanics in game, I personally need to be able to see my improvement. And although it doesn't happen as much as it used to, being in 1st place against someone who is right on you for the whole race is heart racing, although now it's harder and harder to find other racers online who are around my skill level, I still enjoy time trials and pushing myself to be faster. But nothing beats when you feel your heart pumping knowing that one early break or one poor driving line gets them closer to you.
I've recently been getting into Trackmania and it's super fun, racing games are definitely way more my type of game than I thought!
Wow such a nice experience, BTW what is your best racing game (1 Old gen and 1 New gen)
since most racing games have tuning and lots of cars, it's always a new experience
Great racing games are about the only games I still enjoy. Those and great platformers, which are almost non existant. Still love the Portal games too. Wish they make a third
If you can get a ps5 try gran turismo 7, it has a driver rating system that will get you into great battles with people at your skull level 👍
this gives the best context to the legacy of "dirt"
What do you mean? A video or smthing?
dirt
dirt
dirt
ah yes glorious game dirt, ill never forget playing dirt 2 ds version on my dsi as a kid and finding an exploit onto runing over all the ai's on hardest pro difficulity...
The point about having the right environment is spot on. I used to lounge on a bean bag playing and would always zone out or start falling asleep quickly. I replaced the beanbag with a sofa and games were suddenly interesting again and I could play for hours. Make sure you are comfy!
ever since I was very very young I used to have such a bad bad urge to play minecraft with a group of people that would play similarly to an smp, even to this day about 20 years old seeing so many people together just like in 6:51 brings a smile to my face knowing others have made it
This video popped up on my recommendations at the perfect time. I've been feeling kinda empty lately, even when I played games. I just finished a session of playing a game I used to love earlier today. I only ended up playing for an hour, and it was fun, but sometimes stressful. Maybe a break is what I need. This is such a well-made video, your voice and the music choices made it so relaxing
It feels comforting to see others feeling the same way. I always thought the sudden lack of motivation was due to stress or depression or some illness because all I use to do was think about and play games in my childhood
I've been playing all of my childhood games lately and I'm having a blast. It really made gaming fun for me again.
Growing up with games was incredible, my older brother who never let me play the games he played ultimately fueled my desire to find out what I was missing out on.
In 2014 a mentor and brother figure started playing destiny on PS4. I managed to get a good handful of friends to play it with me and I look back at trophies and achievements that have dates attached to them and I feel I can almost recall my thoughts about that time.
Since then I play with people I've met playing online. Most of them I've never seen a face or don't even know where they live. All with all great memories attached to them.
ngl Destiny was on a whole other level back in 2014, as a kid the game felt too inmersive, even after months and months of crucible and raids i couldn't stop playing, despite all the bad things the game had i still consider it a masterpiece
@@Milanesa3032 right, it's my favorite game all time. i've never heard of any other game where the whole community as a collective find amazing friends in
I started enjoying games again by not making it my main activity. Getting into fitness helped with that. I treat video games as something special, a reward basically. Activity diversity is important for mental health.
I really love videogames, I kinda went into a spiral of stop liking them after not finding a job after college. So I first I took a little break of them, stop playing multiplayer, and daily missions of games, and start playing different titles, from: Platformers to shooters, puzzles, visual novels, rpgs, every genre that you though you will hate it's great giving them a try. Also a bonus tip is try making them. I love playing but also making them, so both is a great idea.
That intro is exactly what I feel. The problem that I have discovered for myself is that I feel guilty for not having fun doing the things that younger me would have given anything to be able to do. I feel like I owe it to younger me to go and play every game that I didn't get to play. To get those achievements and experience everything that I wanted to 10 years ago. My father was abusive and video games were my escape. Now that I'm grown, I'm having to discover what I truly enjoy in life now that I don't have an abusive relationship to escape and it seems that video games aren't it, and that's okay.
Taking a break helped me out I started getting bored of playing video games so I ended up finding other hobbies and not playing for almost a year, not only did it help me enjoy games again it also improved my life and fitness.
THAT TO DO LIST IN MC IS GENIUS!! Thank you for that awesome inspo. Something I definitely agree with is setting goals for your playtime/session, or each match. It's how I play DBD now, rather than just playing to play I enjoy getting my challenges. The issue is when I don't get any progress towards my challenge, but otherwise it's really enjoyable.
Risk of Rain 2 reminds me of the simplicity, yet effective part of playing it. It's being a video game that challenges you as you progress. And it's just that, challenge and progress while feeling different everytime you play.
welcome to the world of roguelikes/lites
it’s a great genre
I couldn’t agree more on #2, making your space more enjoyable with your own aesthetics can definitely make a huge difference, I found myself setting up a set of led lights in my room and through on some vaporwave on my turntable and played some ocarina of time on my n64!
Right? Just getting into a comfortable environment does so much…
totally true man!! Everytime I light on some candles and and Set up some fairy lights the entire mood switches and I get super motivated :D
Dude, this is the exact type of stuff I want to make, and you executed it perfectly. I hold a massive amount of respect towards you. You just became my inspiration. I hope you make it big one day, you deserve it.
Taking breaks from gaming has really help me. I'm now into gunpla and every time I start feeling tired of games, I go and build one of the cheap gunpla I can find. Its a nice hobbie, very chill, and once I'm done with it, I feel more interested in games! some times you don't even need to stop playing games. Some times just adding other hobbies to your weekly routine helps out a lot! if you make gaming your one and only hobbie, you will get burned out. So try doing other things to have fun!
Tips Reminder:
1:13 - Put any challenge into your game like completing all achievements, changing game mode to hard mode etc.
3:02 - Before starting launch button, think that as if it is a rendez-vous
4:08 - Leave your prejudice towards other kinds of game. Maybe you're fps gamer but you should at least try other types of games.
5:42 - Some games are more fun with people so try to make friends like by joining discord channels about the game you're trying to play. If it doesn't work out the people you've found, then find new people. Gaming community is huge.
6:57 Play your games while sharing with other people (Live streaming). Do this if you wanna earn money or not for the sake of money. It is up to you. Commentating on games is actually a painkiller for stressful games.
8:13 - Take a break. By doing this, you create a sense of more wanting to play games. So create rarity.
Many thanks sir.
The issue #1 is caused partly by modern games. In the past, games were much more challenging. Also they had linear progression, so you always had a clear goal to pursue, but now with the ubiquity of open-world games, this has been blurred. Lack of clear purpose and low difficulty contributes to boredom in games.
Bro... This hit hard, i'm 16 but have been gaming for a large portion of my life since I was 3. I never got bored of video games until now, but because of Covid and Quarantine, I have had the biggest burnout yet. I've tried everything on this list as I myself have gone through a 9 month break to feel the same enjoyment I once had. Those two years messed up video games a lot as nothing seems fun anymore, not just old games I used to play but even the new ones that are out right now.
Hi yes you are now me
@@qwart22 comment made me exhale through the nose
congratulations stranger
Setting in-game goals has been one of these tips that has helped me immensely. I’ve struggled with this same issue and I worried that I just didn’t enjoy gaming anymore. It scared me because games are such a big part of who I am. Just the simple goal of beating the next level, or unlocking the next attachment, etc. has helped me enjoy games just a bit more. Gaming is still not quite the same being 25 now, but hey it’s enough!
When I first got a job, all I could think about was all the games I was gonna buy and how excited I was to finally be able to play whatever I wanted. The more games I got, whether it was through Steam, Humble Bundle, or free games on Epic Games the more my library grew and the more overwhelming it became to pick and commit to one game. I think it's because when I was a kid, getting a new game was such an event. The excitement of going to the store, picking out a game (usually based on which cover looked coolest), getting in the car and spending the whole ride home reading the manual, now that it's so much easier and more acessible to buy games that element how gone almost completely. A lot of the time I'll waste hours and hours trying to decide and then when I did, getting bored and burnt out inside a hour. Now that I'm working a lot more, I think I have to accept I'll never ever be able to finish even 1/4 of the games I own BUT I really hope one day I can make a change and be able to sit down a play the games I want to without feeling burnout.
One thing that helped me a TON, is reduce my choices. If we have too many choices, we aren't willing to put the effort into something that can be hard. When we were kids, we had only a couple choices, so we focused on those and took them further than we do today. Pick 3 games each week, and ONLY play those games that week.
One thing that got me to enjoy gaming more which kind of falls under the first tip is achievement hunting, it can be frustrating but its addictive and you get that sense of achievement
yes trophy hunting id Something that allows me to try knew things and just generally play that game more in turn making it more enjoyable
Often that's a reason why I may choose to get a certain game for the Xbox rather than PC, even though the PC version may be better and I have a proper gaming PC that would make sure it is. Similar with Microsoft exclusives on PC like Forza Horizon, Halo and MSFS, which I'd purchase via Microsoft instead of Steam, so the achievements actually contribute to my Xbox gamerscore that I've already been building up the past decade.
Yes and no because now i go only for the plats and not for the game anymore feel even more depressed
@@azizalfa752 Sometimes I will avoid a game entirely even though it may seem really interesting and enjoyable because it has an achievement that I know I won't ever get. Lately I've had to force myself to let go of the thoughts of getting that blue ribbon (Steam), and just see what happens.
@@user-qj6lq4hd9f How exactly?
leaving your comfort zone is really really good if you enjoy what you're playing, I had never played any rouge like games, until one day I gave one a try and it was such an amazing experience, I spent hundreds of hours in a genre that I didn't knew existed
Forza Horizon 5, Psychonauts, Hades, and Elden Ring kicked my love for video games and faith in them back in full swing
Hades and outer wilds for me. Then league diminish that interest again lel
Elden ring, ultrakill, and the steam version of dwarf fortress are what did it for me. The first games in years that made me excited to get home after work to play more just like when i was a kid in school.
I didn't grow up playing video games and I've been trying to get into it to see if I could love it the way my friends do and even make my own... At first it felt like the difficulty was so big it wasn't worth it and I could never have fun gaming, it always felt like a chore, or with games like Pokemon it felt so slow and decision based I couldn't understand what people liked about it. Now that I got an actual controller, am picking easy games and focusing on one challenge at a time instead of whole games it feels better, but I still needed some push forward. So I hope these work! Thanks man
My biggest change to encourage myself to play games again is to finish the games I already own before buying new ones.
So I play through one or two games that I'm interested in right now before I buy one.
It's more a rule of thumb rather than anything specific. So the number of games that I finish don't have to be equal to the ones I buy.
But it just helps with reducing the chance of an ever growing backlog.
Burnout is by far the biggest struggle I've started having as I get older. I can remember putting thousands of hours into a single game while hardly or not at all playing other games. These days I've learned to switch games more often, so I avoid burning out on the games I love while getting the chance to find new games to love.
I feel like it's a blessing when I'm not getting sucked into games. It gives me time to focus on creating something or taking in other forms of art. Music is absolutely incredible for individuals and also groups.
Also the nostalgia associated with playing games back in the day, has a lot to do with hanging with friends. That's what's valuable. Find humans, love them, make each other think about things. Extract meaning from as many different things in life as possible. Your body will tell you if you're doing well or not. Energy levels, interest levels etc dip for a reason. Listen to the instrument you're provided with. It knows things that your conscious mind does not.
I’ve struggled with this a lot recently, and although it’s far too late/early in the morning to put any of these to the test, they all sound like fantastic options and I can’t wait to try some
the bit about how extensively planning something makes it a lot more enjoyable is honestly just solid advice for life in general. three cheers for prep time
I took a break from video games for around 3-4 months without realizing it (I was focused on the gym, college and stuff) and when I played again I had the most fun playing video games I ever had in years. It was truly awesome (well now I'm addicted once again but it's ok lmao)
I’m the opposite I took a break for a similar period of time and now all I can think about are sports teams and school. I can’t get back into my true passion : (
I took half a year, went back to about a week of full on addiction and now I'm burnt out from it again.
Something thats helped me tremendously is i stopped watching reviews of games, i simply watch various gameplay instead. It's helped me establish more what is my actual style of games instead of just following the games everyone plays.
Thanks very much dude, just stumbled on this video and will definitely try out some (if not all) of these tips! Happy gaming!
These tips are actually really helpful, talking from experience. Especially the last 2. Streaming can be sooo fun and random. And taking a break (no matter from what) can be life changing for real. Take care everyone
This style of narration and general pace of the video is excellent. Reminds me of some fairly popular documentary / thought experiment channels. Please do more of this, I was devastated when I checked your channel and this seemed to be the only video like it.
These tips are all amazing! Best one as we get older is to "take a break". It doesn't need to be weeks or months, but begin finding some other interests to give your life variety. You might like drawing, reading, cooking, hiking, trivia nights, board game nights, etc.. and that all helps add variety and then you will appreciate the 2-4 hours when you get a chance to play a video game.
Another tip that’s helped me is if you like multiplayer pvp games, try playing competitively with some friends. Playing ranked with a group of friends helps me lock in and really focus but it’s also fun cause your joking and bantering with friends. Just make sure you have a group that doesn’t care too much about winning or losing, but also find people who care enough that it’s not a waste of time or you’re losing every game cause they are throwing. Honestly the way to do that is to play to the best of your abilities and lock in when you can but don’t yell or be too mad at your friends if someone makes a mistake or if you lose the match. Definitely for this tip it works best with a game you’ve played enough to be good at. You don’t have to be a pro just know the controls, the way to play and be decent enough to hit your shots, make your goals, whatever that multiplayer game requires.
I don't have friends that play competitively. They're all casual and I'm honestly tired of carrying in normal matches, let alone in ranked. This leads me to mostly playing solo and then getting bored after like, 2 matches.
One more thing that's helped me is to not look stuff up online / get stuck in the minutia and stats. It helps preserve the exploration and excitement of the unknown, and to focus on the experience rather than the numbers. Two great examples are Pokemon and High on Life (very different lol) but both have expansive worlds to explore and reward your curiousity with rarity and secrets that feel way more intimate when you discover them yourself.
Stellar video
You hit on a lot of the same things I've found through years and years with this struggle, but I will add a couple of things.
I've noticed for me ADHD and depression are usually the reason I can't get into, or stay into, games. I know you mentioned them, but I can't emphasis how important it is to realize that sometimes, because at times there's not much you can do to 'fix it'. That doesn't necessarily mean you have to stop, it's just better when you know what's going on.
The one thing I've found, as someone with ADHD and a tendency to hyperfocus, is that even in these kinds of times there can be very specific genres, gameplay elements, or gameplay loops that my brain is interested in, even when I'm not consciously aware of it. It requires a lot of introspection, and thinking about the various games available to me and what I might like, sometimes watching trailers for upcoming games, before I find that genuine pull, then I can go and have fun with what I found. (Although sometimes it'll be for an experience not released yet, and that part's just torture. :P) You can also try taste testing, going into a lot of stuff even if you don't particularly find yourself in the mood, until something grabs you. The search isn't always fun, and it can be frustrating when you want to play but can't find the game that holds your attention, but just remember that this is a temporary thing and you'll find that excitement again before you know it.
Another thing I would like to say to my fellow ADHDers is don't punish or hate yourself when you hit that point where your brain is bored and ready to move on. You haven't failed, you aren't abandoning the mission, and you aren't "robbing yourself of enjoyment". Put it down for a few days and try again... and if you're still not in it, or have already moved on to hyperfocusing on something else, that's okay too. If you have a mind like mine, you aren't going to enjoy yourself if your brain isn't into it, and that can happen more quickly than we would like, but it's okay. Maybe push through if you know you're very near the end, but the point is to have fun, and you gotta just accept it when you know you're not in it because your weird brain has suddenly decided it's bored. No offense intended, my brain is weird like that too.
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I have to comment on this. Your 1st tip is amazing. I did that on the old DOS games when I was a kid, playing on my Windows 95. Games like Blake stone aliens of gold, commander keen, catacomb abyss 3D, etc, I gave myself challenges to enjoy a game more then once. Now these days we have to many new options. Actually getting myself a old system again to enjoy the good old days. Anyway, yeah, such a underrated tip!
Incredibly high quality video. Only 1.45K subs is a crime. I know so many people (including past me) who’s enjoyment could be doubled by watching this video. Again praising the video quality and thanks for spending the time to make this
I actually tried the branching out tips. I used to be a open-world survival action type of guy, but recently I've been enjoying more rhythm games right now. It was not my alley back then, but eventually pressing buttons while being on beat with your favorite song is actually a fun change. Loved this video, dude :)
ever thought of picking up an instrument?
@@FrankieAmadeian. i am actually! I used to be in a band in High School playing mostly the drums, but right now I'm learning the guitar
@@alvinrajendrarabani4504 awesome, man. don't get discouraged on guitar. it's usually harder than one thinks in the beginning, but eventually you get the hang of things and can play your favorite stuff effortlessly
Such a well put together video, relating it to personal experience and stories, great commentary and a calming voice to do such a video with. Keep up the good work and keep the videos coming. Only sad thing for me is I haven’t come across the video before. Keep up the good work!
I like what you said in this video about the challenges!!!
Never from the time I was 14 and playing the first Gran Turismo all the way up to a few years ago playing the last most recent Gran Turismo game, I never settled for silver or bronze-
And this also gives you a reason to enjoy a game more !! Treat it like the challenge. It really is, but at the same time don't waste your time on challenges that certain games put out there when they do not give you the equal tools to overcome the challenge? Gran Turismo has always done a fabulous job, especially if you are good at racing in general and even more if you have a good force feedback racing wheel?
Either way you got to play the game like you're really wanting to get better at it and if that still doesn't work for you, maybe you just grown out of games and there's nothing wrong with that either ?
At the end of the day, it is up to you !
The last one applies to everything you might enjoy doing. Watching series, movies, and anime, playing videogames or even reading some books. If you take a break from doing what you enjoy, it's more fun or recomforting when you come back in my experience. Thanks for the video btw
I've been on anime watching break since 2017 I wonder to myself everyday when or if I should "return" There has been 2 or 3 watched during the break but nothing like it used to be.
When I was introduced to online flash games by my older brothers when I was 4-ish, I simply could _not_ have enough of any kind of game. They introduced me to Halo as well, which also seeded a fascination for science fiction themes, war themes, and blends of both. I indulged actively in this newfound hobby for 14 years, going from silly flash games and Nintendo emulators to more powerful, capable machines. It wasn't until almost two years ago that by talking to myself and thinking out loud--home alone, of course--I came to the realization that I didn't enjoy videogames anymore, that I played them to distract me from reality. Being the cynical, phlegmatic idiot that I am, I kept on playing regardless. One evening, I looked at my library of games and I said to myself, ''Damn. I don't feel like playing any of these,'' and that same sensation washed over me once again. I had run all the games I had into the ground and no means of getting any new games, until I remembered I could sign up for a one-month-membership of Xbox Game Pass for one dollar. I thought, ''Fuck it. I might as well. I have nothing to lose (besides that dollar).'' Thanks to Game Pass, I came across Grounded, Generation Zero, Kingdom Come: Deliverance, Mount & Blade: Warband, and several other games that I am very glad I gave a try and were a very-much-needed breath of fresh air. I have been a Game Pass stickler ever since. Almost a month ago I was looking for new games to play, as I usually am, and one particular survival-horror game stood out to me. _Signalis._ I downloaded it then, and I let it stand in a corner in my library, rejected and gathering up virtual dust. It wasn't until less than a week ago that I decided to get back to it and since I got off my first session, I couldn't wait to get back to playing it again. I finished it in 17 hours. I want to replay it to get a different ending, as a matter of fact, and I several times have noticed myself thinking about it throughout the day ever since I finished it. Not only did it impact me as a gamer because of how well-made it was despite it having been created by *_two people._* It also impacted me as an aspiring storywriter in how bleak and melancholic it is, how well the characters are written, and how the game's narrative and storytelling makes you care and feel empathy for them. I am still hurting because of the ending that I got, and I hate it. I love the game, and I loved every second of it that I played, but I hate how it makes me feel. Do I regret playing Signalis? Not at all. Do I recommend it? Absolutely. Now, if you've read all this, first of all, thank you. Second of all, you may be wondering about what I'm getting at. The answer to that is nothing else besides: *_try new things, gamers._* This kinda ties into Erdrix's ''get out of your comfort zone'' point. Maybe you don't enjoy games anymore because all you play is competitive shooters. Give Stardew Valley (cutesy farming game with a chill soundtrack) a chance. Give Chivalry 2 (medieval combat game with a Monty Python-ish kind of sense of humor to it. Beware of sweats) a chance. Give Insurgency: Sandstorm (cool tactical shooter I got into a few weeks ago) a chance. Don't play games because of the stimulation their visuals and sounds give you. Play a game because of the level of interest its story inspires into you. You never know what game will become your next favorite if you never bother to look for one. The better kind of videogames are those that are like a fine film and, if you're like me, you should choose those ones instead of those that are like greasy, foul fast food you shove down your craw and leave you hooked and wanting more because of how they stimulate your senses. Next in my roadmap is Omori, I think. I've been eyeballing this one called Chained Heroes, too.
It's so nice whenever I stumble upon a fellow Irish creator, let alone one who resonates with me! Having become a full time indie dev a couple years back, I swear my relationship with actually *playing* games hasn't really been the same. My work means that I only have the spare mental energy to devote to playing a game like... 3 days a month? And even then, I just don't get the same enjoyment as I once did; looking at things from a more purely analytical point of view, always referring it back to my own work and how it can be improved, etc.
I imagine it's not too dissimilar to what TH-cam videogame essayists like yourself might feel whenever playing a game? - having to force thoughts and opinions for possible ideas, rather than just *having* them organically, it kinda prohibits that "escapism" that I long for from the days of playing games as a kid lmao
I'm definitely going to give some of these tips a go! I just need something to get me playing long enough to "break through" because once that happens, I can still find playing games to be such a rich and fulfilling experience!
You've deffo earned a subscriber, keep doing what ya doin buddy! 🔥🔥
Thank you! I enjoy hearing about other's experiences, especially game developers and the different views they can end up having on gaming. Also heck yeah, irish creator!
Great video, one thing that helped me along with things in this video was replaying some of my favorite games. It's difficult to keep up with all of the latest and greatest games, especially with how many games get made these days. Replaying older games is fun, and helped me rediscover why I love gaming.
On the 5th tip: Giving a break to games is great, but don't confuse this with "abandoning all means of recreation", we still need to do something fun in our free time! All work and no play makes jack a dull boy, don't forget.
The thing that helped me love video games a bit more was: Retro Gaming.
One day I thought "I don't have anything to play" and realised that I never played games that are CONSENSUS that are great. And this led me to new experiences and to become more critical of games. I got to find out that Goldeneye aged terribly, Beyond Good and Evil is awesome and that FFVII is my favorite fucking media. Just open some random "Best games ever" list and try the one that grabs your attention! You won't regret it, even if it sucks.
Maybe that was good because I'm just 22, but for older gamers it could have a different appeal.
I'm 28 and if I'm being honest, the most fun I have in video games is indie titles or classic games. I played most of the best of lists of yesteryear and they're gems for a reason even if I don't like them.
The older games are just made to be video games not movies.
this is relatable! thanks for sharing
Agreed! I often find myself unattracted to the idea of an old or outdated game until I start looking back at how much fun I was having playing those titles.
A tip from a very close friend of mine when I got burnt out was to try doing new things in games, for example, speedrunning. it helped me enjoy the games I love and even helped me understand how they work better, which I find incredibly fun
I thought at one point of my life that I was also getting tired of games and it kinda bummed me out to realize. But ever since then, I've come to learn that I just have phases where I feel like gaming more and where I feel like gaming less.
I'm now 39 and the last month has been so full of all kinds of games again and it's damn enjoyable in many ways.
So I do think these are all good tips on the video, but also would add that; If you don't feel like gaming at that time, don't force it in fears of you losing your interest. It feels so much nicer to hop back on when you actually feel like picking up a game again. Usually a break just works like a palette cleanser and it all starts feeling fresher again :)