Dating Older Men & My Daddy Issues Ft. Bobbie Robertta
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- Heartfelt With Bobbie. Bobbie Robertta unpacks dating older men and how unresolved daddy issues can shape romantic choices. Bobbie shares her personal journey, revealing candid insights into her experiences, challenges, and the lessons she's learned along the way.
From confronting societal judgments to emotional growth, this conversation sheds light on a topic many can relate to but few openly discuss. Tune in for an engaging and thought-provoking discussion that might just change the way you view love, relationships, and self-discovery.
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This girl is bold, brave and unapologetic of who she is❤❤❤ including owning up her mistakes. I 💕💕
Jagero is the definition of We listen but we don't judge
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As a man, have a female friend like Bobbie. The insight,wittiness, self introspection she has will make you understand and know how to treat women. Look we're all fucked up out here in the world and a little compassion and tolerance is all we need. Overall good conversation,I both laughed and learned. More of such conversations are needed for the betterment of both the boychild and the girl child
Bobi is right on effects of absent fathers it manifests especially in women all throughout their lives Roberta and Carol your health couch can be excellent panelists ❤❤❤
i was afraid to comment but as Bobbie speaks up,i as a woman i have found my voice to speak up and hopefully to be seen someday ,i loved and enjoyed the conversation and this girl is the definiton of authenticity ,i must confess Jagero i only listen to your shows because of her and its upifting ..seeing Jagero from a father standpoint and her from a female and daughter side echoes into my heart ..i watched and decided to contemplate into my own father wound and i must tell u its a phenomenal thing,yea been attracted to older men due to looking for that father figure but i had to stop and i looked into my relationship with my father and this video was eveident altogether ..perhaps i am not ready to let it all out but ina different perspective i found myself attracting two dynamics ;older men or men who wanted to be treated like children ..who didnt provide or do anything and i was the one to take care of them ,nurture them because thats what i did for my father seeing the hate he got from my mother and i attracted those relationships until i stopped dating ..so i had to bring awareness and intentionality and like as i was journalling today i said ..i am going out with the mentality ..i have a good and a safe father to lean onto even if he dosnt exist in reality and i choose God to play as my role ..and ever had that what u believe is what u receive ..my new standard is i get to receive ...my emotions are all over but haujaienda junction mall and u see how those men treat their daughters and i am like am jealous ...its a whole new perspective ..thank you for the insight...its our responsibility to heal and create our new realities
Thank you so much for this comment !!! I see you !!! I also feel so validated. Thank you !
Listening to this conversation.... am so privileged, my early life was so safe and peaceful
Fatherhood is a super touchy subject for and i thank God for the little healing i have had and the more healing i pray and believe for. Hugs to all who have father wounds of any kind .
whenever i see these girl i smile ..i wd love to meet her in person and i must meet her ..she is amazing
So true what she is saying.. Older men know how to love you
Why are they not marrying you guys then?
Planning to see my dad who i have never met since i was born n the urge to meet is driven by the feeling of wanting to be loved n protected like Borbie.I undeestand you gal
I had to reconcile with his absence. Ask yourself: All these years, did he really not know you existed? Now you want to go remind him at what end?
@@makenamakena316this really hit home.. I decided to go look for my biological dad, only for him to ghost me few days after having an emotional conversation.
This was my best talk
We play multiple roles in relationships. The man must know how to play the brother, boyfriend, dady, uncle, husband and.grandfather to the lady. While. the lady has to know how to play girlfriend, sister, mother, auntie, wife and grandmother to the man. Relationships break down when these roles are not balanced. It appears the older man over played the dads role. Older men tend to be over protective in fear of competition from younger men. In short, relationships are complex and will continue in to be a debatable topic till our Lord returns. Good job dwj keep up the conversations.
You have a point. Thanks for watching.
Jagero I love your take near the end of the show. Let people watch to love it too
Hi Roberta, that was raw and I thank you for being strong enough to share. Hi Jagero, you have an amazing platform and admire your open mind to tackle and share difficult topics. You both shared very personal experiences. This collaboration is great and its working out very well.
Goodevening big brother. Please kindly include subtitles from Swahili to English.
You do an amazing job all the time, I've intentionally watched your growth and I am amazed at the originality (the accent gets me); hopefully we get to have a sit down someday
Love always from Cameroon ❤❤❤
This was worth my time 🔥🔥🔥
This is brutally honest and she is right in 20 yrs she would be tucking the old man to bed and for him he "owns her". I believe if a girl is brought up in a spiritual or religious upbringing perhaps the drive towards an old man is lower. Thanks for this discussion. Most girls go for the money and the old men want to be seen as a flower to show off.
I love these facts. Male figures who are present in parenting is extremely important. Extremely. Jagero's laughter reminds me of my brother when we were growing up. Makosa kidogo unaswe na madhe unapata beating then my bro is huko laughing his butt off😂😂😂😂😂....argh. That laughter has taken me down memory lane...mnacheka vibaya sana hii duo😂😂😂😂😂😂.
Thanks alot.
That old man would treat you like a queen
Jagero, l think you should let Jacob Aliet and Roberta have a conversation on your platform. Itakua moto sana..
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A lot of factors affect relationships between partners and among family members but most pertinent one is financial stability.So many relationships could be determined if every individual was stable so that every decision made isn't influenced by vulnerability created by financial instability.
I see the kind of women out there. Thanks.
Aki Roberto. We are sailing in the same boat pale pa kujituma , I had no one to turn to kunisaidia I just learn kujituma ,and that has been me . Sijui kuomba I will rather be patient work for it and get money and buy for myself
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How someone feels about a partner is because of societal expectation. Someone's happiness is better than people's opinions.
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Will you happy with 60 years old man!? Of course you will not at all even when it comes to sex.Unless you convince me that you will have to look for a benten. I agree sex is not everything but that statement make sense until you miss sex.
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That girl is super beautiful 🤩
You can control parenting all you want but you cannot control the outcome of it.
"he's older than my parents"😂😂😂
Just my opinion, and not to say its true, she looks at relationships from a point of need. I need this I need that. What value is she giving in return? or is it daddy issues? I haven't heard the giving part. There are men well put together who will find her vibe inconsistent, I do. As much as some men would treat their women really good, Love them, etc, the reverse would be appreciated. Authenticity should be the key, not trying to manipulate each other into getting what we want. You can decide to pursue intimate relationships to better your life, but what value have you added in return? Unconditional love should be the currency of exchange, which goes hand in hand with God's love, which is lucking in 99.99% of the time. That's why most relationships fall apart in the end.
True.
She's chasing the wind
My love for Robertta*
Wawawa enyewe RUTO MUST GO 🇰🇪✊😎
Surely,....zima hiyo kitu utachoma nyumba .
In conclusion - To those ladies that normally say they dont care about a man, you cant live without a man.
I am not gay but kipindi ikianza mimi u anticipate smile and laughter ya jaegero...😅😅
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@@candidajamesa5650 You listen but you don't judge
@@TheJagero Kwanza tuseme you are chewing food at the same time smiling while listening and nodding 😅😅😅
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Daddies are humans too! the fact that a father made a mistake at some point shouldn't be an excuse for one to drag it on forever just to justify their bad manners. Some of us were even chased away by our step fathers but we don't hold it up to them because they made a mistake! we must deliberately choose to be different for the sake of our kids!
Jagelo, you just called someone a poko. I can’t get past that.
Fathers should just step up.
Weka bei tu once and for all 😏
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Daddy issues is an excuse used to avoid accountability.
It is the Alikudinya wapi for me ?
Robertta you are funny, but your circumstance is real. There is nothing like a free lunch.
This just clearly shows how it's very hard to satisfy a lady,one minute she says she wants freedom like from the old guy,one minute she says the young guys leave you to do what you want...at the end still leaves the old guy🤔
Ladies are so confusing.
They want a piece of all their failed experiences in one innocent person who is just genuinely trying to know them.
She's confused. I wouldn't advise anyone to take her advice seriously.
@KADIMO_ very true...she speaks of going to work places without even notifying her guy,then what's the reason of having a partner? Better stay single then
I'm confused..
That's why older men paid least attention to women.
But she says she doesn't want the old guy, it's a void she was trying to fill subconsciously. Ama ni ngumu kuelewa ivo😂
Buana love your daughters.
Umeniita poko......
Fun show ❤
In my 20s....when i was still using a matatu, i remember a man grabbing my thigh in broad daylight and then wearing a stupid smirk on his face. 😂😂😂😂😂....let me tell you Bobbie and Jagero, the amounts of slaps and mangumi i reigned on that man had the conductor and driver trying to calm me down. I am not even a violent person, but that day, I knew I had to look into my anger management skills kabla nijikute Lang'ata womens.😂😂😂
Women are very unsafe out here, and some women are still oblivious to this fact.
That guy was the definition of a conman. Men can package themselves that way, but trust me, it'd be short-lived. He is a man on a mission.
What about growing up in families where the dad died? And you've never seen them does that mean you'll have daddy issues yet your mother tried to raise you well coz my dad died when I was born but I've never had the urge to be with an older man I cannot even stand when an older man approaches me. I think it all also comes back to how your mother raised you coz I never felt the absence of a father and I am in a relationship and I can say it's healthy. I would like to hear a conversation where women talk about their fathers being dead and if they have daddy issues
This is a good one sista. Thank you.
Love always from Cameroon ❤❤❤
Bobbie 😂😂😂😂😂😅 coffee ya Java
Actually I'm still stuck in such kind of relationship and i blame my dad, if booby had stayed long in that relationship she would have talked about how hard it becomes to leave that relationship because you think you love him yet its the sense of security that you get, the care and everything that comes with the package of dating an older,well established man
This !!!
Av heard male friends for so long but finally, some day, they get feelings, n they can hurt you badly. Just be independent, kabsa!
Curtis has failed us as men💔🤦🏾♂️
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Keep it respectful
@ I was being sarcastic
😂😂😂 ... That was painful to hear! ... H has failed for sure.
Don't apologize for telling the truth ... Wewe@@chadwi1k
"You need to practically show you can improve my life before i can date you'. Are you practically enhancing the mans life as well beforehand? Or the man should just be a gambler betting on a catch. Women are really clear on how they want to be treated, no single mention on what the man gets.
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Also talk about mamas boy
As I am listening to this, I am wondering what the man will get with dating you. All I am hearing is what the woman wants and needs.
I’m not a man so I can’t speak for men. And my husband has his own standards that I meet - that’s why he’s with me 🥹🥹 it’s okay to have standards as a man too
I have seen an awesome relationship between a young lady and an older man work beautifully.
What if you have a young man who get paralyze a day after your wedding day..
They run away with the insuarance money. Date someone else.
Good points overall but shallow on fathers teaching us how to fix things... Eti change tyres ..jamani ..not all had cars growing up. What would the orphans say??... As long as we have God, our parents are not responsible for how we turn out. Efter 14 years of age... We tend to shape our own future. The rest is blame game. Weka mungu mble na maisha and accept and work with the cards we've been dealt.
We expect so much from our dads,my dad was present never a dead beat.I can't judge him,what he didn't do was never his liking,it goes down to his upbringing.I love him to bits namvulia kofia🙌🙌🙌
After 26yrs old I think people should stop complaining about their parents ... Otherwise it will never end.
Na sister issues hiyo pia is not enough talked about. You have a big sister but you cant rely on them because of maybe conflicts.
What is it about kama si madharau?
Curtis umetusngusha kama wana ume kwani shida ilikwa nini
Keep it respectful
For sure ... And he should not have been named.
That level of attention and care cannot just be expended just for "work" ...
Maybe he is close with his mother and his father is also "busy" 😂😂😂
Sorry but it seems daddy issues have quite affected you, but also the loove 4 instant high, soft life will hamper meeting this real good average stable long term young man, dzaddy jus messed your perspective. But as u grow older, ull hv to change or remain single
English please 😊❤
Guys, if it flies, floats or fucks. It's safer and cheaper to rent. Carry on.
This girl needs alot of help for sure daddy issues are real. Men just be there for your daughters so that they don't look for your in men their age mates.
She is taking it too far ... We all have problems. But at a certain stage you stop complaining about it and start working on it.
After 26yrs, it is irresponsible to still be complaining about what parents didn't do.
Genuine desire isn't negotiable.She feels entitled with standards. Those self imposed standards, are not her standards, but those left and kept by the those older men she dated.
Kitten with her? She's trying to improve her oxytocin hormones.Actually,where there no children kittens, puppies and dogs replace that.just rise oxytocin.
For real ... She should accept that older men are her thing ... And settle into the reality without complaining.
Just getting excuses of dating the old guy. Also young men can do that, but we need also to look for money. The older guys had time to build wealth
Given the kind of women we have around ... If a young man asked me for advice, this is what I would tell him:
If you didn't manage to lock a lady down while in campus ... Don't bother out here ... Focus on yourself for like 10yrs straight; no alcohol, minimum sex life ... Just be a robot and geek out over something and become a master in it.
Make money establish a good foundation. Then start dealing with the women after 29yrs old as you enter 30yrs.
You will find that you won't tolerate nonsense or drama ... And you will know what you want clearer.
Every woman is for sale the difference is the price.
And the currency ... This one likely can't be bought with money.
But I can think of other currencies that she would likely accept.
modern day prostitution
This lady should have just stuck with the old man she has been describing ... From the way she talks, she would likely have a lot of drama with her agemates who would likely be more forceful about the very same things ... And she would equally resist forcefully because she thinks she is "independent" ...
Unless she can get a workmate who moves around with her and does the same things and travels the sames places ...
Or maybe long distance relationship.
I think from the way she talks, the old man was the one who she could respect ... 60yrs wa maybe too much ... Perhaps she can try late 30s.