How to Love Annoying People (feat. Danielle Bean)
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- People are annoying sometimes-and that’s okay. It’s impossible for us to get along with everyone we meet. But how can we approach people that annoy us with love and charity, so that it benefits our soul instead of hurting it?
Today, Fr. Mark-Mary and Danielle Bean offer some advice on how to love annoying people, and how God might be using it for your sanctification.
For more on how God uses everything-everyday-to sanctify us, check out Danielle's new book, Whisper: Finding God in the Everyday
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I really struggle with this. All of sudden a couple of months ago, my parents just got super annoying to me. I really hate this because they’re my parents and I want to love them and I depend on them heavily, but I can barely keep myself composed around them. I have no idea how long this’ll last but this video helped a lot, thanks!
Maybe they are getting ready to let you go, and trying to do all the parenting they possibly can before you leave them. Maybe I'm wrong, just I saw lots of parents do that when their kid is close to graduating school or college. God bless you trying to be charitable to them, even though they're mega annoying!
@@KittyM- that’s a really good point! I didn’t think of it that way. Thank you!
@@dora2497 my pleasure. Wishing you every success!
See 'Annoying People' as a CHILD of God !!!!
Children can be Annoying and We are Children too!!!
You made me chuckle and lemonade came from my nose. May God grant you an extra month of life for each pun you come up with.
I know I needed to hear this because the moment I heard being annoyed was a choice, I became even more annoyed than I already was.
😆🤣 true
Just last night I read a quote by Robin Williams: “Every person you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind.” Food for thought.
That quote is from Plato or something lol. Like more than 2000 years old. U dum dum head
I am so happy I have contributed to sanctifying my family members. 🤣 I know I am VERY annoying. I even ANNOY myself. I am sure I'm annoying to my confessors
Peace to you, you made me laugh, I annoy myself too.
@@mikecorrigan9422 Thankfully I made someone laugh. God bless
Thank you so much for this! Gods timing is perfect! I have a brother and sister who aren’t speaking. I have been praying for a reconciliation between them. I sent them both this podcast. 🙏
Thanks for sharing this.
I have endured in mi work( I am an active scientist) a group os scientists in another unit who systematically blocked grant requests from other people in the field, "borrowed" their ideas, and generally tried to put down anybody whom they considered competition. It has been tough, and I probably more than once went ballistic. Recently I was asked to peer-review the promotion request of one of them... I was about to refuse when a deacon friend told me to do it. I said that these people had ruined the chances of others, etc. He replied "That is why you must do it, to your best of your professional ability and with the help of God try to be as just as possible"... It yook me 2 more weeks before I could get ready to do it. And I did as he said. A tough lesson.
I’m having trouble comprehending this. I get in a sense, that while this individual, caused pain and was unfair to others, there’s always causes and effects. What leads someone to act in whatever way. As free will and free choice here on earth. Though to not do the peer review, seems like to be a just thing as well. It’s something small on your end, but it seems like something to give justice to those he hurt getting to where he was.
I got a buddy that is underpaid and overworked, at a body shop. Some new guy comes in with way better pay. He does nothing, and he ended up he pissing on my friends car, so he’s going to get a police report, to look at the camera footage and potentially have him pay a fine.
Is this not justice too?
It seems like by what I read, there should be nothing done to the new guy that did my friend so wrong.
@@ryanroff6330 Hello Ryan!
Not carrying out this specific review would have also been a possibility. Yet by not doing it I am kind of going into their game. It took me a long time to realize their behaviour was not something aiming specifically at me., but rather that they lash out at any one they perceive as a potential menace to them. This is a fairly common behaviour in many professional areas and the arts, particularly ehen resources are limited. For some years I tried to get out of their way to no avail. So whenever possible I tried to defend with as fair an opinion or professional judgement others that were hurt by them. Also with my team we decided to stand our ground but not to fight back. This sounds easy but it is not. An eye for an eye seems to be in our genes. Turning over matters to Jesus and asking him to guide us in our actions is much harder, takes time and requires learning to hand things over to Him, in particular. This does not mean that I do not feel irritated after each new aggression, but a good exercise is to re.ember Our Father... "forgive our trespsses as we forgive those who trespass against us". Trying to be fair and just in our response and actions to such repeated aggressions then becomes part of our freedom. It is not easy by any means (I know from experience) but it is necessary.
Perhaps I misunderstand this. I don't believe in lowering oneself to the level of others' dishonesty, but also I don't believe in letting bullies get away with it. God bless your patience.
I really appreciate this video, I have been constantly battling with this hatred I have for another peer of mine. The worst thing is for some reason I keep on being pair up with her. I find her to be so insensitive and fake. In all honesty, I don’t hate her as a being but I just can not understand why she has to be so passive aggressive and so rude. Thank you for this reminder, I have the power to either forgive her and just try to see her in the light of God.
This! This was it! I've been clinging to the fact that my coworker, who's annoying behavior is actually intentional half the time, sanctifies me. It was a start but just not fully enough. Thinking about how much God has put up with and forgiven in ME is very helpful though. When I think of all the things God witnesses within me I realize this ain't that bad.
It's Fr Mark-Mary consistently nodding when she speaks for me.
Thank you Fr. Mark-Mary and Danielle for this video; what you both touched on reminded me of St. Therese of Liseux (the little flower) and how she would grow in holiness by bearing with love, patience, and perhaps smile when others annoy her or do injustice toward her. It is so challenging but you are both right in that bearing with love the small things like this can make our Lord happy.
I found that very helpful and oh so happens to everyone! Thank you both!
My brain! When I first saw this title, I thought it was about how to annoy people and love doing it!🤣🤣🤣
Okay, so I’m being annoying, so hopefully, somebody out there still loves me!😳
Hello, from Portugal. Loved your video. Thanks.
Great message and reminder 💕
I have said people are annoying so many times! Thanks 🙏
GOD is so good! Perfect timing for me to hear this! Thank you so much and GOD BLESS you both!🙏💓
I struggle with displaying the most patience with those who are least worthy of patience, and none at all with those who are closest to me and most loving! This was really helpful. Thank you both.
Good teaching
Amen 🙏 beautiful thank you may God bless you
Mother Angelica hits it on the head so often. I often remind myself of her quote that you mentioned.
This happened indirectly within church, then outside, then come. So many burdens and crosses that one has to carry. And it it’s easier said then done. But some, like myself have my birthday month, and next month. Due to persecution. Betrayal. And the Evil forces working against. May God Bless. Amén 🙏🏼
Very helpful my trouble is pride ,I don't want people to know I'm struggling because I am quiet often struggling . I end up not trusting people.God is bigger .
Y’all are beautiful, great advice. God Bless you both and all worldwide. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Wow! Thank you! ❤
thank you vm for this, i suddenly remember this quote that said, "if you feels like losing your patience, remember how patience God is towards you."
Yes, Fr. Mike is so right (as usual). Being annoyed is a choice. I have had annoying siblings and even my parents, plus annoying bosses, co-workers and roommates! God is calling you to greater holiness, yes. I pray for patience, wisdom and guidance quite regularly.
Sometimes, when someone annoys me, I ask myself what this person might be feeling right now. If I can connect with that, the feeling of annoyance dissipates in me.
Great video that I needed to see. 💗
Thank you 🙏
I’ve watched this at least 4 times and I took notes. Thank you!
Thank you Ascension Presents. 😊
Thank you so much for this video. It's an eye open er for me
Thank you! Such a great video.
Really helpful! Thank you!
Trusting God ..knowing this is His desire for my spiritual growth.
Instead of holding in the annoying feelings…lovingly respond by giving a positive option of thinking…
if that person disapproves with my reaction….Still I will trust God.
It can be healing for both of us
or Maybe that person May start avoiding me….🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾
The hardest part for me is when my family members who I love, hurt me and are unkind. It is easier to deal with non family. When the family is the problem it causes rifts and division and can distance family members. I have experienced that with my adult kids.😢
God bless you
This is great. Thanks!
If your hands are completely tied and you have no choice but to live thru it offer it up to God for the saving of souls.
💙 mmm .. tough one to navigate 💙
I love Danielle's positive voice and energy! I pray to see people who strongly support abortion the way God sees them. I am having a hard time with that. 😞 Any advice?
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So, when Jesus got annoyed with the Pharisees and even with his own apostles from time to time He was CHOOSING to get annoyed? If we as Christians don't "CHOOSE" to become annoyed when it's warranted, then we are either not paying attention or we are remise.
I would like to see/hear Mrs. Bean interview Father Mark-Mary.
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When someone is tailgating you instead of making your self upset turn your blinker on, drive slow and come to an almost stop at each intersection or exit while looking for the street name sign and then continue on. If someone ahead of you is driving like that turn your high beams on and watch them struggle with adjusting their mirrors to stop being blinded.
BEING SLOW TO ANGER IS A DIFFICULT PROCESS FOR MOST PEOPLE & WE SHOULD CERTAINLY DO OUR VERY BEST TO PATIENT, KIND & HUMBLE LIKE THE SAINTS. HOWEVER EVEN JESUS GOT VERY ANGRY & TURNED TABLES IN THE TEMPLE TOWARDS PEOPLE WHO WERE DISRESPECTING GOD TEMPLE. :)
True. Jesus was no shrinking violet. God help us discern when to be patient and when to act.
Her teeth are so perfect 😮
Agreed
It’s probably because of tooth whitening operation
What about people who go out of their way to annoy you in a bad way?
What about if your spouse is constantly disrespecting you...in one small, little way? You ask them to stop, but they don't make the effort, and if they cared enough, they would. Actions speak louder than words, so their constant apologies start to fall on deaf ears. Part of growth as a couple is letting the person know what is bothering you (and visa versa), so that they can improve. If you have a spouse who is open to the Spirit, amazing things can happen. You can be together many years, but being in close quarters, due to the pandemic really tells you who you are married to. That is what happened to my husband and I, and we are the better for it. We never had any disagreements, which is not normal. Now we do, and we are able (for the most part) to work out our conflicts. I don't think that I agree with this video.
Read the title here and thought it was a how-to video for how to have fun annoying others.
I'm so annoying g and I really pray I wasnt tolerate isn't easy please my friends pray for me to change my heart please!
Why do people of faith love to say “it’s a choice to be annoyed”, the same way you can’t stop your body from breathing you can’t stop your body from having intrusive thoughts, which is the stem of one’s emotion. It’s never a choice to be a annoyed, however, it’s a choice (after a died down of thoughts & emotions) to stay annoyed.
“Remember Fr. knows best, lol.”
Good morning 🌷 pray for me father so I can devote my self to Mary pure heart & help my family and society.
My name is suhail & I live in Dubai 💗💗💗
Beware if you pray for patience because every intolerable event, person or thing will be thrown at you that you can imagine. The best way to learn patience is to build it thru experience. God is not going to send to the patience grace.
I hope this helps.
Bruh God really said "For you" when this video showed up on my reccomendation feed
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What if the people are actively making fun of your beliefs constantly, like they're trying to make you angry
Love your enemy......
Letting annoying people get on your nerves without telling them will give you brain tumors. Good Luck.
Click, click, click... 🤣
Annoying would be a nice way to put this. My sister is 8 years my junior and has been doing things to hurt me literally for decades. She is mean, childish, cruel and downright wicked. To just list every significant hurtful thing she has done to me would take the pages of a novel. But here are a couple out of millions to give an idea.
I was visiting my mother and we had a (solely verbal) disagreement. I went outside to get out of the house in order that I could remove myself from the situation and talk to God. Maybe 30 minutes later I was arrested for physically abusing my mother, throwing her over a king size bed then kicking her down. I am disabled. I cannot throw a paperback over a king size bed. But this was just the beginning of the fallacy. My sister was in regular communication with the sheriff department and the district attorney providing them with stories. I was put in jail for 3-1/2 days and was not allowed any of my medications. They would not allow my children to even post bail and my daughters and son-in-law spent all of that time in the waiting area of the jail. When to hearing the day after I got out, the DA had a few new charges. My attorney(s) literally could not figure put where the DA was getting the new charges, then they found out about my sister, monetarily compensating the DA to drag the case out with added charges for almost 2 years.
My 85 year old mother became aware of what my sister was doing. She defended the “never does wrong holiness” of my sister, said that the lawyers were lying, and told me that she never wanted to speak to me and terminated all contact with me.
There are quite literally thousands of more incidents before this event occurred. Most of them cruel and vicious, and Always Always quite literally behind the backs of my parents. My father has passed (for which there are a few more cruel things that my sister did to me), but both my parents believed that my sister never did anything wrong, never lied, and was the sweetest thing on earth. Because my sister has said countless derogatory, mean and wicked things about me, my parents always only believed her. Lying at this level is a skill she has practiced and with which she was very very good. It is actually very frightening.
Before my mother terminated contact with me I wrote my sister an apology letter. Yes, I apologized, for anything that I have done that hurt her I was very sorry, and asked for her forgiveness. I also asked that we “let bygones be bygones” so that we could each continue our relationship with my our mother. She threw the letter away.
Seven is the number which signifies infinity, and seventy times seven eternal infinity. This is why I forgave her again and again and again…
And I pray that it could be something so simple as annoying. And I pray for her and the hold that evil has on her.
I will pray for you. Sometimes the people who are meant to love us the most are not capable of giving that love. I pray that you will find love and community and healing. Cast all you burdens on Jesus for he cares for you.
@@hopefull61256 Please also prayers for my sister. Her beatific lies have also gained her millions, and only the power of God can overcome.
I never understood why some parents are blind to the shortcomings of their children. Parents tend to act this way towards their younger children
I love God, but struggle with loving people. Especially when it comes to driving, and if someone is driving crazy on the road. Whoa I can really go off! The Word of God has been condemning me about this. James 3:9-12 (which references the tongue) 9 With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men who are made in the image of God. 10 Out of the same mouth comes blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so. 11 Does a spring send out from the same opening fresh and bitter water? 12 Can a fig tree, my brothers, yield olives, or a vine figs? Thus no spring yields both salt water and fresh water.
I’ve been praying for God to change my stoney heart, and make me more like Jesus. The perfect example of love. My thoughts do not always believe the best towards men and women and I need help from the Holy Spirit in this area.
3:06 Is false. There is not one single non-Christian on the entire planet who is a child of God. Yes, all are made in the Image of God, but adoption to sonship of our Lord is through faith in Christ alone
@@aisling6564 pretty sure they're only the chosen nation of God but Jews individually are not the children of God. However, dont quote me on that
They are the lost sheep but sheep nonetheless. Remember the shepherd came to find the lost sheep and to reach out to them because he cares for each and every person.
I’m annoying. It is my way to stand up for myself and my way of being honest. I would be in Italy, I had to fight my way to get good service. If I was in Israel, I had to fight for my rights not to be taken advantage by Arabs. Darn it! I am going to defend myself and others to get justice. Incidentally, I find it annoying that the woman talked real fast. SLOW DOWN and let the friar have the chance to talk. The woman hogs the stage.