Advice to avoid unrequited love: The trick is not to "confess" but to "express." E. g. You can tell someone you like them without expecting anything in return. "I'm in love with you. I think we should be together." (-this is a confession. -lays it all on the line. -demands an immediate response -puts them on the spot -will ruin a friendship immediately without their input) vs "I love your company. You know what? If you ever wanted to, I would date you in a heartbeat." (-Expresses your position. -Ball is in their court. -It can be taken as a beautiful compliment with no strings attached. -It's the verbal equivalent of leaning in for a kiss, but stopping a few inches away and waiting for them to take the final step.) If they react to the 2nd one with fear/anger/confusion, it means they think you're doing the first one (and they've been burned by this before). Reassure them: "No, i'm not trying to ruin our friendship. I love our friendship. I am saying that, if it ever came up, I'm pretty sure I'd say yes. Because you are {say all the things you enjoy about them}. These are all true whether we're friends, or more than that. I'm telling you you're a great person. That's all you need to take away from this." Then it's up to them to decide, but now they know what your answer might be if they did want to take the step. HOWEVER: you need to decide beforehand that you will be okay if they do NOT want a relationship. THAT IS OKAY TOO. "Soulmates" is not a thing that exists: out of 8billion ppl, don't you think it's a bit lucky that everyone's "soulmate" happens to live within their zip code 90% of the time? They might not be the person for you. THAT IS OKAY. You open the door. If they don't walk through it, they weren't the one. Close the door and wait for the next one. Disney lied to you, guys. It's gonna be okay.
@@reese9311That's because a true friendship can no longer be when one friend (or even both many times unless both are aligned in emotion and hope) feel something more that causes a tilt in the balance (95% of the time, this is the case). The only way the friendship can prevail in spite of the emotional shift that tilts the connection (that 5%) is if both: - clarify any misunderstandings - agree to take actions to continue through it - actually follow through on their promises instead of just empty/hollow words Ultimately, it is better to tell the truth even if it doesn't work out since it probably won't. Lies are wicked and they corrupt but the truth will set you free into the best possible scenario so you won't be thinking "I should've just-" or "What if?".
'I'm already hanging out with __' 'I'll invite __ too!' 'I'm already working with __' 'I'm sitting with __' 'Sorry, I like someone else.' '__ would be a great person to talk to imo' my name never filled those gaps.
real i can't form friendships and im 18 now, ive met sooooo many lovely people in my lifetime so many sweet girls that i know id love to be their bsf but idk i don't know to express myself. im so scared of people, self hatred and self sabotage runs deep in my blood. I'm typin this at like 1am i cant form a proper sentence. i don't think they'd ever understand me because they are so confident in who they are. while I'm scared to even go outside my house because of how much i hate myself, all i do is cry and sleep I've been living like this for the past 5 years....sorry for dumping this shit on u
@@ewseekhelp girl don’t you even reply for dumping everyone needs to let it out. I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way and I wish there was a way for everyone to just feel better as a group. It’s gonna take time for you to find the right people and I know some people probably told you this but you really just have to be patient. You’re enough love being just the way you are. 🩷🩷
@@ewseekhelp kiddo, mental health and neurodivergence are real things. Remember the duckling/swan story? Finding out i had lived 40yrs with Au/DHD was a bloody revelation. You're not 'wrong,' you _might_ be 'different.' And guess what? There's a TON of other people that are just as different as you! You've met lots of lovely people, but most people come into your life just to leave one little footprint on your heart. It sometimes takes a long time before you find someone that stays. And even if they do, they may not stay forever, and that's also okay. You are here. You share life with others, and you can decide how much and how little you give them. Sometimes, some will give you something back! And it's lovely. And some won't, and that's okay. Love from an internet stranger. 💕💕💌💌❤❤
@@JhadeSagrav thanku !! I rly can't ever explain myself to anyone because nobody seems to understand🤍 there seems to be a barrier like a wall that I can't break between me and others, idk but I'm scared I run away the minute I see someone getting comfortable w me :(
@@JhadeSagrav trust me it's me, I'm the issue idk what's wrong w me.. I run away because I feel like they deserve better and I'm not enough to be friends with anyone, or that there r too pretty to be my friend , I even tell myself I'm going to hurt them if they get close to me!!
"If people were toys, I would be the dollar store craft kit, used once at a summer camp and then never touched again, left to collect dust. I would be found in traces of glue left behind on a table, and plastic sticker backings in the trash. I would be preserved in some small foam animal, with lopsided eyes, clenched in the hand of a toddler. I would be left on a dark shelf, at the very back of the room, with my once shiny veneer dulled by hundreds of cloudy fingerprints, not quite properly put away. I would be alone until someone remembers- hey, didn’t we have a craft kit at some point? I’ll be taken off the shelf, the dust blown away, brought back out, and loved until I am forgotten again." - an excerpt from something I am writing right now
I know it’s tough never being the chosen one or being forgotten but try to remember you’re never alone, millions of other people relate. And are here for you, including me, and you will one day find someone that never discards you and who will show you the love and attention you deserve 💗
21, almost 22, and never been in a relationship. I feel like I’m falling behind on “youth”, on experiencing love while carefree and not burdened by “adult” life. I have friends and a loving family, but… Sometimes I just feel lonely, you know? Dreaming of companionship before bed only to remind myself that I’m not an option for any of the guys I know. Yet, I believe that one day we all will find someone to understand us. To anyone who’s reading this, don’t give up. Use this opportunity to grow and be open to possibilities - the future might be much brighter than we think. Don’t give up on hope.
im 20 almost 21 and in the exact same boat, trying so hard cuz i know one day i will know these feelings and all and find that person that cares abt me but its hard when everyone around me takes those feelings and experiences for granted
Turned 24 couple of weeks ago been trying to get a girlfriend for 14 years and been in two situationships don't worry about being like everyone else be unique be different work on yourself and keep you Chin up high and smile and workout like for me and I know you are going to starving for love just pretend you are a main character in a movie like me I pretend I'm like in the raimi spider-man movies right now I'm in raindrops drop on my head scene and I'm honest to god happy and smiling for once in my life oh and sing your favorite songs like for me is (Together we'll make a promise, Signal Fire, Thousand years)
Love isn't completely effortless, it's hard work and it's heart work with your partner. No matter the age. Real, wholesome love will help you feel assured even if you're an adult doing adult things and working a fulltime job. Out of the almost 22 years of your life, majority of it so far you've spent unable to provide for yourself. So don't tell yourself you've wasted your youth, tell yourself you've spent 21 years figuring childhood out, and soon you'll be figuring out adulthood too - and it sounds scary but I'm sure it'll be fun and full of love, if you choose to see it as such and make it so. I like to think it only gets better when you're older and have more agency, more say over your money and who you choose to let in your life and who to distance yourself from. You can choose who to give your love and time to. But most importantly, you love yourself. Someday, your person or persons who you'll be romantically involved with will come. Someday. In the meantime, love yourself and others. Care for your community, bake a cake, buy a small trinket every now and then, compliment a stranger. Fill your life with love and light. I wish you and the people in your replies all the best, and I hope someday you guys find the person(s) for you.
Lucky guy, you spoke to ppl about him Ahahah To be on the other side, hidden at first, then picked, and thrown away, again and again They need you, then they don't, then again, then plop Such nonsense
Time to break out the mediocre therapist- *ahem* No, while I can never understand your pain I can say stopping yourself from feeling love will do nothing to help. It hurts to lose anything you knew and cared for but stopping yourself from ever loving again will only cause more issues and sadness down the road. I am not saying to forget your bad experiences entirely, that's just impossible. What I am saying is try to find or do something that will help you express and help heal this pain. Confide in family or friends, paint, Write something, or just try to ease you mind off it. I am not a professional, or have gone to any school for this and your probably never going to see this, but I just want to say you deserve love. You are more then a non option, you are more then nothing you are someone who is cared for and worth loving I just feel that needed to be said to anyone feeling like their not even an option- I hope you have a ✨ fabulous ✨ day!
Hi! I don't want to bother you or something, but I saw your comment and I wanted you to know that you're not alone in this. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here for you, okay?
Loved, they didn't feel the same way. Confessed, they didn't answer. Talked, they ghosted me. Love hurts. And I dont want to hurt anymore. Goodbye V. I'll never forget you. We were never anything, but I wanted to believe we were. Now it all ends here. Ties cut, Lives seperated. I'm hurting more than ever before. Love. Still. Hurts. And it wont stop.
Hey stranger, I’m not sure if you’re happy and just want to listen to some moody music or if you really need this right now but either way this is for you: You didn’t lose out on anything. The things that you bring to this earth are unique from anyone else’s. Just because something didn’t work out yesterday or you feel like you lost that person. There will be another situation tomorrow that WILL work out, that will work in your favor, and you didn’t lose that person, that person lost you. You’re such a lovely, unique, beautiful, gifted, strong, vulnerable, open, protective, wonderful, loving, caring, and so imperfectly perfectly human. You get one shot at this life so live it to it’s fullest. Allow yourself to laugh at that mistake you made or to ugly cry when it just gets to be too much. Feel every emotion to it’s fullest and enjoy each process and motion you have to go through. You’ve got so much growth to do I know you’ll get to where you’re going even if you don’t know where that is yet. You are loved and cared for, if by nobody else, then by me. You’ll make it out of wherever bad place you are, you’ll grow from this I promise. Good experiences make for great memories and bad experiences make for even better lessons. Remember to stay safe, drink water, eat enough, and to love one another. Let’s leave this earth a little better than we found it and enjoy every second we get to be on it. Let’s not forget how much of a miracle it is for each of one of us to be here 💙
Hey stranger, thank you for those words...you can't even imagine how much I needed them. I wish we could meet irl, wish I could know you in person. I mean I can imagine how lucky the people around you are right now, how lucky they are to have you by their side. Being able to comfort and reassure people like me with your gentle words. Im grateful that there are ppl with beautiful souls like yours on Earth right now, in the same lifetime, same century, staring at the same stars and moon every night. I wish you to love, to be loved, to experiment, to travel and the brightest future as you deserve
He will never know the effect his voice has. He will never know the way I float as he speaks. He will never know how I melt when he lays on me and He will never know that I wish he would lay longer. He will never know how overjoyed I am when I see him and He will never know how melancholy I am when he leaves. He will never know how I love him so. He will never notice how I soak in his presence. He will never see how I settle in his steady speech and hang on his every word. He will never know how I relish the sound of his laugh. He will never know how I see every quirk on him and know exactly what he's thinking before he does. He will never feel the way I do. He will never know. He will never love me as I do him. He will never love my laugh and He will never love my smile. He will could never love a man. I have loved him for seven years and he will never love me as I wish he could. Fuck my life, dude
I know it sucks, I’ve felt the same. But instead of focusing on the sad part, focus on those things that he does. Focus on the things that you like about him, on the things that make you happy. It’s helped me, maybe it’ll help you.
Hey man. I once loved somebody as dearly as you described your love for your somebody here. My guy didn't love me back the way I loved him. In fact, he did a lot that hurt me. Sometimes he showed me love, but then sometimes he treated me pretty badly. Nonetheless, he was my first love and I'll probably always remember how I felt when it was just the two of us being vulnerable and close to each other, I'll probably always remember how much I cared about him and the lacerating sense of loss when he hurt me for the last time. But I'm here to tell you that just because the person you love doesn't see your value, doesn't mean you don't have any value. Your value comes from the very fact that you exist, because your life is irreplaceable, it will only exist once and nobody could ever create it twice, that's what makes you extraordinary and unique and so much more valuable than society may think. It's alright if you're hurting, you're not alone, and if you're angry that's alright too because beneath the anger is pain and beneath the pain is love and someday someone may see your value as I have and they will see how valuable it is to have your love in their life and they'd never take it for granted. And it's okay if you're not ready to think of ever loving anyone else, I just want you to know that you're not alone, I want you to see your real value and to remember that even if you don't feel it, there's life beyond this heartbreak. Take care brother, it'll be okay.
I'm just confused why I love him so badly. It really really hurts when you love someone so badly but that person doesn't love you back the way you love them. Every time I have to be strong that there is a day when he told me how much he loves me.. But I'm tired I know I made mistakes and I also lied with him but I never cheated with me. I was afraid to lose him And now I'm thinking that he is never minee Why God ? I'm not strong enough to handle this
Everytime some random popular kid came up to me and said "yo my friend has a crush on you", all of them laughing at me with the "friend" having a disgusted look on their face, it's a reminder. My teenage years are almost over and the longest relationship I've had was 3 months with someone who didn't even like me back.
well at least 3 months, for me the only relationship i've had was for 2 days, with someone who was taking me as an amusing play ,urgh!!! i really really hated boys after that.
The way this still happens to me... and I would be in a perfect mood, my confidence boosted,my scars fading... they ruined all that. My confidence went down, my mood changed, my scars Worsing. And they don't even know how much it hurts. How much that "joke" wasn't funny to me. Little things change the most in someone.. Even things such as "jokes" can hurt someone the most. And I want you to know, that if your going through somthing like this.. like I am, don't give up, don't relapsed or even SH. You be strong. Because I know you can. You got this. Keep going. Don't be like me.
it's come to the point where i start thinking that there must be something wrong with me, because people around me find dates and relationships, they are happy. am i worse than them? am i not loveable like them? was i never destined to be loved? am i doing something wrong? i can't stop comparing my life to other's, they have something i dreamt for a long time and sometimes don't even value it. i don't think i am not complete without love, i just don't understand why i can't be loved. am i all wrong? im tired.
This is the realest thing I've ever read. I also wish I found love, somebody that praises me and makes me feel like I am important to them, but I'm honestly convinced it might never happen... Never once has anyone liked me, only my friends...
highly potentially because you have higher standards than them, i’m someone who has consistently been in relationships since my sophomore year in high school (i’m currently in my sophomore year in university) but it has never once been with people my own level, i have always ALWAYS been the settler in my relationships. so i think it’s a good thing to not force yourself into relationships that don’t make you feel good, it’s better to be alone and at peace rather than be with people that don’t value you properly. the reason i’ve always been in relationships is because i don’t know how to exist alone, since the moment i’ve become a teenager i always had someone next to me so i never learned how to function on my own.
It is so funny how right now I’m crying my eyes out for this guy while encouraging him to tell his crush that he likes her… he told her and I’m here being supportive but it fucking hurts, why can’t I be the one for once…?
If there’s a guy you like, just go up to him and tell him you like him straight to his face. It’s the best way to get chosen since most guys these days don’t know if a girl truly likes them as a friend or as a partner.
@@s_ec_r_et5008 the only thing I can really say is just wish for the best for him and move on, it’ll hurt but that’s life. The memory will become like a scar that’ll never go away, but that shouldn’t stop you from pursuing love with others.
I'm never chosen. I tried ao hard to be there for people but its never returned. (Romantically) my own husband didnt even pick me. He only wanted me when the "better" option turned to a nightmare. But through my one best friend and brothers im here. The day I left my ex he said he was worried id try to end my life. Ive attempted twice. I was very proud to look him in the eyes and say, "you arent worth ending my life over." That was two years ago. Cherish your life. It has its ups and downs but thats life. The downs make you appreciate the highs. A heartbeat goes up and down just the same. If it didnt, youd be dead. I hold on to the pain though. To remind myself that im a fighter. And while nobody else will pick me, ill always pick me.
He was such a sweet boy to me, and during such a turbulent and emotionally deprived time in my life. I adored him, he made me feel special, we had so much in common. It was all a lesson in disguise. Oh well.
To all of you out there who are sad, depressed, or sudicial. You may not be chosen by people you love, but I chose you. I believe you can be something wonderful. I may just be one person, but I know each one of us deserves something better. I want you to believe you can achieve anything because YOU CAN!
Don't lose hope as for me all my friend are in a relationship and my best friend is also in a relationship with her crush she have like for years for me I have loved a boy since kindergarten and lasts week I found out he have loved another girl who he spends the whole day texting her on his phone in front of me 😢
Honestly bro, I think this hope thing is holding us back. I don't think there's anyone for us. Maybe it's time to stop looking for love. It's not our fault. Maybe it's time to stop looking for someone else to help build us. Travel to a place where no one knows you and take up a skill you have never learned your whole life. It's time we build ourselves.
i turned 20 today. i have never even been an option. at this point i think i can only love people who do not care about me. i feel like it’s too late for me to experience anything even though i am still a kid in my head.
I turned 32 yesterday. About a year ago I had my first crush. And... well. I'm here so you can probably figure out how it went. I don't think I've cried as much in my life as I did this last year. I'm sorry you're going through this as well.
I’m sorry for the both of you, I’m sure it hurt a hell of a lot to experience your own pain. You may not have been THAT person’s first choice, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t someone out there that will give you their 100% in turn. Let yourself be hurt, grieve as much as you need in order to cope. But don’t let it linger, because you are worth what you’re giving out. It’s not pathetic to cry over it, let me tell you. You were hurt, and it’s ok to feel how you feel. Recovering is a harsh journey, I’m sure you’ve heard. Don’t lose hope over it lads, you’ll come out of this stronger. Remember to reflect upon this, and don’t make the same mistakes. Give your all to someone who will give it back. Much love
I was 21 when I had my first boyfriend. I was technically engaged, no ring, it was LDR. I’m 28, and met someone who can actually see me and appreciates me, that I exist, the same way I do. You’re gonna be fine. I purposely stayed away from people but we simply crossed paths by chance, and I remained open no matter how many times I intended to “always keep myself safe from people”. Don’t date just anyone, appreciate everything as a life experience and simply wait.
I turned 18 in October and I feel like just ending my life because I feel like nobody cares about me I have had suicidal thoughts for almost 11 years and I feel like I can’t take it anymore😢.
I didn’t know there were people out there that felt the same as me. As terrible as never being chosen or feeling unloved or unimportant, unlovable, and unworthy all is…it’s comforting to know I’m not alone. I hope we all find what we are looking for one day. 💕 and I hope after we pick up the pieces and move on, we NEVER have to feel like this again.
I've known people who think its funny to call you ugly right in front of your face. It made me feel so insecure but all I did was laugh and for some reason agree- I've been through multiple friend groups and friends yet none of them ever even cared and just ditched me. I always feel forgotten, and people use me- I just feel like giving up.. even though I just want to feel wanted or even just for someone to say a simple thank you to me.. I always end up alone crying, thinking about all the people who were fake to me.
it;s the same for me too. except that i had everything i wanted, cheer team, my bf, and simple hobbies. they ruined my life. i quit cheer team bc of them, my bf broke up with me bc of them, i gave up and layed in my bed for months. i hate them
You're still young. What you should do is go and apologize to anyone you made fun of and maybe be friends with them. I was always friends with everyone, but I went to a tiny little private school... just learn not to care about ppl who are prob going to peak in hs
A sad love story: She and him were each other’s rock. They always knew that no matter how hard they tried to deny it, the other would always be their favorite person. She was always so naive, but he put up with it. He was always so cold hearted, but she loved it. He was so rude to everyone except her. She was the one person he would check on. She was the one person he thought of in the mornings. She was always so untrusting. Constantly worried about who she could trust, yet she never doubted that she could trust him. He would always be who she thought about when she was sad. They started out as best friends, but became much more. Family? Maybe. But to her, they were more than that. They always had the most fun when they were together. They would stay up late talking on the phone, not worrying about the time. They relied on each other to push them through the day, never missing a text. He was all she could ever ask for. But she couldn’t see. The constant push and pull he had on her. He could influence her emotions quicker than herself. He would make her feel like the world. He would give her the world. But then he would take away the world. And every time he did, oh, how hurt she would feel. She would try to figure out what she did wrong, but the truth was that she did nothing. And when she would accept that and begin to move on, he would come back, once again offering her the moon and sky. Though he never said it aloud, that look he gave her in those moments was something special. His face would heat up, and a silent agreement to never leave was made in the air. And how her heart would warm at the thought of him coming back. Yet, it still happened over and over again. Each time getting worse and worse until she was completely encompassed. Addicted like a drug. She couldn’t see past when he was doing, and at times, I don’t believe he could see it either. She had kept her feelings pushed down for so long, but the last high they hit made her believe that she had a chance, so she allowed herself to feel. She allowed herself to feel how lovely each moment with him was. She let herself realize that she loved his goofy laugh. She loved his colder outward appearance and she loved the fact that his warmer inner appearance was only showed to her. He confided in her, and it made her feel on top of the world. With every conversation they had, she began to fall deeper into the dark void of emotions. Though, what a mistake that was. Because one night, is all it took. All she had done was call him. She didn’t understand why that made him so angry. She tried to joke around as they usually did. But something was different about him. This time, he was ready to make it all crash again, but she didn’t realize until it was to late. Every insult he threw at her stung. Every time he told her to get lost another hole formed in her heart. She tried making it better, agreeing not to talk to him until she was in a better mood, thinking that it was her fault and he was just annoyed with her. It was all ok with her- she was used to it- until he said that he hoped she stayed in a bad mood for a really long time. Did he really mean that? Did he really not want to hear her voice for over a month? Did he really not even want to see her name pop up on his phone screen? Not knowing what else to do, she told him if that’s what he wanted then he should not text her. And when she saw his words of agreement pop up on the screen, her heart broke. It was then she realized that this was another part of his game. She realized that in that moment he was serious, and he most likely wouldn’t be coming back for a while. And when he does come back, he’ll come back with the world in his hands once again, but this time she wouldn’t need it. She realized that he was no good for her. She knew what she needed to do. She saw that he would never need her like she thought. She was fully ready to pick up and move on from him. But as she began, she felt a string pulling her back down. She felt her heart shatter, as she realized what that string was . She realized that this time, it wouldn’t be that easy, because she had finally admitted to herself not too long ago, that she loved him, and he would never love her back. If you made it this far, thanks for stopping by and reading! Oh and if you’re wondering what happened, and if the girl is ok, I’m not 100% sure yet. Because I really did love him, but it’s time I let go. So hopefully, I will be able to do just that. Love yourselves
Loving someone you well know is bad for you but can't help how you feel about them anyway is tough. But it's life and those we love aren't meant to love us back and we shouldn't let them keep hurting and taking us for granted either. You may still love him for years to come and fighting your feelings only makes them stronger, so accept all the emotions you feel and move on anyway. He clearly has his own personal struggles and a selfish narcissist personality that's not your fault-- his insecurities scream for attention and you've been feeding him with that (enabling his behaviour), when you pull away it threatens his source of importance and attention and him coming back to you is not because he cares about you but because it's convenient to use for his self-interest. Don't take it personal, forgive his selfishness and take baby steps each day on a healing journey and loving yourself. You can't change him, it's not your job. You love him but decide it's time to love yourself more- you deserve the best things in life and in love! You need to make new friends, isolating yourself to just one person can make the wrong one manipulate you--open up to new friends, healthy social interactions, fun harmless stuff you love to do, so your sense of meaning in the future isn't centred on another person. Take care.
@@anoushkaliz5508 thank you! That’s great advice and I will follow it :) although sometimes I wish I still had him to go to, life is much simpler not having to worry about keeping him happier.
Hello! Even though I am doing just fine now, I remembered there was a time when I wasn't and I would tear myself to pieces listening to playlists like this. My message to everyone here: You are worth it. If they didn't see that then they weren't the right person/people for you. Surround yourself with people who appreciate you 💜 It will get better.
I had everything i could want. A partner, a family and a home. But it was all ripped away from me. Now i have noone and nothing anymore. Im never giving myself to another again, even if it means being alone for the rest of my life. Its been 2 years and the betrayal still stings as if it happened yesterday. I keep asking myself everyday what i did to deserve this, i only ever gave my best....but i guess ill never be enough.
None of us are ever "enough" to fix or fulfill another person. We are, and always will be, sufficient only for ourselves. You don't need to "give" or "lose" yourself to another. You only need to be exactly who you are alongside someone else who is being themselves too. Always changing and improving, of course, but still being you. don't know if that helps, but, my catatonic internet stranger, i need you to know that you ARE enough by being exactly who you are. You cannot possibly be any more than that.
Don’t rush your own recovery. What you’ve been through is traumatic, as it’s been 2 years and it still feels fresh. Do not force yourself to forget it, or get over it. It must have been severely damaging, and I’m sorry someone treated you this way. I’m not sure how much more I can help…but you need to take it easy. Allow yourself to be hurt, feel the deepest emotions of your grief. You unfortunately need to walk through this hell, otherwise you’d just be sitting in it forever, ya know? It doesn’t matter if you keep talking about it, or re-thinking about what happened. This is how you cope and grieve over the situation. Let yourself be sad, and then slowly build up from there. I wish you a speedy recovery ❤
A random little story: The two of them were like two peas in a pod. They were always there for each other, always gave one another a shoulder to cry on, and never let each other down. They had been together through the highs, and through the lows. They were best friends. Until one day, he lost himself. In drugs, in alcohol, in self harm, in everything horrible. She didn't understand, she tried to help, to try to pull him out of that darkness, but he always went back to it. The both of them were sitting in the woods, just talking about life. She asked him to promise her something. To promise her that he'd never leave, he'd never let her down, and he'd never give up on her. He promised. A promise they both knew he wouldn't be able to keep. A few months go by, and they're mourning the death of their friends. The friends who were their everything. He was starting to get better. His addiction was dying down, and he was starting to go back to his old self. They started hanging out a lot, he gave her his hoodie, he spent more time with her than he ever had. She never thought strangely about it. Little did she know, it was all for one reason. She was sitting in her room, when she got the text. The text that broke her. The text that told her to get to the hospital, it was him. She rushed over, and when she got there. She didn't see him. She was directed into a hospital room, where she saw her best friend. All the memories rushed to her. The laughs, the cries, the moments, everything. She stared, and only felt tears falling down her face. It was a sight she didn't want to see. His mother directed her to sit down next to him, so she did. She grabbed his hand, praying, hoping, he would be alright. When she heard his heart beat flatten, her heart dropped. She looked up, and was pulled out of the room. She sat in the waiting room, just praying he was alright. Seconds turned into minutes, minutes turned into hours, and then she was taken home. She sat in her room for hours, looking through the messages, the pictures, the audios, everything. She could only cry. Denis, please, pull through. You can't leave me yet. I need you. You promised, so why couldn't you keep that promise? Why'd you have to do it? I need you to please make it through this, we still have so many things to do together. You're too young. You can't leave yet.
I was always the 'middle' person. The one in the trio that was always just there. Every time I made friends the other two would prefer each other. I always felt left out whenever we were together. I was ditched by them every single time. No matter how many new friends I made, I was always the least favourite of the group. But I finally found it. I found a friend group that loves me, that I'm actually a big part of. I'm never left out or left behind, they like my company and I've finally got people I can share everything with! People who'd chose me in a heartbeat! I never thought it could happen but it did so please don't give up hope that you can be a first choice. I hope that everyone is okay and feel free to talk to me about stuff in the replies if you wanna talk or rant to a random internet stranger. No judgement
Oh yeah, I do want to rant to a random internet stranger! I'm in a very similar position... have a whole friend group who loves and supports me, but its still difficult often. Trauma processing is forever and never-ending and scary and fulfilling. I find myself being anxious very often still, or feeling like im taking up too much space in my social group. I know im loved and valued, but low self-esteem takes a long time to heal from. Also asd/adhd are hard 🥲😩 *chefs kiss* An adulthood adhd diagnosis feels like a bitter sweet betrayal, like I knew there was a reason I have difficulty doing sh*t, but I thought the whole time it was because I was messed up :^0 Why didnt someone tell me sooner that our society just isnt built for people with diverse brains . At least I could have had a head start in agknowledging that i'm not the entire problem. Ok bye :^))
Remember, rejection is redirection. For someone to reject you, they are gifting you the clarity you need to open yourself up to fall in love with someone else. I don’t claim to practice what I preach, in fact I’ve never confessed my feelings to someone, but I’ve still gotten rejected because those people have found interest in others over me. And it helps heal my heart, even if only a little, to try and see rejection as a mercy, rather than try and imagine a life where I will just never know what could’ve been.
Honestly, rejection was closure with my last breakup. She decided to ignore me for weeks without a conversation about why and I gave up. With the latest messages, it seems that it just didn't work out and she stopped liking me. I was ignored and snubbed even though she'd wait for me to walk with her to a class or to her car for weeks. I felt like garbage, like I'd done something horribly wrong to deserve it. Was there something wrong with me? Even now I'm not sure, even if she says "as cliche as it is, it's me not you". Her saying that we should take a break was just relief that I wouldn't have to keep up with a charade, keeping up appearances like she actually cared. The look in her eyes when she sees me is all I need to know I should be glad we're done
Recently I've been feeling more and more isolated due to my asexuality. I love being ace, but the title of this playlist gets it right. I can never be an option for the people I have crushes on, and they aren't real options for me because I can't be with someone who wants those kinds of things. That, and like many other in the comments, I'm rarely a first choice despite everything else. I enjoy being single, I am proud to be so confident in myself and in being alone. But sometimes I still wish to have someone sitting on the opposite side of the couch, to know all the little habits of someone, to be able to craft the perfect gift on every occasion for them. I don't doubt me or anyone else here will find someone someday, but the wait is frustrating and isolating and just... sad sometimes. I wish everyone else here luck, you'll be loved as you deserve and you will love as someone else deserves. It's what keeps us human after all the heartbreak ❤
It hurts when you realize just how hard you're willing to fight for the relationship and they won't do the same. All the things you've done for them. The sacrifices you've made. It fcking hurts.
Listening to this playlist reminded me of a guy I really liked. Could say loved. No matter what he did, my feelings didn't disappear. I was close friends with his current wife. I'd talk about him every time we met up or in class. She liked him too. She was more beautiful I guess because in the end she won over his heart. Weird thing is, our friendship took a downturn when she would tear me down in front of him to create a poor image of me. It really hurt. I was heartbroken that she'd toss a friendship away for a guy and I was heartbroken by him because he always sent me mixed signals. In the end, I had to cut ties with them because the bullying was tearing down my mental health. But after years I still wonder if I ever had a chance if she wasn't there to interfere. If he could have stared at me like he did her. Or held me the way he held her whenever she was sad. Maybe even love me the way he did her. Maybe offer more comfort to him and promise more love for when he cried once in school and he didn't know I saw him just to prove to him I am good enough to give a chance to. Maybe I'd love his dreams more than she. Maybe make him happier than she ever could. Even after three years, I still think of him. The boy my feelings were engrossed with. The boy whose heart I could have had and cherished if he gave me a chance. The boy I wanted to comfort so badly when I saw him crying. The boy who has hurt me the deepest without his notice. A boy I'll probably tell my children about. A boy I seek in everyone. Oh, to fall in love with someone you can't have 😞
You remind me of a song called "Just to see you smile" by Tim Mcgraw while your "guy's POV' would be a song called "Please Remember Me" by then again, Tim Mcgraw. Hopefully you find the love you deserve.
To finally fall in love with someone who makes you feel special and happy no matter how your day went just for them to pick your now ex best friend over you. Leaving you with a broken heart and destroyed trust. Out of any chance of a relationship and have the loss of a long time friend..
I was rejected romantically even before I knew what romance meant, what attraction even means, what liking someone meant to the point where someone lied abt being in love with me, took advantage of my vulnerability and made me question how true the relationship even was. Whenever I expressed how I felt, I get rejected. That isn't even the worst part. The worst part is I get insulted for expressing. I just want to be wanted, someone to ask me out, hold my hand, kiss me, hug me and respect my feelings and not invalidate my feelings and throw it away for the sake of ego. That's so hard to ask. I'm tired. I'm tired of dreaming that I'll find someone and scared that someone will come thru just to destroy everything I single handedly built when I was hurt. I'm just sad that I prob won't find someone who'd try to be with me, fight to be with me, and stand by me. I don't even know what I'm saying at this point. Anyways, I'm sad and tired. That's all
Oh I remember when my college crush told to my other friend:"You know, ifI wasnt gay I would totally go out with you, you are so fun, cool, cute..."(continue to make her compliments) and Im just here feeling like trash and thinking "Hahahahaha Im never good enough for anyone". At those moments I just wish to not live anymore
@@themangle-laggle Well, not very good. Its just, Ive never had this attention from other guys, like, never. Mkst of the time I was bullied for my bad looks. I just wish to be special for someone, I feel lonely...
@@WaffelWuffelmaybe if you learn to be special to yourself, someone will see that and you’ll be special to them too. Being special to two people is better than one, right? -advice from a kid
My problems aren't as bad as others i know that, but it still kinds hurts sometimes a lot. im so fkcn lonely. Sometimes at night i get so lonley i cant even handle it theres times where my dog isnt enough to keep me going. Ive come to close to committing its scary i dont want to leave this world but theres times where i do. God i cant even get comforted without cringing or just.. brushing it off.. thats why i hate venting its weird getting ppls affection.
I get that, sometimes it's hard being alone. Having to put effort in everything you do and doing everything by yourself. And when someone actually tries to help us, it feels weird because we aren't used to that. Just know that it's ok to reach out to other people when you feel lonely. If you have a good family and friends, they will be happy to help you. Even strangers on the internet will try to help you and talk to you. You just have to ask.
You don’t need to compare yourself to others lad, we all got our own shit it’s understandable. I know it’s lonely, and you’re really hurt everyday cuz of it. But don’t let it control you this way…You can make it through this, just like you probably already have. The path you are on right now may be one of withering loneliness, but the only way to get out of it is by walking yea? Just keep on walking, and you’ll find your people. Those people are here on earth, you just need to hope a little longer ok? Be smart, be friends with those who got your back, and keep pushing…It’s worth it. As someone who’s been through those emotions…it’s worth it just staying a little while longer. You can do this, have faith in yourself. ❤
Hey, I know what it’s like to be like that. I know you’ve said you got really close to calling quits, you are too precious in this world. I’m so sorry if anyone made you feel like you weren’t good enough. They don’t deserve you.
Ahh, Never once in my life did I become an option. Effort really didn't matter to her as long as you weren't even a part of her list. All I can say to myself is all my struggles were laughable its so infuriating. Option left, stay alone.
No that's Not true! We All Deserve to Be Loved much as anyone else❤..Never been in relationship but It's okay..Maybe someday in future...it will come when i least expect it haha
POV (I made up after being heartbroken lol) “heyyy! hurry we can’t miss this sunset” He said. I nodded and walked next to him, my heart beating out of my chest. “Can I say something? I like you” I said trying to not look at him. “Sorry, I… like someone else” Silence followed, and I looked at him and said “I know” I smiled. I looked back at the sunset while trying not to cry as I knew from the start who the person was. It was your perfect friend Amy. I knew deep inside there was room for me in their mutual relationship because I knew she liked him too. So, I told him first so I wouldn’t have to keep my regrets. I’m glad and sad.
@rfwadawraedaswe-v9q hello! Thank you for checking in on me, you're such a sweetheart. I'm doing okay now. The scenario was just something I made up because I had lingering regrets about not confessing my feelings and I wanted to write out how things would go. I thought it worked perfectly with the Playlist so I thought I would right it up. I hope you have a wonderful evening and thank you for caring about a stranger like me.
People were always annoyed bc I was so clingy and got attached so easily and fast. The thing is I get attached so quickly when someone shows me a little bit of affection. The truth is I'm like this because my father, the one I needed love and attention from most didn't do, he shut me out, never wants to listen to me and spend time with me so I stopped trying and gave up.
Damn, this playlist hits the spot, the spot where all of my bottled up emotions has been hiding. The world is truly cruel, i dont wish to change the past coz i dont regret it i was happy even for a moment, i knew what was coming and still took the risk til it finally broke me. I miss the old me but i miss her more even if things didn't go the way i wanted it to be. If for some reason you're seeing this Jania, go chase your dream, be happy, always be the light in this crazy dark world that we live in and i hope that i'd find your light one last time^^.
realized that i just don't have a face that boys nor girls like realized nobody talks to me unless nobody else is there realized that im envious of everything and everyone around me because theyc an do everything i cant realized that i crave peoples attention to the point where im "annoying" and dont deserve it realized that peoples opinion only matters in you make it matter and thats exactly what i did
"Be greatful for those good memories...You never know long they'll last...you never how much those memories may have meant to them." "Some people wish of having memories like these.."
Hey, everyone ! I'm hopping from playlist to playlist willing to lend an ear to anyone wanting to vent their feelings. I've been through rejection too and it hurt like shit, but you gotta remember IT DOES GET BETTER !! you just gotta search for the right people !! No matter what happens, don't let anyone or anything get you down. I care about everyone here, and I hope you all get through this 💪💪 YOU /DO/ MATTER !!!! If you fall down IT IS OKAY to rest, JUST DONT QUIT.
We told each other everything, all of our lives, all of our feelings, all of our thoughts. Except the only ones that really mattered. He knows all of me, I know all of him, except our feelings for each other. I've told him everything, everything I have ever did, said, or feel, he did the same. But I wasn't confident enough to tell him he was way more than a friend to me, way more than just a friend. I forgot to tell him he his my world, not a day pass by without thinking of him, not a day pass by without feeling the want, the need to tell him everything I feel for him. I could talk about him for hours, maybe days. He his everything, everything I want, everything I need. I think of him daily, and everyday I love him a bit more, maybe one day it'll stop, maybe it won't. I hope happiness for him, his life, friends, lovers. I hope one day we'll smeet again and realise we have to make up for the time we spent far from each other. With love💗
It’s been a year since this comment. I hate to hear how so many people are hurt. I want to know if your better today and what’s going on. I would love a reply if possible❤
It hurts... I love someone who will never be mine. Despite everything, I can't stop loving him. I don't know if I could love someone who isn't him. I just can't. But I just want him to be happy, whether with me or without me. He told me that he doesn't feel anything for me, even though his behavior shows otherwise. This makes me feel confused. It makes me hope for something that will never happen. I don't know what to do, I can't distance myself from him. I feel like I'm not good enough to be loved by anyone. I've never been anyone's first priority... + if anyone is reading this - I hope you're okay. Everything will be fine, don't give up. I'm glad you're here with us. You are important and loved. Good luck!!!
I've been feeling really horrible lately. Maybe it's because of my late nights trying to catch up with my uni studies. Maybe it's the fact I finally accept and realize the group I found and somewhat created during the start of the semester is now leaving me out. Maybe it's because I barely know my father's past. Maybe it's because I don't have a race. Being half Chinese and half of something else I don't know is so hard. I haven't found a group to stick with. Through my years, I have and always will just be that 'filler' friend. Vent to me, talk to me only when their friends aren't around. And leave me after. I should be use to it by now. !8 years should be enough for me to realize this, yet I always manage to hurt myself with my own thought of 'maybe they'll stay', 'maybe this is my group'. I lie to myself everyday thinking that maybe, someday I would have someone or some group. (I actually feel bad for venting since personally I hate talking about my feelings)
People never really gave me the chance. It still hurts but I'm used to it now. I'm okay with it, because now I'll focus with the ones who gave me a chance and stayed so long. If ever-that I will ever fall alone again, I can't promise that I will not turn colder and more isolated than I am now, vanishing without anybody knowing(as they might not even care) but I will always hang on to my last string of breath so that I won't completely leave. I'll keep giving myself a chance until I can't anymore. -K.L. 🌻
Just one time I'd like to be loved. Just the one time. That's all I ask for. Just one chance at being happy. I'm not sure I can fall for the wrong person again. I'd settle with being seen once
I'M IN LOVE WITH HIM. HE'S THE FIRST MAN I'VE EVER LOVED HEALTHILY BUT IT'S LIKE I DON'T EXIST TO HIM LIKE THAT. I PRAY FOR HIM ALL THE TIME. HE'S GIVEN HIS HEART TO ANOTHER KNOWING VERY WELL HOW I FEEL ABOUT HIM. ANOTHER REMINDER THAT I'LL NEVER BE ENOUGH FOR ANYTHING AND ANYONE.
I feel you i had also 5 years relationship with a girl we loved each other so much and just broke up bc her friends didn't like me we are just living to keep suffering.
Why is this literally mee🥲 it hurts so bad cause he didn't even say if he like me or not and now he has a reallyyy pretty girlfriend. I don't wanna hate her but it hurts so bad whenever I see them together but I also want him to be happy.
We've only met twice, but I already like you, crazy. I'm not the type to obsess over something, but you... You are different. This is the first time I've felt this, is it because of loneliness? Attachment issues? Is this because you said you understand me when I panic and overthinking? Or because you're being nice to me? Is this because I haven't been chosen for so long that I feel like I really want you when you are just being kind? But now, you didn't even read my last DM, stopped watching my stories. And you seemed fine when I disappeared. Am I forcing it? I just want someone to choose me
The most painfull thing, is when you start noticing they fall out of love with you... bacuse they love someone else. But still keep you around to suffer. So you burn every second they look at you. You just know you are not the ONE
I’ve shut myself off from life , for a long long long time and it’s getting worse, I don’t leave my house for weeks at a time, And when I do my social anxiety is excruciating.But Still I sit here daydreaming about finding someone to love and leading a full life, it’s still possible, but my mind is currently my prison.
honestly i never told anybody this. Ive been struggling with andiety, whenever i fet ready for school i have this heavy chest feeling, then i start to tear up. it usually happens whenever i have a due assignment to turn inm but its really weird because its after school too.. and last year, my father told me to put my hair up but i never wanted to. so he screamed at me to do it, i started sobbing (we were in a rush to a mexican party for his girlfriend’s grandmothers birthday) he started to being up terrible things i did in the past. i sobbed and begged to go home to my mothers house, he said no and screamed at me togo to the car to go to the party. i started sobbing in tears and, last week he asked me why i dont go to his house anymore. i feel bad but i dont want to go near he ever again.
Some people might be the second choice but I’m never really a choice to begin with. I mean I try so hard to be a good friend but it’s never ever enough, it’s mentioned that I’m a good person and friend but it’s never shown. I am always left out of things and I’m always alone. When I cry or show the slightest emotion I’m being “dramatic” or “annoying” but I really just feel sad and alone.
A nice playlist to sleep to drift off into the memories. Nice to no longer be lost in irrational thought like I was back then as a child. Love should be childlike but more importantly you should be rational with your love. Not everyone is deserving aye?
Never wanted to be an option. Options are for those that don’t quite stand out enough to either Take and keep or trash it and know ya never owning that shitz
Every year, I make a year purpose: 'To be a better person than I was last year'. It's been 22 years now since making this new years purpose, no matter how hard I try to see the good parts even in the darkest of times, to see the good were people see only evil, to do good actions in a world that's becoming crueler in a fraction of seconds. I still feel that I'm never gonna get what I've always tend to desire, the right person, that loves me, respects me and sees the value in me, even when I give my all to people I've barely known, they keep on backstabbing me and hurting me, making me feel dissapointed at life/society. I will keep trying, because here, we all deserve a place where we feel safe, that place we call home and it's next to that loved one. I don't know when it will come that time for me to find that special guy and if I'm being totally honest, I'm starting to lose my patience with it, I'm becoming tired and stressed out from everybody else, but I have hope, hope is what will make us find that special thing we are all looking out for, deep in my heart, I know this. To everybody that finds this comment, stay strong, our time will come to be forever happy ❤
You are not only seen but I also feel with you. 90% of Ppl ignore you because your screams makes them feel uneasy. They were just like you, so overwhelmed and alone with this feeling that they shut down. Your scream reminds them of this helplessness, believing that they cannot help you with a feeling they can't even help themselves with.
I love how people keep sharing their life here in the comments, It makes me feel not alone, and to whoever is reading this, dont worry, your not alone... you got us 😊❤️
I've given my all to this one boy just to know I was never in his heart, not even for a moment. Then my guy best friend picks me up and he adores me but I dont want to get hurt again, never again. Sure love takes risks but Im scared and what if I get too attached and ruin our friendship? Though I would never say it to him, I love him and I hope he would one day take the courage to say it to me and I would say it too without hesitation
You never got to say goodbye You never got to say I love you more then anything You never not to hug them tightly You never heard there voice again Why couldn’t he have waited a little longer for me to go see him and hug him tightly and say I love you one more time before he die I miss you grandpa and always will
why tell me you like me then break my heart? I fought so much for you, I stood up for you. I complimented you time after time, you never complimented me back… I gave you my all and you gave me nothing. I gave you so many chances but this time was the last time :/
I was never an option to anyone. Romantically my boyfriend chose my former best friend over me coz 'I wasn't good enough' for him. Not wanting to be in a relationship ever again i turned to my friends. Even then I was turned away coz they had better options. My best friend shut me out. She didnt want me in her life just because I spoke to this girl she hates one time. Not even a friendly conversation but a normal Convo about a business deal we had some time about and she left me for that. Didn't even give me a chance to explain. It's lonely but I keep going. God hasn't given everyone a companion in this world and I'm one of those souls who are left here to roam alone and so I'll do it. I'll roam alone until my time is right to depart this world for good
Sometimes there are parts of your life where it’s just you and God. I know it hurts, I know it’s heart wrenching, and I know you don’t believe in yourself no more. It sucks. It sucks to be “proven” that you weren’t their #1, #2, hell, even an option. But it’s the wrong person, you have to believe that. If you weren’t an option to those people, then they were not worth hearing you out. If these people around you seem to have other options, go and find YOUR options. Let THOSE people be your friends. But do not let yourself sink to their level when they were only in it for themselves. You’re worth more than being alone. Grieve, recover, and get back to being yourself whenever you’re comfortable enough to. Don’t rush your own emotions, just let em’ come whenever they appear. You know you’re worth more than this, which is why it hurts so much. Go find others who see your worth, they’re out there somewhere ❤. Best of luck 😎👍
Sth similiar happend to me with a long time friend ditching me in similiar way but I do hope u realise it was not yur fault, it was their lame excuse to ditch you and making you take the blame for their decision, just because it was easier for THEM to deal with it and not make them feel like a bad person for it (contrary to the reality at the time). It happend years ago and I still dont get it to be honest :o It's cruel and unecessary, epecially coming from a ''friend''. All i can say is you're better off without a ''friend'' like this in your life.
My crush likes these types of playlists and I am afraid of confessing because I am scared I am not even an option so I will just enjoy these songs and daydream
I hate you, but i dont want to blame you at the same time. It just hurts, why did you act like you liked me, why did you act like you had genuine interest and cared for me when in reality its far from what you feel? I thought my feelings were about to get reciprocated for the first time forever, but you just broke it all apart instead. You made me expect, made me hope, made me trust you. But even though i feel so mad at you, i couldnt blame you at all, i cant even talk to somebody about it because they all blame it on me, because iam the one who confessed and you're the one that had a choice. Even though its true, cant i feel sad for once. You cried after i gave you a simple gift, made me look like a fool infront of everyone, they all thought i did something wrong, you said that because apparently you didnt want me to think you liked me, well whose fault is that. If you dont like somebody back, make it clear to them already. I hate you yet i still think of you, its strange.
I hate life. I, a girl, told her I like her, she said she liked me too, she wanted to wait a bit so our relationship can develop more, I agreed, we've been basically in a relationship bcs the I love you's and pet name mostly from me, the pet names decrease on her side, no worries, she tells me she realized that she actually doesn't like woman and she tried to love me. It hurts so damn much. And I can't hate her. I love her to much to be mad at her. And I'm glad she did that to me and not someone else bcs I could more or less take those kind of news calmly. But why? Why did I have to be a "test if I like woman"? It hurts so much more I never actually wanted to fall in love. Just be happy alone. She made me fall in love with her which I'm happy about, but i think a rejection would've been better than this. So I can say for 90% accuracy. I won't fall in love again. I refuse. (Sorry for the rant)
Broke up it was six months before he apologized, he wanted a second chance even if I hesitated to give it to him, I did anyways. Hadn’t even been a month since we started talking again, and he already lost feelings and hurt me again. Won’t make the same mistake again.
16 years of tryin to get a girlfriend, almost my whole life, just filling more pages of rejections, losing more hope that there might not be a girl that feels any affection toward me. Even with loving parents and friends, I just want to experience something I never felt before…
Maybe this playlist isn't exactly for me since I *was* their option, but oh my god. I hadn't heard the first song in a good while, maybe years? But I still remember listening to it a long time ago and it being my favorite. Back then, it was just some good song that I listened to simply because I liked, not relating to it whatsoever. But now that I'm listening to it, I had to take a good pause afterwards to prevent myself from crying. It scarily sums up my situation accurately. Its gonna be 3 months soon since the breakup, I was the one who left but that doesn't mean it didn't hurt. I miss him so much, the title reminds me of him and how he loves astronomy..
I'm still in love with 2 of my exes. I can't stop thinking of the memories we had or could have had. I wish I was better. I wish they could have loved me more. I wish they would have just talked to me. I saw a future with them, but maybe they didn't.
i’m not worthy of love, nor will i ever be. i’ve been through multiple talking attempts and none of them turned out bc i’m always ghosted, or keep me on delivered for hours on end. i try my best to keep it going, but nothing is ever enough. i’m never enough. they seem so fucking interested. watch my favorite movies for me, listen to my favorite artist. i’m tired. i’m tired of having to fight for someone to love me.
dear Alex, i know you won’t find this. but your too young to leave me, your too young to go. you have pushed thru everything for so long, why would you give up now? your so close to getting all you deserve. you mean so much to be and I couldn’t be here without you. i literally love you so much alex
The urge when you're on your period to write the most disturbing depressing thoughts just to wake up tomorrow to "r u ok?" messages, re-read what you say, die of cringe.
Hey, I'm here to remind you that your worth and value don't come from what people say or think of you. Your value comes from the fact that your life is irreplaceable, it will only exist once and nobody could ever create it twice. This uniqueness is all that makes you extraordinary and much more valuable than society may think. Just because some people can't see your value doesn't mean you don't have it. 🖤
(Vent) You know what hurts? That the friend you brought into your friend group is now ignoring you and taking all your friends away from you. I've never been good at socializing but everyday I try to talk to everyone and smile but at this point I'm about to give up. No matter how hard I try to be nice I'll never be enough and everyone will leave me in the end. This is the third time this has happened and im tired of it. I'm starting to give up, I quit forcing my voice out of my lungs(I have trouble speaking, idk why) so ima just go quiet and disappear into the group again. It's not fair but I cant do anything about it.
Don’t let other people guide your emotions. I acknowledge the betrayal and hurt that you must feel, losing your friends to OTHER friends is a slap in the face. But it’s not you, it was never you. Your friends prolly just got caught up in meeting all these new people. I know feeling neglected in the friend group is always a shitty feeling. But you shouldn’t let this hold you back… Continue your life, be who you are, and hangout with them when YOU want to. Communication will help, even if it’s just texting them. Maybe it’s a misunderstanding y’all can talk out. If it is a case of them avoiding you, then you be the one to cut the tie. Don’t waste time on people who don’t spend any on you. Your generosity is seen here, and you’ve done so much for other people. Keep your generous heart, and walk forward trying to do the best you can ❤
I am sorry to hear that . Do you have any interests, like painting , singing , playing an instruments , cooking , or even studying ? I think if you develope your skills , find out what you like and not like , then you become your own person , give yourself a good time even if no one is around . You will see , once you become interested in yourself and stop trying so hard , people will want to be your friend . Just remember to be kind and compassionate to yourself and others. And forgive and forgive .
i would like to give a general thank you to all the vent, angst and otherwise Not Great Emotion playlist makers they make excellent background noise while i work on my hurt/comfort fanfic and generally keep me in a low (but not bad low) mood when i am up Far Too Late for My Own Good so. thx yall. this one goes out to the ppl who ship both miphlink and sidlink i ggot a (hopefully) good one in the oven rn
I known him for about a year, and in that year of meeting him, getting to know him, talking to him(even if it wasn't much). I slowly fell in love, I didn't realize it first. I saw it as me admiring him as someone who does what he loves, doesn't give up, someone who despite everything still keeps making music. I started to make wallpapers themed around what he presents himself as, making a DnD campaign (ngl that campaign would've been a real banger to play), his artist name had given me so much inspiration on world and story building. At the time I didn't realize that all of my time that I spent on all of that was actually a signs of crush or love. And when I realized I was in love with this incredible, kind and beautiful soul and man. I was at that point a bit damaged from my past relationship and didn't want anything serious so I denied myself of that feeling because it couldn't have been real. It must be something that'll quickly pass... Right? It wasn't, I started writing poems about my feelings for him and songs(I'd be lying if I said it didn't hurt when I deleted them) I don't want people to misunderstand we didn't talk every day or every time. But when we did I found myself not being able to stop smiling. When I acknowledged my feelings it was a bit too late. He went out with others and eventually got into a relationship. I confessed bcz my feelings started to torture me(I didn't know he was in a relationship at the time). I thought of going MIA(no contact) but he told me not to and how can I say no to one who holds my heart rn? I'm happy for him because that man genuinely deserves the best on this world, I wish him and his gf genuinely the best and good days. It hurts but I hope it will stop eventually.(If anyone from the server sees this, yes, you know who I'm talking about, Idk when you'll see it but don't make it uncomfortable for anyone by mentioning this, he knows I know and now you and that's how it should stay, if you see it years from now, yes, I had a crush on him).
A little story cause why not: A girl she was small lets say abt 3 she was walking around nursery while this little boy followed her everywhere she went he would be there every day he always came back and this went on for a year and the day before they left nursery he said his first sentense to her "Hello my name is ______ whats yours?" That little girl felt a warm feeling in her heart . Their first day of primary they were hanging out getting to know everyone. Soon enough she was with the girls and he was with the boys. They had stopped talking while getting to know their new friends but in year 1 they started to go to the same bus stop with their mums and in no time they knew eachother again they were catching up every day after school. Every day went past and the little girl would always wait until she had to go to the bus stop and find her best friend again. Until 1 day she didnt have to go to the bus stop she just went home. From then on she never took the bus after school and she rarely saw the little boy anymore. Then year 3 came they were in the same class, sat next to eachother on the carpet they introduced themselves and helped eachother with the work. They would occasionally get paired together for paired work but they never talked like best friends only class friends ,peers as some would say, then year 4 came they rarely talked now the only got paired for work a few times but they still had good conversations. And year 5 wasnt much different covid had hit by then so they didnt really see eachother but everytime she saw him she would smile. Year 6 came and they were sat next to eachother talking everyday and getting to know eachother more they would play fight and they were now getting paired together nearly every time they were getting close they considered eacother best friends and they would even talk when their seats changed they got eachothers numbers and were now talking at night as well. The last day of year 6 came and the little boy began to cry when he realised this was the last day he got to see all of his friends in the same class. Year 7 came and they stopped talking he blocked her trying to remove every thought from primary school. Then the first wednesday came all the girls went to go see their teachers and the boys done the same as the girls walked past the boys at the first entrance to the school the little girl and little boy made eye contact they were missing eachother and it was obvious. He unblocked her later that day and they started talking more and more they began going out together and she got him with her mate. But then they broke up and the little boy met a new girl who he really wanted to be friends with so he blocked the little girl once more. Months went past and she finally accepted he was gone when he texted her "how's life" she was surprised but she answered saying good he wss happy for her but his life wasnt the same once he left he missed his best friend he missed her and she decided to let him stay they got close again and they were updating eachother on every little thing. However they then got into an argument and he didnt want to speak to her and she didnt want to speak to him both blocking eachother. Almost a year goes past and she rememberes him and all the fun they had so she unblocked him realising he had unblocked her "yo" she put waiting for an answer a few hours go past with no response but then he answered "hi?" Confused he aksed "who is this" heartbroken and distraught the little girl said "its ________" with that he responded "idk a ________"she tried to carry on the conversation reminding him about everything they went through together. a few days went past and he remembered but he blocked her out of no where. Half a year later her mate gets in contact with him and she asks the girl for advice on how to talk to him noticing he had unblocked her she asked him a few questions in which he was confused they kept this conversation going until she had to go to bed they kept talking occasionally and she kept him updated and so did he. They then went out with her friends and they all had great fun so she added him to a group chat and they had so much fun together they then fell out with a girl on the groupchat and a few weeks after he blocked everyone from the groupchat making sure not to talk to anyone. Then the girls friends one day in the summer of 2023 invited him out to hang out with them he trusted her more than anyone else. Later that day he asked her friend for her number and they began talking again still catching up and checking up on eachother. Their nickname was once the girl and her shadow but now its the girl and boy who know they were meant to be friends but they struggle to compete with eachothers harmony. This is a true story and i am waiting for him to block me again but this kid is my light he keeps me going and on my feet ill be real. If u read all of this thank you I thought this story fit for the time being. Love you all have a good morning,afternoon or evening
I don't think this relationship is very healthy;) If you know he's going to block you and wait for it something is bad, you should talk about it to him or make him understand you're not his puppy who will wait for him no matter what-
I have this one friend that i randomly got super close to and now she is my everything, my soulmate, my best friend, my universe, but recently she has been acting a little distant and it hurts me so much becasue losing her would be like losing myself. I seriously can't live without her. She saved my life so many times and she still does. I constantly wonder if she still loves me. I wonder if she hates me. We have this bond like no other. It's to the point where we wish one of us was a guy so we could be together. Im so afraid to lose that.
quick story to read when listening; there was a girl and she was not in her best era she was betrayed by her loved ones. when she did not have anywhere to go she met someone and they became friends. she could finally be herself with someone around. he was not the best person to be with but he tried to help her even though he could not that much and that was precious to her. after 2 years she decided to tell him about her feelings bc he was going to the uni. but when she said to him he rejected her worst way possible (he lit a cigarette after it) and that was the time she realised she was not even considered as more than friend. she lost one of her best friends and her pride. that girl is me. hi.
@@sansabhushrestha7623 ure right its a painful process but its not more painfull than living without that experience. so if u love, just say it and move on. not moving on is so much worse
If me and this boy break up I don’t see me being myself again anymore I’ve been through too much, I’ve been discarded, I’ve been dismissed, ignored, unloved and a lot more but I don’t see my self falling in love again..
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Advice to avoid unrequited love:
The trick is not to "confess" but to "express."
E. g. You can tell someone you like them without expecting anything in return.
"I'm in love with you. I think we should be together."
(-this is a confession.
-lays it all on the line.
-demands an immediate response
-puts them on the spot
-will ruin a friendship immediately without their input)
vs
"I love your company. You know what? If you ever wanted to, I would date you in a heartbeat."
(-Expresses your position.
-Ball is in their court.
-It can be taken as a beautiful compliment with no strings attached.
-It's the verbal equivalent of leaning in for a kiss, but stopping a few inches away and waiting for them to take the final step.)
If they react to the 2nd one with fear/anger/confusion, it means they think you're doing the first one (and they've been burned by this before).
Reassure them: "No, i'm not trying to ruin our friendship. I love our friendship. I am saying that, if it ever came up, I'm pretty sure I'd say yes. Because you are {say all the things you enjoy about them}. These are all true whether we're friends, or more than that. I'm telling you you're a great person. That's all you need to take away from this."
Then it's up to them to decide, but now they know what your answer might be if they did want to take the step.
HOWEVER: you need to decide beforehand that you will be okay if they do NOT want a relationship. THAT IS OKAY TOO. "Soulmates" is not a thing that exists: out of 8billion ppl, don't you think it's a bit lucky that everyone's "soulmate" happens to live within their zip code 90% of the time? They might not be the person for you. THAT IS OKAY. You open the door. If they don't walk through it, they weren't the one. Close the door and wait for the next one.
Disney lied to you, guys. It's gonna be okay.
🤍
profissional my man
There is a problem, I did express my feelings but i think i did ruin our friendship, we havent talked in three days and class starts soon :'D
@@reese9311That's because a true friendship can no longer be when one friend (or even both many times unless both are aligned in emotion and hope) feel something more that causes a tilt in the balance (95% of the time, this is the case).
The only way the friendship can prevail in spite of the emotional shift that tilts the connection (that 5%) is if both:
- clarify any misunderstandings
- agree to take actions to continue through it
- actually follow through on their promises instead of just empty/hollow words
Ultimately, it is better to tell the truth even if it doesn't work out since it probably won't. Lies are wicked and they corrupt but the truth will set you free into the best possible scenario so you won't be thinking "I should've just-" or "What if?".
both are demanding smh, but indeed the second is much lighter than the first one
'I'm already hanging out with __'
'I'll invite __ too!'
'I'm already working with __'
'I'm sitting with __'
'Sorry, I like someone else.'
'__ would be a great person to talk to imo'
my name never filled those gaps.
d a m n
i felt it bro..
Mine neither….
I always have people say that to me. "Sorry I like someone else" or excuses that aren't true lol. Anything to get me away I guess. Idk
Don't worry bro, I'll be your friend❤
growing up is realizing that rather than distancing yourself from others, all you want is to be understood by someone.
real i can't form friendships and im 18 now, ive met sooooo many lovely people in my lifetime so many sweet girls that i know id love to be their bsf but idk i don't know to express myself. im so scared of people, self hatred and self sabotage runs deep in my blood. I'm typin this at like 1am i cant form a proper sentence. i don't think they'd ever understand me because they are so confident in who they are. while I'm scared to even go outside my house because of how much i hate myself, all i do is cry and sleep I've been living like this for the past 5 years....sorry for dumping this shit on u
@@ewseekhelp girl don’t you even reply for dumping everyone needs to let it out. I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way and I wish there was a way for everyone to just feel better as a group. It’s gonna take time for you to find the right people and I know some people probably told you this but you really just have to be patient. You’re enough love being just the way you are. 🩷🩷
@@ewseekhelp kiddo, mental health and neurodivergence are real things. Remember the duckling/swan story? Finding out i had lived 40yrs with Au/DHD was a bloody revelation.
You're not 'wrong,' you _might_ be 'different.' And guess what? There's a TON of other people that are just as different as you! You've met lots of lovely people, but most people come into your life just to leave one little footprint on your heart. It sometimes takes a long time before you find someone that stays. And even if they do, they may not stay forever, and that's also okay.
You are here. You share life with others, and you can decide how much and how little you give them.
Sometimes, some will give you something back!
And it's lovely.
And some won't, and that's okay.
Love from an internet stranger. 💕💕💌💌❤❤
@@JhadeSagrav thanku !! I rly can't ever explain myself to anyone because nobody seems to understand🤍 there seems to be a barrier like a wall that I can't break between me and others, idk but I'm scared I run away the minute I see someone getting comfortable w me :(
@@JhadeSagrav trust me it's me, I'm the issue idk what's wrong w me.. I run away because I feel like they deserve better and I'm not enough to be friends with anyone, or that there r too pretty to be my friend , I even tell myself I'm going to hurt them if they get close to me!!
"If people were toys, I would be the dollar store craft kit, used once at a summer camp and then never touched again, left to collect dust. I would be found in traces of glue left behind on a table, and plastic sticker backings in the trash. I would be preserved in some small foam animal, with lopsided eyes, clenched in the hand of a toddler. I would be left on a dark shelf, at the very back of the room, with my once shiny veneer dulled by hundreds of cloudy fingerprints, not quite properly put away. I would be alone until someone remembers- hey, didn’t we have a craft kit at some point? I’ll be taken off the shelf, the dust blown away, brought back out, and loved until I am forgotten again."
- an excerpt from something I am writing right now
that hit so hard. the quality of the writing is so good, holy. is it a novel you are writing? I'd love to read the rest :)
Same!!
this is so good!!! do you have any of your writing published anywhere or is it still in the works?
Please send me a link to what you're writing, or any social media you use, I want to read the whole thing so bad
I know it’s tough never being the chosen one or being forgotten but try to remember you’re never alone, millions of other people relate. And are here for you, including me, and you will one day find someone that never discards you and who will show you the love and attention you deserve 💗
listening to this because i'm that "filler" friend people go to when they have no one to chill with, then they ditch me when someone else comes along
damn same
okay but this^
Sorry
I know how you feel though
sorry to hear I can feel you
Be thankful you have even that much.
It could be worse.
Even a bad friend, should be a godsend if you know
What
You've
Got.
❔
21, almost 22, and never been in a relationship. I feel like I’m falling behind on “youth”, on experiencing love while carefree and not burdened by “adult” life. I have friends and a loving family, but… Sometimes I just feel lonely, you know? Dreaming of companionship before bed only to remind myself that I’m not an option for any of the guys I know.
Yet, I believe that one day we all will find someone to understand us. To anyone who’s reading this, don’t give up. Use this opportunity to grow and be open to possibilities - the future might be much brighter than we think. Don’t give up on hope.
im 20 almost 21 and in the exact same boat, trying so hard cuz i know one day i will know these feelings and all and find that person that cares abt me but its hard when everyone around me takes those feelings and experiences for granted
Turned 24 couple of weeks ago been trying to get a girlfriend for 14 years and been in two situationships don't worry about being like everyone else be unique be different work on yourself and keep you Chin up high and smile and workout like for me and I know you are going to starving for love just pretend you are a main character in a movie like me I pretend I'm like in the raimi spider-man movies right now I'm in raindrops drop on my head scene and I'm honest to god happy and smiling for once in my life oh and sing your favorite songs like for me is (Together we'll make a promise, Signal Fire, Thousand years)
Love isn't completely effortless, it's hard work and it's heart work with your partner. No matter the age. Real, wholesome love will help you feel assured even if you're an adult doing adult things and working a fulltime job. Out of the almost 22 years of your life, majority of it so far you've spent unable to provide for yourself. So don't tell yourself you've wasted your youth, tell yourself you've spent 21 years figuring childhood out, and soon you'll be figuring out adulthood too - and it sounds scary but I'm sure it'll be fun and full of love, if you choose to see it as such and make it so.
I like to think it only gets better when you're older and have more agency, more say over your money and who you choose to let in your life and who to distance yourself from. You can choose who to give your love and time to. But most importantly, you love yourself.
Someday, your person or persons who you'll be romantically involved with will come. Someday. In the meantime, love yourself and others. Care for your community, bake a cake, buy a small trinket every now and then, compliment a stranger. Fill your life with love and light. I wish you and the people in your replies all the best, and I hope someday you guys find the person(s) for you.
Thank you
@@v4nnyz thank you. I love the thought that its not the youth I’m wasting, but the childhood I’m figuring out
I want to be "chosen" so badly. Please. Just for once. I just want to know how it feels.
😢
From everyone here in comments, i choose you first , and i want to tell you it's gonna be okay! 🤗🫶
i hope you’re okay babe x
@@yourpmis ty ml
@@N0tYur1 anytime darling
And he'll never know how much my eyes smiled whenever I told my friends about him
Lucky guy, you spoke to ppl about him
Ahahah
To be on the other side, hidden at first, then picked, and thrown away, again and again
They need you, then they don't, then again, then plop
Such nonsense
@oddblod So truuuueee, and yet, they never speak about us to anyone 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
it hurts really bad and i wish i never asked them i will never let my self fall in love again
you ok?
Time to break out the mediocre therapist-
*ahem*
No, while I can never understand your pain I can say stopping yourself from feeling love will do nothing to help. It hurts to lose anything you knew and cared for but stopping yourself from ever loving again will only cause more issues and sadness down the road. I am not saying to forget your bad experiences entirely, that's just impossible. What I am saying is try to find or do something that will help you express and help heal this pain. Confide in family or friends, paint, Write something, or just try to ease you mind off it. I am not a professional, or have gone to any school for this and your probably never going to see this, but I just want to say you deserve love. You are more then a non option, you are more then nothing you are someone who is cared for and worth loving
I just feel that needed to be said to anyone feeling like their not even an option-
I hope you have a ✨ fabulous ✨ day!
@@scratchpaper345I love you, I want to hug you so bad
Hi! I don't want to bother you or something, but I saw your comment and I wanted you to know that you're not alone in this. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here for you, okay?
The fact that everyone is willing to help a person even though they are complete strangers is truly stunning
Have a blessed day everyone!
Loved, they didn't feel the same way.
Confessed, they didn't answer.
Talked, they ghosted me.
Love hurts.
And I dont want to hurt anymore.
Goodbye V.
I'll never forget you.
We were never anything, but I wanted to believe we were.
Now it all ends here.
Ties cut, Lives seperated.
I'm hurting more than ever before.
Love. Still. Hurts.
And it wont stop.
This fits sayori so well... too well...
I understand🥺😭..being ghosted
Когда прочитала Любовь причинять боль, в песне пропелась строчка I just home
Its been 9 months how you doin?
I'm still hurting, but less. I still wish things couldve went differently.
Hey stranger, I’m not sure if you’re happy and just want to listen to some moody music or if you really need this right now but either way this is for you: You didn’t lose out on anything. The things that you bring to this earth are unique from anyone else’s. Just because something didn’t work out yesterday or you feel like you lost that person. There will be another situation tomorrow that WILL work out, that will work in your favor, and you didn’t lose that person, that person lost you. You’re such a lovely, unique, beautiful, gifted, strong, vulnerable, open, protective, wonderful, loving, caring, and so imperfectly perfectly human. You get one shot at this life so live it to it’s fullest. Allow yourself to laugh at that mistake you made or to ugly cry when it just gets to be too much. Feel every emotion to it’s fullest and enjoy each process and motion you have to go through. You’ve got so much growth to do I know you’ll get to where you’re going even if you don’t know where that is yet. You are loved and cared for, if by nobody else, then by me. You’ll make it out of wherever bad place you are, you’ll grow from this I promise. Good experiences make for great memories and bad experiences make for even better lessons. Remember to stay safe, drink water, eat enough, and to love one another. Let’s leave this earth a little better than we found it and enjoy every second we get to be on it. Let’s not forget how much of a miracle it is for each of one of us to be here 💙
You're kind and wonderful. Thank you
🫶🏾I genuinely have all love for people like you
Hey stranger, thank you for those words...you can't even imagine how much I needed them. I wish we could meet irl, wish I could know you in person. I mean I can imagine how lucky the people around you are right now, how lucky they are to have you by their side. Being able to comfort and reassure people like me with your gentle words. Im grateful that there are ppl with beautiful souls like yours on Earth right now, in the same lifetime, same century, staring at the same stars and moon every night. I wish you to love, to be loved, to experiment, to travel and the brightest future as you deserve
Thank you so much u made me cry I needed that I hope u have a wonderful life and never let anything bring u down thank u again!♡
thank you ❤
He will never know the effect his voice has.
He will never know the way I float as he speaks.
He will never know how I melt when he lays on me and
He will never know that I wish he would lay longer.
He will never know how overjoyed I am when I see him and
He will never know how melancholy I am when he leaves.
He will never know how I love him so.
He will never notice how I soak in his presence.
He will never see how I settle in his steady speech and hang on his every word.
He will never know how I relish the sound of his laugh.
He will never know how I see every quirk on him and know exactly what he's thinking before he does.
He will never feel the way I do.
He will never know.
He will never love me as I do him.
He will never love my laugh and
He will never love my smile.
He will could never love a man.
I have loved him for seven years and he will never love me as I wish he could.
Fuck my life, dude
Hold still. You'll find yout love. Believe me.
I know it sucks, I’ve felt the same. But instead of focusing on the sad part, focus on those things that he does. Focus on the things that you like about him, on the things that make you happy. It’s helped me, maybe it’ll help you.
Hey man. I once loved somebody as dearly as you described your love for your somebody here. My guy didn't love me back the way I loved him. In fact, he did a lot that hurt me. Sometimes he showed me love, but then sometimes he treated me pretty badly. Nonetheless, he was my first love and I'll probably always remember how I felt when it was just the two of us being vulnerable and close to each other, I'll probably always remember how much I cared about him and the lacerating sense of loss when he hurt me for the last time. But I'm here to tell you that just because the person you love doesn't see your value, doesn't mean you don't have any value. Your value comes from the very fact that you exist, because your life is irreplaceable, it will only exist once and nobody could ever create it twice, that's what makes you extraordinary and unique and so much more valuable than society may think. It's alright if you're hurting, you're not alone, and if you're angry that's alright too because beneath the anger is pain and beneath the pain is love and someday someone may see your value as I have and they will see how valuable it is to have your love in their life and they'd never take it for granted. And it's okay if you're not ready to think of ever loving anyone else, I just want you to know that you're not alone, I want you to see your real value and to remember that even if you don't feel it, there's life beyond this heartbreak. Take care brother, it'll be okay.
I'm just confused why I love him so badly. It really really hurts when you love someone so badly but that person doesn't love you back the way you love them.
Every time I have to be strong that there is a day when he told me how much he loves me..
But I'm tired I know I made mistakes and I also lied with him but I never cheated with me. I was afraid to lose him
And now I'm thinking that he is never minee
Why God ?
I'm not strong enough to handle this
I love this poem do you mind if I posted it?
Everytime some random popular kid came up to me and said "yo my friend has a crush on you", all of them laughing at me with the "friend" having a disgusted look on their face, it's a reminder. My teenage years are almost over and the longest relationship I've had was 3 months with someone who didn't even like me back.
Damn man, I feel it for you
well at least 3 months, for me the only relationship i've had was for 2 days, with someone who was taking me as an amusing play ,urgh!!! i really really hated boys after that.
The way this still happens to me... and I would be in a perfect mood, my confidence boosted,my scars fading... they ruined all that. My confidence went down, my mood changed, my scars Worsing. And they don't even know how much it hurts. How much that "joke" wasn't funny to me. Little things change the most in someone.. Even things such as "jokes" can hurt someone the most. And I want you to know, that if your going through somthing like this.. like I am, don't give up, don't relapsed or even SH. You be strong. Because I know you can. You got this. Keep going. Don't be like me.
it's come to the point where i start thinking that there must be something wrong with me, because people around me find dates and relationships, they are happy. am i worse than them? am i not loveable like them? was i never destined to be loved? am i doing something wrong? i can't stop comparing my life to other's, they have something i dreamt for a long time and sometimes don't even value it. i don't think i am not complete without love, i just don't understand why i can't be loved. am i all wrong? im tired.
This is the realest thing I've ever read. I also wish I found love, somebody that praises me and makes me feel like I am important to them, but I'm honestly convinced it might never happen... Never once has anyone liked me, only my friends...
highly potentially because you have higher standards than them, i’m someone who has consistently been in relationships since my sophomore year in high school (i’m currently in my sophomore year in university) but it has never once been with people my own level, i have always ALWAYS been the settler in my relationships. so i think it’s a good thing to not force yourself into relationships that don’t make you feel good, it’s better to be alone and at peace rather than be with people that don’t value you properly. the reason i’ve always been in relationships is because i don’t know how to exist alone, since the moment i’ve become a teenager i always had someone next to me so i never learned how to function on my own.
It is so funny how right now I’m crying my eyes out for this guy while encouraging him to tell his crush that he likes her… he told her and I’m here being supportive but it fucking hurts, why can’t I be the one for once…?
If there’s a guy you like, just go up to him and tell him you like him straight to his face. It’s the best way to get chosen since most guys these days don’t know if a girl truly likes them as a friend or as a partner.
I Guess we are in the same situation Right now
I'm sorry I'm crying my eyes out:)))
@@Aiman-yu6qg Oh, yeah, I told him I was rejected bc he liked the girl I was talking about 🥲
@@s_ec_r_et5008 the only thing I can really say is just wish for the best for him and move on, it’ll hurt but that’s life. The memory will become like a scar that’ll never go away, but that shouldn’t stop you from pursuing love with others.
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thank you for this❤️❤️❤️
@@nightgazeee No problem, it was fun to make ♥♥
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1:27:42 - 1:31:06 is I Wanted to Leave by SYML ❤❤
It says it in the description…..
I'm never chosen. I tried ao hard to be there for people but its never returned. (Romantically) my own husband didnt even pick me. He only wanted me when the "better" option turned to a nightmare. But through my one best friend and brothers im here. The day I left my ex he said he was worried id try to end my life. Ive attempted twice. I was very proud to look him in the eyes and say, "you arent worth ending my life over." That was two years ago. Cherish your life. It has its ups and downs but thats life. The downs make you appreciate the highs. A heartbeat goes up and down just the same. If it didnt, youd be dead. I hold on to the pain though. To remind myself that im a fighter. And while nobody else will pick me, ill always pick me.
It hurts to know your not wanted and that when your not needed but When you see everyone happy when your not there makes you feel ugly
He was such a sweet boy to me, and during such a turbulent and emotionally deprived time in my life. I adored him, he made me feel special, we had so much in common. It was all a lesson in disguise. Oh well.
To all of you out there who are sad, depressed, or sudicial. You may not be chosen by people you love, but I chose you. I believe you can be something wonderful. I may just be one person, but I know each one of us deserves something better. I want you to believe you can achieve anything because YOU CAN!
I’m turning 30 this year, and not once have I been chosen. Not once.
At this point, I’ve lost hope 💔
Don't lose hope as for me all my friend are in a relationship and my best friend is also in a relationship with her crush she have like for years for me I have loved a boy since kindergarten and lasts week I found out he have loved another girl who he spends the whole day texting her on his phone in front of me 😢
Please take care, please choose your peace over anything
You will do fine
Jesus loves you❤️He wants you and wants to know you❤️He chose you and died for your sin❤️
Honestly bro, I think this hope thing is holding us back. I don't think there's anyone for us. Maybe it's time to stop looking for love. It's not our fault.
Maybe it's time to stop looking for someone else to help build us. Travel to a place where no one knows you and take up a skill you have never learned your whole life. It's time we build ourselves.
i turned 20 today. i have never even been an option. at this point i think i can only love people who do not care about me. i feel like it’s too late for me to experience anything even though i am still a kid in my head.
I turned 32 yesterday. About a year ago I had my first crush. And... well. I'm here so you can probably figure out how it went. I don't think I've cried as much in my life as I did this last year. I'm sorry you're going through this as well.
I’m sorry for the both of you, I’m sure it hurt a hell of a lot to experience your own pain. You may not have been THAT person’s first choice, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t someone out there that will give you their 100% in turn. Let yourself be hurt, grieve as much as you need in order to cope. But don’t let it linger, because you are worth what you’re giving out. It’s not pathetic to cry over it, let me tell you. You were hurt, and it’s ok to feel how you feel. Recovering is a harsh journey, I’m sure you’ve heard. Don’t lose hope over it lads, you’ll come out of this stronger. Remember to reflect upon this, and don’t make the same mistakes. Give your all to someone who will give it back. Much love
I was 21 when I had my first boyfriend. I was technically engaged, no ring, it was LDR. I’m 28, and met someone who can actually see me and appreciates me, that I exist, the same way I do. You’re gonna be fine. I purposely stayed away from people but we simply crossed paths by chance, and I remained open no matter how many times I intended to “always keep myself safe from people”. Don’t date just anyone, appreciate everything as a life experience and simply wait.
I turned 20 today as well
I turned 18 in October and I feel like just ending my life because I feel like nobody cares about me I have had suicidal thoughts for almost 11 years and I feel like I can’t take it anymore😢.
I didn’t know there were people out there that felt the same as me. As terrible as never being chosen or feeling unloved or unimportant, unlovable, and unworthy all is…it’s comforting to know I’m not alone. I hope we all find what we are looking for one day. 💕 and I hope after we pick up the pieces and move on, we NEVER have to feel like this again.
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Same 🖤
I've known people who think its funny to call you ugly right in front of your face. It made me feel so insecure but all I did was laugh and for some reason agree- I've been through multiple friend groups and friends yet none of them ever even cared and just ditched me. I always feel forgotten, and people use me- I just feel like giving up.. even though I just want to feel wanted or even just for someone to say a simple thank you to me.. I always end up alone crying, thinking about all the people who were fake to me.
Thank you for being here
it;s the same for me too. except that i had everything i wanted, cheer team, my bf, and simple hobbies. they ruined my life. i quit cheer team bc of them, my bf broke up with me bc of them, i gave up and layed in my bed for months. i hate them
You're still young. What you should do is go and apologize to anyone you made fun of and maybe be friends with them. I was always friends with everyone, but I went to a tiny little private school... just learn not to care about ppl who are prob going to peak in hs
A sad love story:
She and him were each other’s rock. They always knew that no matter how hard they tried to deny it, the other would always be their favorite person. She was always so naive, but he put up with it. He was always so cold hearted, but she loved it. He was so rude to everyone except her. She was the one person he would check on. She was the one person he thought of in the mornings.
She was always so untrusting. Constantly worried about who she could trust, yet she never doubted that she could trust him. He would always be who she thought about when she was sad.
They started out as best friends, but became much more. Family? Maybe. But to her, they were more than that. They always had the most fun when they were together. They would stay up late talking on the phone, not worrying about the time. They relied on each other to push them through the day, never missing a text.
He was all she could ever ask for. But she couldn’t see. The constant push and pull he had on her. He could influence her emotions quicker than herself. He would make her feel like the world. He would give her the world. But then he would take away the world. And every time he did, oh, how hurt she would feel.
She would try to figure out what she did wrong, but the truth was that she did nothing. And when she would accept that and begin to move on, he would come back, once again offering her the moon and sky. Though he never said it aloud, that look he gave her in those moments was something special. His face would heat up, and a silent agreement to never leave was made in the air.
And how her heart would warm at the thought of him coming back. Yet, it still happened over and over again. Each time getting worse and worse until she was completely encompassed. Addicted like a drug. She couldn’t see past when he was doing, and at times, I don’t believe he could see it either.
She had kept her feelings pushed down for so long, but the last high they hit made her believe that she had a chance, so she allowed herself to feel. She allowed herself to feel how lovely each moment with him was. She let herself realize that she loved his goofy laugh. She loved his colder outward appearance and she loved the fact that his warmer inner appearance was only showed to her.
He confided in her, and it made her feel on top of the world. With every conversation they had, she began to fall deeper into the dark void of emotions. Though, what a mistake that was. Because one night, is all it took.
All she had done was call him. She didn’t understand why that made him so angry. She tried to joke around as they usually did. But something was different about him. This time, he was ready to make it all crash again, but she didn’t realize until it was to late. Every insult he threw at her stung. Every time he told her to get lost another hole formed in her heart. She tried making it better, agreeing not to talk to him until she was in a better mood, thinking that it was her fault and he was just annoyed with her.
It was all ok with her- she was used to it- until he said that he hoped she stayed in a bad mood for a really long time. Did he really mean that? Did he really not want to hear her voice for over a month? Did he really not even want to see her name pop up on his phone screen? Not knowing what else to do, she told him if that’s what he wanted then he should not text her. And when she saw his words of agreement pop up on the screen, her heart broke.
It was then she realized that this was another part of his game. She realized that in that moment he was serious, and he most likely wouldn’t be coming back for a while. And when he does come back, he’ll come back with the world in his hands once again, but this time she wouldn’t need it. She realized that he was no good for her.
She knew what she needed to do. She saw that he would never need her like she thought. She was fully ready to pick up and move on from him. But as she began, she felt a string pulling her back down. She felt her heart shatter, as she realized what that string was . She realized that this time, it wouldn’t be that easy, because she had finally admitted to herself not too long ago, that she loved him, and he would never love her back.
If you made it this far, thanks for stopping by and reading!
Oh and if you’re wondering what happened, and if the girl is ok, I’m not 100% sure yet. Because I really did love him, but it’s time I let go. So hopefully, I will be able to do just that. Love yourselves
Loving someone you well know is bad for you but can't help how you feel about them anyway is tough. But it's life and those we love aren't meant to love us back and we shouldn't let them keep hurting and taking us for granted either. You may still love him for years to come and fighting your feelings only makes them stronger, so accept all the emotions you feel and move on anyway. He clearly has his own personal struggles and a selfish narcissist personality that's not your fault-- his insecurities scream for attention and you've been feeding him with that (enabling his behaviour), when you pull away it threatens his source of importance and attention and him coming back to you is not because he cares about you but because it's convenient to use for his self-interest. Don't take it personal, forgive his selfishness and take baby steps each day on a healing journey and loving yourself. You can't change him, it's not your job. You love him but decide it's time to love yourself more- you deserve the best things in life and in love! You need to make new friends, isolating yourself to just one person can make the wrong one manipulate you--open up to new friends, healthy social interactions, fun harmless stuff you love to do, so your sense of meaning in the future isn't centred on another person. Take care.
@@anoushkaliz5508 thank you! That’s great advice and I will follow it :) although sometimes I wish I still had him to go to, life is much simpler not having to worry about keeping him happier.
wait so you were the girl? im so sorry..i hope everything gets better ml X
@@N0tYur1 yeah it was me… it’s still a super messed up situation but it’s getting better
im so srry tho
Hello! Even though I am doing just fine now, I remembered there was a time when I wasn't and I would tear myself to pieces listening to playlists like this.
My message to everyone here: You are worth it. If they didn't see that then they weren't the right person/people for you. Surround yourself with people who appreciate you 💜 It will get better.
I had everything i could want. A partner, a family and a home. But it was all ripped away from me. Now i have noone and nothing anymore. Im never giving myself to another again, even if it means being alone for the rest of my life. Its been 2 years and the betrayal still stings as if it happened yesterday. I keep asking myself everyday what i did to deserve this, i only ever gave my best....but i guess ill never be enough.
None of us are ever "enough" to fix or fulfill another person. We are, and always will be, sufficient only for ourselves. You don't need to "give" or "lose" yourself to another. You only need to be exactly who you are alongside someone else who is being themselves too. Always changing and improving, of course, but still being you.
don't know if that helps, but, my catatonic internet stranger, i need you to know that you ARE enough by being exactly who you are. You cannot possibly be any more than that.
Don’t rush your own recovery. What you’ve been through is traumatic, as it’s been 2 years and it still feels fresh. Do not force yourself to forget it, or get over it. It must have been severely damaging, and I’m sorry someone treated you this way. I’m not sure how much more I can help…but you need to take it easy. Allow yourself to be hurt, feel the deepest emotions of your grief. You unfortunately need to walk through this hell, otherwise you’d just be sitting in it forever, ya know? It doesn’t matter if you keep talking about it, or re-thinking about what happened. This is how you cope and grieve over the situation. Let yourself be sad, and then slowly build up from there. I wish you a speedy recovery ❤
A random little story:
The two of them were like two peas in a pod. They were always there for each other, always gave one another a shoulder to cry on, and never let each other down. They had been together through the highs, and through the lows. They were best friends. Until one day, he lost himself. In drugs, in alcohol, in self harm, in everything horrible. She didn't understand, she tried to help, to try to pull him out of that darkness, but he always went back to it. The both of them were sitting in the woods, just talking about life. She asked him to promise her something. To promise her that he'd never leave, he'd never let her down, and he'd never give up on her. He promised. A promise they both knew he wouldn't be able to keep. A few months go by, and they're mourning the death of their friends. The friends who were their everything. He was starting to get better. His addiction was dying down, and he was starting to go back to his old self. They started hanging out a lot, he gave her his hoodie, he spent more time with her than he ever had. She never thought strangely about it. Little did she know, it was all for one reason. She was sitting in her room, when she got the text. The text that broke her. The text that told her to get to the hospital, it was him. She rushed over, and when she got there. She didn't see him. She was directed into a hospital room, where she saw her best friend. All the memories rushed to her. The laughs, the cries, the moments, everything. She stared, and only felt tears falling down her face. It was a sight she didn't want to see. His mother directed her to sit down next to him, so she did. She grabbed his hand, praying, hoping, he would be alright. When she heard his heart beat flatten, her heart dropped. She looked up, and was pulled out of the room. She sat in the waiting room, just praying he was alright. Seconds turned into minutes, minutes turned into hours, and then she was taken home. She sat in her room for hours, looking through the messages, the pictures, the audios, everything. She could only cry.
Denis, please, pull through. You can't leave me yet. I need you. You promised, so why couldn't you keep that promise? Why'd you have to do it? I need you to please make it through this, we still have so many things to do together. You're too young. You can't leave yet.
Reddit writing prompt?
I hope he is alright.... ❤
I hope he made it I would be lost with the guy I'm with but we have a lot of demons to get though tho
Dang
I didn’t even notice my eyes were watering after reading that
Mb
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oh no. i really hope he's okay, and you too. both of you can do this.
I was always the 'middle' person. The one in the trio that was always just there. Every time I made friends the other two would prefer each other. I always felt left out whenever we were together. I was ditched by them every single time. No matter how many new friends I made, I was always the least favourite of the group.
But I finally found it. I found a friend group that loves me, that I'm actually a big part of. I'm never left out or left behind, they like my company and I've finally got people I can share everything with! People who'd chose me in a heartbeat!
I never thought it could happen but it did so please don't give up hope that you can be a first choice. I hope that everyone is okay and feel free to talk to me about stuff in the replies if you wanna talk or rant to a random internet stranger. No judgement
Opposite for me...i was the first choice now am i even s choice for the ones i loved and was loved by for 4 years
Oh yeah, I do want to rant to a random internet stranger!
I'm in a very similar position... have a whole friend group who loves and supports me, but its still difficult often. Trauma processing is forever and never-ending and scary and fulfilling. I find myself being anxious very often still, or feeling like im taking up too much space in my social group. I know im loved and valued, but low self-esteem takes a long time to heal from. Also asd/adhd are hard 🥲😩 *chefs kiss* An adulthood adhd diagnosis feels like a bitter sweet betrayal, like I knew there was a reason I have difficulty doing sh*t, but I thought the whole time it was because I was messed up :^0 Why didnt someone tell me sooner that our society just isnt built for people with diverse brains . At least I could have had a head start in agknowledging that i'm not the entire problem.
Ok bye :^))
I have never been truely liked by anymore, I've always been more of a filler type of friend :(
@@thenotsustypeofwater how you doing now?
Remember, rejection is redirection. For someone to reject you, they are gifting you the clarity you need to open yourself up to fall in love with someone else.
I don’t claim to practice what I preach, in fact I’ve never confessed my feelings to someone, but I’ve still gotten rejected because those people have found interest in others over me. And it helps heal my heart, even if only a little, to try and see rejection as a mercy, rather than try and imagine a life where I will just never know what could’ve been.
Honestly, rejection was closure with my last breakup. She decided to ignore me for weeks without a conversation about why and I gave up. With the latest messages, it seems that it just didn't work out and she stopped liking me. I was ignored and snubbed even though she'd wait for me to walk with her to a class or to her car for weeks. I felt like garbage, like I'd done something horribly wrong to deserve it. Was there something wrong with me? Even now I'm not sure, even if she says "as cliche as it is, it's me not you". Her saying that we should take a break was just relief that I wouldn't have to keep up with a charade, keeping up appearances like she actually cared. The look in her eyes when she sees me is all I need to know I should be glad we're done
So sad and soothing at the same time. Such a great playlist!
For 2 years I loved her...I was never an option for her,after a year I've finally gotten over her
She tells me she likes me...
It’ll be a constant brother, you have grown, don’t shrink back
Recently I've been feeling more and more isolated due to my asexuality. I love being ace, but the title of this playlist gets it right. I can never be an option for the people I have crushes on, and they aren't real options for me because I can't be with someone who wants those kinds of things. That, and like many other in the comments, I'm rarely a first choice despite everything else. I enjoy being single, I am proud to be so confident in myself and in being alone. But sometimes I still wish to have someone sitting on the opposite side of the couch, to know all the little habits of someone, to be able to craft the perfect gift on every occasion for them.
I don't doubt me or anyone else here will find someone someday, but the wait is frustrating and isolating and just... sad sometimes. I wish everyone else here luck, you'll be loved as you deserve and you will love as someone else deserves. It's what keeps us human after all the heartbreak ❤
today is when i realized he never thought of my feelings, efforts, affections, and how much i loved him.
It hurts when you realize just how hard you're willing to fight for the relationship and they won't do the same. All the things you've done for them. The sacrifices you've made. It fcking hurts.
Listening to this playlist reminded me of a guy I really liked. Could say loved. No matter what he did, my feelings didn't disappear. I was close friends with his current wife. I'd talk about him every time we met up or in class. She liked him too. She was more beautiful I guess because in the end she won over his heart. Weird thing is, our friendship took a downturn when she would tear me down in front of him to create a poor image of me. It really hurt. I was heartbroken that she'd toss a friendship away for a guy and I was heartbroken by him because he always sent me mixed signals. In the end, I had to cut ties with them because the bullying was tearing down my mental health.
But after years I still wonder if I ever had a chance if she wasn't there to interfere. If he could have stared at me like he did her. Or held me the way he held her whenever she was sad. Maybe even love me the way he did her. Maybe offer more comfort to him and promise more love for when he cried once in school and he didn't know I saw him just to prove to him I am good enough to give a chance to. Maybe I'd love his dreams more than she. Maybe make him happier than she ever could.
Even after three years, I still think of him. The boy my feelings were engrossed with. The boy whose heart I could have had and cherished if he gave me a chance. The boy I wanted to comfort so badly when I saw him crying. The boy who has hurt me the deepest without his notice. A boy I'll probably tell my children about. A boy I seek in everyone.
Oh, to fall in love with someone you can't have 😞
You remind me of a song called "Just to see you smile" by Tim Mcgraw while your "guy's POV' would be a song called "Please Remember Me" by then again, Tim Mcgraw. Hopefully you find the love you deserve.
i wish you looked back when you walked away.
Damn that hit the feels
This hit harder than a failed relationship. 🔥
To finally fall in love with someone who makes you feel special and happy no matter how your day went just for them to pick your now ex best friend over you. Leaving you with a broken heart and destroyed trust. Out of any chance of a relationship and have the loss of a long time friend..
It took me too long to accept I was just a fun distraction
A guy I loved for a very long time loves someone else. Even when I was the one who was there for him and gave him everything he still didn't choose me
I was rejected romantically even before I knew what romance meant, what attraction even means, what liking someone meant to the point where someone lied abt being in love with me, took advantage of my vulnerability and made me question how true the relationship even was. Whenever I expressed how I felt, I get rejected. That isn't even the worst part. The worst part is I get insulted for expressing. I just want to be wanted, someone to ask me out, hold my hand, kiss me, hug me and respect my feelings and not invalidate my feelings and throw it away for the sake of ego. That's so hard to ask. I'm tired. I'm tired of dreaming that I'll find someone and scared that someone will come thru just to destroy everything I single handedly built when I was hurt. I'm just sad that I prob won't find someone who'd try to be with me, fight to be with me, and stand by me. I don't even know what I'm saying at this point. Anyways, I'm sad and tired. That's all
your probably a good person, and you deserve someone that'll treat you just as well.
@@nikolaiskitten-j7y Thank you for your kind words
I hope you find that someone, really. Life sucks, and we all need someone to help us through it.
Oh I remember when my college crush told to my other friend:"You know, ifI wasnt gay I would totally go out with you, you are so fun, cool, cute..."(continue to make her compliments) and Im just here feeling like trash and thinking "Hahahahaha Im never good enough for anyone". At those moments I just wish to not live anymore
you are enough. how are you feeling?
@@themangle-laggle Well, not very good. Its just, Ive never had this attention from other guys, like, never. Mkst of the time I was bullied for my bad looks. I just wish to be special for someone, I feel lonely...
@@WaffelWuffel hey now, don't say that. We all are special in our own ways, don't feel bad because of what some bullies say about you
@@WaffelWuffelmaybe if you learn to be special to yourself, someone will see that and you’ll be special to them too. Being special to two people is better than one, right? -advice from a kid
I’m the one they vent to, the one they talk abt relationship problems with . I just wanna know how it feels to be in love 💔
So true but i also want to vent to without being ignored :(
My problems aren't as bad as others i know that, but it still kinds hurts sometimes a lot. im so fkcn lonely. Sometimes at night i get so lonley i cant even handle it theres times where my dog isnt enough to keep me going. Ive come to close to committing its scary i dont want to leave this world but theres times where i do. God i cant even get comforted without cringing or just.. brushing it off.. thats why i hate venting its weird getting ppls affection.
I get that, sometimes it's hard being alone. Having to put effort in everything you do and doing everything by yourself. And when someone actually tries to help us, it feels weird because we aren't used to that.
Just know that it's ok to reach out to other people when you feel lonely. If you have a good family and friends, they will be happy to help you. Even strangers on the internet will try to help you and talk to you.
You just have to ask.
You don’t need to compare yourself to others lad, we all got our own shit it’s understandable. I know it’s lonely, and you’re really hurt everyday cuz of it. But don’t let it control you this way…You can make it through this, just like you probably already have. The path you are on right now may be one of withering loneliness, but the only way to get out of it is by walking yea? Just keep on walking, and you’ll find your people. Those people are here on earth, you just need to hope a little longer ok? Be smart, be friends with those who got your back, and keep pushing…It’s worth it. As someone who’s been through those emotions…it’s worth it just staying a little while longer. You can do this, have faith in yourself. ❤
One day at a time 🌻 Don't neglect or belittle your struggles, if it hurts this bad.
you’re not alone i feel the same exact way but i don’t anyone to feel guilt… but i know you can get through this!
Hey, I know what it’s like to be like that. I know you’ve said you got really close to calling quits, you are too precious in this world. I’m so sorry if anyone made you feel like you weren’t good enough. They don’t deserve you.
Ahh, Never once in my life did I become an option. Effort really didn't matter to her as long as you weren't even a part of her list. All I can say to myself is all my struggles were laughable its so infuriating. Option left, stay alone.
The worst part of never having dated someone is that your mind makes you think you don't deserve it...
don't deserve to be loved.
No that's Not true! We All Deserve to Be Loved much as anyone else❤..Never been in relationship but It's okay..Maybe someday in future...it will come when i least expect it haha
@@Jminmin1879 tysm it means a lot! really ❤️
POV
(I made up after being heartbroken lol)
“heyyy! hurry we can’t miss this sunset” He said. I nodded and walked next to him, my heart beating out of my chest.
“Can I say something? I like you” I said trying to not look at him.
“Sorry, I… like someone else” Silence followed,
and I looked at him and said
“I know” I smiled.
I looked back at the sunset while trying not to cry as I knew from the start who the person was.
It was your perfect friend Amy.
I knew deep inside there was room for me in their mutual relationship because I knew she liked him too. So, I told him first so I wouldn’t have to keep my regrets.
I’m glad and sad.
It’s almost been a year since this comment. I really want to know if you’re feeling better today and what’s going on. I would love a reply if possible
@rfwadawraedaswe-v9q hello! Thank you for checking in on me, you're such a sweetheart. I'm doing okay now. The scenario was just something I made up because I had lingering regrets about not confessing my feelings and I wanted to write out how things would go. I thought it worked perfectly with the Playlist so I thought I would right it up. I hope you have a wonderful evening and thank you for caring about a stranger like me.
I wish I had love, I'd always see someone in a relationship and help others and never been in one myself.
I'm 20 and no one ever liked me back, and also I was never the best friend of someone, always being the second option, even in my family...
I'm sorry for you, honestly. I hope you will find friends and a girl/boyfriend and you find a way to have a better relation to your family
People were always annoyed bc I was so clingy and got attached so easily and fast. The thing is I get attached so quickly when someone shows me a little bit of affection. The truth is I'm like this because my father, the one I needed love and attention from most didn't do, he shut me out, never wants to listen to me and spend time with me so I stopped trying and gave up.
Damn, this playlist hits the spot, the spot where all of my bottled up emotions has been hiding. The world is truly cruel, i dont wish to change the past coz i dont regret it i was happy even for a moment, i knew what was coming and still took the risk til it finally broke me. I miss the old me but i miss her more even if things didn't go the way i wanted it to be. If for some reason you're seeing this Jania, go chase your dream, be happy, always be the light in this crazy dark world that we live in and i hope that i'd find your light one last time^^.
realized that i just don't have a face that boys nor girls like
realized nobody talks to me unless nobody else is there
realized that im envious of everything and everyone around me because theyc an do everything i cant
realized that i crave peoples attention to the point where im "annoying" and dont deserve it
realized that peoples opinion only matters in you make it matter
and thats exactly what i did
"Be greatful for those good memories...You never know long they'll last...you never how much those memories may have meant to them."
"Some people wish of having memories like these.."
Hey, everyone ! I'm hopping from playlist to playlist willing to lend an ear to anyone wanting to vent their feelings. I've been through rejection too and it hurt like shit, but you gotta remember IT DOES GET BETTER !! you just gotta search for the right people !! No matter what happens, don't let anyone or anything get you down. I care about everyone here, and I hope you all get through this 💪💪 YOU /DO/ MATTER !!!! If you fall down IT IS OKAY to rest, JUST DONT QUIT.
We told each other everything, all of our lives, all of our feelings, all of our thoughts. Except the only ones that really mattered. He knows all of me, I know all of him, except our feelings for each other. I've told him everything, everything I have ever did, said, or feel, he did the same. But I wasn't confident enough to tell him he was way more than a friend to me, way more than just a friend. I forgot to tell him he his my world, not a day pass by without thinking of him, not a day pass by without feeling the want, the need to tell him everything I feel for him. I could talk about him for hours, maybe days. He his everything, everything I want, everything I need. I think of him daily, and everyday I love him a bit more, maybe one day it'll stop, maybe it won't.
I hope happiness for him, his life, friends, lovers.
I hope one day we'll smeet again and realise we have to make up for the time we spent far from each other.
With love💗
It’s been a year since this comment. I hate to hear how so many people are hurt. I want to know if your better today and what’s going on. I would love a reply if possible❤
It hurts... I love someone who will never be mine. Despite everything, I can't stop loving him. I don't know if I could love someone who isn't him. I just can't. But I just want him to be happy, whether with me or without me. He told me that he doesn't feel anything for me, even though his behavior shows otherwise. This makes me feel confused. It makes me hope for something that will never happen. I don't know what to do, I can't distance myself from him. I feel like I'm not good enough to be loved by anyone. I've never been anyone's first priority...
+ if anyone is reading this - I hope you're okay. Everything will be fine, don't give up. I'm glad you're here with us. You are important and loved. Good luck!!!
finally a playlist that starts with my favourite song✨
Conan grey is like a therapy for me
Its gone to the point where only a video game is keeping me sane . . .
is it genshin
I feel that right now but more or less a movie instead of a game
I've been feeling really horrible lately. Maybe it's because of my late nights trying to catch up with my uni studies. Maybe it's the fact I finally accept and realize the group I found and somewhat created during the start of the semester is now leaving me out. Maybe it's because I barely know my father's past. Maybe it's because I don't have a race. Being half Chinese and half of something else I don't know is so hard. I haven't found a group to stick with. Through my years, I have and always will just be that 'filler' friend. Vent to me, talk to me only when their friends aren't around. And leave me after. I should be use to it by now. !8 years should be enough for me to realize this, yet I always manage to hurt myself with my own thought of 'maybe they'll stay', 'maybe this is my group'. I lie to myself everyday thinking that maybe, someday I would have someone or some group.
(I actually feel bad for venting since personally I hate talking about my feelings)
People never really gave me the chance.
It still hurts but I'm used to it now. I'm okay with it, because now I'll focus with the ones who gave me a chance and stayed so long. If ever-that I will ever fall alone again, I can't promise that I will not turn colder and more isolated than I am now, vanishing without anybody knowing(as they might not even care) but I will always hang on to my last string of breath so that I won't completely leave. I'll keep giving myself a chance until I can't anymore.
-K.L. 🌻
Just one time I'd like to be loved. Just the one time. That's all I ask for. Just one chance at being happy. I'm not sure I can fall for the wrong person again. I'd settle with being seen once
I'M IN LOVE WITH HIM. HE'S THE FIRST MAN I'VE EVER LOVED HEALTHILY BUT IT'S LIKE I DON'T EXIST TO HIM LIKE THAT. I PRAY FOR HIM ALL THE TIME. HE'S GIVEN HIS HEART TO ANOTHER KNOWING VERY WELL HOW I FEEL ABOUT HIM. ANOTHER REMINDER THAT I'LL NEVER BE ENOUGH FOR ANYTHING AND ANYONE.
I feel you i had also 5 years relationship with a girl we loved each other so much and just broke up bc her friends didn't like me we are just living to keep suffering.
Why is this literally mee🥲 it hurts so bad cause he didn't even say if he like me or not and now he has a reallyyy pretty girlfriend. I don't wanna hate her but it hurts so bad whenever I see them together but I also want him to be happy.
We've only met twice, but I already like you, crazy. I'm not the type to obsess over something, but you... You are different. This is the first time I've felt this, is it because of loneliness? Attachment issues? Is this because you said you understand me when I panic and overthinking? Or because you're being nice to me? Is this because I haven't been chosen for so long that I feel like I really want you when you are just being kind? But now, you didn't even read my last DM, stopped watching my stories. And you seemed fine when I disappeared. Am I forcing it? I just want someone to choose me
The most painfull thing, is when you start noticing they fall out of love with you... bacuse they love someone else. But still keep you around to suffer. So you burn every second they look at you. You just know you are not the ONE
I’ve shut myself off from life , for a long long long time and it’s getting worse, I don’t leave my house for weeks at a time, And when I do my social anxiety is excruciating.But Still I sit here daydreaming about finding someone to love and leading a full life, it’s still possible, but my mind is currently my prison.
❤️🩹❤️🩹🙏ditto🙏❤️🩹❤️🩹
It’s been a year since you left this comment and I want to know how you’re doing today. I’m here for you and would love a reply if possible❤
honestly i never told anybody this.
Ive been struggling with andiety, whenever i fet ready for school i have this heavy chest feeling, then i start to tear up. it usually happens whenever i have a due assignment to turn inm but its really weird because its after school too.. and last year, my father told me to put my hair up but i never wanted to. so he screamed at me to do it, i started sobbing (we were in a rush to a mexican party for his girlfriend’s grandmothers birthday) he started to being up terrible things i did in the past. i sobbed and begged to go home to my mothers house, he said no and screamed at me togo to the car to go to the party. i started sobbing in tears and, last week he asked me why i dont go to his house anymore. i feel bad but i dont want to go near he ever again.
I'm sorry that happened but just know that whatever you go through it's going to make you stronger than before. I'm here for you. ❤❤
Enjoy whatever u have. U getting stronger bro🔥
thank you for giving me a playlist that i needed💖💋
Courage ❤️
Some people might be the second choice but I’m never really a choice to begin with. I mean I try so hard to be a good friend but it’s never ever enough, it’s mentioned that I’m a good person and friend but it’s never shown. I am always left out of things and I’m always alone. When I cry or show the slightest emotion I’m being “dramatic” or “annoying” but I really just feel sad and alone.
A nice playlist to sleep to drift off into the memories. Nice to no longer be lost in irrational thought like I was back then as a child. Love should be childlike but more importantly you should be rational with your love. Not everyone is deserving aye?
Never wanted to be an option. Options are for those that don’t quite stand out enough to either Take and keep or trash it and know ya never owning that shitz
너무 아름다운 플레이리스트에요 thank you 🥺🤍
Every year, I make a year purpose: 'To be a better person than I was last year'. It's been 22 years now since making this new years purpose, no matter how hard I try to see the good parts even in the darkest of times, to see the good were people see only evil, to do good actions in a world that's becoming crueler in a fraction of seconds. I still feel that I'm never gonna get what I've always tend to desire, the right person, that loves me, respects me and sees the value in me, even when I give my all to people I've barely known, they keep on backstabbing me and hurting me, making me feel dissapointed at life/society. I will keep trying, because here, we all deserve a place where we feel safe, that place we call home and it's next to that loved one. I don't know when it will come that time for me to find that special guy and if I'm being totally honest, I'm starting to lose my patience with it, I'm becoming tired and stressed out from everybody else, but I have hope, hope is what will make us find that special thing we are all looking out for, deep in my heart, I know this.
To everybody that finds this comment, stay strong, our time will come to be forever happy ❤
Once, just once, I don't want to just be seen. I want to be heard when I scream.
You are not only seen but I also feel with you.
90% of Ppl ignore you because your screams makes them feel uneasy. They were just like you, so overwhelmed and alone with this feeling that they shut down. Your scream reminds them of this helplessness, believing that they cannot help you with a feeling they can't even help themselves with.
I love how people keep sharing their life here in the comments, It makes me feel not alone, and to whoever is reading this, dont worry, your not alone... you got us 😊❤️
I've given my all to this one boy just to know I was never in his heart, not even for a moment. Then my guy best friend picks me up and he adores me but I dont want to get hurt again, never again. Sure love takes risks but Im scared and what if I get too attached and ruin our friendship? Though I would never say it to him, I love him and I hope he would one day take the courage to say it to me and I would say it too without hesitation
My situation 🥲
Confess to him because you will regret later on
You never got to say goodbye
You never got to say I love you more then anything
You never not to hug them tightly
You never heard there voice again
Why couldn’t he have waited a little longer for me to go see him and hug him tightly and say I love you one more time before he die
I miss you grandpa and always will
why tell me you like me then break my heart? I fought so much for you, I stood up for you. I complimented you time after time, you never complimented me back… I gave you my all and you gave me nothing. I gave you so many chances but this time was the last time :/
I was never an option to anyone. Romantically my boyfriend chose my former best friend over me coz 'I wasn't good enough' for him. Not wanting to be in a relationship ever again i turned to my friends. Even then I was turned away coz they had better options. My best friend shut me out. She didnt want me in her life just because I spoke to this girl she hates one time. Not even a friendly conversation but a normal Convo about a business deal we had some time about and she left me for that. Didn't even give me a chance to explain. It's lonely but I keep going. God hasn't given everyone a companion in this world and I'm one of those souls who are left here to roam alone and so I'll do it. I'll roam alone until my time is right to depart this world for good
Sometimes there are parts of your life where it’s just you and God. I know it hurts, I know it’s heart wrenching, and I know you don’t believe in yourself no more. It sucks. It sucks to be “proven” that you weren’t their #1, #2, hell, even an option. But it’s the wrong person, you have to believe that. If you weren’t an option to those people, then they were not worth hearing you out. If these people around you seem to have other options, go and find YOUR options. Let THOSE people be your friends. But do not let yourself sink to their level when they were only in it for themselves. You’re worth more than being alone. Grieve, recover, and get back to being yourself whenever you’re comfortable enough to. Don’t rush your own emotions, just let em’ come whenever they appear. You know you’re worth more than this, which is why it hurts so much. Go find others who see your worth, they’re out there somewhere ❤. Best of luck 😎👍
@@party901panda thank you 🤍
Sth similiar happend to me with a long time friend ditching me in similiar way but I do hope u realise it was not yur fault, it was their lame excuse to ditch you and making you take the blame for their decision, just because it was easier for THEM to deal with it and not make them feel like a bad person for it (contrary to the reality at the time). It happend years ago and I still dont get it to be honest :o It's cruel and unecessary, epecially coming from a ''friend''. All i can say is you're better off without a ''friend'' like this in your life.
@@Melancholia1996thank you so much for these words 🤍 I really appreciate it!
Don't avoid heart break, everything we do happens for a reason
My crush likes these types of playlists and I am afraid of confessing because I am scared I am not even an option so I will just enjoy these songs and daydream
I hate you, but i dont want to blame you at the same time. It just hurts, why did you act like you liked me, why did you act like you had genuine interest and cared for me when in reality its far from what you feel? I thought my feelings were about to get reciprocated for the first time forever, but you just broke it all apart instead. You made me expect, made me hope, made me trust you. But even though i feel so mad at you, i couldnt blame you at all, i cant even talk to somebody about it because they all blame it on me, because iam the one who confessed and you're the one that had a choice. Even though its true, cant i feel sad for once. You cried after i gave you a simple gift, made me look like a fool infront of everyone, they all thought i did something wrong, you said that because apparently you didnt want me to think you liked me, well whose fault is that. If you dont like somebody back, make it clear to them already. I hate you yet i still think of you, its strange.
I hate life. I, a girl, told her I like her, she said she liked me too, she wanted to wait a bit so our relationship can develop more, I agreed, we've been basically in a relationship bcs the I love you's and pet name mostly from me, the pet names decrease on her side, no worries, she tells me she realized that she actually doesn't like woman and she tried to love me.
It hurts so damn much. And I can't hate her. I love her to much to be mad at her. And I'm glad she did that to me and not someone else bcs I could more or less take those kind of news calmly. But why? Why did I have to be a "test if I like woman"? It hurts so much more
I never actually wanted to fall in love. Just be happy alone. She made me fall in love with her which I'm happy about, but i think a rejection would've been better than this.
So I can say for 90% accuracy. I won't fall in love again. I refuse. (Sorry for the rant)
Broke up it was six months before he apologized, he wanted a second chance even if I hesitated to give it to him, I did anyways. Hadn’t even been a month since we started talking again, and he already lost feelings and hurt me again. Won’t make the same mistake again.
16 years of tryin to get a girlfriend, almost my whole life, just filling more pages of rejections, losing more hope that there might not be a girl that feels any affection toward me. Even with loving parents and friends, I just want to experience something I never felt before…
I never knew you'd leave. I would've said goodbye.. I..I would've hugged you tight..
Maybe this playlist isn't exactly for me since I *was* their option, but oh my god. I hadn't heard the first song in a good while, maybe years? But I still remember listening to it a long time ago and it being my favorite. Back then, it was just some good song that I listened to simply because I liked, not relating to it whatsoever. But now that I'm listening to it, I had to take a good pause afterwards to prevent myself from crying. It scarily sums up my situation accurately. Its gonna be 3 months soon since the breakup, I was the one who left but that doesn't mean it didn't hurt. I miss him so much, the title reminds me of him and how he loves astronomy..
I'm still in love with 2 of my exes. I can't stop thinking of the memories we had or could have had. I wish I was better. I wish they could have loved me more. I wish they would have just talked to me. I saw a future with them, but maybe they didn't.
i’m not worthy of love, nor will i ever be. i’ve been through multiple talking attempts and none of them turned out bc i’m always ghosted, or keep me on delivered for hours on end. i try my best to keep it going, but nothing is ever enough. i’m never enough. they seem so fucking interested. watch my favorite movies for me, listen to my favorite artist. i’m tired. i’m tired of having to fight for someone to love me.
dear Alex, i know you won’t find this. but your too young to leave me, your too young to go.
you have pushed thru everything for so long, why would you give up now? your so close to getting all you deserve.
you mean so much to be and I couldn’t be here without you.
i literally love you so much alex
I always wondered what it feels like to matter to someone to anyone.
are u ok my friend :) ?
The urge when you're on your period to write the most disturbing depressing thoughts just to wake up tomorrow to "r u ok?" messages, re-read what you say, die of cringe.
Hey, I'm here to remind you that your worth and value don't come from what people say or think of you. Your value comes from the fact that your life is irreplaceable, it will only exist once and nobody could ever create it twice. This uniqueness is all that makes you extraordinary and much more valuable than society may think. Just because some people can't see your value doesn't mean you don't have it. 🖤
(Vent)
You know what hurts? That the friend you brought into your friend group is now ignoring you and taking all your friends away from you. I've never been good at socializing but everyday I try to talk to everyone and smile but at this point I'm about to give up. No matter how hard I try to be nice I'll never be enough and everyone will leave me in the end. This is the third time this has happened and im tired of it. I'm starting to give up, I quit forcing my voice out of my lungs(I have trouble speaking, idk why) so ima just go quiet and disappear into the group again. It's not fair but I cant do anything about it.
Don’t let other people guide your emotions. I acknowledge the betrayal and hurt that you must feel, losing your friends to OTHER friends is a slap in the face. But it’s not you, it was never you. Your friends prolly just got caught up in meeting all these new people. I know feeling neglected in the friend group is always a shitty feeling. But you shouldn’t let this hold you back… Continue your life, be who you are, and hangout with them when YOU want to. Communication will help, even if it’s just texting them. Maybe it’s a misunderstanding y’all can talk out. If it is a case of them avoiding you, then you be the one to cut the tie. Don’t waste time on people who don’t spend any on you. Your generosity is seen here, and you’ve done so much for other people. Keep your generous heart, and walk forward trying to do the best you can ❤
@@party901panda Thanks! 😁
I am sorry to hear that . Do you have any interests, like painting , singing , playing an instruments , cooking , or even studying ? I think if you develope your skills , find out what you like and not like , then you become your own person , give yourself a good time even if no one is around . You will see , once you become interested in yourself and stop trying so hard , people will want to be your friend . Just remember to be kind and compassionate to yourself and others. And forgive and forgive .
I don't know who you are, but I will find you and I will hug you.
Thank you for this great playlist!
i would like to give a general thank you to all the vent, angst and otherwise Not Great Emotion playlist makers they make excellent background noise while i work on my hurt/comfort fanfic and generally keep me in a low (but not bad low) mood when i am up Far Too Late for My Own Good so. thx yall. this one goes out to the ppl who ship both miphlink and sidlink i ggot a (hopefully) good one in the oven rn
I known him for about a year, and in that year of meeting him, getting to know him, talking to him(even if it wasn't much). I slowly fell in love, I didn't realize it first. I saw it as me admiring him as someone who does what he loves, doesn't give up, someone who despite everything still keeps making music. I started to make wallpapers themed around what he presents himself as, making a DnD campaign (ngl that campaign would've been a real banger to play), his artist name had given me so much inspiration on world and story building. At the time I didn't realize that all of my time that I spent on all of that was actually a signs of crush or love. And when I realized I was in love with this incredible, kind and beautiful soul and man. I was at that point a bit damaged from my past relationship and didn't want anything serious so I denied myself of that feeling because it couldn't have been real. It must be something that'll quickly pass... Right? It wasn't, I started writing poems about my feelings for him and songs(I'd be lying if I said it didn't hurt when I deleted them) I don't want people to misunderstand we didn't talk every day or every time. But when we did I found myself not being able to stop smiling. When I acknowledged my feelings it was a bit too late. He went out with others and eventually got into a relationship. I confessed bcz my feelings started to torture me(I didn't know he was in a relationship at the time). I thought of going MIA(no contact) but he told me not to and how can I say no to one who holds my heart rn? I'm happy for him because that man genuinely deserves the best on this world, I wish him and his gf genuinely the best and good days. It hurts but I hope it will stop eventually.(If anyone from the server sees this, yes, you know who I'm talking about, Idk when you'll see it but don't make it uncomfortable for anyone by mentioning this, he knows I know and now you and that's how it should stay, if you see it years from now, yes, I had a crush on him).
A little story cause why not:
A girl she was small lets say abt 3 she was walking around nursery while this little boy followed her everywhere she went he would be there every day he always came back and this went on for a year and the day before they left nursery he said his first sentense to her "Hello my name is ______ whats yours?" That little girl felt a warm feeling in her heart .
Their first day of primary they were hanging out getting to know everyone. Soon enough she was with the girls and he was with the boys. They had stopped talking while getting to know their new friends but in year 1 they started to go to the same bus stop with their mums and in no time they knew eachother again they were catching up every day after school. Every day went past and the little girl would always wait until she had to go to the bus stop and find her best friend again. Until 1 day she didnt have to go to the bus stop she just went home. From then on she never took the bus after school and she rarely saw the little boy anymore. Then year 3 came they were in the same class, sat next to eachother on the carpet they introduced themselves and helped eachother with the work. They would occasionally get paired together for paired work but they never talked like best friends only class friends ,peers as some would say, then year 4 came they rarely talked now the only got paired for work a few times but they still had good conversations. And year 5 wasnt much different covid had hit by then so they didnt really see eachother but everytime she saw him she would smile. Year 6 came and they were sat next to eachother talking everyday and getting to know eachother more they would play fight and they were now getting paired together nearly every time they were getting close they considered eacother best friends and they would even talk when their seats changed they got eachothers numbers and were now talking at night as well. The last day of year 6 came and the little boy began to cry when he realised this was the last day he got to see all of his friends in the same class. Year 7 came and they stopped talking he blocked her trying to remove every thought from primary school. Then the first wednesday came all the girls went to go see their teachers and the boys done the same as the girls walked past the boys at the first entrance to the school the little girl and little boy made eye contact they were missing eachother and it was obvious. He unblocked her later that day and they started talking more and more they began going out together and she got him with her mate. But then they broke up and the little boy met a new girl who he really wanted to be friends with so he blocked the little girl once more. Months went past and she finally accepted he was gone when he texted her "how's life" she was surprised but she answered saying good he wss happy for her but his life wasnt the same once he left he missed his best friend he missed her and she decided to let him stay they got close again and they were updating eachother on every little thing. However they then got into an argument and he didnt want to speak to her and she didnt want to speak to him both blocking eachother. Almost a year goes past and she rememberes him and all the fun they had so she unblocked him realising he had unblocked her "yo" she put waiting for an answer a few hours go past with no response but then he answered "hi?" Confused he aksed "who is this" heartbroken and distraught the little girl said "its ________" with that he responded "idk a ________"she tried to carry on the conversation reminding him about everything they went through together. a few days went past and he remembered but he blocked her out of no where. Half a year later her mate gets in contact with him and she asks the girl for advice on how to talk to him noticing he had unblocked her she asked him a few questions in which he was confused they kept this conversation going until she had to go to bed they kept talking occasionally and she kept him updated and so did he. They then went out with her friends and they all had great fun so she added him to a group chat and they had so much fun together they then fell out with a girl on the groupchat and a few weeks after he blocked everyone from the groupchat making sure not to talk to anyone. Then the girls friends one day in the summer of 2023 invited him out to hang out with them he trusted her more than anyone else. Later that day he asked her friend for her number and they began talking again still catching up and checking up on eachother. Their nickname was once the girl and her shadow but now its the girl and boy who know they were meant to be friends but they struggle to compete with eachothers harmony. This is a true story and i am waiting for him to block me again but this kid is my light he keeps me going and on my feet ill be real.
If u read all of this thank you I thought this story fit for the time being. Love you all have a good morning,afternoon or evening
I don't think this relationship is very healthy;)
If you know he's going to block you and wait for it something is bad, you should talk about it to him or make him understand you're not his puppy who will wait for him no matter what-
I have this one friend that i randomly got super close to and now she is my everything, my soulmate, my best friend, my universe, but recently she has been acting a little distant and it hurts me so much becasue losing her would be like losing myself. I seriously can't live without her. She saved my life so many times and she still does. I constantly wonder if she still loves me. I wonder if she hates me. We have this bond like no other. It's to the point where we wish one of us was a guy so we could be together. Im so afraid to lose that.
quick story to read when listening;
there was a girl and she was not in her best era she was betrayed by her loved ones. when she did not have anywhere to go she met someone and they became friends. she could finally be herself with someone around. he was not the best person to be with but he tried to help her even though he could not that much and that was precious to her. after 2 years she decided to tell him about her feelings bc he was going to the uni. but when she said to him he rejected her worst way possible (he lit a cigarette after it) and that was the time she realised she was not even considered as more than friend. she lost one of her best friends and her pride. that girl is me. hi.
ahh im so sorry that has ever happened to you
@@twookidumpfart dont be. i moved on. thanks tho
That's what I'm afraid of.... giving my heart to someone again and go through that shit again
@@sansabhushrestha7623 ure right its a painful process but its not more painfull than living without that experience. so if u love, just say it and move on. not moving on is so much worse
It hurt's when he know's that you loved him but still talk's abut someone that he like with you
If me and this boy break up I don’t see me being myself again anymore I’ve been through too much, I’ve been discarded, I’ve been dismissed, ignored, unloved and a lot more but I don’t see my self falling in love again..