This. Women are being like: He needs to make six figures but we gotta hire a maid so she does all the housework even if I stay home. And the men are like: She needs to be a virgin and never call me out on anything whilst she does all the housework and I am unemployed playing videogames all day.
I'm a white European, Nordic man. This woman is missing the point of equality. I'm not chasing a woman, period. Either she puts work into the courtship and relationship, or I am gone. If I am going to be in this for you, you better be in this for me. Been in a relationship for 8 years, it works. There are rough patches. But we both do the work.
Funny thing is men literally just adjusted to what is happening in the world. Most of it started by women. Men got the list of things that made them toxic and now they have responded likewise. Men see no point in relationships anymore. If a man doesn't want a family he doesn't see the point. Even if he gets the family he's held hostage to the one thing he wants and can be destroyed at any moment.
Happy for you. In an almost 2 year relationship with a white guy, we both put in the effort, I didn't play games and neither did he. Bam, almost a month later after meeting each other and we are dating. He is a wonderful guy, but we have had our rough parches too, but the important thing is that at the end of the day, we are still together and companions. Relationship means companionship.
I never understand when people say you shouldn't praise a man for doing things their "supposed" to do. If my husband does something that I would otherwise have to do myself if I was single, he's going to get a thank you; just like he thanks me for things I'm "supposed" to do.
Exactly! My husband finds it weird when I thank him because he sees himself as a provider and what he's supposed to do. I am still fortunate and grateful for all he does.
That's just another example of a toxic mindset... ain't nobody 'supposed' to do nothing fo nobody, so the fact that your so does something nice fo you should be rewarded with at least a thank you, both men and women, if you just expect things ppl gonna get sick of always doing and never receiving... it's called mutual respect....
I'm Latina and I haven't laughed so much in a while. Y'all speak the facts. When my parents got married my mom laterally told my dad "If you're going to cheat on me do it well, do it so at least I don't find out"🤡 I'm 120% I have some illegitimate brother roaming around somewhere in Colombia.
@@crisikingful get off your feelings.. then it will. who have the highest incomes in America? Asians. you think culture doesnt matter? then why do mexicans eat more tacos than any other race? again, EVERY CULTUTURE has their habits of living. Sadly for blackz.. they have mostly BAD habits.
@@jonprince7489 what the fuck? Africans in America are among one of the top earners and work extremely hard in academia and in the work force. My African parents immigrated here and set me up for LIFE, they gave me all the best things under the condition that I work hard in school. Sorry that your viewpoint on culture is so narrow that you reduce people to disgusting stereotypes. I dare you to go up to an African and say that to their face, with YOUR broke ass lmfaoo.
I love Aba's comment: "Your definition of effort is just presenting yourself and looking good. Men got to look good, put in the efforts, court you, say the right things, emotionally and financially invest on the whole thing. You just have to be present." And Preach saying: "No, no... And MAYBE, MAYBE you get a thing!" That little dialogue explains everything and hit the bullseye!!
Yeah l liked how they included that small fact. I always hated how women demanded so much from me and expected me to do this and when it the time came to ask them if they wanted something serious, they hit me with the “I don’t owe you a relationship just because you did things people in relationships do” and than you have that women ranting how about I’m shet and that I’m controlling and entitled while purposely leaving out all the good things I did and than you have her fellow woman say “yas queen 👸 💅” “you choose what’s best for you” or “yeah girl he’s such an incel” I think behavior like this is why men don’t approach much as they use to let alone give compliments. And also, when aba said it’s important to be grateful, I tell that to woman all the time. I’ve seen woman complain about how men usually go to Starbucks or Dutch bros for the first date option and how cheap men are for suggesting like girl be grateful someone is into you that they want to spend their time with you. Than they complain when a man doesn’t pursue them further when they say no at first and get mad and creeped out when you keep trying. Man bruh why was I born a heterosexual smh 🤦🏽♂️
Ya and the funny thing is nowadays feminism has helped make presenting yourself and looking good not even a requirement. If that's expected it's misogynistic and they'd say "wow how dare you if I don't live up to your impossible beauty standards then too bad" now me personally, I'm not even like that, come as you are. But if women like this wanna act like this then this type of response is what they should expect 👀
My ex husband was an immigrant from Iraq. He was okay at first but soon turned abusive and manipulative. My boyfriend now was born and raised in the US and he’s a wonderful man. My point: being an asshole is entirely dependent on the individual.
I have lived in multiple Caribbean countries, NYC and in London. I can personally say men are men no matter where you go. There are good ones and bad ones and you cant paint everyone with the same brush just based on your personal opinion. Many of the times we attract what we are so if you're mean toxic and snobby dont expect to attract a loving, kind and wholesome man. We have to be the best version of ourselves in order to attract the love we desire. It has nothing to do with where you are only the mindset you take with you.
Really? I feel like men are very different even in different states within the US, sometimes even different cities in the same state, based on the places I've lived. I totally agree with you about attracting certain types of people by how you act yourself being a larger part of the equation though.
I think she is right at some point. As an European I can see two main differences in the dating culture. 1) casual dating does not really exist in Europe,I mean in the same scale as in us. The idea that one person goes to multiple dates with multiple people and then chooses one to date is weird. So it's either people are invested into the one person and don't go to offer dates or its about sex etc... And not real relationship. 2) feminism means different things in Europe. There basically don't exist those angry feminists who want to blame men for everything and feminists acknowledge the differences between men and women, they just want the same opportunities and being treated with respect. They don't want to fight men or any like men
I've been with my wife for 10yrs. Married for 6. I still thank her for every meal, everything she does, specifically things she didn't need, or have to do. An she does the same. The little things make all the difference in the long run!
The first date my husband and I went on was a walk. No coffee no nothing just a walk. It was amazing we got to know one another. We went on walking dates for weeks before we even went to a restaurant. We spent hours walking and talking. When we finally went out together we went to the beach for a walk and went to Denny’s to eat it was perfect. To this day when we need to recharge our couple battery we take a walk and talk about whatever comes to mind. It’s a simple thing that brings us both back together and it is amazing. The love I have for my husband is so great I didn’t know I could love another human so deeply and immensely. I truly believe our relationship is a gift from the heavens!! Ladies don’t discount the simple things because ultimately married life is simple. With work, kids, and a household to tend to most of the time life is mundane. Find someone you can do nothing with and still be happy. Find joy in the little things and your life will be so much more joyful!!
I don't know how you time traveled but teach me please. Also it's because they live in a patriarchy that they get to define a man's role and not vice versa. How do you not understand that?
I can debunk this woman's argument with one word. MACHISMO. Do you know how many Latin women avoid dating Latin men because of this trait alone? I don't need to say more.
@@khrisstake2210 machismo means that men like to play the tough guy who takes what he wants, never accepts the word NO, it's kind of an annoying trait for people to have, but he is not going to pull that hopeless romantic BS or even cook for women lol
Bruh i have so many aunties and cousins telling me to go after the "guerito" because they are so much liberal and less demanding than latin men. Im like omg STFU already 🙄.
that's that not true Brandon! , they chase Jose like crazy bro ! they be chasing they Latino man like crazy , they even make videos claiming Latino men are the best .
She generalizes all of the men due to her poor choices in Middle Eastern men. She already has a flaw in her logic so there’s no need to even think she’s correct at all.
Don't be too hard on her. I bet she's just grumpy cause she can't a get a guy to stay with her, after the first night in bed. A lot women get like her when they can't hold down a long term relationship. My advice ladies stop blaming men for your problems its toxic. If you want to keep a good man, its simple- keep his stomach full and his balls empty.
@@myname-mz3lo No just most women date garbage men and then complain about why they only date garbage men. Then bitterly paint all men with the same brush just because they make terrible choices.
She is the perfect example of what I’ve telling people about women wanting a wedding and not a marriage, a baby not raise a child. I’m a woman I said what I said
Facts. A lot of women see the cute couple moments on social media, but they never show disagreements, conflict, or compromise. All of which are essential for healthy relationships to work out. In a good relationship, my happiness is your happiness, your sadness is my sadness. When I win, you win. When you win, I win.
First, you can’t generalize men like that. It has to do with how they were raised and taught to treat others. I was born in the USA by Cuban born parents. I learned and grew up in a traditional Cuban home. Women took care of the home and the man was responsible for financially taking care of the family. Unfortunately some of these Cuban men (as well as other Latino cultures) also had the mentality that if I’m meeting my responsibilities then I can do whatever I want (ie…..cheating, physical abuse……etc.) But in our case my mom also taught my sisters & I to be independent. Our biological father was abusive to us but God blessed us with an amazing stepdad (also Cuban). Bottom line do NOT generalize men, there’s good and bad in ALL people.
@@sxlxmxndvgxd thank you for your compassion. I should also mention that with everything my biological dad did to my mom and us, our mom never spoke a bad word about him. Not from fear I can assure you, but her reasoning was “good or bad, he’s your dad and loves you very much”. He had a drinking and drug problem at the time. Thank God he sobered up years later and we had a wonderful relationship with him until the day he passed away. I admired my mom very much for being who she was and raising us as she did. We were very blessed that our parents and step-parents got along so well.
100% about how ur raised (and it sounds like your mom raised you amazing). i thought it was basic af to know that individuals are individuals and their country/ethnicity/nationality/etc. is not a representation of who they are. i did not think we needed a f*ckin conversation for this. that woman irks me so badly because she can't stop and think for one second how terrible of a mind she has around this
I’m from Argentina, therefore I’ve only dated latino men and surprise, surprise; they are individuals with their own personality and complexity. I’m so tired of people generalizing men and women because of their nationality. Edit: Cheating happens, no matter what country you live in. There are 33 countries in Latin America with completely different cultures but somehow it all comes down to latino men always cheating and latinas being loud and spicy. I know generalizing it’s a fun game, specially if you had a bad experience with someone from a different nationality or if you read some cool statistics online (which you should, the internet is 100% reliable) but in all seriousness, I don’t like attributing things like cheating to a person only because of their country because that’s not a cultural thing, that’s just a shitty thing. I don’t really know where this info is coming from, but I’ve look it up and apparently the countries with more % of cheaters are: the US (71%) Germany (68%) UK (66%) Thailand (61%) and then Brazil (57%) Do I trust this? Nah, there where a lot of different statistics and I’m only bringing this one up cause it was the only one with a Latin country lol. Conclusion? There are awful people all around the world. You need to stop watching novelas.
@@SWIFTzTrigger to an extent yes in more traditional areas. My parents grew up in Central America and it was relatively common. However it doesn't mean it's always the case.
i believe it, many Latino men treat their wife as if she were his child. She must obey him, his word is law - and the woman ends up becoming a passive cooking sex bot. literalmente
As an American man married to a Moroccan French woman I thought she was with me because of commitment and work ethic put in to making sure our family is safe and financially secure turns out she just with me because I’m a lazy American who has yet to achieve manhood.
Honestly... it's a blessing when a single person is delusional and runs their mouth. If they have more red flags than all of China - Stay Away!! It doesn't matter how cute and popular they are, or what they are wearing or carrying in their wallet! On a positive note, maybe these fake and insane "dating experts" might make some singles see how special people with genuine character are. If you find an awesome person who is helpful, kind, and appreciative - you have something so much better than IG model pictures. Looks fade, but if they are crazy, that's not going anywhere!
as a Chinese, the more red flags than all of China line is hilarious. also according to this woman, now we're generalizing people from each CONTINENT now...?
Thing is, I've seen her page. She does speak some truth but there's bitterness in what she says. And also, dating coaches have the tendency of seeing things from a single perspective, even when the situation may have different scenarios behind it. And ever noticed how they barely talk about their audience's responsibilities and always creating an 'us against them' mentality. I've seen this in the male spaces as well, but women always do that as well. Thank God for A&P and KS because a lot of these fake gurus' takes are always trash.
My husband and I have been together for over 20 years. I have found, in order to have a healthy relationship, there needs to be compassion , appreciation and work. A lot of people think that once they have found that perfect someone, they can just relax and the fairytale will happen. Real relationships are built on not only having your needs met but also your partners.
This chat just brings to mind all the men I've heard talk about getting an Asian woman because they're submissive, and they know how to treat a man... I've been in different Asian households. I've seen how women act to their men. You'd think someone was being murdered with all the screaming. I've even seen a video on TH-cam way back in the day when white dude thought his Asian wife was telling him she loved him in her own language. Turns out, she was telling him straight to his face that she hoped he would die in his sleep or something like that... It just makes me chuckle.
No one said all Asian women where the same. But there culture definitely doesn’t encourage behaviors that doesn’t help build a structured home. I mean no doubt there women who act outter pocket but definitely not more but definitely less than women who live in places where those family structures aren’t in place.
Look there's always people who fall into stereotypes , in every culture. That doesn't mean it's always like that. Every individual regardless of nationality or race has the potential to not fit in your box. It really depends on individual choices that person makes based on their character, which arguably is based on their..choices.
Her narrative is so flippable. We can easily depict the big dinner on a first date as something done by entitled and lazy guys who try to set their expectations. She likes the perks of women's emancipation and those of traditional gender roles. So, she imagined a paradoxical world where men are aggressive seducers because women have full control over the dating game.
Women always mirror men & try to pick up men's behaviors, thoughts, actions. Its sad but a lot of things women think or do can be explained from past guys doing it or them seeing & following the men. The truth is when men see too many trashy feminist American women & begin going to other countries for wives or whatever it triggers deep insecurity amongst American women, they have all this entitlement still & keep getting older, versus the women who have no entitlement and a ton of submissiveness.
I am Peruvian, which is in South America and I can confirm men cheat all the time and the women just turn a blind eye. Their husbands are the breadwinners and they are usually stay at home moms that enjoy the nice easy life of spending money and being homemakers but their husbands cheat on them all. The. Time. How do I know? My dad has cheated on my mom whenever he goes back to Peru to visit his mom and she knew about it. She just never brought it up. My aunt’s husband cheats on her everytime he goes back to his home village and she also never wants to talk about that (he gives her very generic, minimal details about his trip). And my mom’s best friend who is Peruvian was FaceTiming her husband and saw a naked woman behind him in bed. He didn’t realize he was on video. She quickly went to the hotel room, found them together, and he threw his wedding ring at her telling her that if she’s so miserable to just leave him. Of course, he said this because he knew she wouldn’t and guess what? She didn’t. She stayed and they’re still together. My point is, as a Peruvian, I will never date a Peruvian. So this woman saying these lies about Hispanic men (please note that not all Hispanic men are like this. There must be lovely faithful Hispanic men too and I’ve met a few. I am just traumatized lol) is tripping. Regardless of nationality or ethnicity, it the man is unfaithful and an asshole, he’s just unfaithful and an asshole. They’re in every country.
She's in for a surprise when she gets to Europe, the kind of guy she's dreaming about either doesn't exist or comes with a hefty price she's not considering yet. Here in europe, the formula is the same, the further down you go, the more pursuing the guys will be, but also more traditional and follow gender roles more. The further north you go, the more progressive the guys become, the more they see women as equal, but that also means more like to split bills and expect some initiative from the woman's side. It's like that everywhere and this is just generalising, people are there own people. She ain't ready for the disappointing reality check coming her way
@@MrReset94 it absolutely does. If you go to south-eastern Balkan countries, it's completely different from Scandinavian northern countries or north - western European countries
There’s a pandemic of people not seeing the opposite sex as human beings when dating. It’s so weird. Why would anyone want to be in a relationship where their “performance” is constantly being tracked and analyzed?
@@raidzeromattthere has always been passport chicks what do you think happens on those backpacking trips they have been getting their backs packed by foreigners
Haha i know right. Im european and have seen a lot of american women here and the first thing they do is find a cute guy/ guys to fuck wether they have a guy at home or not. Im finding myself is equal to im finding some random dick😂@@godemperorletoatreidesii6971
@@mastabla3ta684 not in a traditional sense everything she has said is based off of the 50 where men did literally all the hard work in relationships until marriage where the wife would then start doing house work and having children.
There is BIG cultural differences in Europe. The north-western side of Europe in my opinion is more about progressive things and more about breaking gender roles. In the eastern-southern part of Europe it's still about traditions mixed with religion (both Christianity & Islam). The differences in gender roles are huge and you would know it, especially if you live in the more southern/eastern parts (especially in the Balkans) or maybe if you traveled through the continent. Like you guys said you can't cherrypick parts of one side and another but not be able to handle everything. Cultures are different everywhere. You either get used to it or don't try at all because not a lot of people are ready to tolerate your bullshit. Also eastern european men won't "chase you all the time" and the women also won't "always be submissive and follow orders" idek where these things came from in the first place when everyone is different. Men for example often get away with "disciplining" women where I'm from and not a lot of people get punished and crimes against women are often overlooked (a good example would be the domestic violence reports during Covid). And this is an issue so the whole fantasy of "perfect traditional family" has it's own issues that people who are not aware of or ignore don't get. You get the full experience or nah, your choice bubu
I’m an American born latino, and what I find hilarious about all of this are these feminists getting mad that men aren’t men, while at the same time shaming them for acting like men. Nobody wants American woke women, if you want a traditional man, act like a traditional woman.
Your latino. You should know that american men are lazy. Even among latino families. Especially dads. They talk about american guys are lazy. Thats a reality
You can tell she's living in a fantasy world if Middle Eastern men are the gold standard in her mind. It always is funny how stuff like the wage gap gets prime coverage in feminist media and dialogue, but the same people don't have anything to say about the actual suffering going on in other places,. That's probably because it would take actual effort to do something about.
They're entitled and privileged, that's why they say all of these things, and they have all of these fantasies. My man preach said it in the beginning, it's because gender roles are very enforced, it's normal, woman stay home and cook and clean, and he'll provide outside financially wise especially, and their is no romance needed maybe in the begging to win her heart and that's it. I'm an Arab, and why guys there don't do that shit and don't put in all that effort, because we have much more important responsibilities to take care of
I think it's fair that media covers the inequalities most relevant for their own culture... I think it's perfectly reasonable for media to cover the wage gap.. of course, certain types of women are stuck in this double mindset where they want the equality and freedom that feminism rightly brought them, but still play the childish role in relationships where they need to be chased and taken care of.
@@MaMastoast it is fair if it was just to cover the problem of inequalities, but the same people who are most outspoken about such problems are the most self-righteous. If you wanna stay domestically you still have racism in 21 century, which exists nowhere else on that level, or globally instead of talking about fucking climate change and global warming and such bullshit problems instead of focusing on famine or the wars and deaths their country is causing. I'm not saying everyone should it as a duty, but if you wanna be self-righteous and talk about global issues that we need to solve cut the bullshit
So much low hanging fruit in her statement. There’s sooooooo many countries where women get beaten, raped and murdered into submission as the status quo under her umbrella.
As an European man (specifically Italian), I've stopped chasing women long ago. If a girl is a catch, I'll do whatever I can to pursue her. If she's just hot and I have to put up with all this shit ("he has to court me, challenge me", etc.), then I'm out. If I'm the only one that has to do the lifting, you're not worth my time
But that is the crux of the matter: real/worthy men court, but only girls/women who are catches (as you said); and real/worthy women work to be a catch, and not just be ... present.
@@Lina-lq7jm Judging from the attitude of the girl in the video, I can see why men aren't looking to court her. Like you said, women have to do their part and be courtable. It's a 2 way street. Feminism completely intoxicated many women's outlook on men and that's the single most prominent issue in dating today.
@@wmasterss It's sad really. On one hand I am glad that that part of life is over for me - I am married, with kids, etc. But on the other... when my boys grow up... I shudder to think about the girls who might be around them.
@@Lina-lq7jm I think half the battle is that fortunately you understand how messed up the game is which will help you point your sons in the right direction. Many young boys don't/didn't have that grace. They grow up being taught how to be simps. I think your boys are in a good spot.
@@Lina-lq7jm Not entirely; the crux lies in both genders' education: men have to chase, women have to be pursued. That is crazy talk, especially when it comes out of a person's mouth who claims to be a feminist (but really wants equality only when it favours her) or is for equality in general. There's no equality in all this. Personally, I look for and offer: trust, complicity, support, and understanding in a relationship; if I see the woman I'm trying to establish a relationship with act like a spoiled and entitled brat, I'm more than happy to show her the way out
This is so ridiculous, I only just returned to the US after twenty years living abroad in Brazil, Australia, Russia, South Africa, Abu Dhabi, Dubai, and several other countries. In fact my wife is Brazilian and I can tell you for a fact about Brazil in particular that men are especially spoiled and not expected to do anything in fact in a family with both a boy and girl child it would be normal for the mother to make e daughter help her clean the house and clean her brothers room and clothes even when they grow up with the men as old as 34-36 still living at home with mother and or sisters doing everything for that. I can say that because I have three children, one girl and two boys who were born and raised in Brazil so I had to deal with these practices from grandparents, aunts, etc. Boys are not expected to do anything IN GENERAL whereas girls are expected to do everything. I was shocked when the first Brazilian girlfriend I had started showing up an hour before dates to wash my clothes, and clean my apartment before went out. Then I found out this was normal, and if I went out with wrinkles in my clothes I literally heard a girls mother get all over her for letting me go out like that saying she was a terrible girlfriend because it was her job to take care of her man. And ALL the girls I dated there expected me to cheat “because I was a man and men can’t help themselves” but just told me not to embarrass them, apparently that was the rule. I also lived in Mexico city and found similar practices and Russia in the 90’s was even worse with lower expectations but that was freshly post fall communism so it is probably not a good example and all of these pale in comparison to the middle East. This girl doesn’t know at all what she is talking about. I killed in all these countries because I out worked locals. She is crazy American, Australian, and Canadian women have it the best in the world as far as dating is concerned. One of the reasons I moved back to the US was so that my daughter wouldn’t have to put up with this and so that my sons wouldn’t be spoiled.
It was really crazy sometimes. You would see beautiful BrZilian women doing everything fr guys that refused to move out because their mom still did everything for them at 34 years old. A friend of mine was a girl from France that met her Brazilian boyfriend while on vacation in Australia and he convinced her to come back and live with him in Brazil. So she took most of her money to buy the ticket to return with him only to find out that when he said come live with me he really meant come share a bedroom with me at my mom’s house. Guy was a lawyer and still living at home. When she got there her his mother hated her and told her she would have to get a job and pay rent but on top of that was expected to clean the entire house cook for her boyfriend, was his clothes, and so everything for him while he came home and played videogames after work. it took her almost theee years to save enough money to be able to buy a ticket to leave because she was having to pay rent (and buy all her own food on top of that, though they felt free to eat food she bought). Stories like that were common. Women do not have it easy, There was no way my daughter was going to grow up having to deal with that so after after almost two decades outside of the US I came back to raise her here. So again my point is to is woman doesn’t know what she is talking about.
Frist part of your comment.. my mom did the same thing to me, except take responsibility for your own mess after the age of 11-13. Its called culture bro.. men are usually taught to be respectful which in turn should case men to be more responsible naturally but many things for certain men causes ppl to think they are spoiled when its just the norm. A men does this and a woman does that.. spoiled? Men who work, or have ways to hustle more than other ways..
It's the culture. Women take care of the house and men go out hunting bringing home food. Also it's Brazil you don't get a car and an apartment when you turn 18. It's very common to have the family living in the same house. I mean the whole family. You made sound more dramatic than what really is.
As a Middle Eastern woman who’s in a relationship for over 6 years I just laughed at her. Because it all depends on the person you choose to be with not where you from. My husband is wonderful but a lot are not thats just the way it is anywhere. Though I agree with the gender roles aspects and I personally like it. Knowing whats on you and not makes it easier to grow stronger and trust each more
exactly personally i want a to be in a relationship where we both do our role(gender roles:i want to feel and be manly for her and be apriciated for that as i want her to feel and be feminine for me and be appriciated for that)if i meet a woman and she doesnt want that its okay i leave and look for someone who has the same points of views and common grounds as me you dont have to be with someone who doesnt see life the same as you and when it doesnt work you use the"abusif toxic relationship"card. men and women are opposite and arent equal but have equal values i like to compare men and women to food and water you cant live without one or the other both are needed because they are not the same and the beauty is this difference why would i be with a woman if she isnt that much different from a man in terms of mindset or behavior?i dont care about her body i dont see women as objects. I hope the best for your husband and you sister show him appriciation and love him for being a man.
It's funny she talks about middle eastern men like they all are the same. I've met dudes so religious they don't even go into places that serve alcohol period. Most people like her talk about how great these men are but never acknowledge the culture or what likely won't conflate with thier values. To me it's odd that they hype them up but I guarantee they will complain at the drop of a hat when they actually meet people from a very different background. Great people are great people, but also people like this chick put other groups on a pedestal without likely knowing what it means to date someone from a very different place. Also congrats girl wonderful hearing happiness I the world. Best to you and that wonderful man.
@Katy Cunningham In fairness I think its more that a good person can come from anywhere as much as a terrible one. Culture has a lot to do with it, but I think she made it more to the point of a person from the middle east, Europe or Latin America are equally as likely to be terrible people as any place else. Now culture effects a lot of elements of a person but just tlike any culture a good or bad person can come from a multitude of places.
Middle Eastern societies would do better to preserve a little traditionalism to avoid the mess that happens in the West ... in which neither women nor men are happy, at least not really happier than previous generations
@@a_vida_é_boa not really no one is rushing to the US borders for american guys but what a coincidence when american and european women make girls trip its in a latin country MEXICO BRAZIL dominican Republic, cuba, etc I think ur confusing golddigging on an american as desirability it reminds me of 90 day fiance
@@chocoflan6672 I mean I know a few women who are from Mexico and they told me never date a Mexican and they both married white men. But they both had very abusive fathers
You guys hit a lot of good points..the whole FOMO when it somes to dating..people treat their SO like a car or an iPhone where they gotta upgrade every few years. Romantisizing, fetishizing what they dont have thinking it's better without putting things into context..
It's not feminism that is ruining dating. We in eastern Europe had feminism and equality before most of the world had it because of socialism and there were no problems. It's radical individualism and capitalism that is ruining dating. All I hear on social media is me, me, me. Relationships have became transactional, people even rate other people(higher or lower value) like it's product on the market. Stop obsessing over what you want and start working on what you can give and if the other person doesn't match your effort or your expectation you move on. Eventually you'll find someone.
It's because slavery is being brought back on a global scale..... And the objective is to make those who will care weak and the rest full of so much resentment they don't....
She’s projecting her terrible experiences with men to the next man it will be a repetitive pattern in her life. However, No matter what she says, she needs therapy immediately.
Yeah classic projection. Just because you make terrible decisions in your own country, doesn't mean that all men outside of your country are somehow perfect. Turn the mirror on yourself for once.
Same energy as the guys who want to find a submissive Asian wife. Stereotyping a whole culture. There might be aspects of truth in there but be prepared for the whole package that comes with it like aba said.
Submissive Asian wives 😂😂😂 Westerners make me laugh. If you know anything about Asian women… you will realize that the majority of them are dominant and tough as a nail
That would be funny, but the men that you are talking about are in jail instead of being around their kids, having a good time and getting a job that helps society, instead we have these useless mouth breathers that consume and destroy.
When a woman has no valid argument they go straight to insulting your manhood. I love stuff like this. The fact that she is so frustrated, means the shit that guys are doing globally, giving up on dating, is working. It's straight up driving them insane. Which was the point. The dating field should be about equality. The people who re dating should be considered equal. The fact that someone think it's entirely the other person's responsibility to handle all the pursuing, all the planning, all the cost.... as if their time is such a fucking prize. It shows you how clueless some people are, and the trends that have brought us to where we are today. Dating someone, in my opinion, isn't worth my time. I'm far more happier just spending it with friends. The more names and insults these women thro at us, just further proves my point. Anyone who thinks one side should have all the power in a relationship, can fuck right off.
I was dating, first time in a long time, recently and she went to get a glass of water… guess what? She brought me one too, it was the most unexpected, but the most heartwarming thing. It had been so long since a selfless gesture had been sent my way. I hugged her on the spot and said thank you, that she had just made the world more sensible to me. Never take for granted what others do for you..
I'm really glad that both of you are appreciative of each other like that. But I also gotta agree with the guy above that something must have occurred in your past so bad, that you would hug a person just for getting you a glass of water.
Please remember that women are breeding stock for these "real men". Being treated as prey isn't cute ma'am. Also yes true what Aba and Preach said about feminism not being prevalent in Arabic countries. As awful as the dating scene can be in South Africa at least I know what to expect. I don't think fantasizing about other countries' men is the answer to any dating challenge.
great point Pamella, it's almost as if they fantasize about foreigners because they do not want solutions. it's like having green grass and then looking to another planet and saying "look at their blue grass fuck your pathetic green grass if only we had blue grass"
So some women are telling us to be persistent, if she rejects you just keep pursuing And other women are telling us if she rejects you once and you keep pursuing, you’re creepy So basically as a man we just gotta gamble 🤦🏿♂️
lmao... right? being persistent becomes "harassment" or can get you in jail nowadays. One or two messages and you leave her alone. Shes gotta open her mouth too. Were not mind readers
True to an extent. Reality is that they don't want you to be persistent if they don't find you attractive. Thing is you as a man have no idea if the rejection is genuine or just a game where the woman wants you to continually try so most men just tap out after the first rejection
It boils down to a person's preferences in their mate. Everyone's different in what they want. No need to bash a whole continent of men. Because we can easily lump her in a certain category.
The disdain for coffee dates really baffles me. I keep seeing them described as a red flag or something. While I was dating were my favourite though because it was such a pleasant, low stress way of meeting someone and seeing if you actually vibe or not. Surely the fun part of dating in the early stages is the banter, their sense of humour, gauging mutual attraction and just learning about each other, all of which require little or no money if both people are actually genuine.
@@qjtvaddict THAT'S why it's a red flag to the garden variety 304. They recognize they dealing with a cautious snake charmer not a foolish "let's get out the jeep to take a picture" tourist.
Coffee dates were my go to as well. It’s relaxed, you can do it during the day and it’s fairly low commitment, so you can bail if there’s no connection. The first date I had with my now gf was coffee too, but we just kept chilling and made it to dinner anyway.
When I first got into dating apps I matched and texted a girl consistently for 50 days (she liked snap streaks) cause she didn’t want to meet in person yet and “didn’t do calls”, i eventually realized I was just bored entertainment and stopped. After that experience I COMPLETELY stopped longing conversations that led to nothing and found someone who pursued me even more than I was pursuing her, we’re now 1 year in and happy. The effort should be coming from both ends, stop this I’m the prize nonsense. Expecting the other person to move mountains while you’re relaxing will leave you either alone or with some desperate creeps.
stop using apps, and enhance your charm and selfesteem, then go meet girls in real life. Trust me, I have a ton of experience. And then, after 50 girls you seduce in real life, go back to apps
I overheard a female co-worker say that "I'm the prize" BS and I face palmed so hard. Didn't say anything though since I was at work and it's not worth it in that setting so I just walked off thinking have fun being single for a while. Sad part is if she would fix her outlook she could easily get a long term relationship.
This is also another example of the nice guy fallacy. Guys that watch videos like this will think that all they have to do is spoil a girl and do everything for her, then she'll like them. But nah, she's dated a bunch of assholes, so clearly just being a good person isn't requirement for some
@@realty634 The reality is, most people aren't taught how to vet. Women get with whoever they find attractive and just hope it works out. This is because they have so many options. A lot of men don't vet because they have so few. They'll take what they can get
Truth. As someone who has lived across this country from North Carolina to Texas Nebraska Colorado Arizona it doesn’t matter where you just end up with a different set of problems.
I love how a lot of people on the internet say that equality is the goal and fuck gender roles, but keep on pushing gender roles on men. Like its mansplainging for someone to say "a woman should do this, act like this etc" (which I agree with, I don't like people telling me how I should live my life) but its ok for women to say " men, you should do this, and be like that"..
It's because they don't want to negotiate. They need these men to just accept the role usually foisted on them while women can do everything for a you go girl moment. It would give them power in the relationship they believe. If we accept our part they don't have to deal with demands back at them. Because we all know how feminists react to people that give them even an ounce of resistance.
The thing about equality, IMO is that men and women are completely different. We do have certain roles. BUT, equality means that my role as a woman is not less important than a man's role, which a lot of ppl believe. I'm not trying to be a man and I don't want a man who tries to be a woman..... however I'm not less than a man. This society tells women that our roles are to fulfill that of a man simply bc he's a man. Why are we raised to be slaves to men and men are raised to treat us like we're less than and see us as sex objects.... This is the point of equality of the sexes. Ppl take it as completely something else as if women are trying to be men and play a man's role which is not the point of it all.
Well men are quite happy to cook and clean for themselves, which is the cliche gender role that feminist women scream about. But what's left after that? Okay sure, sex... but then what.... exactly what does a modern woman bring to my table other than inconvenience and irritation...? To disrupt my carefully curated routine, my peace and quiet and my freedom...? Because very few of them seem to respect men at all any more.
Mansplaining isn't at all about telling women how to act or what to do. It's about explaining something to someone as though they're idiots. Women can do it too. Back when we used normal words, we'd say that they (men or women) were being condescending.
LMAOOOOO as a Colombian, can confirm that the moms told me get a white chick cause she was not sure latina's could be trusted and said most of them are buggin 😂
As someone grew up hearing Latin mothers telling their boys to get a "white girl"... it's because the white girls are more submissive to their man, and will listen to the mothers more.
@@pelosuelto70 Naw bro, it's just the underlying racism in Latino culture. I've seen it, homeboys from DR seen it and my girl who's Mexican seen it. They just like the whiteness. If you wanted submissive, you look for Latino / indian or middle eastern women
Most Arab & Latin men *WOULD NOT ALLOW* their spouses to have outspoken opinions like hers on social media platforms. She would have no voice in those respective countries. Women are currently fighting for a right to vote, she's applying Western opinions towards cultures that are Anti Western
the muslims are right. THe relationships between men and women is going south in the West. Look at marriage and birth rates. Giving women rights was americas mistake
A right to vote where? Bruhh there is no point to vote for anyone, the West (especially the US), just changes its puppets from time to time in these countries.
I'm a Swedish woman and this all sounds bonkers to me!! WHY is this courtship from men even needed? I truly don't even understand the premise of the problem she is describing? Why can't we just treat each other like human beings instead of trophies?? It amazes me how she oversimplified all cultures too, like they have the same culture in all of Latin America even? Or in Europe? 😂
@nismo510 Do you mean that it is the only aspect that affects this behavior? You know that Disney movies are translated into almost every language right? I've grown up with Disney movies, as has many people in other European countries too. I think the answer to this question is far more complex than what kind of movies you watch as a child, unfortunately.
@nismo510 Well, congratulations,I guess! LOL ANd how is it going? Are those women around you worth something, or are they just a short fun until the next comes along? Because that is the question.
As a representative of the Kabylian community,we pass on this woman who will certainly surround herself with cats very soon because they are the only living breathing creatures to bare her personality(or lack of personality rather)
@@zakiaitslimane658 Nordic Gang representative here and by degree of King and Country we send her to our Slav bros in the south before anyone get the idea to send her our way
Lol don't be fooled by this women. Being persistent is frowned upon in the country I'm in Europe too. This is despite some women (in my country) on Twitter alleging that they like persistent men repeatedly. They say this so that men that they don't want fail. If a woman finds a man attractive and wants him, there often isn't much that he won't get away with. Yeah she said these guys were persistent, but how do we know that she is telling the truth? Funny, just a couple of mins ago when I opened the link in the description box to see her TikTok video, it had been removed. I wanted to see what they were saying about the video in the comments. It makes me feel that she isn't telling the truth. Or perhaps they were cooking her like Plantain in the comments and she couldn't handle it. 🤔
Exactly, the same thing that she’s saying that she wants is the same thing that she’ll classify as creepy and harassment. This lady is not to be taken seriously.
Here's the deal: Go ahead and date whoever tha hell you want, just DON'T SHAME people who you don't want/would not date. We should leave people alone with their dating preferences, but we should also leave people alone with their mental health and in peace with themselves.
I agree but it’s just not always possible. The same people you ask to not shame are the same ones complaining on why they are suffering and keep getting into relationships or entanglements that are not fruitful. They have no self awareness and they be needing that reality check. And I’m sorry these trendy buzzwords such as mental health kill me. People are being victimized and staying a victim all while trying to play hero/advocate. You can’t have it both ways.
@@lonnieleach9761 LOL the fact that you think MENTAL HEALTH is nothing but a "trendy word" really says a lot more about you than about me or anybody else you may disagree on this subject. Mental Health problems related to bullying, lookism, hightism, etc are serius matters and blaming the victims and keep giving a pass for toxic social standards is not a great thing to do in my opinion. Can't we EVEN TRY to be nicer to each other??? Sorry but i can't joke or minimize something that literally makes people end their own lives.
@@jonasbsj1 My point has been overlooked. The social standards you speak of that are toxic are made up of victims who create more victims due to a weak mental health. There's a difference in it being trendy and being nothing but a trendy word. All you hear these days are people focusing on their mental health because it is a real focus point in todays high stress society which doesnt help when people induldge in habits they should remove themselves from in majority of cases. Alot of cry wolf activity when alot of people are going through it such as the ones ending their lives, since you want to point that out. I believe we our desensitizing mental health and alot of people are misdiagnosing themselves.
That's your first problem Going out of your way to please anybody but yourself That's why these idiots have the arrogance they do because they know got power over certain ppl
@@GAS.MASK1 I know my limits and boundaries and stick to them. I'm no doormat. Just pointing out that you're always going to piss someone off, no matter what. That's just life. Everyone isn't going to like you all the time.
Aba hit the nail on the head there. As a female, I have NOOOO problem doing the cooking and the cleaning and whatever else. However, I DOOO have a problem when I'm expected to do it without any sort of appreciation. I show appreciation for the fact that my man works hard, BY putting a nice dinner on the table and making sure to keep his work clothes clean for morning and rubbing his shoulders if he says he's in pain that day. So if I'm doing those things to show appreciation for him, it'd be nice to get a little ass slap and a "Thanks love!" every now and then lmao.
Hahahahahahaha.... your man shows you his appreciation by going out and working his azz off and bringing home his earnings to keep his home paid and stock.
@@equityjustice2695 Then it should be appreciated that I require a lot less than most women. All I asked for was an ass slap and a measly thank you. Is that so hard, or are you still single too? Lol
Men are damned if we do & damned if we don't... that's the world we be living. Also, love you guys on this! Spot on. Also, I love when Americans fail to realize how good it is here, and how progressive America is compared to many other countries.
@AileDiablo one... I am not sure what you said in full but I think I got most of it. Two, being "manly" is not real. Being a man differs on ones culture. Middle eastern men are manly, yes sure, but no more manly than Asian, American, or any other kind of men out there. As there is no correct way in being a man. Thirdly, Racism is an issue around the world within every community no matter the placement. Fourth, if you ever delve in the middle eastern culture you'll see more racism and sexism than in the states hands down.
I just want to know what constitutes "hitting on girls". Is talking about touchy and/or sexual subjects hitting on girls? What constitutes creepy exactly? What is creepy for one girl might just be irresistibly sexy for another girl. (Or guy if the roles are flipped).
But what is wrong with high standard? Im a beautiful girl so i want a rich man but being independent still. Nothing wrong with preferences. If u are making minimum wage then im sorry but i dont see future with u. Its the same with man most of them dont want a fat ugly girl jeeez
Everytime I watch a dating advice video (from men or women), I just revel in the fact that I'm married. Been together for 11yrs going on 12. The dating environment these days is like they're playing Jenga.
as a young 25 year old bricklayer, it seems to be that at least 30-40% of people around me have clinical narcissism. i'm not villifying narcissists - it's just what i see. i see a generation of people around me who never developed interest in other people. perhaps that's what happens when our 12 year olds back in 2010 were taking selfies. what the fuck is a selfie, and why is my generation ADDICTED to posting pictures of their edited, fake face. very curious to see what happens - i forsee a generation that may be 50% narcissists, and the other 50% being the ones giving supply. interesting times man at least we have VR and not the typhoid flu, different century different flavors.
Back in 2004-5 my friend was dating a girl from France. She told him she hated French men. They were obnoxious to her. The only think I was told she missed about living in France was the deodorant not being as fragrant as in the USA.
I feel like, for both men and women, there is no winning. We have become too adversarial instead of respectful and genuine. These blanket assumptions are just plain harmful to both genders.
There is hope for men to win, stop playing the game. In general we men can live HAPPILY alone and as proven by the increasing intensity by these women to wrangle men back into our former role, women cannot .
@@richardbossman9875 that's funny because I'm hearing more and more women saying they prefer being single for the very same reason. I think we're all reaching a collective boiling point.
I'm a Saudi Arabic American, I don't think that this lady understands what it's like in the middle east. You don't get courted, you get sold off. Lmao Smh
@@jayantiraphael8655 Larping k-f-r got caught. PS: It's called "Saudi Arabian" not "Saudi Arabic". If you're going to impersonate them, at least be believable.
I’m engaged now, and I met my fiancé through a dating app. It kills me these girls expecting men to pay for every single date with no sort of attachment and to be the ones to suggest it. I suggested a date most of the time for simple coffee at a shop. I could pay for my own coffee, it was in public, and if I felt uncomfortable for some reason I could easily leave. And even now that I’m engaged we split who pays when. Sometimes he’s doing better and has more money for the week and wants to treat me, sometimes he spent a lot on bills and I buy us dinner that week. Sometimes we just go Dutch. Some people can be so entitled to what they think they deserve and never think about what the other person deserves. A relationship is a two way street and these girls showing how they really only believe it goes one way.
@Marie Baker To quote another A&P video, everyone should put their 100% best effort. Whatever effort you can bring to the best of your ability, always do your part, man or woman. Put in the work as a team or this shit is gonna work out. I don't like the 50/50 myself cause its harder to balance or gauge what that 50% is. Just do your part.
I'm an American woman who has lived in Italy and France. Yes, they are persistent, and as a woman (almost overly aggressive), I didn't have to do much. This is not because of the reasons she mentioned. The cultures are different. Men are more just assertive, the men there can be turned off by an aggressive woman. The men are the initiators, they take the lead in these countries not because they are not lazy, but because it's the culture. Also, in Italy, the women and men complained about each other, and it was the same in France. Not all American men are "lazy" they are just tired of us going off on them when they approach us or have a stank attitude. We talk a lot about men, but ladies we also need to do better, you get what you put out.
The “pursuit” is antithetical to everything currently being taught about dating. To keep pushing until it borders coercion is creepy as fuck and women cannot decide if they like it or not. It seems that women only want to be pursued by men they are already interested in and end up turning away a lot of others. So men stop making the first move, and now when the realization that a majority of men were the ones getting rejected sets in, it is STILL the man’s fault for not trying despite getting every signal to stop. Most men do not really want to step on toes, so when women say they are not interested, they stop trying. It is not a “nice guy” thing to respect boundaries. There needs to be a discussion about dating because a lot of men are getting confused, getting rejected, and turning to redpill/incel circles to vent, where their cathartic, emotive rants are getting upvoted - and that does not bode well for anyone.
the solution is to have men stop pursuing women. Women should pursue men and initiate everything until the dynamics change and the genders can empathize with each others' experiences. Therefore men should stop pursuing women until that happens. But men want to get laid and find love so bad that they'll simp for all of the gender roles that feminists who feel entitled to feel desired don't want to challenge, and keep pursuing and initiating. And men do that bc they want to feel "better" than other men by having more sex. Even though that approval is coming in based on women's standards for men's behavior and often bc they fear fear being called an "incel" by some thot or bluehair imo. Or bc you're a conservative who thinks men should initiate everything and should "give everything" to women lmao.
@@sub-harmonik think a lot of men are walking away to be honest. This is leaving the extremes... the simp / losers on one end and the extreme alphas on the other end that give zero Fs. Then women's expereinces are true that they are horrible, just that isn't all men. Just the men that are still bothering to take part. The middle that are just normal respectful etc are walking away. Hell there are even comments in this thread of young men saying they have stopped bothering. Given mens natural biological desires to be with women, it really highlights how toxic dating has become for normal guys. A strange thing I have noticed with my female friends when I was dating was how they simply did not believe the toxic crap I was dealing with from women. Kept coming back to, it must be you or something you did but we know you are a great guy. Got annoyed enough that i started to take screenshots just of profiles on dating sites, most could not believe what they was seeing. Women have a huge disconnected on just how toxic many of there own are. Of course given we live in a society with a constant narrative that men are trash and women are amazing it is hardly surprising. Of course the real narrative should be there are amazing men and women, average men and women and totally trash men and women.
@@David-xt5ob yeah I'm one of them (tho I'm kinda old). And I don't think women deserve respect unless they're prepared to give it either. idc if that's considered "abnormal".
@@David-xt5ob "normal guys". So many people these days want "extraordinary". To be fair, not only women. But a lot of men want more too. It just seems to be affecting us more, because it's harder for us to land dates than it is for women. But as you say, women will now have to deal with extremes. Men with decently balanced tempers can usually weigh out pros and cons much better than the two extremes that you mentioned. This could be why they're the ones who are in hiding.
@@David-xt5ob This is correct. I can't even drink yet and I don't plan on pursuing women. If it happens, it happens, but I'm not gonna go to bars, parties or join clubs and do sports to date. Also refuse to touch dating apps. So much can go wrong that the juice isn't worth the squeeze. I see so many vidoes telling ppl with STD's that they should still date and do stuff bc it's not their fault they have it and it's just a few sores anyways. Not to mention that theres no way to protect myself when having consensual sex from a girl just lying and lying I r@ped her.
It’s hilarious when a person takes their own anecdotal experience and then states it’s a universal fact. Wait until she gets her heart broken by these dudes and then 180’s her entire logic.
"I hate when men come up and talk to me while I'm while walking, and these men aren't real because they don't pursue me, and I hate when they wanna tell me they think I'm cute." Can we come to an agreement and just give single dudes stars to where if single and A's if they are on relationships like Nazi's and Jews. Effing ridiculous. This is why all you went are single, no one wants to deal with your craziness double standards.
It's as simple as this, whenever you make an assumption about a whole group, you will always be wrong. The fact is putting down american men is not going to do anything or make what you're saying anymore true.
Her issue is that SHE is spoiled. Her privilege has her believing she is entitled to a specific kind of courtship and when she doesn't get that she is able to sound of the alarm and treat us as if we are this monolith. The fact that SHE insists that its men who have to do all the work rather than HER having to put forth the work to strategize and navigate new terrain tells you everything.
women are wired to be this way, unless they have low self esteem. Most men don't even respect women that they don't put in work to get. i have seen women make it easy for a man and he takes her for granted. A man has to prove himself, because the nature of the game many men are predatory and out for sex. Women end up in the losing end if she is an "easy catch" for a man.
@@f4yforever775 the opposite is also true tho. Women also don't respect men whom they don't "work for" and "win over". It's just a human nature to value the things we put effort and investment into. So, yes we as men should pursue women and put effort, but should also expect women to do at least as much and also make it obvious that they're interested as well by their actions.
THANK you so much for this video! I was just talking to my cousin about this type of thinking and how harmful it is, last night! The generalizations are triggering for me! Stop DOING that shit lol You don't have to insult ALL BLACK WOMEN just to date an asian, latina, or russian woman. Just like I don't have to insult ALL black men because I want to date hispanic men or something. Just DATE THEM! lol It's madness that we do that to each other. I understand that we do have to call our people out on bull shit we do across the board in order to reach a mutual resolve, but saying we're all not shit and never were is NOT how we bring each other together. Back to the drawing board, PLEASE lol
The fact that she even made this video shows she has no idea how these other cultures she's referring to really work and their views and standards for relationships.
I can’t stand when people try to make us seem exotic, with latin lover stereotypes and shit. They clearly have not spent enough time around more latinos, and it places these weird standards on you
Idk man... I been all over the world. To 5 out of the 7 continents. Latin America is definitely exotic and hypersexual. Just look at the dances you have.
@@purplelove3666 the only kind of people judging you for that are men who are trying to smash and dash on you. It’s filtering out the wrong kind of people
At 9:40, as a Filipino, yes men pursue women here but women generally don't act entitled. I'll just say that people are consistent when they feel value in what they're doing. Same is true for men. Men here are consistent because women tend to be grateful and considerate. They make it easy for men to be consistent. What this woman doesn't understand is that the women in these places affect how men move and vice versa. It can't be just men. Women definitely had a part to play as to why men in America are like that.
Ironically you both preach real feminism. I would call it common sense but both terms don't have meaning anymore. As a 27-yo guy from Germany I say keep breaking barriers in a healthy way. You guys are doing a lot for all men out here, respect.
@Vince Nav That's faxx. I used to call myself a feminist not so long ago and got to witness the toxicity that consistently emanates from that cesspool of clowns. (Misandrists have high jacked the community). Egalitarianism is really what Aba and Preach are putting forth in this channel and its honestly a breath of fresh air.
They preach what feminism should preach, but never has, and likely never will. Sure you might find a few feminists with an actual idea of equality but the movement itself has never been this. Only claimed to be. “Real” feminism is exactly what most of it is. Garbage.
I just don't understand the dating world now (never understood it to be frank) to me if you're in a relationship and are in love you do things for your lover because you love them, and vice versa these "expectations" people have or "roles" they "require" you to be, is baffling to me... am I not a human being? Don't I have my own thoughts and expectations? I'll never expect my lover to do anything unless they want to because they love me... I guess my expectations aren't real if this is how people are viewing the other... it's why I just accept that I will more than likely die alone...
This is the truth. Everyone is so self entitled. Screw all of them. I do it cuz I want to. Not cuz I have to. You want something tell me, if I chose not to or we can’t reach a middle ground and you don’t feel loved , appreciated or understood then you can leave but to sit here and say I deserve this I deserve that, you deserve nothing until you’ve earned it. Put into the relationship what you wanna get out of it. Love isn’t about you it’s about wha you do for your partner and how you make them feel. And vice versa for them. These women are mad toxic talking about what a man should be. Stop selling us stuff we don’t want. Figure out what men want cuz the good men figure out what y’all want and that’s why y’all want us. There are no good women that aren’t taken. If you are alone it’s cuz you choosing wrong or you aren’t a good woman. Point blank period. Ain’t no man letting go of a good woman. Period. We don’t want to two problems, we want peace and I will never get peace with a woman but I sure will have periods of peace with just one. Happiness is fleeting, content can be forever. These women are chasing a feeling, and it’s lust. Nothing more nothing less.
I think how you view relationships is just fine and completely realistic. I know that nowadays it seems like people have become overly ridiculous, especially in the realm of dating. Please don't lose hope though. I'm not trying to say that life is all about being in a relationship, there are plenty of people that thrive just fine without being in one. Seeing you mention "dying alone", is really what broke my heart though. I don't think anyone should have to feel this way. Even if you're not in a romantic relationship doesn't necessarily mean you have to die alone. I can guarantee there are plenty of people that love you and care for you that you may not even be aware of. And who knows, some day you just may find someone that has the same realistic ideals of a relationship that you do, if that's something you're interested in of course, no pressure. Keep your head up and stay optimistic, this world isn't as dark as it seems, there still are shafts of light that shine through, and you deserve happiness and love 💕
I think the modern perception of roles is a problem. The value of knowing what role you have in a relationship is immense. When you know what you are supposed to do there is clarity when there is a problem. That is not to say roles can't evolve but if you don't have a basic understanding of what you expect from a relationship. You are banking on your capacity to discern problems on the fly during intense moments. Don't lose your perspective on love but love requires discipline sometimes that is guided via your role. This is less true today as we are richer but understand we didn't always have the free time to find out what each person wants at any given moment. To an extent we still don't today.
All relationships have roles, especially formal ones like marriages. Its about polarity more than anything. Without polarity all relationships fall apart.
I’ve traveled all over the world and one of my pet peeves (which I heard frequently) was whenever a person made a sweeping statement like, ‘the men/women in x country are so x,y,z”. It’s so ignorant.
Me, a European girl: getting 'courted' as it's called, barely happens. Because everyone is independent and everyone can get some. It comes with the territory. It is what it is. If you wanna be courted, go find someone who wants to do that. But it's not specific to your country or our continents loll
As a european man: yes, I have no idea why I should pay for all dates. You're independent so we can split those bills. In regards to going up to women, it's because it takes a lot of energy and effort and most of the time it's not appreciated so I don't do it anymore. don't know what you mean with "everyone can get some" though
@@tvdd9514 everyone can get some means in today's age you don't have to marry to have sex. So everyone can go out and get what they want without having to commit. And that's fine, but if you want something super serious, you gotta work for it to find it.
@@rivkathegreat although I agree with your statement, as a man I have to disagree. Maybe this is possible for you (and women in general) but I know plenty of men who can't get what they want in regards to sexual/romantic attention.
@@tvdd9514 it not a matter of actually doing it, but the options are more open nowadays. You don't have to wed someone just to fuck, do you? So its the same for you as me as anyone else.
Thank the feminazis for that. They destroyed the whole idea of dating standards. They only teach you to be a slut and kill your babies by calling it abortion.
The gender wars is becoming tiresome, I hear the same constant thing on both sides. We are so tied up with roles and what each gender must do instead of genuine respect. These podcasts were the worst things created
I feel you. Its tough though because part of genuine respect is hearing each other out. Both sides want to be heard but sometimes neither side is willing to listen. But those that chose to listen and be responsive to what each side is saying and affirm each person then it'll work out. But each side mostly concerned about themselves and what they aren't getting is just going to keep things going the way they are, and it's definitely not working
So it right here 😭 you know I got SO sick of it, I just decided I’m gunna just roll with the roles 😂 my life has been so much easier since instead of arguing who does what and men vs women. My partner and I have never been going better, wish I’d just accepted what I wanted years ago instead of being caught up in it, I’d be much further ahead if I had 😂
@@barbarawoods1372 wym roll with the roles? As in whatever roles bet suited you, you just took it? Or you get let the traditional roles fall naturally?
A few studies found that "rape" sex fantasy is rather high up on the list .. It's all fun and games until the guy gets accused of stalking or even rape once she changes her mind after the one night stand... It's ironic how often these women want the "mantis/black widow" power available
Let’s be honest, I’ve seen this double standard across a lot of female-only entertainment like comics and shows. It’s only rapey if he’s unattractive, but the minute the male lead is hot, anything goes
@@VampyBlood17 And what hurts the most is that you'd think there'd be a cutoff but no, you're totally right... ANYTHING goes. 50 shades is an example but it's everywhere. They can be as creepy as they wanna be as long as they are attractive, but meanwhile I feel like just cause I'm born ugly I have zero chance to begin with. Even if I have to mention them as a necessity, with no romantic interest, I get looked at like it's an insult. "Hey, I was told to tell you (manager) wants you for a second" I get looked at with utter disgust. I guess I just don't "know my place" and I'm too wretched to be treated like another human. Meanwhile, you see the tall social guys getting away with murder and there's no consequence
@@VampyBlood17 There's another version of that which goes, if he's attractive, then he's the lead of 50 Shades of Grey, but make him unattractive and he's gonna be in an episode of Criminal Minds 😂
As someone who has been well exposed to the balkan, latino and middle eastern communities I have seen that the men often don't treat the women that well.
As an arab from Iraq, I can tell you.. Most marriage in my parents generation are marriage with no love (not my parents but you get what I'm saying) and they just learned to live with it. Reason they also stay in marriage is out respect and honor which they lose upon divorce and to stay loyal for same reasons. Throughout history Arabs always cared about the traditional things like honor and reputation, it certainly hasn't changed, not even in the new generations. Just the other day I heard some 17 year old kid killed his sister cause she began smoking/doing whatever she wants because she became a feminist (her family were like extreme Muslims). While it's by no means right to justify murder but as someone of that culture, I can understand why he would did it. Reason why I do is because I've lived with these people to understand their mindset and values, and they regard honor as their top priority which that young lady supposedly tainted/disgraced. And no, it's not about religion, it's about culture. Often times even Muslims that live in European/American countries move their culture as well to their respective country they live in and try to somehow make a connection between Islam and their culture, like bruh wtf 😂😂
I do think love is very important in a marriage. But so to is what your people do, honor and respect. I think the person that can successfully mix both, will have a very happy marriage.
As an Arab from Morocco i can see that you have been intellectually molested and cucked by western liberalism and feminism. Maybe your parents don't love each other, but we don't define love according to the degeneracies of Hollywood, our definition of love is that you get married first and and you treat each other with respect and compassion , speak softly to each other and sacrifice for one another and that's how love gradually grows, our definition is right because it works between any man and woman as long as there is attraction between them . The idea that you are special and have a soulmate somewhere and you need to keep sleeping around until you meet that person is a lie and it destroys the marriage and family institution, and it is making both men and women miserable in those society where marriage is disappearing and more than half the marriages fail.
@@Hamzaben9 That's not what I said. First of all, my parents married out of love, I stated the exception. Just because I know a lot of people that have married out of love doesn't mean majority of population have done so based on my personal observations, what I said isn't a biased opinion neither is it mine, it's a general fact. Just because someone doesn't get into an arranged marriage doesn't mean they have to sleep around women/men to find a person worthy of marriage. There are people in the middle east who meet people and date for a long time before getting married. While this doesn't only apply to middle east, you can't just generalize western culture and claim that's all what they do, because I still know some people who are religious Christians/Jews that don't want sex before marriage THAT LIVE in the western culture, just like the people in the middle east. With all due respect, that idea of arranged marriage was something tribal that was used to unite tribes and families and most cases was just to reproduce.. for many different reasons. Life was harder than it is right now. Yesterday's responsiblities are today's choices, the world evolved, and so did we.
I realized recently that we expect high standards of each other, our friends, our families, our dates, or partners, strangers, politicians, customer service workers. But we have forgotten to hold ourselves to a high standard, we owe it to ourselves to be as precious a commodity as we pretend we are. The only problem is that it takes hard work and lots of effort to work on ourselves, so it's easier to force others to treat us how we want. We make ourselves an almost immovable wall that doesn't allow for the humanity of others because we deserve better, even though we don't work on our own flaws.
I'm Mexican and FUCK NO! I'm not chasing anyone, nor doing all the work, if you don't bring something positive into my life then I don't need you, this girl is the perfect example of why we are staying single now. Guess what! us man nowadays know how to cook, iron clothes, do everything around the house even more than women, and that's why we don't care to stay single, and if all you can bring is sex, then that's all we're going to want you for.
Amen I'm half Puerto Rican and Africa American who grew up with only female in the house. My mama told me "You're going to cook, you clean, and show respect. If a woman doesn't like you because of the way I raised you she ain't it for you mijo." Love ain't about what they can do for me or what I can do for them. it's about can we ride the low tides and the high waves? What can we do for each other.
@Soul Data That's because you are one of the few mate, you know damn well here in Latinamerica there are tons, I mean TONS of SIMPS, willing to be treated like crap. Well, some are crap too to be fair.
@@eddygiron2390 Is it really that bad down there? I feel like in the States men have are giving up and walking away. We still have a lot of simps. But most guys around my way use women for sex. I don't blame them either because that's all modern American women are good for.
@@savagewaifu4694 Oh yeah, it is, no lying no exaggeration either. Lived every single of my 39 years in Guatemala, not leaving this place, I love it, however, from all over Latinamerica, I've seen how so many "men" (more likes dudes) as long as they get a piece of something (and it doesn't have to be a kiss!!!), are willing to put up with shaming and other male humilliating psychosocial situations. It depends too, on each individual, and the kind of approach they make at the beginning that gets tagged and involved in more nasty and unfructful relationships. Cute and slightly funny avatar you have there.
Completely untrue, my girl pursued me she’s South American, she says the same bs about the men there, that they cheat abuse etc, we met and yea I treat her well but damn I got it 100 percent in return from her, best relationship I’ve had married 6 years now.
I love how what feminism has created where, “no means no,” don’t pursue women, leave women alone when they reject you, men should stop and not pursue women, in fact men are creepy when they relentlessly pursue women is now allegedly men being “spoiled,” and what feminism cried for for so long is now what is blaming men for not pursuing women. It’s like women got what they want but not really what they want and they still want the best of the old with the best of the new. You know what she really wants? She wants a handsome, tall, well built, millionaire dude to pursue her and she keeps turning him down but he’s relentlessly still trying. She doesn’t want a relationship, she wants a hallmark movie, where her just _existing_ as a woman should be enough to attract the wealthiest and best of men.
Everybody wants the benefits of a "traditional" spouse, but don't wanna' be traditional themselves...
This. Women are being like: He needs to make six figures but we gotta hire a maid so she does all the housework even if I stay home. And the men are like: She needs to be a virgin and never call me out on anything whilst she does all the housework and I am unemployed playing videogames all day.
This.
@@cherryhazard8002 Where are the men saying anything remotely close to that BS you're claiming men want today?
@@torachan23 incel forums
@@cherryhazard8002 haha exactly
I'm a white European, Nordic man. This woman is missing the point of equality.
I'm not chasing a woman, period. Either she puts work into the courtship and relationship, or I am gone. If I am going to be in this for you, you better be in this for me.
Been in a relationship for 8 years, it works. There are rough patches. But we both do the work.
That’s the way it’s supposed to be both people investing their time and energy in each other.
That is how it should be. 😎👍
Funny thing is men literally just adjusted to what is happening in the world. Most of it started by women. Men got the list of things that made them toxic and now they have responded likewise. Men see no point in relationships anymore. If a man doesn't want a family he doesn't see the point. Even if he gets the family he's held hostage to the one thing he wants and can be destroyed at any moment.
Happy for you.
In an almost 2 year relationship with a white guy, we both put in the effort, I didn't play games and neither did he. Bam, almost a month later after meeting each other and we are dating.
He is a wonderful guy, but we have had our rough parches too, but the important thing is that at the end of the day, we are still together and companions.
Relationship means companionship.
This woman has never been to europe for sure 😂 wtf is she on about
I never understand when people say you shouldn't praise a man for doing things their "supposed" to do. If my husband does something that I would otherwise have to do myself if I was single, he's going to get a thank you; just like he thanks me for things I'm "supposed" to do.
Your relationship sounds nice. That's good and not common on this days.
Exactly!
Exactly! My husband finds it weird when I thank him because he sees himself as a provider and what he's supposed to do. I am still fortunate and grateful for all he does.
That's just another example of a toxic mindset... ain't nobody 'supposed' to do nothing fo nobody, so the fact that your so does something nice fo you should be rewarded with at least a thank you, both men and women, if you just expect things ppl gonna get sick of always doing and never receiving... it's called mutual respect....
@@domm5715 idk if you're disagreeing but that is what OP was saying
I'm Latina and I haven't laughed so much in a while. Y'all speak the facts. When my parents got married my mom laterally told my dad "If you're going to cheat on me do it well, do it so at least I don't find out"🤡 I'm 120% I have some illegitimate brother roaming around somewhere in Colombia.
@@jonprince7489 what are you talking about, lmao what your saying doesn't make sense 100% incorrect
@@crisikingful get off your feelings.. then it will.
who have the highest incomes in America?
Asians.
you think culture doesnt matter? then why do mexicans eat more tacos than any other race?
again, EVERY CULTUTURE has their habits of living. Sadly for blackz.. they have mostly BAD habits.
@@jonprince7489 what the fuck? Africans in America are among one of the top earners and work extremely hard in academia and in the work force. My African parents immigrated here and set me up for LIFE, they gave me all the best things under the condition that I work hard in school. Sorry that your viewpoint on culture is so narrow that you reduce people to disgusting stereotypes. I dare you to go up to an African and say that to their face, with YOUR broke ass lmfaoo.
Colombia . Nuff said
@@jonprince7489 i grew up in a white Mexican household still more family oriented but no wealth to speak of lol
I love Aba's comment: "Your definition of effort is just presenting yourself and looking good. Men got to look good, put in the efforts, court you, say the right things, emotionally and financially invest on the whole thing. You just have to be present." And Preach saying: "No, no... And MAYBE, MAYBE you get a thing!" That little dialogue explains everything and hit the bullseye!!
"That little dialogue explains everything and hit the bullseye!!" it really does, you can essentially some up her way of thinking just by that comment
Don't talk to me! I am famous! Don't dislike my good good GOOD videos! Don't talk to me, dear niko
Yeah l liked how they included that small fact. I always hated how women demanded so much from me and expected me to do this and when it the time came to ask them if they wanted something serious, they hit me with the “I don’t owe you a relationship just because you did things people in relationships do” and than you have that women ranting how about I’m shet and that I’m controlling and entitled while purposely leaving out all the good things I did and than you have her fellow woman say “yas queen 👸 💅” “you choose what’s best for you” or “yeah girl he’s such an incel” I think behavior like this is why men don’t approach much as they use to let alone give compliments.
And also, when aba said it’s important to be grateful, I tell that to woman all the time. I’ve seen woman complain about how men usually go to Starbucks or Dutch bros for the first date option and how cheap men are for suggesting like girl be grateful someone is into you that they want to spend their time with you. Than they complain when a man doesn’t pursue them further when they say no at first and get mad and creeped out when you keep trying. Man bruh why was I born a heterosexual smh 🤦🏽♂️
Ya and the funny thing is nowadays feminism has helped make presenting yourself and looking good not even a requirement. If that's expected it's misogynistic and they'd say "wow how dare you if I don't live up to your impossible beauty standards then too bad" now me personally, I'm not even like that, come as you are. But if women like this wanna act like this then this type of response is what they should expect 👀
As a gay man, I feel so sorry for you straight men, and the shit y'all have to deal with.
My ex husband was an immigrant from Iraq. He was okay at first but soon turned abusive and manipulative. My boyfriend now was born and raised in the US and he’s a wonderful man. My point: being an asshole is entirely dependent on the individual.
Did you provoke him?
@@rammos9171 lol
@@rammos9171 by not agreeing with him like everything he said was my new religion?
@@rachelkashmir7625
If it was so bad, why did you marry him?
@@xMaoxoaMx Not everybody shows his true colors at the beginning, especially middle east men.
I have lived in multiple Caribbean countries, NYC and in London. I can personally say men are men no matter where you go. There are good ones and bad ones and you cant paint everyone with the same brush just based on your personal opinion. Many of the times we attract what we are so if you're mean toxic and snobby dont expect to attract a loving, kind and wholesome man. We have to be the best version of ourselves in order to attract the love we desire. It has nothing to do with where you are only the mindset you take with you.
Get what you give. Check what you're giving by what you got not by checking people for what you gave.
Facts. The generalizations that she made were very offensive and really need her head checked.
Really? I feel like men are very different even in different states within the US, sometimes even different cities in the same state, based on the places I've lived. I totally agree with you about attracting certain types of people by how you act yourself being a larger part of the equation though.
I think she is right at some point. As an European I can see two main differences in the dating culture.
1) casual dating does not really exist in Europe,I mean in the same scale as in us. The idea that one person goes to multiple dates with multiple people and then chooses one to date is weird. So it's either people are invested into the one person and don't go to offer dates or its about sex etc... And not real relationship.
2) feminism means different things in Europe. There basically don't exist those angry feminists who want to blame men for everything and feminists acknowledge the differences between men and women, they just want the same opportunities and being treated with respect. They don't want to fight men or any like men
@@morrisnakes You have a snake in your hair.
I've been with my wife for 10yrs. Married for 6. I still thank her for every meal, everything she does, specifically things she didn't need, or have to do. An she does the same. The little things make all the difference in the long run!
Don’t you just love it what a woman tries to define what a “real man” is? 😂
Have you seen a manosphere video.....all they talk about is what a real woman is
ALL sexes need to stop doing this ish.
Even funnier when trans men define masculinity.
@@ventriced7608 no, they talk about what a real wife is. Two separate things IMO.
@@ventriced7608 yeah and they foolish too
The first date my husband and I went on was a walk. No coffee no nothing just a walk. It was amazing we got to know one another. We went on walking dates for weeks before we even went to a restaurant. We spent hours walking and talking. When we finally went out together we went to the beach for a walk and went to Denny’s to eat it was perfect. To this day when we need to recharge our couple battery we take a walk and talk about whatever comes to mind. It’s a simple thing that brings us both back together and it is amazing. The love I have for my husband is so great I didn’t know I could love another human so deeply and immensely. I truly believe our relationship is a gift from the heavens!! Ladies don’t discount the simple things because ultimately married life is simple. With work, kids, and a household to tend to most of the time life is mundane. Find someone you can do nothing with and still be happy. Find joy in the little things and your life will be so much more joyful!!
Same story. We were both broke students our dates were gelato cappuccino or 1 euro pizza slice🤣🤣🤣🤣 n now I m a housewife to a HVM.
Not a woman but this is amazing advice.
That is wholesome as fuck
@@wolfzai786 what do you mean by high value man, like rich?
Great! Most of Women value only restaurants. You want to meet, restaurant, you want to talk.. restaurant. Walk and talk....hell no. Spoil me spoil me
So men can't define women's roles, but women can make whole ass videos talking about what "real men" are.....I hate it here.
She's wwatched way too many movies I think
Women: “Just fuck you in particular”
I don't know how you time traveled but teach me please. Also it's because they live in a patriarchy that they get to define a man's role and not vice versa. How do you not understand that?
There is a reason I stopped paying attention to a lot of what women say a real man is or should be doing.
@@stevenleblanc8146 Who lives in a patriarchy?
I can debunk this woman's argument with one word. MACHISMO. Do you know how many Latin women avoid dating Latin men because of this trait alone? I don't need to say more.
What is that
@@khrisstake2210 machismo means that men like to play the tough guy who takes what he wants, never accepts the word NO, it's kind of an annoying trait for people to have, but he is not going to pull that hopeless romantic BS or even cook for women lol
@@khrisstake2210 it's the Latino version of toxic masculinity
Bruh i have so many aunties and cousins telling me to go after the "guerito" because they are so much liberal and less demanding than latin men. Im like omg STFU already 🙄.
that's that not true Brandon! , they chase Jose like crazy bro ! they be chasing they Latino man like crazy , they even make videos claiming Latino men are the best .
She generalizes all of the men due to her poor choices in Middle Eastern men. She already has a flaw in her logic so there’s no need to even think she’s correct at all.
aba and preach make it seem like all women are like her so i guess we quits
There are a ton of middle eastern men who beat their girls where i live.
Thats not rare.
No American men are too girly
Don't be too hard on her. I bet she's just grumpy cause she can't a get a guy to stay with her, after the first night in bed. A lot women get like her when they can't hold down a long term relationship. My advice ladies stop blaming men for your problems its toxic. If you want to keep a good man, its simple- keep his stomach full and his balls empty.
@@myname-mz3lo
No just most women date garbage men and then complain about why they only date garbage men. Then bitterly paint all men with the same brush just because they make terrible choices.
She is the perfect example of what I’ve telling people about women wanting a wedding and not a marriage, a baby not raise a child. I’m a woman I said what I said
Facts. A lot of women see the cute couple moments on social media, but they never show disagreements, conflict, or compromise. All of which are essential for healthy relationships to work out. In a good relationship, my happiness is your happiness, your sadness is my sadness. When I win, you win. When you win, I win.
@@legend-pq1qi beautifully articulated!!!! Too many people are focused on what they can get rather than give.
Wmn want guarenreed money.
@@am-vy1fb men want a maid
You're right, a lot of women are like that, and I'm a woman too.
First, you can’t generalize men like that. It has to do with how they were raised and taught to treat others.
I was born in the USA by Cuban born parents. I learned and grew up in a traditional Cuban home. Women took care of the home and the man was responsible for financially taking care of the family.
Unfortunately some of these Cuban men (as well as other Latino cultures) also had the mentality that if I’m meeting my responsibilities then I can do whatever I want (ie…..cheating, physical abuse……etc.)
But in our case my mom also taught my sisters & I to be independent.
Our biological father was abusive to us but God blessed us with an amazing stepdad (also Cuban).
Bottom line do NOT generalize men, there’s good and bad in ALL people.
I'm sorry you had to go through that
@@sxlxmxndvgxd thank you for your compassion. I should also mention that with everything my biological dad did to my mom and us, our mom never spoke a bad word about him. Not from fear I can assure you, but her reasoning was “good or bad, he’s your dad and loves you very much”. He had a drinking and drug problem at the time. Thank God he sobered up years later and we had a wonderful relationship with him until the day he passed away. I admired my mom very much for being who she was and raising us as she did. We were very blessed that our parents and step-parents got along so well.
Amen
100% about how ur raised (and it sounds like your mom raised you amazing).
i thought it was basic af to know that individuals are individuals and their country/ethnicity/nationality/etc. is not a representation of who they are. i did not think we needed a f*ckin conversation for this. that woman irks me so badly because she can't stop and think for one second how terrible of a mind she has around this
@@jeanettedominguez1885 Bless your mom for her strength, and you for yours.
As an Arab man I would like to say that we do not in fact pursue women. That’s Haram 😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I’m from Argentina, therefore I’ve only dated latino men and surprise, surprise; they are individuals with their own personality and complexity. I’m so tired of people generalizing men and women because of their nationality.
Edit: Cheating happens, no matter what country you live in. There are 33 countries in Latin America with completely different cultures but somehow it all comes down to latino men always cheating and latinas being loud and spicy. I know generalizing it’s a fun game, specially if you had a bad experience with someone from a different nationality or if you read some cool statistics online (which you should, the internet is 100% reliable) but in all seriousness, I don’t like attributing things like cheating to a person only because of their country because that’s not a cultural thing, that’s just a shitty thing.
I don’t really know where this info is coming from, but I’ve look it up and apparently the countries with more % of cheaters are: the US (71%) Germany (68%) UK (66%) Thailand (61%) and then Brazil (57%) Do I trust this? Nah, there where a lot of different statistics and I’m only bringing this one up cause it was the only one with a Latin country lol.
Conclusion? There are awful people all around the world. You need to stop watching novelas.
Is the stereotype of cheating true?
@@SWIFTzTrigger to an extent yes in more traditional areas. My parents grew up in Central America and it was relatively common. However it doesn't mean it's always the case.
i believe it, many Latino men treat their wife as if she were his child. She must obey him, his word is law - and the woman ends up becoming a passive cooking sex bot. literalmente
@@SWIFTzTrigger Sancho's
jajajajajajaj que risa tu foto de perfil
As an American man married to a Moroccan French woman I thought she was with me because of commitment and work ethic put in to making sure our family is safe and financially secure turns out she just with me because I’m a lazy American who has yet to achieve manhood.
Lol, saw what u did there
@@SWSW560 I don't get it
@@SeanKula he’s making fun of the video . Saying the first part of his comment is true the second part is not.
@@braveduck7068 Exactly
@@braveduck7068 Oh ok thanks lmao thats funny.
Honestly... it's a blessing when a single person is delusional and runs their mouth. If they have more red flags than all of China - Stay Away!! It doesn't matter how cute and popular they are, or what they are wearing or carrying in their wallet!
On a positive note, maybe these fake and insane "dating experts" might make some singles see how special people with genuine character are. If you find an awesome person who is helpful, kind, and appreciative - you have something so much better than IG model pictures. Looks fade, but if they are crazy, that's not going anywhere!
as a Chinese, the more red flags than all of China line is hilarious. also according to this woman, now we're generalizing people from each CONTINENT now...?
Actually the crazy is going to get worse 🤣🤣
The problem is she is influencing other women with her bs
Thing is, I've seen her page. She does speak some truth but there's bitterness in what she says. And also, dating coaches have the tendency of seeing things from a single perspective, even when the situation may have different scenarios behind it. And ever noticed how they barely talk about their audience's responsibilities and always creating an 'us against them' mentality. I've seen this in the male spaces as well, but women always do that as well. Thank God for A&P and KS because a lot of these fake gurus' takes are always trash.
@@Igeltod Not the women you want to date either way.
My husband and I have been together for over 20 years. I have found, in order to have a healthy relationship, there needs to be compassion , appreciation and work. A lot of people think that once they have found that perfect someone, they can just relax and the fairytale will happen. Real relationships are built on not only having your needs met but also your partners.
This chat just brings to mind all the men I've heard talk about getting an Asian woman because they're submissive, and they know how to treat a man...
I've been in different Asian households. I've seen how women act to their men. You'd think someone was being murdered with all the screaming.
I've even seen a video on TH-cam way back in the day when white dude thought his Asian wife was telling him she loved him in her own language. Turns out, she was telling him straight to his face that she hoped he would die in his sleep or something like that...
It just makes me chuckle.
No one said all Asian women where the same. But there culture definitely doesn’t encourage behaviors that doesn’t help build a structured home. I mean no doubt there women who act outter pocket but definitely not more but definitely less than women who live in places where those family structures aren’t in place.
Look there's always people who fall into stereotypes , in every culture. That doesn't mean it's always like that. Every individual regardless of nationality or race has the potential to not fit in your box. It really depends on individual choices that person makes based on their character, which arguably is based on their..choices.
As an Asian woman myself, here women's lives are finished without husbands. So even if we hate them,we will wish them well.
@@ziyamalik1666 That's you though based on how you feel and choose to be. Not just " because you're asian"
@@ziyamalik1666 again. asia is a big place.
The lack of self awareness is palpable she’s not even aware she’s the type of women that makes men stop wanting them (and for good reason)
🤣🤣
okay all the men under 6ft, with baggage or with a net worth less than 50k leave
wait where did everyone go!?!?
clow shit fr
@@HappyDragneels_page no one with a net worth less then a million should refer to their “net worth” lol
😂😂😂truesup
@@bobpope3656 😂😂😂😂 My net worth is a Honda Civic.... 2013 model
Her narrative is so flippable. We can easily depict the big dinner on a first date as something done by entitled and lazy guys who try to set their expectations.
She likes the perks of women's emancipation and those of traditional gender roles. So, she imagined a paradoxical world where men are aggressive seducers because women have full control over the dating game.
How come your comment says 4 days ago but this video was uploaded today?
@@y.e.a.h5634 asking the real questions here👀
Patreon
@@y.e.a.h5634 This video mightve been a re-upload of some kind
Women always mirror men & try to pick up men's behaviors, thoughts, actions. Its sad but a lot of things women think or do can be explained from past guys doing it or them seeing & following the men.
The truth is when men see too many trashy feminist American women & begin going to other countries for wives or whatever it triggers deep insecurity amongst American women, they have all this entitlement still & keep getting older, versus the women who have no entitlement and a ton of submissiveness.
I am Peruvian, which is in South America and I can confirm men cheat all the time and the women just turn a blind eye. Their husbands are the breadwinners and they are usually stay at home moms that enjoy the nice easy life of spending money and being homemakers but their husbands cheat on them all. The. Time. How do I know? My dad has cheated on my mom whenever he goes back to Peru to visit his mom and she knew about it. She just never brought it up. My aunt’s husband cheats on her everytime he goes back to his home village and she also never wants to talk about that (he gives her very generic, minimal details about his trip). And my mom’s best friend who is Peruvian was FaceTiming her husband and saw a naked woman behind him in bed. He didn’t realize he was on video. She quickly went to the hotel room, found them together, and he threw his wedding ring at her telling her that if she’s so miserable to just leave him. Of course, he said this because he knew she wouldn’t and guess what? She didn’t. She stayed and they’re still together.
My point is, as a Peruvian, I will never date a Peruvian. So this woman saying these lies about Hispanic men (please note that not all Hispanic men are like this. There must be lovely faithful Hispanic men too and I’ve met a few. I am just traumatized lol) is tripping. Regardless of nationality or ethnicity, it the man is unfaithful and an asshole, he’s just unfaithful and an asshole. They’re in every country.
"Men cheat all the time." Who tf are they cheating with then exactly...
She's in for a surprise when she gets to Europe, the kind of guy she's dreaming about either doesn't exist or comes with a hefty price she's not considering yet. Here in europe, the formula is the same, the further down you go, the more pursuing the guys will be, but also more traditional and follow gender roles more. The further north you go, the more progressive the guys become, the more they see women as equal, but that also means more like to split bills and expect some initiative from the woman's side. It's like that everywhere and this is just generalising, people are there own people. She ain't ready for the disappointing reality check coming her way
I don't think that south-north really applies.
Meanwhile African men :- HOLD MY DISCIPLINARY CANE
@@MrReset94 It’s true though
@@supremechadmaster2521 lmaoooooooo facts
@@MrReset94 it absolutely does. If you go to south-eastern Balkan countries, it's completely different from Scandinavian northern countries or north - western European countries
There’s a pandemic of people not seeing the opposite sex as human beings when dating. It’s so weird. Why would anyone want to be in a relationship where their “performance” is constantly being tracked and analyzed?
I'm gunna laugh if an epidemic of "passport hoes" begins lol
@@raidzeromattthere has always been passport chicks what do you think happens on those backpacking trips they have been getting their backs packed by foreigners
Haha i know right. Im european and have seen a lot of american women here and the first thing they do is find a cute guy/ guys to fuck wether they have a guy at home or not. Im finding myself is equal to im finding some random dick😂@@godemperorletoatreidesii6971
Literally everything she's listed off can be flipped around and applied to women.
All of it. My wife is over here dead cracking up.
@@mastabla3ta684 not in a traditional sense everything she has said is based off of the 50 where men did literally all the hard work in relationships until marriage where the wife would then start doing house work and having children.
Literally ALL the things.
There is BIG cultural differences in Europe. The north-western side of Europe in my opinion is more about progressive things and more about breaking gender roles. In the eastern-southern part of Europe it's still about traditions mixed with religion (both Christianity & Islam). The differences in gender roles are huge and you would know it, especially if you live in the more southern/eastern parts (especially in the Balkans) or maybe if you traveled through the continent. Like you guys said you can't cherrypick parts of one side and another but not be able to handle everything. Cultures are different everywhere. You either get used to it or don't try at all because not a lot of people are ready to tolerate your bullshit. Also eastern european men won't "chase you all the time" and the women also won't "always be submissive and follow orders" idek where these things came from in the first place when everyone is different. Men for example often get away with "disciplining" women where I'm from and not a lot of people get punished and crimes against women are often overlooked (a good example would be the domestic violence reports during Covid). And this is an issue so the whole fantasy of "perfect traditional family" has it's own issues that people who are not aware of or ignore don't get. You get the full experience or nah, your choice bubu
I’m an American born latino, and what I find hilarious about all of this are these feminists getting mad that men aren’t men, while at the same time shaming them for acting like men. Nobody wants American woke women, if you want a traditional man, act like a traditional woman.
My philosophy, traditional for traditional only.
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Imagine if an american man said this about women someone tell me what happens.
Lol transitional men aren’t men in the true sense
Your latino. You should know that american men are lazy. Even among latino families. Especially dads. They talk about american guys are lazy. Thats a reality
You can tell she's living in a fantasy world if Middle Eastern men are the gold standard in her mind. It always is funny how stuff like the wage gap gets prime coverage in feminist media and dialogue, but the same people don't have anything to say about the actual suffering going on in other places,. That's probably because it would take actual effort to do something about.
They're entitled and privileged, that's why they say all of these things, and they have all of these fantasies.
My man preach said it in the beginning, it's because gender roles are very enforced, it's normal, woman stay home and cook and clean, and he'll provide outside financially wise especially, and their is no romance needed maybe in the begging to win her heart and that's it.
I'm an Arab, and why guys there don't do that shit and don't put in all that effort, because we have much more important responsibilities to take care of
I think it's fair that media covers the inequalities most relevant for their own culture... I think it's perfectly reasonable for media to cover the wage gap.. of course, certain types of women are stuck in this double mindset where they want the equality and freedom that feminism rightly brought them, but still play the childish role in relationships where they need to be chased and taken care of.
@@MaMastoast it is fair if it was just to cover the problem of inequalities, but the same people who are most outspoken about such problems are the most self-righteous.
If you wanna stay domestically you still have racism in 21 century, which exists nowhere else on that level, or globally instead of talking about fucking climate change and global warming and such bullshit problems instead of focusing on famine or the wars and deaths their country is causing.
I'm not saying everyone should it as a duty, but if you wanna be self-righteous and talk about global issues that we need to solve cut the bullshit
So much low hanging fruit in her statement. There’s sooooooo many countries where women get beaten, raped and murdered into submission as the status quo under her umbrella.
She's ignorant af. Bet she'll change her tune when she gets acid thrown in her face for looking at another dude.
As an European man (specifically Italian), I've stopped chasing women long ago. If a girl is a catch, I'll do whatever I can to pursue her. If she's just hot and I have to put up with all this shit ("he has to court me, challenge me", etc.), then I'm out. If I'm the only one that has to do the lifting, you're not worth my time
But that is the crux of the matter: real/worthy men court, but only girls/women who are catches (as you said); and real/worthy women work to be a catch, and not just be ... present.
@@Lina-lq7jm Judging from the attitude of the girl in the video, I can see why men aren't looking to court her. Like you said, women have to do their part and be courtable. It's a 2 way street. Feminism completely intoxicated many women's outlook on men and that's the single most prominent issue in dating today.
@@wmasterss It's sad really.
On one hand I am glad that that part of life is over for me - I am married, with kids, etc. But on the other... when my boys grow up... I shudder to think about the girls who might be around them.
@@Lina-lq7jm I think half the battle is that fortunately you understand how messed up the game is which will help you point your sons in the right direction. Many young boys don't/didn't have that grace. They grow up being taught how to be simps. I think your boys are in a good spot.
@@Lina-lq7jm Not entirely; the crux lies in both genders' education: men have to chase, women have to be pursued. That is crazy talk, especially when it comes out of a person's mouth who claims to be a feminist (but really wants equality only when it favours her) or is for equality in general. There's no equality in all this. Personally, I look for and offer: trust, complicity, support, and understanding in a relationship; if I see the woman I'm trying to establish a relationship with act like a spoiled and entitled brat, I'm more than happy to show her the way out
This is so ridiculous, I only just returned to the US after twenty years living abroad in Brazil, Australia, Russia, South Africa, Abu Dhabi, Dubai, and several other countries. In fact my wife is Brazilian and I can tell you for a fact about Brazil in particular that men are especially spoiled and not expected to do anything in fact in a family with both a boy and girl child it would be normal for the mother to make e daughter help her clean the house and clean her brothers room and clothes even when they grow up with the men as old as 34-36 still living at home with mother and or sisters doing everything for that. I can say that because I have three children, one girl and two boys who were born and raised in Brazil so I had to deal with these practices from grandparents, aunts, etc. Boys are not expected to do anything IN GENERAL whereas girls are expected to do everything. I was shocked when the first Brazilian girlfriend I had started showing up an hour before dates to wash my clothes, and clean my apartment before went out. Then I found out this was normal, and if I went out with wrinkles in my clothes I literally heard a girls mother get all over her for letting me go out like that saying she was a terrible girlfriend because it was her job to take care of her man. And ALL the girls I dated there expected me to cheat “because I was a man and men can’t help themselves” but just told me not to embarrass them, apparently that was the rule. I also lived in Mexico city and found similar practices and Russia in the 90’s was even worse with lower expectations but that was freshly post fall communism so it is probably not a good example and all of these pale in comparison to the middle East. This girl doesn’t know at all what she is talking about. I killed in all these countries because I out worked locals. She is crazy American, Australian, and Canadian women have it the best in the world as far as dating is concerned. One of the reasons I moved back to the US was so that my daughter wouldn’t have to put up with this and so that my sons wouldn’t be spoiled.
damn!
It was really crazy sometimes. You would see beautiful BrZilian women doing everything fr guys that refused to move out because their mom still did everything for them at 34 years old. A friend of mine was a girl from France that met her Brazilian boyfriend while on vacation in Australia and he convinced her to come back and live with him in Brazil. So she took most of her money to buy the ticket to return with him only to find out that when he said come live with me he really meant come share a bedroom with me at my mom’s house. Guy was a lawyer and still living at home. When she got there her his mother hated her and told her she would have to get a job and pay rent but on top of that was expected to clean the entire house cook for her boyfriend, was his clothes, and so everything for him while he came home and played videogames after work. it took her almost theee years to save enough money to be able to buy a ticket to leave because she was having to pay rent (and buy all her own food on top of that, though they felt free to eat food she bought). Stories like that were common. Women do not have it easy, There was no way my daughter was going to grow up having to deal with that so after after almost two decades outside of the US I came back to raise her here. So again my point is to is woman doesn’t know what she is talking about.
@@erimoros wow
Frist part of your comment.. my mom did the same thing to me, except take responsibility for your own mess after the age of 11-13. Its called culture bro.. men are usually taught to be respectful which in turn should case men to be more responsible naturally but many things for certain men causes ppl to think they are spoiled when its just the norm. A men does this and a woman does that.. spoiled? Men who work, or have ways to hustle more than other ways..
It's the culture.
Women take care of the house and men go out hunting bringing home food.
Also it's Brazil you don't get a car and an apartment when you turn 18.
It's very common to have the family living in the same house. I mean the whole family.
You made sound more dramatic than what really is.
As a Middle Eastern woman who’s in a relationship for over 6 years I just laughed at her. Because it all depends on the person you choose to be with not where you from. My husband is wonderful but a lot are not thats just the way it is anywhere. Though I agree with the gender roles aspects and I personally like it. Knowing whats on you and not makes it easier to grow stronger and trust each more
exactly personally i want a to be in a relationship where we both do our role(gender roles:i want to feel and be manly for her and be apriciated for that as i want her to feel and be feminine for me and be appriciated for that)if i meet a woman and she doesnt want that its okay i leave and look for someone who has the same points of views and common grounds as me you dont have to be with someone who doesnt see life the same as you and when it doesnt work you use the"abusif toxic relationship"card.
men and women are opposite and arent equal but have equal values i like to compare men and women to food and water you cant live without one or the other both are needed because they are not the same and the beauty is this difference why would i be with a woman if she isnt that much different from a man in terms of mindset or behavior?i dont care about her body i dont see women as objects.
I hope the best for your husband and you sister show him appriciation and love him for being a man.
It's funny she talks about middle eastern men like they all are the same. I've met dudes so religious they don't even go into places that serve alcohol period. Most people like her talk about how great these men are but never acknowledge the culture or what likely won't conflate with thier values. To me it's odd that they hype them up but I guarantee they will complain at the drop of a hat when they actually meet people from a very different background. Great people are great people, but also people like this chick put other groups on a pedestal without likely knowing what it means to date someone from a very different place. Also congrats girl wonderful hearing happiness I the world. Best to you and that wonderful man.
@Katy Cunningham In fairness I think its more that a good person can come from anywhere as much as a terrible one. Culture has a lot to do with it, but I think she made it more to the point of a person from the middle east, Europe or Latin America are equally as likely to be terrible people as any place else. Now culture effects a lot of elements of a person but just tlike any culture a good or bad person can come from a multitude of places.
Bless your soul maam appropriate that you share a name with my mom this idiotic notion that generalizes people based on ethnicity is beyond stupid.
Middle Eastern societies would do better to preserve a little traditionalism to avoid the mess that happens in the West ... in which neither women nor men are happy, at least not really happier than previous generations
This woman couldn't be more delusional about Latin and Arab men. You ain't seen "toxic masculinity" like these men cook up.
Latin men are masculine and are not the same as arab men
@@chocoflan6672 and their own women don't even want them forreal. They'd rather be with someone from the States if they had a choice.
@@a_vida_é_boa not really no one is rushing to the US borders for american guys but what a coincidence when american and european women make girls trip its in a latin country MEXICO BRAZIL dominican Republic, cuba, etc I think ur confusing golddigging on an american as desirability it reminds me of 90 day fiance
@@TONYKG300 american are seen as tricks globally thats not my fault
@@chocoflan6672 I mean I know a few women who are from Mexico and they told me never date a Mexican and they both married white men. But they both had very abusive fathers
You guys hit a lot of good points..the whole FOMO when it somes to dating..people treat their SO like a car or an iPhone where they gotta upgrade every few years. Romantisizing, fetishizing what they dont have thinking it's better without putting things into context..
facts
Amen.
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Couldn't have said it better myself!
Damn straight
It's not feminism that is ruining dating. We in eastern Europe had feminism and equality before most of the world had it because of socialism and there were no problems. It's radical individualism and capitalism that is ruining dating. All I hear on social media is me, me, me. Relationships have became transactional, people even rate other people(higher or lower value) like it's product on the market. Stop obsessing over what you want and start working on what you can give and if the other person doesn't match your effort or your expectation you move on. Eventually you'll find someone.
It's because slavery is being brought back on a global scale.....
And the objective is to make those who will care weak and the rest full of so much resentment they don't....
She’s projecting her terrible experiences with men to the next man it will be a repetitive pattern in her life. However, No matter what she says, she needs therapy immediately.
exactly, the thing she brings to the realationship aside herself is baggage...
Yea she’s the problem tbh why is she complaining that much she should go find her men somewhere else then
Yeah classic projection. Just because you make terrible decisions in your own country, doesn't mean that all men outside of your country are somehow perfect. Turn the mirror on yourself for once.
Actually he’s projecting her self onto the men around her. Treat she’s describing how to traits she has in herself.
Same energy as the guys who want to find a submissive Asian wife. Stereotyping a whole culture. There might be aspects of truth in there but be prepared for the whole package that comes with it like aba said.
Submissive Asian wives 😂😂😂 Westerners make me laugh.
If you know anything about Asian women… you will realize that the majority of them are dominant and tough as a nail
It's funny cause in Australia I find white girls way more submissive than Asian girls here. But white girls hit 40 and turn into karens
@@spacecowboy07723 interesting! It all depends where you grow up of course.
Nah I just like Asian women because they're the most attractive to me.
Not even close
Women: persistent men are harassing women and should be considered sexual assault
Also women:OMG why aren't men persistent enough
Men:🤨
This aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaall day
That would be funny, but the men that you are talking about are in jail instead of being around their kids, having a good time and getting a job that helps society, instead we have these useless mouth breathers that consume and destroy.
feminazi's turned their men into beta cucks and chicks
@@sdaniel123 You're single and a teenager aren't you?
Glad we are on the same page. As soon as she said "persistent and consistent" I couldn't help but think that's how you get metoo'd.
When a woman has no valid argument they go straight to insulting your manhood. I love stuff like this. The fact that she is so frustrated, means the shit that guys are doing globally, giving up on dating, is working. It's straight up driving them insane. Which was the point.
The dating field should be about equality. The people who re dating should be considered equal. The fact that someone think it's entirely the other person's responsibility to handle all the pursuing, all the planning, all the cost.... as if their time is such a fucking prize. It shows you how clueless some people are, and the trends that have brought us to where we are today.
Dating someone, in my opinion, isn't worth my time. I'm far more happier just spending it with friends. The more names and insults these women thro at us, just further proves my point. Anyone who thinks one side should have all the power in a relationship, can fuck right off.
I was dating, first time in a long time, recently and she went to get a glass of water… guess what? She brought me one too, it was the most unexpected, but the most heartwarming thing. It had been so long since a selfless gesture had been sent my way. I hugged her on the spot and said thank you, that she had just made the world more sensible to me.
Never take for granted what others do for you..
You hugged her hahaha 😂 bruh ur ex must be some emotional damage
I'm really glad that both of you are appreciative of each other like that.
But I also gotta agree with the guy above that something must have occurred in your past so bad, that you would hug a person just for getting you a glass of water.
Please remember that women are breeding stock for these "real men". Being treated as prey isn't cute ma'am. Also yes true what Aba and Preach said about feminism not being prevalent in Arabic countries. As awful as the dating scene can be in South Africa at least I know what to expect. I don't think fantasizing about other countries' men is the answer to any dating challenge.
Has feminism worked in the west tho? It didn't really. So why should societies in the east adopt it?
Why is feminism the gold standard for equality
great point Pamella, it's almost as if they fantasize about foreigners because they do not want solutions. it's like having green grass and then looking to another planet and saying "look at their blue grass fuck your pathetic green grass if only we had blue grass"
I can't agree with this more!
Glad to see another South African outchea
So some women are telling us to be persistent, if she rejects you just keep pursuing
And other women are telling us if she rejects you once and you keep pursuing, you’re creepy
So basically as a man we just gotta gamble 🤦🏿♂️
Never take advice on woman from woman.
No, just ask once. If she says no, bounce and don't look back. It saves you from any issues...
lmao... right? being persistent becomes "harassment" or can get you in jail nowadays. One or two messages and you leave her alone. Shes gotta open her mouth too. Were not mind readers
If she wants to play games in the beginning she’s gonna play games the entire time. Imo
True to an extent. Reality is that they don't want you to be persistent if they don't find you attractive. Thing is you as a man have no idea if the rejection is genuine or just a game where the woman wants you to continually try so most men just tap out after the first rejection
It boils down to a person's preferences in their mate. Everyone's different in what they want. No need to bash a whole continent of men. Because we can easily lump her in a certain category.
The disdain for coffee dates really baffles me. I keep seeing them described as a red flag or something. While I was dating were my favourite though because it was such a pleasant, low stress way of meeting someone and seeing if you actually vibe or not. Surely the fun part of dating in the early stages is the banter, their sense of humour, gauging mutual attraction and just learning about each other, all of which require little or no money if both people are actually genuine.
I agree. It’s an easy and fun way to get to know each other
It’s an easy way to weed out the gold diggers
@@qjtvaddict THAT'S why it's a red flag to the garden variety 304. They recognize they dealing with a cautious snake charmer not a foolish "let's get out the jeep to take a picture" tourist.
@@RtistiqSkubie well do you want a 304
Coffee dates were my go to as well. It’s relaxed, you can do it during the day and it’s fairly low commitment, so you can bail if there’s no connection. The first date I had with my now gf was coffee too, but we just kept chilling and made it to dinner anyway.
When I first got into dating apps I matched and texted a girl consistently for 50 days (she liked snap streaks) cause she didn’t want to meet in person yet and “didn’t do calls”, i eventually realized I was just bored entertainment and stopped. After that experience I COMPLETELY stopped longing conversations that led to nothing and found someone who pursued me even more than I was pursuing her, we’re now 1 year in and happy. The effort should be coming from both ends, stop this I’m the prize nonsense. Expecting the other person to move mountains while you’re relaxing will leave you either alone or with some desperate creeps.
I want that dream mr pool
stop using apps, and enhance your charm and selfesteem, then go meet girls in real life. Trust me, I have a ton of experience. And then, after 50 girls you seduce in real life, go back to apps
I overheard a female co-worker say that "I'm the prize" BS and I face palmed so hard. Didn't say anything though since I was at work and it's not worth it in that setting so I just walked off thinking have fun being single for a while. Sad part is if she would fix her outlook she could easily get a long term relationship.
Yezzir
Lol you could have been messaging a dude
This is also another example of the nice guy fallacy. Guys that watch videos like this will think that all they have to do is spoil a girl and do everything for her, then she'll like them. But nah, she's dated a bunch of assholes, so clearly just being a good person isn't requirement for some
Female incels exist they are called feminists who make tik tok videos complaining about men.
@@realty634 The reality is, most people aren't taught how to vet. Women get with whoever they find attractive and just hope it works out. This is because they have so many options. A lot of men don't vet because they have so few. They'll take what they can get
Women tend to think any man that upsets them is an arse hole tho 😂
@@Ash_Wen-li ketchup
W0m3n today have been trained to not appreciate niceness.
Truth. As someone who has lived across this country from North Carolina to Texas Nebraska Colorado Arizona it doesn’t matter where you just end up with a different set of problems.
I love how a lot of people on the internet say that equality is the goal and fuck gender roles, but keep on pushing gender roles on men. Like its mansplainging for someone to say "a woman should do this, act like this etc" (which I agree with, I don't like people telling me how I should live my life) but its ok for women to say " men, you should do this, and be like that"..
100%
It's because they don't want to negotiate. They need these men to just accept the role usually foisted on them while women can do everything for a you go girl moment. It would give them power in the relationship they believe. If we accept our part they don't have to deal with demands back at them. Because we all know how feminists react to people that give them even an ounce of resistance.
The thing about equality, IMO is that men and women are completely different. We do have certain roles. BUT, equality means that my role as a woman is not less important than a man's role, which a lot of ppl believe. I'm not trying to be a man and I don't want a man who tries to be a woman..... however I'm not less than a man.
This society tells women that our roles are to fulfill that of a man simply bc he's a man. Why are we raised to be slaves to men and men are raised to treat us like we're less than and see us as sex objects....
This is the point of equality of the sexes. Ppl take it as completely something else as if women are trying to be men and play a man's role which is not the point of it all.
Well men are quite happy to cook and clean for themselves, which is the cliche gender role that feminist women scream about. But what's left after that? Okay sure, sex... but then what.... exactly what does a modern woman bring to my table other than inconvenience and irritation...? To disrupt my carefully curated routine, my peace and quiet and my freedom...? Because very few of them seem to respect men at all any more.
Mansplaining isn't at all about telling women how to act or what to do. It's about explaining something to someone as though they're idiots. Women can do it too. Back when we used normal words, we'd say that they (men or women) were being condescending.
LMAOOOOO as a Colombian, can confirm that the moms told me get a white chick cause she was not sure latina's could be trusted and said most of them are buggin 😂
100% true. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
As someone grew up hearing Latin mothers telling their boys to get a "white girl"... it's because the white girls are more submissive to their man, and will listen to the mothers more.
Bro bro beware of white girl false tears. That can get youkilled or locked up
@@pelosuelto70 Naw bro, it's just the underlying racism in Latino culture. I've seen it, homeboys from DR seen it and my girl who's Mexican seen it. They just like the whiteness.
If you wanted submissive, you look for Latino / indian or middle eastern women
@@shadyyogainstructor932 bruh, everybodys racist 😂😂😂
she's saying more about herself than she is about men.
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Yeah, she’s a typical spiked feminist who was told all her life that she was a princess and anyone who didn’t want her is at fault
Most Arab & Latin men *WOULD NOT ALLOW* their spouses to have outspoken opinions like hers on social media platforms. She would have no voice in those respective countries. Women are currently fighting for a right to vote, she's applying Western opinions towards cultures that are Anti Western
As a Latina woman I can confirm
As an arab i confirm
the muslims are right. THe relationships between men and women is going south in the West. Look at marriage and birth rates. Giving women rights was americas mistake
A right to vote where? Bruhh there is no point to vote for anyone, the West (especially the US), just changes its puppets from time to time in these countries.
I'm a Swedish woman and this all sounds bonkers to me!! WHY is this courtship from men even needed? I truly don't even understand the premise of the problem she is describing? Why can't we just treat each other like human beings instead of trophies?? It amazes me how she oversimplified all cultures too, like they have the same culture in all of Latin America even? Or in Europe? 😂
@nismo510 Do you mean that it is the only aspect that affects this behavior? You know that Disney movies are translated into almost every language right? I've grown up with Disney movies, as has many people in other European countries too. I think the answer to this question is far more complex than what kind of movies you watch as a child, unfortunately.
If you can't even understand why courtship from men is needed, then you never will.
@nismo510 Well, congratulations,I guess! LOL
ANd how is it going? Are those women around you worth something, or are they just a short fun until the next comes along? Because that is the question.
Too much RomComs ruin the mind.
@nismo510 My feminist friends? Which ones would that be?
As a representative of the Middle East and the European community, we chose to pass on this kind of women. Thank you 🙏
As a reprensentative of canadian caucasian community, we will also pass on this kind of woman, maybe the latino man community want to weight in?
As a representative of the Kabylian community,we pass on this woman who will certainly surround herself with cats very soon because they are the only living breathing creatures to bare her personality(or lack of personality rather)
@@zakiaitslimane658 Nordic Gang representative here and by degree of King and Country we send her to our Slav bros in the south before anyone get the idea to send her our way
As a representative of the latino/Hispanic and American community we would like to pass on this abhorrent woman.
😂🤣😂🤣💀💀💀💀
She probably never went to Germany. Approching starts here with the fifth beer. 👌
As a latino man living in Europe, I have no idea wtf she's talking about, she trippin balls
Bro why tf do u have a video called nigga moment
U cant say shit abt tripping ball when ur racist
@@jasonakie2779 loool😂😂😂😂😂never heard of boondocks? And why do u think Im not black? Or do you think latinos can only be brown?? That would be racist
Low key it’s because in America being Persistent and consistent can be “called” sexual harassment if the girl finds you unattractive.
Lol don't be fooled by this women. Being persistent is frowned upon in the country I'm in Europe too.
This is despite some women (in my country) on Twitter alleging that they like persistent men repeatedly. They say this so that men that they don't want fail.
If a woman finds a man attractive and wants him, there often isn't much that he won't get away with. Yeah she said these guys were persistent, but how do we know that she is telling the truth? Funny, just a couple of mins ago when I opened the link in the description box to see her TikTok video, it had been removed. I wanted to see what they were saying about the video in the comments.
It makes me feel that she isn't telling the truth. Or perhaps they were cooking her like Plantain in the comments and she couldn't handle it. 🤔
Don't forget stalker too...
Exactly, the same thing that she’s saying that she wants is the same thing that she’ll classify as creepy and harassment. This lady is not to be taken seriously.
Here's the deal: Go ahead and date whoever tha hell you want, just DON'T SHAME people who you don't want/would not date. We should leave people alone with their dating preferences, but we should also leave people alone with their mental health and in peace with themselves.
I agree but it’s just not always possible. The same people you ask to not shame are the same ones complaining on why they are suffering and keep getting into relationships or entanglements that are not fruitful. They have no self awareness and they be needing that reality check. And I’m sorry these trendy buzzwords such as mental health kill me. People are being victimized and staying a victim all while trying to play hero/advocate. You can’t have it both ways.
@@lonnieleach9761 LOL the fact that you think MENTAL HEALTH is nothing but a "trendy word" really says a lot more about you than about me or anybody else you may disagree on this subject. Mental Health problems related to bullying, lookism, hightism, etc are serius matters and blaming the victims and keep giving a pass for toxic social standards is not a great thing to do in my opinion. Can't we EVEN TRY to be nicer to each other??? Sorry but i can't joke or minimize something that literally makes people end their own lives.
@@jonasbsj1 My point has been overlooked. The social standards you speak of that are toxic are made up of victims who create more victims due to a weak mental health. There's a difference in it being trendy and being nothing but a trendy word. All you hear these days are people focusing on their mental health because it is a real focus point in todays high stress society which doesnt help when people induldge in habits they should remove themselves from in majority of cases. Alot of cry wolf activity when alot of people are going through it such as the ones ending their lives, since you want to point that out. I believe we our desensitizing mental health and alot of people are misdiagnosing themselves.
Awesome Comment.
@@lonnieleach9761 I agree with mental health thing, I know its an imporant part of our lives, but that word is usually used for maketing purposes
I dont like coffee dates.
We're going on a walk, I'm making sure you can handle a little cardio
It's hard being human. Can't please anyone, ever. You're always pissing off someone no matter what your stance is on anything. Literally anything.
That's your first problem
Going out of your way to please anybody but yourself
That's why these idiots have the arrogance they do because they know got power over certain ppl
@@GAS.MASK1 I know my limits and boundaries and stick to them. I'm no doormat. Just pointing out that you're always going to piss someone off, no matter what. That's just life. Everyone isn't going to like you all the time.
@@wingspanbig that's what I'm getting at . Nobody has to like you n you shouldn't seek outward . Not to be all confusis or whatever
Aba hit the nail on the head there.
As a female, I have NOOOO problem doing the cooking and the cleaning and whatever else.
However, I DOOO have a problem when I'm expected to do it without any sort of appreciation.
I show appreciation for the fact that my man works hard, BY putting a nice dinner on the table and making sure to keep his work clothes clean for morning and rubbing his shoulders if he says he's in pain that day.
So if I'm doing those things to show appreciation for him, it'd be nice to get a little ass slap and a "Thanks love!" every now and then lmao.
This is the way.
I totally agree. In a relationship we should appreciate and take care of each other.
Hahahahahahaha.... your man shows you his appreciation by going out and working his azz off and bringing home his earnings to keep his home paid and stock.
@@equityjustice2695 Then it should be appreciated that I require a lot less than most women. All I asked for was an ass slap and a measly thank you.
Is that so hard, or are you still single too? Lol
The ass slap is the most important lol real talk
Men are damned if we do & damned if we don't... that's the world we be living.
Also, love you guys on this! Spot on. Also, I love when Americans fail to realize how good it is here, and how progressive America is compared to many other countries.
Exactly lol
For real... only when men are "in service" to woman and do what she wants for some ass will they be considered real men lol
@AileDiablo one... I am not sure what you said in full but I think I got most of it.
Two, being "manly" is not real. Being a man differs on ones culture. Middle eastern men are manly, yes sure, but no more manly than Asian, American, or any other kind of men out there. As there is no correct way in being a man.
Thirdly, Racism is an issue around the world within every community no matter the placement.
Fourth, if you ever delve in the middle eastern culture you'll see more racism and sexism than in the states hands down.
Ikr!!!...
@@grantc.7152 👏👏👏... of course..
These videos are exhausting for real
Her: Be persistent
Also Her: No means no (when hitting on girls)
I just want to know what constitutes "hitting on girls". Is talking about touchy and/or sexual subjects hitting on girls? What constitutes creepy exactly? What is creepy for one girl might just be irresistibly sexy for another girl. (Or guy if the roles are flipped).
@@bensweeney5878 Just shootin your shot with cringey pick up lines. No touching, nothing really explicit.
I will say from my own experience women, especially older can get away with more explicit comments in the workplace than men.
Typical whamin logic
@@bensweeney5878 Unfortunately, the answer is whatever she's feels at the time.
"I'm the prize" = "I'm coping with being alone and having overly high standards". Goes both ways.
*unrealistic expectations
More like it but yeah you're right
But what is wrong with high standard? Im a beautiful girl so i want a rich man but being independent still. Nothing wrong with preferences. If u are making minimum wage then im sorry but i dont see future with u. Its the same with man most of them dont want a fat ugly girl jeeez
@@divine6526 Beautiful girl according to who? You? You can date yourself if you want ...
Everytime I watch a dating advice video (from men or women), I just revel in the fact that I'm married. Been together for 11yrs going on 12.
The dating environment these days is like they're playing Jenga.
I would actually say it's closer to risk haha.
Ain't that the truth!!
THANK YOU!! Me and my husband been together 12yrs and I feel sorry for the single people we know. I can't even imagine attempting to date now.
as a young 25 year old bricklayer, it seems to be that at least 30-40% of people around me have clinical narcissism. i'm not villifying narcissists - it's just what i see. i see a generation of people around me who never developed interest in other people. perhaps that's what happens when our 12 year olds back in 2010 were taking selfies. what the fuck is a selfie, and why is my generation ADDICTED to posting pictures of their edited, fake face. very curious to see what happens - i forsee a generation that may be 50% narcissists, and the other 50% being the ones giving supply. interesting times man at least we have VR and not the typhoid flu, different century different flavors.
Totally. That's why I recently decided to give up. I'm done trying because I'm so over the mental gymnastics.
Back in 2004-5 my friend was dating a girl from France. She told him she hated French men. They were obnoxious to her. The only think I was told she missed about living in France was the deodorant not being as fragrant as in the USA.
I feel like, for both men and women, there is no winning.
We have become too adversarial instead of respectful and genuine.
These blanket assumptions are just plain harmful to both genders.
I agree 🙌🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻
There is hope for men to win, stop playing the game. In general we men can live HAPPILY alone and as proven by the increasing intensity by these women to wrangle men back into our former role, women cannot .
@@richardbossman9875 that's funny because I'm hearing more and more women saying they prefer being single for the very same reason. I think we're all reaching a collective boiling point.
@@wingspanbig Well said.
@@wingspanbig I agree, to much bullshit for to little in return
I'm a Saudi Arabic American, I don't think that this lady understands what it's like in the middle east. You don't get courted, you get sold off. Lmao
Smh
Isn't Jayanti an indian name?
@@KamalUddin-zd4cw yes, because I am Hindu. I just happen to be Arabic, I'm not a Muslim.
@@jayantiraphael8655 Larping k-f-r got caught.
PS: It's called "Saudi Arabian" not "Saudi Arabic". If you're going to impersonate them, at least be believable.
Saudi Arabic? Bruhh
I’m engaged now, and I met my fiancé through a dating app. It kills me these girls expecting men to pay for every single date with no sort of attachment and to be the ones to suggest it.
I suggested a date most of the time for simple coffee at a shop. I could pay for my own coffee, it was in public, and if I felt uncomfortable for some reason I could easily leave.
And even now that I’m engaged we split who pays when. Sometimes he’s doing better and has more money for the week and wants to treat me, sometimes he spent a lot on bills and I buy us dinner that week. Sometimes we just go Dutch.
Some people can be so entitled to what they think they deserve and never think about what the other person deserves. A relationship is a two way street and these girls showing how they really only believe it goes one way.
We need more women like you
@Marie Baker By "some women aren't", what do yo mean by that? Some women want to be 100% or they want the partner to put in the majority effort?
@Marie Baker To quote another A&P video, everyone should put their 100% best effort. Whatever effort you can bring to the best of your ability, always do your part, man or woman. Put in the work as a team or this shit is gonna work out. I don't like the 50/50 myself cause its harder to balance or gauge what that 50% is. Just do your part.
Dating Apps are the worst sry only look based
I'm an American woman who has lived in Italy and France. Yes, they are persistent, and as a woman (almost overly aggressive), I didn't have to do much. This is not because of the reasons she mentioned. The cultures are different. Men are more just assertive, the men there can be turned off by an aggressive woman. The men are the initiators, they take the lead in these countries not because they are not lazy, but because it's the culture. Also, in Italy, the women and men complained about each other, and it was the same in France. Not all American men are "lazy" they are just tired of us going off on them when they approach us or have a stank attitude. We talk a lot about men, but ladies we also need to do better, you get what you put out.
The “pursuit” is antithetical to everything currently being taught about dating. To keep pushing until it borders coercion is creepy as fuck and women cannot decide if they like it or not. It seems that women only want to be pursued by men they are already interested in and end up turning away a lot of others. So men stop making the first move, and now when the realization that a majority of men were the ones getting rejected sets in, it is STILL the man’s fault for not trying despite getting every signal to stop. Most men do not really want to step on toes, so when women say they are not interested, they stop trying. It is not a “nice guy” thing to respect boundaries.
There needs to be a discussion about dating because a lot of men are getting confused, getting rejected, and turning to redpill/incel circles to vent, where their cathartic, emotive rants are getting upvoted - and that does not bode well for anyone.
the solution is to have men stop pursuing women. Women should pursue men and initiate everything until the dynamics change and the genders can empathize with each others' experiences. Therefore men should stop pursuing women until that happens. But men want to get laid and find love so bad that they'll simp for all of the gender roles that feminists who feel entitled to feel desired don't want to challenge, and keep pursuing and initiating.
And men do that bc they want to feel "better" than other men by having more sex. Even though that approval is coming in based on women's standards for men's behavior and often bc they fear fear being called an "incel" by some thot or bluehair imo.
Or bc you're a conservative who thinks men should initiate everything and should "give everything" to women lmao.
@@sub-harmonik think a lot of men are walking away to be honest. This is leaving the extremes... the simp / losers on one end and the extreme alphas on the other end that give zero Fs. Then women's expereinces are true that they are horrible, just that isn't all men. Just the men that are still bothering to take part.
The middle that are just normal respectful etc are walking away. Hell there are even comments in this thread of young men saying they have stopped bothering. Given mens natural biological desires to be with women, it really highlights how toxic dating has become for normal guys.
A strange thing I have noticed with my female friends when I was dating was how they simply did not believe the toxic crap I was dealing with from women. Kept coming back to, it must be you or something you did but we know you are a great guy. Got annoyed enough that i started to take screenshots just of profiles on dating sites, most could not believe what they was seeing.
Women have a huge disconnected on just how toxic many of there own are. Of course given we live in a society with a constant narrative that men are trash and women are amazing it is hardly surprising. Of course the real narrative should be there are amazing men and women, average men and women and totally trash men and women.
@@David-xt5ob yeah I'm one of them (tho I'm kinda old). And I don't think women deserve respect unless they're prepared to give it either. idc if that's considered "abnormal".
@@David-xt5ob "normal guys". So many people these days want "extraordinary". To be fair, not only women. But a lot of men want more too. It just seems to be affecting us more, because it's harder for us to land dates than it is for women. But as you say, women will now have to deal with extremes. Men with decently balanced tempers can usually weigh out pros and cons much better than the two extremes that you mentioned. This could be why they're the ones who are in hiding.
@@David-xt5ob This is correct. I can't even drink yet and I don't plan on pursuing women. If it happens, it happens, but I'm not gonna go to bars, parties or join clubs and do sports to date. Also refuse to touch dating apps. So much can go wrong that the juice isn't worth the squeeze. I see so many vidoes telling ppl with STD's that they should still date and do stuff bc it's not their fault they have it and it's just a few sores anyways. Not to mention that theres no way to protect myself when having consensual sex from a girl just lying and lying I r@ped her.
It’s hilarious when a person takes their own anecdotal experience and then states it’s a universal fact. Wait until she gets her heart broken by these dudes and then 180’s her entire logic.
*when a woman takes...
@@CheapGodiva men do it too though🤣
@@zbrownbb
Feminine men.
@@CheapGodiva now that is a true statement
"I hate when men come up and talk to me while I'm while walking, and these men aren't real because they don't pursue me, and I hate when they wanna tell me they think I'm cute." Can we come to an agreement and just give single dudes stars to where if single and A's if they are on relationships like Nazi's and Jews. Effing ridiculous. This is why all you went are single, no one wants to deal with your craziness double standards.
"Tu penses vraiment que t'es top dollah la" 🤣 oila
I mean someone is making her happy though
It's as simple as this, whenever you make an assumption about a whole group, you will always be wrong. The fact is putting down american men is not going to do anything or make what you're saying anymore true.
Exactly
Her issue is that SHE is spoiled. Her privilege has her believing she is entitled to a specific kind of courtship and when she doesn't get that she is able to sound of the alarm and treat us as if we are this monolith. The fact that SHE insists that its men who have to do all the work rather than HER having to put forth the work to strategize and navigate new terrain tells you everything.
women are wired to be this way, unless they have low self esteem. Most men don't even respect women that they don't put in work to get. i have seen women make it easy for a man and he takes her for granted. A man has to prove himself, because the nature of the game many men are predatory and out for sex. Women end up in the losing end if she is an "easy catch" for a man.
@@f4yforever775 you sound like an imbecile. Both sexes are predatory and want sex. Also if both people are putting in effect then that's good.
@@f4yforever775 the opposite is also true tho. Women also don't respect men whom they don't "work for" and "win over". It's just a human nature to value the things we put effort and investment into. So, yes we as men should pursue women and put effort, but should also expect women to do at least as much and also make it obvious that they're interested as well by their actions.
THANK you so much for this video! I was just talking to my cousin about this type of thinking and how harmful it is, last night! The generalizations are triggering for me! Stop DOING that shit lol You don't have to insult ALL BLACK WOMEN just to date an asian, latina, or russian woman. Just like I don't have to insult ALL black men because I want to date hispanic men or something. Just DATE THEM! lol It's madness that we do that to each other. I understand that we do have to call our people out on bull shit we do across the board in order to reach a mutual resolve, but saying we're all not shit and never were is NOT how we bring each other together. Back to the drawing board, PLEASE lol
@Ty Guy stop with the queen shit plz
@@MattPhannyPack You're my new best friend 👏
@@just1morething lol okay
It got deleted that’s straight misandry
The fact that she even made this video shows she has no idea how these other cultures she's referring to really work and their views and standards for relationships.
Yeah I think we can agree shes a special kinda stupid.
@@watamutha ignorance is bliss?
She should go travelling by herself to the middle east and see how men treat her there if she wants a reality check
@@watamutha agreed
@@Nev1812 ain't that the truth
I can’t stand when people try to make us seem exotic, with latin lover stereotypes and shit. They clearly have not spent enough time around more latinos, and it places these weird standards on you
thats unfortunate as a white man the only thing I have to do is have a dick bigger than 4 inches and not a complete racist and I'm fire bro.
@@CB-rv2lj what?? Lmao 🤣
@@tiarajasmin1915 I'm just saying those are the only standards I have to live up to lmao
That's every ethnicity. Bro
Idk man... I been all over the world. To 5 out of the 7 continents. Latin America is definitely exotic and hypersexual. Just look at the dances you have.
She just admitted that American women give out poon for free which drives the value of it down. Telling on themselves bro
Yet they are also judged for wanting to get married before they sleep with their husband. Yall need laws around men and women interaction
@@purplelove3666 the only kind of people judging you for that are men who are trying to smash and dash on you. It’s filtering out the wrong kind of people
I’m Middle Eastren man and our women wake up 5 in the morning to cook and their happy about it
At 9:40, as a Filipino, yes men pursue women here but women generally don't act entitled. I'll just say that people are consistent when they feel value in what they're doing. Same is true for men. Men here are consistent because women tend to be grateful and considerate. They make it easy for men to be consistent.
What this woman doesn't understand is that the women in these places affect how men move and vice versa. It can't be just men. Women definitely had a part to play as to why men in America are like that.
Ironically you both preach real feminism. I would call it common sense but both terms don't have meaning anymore. As a 27-yo guy from Germany I say keep breaking barriers in a healthy way. You guys are doing a lot for all men out here, respect.
Not "real feminism" just equality.
@Vince Nav That's faxx. I used to call myself a feminist not so long ago and got to witness the toxicity that consistently emanates from that cesspool of clowns. (Misandrists have high jacked the community). Egalitarianism is really what Aba and Preach are putting forth in this channel and its honestly a breath of fresh air.
@@flawless_Cowboy but real equality, not double standard equality
@@LM-ix7pk that doesn't make any sense
They preach what feminism should preach, but never has, and likely never will. Sure you might find a few feminists with an actual idea of equality but the movement itself has never been this. Only claimed to be. “Real” feminism is exactly what most of it is. Garbage.
I just don't understand the dating world now (never understood it to be frank) to me if you're in a relationship and are in love you do things for your lover because you love them, and vice versa these "expectations" people have or "roles" they "require" you to be, is baffling to me... am I not a human being? Don't I have my own thoughts and expectations? I'll never expect my lover to do anything unless they want to because they love me... I guess my expectations aren't real if this is how people are viewing the other... it's why I just accept that I will more than likely die alone...
This is the truth. Everyone is so self entitled. Screw all of them. I do it cuz I want to. Not cuz I have to. You want something tell me, if I chose not to or we can’t reach a middle ground and you don’t feel loved , appreciated or understood then you can leave but to sit here and say I deserve this I deserve that, you deserve nothing until you’ve earned it.
Put into the relationship what you wanna get out of it. Love isn’t about you it’s about wha you do for your partner and how you make them feel. And vice versa for them.
These women are mad toxic talking about what a man should be. Stop selling us stuff we don’t want. Figure out what men want cuz the good men figure out what y’all want and that’s why y’all want us. There are no good women that aren’t taken. If you are alone it’s cuz you choosing wrong or you aren’t a good woman. Point blank period. Ain’t no man letting go of a good woman. Period. We don’t want to two problems, we want peace and I will never get peace with a woman but I sure will have periods of peace with just one. Happiness is fleeting, content can be forever.
These women are chasing a feeling, and it’s lust. Nothing more nothing less.
I think how you view relationships is just fine and completely realistic. I know that nowadays it seems like people have become overly ridiculous, especially in the realm of dating. Please don't lose hope though. I'm not trying to say that life is all about being in a relationship, there are plenty of people that thrive just fine without being in one. Seeing you mention "dying alone", is really what broke my heart though. I don't think anyone should have to feel this way. Even if you're not in a romantic relationship doesn't necessarily mean you have to die alone. I can guarantee there are plenty of people that love you and care for you that you may not even be aware of. And who knows, some day you just may find someone that has the same realistic ideals of a relationship that you do, if that's something you're interested in of course, no pressure. Keep your head up and stay optimistic, this world isn't as dark as it seems, there still are shafts of light that shine through, and you deserve happiness and love 💕
I think the modern perception of roles is a problem. The value of knowing what role you have in a relationship is immense. When you know what you are supposed to do there is clarity when there is a problem. That is not to say roles can't evolve but if you don't have a basic understanding of what you expect from a relationship. You are banking on your capacity to discern problems on the fly during intense moments. Don't lose your perspective on love but love requires discipline sometimes that is guided via your role. This is less true today as we are richer but understand we didn't always have the free time to find out what each person wants at any given moment. To an extent we still don't today.
All relationships have roles, especially formal ones like marriages. Its about polarity more than anything. Without polarity all relationships fall apart.
I think the same. I say find the ones that align with your values and that will be half the battle.
I’ve traveled all over the world and one of my pet peeves (which I heard frequently) was whenever a person made a sweeping statement like, ‘the men/women in x country are so x,y,z”.
It’s so ignorant.
Me, a European girl: getting 'courted' as it's called, barely happens. Because everyone is independent and everyone can get some. It comes with the territory. It is what it is.
If you wanna be courted, go find someone who wants to do that. But it's not specific to your country or our continents loll
As a european man: yes, I have no idea why I should pay for all dates. You're independent so we can split those bills. In regards to going up to women, it's because it takes a lot of energy and effort and most of the time it's not appreciated so I don't do it anymore.
don't know what you mean with "everyone can get some" though
@@tvdd9514 everyone can get some means in today's age you don't have to marry to have sex. So everyone can go out and get what they want without having to commit. And that's fine, but if you want something super serious, you gotta work for it to find it.
@@rivkathegreat although I agree with your statement, as a man I have to disagree. Maybe this is possible for you (and women in general) but I know plenty of men who can't get what they want in regards to sexual/romantic attention.
@@tvdd9514 it not a matter of actually doing it, but the options are more open nowadays. You don't have to wed someone just to fuck, do you? So its the same for you as me as anyone else.
Thank the feminazis for that. They destroyed the whole idea of dating standards. They only teach you to be a slut and kill your babies by calling it abortion.
The gender wars is becoming tiresome, I hear the same constant thing on both sides. We are so tied up with roles and what each gender must do instead of genuine respect. These podcasts were the worst things created
I feel you. Its tough though because part of genuine respect is hearing each other out. Both sides want to be heard but sometimes neither side is willing to listen. But those that chose to listen and be responsive to what each side is saying and affirm each person then it'll work out. But each side mostly concerned about themselves and what they aren't getting is just going to keep things going the way they are, and it's definitely not working
@@oakinwol I very much agree with you!!
So it right here 😭 you know I got SO sick of it, I just decided I’m gunna just roll with the roles 😂 my life has been so much easier since instead of arguing who does what and men vs women.
My partner and I have never been going better, wish I’d just accepted what I wanted years ago instead of being caught up in it, I’d be much further ahead if I had 😂
@@barbarawoods1372 wym roll with the roles? As in whatever roles bet suited you, you just took it? Or you get let the traditional roles fall naturally?
Then call your feminist dogs off..
Women when men pursue: "Not you giving off rapey vibes"
Women when men don't pursue: the video we just watched
A few studies found that "rape" sex fantasy is rather high up on the list ..
It's all fun and games until the guy gets accused of stalking or even rape once she changes her mind after the one night stand... It's ironic how often these women want the "mantis/black widow" power available
Let’s be honest, I’ve seen this double standard across a lot of female-only entertainment like comics and shows. It’s only rapey if he’s unattractive, but the minute the male lead is hot, anything goes
@@VampyBlood17 And what hurts the most is that you'd think there'd be a cutoff but no, you're totally right... ANYTHING goes.
50 shades is an example but it's everywhere. They can be as creepy as they wanna be as long as they are attractive, but meanwhile I feel like just cause I'm born ugly I have zero chance to begin with. Even if I have to mention them as a necessity, with no romantic interest, I get looked at like it's an insult. "Hey, I was told to tell you (manager) wants you for a second" I get looked at with utter disgust. I guess I just don't "know my place" and I'm too wretched to be treated like another human. Meanwhile, you see the tall social guys getting away with murder and there's no consequence
Damn bruh
@@VampyBlood17 There's another version of that which goes, if he's attractive, then he's the lead of 50 Shades of Grey, but make him unattractive and he's gonna be in an episode of Criminal Minds 😂
As someone who has been well exposed to the balkan, latino and middle eastern communities I have seen that the men often don't treat the women that well.
As an arab from Iraq, I can tell you.. Most marriage in my parents generation are marriage with no love (not my parents but you get what I'm saying) and they just learned to live with it. Reason they also stay in marriage is out respect and honor which they lose upon divorce and to stay loyal for same reasons. Throughout history Arabs always cared about the traditional things like honor and reputation, it certainly hasn't changed, not even in the new generations. Just the other day I heard some 17 year old kid killed his sister cause she began smoking/doing whatever she wants because she became a feminist (her family were like extreme Muslims).
While it's by no means right to justify murder but as someone of that culture, I can understand why he would did it. Reason why I do is because I've lived with these people to understand their mindset and values, and they regard honor as their top priority which that young lady supposedly tainted/disgraced.
And no, it's not about religion, it's about culture. Often times even Muslims that live in European/American countries move their culture as well to their respective country they live in and try to somehow make a connection between Islam and their culture, like bruh wtf 😂😂
This. As a middle eastern woman i agree
@Kawala those drugs hella hit hard
I do think love is very important in a marriage. But so to is what your people do, honor and respect. I think the person that can successfully mix both, will have a very happy marriage.
As an Arab from Morocco i can see that you have been intellectually molested and cucked by western liberalism and feminism. Maybe your parents don't love each other, but we don't define love according to the degeneracies of Hollywood, our definition of love is that you get married first and and you treat each other with respect and compassion , speak softly to each other and sacrifice for one another and that's how love gradually grows, our definition is right because it works between any man and woman as long as there is attraction between them . The idea that you are special and have a soulmate somewhere and you need to keep sleeping around until you meet that person is a lie and it destroys the marriage and family institution, and it is making both men and women miserable in those society where marriage is disappearing and more than half the marriages fail.
@@Hamzaben9 That's not what I said.
First of all, my parents married out of love, I stated the exception. Just because I know a lot of people that have married out of love doesn't mean majority of population have done so based on my personal observations, what I said isn't a biased opinion neither is it mine, it's a general fact.
Just because someone doesn't get into an arranged marriage doesn't mean they have to sleep around women/men to find a person worthy of marriage. There are people in the middle east who meet people and date for a long time before getting married. While this doesn't only apply to middle east, you can't just generalize western culture and claim that's all what they do, because I still know some people who are religious Christians/Jews that don't want sex before marriage THAT LIVE in the western culture, just like the people in the middle east.
With all due respect, that idea of arranged marriage was something tribal that was used to unite tribes and families and most cases was just to reproduce.. for many different reasons. Life was harder than it is right now.
Yesterday's responsiblities are today's choices, the world evolved, and so did we.
I realized recently that we expect high standards of each other, our friends, our families, our dates, or partners, strangers, politicians, customer service workers. But we have forgotten to hold ourselves to a high standard, we owe it to ourselves to be as precious a commodity as we pretend we are. The only problem is that it takes hard work and lots of effort to work on ourselves, so it's easier to force others to treat us how we want. We make ourselves an almost immovable wall that doesn't allow for the humanity of others because we deserve better, even though we don't work on our own flaws.
I don't expect anything from people anymore
What u mean by "we" men dont have high standarts like women do
I'm Mexican and FUCK NO! I'm not chasing anyone, nor doing all the work, if you don't bring something positive into my life then I don't need you, this girl is the perfect example of why we are staying single now.
Guess what! us man nowadays know how to cook, iron clothes, do everything around the house even more than women, and that's why we don't care to stay single, and if all you can bring is sex, then that's all we're going to want you for.
Amen I'm half Puerto Rican and Africa American who grew up with only female in the house. My mama told me "You're going to cook, you clean, and show respect. If a woman doesn't like you because of the way I raised you she ain't it for you mijo." Love ain't about what they can do for me or what I can do for them. it's about can we ride the low tides and the high waves? What can we do for each other.
@Soul Data That's because you are one of the few mate, you know damn well here in Latinamerica there are tons, I mean TONS of SIMPS, willing to be treated like crap. Well, some are crap too to be fair.
@@eddygiron2390 Is it really that bad down there? I feel like in the States men have are giving up and walking away. We still have a lot of simps. But most guys around my way use women for sex. I don't blame them either because that's all modern American women are good for.
Mexican men know how to cook, fantastically, lawd best food ever
@@savagewaifu4694 Oh yeah, it is, no lying no exaggeration either. Lived every single of my 39 years in Guatemala, not leaving this place, I love it, however, from all over Latinamerica, I've seen how so many "men" (more likes dudes) as long as they get a piece of something (and it doesn't have to be a kiss!!!), are willing to put up with shaming and other male humilliating psychosocial situations. It depends too, on each individual, and the kind of approach they make at the beginning that gets tagged and involved in more nasty and unfructful relationships. Cute and slightly funny avatar you have there.
Thank you Preach for that intro, I feel like I can like and move on to the next video already 💯
As an Arab man, my answer is nooooooooo, many of us wont.
exactly like we r gona leave our virgin women to deal this entitled women
@@thexn0r lmaooooo bruh this is so funny. I hope you're really Arab😅😅🤣
I don’t know what she’s on about 🤣
@@thexn0r أنت شايف قسم ب لله تقهر ذي البنت كانها تقول غصبا عنك ي عربي تواعدني😂😭
@@hash9065 ههههههههه اصلا المواعدة ليست للعربي الاصيل كل من سيكلمهم هو مغترب مقطوع من اهله و ناسه
Completely untrue, my girl pursued me she’s South American, she says the same bs about the men there, that they cheat abuse etc, we met and yea I treat her well but damn I got it 100 percent in return from her, best relationship I’ve had married 6 years now.
What you guys say is Truth. Everyone wants to be the prize without putting in work or effort and play the blame game when it doesn’t work out. 🤷🏾♀️
I love how what feminism has created where, “no means no,” don’t pursue women, leave women alone when they reject you, men should stop and not pursue women, in fact men are creepy when they relentlessly pursue women is now allegedly men being “spoiled,” and what feminism cried for for so long is now what is blaming men for not pursuing women. It’s like women got what they want but not really what they want and they still want the best of the old with the best of the new. You know what she really wants? She wants a handsome, tall, well built, millionaire dude to pursue her and she keeps turning him down but he’s relentlessly still trying. She doesn’t want a relationship, she wants a hallmark movie, where her just _existing_ as a woman should be enough to attract the wealthiest and best of men.