A much needed discussion we need to have. BTW as a person who gives a lot of presentations, your use of audio-visual aids is impressive (particularly for a presentation given in 2015).
Please watch this video to the end, it is long, but perhaps the most helpful resource available. Covid-19 has escalated the urgency of much needed support of our loved ones struggling with mental health issues. Friends play a vital role in the wellness of those we love and care for. Many have lost their jobs, health benefits, which eliminates therapy options and perhaps much needed medication... and has forced isolation. This video has given me the help I need to support and understand a loved friend from slipping into that dark place and knowing they are deserving of love and are not alone... I feel very inadequate and mess up all of the time as I am dealing with anger which is not pleasant but as my brothers keeper, not an enabler, I can not abandon my friend in a time of extreme need... in a few days I will try again because it is hard now and we both need a little break... that is love, all I can do, but I have not reacted and understand this storm we are in is not intentional...Thank you for posting this, you have really helped me help my friend.
Thank u doc for making this Video.. so much Wonderful info.. my 24year old son who's schizoaffective , was diagnosed early 2016. He has been willing to receive mental health services until the beginning of this year .. he has been unwilling to receive mental help at the mental health clinic in the city . He's in and out if... I need help and I Don't need help .. he started smoking marijuana again after being sober for a year ,since last April and he's spiralled down slowly since then . Finally we have told him if he doesn't start seeking help , he can no longer live in the house . Finally agreed to see an independent psychologist only to change his mind last minute. He ended up going however, after we reminded him he cant stay in the home. But he has stopped taking his Abilify all together for about a month now and only taking Effexor. He's been very inconsistent since January, with him 70% of the tine off his meds . I am more often wanting to give up . But I'm trying to stay positive 😲 I wish there was a magic button to push😭😭😭 I have tried to not get depressed from this ..
Can you share some more of your experience in coping with this, my brother who is 21 now is in the same condition and he also have suicidal thoughts. We have a psychiatrist who sees him every one or two weeks but the psychiatrist does not do much and his emotions tend to go up and down irregularly. He does not eat or sleep adequately. I don't know what to do, he thinks all family members are evil. God bless you and I hope God gives us strength to overcome this.
My 18 yr. old son was recently diagnosed with bipolar disorder 1 back in March 2020 when he went thorough his first psychosis atack. He was supposed to take medication by court order but but he doesn’t and he is going through a second psychosis attack that sims to be lasting longer. Do you have any colleges in Tucson Az that you personally know? Do you ever have conferences in Arizona?
I have been trying to get my daughter mental help since fifteen years old, shes now 22 and has a child. she is 100% detatched, and has told many lies about me, and she moves from place to place blaming the last person. Just one hour professional evaluation, Her thinking is squewed. She acts like she will not do what I say. She has unhealthy relationships one after another. I was the only relative that supported her and she treats me as bad as it gets.How do you get her help?
I'm no expert, but I've learned from situations with friends. Contact NAMI, a national mental health organization. They have a lot of knowledge and can help refer you to resources. Check out this link for a 127 p. online book that offers some expert advice: www.nami.org/getattachment/Learn-More/Mental-Health-Conditions/Related-Conditions/Anosognosia/I_am_not_sick_excerpt.pdf It ain't no easy straightforward path, that's for sure, but it helps to learn from others who have been through it. And there are a lot of people who have been through it.
I am signed up for their family class. I do not know if NAMI offers it on youtube, if not they should...to reach more people...I think I offered to help them post my class...I know some things are confidential so that may be why they will refuse.
Mam you are mother so you better understand that life is a big challenge if relation are good it's our good luck but when it create trouble it's not feel good so as a human being we are blessed with two options one is God prayer, meditation, and second is medical help if both you take together it works more fast ....
Doc Komrad, I don't know if you will ever read this, but I want to thank you - for this informative video and the book which you wrote. You have given me some direction to follow to help my sister who is in great need of an evaluation, but is resistant.
Pam j I’m so glad it was helpful. This really is the most difficult first step. Even when good care is available, convincing people to access it can be really challenging. I hope your sister continues in a journey towards good care, healing, and critical support from you.
@@markkomrad6654 Thank you. She lost her only son eleven months ago and shortly afterwards developed "evil spirit hallucinations". She suffers terribly on a daily basis. I hope I can convince her to see someone.
Well, I don’t see how it’s workable. I have a daughter who is 44, living on the streets for pat 5 years. She can’t live with me because she had her 6 kids taken away due to psychosis and they were given to me by the court. How would I get her to see that she needs treatment when she thinks she doesn’t? None of the above will work. I’ve tried it all for 5 years
The best I can do in this forum is to urge you to read my entire book: See: YouNeedHelpBook.com It's far more extensive in generating ideas that I can cover in a 1 hr lecture.
Bisggest problem is that you can get everyhting set up and then the patient wants to abandon it all and wants help to start over somewhere else, no longer will take medication and is hostile to even the closest family members who are willing to help- the area of trouble is the Law protects them from having to receive treatment but expects you to help them; and take care of them - It's and OXYMORON approach Make the Law so family can help and not just guardianship- that is overridden by the other laws. Long story but why should we have to fight to take care of family who if are chronically proven to have the illness = we get interference by nonsensical laws
Actually there is no law that a family MUST take care of an ADULT with mental illness in any U.S. jurisdiction I am aware of--unless that family is formally given guardianship over the disabled family member (which is pretty rare). Some of the techniques in my book (YouNeedHelpBook.com) in Chapter 8 about "therapeutic coercion" give ideas about how the privileges of family membership can be deployed to steer people into treatment, utilizing the inherent, often incompletely tapped, power of families. The following chapter is about how to optimally use the law that mobilizes power beyond family---laws about involuntary commitment that invoke authorities such as the police, courts, ER's and civil commitment hearings.
RV Beginner Winnebago Adventurer '97 there are no such laws in the US that I am aware of, which mandate medical treatment as a precondition of social benefits for the poor-either financial or medical benefits. On the other hand, to get Social Security Disability (SSDI), you must have documentation from a treating physician to see if you qualify. And follow up reports every few years to see if you still qualify. However SSDI is not limited to the poor, it’s for anyone, no matter their income, if they have paid into the Social Security system by having withholdings from their paycheck for at least 5 quarters of work. SSDI benefits end at age 65.
A much needed discussion we need to have. BTW as a person who gives a lot of presentations, your use of audio-visual aids is impressive (particularly for a presentation given in 2015).
Wow I've learned more on this Dr's video than what i had learned on therapy sessions, i am definitely applying this way of communication with my son.
Please watch this video to the end, it is long, but perhaps the most helpful resource available. Covid-19 has escalated the urgency of much needed support of our loved ones struggling with mental health issues. Friends play a vital role in the wellness of those we love and care for. Many have lost their jobs, health benefits, which eliminates therapy options and perhaps much needed medication... and has forced isolation. This video has given me the help I need to support and understand a loved friend from slipping into that dark place and knowing they are deserving of love and are not alone... I feel very inadequate and mess up all of the time as I am dealing with anger which is not pleasant but as my brothers keeper, not an enabler, I can not abandon my friend in a time of extreme need... in a few days I will try again because it is hard now and we both need a little break... that is love, all I can do, but I have not reacted and understand this storm we are in is not intentional...Thank you for posting this, you have really helped me help my friend.
Thank u doc for making this Video.. so much Wonderful info.. my 24year old son who's schizoaffective , was diagnosed early 2016. He has been willing to receive mental health services until the beginning of this year .. he has been unwilling to receive mental help at the mental health clinic in the city . He's in and out if... I need help and I Don't need help .. he started smoking marijuana again after being sober for a year ,since last April and he's spiralled down slowly since then . Finally we have told him if he doesn't start seeking help , he can no longer live in the house . Finally agreed to see an independent psychologist only to change his mind last minute. He ended up going however, after we reminded him he cant stay in the home. But he has stopped taking his Abilify all together for about a month now and only taking Effexor. He's been very inconsistent since January, with him 70% of the tine off his meds . I am more often wanting to give up . But I'm trying to stay positive 😲 I wish there was a magic button to push😭😭😭 I have tried to not get depressed from this ..
Can you share some more of your experience in coping with this, my brother who is 21 now is in the same condition and he also have suicidal thoughts. We have a psychiatrist who sees him every one or two weeks but the psychiatrist does not do much and his emotions tend to go up and down irregularly. He does not eat or sleep adequately. I don't know what to do, he thinks all family members are evil. God bless you and I hope God gives us strength to overcome this.
Sorry to hear off your struggle. I am facing similar issue with my sister. My challenge is to get her evaluated. Wishing you the best.
@@leduyanh1010 Sorry to hear about your struggle, I can relate. I wish you and your brother well.
@@ty-lim Wish you all the best friend.
Superb Talk. Everyone needs to hear this.
My 18 yr. old son was recently diagnosed with bipolar disorder 1 back in March 2020 when he went thorough his first psychosis atack. He was supposed to take medication by court order but but he doesn’t and he is going through a second psychosis attack that sims to be lasting longer. Do you have any colleges in Tucson Az that you personally know?
Do you ever have conferences in Arizona?
Thank you for this excellent talk . Dealing with a daughter ...
See my book YouNeedHelpBook.com
I have been trying to get my daughter mental help since fifteen years old, shes now 22 and has a child. she is 100% detatched, and has told many lies about me, and she moves from place to place blaming the last person. Just one hour professional evaluation, Her thinking is squewed. She acts like she will not do what I say. She has unhealthy relationships one after another. I was the only relative that supported her and she treats me as bad as it gets.How do you get her help?
Did you ever find an answer to your question?
I'm no expert, but I've learned from situations with friends. Contact NAMI, a national mental health organization. They have a lot of knowledge and can help refer you to resources. Check out this link for a 127 p. online book that offers some expert advice: www.nami.org/getattachment/Learn-More/Mental-Health-Conditions/Related-Conditions/Anosognosia/I_am_not_sick_excerpt.pdf It ain't no easy straightforward path, that's for sure, but it helps to learn from others who have been through it. And there are a lot of people who have been through it.
I am signed up for their family class. I do not know if NAMI offers it on youtube, if not they should...to reach more people...I think I offered to help them post my class...I know some things are confidential so that may be why they will refuse.
th-cam.com/video/uyCf6p4FChk/w-d-xo.html she looks interesting about this topic.
Mam you are mother so you better understand that life is a big challenge if relation are good it's our good luck but when it create trouble it's not feel good so as a human being we are blessed with two options one is God prayer, meditation, and second is medical help if both you take together it works more fast
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Doc Komrad, I don't know if you will ever read this, but I want to thank you - for this informative video and the book which you wrote. You have given me some direction to follow to help my sister who is in great need of an evaluation, but is resistant.
Pam j I’m so glad it was helpful. This really is the most difficult first step. Even when good care is available, convincing people to access it can be really challenging. I hope your sister continues in a journey towards good care, healing, and critical support from you.
@@markkomrad6654 Thank you. She lost her only son eleven months ago and shortly afterwards developed "evil spirit hallucinations". She suffers terribly on a daily basis. I hope I can convince her to see someone.
I’m only ten but my mom is suffering a lot from mental illness and my dad and I can’t make her seal help
Francis Fok I hope you’ll encourage your dad to get my book, which goes much deeper and is full of practical tips. YouNeedHelpBook.com
You can go to court to request judge to force her to get to a hospital to seek help. Its called involuntary commitment.
I hope you are well and that you, your mother, and your family get the right help.
Francis, I'm sorry to hear of your struggles. Stay strong. I wish the best for you and your mother.
Well, I don’t see how it’s workable. I have a daughter who is 44, living on the streets for pat 5 years. She can’t live with me because she had her 6 kids taken away due to psychosis and they were given to me by the court. How would I get her to see that she needs treatment when she thinks she doesn’t? None of the above will work. I’ve tried it all for 5 years
The best I can do in this forum is to urge you to read my entire book: See:
YouNeedHelpBook.com
It's far more extensive in generating ideas that I can cover in a 1 hr lecture.
Bisggest problem is that you can get everyhting set up and then the patient wants to abandon it all and wants help to start over somewhere else, no longer will take medication and is hostile to even the closest family members who are willing to help- the area of trouble is the Law protects them from having to receive treatment but expects you to help them; and take care of them - It's and OXYMORON approach Make the Law so family can help and not just guardianship- that is overridden by the other laws. Long story but why should we have to fight to take care of family who if are chronically proven to have the illness = we get interference by nonsensical laws
Actually there is no law that a family MUST take care of an ADULT with mental illness in any U.S. jurisdiction I am aware of--unless that family is formally given guardianship over the disabled family member (which is pretty rare). Some of the techniques in my book (YouNeedHelpBook.com) in Chapter 8 about "therapeutic coercion" give ideas about how the privileges of family membership can be deployed to steer people into treatment, utilizing the inherent, often incompletely tapped, power of families. The following chapter is about how to optimally use the law that mobilizes power beyond family---laws about involuntary commitment that invoke authorities such as the police, courts, ER's and civil commitment hearings.
People who do not get help for their mental illnesses especially the more serious ones, should not have the privilege of owning a gun.
It’s a right, not a privilege
I was told that people in low income situations are better off because they are forced to get help if they want monetary assistance...
RV Beginner Winnebago Adventurer '97 there are no such laws in the US that I am aware of, which mandate medical treatment as a precondition of social benefits for the poor-either financial or medical benefits. On the other hand, to get Social Security Disability (SSDI), you must have documentation from a treating physician to see if you qualify. And follow up reports every few years to see if you still qualify. However SSDI is not limited to the poor, it’s for anyone, no matter their income, if they have paid into the Social Security system by having withholdings from their paycheck for at least 5 quarters of work. SSDI benefits end at age 65.