Im sitting in my room crying , because i came here to find a video to prove to my husband that theres something wrong with him because hes always blaming me or telling me what i do causes him to be an ass. Turns out im not better and what i t hink he is is actually what i am , a pathetic child . im dumbfounded at how dumb i have actually been , being a victim overtly and covertly , think its time i opened my own eyes and started healing my own trauma properly , not for my husband , not for my kids , not for anyone but myself .
Brilliant. There’s so much in this that I need to slow right down and understand it a sentence or paragraph at a time. This talk is packed with information about why we blame others and it leads to what we are avoiding in ourselves. When our parents or care givers blamed us they were desperately trying to avoid taking responsibility for themselves and their own feelings. But they didn’t know it. Now we do it. Reversing the process, the addiction, the habit, is the way out of this mess,
And that's their issue...not yours. If you get wrapped up in labels like scapegoat and what others are doing, it starts to veer into disempowerment...which leads to blame and victim mentality. You do you, take responsibility for you, and show up to life in the best way possible. Distractions, ruminations, about what others are doing, won't empower you.
When someone blames everyone else for their problems, it is called, Projection. Projection refers to attributing one's shortcomings, mistakes and misfortunes to others in order to protect one's ego. Blaming others is more common in those who are experiencing negative feelings and are unable to regulate their emotions. For many people, blame is a favorite game when something goes wrong. If we habitually blame others for our problems instead of taking responsibility for the part we may have played, blame can become a way of life. Taking personal responsibility for our lives and refusing to blame others for our problems is a mark of maturity. Blaming others for our problems only keeps us mired in immaturity. We also forfeit opportunities to learn from our mistakes, develop perseverance, and work in harmony with God to produce the character of Jesus in our lives. (Read Galatians 5:22-23) When we blame God and others for our wrongs, we falsely elevate ourselves above God. As believers we willingly choose to disregard His laws and we treat His blessings with disdain because we think we know better than Him. Non-believers do exactly the same thing. They too substitute God's laws for their own. Yet the truth is, every time we try to be God, we fall into an endless spiral of self-justification where we have to continually justify ourselves by ourselves. What we must realize and accept is that owning up to our sins, while not easy, sets us free. We come to Christ by admitting our sins and asking Him to save us. Romans 10:9-10 The next time you find yourself in a situation where you are confronted by your own sin, own up to it. Choose God's ways over your own. Be set free! "Today, if only you would hear His voice, Do not harden your hearts." Psalm 95:7-8 Tomorrow may be too late 🙏 🪶 👆 Your Soul Is A Diamond 💎 Let It Shine God's Light...
Blame is avoidance of facing the real, deeper issue, hurt. It's easier to get angry (blame is a form of anger) at others, than to admit, own, our own deep disappointment and hurt.
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By being the change we want to see, without forcing. By resolving our own emotions within ourselves that surface in relation to people who are in denial, so we can be independent light, and are able to turn any darkness into light. I suggest you to watch my 4 free videos @ www.alive-academy.com to help you with this process. 🙏🍀❤️💎
I love that u posted this topic. I just want to understand - in the planndemic or pandemic- scenario when Bill Gates wants the entire world vaxxed- and I blame him and the elite for being so inhumane....does this make me a victim? I say no forced vax for freedom and rights...But i sometimes wonder how I can move around this idea - and not be upset...Perhaps this topic is more for personal use- which i get and love your explanations. Ty.
I just don't like that you use the index finger and then said the 3 fingers are pointing towards your self. But everything else are very helpful. To live a simple life will help us face our fears. Thanks for your help. I hope mamy more will watch the video and br helpful to them as well. Keep growing. To God be the glory. Pls. Pray for my healing as well....
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How do i stop blaming a parent for "not giving me the feelings i wanted " , the blame is so strong i try to avoid the parent as much as possible. Please help
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But what if someone makes you feel powerless by scolding you and it irritates you because you were shocked and did not scold back? How do you deal with those negative feelings that arise?
No one can make you feel anything, as an adult. They can only trigger what's inside you. Our core wounds are our triggers and if we feel powerless already (huge indication of a wounded inner child), that can be triggered by others. Our triggers are our responsibility. Our boundaries, and healthy management of those boundaries, are our responsibility. Our communication, direct, clear, assertive, calm, is our responsibility. Having our own back, is our responsibility. It is with The aforementioned, that we become more empowered. When we feel empowered, others don't trigger us to feel powerless. We know who we are. We know our strengths, weaknesses, and hold compassionate space for it all. We show up as ourselves and for ourselves. That's how it's done.
Is it ok for a friend to blame me for a mistake I made?!! She said I’ve only got myself to blame and it’s my fault... I’m so hurt! I could NEVER tell anyone this! Even if they made the mistake... I just couldn’t bring myself to to do this😢 I was already filling gutted! That’s the last thing I needed to hear from a friend!! She’ll I dump her as a friend!!!
Never treat your ex like a friend... More confident you are around her the better ...so act as if you're a couple.. if you want to keep her. that is....
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Blame isn’t needed at all. No need to blame yourself. No need to blame others either. Taking responsibility doesn’t mean blaming. It means I am responsible for my feelings and I can learn from them and grow to understand them. ❤❤
Im sitting in my room crying , because i came here to find a video to prove to my husband that theres something wrong with him because hes always blaming me or telling me what i do causes him to be an ass. Turns out im not better and what i t hink he is is actually what i am , a pathetic child . im dumbfounded at how dumb i have actually been , being a victim overtly and covertly , think its time i opened my own eyes and started healing my own trauma properly , not for my husband , not for my kids , not for anyone but myself .
I've had years of "therapy " and never had this explained to me so well. Thank you. :)
I thought I was showing this to my students to learn something and I ended up learning more about myself.
Glad it helps 🙏🏻💎🍀👍
Brilliant. There’s so much in this that I need to slow right down and understand it a sentence or paragraph at a time. This talk is packed with information about why we blame others and it leads to what we are avoiding in ourselves.
When our parents or care givers blamed us they were desperately trying to avoid taking responsibility for themselves and their own feelings. But they didn’t know it. Now we do it.
Reversing the process, the addiction, the habit, is the way out of this mess,
Some people i know don't seem to take responsibility for their shortcomings and want to use others as a scapegoat.
And that's their issue...not yours. If you get wrapped up in labels like scapegoat and what others are doing, it starts to veer into disempowerment...which leads to blame and victim mentality. You do you, take responsibility for you, and show up to life in the best way possible. Distractions, ruminations, about what others are doing, won't empower you.
When someone blames everyone else for their problems, it is called, Projection.
Projection refers to attributing one's shortcomings, mistakes and misfortunes to others in order to protect one's ego.
Blaming others is more common in those who are experiencing negative feelings and are unable to regulate their emotions.
For many people, blame is a favorite game when something goes wrong.
If we habitually blame others for our problems instead of taking responsibility for the part we may have played, blame can become a way of life.
Taking personal responsibility for our lives and refusing to blame others for our problems is a mark of maturity.
Blaming others for our problems only keeps us mired in immaturity. We also forfeit opportunities to learn from our mistakes, develop perseverance, and work in harmony with God to produce the character of Jesus in our lives.
(Read Galatians 5:22-23)
When we blame God and others for our wrongs, we falsely elevate ourselves above God.
As believers we willingly choose to disregard His laws and we treat His blessings with disdain because we think we know better than Him.
Non-believers do exactly the same thing. They too substitute God's laws for their own.
Yet the truth is, every time we try to be God, we fall into an endless spiral of self-justification where we have to continually justify ourselves by ourselves.
What we must realize and accept is that owning up to our sins, while not easy, sets us free.
We come to Christ by admitting our sins and asking Him to save us.
Romans 10:9-10
The next time you find yourself in a situation where you are confronted by your own sin, own up to it.
Choose God's ways over your own.
Be set free!
"Today, if only you would hear His voice, Do not harden your hearts."
Psalm 95:7-8
Tomorrow may be too late 🙏
🪶 👆
Your Soul Is A Diamond 💎
Let It Shine God's Light...
Thank you for your words 🙏
Blame is avoidance of facing the real, deeper issue, hurt.
It's easier to get angry (blame is a form of anger) at others, than to admit, own, our own deep disappointment and hurt.
Hi @Alphacentauri819, you are already insightful on this matter as far as I can read in your comment. You might find even more in the 4 free video's, they might be worth checking out 😉
alive-academy.com/funnel/how-to-overcome-fear-pain-dependency-and-disease/how-to-overcome-fear-once-and-for-all/
Take care!
Amazing this, iys really helped me. Thank you
Great video thank you very much. Im going to Send this to a Certain friend!
Where your fear is, there is your task - Carl Jung
Thank you for your hard work and putting this great info out there for us! It's very helpful
Blame is also a part of being afraid.
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How can we help someone else in denial .
By being the change we want to see, without forcing. By resolving our own emotions within ourselves that surface in relation to people who are in denial, so we can be independent light, and are able to turn any darkness into light. I suggest you to watch my 4 free videos @ www.alive-academy.com to help you with this process. 🙏🍀❤️💎
I love that u posted this topic. I just want to understand - in the planndemic or pandemic- scenario when Bill Gates wants the entire world vaxxed- and I blame him and the elite for being so inhumane....does this make me a victim? I say no forced vax for freedom and rights...But i sometimes wonder how I can move around this idea - and not be upset...Perhaps this topic is more for personal use- which i get and love your explanations. Ty.
Great explanation of this abstract subject. Thank you 😊
I just don't like that you use the index finger and then said the 3 fingers are pointing towards your self. But everything else are very helpful. To live a simple life will help us face our fears. Thanks for your help. I hope mamy more will watch the video and br helpful to them as well. Keep growing. To God be the glory. Pls. Pray for my healing as well....
If this video resonated with you, feel free to watch my other video's here : alive-academy.com/ 💎🍀 They might provide you with other insights on the matter
This is a very important one
How do i stop blaming a parent for "not giving me the feelings i wanted " , the blame is so strong i try to avoid the parent as much as possible. Please help
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You might find the insights you are looking for.
I can see this, between my spouse & me. He needs to watch this but he thinks he’s ‘normal’ everyone else is wrong and they/me make him angry
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Very helpful video.
Thank you! 🙏
But what if someone makes you feel powerless by scolding you and it irritates you because you were shocked and did not scold back? How do you deal with those negative feelings that arise?
By becoming independently fulfilled and liberated. I suggest you to watch the 4 liberating videos @ www.alive-academy.com 👍💎❤️🍀
No one can make you feel anything, as an adult. They can only trigger what's inside you. Our core wounds are our triggers and if we feel powerless already (huge indication of a wounded inner child), that can be triggered by others. Our triggers are our responsibility. Our boundaries, and healthy management of those boundaries, are our responsibility. Our communication, direct, clear, assertive, calm, is our responsibility. Having our own back, is our responsibility. It is with The aforementioned, that we become more empowered. When we feel empowered, others don't trigger us to feel powerless. We know who we are. We know our strengths, weaknesses, and hold compassionate space for it all. We show up as ourselves and for ourselves. That's how it's done.
Good to see a video taking "blaming others seriously".I think it's expecting others to do what we want;but they have their own life/perspective.
I wish people understood this
Thank you for sharing 🙏
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Is it ok for a friend to blame me for a mistake I made?!! She said I’ve only got myself to blame and it’s my fault... I’m so hurt! I could NEVER tell anyone this! Even if they made the mistake... I just couldn’t bring myself to to do this😢 I was already filling gutted! That’s the last thing I needed to hear from a friend!! She’ll I dump her as a friend!!!
Never treat your ex like a friend... More confident you are around her the better ...so act as if you're a couple.. if you want to keep her. that is....
👌🏽
If this video resonated with you, please check out the 4 free videos I created to gain more insights, I will paste the link here : alive-academy.com/ 🍀🙏💎
there should be a balance of knowing when to self-blame and when to blame others
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Blame isn’t needed at all. No need to blame yourself. No need to blame others either. Taking responsibility doesn’t mean blaming. It means I am responsible for my feelings and I can learn from them and grow to understand them. ❤❤
i can understand why poor steal from rich but rich also steal from poor why do rich need to steal from poor?