I should add to this (just for clarification), that I know many people who identify with so many different religious, political and philosophical ideologies. I have friends who are Democrats as well as Republicans... Christians, as well as Atheists, and so on. And while they don't always get along well with one another, I find that I usually get along with all of them just fine... because I relate to them at a level deeper than these superficial identifications. Beneath all of that, we're not so different. By recognizing our commonalities, we find our connection.
My mother once said this to me: "the people who are in groups, they are islands they dont connect with anyone that's not from their island. But you are the river, you are the sea and the lake that binds the islands togehter, you may stay one place sometime and then move on again, but in this way you will hold the sand and stones from those islands. This is the memory and the knowledge of water. And this sand, you leave behind on other islands so that they may grow from meeting you." I hope this helps all of you who feel that they dont belong. Much love ❤❤
@@JimObsolete We live in brightly coloured dark ages where those of us who can see, are forced to watch the magicians make our fellow man dance to any tune they choose, at their will, utilising their many tools of control and deception. Welcome to the globe delusion, an all-encompassing occulted religion. One built on pseudo-science and sophistry to bamboozle the young and unsuspecting gullible into accepting such a ludicrous concept as their reality. A concept that bears no resemblance to reality and requires special effects and artistry to visualise it...
You got it. This year is the best education about the illusions humanity largely shared and what most people are really like.. Not very 'human' at all. Now is the time to detach from the herd.. Radically, and nurture oneself.. You won't be missing out.. But we know that now.
I have never fitted anywhere since childhood, the people around me made me believe that I had a problem, I later realized that I'm just an introvert and I'm at total peace being by myself.
I'm an introvert and crave social interaction. Don't use it as an excuse. The reason why i don't fit in is something much deeper in my brain than introversion. Not that i should feel bad about me or you
@@9_9876 some people can be introvert and not want constant interaction too. I feel like I want to be left alone most of the time and when people want to talk to me I do like that but I prefer to be alone. I dislike how certain people attach themselves to me for the entire day and it bothers me. I'm not antisocial I just prefer my own company to that of other people sometimes. It's called being independent. The only interactions in life that I welcome are people who come with positivity but most importantly who value boundaries. As an introvert people who don't know their boundaries want your constant attention. I haven been like you too where there was a time I wanted to interact with people alot more and it has its pros and cons. When you talk to people you realize that some people are just not good and they're narcissists. So if you are a sensitive person who doesn't want their feelings messed with be wary. Some people love to play mind games and make you feel insecure out there.
@@9_9876 reasons you probably don't fit in come down to the fact that you are different in some way that people are not used to. If you want to get to know people or interact with people you have to extend yourself in someway to make abridge between you and other people. I think of it as acting or playing a part. For this to work you have to be in touch with your inner feelings and properly express those to others
Friends are overrated unless they are real. Being alone I find is peaceful but there are moments of feeling "lonely". Many people are drama so I take solace in being alone to explore hobbies.
Well i would say, even if i prefer to being alone a lot of the times, it is still a pleasure doing things together with other people that we enjoy together, even if there are certain things /ideologies /believes i disagree with them, just having respect for each other and agree to disagree and enjoy all the things that we have in common in peace and harmony (even though, i enjoy a healthy discussion with other people about a lot of topics).
Yes! Me too, l belong to the natural world of the wonders and wildlife that we are usually not celebrating and appreciating in our lives. The insects, birds fish and other sea creatures, mammals and plants are the familiar ones that have been a major part of my life and my experience with belonging. Soil,water, winds and the energies of the earth are all here in a state of mingling with all of the other vibrations, on and on ,love in action and miracles available in each precious moment.
Same. I feel acceptance and belonging in nature. Playfulness, silliness, sadness, anger, dignity, healing are easy to share. With most people there are rules and taboos and judgements and control that always shut me out somehow.
WOW...People who have similar feelings and connections with their experiences in life. I too have no religious affiliation, l do believe in the Golden Rule of do to others as you would have done to you. I think that is the best of all religions. Dogmas, expectations, future planning, titles, taboos, judgements and rules are really not something that matters to me or even thought about. I live by my heart's desire to be a part of the solution, living with the loving kindness and reverence for all life. Love, laughter, attention and intentions to do no harm. Living in the mystery of this wonderful world is a treasure to be able to do and simply being is my delightful honor. I trust in the mystery and it works for me. I don't disbelieve. Enjoyment and patience in being alive.
Exactly. When I realized that I never really had a crowd I also learned that I tend to slide through different social circles fairly easily. I've learned a great deal from my travels and appreciate all the folk I've met.
@@rctecopyright The only thing that's kind of a bummer is that it's hard to find people to tag along to various places. For instance, I can have a friend who likes rock climbing and parties, but not the same friend to also writes poetry and dealing with computers and machines. I like it quiet, just as much as I like it loud. Hard to find people that find peace in both.
I don't fit. It used to cause me so much pain. Now I realize that the reason I don't fit, is because, I have always tended to see all sides, which makes it hard to fit in one fixed place.
That’s a great way of putting it...my ex used to get annoyed , criticising me for ‘not having’ a fixed opinion..I always used to say..but I see all sides to the argument. To be fair sometimes it drives me nuts
I know. It used to feel like I was flashing between many realities. It used to feel like I was losing my identity (or sanity), but then, as I got more grounded and healed, I began to appreciate my ability to have insight 💕
@@ANSELNaamehRahab This is only practical if you're a neurotypical person. The times I have gathered the courage to be myself have failed terribly and worstened my mental health. It works for most because most people are typical. I'm truly odd, so what I say is very very unlikely to connect with people. Life is easier for normies
I saw on yt somewhere where ppl legit had a convo that poor ppl think more bc they sit on their asses. While others dont bc they work more often. It was a whole entire freakin thread. ..If that wasnt the dumbest thing i have ever come across 🤦🏻♀️... I mean, i could recall the bits & pieces ive learned throughout my life, & then figure out some missing things when i try to figure out the link, then assume the entire process & function of my anatomy, or how its affected by the things i put in there, & the wear & tear, medicine, the air, the other things i consume,,, - while im sitting on the shitter too. But 💁🏻♀️ maybe thats just me. I dont really think those things. I kind of do. But it was just a random ex. Imagine thinking that thinking stops just bc youre doing things? Yeah, idk. Youre prob just brain dead then.
This equates to all power being concentrated in the hands of the single individual alone, or better yet a married couple who each loves the other more than themselves, because they represent the complete human being when they become one flesh.
@@rebeccalankford2652 I was referring to total union. The bible uses the word 'flesh' to imply a complete oneness. However, sex for angels is extremely powerful. The angelic couple do not make children, their lovemaking produces new 'truths'. This comes from the revelations presented to us from the Lord of the Universe by means of His servant Emmanuel Swedenborg in Circa 1745. See his book, conjugial Love.'
Forty years ago a woman told me she couldn't "pigeon-hole" me into any group of people. It was a light-bulb moment for me, realizing I was perfectly ok that way and at 67, still am.
Same. I was described as complex. I responded differently though. I went on a journey through Hell. I was dead on the inside, and the only time I felt alive was when I found myself in mortal danger adrenaline junkie stuff. Combine it with isolation and I got a wake up call when two friends contacted me thinking i had killed myself. I wish to get to a point of acceptance. For now I just need to work on myself to... I dont know. Be normal for now maybe? I feel a lot better now though. I am sick of being depressed.
@@MW-ty5zw It's that age old question: What is normal? I stopped asking myself that years ago. All humans are unique and those two friends who contacted you value your uniqueness. My wish is that you embrace the person you are. I know it's not easy, as at one point in my life I suffered from severe clinical depression. It was a huge hurdle to overcome as I was and am a bit of a loner. Again...embrace and love the unique person you are!
That reminds me of the coolest compliment I ever received (I don’t know how it was intended but I took it as a compliment lol). The gal said that I didn’t remind her of anyone.
@@CharCanuck14 I get that. Bashing yourself is neither productive or good. Thing is, I have very little going for me which will result in a prosperous future. I've failed my education, have very few friends (whom I am garbage at keeping in touch with), lacking social skills, an addictive personality, can't talk to women while remaining confident. What pragmatic point is there for me to accept myself? Most likely it will result in a lonely miserable life. So change it is or I'll most likely not be around by the time I am 40.
Boy..... I think the universe is trying to tell me something. I’ve always been a weird person. Even when I try my best and want to be apart of a group people always shut me out. They act as if I’m invisible and often ignore me even when I’m trying my hardest to be friends with people. I guess my soul is here to learn about solitude. To Lean on the great divine of the universe. I’m blessed to have a couple of buddies that I can call my friends. But I’ve always had a struggle making friends and I’ve always ALWAYS been told about how strange I am. How intimidating I can come across. I’m not unique. I’m not saying I’m special in any way. So many of us are here together sharing our strange solitude life and that’s beautiful. Well anyways keep being you gentle soul. Namaste 💙
I feel as thought I have been put into the box of "being weird" all too much in my life. Ive noticed that over time it wasn't that I was weird, or undesirable by people, It was because I was so confident in being myself. I was not malleable by societal views. I'm not trying toot our horn, but I feel we are the type of people that are fearlessly following what is true to us. We aren't strange, people just aim to box us away as "strange" because they cannot end up manipulating us. Sending light, love and positivity!
@@shyamlalani6380 I love your interpretation! Thank you so much for sharing your wonder words of wisdom with me today. I think you have a point. I’ll meditate on your wisdom further. Have a blessed day kind soul. Namaste ❤️ Follow your heart and may your heart lead you to love, light, and abundance always. ❤️
you shouldnt have to try hard to be friends , i've experienced that and its a bit offputting ....as louis hay said ' stop criticising yourself and start approving of yourself and see what happens'
Seeing you all here , intrigue me that I'm seeing mirror of a person with same projection and perception. ~ We have a work to do on this planet ~ Universe
You don't have to fit in. none of us do. That was the lie. It's ok to not fit in. nobody does. There is no fitting in. We are all unique and that's ok. No one is better or worse than anyone else. No one. Judgement is the enemy ofall.
dairymuffin Absolutely that was a very big lie but I believe it came from survival instincts. If you belong to a group and a group always has an accepted social order then everyone knows what to expect and what is expected of them. When someone from another group has to be dealt with they are an unknown quantity and therefore possibly dangerous to survival. If you are an individual with no affiliation to any particular group then once again you are a threat because you’re unpredictable. So in a sense it all makes sense it’s just that we are evolving beyond that point now and transitions are usually a little rocky.
Everyone fits somewhere, whether it's hippies, stoners, jocks, Nerds..everyone changes themselves to fit somwhwere. Except me...I'll call out ALL groups on their bullshit so I fit NO where.
I also like being alone. But at the same time i feel fear of being alone. Usually when i see people laughing with friends and chatting around the table, i ask myself "why i am different?"
I fell same way but in relationships-it fells like i don't have part that everyone have and i also should have,even if sometimes i fell like i don't need that part-sorry for bad english but i hope its enough clear to understand 😅
Is your fear really about being alone? I have anxiety and it manifests as fear or a feeling of dread, yet there is no reason for fear....it is just a bad feeling not due to being afraid of any one particular thing.
@@southlondon86 hello, mostly. I am taking antidepressants, which help with anxiety. But I still have anxiety. When it manifests, I try to recognize it, as Buddhism recommends, and it disappears after a few minutes once I acknowledge it's there. Do you have anxiety? Can I help you?
Hello! Yes, l am in my 70s and I have never had a tribe or any friends who are interested in me and are available for play, celebration, or whatever. Acquaintances but l am the oddball, out cast and the loner. I don't make concessions on my spirit or my truth to fit in. Loving kindness is the only thing that matters in my opinion. Living in a reverence of the universe and the magic of beauty and blessings that are always present. Each moment is a treasure and a gift from spirit. Staying in touch with my unique perspective and understanding that we are all together in the mystery of our relationship with our world. I feel content with my reclusive and solitary life. Laughter, love, compassion, joy, passion, peace and the magic of life unfolding in each precious moment. No judgment, regrets or needs to do it for the purpose of fitting in to a group. Gratitude is a constant reminder of the abundance of life in every day of being alive. THANKS for your time and your thoughts. Enjoy!
Thank you for sharing your story , I am myself quite a loner person too! , I have very few friends but I am happy ,I don’t need my house full of people in order to be happy .i have 4 dogs , I have kids and grand kids , but my dogs are special!
I used to belong to a religion, a political party, a book club, a women's group, facebook, instagram and twitter, even a family. Then one day I decided to set myself free and declare that I will never again belong to anything! I even let go of family members that were toxic to me. It has been amazing! I am so glad to hear another person speaking about living this way; There are not many people that do this. I feel so much more powerful and peaceful. My mind has been opened. Thank you for sharing. Come and visit some day. You are the kind of person that I could hang out on my barn roof with and just chat about anything that comes along.🙏
I thought that I was loosing “friends” because I couldn’t fit in but later I realize that they were the ones that lost me because they didn’t fit in with me ...I found myself to be my best friend 🥰
At the lowest point in your life . You find yourself. And will change it entirely when you change your thoughts.people treat you the way you feel and treat yourself. No body is meant to stay.
You will find your people, though. A few rare people made just for you. It’s wise to not settle down before that, in my experience 💕 Keep doing you, and the right people will come, and I swear that’s not some weird “spiritual” stuff 💕🥳
Just found you and I cried the whole video. Thank you for showing that I am not alone. Thank you for being this wholesome person. Thank you for the sanity. Just thank you for all and for nothing, if it makes sense...
I'm not trying to say do what I did but when I was 22 I stopped wasting my time on those not worthy to hold my watch! So I'm single, never married, no kids, and am very happy just existing, if you tell yourself you need something you'll torture yourself trying to attain it! So be happy in the moment and welcome things that make you happy or give you perspective, if something comes along and doesn't feel right distance yourself from it! Hope that helps, if not it's just an opinion and everyone has one.
@@Aurgelmer444 but no matter what you do it always work out ...if you lose someone then you hold on them or let them go but time always files and life ends then what is the point..
When I was 16 years old, an elderly school teacher I had at the time told me that of the thousands of kids he had encountered in his teaching career, I was the only one which he couldn't figure-out and was totally baffled by - I have worn that compliment as a badge of honor since.
The more I go on to being my true self the more people disappear from my life. I don't fit in anywhere ever. I'm always somehow uncomfortable because I don't feel the other person being authentic, so it bores me. Its so rare that feel I can connect with someone, It has taken a tole recently
I know, as I'm sure we all do here, exactly what you mean. Although, I was just thinking the other day that this year is a massive education, the the truth is being revealed.... about everything. With this in mind, I know that anyone I do connect with in the future with be amazing and flow with ease in conversation and energy. This is because it is becoming more and more obvious who we will and won't connect with on a soul level, a consiousness level, a vibrational level. This will make it easier for us to find each other and will be even more genuine and authentic, because it is rare. Let those people disappear and go, keep going, it's making room for better connections in the future. In the difficult times, remember to self nurture, speak compassionately to yourself, be kind to yourself and remember, it will pass. Trust yourself and your journey. Cut yourself some slack and congratulate yourself for getting through this year. Autumn is a perfect time to let go of what we don't need, like the trees losing their leaves in a beautiful colourful display with such grace. They show us with beauty the art of letting go. Autumn is also harvest time where we reap the fruits of all the hard work we have done through the year and celebrate. Keep going, stay on your path and be your authentic self. The great thing is...we don't need lots of people in our lives, one or two is fine, as long as the connection is there. This year I'm flipping everything on it's head and finding the advantages of the challenges we are surrounded with.
I feel better whenever I am alone. I just cannot fit in with other people whether they are my family or friends. I just feel drained whenever they come around. Now I walk alone and I feel so happy and fulfilled.🙏
Me too! Exactly! Going so far as to walk long after dark or 2 hrs before sunrise….no interruptions…….so beautifully quiet. My head stopes spinning❤️ Different all my life 89 yrs. Stay true to yourselves…..
Wow...I thought I was alone in feeling this way, or at least in a very tiny minority. Thank you for making this video and sharing so that I was able to view and reflect. I think these insights are perfectly timed for this situation we all are in at this time.
There is a difference between solitude and loneliness. In solitude we have the opportunity for the most growth, those that travel alone travel furthest. The sense of not belonging inspires the search for our “True home”. I always felt that not belonging to this crazy world was a good thing. Detachment from this reality is a sign spiritual maturity.
I appreciate your comment and can relate to it in many ways. At the same time, I think that those of us who are lonely often slip into this 'oh, I'm alone because I am different, different means somehow more intelligent/superior' mindset, and if we aren't careful we can end up telling ourselves that we are alone because we are better than others, which is not objectively true.
~ Yes White Glass, I feel solitude is a valuable gift & seek it's qualities whenever possible. ~ ~ ~ ~ Wishing you & everyone, much Peace, Harmony & Balance. ~ ~ ~
Angels have communities. Every angel belongs to a community. Still, the best of the angels live separate from their communities. They live alone with their wives or husbands. Yes, they are married, but there is no formality, they meet, they choose each other, they live forever half in each other, but they have their homes in secluded areas away from the others. All angels were once human. The purpose of life is to produce angels.
This is deeply relevant for me. My motto is “Be in the world, not of it.” Every once in a while, I will join a community and adopt its ideology for a while as a kind of practice. It always feels good at first, to kind of have a firm identity and “belong” but inevitably I can’t help but to see the dogmatic underpinnings of most groups and will run back to Nature, my real tribe.
Once you deny dogma as necessary for human flourishing, you become an animal. Your statement is illogical because your dogmatic underpinning IS that dogmatic underpinning is bad. When you come to understand basic logic, get back to me.
@@blackbat121 You belong not, simply because: John 15:19 (KJV) If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you. you are CHOSEN OUT from this world, TO DO THE WLL OF YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER in this world: Matthew 7:21 (KJV) Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. the emptiness which we shall feel inside our souls, is GOD`S quiet voice, calling us to SEEK HIM, TO GET TO KNOW HIM TO UNDESTAND HIS WAYS TO ALLOW HIM BACK INTO OUR LIVES.
My brother and I don't fit in anywhere, and we've come to accept it, a long time ago. Not fitting in has helped me succeed in a lot of the things that I do. I'm happy as it is. 👍
I guess we all fit in with one another, in that we're misfits. Perhaps it's not that we don't fit in but they we're pursuing the wrong ventures in the entirely wrong hemisphere. Since I was young I've had a sense that I'm in the wrong something. Family? Postal code? Era? Planet? I don't know.. I just instinctually know something isn't right.
It's so nice to see I'm not alone. I used to think I was shy, but have since come to the conclusion that I just don't like people very much. I guess that makes me anti-social, and I'm okay with that. I too have practiced social distancing most of my adult life, so this pandemic really hasn't changed my life all that much.
Totally agree. I have Practiced social distancing all my life because I realised when there r people there r people judging you for being diffeeent for not making eye contact for being quiet
Once long ago different elements were forged in the heart of ancient stars. These molecules were then spread throughout space as these stars went supernova. Now they are vibrating as a human being. My beautiful friend, we have always been and will always be one......
Society is divided by design. People are far easier to control when they're divided. The day when people come together, the world would be a completely different place.
It's not just by design, it's natural. Sure, some people exploit it, but they're just exploiting something that was already there. Humans are biological machines running a program we call an ego structure. The ego structure is constantly trying to make itself "real", and it can only do that trough having an "other" validate it. Be it trough acceptance or conflict it's made "real" by the "other". This is a fundamental process of nature and is the source of all duality and "separateness". Existence could not be existence without non-existence. Before something exists it's only the possibility of existing, not actually existing. In order to exist it must be separate from non-existence, it must be more than one, at minimum two. When there is two one can validate the existence of the other making them both "real". The ego structure works on this mechanism, so it will always seek out ways where is can be different/separate from others, it is its function and this leads to concepts such as "I" and "you" and "us" and "them". This takes place everywhere in nature, even in non living material, and it's why there is a nearly infinite combination of things. Hate to tell you this, but you might as well make peace with that humans will always be at "war", even if we all come together as one we'll still separate ourselves from other things that we'll see as "not of us". Only way this will ever stop is if we become Borg and consume the entire universe making it back into one thing and with it end existence.
Hey man, you have 35 thousand subscribers, they all seem to enjoy being here so you do have a place you belong. And all 35 thousand of us feel belonging here to which I thank you for. :)
To the "Millennials" or "Doomers" in the comments who seem melancholy about being alone or not fitting in, this is not something to be sad about, I believe the gentleman in this video's message is that it's ok and perfectly "normal" to be unique and it's very liberating to live in YOUR truth. You can still have friends and enjoy relationships while staying true to yourself, it's not all doom & gloom out there ✌🏽✌🏼✌🏿
@@AwakenInsight I have always felt like this, even as a child. I felt different. I've had periods of time where I belonged, but eventually ended up by myself and outside of every group or mentality that exists. I never followed convention and am only now starting to understand that somehow I always knew intuitively that it was a waste of time because that is not our true source of peace or joy.
Thank you TH-cam algorithms for this recommendation! Divingly timed! As a toddler I felt like I was dropped off on the wrong planet and knew there was something fundamentally wrong with this world. I have never fit in anywhere, God knows I did try a few times! I'm 46 now and I am completely comfortable not fitting in anywhere and completely comfortable within myself. I am a soul on a journey of learning and everything I need is within. I love solitude, have a deep connection with nature and the cosmos and so many of my gifts require solitude - guitar, painting/art, meditation, reading, learning, researching, healing. Despite not fitting in, I am never lonely, bored and do not feel any sense of loss or separation. It took me many years of learning and lessons to reach this point and return to who I really am, which I knew in my childhood, however school, society, family, religion and indoctrination etc steered off the path of myself. I understand now that everything I experienced and learned from(in this life) has been preparing me for the times we are living in right now. What better year than this to be an individual, a hermit, an independent soul, a cosmic being, a "loner", self sufficient and so on. We are actually made for this and just by living as our authentic selves, we are giving a message to others that they can if they want to and we are communicating by example. Thank you for video, the woods look lovely. Big Love from Ireland 🇨🇮💚🙏😁.
Thanks,for the first time here some say exactly how i am. and allways been. And tried al kind of selfhelp,yogi,travel,search. Listen,try religion. But just see a bunch of humans high on dopamin. Same evrywere. And i feel drain and diffrent. So lovly to here this. Iam 47 dude from sweden,and this iam to glad that my algoritm had this to me. i feel free in a way now,but i the same more lost,and feel intuitiv some bad may happen sooner than later. And much beucuse of all the things that happen around me on close as global level. Strange to be aware or alive,counchness or what it is. Thanks. Love to you all
Feeling this comment and just as my struggling part, I think it's my ego well definitely part of it 🙈 I do know I want to do and be better, peace and love from Ireland also 🙏
I don't want to fit in. I have that inner peace that comes with accepting oneself. I look forward to each day as a new adventure. I enjoy being alone. I enjoying sitting on the porch and talking to myself. I had forgotten how funny and witty I can be. I will enjoy what's left of my life and follow "the yellow brick road".
This has been me in my own life. I've always assumed it was due to my childhood trauma. But it's comforting to know I'm not alone in this. Great video. Glad I found your channel 🙏🏽
Plain Plane / I have the same feeling, and was informed I do not belong here for I was on a different course when encountered this world which took my interest... we are not weird, they are for they are focused on material and totally ignore the surroundings of this present and temporary world. This is not my world, it's THEIRS. I am always looking for individuals who are "strange". I am strange to majority. This world is brainwashed and derailed from what it was meant to be. Just stay your course, wait for the transition and mostly, TRUST in yourself..
I feel the same way. I have often thought that maybe I am from a different planet but I think it's because we aren't living the way the human race is meant to live. We all still have instincts from our ancestors in our DNA. Most people who seem happy really aren't they just pretend to be. We were meant to be with nature not destroying it so we can get more then we need to survive. We aren't meant to be around thousands of people everyday but are meant to be around a small "village" and we are all meant to play an important role in that village. Humans have become unnatural and aren't living in habitats that support what they are. Humans have become the fish out of water trying to swim in a concrete sea all while trying to out swim the other fish next to them, but neither of them go anywhere.
Hi 😊 Okay so I've felt this way *all* my life, especially after maturity from being a teenager. How I also describe it is that I am a robot and I've self-programmed (well, tried) to match the world. The world feels like I'm not supposed to be in it and everything I do and say has been something I have learnt, so that I fit in. Including learning feelings and how to react to emotional situations. Underneath the robot that everyone has come to understand, is what I can only describe as a solid ball of tangled mess, which is hard to connect with on a conscious level and was once unavailable. I think, you are currently unavailable. I had a breakdown then break-through about a year ago now, so want to briefly explain what I've come to see... Because if we, "robots" on your comment thread are the same... Then it may be beneficial! So, my understanding has been this... My childhood was traumatic = I learnt to hide who I was to save having to feel, out of fear of rejection, non-love and pain = I then sealed up tightly my experiences into a, "solid ball of tangled mess" and removed any conscious attachment to it, wiping it from my memory = so, here I am now rediscovering my childhood and slowing tapping into my true self. Believe me it is truly hard. But it is so worth it. Now when I laugh, I feel it, when I cry, I actually feel it. It's hard but the more you let yourself feel the better you get at controlling/magaging real feelings. Basically, You grow emotional intelligence. Slowly, my robot-self is less of a necessity to use, atm I'm about 80% of the time robot, but I'm hopeful now that I understand my purpose... It's all inside us: the answer. Comfort, fitting in and satisfaction does not come externally... All the answers lie in being true with who we are and opening up that mess in whatever way works 🙏
Introversion. I bet you can talk for hours about things that are spiritually important and meaningful to you. Campfire discussions. The meaning of life. Not being able to go on and on about someones on and off relationship, new wheels, or how these pants look is a blessing. (Just random examples)
I remember George Carlin said that he loved people.. up until they start gathering in groups, wearing uniforms, arm bands, shouting slogans, and shaking their fists in the air.
In 1964, at 8 years old, I watched Rudolf.....this is how I learned the term which describes me. A Misfit. However, I had no desire to "fit in". People called me weird, odd or strange. I would smile and say "thank you". I know who I am, I know what I want and I follow the path of my own making. I feel bliss in my life daily.
For me I only wonder what the motive of my feeds are. Actually, i wonder the motive of everything. "Normal ppl" : say stupid pointless shallow things Vs other "normal ppl" : how dare you 😤. But lets keep this going on anyways... My head: omfg i just completely went full on psychiatrist mode 😅. "Listen, i know you're lame ass hurting. But that has nothing to do w/ me. So idk, do you?! Yeah, lets go w/ that. Only then, you can be on your way to being less lame 👍. Youre not "savage" & "bad ass." Youre just rude, immature & childish. Fr, stop going out in public like that. The world is not your damn daycare. Yw 🌠
No, you're not! You're right where you belong, extremes don't work. Create your own path to your happiness, that's the point of life. The path to enlightenment is in the middle way. It is the line between all opposite extremes.- Siddhartha
Im just me & im just here. This ended up in my feed & 😅, idk if i have these vibes. Still dont really care. About how others 🙄 see me. But ok. I listened tho. I hafta say, I disagree on some things. Ill just leave this here tho bc nunya
That's how I used to feel too- too conventional to be part of the alternative culture(s) and too alternative to be a comformist. But I realised that even if you want to be a hippie/alternative, you'd still have to comform to some sort of convention which defeats the entire purpose of countering the norms. What I'm saying is, is we're in the right place, and we're making our own norms and our own conventions.
I fit in with my 2 dogs and 3 cats and that’s enough now that I’m nearly 70 and realise that being on the outer all of my life has made me strong and more understanding of other humans who look like they are having a fantastic time at their bbq’s etc😺🇦🇺❤️
Mrs Mercury ......... people started to leave me in my mid thirties....it was like a spell had been put on me..........I’ve always felt like an outsider ......... I’ve tried to fit in it just doesn’t work........my best friend now is me l guess.........
Evan Paluch In Italy we have a saying: “Whoever finds a true loyal friend finds a treasure!” Something that has become very rare and very hard to find. “The best company is that of our own.” [OSCAR WILDE]
@@Nuts-about-Nature that's so like me. I don't trust anybody now though, literally just my family. I've tried for over 50 years to fit in but I just don't.
I have spent years of my life punching and kicking my soul, trying to fit into a mold that clearly wasn't the right shape for me. Abusing my body and mind in the process. I am now left a broken man, slowly trying to put the pieces back together, but at least now I have an outline of my true structure. I will probably never be a correct piece of the puzzle. I realize that the only way for me to find happiness is to create everything from the ground up, which is incredibly difficult when you are a self-doubter and self loather like me. I can't just join a community like I wish I could.
Self exploration is the new frontier. During this down time I've connected with previously unknown facts about myself. I'm pursuing myself in my comfort and discomfort, in my knowing and not knowing, in allowing myself to engage myself. I've learned that I didn't trust myself. I didn't trust myself because I knew that I would sacrifice myself to please other people. I don't need to be unreasonable in my approach to people. I no longer have unrealistic expectations of myself and others. Thank You for the video.
I’m so content with self that fitting in anywhere isn’t even a subject in my life. I don’t spend time with people other than in my field of work or casual meetings in social settings. I find my immediate family plenty enough and nature is my precious friend. I wasn’t always at peace and struggled due to society and social norms being a system for brainwashing. Your beautiful message will assist individuals alike to find the inner self sooner than later. Peace ✌️ lives there 🌸
I have always felt this way. As a young child, I always wanted to be with elders... I loved the stories they told... Peers are busy getting drunk, watching T.V. and clueless about the world. I love my animals and my family... the world is a scary place.
I grew up with my grandparents and learned so much from the older generations. I fit in with mostly the elderly as I have never been one either to waste my time partying. It's funny too because when I go out in public those small social interactions we have with strangers are likely to come from the little old ladies I love so much.
In my 20's I searched for companionship. In my 30's I found my companionship. Now, in my 40's I spend most time alone. I am more satisfied with life today, than at any other point.
I walked through a park yesterday on a weekday wed. morning, with my dog , it was cool 45 deg.F. light drizzle gloomy , yet I felt so at one with nature , the trees had spirit , the squirelles ran by as if teasing us, I felt if I could be a ghost I would haunt this park for years , I was one with the birds singing the rain , the nature felt wonderfful this is what we were meant to be here for, to feel ,to know , this world, yet we waste our lives chasing material crap...
But sir when it doesn't matter what i am doing it always feel like i am wasting myself and my time...either i was sitting in nature or even doing the thing i enjoy..there is an empty feeling that won't go away
@@dheerajsharma1366 I believe this to be a hole in our soul , I feel the emptiness too, its a longing to go home feeling for me, yet I have no home here on this plain.Try bonding with something a pet , a lover , a passion, silly as it sounds I grabbed a big beautiful tree one day Hugged it , spoke telepathically and told it how much I valued it , I appreciated its existence, when we have gratitude we find love , that love fills are spirit and we take that with us back when we leave as knowledge. All this may sound weird or hippy like but we were meant to feel intuiatively not just intellectually and carry this wisdom back to our home on the other side.🙂good luck brother.
I just got a mental image of my cat and I quietly staring at a bug on the floor and running around (playing cat and mouse) my little apartment at 3 in the morning. Sounds about right.
WOW. Great Wordage! This world has accepted that mindset of "If your not with us - you're against us." Humanity has become so conquered and divided that the world is paying the price. Neutrality is a BEAUTIFUL thing! Being neutral = It's OK to agree to disagree and still have respect and integrity with each other and ALL THINGS. Peace and Be Well, j.
That is a great and healthy mentality to have. as long as other's values and integrity are as noble as ours. Because if for whatever reason, another individual has a destructive way of living/thinking, it won't be noble to agree with that. Thus, discernment is still necessary in this world at least.
Compromising intelligence is so 100% true, like the lack of intelligence shown when people are so obsessed with slapping a label on someone. It’s like this weird trendy compulsion to shoot first and ask questions later.
I often feel that I do not belong no matter where I am. Group perspectives are always narrow, by their very nature. Like you, I do not now, nor ever have belonged to a group.
@Sunflower Shine If only it didn't feel so necessary at times to feel a sense of belonging. Not that it always IS necessary, but, it sometimes can feel that way. I believe it was Terence McKenna who said: "If you keep yourself as the final arbiter you will be less susceptible to infection by cultural illusion. Now the problem with this is that it makes you feel bad to not be infected by cultural illusion because it's called alienation...the reason we feel alienated is because the society is infantile, trivial, and stupid. So, the cost of sanity in this society is a certain level of alienation."
No one understands how I enjoy my solitude, I would never be so real as to say, I hate being around people but my disillusioned view of humanity has gone down so far that I cannot bend any further to want to be part of any one group, at first my status here was one of hiding and I guess that shaped me for what I am, I now realize I never had friends and today I’m so ok with that, I’m grateful I found your story, I completely understand and thanks for putting yourself out there so we know we’re not the only ones, much ❤️
for me, every day seems a little harder to avoid slipping into misanthropy. There's no balance to the negative I see and hear around me on a daily basis. I'm surrounded by very racist, homophobic, gun toting, bible thumping people - and I am none of these things. I can't seem to get away from them except when I come home and close the door to the outside world.
@@DSchae2165 There IS a balance- you/yourself/your growth/your imagination is the other side n counterbalance to them. Their beliefs are limiting. Your personal growth is unlimited. Your imagination is unlimited. When you must be around them- observe and learn- for your own purposes and growth. Observe them. Do it all as an experiment. Learn from stoicism and buddhism on how to deal with such people, situations n circumstances. Learn about Spiral Dynamics and how it explains n describes individual evolution and societal evolution...Think about a time when you will be in a better place- geographically and individually/emotionally/psychologically. Your circumstances are an opportunity to learn n grow and prepare you for the better future. Create it! Start with your own personal health. The healthier you are the easier everything is and the better each n every experience is for you. You have an opportunity to learn n grow and flourish.
I am he same. For years I tried to "fit in" with my friends and family but it always failed. I more like to hang out with my cats and crystals than I do with toxic people. I too found my solitude as a blessing and in the end I would say, and still do say, that I'm an old soul passing through.
Wasn't it Diogenes who said that? Don't mean to be rude but cynicism is my favorite school of philosophy and i certainly remember that it was Diogenes who was the first to proclaim that giving way to the term 'cosmopolitan'. But now that i searched it there seem to be some pictures and sites who attribute it to Socrates???
@@WeAreAnonymous3 You are correct. My bad. Not sure why I gave Socrates credit for that. It could be that I had just been reading "The Republic" and had Socrates on the brain. Thanks for the correction.
@@waynemcleod6767 awesome. Being a McLeod is something very powerful. My grandfather was Benjamin McLeod . He was from canada then nyc. Where are you ?
How well I understand you. Always stood and walked alone in life, since I was a child. But that made me strong and taught me to think with my own brain. Living as a free spirit, even if that means living like a lonely wolf, is always better than being like a brainwashed sheep, always adapting and submitting to rest of the flock.
So far I've known that there's dualism in the world between right and wrong, good and evil etc. And what is that symbolism that you used on you're profile picture ?
@@kimikimikimikimikimikimikimi89 the YIN-YANG-YUEN. The triple truth. Thesis, Anti-Thesis, Synthesis. But in the end it's all part of the same Being. The One.
This is such an incredible message. It really makes me feel good to be awake, and makes me feel confident in my alienation. I feel as if i’m completely alone, as everyone I know is turning on me because I don’t identify with their agenda. Its hard, and it’s lonely, but little reminders like this just make it so beautiful.
I’m a freshman and everybody just wants the teen age dramatic life and I just want to manifest the most high vibrational life for me, I know how it feels 💛💛 don’t worry be who you are , so you can find people who suit you , they will come ! 🦋
You almost made me cry, thank you, this had always been something that I’ve experienced.. The human society is so limited which makes people judgmental because they themselves feel insignificant... I’ve always came home sad or irritated because someone would treat me a certain way because I don’t dress, walk, listen to music, or talk like how people expect me to... I know it’s not that I’m “different” but I’m more comfortable with being my authentic self, and those people are not... I like being at home or out in nature, away from people, because honestly I have felt more disappointment than joy from this strangers. I’m nice to everyone until they give me a reason not to be, but yes at this point I like to be in my own presence and not waste any of my precious energy on negativity. My aura, my mind, and being are way too precious to me...
Exactly I 100% agree with you. People are not comfortable with you being comfortable with yourself. I'm comfortable with others being who they are even if I find it annoying. all I want is for people to understand that have my own feelings and thoughts that won't always match with their own.
I collect the forest fuel overburden to prevent fires, and make it into humus. It is a wonderful life, but I would like it better with a woman that I could love and respect. They only thing I really need is an honest helpful woman to be totally content. But still, I am so happy in my forest even all alone. I thrive on the quietness, such excellent medicine!
Once one identifies with a label, group or ideology, they stop caring about the truth. After such an identification, they only care about what interpretation of the truth benefits their group, or chosen label etc. As you say, at the end of the day we all are beautifully complex human beings, and it's the abstract labels we use to divide ourselves which has to go, not any particular person in power. In any case, thank you for this video it is quite refreshing to see someone with such a perspective....
What if you identify only partially with a label, enough to use it but not be totally blinded by it. To me some labels fit better than others but that doesn't mean I don't realize that every label is only a partial truth and cannot be swallowed whole.
I should add to this (just for clarification), that I know many people who identify with so many different religious, political and philosophical ideologies. I have friends who are Democrats as well as Republicans... Christians, as well as Atheists, and so on. And while they don't always get along well with one another, I find that I usually get along with all of them just fine... because I relate to them at a level deeper than these superficial identifications. Beneath all of that, we're not so different. By recognizing our commonalities, we find our connection.
I'm really glad to see you back and hope you are doing well.💖
Shoot me to the moon and let me study this insight
Well said my heart
Do you know your blood type? I'm type AB, and I'm pretty much like that.
@@Wonderwall36 Me too, Blood group AB Negative.
"I don't hate people. I just seem to feel better when they're not around."- Henry Chinaski
I agree with you, this world is too peopley.
Holy shit. You read pulp?
AKA Bukowski
Yes Buk knew....he raised me....
@Bee in the Hive You completely missed the finer points of this video.
My mother once said this to me: "the people who are in groups, they are islands they dont connect with anyone that's not from their island. But you are the river, you are the sea and the lake that binds the islands togehter, you may stay one place sometime and then move on again, but in this way you will hold the sand and stones from those islands. This is the memory and the knowledge of water. And this sand, you leave behind on other islands so that they may grow from meeting you." I hope this helps all of you who feel that they dont belong. Much love ❤❤
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Thanks, this is thought provoking...
"It is no measure of one's health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." - Krishnamurti.
MY SEnTIMENT ALSO
@@JimObsolete We live in brightly coloured dark ages where those of us who can see, are forced to watch the magicians make our fellow man dance to any tune they choose, at their will, utilising their many tools of control and deception. Welcome to the globe delusion, an all-encompassing occulted religion. One built on pseudo-science and sophistry to bamboozle the young and unsuspecting gullible into accepting such a ludicrous concept as their reality. A concept that bears no resemblance to reality and requires special effects and artistry to visualise it...
You got it. This year is the best education about the illusions humanity largely shared and what most people are really like.. Not very 'human' at all. Now is the time to detach from the herd.. Radically, and nurture oneself.. You won't be missing out.. But we know that now.
Here here
Wow I font know how i got here but here I am
I have never fitted anywhere since childhood, the people around me made me believe that I had a problem, I later realized that I'm just an introvert and I'm at total peace being by myself.
You are perfect my friend.
I'm an introvert and crave social interaction. Don't use it as an excuse. The reason why i don't fit in is something much deeper in my brain than introversion. Not that i should feel bad about me or you
@@9_9876 some people can be introvert and not want constant interaction too. I feel like I want to be left alone most of the time and when people want to talk to me I do like that but I prefer to be alone. I dislike how certain people attach themselves to me for the entire day and it bothers me. I'm not antisocial I just prefer my own company to that of other people sometimes. It's called being independent. The only interactions in life that I welcome are people who come with positivity but most importantly who value boundaries. As an introvert people who don't know their boundaries want your constant attention. I haven been like you too where there was a time I wanted to interact with people alot more and it has its pros and cons. When you talk to people you realize that some people are just not good and they're narcissists. So if you are a sensitive person who doesn't want their feelings messed with be wary. Some people love to play mind games and make you feel insecure out there.
@@9_9876 reasons you probably don't fit in come down to the fact that you are different in some way that people are not used to. If you want to get to know people or interact with people you have to extend yourself in someway to make abridge between you and other people. I think of it as acting or playing a part. For this to work you have to be in touch with your inner feelings and properly express those to others
We are not introverts we are spiritual people.
Friends are overrated unless they are real. Being alone I find is peaceful but there are moments of feeling "lonely". Many people are drama so I take solace in being alone to explore hobbies.
Same
Me too,
Same, too many unnecessary distractions
Well i would say, even if i prefer to being alone a lot of the times, it is still a pleasure doing things together with other people that we enjoy together, even if there are certain things /ideologies /believes i disagree with them, just having respect for each other and agree to disagree and enjoy all the things that we have in common in peace and harmony (even though, i enjoy a healthy discussion with other people about a lot of topics).
Evan Paluch this comment resonates with me so deeply 🙏🏾🤙🏾
I only fit in with animals, trees, the ocean, nature.
Yes! Me too, l belong to the natural world of the wonders and wildlife that we are usually not celebrating and appreciating in our lives. The insects, birds fish and other sea creatures, mammals and plants are the familiar ones that have been a major part of my life and my experience with belonging. Soil,water, winds and the energies of the earth are all here in a state of mingling with all of the other vibrations, on and on ,love in action and miracles available in each precious moment.
tHE BEST GROUP TO BELONG TO
Same. I feel acceptance and belonging in nature. Playfulness, silliness, sadness, anger, dignity, healing are easy to share. With most people there are rules and taboos and judgements and control that always shut me out somehow.
WOW...People who have similar feelings and connections with their experiences in life. I too have no religious affiliation, l do believe in the Golden Rule of do to others as you would have done to you. I think that is the best of all religions. Dogmas, expectations, future planning, titles, taboos, judgements and rules are really not something that matters to me or even thought about. I live by my heart's desire to be a part of the solution, living with the loving kindness and reverence for all life. Love, laughter, attention and intentions to do no harm. Living in the mystery of this wonderful world is a treasure to be able to do and simply being is my delightful honor. I trust in the mystery and it works for me. I don't disbelieve. Enjoyment and patience in being alive.
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I only fit in with others who don't fit in.
lol ditto..
for the most part haha
We can all not fit in together
Same here brother
Haha
i enjoy observing people but when it comes to interacting with them i'd rather not so much
You are not alone. Nobody alone. We just seperated, different country
...except, maybe, on TH-cam.
We are rare and one , 🌎😑🤞🏽
Wished we were together in person with same projection and perception.
@@cosmic2096 I tend to steer clear of people myself
Same here
When you remove the need to fit in, you'll suddenly fit in everywhere.
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This
Rubbish.
Exactly. When I realized that I never really had a crowd I also learned that I tend to slide through different social circles fairly easily. I've learned a great deal from my travels and appreciate all the folk I've met.
@@rctecopyright The only thing that's kind of a bummer is that it's hard to find people to tag along to various places. For instance, I can have a friend who likes rock climbing and parties, but not the same friend to also writes poetry and dealing with computers and machines. I like it quiet, just as much as I like it loud. Hard to find people that find peace in both.
I don't fit. It used to cause me so much pain. Now I realize that the reason I don't fit, is because, I have always tended to see all sides, which makes it hard to fit in one fixed place.
Se here. I find that when some are challenged, it sort if makes them uncomfortable.
That’s a great way of putting it...my ex used to get annoyed , criticising me for ‘not having’ a fixed opinion..I always used to say..but I see all sides to the argument. To be fair sometimes it drives me nuts
I know. It used to feel like I was flashing between many realities. It used to feel like I was losing my identity (or sanity), but then, as I got more grounded and healed, I began to appreciate my ability to have insight 💕
I can identify with you on this 🤔🇦🇺
Seeing all sides helped me find my place anywhere i go.
Anytime I try too hard to be friends with someone, I end up lonelier than I was. Note to self...if you have to try, they aren't your tribe.
You can always be yourself, there's no need to put on a show for showing how great you are
@Radio La Crimson I am outrageous by nature.
@@ANSELNaamehRahab This is only practical if you're a neurotypical person. The times I have gathered the courage to be myself have failed terribly and worstened my mental health.
It works for most because most people are typical. I'm truly odd, so what I say is very very unlikely to connect with people. Life is easier for normies
I saw on yt somewhere where ppl legit had a convo that poor ppl think more bc they sit on their asses. While others dont bc they work more often. It was a whole entire freakin thread. ..If that wasnt the dumbest thing i have ever come across 🤦🏻♀️... I mean, i could recall the bits & pieces ive learned throughout my life, & then figure out some missing things when i try to figure out the link, then assume the entire process & function of my anatomy, or how its affected by the things i put in there, & the wear & tear, medicine, the air, the other things i consume,,, - while im sitting on the shitter too. But 💁🏻♀️ maybe thats just me. I dont really think those things. I kind of do. But it was just a random ex. Imagine thinking that thinking stops just bc youre doing things? Yeah, idk. Youre prob just brain dead then.
@@zonedoyestander hey, you are beautiful and just be you....
"Often times fitting in means compromising our own integrity" Great quote man
No compromise is worth "my" integrity. May I hear an Amen?
amen@@kassiebarnaba7683
'You laugh at me because I'm 'different'....I laugh at you because you're all the same'.....
I get it.
It’s mean to laugh at ppl
Lol you must have seen the picture with the golden egg 🥚😄
You have to care what they think for their laughing to even affect you. This quote is acknowledging them.
Zebra Pot why laugh at other people’s preferred way of living? Is it less vindicated than yours? How judgemental.
'Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, then it is time to pause and reflect' - Mark Twain
This equates to all power being concentrated in the hands of the single individual alone, or better yet a married couple who each loves the other more than themselves, because they represent the complete human being when they become one flesh.
@@kenbellchambers4577 sexual union is not just one flesh. The mind and emotions also have to unite and become one.
@@rebeccalankford2652 I was referring to total union. The bible uses the word 'flesh' to imply a complete oneness. However, sex for angels is extremely powerful. The angelic couple do not make children, their lovemaking produces new 'truths'. This comes from the revelations presented to us from the Lord of the Universe by means of His servant Emmanuel Swedenborg in Circa 1745. See his book, conjugial Love.'
Amen !
@@kenbellchambers4577 you mean children , having kids
Forty years ago a woman told me she couldn't "pigeon-hole" me into any group of people. It was a light-bulb moment for me, realizing I was perfectly ok that way and at 67, still am.
Goddess was speaking to you through her. ❤
Same. I was described as complex. I responded differently though. I went on a journey through Hell. I was dead on the inside, and the only time I felt alive was when I found myself in mortal danger adrenaline junkie stuff. Combine it with isolation and I got a wake up call when two friends contacted me thinking i had killed myself. I wish to get to a point of acceptance. For now I just need to work on myself to... I dont know. Be normal for now maybe? I feel a lot better now though. I am sick of being depressed.
@@MW-ty5zw It's that age old question: What is normal? I stopped asking myself that years ago. All humans are unique and those two friends who contacted you value your uniqueness. My wish is that you embrace the person you are. I know it's not easy, as at one point in my life I suffered from severe clinical depression. It was a huge hurdle to overcome as I was and am a bit of a loner. Again...embrace and love the unique person you are!
That reminds me of the coolest compliment I ever received (I don’t know how it was intended but I took it as a compliment lol). The gal said that I didn’t remind her of anyone.
@@CharCanuck14 I get that. Bashing yourself is neither productive or good. Thing is, I have very little going for me which will result in a prosperous future. I've failed my education, have very few friends (whom I am garbage at keeping in touch with), lacking social skills, an addictive personality, can't talk to women while remaining confident. What pragmatic point is there for me to accept myself? Most likely it will result in a lonely miserable life. So change it is or I'll most likely not be around by the time I am 40.
Boy..... I think the universe is trying to tell me something. I’ve always been a weird person. Even when I try my best and want to be apart of a group people always shut me out. They act as if I’m invisible and often ignore me even when I’m trying my hardest to be friends with people. I guess my soul is here to learn about solitude. To Lean on the great divine of the universe. I’m blessed to have a couple of buddies that I can call my friends. But I’ve always had a struggle making friends and I’ve always ALWAYS been told about how strange I am. How intimidating I can come across. I’m not unique. I’m not saying I’m special in any way. So many of us are here together sharing our strange solitude life and that’s beautiful. Well anyways keep being you gentle soul. Namaste 💙
I feel as thought I have been put into the box of "being weird" all too much in my life. Ive noticed that over time it wasn't that I was weird, or undesirable by people, It was because I was so confident in being myself. I was not malleable by societal views. I'm not trying toot our horn, but I feel we are the type of people that are fearlessly following what is true to us. We aren't strange, people just aim to box us away as "strange" because they cannot end up manipulating us. Sending light, love and positivity!
@@shyamlalani6380 I love your interpretation! Thank you so much for sharing your wonder words of wisdom with me today. I think you have a point. I’ll meditate on your wisdom further. Have a blessed day kind soul. Namaste ❤️ Follow your heart and may your heart lead you to love, light, and abundance always. ❤️
@@lovewillsetyoufree thank you so much! May you find love, light and abundance always as well! 💙💙💙
Exact same way for me.
you shouldnt have to try hard to be friends , i've experienced that and its a bit offputting ....as louis hay said ' stop criticising yourself and start approving of yourself and see what happens'
“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society “ J. Krishnamurti
We are still trying to locate the source of the infection...
Whoa. LOVE that💯
Seeing you all here , intrigue me that I'm seeing mirror of a person with same projection and perception. ~
We have a work to do on this planet ~ Universe
@@SpikeTheNeuropsych according to Terence McKenna it's the lack of shamanic, psychedelic cultures
unfortunately so
You don't have to fit in. none of us do. That was the lie. It's ok to not fit in. nobody does. There is no fitting in. We are all unique and that's ok. No one is better or worse than anyone else. No one. Judgement is the enemy ofall.
@Owl Chemical Agreed.
dairymuffin Absolutely that was a very big lie but I believe it came from survival instincts. If you belong to a group and a group always has an accepted social order then everyone knows what to expect and what is expected of them. When someone from another group has to be dealt with they are an unknown quantity and therefore possibly dangerous to survival. If you are an individual with no affiliation to any particular group then once again you are a threat because you’re unpredictable. So in a sense it all makes sense it’s just that we are evolving beyond that point now and transitions are usually a little rocky.
Everyone fits somewhere, whether it's hippies, stoners, jocks, Nerds..everyone changes themselves to fit somwhwere. Except me...I'll call out ALL groups on their bullshit so I fit NO where.
The picture on your profile picture, I have hanging on my wall. Isn’t it beautiful?
I like myself and I like being myself...Take it or leave it...
My preferred philosophy is to accept each other as is.
"Fitting in" is tiring. Do yourself a favor and give it up (especially if you're still young)...
Best advice ever
Is it not so important if you are old? :)
Best advice I've heard all day :)
It's absolutely soul destroying trying to force yourself into a box that you know isn't a good fit for you.
True, also expensive and pointless. Be comfortable & free!
I also like being alone. But at the same time i feel fear of being alone. Usually when i see people laughing with friends and chatting around the table, i ask myself "why i am different?"
Woah similiar boat!!!
I fell same way but in relationships-it fells like i don't have part that everyone have and i also should have,even if sometimes i fell like i don't need that part-sorry for bad english but i hope its enough clear to understand 😅
Is your fear really about being alone? I have anxiety and it manifests as fear or a feeling of dread, yet there is no reason for fear....it is just a bad feeling not due to being afraid of any one particular thing.
@@heathercampion-bye329 Madam have you managed to curb your feeling of anxiety?
@@southlondon86 hello, mostly. I am taking antidepressants, which help with anxiety. But I still have anxiety. When it manifests, I try to recognize it, as Buddhism recommends, and it disappears after a few minutes once I acknowledge it's there.
Do you have anxiety?
Can I help you?
*People think im insane, but me, myself and i had a meeting earlier, and we all three agree, im not crazy!*
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏This comment is GOLD!
Same wtf
Right on, brother.
💜 Much love
So they said you're not crazy, but they didn't say you weren't insane!😅
This is why I love this social distancing thing. I practiced this all my life.
Lol. Same here. Nothing has really changed for me.
Yes I consider myself socially distant.
Myself as well
HA! I thought the same thing, Im rather enjoying it...
Same over here I keep humans at a distance lol.
Hello! Yes, l am in my 70s and I have never had a tribe or any friends who are interested in me and are available for play, celebration, or whatever. Acquaintances but l am the oddball, out cast and the loner. I don't make concessions on my spirit or my truth to fit in. Loving kindness is the only thing that matters in my opinion. Living in a reverence of the universe and the magic of beauty and blessings that are always present. Each moment is a treasure and a gift from spirit. Staying in touch with my unique perspective and understanding that we are all together in the mystery of our relationship with our world. I feel content with my reclusive and solitary life. Laughter, love, compassion, joy, passion, peace and the magic of life unfolding in each precious moment. No judgment, regrets or needs to do it for the purpose of fitting in to a group. Gratitude is a constant reminder of the abundance of life in every day of being alive. THANKS for your time and your thoughts. Enjoy!
I celebrate you, unique soul.
Thank you
Thank you for sharing your story , I am myself quite a loner person too! , I have very few friends but I am happy ,I don’t need my house full of people in order to be happy .i have 4 dogs , I have kids and grand kids , but my dogs are special!
That was beautifully put. Thank you for sharing. Bless you.
If people are not in alignment with their divine purpose and mission prior to the age of 49, rarely do they become so afterwards.
I used to belong to a religion, a political party, a book club, a women's group, facebook, instagram and twitter, even a family. Then one day I decided to set myself free and declare that I will never again belong to anything! I even let go of family members that were toxic to me. It has been amazing! I am so glad to hear another person speaking about living this way; There are not many people that do this. I feel so much more powerful and peaceful. My mind has been opened. Thank you for sharing. Come and visit some day. You are the kind of person that I could hang out on my barn roof with and just chat about anything that comes along.🙏
I thought that I was loosing “friends” because I couldn’t fit in but later I realize that they were the ones that lost me because they didn’t fit in with me ...I found myself to be my best friend 🥰
At the lowest point in your life . You find yourself. And will change it entirely when you change your thoughts.people treat you the way you feel and treat yourself. No body is meant to stay.
poetic nicely said.
Yes. F*ck friends, and f*ck girls-friends, cuz me, myself and I are the best f*cking friends.
@@deller5924 love them. But don't have them. Your outlook is still clouded.
@@goffdroid It's not an outlook....it's a joke.
It's an extremely lonely existence though, even being around people
I agree
It's a weird paradox. When I'm alone I long for the company of others and when I'm with others I long to be alone.
@@BlGGESTBROTHER exactly
You have to be around the right people, make new friends and acquaintances on your terms.
You will find your people, though. A few rare people made just for you. It’s wise to not settle down before that, in my experience 💕 Keep doing you, and the right people will come, and I swear that’s not some weird “spiritual” stuff 💕🥳
Just found you and I cried the whole video.
Thank you for showing that I am not alone.
Thank you for being this wholesome person.
Thank you for the sanity.
Just thank you for all and for nothing, if it makes sense...
🥺 i wished we could all meet and hug ourselves.
How cruel this world people has been to us , we fought and we know Universe has our back . 😇🌎🌌😑
Same. And i thank YOU
Peace be with you.
I stopped trying to"fit in" in my twenties. It was exhausting.
I'm not trying to say do what I did but when I was 22 I stopped wasting my time on those not worthy to hold my watch! So I'm single, never married, no kids, and am very happy just existing, if you tell yourself you need something you'll torture yourself trying to attain it! So be happy in the moment and welcome things that make you happy or give you perspective, if something comes along and doesn't feel right distance yourself from it! Hope that helps, if not it's just an opinion and everyone has one.
@@beytoote5039 I'm in my sixties now. I walked my own road. Glad I choose the path I did.
If you live to please other people or to be somebody else you will be miserable forever. Just let go and walk your own path, it will all work out.
It truly is!
@@Aurgelmer444 but no matter what you do it always work out ...if you lose someone then you hold on them or let them go but time always files and life ends then what is the point..
When I was 16 years old, an elderly school teacher I had at the time told me that of the thousands of kids he had encountered in his teaching career, I was the only one which he couldn't figure-out and was totally baffled by - I have worn that compliment as a badge of honor since.
Hmmmmmm
@bob marley hmmmmmm
@bob marley I think they are right but you're just an INFP like me. The only Personality type that is able to read you is an ENTP
He has probably told that to a lot of kids who he felt didn't fit in to make them feel better. Sorry brah
eamonosiadhial Nice ! I have the same from a teacher when i was 18 years !
The more I go on to being my true self the more people disappear from my life. I don't fit in anywhere ever. I'm always somehow uncomfortable because I don't feel the other person being authentic, so it bores me. Its so rare that feel I can connect with someone, It has taken a tole recently
:-) INFP?
I know, as I'm sure we all do here, exactly what you mean. Although, I was just thinking the other day that this year is a massive education, the the truth is being revealed.... about everything. With this in mind, I know that anyone I do connect with in the future with be amazing and flow with ease in conversation and energy. This is because it is becoming more and more obvious who we will and won't connect with on a soul level, a consiousness level, a vibrational level. This will make it easier for us to find each other and will be even more genuine and authentic, because it is rare. Let those people disappear and go, keep going, it's making room for better connections in the future. In the difficult times, remember to self nurture, speak compassionately to yourself, be kind to yourself and remember, it will pass. Trust yourself and your journey. Cut yourself some slack and congratulate yourself for getting through this year. Autumn is a perfect time to let go of what we don't need, like the trees losing their leaves in a beautiful colourful display with such grace. They show us with beauty the art of letting go. Autumn is also harvest time where we reap the fruits of all the hard work we have done through the year and celebrate. Keep going, stay on your path and be your authentic self. The great thing is...we don't need lots of people in our lives, one or two is fine, as long as the connection is there. This year I'm flipping everything on it's head and finding the advantages of the challenges we are surrounded with.
@@josephosullivan9506 Awesome thoughts, thank you x
@@SammyAmy-un8bi thank you! Lots of learning this year. Things are becoming clearer.😁🙏
Can definitely relate to this!
I feel better whenever I am alone. I just cannot fit in with other people whether they are my family or friends. I just feel drained whenever they come around. Now I walk alone and I feel so happy and fulfilled.🙏
Same here.
Me too! Exactly! Going so far as to walk long after dark or 2 hrs before sunrise….no interruptions…….so beautifully quiet. My head stopes spinning❤️ Different all my life 89 yrs. Stay true to yourselves…..
This speaks to my soul in a very timely way.
Totally
@@catherinewacker141
Xo
Wow...I thought I was alone in feeling this way, or at least in a very tiny minority. Thank you for making this video and sharing so that I was able to view and reflect. I think these insights are perfectly timed for this situation we all are in at this time.
Same
❤
There is a difference between solitude and loneliness. In solitude we have the opportunity for the most growth, those that travel alone travel furthest. The sense of not belonging inspires the search for our “True home”. I always felt that not belonging to this crazy world was a good thing. Detachment from this reality is a sign spiritual maturity.
exactly what i needed to hear and realize for myself .
White Glass Art I agree
I appreciate your comment and can relate to it in many ways. At the same time, I think that those of us who are lonely often slip into this 'oh, I'm alone because I am different, different means somehow more intelligent/superior' mindset, and if we aren't careful we can end up telling ourselves that we are alone because we are better than others, which is not objectively true.
~ Yes White Glass, I feel solitude is a valuable gift & seek it's qualities whenever possible. ~
~ ~ ~ Wishing you & everyone, much Peace, Harmony & Balance. ~ ~ ~
Angels have communities. Every angel belongs to a community. Still, the best of the angels live separate from their communities. They live alone with their wives or husbands. Yes, they are married, but there is no formality, they meet, they choose each other, they live forever half in each other, but they have their homes in secluded areas away from the others. All angels were once human. The purpose of life is to produce angels.
This is deeply relevant for me. My motto is “Be in the world, not of it.”
Every once in a while, I will join a community and adopt its ideology for a while as a kind of practice. It always feels good at first, to kind of have a firm identity and “belong” but inevitably I can’t help but to see the dogmatic underpinnings of most groups and will run back to Nature, my real tribe.
That’s a good motto. It’s also great that you’re trying things first and not criticizing them first without knowing what they’re all about.
Once you deny dogma as necessary for human flourishing, you become an animal. Your statement is illogical because your dogmatic underpinning IS that dogmatic underpinning is bad. When you come to understand basic logic, get back to me.
I have always said and felt that I am in the world and not of it. How very refreshing to see another phrase their perspective as such!
I totally relate ..my Dream is to explore nature with someone who can enjoy its subtleties it’s tiny miracles birthing right in front of our eyes
There's scripture in the Bible that says that.
I'm different just like everybody else.
If everybody are different then they all are the same in being different so they are not different ... it is crazy right
@@blackbat121 You belong not, simply because:
John 15:19 (KJV)
If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.
you are CHOSEN OUT from this world, TO DO THE WLL OF YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER in this world:
Matthew 7:21 (KJV)
Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.
the emptiness which we shall feel inside our souls, is GOD`S quiet voice, calling us to SEEK HIM,
TO
GET TO KNOW HIM
TO
UNDESTAND HIS WAYS
TO
ALLOW HIM BACK INTO OUR LIVES.
My brother and I don't fit in anywhere, and we've come to accept it, a long time ago. Not fitting in has helped me succeed in a lot of the things that I do. I'm happy as it is. 👍
Yet u clicked on a video about not fitting in...🤔
like what things tho?
Long as u can move like mj why care
I guess we all fit in with one another, in that we're misfits. Perhaps it's not that we don't fit in but they we're pursuing the wrong ventures in the entirely wrong hemisphere.
Since I was young I've had a sense that I'm in the wrong something. Family? Postal code? Era? Planet? I don't know.. I just instinctually know something isn't right.
@@nicoleras6346 THANK YOU for the beautiful articulation. It resonates deeply. 🕉️💞☮️💫☯️
It's so nice to see I'm not alone. I used to think I was shy, but have since come to the conclusion that I just don't like people very much. I guess that makes me anti-social, and I'm okay with that. I too have practiced social distancing most of my adult life, so this pandemic really hasn't changed my life all that much.
@@sum12024 Always a delight when people have their nomenclature on point.
I feel the same
@@poetsrear indeed
Stargate 20 - I am so glad to hear of another soul like me.
Totally agree. I have Practiced social distancing all my life because I realised when there r people there r people judging you for being diffeeent for not making eye contact for being quiet
I’m a very lonely and sad person going thru a lot of drastic changes. Enjoying this video late night
Ditto Ami. We'll get through this. To learn to smile again. Big hug and much love.
Once long ago different elements were forged in the heart of ancient stars. These molecules were then spread throughout space as these stars went supernova. Now they are vibrating as a human being. My beautiful friend, we have always been and will always be one......
Same but stay strong
Love yourself
We are all different. Just be yourself.
"The opposite of courage isnt cowardice, its conformity"
-Robert Anthony
earl nightingale?
@@dontpraiseme I honestly dont remember where I heard it, just the quote itself. If it is him, then Thank you!
Robert Anthony is the author of the sentence.
@@sevillabonita1980 Thank you! Will correct that now!
Society is divided by design. People are far easier to control when they're divided. The day when people come together, the world would be a completely different place.
Hence the phrase, divide and conquer.
It's not just by design, it's natural. Sure, some people exploit it, but they're just exploiting something that was already there. Humans are biological machines running a program we call an ego structure. The ego structure is constantly trying to make itself "real", and it can only do that trough having an "other" validate it. Be it trough acceptance or conflict it's made "real" by the "other". This is a fundamental process of nature and is the source of all duality and "separateness". Existence could not be existence without non-existence. Before something exists it's only the possibility of existing, not actually existing. In order to exist it must be separate from non-existence, it must be more than one, at minimum two. When there is two one can validate the existence of the other making them both "real". The ego structure works on this mechanism, so it will always seek out ways where is can be different/separate from others, it is its function and this leads to concepts such as "I" and "you" and "us" and "them". This takes place everywhere in nature, even in non living material, and it's why there is a nearly infinite combination of things. Hate to tell you this, but you might as well make peace with that humans will always be at "war", even if we all come together as one we'll still separate ourselves from other things that we'll see as "not of us". Only way this will ever stop is if we become Borg and consume the entire universe making it back into one thing and with it end existence.
it's coming very soon.
A place full of dead politicians and priests XD
New world order
Hey man, you have 35 thousand subscribers, they all seem to enjoy being here so you do have a place you belong. And all 35 thousand of us feel belonging here to which I thank you for. :)
To the "Millennials" or "Doomers" in the comments who seem melancholy about being alone or not fitting in, this is not something to be sad about, I believe the gentleman in this video's message is that it's ok and perfectly "normal" to be unique and it's very liberating to live in YOUR truth. You can still have friends and enjoy relationships while staying true to yourself, it's not all doom & gloom out there ✌🏽✌🏼✌🏿
Yes Yes.. Very well said. Thank you for that additional perspective
*'The beatings will continue until morale improves.'*
@@AwakenInsight I have always felt like this, even as a child. I felt different. I've had periods of time where I belonged, but eventually ended up by myself and outside of every group or mentality that exists. I never followed convention and am only now starting to understand that somehow I always knew intuitively that it was a waste of time because that is not our true source of peace or joy.
Thank you TH-cam algorithms for this recommendation! Divingly timed! As a toddler I felt like I was dropped off on the wrong planet and knew there was something fundamentally wrong with this world. I have never fit in anywhere, God knows I did try a few times! I'm 46 now and I am completely comfortable not fitting in anywhere and completely comfortable within myself. I am a soul on a journey of learning and everything I need is within. I love solitude, have a deep connection with nature and the cosmos and so many of my gifts require solitude - guitar, painting/art, meditation, reading, learning, researching, healing. Despite not fitting in, I am never lonely, bored and do not feel any sense of loss or separation. It took me many years of learning and lessons to reach this point and return to who I really am, which I knew in my childhood, however school, society, family, religion and indoctrination etc steered off the path of myself. I understand now that everything I experienced and learned from(in this life) has been preparing me for the times we are living in right now. What better year than this to be an individual, a hermit, an independent soul, a cosmic being, a "loner", self sufficient and so on. We are actually made for this and just by living as our authentic selves, we are giving a message to others that they can if they want to and we are communicating by example. Thank you for video, the woods look lovely. Big Love from Ireland 🇨🇮💚🙏😁.
Yes, and feeling the same....
@@Kaliashdevi we are not alone! 😁👍
Thanks,for the first time here some say exactly how i am. and allways been. And tried al kind of selfhelp,yogi,travel,search. Listen,try religion. But just see a bunch of humans high on dopamin. Same evrywere. And i feel drain and diffrent.
So lovly to here this. Iam 47 dude from sweden,and this iam to glad that my algoritm had this to me.
i feel free in a way now,but i the same more lost,and feel intuitiv some bad may happen sooner than later.
And much beucuse of all the things that happen around me on close as global level.
Strange to be aware or alive,counchness or what it is.
Thanks. Love to you all
I get you.
Feeling this comment and just as my struggling part, I think it's my ego well definitely part of it 🙈 I do know I want to do and be better,
peace and love from Ireland also 🙏
I don't want to fit in. I have that inner peace that comes with accepting oneself. I look forward to each day as a new adventure. I enjoy being alone. I enjoying sitting on the porch and talking to myself. I had forgotten how funny and witty I can be. I will enjoy what's left of my life and follow "the yellow brick road".
I don't fit in any group. This allows me to move among the groups. This allows me to relate with many people and encourage them to love others.
I don't fit in anywhere, and it's a blessing in today's world. Be yourself, and original.
This has been me in my own life. I've always assumed it was due to my childhood trauma. But it's comforting to know I'm not alone in this. Great video. Glad I found your channel 🙏🏽
I don’t fit in with anything, every single thing on earth is weird to me and I don’t like being here. I keep going because I know it’s only temporary.
Never related to anything more
Plain Plane / I have the same feeling, and was informed I do not belong here for I was on a different course when encountered this world which took my interest... we are not weird, they are for they are focused on material and totally ignore the surroundings of this present and temporary world. This is not my world, it's THEIRS. I am always looking for individuals who are "strange". I am strange to majority. This world is brainwashed and derailed from what it was meant to be. Just stay your course, wait for the transition and mostly, TRUST in yourself..
How long is temporary?
I feel the same way. I have often thought that maybe I am from a different planet but I think it's because we aren't living the way the human race is meant to live. We all still have instincts from our ancestors in our DNA. Most people who seem happy really aren't they just pretend to be. We were meant to be with nature not destroying it so we can get more then we need to survive. We aren't meant to be around thousands of people everyday but are meant to be around a small "village" and we are all meant to play an important role in that village. Humans have become unnatural and aren't living in habitats that support what they are. Humans have become the fish out of water trying to swim in a concrete sea all while trying to out swim the other fish next to them, but neither of them go anywhere.
Hi 😊
Okay so I've felt this way *all* my life, especially after maturity from being a teenager. How I also describe it is that I am a robot and I've self-programmed (well, tried) to match the world. The world feels like I'm not supposed to be in it and everything I do and say has been something I have learnt, so that I fit in. Including learning feelings and how to react to emotional situations. Underneath the robot that everyone has come to understand, is what I can only describe as a solid ball of tangled mess, which is hard to connect with on a conscious level and was once unavailable. I think, you are currently unavailable.
I had a breakdown then break-through about a year ago now, so want to briefly explain what I've come to see... Because if we, "robots" on your comment thread are the same... Then it may be beneficial!
So, my understanding has been this... My childhood was traumatic = I learnt to hide who I was to save having to feel, out of fear of rejection, non-love and pain = I then sealed up tightly my experiences into a, "solid ball of tangled mess" and removed any conscious attachment to it, wiping it from my memory = so, here I am now rediscovering my childhood and slowing tapping into my true self.
Believe me it is truly hard. But it is so worth it. Now when I laugh, I feel it, when I cry, I actually feel it. It's hard but the more you let yourself feel the better you get at controlling/magaging real feelings. Basically, You grow emotional intelligence.
Slowly, my robot-self is less of a necessity to use, atm I'm about 80% of the time robot, but I'm hopeful now that I understand my purpose... It's all inside us: the answer. Comfort, fitting in and satisfaction does not come externally... All the answers lie in being true with who we are and opening up that mess in whatever way works 🙏
I fit in every where until people start talking. That's all I know.
Alienated all my life.
Me too my friend, me too.
Introversion. I bet you can talk for hours about things that are spiritually important and meaningful to you. Campfire discussions. The meaning of life. Not being able to go on and on about someones on and off relationship, new wheels, or how these pants look is a blessing. (Just random examples)
It's what you expect so it is what is
Same here,x
I remember George Carlin said that he loved people.. up until they start gathering in groups, wearing uniforms, arm bands, shouting slogans, and shaking their fists in the air.
In 1964, at 8 years old, I watched Rudolf.....this is how I learned the term which describes me. A Misfit. However, I had no desire to "fit in". People called me weird, odd or strange. I would smile and say "thank you". I know who I am, I know what I want and I follow the path of my own making. I feel bliss in my life daily.
No it's the other way around. They don't fit-in with me.
Exactly 👍
For me
I only wonder what the motive of my feeds are. Actually, i wonder the motive of everything.
"Normal ppl" : say stupid pointless shallow things
Vs other "normal ppl" : how dare you 😤. But lets keep this going on anyways...
My head: omfg i just completely went full on psychiatrist mode 😅. "Listen, i know you're lame ass hurting. But that has nothing to do w/ me. So idk, do you?! Yeah, lets go w/ that. Only then, you can be on your way to being less lame 👍. Youre not "savage" & "bad ass." Youre just rude, immature & childish. Fr, stop going out in public like that. The world is not your damn daycare. Yw 🌠
That’s the right reason 🤩
Don't fit in and money don't make me happy , the trees stars sun moon and animals is life
I'll give money a try before discounting it. At least using it to escape wage-slavery.
Same with me :)
Yystle
I have often gone outside at night and talked with Luna and her entourage of stars. And trees are great secret keepers.
Truth be told.
I'm too square to hang out with hippies, too odd to hang out with the squares. I'm lost forever
No, you're not! You're right where you belong, extremes don't work. Create your own path to your happiness, that's the point of life. The path to enlightenment is in the middle way. It is the line between all opposite extremes.- Siddhartha
Im just me & im just here. This ended up in my feed & 😅, idk if i have these vibes. Still dont really care. About how others 🙄 see me. But ok. I listened tho. I hafta say, I disagree on some things. Ill just leave this here tho bc nunya
You got a good chuckle out of me on that comment! Sounds just like me. So most of the time, I seem to only be an observer. I enjoy my own company.
That's how I used to feel too- too conventional to be part of the alternative culture(s) and too alternative to be a comformist. But I realised that even if you want to be a hippie/alternative, you'd still have to comform to some sort of convention which defeats the entire purpose of countering the norms. What I'm saying is, is we're in the right place, and we're making our own norms and our own conventions.
If you want others opinion, I think that once you stop giving yourself labels and just be. you will find yourself
I fit in with my 2 dogs and 3 cats and that’s enough now that I’m nearly 70 and realise that being on the outer all of my life has made me strong and more understanding of other humans who look like they are having a fantastic time at their bbq’s etc😺🇦🇺❤️
Thats so adorable. Its funny because I only fit in with my pets aswell. I'm okay with that tho🙂
Very well said. I agree. Love to hear that i am not alone with this thoughts. Thank you.
When you don’t fit into anything.....but you so “fit in to what he’s saying.” 😍🙌🏽🔥❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖🖤🤍🤎🌍🌎🌏✨🪐💫⭐️🌝🌚💥
@KIN Cryptocurrency Bitcoin & Others agree 100%
The good news is that I'm not alone to feel this finally ! Thank you so much !!
I've always felt that I don't fit in. Even now I have no friends, it's like I'm an alien ☹️
Same. Friends are overrated tho dont forget that. Unless they are real.
Mrs Mercury ......... people started to leave me in my mid thirties....it was like a spell had been put on me..........I’ve always felt like an outsider ......... I’ve tried to fit in it just doesn’t work........my best friend now is me l guess.........
@@Nuts-about-Nature that's the best friend you could ever have
Evan Paluch In Italy we have a saying: “Whoever finds a true loyal friend finds a treasure!”
Something that has become very rare and very hard to find.
“The best company is that of our own.” [OSCAR WILDE]
@@Nuts-about-Nature that's so like me. I don't trust anybody now though, literally just my family. I've tried for over 50 years to fit in but I just don't.
I have spent years of my life punching and kicking my soul, trying to fit into a mold that clearly wasn't the right shape for me. Abusing my body and mind in the process. I am now left a broken man, slowly trying to put the pieces back together, but at least now I have an outline of my true structure. I will probably never be a correct piece of the puzzle. I realize that the only way for me to find happiness is to create everything from the ground up, which is incredibly difficult when you are a self-doubter and self loather like me. I can't just join a community like I wish I could.
Please you must begin to love yourself step by step. I did it👍🏼😊🇦🇺
You are enough
You are fine. Don't put yourself down!
I think you might belong with us :)
I feel similarly, Noah.
"Why do I give valuable time to people who don't care if I live or I die!" - THE SMITHS
Wow that is true. My goodness, giving valuable time to people who dont even notice...
Your weirdness is your uniqueness, embrace it.
Thankyou
Self exploration is the new frontier. During this down time I've connected with previously unknown facts about myself. I'm pursuing myself in my comfort and discomfort, in my knowing and not knowing, in allowing myself to engage myself. I've learned that I didn't trust myself. I didn't trust myself because I knew that I would sacrifice myself to please other people. I don't need to be unreasonable in my approach to people. I no longer have unrealistic expectations of myself and others. Thank You for the video.
Wow. So powerful. :)
@@monkymind4316 Thank You. The mind uninhibited working towards maintaining self awareness. 🏜
@@rainbowbgood 🏞
Omg. I'm 40 now. Since a young thing, I've known I'm not where I belong. & I realize & accepted, I never will, not in this world.
Exactly the same for me.
same
same here.
Me too
You may be in this life for a reason that has yet eluded you...you should look for that purpose...
I’m so content with self that fitting in anywhere isn’t even a subject in my life.
I don’t spend time with people other than in my field of work or casual meetings in social settings.
I find my immediate family plenty enough and nature is my precious friend.
I wasn’t always at peace and struggled due to society and social norms being a system for brainwashing.
Your beautiful message will assist individuals alike to find the inner self sooner than later. Peace ✌️ lives there 🌸
I have always felt this way. As a young child, I always wanted to be with elders... I loved the stories they told... Peers are busy getting drunk, watching T.V. and clueless about the world. I love my animals and my family... the world is a scary place.
"I love my animals and my family... the world is a scary place" This is beautiful :-)
I grew up with my grandparents and learned so much from the older generations. I fit in with mostly the elderly as I have never been one either to waste my time partying. It's funny too because when I go out in public those small social interactions we have with strangers are likely to come from the little old ladies I love so much.
In my 20's I searched for companionship. In my 30's I found my companionship. Now, in my 40's I spend most time alone. I am more satisfied with life today, than at any other point.
You've won! Your success is equal to your happiness.
I walked through a park yesterday on a weekday wed. morning, with my dog , it was cool 45 deg.F. light drizzle gloomy , yet I felt so at one with nature , the trees had spirit , the squirelles ran by as if teasing us, I felt if I could be a ghost I would haunt this park for years , I was one with the birds singing the rain , the nature felt wonderfful this is what we were meant to be here for, to feel ,to know , this world, yet we waste our lives chasing material crap...
But sir when it doesn't matter what i am doing it always feel like i am wasting myself and my time...either i was sitting in nature or even doing the thing i enjoy..there is an empty feeling that won't go away
Beautifully written and inspiring!
Oh my goodness! I do so agree with walking in nature, no matter the weather!
@@dheerajsharma1366 I believe this to be a hole in our soul , I feel the emptiness too, its a longing to go home feeling for me, yet I have no home here on this plain.Try bonding with something a pet , a lover , a passion, silly as it sounds I grabbed a big beautiful tree one day Hugged it , spoke telepathically and told it how much I valued it , I appreciated its existence, when we have gratitude we find love , that love fills are spirit and we take that with us back when we leave as knowledge. All this may sound weird or hippy like but we were meant to feel intuiatively not just intellectually and carry this wisdom back to our home on the other side.🙂good luck brother.
@@booreed7813 As long as Im healthy , the different weathers invigorate the spirit ☺
Cats seems to be the only ones understanding me and I them.
same.
I just got a mental image of my cat and I quietly staring at a bug on the floor and running around (playing cat and mouse) my little apartment at 3 in the morning. Sounds about right.
Exactly same here with my 7 cats!
Y'all are too cute for just cats! Cmon
WOW. Great Wordage! This world has accepted that mindset of "If your not with us - you're against us." Humanity has become so conquered and divided that the world is paying the price. Neutrality is a BEAUTIFUL thing! Being neutral = It's OK to agree to disagree and still have respect and integrity with each other and ALL THINGS. Peace and Be Well, j.
That is a great and healthy mentality to have. as long as other's values and integrity are as noble as ours. Because if for whatever reason, another individual has a destructive way of living/thinking, it won't be noble to agree with that. Thus, discernment is still necessary in this world at least.
"When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro." - Hunter S Thompson
good quote
what are we doing out here in the middle of the fucking desert?
@@rauldukeduke3040 looking for Peyote Cactus to make Mescaline .
@@-Atmos1 why cant they make it just a little less pure! *barf!*
The going’s about to get pretty weird methinks
Imagine fitting into these groups anyways. Generally we choose not too because we genuinely don’t want to join in
Compromising intelligence is so 100% true, like the lack of intelligence shown when people are so obsessed with slapping a label on someone. It’s like this weird trendy compulsion to shoot first and ask questions later.
Such a brilliant comment
James Agwe Thank you
Thanks!. Great comment.
I take the time to put myself into an others shoes no matter what, that is how I gain perspective
your smart :)
I often feel that I do not belong no matter where I am. Group perspectives are always narrow, by their very nature. Like you, I do not now, nor ever have belonged to a group.
@Sunflower Shine If only it didn't feel so necessary at times to feel a sense of belonging. Not that it always IS necessary, but, it sometimes can feel that way. I believe it was Terence McKenna who said: "If you keep yourself as the final arbiter you will be less susceptible to infection by cultural illusion. Now the problem with this is that it makes you feel bad to not be infected by cultural illusion because it's called alienation...the reason we feel alienated is because the society is infantile, trivial, and stupid. So, the cost of sanity in this society is a certain level of alienation."
I don't wanna waste my time trying to fit in, I'd rather be alone and enjoy my own company.
I love not fitting in. Fitting in would make me so uncomfortable. I would lose my perspective totally. Just being is so good !
This guy just essentially narrated my entire life just now.
You should read more
No one understands how I enjoy my solitude, I would never be so real as to say, I hate being around people but my disillusioned view of humanity has gone down so far that I cannot bend any further to want to be part of any one group, at first my status here was one of hiding and I guess that shaped me for what I am, I now realize I never had friends and today I’m so ok with that, I’m grateful I found your story, I completely understand and thanks for putting yourself out there so we know we’re not the only ones, much ❤️
for me, every day seems a little harder to avoid slipping into misanthropy. There's no balance to the negative I see and hear around me on a daily basis. I'm surrounded by very racist, homophobic, gun toting, bible thumping people - and I am none of these things. I can't seem to get away from them except when I come home and close the door to the outside world.
@@DSchae2165 There IS a balance- you/yourself/your growth/your imagination is the other side n counterbalance to them. Their beliefs are limiting. Your personal growth is unlimited. Your imagination is unlimited. When you must be around them- observe and learn- for your own purposes and growth. Observe them. Do it all as an experiment. Learn from stoicism and buddhism on how to deal with such people, situations n circumstances. Learn about Spiral Dynamics and how it explains n describes individual evolution and societal evolution...Think about a time when you will be in a better place- geographically and individually/emotionally/psychologically. Your circumstances are an opportunity to learn n grow and prepare you for the better future. Create it!
Start with your own personal health. The healthier you are the easier everything is and the better each n every experience is for you.
You have an opportunity to learn n grow and flourish.
@@keisi1574 Basically detach and learn from the observer's point of view. Thank you for all you said. I will give it a go and push forward.
this is one of those amazing videos that's going to randomly recommended again in 3 to 4 years from now
See you there
Commenting for you're check up 😊
I am he same. For years I tried to "fit in" with my friends and family but it always failed. I more like to hang out with my cats and crystals than I do with toxic people. I too found my solitude as a blessing and in the end I would say, and still do say, that I'm an old soul passing through.
Such a beautiful message from a very wise soul. I myself find it much easier to just be an observer. Let people be unless they ask for guidance.
"I am a citizen of the world" - Socrates.
Wasn't it Diogenes who said that? Don't mean to be rude but cynicism is my favorite school of philosophy and i certainly remember that it was Diogenes who was the first to proclaim that giving way to the term 'cosmopolitan'. But now that i searched it there seem to be some pictures and sites who attribute it to Socrates???
@@WeAreAnonymous3 You are correct. My bad. Not sure why I gave Socrates credit for that. It could be that I had just been reading "The Republic" and had Socrates on the brain. Thanks for the correction.
@@waynemcleod6767 hi. Are you really a McLeod
@@mariemcleod648 Aye. I be that for sure. Wayne McLeod of the Clan McLeod at your service. Hi Marie. Always a pleasure to meet another McLeod.
@@waynemcleod6767 awesome. Being a McLeod is something very powerful. My grandfather was Benjamin McLeod . He was from canada then nyc. Where are you ?
Thanks for the TED talk man, we need more ppl like you on earth.
And we need YOU! Be the change you wish to see in the world. Wishing you well, always and in all ways.
How well I understand you. Always stood and walked alone in life, since I was a child. But that made me strong and taught me to think with my own brain.
Living as a free spirit, even if that means living like a lonely wolf, is always better than being like a brainwashed sheep, always adapting and submitting to rest of the flock.
So far I've known that there's dualism in the world between right and wrong, good and evil etc. And what is that symbolism that you used on you're profile picture ?
@@kimikimikimikimikimikimikimi89 the YIN-YANG-YUEN. The triple truth. Thesis, Anti-Thesis, Synthesis. But in the end it's all part of the same Being. The One.
Where can I find more about the yin yang yuen ?🙏🏻
@@kimikimikimikimikimikimikimi89 You can google it. You may also find spelled at "Yin Yang Yuan".
@@danshari5975 thank you mate have a good day, sure I will 🙏🏻
BORN TO STAND OUT ‼️
crazy how we watch me the same shiet
This man should be up there with the most celebrated geniuses of all time , he just summed up all people perfectly.
@ nick hawel. Pity he he asked us to like, share or subscribe to yet another group.
Maybe, but his hair looks funny, so he can't be in my group, lol.
if you can be summed up there is no depth to you
@@MrMakingwavesmedia alright that was pretty sharp. Good job man.
This is such an incredible message. It really makes me feel good to be awake, and makes me feel confident in my alienation. I feel as if i’m completely alone, as everyone I know is turning on me because I don’t identify with their agenda. Its hard, and it’s lonely, but little reminders like this just make it so beautiful.
I’m a freshman and everybody just wants the teen age dramatic life and I just want to manifest the most high vibrational life for me, I know how it feels 💛💛 don’t worry be who you are , so you can find people who suit you , they will come ! 🦋
@@TwinkieReid Thank You! ( i would put a heart emoji put im on a computer,)
@Readings With Tahjie lots of love!
society... more locks than keys
Thank you for speaking slowly, clear and distinct.
Foreign speakers also unterstand you well.
It's nice to finally see someone else who comes from the same internal view as I have. Thank you.
Sounds like me😃 I only fit in with cats and small children.
Just like me :)
I read this as I'm seeing my children and chilling with my cats. Oh yess life is at 8s best like this.
Me with small children only
When i was young I used to feel comfortable with my chickens and birds rather than playing with children
Same and with the crickets and butterflies 🙂 and yes Kids and cats
This came at the perfect time. I have been feeling this so deeply lately! Thank you for putting this out there. Glad you are making videos again!
You almost made me cry, thank you, this had always been something that I’ve experienced.. The human society is so limited which makes people judgmental because they themselves feel insignificant... I’ve always came home sad or irritated because someone would treat me a certain way because I don’t dress, walk, listen to music, or talk like how people expect me to... I know it’s not that I’m “different” but I’m more comfortable with being my authentic self, and those people are not... I like being at home or out in nature, away from people, because honestly I have felt more disappointment than joy from this strangers. I’m nice to everyone until they give me a reason not to be, but yes at this point I like to be in my own presence and not waste any of my precious energy on negativity. My aura, my mind, and being are way too precious to me...
Exactly I 100% agree with you. People are not comfortable with you being comfortable with yourself. I'm comfortable with others being who they are even if I find it annoying. all I want is for people to understand that have my own feelings and thoughts that won't always match with their own.
Same, I like it when it rains so I can go out in the nature while everyone is at home, It feels soo much better 🙏🏾
i think yt recommendations are trying to tell me something
Me too!
same-
The only place I belong is in the forest, surrounded by trees and silence.
Until you find out about the wild humanoid beasts.
The bear does shit, loudly,in the forest...,..
It still à narrow choice... 'one cannot see the forest from the tree' .... Blessings
I collect the forest fuel overburden to prevent fires, and make it into humus. It is a wonderful life, but I would like it better with a woman that I could love and respect. They only thing I really need is an honest helpful woman to be totally content. But still, I am so happy in my forest even all alone. I thrive on the quietness, such excellent medicine!
Same 💞
I don’t fit in. Just like everyone else. Some of us are just better actors.
We will never fit but some folks deserve oscars for being "real*
Man!!!!!! I love your thoughts, mind, attitude and openness and thank you for sharing those
Once one identifies with a label, group or ideology, they stop caring about the truth. After such an identification, they only care about what interpretation of the truth benefits their group, or chosen label etc. As you say, at the end of the day we all are beautifully complex human beings, and it's the abstract labels we use to divide ourselves which has to go, not any particular person in power. In any case, thank you for this video it is quite refreshing to see someone with such a perspective....
What if you identify only partially with a label, enough to use it but not be totally blinded by it. To me some labels fit better than others but that doesn't mean I don't realize that every label is only a partial truth and cannot be swallowed whole.