This is a difficult. Because sometimes people keep picking abusive people to love and think it's fine, so the relationship decays on its own once you wake up. Not necessarily because you expect perfection. But occasionally it's hard to tell who is being the bad one in a relationship, from personal experience. I know it takes two to tango, but what I've learned is that even if it's the other person in the interaction who is provoking and being mean, when I react poorly ( even if justified) has literally caused trails of destruction behind me in life. I have c-ptsd but i think it's treated with DBT, EMDR and CBT therapies as well, like BPD. I had a job once in the adult entertainment industry ( i know, shake your heads) and my nickname there from the management was "problem child". That says enough. My manager said " if you react, the world will own your ass" and it's true but it takes so much bleeping work to get to that point of non-reactivity. Worth it though. Therapy and finding inner peace is beautiful. Money and being in a relatively privileged first world country helps too, though still working on the money part. Mental health can be way too complex so thanks for shedding light on your particular journey. ❤
I respect your openness and honesty
This is a difficult. Because sometimes people keep picking abusive people to love and think it's fine, so the relationship decays on its own once you wake up. Not necessarily because you expect perfection. But occasionally it's hard to tell who is being the bad one in a relationship, from personal experience. I know it takes two to tango, but what I've learned is that even if it's the other person in the interaction who is provoking and being mean, when I react poorly ( even if justified) has literally caused trails of destruction behind me in life. I have c-ptsd but i think it's treated with DBT, EMDR and CBT therapies as well, like BPD.
I had a job once in the adult entertainment industry ( i know, shake your heads) and my nickname there from the management was "problem child". That says enough. My manager said " if you react, the world will own your ass" and it's true but it takes so much bleeping work to get to that point of non-reactivity. Worth it though. Therapy and finding inner peace is beautiful. Money and being in a relatively privileged first world country helps too, though still working on the money part. Mental health can be way too complex so thanks for shedding light on your particular journey. ❤
I love your personality and the way in which you explain things :)
Adding to your knowledge, I want to refer Sam Vaknin’s COVER BORDERLINE which defines de difference between women and men BPD.