Hi Diana. This is Annie Shay an old client from years ago! Thank you so much for this video. I love seeing your face again! Having some issues with interpersonal effectiveness now that I'm out in the real world and not in treatment or hospitals. What is the best thing to remember for someone who is institutionalized to use for social skills? How do I not overshare set boundaries etc?
But we all know this basic stuff but when u have bpd and ur emotions literally ruin every once of reasoning and diplomatic fluff how do u stop yourself from going into meltdown - anger anxiety rage etc thats what I need to know. I know how to behave obviously but if ur emotions are so erratic and unpredictable how do I manage that?
If you have trouble facing your emotions I remember as a kid I actually developed a personality that was almost like a leader type and used it to face my emotions when I was alone or scared with no on to help me. Almost like a father figure that was absolute and goal setting it would help me face my emotions and go towards what I needed to do. But knowing that you have BPD this might not be that helpful, just some food for thought that could help. Hope you are doing great😁
@@hughkemp9083 aw thanks, that is food for thought, as my anxiety part is like a scared child and I can connect with her (she's like little me) and I can encourage and support her, it's so weird I did this separation thing by accident and met my anxiety it was pretty mind blowing actually (and I wasn't even on drugs or anything just happened as I was driving and having a panic attack) so I can sometimes find the scared child in me and talk to this part of myself it's just so weird I met my anxiety and it was myself as a child, that has helped more than anything in the world I've tried, no drugs no psychiatrist nothing has helped more. Its like fragments. I'm still working on rage I just have to cut out people or anything that causes me to jeckle out 😐. Thank you for ur story it sounds like everyone has a way they cope when things get tough. It's very interesting actually ☺️ thank you
Greatly appreciated this demonstration overall. However, during the validation explanation, there are cultural considerations. Many cultures (mine included) do not allow for children to address their parents in that manner. That would be considered extreme disrespect and intolerable. My thought is that if a child (whatever age) approaches a parent in that manner, there has been an extreme breakdown in the family structure.
That's totally true! In some cultures that would be overstepping a boundary in how the child acknowledges an elder or a parental figure. It is possible to assimilate if the person can interact with another environment besides the dynamic they grew up in with their family history, even though it may be difficult to distinguish between the two cultures
You got mad bc she reacted to you scaring her bc you were driving crazy? Makes no sense. Regardless if you didn’t think you were driving crazy, she thought you were driving crazy and she reacted to a crazy turn. That’s like saying If you were in the wrong lane and a car is coming and someone yells “watch out” and you get mad bc they yelled it when they thought they were going to die. Who really is in the wrong here? Nobody’s going to react to accidentally turning the car over in a calm manner. That’s like saying you can’t be human.
i disagree. right before she describes the "conflict" between her and her friend she explains why she did what she did. The key point here is the fact that she knows why she made that turn (yada yada about her knowing her car can take it being low to the ground etc) but she should've explained WHY she did what she did and potentially apologised if her decision to drive like she did frightened her friend. To me it wasnt something obvious. Working in human resources ive learned that not necessarily enforcing what you want is a good idea but rather explaining WHY you are doing what you're doing to gain understanding.
I love the “easy manner” and “no apologies” parts. Great tips.
Very helpful, thank you.
Wow! Eye opening
Excellent session 👍. Thank you.
excellent presentation
Very well explained. Thank you so much!
Thank you! This is so great and presented in a very non judgemental manner :)
That is very helpful, I know it will be effective, I will use them.
Great way to explain it!
Fruitful video
this was so helpful
Go, Diana! Great job!
Thank you for the excellent presentation .
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Hi Diana. This is Annie Shay an old client from years ago! Thank you so much for this video. I love seeing your face again! Having some issues with interpersonal effectiveness now that I'm out in the real world and not in treatment or hospitals. What is the best thing to remember for someone who is institutionalized to use for social skills? How do I not overshare set boundaries etc?
Well done!
But we all know this basic stuff but when u have bpd and ur emotions literally ruin every once of reasoning and diplomatic fluff how do u stop yourself from going into meltdown - anger anxiety rage etc thats what I need to know. I know how to behave obviously but if ur emotions are so erratic and unpredictable how do I manage that?
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@@launacasey6513 oh thanks these look alot more in depth getting to the root of it! Thanks I will check this out! X
If you have trouble facing your emotions I remember as a kid I actually developed a personality that was almost like a leader type and used it to face my emotions when I was alone or scared with no on to help me. Almost like a father figure that was absolute and goal setting it would help me face my emotions and go towards what I needed to do. But knowing that you have BPD this might not be that helpful, just some food for thought that could help. Hope you are doing great😁
@@hughkemp9083 aw thanks, that is food for thought, as my anxiety part is like a scared child and I can connect with her (she's like little me) and I can encourage and support her, it's so weird I did this separation thing by accident and met my anxiety it was pretty mind blowing actually (and I wasn't even on drugs or anything just happened as I was driving and having a panic attack) so I can sometimes find the scared child in me and talk to this part of myself it's just so weird I met my anxiety and it was myself as a child, that has helped more than anything in the world I've tried, no drugs no psychiatrist nothing has helped more. Its like fragments. I'm still working on rage I just have to cut out people or anything that causes me to jeckle out 😐. Thank you for ur story it sounds like everyone has a way they cope when things get tough. It's very interesting actually ☺️ thank you
@@elninio981 happy to hear you and laughing because I feel weird for even saying that but cool that you're good at being vulnerable as we all should
I love this!!
Wonderfully described and modelled :)
Such a great resource, will be back referencing this, thank you madam!
EXCELLENT!
Love this thank you
Thank u so much!
Thank you for this
What is DBT?
Thank you
You let your boundaries collapse
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Greatly appreciated this demonstration overall. However, during the validation explanation, there are cultural considerations. Many cultures (mine included) do not allow for children to address their parents in that manner. That would be considered extreme disrespect and intolerable. My thought is that if a child (whatever age) approaches a parent in that manner, there has been an extreme breakdown in the family structure.
That's totally true! In some cultures that would be overstepping a boundary in how the child acknowledges an elder or a parental figure. It is possible to assimilate if the person can interact with another environment besides the dynamic they grew up in with their family history, even though it may be difficult to distinguish between the two cultures
Does she actually need help moving? Just curious...💜🤔
You got mad bc she reacted to you scaring her bc you were driving crazy? Makes no sense. Regardless if you didn’t think you were driving crazy, she thought you were driving crazy and she reacted to a crazy turn. That’s like saying If you were in the wrong lane and a car is coming and someone yells “watch out” and you get mad bc they yelled it when they thought they were going to die. Who really is in the wrong here? Nobody’s going to react to accidentally turning the car over in a calm manner. That’s like saying you can’t be human.
i disagree. right before she describes the "conflict" between her and her friend she explains why she did what she did. The key point here is the fact that she knows why she made that turn (yada yada about her knowing her car can take it being low to the ground etc) but she should've explained WHY she did what she did and potentially apologised if her decision to drive like she did frightened her friend. To me it wasnt something obvious. Working in human resources ive learned that not necessarily enforcing what you want is a good idea but rather explaining WHY you are doing what you're doing to gain understanding.
This triggers me.