As a kid, I had a barber (who was a grizzled, tatted up army vet) who used to tell me, "There is no such thing as a fair fight. Better to avoid a fight; but if you have to, you fight to win." After 4 decades of martial arts training, and living and travelling all over the world in some...difficult places...for work. I still think about those conversations I had with him. Some of the best advice I've ever received.
I'd also add , don't fight unless it is worth it. Even if you will win, you likely waste time and effort, endure pain or damage. You just don't want to go through that without good outweighing reason.
@@emtibAlucard Amen. "Don't fight unless it is worth it or unless you have to." In my experience everybody usually gets hurt in a fight, including the winner.
@@1notgilty I also have to consider that if I get arrested, even if it was self defence and I don't get charged, I will get sacked as a matter of course by my employer, it's part of my contract.
I've been military and also a security guard The first thing anyone needs to learn to use is their voice If this fails Then you need the next solution of doing the right thing at the right time
@marioflavin2141 great advice Guy was shouting outside the office I work I with two women yesterday They were scared I almost went out to sort his shit It was a domestic and he was weighin in on his wife I left it. Locked the door Then around 5 to 6 mins later the police came and took him So like the man says in his video Asses (rapid) then act Don't take one thing for granted. Do the best in the moment
I'm 60yrs now, I carry a small pot (mints container with quick flip lid or old film cannister) of 50% dry sand and 50% fine ground pepper. It has about a 2-3m reach and you don't see it. Just a few grains will blind the attacker enough for me to hoof it. But I think the main thing that has saved me on occasions is being aware of your surroundings.
@JohnSmithGlobeLie Situational awareness is key. People who worked in law enforcement or military have it. They have a sense about when a situation is about to go sour. Others have to be taught. If not, they will find out the hard way someday. Hopefully it will not cost them their lives.
When I was a teenager, a wise man told me to never get into a fight with an old man. He said that they know they don’t have the endurance to last for more than a minute or two, so they will go for the kill immediately. Now I’m 68 years old and I know that to be true. I was recently assaulted by a twenty something kid over my dog barking at him. Apparently, no one ever gave him that advice.
@@nghtwtchmn129 my feelings exactly. I’d be happy to go to jail if it sends the message that you better not mess with old people because they have little to lose.
As a Senior one thing is vitally important, do not be taken in by younger people when they say "what're ya gonna do Old Man?" They have no clue as to what you know, and or are capable of.When someone says that just walk away, until, they come at you with intent to harm, and then defend yourself.
I moved to the mountains away from everyone. I get my stuff delivered. As a martial artist of 25 years I learned better is a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a battle.
You know Frankie you make a really good point. I’m a an old soldier fought 4 tours to various theaters and been studying martial arts all my life even today. Truthfully my entire life from birth has been conflict after conflict. Pretty sure the kids above missed the whole point, but well heard 👍🏻. I plan to do the same. It’s hard to have peace when there is so many people because where there are a lot of people there is always some battle. And no lie piece to me is life, greenery, and silence without the possibility of threat at every corner. Personally it gets old and the world has basically been turned evil if you haven’t watch the news or checked your local police site yet or even social media the world going to hell in a hand basket and nobody can be trusted anymore not they they could before but now the tilt is most certainly bad.
I walk like a butterfly sting like a bee. I punch like Ali, but dance like Bruce Lee. Weight lift and exercise every day and eat clean. Let's get cooking.
I'm a 65 year old retired woman Marine. I am 100% disabled. I'm slow, and weaker than when younger. I was attacked by a 230lb man who started chocking me. My training came back in a flash. I dropped on my back, took him with me, then throat punched him with my knuckles in a short hard jab. He was incompacitated immediately. Couldn't breath. Called 911, they had to trach him. He was arrested and jailed. Never underestimate your opponent. I've gone back to the gym, lost weight, muscled up, and take self defense classes as well as conceal carry now and won't hesitate to use it.
Semper Fi sister. Do not piss around. I am sorry you were attacked but, you did what needed to be done. I have been sucker punched before. All they did was get my attention and was turned into a grezzy little spot.
Always told my daughters. There's no rules. People around you have no responsibility for saving you. If they pull a weapon they're willing to use it. Never give your opponent the benefit of the doubt.
I always wondered as a young man why no one comes to your rescue and then I realized that most people can't protect themselves leave alone saving others
"People around you have no responsibility for saving you.". I think you're wrong on that point. At least if an innocent person is being attacked bystanders should have the responsibility to help... that doesn't mean it's something you have to expect though. Especialy with weapons.
Excellent video. Probably the most important point in it is that no one should assume the other person thinks of a fight the same way you do. A normal, average guy is probably going to think of a fight as a physical altercation that will end when one of the participants says "Okay, that's enough." The other person, however, might have an entirely different background and think the fight is over only when Mr. Normal is maimed or dead. When I was a young man, I rarely hesitated to get in a fight. Especially ego driven fights. As an older man, I won't fight unless I have absolutely no other choice.
I'm 73 - will no longer fight. However I can't really anymore - so I will defend myself to the measure needed to stop the threat. Fair is no longer part of my mindset.
I'm 77 and totally support you. Animals prey on the weak and infirmed. Same goes for the human animal. I refuse to be prey and will swing , jab or pull whatever I can to defeat a threat.
100% spot on. These videos are very insightful and informative. I don’t think real life psychology is focused on enough in modern dojos, but if you’re training for points and trophies it’s probably moot. I personally feel empowered and educated by each one. Thanks Guv!
You are the first utuber to speak common sense. I'm a truck driver. I've been in to many bad situations. Truck stops, fuel lanes, rest areas shippers and receivers. It can happen any place, any time.
Wasp hornet spray is always in my truck. I used to keep a mini torch and white rain hairspray. Someone said I used that at the ts in Jessup Maryland at the Giant warehouse back in the nineties. Absolutely not true
Predators arrange the violence for their benefit and then face all of the social, legal, and retaliatory violence. Even being attacked for not being violent enough, or prosecuted for excessive violence. Along with people, that list this as entertainment value, until those attackers lose anonymity. Followed by retaliatory insinuation, with gossiping and defamation of character. Every camera is electronic evidence, and as soon as it turns terrorism for national security secrets or a proclaimed agenda ask one question. How much resource availability does Federal Law Enforcement have to prosecute Federal Crimes?
@@shoelacedonkey less in more civilized times. I was recently at a police station, a clearly scared woman came to ask if the police were going to take action against her stalker. She said that she was constantly being followed and threatened. It turned out that her entire case was not even being dealt with. The police woman was also very rude and angry with the victim. Because the woman dared to ask if her case was being taken seriously. You also often hear that the police advise not to file a report. Which many people also do not do. Because the police often only take action when it is too late. Maybe they are too busy, there is too much bureaucracy or there are too many people who are not suitable. The figures say that crime is decreasing. But at the same time the police are so busy that they do not deal with most cases. And most people experience more violence. So how reliable are the figures.
Over thirty years ago my Grandad taught me "Bite 'em, scratch 'em, throw dirt in their eyes, kick 'em in the nuts, and if that doesn't work FIGHT DIRTY!" Anything is better than an ass woopin'. 🤠
I've been a defensive tactics and shooting instructor for 8 years. If people could understand and implement what you just presented, there would be no need for guys like me. Spot on. Awesome.
People are not primarily driven by reason but by emotion. People will often never accept when they are wrong and will find ways to rationalize their actions. Criticism hurts individuals' pride and sense of importance.
Most people are like this, and It is the one thing that disgusts me the most about people in general. The cringeworthy mental gymnastics you might be unfortunate enough to directly encounter are more often than not ridiculous, bordering on actual insanity. If you can, you have to make sure you carry something to keep you safe. Pepper spray BARE MINIMUM. One of the hardest truths I've been forced to accept is that no matter how reasonable and sensible you come across, there are people out there where any reasonable approach will fall flat or even backfire. Narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths, or just plain idiots make the world harder than it already is. Always be vigilant and stay safe. With the state of the world people are also bound to get worse as well. Please, be prepared.
As someone who has worked in security and been in sketchy places and also attend metal concerts, I am always aware of my surroundings and environment. You never know who you will come across and when things will pop off. It is vital to be aware of who is around you.
@DyingInPlainSight "messed with the wrong dude" is sometimes code for a larger bully beating the crap out of some smaller dude having a good time... so what I said stands, people going to inflict harm on other people who then lie to your face about how it started. Pro tip, nobody weighing 120lbs has started anything with a large person randomly (not countin little dudes messing with security, that's uniform specific human behavior)
@@didamnesia3575 I've been to over 100 concerts and have seen plenty of smaller dudes starting crap with bigger guys. There are dudes that run through the crowd and elbow people in the kidneys or ribs and then jet off. I've had a kid run by me and do that exact thing. By the time you realize what happened, he's 10 rows deep and untouchable. I've seen girls go and start talking to another guy, just to have their 6ft 6in 225lb boyfriend come up and smash the dude in the face. I never talk to a girl unless I know she is with a group of other girls or she is clearly single. I try and stay clear of the drunk shirtless Meatheads, because that's all they are looking for is trouble.
@@didamnesia3575 I have been to over 100 concerts and seen everything under the sun. There are smaller dudes that will run through the crowd and elbow people in the back or kidneys and jet off. I've seen girls go and talk to another guy just to have her much larger boyfriend come and smash the dude in the face. I stay far away from the big drunk meatheads, because that's all they are looking for, is to fight.
One important aspect is the fight in the dog. Some people will just go further than you would dare, longer than you want and can shrug off discomfort that you would expect to stop others.
Many in the US carry firearms not because they want to use them but because they are the great equalizer between people of vastly different strengths and ages. A 5' woman with a 9mm who knows how to use it is far more dangerous to an attacker than a 6'4" martial artist. In the US, of course - in the UK because weapons are banned, only the physically strong and skilled get to have some assurance of relative safety - the rest of the law-abiding are relegated to the victim class.
No. I don’t agree. Most people in America who carry guns are people who let their mouths write cheques that their fists can’t cash, so they carry a gun.
You need to think what you lose and what you gain from a fight, In many cases even if you win a fight you will encounter physical damage and perhaps some other cost. If you are arrested for affray you might even lose your job. In most cases it is better to withdraw unless there is a big need such as standing up to a perpetual bully or protecting someone or property. Nobody else cares about your ego really and most people would retreat but it does surprise people who know you as a fight avoider on the occasion when you stand up to someone for a purpose. People starting fights often have nothing to lose and their ego is all they have.
I had a close call just 10 days ago. A young hopped-up punk went psycho on me in the Walmart checkout line. He was telling me in no uncertain terms what he was going to do to me. As I listened to him raging. I didn't engage in a shouting match. I just stared at him and got ready and had my hand on a weapon in case he decided to carry out his threats. A couple of Walmart employees got between us and moved me to an adjacent checkout station. He was still raging after I was gone. Mistakes: 1. staring could have triggered him to action. 2. I should have just said "sorry" (even though I hadn't done anything) and backed away rather than standing my ground. Knowing what to do and doing it under stress are two different things. I am less than 2 weeks away from 75 yo and although I am in better shape than 95+% of septuagenarians, I would have had my hands full with a 20 yo crackhead. That's why I was carrying both a gun and a knife. Thankfully, I didn't have to deploy either one.
But if you apologize and leave, sometimes they will come after you, like a predator after prey! This has been MY problem dealing with bullies, when trying to de-escalate. The signs of weakness seems to embolden them even more!
The one screaming and shouting is the one that is going to take the beating. People who are afraid or cannot take care of themselves make a big spectacle. The one who wins is the one who remains calm throughout.
Two Swedish ex-criminals wrote a series of books many years ago and in one of them appeared a guy who tried to rob a cab driver and picked the cad with the tiniest driver. However this guy was a master in martial arts and the poor robber had to spend 3 weeks in an emergency ward. This story was based on actual events.
@@redtobertshateshandles My wife told the story about a friend she had. It was a young woman that married the first man she met. Though she was rather big (not fat, but well built) and her husband was a small shit that started abusing and beating her. She could have stopped it by just sitting on her dick-head husband, but didn't. Eventually, one day she snapped. Her little sons three-wheeled bike was in pieces after she had grabbed first thing she found, and her husband spent three weeks in an emergency ward and never touched her after that.
I have worked in an emergency ward. No one spends 3 weeks there except for the people that work there. One place, if you couldn't breathe on your own in 24 hours. You aren't going to ever.
He is talking about the UK. The only legal weapon to carry here is what the man is talking about your brain. Having said that the risk here is very low and certainly much lower than fear makes it seem. For example it is much safer outdoors for women than it is for men but they have the greater fear. It is much safer for the elderly than for the young. In fact the greatest risk is to self-confident, fit young men.
There's a famous video in the US from a few years ago in which a couple is out shoveling snow in front of their house when they get into it with the guy who lived across the street. Apparently there was history there. The guy goes into his house and comes back out with a handgun. Instead of running away as they should have the couple confronts him and the woman actually holds her phone up to video it while yelling "go ahead, do it!" They obviously thought he was bluffing. He wasn't and the couple are both dead. A cell phone isn't a defense against bullets. People just can't accept in their minds what other people are capable of.
@@inconnu4961 He didn't go to jail, after he shot them both he went back into his house and shot himself. His wife had recently passed away and the neighbors made comments about her during the altercation; they just pushed the wrong button apparently, and he was obviously dealing with some deep seated issues....
I always find your videos informative. I find myself thinking about your advice when I find myself travelling through unfamiliar places or in tense situations. I take notice of my those around me and my environment; particularly when using my mobile phone. As I'm getting older, I move differently and not quite keep up with the herd, so I find your lessons essential. Thank you, these are all things that I've encountered in your lessons.
Never speak. Never threaten. Never try to 'defuse' the situation. If you think a situation needs 'defusing' it is time to fight or run. Do not give either blanket priority over the other. Go with whichever one works. Never fight without a weapon unless you have no choice. If you run, your first priority is to find a weapon. Any weapon. Stick, rock, stray cat, bottle, brick. Only then try to find help.
@@Francis-uv3nh Not unless I absolutely have to. Preferably, I am armed and my assailant is not. The only honor in fighting is survival. There is no test of truth or valor in fighting barehanded. Evil men can be more skilled than I, and still be evil.
War is a place where the young kill one another without knowing or hating each other, because of the decision of old people who know and hate each other, without killing each other. -- Erich Hartmann
I am 43 years old and I can count serious fights on one hand. No one ever wins a fight really but don’t be over aggressive, feel the person out, keep an arms distance so you can see their actions. My go to moves have always been throat punch, nut shot, or take them to the ground to wrestle which I am better at overall. Best move is to walk away, life is too short
Thank you for making this video. I'm a Londoner born & bred & have now turned 60 which is why your video has become relevant. I must say it was also reassuring. I've not gone looking for trouble, nor would I, but there was an incident last month when I was in Barking where a guy just walking towards me said; "What are you looking. at, you ******* *****?!" I kept walking & didn't react, but it was unsettling because 60 years ago I'd been born less than 2 miles away.
I have trained all my life and have skills but don't depend on someone like me to step in and help you out; in fact I am much less likely to help out a stranger than an inexperienced bystander would be. I am all too aware of what can happen in a street fight and I have no desire to deal with the injuries or legal ramifications that can change my life in an instant. Learn to defend yourself because you're on your own in this world and NO ONE is coming to save you.
Well I have been saved twice by complete strangers and in very serious situations. So it does happen. BUT yes I agree with you, don't depend on it at all!
@@DeadlyKiss000 You were VERY lucky and I hope you aren't depending on anymore strangers to help you if trouble comes your way again. Plan ahead what you can do to save yourself in various scenarios, take a self defense course if you have to, and train to develop your skills. The reason I got into self defense training in the first place is because a stranger almost killed me when I was younger in a surprise attack. I learned from my experience and you should have learned after your first bad encounter; the fact that it happened again shows you didn't learn enough to prevent the second one. You may not be so lucky the 3rd time.
45 year old checking in. 6'3" 235, used to box and in okay shape. Beat weapons for me at this age: awareness, lack of ego and the ability to walk away. 😎
If you want help you must specifically call individuals out! "You with the red jacket next to the pillar - call an ambulance!" If you call "Help, please, anybody!" nobody will help!
In most countries people will not help because they don't want to be arrested and charged by the authorities. They just don't want to get involved so you are on your own. This applies to Europe, South East Asia, and South America. They don't even want to be a witness to an auto accident and testify about what they saw to the cops.
I have two girls and from an early age they've taken Judo/Kickboxing lessons. Not to be able beat a guy up, but to surprise someone enough to enable them to get away. I told them from an early age, if a guy grabs a hold of you, always assume you're fighting for your life, try to cause the most damage you can in as short amount of time as possible to get free and then run.
I had an experience in London walking down the street. My adult son was with me and we were just walking down the street. Three twenty somethings walked toward me asking a question that I didn’t understand. Directions I thought. Suddenly my son walked in front of me and said “Get the F away from my Mom!” “Now!!!” They vanished into the London street.
And don't look like a victim! Don't walk around with your head down or looking at your phone! Walk with confidence and look around. Notice your surroundings and you'll be less likely to be surprised or sucker punched by someone! Also, if you hear quick footsteps coming from behind, don't just turn you head to look. Quickly spin around and take up a defensive posture! If it was nothing, no harm done. If it was someone moving to attack you, they just lost the element of surprise and maybe they'll have second thoughts!
Confirmed! "The scan" saved me many times. Some people have called me paranoid for that reason, but I havent been hurt by an attacker for more than 25 years now. Those guys will know, who is aware, because they are, too. So put a soft smile on your face and move like a very chill cat, looking left, right and checking the sky, every now and then. Also, at night, I always check for my own shadow on the ground, in case a light source pops up behind me.
avoid places where there is drink ,drugs and women- this will eliminate 90% change of any violent attack. A confident attitude will eliminate another 3% and knowing your terrain will eliminate another 3% and and respectful attitude will eliminate 3% so that leave 1% chance of violent attacks BUT its that 1% chance which we have to train for as it will come from most unexpected place and most unexpected time,Keep a sharp mind and strong well trained body with a healthy nervous system which can react quickly in such situations is our best advantage.even then there is no guarantee in violent attacks which way it will go. Great Channel
There's so much that can be said about this but I recommend taking a self defense class..Always be ready to use anything for a weapon if needed. Had a dude in a bar kept wanting to fight me. Me and his buddies kept telling him that I wasn't who he thought I was. Well he came up the last time and decided to pull a knife. Well I stood and drew mine when his buddies grabbed him, took his knife then apologized and took him home.
I've worked security and been a bouncer in many bars (mainly Austin) and idiots always want to test security. My line that I always threw out there was... 'You're drunk and I'm sober, who do you think is going to win this fight' 9/10 times they usually backed off.
@@christophercox936 Even now more than ever. I left 20 years ago but Austin is where I grew up and I have lots of great memories from there and I'll always be a Texan. Edit : I worked at Buffalo Billiards, The Library, The Ritz, Stubs and also did a lot of private parties and after parties.
@@christophercox936 Put them in a soccer match in the UK, Russia, Turkey, Poland or even the Netherlands. You have true hard men there especially Millwall FC in London UK!
Great idea! I always carry a big sturdy pen in my pocket. If you get into a fight this can be very useful as a short distance weapon. An umbrella is also a good thing to carry with you. If you get into trouble keep distance to the attacker as good as you can. This is essential. In that situation distance is your best life ensurance.
I’ve just subscribed- this was fantastic content. I did martial arts when I was younger (I’m 60 now) and the main benefit for me was in terms of managing fear and staying calm.
I'm 68 now, and I have an old hickory sledge hammer handle. It used to be straight, but like me, has a warp to it that makes a perfect Bo-ken. I carved it into a reasonable shape of said Bo-ken, with a tapered edge, etc, and added a round leather bob the size of a tennis ball as a hand grip for walking, as well as to keep the thing from slipping out of my hand when I practice two basic strikes - every day: An overhead smash downward to the shoulder/collar bone, and a lateral strike to side of the head. The leather ball allows me to extend the range in a frontal cross at high speed. But a rubber cane tip makes it a walking cane. It is devastatingly powerful and although it is a cane, it does project a sense of threat to the methheads and punks that seem to hang out around the local Safeway grocery store. More than once I have caused them to break eye contact as I exited with my cart, and cane, secured by a wrist strap, hanging at hand. Normal people don't even glance at it, but bad guys seem to recognize a sword when they see one - even one made of wood.
Good one that's what I carry (sledge handle) and no one looks at it twice. Can't think of anywhere you can't take it. Also think about working on some shin bone strikes if you've ever walked into anything like that you'll know what I mean.
@@dougpope3045 lower back injuries prevent me from going low. gotta work within the parameters i can handle. I strike from a high guard position like a samurai with one hand on the ball pommel and the other about ten inches up the shaft. The cane is just aft of my right ear. The cantilever effect of pushing forward and down with the right hand while anchoring the left at the pommel takes all the weight off me and onto the swing. There is no wasted movement or energy because there is no wind-up. Amazing what it will do to a watermellon. Got a ham bone from the meat counter and it smashed right through it. Very impressive.
@@cioran1754 From the same position, but with a slight tilt to the right at the waist. I can strike the head or side of body with no pre-load (wind up). When you're old or very sore in th eback, any wind-up gives th ebad guiy time to react - and - it hurts to pre-load, then suddemnly change the directio of te energy and convert it to th estrike. Better to hold the Bo-ken properly for the cantilever method. The power is from the shoulders/forearm. All you have to do is push with the upper hold and pull with the pommel. It is the same principle as lever and fulcrum. The pommel grip is the lever. The fulcrum is the upper hold. The impact power is from th eshape of the cane: Shaved and shaped like a katana, but far more blunt, having a similar curve. The "cutting edge" is about 1/4" wide and flat but sanded for a smooth eradius all along the length. The back side is full round for strength. The handle end is deeply carved for good grip for a man past his prime. There is a wrist strap for when I need both hands to bag groceries, etc. The pommel is layered leather, glued, then carved like a door knob.
Awesome! As a 62 year old I wonder if I might carry a 'walking stick' at some point and this has given me some good pointers. I particularly like the idea of shaping it, as I hadn't thought of that before. I have trained with sticks and swords though and can appreciate your technique description. Thanks for posting.
I trained for a short period under you many years ago ! Some of the best self defense knowledge I've ever learnt, that and the sorest forearms. Excellent Sifu Regards & Respect
Regardless of age if you defend yourself you have a chance, if you don't you have no chance. Never learn any martial art that is not pressure tested with reality attacks, I recommend Goshinkwai Yawara if you live in South Wales the UK, nothing I've seen comes close. No disrespect meant to other styles. Good video.
Some great points here, especially the reminder that violence doesn't follow a script. The most serious adult fight I ever had happened in the middle of the day walking down a street in a nice college town.
I'm just a quiet old man, trained in martial arts and served in the military, I still haven't lost my fighting skills. Seldom do I have to fight to defend myself or stand up for others, but if I have to, it will either end very quickly or someone will drag the troublemaker away when they realised I'm not afraid even though I may seemed outnumbered. Once, someone tried to stab a vendor with a broken bottle for refusing to sell him beer b'cos he was too drunk and rowdy, I stepped in and sent him flying 10 feet back with a kick without hurting him, he didn't realise he was kicked until he saw the footprint on his crouch. His 2 friends came over and pulled him away, then brought back more guys to "talk" to me. After I'd explained what happened, they turned on the troublemaker and slapped him silly, telling him that he could have ended up badly if I really wanted to hurt him.
Good vid. I grew up in a rough area and went to university. While there, I met so many people that don't understand the world and really REALLY would do well watching this video.
It's funny because now that I'm in my late 50's , it's almost a relief that I'm too old to be expected to "fight fair". I'm actually in great shape , still strong , but my balance isn't as good, reaction time slower , and I can't run fast . So I'm going to use tactics and weapons that give me every advantage I can get . I grew up in the Midwest , U.S. and we fought all time but it WAS a fair fight . Skin on skin, shake hands after and it's done. Then we moved to the west coast and into a gang populated area and all that was gone . It wasn't fights, it was attacks and attempts to maim or murder.
Similar background. Fought a lot as a kid and young man, but back then it WAS a fight, not attempted murder. These days I'm too old and slow to rock with a 20 year old punk and his 5 best friends.... I carry weapons.
Never understood the whole "shake hands" white boy Hank Hill nonsense. Anybody swings at me for no reason they're dead or maimed. No "fair fight" horseshit. No "friends" afterwards either. Lots of ego and bullying among white Midwest types. At least the dirtbag gang bangers don't play games.
This video is spot on, and if anything will help people to avoid fights. Mostly because you don't know what you are getting in to, so don't get in to it.
These videos are outstanding. My scars and broken bones are my reminders of why my situational awareness and ability to judge dangerous people is apparent. What I find these days, in my 60s, is that there are more dangerous people ..... and far far fewer with the ability to see them and deal with them if need be. Dangerous people will only be stopped by dangerous people. For most, dangerous people should be avoided like the plague. I am paying for my life in dangerous places doing dangerous things while pushing myself to constantly test my abilities .... in jungles, deserts, rings and on the streets. Now, in my late 60s, I wish more men to watch these videos and take heed. Subscribed, bell rung, commented, upvoted, liked, shared .... may the algorithm gods smile favorably upon your channel friend. I share these with my Grandsons.
This is a great video. Ive seen a lot of people that clearly have little to no experience in street fighting have the mentality that they'd somehow be the top dog in a random fight with someone they e mever seen before. Trying to explain these things to them has often been fruitless because much of the time they have this superhero complex like theyre going to suddenly transform into this badass that they simply are not. No one is bullet proof and there are no winners in a knife fight. It's best to just avoid conflict where possible and to act like your life is on the line when conflict is unavoidable. Anyway, these days I carry an equalizer. Not because I look forward to the day I get to use it, like the mindset of so many seems to be (still that superhero complex, check any CCW forum), but because I know that when that day comes I will have it to use.
This could possibly be the best 'Self Defense' video I have seen. No silly unworkable techniques, just be aware of your soundings and peoples possible intentions.
A long time ago when I started doing Jujitsu they said something similar. Violence is the last resort. Try to get away or calm them down first. Assume they could have a weapon. Be on the lookout for their friends who may be circling around you so you can't see them. And so on. It's not just about fighting but surviving a dangerous encounter. Know what objects you can use or cover yourself with. The grappling itself was fun but we also learned about knife or bat attacks and so on. You try to survive but you're probably gonna get stabbed or hit at least once with that bat.
The video makes a Lot of sense. I was raised to always to be on the lookout for violence, and to avoid situations where it was likely. I was also taught that if violence was unavoidable, to be prepared to do whatever was necessary to make it back home.
Spot on information. Thank you. My mother taught me to fight fair and to stand up for the innocent. Found out she was dead wrong in my second fight, which was a continuation of my first. I did the right thing, protected my blaq friend from two bullies. But in the second fight I let him hit first. He didn’t knock me out but it made me look bad. My brothers taught me to do whatever it takes to survive, and be extreme when doing so. Hitting hard, fast and with much violence can act as a deterrent to other potential actors and can deter future attacks.
I am a small guy. Never underestimate the weight difference. I can outrun most people, even at 64 years of age. My nightmare scenario would be to be with my family when something bad happens. A big out of shape guy has an enormous advantage if he’s got 100 pounds on you. Sure, hard, vital strikes can work, but…physics.
So true. I’m old 68, most old people don’t realize how much strength and coordination they have lost. Their delusional ego takes over , you can see it here in the comments
@@orangewarm1 Actually, it is. What you have fallen for, hook line and sinker, is what the propagandists WANT you to believe. Most "gun violence" is between gang bangers, followed by suicides. 1 or 2 percent is by responsible gun owners. So there; you're welcome.
Fortunately and unfortunately, my country (Australia) doesn’t allow such tools even for self defence. Yes, including pepper sprays. The fortunate side is that enemies will be much less likely to have a gun.
IMHO, you are speaking truth here. I was trained as a psychologist and was told, and believed, I had a gift for defusing situations having done this many, many times in family and office settings. That was until I was hired to be acting Chief Psychologist for a district court. I met people who had no "fuse to defuse" but were metaphorically covered with "blasting caps" that exploded on contact or near proximity. There was no talking to be done. My three years there were world view changing. I became much more alert to potential dangers and how to avoid these situations. Thank you for articulating your knowledge and wisdom to others.
Spot on advise. Be aware of your surroundings. Scan. Think. Never let your guard down. If you stay alert you are 99% safe. And carry your legal firearm everywere.
Assume the worst is possible, only you have your best interest at heart, every situation can be life threatening, be ready to defend yourself at all costs
Excellent advice for general public. I would add to avoid confrontation if possible and to find a way out of a fight not to engage. For all the reasons you state of never knowing the mindset of who your dealing with. From 25 years of enforcing the law.
My friend was at a college party. Two drunk guys started fighting. My friend tried to break up the fight when one of the guys hit him over the head with a bottle killing him!
Avoid it until you can't, and when you can't...go all in right away. There are no "gentleman's rules" if the other guy keeps wanting to go when you do not.
Hmmm,... I've only recently discovered your channel. ... But, I'm quickly becoming a fan!... The stuff you cover in your videos, are all things that have taken me a lifetime (of pain) to learn. .. @ 2:05... It reminds me of that scene in 'Blood Sport', when that one guy says, "Very good. ... But, bricks DON'T hit back." @ 5:17 It brings back childhood memories of those"classic" Jackie Chan movies where he uses an old-school landline telephone to hit a guy upside the head. Or, uses a curtain to tie up his attacker's wrist to thwart said attack. Or, uses a ladder as a shield to keep from getting hit. Or, uses a girl as a human shield. ... Or, or, or...! 😋
IT IS A JANGLE OUT THERE WITH ANIMALS OR ACT ALIKE ANIMALS READY FOR SITUATIONS. BE PREPARED.IT IS NEVER SAFE. I WENT TO A SUPERMARKET, PAID FOR EVERYTHING INCLUDING A BAG OF ICE.THEN GRABBED A BAG OF ICE OUTSIDE IN A ICE BIN $3.00 (PAID IN ADVANCE) AND A SECURITY GUY TROUBLE MAKER TRIED EVERYTHING TO GET ME INTIMIDATED. HALF OF BOCK AWAY HE CAME AND SAID I DID NOT PAID FOR THE ICE WICH I DID. FOR SOME REASON HE STARTED CALLING MANAGERS TO COME OUT AND COME OUT WITH LIES SAYING THAT I GRABBED 2 BAGS, WICH I DID NOT. THEN HE SAID I GRABBED THE BIG ONES INSTEAD OF THE SMALL ONE, AGAIN LYING. AFTER ALL PROVED THAT I WAS RIGHT HE GOT FURIOUS AND WANTED TO DO SOMETHING I COULD FEEL IT. THE MANAGER CALLED HIM AWAY AND I FELT PEOPLE AROUND MAY THINK I WAS STEALING SO I HAD TO SAY WHAT HE DID AND WHAT HE IS. A LIAR! HE TRIES TO INTIMIDATE ME WITH LOOKS AND FACES LIKE A CRAZY ANIMAL. EVIL, PURE EVIL. I WAS READY FOR HIS AGGRESSION. ALWAYS. I NEVER LEAVE MY HOUSE WITHOUT PROTECTION AND WILL NEVER LET ANYBODY LAY HANDS ON ME.
Was totally onboard with the advice and analogies you were giving, fell on its posterior when you start using bystanders as a human shields though, that is a mark of a coward good sir!
Very good advice. I agree with everything you have said, this is after 35 years in Law Enforcement. It is also why I am always armed and willing to end the fight in the beginning. I’m not into fighting. I’m into finishing.
As a kid, I had a barber (who was a grizzled, tatted up army vet) who used to tell me, "There is no such thing as a fair fight. Better to avoid a fight; but if you have to, you fight to win." After 4 decades of martial arts training, and living and travelling all over the world in some...difficult places...for work. I still think about those conversations I had with him. Some of the best advice I've ever received.
I'd also add , don't fight unless it is worth it. Even if you will win, you likely waste time and effort, endure pain or damage. You just don't want to go through that without good outweighing reason.
@@emtibAlucard Amen. "Don't fight unless it is worth it or unless you have to." In my experience everybody usually gets hurt in a fight, including the winner.
Yep my dad who was a former 101st Ranger told me the same thing.
@@1notgilty I also have to consider that if I get arrested, even if it was self defence and I don't get charged, I will get sacked as a matter of course by my employer, it's part of my contract.
Strange...Mister Miyagi said the same thing
Random violence happens. But avoiding dangerous places, stupid behavior, and bad decisions will reduce your risk substantially.
That's why us Germans rush into the basement/cellar if we want to laugh....
No it wont, most of the violence i have encountered was in work. And NOT as a bailiff or bounces of which i have been both.
I've been military and also a security guard
The first thing anyone needs to learn to use is their voice
If this fails
Then you need the next solution of doing the right thing at the right time
Alway's have your whits about you and stay calm and Weigh up the stuation before taking any rash action.
@marioflavin2141 great advice
Guy was shouting outside the office I work I with two women yesterday
They were scared
I almost went out to sort his shit
It was a domestic and he was weighin in on his wife
I left it.
Locked the door
Then around 5 to 6 mins later the police came and took him
So like the man says in his video
Asses (rapid) then act
Don't take one thing for granted. Do the best in the moment
I'm 60yrs now, I carry a small pot (mints container with quick flip lid or old film cannister) of 50% dry sand and 50% fine ground pepper. It has about a 2-3m reach and you don't see it. Just a few grains will blind the attacker enough for me to hoof it. But I think the main thing that has saved me on occasions is being aware of your surroundings.
What About Pepper Or Bear Spray? Thank You.
Funny.
I carry a Glock
Fine ground glass is good as well.
@@Kyle-sr6jm
Again, illegal in many countries.
Stupid in a lot more.
@JohnSmithGlobeLie Situational awareness is key. People who worked in law enforcement or military have it. They have a sense about when a situation is about to go sour. Others have to be taught. If not, they will find out the hard way someday. Hopefully it will not cost them their lives.
When I was a teenager, a wise man told me to never get into a fight with an old man. He said that they know they don’t have the endurance to last for more than a minute or two, so they will go for the kill immediately. Now I’m 68 years old and I know that to be true. I was recently assaulted by a twenty something kid over my dog barking at him. Apparently, no one ever gave him that advice.
The older we get, the less that life imprisonment is a deterrent to us!
@@nghtwtchmn129 my feelings exactly. I’d be happy to go to jail if it sends the message that you better not mess with old people because they have little to lose.
For him to pick a fight with a 68 year old man was complete cowardice. Hopefully he learned from the experience.
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Never pick a fight with an old man. There's a reason he's old.
As a Senior one thing is vitally important, do not be taken in by younger people when they say "what're ya gonna do Old Man?" They have no clue as to what you know, and or are capable of.When someone says that just walk away, until, they come at you with intent to harm, and then defend yourself.
My response is " I may be old, but I make up for it by being really slow.".
Sound advice
"the same thing I did to all the other thugs"
There are ccw options.
I may be an old horse but I still have a few rides left.
I moved to the mountains away from everyone. I get my stuff delivered. As a martial artist of 25 years I learned better is a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a battle.
"A warrior in a garden is better than a warrior under a garden."
Unless you have a pitch fork lol
@@dsmith9572 a warrior above the garden, is better than being in the garden
You know Frankie you make a really good point. I’m a an old soldier fought 4 tours to various theaters and been studying martial arts all my life even today. Truthfully my entire life from birth has been conflict after conflict. Pretty sure the kids above missed the whole point, but well heard 👍🏻. I plan to do the same. It’s hard to have peace when there is so many people because where there are a lot of people there is always some battle. And no lie piece to me is life, greenery, and silence without the possibility of threat at every corner. Personally it gets old and the world has basically been turned evil if you haven’t watch the news or checked your local police site yet or even social media the world going to hell in a hand basket and nobody can be trusted anymore not they they could before but now the tilt is most certainly bad.
I walk like a butterfly sting like a bee.
I punch like Ali, but dance like Bruce Lee.
Weight lift and exercise every day and eat clean.
Let's get cooking.
I'm a 65 year old retired woman Marine. I am 100% disabled. I'm slow, and weaker than when younger. I was attacked by a 230lb man who started chocking me. My training came back in a flash. I dropped on my back, took him with me, then throat punched him with my knuckles in a short hard jab. He was incompacitated immediately. Couldn't breath. Called 911, they had to trach him. He was arrested and jailed. Never underestimate your opponent. I've gone back to the gym, lost weight, muscled up, and take self defense classes as well as conceal carry now and won't hesitate to use it.
Great job!!!
If only we had more like you!
When did you wake up from this dream?😂😂😂
Semper Fi sister. Do not piss around. I am sorry you were attacked but, you did what needed to be done. I have been sucker punched before. All they did was get my attention and was turned into a grezzy little spot.
Semper Fi👍
Always told my daughters.
There's no rules.
People around you have no responsibility for saving you.
If they pull a weapon they're willing to use it.
Never give your opponent the benefit of the doubt.
I always wondered as a young man why no one comes to your rescue and then I realized that most people can't protect themselves leave alone saving others
@@francismurage895
Nah, that's not it... they just have that spectator mentality. They wanna see that action, and this time it's REAL.
@@francismurage895 People enjoy seeing other people's suffering. That's why they ươn't save the victims.
"People around you have no responsibility for saving you.". I think you're wrong on that point. At least if an innocent person is being attacked bystanders should have the responsibility to help... that doesn't mean it's something you have to expect though. Especialy with weapons.
Excellent video. Probably the most important point in it is that no one should assume the other person thinks of a fight the same way you do. A normal, average guy is probably going to think of a fight as a physical altercation that will end when one of the participants says "Okay, that's enough." The other person, however, might have an entirely different background and think the fight is over only when Mr. Normal is maimed or dead. When I was a young man, I rarely hesitated to get in a fight. Especially ego driven fights. As an older man, I won't fight unless I have absolutely no other choice.
I'm 73 - will no longer fight. However I can't really anymore - so I will defend myself to the measure needed to stop the threat. Fair is no longer part of my mindset.
Who the hell is attacking a 73yo? Maybe in mutt America 🇺🇸 or sth Africa.
@@The0Matador0 All of Biden & Kamala's 'Friend's' they let cross the border!
I'm 77 and totally support you. Animals prey on the weak and infirmed. Same goes for the human animal. I refuse to be prey and will swing , jab or pull whatever I can to defeat a threat.
@@The0Matador0in Australia a police officer tasered a 95 year old.
Every single video you post, is more valuable than 100 videos on self-defense.
Thank you Sir 🙏🏾
100% spot on. These videos are very insightful and informative. I don’t think real life psychology is focused on enough in modern dojos, but if you’re training for points and trophies it’s probably moot. I personally feel empowered and educated by each one. Thanks Guv!
"Only when mosquito lands on your testicles, you realize that there is always a way to resolve problems without using violence" - Lao Tzu
LMFAO, Hilarious,I Like that one!
Great quote!
😅 is that a real quote?
@@twolford01 Lol, no.
Yeah, don't leave ya sack bare.....
You are the first utuber to speak common sense. I'm a truck driver. I've been in to many bad situations. Truck stops, fuel lanes, rest areas shippers and receivers.
It can happen any place, any time.
Too
@@adods9824 ??
Wasp hornet spray is always in my truck. I used to keep a mini torch and white rain hairspray. Someone said I used that at the ts in Jessup Maryland at the Giant warehouse back in the nineties. Absolutely not true
It's a sad world where old people get attacked.
That's not how society's supposed to look like.
Predators arrange the violence for their benefit and then face all of the social, legal, and retaliatory violence. Even being attacked for not being violent enough, or prosecuted for excessive violence. Along with people, that list this as entertainment value, until those attackers lose anonymity. Followed by retaliatory insinuation, with gossiping and defamation of character. Every camera is electronic evidence, and as soon as it turns terrorism for national security secrets or a proclaimed agenda ask one question. How much resource availability does Federal Law Enforcement have to prosecute Federal Crimes?
You're saying that as if it is a new thing. That has always happened.
@@shoelacedonkey less in more civilized times. I was recently at a police station, a clearly scared woman came to ask if the police were going to take action against her stalker. She said that she was constantly being followed and threatened. It turned out that her entire case was not even being dealt with. The police woman was also very rude and angry with the victim. Because the woman dared to ask if her case was being taken seriously. You also often hear that the police advise not to file a report. Which many people also do not do. Because the police often only take action when it is too late. Maybe they are too busy, there is too much bureaucracy or there are too many people who are not suitable. The figures say that crime is decreasing. But at the same time the police are so busy that they do not deal with most cases. And most people experience more violence. So how reliable are the figures.
@@shoelacedonkeyyou obviously live in America and have never traveled to, let's say Europe. Times have changed. I can tell your a youngster.😅
@@JeffreySmith7777you're
Fight Rule #1 - there are no rules.
Yes, always assume the worst.
Fight Rule #2 - be able to prove it was involuntary
Sucker punches are totally legal.
Over thirty years ago my Grandad taught me "Bite 'em, scratch 'em, throw dirt in their eyes, kick 'em in the nuts, and if that doesn't work FIGHT DIRTY!" Anything is better than an ass woopin'. 🤠
First rule: we don't talk about fight club
I've been a defensive tactics and shooting instructor for 8 years. If people could understand and implement what you just presented, there would be no need for guys like me. Spot on. Awesome.
Wow, this was actually remarkably spot on. Refreshing to find something on youtube that is not clickbait or misleading. Appreciated!
Great points. Most of these type of videos provide worthless or dangerous advise. Yours provide down to earth points without being condescending.
If you think the fight is over ,don't turn your back.
@@steve2736 Unless his mate/ a couple of his mates jump in.
He could roll his eyes on purpose..never assume it’s over
@@steve2736... no... that's when the fight is truly on... if your opponent... is the undead 🧟♂️
its what they do in the movies
Just use the principle of Highlander. If you see the body still attached to the head, the fight is still on!
People are not primarily driven by reason but by emotion. People will often never accept when they are wrong and will find ways to rationalize their actions. Criticism hurts individuals' pride and sense of importance.
Never underestimate the ego, for it is quite stupid.
true
Most people are like this, and It is the one thing that disgusts me the most about people in general. The cringeworthy mental gymnastics you might be unfortunate enough to directly encounter are more often than not ridiculous, bordering on actual insanity.
If you can, you have to make sure you carry something to keep you safe. Pepper spray BARE MINIMUM.
One of the hardest truths I've been forced to accept is that no matter how reasonable and sensible you come across, there are people out there where any reasonable approach will fall flat or even backfire. Narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths, or just plain idiots make the world harder than it already is.
Always be vigilant and stay safe. With the state of the world people are also bound to get worse as well. Please, be prepared.
Be safe, be smart and good luck everyone.😐
As someone who has worked in security and been in sketchy places and also attend metal concerts, I am always aware of my surroundings and environment. You never know who you will come across and when things will pop off. It is vital to be aware of who is around you.
I know dudes who go to metal concerts specifically to hurt people
@@didamnesia3575 It used to not be that way, unless you messed with the wrong dude or his girl. Nowadays dudes are in the pit to inflict damage.
@DyingInPlainSight "messed with the wrong dude" is sometimes code for a larger bully beating the crap out of some smaller dude having a good time... so what I said stands, people going to inflict harm on other people who then lie to your face about how it started. Pro tip, nobody weighing 120lbs has started anything with a large person randomly (not countin little dudes messing with security, that's uniform specific human behavior)
@@didamnesia3575 I've been to over 100 concerts and have seen plenty of smaller dudes starting crap with bigger guys. There are dudes that run through the crowd and elbow people in the kidneys or ribs and then jet off.
I've had a kid run by me and do that exact thing. By the time you realize what happened, he's 10 rows deep and untouchable. I've seen girls go and start talking to another guy, just to have their 6ft 6in 225lb boyfriend come up and smash the dude in the face.
I never talk to a girl unless I know she is with a group of other girls or she is clearly single. I try and stay clear of the drunk shirtless Meatheads, because that's all they are looking for is trouble.
@@didamnesia3575 I have been to over 100 concerts and seen everything under the sun. There are smaller dudes that will run through the crowd and elbow people in the back or kidneys and jet off. I've seen girls go and talk to another guy just to have her much larger boyfriend come and smash the dude in the face. I stay far away from the big drunk meatheads, because that's all they are looking for, is to fight.
One important aspect is the fight in the dog.
Some people will just go further than you would dare, longer than you want and can shrug off discomfort that you would expect to stop others.
Many in the US carry firearms not because they want to use them but because they are the great equalizer between people of vastly different strengths and ages. A 5' woman with a 9mm who knows how to use it is far more dangerous to an attacker than a 6'4" martial artist. In the US, of course - in the UK because weapons are banned, only the physically strong and skilled get to have some assurance of relative safety - the rest of the law-abiding are relegated to the victim class.
No. I don’t agree. Most people in America who carry guns are people who let their mouths write cheques that their fists can’t cash, so they carry a gun.
Same in Oz..
That gun culture sure has turned out well for Americans
@@ScorpionSuerteit has. The propaganda of the tyrant are lies.
@@ScorpionSuertetoo bad you can’t carry.
One of the best videos on self-defense on the internet. Avoidance and awareness are the two most important factors in self-defense.
"Some people value life differently"... Exactly, we have to be prepared to fight back to these kind of people, who want to take our life...
You need to think what you lose and what you gain from a fight, In many cases even if you win a fight you will encounter physical damage and perhaps some other cost. If you are arrested for affray you might even lose your job. In most cases it is better to withdraw unless there is a big need such as standing up to a perpetual bully or protecting someone or property. Nobody else cares about your ego really and most people would retreat but it does surprise people who know you as a fight avoider on the occasion when you stand up to someone for a purpose. People starting fights often have nothing to lose and their ego is all they have.
I had a close call just 10 days ago. A young hopped-up punk went psycho on me in the Walmart checkout line. He was telling me in no uncertain terms what he was going to do to me. As I listened to him raging. I didn't engage in a shouting match. I just stared at him and got ready and had my hand on a weapon in case he decided to carry out his threats. A couple of Walmart employees got between us and moved me to an adjacent checkout station. He was still raging after I was gone. Mistakes: 1. staring could have triggered him to action. 2. I should have just said "sorry" (even though I hadn't done anything) and backed away rather than standing my ground. Knowing what to do and doing it under stress are two different things. I am less than 2 weeks away from 75 yo and although I am in better shape than 95+% of septuagenarians, I would have had my hands full with a 20 yo crackhead. That's why I was carrying both a gun and a knife. Thankfully, I didn't have to deploy either one.
The fact you are carrying weapons is probably part of the reason you didn't back down, and made that mistake. Oh well, go well sir !
But if you apologize and leave, sometimes they will come after you, like a predator after prey! This has been MY problem dealing with bullies, when trying to de-escalate. The signs of weakness seems to embolden them even more!
What a dumb country the USA is.
The one screaming and shouting is the one that is going to take the beating. People who are afraid or cannot take care of themselves make a big spectacle. The one who wins is the one who remains calm throughout.
My friend, you ALWAYS make such good sense. Thank you for being here and helping us all.
You are so welcome. And a big big thank you for supporting my channel ❤️
Two Swedish ex-criminals wrote a series of books many years ago and in one of them appeared a guy who tried to rob a cab driver and picked the cad with the tiniest driver. However this guy was a master in martial arts and the poor robber had to spend 3 weeks in an emergency ward.
This story was based on actual events.
Of course, small short people are more likely to learn self defence! Necessity.
My big mate got the living daylights kicked out of him by a little black belt. 😂
His dentist bills got reimbursed. 😂
Not sure about his broken ankle.
@@redtobertshateshandles My wife told the story about a friend she had. It was a young woman that married the first man she met. Though she was rather big (not fat, but well built) and her husband was a small shit that started abusing and beating her. She could have stopped it by just sitting on her dick-head husband, but didn't.
Eventually, one day she snapped. Her little sons three-wheeled bike was in pieces after she had grabbed first thing she found, and her husband spent three weeks in an emergency ward and never touched her after that.
I have worked in an emergency ward. No one spends 3 weeks there except for the people that work there. One place, if you couldn't breathe on your own in 24 hours. You aren't going to ever.
An old man told me once, “if someone is going to attack me, they had better be armed, because I damn sure will be.“
He is talking about the UK. The only legal weapon to carry here is what the man is talking about your brain. Having said that the risk here is very low and certainly much lower than fear makes it seem. For example it is much safer outdoors for women than it is for men but they have the greater fear. It is much safer for the elderly than for the young. In fact the greatest risk is to self-confident, fit young men.
@@fibber2u Well, that ued to be the case before the cultural enrichment began.
@@PeteH0121this!
Same. Glock 43X, mos edition. Aftermarket 15-round mag. Carrying it every single time I leave the house. And keep situational awareness.
There's a famous video in the US from a few years ago in which a couple is out shoveling snow in front of their house when they get into it with the guy who lived across the street. Apparently there was history there. The guy goes into his house and comes back out with a handgun. Instead of running away as they should have the couple confronts him and the woman actually holds her phone up to video it while yelling "go ahead, do it!" They obviously thought he was bluffing. He wasn't and the couple are both dead. A cell phone isn't a defense against bullets. People just can't accept in their minds what other people are capable of.
Uh what would be worth going to jail for?
@@inconnu4961 He didn't go to jail, after he shot them both he went back into his house and shot himself. His wife had recently passed away and the neighbors made comments about her during the altercation; they just pushed the wrong button apparently, and he was obviously dealing with some deep seated issues....
That is in Pennsylvania. I saw the video very frightening. Respect and humility is the tool that i always carry when i go places.
I always find your videos informative. I find myself thinking about your advice when I find myself travelling through unfamiliar places or in tense situations.
I take notice of my those around me and my environment; particularly when using my mobile phone.
As I'm getting older, I move differently and not quite keep up with the herd, so I find your lessons essential.
Thank you, these are all things that I've encountered in your lessons.
Never speak. Never threaten. Never try to 'defuse' the situation. If you think a situation needs 'defusing' it is time to fight or run. Do not give either blanket priority over the other. Go with whichever one works. Never fight without a weapon unless you have no choice. If you run, your first priority is to find a weapon. Any weapon. Stick, rock, stray cat, bottle, brick. Only then try to find help.
Stray cat? Lol
You never fight without weaponry?
@@Francis-uv3nh Not unless I absolutely have to. Preferably, I am armed and my assailant is not. The only honor in fighting is survival. There is no test of truth or valor in fighting barehanded. Evil men can be more skilled than I, and still be evil.
Stray cat huh? 😂
Stray cat :Gottcha on that you sneaky ba8tard 😄
War is a place where the young kill one another without knowing or hating each other, because of the decision of old people who know and hate each other, without killing each other.
-- Erich Hartmann
Would be great if those old leaders had to settle their disputes in the ring, instead of sacrificing teenagers.
You can't kill someone that in some sense you don't hate, which their trying to kill you will bring out.
Eric Hartmann spoke from experience.
@@tomsmith3045was he an old man who sent kids to war?
Thanks!
Thank you very much, Sir! Your kindness and support is much appreciated.
I am 43 years old and I can count serious fights on one hand. No one ever wins a fight really but don’t be over aggressive, feel the person out, keep an arms distance so you can see their actions. My go to moves have always been throat punch, nut shot, or take them to the ground to wrestle which I am better at overall. Best move is to walk away, life is too short
Thank you for making this video. I'm a Londoner born & bred & have now turned 60 which is why your video has become relevant. I must say it was also reassuring. I've not gone looking for trouble, nor would I, but there was an incident last month when I was in Barking where a guy just walking towards me said; "What are you looking. at, you ******* *****?!" I kept walking & didn't react, but it was unsettling because 60 years ago I'd been born less than 2 miles away.
I have trained all my life and have skills but don't depend on someone like me to step in and help you out; in fact I am much less likely to help out a stranger than an inexperienced bystander would be. I am all too aware of what can happen in a street fight and I have no desire to deal with the injuries or legal ramifications that can change my life in an instant. Learn to defend yourself because you're on your own in this world and NO ONE is coming to save you.
Well I have been saved twice by complete strangers and in very serious situations. So it does happen. BUT yes I agree with you, don't depend on it at all!
@@DeadlyKiss000 You were VERY lucky and I hope you aren't depending on anymore strangers to help you if trouble comes your way again. Plan ahead what you can do to save yourself in various scenarios, take a self defense course if you have to, and train to develop your skills. The reason I got into self defense training in the first place is because a stranger almost killed me when I was younger in a surprise attack. I learned from my experience and you should have learned after your first bad encounter; the fact that it happened again shows you didn't learn enough to prevent the second one. You may not be so lucky the 3rd time.
@@CaneFu Thank you Steven Sea gull! Dont you got some movies to make, or something?
@@inconnu4961 Why do you have trouble with someone giving sound advice?
45 year old checking in. 6'3" 235, used to box and in okay shape. Beat weapons for me at this age: awareness, lack of ego and the ability to walk away. 😎
So, it was you who attacked the Lady above? ^^^
@@PedroLeodis naw. Lol
@@PedroLeodisLOL
@@PedroLeodisunderrated comment 😂
But don't turn your back.
If you want help you must specifically call individuals out! "You with the red jacket next to the pillar - call an ambulance!" If you call "Help, please, anybody!" nobody will help!
Yes
In most countries people will not help because they don't want to be arrested and charged by the authorities. They just don't want to get involved so you are on your own. This applies to Europe, South East Asia, and South America. They don't even want to be a witness to an auto accident and testify about what they saw to the cops.
The "bystander effect" , that's a good tip, nominate someone a task.
Might work in the US but in Europe and Asia, you will not get any help from anyone. People don't want to get involved and arrested.
@@PassivePortfolios I AM from Europe. I can't confirm your statement. In Germany you are even complied to help by law! You can get sued if you don't!
I have two girls and from an early age they've taken Judo/Kickboxing lessons. Not to be able beat a guy up, but to surprise someone enough to enable them to get away. I told them from an early age, if a guy grabs a hold of you, always assume you're fighting for your life, try to cause the most damage you can in as short amount of time as possible to get free and then run.
I had an experience in London walking down the street. My adult son was with me and we were just walking down the street. Three twenty somethings walked toward me asking a question that I didn’t understand. Directions I thought. Suddenly my son walked in front of me and said “Get the F away from my Mom!” “Now!!!” They vanished into the London street.
That’s bs mate the 3 of them would of dusted you bro big tough guy lol
@@ShaneSpencer-zt7un Sorry, but The Voice, like a really loud "BACK OFF!" IS one good option. Draws attention and may shock some assailants.
This is absolutely correct 💯 never a judge a book by its cover
thanks
And don't look like a victim! Don't walk around with your head down or looking at your phone! Walk with confidence and look around. Notice your surroundings and you'll be less likely to be surprised or sucker punched by someone! Also, if you hear quick footsteps coming from behind, don't just turn you head to look. Quickly spin around and take up a defensive posture! If it was nothing, no harm done. If it was someone moving to attack you, they just lost the element of surprise and maybe they'll have second thoughts!
Confirmed! "The scan" saved me many times. Some people have called me paranoid for that reason, but I havent been hurt by an attacker for more than 25 years now. Those guys will know, who is aware, because they are, too. So put a soft smile on your face and move like a very chill cat, looking left, right and checking the sky, every now and then. Also, at night, I always check for my own shadow on the ground, in case a light source pops up behind me.
avoid places where there is drink ,drugs and women- this will eliminate 90% change of any violent attack. A confident attitude will eliminate another 3% and knowing your terrain will eliminate another 3% and and respectful attitude will eliminate 3% so that leave 1% chance of violent attacks BUT its that 1% chance which we have to train for as it will come from most unexpected place and most unexpected time,Keep a sharp mind and strong well trained body with a healthy nervous system which can react quickly in such situations is our best advantage.even then there is no
guarantee in violent attacks which way it will go. Great Channel
There's so much that can be said about this but I recommend taking a self defense class..Always be ready to use anything for a weapon if needed.
Had a dude in a bar kept wanting to fight me. Me and his buddies kept telling him that I wasn't who he thought I was. Well he came up the last time and decided to pull a knife. Well I stood and drew mine when his buddies grabbed him, took his knife then apologized and took him home.
I've worked security and been a bouncer in many bars (mainly Austin) and idiots always want to test security. My line that I always threw out there was...
'You're drunk and I'm sober, who do you think is going to win this fight'
9/10 times they usually backed off.
@@DyingInPlainSightAustin is great I used to live there. They do love to fight on 6th street. lol
@@christophercox936 Even now more than ever. I left 20 years ago but Austin is where I grew up and I have lots of great memories from there and I'll always be a Texan.
Edit : I worked at Buffalo Billiards, The Library, The Ritz, Stubs and also did a lot of private parties and after parties.
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@@christophercox936 Put them in a soccer match in the UK, Russia, Turkey, Poland or even the Netherlands. You have true hard men there especially Millwall FC in London UK!
Great idea! I always carry a big sturdy pen in my pocket. If you get into a fight this can be very useful as a short distance weapon. An umbrella is also a good thing to carry with you. If you get into trouble keep distance to the attacker as good as you can. This is essential. In that situation distance is your best life ensurance.
I’ve just subscribed- this was fantastic content. I did martial arts when I was younger (I’m 60 now) and the main benefit for me was in terms of managing fear and staying calm.
Everything you said is basically common sense, only problem is lots of people don't have it! Great video!!
I'm 68 now, and I have an old hickory sledge hammer handle. It used to be straight, but like me, has a warp to it that makes a perfect Bo-ken. I carved it into a reasonable shape of said Bo-ken, with a tapered edge, etc, and added a round leather bob the size of a tennis ball as a hand grip for walking, as well as to keep the thing from slipping out of my hand when I practice two basic strikes - every day: An overhead smash downward to the shoulder/collar bone, and a lateral strike to side of the head. The leather ball allows me to extend the range in a frontal cross at high speed. But a rubber cane tip makes it a walking cane.
It is devastatingly powerful and although it is a cane, it does project a sense of threat to the methheads and punks that seem to hang out around the local Safeway grocery store. More than once I have caused them to break eye contact as I exited with my cart, and cane, secured by a wrist strap, hanging at hand. Normal people don't even glance at it, but bad guys seem to recognize a sword when they see one - even one made of wood.
Good one that's what I carry (sledge handle) and no one looks at it twice. Can't think of anywhere you can't take it. Also think about working on some shin bone strikes if you've ever walked into anything like that you'll know what I mean.
@@dougpope3045 lower back injuries prevent me from going low. gotta work within the parameters i can handle. I strike from a high guard position like a samurai with one hand on the ball pommel and the other about ten inches up the shaft. The cane is just aft of my right ear. The cantilever effect of pushing forward and down with the right hand while anchoring the left at the pommel takes all the weight off me and onto the swing. There is no wasted movement or energy because there is no wind-up. Amazing what it will do to a watermellon. Got a ham bone from the meat counter and it smashed right through it. Very impressive.
@@Lollygagger-k4phow does the lateral strike go?
@@cioran1754 From the same position, but with a slight tilt to the right at the waist. I can strike the head or side of body with no pre-load (wind up). When you're old or very sore in th eback, any wind-up gives th ebad guiy time to react - and - it hurts to pre-load, then suddemnly change the directio of te energy and convert it to th estrike. Better to hold the Bo-ken properly for the cantilever method. The power is from the shoulders/forearm. All you have to do is push with the upper hold and pull with the pommel. It is the same principle as lever and fulcrum. The pommel grip is the lever. The fulcrum is the upper hold. The impact power is from th eshape of the cane: Shaved and shaped like a katana, but far more blunt, having a similar curve. The "cutting edge" is about 1/4" wide and flat but sanded for a smooth eradius all along the length. The back side is full round for strength. The handle end is deeply carved for good grip for a man past his prime. There is a wrist strap for when I need both hands to bag groceries, etc. The pommel is layered leather, glued, then carved like a door knob.
Awesome! As a 62 year old I wonder if I might carry a 'walking stick' at some point and this has given me some good pointers. I particularly like the idea of shaping it, as I hadn't thought of that before. I have trained with sticks and swords though and can appreciate your technique description. Thanks for posting.
I trained for a short period under you many years ago ! Some of the best self defense knowledge I've ever learnt, that and the sorest forearms.
Excellent Sifu
Regards & Respect
I DON'T HAVE ANY FIGHTING SKILLS, BUT I WILL DEFEND OTHERS! OR TRY TO AS I'M 70 YRS. OLD.
Regardless of age if you defend yourself you have a chance, if you don't you have no chance. Never learn any martial art that is not pressure tested with reality attacks, I recommend Goshinkwai Yawara if you live in South Wales the UK, nothing I've seen comes close. No disrespect meant to other styles. Good video.
Hi I. 79 granny but if I saw someone in trouble I would try to help
@@michaelbond4609 SORRY IF I OFFENDED YOU!
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Some great points here, especially the reminder that violence doesn't follow a script. The most serious adult fight I ever had happened in the middle of the day walking down a street in a nice college town.
I'm just a quiet old man, trained in martial arts and served in the military, I still haven't lost my fighting skills. Seldom do I have to fight to defend myself or stand up for others, but if I have to, it will either end very quickly or someone will drag the troublemaker away when they realised I'm not afraid even though I may seemed outnumbered.
Once, someone tried to stab a vendor with a broken bottle for refusing to sell him beer b'cos he was too drunk and rowdy, I stepped in and sent him flying 10 feet back with a kick without hurting him, he didn't realise he was kicked until he saw the footprint on his crouch. His 2 friends came over and pulled him away, then brought back more guys to "talk" to me. After I'd explained what happened, they turned on the troublemaker and slapped him silly, telling him that he could have ended up badly if I really wanted to hurt him.
Good vid. I grew up in a rough area and went to university. While there, I met so many people that don't understand the world and really REALLY would do well watching this video.
It's funny because now that I'm in my late 50's , it's almost a relief that I'm too old to be expected to "fight fair". I'm actually in great shape , still strong , but my balance isn't as good, reaction time slower , and I can't run fast . So I'm going to use tactics and weapons that give me every advantage I can get . I grew up in the Midwest , U.S. and we fought all time but it WAS a fair fight . Skin on skin, shake hands after and it's done. Then we moved to the west coast and into a gang populated area and all that was gone . It wasn't fights, it was attacks and attempts to maim or murder.
Similar background. Fought a lot as a kid and young man, but back then it WAS a fight, not attempted murder. These days I'm too old and slow to rock with a 20 year old punk and his 5 best friends.... I carry weapons.
@@mikelang6764 Hell, half the time you became friends after the fight .
Once a certain age is reached, you have to have an "equalizer" of sorts regardless of how much you work out.
Never understood the whole "shake hands" white boy Hank Hill nonsense. Anybody swings at me for no reason they're dead or maimed. No "fair fight" horseshit. No "friends" afterwards either.
Lots of ego and bullying among white Midwest types. At least the dirtbag gang bangers don't play games.
The brain is the main element in any confrontation and experience including knowing when to walk away.
This video is spot on, and if anything will help people to avoid fights. Mostly because you don't know what you are getting in to, so don't get in to it.
VIOLENCE CAN OCCUR ANYWHERE BUT IT'S MUCH MORE LIKELY, TO TAKE PLACE IN SOME ENVIRONMENTS, THAN OTHERS.
These videos are outstanding. My scars and broken bones are my reminders of why my situational awareness and ability to judge dangerous people is apparent. What I find these days, in my 60s, is that there are more dangerous people ..... and far far fewer with the ability to see them and deal with them if need be. Dangerous people will only be stopped by dangerous people. For most, dangerous people should be avoided like the plague. I am paying for my life in dangerous places doing dangerous things while pushing myself to constantly test my abilities .... in jungles, deserts, rings and on the streets. Now, in my late 60s, I wish more men to watch these videos and take heed. Subscribed, bell rung, commented, upvoted, liked, shared .... may the algorithm gods smile favorably upon your channel friend. I share these with my Grandsons.
This is a great video.
Ive seen a lot of people that clearly have little to no experience in street fighting have the mentality that they'd somehow be the top dog in a random fight with someone they e mever seen before. Trying to explain these things to them has often been fruitless because much of the time they have this superhero complex like theyre going to suddenly transform into this badass that they simply are not.
No one is bullet proof and there are no winners in a knife fight. It's best to just avoid conflict where possible and to act like your life is on the line when conflict is unavoidable.
Anyway, these days I carry an equalizer. Not because I look forward to the day I get to use it, like the mindset of so many seems to be (still that superhero complex, check any CCW forum), but because I know that when that day comes I will have it to use.
This could possibly be the best 'Self Defense' video I have seen. No silly unworkable techniques, just be aware of your soundings and peoples possible intentions.
5:00 One of the few things you've ever said that I disagree with. So to protect yourself, you'll put other bystanders in harm's way?
This man is highly Intelligent and doing us a favor with this tutorial!
Thanks guy!
A long time ago when I started doing Jujitsu they said something similar. Violence is the last resort. Try to get away or calm them down first. Assume they could have a weapon. Be on the lookout for their friends who may be circling around you so you can't see them. And so on. It's not just about fighting but surviving a dangerous encounter. Know what objects you can use or cover yourself with.
The grappling itself was fun but we also learned about knife or bat attacks and so on. You try to survive but you're probably gonna get stabbed or hit at least once with that bat.
The video makes a Lot of sense.
I was raised to always to be on the lookout for violence, and to avoid situations where it was likely. I was also taught that if violence was unavoidable, to be prepared to do whatever was necessary to make it back home.
Very great advice! Hey I’ve had more confrontations than I would prefer. And I learned this young; always assume they fight dirty. Better to be ready
Spot on information. Thank you. My mother taught me to fight fair and to stand up for the innocent. Found out she was dead wrong in my second fight, which was a continuation of my first. I did the right thing, protected my blaq friend from two bullies. But in the second fight I let him hit first. He didn’t knock me out but it made me look bad. My brothers taught me to do whatever it takes to survive, and be extreme when doing so. Hitting hard, fast and with much violence can act as a deterrent to other potential actors and can deter future attacks.
I am a small guy. Never underestimate the weight difference. I can outrun most people, even at 64 years of age. My nightmare scenario would be to be with my family when something bad happens. A big out of shape guy has an enormous advantage if he’s got 100 pounds on you. Sure, hard, vital strikes can work, but…physics.
Guess that's why you need a self defence tool to equate the situation.
There is a reason why boxers are fighting with same weight boxers. The weight is behind the punch.
@@fightscience I am retiring shortly. That’s on my list. I am in pretty good shape. Now, just learn tactics and technique from some pros.
Something moving at 1200 feet per second works very well.
@@jamescook7713 Yes. I’ve got a few of the throwers. I joke with people about that.
Very good advice!
Biggest mistake, is thinking you are still in your 20's when you are not.
So true. I’m old 68, most old people don’t realize how much strength and coordination they have lost. Their delusional ego takes over , you can see it here in the comments
@@Zoet50 Glad you're still sharp, gramps! Yeah, some of these comments are really detached.
I always carry a firearm, small knife, and pepper spray in a kit.
yeah america is so much safer because everyone has a firearm
@@orangewarm1 Google how many guns saved a life, and ask yourself would a gun have saved all those people in Europe stabbed by illegal aliens maybe.
@@orangewarm1
Actually, it is. What you have fallen for, hook line and sinker, is what the propagandists WANT you to believe. Most "gun violence" is between gang bangers, followed by suicides. 1 or 2 percent is by responsible gun owners. So there; you're welcome.
Fortunately and unfortunately, my country (Australia) doesn’t allow such tools even for self defence. Yes, including pepper sprays.
The fortunate side is that enemies will be much less likely to have a gun.
In Australia, we have to justify even a small swiss army knife....unless out camping
Absolutely phenomenal breakdown.. Always on guard and underestimate noone !!
IMHO, you are speaking truth here. I was trained as a psychologist and was told, and believed, I had a gift for defusing situations having done this many, many times in family and office settings. That was until I was hired to be acting Chief Psychologist for a district court. I met people who had no "fuse to defuse" but were metaphorically covered with "blasting caps" that exploded on contact or near proximity. There was no talking to be done. My three years there were world view changing. I became much more alert to potential dangers and how to avoid these situations. Thank you for articulating your knowledge and wisdom to others.
Spot on advise. Be aware of your surroundings. Scan. Think. Never let your guard down. If you stay alert you are 99% safe. And carry your legal firearm everywere.
Assume the worst is possible, only you have your best interest at heart, every situation can be life threatening, be ready to defend yourself at all costs
Excellent advice for general public. I would add to avoid confrontation if possible and to find a way out of a fight not to engage. For all the reasons you state of never knowing the mindset of who your dealing with. From 25 years of enforcing the law.
Learn how to de-escalate and know when to make a tactical withdrawal. This has saved me so many times.
Great style of presentation. Nice and quick and edited well.
Well done. Good info. Appreciate your channel.
So true! Another great video thanks.
I always enjoy your information and delivery. Another excellent vid3o.
My friend was at a college party. Two drunk guys started fighting. My friend tried to break up the fight when one of the guys hit him over the head with a bottle killing him!
Excellent wisdom and sage like information from a man who knows exactly what he is speaking about, Thankyou Mark 🙏🏻
Great video, thanks 👍👍👍
Excellent video Sifu Mark, these are true and wise words... Stay bless Sifu Bryan
I like the saying in the terminator tv show . : it’s never safe:
Come with me if you want to live...
Once again, excellent video and advice that everyone should heed and share!
Much appreciated!
Avoid it until you can't, and when you can't...go all in right away. There are no "gentleman's rules" if the other guy keeps wanting to go when you do not.
Thank you so much for all your advice, really appreciate..thank you so much.
A street fight is a fight to the death until it isn't.
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Hmmm,... I've only recently discovered your channel. ...
But, I'm quickly becoming a fan!...
The stuff you cover in your videos, are all things that have taken me a lifetime (of pain) to learn. ..
@ 2:05... It reminds me of that scene in 'Blood Sport', when that one guy says, "Very good. ... But, bricks DON'T hit back."
@ 5:17 It brings back childhood memories of those"classic" Jackie Chan movies where he uses an old-school landline telephone to hit a guy upside the head. Or, uses a curtain to tie up his attacker's wrist to thwart said attack. Or, uses a ladder as a shield to keep from getting hit. Or, uses a girl as a human shield. ... Or, or, or...! 😋
Knowledge is power! 👊
As a martial artist since 1965 and a doorman and security officer with a few battles under my belt I completely endorse this video, well done
“Never underestimate the difficulty of changing false beliefs by facts.”- Henry Rosovsky
thanks for that. useful.
IT IS A JANGLE OUT THERE WITH ANIMALS OR ACT ALIKE ANIMALS READY FOR SITUATIONS. BE PREPARED.IT IS NEVER SAFE. I WENT TO A SUPERMARKET, PAID FOR EVERYTHING INCLUDING A BAG OF ICE.THEN GRABBED A BAG OF ICE OUTSIDE IN A ICE BIN $3.00 (PAID IN ADVANCE) AND A SECURITY GUY TROUBLE MAKER TRIED EVERYTHING TO GET ME INTIMIDATED. HALF OF BOCK AWAY HE CAME AND SAID I DID NOT PAID FOR THE ICE WICH I DID. FOR SOME REASON HE STARTED CALLING MANAGERS TO COME OUT AND COME OUT WITH LIES SAYING THAT I GRABBED 2 BAGS, WICH I DID NOT. THEN HE SAID I GRABBED THE BIG ONES INSTEAD OF THE SMALL ONE, AGAIN LYING. AFTER ALL PROVED THAT I WAS RIGHT HE GOT FURIOUS AND WANTED TO DO SOMETHING I COULD FEEL IT. THE MANAGER CALLED HIM AWAY AND I FELT PEOPLE AROUND MAY THINK I WAS STEALING SO I HAD TO SAY WHAT HE DID AND WHAT HE IS. A LIAR! HE TRIES TO INTIMIDATE ME WITH LOOKS AND FACES LIKE A CRAZY ANIMAL. EVIL, PURE EVIL. I WAS READY FOR HIS AGGRESSION. ALWAYS. I NEVER LEAVE MY HOUSE WITHOUT PROTECTION AND WILL NEVER LET ANYBODY LAY HANDS ON ME.
what are facts?Most things CALLED facts, are themselves only beliefs, only better supported.
I have been aching your videos, and you know your stuff I like the way you instruct.
Was totally onboard with the advice and analogies you were giving, fell on its posterior when you start using bystanders as a human shields though, that is a mark of a coward good sir!
Great advice. An interesting and worthy approach to one's mindset and awareness requirements. Great job.
Most times in a street fight. The loser goes to hospital and the winner goes to gaol!
Excellent video my friend and one I'm sure many of us can relate to as sad as that may be. No nonsense no bull just totaly realistic.
The last guy that stepped in and saved a life. He went to prison.
Very good advice. I agree with everything you have said, this is after 35 years in Law Enforcement. It is also why I am always armed and willing to end the fight in the beginning. I’m not into fighting. I’m into finishing.