Today is Sergei's 18th birthday. Also his first day homeless!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 ก.ค. 2010
- This one wrecked me. I was crossing a street in Salt Lake City and saw Sergei. I asked him if he would like some socks. He responded "I don't have any money", which was the first sign Sergei was new to the streets. I just didn't know how new.
Today is Sergei's 18th birthday. Today is also his first night homeless.
Many of you have asked for more details. I am sorry but I became emotional and didn't get much information. Too me, just the look on his face was enough to feel his pain and get some understanding.
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“Why don’t my kids ever visit me?”
Well i wonder why 😱
🤔
That’s what I thought too. Karma is going to get to her when she’s in a retirement home old and dying on her deathbed alone.
DID U ASK THEM?
I saw the best bumper sticker once: "Be good to your children, they get to pick your retirement home."
If I had children, never would I put them in this situation, unless they were stealing from me or physically hurting me. Being homeless is dangerous, and he will never forget how she subjected him to that danger.
I swear, some people shouldn't be allowed to have kids
All kids deserve parents, not all parents deserve kids.
bruh when people grow in a certain age its time for them to make their own life
but yeah getting kicked at 18 odd because they don't know shit about how to make a living
If the alternative is that he becomes the type that lives with mom until he is 40 then this might be a better solution. I swear, everyone thinks they know whats best for everyone else.
@@generaltech512 it's the kids 18th birthday and he's on the streets
He looks so worried, confused and sad in this video. It’s absolutely heartbreaking.
Mostly sad
it must be that white privilege I've been hearing about. I bet he's heterosexual as well.
@@WoedendeWidukind What?
@@WoedendeWidukindagreed it’s a load of bullshit
@@WoedendeWidukind huh
i googled him. damn, dude walked all the way to california, finished school, and doing good now. nice ending.
The poor thing walked??? I hope he was able to at least hitchhike somewhere in the sierra mountains. If that’s what route he took. I am also a California native now living in Idaho and I cannot imagine walking even here in Idaho all the way to California but I’ve had dreams or at least nightmares that I ended up having to walk with my kids in tow all the way to California because the world was ending. Lol. Anyways, this guy here is my husband’s age.
What's his page name please I loved him
what's his name?
@@user-ti7dw4ri6t
sergethesplurge
private account, but you could probably get accepted if you request to follow
@@lalatterbangg
Sergei Petrove
What’s ironic is that some parents kick their children out at 18 but when they come crawling back to their children asking for support or money they will probably say “oh but I raised you!” Or “how can you do this to your own mother????”.
Lol
I would be like “How could you do that to your own child? Or was I just born to fill the world in?”
You ok that sounds really specific
@@workingtitle7049 This is literally entitled parenting 101. It’s much more common than you’d think.
@@yourlocalramen1660 shit
If you kick your kid out to the streets when he turns 18, you’re not a mother.
so true like wtf is the point of having a kid then ? its not the kid fault if the mom wussy was scratchy and she needed a refill ,if you make a kid take care of him tf
@@8raindamag354 I have to hear her side before I can make any decision on the issue. Not fair unless we do.
@@bradobbink6564 I disagree , There is simply no reason for any parents to kick a kid out of the house what ever the age or the situation , even if the kid steals from them , take drugs , dosent work and most of all if the kid isnt going well , most likely as BAD relations , do you honestly think kicking him out with nowhere to go is the way to make this person have a successful live? ( plus ik you dont judge a book by its cover , but this kid really dosent seems like a bad person , even tought he admitted not finishing highschool wich may be the dumb cause of the parent kicking him out )
@@8raindamag354 you have never lived
around someone who would take your
live. with no remorse. At times its the only
safe thing for some parents can do.
@@bradobbink6564 well yes if the kids wants ur life maybe you can call for help or something I guess thats not the same case
It’s crazy how he is 30 now and living a normal life, truly the comeback of all time
Apparently that "Second Nature" program is an abusive cult disguised as some kind of therapy boot camp.
I saw rumors that he passed away though?
@traffly how is a man like that gon die at 30. Nonsense. Making it out of a situation like that is a real man!
@@RadishHead7Death can come at any age. Stop this haughtiness!
@@CordobaGeneral1234 But death has a hard time fighting real men! I've seen it many times.
He joined the Marines and turned his life around. He’s successful, married with children, and has his own home. He has a good relationship with his sisters. His mother died ten years ago penniless in prison.
I love when people get their deserved karma back later in life.
This is the comment I was searching for thank you! May I ask where you found the information, just curious cause I couldn't find much.
I love happy endings.
That's karma. Love to read this.
Proof my fella
No wonder why these "parents" are never visited by children in nursing homes
Bella Paige His mother’s turn is imminent. She’ll get hers.
I'm not surprised at all!
Goodim Glad especially private prisons, they make BANK off of them
So true! I was a RN....happens all the time!
Here's one for the books!
A lady down the road abused her children growing up....use to lock them outside ...not allowed in house until supper...plus a whole bunch of other stuff beatings etc.
Anyway....she finally died.....THERE WAS NO FUNERAL!! THE KIDS SAID THEY WERE NOT HAVING ONE AND THEY DIDN'T!
WHO GETS THE LAST WORD HERE!😳👍
They didn’t let him finish high school. They sent him 2 states away where he literally couldn’t finish high school.
Fucking bastards.
Lol both y’all didn’t watch the video, his dad is dead, there is no “they” in this situation
@@nukediamondx Shush don't ruin the moment
@@nukediamondx bruh you didn’t watch the video.. he said he hopes his dad is still alive which means he could be dead
@@drewwalnofer1711 he didn't say hope, he asked him what he would wish for, and he just said "that my father is still alive"
I remember the bs I was given as a kid. "Until you're 18 you'll do what I say" - mom "Get out of my house" - dad threw me out when I was 10. Not every parent deserves a child.
That's so sad..how did you make it?
What? How did you get kicked out when you were 10 y/o?
How did you survive? I'd imagine it'd be a lot harder today considering everything is more expensive
🧢
definitely not me
Due to my work I've been able to spend time living in Russia, France, the Netherlands, Canada and the United States. I've never seen any country where so many people are as ruthlessly cold to their kids as the US.
Exactly! You don't automatically turn into a knowledgable adult the day of your 18th birthday just because you legally become one. No parent who truly loves their child would do this to them
@@shucayb8068No parent would do that to their child unless the child had it coming. I would never do that to my kids, but then again, if they had pushed my buttons for years on end, maybe I'd think about it. I don't know. But unless it's the very last option, you don't do that. We don't have the back story here.
@@hugolafhugolaf💀
@@hugolafhugolafyou are one fucked up individual
Yes most cultures family units stick together. Americas family units have been molded to serve capital since its inception. You are taught you have to participate in the economy as soon as you turn 18 or even sooner.
If you abandon your child just because he's legally independent and don't care about his well-being, you just completely failed as a parent and as a human being.
i agree.. but i guarentee you he will be one of the best parents around cuz he wouldnt break a heart like his mom did his
100% and the kid doesn’t need to respect their parents anymore after they’ve kicked them out onto the streets with no support whatsoever
18 is the legal age considered adult
@@edvenuto9614 that's not the point
my mom kept me in the house, still does, am 23, I was not well-educated, didn't finish grade,8. But the reason why I stay in her house right now is poor housing and not really much of houses. I got a good paying job though. 2 weeks 1,250 I help my mom with stuff, food, bills, internet. I love my mom cause she didn't kick me out. I'll take care of her like she taken care of me.
And the worst parenting award is for....his mom.
You can't even consider them a mom after that
Jotaro Kujo Gaming fr
Honestly, we don’t know his mom’s side of the story. I think there’s 2 sides to everything. We don’t know many details about the situation.
My friend actually has the same problem, but she’s not even 18 yet. Her mom’s just like ‘once school is done you’re out of the house’ even though she’s still 17 and it makes her feel really stressed. It’s horrible how some parents are like this
The most underrated comment right there ☝🏻
the emotion on his face tells me that he doesn’t even consider it a malicious or unethical thing, but rather something that everyone goes through in their life. absolutely heartbreaking.
As someone who was placed in front of a childrenshome at 13, he is traumatized to the point of dissociation. His mind checked out to protect him from the pain.
@@danika9411yep
yeah this sucks badly, happened to me when I was 17.5 years old, I turned up at my mothers and she just told me never to come back, it was summer, so I just started walking back to a place I was in from foster care, people who used to be neighbours but had moved a mile away or so, saw me walking back past their place, caught up with me to ask what was going on, I just had to tell them, I stayed with them a couple of weeks and just went on my way one morning, you never want to be a burden to anyone, im 47 now, the loneliness is still with me, but I have a 1 bedroom house to rent and a job so im doing better than I was then.
never took drugs or smoked or alcohol and never been in trouble with the law, just born into a family that didnt want me, simples.
The fact that he wished his father was still alive makes you think he would never let this happen to his son. What a terrible mother.
sounds a bit like Cinderella
Istg man. Some parents just
@@MarcBienenfeld Sounds a bit like something that happens to thousands across the country
@@diaryofamadman6436 I mean I doubt he'd say he wishes he was alive if he was trash
@@diaryofamadman6436 bruh get off the cocaine. You sound so stupid.
It's not like you stop being a parent when your child turns 18, you still help them.
She obviously didn't love him or want him. She was just legally obligated to keep him alive until he was 18.
The “mother” is a disgusting human being
Uhhhh as a child i didnt expect my parents to do fully support me after 18??
@@michael8093 nobody said full support you dingus. kicking your kid out on their 18th birthday is a shitty thing to do, and if you disagree I feel sorry for you.
@@bobbysworlds definitely gave you emotional trauma judging by the comments. I feel sorry for you to tbh
People like his mother should be put in prison for abandoning their child. I was glad to see after a Google search that this was over a decade ago and he has been able to keep his life on track.
I got made homeless by my mother at 15 because I was naughty sometimes.
I know that's not the reason really though, it was because my mother wasn't responsible and shouldn't have had me and my siblings.
I was assaulted on the streets, got addicted, broke into people's garden sheds to sleep, etc.
Happy ending though, managed to land on my feet, get a job, quit the drugs, and now I live abroad and have a small business.
Hope this kid is doing well!
good for you.
His eyes look so sad, this is cruel. You never stop being a parent, many should think of it before reproducing for their ego.
@@zenithpals9758 he probably means: Why even raise a child if your gonna kick him/her out at 18 anyway?
@@zenithpals9758 Law doesn't equate to human decency
@@zenithpals9758 Why bother have kids if you only see them as a "burden"?
@@robertbabayan1910 Something many people seem to forget.
@@zenithpals9758 i think that kind of law only exist in western. In Asia,a lot of parents don't want or let you to live alone. There are a lot of adults who still live with their parents unless they are married.
I hate how parents and schools think that as soon as you turn 18, you automatically know how to pay taxes, bills, buy a house, etc.
@raindrop I think ur right
That's how Americans are. Soon as their kids turn 18 they want nothing to do with them anymore. Like fuck that, what happened to family?
@@karimcheese7257 not how my family is.
It's weird cos the parents never bother to teach u that shit but assumed they did a good enough job to kick u out of the house
@@weebrahim like right now, I'm 19 and got my first job at 18, while going to college (still is), and my mom is now teaching me about building credit and how to pay bills.
I don’t think most people in the commons realize how much worse the situation is then they think. This kid was basically in some kind of camp or boarding school in a state far away from where he actually used to live, California. once he turned 18 and whatever facility youth he was living in, kicked him out, they kicked him out in this state that he doesn’t even know anyone in. If he was at least in California that he might have a friends couch, he could crash on, but since he’s several states away, he has no resources. If he was at least back in California situation will be slightly less terrible that it is but the fact that you drop your kid off somewhere several states from their home just to wait until they turn 18 and are no longer your problem. That’s even worse.
My mother kicked me out at 17 and said I needed to learn to be a man. I was in total shock. My father was in prison and was a horrible abusive alcoholic. My three younger siblings are all alcoholics. I don't have a relationship with any of them though I wanted to. They don't seem to care about me at all. Im 47 and I am a full time portrait painter and doing great. Don't lose heart my friends, there is hope even when all seems lost. There is love and healing and joy and peace. Don't give up. It will come. Don't lose heart. There are people in the world that will love you.... just gotta meet the right people. God loves you. Jesus loves you.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Being a parent doesn't stop once your child turns 18. This is disgusting. When you become a parent, you're signing up for a lifetime, not 18 years.
Isaac Swift Scott bruh
No, I'm pretty sure most parents aren't signing up for a lifetime dependent. Most just wouldn't kick you out as early as 18. But, well, some would.
Isaac Swift Scott that’s fax tho, if I knew it was coming I would’ve gotten a job at 16 and save all my money till I become 18, then get an apartment and continue to work
Isaac Swift Scott This isn’t the 1920s, no one in modern society can succeed, on their own, as an 18 year old high school student. If it was possible there would be a lot more teens living on their own.
Parents can ditch their children at any time if they want to. Current Society just binds you till the child is 18 if you don't want to have any consequences regarding the ditching.
On the opposite society binds a child to its parents with no option out except if the parents are abusive or neglecting the child.
Parents and children are just people. They don't necessarily have to like or care about each other just because you (society) expect that from them.
There is nothing disgusting about it. It's just sad for the child because apparently the parents never told him what he had to expect.
At 18, you could still be in high school or just graduated high school. That’s a horrible mother. Unconditional love doesn’t apply here.
@Alisha Vindya well, she has other kids too. If it is so tough, why have more?
@Alisha Vindya so basically because you can’t deal with a problem you created it makes it ok to just throw them out?
@Alisha Vindya sorry but this kid hardly seems like a "hell raiser", I was one of those too but my parents never kicked me out - a shitty thing to do. this isnt about you anyway it's about him
@Alisha Vindya really? I find that hard to believe about you, you sound tough ass to me "ain't' isnt in the dictionary.
"Love" isnt real.
Надеюсь, что у тебя все хорошо, Сережа.
Судя по данным из интернета у него всё хорошо! Он добрался до Калифорнии, получил образование и сейчас живёт обычной жизнью!
My friend‘s boyfriend speng his 18th birthday at a summer camp. When he got home all his belongings were laying on the street in front of his parent‘s house. Many items had already been taken away. The boy was still a high school student with no income.
How can a mother do that to her own child?
That “woman” was NEVER a mother. Unbelievable.
You only hear one side and not the other. Who knows he may have been the one who fucked up and has to live with the consequences.
@@8BitGamer4life he was a child
@@Ou-fv1hy "legal"....
@@crimxon_falcon6922 agreed. poor kid. Hope he's doing well
@@Ou-fv1hy you sound like a child...
Every child deserves a parent , but not every parent deserves a child .
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I am 29 year old Indian and i still live my parents. I am going to be married soon and my wife will live us too. My parents will take care my child and me and my wife will do our jobs. I will take care of them forever. This system of kicking your child when he is 18 is out of my mind.
There's cultural reasons. We in the US have an obsession with home ownership and perceived independence.
Sergei is 31 now.. I hope his life changed for the better
It did actually he’s married with kids and he joined the marines
@@Injoeburrowwetrust awesome to hear.
The sad thing is that the mother probrably thinks this is "good parenting".
The worst type of Karen. Too entitled to leave her kids entitled. Worst thing is probably that his sisters aren't gonna get the same punishment.
yeah abandoning a child once they’ve reached a certain age... That’s honestly very shallow thinking, aren’t we supposed to care for our children’s wellbeing and support our children through everything? was it all truly to raise children then abandon them? Why instil that into your child as well... I remember a senior of mine from highschool had poor grades and barely graduated he stayed home for 5 years before finding what he wanted to pursue and a solid background such as an entrepreneur he started a small online business and even now has students working for him part time! sometimes it just takes time you don’t hatch an egg and toss the hatchling off the nest and force them to fly that just traumatizes them gives them trust issues and a sour personality maybe independence but they’ll lack dependance and social skills but that just means you didn’t do your best as a parent you sweetened them and ignored them and didn’t prepare them you just abandoned them. There are more humane ways and kinder ways to raise a child, cruelty isn’t always the answer you’ll just instil fear and hatred when we live in a world where we can be kind. There’s many simple ways to make a living just help them achieve them before you leave them empty handed they have no source of income no home and no where to eat they don’t have access to simple things they have no one they can ask help for no one to guide them we can provide for them so why abandon them. Why do we have to be so narrow minded.
even sadder that bitch can try to "teach" some stuff to young mothers as well
If he made it in life, she probably say that, the more sad thing is when he made it and become succsessfull in life she probably come to him and "trying" to fix what she done, what a joke parent i'd say
His fault stop hating bro
"Once your 18 you are on your own"
"WHAT YOUR NOT GONNA HELP YOUR ELDERLY MOTHER, I RAAAISED YOU"
Once you croak your on your own 😏
@@jakefromstatefarm7527 what?
I’m basically saying that he won’t be there for her cause she did the most horrific act.
This is exactly what people say when they kick they’re child out at 18, I’ve seen this before. Like how did you raise the child if the brain isn’t even developed until after 21 years of age, and you haven’t given the child the tools to be successful?
This somehow never happened, and it STILL pisses me off
you can see the sadness on his eyes. i hope he is living a better life now...
I always thought the kind of parents who say "You're kicked out the day you turn 18!" were joking. Some actually do that?! Disgusting. I hope she regrets it when he refuses to ever see her again.
I mean, it's one thing if they actually prepare the kid for it by telling them it's going to happen in advance, helping them get a part time job, letting them finish school, etc. Just locking them out of the house at 18 is a whole other level of crazy...
Imagine his mother in the future, she sees her son and says “why don’t you visit me son?”, imagine her son’s face
Imagine he becomes rich and his mother is like oh son do you remember me?
Jon Murtha I wanted to say that, but i chose the more likely to happen
It happened to me 2 yrs later she guilt trips me by saying u dont even want to see me now?
I don’t wanna imagine that.
This is the worst sentence I have ever read, literally nothing about it makes any sense. “Imagine her mother”? Who is “her”? Assuming you meant “his” (the kid in the video) and not “her”, why would his mother give a shit about him? She literally waited for him to turn 18 so she could abandon him.
So from what Google tells me, he is no longer homeless and is doing well, that's pretty cool!
I really hope so
I'd hope not, considering this was from 10 years ago.
@@exploring_unleashed 10 years!?😂 damnn
@@exploring_unleashed I mean he is 28 now so let's just hope hes well
Why are we gather here all of a suden 😂😂
Heartless, selfish and abusive to kick someone out of the house once they turn 18. This is truly heartbreaking. I realized this story is 13 years old but it is painful to listen to that young man. I wish him well always.
This isn't tough-love, it's abuse!
Yep
Update: Sergei is doing fine for himself 10 years on and graduated high school in 2012.
How do you know this?
Great for him
ayoo
@@hypnozpie4071 ayy
How do u know
He's 28 now, hope he's doing well
He is. Last time I saw this video somebody posted a link to his youtube channel.
sergethesplurge on Instagram
@@WilsonSilva90 how do you know that’s him
I wanna see him! :'(
Yeeeah
Dude i feel for this guy... having an uncaring parent sucks when you see friends get along so well with their families, sadly, you were raised by broken people, i hope he found peace and is living with loving and caring people.
My mom kicked me out at 17, but my dad wouldn't let her so when in turned 18 I got a job across state and waited for the next time for her to snap and just packed up my stuff and moved. Never had to be homeless because I saw it coming.
His parent in 30 years: Why doesn't sergei visit me? I'm too old to take care of myself. Sergei is so selfish!!
His father died. You don't even listening.
Correction: his parent
@@christianguzman4688 That's no parent
@@Zodroo_Tint OH NO!!! I ADDED AN EXTRA S!!! This must be a sign of the second coming of Christ, our lord and savior. Rapture is upon us!!! Hide yo kids! Hide yo wives! It's the end of the fucking world!!!
Not really. It's not that big a deal, but I guess you had to make it a big deal so you would have an excuse to be a condescending dickhead in TH-cam comments, right? It's ok.
@@christianguzman4688 You're right, it was just the one parent, but in your frantic rush to be a pedantic prick, you forgot to correct the plural first person pronouns, us, we, and ourselves. Nice try though. I've edited my comment to appease all the pedants who attempt to correct grammar without actually understanding how grammar works, such as yourself
This guy is 28 now. I hope he is successful now. God bless him.
He is. I saw another comment about it.
Joseph Stalin please post a link
@@winstonacousticstudio445 yup
29
Unlikely. Probably dead addicted or in jail.
I have three adult children. Two moved out when they were ready. They are often guests and we are their guests. One child is still with us. The young man looks so sad. I would like to hug him. His parents don't deserve a son.
I'm a father of 4. I have two kids who still want/need to live at home. One is 18 and one is 23. They are my kids. Why would I want them to disapper when they are 18. My job as a parent is to help my kids flouish until the day I die. WTF?
A child is for life! Not just for 18 years. Such awful parents.
Parent. His father had already died
@@silentj624 yea that makes sense
Definitely a back story there.
Ya but she has more kids to handle. He's 18 and the mom is legally allowed to not take care of him. But I wish she at least she helped him get a job and a motel for a few weeks.
Dads dead, moms got her hands full
Awful his eyes he was so hurt and scared.
No, they're high as a kite...
@@donwest9014 You're a horrible person, I hope you suffer
He might be high... and hurt and suffering. Don't be so quick to lash out.
don west fuck you.
Do you watch the news ?
How many young people are slaughtering their parents.
Then batting their eyes like lost little lambs.
Drugs are weapons.
This reminds me just how lucky I really. My parents let me stay home until I joined the Navy at 21 years old. Then when my wife left me and I had nowhere to go they took me back in for another 2 years until I was ready to be on my own again.
I’m praying this young man has a good and productive day. I’m praying he receives blessings in all areas of his life 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️
You can see the sadness in his eyes. This is heartbreaking. YOU DON’T STOP BEING A PARENT WHEN YOUR CHILDREN TURN 18
His parents are really cruel
Being a parent... one of the key things parents should be doing is ensuring their children have or learn the skills to be independent self sufficient members of society.
Ten years ago this kid was asked about three wishes... really? Wishes?
... and he didn’t even consider wishing he had stayed in school instead of dropping out.
Not saying it to be funny but for whatever reason a whole generation of young people, not all but many, were raised without any sense of reality or reason.
Study, graduate, work, save. Those who study hard and graduate are better prepared than those who don’t.
Those with a work ethic for success do not play hooky from work, or skip & bounce around jumping between employers .. Employers want employees who are dependable, and productive. Not folks who are headaches or self entitled as new hires.
Some people who have adult children need to sometimes cut their losses when said offspring is irredeemable, incorrigible, lazy, and gravitates to repeating bad decisions and life choices.
I hope this young man was able to change for the better. I hope he learned that “wishes” are for children’s stories not real life.
- EDIT to add - A day after this post was originally made. At this time 18 agreed with me. As for those who currently concur with me read on as the trend of those who disagree as this discussion unfolds is disturbing. Many believe I am a heartless jerk. I made a post about a day after this one and addressed issues which seem to indicate many disagree with me with really understanding other issues.
I encourage those who do stumble across this post and agree right now to read on to see what is further revealed by myself and those who disagree with my perspective. Concur or not I am curious as to the perspective of others who do agree with mine.
Edit 2 - the number of thumbs up has climbed to 26 in just a few hours.
Edit 3 - two days after the first time I posted this and the number of thumbs up now up to 47. Odd one actually suggested I had more than 20 accounts to boost my ratings. Ridiculous to think I would have 47 accounts. Those new to this discussion... please read through until you find my update below where I mention - 47 thumbs up -
@@ozyankee4403 youre harsh
@@ozyankee4403 is it just me or are you blaming the kid for getting stranded by his mom before finishing highschool? Fuck me I can't believe you're a parent with this mindset you got I feel sorry for your kids if you even have any
@@big_nhssy7701 i think his father died and his mother might be a step mother, so i guess thats it, its just an asshole mother
The dude just got out of highschool how tf do you expect him to immediately support himself on his own?
Your pfp matches
@@thewargod129 yeah but your prolly not pulling in enough money to afford a place to live and consistently pay the bills and have money for food and pay for gas that is assuming any place you find even lets you in considering that most apartments require you to make 3 times the rent
@@thewargod129 Tf is your point if you are not living alone
Nah he didn't even finish, he said he hopes to
@@thewargod129 Dude, do you even realize what that guy's situation is? He has no help. No money from anyone, he is all on his own.
Any parent that throws their kid away the day they turn 18 is not a parent, they are disgusting monsters. My son lived with me and his dad til he was 20 and figured out what he wanted to do with his life and we loved him and were happy to help him those additional 2 years. Do not have kids if you think it is 18 and then throw away!! Freakin sick...
I’m 18 and homeless also and it’s hard to even finish high school due to my situation I was living with my great grandmother and when she passed a family member who lived there took advantage and I got kicked out sadly. I hope he made it to California and graduated like he dreamed even though it’s so hard to while homeless and hopefully one day I’ll reach mine also
Jesus christ, do you have any really good friends whose parents could help you? Or maybe teacher? I’m gonna guess you’re in the US, I mean I just can’t believe how your relatives could be so cruel to you. As we say in my mother language “All comes back and gets payed”, the people who did you wrong will soon get their karma. Just hang in there and I hope and pray you will finish high school.
@@Pollicina_dbkarma is a lie
He joined the Marines, maybe you can do that too -- the Navy, one of the branches....
you can take advantage of tons of veterans benefits, the GI bill, and a lot of free college opportunities after that.... and it's free room and board while you're there, you can at least escape homelessness.... save your money, buy a car when you get out, then you'll always have shelter..... save up at least $3,500--$5,000 and get a good one.... so you can rely on it, not some junker piece of shit $1,800 car.... save up.... you will make enough money to be able to. And go for a job there in the Navy or Air Force, wherever, Army, Marines, which trains you in a job you can do when you leave.... (like electrician, plumber, hvac, machinist, any trade skill.... you can do it when you get out too, so you're not at square one again)
The most important thing is high school graduation / GED / HISET (another name for GED).... and then college (community college, then a nearby college within your state).... or a trade school.....
In order to get Fafsa (financial aid), you need tax information, so just have the guidance counsellor help you with that. Colleges and institutions are so professional, and helpful.... way more than free handout places who treat you like a number who is low priority.... any place you have to go for handouts is gonna treat you like you're not a priority.... colleges, they help you.... and you have tons of jobs available to you afterwards - get a business degree, and that will be true - not psychology, biology, ___ studies, art, art history.... watch "Hummus best college degrees" on TH-cam.... make sure you stay off drugs, and write things down, so you can focus and remember things.... do it a lot, do it at Starbucks....
If you want to get a basic job, do it on Indeed, that's where everyone gets jobs.... find places that are hiring, nearby Amazon jobs, etc.... but a good way out is the military, then take it from there.... I'm sure they can help with GED as well, if not, then find a place that does it....
In the meantime, find the local homeless resources - places that help with resources, food stamps, job placement.... get enough money to buy a walmart phone.... look up "donate blood plasma near me", and try to get to one of those places.... of course Salvation Army is another good option, but also look up "free camp sites near me".... that is another possibility, a lot of RV parks.... if you can get a backpack, a few change of clothes, some toiletries, a cheap phone, and a bike, you are set for a while.... hopefully busses are free where you are, but otherwise, a bus pass helps....
Being homeless is not easy.... you need gear : a sleeping bag, or a tent, or umbrella.... sunglasses, hat.... water bottles, sources to get water, bathrooms that are open at night.... a place to shave, a place to shower..... It is way harder than people even think.... And it's not easy to get out of.... that's why if you're 18, join the f*&*** damn military, and then get into a community college - stay at a group home, try Couchsurfing.app....
look on CoolWorks.com.... look up "hummus work remote jobs" on TH-cam.... just write it all down, and try things....
Best way out is to get a trade, a degree, or a certificate in something -- look up "easiest certificate to get" -- just really try to research it.... And you can succeed. Join the military !
I wish you good luck
His first wish was " Umm, that my father is still alive." How heart-broken he is.
Had my eyes tearing up
I just noticed how he said father not mother
Kinda scary the mother is probably abusive to the father that’s why he is worried if his dad is still alive or not
@@greatninja2590 damn bruh don’t jump to conclusions. His dad probably wasn’t abused and died of natural causes or a disease
Can see it on his face, this poor young man.
She basically expected that he'll just know everything of being on his own once 18 that's just being garbage at someone who's she is supposed to be caring of.
Put your self in His shoes then Rephrase your Comment which is TOO KIND.
@@bencuraza6503 true 😢
Nope you’re being too kind. She most likely never cared for him, and wanted to get rid of him as soon as she legally could. No one expects a kid at 18 to navigate the world and be successful.
she probably doesnt care if he knows how to live with his own. She said 18 because law maybe force that to take care her children until 18. If mother kick when he just turned i wouldnt even imagine how bad their relationship or her.
I don't think that's the case, I think she didn't care if he knew anything about being on his own or not. I think it makes more sense that she kicked him out as soon as her legal obligation to him was finished.
My mother did the exact same thing on my 18th birthday. I feel so sad and angry again hearing him talk about it. It was the worst day of my life but it was also the best gift my mother could've made me. I'm 24 now and I'm living a happy life. No parents should ever abandon their kids and kick them out. Some parents don't deserve their kids. I hope he is living his best life now and is surrounded by friends and family who love and appreciate him.
If my parents did that, they would never hear from me again.
@@bfkgod And then they come crawling back to you when they're getting old and asking for your support. Pathetic!
@@bfkgod That’s me! Going on 4-5years haven’t spoke to my mom nor has she reached out
I wish all the best to this young man and hope he realizes his goals.
Hang in there young man.
Update, 10 years later: he isnt homeless anymore. He made it to California, and finished high school two years later.
(For those intressted, google Sergei Petrove)
I just checked, it's true. I'm waiting for the thousand likes
KOΛLΛ_ NET21
Doubt I will, but just to satisfy everyones curiosity.
If CNN and MSN BC
If CNN and MSNBC talk about the homeless in California and other places as much as they do the Coronavirus then maybe we could take care of this problem you never hear Pelosi talking about her District California.
Here's a more recent photo of him looking RIPPED and healthy. :)
i.imgur.com/RpoWFmL.png
You can totally tell how broken-hearted he is; disappointed at life, somehow. Those eyes say it all.
Yeah it’s messed up how someone could do this to there son
And his voice, you can tell he’s just sad
Imagine the life he lives at home before 18? :/
Yeah
He somehow looks lost... :(
my oldest brother had issues growing up at ultimately led him to have to be seperate from the rest of the family at 18 because he was dangerous and already had a record of domestic abuse against myself and my siblings. The difference was that even through all that, my parents still paid for his apartment to live in and he is now 26 and our relationship is fully mended.
Bless his young man's life and everyone in the same situation❤ may you have a very good and blessed life❤
"Wished my father was still alive.." oh man. God bless him.
Amen i wish the same thing
God damn
I wish my father was alive to
Stefan King aw i’m sorry for your loss
@@stefanking303 I wish mine was too. I Sympathize
His mother doesn't disserve him. She shouldn't have kids, such a horrible parent.
*deserve
@@lostbrooke your not funny stfu
Uhh I was just correcting him even though I know it's a typo
Teehee:)
@@lostbrooke but there was literally no need to do that
@@lostbrooke your such a pick me girl or bou
Go Man!!! Live a good productive life. Stay strong. You are not alone!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎉
What a great video to be recommended to me on my 18th birthday
Parents who kick their kids out right at 18 are actually horrible people. There’s no rationalizing that draconian antique nonsense.
@@badcodehash4971 I would agree, but if you kick your kid out just cause they turn 18 that’s still bad.
Its not draconian ancient nonsense. As a matter of fact its something that started happening relatively recently in the past 80 years or so. People actually would have plots of land and homes that would house multiple generations. Ancient China was huge into this concept. There is no benefit im separating a family unit like certain groups of people have brainwashed the masses into believing.
@@MithDragon that still dines make it draconian(harsh) and nonsense, but You’re right about ancient.
@@MithDragon you are right, in fact, here in mexico it was common to see generations of family living together in a real big house. But some years ago american culture has been rooting here i started to see people with that mindset.
We don’t the mums side of the story. He could be lying or twisting the story
The distraught look on his face. Poor guy man, he looks like a good kid.
I know his expression said a lot. It hurts me to hear this, I'm a mom.
its cuz hes high
Hes 27 now
That's probably why his mom hates him.
Does anyone have any idea what happened to him if he got on ok etc
3 wishes:
1-My father is still alive
2-To see my sisters
3-To get back home
Wow! Notice how all three had zero to do with any material items and everything to do with family.
That’s priceless!
Damn this is the strength in people we need
TH-cam: here is a person who needs help, you just 10 years late.
Such a cruel joke from an algorithm
@@ruskyhusky69 A few weeks ago yt recommended me a happy story that ended with death.
@@wagnerthomas6780 link?
@@gian5162 Here: th-cam.com/video/2RHpIrm1muY/w-d-xo.html&ab_channel=Paws4Hope
Yes
When that guy finds a family, he should not let his mom see his kids.
Nothing like denying old people grandkids.
Or stick them in a shitty nursing home. I hope he never helps her when she is old.
YES
@@firebenderkitty313 YES
@@firebenderkitty313 fucking deserves it that heartless bitch
@@parker2516 Woah, there. Too much.
Kid must be in his early 30's by now, hope his doing well.
Bro God bless you for being so positive about your goals. Hope you have a much better life now
You can see the sadness in his eyes. It’s not even that sadness, it’s betrayal. I feel so bad for him. I wanna hug him :(
It's sad that he got to live on his own at the age of 18, even though he didn't finished high school and college.
@@luhtweakin2658 youre not funny
@@luhtweakin2658 lol wtf?
@@luhtweakin2658 bill, stop smoking, you can still change yourself
@@luhtweakin2658 I don't remember anyone caring
The fact that none of his wishes had nothing to do with material objects or even simply a car to drive/ live in really shows his morals and values are going to get him to a somewhat stable point in life someday. Prayers to him
Im 36yrs i still lived with my mom and sister helping each other this is heart breaking to hear
Mom to her son:"Once you turn 18 you're on your own"
30 years later
Guy to his mother: Once you turn 80 you're on your own
80 is too generous. The proper response should be "if I am, then so are you" I say that because you never know how long someone will live, so she could have passed away the very next day or live to be 100. You never know
Mom to HIS son?
@@tylerh8954 lol, he meant "her" but I would've made the same mistake tbh lmao
@@tylerh8954 Nowadays it's possible
Sergei had advanced notice to be prepared for his 18th birthday then, didn't he?
What's funny is my mother kicked me out when I was 17, I couldn't even go to a shelter because you had to be 18. I was sooo lucky to have a great friend that helped me. Later on when I had a great job my mother started contacting me, later it was because she needed crap. I'm happy to say a couple of months ago I kicked her out of my life for good and next Friday I'm going to be a dad so I'm blessed.
Yay
Good for you man
Bro good luck
Never talk to her again
Congratulations 👏 and stay blessed
This guy is such a beast. If I were in his situation I would be completely shattered.
My heart broke by seen this . I feel like hugging him and offering a place for him to stay . I am happy to know that he got over it and is now fine . I can imagine what he had to endure 😢
He is married and has children now
How do you know sir
Update pls
@@spiderman-mk3ww He has a snap
@@ohitsrusher842 what is it?
@@RoyalRoses You'll probably find it from looking through comments I forgot sorry
Wtf is wrong with people, I’m honestly surprised this isn’t a legal issue.
Exactly I hate get out when your 18 moms
Das sind wiedereinmal die amerikanischen Gesetze...
@@silvanproductions8478 What?
This guy is homeless too and he even seem younger than 16:
th-cam.com/video/lCl7I7png08/w-d-xo.html
@@isaachernandez4349 it's German, I think he/she said "It's the American laws again" or something like that
I hope Sergei lives a long and happy life.
A father is much needed blessing in a young man’s life
When I heard some western parents kick their kids after they turn 18 or should pay the rent , it was the biggest CULTURAL SHOCK for me.
It's Crazy but if you think about it children used to pay the rent long before 18, in any culture / civilisation ! In native tribes, children become Adults at 12 or 13 and start to Hunt or cook and do all the work adults normally do. And there is no rent in the Forest except paying respect to the elderly and to mother nature. In Europe kids used to be part of the work force from 12 or 14. Working on a farm, or as a domestic. Now things are very different. And we frown upon the parents who just don't '' play their role of parents '' for 20 years or more. Of course i find very harsh to put the kid out in the streets (or in the wild) for their birthday. What i find cruel is to cut ties in a brutal manner. This wouldn't happen in native tribes i guess. At least for the majority of the youth. (some teens are sent away to another tribe for bridal arrangements). Yes i feel sad and angry to hear this young man was roofless and homeless on his brithday, and away from his community without basic ressources for survival. Of course i don't think it's fair. Young natives from native tribes always had their bow and their skills if they were lost or travelling they could build à shelter and Hunt. But surviving in the wild without a tribe .... 😔
@@celinee.9562 you're some woman living in a fantasy world
@@InAnotherLife90 she said some truth thi
Most don't, though.
Happened to me. When I turned 18 the rule was I find a job, keep it and pay my mom 600$ (CAD) per month in rent or I have to leave. I had a job but got fired because I "wasnt a good fit". So my mom packed a suit case of my clothes and drove me to a women's shelter where i stayed for 2 months before getting on welfare and renting a room in a guys house
When he said it's his 18th birthday that was heartbreaking
Wow im 1 min early
Edit:i am sorry,i just wanted to tell domebody that i am early
@@blank3683 Wow, nice job, here is a medal: 🏅
hey mvperry i know someone who hates you it is very sad
Luckily he ain’t homeless no more
Did you also fall down this rabbit hole?
Happy birthday, Sergei!
Praying for this young man.🙏🏾✝️
It’s been 9 years... and TH-cam JUST now recommended me this
Not only you but like everyone on TH-cam😅
RockstarGaming32 Yeah it seems as though nobody has seen this video until now.
probably didnt care 9 years agp
@hi hungry i'm dad bingo
RockstarGaming32 Is it really a problem? Welcome to TH-cam, get used to it
I personally think kicking your kid out at 18 is one of the worst forms of abuse.
Hilarious
So naive
These replies disturb me
def not the worst. some abusive parents don't even LET their kids outside.
Bad parents in the replies
Happy Birthday Sergei!
Happy birthday to him. It's so sad for him... I hope he is in a better situation.
The sad part about this is that it’s not like he did anything wrong. It’s not like he’s pushing 40 and still living at his moms place
Then you realize this video was made 9 years ago and If he is alive he is now 27
@@ThatGuyLegend so what? He wasn't at the time
@@acowfrommars3565 yup and I found out he is doing just fine
Gr33k l3g3nd link?
@@ThatGuyLegend link
The pain and confusion in his eyes hurts my soul.
Couldn’t agree more
search him and change his life
I can’t believe he’s holding it all together! He’s very strong and hopefully he can realize that!
Jesus man, this broke me.
@@celestium77 the video is 10 years old...
I’ve been on the street since I was 16. It’s almost 30 years later and through hard work I now have two jobs and sleep in my car. Yeah not everything has a happy ending. Stay away from everyone and never let anybody “help you”.
Not getting help from anyone makes you more independent, but it also means you're forced to stick it out on your own. I'm sure somebody would give you a place to stay if you opened up to some friends.
@@lordpumpkinhead265
I don’t have any friends. I used to have friends and they all told me how much they did for me. At the end of thirty years of everyone helping me I realized I didn’t have shit and I spent all my time trying to pay back all the stuff people said I owed them. Nobody will help you they will only take advantage of you. The only reason people think friends are good is because they have no problem talking advantage of people.
My mom had me paying her rent the first week I turned 18. After a few months I moved out and found something 1/3 cheaper and more fun than living at home.
That look for pure sadness/guilt is killing me 😭
ilovehotdogs125790 I’ve been there before it sucks.
Severe depression and psychosis maybe
I had the same thing happen, i was a little older though. He will just fine it will make him into the man his dad wpuld want him to be. I wonder how he is now
@@instantgratificationm8190 me too
ilovehotdogs125790 when, timestamp please