Saruul Mio I love that she says that. Only TH-camr I’ve ever heard who’s not “afraid” to tell us to thumbs it down if we didn’t enjoy it (even though we always do!)
Ms M I’m referring to observing your feminine energy and power, per say, behind sexual influence. As in women being able to recognize their sexuality but understanding other ways they can significant
1. Get rid of people that you negatively compare yourself to on social media 2. Don’t speak bad about people or gossip. Also don’t roll your eyes. 3. Write cute notes to yourself to boost your confidence (be realistic and write thing that speak to you) 4. Wear jewelry (ie a necklace that drapes rather than one that cuts off your neckline) 5. Play around with some new hairstyles 6. Spend time with other women! (empowering positive women that won’t judge you or others) 7. Embrace your period! Use it as a time to release negative emotions and thought patterns.
@@theweirdkidatyoschool3892 but some people do so channels like this exist for them. No one said you had to be feline, although your right it’s okay if you don’t :)
What literally changed my life is setting my mindset to: Other women are NOT my competition. I stand WITH them, not against them. Love them, support them and always have their back. Even if they are not giving it in return. Give them time, set an example to follow. Love You
You are exactly what's missing from TH-cam these days. While most female content creators side with spilling the tea or indulging in drama or d love into unrealistic exaggerated characters, you're someone whom I and many other girls look up to because you're REAL. You're CHILL. You're everything I aspire to become (hopefully) someday. You're like a big sister I've never had. Thanks for that ❤️
I was very tomboyish when I was a child and hung out with more boys than girls because it was easier to relate and get along with boys but I realize that the older I get, the more I came to accept the girly side of me and how complex we are as a woman. I never thought I could love the color pink but I did in my early twenties. I used to think that makeup was high maintenance and only for a certain type of girl but now I adore it and try different kinds of makeup looks everyday. This is the same with dresses too and all other aspect of what being a woman is. Thanks for sharing your video, it really solidify the fact that it’s perfectly fine to be feminine no matter where you’re at in your life
same here! i hated wearing makeup in high school because i thought that was all fake and hated all of femenine super girly stuff, now i'm 24 and i love everything about pink, makeup, small dresses, lol yes!! we can all change
Another woman's beauty is NEVER the lack of yours! I used to be insecure and whenever I saw a beautiful woman I used to feel jealous because I compared myself to her. Now, whenever I see a beautiful woman even though I'm straight I no longer envy nor hate them but think to myself,''That lady is a beautiful woman.''
@@fAbby7x Well, firstly I thought about how different we were. My beauty would be appreciated in different parts of the world example Italy, Greece etc while her beauty would be appreciated in Northern European countries. Think about art, whenever you see art you do not envy the beauty that the creator has made, you simply think about how beautiful the art work is!
That’s exactly what I’m sayin instead of ignoring it.. acknowledge it.. and learn how to be happy and love others and embrace their Beauty instead of letting envy and jealousy.. get the best of you .
I just started going to college and there’s this girl that is very very jealous of me, but at the same time fakes being friendly with me, in short she is very toxic. I decided to , by all means, not be rude with her, and also to not talk about her behind her back with our other friends. Hearing Alexandra saying what she said about gossip just made me feel like 10 times better about my choice. Girls and people in general - always remember to kill everyone with kindness. It is truly the best weapon.
Indeed, kill them with kindness. Best option. Also, I used to think of a quote when I was in your situation (but in high school. I'm in college now and it hasn't happened): "Why are you so obsessed with me?" - Regina George. Which is true, if that girl is spending all her energy being passive aggressive to you, sounds like she should focus on other things...😂
Trouble is some narcs won't get the "kill with kindness" thing. They will take that as an invite to be more cruel. Nope sometimes a brutal psychological shove is what they need to realise you will not be accepting the behaviour.
I love how you said be around positive women, there are so many girls I hear who pride themselves in "only having guy friends," and saying they hate women, and I'm thinking that means you hate yourself....being a woman is amazing. Love this
some say that woman are meaner to each other then then men are to woman, they are more conniving especially emotionally and hold grudges longer, they dress up for each other, always in competition especially when it comes to men and the work place. they are more indirect then men and tend to gossip and obsess.
Alot of times women have been groomed to hate other women. So when you see a women say things like this she's probably haven't had the best experiences with other women. For example as much as I cannot stand men I prefer men as friends. Men will tell you what it is cut and dry and still be there for you. There isn't an invisible competition set in place between the two of you and you get a genuine friend who hanging with you because of who you are NOT how you look or what guy you can help them gain access too. Most women don't admit where the issue
@@xxgamergirlxx7917 That may be where you live but around the world I'm pretty sure there is quite an equal amount of men and women. And there are female dominated areas as well so to say we live in a male dominated society isn't the case. Plus you literally have no idea about what she/he meant by this comment. I assumed she meant all men were in higher ranking jobs but wanted to clarify and you and I have very different understandings of this comment.
@@lanitalopez1383 My mentee gets extra warm on her legs with pants, so she wears dresses. I feel unsafe in dresses, because I feel overexposed. Recently, my other mentee has encouraged me to wear dresses. I just wear them much longer.
I just love how all women in the comments section are happy and sharing their problems and empowering other women. This is the most positive comment section ever!
Aurum But you don’t even know who I am. And when people see me, yeah they do see all my fucking flaws because they point and whisper and act like I’m a creep that doesn’t deserve to live and they are right.
BevTv I wish I could lose weight so people would treat me better but I just can’t for some reason and I keep getting fatter and I hate myself and I don’t care to live any longer
If I could be half as brave, confident and amazing as her when I turn 23??? I'm still a teen but I'm so afraid of adult me not being what I expect her to be (not a mess)
I cried. Why? Because I've always been a big girl and I'm also taller than the average girl. I was always treated as the 'protector,' for smaller girls and boys often treated me like their, 'bro.' And I kid you not, I used to feel so pathetic because I too wanted to feel like a girly girl, you know? And I didn't know that we could activate your feminine energy. Thank you for answering my question, Alexandra. The universe truly does work in mysterious ways.
Oh my god yes! I hated being the bigger taller girl (5’6 for some reason my friends are always shorter than me) I hate how I was too treated like a protector for smaller girls (like sis how imma help you ?) and oftentimes felt unprotected and on my own. I would stand up for people and others would watch when I was verbally or physically attacked. It’s not fair but recently I decided that I’m putting myself first I will be my own cheerleader and everyone else is on their own. Put yourself first and don’t feel guilty !💕✨🥰
@@iguessitsokyungrichbaby2813 Omg hun, I completely understand because I'm 5ft 8 and a half. I'm so proud of you for putting yourself first and standing up for yourself!! 💕💕🥰 You go girl!
I can relate to this totally! I’m 5’6 so not incredibly tall but it seems that every other female around me is shorter than me. I’m also on the bigger side too and have an ample chest (which I dislike) so I don’t often feel small and girly even though I’m not really a tomboy as such. Sometimes I feel like I’m butch or manly and I hate it and I ask my mum if I look manly or butch. I don’t have a very high pitched voice either so that doesn’t help. I’m going to try and make a lot more effort to allow myself to be feminine and not be shy about it.
Cherry Chubbz girls i’m 180cm and i’ve always felt like that and i can tell you guys one thing: i switched schools and met a girl who’s the same height as me, she is now my best friend and we just get each other:) i also met my current boyfriend of 1,5 years who is 2 meters tall❤️ moral of the story: stay away from the toxic small people hahahah
In a world where conventionally masculine traits are valued and rewarded, I sometimes forget what a wonderful thing it is to be a woman. I've sometimes pretended to not like girly things simply because I don't want to be seen as silly or weak. "It's okay to be a girl" really needed to hear that
The sticky note thing works. My boyfriend stuck sticky notes saying sweet things everywhere. He put one on my mirror that says “ you look amazing “ and one in my fridge and lots of positive words everywhere and I feel so good and it reminds me to love myself.
"It's okay to be a girl." I need to hear that. 😭. I'm not really a girly one coz I'm afraid I might not look beautiful if I wear makeup or dresses or fitted pants or high heels or whatever. Let's go for women empowerment!
You’re already beautiful. You can wear and do whatever you want. Maybe you could look at images of women from the past - Bette Davis, Josephine Baker, Grace Jones, Madonna etc didn’t fit the beauty standards of their eras but they found their own style and made themselves into global icons. Today’s plastic surgery and mainstream Instagram makes us think that we all have to look the same, but that isn’t true at all.
@@djlivvy46 thank you so much for your wonderful words! Yup, I'm still in the process of discovering my style where I will be comfortable, confident, and feel beautiful 😊. Plastic surgery will just make people more insecure about themselves. ☹️
Wow I’ve actually never realised that I felt shame for trying to be feminine cuz of what I was taught to believe in my community! I love everything you said in this video! ❤️ Much love.
I feel shame in trying to access the feminine. Lots of shame and resentment. So I rest in "immature" masculine. I'm not happy being in my body in my skin. It's hard.
I realised it to and just kept them as friends but became closer to the 2 real ones and the rest of them don’t even bother with me you learn a lot after you stop caring about the toxic ones
Oak Fairy I’m in the same situation as u :( I would tell you to meet new people and ditch the toxics but the idea of doing it myself scares the hell outta me and it probably wouldn’t be easy for u either. Friends can be so difficult and complicated to have,, like why can’t people just be nice like is it that hard-
Yess I agree, I almost lost my man by listening to that perspective. This is all about self and how it naturally re-emerges what we already have inside
This! I haven't even finished the video, but I stopped to write this on my whiteboard and realized I need it too! Alexandra basically gave us multiple therapy sessions worth of insight here distilled down into a key issue. Not feeling safe is so common I think for a lot of people, but it never occurred to me to think about it in those terms.
TRALALITSA K I’m sorry you went through that, but I’m also proud that you realise that being feminine is an energy and a state of being. It doesn’t have to be breasts, hair and all the extra stuff. It’s strength and compassion. God bless, stranger.
@@jesse1001 Thats so true. I believe that too. Thank you! I used to look very beautiful before I was diagnosted with cancer... Now although I am in a bad condition, people , even nurces and doctors - are saying to me how nice I look and that I dont even look sick. Its because I always smile from inside out even if I am in pain ect... Its the energy...its how you feel.
@@tralalitsak6963 I'm so sorry to hear about your sickness! I am hoping and praying that you beat the disease and stay in remission forever!! Also, I am sure you are still very beautiful without your hair, because extrinsic beauty is really in your face (eyes, smile, etc.). Hair is just an added accessory... I've seen many beautiful supermodels with absolutely no hair...
6:10 it is ok to be a girl, it is ok to like pretty things, it is ok to like wearing dresses and feel feminine, and it is super amazing to be a woman. everything is so beautiful in every stage of life.
I’m so grateful for this video. It reminded me that feminine energy is not about weakness, but about intuition, nurturing, and creativity. Feeling empowered! 🌟💖
I’m in tears, I didn’t realize how much I’ve been neglecting my feminine energy and myself in general. Not just with my appearance but literally every topic you’ve mentioned in this video. I love my job so much but it does sucks that it’s not a job where it’s ideal to wear nice clothes and jewelry or even makeup due to the nature of my work, so my self esteem has been so low because I only get to look pretty on the weekends. I spend a lot of time with my hubby which is nice but not enough with my girls so I forget how to be a girl sometimes. I had a miscarriage last month and my reproductive health is just out of whack and has been depressing me. Social media, anxiety, feeling secure and safe I mean the list could go on but I just want to thank you for providing ways that can help me deal with some of my issues, I appreciate your videos and I’m glad I came across your channel years ago 💕
I'm too skinny. I'm flat chested. I have big eye bags. I have flat and big nose. I do not have symmetrical lips. My skin is pale. My body is weird. But I'm still happy.
Suga's grandpa dance Infired me so hard first of all ur name is everything 😂 Second, dark skin is gorgeous but you should love your skin, every part of YOU should come first for YOU! Doesn't mean you can't have preferences that aren't your own. But you need to love you before you love things of others 💜💜💜
It’s nice to have a beauty guru talk about taking care of more than just the makeup on her face. Being beautiful means working on who you are as a person and loving yourself mentally and physically. Not just conforming to the latest makeup trend. Thanks Alex❤️
Having her amazing hair *does* help a lot! Having little hair with masculine features makes me look and feel unfeminine. 😭 *BUT* trough not dyeing my roots, proper diet and sleep my hair has gotten much longer and a bit thicker over time! We can change things! 😍
She has a separate video about hair care, that somehow is also about soul care (because she's amazing). She mentioned volumizing hair powder, which totally works for fullness.
• maya • I want to but I use insta to chat with friends, I know everyone says, just get their number, but I have people I talk to outside of school that I’m not phone no. level with
I am 14 and in a not beautiful phase of my life. Anxiety and depression makes me really weak and not safe. You help me taking care of my body and feeling good. Thank you, it helps me a lot ❤️
I’m 24 but I look back on being 14 with great memories. However I also remember being so insecure with anxiety and constantly comparing myself to the ‘prettier girls’ and spent a lot of time worrying about what I looked like and if I was ‘cool’ enough. But I promise it gets better , my 14 year old self wouldn’t believe how good I feel now. You’re still growing and you have so much time to work on yourself so please never give up💓☺️
I’ve been really struggling with my body image lately (weight gain during quarantine), but your videos have really encouraged me! Thank you for your well thought out content! I love your videos
You should make a podcast! Listening to your positive energy at work would make me so much better! Edit: Holy shit I've never even had anyone like one of my comments before thanks guys 😅
grew up thinking i had to act and look like a guy to fit in.... so completely shut myself off from my feminine side.. now it makes me uncomfortable to even think about... but I am ready to embracae it and love being a woman... watching this video is a great first step :) Loved the jewellery idea! I have judged jewellery to separate myself from it too long... I will go out and get some tomorrow!! teheheh thank you :)
Honestly.. one day I remember when I had this kick of feminine energy and it was on my period. That day I was wearing a red dress put on red lipstick and had a red smoothie. I went outside and took a walk.. lemme tell u it was an experience.
@@brookealexandria9917 lol I wish I could relate I'm so insanely exhausted my whole period and the days leading up to it my hormones completely make me crash that said I do always get this burst about 2 weeks before it that feels amazing
Am I the only one not noticing differences when I'm on my period? I just feel my tummy uncomfy. Then again, I'm usually negative everyday, can't stop my mind from worrying about everything.
Yeez, I needed to hear that. "It's ok to feel girly and like pretty things and want to wear a dress". I've been seeing that from a cultural perspective we've been trying to portray more masculine qualities just to reclaim our space in environments that have been typically masculine (work for example), Also, you usually end up stepping up your tomboy game to appear as a "dude" to men whom you want to be friends with, as if being femenine means that you are presenting yourself only in a romantic way. World is still a wicked place.
Yes! "I am safe" - acknowledges your vulnerability. I can really relate to this underlying anxiety of feeling unsafe. Feeling unsafe and wanting to feel safe is something a lot of women feel without realizing it and this one simple tip - is so multi-faceted. Thanks so much.
I would really love a series about embracing femininity and the nuances. It can be intimidating to embrace the goddess that all women possess within and surprisingly not all people see the worth of embracing feminine energy or some women dwell in areas where their feminine energy can be seen as a weakness. Stunning content. Thank you, girl💕✨
I don’t think I’ve ever felt pumped up like I have when my best friend gives me motivational talks! She always makes self care sound fun and ecstatically talks about having a spa day in the future. I hope everyone in this comment finds friends like that, ya’ll deserve it!
It's weird but for the longest time I hid my femininity and acted really intimidating or aggressive. For a while I thought that maybe I wasnt meant to be feminine or that it was a sign of weakness but now I feel that it was feelings of shame and insecurity that caused me to stop being girly. That I would be judged or oogled at like in my youth, or that I would be seen as fake for trying to be more girly. I really want to try to embrace it, it just feels weird to after so many years of hiding. Thanks for the video 🙌🏻
Joanna Badillo So relatable! I associate being feminine with being vulnerable and I’ve always been mistreated when I was most vulnerable. So in my mind being feminine equals being mistreated. It’s a difficult pattern to break
You can be feminine and strong at the same time. It’s all about balance. In fact, we can be many things at the same time. As Chaka Khan sang, ‘I’m every woman, it’s all in me.’
Same, I was raised by a mom who hated women she taught me to hate and not trust or believe women I grew up more a boy with my 3 brothers, I'm learning at 31 to be feminine. I feel bad for liking it I feel likes it's not allowed.
we live in a society It’s similar for me. I don’t own makeup or pretty clothes because I feel almost ashamed of it. Don’t get me wrong, I like dressing up (even though I can’t) and I like looking at makeup in the store. I just can’t find it in myself to be okay to wear them. I always choose the least feminine clothes because I feel uncertain about myself. I did try to be a bit more feminine at school compared to my usual I-woke-up-like-this look though. I straightened my curls, put in some contact lenses, and put a bit of my mum’s mascara on. No one said anything, I mean I didn’t want the whole school to bow down to me but I wanted at least one person to recognise my efforts. It was very discouraging. Even today, I was looking back at school award evenings pictures and all the girls look pretty wearing nice clothes. When I looked at myself, I was wearing a shirt and jeans. I thought I looked quite ugly compared to them and it made me feel ashamed of myself. I wish I had more confidence in my feminine side.
@@jishoumushoku5094 it is very hard in this world to get confidence but you gotta fake it till you make it :) try smiling at yourself in the mirror even if you dont feel good about what you are seeing practice smiling all the time, maybe you will find adding a smile is all you truly need. Its hard not to be tough on ourselves just gotta work at good being nice to you & remind youself maybe some one did notice but they are even nervous themselves to say "wow you look nice today"
Please make a podcast. I was nearly in tears near the last part because I desperately need help with my feminine energy and self confidence and this really got to me! 😭 I don't think you realize how much of a difference you make in people's lives with these types of videos. I'm so glad you're here!
Video summary 1. Get rid of negativity 2. Have Empathy 3. Write your future self great notes 4. Where jewelry 5. Experiment with new hair and make up 6. Recharge your feminine energy and hang out with women 7. Embrace your period and take care of your self
have you ever thought of starting a podcast? your videos are so helpful I think it would be so great to just hear you talk while im working or driving etc. you're like a walking talking self help book except not boring or cliche, but genuinely life changing hahah!
Wow! I have no words. I’ve been sitting on my couch watching your videos while listening to Mad Men in the background and I truly love hearing what you’re saying about femininity. Before I begin I just wanted to give you some background information first. My sweet and loving mother passed away 5 months ago unexpectedly and I’ve been going through a lot. Been doing therapy, crying, laughing, sleeping, working out, journaling and much more. Things have gotten good and then bad and then good but overall I’ve been really transforming. I’ve been detoxing my life internally and externally. Some months ago I randomly had an impulse or more like a new wave of energy (that I do feel was my mother) that pushed me to start working on my outer appearance. I detoxed my room, and my closet. I set up my office to fit my personality and made sure it was simple and minimalistic. As well as invested time and energy in really researching healthy creams for my sensitive skin that best fit me & as well as make up. I was able to get rid of old creams and make up that no longer was of use or that are expired a million years ago. Lastly, but most importantly I’ve tried to surround myself more with positive quotes, photos, and self care talk. My whole life I’ve struggled with how I view myself. I can’t tell you how relieving and comforting it is to hear you speak about femininity in such a deeper level. Not just about taking care of yourself externally but also really focusing internally. It’s a journey and some days are better then others but your videos have really helped me feel like I’m I’ve always been on the right path of femininity. Thank you ❤️
I’m so very sorry you lost you mum, that sucks. I’m sure she’s happy wherever she is, that you are taking care of yourself. You are lovely, you’re loveable, you’re loved 🤗
I feel like I've tried to be a tomboy to fit in with my friends, and half of me is, but I've always been scared to show my feminine side for fear of thinking I was weird. Dealing with being a high school student isn't exactly easy sometimes. You have been a role model for me for almost a year now, and it's made me more comfortable showing my more feminine personality that I have had to compress. Thank you so much!
Now this is comforting. I spent hours looking up videos to feel better bout myself, but the ones before this were SO toxic. Like I kinda wanted to cry. Hearing stuff in your household and community (BLK) shaming you for trying to be comfortable with yourself along with figuring out the feminine energy messes you up.
More femininity videos! Please tie in with outfits and how to attract others around with feminine energy. Maybe even include how to go about it all. I've been so lazy lately and feel like the people around me (partner) doesnt find me as attractive as I once was - because I lost my femininity (imo). Loved this video and feel empowered to go take care of myself and put a slamming outfit on!
I was raised to be tough. Acting girly, was being ditsy, not working hard in the mud all the time, made me a priss. Its taken me a while to be able to relax and enjoy being a girl. I absolutely love your videos. I loved your podcast!!!
It's ok to be a woman who isn't super feminine. Be yourself, dress how you want to, have hobbies that you enjoy no matter how "masculine" they might be. But still, encourage your feminine energy through friendships, self-care, positivity and self love!!
alex pleeeeeease make a podcast! you’re a natural at it and so good! your voice is so soothing, relaxing, positive in a way, soft and it’s indescribable for me. the topics that you talk about are life changing, motivating, understandable, realistic, moving, etc. i’m sure a lot of people would love and appreciate it if you made one! please consider if it is possible! ❤️
You should do a podcast. Talking about life, stories and experience that have made you grown. Or maybe you could do an advise podcast where we can write to you to gove advise or an opinio😁
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“If u don’t enjoy, do a thumbs down”. She’s honest enough.
Saruul Mio I love that she says that. Only TH-camr I’ve ever heard who’s not “afraid” to tell us to thumbs it down if we didn’t enjoy it (even though we always do!)
thumbs up.
I love that confidence she's showing!
She gets paid for dislikes too
She genuinely wants to produce content that's helpful and also that her followers enjoy. If it's not that she wants to know
*I'm in love with how good she makes me feel about myself.*
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THIS is positive femininity not sexualization or “empowerment” by bringing others down, instead this is empowerment by self love and awareness
Sexualization? What are you talking about?
Ms M I’m referring to observing your feminine energy and power, per say, behind sexual influence. As in women being able to recognize their sexuality but understanding other ways they can significant
Agreed
@@jakemicklen9971 Yeah. Theres nothing wrong with embracing sexuality though. Men do it all the time.
Ms M well people have certain morals not everyone wants to share that part with everyone
1. Get rid of people that you negatively compare yourself to on social media
2. Don’t speak bad about people or gossip. Also don’t roll your eyes.
3. Write cute notes to yourself to boost your confidence (be realistic and write thing that speak to you)
4. Wear jewelry (ie a necklace that drapes rather than one that cuts off your neckline)
5. Play around with some new hairstyles
6. Spend time with other women! (empowering positive women that won’t judge you or others)
7. Embrace your period! Use it as a time to release negative emotions and thought patterns.
Thank you! :)
Thanks for the summary
Thanks babe !
Thanks a lottt
i’m your 1000 like :)
Her advice to so much better than other platforms. Hearing just “you’re beautiful” gets old, this is the actual “big sister” tips I need
Exactly!
Yeah ikrrrrrr
I actually want her to be my big sister 😭 she's so cool
You know it's okay if don't like being girly you don't have to force yourself to become someone you are not
@@theweirdkidatyoschool3892 but some people do so channels like this exist for them. No one said you had to be feline, although your right it’s okay if you don’t :)
she really needs to start a podcast! it would be so amazing omggg
Lindsey Brady omg that is the truest shit I have everrrrrrrr heard omg lol
Lindsey Brady Omg yes
OMG PLEASE I am speaking this into existence
OMG YES PLEASE
YES I WOULD LISTEN 😩
You NEED a podcast. I could listen to you speak FOR HOURS
MelGusta same!!
Yes.
I was about to write the same exact comment
Yessss!
EXACTLY
I love being around intelligent and caring women who are real and themselves.
I second that!
Well said!!!
It’s a shame so few of them exist.
Where do you find them?
@@Manuplater_yt you can’t. Very few exist
"You cannot destroy energy"
Wow that is actually correct according to physics.
huhu lala
Why are you surprised that she shared a fact?
I guess maybe that's why she said it? 😅
The energy will spread evenly one day and there will just be cold with no energy
Energy cannot be created or destroyed but it can be transformed 🦄 🌈
@@melisacem4276 i never said energy can be destroyed... it can be used though.
What literally changed my life is setting my mindset to: Other women are NOT my competition. I stand WITH them, not against them. Love them, support them and always have their back. Even if they are not giving it in return. Give them time, set an example to follow. Love You
Yesssss lets nuture each other❤❤❤not exploit each others weakness to feed our egos.
It's hard when no other women (irl) share that mindset :-(
@@sarahgernannt You can start a revolution
Dyenney just reading this made me feel so good 💕
Yup. Even if they try to push me down, I cannot hate on them.
You are exactly what's missing from TH-cam these days. While most female content creators side with spilling the tea or indulging in drama or d love into unrealistic exaggerated characters, you're someone whom I and many other girls look up to because you're REAL. You're CHILL. You're everything I aspire to become (hopefully) someday. You're like a big sister I've never had. Thanks for that ❤️
drawkcab You should try watching Mrs Midwest she has all sorts of videos on femininity
Another youtuber I recommend is Anna Akana:) She gives really good advice and she's really funny and talented too:)
drawkcab
And also help with actual good and useful tips
Exactly
Watching Penny Tovar videos are awesome as well, she's funny.
I was very tomboyish when I was a child and hung out with more boys than girls because it was easier to relate and get along with boys but I realize that the older I get, the more I came to accept the girly side of me and how complex we are as a woman. I never thought I could love the color pink but I did in my early twenties. I used to think that makeup was high maintenance and only for a certain type of girl but now I adore it and try different kinds of makeup looks everyday. This is the same with dresses too and all other aspect of what being a woman is. Thanks for sharing your video, it really solidify the fact that it’s perfectly fine to be feminine no matter where you’re at in your life
i feel the same
Same dude same
I share the same experience!
Get ready to age if you wear makeup
same here! i hated wearing makeup in high school because i thought that was all fake and hated all of femenine super girly stuff, now i'm 24 and i love everything about pink, makeup, small dresses, lol yes!! we can all change
Another woman's beauty is NEVER the lack of yours! I used to be insecure and whenever I saw a beautiful woman I used to feel jealous because I compared myself to her. Now, whenever I see a beautiful woman even though I'm straight I no longer envy nor hate them but think to myself,''That lady is a beautiful woman.''
Every girl should get this tatted on her wrist. 😂😩
Trueeee!!
@@fAbby7x Well, firstly I thought about how different we were. My beauty would be appreciated in different parts of the world example Italy, Greece etc while her beauty would be appreciated in Northern European countries. Think about art, whenever you see art you do not envy the beauty that the creator has made, you simply think about how beautiful the art work is!
That’s exactly what I’m sayin instead of ignoring it.. acknowledge it.. and learn how to be happy and love others and embrace their Beauty instead of letting envy and jealousy.. get the best of you .
Hannah Pocock Beautifully said ❤️
Thank you for being such a good female role model
Litterly the only healthy female role model I have.
Her energy is beautiful 😍 she just makes you want to love yourself more ❤️
Thank you for being such a good role model.
We need more TH-cam’s like her.
She has the good feminity not the toxic one
Who wants to see the MASCULINE version???
AlexandrasGirlyTalk yesh ❤️😭
Ohh definitely. I believe both the energies are important!!
omg yes 🙌
Absolutely! I would love to see your take on masculine energy
AlexandrasGirlyTalk omg yes
I just started going to college and there’s this girl that is very very jealous of me, but at the same time fakes being friendly with me, in short she is very toxic. I decided to , by all means, not be rude with her, and also to not talk about her behind her back with our other friends. Hearing Alexandra saying what she said about gossip just made me feel like 10 times better about my choice. Girls and people in general - always remember to kill everyone with kindness. It is truly the best weapon.
Indeed, kill them with kindness. Best option. Also, I used to think of a quote when I was in your situation (but in high school. I'm in college now and it hasn't happened): "Why are you so obsessed with me?" - Regina George. Which is true, if that girl is spending all her energy being passive aggressive to you, sounds like she should focus on other things...😂
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Trouble is some narcs won't get the "kill with kindness" thing. They will take that as an invite to be more cruel. Nope sometimes a brutal psychological shove is what they need to realise you will not be accepting the behaviour.
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You’re like the big sister I never had and always wanted 😪
Same 😭
Same😭 i have an abusive brother
Loud
Same 😪
same here i also feel that ❤❤❤
Women should stick together not put each other down!!🙍
This is so right.
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True✊🏽
That's what I'm talking about 😭😭
Mango addict, that will never happen
I love how you said be around positive women, there are so many girls I hear who pride themselves in "only having guy friends," and saying they hate women, and I'm thinking that means you hate yourself....being a woman is amazing. Love this
Lol, I have no guy friends. I fall for all of them.
some say that woman are meaner to each other then then men are to woman, they are more conniving especially emotionally and hold grudges longer, they dress up for each other, always in competition especially when it comes to men and the work place. they are more indirect then men and tend to gossip and obsess.
Alot of times women have been groomed to hate other women. So when you see a women say things like this she's probably haven't had the best experiences with other women. For example as much as I cannot stand men I prefer men as friends. Men will tell you what it is cut and dry and still be there for you. There isn't an invisible competition set in place between the two of you and you get a genuine friend who hanging with you because of who you are NOT how you look or what guy you can help them gain access too. Most women don't admit where the issue
From the eyes of Shaun perfectly, perfectly said.
@Rehaan Aamir you're clearly here to whine so shut up
“When you ignore the negative you invite the positive“ 😩😩😩😩
What a foolish quote.
I read your comment the moment she said it uhh idk how to explain it
@@mymelodichandle same
“It’s okay to be a girl.”
I’m currently in a male dominated environment and hearing something so simple made me feel much better about myself.
honestly same
gothic lemons begone feminist that’s the dumbest shit I’ve heard
lmao male dominated environment wtf is that even supposed to fucking mean?
@@xxgamergirlxx7917 That may be where you live but around the world I'm pretty sure there is quite an equal amount of men and women. And there are female dominated areas as well so to say we live in a male dominated society isn't the case. Plus you literally have no idea about what she/he meant by this comment. I assumed she meant all men were in higher ranking jobs but wanted to clarify and you and I have very different understandings of this comment.
@@nokiablockia7589 why so rude then?
"Its okay to want to wear dresses". Wow idk why but I really needed that, thanks x
My Goddaughter has been getting on me about wearing dresses. My neighbor guys really look differently at me because I do.
Ella McLeod I always feel too girly when I wear dresses but I guess I could try
Same. I don't like the stares but I also know I shouldn't care. Because I love to wear dresses
@@lanitalopez1383 My mentee gets extra warm on her legs with pants, so she wears dresses. I feel unsafe in dresses, because I feel overexposed. Recently, my other mentee has encouraged me to wear dresses. I just wear them much longer.
Ella McLeod fr i feel strange and get rude comments after suddenly having the desire to dress more feminine after years of leggings and sweats!
I just love how all women in the comments section are happy and sharing their problems and empowering other women. This is the most positive comment section ever!
Facts❤️
Lol except me, I want to die :)
BevTv Because I’m a fat, ugly piece of shit and nobody cares about me that’s why :)
Aurum But you don’t even know who I am. And when people see me, yeah they do see all my fucking flaws because they point and whisper and act like I’m a creep that doesn’t deserve to live and they are right.
BevTv I wish I could lose weight so people would treat me better but I just can’t for some reason and I keep getting fatter and I hate myself and I don’t care to live any longer
I’m always amazed at the wisdom from a girl only 23. Thank you for being a great roll model for ladies of all ages.
same. pretty sure im gonna stay really dumb even when i turn 23.
If I could be half as brave, confident and amazing as her when I turn 23??? I'm still a teen but I'm so afraid of adult me not being what I expect her to be (not a mess)
Age has nothing to do with wisdom 😐
Yes. I’m 47 and still learning. Thanks for all the good advice.
Im pretty sure she said she is 27. Amazingly smart and mature girl non the less
How are you literally... the most beautiful person I've ever seen?
Inside and out!
it's because her personality shows through
I cried.
Why?
Because I've always been a big girl and I'm also taller than the average girl. I was always treated as the 'protector,' for smaller girls and boys often treated me like their, 'bro.' And I kid you not, I used to feel so pathetic because I too wanted to feel like a girly girl, you know? And I didn't know that we could activate your feminine energy. Thank you for answering my question, Alexandra. The universe truly does work in mysterious ways.
Oh my god yes! I hated being the bigger taller girl (5’6 for some reason my friends are always shorter than me) I hate how I was too treated like a protector for smaller girls (like sis how imma help you ?) and oftentimes felt unprotected and on my own. I would stand up for people and others would watch when I was verbally or physically attacked. It’s not fair but recently I decided that I’m putting myself first I will be my own cheerleader and everyone else is on their own. Put yourself first and don’t feel guilty !💕✨🥰
@@iguessitsokyungrichbaby2813 Omg hun, I completely understand because I'm 5ft 8 and a half. I'm so proud of you for putting yourself first and standing up for yourself!! 💕💕🥰 You go girl!
I can relate to this totally! I’m 5’6 so not incredibly tall but it seems that every other female around me is shorter than me. I’m also on the bigger side too and have an ample chest (which I dislike) so I don’t often feel small and girly even though I’m not really a tomboy as such. Sometimes I feel like I’m butch or manly and I hate it and I ask my mum if I look manly or butch. I don’t have a very high pitched voice either so that doesn’t help. I’m going to try and make a lot more effort to allow myself to be feminine and not be shy about it.
Cherry Chubbz girls i’m 180cm and i’ve always felt like that and i can tell you guys one thing: i switched schools and met a girl who’s the same height as me, she is now my best friend and we just get each other:) i also met my current boyfriend of 1,5 years who is 2 meters tall❤️ moral of the story: stay away from the toxic small people hahahah
I'm 5'10.5 I get this so much!!!!!
I had not found single youtuber until now who said "thumbs down" if you don't like the video.. She is love🤗🤗❤️❤️
Chloe Morello says that !
Bella Rousseau says it!! she’s so freakin funny
@@selenag943 may be.. Atleast in India there is no such youtuber
@@oliviabella4841 ohkk.. Maybe but i had not found yet😊
@Muskan , Yaman from cooking shooking also say that
In a world where conventionally masculine traits are valued and rewarded, I sometimes forget what a wonderful thing it is to be a woman. I've sometimes pretended to not like girly things simply because I don't want to be seen as silly or weak. "It's okay to be a girl" really needed to hear that
@Unicorn Dragon -->>True story
Do you struggle with resentment of these societal norms that dictate masculine/feminine? Anybody else?
When I saw "I am safe today" my mind stopped having anxiety for a moment
me too! i'm definitely somehow going to incorporate positive affirmations into my life now :)
awhh i love this
This affirmation grounds me in every situation !
hey you Jesus loves you❤️ trust Him🥰🥰
It gave me chills when it got to that part ❤️❤️
The sticky note thing works. My boyfriend stuck sticky notes saying sweet things everywhere. He put one on my mirror that says “ you look amazing “ and one in my fridge and lots of positive words everywhere and I feel so good and it reminds me to love myself.
maybe do some for him too
I feel like it’s even better from someone else!
Ted D That's good! And so so sweet 😍
This is sweet. Also in your fridge????
Marry him yesterday
"It's okay to be a girl."
I need to hear that. 😭. I'm not really a girly one coz I'm afraid I might not look beautiful if I wear makeup or dresses or fitted pants or high heels or whatever. Let's go for women empowerment!
You’re already beautiful. You can wear and do whatever you want.
Maybe you could look at images of women from the past - Bette Davis, Josephine Baker, Grace Jones, Madonna etc didn’t fit the beauty standards of their eras but they found their own style and made themselves into global icons.
Today’s plastic surgery and mainstream Instagram makes us think that we all have to look the same, but that isn’t true at all.
@@djlivvy46 thank you so much for your wonderful words! Yup, I'm still in the process of discovering my style where I will be comfortable, confident, and feel beautiful 😊.
Plastic surgery will just make people more insecure about themselves. ☹️
Lovely that you benefited from this video! :)
You don't have to be beautiful... if you aren't..
Being a girl is the strongest thing you could ever do!
Wow I’ve actually never realised that I felt shame for trying to be feminine cuz of what I was taught to believe in my community! I love everything you said in this video! ❤️ Much love.
I feel shame in trying to access the feminine. Lots of shame and resentment. So I rest in "immature" masculine. I'm not happy being in my body in my skin. It's hard.
Who else loves Alexandra’s videos?! 💞🙋🏻♀️
MEEEEEEEEE
meeeeeeeee
Meeeeeeeeeeeeee 🙋♀️
When you realize all your friends are toxic...
yea......
I realised it to and just kept them as friends but became closer to the 2 real ones and the rest of them don’t even bother with me you learn a lot after you stop caring about the toxic ones
Leave them, u will meet new great people
Oak Fairy I’m in the same situation as u :( I would tell you to meet new people and ditch the toxics but the idea of doing it myself scares the hell outta me and it probably wouldn’t be easy for u either. Friends can be so difficult and complicated to have,, like why can’t people just be nice like is it that hard-
Damn this hit home. All my freinds complain about men men men , life , finances and so on. And so do I.
Usually, these types of videos are so cliché but yours was so cool to watch. Your videos are always so nice and calming to watch.
soggy waffles exactlyyy
She needs her own TLC series. She’s like the antidote to the toxic culture around negative models for girls and young women like the Kardashians.
the rnb band TLC? :-)
But a network show like that will destroy her content. 🤷♀️
i love how this video isnt just about attracting men, it's about embracing your own feminity
Yess I agree, I almost lost my man by listening to that perspective. This is all about self and how it naturally re-emerges what we already have inside
I really dgaf about men if anything I would prefer attention from women
@@sassyqueen9739 same, I literally don't care about m*n
@@sassyqueen9739 me too, I don't dress for men neither do I care what they think abt me.
@@wm396 Period Queen
Wow! The “you are safe” thing? I didn’t know I needed that.
danceswithneon that’s something I really resonate with
It’s soo important to feel safe I. Your space
danceswithneon same
Samee
This! I haven't even finished the video, but I stopped to write this on my whiteboard and realized I need it too! Alexandra basically gave us multiple therapy sessions worth of insight here distilled down into a key issue. Not feeling safe is so common I think for a lot of people, but it never occurred to me to think about it in those terms.
Recently I had mastectomy and lost my hair , eyebrows, period....ect I am 40. I still feel feminine....
TRALALITSA K I’m sorry you went through that, but I’m also proud that you realise that being feminine is an energy and a state of being. It doesn’t have to be breasts, hair and all the extra stuff. It’s strength and compassion. God bless, stranger.
@@jesse1001 Thats so true. I believe that too. Thank you! I used to look very beautiful before I was diagnosted with cancer... Now although I am in a bad condition, people , even nurces and doctors - are saying to me how nice I look and that I dont even look sick. Its because I always smile from inside out even if I am in pain ect... Its the energy...its how you feel.
@@tralalitsak6963 I'm so sorry to hear about your sickness! I am hoping and praying that you beat the disease and stay in remission forever!! Also, I am sure you are still very beautiful without your hair, because extrinsic beauty is really in your face (eyes, smile, etc.). Hair is just an added accessory... I've seen many beautiful supermodels with absolutely no hair...
TRALALITSA K you’re beautiful ❤️
@@janelleodionu3631 thank you for your lovely comment
6:10 it is ok to be a girl, it is ok to like pretty things, it is ok to like wearing dresses and feel feminine, and it is super amazing to be a woman. everything is so beautiful in every stage of life.
“Pull your hair all to one side”. Ma’am I’m bald.
Kalimba Hamilton 🤣🤣🤣
This made me laugh 😂
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Kalimba Hamilton 🤣🤣
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me: never wears jewelry, finds it cumbersome
alexandra: tells me to wear jewelry
me: **sighs and opens amazon**
Same lmao
I own exactly three necklaces and three pairs of earrings I never wear lmao
Me😂😂😂😂
Hahahahaha.
Same sis HAHAHAH
i’m a guy, but i absolutely loved this video.
Nice
Suga's grandpa dance Infired me so hard a guy watching a video about women embracing femininity has nothing to with toxic masculinity lmfao
A girl always cherishes a guy whom she can be comfortable around and who can care about her. 😊
It's because we want women to be like this, not the ones doing crazy things to their body for various reasons making them ugly.
@@nomore1980 There's plenty of women that are just themselves, but you only see the ones on Instagram
I’m so grateful for this video. It reminded me that feminine energy is not about weakness, but about intuition, nurturing, and creativity. Feeling empowered! 🌟💖
“And gets high off of gossip
Me: pfft not me
Me like a hour ago: * was watching a 30 min vid about James Charles getting exposed*
I WAS THINKING THE SAME THINGGGGG
Lol
omgg teaaaa
How did he get exposed tho..😂
SAME
I’m in tears, I didn’t realize how much I’ve been neglecting my feminine energy and myself in general. Not just with my appearance but literally every topic you’ve mentioned in this video. I love my job so much but it does sucks that it’s not a job where it’s ideal to wear nice clothes and jewelry or even makeup due to the nature of my work, so my self esteem has been so low because I only get to look pretty on the weekends. I spend a lot of time with my hubby which is nice but not enough with my girls so I forget how to be a girl sometimes. I had a miscarriage last month and my reproductive health is just out of whack and has been depressing me. Social media, anxiety, feeling secure and safe I mean the list could go on but I just want to thank you for providing ways that can help me deal with some of my issues, I appreciate your videos and I’m glad I came across your channel years ago 💕
Wow..
Take your time and take care of yourself. It's gonna be okay. Send you love!
See ... this is one reason why I utmost LOVE youtube. We all learn soo much about ourselves just by watching a vid and we realise so many things🙂🤧
hope your doing better
I hope you feel better now and I am glad you’ve came into the realization of it sooner than later
I'm too skinny.
I'm flat chested.
I have big eye bags.
I have flat and big nose.
I do not have symmetrical lips.
My skin is pale.
My body is weird.
But I'm still happy.
You are a strong girl...🥰 And beautiful too
Same here, except I'm not pale, and definitely not happy. I'm trying though.
z t keep trying. You can do this!
@@leigh9167 thanks for your kind words :)
Suga's grandpa dance Infired me so hard first of all ur name is everything 😂 Second, dark skin is gorgeous but you should love your skin, every part of YOU should come first for YOU! Doesn't mean you can't have preferences that aren't your own. But you need to love you before you love things of others 💜💜💜
I loved how she talked about periods. I feel like a lot of people avoid this subject, but its a natural way of life, why be embarrassed?
@Juliano Dicaprae some are. I don't know how the numbers compare to those more comfortable with it
It’s nice to have a beauty guru talk about taking care of more than just the makeup on her face. Being beautiful means working on who you are as a person and loving yourself mentally and physically. Not just conforming to the latest makeup trend. Thanks Alex❤️
Ikr i just love her
Louder for the people in the back omg ❤️
This is the first feminine self-care video where I've actually felt at peace with myself at the end.
Saaaameee. Now I have the courage to explore my beauty
"you are safe" shit got me tearing up
Grace Leonard glad im not the only one >_>
girlll same
Same.
Same
Having her amazing hair *does* help a lot! Having little hair with masculine features makes me look and feel unfeminine. 😭
*BUT* trough not dyeing my roots, proper diet and sleep my hair has gotten much longer and a bit thicker over time! We can change things! 😍
She has a separate video about hair care, that somehow is also about soul care (because she's amazing). She mentioned volumizing hair powder, which totally works for fullness.
Who else went and unfollowed a bunch of influencers?
I probably would, but I deleted Instagram a couple weeks ago and I recommend that as well 😄
About a 100 lol
• maya • i did that too and it’s the best decision i have ever made
@@maja5264 even I did the same thing
• maya • I want to but I use insta to chat with friends, I know everyone says, just get their number, but I have people I talk to outside of school that I’m not phone no. level with
I started crying as soon as you read I'm safe. I never knew I needed this. Thank you so much ❤️
Me too! Felt it so hard
Me too, I’m tired of depression and anxiety 😔
I’m crying and writing a post it.
same
An hour ago I didn't feel safe because I'm a woman and rn I feel happy because I am. Gonna write that [the note] on my whiteboard ❤️
I am 14 and in a not beautiful phase of my life. Anxiety and depression makes me really weak and not safe.
You help me taking care of my body and feeling good.
Thank you, it helps me a lot ❤️
You got this, girl.
It gets better😘
Sending you lots of love ❤️ You will get through this! 💕
I’m 24 but I look back on being 14 with great memories. However I also remember being so insecure with anxiety and constantly comparing myself to the ‘prettier girls’ and spent a lot of time worrying about what I looked like and if I was ‘cool’ enough. But I promise it gets better , my 14 year old self wouldn’t believe how good I feel now. You’re still growing and you have so much time to work on yourself so please never give up💓☺️
believe me, it gets better.
I’ve been really struggling with my body image lately (weight gain during quarantine), but your videos have really encouraged me! Thank you for your well thought out content! I love your videos
You are beatiful ♥️
my vocab isn’t good enough to express how much i love this channel
Your comment is so cute and funny 😂
yara magalhaes hehe thanks ❣
Big mood😂
“mhm yEp nice”
You're the big sister everyone wishes they had. You're so confident and spread so many positive vibes.
You should make a podcast! Listening to your positive energy at work would make me so much better!
Edit: Holy shit I've never even had anyone like one of my comments before thanks guys 😅
yvette settle yesss
grew up thinking i had to act and look like a guy to fit in.... so completely shut myself off from my feminine side.. now it makes me uncomfortable to even think about... but I am ready to embracae it and love being a woman... watching this video is a great first step :) Loved the jewellery idea! I have judged jewellery to separate myself from it too long... I will go out and get some tomorrow!! teheheh thank you :)
Same and I’m 15 years old
Honestly.. one day I remember when I had this kick of feminine energy and it was on my period. That day I was wearing a red dress put on red lipstick and had a red smoothie. I went outside and took a walk.. lemme tell u it was an experience.
Omg😂😂bet you looked bomb though!! I hav done this too 😝
need me a red dress! and red lipstick
@@brookealexandria9917 lol I wish I could relate I'm so insanely exhausted my whole period and the days leading up to it my hormones completely make me crash that said I do always get this burst about 2 weeks before it that feels amazing
Jasmine Valiente I get extreme fatigue on my period too. I could actually sleep all day. I’m THAT drained
Am I the only one not noticing differences when I'm on my period? I just feel my tummy uncomfy.
Then again, I'm usually negative everyday, can't stop my mind from worrying about everything.
You should do a video of how you stay fit! You have an amazing body!
Yess
Marie G treadmill
Yeez, I needed to hear that. "It's ok to feel girly and like pretty things and want to wear a dress". I've been seeing that from a cultural perspective we've been trying to portray more masculine qualities just to reclaim our space in environments that have been typically masculine (work for example), Also, you usually end up stepping up your tomboy game to appear as a "dude" to men whom you want to be friends with, as if being femenine means that you are presenting yourself only in a romantic way. World is still a wicked place.
Nadia Michelle omg yes! I agree 100% 💓
This is out of context, but I literally fell in love with ur profile picture!! I dont know why, but something about it just feels mesmerizing!!
Totally agree
This is so truuue 😭💜
Truth
Yes! "I am safe" - acknowledges your vulnerability. I can really relate to this underlying anxiety of feeling unsafe. Feeling unsafe and wanting to feel safe is something a lot of women feel without realizing it and this one simple tip - is so multi-faceted. Thanks so much.
I realise this is like those alpha male become a millionaire videos, but it’s for women and it’s positive and beautiful 😍
Omggg you're right
Legit the only person who has no annoying useless long intros. Queen 😍🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
I would really love a series about embracing femininity and the nuances. It can be intimidating to embrace the goddess that all women possess within and surprisingly not all people see the worth of embracing feminine energy or some women dwell in areas where their feminine energy can be seen as a weakness.
Stunning content. Thank you, girl💕✨
I don’t think I’ve ever felt pumped up like I have when my best friend gives me motivational talks! She always makes self care sound fun and ecstatically talks about having a spa day in the future. I hope everyone in this comment finds friends like that, ya’ll deserve it!
It's weird but for the longest time I hid my femininity and acted really intimidating or aggressive. For a while I thought that maybe I wasnt meant to be feminine or that it was a sign of weakness but now I feel that it was feelings of shame and insecurity that caused me to stop being girly.
That I would be judged or oogled at like in my youth, or that I would be seen as fake for trying to be more girly.
I really want to try to embrace it, it just feels weird to after so many years of hiding.
Thanks for the video 🙌🏻
Joanna Badillo So relatable! I associate being feminine with being vulnerable and I’ve always been mistreated when I was most vulnerable. So in my mind being feminine equals being mistreated. It’s a difficult pattern to break
You can be feminine and strong at the same time. It’s all about balance.
In fact, we can be many things at the same time. As Chaka Khan sang, ‘I’m every woman, it’s all in me.’
Same, I was raised by a mom who hated women she taught me to hate and not trust or believe women I grew up more a boy with my 3 brothers, I'm learning at 31 to be feminine. I feel bad for liking it I feel likes it's not allowed.
we live in a society It’s similar for me. I don’t own makeup or pretty clothes because I feel almost ashamed of it. Don’t get me wrong, I like dressing up (even though I can’t) and I like looking at makeup in the store. I just can’t find it in myself to be okay to wear them. I always choose the least feminine clothes because I feel uncertain about myself. I did try to be a bit more feminine at school compared to my usual I-woke-up-like-this look though. I straightened my curls, put in some contact lenses, and put a bit of my mum’s mascara on. No one said anything, I mean I didn’t want the whole school to bow down to me but I wanted at least one person to recognise my efforts. It was very discouraging.
Even today, I was looking back at school award evenings pictures and all the girls look pretty wearing nice clothes. When I looked at myself, I was wearing a shirt and jeans. I thought I looked quite ugly compared to them and it made me feel ashamed of myself. I wish I had more confidence in my feminine side.
@@jishoumushoku5094 it is very hard in this world to get confidence but you gotta fake it till you make it :) try smiling at yourself in the mirror even if you dont feel good about what you are seeing practice smiling all the time, maybe you will find adding a smile is all you truly need. Its hard not to be tough on ourselves just gotta work at good being nice to you & remind youself maybe some one did notice but they are even nervous themselves to say "wow you look nice today"
Who else thinks she should have her own podcast?!😍💞🙏🏼
Such a great video. You're promoting the best feminine qualities without making it toxic and shameful. You go girl!
I didn’t realize feeling unsafe was as common as it is
I felt very safe and cared about watching this
You definitely don’t need music
You’re wonderful
Girl if you had a podcast I would listen!!
sammmee
Me too
She is going to be an amazing mother(If she chooses to have a child).
she does have a child! a son
@@averi.ladwig Lucky son ❤
Averi Ladwig
That son is definitely gonna be raised right.
Bailey Gantt she has a little boy
Murder Muffin women can’t raise a boy to be a man
*Who else loves her style?* 👌🏼😍❤️🌿
Love from a smoll youtuber🌹
Pastel Julia :*:・゚ i absolutely love your channel❤️❤️
Martyna 5678 Thank you so much☺️
I love her voice and her style
I just subscribed to your channel and love it could you possibly check out mine I am a very small youtuber
I subscribed after just watching your video of your skin care routine I love your style of editing. Love your channel! 🤗🥰
i love how her voice ebbs and flows
Please make a podcast. I was nearly in tears near the last part because I desperately need help with my feminine energy and self confidence and this really got to me! 😭 I don't think you realize how much of a difference you make in people's lives with these types of videos. I'm so glad you're here!
I agree. Podcast or write a book.
Omg that would be amazing
Video summary
1. Get rid of negativity
2. Have Empathy
3. Write your future self great notes
4. Where jewelry
5. Experiment with new hair and make up
6. Recharge your feminine energy and hang out with women
7. Embrace your period and take care of your self
I Date Only Feminists! No it’s not!
Kind to sumerise❤️
8.Check your grammar
Make up is women hidding their insecurities for men and other woman... sad that men can't do it
@Play UrLife still it looks weird on a western man
have you ever thought of starting a podcast? your videos are so helpful I think it would be so great to just hear you talk while im working or driving etc. you're like a walking talking self help book except not boring or cliche, but genuinely life changing hahah!
Agree! Would totally follow that podcast!
I love being around intelligent and caring women who are real and themselves.
Wow! I have no words. I’ve been sitting on my couch watching your videos while listening to Mad Men in the background and I truly love hearing what you’re saying about femininity. Before I begin I just wanted to give you some background information first. My sweet and loving mother passed away 5 months ago unexpectedly and I’ve been going through a lot. Been doing therapy, crying, laughing, sleeping, working out, journaling and much more. Things have gotten good and then bad and then good but overall I’ve been really transforming. I’ve been detoxing my life internally and externally. Some months ago I randomly had an impulse or more like a new wave of energy (that I do feel was my mother) that pushed me to start working on my outer appearance. I detoxed my room, and my closet. I set up my office to fit my personality and made sure it was simple and minimalistic. As well as invested time and energy in really researching healthy creams for my sensitive skin that best fit me & as well as make up. I was able to get rid of old creams and make up that no longer was of use or that are expired a million years ago. Lastly, but most importantly I’ve tried to surround myself more with positive quotes, photos, and self care talk. My whole life I’ve struggled with how I view myself. I can’t tell you how relieving and comforting it is to hear you speak about femininity in such a deeper level. Not just about taking care of yourself externally but also really focusing internally. It’s a journey and some days are better then others but your videos have really helped me feel like I’m I’ve always been on the right path of femininity. Thank you ❤️
I’m so very sorry you lost you mum, that sucks.
I’m sure she’s happy wherever she is, that you are taking care of yourself. You are lovely, you’re loveable, you’re loved 🤗
Best female youtuber hands down, please keep creating and thank you for being you Alexandra!
my gosh..she is such a nice person..i mean guys have ever seen someone saying you can thumbs down.?
After she said that I was like, "wait what. Whoa."
I feel like I've tried to be a tomboy to fit in with my friends, and half of me is, but I've always been scared to show my feminine side for fear of thinking I was weird. Dealing with being a high school student isn't exactly easy sometimes. You have been a role model for me for almost a year now, and it's made me more comfortable showing my more feminine personality that I have had to compress. Thank you so much!
IzIzzy 8109 I mostly just wear jeans and t shirts and hoodies. But it’s nice to put on a pretty dress or skirt and do a twirl :)
Now this is comforting. I spent hours looking up videos to feel better bout myself, but the ones before this were SO toxic. Like I kinda wanted to cry. Hearing stuff in your household and community (BLK) shaming you for trying to be comfortable with yourself along with figuring out the feminine energy messes you up.
I was going to sleep, but then you posted
omdz, same x
Me too 😂
same
me too🤭
Me too lol
I clicked on this video way too fast. You’re truly the best !
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The comments section is a love letter(as it should be). 💜from India.
@Sumara Stanton Gaspar 😃😋
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@〜Franny〜 Congrats on your engagement! Wish you a happy life!!🤗
“I release things - not only blood” 😂😂💀
More femininity videos! Please tie in with outfits and how to attract others around with feminine energy. Maybe even include how to go about it all. I've been so lazy lately and feel like the people around me (partner) doesnt find me as attractive as I once was - because I lost my femininity (imo). Loved this video and feel empowered to go take care of myself and put a slamming outfit on!
@Ur daily shitpoaster I'm 6 feet tall, no heels for me lol
I don’t think you realize how much you’ve helped me 🥺❤️
Seeing periods as not just bearable, but sacred, beneficial and as a chance to totally detox and refocus is MINDBLOWING for me. Thank you ❤
I was raised to be tough. Acting girly, was being ditsy, not working hard in the mud all the time, made me a priss. Its taken me a while to be able to relax and enjoy being a girl. I absolutely love your videos. I loved your podcast!!!
She needs to write a book. Everyone could use this. I would buy like ten of them
Emily Thomson now that would be a great read right there! I’d buy it!
You should try watching Mrs Midwest she has all sorts of videos similar to this
Emily Thomson i agree omg
Can u do a video of ways to ease ur anxiety or depression
Rose Board yes yes ditto this
Rose Board Meditation helps a lot!
Yes please
Plz plz plz pls plz plz pls
Rose Board do u actually have that or
Ok I’ve had problems thinking of myself as feminine since my tomboy phase (age 8-15) and this really helped, I needed this
Same lmao but for me it was more like 0-15
If you feel more yourself being a tomboy dont feel obliged to become more girly.
Same
It's ok to be a woman who isn't super feminine. Be yourself, dress how you want to, have hobbies that you enjoy no matter how "masculine" they might be. But still, encourage your feminine energy through friendships, self-care, positivity and self love!!
@@hannahw90hw thank you i love this so much 💖💖💖💖
Everyone in this community is so positive and sweet and this is such a happy place 🥺💞🦋
Guys, when she writes "* life changing*" that *IS* life changing.
alex pleeeeeease make a podcast! you’re a natural at it and so good! your voice is so soothing, relaxing, positive in a way, soft and it’s indescribable for me. the topics that you talk about are life changing, motivating, understandable, realistic, moving, etc. i’m sure a lot of people would love and appreciate it if you made one! please consider if it is possible! ❤️
You should do a podcast. Talking about life, stories and experience that have made you grown. Or maybe you could do an advise podcast where we can write to you to gove advise or an opinio😁
YESSS
OMG YESS
Yaaaaaaas!
OMG EXACTLY
“Today I’m safe”
Thank you so much for this note! I will implement it to my life 💓