When Your Woman Changes Before Your Eyes - The Westernized Filipina
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 ก.ย. 2024
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When your woman changes before your eyes, it's rarely a good thing. Women marry men hoping to change them, while men hope their women will never change - but they so often do, especially when brought back to the west after living in a traditional culture. Here's the story of Balentino, who made a mistake he'll never repeat, and who will give his advice about when your woman changes before your eyes...
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Pea " What kind of friends?"
Me " American friends that's who"
I agree with him. It’s a lost cause. Soldiers are not like agents, we are more physical because the state of mind we have is dying all the time. At war it’s a very high percentage that you will die and be forgotten. Agents just play tricks, unless you were an ex soldier. So soldiers have a type of communication that is always edgy, because if we don’t act right move right speak right we die. So it would be faster for two soldiers to marry than agents. Y’all don’t get married y’all cat and play pranks with each other; scams and crap. We pull cards hard, that’s why you couldn’t get around him, he was being serious and clear the whole way. No trick of the tongue, so you kept getting choked up. It means he is an upstanding man, and ex soldier with a good character that doesn’t play games. He’s rather go to Vietnam and die with his fellow fallen soldiers than play around with these new aged children. You guys are so one world government it’s a joke you pull flags like you are your own nation. These nations are all United and the same in the same evil, LGBTQ+. He’s telling me don’t do it, these whole world is selfish and self centered. Marriage is no longer honorable and it’s no one to fight for. It’s no one to defend that is honorable. No example of love to drive the youth anymore. Everyone wants to hurt each other with no reason at all. It’s not logical, just emotional. Innocent men minding their business get attacked instead of getting known. Filipina Pea wants to hurt him for the truth, but that’s an upstanding man and soldier that you can rely on to speak clear to you. He survived war where many of his fellow soldiers didn’t, so he won’t play around with his borrow led time. Either live life right and pure of heart or die and leave, that’s how we think. Y’all playing minority report with life. We don’t get along with civilians too well because of the difference of thought and intent. Filipina Pea thinks she has a an enemy to fight, and isn’t realizing she is her own enemy. Talking to me would be like that. Exposing how silly you are in the mind, and you need love.
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I Must Watch This One .. For Sure !! .. After Work
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This issue is Very, Very and Very common. I can connected with this because I have heard and seen this issue a whole lot over the years with the Women from the Philippines and Indonesia and Cambodia. Good Blessing that I have never experience it. The women assumed that American men are extremely rich as Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk, which is Very Not true. Most people around the world are not taught the difference of Currency value. That's why so many Filiphinas assumed that 100 USD is big money, which it is 5,730.21 PHP. It seems a whole of money but it is only pocket change, small amount of basic coins to flip with.
Since I was in high school of the 1980's, It is said that Filipinas are attracted to American men because they assumed that the men has money. By the magazines and movies and series that they are watching. Hollywood movies of American life are totally stupid BUT the dear Filipinas think it's the real deal.
When I was in high school, I had a Filipina pencil PenPal. 12 years before the internet came. I was in Western Pennsylvania and she was in Hong Kong with her parents. We wrote paper letters to each other, every monoth. After high school, her last letter that I got from her, she have said that she met a Japanese guy with big money and live as an American life style. Of course, I was heartbroken and sad but now, hopefully, I do hope that she is okay now. Maybe.
One of my all time favorite movies is called, El Norte, year 1983. It's about a poor brother and sister in Guatemala who look at American magazines and they assumed that all Americans are super rich. The brother and sister had discover the very hard difficulties of living in the USA. The movie is about lost desires for a better life in USA, Sad Ending.
I do Strongly Bellieve that so many Filipina fall into the DayDream as the movie, El Norte. To have a better life with an American man in the USA.
The Amazing Great Anthony Bourdain had Great Love for the Philippines. He love the Filiphino a human among humans searching for actual, meaningful connection. He knew and seen the poverty but the people love Art and Music and Food and of course Singing. Filipinas have Amazing Culture....the women of the Philippines should focus on their culture and not try to be Americanized.
If a Filipina really love an American guy. It's great and amazing but don't try to fit in and try to be "rich and famous". There's always a downfall when you step out of something really special and a Blessing. Always happens.
If any woman ever tells you that she wants a break from the relationship, the relationship is over!
yes she wants to keep her options open in case that the new man dont work out. so she is safe to try to use you as a option to fall back on.
Usually it means that she's already got a specific guy in mind and she wants the appearance of permission to pursue him.
She has already met someone else
Truth!!
It’s BEEN over which means you were CLUELESS from the beginning
The big lesson here is for the Filipinas. NEVER take advice from western women. They can't hold on to a man. In fact, western men are leaving their countries to find Filipinas.
TRUTH!!!
Good point 👍😊
The bigger shock for Western women is nobody is coming to Western countries to rescue them .
Yep. Mgtow has taken over and American men are ignoring women.
Not just that but they are miserable. Look at stats for depression and other mental illness of women in the west. It’s tragic.
I wish them all the best and much love, just… not my love. If you get what I mean ❤
I married a Filipina and brought her to the states. She was very beautiful. Within a year she had a boyfriend. A few months later she dropped him in favor of a guy who earned more money. Shortly after that we were divorced. Since then I have known about nine other American guys married to Filipinas who had the same experience. The thing is that Filipinos do not see the world like Westerners do. What we see as wrong, they do not. They live in a completely different universe, therefore you will never understand them after marriage when they show you the true person for the first time.
I got an ad for Christian Filipina dating site on this video. The actions you describe make the ad very ironic.
Pea I took my wife to America over 36 years ago and she did change for the better. She was exposed to western women and she worked during that time. I even deployed 2 times and my wife became more independent. Through it all she did not change to the western women ways. She is the same feminine, supportive and cooperative woman I met 36 years ago. Almost 2 years ago we returned to the Philippines to enjoy our retirement. So if you want to interview a filipina who survived the US we would be glad to share our story.
That's the exception though statistically isn't it? Banking decisions on exceptions isn't usually a good idea. People often try to exploit that with the 'But this one time it happened differently'.
Filipinas of 35 years ago were very different speaking from experience.
Today's Filipinas have a different attitude towards marriage than their mothers had. Today's Filipinas are beginning to take on Western ways and want more independence. If they can enjoy their own career with a guaranteed income adequate enough to be independent of a husband's income, these young Filipinas will begin to behave the same way Western women behave in the USA, UK, etc.
The traditional marriage is threatened by the equal earning power of today's career women. The traditional housewife is no longer a natural choice for women with increased educational and/or financial earnings.
It's the same movement Western women went through about seventy or eighty years ago.
@@davewright9313 It's all about picking the right one and then teaching her how to be an independent thinker and how to block out the noise of the strong independent western woman. Remember I was there 35 years ago.
@@xavierkoolat6926 It's all about picking the right one and then teaching her how to be an independent thinker and how to block out the noise of the strong independent western woman.
I would recommend anyone who hasn't yet been to the Philippines to go through peas videos. It's an education I wish I had before I went to the Philippines. The videos are very accurate.
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THANKS, AJ! I do try my best to bring you the stuff you need to know 👍❤️😊
I agree! It even applies to young men in their 20s
That's exactly what I am doing. I hope to retire to the Philippines in a few years. I am taking all of Pea's advice.
I just want Pea and Alma to do a video about living on a boat.
I want to buy a nice boat, and find a great harbor where living on board is permitted.
I'm visiting the Philippines in August & I've been watching her videos, which is better information than some of the other channels. No discredit to the others, but Pea is very knowledgeable.
I’ve dated 3 Filipina in the US. All 3 were no different from American women at the point we dated. Unfortunately this happens.
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The west is poison for good women
I dated 2 Filipinas in the USA before I went to find one in the Philippines. The first one I wish I never let go of, and the second one I wish I never met! The first one had only been in the USA 2 years, the second one had already been here 15 years.
I dated 2 Filipinas and married one. The first was 18, me 24. Everything was good, till she got a job. Then, she cheated on me. The 2nd one was a security guard at LAX. We dated for 5 years, but when I got her into nursing, she cut the rope!! Now, no more communication. The last Filipina I was with from 2011, married in 2014, but divorced by 2019!! She was a bank Teller for 26 years in Manila. Came to the USA in 2007, to work as a caregiver. She still does work at 67!! She is jealous, insecure, but loves dinning out, expensive shoes- purses, and telling me I'm the Devil. Even though I paid for everything, and never had her cook, or do laundry!!
The reality is that any woman of any culture will become westernized after living in America. Even Filipina TH-camrs who have never set foot in the US are becoming westernized through YT fame.
This guest was very well spoken and intelligent. He could express his ideas quite well. Thanks for picking someone worth listening to.
Hey I'm the guest that Pea interviewed. Thank you for your thoughtful comments and the moral boost!
@@zetaone2669 They're talking about you again!
Before I hooked up with my Filipina, she knew full well that by American standards I was poor. She was great about that. I helped her through nursing school. She earns her own money, helps her family and saves. We have two beautiful daughters. 15 years in, it was the best decision of my life, she's a wonderful gal. She was a province girl, from Biliran, very traditional, very trustworthy even though half my age. She is a little hard headed, but not in a bad way at all. No problems, no drama.
In the West from my experiences with a Japanese ex wife 3 contributing factors I could clearly see where involved in the demise of my short marriage..
1...Peer group pressure from her friends
2...Feminism replaced her femininity and
3...She NEVER really loved me only used me to get her GREEN CARD.
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the majority of these types of marriages are ultimately done for the green card (or some other material benefit). men shouldn't kid themselves.
I knew an old guy who married 4 different women from the Philippines , Taiwan and Vietnam . The marriage seemed to be going good in each case until they hit the 6-7 year mark. By then the women were educated and had good career jobs and then the feminine drama kicked in. After the 4th wife he finally said I won’t get married again unless I stay overseas in their country 🤯
"The7 year Itch".
Great movie too
That is rough
What a simple and great way to say it.
"In the Philippines, you are the prize, in the 'west', she is the prize."
Yes, don't give up your advantage and don't simp too much.
He heard it from the internet.
I got lucky. I brought a Thai woman back to the US in 2017 and got married and she never got Americanized. She worked at a Japanese restaurant with other Thai girls and they hung out and she really was in a little bubble and stuck with her culture while she was here. Now we've been married for 7 years and I'm retired, and we're moving back to Thailand to live at the end of this year. She's excited about going home. If you ask her if she likes the US, she'll say not really. I knew about women in Southeast Asia when I came to the Philippines as a young Marine in 1982. I never forgot the beauty of the women and how nice they were. Then I met my wife through an old Marine Corps buddy who lived in Thailand and went to visit him in 2015 and the rest is history!
cool story man sounds like you are lucky. Cheers!
I married a Thai Chinese woman and when I asked her if she wanted to visit the U.S. she laughed and said it was too far to visit a third world country. She could visit Laos,it was closer.
What I like about this brother is he didn't paint the entire country with a broad brush. He is right at the source looking for another chance. Best of luck to him..
I'm the man that Pea interviewed in this video. Thank you for your thoughtful words and encouragement.
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@@zetaone2669 Thank you for sharing your compelling story. It is quite obvious you are a good man. It is most unfortunate that the ills of the west you sought to escape by going to the PH nonetheless ruined the marriage you formed there. Congratulations for going back to find another good woman, and this time you won't make the mistake of bringing her back where she can be corrupted by the things we leave the west to get away from.
At 60, my life has been co-extensive with events in the US during the entire period of modern so-called "feminism." It started out to be simply about equality, which is actually the dictionary definition of the word. I think all right thinking men are on board with the concept of simple equality.
But over the decades it developed into something sinister. Not content with equality, so-called "feminists" progressed to constant criticism and vilification of men, and popularization of truly abhorrent and dangerous terms like "toxic masculinity" and the "tyranny of the patriarchy." Whole successive generations of women in the west, especially the US, have been brainwashed by feminist propaganda into thinking they MUST pursue professional careers over marriage and family and child rearing, and that choosing the latter would make them a "failure." This has even included harsh criticism of women who have rejected such views in favor of more balanced or traditional values in their lives.
I saw this in my 20's, and I knew then that many of these women would progress into middle age and come to regret their choices, facing life alone and childless, or divorced, having rejected the very things that bring men and women together to begin with. I am a lawyer, and in few professions has this progression been more apparent than in mine. Sadly the things I anticipated as a young man have come to be.
I believe eventually equality and freedom of choice will remain - as they should - but the ills of modern so-called "feminism" will be left behind on what I like to call "the great garbage pile of human history," along with bell bottom jeans, sun worship, human sacrifice, and mood rings. This will be a long time in happening though, and it will not be in our lifetimes.
In the meantime, we can go to the Philippines or other countries in Asia and elsewhere where women are still truly feminine, and who genuinely respect good men and have not fallen prey to the propaganda in the west.
I have been to the PH three times so far, and each trip I stay for longer. I work for myself and have the freedom to work while there. I am happy to say that I have met a number of truly wonderful, lovely, and feminine women there, who have restored my faith that there are women in the world worth spending your life with.
And to the point here, I have met filipinas who do not want to move to the US, contrary to the ongoing propaganda from "feminists" about them just wanting money or visas. Marrying one and staying there will prevent the evils of so-called "feminism" from ruining them and destroying our happiness with them.
A large number of modern American women are unhappy, and although most will not admit it, they cannot stand to see a woman from Asia simply being truly feminine and making her man happy. They abhor it, so they take it upon themselves to brainwash filipinas in the US if given the chance.
To other men here I always say, Go East, young man. Find yourself a truly feminine woman in the Philippines, and stay there with her.
Thanks to you and the Pea for this excellent video, and I wish you all the best in finding real happiness again.
@@zetaone2669great interview! It gives me pause because my age gap is 37 years, I’m a young 57 and she is 20 with a 4 year old son. My plan is the bring her back after we marry and try to have 2 daughters right away. She will be graduating University in 2 years then I bring her back. I’m working till I’m 65-70. I got to make sure I have rock solid pre nuptial agreements in place.
@@zetaone2669 You are a kind, courteous, honourable man. Stay true, brother.
You fell in love with a woman, she fell in love with a dream. If you don't get that love to transfer to you it's a hard road.
So that's what I'm going to do. It seems pretty scary due to the videos and how accurate they are but we'll see what happens because I'm basically doing and have done almost everything that this man on the video did
Seems like she had her own agenda.
Better be a rich man in the Philippines rather than a be poor man in an insane asylum (USA).
Facts. I married a Dominican woman and it happened to me too.... im never bringing a woman here again
Came to America at age 2.
Enlisted in the United States Army at age 17.
Respect.
I'm the man that Pea interviewed in this video. I enlisted one month after my 17th birthday and took an early retirement at 35. Best decision of my life. And much respect to you brother!
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@@zetaone2669 I served from 77 to 95 in the USAF. With the draw down after Desert Storm they said they would pay me to stay away so I said colour me gone. 18 years and change with just a little smaller retirement. Best decision i ever made. Full benefits and a steady income for life. Good on ya bro.
@@zetaone2669 thank you for your service brother...
@@zetaone2669 Thank you for your service brother!!
Dated a Filipina before, but felt like I could never truly trust her or especially her family. There was always this feeling of being taken advantage of, or them trying hard to do so. I remember giving her a nice phone to only be told that her mom took it and sold it behind her back since she (the mom) needed cash. Her family was always whispering in her ear about getting more money from me. Can't even imagine having taken her back to the US and what would have happened. Ended up meeting a wonderful lady from Brazil who is my best friend and partner for the last 16 years. Adapting to her culture was easy and I felt at home in Brazil from day 1 - but never felt that way in the Philippines. You might be "wanted" in the Philippines, but for what is the question 🙂
Had one plan to murder me for the will, and f buddy was planning me over the balcony. Another had a baby from her brother and he took 400 in 4 days, another came pregnant, another came as a lesbian couple, and one in lete wanted marriage to enrich dad. You marry the family.. got a fine lady now.. she found loans never were repaid and distanced from family. Get a referral girl from the provinces.
A few gold diggers make 90% of all the other women look bad (regardless of nationality race ethnicity or culture) . I know this from experience. But remember every person is different and can never be compared to the next person. The goal is to find the right healthy minded women or man regardless of ethnicity. Americanized disease ( US citizens are consumer centric indoctrinated - it’s the American way ) . Worse - Social media trains both men and women to obsess about wanting more more and more things that we don’t need , and love unfortunately gets converted into what more can the other mate “give me “ to feed my consumeristic greed indoctrination- that is so prevalent here in the USA. Go to Philippines marry and stay there with her , family and friends and be happy. Don’t bring her back to the USA
Yeah. Meal ticket.
Yes, when you are opening your wallet, you will find smiling nice girls anywhere in the world you don't need to travel to buy a smile.
Her 1st paycheck.
Perfect example of when a man has money he wants to take care of his wife and family. When a woman has money she doesn't need a man. I turned down and ignored numerous women stayed faithful wife started working and immediately cheated and left. My wife was a virgin and we met when we were about 14 married her at 19 joined the Army in 2000. Then 8 years later she tried to reconcile after our divorce telling me she was sorry and the same thing she did to me happened to her repeatedly. Currently 24 years in the Army and she still lives with her parents
Nursing is one of the worst professions for cheating. They are also hanging around the Alpha male doctors who are smart and rich.
Eddie Murphy sounded that warning in his standup special 'RAW' years ago. He did a bit where he went to the jungles of Africa to find a woman. Everything was going fine until she spent one day with friends she made in America. When she came home 'Eddie, what have you done for me lately Eddie?'😂😂😂 Third parties are the biggest relationship killers.
Half! I want half!
I came here to say the exact same thing. I learned not to trust American women who want to mess things up for you.
Umfufu!
I want HALF Eddie...hahaha. I remember that bit well
I want HALF Eddie...hahaha. I remember that bit well
Passport bros know, NEVER BRING HER BACK TO THE MATRIX.
The matrix can be very alluring, yes
***Never Never Never BRING HER BACK***
YOU CAN VISIT THE U.S.with her show her around maybe BUT DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT BRING AND STAY WITH HER
Many of us, myself included are trying to escape the matrix. Don’t know why anyone would want to join it?!
True dat. Rule #5.
Escape the Matrix
Pea,
Thank you for inviting me on your show, it was amazing and I love the video!! And we had a lot of fun making it.
Bále
Envy could eat me! Why do you hide the address of your fountain of eternal youth? 😉
@zetaone2669- Hi Bale, please tell us what you would do differently if you had a do-over with you past girlfriend/wife?
Thanks for sharing your experience.
And thanks so much for agreeing to be interviewed - it looks like they enjoyed hearing your point of view 😊👍
Thanks for sharing your story. Stay healthy and happy my friend.
I received pre-marital counseling from a Filipino pastor. He told me under no circumstances, to bring my bride to the United States. He said he knew two American-Filipina couples in his little congregation of a dozen or so couples, supposedly devout, one who got divorced after five years and the other after two. He blamed both these cases on the woman becoming westernized, adopting feministic values and changing from the personality traits that first attracted the man to her. Fortunately, she wants to stay close to her family here in the Philippines and my pensions go a lot farther here than they would in the U.S.
Pastor telling the truth.
I did not know they have Christian churches there.
Feministic values such as that women have equal value to men?
I broke every rule of "dating a Filipina." i am 53, she's 42. i married her after 6 months of knowing her, and i have no regrets. She is beautiful, sweet,kind, and very loving. We are very happy with our decision and no she wont be coming to live in my country.
There ARE no rules until you take her to another country where she will become corr....
and thats why you are still together -- bringing any foriegn woman to the states is a gauranteed crash and burn !
The rare successful cases doesnt change Western mindset has infected the world's women so 1% are the rare prized truly not pretending real traditional ones.
This guy needs his own youtube channel.
This is Balentino the man Pea interviewed. I second your suggestion!! Seriously thank you for the thoughtful comment I've been considering creating my own channel for some time but after watching how hard Pea works to produce just one video has given me pause. Again thank you for the positivity it mean more than you know.
@@zetaone2669 are you in PH right now ? I’m 35 met a girl in Cebu 24 Iam dating, I’ve gone back once already, again in July after her graduation. I would live there to meet her more instead of bringing her here. How do you make your USD income over there??
@@Travel_Cebu222 You can pretty much forget about earning money in the Philippines. You need an external source of income. Remote work for a company, pension. Actually earning money in/from the Philippines is going to be problematic at best.
@@ZXLNT yeah I learned that the first time. Just trying to pick a good remote job really
@@Travel_Cebu222 I think it's best to have multiple streams of income from your country set up before you plan to settle there.
Great Video! This one has a lot of great information. Never take your Filipina back to the West.
At least not without taking precautions, and thinking long and hard 👍
@@TheFilipinaPea Agree 💯 Captain
Exactly right! Like Eddy Murphy said in one of his stand-up shows: He went to the deepest, darkest, bush-lands of Africa to find a simple unspoiled woman. He married her and brought her back to the US and as soon as the airplane wheels touched the ground she said "Eddy, I get half!"
When I Stationed at Subic Bay in 1983, there was a lot sailors. That got married in the Philippines and bought their wives back to San Diego. When their wives made it State side they changed dramatically, especially going to bars and coming home late in the morning. When hubby was a sea the wives were at the base Club picking up guys to sleep with for the night. The divorce rate for marrying bar girls from the Philippines was extremely high. The base closures in 1991 was a blessing in disguise for Navy sailors.
Brought my ex Filipina to the states. She got westernized and at the 7 year mark she stopped putting out, I left at 10 years. She became intolerable at times.
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7 year itch is common, the 7 year mark is difficult
@@michaelmalin8318 mine made it to 10 before it stopped
She was counting off certain prerequisite years the government mandates. Sadly I don't believe she was genuine all along.
She got citizenship?
My friend turned me towards your channel after I started an online relationship with a Filipina and this video I paid close attention to. This video actually made me feel even better about this girl. She's working on her own to get into the US as a nurse and she already has a US nursing cert (I verified it myself to be real) and she's been the one doing a lot of money management for her mom and moving money between her aunts and uncles living abroad and still in the Philippines so she's used to seeing and handling money. Within the next few weeks I'm actually taking a just over 2 hour car trip to meet her Filipina aunt, grandmother, and american uncle that all live in the US.
Maybe she'll westernize when she gets here whether she comes in on her own in a few years (visa retrogression) or if I bring her in myself, but I'm really happy with everything I've seen so far especially since we only have a 7 year age gap.
I'm hoping and praying for our success, but ultimately, we'll see.
Some things that have worked with me and my Filipina:
Underpromise and overdeliver.
Keep her in her native country. (easier for me to adapt then her, don't want her westernized, she's happy in her own country)
Keep expectations low.
Keep self improving and keep moving.
It's not perfect but have been together close to a decade now.
Exactly what happened to me. Went from loving, kind, loyal to hateful, greedy and gone in just three years, leaving me grieving for the loss of my hopes and dreams for our lives.
I brought my Gwapa Filipina to the states in 2015 and I can say she’s a little westernized but in a good way.. She’s true to me, she works hard and I’m blessed to have her.. Never letting her get away from me..
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My wife and I met in the U.S. We've been together for a couple years, and she's still a true blue filipina. She's adapted to the more fast paced lifestyle, but it hasn't changed her in a negative fashion.
I think if you meet the right person, they'll stay true to who they are. You can be influenced but still remain yourself. But many people seem to forget that is an option though. You don't HAVE to be just like everyone else around you.
When I lived in Japan I was still an American, first and foremost. You have to decide what kind of person you are, not what everyone else wants you to be.
It’s not all of us Filipinas who upon going to the USA will get westernized , if you pick you a stable smart honest and mature minded Filipina who is rooted in her traditions she will not get westernized or influenced by western women’s feminist views
@@jacquelinecarcereny2448
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Agreed! There’s no way I’d fall into that trap. I’m neither naive nor impressionable, and it sounds like you aren’t either 😊
Is there a big age gap like in Carlo's situation? I think that's the key.
Hi Pea & Carlos I'm 65 divorced with 3 children that I raised as a single father. I can only speak on my situation so, I was married at 29 with a girl who was 24. Everything was great and things were also great in the marriage, eventually we had 3 kids, bought cars & a house but she changed? All of a sudden she was disinterested in out life and focused on hers. I kept trying to support her along the way but she didn't commit to the marriage and she kept cheating on me and as a Christian I had to divorce her. At the court she told the judge "I can't handle the kids" so I became a single father, she tried to ruin me, and almost did, but as they say "Life Goes On"
Oh no, Timothy 🥺😳😢
@@TheFilipinaPea Hi again Pea, just to say I'm ok now 20+ years later but now I don't have a wife, house or all the "stuff" we had but she can't take my heart, mind or my love for people and I hope some day to be in yhe Philippines to tell you "I love you as a friend & all you do" ♥
@@timothybush9633 My experience is similar but with a woman born and raised in the USA. The social and cultural atmosphere here in the USA is poison to families and children, as well as to husbands.
The USA's female population has been invaded by an unspoken, underground movement to destroy the American Dream as a stepping stone towards establishing a socialist society, thus destroying our constitutional-republic government, as well as the dominance of the USA's position in the global market.
My story began in early 1963 when I first met my future ex-wife on a blind date. I'll skip a lot of detail and cut to the problem.
My ex-wife's mother was a lifelong, daily drinking alcoholic. Her father had a minor speech impediment that he compensated with egocentric-egotistic, obsessive germaphobe behavior traits.
Her mother's brothers and sisters (her uncles and aunts), and her mother's parents (her grandparents) called her "The Little Princess."
She was an only child in both her family and extended family until she was nearly eight years old.
All these conditions created a narcissistic type of personality. In effect, my ex-wife was "trained" to have a narcissistic personality by her family and extended family. (This conclusion was described by a pair of psychologists, male and female partners in a psychological-therapist organization.)
I was not aware of all these conditions and events about my future wife, including her "party girl" activities both here in the USA and in Italy that were never told me about her past.
I was extremely naive as well as ignorant of all her misdeeds and previous behavior. You might say that I was deceived about her reputation and condition. (Does the street slang term "hornswoggled" come to mind?)
It was not until about five years into the marriage that I began to question some of her attitudes and behaviors that I began to find out bit-by-bit pieces of her past misdeeds.
There's a ton of more information that I will not go into due to limited space.
She gave birth to a daughter after having a secret rendezvous with a high school acquaintance nine and a half months earlier, naming her daughter the same name as her secret "friend," only with a variation in spelling.
I found out about the secret rendezvous when I overheard her private conversation with one of her girlfriends from the same high school.
She also gave birth to a son after she had befriended one of her male co-workers she had developed a friendship with even though I objected and asked her to end it.
After about ten years, she stated she never loved me and wanted a divorce.
I got her to agree to see a marriage counselor, but she would only go if we had separate private sessions. Desperately, I agreed.
I never found out any information from the counseling. She later told me she was moving to another state where her parents lived. It was not a subject for discussion.
I moved there and stayed with her parents in their home for six months. She stayed in our home until it sold and her daughter finished her school year.
When she finally moved to her parents' city, she had "Financial Separation" papers drawn up and moved out of our rented condo. After a long year, I finally consented to a divorce and left.
Eventually, within two years, I ceased communication with her.
The point of my telling my sad details is that either a wife or a husband can destroy a marriage by their own personal behavior and attitudes. Neither one has to be a foreigner. Find out as much information as you can about anyone you are considering establishing a marriage relationship with to avoid future problems that will break your heart and destroy your future life and career.
Going thru this myself right now. I had the most amazing wife, brought her to America, and it was over in 13 months.
I live in South Florida, American Greek and I love Cubans. They are the best, smart and family oriented. He is a good man and I wish the best for him.
My experience is when anybody, man or woman suggests to their partner, "Maybe we should take a break". That is code for "The relationship has ended and im trying to say so in a nice way. Most likely it has already ended but you are in denial.
I've seen most of my former girlfriends on Facebook. Back in the day, they were all slim. Now, if I'm being totally honest. I could describe them as obese.
That’s so unfortunate and unnecessary 😳
One of my former girlfriends (who got pregnant from some other dude while I was deployed to Iraq) recently hit me up n Facebook with the expected “well hey stranger!” The young, cute blonde I remember has transformed into a full grown n land shark. She’s easily 250lbs at 5’ 6”. Four kids later and suddenly she remembers I was a pretty good guy. I didn’t even bother responding to her.
Whales! Hahahahaha
Yup all my ex's are HUGE!!!
@@afather. Yep, I agree and if they just have to eat rice, make it brown or red rice but keep the quantity small--it's vitamin and mineral content is much better than the white rice they all seem to eat. I'm seeing way too many young people from the Philippines with overweight and obesity issues that will lead to other health issues as they age.
I remember your video about this problem Pea. It can be hard to get some women to realise how lovely and desirable they are (trying not to look at you Pea!). When they move to a western nation and find out just how popular you are, it can turn some people's heads! You need a strong relationship founded on real connection to live through that. Wise warning from this guy! Great interview Pea! 🌹❤️🌹
Yes, and bringing a young, impressionable or naive woman to the west can spell disaster - and sometimes not 😊👍
They don't have to young or naive. Seen it with older Pinas it is impossible not to assimilate
Out of 28 I know personally there is one that is headed that direction. @@rickmancc
LOL, The Philippines were westernized 500 years ago.
@@billb945 LOL consumerism and fourth wave feminism originated there.
Oh! Oh! This man is Cuban, just like me! It's good to know Filipina women like Cuban Americans too, and not just white western Americans. As always, thanks for your videos Pea! You're the best!
Seems like cool positive guy. Hate that situation worked out that way for him. Look like he came through that situation like a champ hopefully he will have better fortune this go round.
I Believe him Pea!😮 In the United States Nurses are one of the Job Professions that have the highest rates of Infidelity, along with Airline Attendants.
@@TheFilipinaPea With Nurses it is a Very Stressful Job and Doctors or Coworkers and Nurses bond because of long hours.
For Flight Attendents they travel are away from home alot get lonely & meet new people all time. They may strike up a conversation with someone they are attracted to on their flight & well things Happen.
Firefighters and police officers also rank toward the top of the cheaters list, I've read.
@@bigdaddyboomakamr.knowital8079I forget which year I read these World Health Organisation figures. The WHO stated that the occupation with the highest rate of sexualy transmitted diseases was an airline stewardess. Prostitutes were way down the list at number 10.
@@briancarton1804 WOW 🤯🤯🤯 Thanks for the additional information I did not know that statistic.
20 years of working in healthcare infedility is high across the board.
When we got married my wife came to Canada. She was there 4 months and went back home--too cold and home sick. 4 years later I retired (at 55 with a pension) sold everything and joined her. That was 15 years ago. She has a 1k sq. meter lot, fully fenced and gated with 2-3 bedroom houses on it. We are along the brg. road, 300 meters to the national highway and 800 meters to the beach on the Gulf of Leyte--the old Marcos beach compound in Olot, Tolosa, Leyte. Could not be a better location. With my excellent income from 3 pensions and few expenses everything is good.
What is your wife current age and did you have any kids together?
I'm just down the road from you - Tanauan.
Sadly, only for one more day but, to quote a general held in high regard here, 'I shall return.' 😊
And that’s the thing that some Europeans and other foreigners learn the hard way. Filipinas and Thai women are coming from a warm country where it’s healthy and therapeutic. Most of these Europeans and Canadians live in places where it is cold, dark and not as “happy “. Most of these southeast Asian women don’t want to live in these places. Some of them will tolerate it if they have no choice, but they really don’t want to be there.
You’re better off living in her country. It’s cheaper for you and you don’t have to worry about her becoming Americanized.
Wow, I thought your story was going to have a sad ending! ❤️❤️
My wife is from Tanauan
Thank you Pea ! Very interesting and informative ! Great interview ! This gentleman nailed it ! I have a friend who went through basically the same thing as this man. Appreciate you always Pea! Good night and sweet dreams ! God bless . 😊🙏💝
I had the same situation bringing my chinese wife to America. This guy has knowledge I experienced. 80 percent of the time in marriages women initiate the start of the divorce. Man, write a book.
Thank you for the suggestion about writing a book and for commenting. Sorry to hear about you and your Chinese bride. Stay strong, life is good and gets a little better everyday.
Eddie Murphy had a bit about this in his stand-up movie "raw"
Half, Eddie, half🤣
'What have you done for meeee latelyyyyy, Eddieeee?!' About 40 years ago, very sage advice!
Classic, yes
@@TheFilipinaPea wow.. surprised you know this skit😊
Enfufu 😂😂😂😂
Rule 1: never date nurses or teachers.
Or flight attendants.
Or stewardesses
I know this is the case in the U.S.... also add hairdressers; but is this the case in Philippines as well (assuming you plan to stay there)
Or date cops/military😮😮
basically anyone with a Uni degree
That was one of the best interviews I've see you do, Pea, thank you so much, Valentino was a great subject with a story we can relate to. It's a shame his wife became Westernized, that's my biggest fear about a relationship with a Filipina. Taking a beautiful Filipina to the West if truly a double edged sword, and you can't possibly predict whether she will be Westernized or not. I'm planning to take my girl to the U.S. for only about a month at a time, and dividing my time between the two countries, but letting her live in her country full time. I'm happy to be one of your supporters, you always put out great content, very useful, and well done, PLUS, you're very easy on the eyes!
Well thanks SA, for all of that (right down to the last sentence) 🤣😉👍
Finally hearing from a Latin brother who dated a Filipina. Salute Pea I knew you'd find one who KNEW THE VERY TRUTH AND CAN SUPPORT WHAT A LOT OF GUYS who married or dated a Filipina
Hermano, gracias por tu comentario. Soy el hombre de la entrevista agradezco tu apoyo a mi presentación y el video de Pea.
Great interview.
Single,never-married man,with no children. Considering finding a wife from Colombia,Brazil,or the Phillipines.
This is food for thought.
I'm the man that the lovely Pea interviewed on this video. Stay strong my brother and please don't make the mistake that I made. Don't bring her back to the land of the Big Walmart.
Don't look. If you find a keeper great but looking puts pressure on you to find.
Avoid woman on social media. It is designed to capture them into an addiction to plastic attention that few ever escape. They no longer are content with one man's attention and get unrealistic expectations. The ones posting new pictures of themselves often, even daily, are dangerous choices.
@@zetaone2669
Thank you Brother. I am taking 100 percent of your advice. I appreciate you sharing your story,and your wisdom,with us.
@@zetaone2669 I really appreciate the advice you gave. It is kind of depressing to me that a man shouldn't take a Filipina back to the U.S. without the risk of losing big. I hope you don't mind if I share my thoughts. The idea that women should use birth control is one of the toxic pills of feminism. And I consider that a red flag when searching for a woman. Years ago, when I was in a Hawaiian restaurant in Salt Lake, I struck up a conversation with a Tongan woman who was in her mid sixties. She was about to attend her mother's 100th birthday party. This 100 year old woman had something like fourteen kids. And each of her kids had large families and so on, so that by the time she turned one hundred, she had five hundred descendants. If you can imagine that?
Now if you can appreciate the contrast. She had five hundred people and their spouses and friends attend her birthday party. And all of those people adored her as a national treasure. Her daughter said that even the queen of Tonga paid her respects. Now you put that in contrast to the average American feminist who fooled around, yet rejected every marriageable man. If you know some of them when they get old, they are bitter lonely people. They live alone in their apartments with little money and no companions except maybe for a dog or a cat.
Let me ask you which woman is better off in the end? If you believe in God, then you would know that your children are the only thing you can take with you into the next life. Everything else you leave behind. Plus this life is so short. The older we get the more we realize how little time we actually have. Why do we throw away our lives working towards the things that we inevitably lose anyway when our time is up? Why shouldn't we look to a higher purpose?
And what are the results of using birth control? All across the world, wealthy nations are experiencing a population collapse. And their civilizations are on the brink of collapse along with it. Birth control are against the laws of God, and there are always consequences breaking His laws. And we are seeing those consequences.
Those are my thoughts. You can take it or leave it.
@@sammajor2075- Repeat, your beautiful submissive non-Western woman will have toxic (mostly divorced & never married) female friends who do not want her to stay married, and they will convince her to fight you on everything, stop having sex with you and “cheat with Chad”!
Interesting story Pea, and i appreciate that you dont only represent the 'success' stories of relationships 🧐. As a man, you need to remain desirable (how you look AND ACT), regardless of where you live. As for nurses in the 🇺🇸, they are the WORST profession of women to date. I worked in a hospital at a young age, and saw this first hand 😮. This is a nice man, but listening to him, he made MANY mistakes beyond moving back to America. She knew this and took advantage of the situation
I always present both sides of every issue - and let the viewer decide 👍😊
Amen. Working out, continuously growing and learning are important as a man.
Rule #1: Never take your foreign wife back to anywhere in The West.
You just need to be strong and have enough charisma to keep her legit. If she's corrupted by the environment and you aren't able to stop it, she ain't the one bro
@@behindthen0thing525 🤡😧😳😱😂🤣😭💀
Yes, however often that happens afterwards@@behindthen0thing525
I brought my Filipina wife back to the States 16 years ago. We have a great strong marriage. If you have a fear of bringing your wife back to the States, you married the wrong woman. I briefed my wife on the potential pitfalls of living here and what men and women say and do here. We never had any problems.
@skyhawk4946 yeah these guys are just jaded and probably low class men who got a low class girl
I married a Korean lady (yes I know, completely different culture). She came to the U.S. when she was 16. She had a very strict mother. I met her when I was in the Army. We married when we were both 20 years old. Had a child and been together for over 30 years. We divorced for 3 years and got remarried again. Now our child is 20. We are getting divorced again. My wife has NO resemblance to a traditional Korean woman. The lack of respect to men in the U.S. is amazing. I think you are 💯 on this one. Live in the culture you want live in. If you bring them to the US you are just creating another Western woman
Great video. Welcome to healthcare in America. A lot of nurses and healthcare professionals I work with are fiercely independent and loyal only to what they want in any given moment. It is VERY difficult to maintain relationships in a hospital environment, in my experience, at least.
A cautionary tale and a lesson that is obvious to many of us older guys who are well traveled. But it needed to be said for the younger and/or more naïve guys. My thanks to your guest for baring all and to you for hosting him! Well done again, Miss Pea!
This is Balentino the man Pea interviewed. You speak the truth brother! My best to you, and thank you for your very thoughtful and encouraging words.
I was in long-term relationships with 2 Pinays here in the States (one was born here; the other grew up here)… both ended up having the same privileged Westernized attitude. Went back to the Philippines (Cebu) when I hit my mid-30’s.. found the love of my life, everything I hoped for in a woman. We’ve been happily married for over a decade now.
Maybe location in PI has something to do with it? Definitely upbringing did. Best decision I ever made.
Best luck to you, fellow brothers, who are still looking 🙏🏽
Fortunately for me my Filipina girlfriend was already living in the U.S. for 15+ years when we met and we’ve been together here for another 15+ years. Her basic morals haven’t changed from the day that I met her. It’s probably me that has changed her. She’s very generous to her family, friends, and extended family in the Philippines. It was to the point that that they were using her as their ATM. They were immediately notifying her of every little problem and then asking for/demanding money. I’ve gotten her to only send money to those that deserve it. If you want money for school, great. If you waste that money and don’t go to school, you’ll receive no more money in the future no matter what your emergency is. Now she’ll help you, but you have to show that you’re helping yourself too. She’s teaching them to be more reliant on themselves.
I wish nothing but the best for Valentino as he entering a new chapter in his life. Great interview Pea! Not to condone his ex wife's actions but it has to be difficult to assimilate to a new country and not be influenced by others while maintaining one's morale compass and beliefs. When I go to the Philippines after my retirement, Cupid does his thing and I meet the Filipina of my dreams, I definitely will not be returning to the US unless it's a brief visit. Enjoy your evening Pea and see ya Friday!
Robin, I'm Balentino the man Pea interviewed in this video. Thank you for your very thoughtful comments and good wishes. It means a lot.
@@zetaone2669 You're welcome and I apologize for misspelling your name. Enjoy your evening.
@@robincraft4682 No worries about the name, it happens all the time.
See you then! 👍❤️
Hey Pea, Kris here. A little over 5 weeks until I'm there myself. Thanks for another great video! They definitely make the wait more bearable.
I chatted with my Filipina GF for a year before we met in person. I traveled with only a backpack incase i felt it was BS or only about money. When i met her and her family i knew it was real. We live in the USA, we are not rich but the hard times bring us closer and closer. we have one step daughter and one child who is our own. We were in the Philippines for 7 weeks over the summer since i was between jobs. Not every relationship works out whether its a mixed relationship or two people of the same culture. My advise is look for your our flaws first before you point the finger to another. My now wife have been together 10 years and have a 31 year age gap. check us out.
Pea your always on top of things, no matter who you interview. You stay in the middle and don't sway for one side or the other. I love your channel. Keep it up the good work.
Thanks, I try to remain unbiased 👍
And congrats on finding your soulmate! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
He is correct. My Filipina here in US 16 years. Has a lot of Filipina friends she still stands by my side in love. I quess I am just lucky. ❤
I agree that when you come back from America the native ladies take a look at Americans in a different way. Philippine, Thai, etc. it doesn’t seem to matter.
Mistake 1. Married her
Mistake 2. Brought her home
3 being a nice guy
There is an illusion that asian women are better to nice guys than western women. Well, generally they are but not much. They will end up disrespecting the nice guy too & become verbally abusive or dumping or cheating on him. It's a sad world when being genuinely nice to someone in a relationship is seen as a bad thing.
Filipina: Mistake 1: stayed with him 10 years.
I've knocked up 5 Filipinas and pay all their bills and sending all the kids to college. Key is...they are all in the Phillipines
@@cheeeeezewizzz all the kids will knock you one day.
@@cheeeeezewizzz5?????, you need to get fixed. Yikes
Hi Pea, first time writing. As soon as I read this title I felt this pain. I just went thru the craziest 3-3 1/2 years. With a very young ladyboy. She was a provincial woman all the way but now she is a full-time nude streamer. I think cause of the freedoms I gave to her her mind went into super greed mode. We aren't together, we've been having issues the last year and change. There is a lot more to the story but just focusing on this topic I felt this pain. I do have to say I am happier now, I didn't realize as she did all these things it really upset me. We were planning on getting married in the States , so I didn't even get that far and she still was too westernized always demanding Jollibees or McDonald's, air Con where I paid the bills while she lived there.. FYI love your channel, I watch as much as I can. Always wanted to reach out, even while you were here in the States. Wish you the best take care
Now a Filipino lady boy becoming westernized like a feminist would be an interesting interview.
Like this guy, he's honest..... Pea ur getting prettier every day
You do a good job to bring a lot of transparency for those that have never ventured here and give them plenty of information to make an informed decision.
Great interview, Pea!
He is a well-rounded gentleman and a scholar.
The fact that he didn’t tell his wife about her friend shows me he isn’t a very good man himself.
Some great advice, Valentino. Been here 5 years and it all rings true.
Mentioned it plenty of times: I did not bring my wife to live in the west for a plethora of reasons. "Western feminism" is one of them. Plenty of 'stong independent' women who will tell her how she should behave so eventually she will become as unhappy as they are
Other reasons:
Philippines just nicer to be
She is comfortable with friends, family and familiar food around her
No need to learn a new language
I provide her with everything she needs, no reason to live in the west.
and lastly, though I totally trust her, but in my home country she will be the 'exotic beauty'. No reason to allow the fox in the hen-house
No reason to take the hen to the fox house.
it's true. My son is married to an American woman half-black and half-Filipina. Our son said he wanted a 'trad wife' and wanted his wife to stay home and raise the kids. Fortunately she was of a like mind so...fine. My wife, feminist by all accounts, bristled at this arrangement who still has a slight prejudice of wishing to see women be 'bossbabes or 'girlboss' types. She's enough of a feminist (old school) to respect her daughter-in-law's preference and choices, plus we know that our daughter-in-law despite this movement to being trad, has her own will and strength. Tough chick.
My husband is Filipino. We met in the navy.. he didn’t have to go back home to find a wife bc I’m o e of those rare westerners who learned how to cook what her husband likes etc. lol but I love it. We have three babies together Rand I’m helping him raise his older daughter. What blows my mind is how much gossip there is even in the family lol. Everyone says I’m so nice and like such a good person bc we have his oldest daughter here but to me that’s a crazy thought. When you love someone and they have a child u accept that child as your own she is a HUGE part of who my husband is and I see so much of him in her. I was raised with strong biblical values and I see it as my duty to keep her grounded and realistic in the wild school system here. But with my younger three I’m planning to homeschool. ❤ much love I enjoy your Chanel
Maybe not so rare. USA is so large there are many traditional and Godly women. Those women are not loud and easily overlooked and sometimes dismissed by those too worldly that don’t respect waiting til marriage. This is not a specifically a gender issue, but more of disrespect, entitlement, and selfishness. Unfortunately, the sexual revolution and other factors tore the fabric of family values. I’m glad that you were able to have a wonderful and fulfilling partnership and what sounds like a woman described in Proverbs.
Excellent insight. I have fortunate to be married to a Cabana for 33 years. My Asawa always wanted to work and make her own $$. The problems started after she got her 1st check. She was earning a good yearly wage working in factories. She wanted to stick to me paying for everything. She said her money was hers. She didn’t think she should share responsibility for our lifestyle. We have no children together. Her Filipina friends told her to leave me. She is pretty and will attract a better man. Then she got into Mahjong partying lasted all night long. So I had step in. Several of Filipina friends started messing with multiple men. One of her friends called me to ask me if it’s OK if stays partying one night. I asked where is your husband? She said in the Philippines. So I had a meeting with my wife. I said to her she could be single if she wanted. I wasn’t going to go along with the changes of sweet in P.I. Not clicking and acting acting as though we are a union was going to last.
Thank you for interviewing someone in my peer group. He is actually a year older than me.
This is Balentino. Thank you for the comment.
Hi Pea,
Another great educational video!
I feel for your guest, I think he is still hurting inside.
Hope he finds happiness in the Philippines.
Have a great week!
Thanks
Greg, I'm the guest that Pea interviewed. Truthfully I am still hurting but getting better everyday. Thank you for your very thoughtful comments.
The U.S culture is failing. Still, I'm not sure I could live in the philippines. I've been communicating with a Filipina in Gensan but I'm not sure I completely trust her. I'm being very guarded. Later on this year I'm planning on visiting her. But even then my guard will be up(no jokes). I do however agree with your guest, once the filipina starts to interact with western women she will become westernized. Just like if a man from the U.S moved to another country he would eventually take on the customs and attitudes of that country and culture. It's natural. Anyway, I enjoyed the interview. Take care and be safe always.
Never trust until it is earned (times two) 😳👍
If you are having doubts, that's your gut catching red flags.
I tend to agree. The Philippines as a country is very far from ideal. If Malaysia continues to lower it's visa requirements, that would be my choice. The people on the other hand are quite endearing. Heck, even Filipino gangs here in the US are half decent. 😅
@jamesballard6564 im leaning towards malaysia too.
My wife and i discussed this before i brought her here. Luckily she was an ofw many years so coming here wasnt a huge culture shock. Now 10 years together and married almost 8 years and were still happy. I guess it depends on the type of woman you have cause i feel if a woman truly loves you, she wont do you wrong.
Wow!!! I really enjoyed this interview. It offered a lot of insight into intercultural dating and marriage. I'll be honest, after watching this video I'm very nervous. As I'm currently talking to filipina from Cebu as I live in Chicago. I'll be 42 in June, and she just recently turned 29. She's the most sweetest and kindness woman I have ever met, but I'm scared that if I was to bring her to the USA our attitudes and policies would taint her
Ms Pea, I'm grateful for my beautiful loving angel. We recently went shopping for a new fridge, I pointed out the more fancy fridge, with a ice maker and water feature. She said no and wanted the traditional fridge with a freezer.
Then it sounds like you might’ve found a keeper too! 👍❤️❤️❤️
@@TheFilipinaPea I thank Jesus Christ for her everyday Ms Pea.
The ice maker and water feature is awesome, get it.! you won't regret it.
@@Postofficejoe Instead of a fridge/freezer with an additional add-on of cold-tap water with ice maker, consider a "standalone" ice maker that just makes ice cubes. That way, the fridge/freezer will not have to be replaced when the ice maker stops working. The cost of repairing an ice maker on a fridge/freezer is about the same cost of simply buying a new ice maker.
@xavierkoolat6926 That is a great idea sir, thank you very much.
My loving Filipina is frugal and does not want to spend more than necessary. I can truly appreciate this about her. We try to enjoy life and make memories, not objects that will have to be repaired or replaced after a couple of years. Honestly, it seems that people I know who bought the more expensive fridge and freezer with the water and ice feature have had to repair or replace within about 3 to 4 years.
NEVER Let Her Go Out Clubbing And Having Girls Nights Out.
No Joint Savings And Checking Accounts With Her.
Get Her Her Own Accounts.
I see this happen all the time. One of the most risky things you can do is relocate a foreign wife to the US too soon. If your goal is to retire/live in the US with your Filipina or any foreign wife. You need to take small trips over several years. You need to introduce them to the side of things that are causing the issues. They need to have a strong moral compass and commitment. Culture shock causes issues, and if she doesn't understand the things that western women will say and do, then she will be very vulnerable to those type of people. And she needs to have a group of people in the US that you can introduce her to that reinforce the proper values. Without that it is a ticking time bomb.
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All good points but that also means leaving her alone in her country. That too is a recipe for disaster. It's all a matter of how many bites from the turd sandwich we are willing to take.
I like this guy!! He is a realist and He has a plan. Travel Find what you like right.
Dating Filipina for 5 years now.. she even doesn’t wanna leave the Philippines and asking me to come live with her.. but since al my experience of work is here as an proces operator, I don’t know what I could do there for having a decent paid job.. for know we will keep it a long distance relationship.. and case some people wondering.. she never asked me to give,buy or borrow her.. she so lovely and caring
6:50 Totally Agree with the Gentleman
Everyone changes in a different environment Miss Pea. Even your guest changes with his environment. I am married to a Filipina and after 20 years still going strong. Of all our friends in Filipina American marriages I only know 3 that ended up badly which is much better than the average here. It’s true in the Philippines a westerner is the hot commodity so be careful and find the right one. My advice too is don’t get in a huge age gap relationship because when you get older and she is still relatively young you can’t keep up with your homework. In some cases maybe it’s better to keep her in the Philippines but depends on the woman. Don’t just look at city girls. There are a lot of great women from the provinces. Good luck.
Presidente Bukele!!! Viva El Salvador!!!!! Desde una Tejano!!!! You have a great on-screen personality Pea!
El Salvador shows that organized crime can be beaten. A great example to all other countries.
@@gumdeo Que Viva El Salvador!!
"life is better with a good woman by your side." Key words being, "good woman".
Very interesting and informative. Other peoples experiences, often the best way to learn.
Bále was an interesting interview, Sweet Pea. He, with his great attitude, is making the best of a sad episode in his life. It is surprising that his wife did not hesitate leaving her family for the U.S. My Filipina said that she would live with me anywhere in the world, but being far away from her family would have been torture at best. After getting to know her, I would not consider asking her to leave the Philippines. Even from Dumaguete, she wants to visit the farm and family in Southern Leyte OFTEN.
Another professional interview, Sweet Pea. ❤
Win, Thank you for the very kind and thoughtful words about me.
Best,
Bále
Bàle, if only Sweet Pea could have gotten you to loosen up and talk. 😂
I lived in Asheville, NC for 40 years.
Thanks, my friend Win - I’m glad you liked it 👍❤️👍
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His story resonates with me for sure...Ot sounds like he's ready for what may come...
I too am a retiree from the military after 25 years of service...
Now I have been retired longer than i was active duty (hard to believe but time doesn't wait for anyone!)...
I haven't spent time in the USA though, expat for decades...
Having been in and out of The Philippines (and other Asian countries), I agree that women are just a better fit for me...
I think the culture's are not as modernist and women have values that are more in line with times growing up in the USA...
Good interview, Pea...Thanks...You do this well...I think you may have a future at this stuff! 😂😉
Yah Bless...
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He sounds like a great guy, it’s sad to see when good relationships go bad, but this is the reality of life anywhere as we grow and age on, we tend to have different opinions and thoughts for the vision for the future to share.I wish him the best future for him to enjoy. He offers great advise I’ll be sure to follow and adhere to. I’m planning to go to El Salvador a couple months before I go to the Philippines. I heard the same about El Salvador, I have friends in both countries. Vietnam Nam is also a great destination I’ll check out Hoi An.
I’m going to check out Vietnam, but El Salvador is just too far for me 🥺
El Salvador is another catch 22 I'll have to explain that in a whole video about why it's still a highly dangerous option ESPECIALLY for the women
Truth Finder, This is Balentino the man Pea interviewed in this video. It is true that change happens to all of us, 'change or die' I've heard said many a time. I harbor no ill will towards my ex, indeed I wish her success and happiness in her life. El Salvador is a beautiful country. The people, the food, and especially the many beautiful women will treat you with courtesy and respect; be sure to smile a lot and say hello to everyone. Best of luck to you and thank you for the very thoughtful words, they mean more than you know.
@@zetaone2669 , my ex and I are better friends now than husband and wife and talk often to catch up on each other. I was married 23 years now 68 and on a similar path as yours going to travel and find my best life and hopefully someone will be the one who is attracted to me and myself to her and our paths will align for our futures together. Good hearing from you also.
I met my ex-wife in Brazil in 1989. A year she moved to me in Germany and four years later we moved to my country the Netherlands. Over the years she turned more and more and all for the negative. One day in 2012 I met my wife of today in Thailand and since 2013 I live with her in Thailand. She's happy in Thailand and doesn't want to move to the Netherlands and I would never want to move back. I would live in South America (Brazil is still one of my favorites), but never ever bring a woman to my country again.
I just wanted to take a sec and say I really enjoy your vids. You talk about interesting things and do it with a great personality! 😎
Okay I have experience here. I brought my wife to the US in 1982. She learned to drive in the first year and has held a job ever since. She now is drawing SSI. She is definitely Americanized. She worked for 20 years on at an AIr Force base exchange and was around a lot of Filipinas. There was a few bad ones. Was it a mistake to bring here to the US. Not in my case. This guy can only speak for himself and not generalize for the rest of us.
I’m glad you have a happy ending to your story! (I was worried there for a minute) 🤣❤️❤️👍
Happy for you, but a 1982 model in cars or women, is not a 2024 issue.
12:37 Again Totally Agree with the Gentleman
Wow!!!
Nurses have a terrible reputation!!!
Stories after stories reflect this.
Top 10 spots of no go
Yeah nurses cheat a lot 🤣
I retired from the US NAVY in 1990. Nurses get a HUGE pay increase when they move to The States ... and many immediately TRADE UP!! Sad but true!!!
It is not just nurses, it's any woman who becomes independent from her husband's household and his traditional style of a "husband and wife" relationship. In effect, she realizes she no longer needs him to enjoy her newly found financial independence from his money.
Because she now earns enough income of her own to be independent, she decides she no longer needs him and gets rid of him. In other words, she did not marry him for love or a personal relationship with him; she married him for his ability to supply money into the relationship.
She married him for his money, not for his love and partnership.
However, divorced women find out later that they wish they had a partner to share their life.
Unfortunately, what happens is they usually have at least one child and begin to realize most men do not want to raise other men's children. So, any available men do not want to get involved with a single mother, and no man will date her other than for guaranteed "no-ties" sex for a date without marriage.
She's worthy as sex in trade for a date, but that's all.
Her worth is about the same as a prostitute for a night.
Pea, another great interview. He sounds like he does not hold his experience against any Filipinas. I hope that he finds true happiness.
Another great video. Live and learn, but listening to him helps you learn much faster.
Being retired military... I saw this happen more often than not. So much so that we OFTEN counseled on this subject. Because guys would fall in love.... and many marriages have failed for these same reasons. All the ways she was there... start to go away very quickly. Plus in many cases... especially if there is a bigger age gap . Him 40..her 20... the other wives are less receptive and alienate her...plus they educate her. It doesn't take long and things come to an end....
Another great video. I can tell you that living here in Queens New York about 15minutes from where I am there is a place called 'Little Manila" with a bunch of FIlipinos, many are my friends. They tell me all the time that many Filipinas they will switch up quick as soon as they come here. One Filipina which is my ex we are still friends now and we talk about this. I just shared the video with her(I told her to subscribe and like of course). She had a filipina that was brought here by a 70 year old white man only to divorce him to be with a black American just 3 years later. So bottom line, yes many Filipinas they will switch up real quick as soon as they come here. A little about me, I am 45 and lived in New York City all my life. Dating here has been horrible to the point where I started watching TH-cam videos and decided to travel. I quit my full-time job at Citibank for 12 years and decided to get a fully remote job where I could work from the Philippines starting this July. My base will be Cebu City. I took some money out of my savings and bought a condo and I have to say I am so happy I did this. Putting the women to the side, the people in the Philippines as Pea said are just very nice people. No matter what anyone tells me I know this for a fact. That is the #1 reason why I am moving there and the second is of course to hopefully find someone special. I like that you already know that 5K per month is nothing here and you are right. I am paying $3300 for a 1 bedroom apartment here in Queens New York. I won't say how much my salary is but that is only rent it does not include other expenses. The last thing I will say is this, I highly recommend any expats my age, younger or older to find a remote job here in the USA. There are SEVERAL that you can get that will pay you in USD and then move to the Philippines. So far there are two places I like so far. Iloilo Iloilo and Cebu. I can see myself living there for a long time. Do I think forever? I just don't know the answer to that yet but what I do know is I am surrounded by nice people every day and that is the most important to me. If I do get tired of the PH I will just take a short trip to Thailand, Vietnam, Indonesia, or even a trip back to New York. Finally, yes Filipina Pea IS FINE, but I am too young for her LOL LOL
Good luck man, I been in that area you talking about in Astoria, I plan on living part time in the Philiphines real soon, see you on the other side.
Congratulations, choose your happiness my friend
Happy day to you, Pea!!
Somehow you got the gold again!
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If you love someone set them free, if they come back it's meant to be.
Not always, unfortunately. Sometimes, they end up seeing how no one else is going to put up with their behavior. Then, they come crawling back hoping you will. I have an ex doing this very thing to me to this day.
Then on the other hand, it's never as good the second time as the first time.
I made this clear to my wife, a Filipina. Doing the process for a CR1, we’ve been together since 2019, and married in 2023. I told her do NOT listen to Western Woman. They will try to sabotage relationships, and that if I wanted a Western Woman, I would’ve found one. I have a similar background (A lot younger, 32 years old). Born to Dominican immigrants in the USA, joined the military, did my time in the Marines, went to college, and now I have a job that takes me all over the world.
My problem is always the same... these things happen when you don't take the time to know the woman you are marrying. Who is she? Is she smart? Is she knowledgeable about Western culture? Is she strong? Do others influence her easily? I could go on, but the point is... live with them in their own country. Get to know who they are, TALK and COMMUNICATE, and learn how they act and what their daily life is. I lived with my wife for a year in the Philippines, and frankly I wanted to live with her longer... but I had things I had to take care of in the USA, so I brought her with me. But I knew her, I knew who she was, I knew how she's fare and how she'd react here in the USA.
So, as always, my suggestion is above. KNOW your woman. Understand her. You should be aware of what's going to happen with her when her life changes, even if it's moving to the West or just getting a cat in the Philippines. In essence, know if you can take her to the USA or not. Some women will not be able to handle the West. Some will. Some will change, some won't.
I think a perfect example of a woman who would thrive and be happy in the USA is the Pea. She's smart, strong willed, understands Western culture, and is aware of what she wants and who she is and that's not going to change WHEN she ends up in the USA.
Yes, know her, and KNOW that you know her (and then pray really hard, just in case) 🤣🤣🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea The only thing I'd like to add is that young, innocent girls are more likely to experience the biggest changes in the West. My wife dated other Western men before me. She'd gone to Western countries. She wasn't young, innocent, or inexperienced. So many guys my age want girls 20-21-22... girls who haven't really had a chance to get experience and learn who they are, etc.
Taking the time to understand why things didn't work for others CAN and should help you NOT make the same mistakes :) One of the many reasons this is a fantastic channel!
Before I married my wife 13 yrs, ago I let her know I didn't want her to work. I want her to be a stay at home mom. Work begins the Westermization. Also it sounds like he didn't get the approval of the family, but just married the woman. Get in good with the family and they will keep her head right. Never treat an old fashioned woman like a modern one, because you screw everything up.
Good Evening Professor Mentor Ms Pea I Am On Time For Class I Hope You Had A Spectular Weekend Ah A Great Topic I Will Be Re Watching This One For Sure You Look Magnificent Every Thing Looks Great On You We ❤ You Ms Pea !!!
We’re both on time this time, and just in time! 🤣👍