As somebody who lives as authentically as possible, I love all of this. I do feel though that being authentic doesn’t necessarily mean speaking your heart & mind freely. Being authentic also means being aware if your words are formed from fear or love and how those words may impact those around you. Knowing when to speak your heart & mind is part of being authentic.
When I was going through my divorce, I was strongly moved to take back my "birth name". Many expressed, "Oh, you mean your maiden name." With kindness, I corrected them, by saying I am taking my identity and my truth back, which is my birth name. Once legally changed, I felt empowered again, by standing in my authentic truth. That was the 1st step, which was very liberating❤.
Good topic!!! As a former "weird" child and now a (as adults politely call it) "artsy" adult, I keep noticing that even if people have an initial negative reaction or comment to your authentic presentation of yourself or your taste/style, 90% of the time they adjust and accept it pretty quickly especially if you are matter of fact about it and not defensive.
Totally and theres nothing weirder than if you try to pretend to be normal. Like an alien in a humann skin lol! Doesnt work just makes it weirder. Best to be honest and then if people dont like you youre not stuck with them for too long pretending to be a normal😂
Truth! It took me 34 years to realize just being my weird self is easy for a reason, because it’s me! Trying to appease others’ ideas of me was exhausting and not very fulfilling- plus none of those people are around. All the folks that have known the real me throughout my life are still here anddd I have WAY better connections with the folks I let to get to know my artsy, hardworking, science/spiritual-brained, goofy, loving, REAL self 😊😊
0:11: 😌 Becoming your most authentic self is about not censoring yourself and choosing to be true to who you are. 5:58: 🔑 Authenticity is about accepting and embracing yourself for who you are, and giving yourself permission to be that authentic version of yourself in the world. 12:39: 💪 Standing in your power and embracing authenticity and belonging is a journey that requires self-reflection and self-awareness. 19:30: 💡 Belonging is the feeling of being honored and accepted for who you are, while fitting in involves suppressing authenticity to avoid judgment and bias. 24:56: 🔑 Belonging is characterized by a sense of calm and absence of anxiety or activation. 30:52: 💡 When we feel judged, our body goes into activation mode, generating energy that needs to be released. 36:43: 💪 To navigate difficult conversations or situations, it is important to script out what you will say in advance, choose affirmations or self-coaching statements, practice calming techniques like deep breathing, and visualize yourself using these tools. 41:46: ✨ By rehearsing and visualizing different scenarios, we can stand in our power and express our truth authentically. 48:43: ✨ There are three versions of ourselves: the authentic self, the performing self, and the adapted self. 54:37: ✨ Adapting behavior is a choice that can be empowering and realistic, but it should feel good and meet the needs of both oneself and others. 1:00:39: ❤ Mel expresses gratitude and excitement for supporting X's book and shares love and belief in X's abilities. Recap by Tammy AI
I believe the reason why this is so difficult for so many people is because starting at a very young age, we are taught to be "the best", instead of "be your best self" or "do your best". The behaviors that are modeled for us and the messaging we get from our caregivers, from our teachers, from our community, from social media, etc., actually sends us away from our true selves rather than toward it. If we can't figure out how to be the best then we end up feeling like we aren't enough. The truth is we are enough. We always were enough. It's not our job to fit in. It's not our job to live up to other people's expectations. We just have to be our best selves. That's it. If we can embrace that truth and truly be our best selves, the world is better for it. Thank you, Mel!!! 🖐💪❤❤❤
I have been listening to you for almost a year after a traumatic year. Without being too personal I had to make life choices that I didn't want to do. MEL you have become the voice for me to go to work, be a mom, wife, professional and find confidence. I keep digging deeper every time I Listen to your podcasts and TH-cam's! I have never commented on a You tube or followed a person. But, if my family knew where all the positive changes came from they would say Thank you ! Listening has changed trauma and gaining my identity back. The confidence has really formed and I cannot wait every day for each day to listen to your voice. I have more to tell , but I don't know where to go to be more personal so it feeds more ideas or topics for show. You make me want to grow in all areas of my life!!! I loved your walk in autumn and seasons we go through!
Dear Mel, this is very helpful and restorative. I think of you often. When I have a bad thought about a Narc. in my family, I go 5 4 3 2 1. and shift to thinking constructively. You are fun, refreshing, comforting, supportive, genius and more. You brighten up every day. Thank you. ❤️😇
Broken is the road we all travel. Some will veer towards healing and some will stay in their personal hell. Deciding to heal and reach for more can be a difficult and challenging decision to make because it's hard and it's gonna hurt there's no escaping that. You'll be dragged thru painful memories of the past and visit places that you had long buried because all you wanted to do was forget and not hurt anymore. The ups and downs of healing will make you sick, some days forward and some days back. Some days angry, but some days complete peace, but in the end the pain of healing far outweighs continuing to live in your own personal hell and sacrifice all that you can be simply because your scared. You see, fear can make you believe some really messed up stuff. That your not enough or not smart enough or talented enough or pretty enough, that your person is all wrong for you when in reality, that person is exactly who you've been looking for all your life, but we throw it all away because of fear. A four letter word just brings us to our knees and causes us to sacrifice it all. Taking us an imprisoning us in lies. For me, I choose healing no matter how long it takes, no matter what it drags me thru because I deserve to heal and I'm reaching for it and I'm not letting go. I'm gripping on tight with ever ounce of tenacity in my mortal body because for me the sky's the limit and I'm going for it. The time for me has come. A brighter future awaits us all and we're all worth it and we all deserve it. Let NO ONE tell your otherwise. We are all beautiful, strong and amazing people and it's time for all of us to let go of oue shatted past ....and heal.
Guess who else just got diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 46? Me. Suddenly, all the false beliefs are at the forefront of my mind because there are no cluttered thoughts to stop them. The message is loud and clear and I see the work I must do. The real work begins now I've always been seen as authentic but I've also always hidden behind humor and didn't speak up on things I really care about. I don't know what the next year's going to look like Mel but I know I won't be the same person that I am today
Authenticity is not something you can learn from others in podcasts or books etc because it’s all about the unique YOU. The great spiritual teachings all advise looking within (the hardest thing to do). We always find distractions to waylay us from that most important goal and purpose of existence. Self-help gurus like Mel are legion, and are all there in this modern age for purposes not necessarily to benefit the genuine seeker. Then again we are so accustomed to the quick fix from someone else to our personal issues, that Mel’s profession has boomed with the new technology. Start your authentic journey NOW, by following the shortest direct path to yourSELF, not the long looping tourist drive via the advice of others who are also on their own path. Good luck!❤️
I am glad you had this lady, Ritu on the podcast and helped her feel welcomed with understanding and compassion. I have Indian friends here in England and they said she is American trying to find her identity, starting with the pronunciation of her Indian name (Albeit not the 'correct' pronunciation according to them, can't win)!. I hope she feels comfortable in her identity and knows she is loved and accepted for who she is. England is a beautiful place for all nationalities, especially here in London. Ritu - keep strong!
I've watched 45 minutes. I will finish the episode. The application of this process is so promising and inspiring. I can already imagine infinite possibilities to coach myself into my power. I believe I will be successful even coaching my responses when doing chores I hate. One chore being balancing our my monthly finances. I dread doing it, and find myself talking negatively which sparks a whole train of negativity that won't stop and drains me. By coaching myself to be in my body I can heal my nervous system gradually. I am not being delusional and not faces my finances, but I'm also not creating worst negativity, and I still honestly & earnestly acknowledge my feelings towards my finances. speaker rocked.
Mel Robbins has a remarkable ability to dive deep into topics like self-discovery and personal growth, and I have no doubt that this episode will be no exception. Understanding ourselves is the key to unlocking a life filled with purpose, fulfillment, and genuine happiness. It's inspiring to know that this podcast will likely offer practical insights and actionable steps to embark on the journey of self-discovery.
Her topic is simple, not everyone is street smart to over come all situations. Some are innocent and sensitive , sudden discussion on new topic which you never know, some one might insult on street or get together. How to prepare for that situation. In order to not panic, hate others, become introvert. Just prepare for possible awkward situation based on your intelligence, before stepping out. Relatives/ friends/ manager /collegue/ stranger/ kids/ parents. Anyone you are going to meet on that day. So, you will be hero to yourself all the time ❤️
I feel like the core wisdom crosses over with the values from a precious episode. Both keep you anchored, focused, and moving/deciding what is in alignment with you.
This was meant for me too and feel empowered to be true & honest and how I show up and how anybody thinks or feels about me is within me to fix, help or stress over. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK MEL & RITU. 😅LOVE YOU MEL ❤
Good topic but I don't think more buzz words and phrases could have been used! I made it until the last 15 minutes and then I couldn't take it any longer. Basically, what the guest said is, be yourself, be confident in yourself, know your audience, stand up for yourself, and say what is on your mind. "Stand in your power"....."speak your truth".....When someone says these kinds of things, I have come to tune them out. I noticed the guest's message what tinged with anger. I guess that is her truth. Admittedly, I am irritated so it takes one irritated person to call out another. LOL! Mel, I love your podcasts and your books. Thanks for being you and the work you do.
Amazing Podcast. I will be using these tips to immediately as I am in the midst of marriage therapy. I have already kind of used them similar to what has been in this podcast. I have already thought out how the conversation will go at our next session. I will use affirmations to not get sucked into the emotions of things. I already use calming techniques because I do this to keep myself calm. I am glad I am on the right track with how I respond to accusations, criticism, and judgement. Thank you for this podcast.
Hi very helpful!!! I frequently feel like everyone is able to do themselves but I can’t. This presentation helped me to understand why I feel the need to change myself. Adapt my true self with my adaptive self!!!!
Thank you Mel for Your Channel, it comes in at a time, when i had / have gotten so weird after a life changing tragedy, i no longer knew who i was and was often very negative to myself, and don't attempt to make new friends, this topic has given me some framework to start. I really am having to locate my Authentic self as i was before the Tragedy. Thank you again i love your Podcast!
Oh this is freakn amazing!!! Wow. I love the idea of rehersing situations beforehand as it makes me intentional on how I react as opposed to the autopilot reaction from my conditioning oh wow!!! Yep! And the adaptive self where I can choose to act a certain way that will serve me and others..now that that s standing in my power 💃💃💃 Coz now I can stop judging people for acting strategic! Wow! Oh Mel, I tell yah, every episode I watch I feel like its the best ever 😂 gosh!!! But yeah, thanks a lot for this! Definately will apply this today. Thanks for creating this podcast!
Thank you, Mel! This podcast answered several questions, as I move towaed more of my authentic self without the emotional bottoms and practice the principles suggested.
I have ADD, so I usually say and or do inappropriate things, I am very authentic 😅. I need to change or adapt or so I’m told in a nice way frequently to adapt…..
Shout out to Schwabls!!! It’s about a mile away from me. ❤ Thanks for this video. The term “authentic self” bugs me because I hear it thrown out in the same way that Gen Zs will tell me to ‘educate myself’ (aka watch tiktok videos). I’m glad to hear you say out loud what you believe “authentic” means. Question: if you “stand in your power” and “speak your truth”, it’s going to start an argument with my spouse. How do I control that??
Question : to « fit in” feels natural when surrounded by like minded people - and having a sense of belonging comes to me where there is a bond - a caramaderie . Can you relate? To be yourself can be easy in the right environnement and take courage in that same environnement but faced with a challenging situation which triggers who you choose to be n that moment . How you respond is a choice - this sense of being grounded also sounds like ACT . therapy
Seems incredibly confusing. 😢 People are soooo hard to understand. It's why I have learned it is better to mostly be alone. I don't have to play up to people.
You can't always "script" for some situations e.g. the situation Mel gave i.e. not being invited away with your friends! Some situations you experience unexpectedly.
I enjoy these videos but, the super long ads have my adhd brain burning. I feel like just when I was feeling good about the topic a loooong ad pops up. I have to stop what I’m doing to press the skip ad button. 🙃
love the podcast. I don't teach my kids that a particular set of characterizes belong to a certain race. Define acting/being white, black, Indian, etc..
Hey Mel I'm aware this is about a different subject but I'm new to conversing on here. What if I genuinely think I'm both a box jumper and box stepper. I'm 43 and I'm stuck I can see where I want to end up but I'm analysing the next steps so much that I do nothing.
The' world leading' expert Ritu couldn't give any advice on Mel's scenario of friends acting like jerks! Also, she pretends to be in HR when she can't be bothered to engage in polite conversation. I think we have seen her true authentic self😂
The racism in America still surprises me. This lady looks like she can be from anywhere, French, Latin, Italian, Indian. The ISA is made up of immigrants yet she got bullied??? I had to leave the country. I can’t live among that.
I know it probably isn't the most important but I was hoping to hear the script when not invited or last minute. Mine ironically is a group of friends I have (Canadians who have lived here for 50+ years) who frequently say I don't think like "them" (from different parts of India) and it would be easier for me if I did. Even when I try to explain my reasons. I feel it's time to back away from this group?
I had a wonderful day yesterday….I had my first Ketamine infusion and I was with my mom who passed 10 years ago…I WAS…WAS..until my sons got under my skin…I wrote youngest son about the marvelous thing that I experienced…I got a thumbs up…other son asked if I was talking to my bitch sister that took my moms ashes behind my back…non of their business..NEGATIVE ENERGY..now today this late afternoon I Feel like SHIT…but I cannot say anything…going to shit on me ! Other son told me when I asked a question about my grandson…he said THANKS…you just ruined my night..What the HELL! I don’t understand
Love Mel and listened to several of her podcasts, but didnt like this one, good topic but hard to understand and a bit boring, nothing like others that engage you right away.
10:12 but Ritu cannot pronounce her name the Indian way herself... I live in India, and she pronounces it like American trying to pronounce in Indian. So Ritu, you don't speak Indian such as Hindi, Marathi or Bengali? Do you only demand white people pronounce it properly? Because in India, everyone accepts other nations accents and appreciates them trying with no animosity. They say "Indian who are born or raised in America become righteous and want power over people" Now I see for myself for the first time. I learned a valuble lesson from you Ritu. Please visit India, it will humble you. Bless you, sister.
You told me that you are helping me but I don't see anything except you talk bad about me and you and your friends make fun of me by telling people that I am a perverted.
Great topic, I really learned a lot and enjoyed this conversation. My heart also goes out to @RituBhasin and her mother who has Alzheimer's Disease. It is something that has impacted my family as well
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As somebody who lives as authentically as possible, I love all of this. I do feel though that being authentic doesn’t necessarily mean speaking your heart & mind freely. Being authentic also means being aware if your words are formed from fear or love and how those words may impact those around you. Knowing when to speak your heart & mind is part of being authentic.
When I was going through my divorce, I was strongly moved to take back my "birth name". Many expressed, "Oh, you mean your maiden name." With kindness, I corrected them, by saying I am taking my identity and my truth back, which is my birth name. Once legally changed, I felt empowered again, by standing in my authentic truth. That was the 1st step, which was very liberating❤.
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Congratulations 🎉
Good topic!!! As a former "weird" child and now a (as adults politely call it) "artsy" adult, I keep noticing that even if people have an initial negative reaction or comment to your authentic presentation of yourself or your taste/style, 90% of the time they adjust and accept it pretty quickly especially if you are matter of fact about it and not defensive.
Totally and theres nothing weirder than if you try to pretend to be normal. Like an alien in a humann skin lol! Doesnt work just makes it weirder. Best to be honest and then if people dont like you youre not stuck with them for too long pretending to be a normal😂
😂❤🙌😊🎉💃💯
Truth! It took me 34 years to realize just being my weird self is easy for a reason, because it’s me! Trying to appease others’ ideas of me was exhausting and not very fulfilling- plus none of those people are around. All the folks that have known the real me throughout my life are still here anddd I have WAY better connections with the folks I let to get to know my artsy, hardworking, science/spiritual-brained, goofy, loving, REAL self 😊😊
😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
I have seen first hand that it is weirder to try to act "normal" 😅 I am more relaxed when being my true self. This was a great video!
0:11: 😌 Becoming your most authentic self is about not censoring yourself and choosing to be true to who you are.
5:58: 🔑 Authenticity is about accepting and embracing yourself for who you are, and giving yourself permission to be that authentic version of yourself in the world.
12:39: 💪 Standing in your power and embracing authenticity and belonging is a journey that requires self-reflection and self-awareness.
19:30: 💡 Belonging is the feeling of being honored and accepted for who you are, while fitting in involves suppressing authenticity to avoid judgment and bias.
24:56: 🔑 Belonging is characterized by a sense of calm and absence of anxiety or activation.
30:52: 💡 When we feel judged, our body goes into activation mode, generating energy that needs to be released.
36:43: 💪 To navigate difficult conversations or situations, it is important to script out what you will say in advance, choose affirmations or self-coaching statements, practice calming techniques like deep breathing, and visualize yourself using these tools.
41:46: ✨ By rehearsing and visualizing different scenarios, we can stand in our power and express our truth authentically.
48:43: ✨ There are three versions of ourselves: the authentic self, the performing self, and the adapted self.
54:37: ✨ Adapting behavior is a choice that can be empowering and realistic, but it should feel good and meet the needs of both oneself and others.
1:00:39: ❤ Mel expresses gratitude and excitement for supporting X's book and shares love and belief in X's abilities.
Recap by Tammy AI
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I believe the reason why this is so difficult for so many people is because starting at a very young age, we are taught to be "the best", instead of "be your best self" or "do your best". The behaviors that are modeled for us and the messaging we get from our caregivers, from our teachers, from our community, from social media, etc., actually sends us away from our true selves rather than toward it. If we can't figure out how to be the best then we end up feeling like we aren't enough. The truth is we are enough. We always were enough. It's not our job to fit in. It's not our job to live up to other people's expectations. We just have to be our best selves. That's it. If we can embrace that truth and truly be our best selves, the world is better for it. Thank you, Mel!!! 🖐💪❤❤❤
So true! We are enough! Thank you!
@@bethanienaylor you're so welcome. Hope you are enjoying a peaceful holiday weekend with loved ones. 💖
Tired of feeling like I’m never enough! I enjoy being my authentic self. As I get older, I do not care what folks think. Great show. Thank you!!
I have been listening to you for almost a year after a traumatic year. Without being too personal I had to make life choices that I didn't want to do. MEL you have become the voice for me to go to work, be a mom, wife, professional and find confidence. I keep digging deeper every time I Listen to your podcasts and TH-cam's!
I have never commented on a You tube or followed a person. But, if my family knew where all the positive changes came from they would say Thank you ! Listening has changed trauma and gaining my identity back. The confidence has really formed and I cannot wait every day for each day to listen to your voice. I have more to tell , but I don't know where to go to be more personal so it feeds more ideas or topics for show. You make me want to grow in all areas of my life!!! I loved your walk in autumn and seasons we go through!
Dear Mel, this is very helpful and restorative.
I think of you often. When I have a bad thought about a Narc. in my family, I go 5 4 3 2 1. and shift to
thinking constructively.
You are fun, refreshing, comforting, supportive, genius
and more. You brighten up every day. Thank you. ❤️😇
Broken is the road we all travel. Some will veer towards healing and some will stay in their personal hell.
Deciding to heal and reach for more can be a difficult and challenging decision to make because it's hard and it's gonna hurt there's no escaping that. You'll be dragged thru painful memories of the past and visit places that you had long buried because all you wanted to do was forget and not hurt anymore. The ups and downs of healing will make you sick, some days forward and some days back. Some days angry, but some days complete peace, but in the end the pain of healing far outweighs continuing to live in your own personal hell and sacrifice all that you can be simply because your scared.
You see, fear can make you believe some really messed up stuff. That your not enough or not smart enough or talented enough or pretty enough, that your person is all wrong for you when in reality, that person is exactly who you've been looking for all your life, but we throw it all away because of fear. A four letter word just brings us to our knees and causes us to sacrifice it all. Taking us an imprisoning us in lies.
For me, I choose healing no matter how long it takes, no matter what it drags me thru because I deserve to heal and I'm reaching for it and I'm not letting go. I'm gripping on tight with ever ounce of tenacity in my mortal body because for me the sky's the limit and I'm going for it. The time for me has come.
A brighter future awaits us all and we're all worth it and we all deserve it. Let NO ONE tell your otherwise. We are all beautiful, strong and amazing people and it's time for all of us to let go of oue shatted past ....and heal.
What a powerful comment. Thank you so much, I needed it today.
Can I say 'I love you' if that doesn't offend you. I mean you're really changing our life, Thank you so much for your words, positivity and insights ❤
Guess who else just got diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 46? Me. Suddenly, all the false beliefs are at the forefront of my mind because there are no cluttered thoughts to stop them. The message is loud and clear and I see the work I must do. The real work begins now I've always been seen as authentic but I've also always hidden behind humor and didn't speak up on things I really care about. I don't know what the next year's going to look like Mel but I know I won't be the same person that I am today
Yet another amazing topic !! Can’t wait to check out her new book !!
Authenticity is not something you can learn from others in podcasts or books etc because it’s all about the unique YOU. The great spiritual teachings all advise looking within (the hardest thing to do). We always find distractions to waylay us from that most important goal and purpose of existence. Self-help gurus like Mel are legion, and are all there in this modern age for purposes not necessarily to benefit the genuine seeker. Then again we are so accustomed to the quick fix from someone else to our personal issues, that Mel’s profession has boomed with the new technology. Start your authentic journey NOW, by following the shortest direct path to yourSELF, not the long looping tourist drive via the advice of others who are also on their own path. Good luck!❤️
So who would you suggest I follow instead?.....
Just kidding. 😅
@@bethanienaylor Having a sense of humor like yours is a good start! You have all the tools. Good luck!❤️👍🏼
@@queenslander7756 Thank you Queenslander!
I am glad you had this lady, Ritu on the podcast and helped her feel welcomed with understanding and compassion. I have Indian friends here in England and they said she is American trying to find her identity, starting with the pronunciation of her Indian name (Albeit not the 'correct' pronunciation according to them, can't win)!. I hope she feels comfortable in her identity and knows she is loved and accepted for who she is. England is a beautiful place for all nationalities, especially here in London. Ritu - keep strong!
I've watched 45 minutes. I will finish the episode. The application of this process is so promising and inspiring. I can already imagine infinite possibilities to coach myself into my power. I believe I will be successful even coaching my responses when doing chores I hate. One chore being balancing our my monthly finances. I dread doing it, and find myself talking negatively which sparks a whole train of negativity that won't stop and drains me. By coaching myself to be in my body I can heal my nervous system gradually. I am not being delusional and not faces my finances, but I'm also not creating worst negativity, and I still honestly & earnestly acknowledge my feelings towards my finances. speaker rocked.
Mel Robbins has a remarkable ability to dive deep into topics like self-discovery and personal growth, and I have no doubt that this episode will be no exception. Understanding ourselves is the key to unlocking a life filled with purpose, fulfillment, and genuine happiness. It's inspiring to know that this podcast will likely offer practical insights and actionable steps to embark on the journey of self-discovery.
Thank you for this refreshing and inspiring podcast,especially needed in these times of censoring people's authentic voices 🌈
Mel - great show. We should never ever allow ourselves be defined by others. Be our true selves and all will emerge as it should. 🙏
Her topic is simple, not everyone is street smart to over come all situations. Some are innocent and sensitive , sudden discussion on new topic which you never know, some one might insult on street or get together. How to prepare for that situation. In order to not panic, hate others, become introvert. Just prepare for possible awkward situation based on your intelligence, before stepping out. Relatives/ friends/ manager /collegue/ stranger/ kids/ parents. Anyone you are going to meet on that day. So, you will be hero to yourself all the time ❤️
I feel like the core wisdom crosses over with the values from a precious episode. Both keep you anchored, focused, and moving/deciding what is in alignment with you.
This was meant for me too and feel empowered to be true & honest and how I show up and how anybody thinks or feels about me is within me to fix, help or stress over. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK MEL & RITU. 😅LOVE YOU MEL ❤
I hear ya Mel about being Authentic-Self!👍🙏🙏💓💗💞💟💖
You’re so funny Mel I love the walks you take us on 😭😭💕💕💕 you make me really WANT to be better and accept all of me
Good topic but I don't think more buzz words and phrases could have been used! I made it until the last 15 minutes and then I couldn't take it any longer. Basically, what the guest said is, be yourself, be confident in yourself, know your audience, stand up for yourself, and say what is on your mind. "Stand in your power"....."speak your truth".....When someone says these kinds of things, I have come to tune them out. I noticed the guest's message what tinged with anger. I guess that is her truth. Admittedly, I am irritated so it takes one irritated person to call out another. LOL! Mel, I love your podcasts and your books. Thanks for being you and the work you do.
This video was extremely beneficial for me, and I’m confidently saying including MANY others as well ❣️
OMG...
I really needed to hear this today. Thank You both 💞
Thank you Mel. I am needing to get your books. 😮❤🎉
This was freaken amazing Mel, I can't thank you enough. ❤❤❤❤ I have to share it. Love you guys. Keep them coming!😊
Amazing Podcast.
I will be using these tips to immediately as I am in the midst of marriage therapy. I have already kind of used them similar to what has been in this podcast. I have already thought out how the conversation will go at our next session. I will use affirmations to not get sucked into the emotions of things. I already use calming techniques because I do this to keep myself calm. I am glad I am on the right track with how I respond to accusations, criticism, and judgement.
Thank you for this podcast.
I guessed it right! Mel is the realest!
Hi very helpful!!! I frequently feel like everyone is able to do themselves but I can’t. This presentation helped me to understand why I feel the need to change myself. Adapt my true self with my adaptive self!!!!
Informative.... knowledge of 3 selfs. Adaptable self, authentic self, performing self
One of my absolute favorite topic, thanks for sharing !! ❤
Great video! Thank you both!
always relevant being authentic and not fake! ☮️
Thank you Mel for Your Channel, it comes in at a time, when i had / have gotten so weird after a life changing tragedy, i no longer knew who i was and was often very negative to myself, and don't attempt to make new friends, this topic has given me some framework to start. I really am having to locate my Authentic self as i was before the Tragedy. Thank you again i love your Podcast!
Oh this is freakn amazing!!! Wow. I love the idea of rehersing situations beforehand as it makes me intentional on how I react as opposed to the autopilot reaction from my conditioning oh wow!!!
Yep! And the adaptive self where I can choose to act a certain way that will serve me and others..now that that s standing in my power 💃💃💃 Coz now I can stop judging people for acting strategic! Wow!
Oh Mel, I tell yah, every episode I watch I feel like its the best ever 😂 gosh!!!
But yeah, thanks a lot for this!
Definately will apply this today.
Thanks for creating this podcast!
Hence I keep finding myself on your podcasts😅. You are relatable. Probably the most relatable person I've ever seen and heard on TH-cam. I'm stuck!!
Iam so happy that I want to cry that I found the right woman to help me I did everything you did I need this thank you for being you god bless you
You can't let everyone go and sit in isolation by being authentic
Fantastic!!
Thank you 💙 I love you too!!!
Omg this is soo me😢 , I want to cry now when I think at all of this think
I like how Ritu said that someone's judgment takes away their love and opportunities from us. Well thought and said.
What is the guest full name?
Thank you, Mel! This podcast answered several questions, as I move towaed more of my authentic self without the emotional bottoms and practice the principles suggested.
i really love her energy & wisdom. Thank you Mel!!!!
I have ADD, so I usually say and or do inappropriate things, I am very authentic 😅. I need to change or adapt or so I’m told in a nice way frequently to adapt…..
Yes Mel yes!!!!! 6 minutes in and you are describing me to the tee!!!! Can’t wait to hear the rest… off I go …
You’re so 💯
You bring on the BEST GUESTS!!!!!
Awesome I enjoyed it Thanks
Shout out to Schwabls!!! It’s about a mile away from me. ❤
Thanks for this video. The term “authentic self” bugs me because I hear it thrown out in the same way that Gen Zs will tell me to ‘educate myself’ (aka watch tiktok videos). I’m glad to hear you say out loud what you believe “authentic” means.
Question: if you “stand in your power” and “speak your truth”, it’s going to start an argument with my spouse. How do I control that??
I love you Mel Robbins ❤
This is the authentic me....when are u all gonna do that?
Wow, I thought I was alone. Thanks Ladies!
Catch up on my evening walk later Mel, you rock 👌
Question : to « fit in” feels natural when surrounded by like minded people - and having a sense of belonging comes to me where there is a bond - a caramaderie . Can you relate? To be yourself can be easy in the right environnement and take courage in that same environnement but faced with a challenging situation which triggers who you choose to be n that moment . How you respond is a choice - this sense of being grounded also sounds like ACT . therapy
Loved it thank you 🥰
Everyone always mispronounces my name but it doesnt bother me.
I listen to Eckhart Tolle too much to attach my ego to my name.
“A rose by any other name is still a rose.”
Amazing episode ❤❤❤❤
Seems incredibly confusing. 😢
People are soooo hard to understand.
It's why I have learned it is better to mostly be alone. I don't have to play up to people.
Who is this guest? She is awesome!!!! Thank you Mel
You can't always "script" for some situations e.g. the situation Mel gave i.e. not being invited away with your friends! Some situations you experience unexpectedly.
Love Mel
I enjoy these videos but, the super long ads have my adhd brain burning. I feel like just when I was feeling good about the topic a loooong ad pops up. I have to stop what I’m doing to press the skip ad button. 🙃
I think after covid people need courage to come out of cacoon. I hope we come out of this trauma soon.
Mel you’re my favorite chick UTuber❣️U ALWAYS POST THE BEST VIDEOS GIRLIE
My therapist sends me your videos to help me work through things. I think I'll send this one to him before he has a chance 😂
love the podcast. I don't teach my kids that a particular set of characterizes belong to a certain race. Define acting/being white, black, Indian, etc..
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Your pod's are so important because our culture is broken. Period.
Hey Mel I'm aware this is about a different subject but I'm new to conversing on here.
What if I genuinely think I'm both a box jumper and box stepper.
I'm 43 and I'm stuck I can see where I want to end up but I'm analysing the next steps so much that I do nothing.
As to the group of friends I would openly ask the reason for not being included in the organisation and make things harder for them.
Is the performing self the same as being in survival mode?
Mel vid yoy do personal i. lune therapy? i am in need of help
Embracing your authentic self is the key to a better life. Let us help you showcase your uniqueness and true potential to the world.
Cotton candy and purple currants… please, do continue 😂👍🙏🏻
The' world leading' expert Ritu couldn't give any advice on Mel's scenario of friends acting like jerks! Also, she pretends to be in HR when she can't be bothered to engage in polite conversation. I think we have seen her true authentic self😂
I live in South. And when I stands my ground or express my will and wishes I named "Karen" nobody like when I speak my mind! May be I am to authentic!
Bull’s-eye Mel😊 Good job 👍
Man! I will have to look for you at Kayne Prime next time.
49:35 ❤
You should stick to what you know…whatever that is.
You know people can even get simple names wrong. Ugghs. heh
The racism in America still surprises me. This lady looks like she can be from anywhere, French, Latin, Italian, Indian. The ISA is made up of immigrants yet she got bullied??? I had to leave the country. I can’t live among that.
I know it probably isn't the most important but I was hoping to hear the script when not invited or last minute.
Mine ironically is a group of friends I have (Canadians who have lived here for 50+ years) who frequently say I don't think like "them" (from different parts of India) and it would be easier for me if I did. Even when I try to explain my reasons.
I feel it's time to back away from this group?
That face she made when mel said her last name.. 😂
I had a wonderful day yesterday….I had my first Ketamine infusion and I was with my mom who passed 10 years ago…I WAS…WAS..until my sons got under my skin…I wrote youngest son about the marvelous thing that I experienced…I got a thumbs up…other son asked if I was talking to my bitch sister that took my moms ashes behind my back…non of their business..NEGATIVE ENERGY..now today this late afternoon I Feel like SHIT…but I cannot say anything…going to shit on me ! Other son told me when I asked a question about my grandson…he said THANKS…you just ruined my night..What the HELL! I don’t understand
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Love Mel and listened to several of her podcasts, but didnt like this one, good topic but hard to understand and a bit boring, nothing like others that engage you right away.
10:12 but Ritu cannot pronounce her name the Indian way herself... I live in India, and she pronounces it like American trying to pronounce in Indian. So Ritu, you don't speak Indian such as Hindi, Marathi or Bengali? Do you only demand white people pronounce it properly? Because in India, everyone accepts other nations accents and appreciates them trying with no animosity. They say "Indian who are born or raised in America become righteous and want power over people" Now I see for myself for the first time. I learned a valuble lesson from you Ritu. Please visit India, it will humble you. Bless you, sister.
oh damn
You told me that you are helping me but I don't see anything except you talk bad about me and you and your friends make fun of me by telling people that I am a perverted.
I see you are helping them instead of helping me. I won't watching your channel again. Don't waste your time.
Boooooring!!! Im out🤮🤮🤮
Horrible… I didn’t understand anything about authenticity
Get rid of the cow ring.
Social justice warrior? That’s so 2020.
Great topic, I really learned a lot and enjoyed this conversation. My heart also goes out to @RituBhasin and her mother who has Alzheimer's Disease. It is something that has impacted my family as well