Even before then it was fairly easy. My divorce was petitioned for in April 2016 and final decree by November and all my ex wife had to say was irreconcilable differences.
You should be able to end the marriage without giving a reason. It doesn't work anymore. Of course mature people have talkrd about divorce BEFORE getting married and have madd a prenup. Not talking about the end of a relationship is just stupid.
Most people that are pro marriage put strong emphasis on the subjective part of marriage. Love and feelings and then they ignore objective reality of what’s actually happening. There is also a hint of I’m “special” so this can’t happen to me.
Just one minor point. You mentioned divorce laws are outdated. I disagree. The laws are up-to-date and are constantly evolving due to new divorce case law that comes out every month. The problem with divorce involves a lot of lies, hidden money, fake valuations, fake mortgage capacities, low/middle income families, and ruthless divorce lawyers. The UK judges are biased towards the wife/mother to be on the safe side and consequently it is common for the husband/father to lose 70% of their net worth to the mother/kids. There's not enough money to go around for judges to give husband and wife 50 : 50 equally (as this could result in mothers/kids being made homeless). So wives/mothers get 70%. However, just to be clear, I think you were one of the most knowledgeable and balanced on the panel. I lost 70% in my divorce.
Watching married people try to avoid talking about the objective downsides and troubling statistics around marriage is comical. And I say that as someone who is engaged
Smart people learn from there mistakes wise people learn from other people's mistakes as a 50yr male was married for 20yrs and worked other males who got divorced by there wives pearl is absolutely correct .
@@garawa1987 some people have rose colored glasses sure. But others have come out of bad situations with opaque glasses that make them fall deep into the current social media echo chamber that tells them that women are bad and the system is against them. They end up listening to people who are now profiting off your misery as they tell you half truths and incomplete statistics. Take heed.
She is not anti marriage. She is anti new norms in society where marriage is about "happiness"of the woman rather than a duty to your significant other and children. Traditional marriage is what she is speaking about.
R u that dense lol. Women benefit from marriage more than men do. Y should men get married when they have nothing to gain from it. Pearl is calling out this BS in the western world
If a woman or a man is withholding sex from your relationship cheating is never the answer. You can first try to find a Solution as to why he/she isn't giving you sex and if that dosent work you can then LEAVE the relationship/marriage. This whole "she made me cheat" is bullshit, you have other options and choices besides cheating.
At the end of the day selfish decisions lead to self reactions. Don't start a problem with someone and expect their goodwill to let you off the hook. If a person is selfishly withholding sex THEY should find a solution for why they aren't giving sex or be prepared for a selfish retaliation.
Depends, some women out there genuinely use sex as a weapon, like outright “yeah? Not going to do what i say ? Fine you are not getting this”. And i have seen plenty of women who are just unhappy no matter what you do. At one point you are bound to be like “i tried everything, fuck this shit” You can’t just leave a marriage as a man, you will get fleeced of half your posessions.
Men and women need sex. Literally. It's good for your health both physical and mental. Men need it more and crave it more. But both NEED it. At that point it's a duty. If you are withholding your duty as a marriage mate you lose all right to complain about your partners reaction to you failing the marriage. THATS bullshit
I can’t Believe she thinks strippers are wife material. Like what is wrong with women now a days they just encourage bad behavior and want no consequences for what they do.
I got in a online panel debate by stating to a feminist, 'can a Pimp be a good husband,'? in which the only household income is to get girls to strip and be prostitutes. Straight silence from the women. There were no concrete answers from them. Common sense isn't so common these days.
Pearl and Sa Ra already said everything I was going to…. So I’ll just say, I shake this backside for my husband ONLY, daily. That’s why Im a wife; The only validation I need is from him and he’s ALWAYS happy to see me shake it 😂❤
You would be surprised how many women have grown up and still believe that what you just said is sexist/misogynistic. Sexual liberation has become the definition of women's rights today. and women's ability to be judged by others, especially men.
Its so puzzling to me that woman don't understand this. I married as a virgin and I feel like being sexy just for my man and only for him is the greatest thing u can do for him out a love cause he will always be all I ever wanted to be happy because he is a good man and deserves only my attention and I will give it to no one else.
it is mindboggling how ppl will be against marriage bcuz other ppl's marriage fell apart. Every marriage/relationship is different. Plus we don't know what goes on inside someone's home, so you will never get the full picture. Anybody that is worth anything can find a quality spouse. Two ppl that are willing to make it work can be happily married. And making it work is not a trait specific to a particular gender.
I would have agreed, however when divorce is now so common, and not something that happens in extreme cases any longer you have to look at it and think that there is a common denominator. It's like a few people getting heart attacks compared to 50% of the population getting heart attacks. There is clearly something wrong in the latter case. It seems to me that women no longer have any stake in marital/intimate relationships, which is the biggest issue.
@@prayerjoseph9776 To use your analogy obesity contributes to heart attack risk, so obese ppl having heart attacks should not come as a surprise. In the redpill space, men are not told to pursue a wife they are told to pursue women. Men pursuing women should not be surprised that the women they pursue are not wife material. Finding a wife is a specific and intentional process.
@@jasonwhite6463 Exactly, obesity is a common denominator in heart attacks. If 50% of the population was suffering from heart attacks we would know it's probably because most of them are obese, we won't say every heart attack is different, we don't know what was going on in their lives, so we will never get the full picture. Yes, there is nuance, but if it's that common then there is obviously a pattern. You think the redpill is causing this?
@@jasonwhite6463 The reason why 50% of marriages will end in divorce should be no surprise to us by now, yet you are acting as though we can never find out why this is happening, as if it is something unique when it is very common now.
@@prayerjoseph9776 You didn't address my previous comment, also I didn't say anything about the frequency of divorce. I simply take issue with the notions that all divorces are the same and that women and solely responsible for them happening.
For Pearl NOT to be married, NOT to be in a relationship but she’s giving advice is so confusing. She don’t know what goes on in a marriage. I’m so sick of her and her OPINION….
Fucking pay attention 6:20 She's against how marriage is a huge disadvantage for men "Marriage is good for families. I want to get married but the laws around it need to change to make it more equal for men"
@@pcos2401 First of all, dont curse at me! Disagree all you want, but don't get disrespectful! I heard what she said, in the US, states dont have a cookie cutter rule when it comes to divorce, if she actually did some research instead of regurgitating what others have said then it'd be different!
twerking is black culture tho. Telling a black woman not to twerk is like telling a white man to mind their business and not to report criminal activity. Its not in their nature!!!
Sa Ra Garvey, Pearl and the guy next to Pearl on her right hand side were flat out speaking facts and I agreed with everything they said. The thicker black lady next to Sa Ra Garvey was just all over the places and just saying wild stuff that were not facts and did not make sense most of the time
Of course marriage is a beautiful thing however it depends in what society and how one is raised. Think about it by nature we are designed to be married. Even without paperwork of a marriage certificate we naturally do what married couples would do. If you inner-stand how marriage actually works. There are different societies and cultures that #MakeItCommon for girls to reach certain ages to learn and prepare for womanhood and marriage. Likewise with boys at certain ages to learn of manhood and marriage. Western Society doesn't really teach these things as priority that's why it's all scattered hence why some people are anti-marriage they have seen it not work
Coming from a divorced family, I honestly didn't see the point in marriage either. Until I tried and tested a relationship with a person to its fullest capacity (knowing eachother for nearly a decade before even considering marriage, living together for 2 years, then living long distance for 2 years all while genuinely wanting to be bonded to the other through love and commitment) did I even think it was possible to be in a happily committed marriage. Not everyone has had that opportunity with someone who's both compatible and willing put forth the effort that relationships require. So I don't blame those who are still skeptical. I think that's fair. I know for a fact that a solid marrital level commited relationship makes life exponentially easier and more enjoyable than being alone. But I also know that being alone is far preferable to a long string of bad relationships with people who use and abuse you.
5:33 "people divorce because of incompatible values", Pearls response "women leave because of money", modern woman's response "if you love someone you'll want to see them grow". She proves Pearl's point, her "love" is dependent on her mans wallet. That's not values, that's materialism.
The true beauty of marriage is when there’s a fear of God within. I cannot fathom out a reason to get married and have children if you’re not going to involve Christ in it.
100%. If you are not god-fearing then marriage is completely meaningless. If you don't have God in your life, marriage is just a piece of paper and a ring.
Fucking pay attention 6:23 She's against how marriage today is a massive disadvantage for men "I want to get married but the laws surrounding it need to change to make it more equal for men"
Women get sole custody more often because men don’t want sole custody…many wouldn’t know how to cope 😄. Men rarely end a marriage because it’s cheaper for them to stay in one, even when they aren’t acting right. Pearl just shut up man, you’re an American In Britain speaking on marriage within an American context. Very few are being ‘paid’ to leave a marriage in England, it just doesn’t work like that here. Spousal support is for housewives and/or those divorcing very wealthy men. So, the minority.
#exactly...we don't want to hear that regurgitated shit here in US either, she sounds like a tape recorder, same "facts", it is tired, she never provides nuance or contexts, just spits out the same shit and things are more complex than just "80% of women leave" and "bitch, why is that?!" 🤦🏾♀️🤣 Shut up!
It's cheaper for men to stay married (no matter how much they want to leave) because divorce spells financial ruin 😂 It's why men go out to buy milk and never come back How about make divorces just as feasible for men? I don't care how wealthy your partner is, no one is entitled to spousal support because of some bullshit wedding ceremony
Pearl has no real life experience. She just regurgitates talking points from Red Pill men. That’s why she lost the debate with Hafeez because she’s not genuine. She’s a panderer and female version of Derrick Jaxn.
The courts need to revisit their divorce laws. Their outdated , and being exploited for personal gains. Prenup is only way to go today. Better solution is the laws need to be updated
A happily married or totally committed couple is the best environment for kids to grow up in. Hands down. That alone is a good reason for marriage. If you don't plan on being happy with the same person forever or having kids, don't get married.
We are group animals, not nuclear family animals. Kids need a group to grow up healthy. And marriage is no guarantee for a healthy upbringing. You just spew out conservative lies.
I got married and divorced in the UK. I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity. Divorce laws in the UK are OK however these blue pill Karen divorce judges and divorce lawyers are ruthless. Lies, hidden money, fraudulent valuations and mortgage capacities are common in UK divorce. And these judges generally side with the mother/wife to be on the safe side. Getting married has been the worst mistake of my entire life.
@@ekg891 pre-nups are not really a thing in the UK, especially if they are unfair. Pre-nups only work in the UK if you are a millionaire and there is enough money to go around. Hardly anyone gets pre-nups in the UK. Pre-nups are more of a USA thing.
@@ekg891 the problem with the UK is that pre-nups are not legally binding and therefore can be thrown out by the Judge if the Judge considers it unfair. I believe in other countries, e.g. USA, pre-nups are backed up by law and therefore are legally binding.
Traditionally and biblically speaking, in marriage a wife belongs to the husband and the husband belongs to the wife. As a married man he can’t simply do whatever he wants and has responsibilities to see to, for example, provide, care for and look after his wife and children. A wife has the same responsibilities, but they’ll take a different form, she may not have to work a full time job to provide for the family but taking care of the home, the children and her husband is her full time job. If the wife is not satisfied with the husband’s care, thats a discussion that needs to happen, the same for the husband. And sex is part of the job for both.
💯Brother. Who else would he have sex with?? If a woman don't fear God, leave her alone cause she will leave you eventually or she say things like it's my body you ain't getting none!
@@H1GHD3FF not when they live godly lifestyles. That’s why heavily religious countries have lower divorce rates. Not virtue signalling religion like in west
Pro-marriage in general but anti-marriage as it is now. They either needed ppl to fill seats or they really wanted these ppl to interact in the same video and somewhat twisted their positioning to fit them in.
no sir. I would like to get married someday myself, however because of the current state of marriage & most of my generation I am not even trying to marry or even date anyone. I am so anti-marriage & anti-dating as these institutions stand today!! however I still want these things in my life. I just want a better version of them
I think it would be best if people has the time to speak without others interrupting. It's so hard to get points across because everyone speaks at the same time.
I am M G T O W to the core, so i don’t have a dog in this fight, yet i still follow this topic (relationships/marriage) for entertainment and educational purposes. The more i follow the subject, the more i realise what i’m NOT missing out by being a hardcore M G T O W.
@@HolyRainbowism u don’t want no female interaction and feminists believe they don’t need men u believe men are oppressed they believe women are oppressed men need women to reproduce and women need men to survive that’s why both movements are deviant from society
@@hafzahussain5059 I could dissect your comment line by line and show you that your equivocation is wrong, but honestly i don’t care and i just can’t be bothered.
Honestly.. I think marriage is a trap for women. They have to do the brunt of the work, while most men morph into an additional child she has to take care of. Which begs the question, why are women conditioned to desire marriage?
Every single woman I've seen say crap like that are in fact the most entitled. You cook and clean a handful of times and it's all of a sudden "husband is a child". Like really?? Unless you are the one providing the lion's share of the household budget, shut up and pull your weight. Hell I've been in relationships where I've paid for absolutely everything and did most of the choirs, and these cows had the gall to say "I'm a child" the few times I've managed to pressure them to pick up the slack Women like you are something else
Marriage is not being taken serious enough these days and people don't have the values to see it through. Its more of a fashion thing now than anything else. Get married get bored get paid go on tinder find another... This is the way of today's society.
"It's hard to get divorced" she says. 😆 50% of marriages end in divorce within the first 2 years. That number goes up to nearly 70% as the years go by.
I think the divorce rate in the UK is 50% (100k divorces per year out of 200k marriages) and 40% in the USA (800k divorces per year out of 2 million marriages). Average marriage length is around 10 years.
Kamilah was truly the only person who said anything of substance in the video!! Props to you lovely!! Please don’t change your views for people who came with incorrect statistics and a lack of critical thinking❤️
Hotttt take: If it were illegal to get a divorce, people would probably be on their worst behavior and kids (if there are any) would be more impacted than they are now.
The problem with that is that making divorce illegal is highly immoral for obvious fucking reasons. I absolutely think the laws should be changed around paternity, custody, child support and alimony, but the fact that so many men seem to be in favor of abolishing no fault divorce sounds very slave Master to me. Everyone should have the freedom to leave a relationship at any time for any reason. The fact that some people think this is debatable is disgusting.
@Joanna MoniqueTM* I think the idea that you should allow people to betray and take a sledgehammer to your family and partner who trusted you is equally disgusting. Plus if you couldn't get divorced people would actually take it serious and vet their partner.
It's even worse than 50% for divorce. 70% of first, 20% of second, and 10% of third marriages end. So if it's your first marriage you have a 70% chance or worse of it failing because relationships are only getting worse.
I think it came about because of the era trying to normalizing gay marriages. The use of the word husband and wife was deemed anti those groups because it was not inclusive enough. Anyone who uses a "partner" is mental NPC that I can't respect. Who probably believes men and women are equal or the same. It's not a partnership. There is a leader and adviser.
@@houseofhas9355 Very insightful. Sorry Asses pleasing a very small minority of the population to their detriment. It is the same idiocy I see with women who claim that 'a woman is anyone who 'identifies as a woman'. They sound dumb AF as if they never attended an English grammar class where they were taught that 'you cannot define a word by using the same word or a synonym in the definition'. The same ignoramuses will still try to talk about 'women rights'.. 🤦 I loved a segment where some ignoramus who was female tried to tell Michael Knowles (during a debate on abortion) and she used 'pregnant people' which Michael asked 'in other words women' and she 'schooled' that he should respect others self identity. He responded with 'In that case I identify as the person who is right in this discussion and you have to respect me' 🤣🤣🤣
To be honest, if you don't have some sort of religion or spiritual reason behind the covenant then marriage is meaningless. The concept of marriage is bred out of religion. If you don't have some sort of faith practice, you need to view marriage as a merger of two separate entities becoming a wholly subsidized unit. Some marriages were solely for the purpose of merging 2 families to create an Empire. If you weren't placing subsidiary contracts to protect both parties so you would walk out as individuals, there is no point. I'm not saying that atheist can't get married, but I'm saying to an atheist that you are signing a legal obligation. Signing a contract with obvious bias towards one party [women] is just bad business. With nothing else to supplement the reason of marriage other than status quo, we see more failed family units reinforcing the divorce mentality. As the world becomes more secular, you also see the divorce rates increase. The factors of secularity and teaching offspring that divorce should be first choice has spurred a generational insanity loop. I believe this is why the question is even posed today. To a person who is religious or spiritual, this is a covenant between man and woman beyond the physical flesh. People of faith understand that disbanning would result in more repercussions than one. A big one is the concept of shame and self accountability. People look at that negatively, but this world without shame and accountability has become quite hedonistic. So let's bring back pointing at people and yelling SHAME! lmaoo Overall, as a spiritual person, I'm pro marriage. I completely understand the rationale of the anti marriage perspective, especially living in a world where faith in a higher power is becoming obsolete. In a world where men are deemed worthy only by what they can financially provide...it will behoove them to not marry. If they decide to get married, it will behoove them to properly vet the woman and make sure she's an actual proverb's wife, not a charlatan that'll take you for all you got when she can.
I believe in the sacred of marriage.. I don't think the concept of marriage is the problem but instead the way we view it and society has become so selfish and marriage is a selfless act that one has to give 100 percent to. If you are not willing to become one with a person in purpose, goals, dreams, growth then don't get married. Marriage is hard and it takes a lot of work it's not a fairytale. My husband and I has been married for 13 years, we were both young 22 and 23, we have 2 little boys. Sometimes we disagree on things and we had struggled financially but at the end of the day we have the same goals and we are growing together. Life is so hard but it's good to find someone to go through it with.
in divorce court it is just treated as a contract. what do you mean by institution? i never hear anyone refer to it as an institution (unless you mean business).
Pearl: I want to get married to a man Pearl: I don't know why a man would ever want to be married. I get that we're fighting for men's rights, a la red pill, but the cognitive dissonance is deafening. That's the issue with the redpill movement. Good analysis. Terrible solutions
I agree with the unpopular opinion that sex is a duty to your spouse. Heck, I once had covid, could barely breathe and even when my husband would never push, when I know he wants to have sex, we have sex. Marriage is fulfilling each other's needs. You own each other when uou get married.
*I agree with the unpopular opinion that sex is a duty to your spouse* What people don't understand is that by asking for monogamy you're tacitly telling your partner that you will fulfill their sexual needs. And since men typically have higher sex drives than women...
You don't own each other to the point of death. Sometimes there are reasons why sex isn't happening. It's better to deal with the cause of the problem rather than the symptoms.
@5:42 she said, "if you are not ready for that selflessness ". Apparently she wasn't cuz she left her relationship too and complained earlier about how she was the breadwinner. Which also confirms Pears statistics that higher earnings females leave more often.
Are they really arguing that strippers are wife material because its their job 🤣 does that also extend to prostitutes as well then? Still a job. And she's stronger than a man and can defend herself better than man can and will be the one who protects her man. This lady was talking the most ridiculous nonsense. Some people would argue that water isn't wet just to disagree when they are triggered
I haven’t heard anything she’s said so far that’s untrue tho so why insult her about that? Just say what you think she’s wrong about in your opinion so ppl can talk about it.
Pearl is a mess. This girl contradict herself so much. You want to get married yet you’re saying man should run away. Girl you’re having a inner self crisis
I swear why is it always these dark skinned women on these bs nonsense smh. This woman thinks she can protect her man from another man if the house was broken in.
The big woman's cavalier attitude about marriage is part of the problem; "it's a topic, like cooking". 1. You eat multiple times a day; most people don't get married at that same rate. 2. "Maybe men need to fight"... can men be so blaise about women's "sights" and get away with it? 3. Well, if she's in favor of reality shows like the _Kardashians,_ it makes sense that she has little clue on *real* marriage.
This is a great concept, they should always change the numbers in terms of more women or more men and have different ages and backgrounds of people and Aunty should be a staple on this series lol love Aunty!!!
The marry for a year concept has actually been around for thousands of years within pagan faiths, and is still practiced today. The idea is that there are three types of marriages: 1). One year, and at the end they decide if they want another year, to part ways, or to do one of the other two options 2). The entirety of this lifetime. 3). This lifetime, and the next. The idea is that you become soulmates and will find one-another in the next life.
A bunch of divorce and/or single people talking about marriage. Of course it's going to be seen in a negative light. Plus there's no successful married person there. This is very disingenuous and bias conversation on this podcast.
@@TheMwegasShow that's false. They only show half of the truth and its mostly bias with the facts that only benefit their talking points and not the complete truth. Its definitely 1 sided talking points.
I absoutely agree and see my above posted comment under the video. My biggest pet pev about these conversations they are always one side. It should been half married couples, single couples, and divorced couples.
@@thebenevolentpatriarch424 if the source is bad, the facts will be twisted. When you take a closer & complete look into things, you'll see the madness behind the whole thing. A lot of innocent people are in jail simply because of what they weren't able to prove, not necessarily because what actually happened. Court isn't about justice but what can you prove or the technique in how you presented your facts. I look into what the intentions are as well too and what encouraged that.
Pearl is like a machine just repeats her automated script from her podcast, her brain seems very empty and might malfunction one of these days if she has to actually use her brain
Maybe you just struggle to digest facts that you don't like. At the end of the day she repeats these facts because if people actually accepted the reality then they effectively end the argument. But instead you have people with a lot of variety in their arguments because if you are just making stuff up based on how you feel then you can say anything. One of the women was trying to say if you are a stripper you are good wife material 🤣🤣🤣 that's pretty novel because it's madness
She is spitting actual facts that are backed up by real statistics. She might sound repetitive, but that's something to be grateful for, because the great thing about facts, they are consistent. They do not fluctuate, they don't change all the time. Real facts are going to ring true and will need someone like pearl to stick to them. The only people who don't like facts are manipulators and people with bad intentions. I'm sorry, but Pearl is amazing and I appreciate her consistency because stability builds good societies
What Pearl is saying that abusive relationships are mutual are completely false. Abuse is not mutual between two parties. Usually the person who hits back is just trying to defend themselves from their abusive partners but they will manipulate them into thinking it’s mutual.
I'm a dumby I guess. I believe marriage is a partnership. It's two people working together and striving together to make a better life. Each playing their roles to make it work. Is that not a partnership?
The word partner is the problem. There are roles yes. But the language is taking away already existing titles. This new langauge, it's language that came about to make gay marriage more acceptable to society and any wife who call her husband a "partner" is belittle his title in her life. Partner is such a a cold word. Does it describe a business partner? Group project partner or husband? It's use for so many other things. MAJOIRTY of men don't like it. Just ask them. Women who say partner usually belittle or don't respect him or his leadership in the marriage. Usually those women control the relationship and the husband is what you see on TV. The idiot that is controlled by his controlling wive who is also a feminist & looks at male leadership as toxic and dangerous.
@@houseofhas9355 I see your point now. I, personally, wasn't meaning it in a disrespectful way. I guess it's all perspective. I view the word partnership differently and have a different understanding of how a marriage works. My grandparents were married for 78 years, both have told me marriage was a partnership that requires hard work from both people in the relationship. And I can see and understand that.
@@TomBoyChic79 you may see it that way. But times have changed. The way the word has been used in the last 20 years has been to disrespect men. A lot of men don't date girls because they use this word. Because it speaks to their viewpoint on men and marriage. It's a red flag for them. You are right about "partnership" in marriage and hard work together. But if men in your life or in the general public see it as an insult why keep using it. Use the word husband. Perception is the key word. Men will see you as the type of woman who is anti-man, stuck on activist virtual signaling, and has no respect for men let alone "husbands" Women like that do and say things that get them put in the," steer clear of" section in a straight men's mind.
@@houseofhas9355 thank you for taking the time to give me understanding on this. It's hard being a good girl living in a bad girl world. The men I have met think I'm crazy for having my "old fashioned" view points and morals. And the women call me b@#$h or c%#t because I call BS on their stupid sh$t. It's hard understanding this erosion of society sometimes.
@@TomBoyChic79 I think you can do well with speaking with men more directly to understand them better. Most men are open to talking to you when they realize your not a blue hair crazy woman. Isn't it weird that we have a kinda gender segregation in this society while claiming we don't. Where men and women don't really understand each other due to this invisible barrier of not listening to each other or listening but not understanding.
Video should be longer and they should be able to talk about a topic longer. If not then male the videos shorter. Makes no sense if we are able to hear 40% of their opinions and reasons for the comments on it. Thank you for the video tho
Thank you for having me 🤙🏿
That girl was done out here
Came from your channel bruv, big up
“Not my wife” Mr Realness.
Thank god that you and Pearl were on the show to anchor it to reality because that other lady was from the twilight zone
Great job 👏🏾 bro 😎
Divorce in the UK used to be hard till we switched to the no fault divorce model last year, so it is actually quite easy.
Even before then it was fairly easy. My divorce was petitioned for in April 2016 and final decree by November and all my ex wife had to say was irreconcilable differences.
@@thebenevolentpatriarch424 really? Without evidence?
@@taiwoademola634 yup
Y’all just got it? Complex dynamics is ganna get so much worse for you, atleast the U.S had over 50yrs of this to get used to it…
You should be able to end the marriage without giving a reason. It doesn't work anymore.
Of course mature people have talkrd about divorce BEFORE getting married and have madd a prenup.
Not talking about the end of a relationship is just stupid.
Most people that are pro marriage put strong emphasis on the subjective part of marriage. Love and feelings and then they ignore objective reality of what’s actually happening. There is also a hint of I’m “special” so this can’t happen to me.
Main character syndrome...........
True
Thanks for saying it. Goofy ass mentality.
"Are we saying strippers are not wife material?"
LMAO - of course they are not! Strippers will never be wife material.
Sa Ra cracks me up with his facts and his demeanor. 1000%
yeah the way he is always so straight with the delivery & so matter of fact with everything he says. just great
Thanks for having me 🔥
Just one minor point. You mentioned divorce laws are outdated. I disagree. The laws are up-to-date and are constantly evolving due to new divorce case law that comes out every month. The problem with divorce involves a lot of lies, hidden money, fake valuations, fake mortgage capacities, low/middle income families, and ruthless divorce lawyers. The UK judges are biased towards the wife/mother to be on the safe side and consequently it is common for the husband/father to lose 70% of their net worth to the mother/kids. There's not enough money to go around for judges to give husband and wife 50 : 50 equally (as this could result in mothers/kids being made homeless). So wives/mothers get 70%. However, just to be clear, I think you were one of the most knowledgeable and balanced on the panel. I lost 70% in my divorce.
Watching single people tell married/divorced/engaged people about marriage is comical. 😂
Watching married people try to avoid talking about the objective downsides and troubling statistics around marriage is comical. And I say that as someone who is engaged
Smart people learn from there mistakes wise people learn from other people's mistakes as a 50yr male was married for 20yrs and worked other males who got divorced by there wives pearl is absolutely correct .
@@garawa1987 some people have rose colored glasses sure. But others have come out of bad situations with opaque glasses that make them fall deep into the current social media echo chamber that tells them that women are bad and the system is against them. They end up listening to people who are now profiting off your misery as they tell you half truths and incomplete statistics. Take heed.
Pearl, Kit and Sa Ra were more knowledgeable than the divorced/engaged people. That is what is scary/comical.
Lol
Pearl and Sa Ra, thank you for being a voice!!
Woman: "So I'm at carnival and I'm shaking my arse, so I'm not wife material?"
Sa Ra Garvey: "NO".
Get her Mr Garvey! 😂😂😂
I’m confused. Pearl has said many times on the recent past that she wants to be married. She can’t really be anti marriage.
She's pro marriage sans the current set up of the legislation around the contract
She’s calling out all the Bs with marriage. Even though marriage has many values, the message has been lost in recent years
She is not anti marriage. She is anti new norms in society where marriage is about "happiness"of the woman rather than a duty to your significant other and children. Traditional marriage is what she is speaking about.
Truth is the truth… she wants to get married- but she is standing up for men, because it’s not fair for men…
R u that dense lol. Women benefit from marriage more than men do. Y should men get married when they have nothing to gain from it. Pearl is calling out this BS in the western world
If a woman or a man is withholding sex from your relationship cheating is never the answer. You can first try to find a Solution as to why he/she isn't giving you sex and if that dosent work you can then LEAVE the relationship/marriage. This whole "she made me cheat" is bullshit, you have other options and choices besides cheating.
At the end of the day selfish decisions lead to self reactions. Don't start a problem with someone and expect their goodwill to let you off the hook. If a person is selfishly withholding sex THEY should find a solution for why they aren't giving sex or be prepared for a selfish retaliation.
Depends, some women out there genuinely use sex as a weapon, like outright “yeah? Not going to do what i say ? Fine you are not getting this”.
And i have seen plenty of women who are just unhappy no matter what you do. At one point you are bound to be like “i tried everything, fuck this shit”
You can’t just leave a marriage as a man, you will get fleeced of half your posessions.
Men and women need sex. Literally. It's good for your health both physical and mental. Men need it more and crave it more. But both NEED it. At that point it's a duty. If you are withholding your duty as a marriage mate you lose all right to complain about your partners reaction to you failing the marriage. THATS bullshit
@@justlurkin FACTS
I can’t Believe she thinks strippers are wife material. Like what is wrong with women now a days they just encourage bad behavior and want no consequences for what they do.
They can be everyone has different situation is going on
I got in a online panel debate by stating to a feminist, 'can a Pimp be a good husband,'? in which the only household income is to get girls to strip and be prostitutes. Straight silence from the women. There were no concrete answers from them. Common sense isn't so common these days.
Anyone can change. Do you feel men who go to see strippers are husband material?
@@marthangafor6414 oh damn, that's a good one.
@@marthangafor6414 yes, they literally can if they want
Pearl and Sa Ra already said everything I was going to…. So I’ll just say, I shake this backside for my husband ONLY, daily. That’s why Im a wife; The only validation I need is from him and he’s ALWAYS happy to see me shake it 😂❤
You would be surprised how many women have grown up and still believe that what you just said is sexist/misogynistic. Sexual liberation has become the definition of women's rights today. and women's ability to be judged by others, especially men.
My partner of 5 years thinks the exact same. Women like you and her are so special. Never change. Blessings to you and your husband 🙏🏾
Me and you both sis, I stand by this comment. 😂
Its so puzzling to me that woman don't understand this. I married as a virgin and I feel like being sexy just for my man and only for him is the greatest thing u can do for him out a love cause he will always be all I ever wanted to be happy because he is a good man and deserves only my attention and I will give it to no one else.
it is mindboggling how ppl will be against marriage bcuz other ppl's marriage fell apart. Every marriage/relationship is different. Plus we don't know what goes on inside someone's home, so you will never get the full picture. Anybody that is worth anything can find a quality spouse. Two ppl that are willing to make it work can be happily married. And making it work is not a trait specific to a particular gender.
I would have agreed, however when divorce is now so common, and not something that happens in extreme cases any longer you have to look at it and think that there is a common denominator. It's like a few people getting heart attacks compared to 50% of the population getting heart attacks. There is clearly something wrong in the latter case.
It seems to me that women no longer have any stake in marital/intimate relationships, which is the biggest issue.
@@prayerjoseph9776 To use your analogy obesity contributes to heart attack risk, so obese ppl having heart attacks should not come as a surprise. In the redpill space, men are not told to pursue a wife they are told to pursue women. Men pursuing women should not be surprised that the women they pursue are not wife material. Finding a wife is a specific and intentional process.
@@jasonwhite6463 Exactly, obesity is a common denominator in heart attacks. If 50% of the population was suffering from heart attacks we would know it's probably because most of them are obese, we won't say every heart attack is different, we don't know what was going on in their lives, so we will never get the full picture. Yes, there is nuance, but if it's that common then there is obviously a pattern.
You think the redpill is causing this?
@@jasonwhite6463 The reason why 50% of marriages will end in divorce should be no surprise to us by now, yet you are acting as though we can never find out why this is happening, as if it is something unique when it is very common now.
@@prayerjoseph9776 You didn't address my previous comment, also I didn't say anything about the frequency of divorce. I simply take issue with the notions that all divorces are the same and that women and solely responsible for them happening.
Didn't know there was a UK version of Jubilee's middle ground. Always nice to see Pearl in a panel.
For Pearl NOT to be married, NOT to be in a relationship but she’s giving advice is so confusing. She don’t know what goes on in a marriage. I’m so sick of her and her OPINION….
Fucking pay attention 6:20
She's against how marriage is a huge disadvantage for men
"Marriage is good for families. I want to get married but the laws around it need to change to make it more equal for men"
@@pcos2401 First of all, dont curse at me! Disagree all you want, but don't get disrespectful! I heard what she said, in the US, states dont have a cookie cutter rule when it comes to divorce, if she actually did some research instead of regurgitating what others have said then it'd be different!
Her: Why is it my duty to have sex ? It's my body..
Him : Why should i protect you ?
Her: Because it's your duty.. 🤨
twerking is black culture tho. Telling a black woman not to twerk is like telling a white man to mind their business and not to report criminal activity. Its not in their nature!!!
Sa Ra Garvey, Pearl and the guy next to Pearl on her right hand side were flat out speaking facts and I agreed with everything they said. The thicker black lady next to Sa Ra Garvey was just all over the places and just saying wild stuff that were not facts and did not make sense most of the time
Of course marriage is a beautiful thing however it depends in what society and how one is raised. Think about it by nature we are designed to be married. Even without paperwork of a marriage certificate we naturally do what married couples would do. If you inner-stand how marriage actually works. There are different societies and cultures that #MakeItCommon for girls to reach certain ages to learn and prepare for womanhood and marriage. Likewise with boys at certain ages to learn of manhood and marriage. Western Society doesn't really teach these things as priority that's why it's all scattered hence why some people are anti-marriage they have seen it not work
Coming from a divorced family, I honestly didn't see the point in marriage either. Until I tried and tested a relationship with a person to its fullest capacity (knowing eachother for nearly a decade before even considering marriage, living together for 2 years, then living long distance for 2 years all while genuinely wanting to be bonded to the other through love and commitment) did I even think it was possible to be in a happily committed marriage.
Not everyone has had that opportunity with someone who's both compatible and willing put forth the effort that relationships require. So I don't blame those who are still skeptical. I think that's fair. I know for a fact that a solid marrital level commited relationship makes life exponentially easier and more enjoyable than being alone. But I also know that being alone is far preferable to a long string of bad relationships with people who use and abuse you.
So much hot air and no real arguments.
5:33 "people divorce because of incompatible values", Pearls response "women leave because of money", modern woman's response "if you love someone you'll want to see them grow". She proves Pearl's point, her "love" is dependent on her mans wallet. That's not values, that's materialism.
Word
Exactly
Cha ching 💯
what did she say that was materialism?
If you’re not growing as a person it can be a matter of values. Work ethic is a value.
The true beauty of marriage is when there’s a fear of God within.
I cannot fathom out a reason to get married and have children if you’re not going to involve Christ in it.
100%. If you are not god-fearing then marriage is completely meaningless. If you don't have God in your life, marriage is just a piece of paper and a ring.
💯
Thanks love
But Pearl.. where is your husband?
Exactly
Fucking pay attention 6:23
She's against how marriage today is a massive disadvantage for men
"I want to get married but the laws surrounding it need to change to make it more equal for men"
I'm convinced there are 3 pearls cos she is everywhere 😂😂 still waiting for her to collab with ams tho 👀
She is on her grind. I think she appeared on 8-10 podcasts when she was in the US over the past few weeks and still vlogged on her main channel.
It’s sad that people think marriage is about the government
Ikr😂😂😂😂
Trap women?
Everyone gets up and walks away 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Women get sole custody more often because men don’t want sole custody…many wouldn’t know how to cope 😄. Men rarely end a marriage because it’s cheaper for them to stay in one, even when they aren’t acting right. Pearl just shut up man, you’re an American In Britain speaking on marriage within an American context. Very few are being ‘paid’ to leave a marriage in England, it just doesn’t work like that here. Spousal support is for housewives and/or those divorcing very wealthy men. So, the minority.
#exactly...we don't want to hear that regurgitated shit here in US either, she sounds like a tape recorder, same "facts", it is tired, she never provides nuance or contexts, just spits out the same shit and things are more complex than just "80% of women leave" and "bitch, why is that?!" 🤦🏾♀️🤣 Shut up!
It's cheaper for men to stay married (no matter how much they want to leave) because divorce spells financial ruin 😂
It's why men go out to buy milk and never come back
How about make divorces just as feasible for men?
I don't care how wealthy your partner is, no one is entitled to spousal support because of some bullshit wedding ceremony
3:43 “a lot of married people who are unhappily married” true but there are a lot of divorcees who regret the divorce…
Very good point!
Facts
Pearl has no real life experience. She just regurgitates talking points from Red Pill men. That’s why she lost the debate with Hafeez because she’s not genuine. She’s a panderer and female version of Derrick Jaxn.
The lady in red is speaking facts
That’s JustPearlyThings
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i’m here for pearl!🎉🎉
The courts need to revisit their divorce laws. Their outdated , and being exploited for personal gains. Prenup is only way to go today. Better solution is the laws need to be updated
Nope! It's state Congresses and local lawmakers who need to abolish these ridiculous family court and divorce laws!
A happily married or totally committed couple is the best environment for kids to grow up in. Hands down. That alone is a good reason for marriage.
If you don't plan on being happy with the same person forever or having kids, don't get married.
Marriage isn't about being "happy" it's about duty which is why so many marriages FAIL in the modern day.
It's all "me, me, me I'm unhappy"...
We are group animals, not nuclear family animals. Kids need a group to grow up healthy.
And marriage is no guarantee for a healthy upbringing.
You just spew out conservative lies.
I got married and divorced in the UK. I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity. Divorce laws in the UK are OK however these blue pill Karen divorce judges and divorce lawyers are ruthless. Lies, hidden money, fraudulent valuations and mortgage capacities are common in UK divorce. And these judges generally side with the mother/wife to be on the safe side. Getting married has been the worst mistake of my entire life.
@@ekg891 pre-nups are not really a thing in the UK, especially if they are unfair. Pre-nups only work in the UK if you are a millionaire and there is enough money to go around. Hardly anyone gets pre-nups in the UK. Pre-nups are more of a USA thing.
@@ekg891 the problem with the UK is that pre-nups are not legally binding and therefore can be thrown out by the Judge if the Judge considers it unfair. I believe in other countries, e.g. USA, pre-nups are backed up by law and therefore are legally binding.
Traditionally and biblically speaking, in marriage a wife belongs to the husband and the husband belongs to the wife. As a married man he can’t simply do whatever he wants and has responsibilities to see to, for example, provide, care for and look after his wife and children. A wife has the same responsibilities, but they’ll take a different form, she may not have to work a full time job to provide for the family but taking care of the home, the children and her husband is her full time job. If the wife is not satisfied with the husband’s care, thats a discussion that needs to happen, the same for the husband. And sex is part of the job for both.
Guys on these types of shows should be more direct like Sa Ra. Some of these women need to hear it like that. Raw and truthful.
This woman with her statistics-not everything is a statistics.
Pearl and her statistics had me cracking up😄
It's nice to have someone come on with facts instead of feelings to be fair.
Can't debate facts tho
"lol I don't care about the facts" is basically what you're saying. Fulfilling quite a female stereotype there 😂
If you find statistics funny you'll probably find it hilarious when your relationships fall apart
Statistics ain't always right tho
The divorced lady shows some reasons why she is divorced.
This is why having a Godly partner is the only way. The woman said sex isn’t a duty lol.
I wonder how many men going through divorce look back and say....but i thought i had a godly partner. The laws wont care what anyone thought.
💯Brother. Who else would he have sex with?? If a woman don't fear God, leave her alone cause she will leave you eventually or she say things like it's my body you ain't getting none!
Godly people gets divorced too. Like what world are you from?
@@H1GHD3FF not when they live godly lifestyles. That’s why heavily religious countries have lower divorce rates. Not virtue signalling religion like in west
@@H1GHD3FF look at countries outside the west holding on to traditional values. Divorce rates a small compared to America
This is a great discussion, my only question is, if you want to get married surely that means you're pro marriage rather anti?
Pro-marriage in general but anti-marriage as it is now. They either needed ppl to fill seats or they really wanted these ppl to interact in the same video and somewhat twisted their positioning to fit them in.
no sir. I would like to get married someday myself, however because of the current state of marriage & most of my generation I am not even trying to marry or even date anyone. I am so anti-marriage & anti-dating as these institutions stand today!!
however I still want these things in my life. I just want a better version of them
I think it would be best if people has the time to speak without others interrupting. It's so hard to get points across because everyone speaks at the same time.
“ not my wife, someone else’s wife “😂😂😂💪🏾
Pearl: "LET ME FINISH". Also Pearl: *Proceeds to interupt* 🙄
Literally. She’s so unbearable
I am M G T O W to the core, so i don’t have a dog in this fight, yet i still follow this topic (relationships/marriage) for entertainment and educational purposes. The more i follow the subject, the more i realise what i’m NOT missing out by being a hardcore M G T O W.
So basically ur same like feminist two sides of the same coin
@@hafzahussain5059
How? Explain please.
@@HolyRainbowism u don’t want no female interaction and feminists believe they don’t need men u believe men are oppressed they believe women are oppressed men need women to reproduce and women need men to survive that’s why both movements are deviant from society
@@hafzahussain5059
I could dissect your comment line by line and show you that your equivocation is wrong, but honestly i don’t care and i just can’t be bothered.
@@HolyRainbowism do show me please if I’m wrong Im trying to understand your thought process
So over seeing Pearl. Do we not have any educated BW in the UK to speak on these topics for OUR community? 🤔
Exactly, why did they pick her?
This needs to be longer 😩😩😩
We trying 😭
Honestly.. I think marriage is a trap for women. They have to do the brunt of the work, while most men morph into an additional child she has to take care of. Which begs the question, why are women conditioned to desire marriage?
bc marriage isn’t supposed to look like that but most people don’t have models of what a good marriage looks like. men need to step up
Every single woman I've seen say crap like that are in fact the most entitled. You cook and clean a handful of times and it's all of a sudden "husband is a child". Like really?? Unless you are the one providing the lion's share of the household budget, shut up and pull your weight.
Hell I've been in relationships where I've paid for absolutely everything and did most of the choirs, and these cows had the gall to say "I'm a child" the few times I've managed to pressure them to pick up the slack
Women like you are something else
Marriage is not being taken serious enough these days and people don't have the values to see it through. Its more of a fashion thing now than anything else. Get married get bored get paid go on tinder find another... This is the way of today's society.
Marriage is an outdated religious custom. Totally useless.
It's 2023, not 1953.
It's useless.
"It's hard to get divorced" she says. 😆
50% of marriages end in divorce within the first 2 years. That number goes up to nearly 70% as the years go by.
I think the divorce rate in the UK is 50% (100k divorces per year out of 200k marriages) and 40% in the USA (800k divorces per year out of 2 million marriages). Average marriage length is around 10 years.
“What are my duty’s as a man?”
“We’re partners”
Wtf does that even mean 😭
Kamilah was truly the only person who said anything of substance in the video!! Props to you lovely!! Please don’t change your views for people who came with incorrect statistics and a lack of critical thinking❤️
Hotttt take:
If it were illegal to get a divorce, people would probably be on their worst behavior and kids (if there are any) would be more impacted than they are now.
The problem with that is that making divorce illegal is highly immoral for obvious fucking reasons. I absolutely think the laws should be changed around paternity, custody, child support and alimony, but the fact that so many men seem to be in favor of abolishing no fault divorce sounds very slave Master to me. Everyone should have the freedom to leave a relationship at any time for any reason. The fact that some people think this is debatable is disgusting.
@Joanna MoniqueTM* I think the idea that you should allow people to betray and take a sledgehammer to your family and partner who trusted you is equally disgusting. Plus if you couldn't get divorced people would actually take it serious and vet their partner.
Pearl and gang out ere slaying again😂
It's even worse than 50% for divorce. 70% of first, 20% of second, and 10% of third marriages end. So if it's your first marriage you have a 70% chance or worse of it failing because relationships are only getting worse.
So the UK is more fucked than the US lmao.
Thanks for this attempt to bridge the gap. It has helped shared some light
Thanks for watching!
When someone says 'marriage is a partnership', just stop the conversation.
This
Factss marriage is a dictatorship
I think it came about because of the era trying to normalizing gay marriages. The use of the word husband and wife was deemed anti those groups because it was not inclusive enough. Anyone who uses a "partner" is mental NPC that I can't respect. Who probably believes men and women are equal or the same. It's not a partnership. There is a leader and adviser.
@@houseofhas9355 Very insightful. Sorry Asses pleasing a very small minority of the population to their detriment. It is the same idiocy I see with women who claim that 'a woman is anyone who 'identifies as a woman'. They sound dumb AF as if they never attended an English grammar class where they were taught that 'you cannot define a word by using the same word or a synonym in the definition'. The same ignoramuses will still try to talk about 'women rights'.. 🤦
I loved a segment where some ignoramus who was female tried to tell Michael Knowles (during a debate on abortion) and she used 'pregnant people' which Michael asked 'in other words women' and she 'schooled' that he should respect others self identity. He responded with 'In that case I identify as the person who is right in this discussion and you have to respect me' 🤣🤣🤣
Why stop the conversation in your experience when people say that do they usually mean something else
To be honest, if you don't have some sort of religion or spiritual reason behind the covenant then marriage is meaningless. The concept of marriage is bred out of religion. If you don't have some sort of faith practice, you need to view marriage as a merger of two separate entities becoming a wholly subsidized unit. Some marriages were solely for the purpose of merging 2 families to create an Empire. If you weren't placing subsidiary contracts to protect both parties so you would walk out as individuals, there is no point.
I'm not saying that atheist can't get married, but I'm saying to an atheist that you are signing a legal obligation. Signing a contract with obvious bias towards one party [women] is just bad business. With nothing else to supplement the reason of marriage other than status quo, we see more failed family units reinforcing the divorce mentality. As the world becomes more secular, you also see the divorce rates increase. The factors of secularity and teaching offspring that divorce should be first choice has spurred a generational insanity loop. I believe this is why the question is even posed today.
To a person who is religious or spiritual, this is a covenant between man and woman beyond the physical flesh. People of faith understand that disbanning would result in more repercussions than one. A big one is the concept of shame and self accountability. People look at that negatively, but this world without shame and accountability has become quite hedonistic. So let's bring back pointing at people and yelling SHAME! lmaoo
Overall, as a spiritual person, I'm pro marriage. I completely understand the rationale of the anti marriage perspective, especially living in a world where faith in a higher power is becoming obsolete. In a world where men are deemed worthy only by what they can financially provide...it will behoove them to not marry. If they decide to get married, it will behoove them to properly vet the woman and make sure she's an actual proverb's wife, not a charlatan that'll take you for all you got when she can.
I believe in the sacred of marriage.. I don't think the concept of marriage is the problem but instead the way we view it and society has become so selfish and marriage is a selfless act that one has to give 100 percent to. If you are not willing to become one with a person in purpose, goals, dreams, growth then don't get married. Marriage is hard and it takes a lot of work it's not a fairytale. My husband and I has been married for 13 years, we were both young 22 and 23, we have 2 little boys. Sometimes we disagree on things and we had struggled financially but at the end of the day we have the same goals and we are growing together. Life is so hard but it's good to find someone to go through it with.
It’s not just a contract; it’s an institution.
in divorce court it is just treated as a contract. what do you mean by institution? i never hear anyone refer to it as an institution (unless you mean business).
I would have enjoyed a longer conversation from these people. it's a shame this wasn't even half an hour
Pearl: I want to get married to a man
Pearl: I don't know why a man would ever want to be married.
I get that we're fighting for men's rights, a la red pill, but the cognitive dissonance is deafening. That's the issue with the redpill movement. Good analysis. Terrible solutions
I agree with the unpopular opinion that sex is a duty to your spouse. Heck, I once had covid, could barely breathe and even when my husband would never push, when I know he wants to have sex, we have sex. Marriage is fulfilling each other's needs. You own each other when uou get married.
I mean if you aren't healthy probably should take a raincheck
I mean…if you’re at the point where you can’t breathe then I don’t think sex is the best choice but maybe you’re exaggerating
*I agree with the unpopular opinion that sex is a duty to your spouse*
What people don't understand is that by asking for monogamy you're tacitly telling your partner that you will fulfill their sexual needs. And since men typically have higher sex drives than women...
You don't own each other to the point of death. Sometimes there are reasons why sex isn't happening. It's better to deal with the cause of the problem rather than the symptoms.
@@coconuthead8616 hahaha well i did use an inhaler and was ok after. He had covid too then so it was nothing acrobatic.
Black women have drank the feminist kool-Aid frfr 😢!
@5:42 she said, "if you are not ready for that selflessness ". Apparently she wasn't cuz she left her relationship too and complained earlier about how she was the breadwinner. Which also confirms Pears statistics that higher earnings females leave more often.
Are they really arguing that strippers are wife material because its their job 🤣 does that also extend to prostitutes as well then? Still a job.
And she's stronger than a man and can defend herself better than man can and will be the one who protects her man.
This lady was talking the most ridiculous nonsense. Some people would argue that water isn't wet just to disagree when they are triggered
We get it, Pearl- you're "one of the guys."
Yup. And that's why no matter how much she ponders to them they still ain't gonna marry her 🤣🤣🤣 poor dumb pearl
I haven’t heard anything she’s said so far that’s untrue tho so why insult her about that? Just say what you think she’s wrong about in your opinion so ppl can talk about it.
Pearl "if I was a guy" Davis just won't stop attacking women. How can one be pro-marriage and making points against it at the same time?
It's because of marriage in this day exists in a legal environment that favours feminists..that's what she's against
Pearl is a mess. This girl contradict herself so much. You want to get married yet you’re saying man should run away. Girl you’re having a inner self crisis
Awesome you got pearl on here
I swear why is it always these dark skinned women on these bs nonsense smh. This woman thinks she can protect her man from another man if the house was broken in.
20:22 "they can be" 😂
Good break down in under 20mins
To marry a modern woman is the biggest financial risk you can take as a man
Russian roulette lol
The big woman's cavalier attitude about marriage is part of the problem; "it's a topic, like cooking".
1. You eat multiple times a day; most people don't get married at that same rate.
2. "Maybe men need to fight"... can men be so blaise about women's "sights" and get away with it?
3. Well, if she's in favor of reality shows like the _Kardashians,_ it makes sense that she has little clue on *real* marriage.
There is a divorced women on the panel 🤣 that should speak for itself.
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And this is why we love and respect our Nigerian men. Ayo your wife is lucky oooo
This is a great concept, they should always change the numbers in terms of more women or more men and have different ages and backgrounds of people and Aunty should be a staple on this series lol love Aunty!!!
We 100% will do!
Marriage was a concept that served to trap women-in the past. Today that’s not the same.
My boy pulled up with the black Air Forces 😂😂
i must of had a stroke or something because why did twerking come up ??? It went from divorce is hard , straight to why cant i twerk as a wife 🤣🤣
Marriage is duty in a Chinese culture we have love as well. The black woman is so incorrect 😑😑😑😂😂😂
Hard to hear when everyone is speaking at once.
Pearl comes in with factual, observable statistics, and this delusional woman just respons with vicimology.
From where? She doesn't even reference her sources
"So you're saying strippers aren't wifey material???". Yes, bruh.
The marry for a year concept has actually been around for thousands of years within pagan faiths, and is still practiced today. The idea is that there are three types of marriages:
1). One year, and at the end they decide if they want another year, to part ways, or to do one of the other two options
2). The entirety of this lifetime.
3). This lifetime, and the next. The idea is that you become soulmates and will find one-another in the next life.
A bunch of divorce and/or single people talking about marriage. Of course it's going to be seen in a negative light. Plus there's no successful married person there. This is very disingenuous and bias conversation on this podcast.
Facts are facts. It doesn't matter who says 1+1=2. The answer doesn't depend on the person saying it. The fact remains the same.
@@TheMwegasShow that's false. They only show half of the truth and its mostly bias with the facts that only benefit their talking points and not the complete truth. Its definitely 1 sided talking points.
@@smooveselling3236 how can facts be false 🤔
I absoutely agree and see my above posted comment under the video. My biggest pet pev about these conversations they are always one side. It should been half married couples, single couples, and divorced couples.
@@thebenevolentpatriarch424 if the source is bad, the facts will be twisted. When you take a closer & complete look into things, you'll see the madness behind the whole thing. A lot of innocent people are in jail simply because of what they weren't able to prove, not necessarily because what actually happened. Court isn't about justice but what can you prove or the technique in how you presented your facts. I look into what the intentions are as well too and what encouraged that.
Pearl came with the facts
People want the fantasy of marriage without truly understanding the reality of marriage until they get divorced.
Why is Pearl there? Why is she always in BPs spaces? Let me guess...
I don't understand either.
Pearl is like a machine just repeats her automated script from her podcast, her brain seems very empty and might malfunction one of these days if she has to actually use her brain
Maybe you just struggle to digest facts that you don't like. At the end of the day she repeats these facts because if people actually accepted the reality then they effectively end the argument. But instead you have people with a lot of variety in their arguments because if you are just making stuff up based on how you feel then you can say anything. One of the women was trying to say if you are a stripper you are good wife material 🤣🤣🤣 that's pretty novel because it's madness
Is she wrong though?
She is spitting actual facts that are backed up by real statistics. She might sound repetitive, but that's something to be grateful for, because the great thing about facts, they are consistent. They do not fluctuate, they don't change all the time. Real facts are going to ring true and will need someone like pearl to stick to them. The only people who don't like facts are manipulators and people with bad intentions. I'm sorry, but Pearl is amazing and I appreciate her consistency because stability builds good societies
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@nichole c. crazy thing about facts, unless they change, they stay the same. Crazy, right?
What Pearl is saying that abusive relationships are mutual are completely false. Abuse is not mutual between two parties. Usually the person who hits back is just trying to defend themselves from their abusive partners but they will manipulate them into thinking it’s mutual.
I'm a dumby I guess. I believe marriage is a partnership. It's two people working together and striving together to make a better life. Each playing their roles to make it work. Is that not a partnership?
The word partner is the problem. There are roles yes. But the language is taking away already existing titles. This new langauge, it's language that came about to make gay marriage more acceptable to society and any wife who call her husband a "partner" is belittle his title in her life. Partner is such a a cold word.
Does it describe a business partner? Group project partner or husband?
It's use for so many other things. MAJOIRTY of men don't like it. Just ask them. Women who say partner usually belittle or don't respect him or his leadership in the marriage. Usually those women control the relationship and the husband is what you see on TV. The idiot that is controlled by his controlling wive who is also a feminist & looks at male leadership as toxic and dangerous.
@@houseofhas9355 I see your point now. I, personally, wasn't meaning it in a disrespectful way. I guess it's all perspective. I view the word partnership differently and have a different understanding of how a marriage works. My grandparents were married for 78 years, both have told me marriage was a partnership that requires hard work from both people in the relationship. And I can see and understand that.
@@TomBoyChic79 you may see it that way. But times have changed. The way the word has been used in the last 20 years has been to disrespect men. A lot of men don't date girls because they use this word. Because it speaks to their viewpoint on men and marriage. It's a red flag for them. You are right about "partnership" in marriage and hard work together.
But if men in your life or in the general public see it as an insult why keep using it. Use the word husband.
Perception is the key word. Men will see you as the type of woman who is anti-man, stuck on activist virtual signaling, and has no respect for men let alone "husbands"
Women like that do and say things that get them put in the," steer clear of" section in a straight men's mind.
@@houseofhas9355 thank you for taking the time to give me understanding on this. It's hard being a good girl living in a bad girl world. The men I have met think I'm crazy for having my "old fashioned" view points and morals. And the women call me b@#$h or c%#t because I call BS on their stupid sh$t. It's hard understanding this erosion of society sometimes.
@@TomBoyChic79 I think you can do well with speaking with men more directly to understand them better. Most men are open to talking to you when they realize your not a blue hair crazy woman.
Isn't it weird that we have a kinda gender segregation in this society while claiming we don't. Where men and women don't really understand each other due to this invisible barrier of not listening to each other or listening but not understanding.
Pearly is breaking the Internet! 🔥
we need more women like her to speak up
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It would be amazing though!
And still isn’t a wife 🤣🫣
@@sakuralein1fucking pay attention 6:23 Pearl: "I want to get married, but the laws need to change to make it more equal for men
@@sakuralein1are you married?
Warren Sapp in the back with the brown is blitzing this whole conversation
Video should be longer and they should be able to talk about a topic longer. If not then male the videos shorter. Makes no sense if we are able to hear 40% of their opinions and reasons for the comments on it.
Thank you for the video tho
Wow people in the UK make WAY more sense than in the US... everyone had decent points.
If you were tweaking you shouldn’t even have kids smh
😂😂😂😂your funny
im here for Pearl honestly