Well. That explains my lack of social skills. I wasn’t even allowed out of my room growing up. No going ANYWHERE. And if i did go somewhere say, to the store around the corner, I’d look up and see my mom standing in the window watching me from the time i left to the time i got back. But that was as far as i was allowed to go. I’m 25 and she’s still like that. I’m going to start college soon, i refuse to have her handhold and helicopter parent me through college! *ENOUGH IS ENOUGH*
Helicopter parents are just setting their kids up for disaster/failure. Those kids will rebel 100x harder because they weren’t allowed to do jack squat in their childhood.
My mother showing up to my new school with me and tries to sit in class with me to "help" me with work. Mrs. Randolph told her to leave. Thank you so much Mrs. Randolph
_"Instead of scraping by some aspects of parenting in which they lack, let's not allow them to have children in the first place!"_ Seems kinda like burning the farm for 1 rotten plank if you ask me...
Helicopter Parents need to learn that their are 5 Paths that their kids will take 1. Huge rebel that will keep rebelling, even if the kid gets hurt/grounded 2. Successful adult with parents out of the picture 3. At home listening to you (also known as the least likely path 4. A person who will get a huge slap in the face when they learn the real world has swear words, people who don’t care about them, and… SEX! OH THE HORROR! 5. Will end up running away/giving up and start working at a nsfwjob
@@danioking5369 No, I meant the first...that was the second one. That situation was probably really about anxiety because she was 15 in college. A 15 year old genius may be academically ready for college, but because of the transitional development of the brain at that age, they would be even more vulnerable to "bad actors" and pitfalls of all kinds than your typical 18/19 yo freshman** They were being very extreme, yes, but a significant degree of anxiety about letting her live on campus was justifiable. She could have been drugged and raped, she could have been talked into situations that might hurt her or derail her entire life...but, if they were THIS concerned, they probably should have discussed other options, like commuting or a gap year! They were causing their own kind of trauma. **This is a preposterously extreme example, but interestingly, that's part of what went wrong with Ted Kaczynski, the Unabomber. He was doing fine socially until it was discovered that he had an IQ of 167, was jumped ahead grades until he had no developmental peers, became marginalized and preyed upon, and entered Harvard at 16 where, despite graduating, his social/emotional wheels came off the rest of the way. Among other things, he volunteered to be part of a study that was very psychologically damaging to him at a vulnerable stage of his development. By the time he left university, he was no longer ok and it was almost certain that he would eventually kill someone.)
9:00 sounds like it could be totally unprocessed PTSD from losing a child, which is a hell of a thing. But the parents should have (kindly) stepped in.
If we knew she was a helicopter parent, I’d tell my team to open fire on her mercilessly. If kid was on my team, I’d tell them to let him get the most hits in. I wanna play paintball someday
@Gray Golurk Sad Thing Is , My Sister Was The Helicopter Mom...One Day I Finally Learned The Parent Controls Password , And I Just Changed It To Some Random Letters , Put It Random Letters In My iPad’s Note App ( Which Only I Know The Password Of ) , And Then Deactivated The Parent Controls. My Sister Gave Up After That xD
Thy don’t care, so long as it looks good to them it’s all right, it’s essentially someone looking at their window with a blind that has a city painted on to it, all they see is good when in actual fact the society behind that blind is up in flames.
I don't think so, some might, but others, (speaking from experience here), really think that their childen are ungrateful brats when they're supposedly "protecting" them, and see nothing wrong in their own behavior
A mom on the playground wanted to call an ambulance when my babysitter kid fell off of a slide. Not 3 minutes later he was back on the same slide to show me how he fell XD But the mom was furious because I just sat there on a bench and let a 6 yo play with the other children (and his 8 yo sister) without staying beside them like she did with her kids.
Growing up my mom was definitely a helicopter parent. In her eyes the world was a dangerous place and she needed to protect me. Therefore i was NOT allowed out of the house except for school, and even then my mother would take me, there and back. From middle school until i was a senior in high school! Practically held my hand to walk me to class. Absolutely no after school clubs or getting myself involved in any extra curricular activities. Or letting me develop social skills or develop as a person I felt like i was going insane! I felt like she was deliberately trying to keep me in this 10 year old child like state and i HATED mom for it. There was a world out there that i was missing out on because she kept me locked down. She didn’t work so she stayed home all day. So we definitely didn’t get out of the house. Once i asked her if i could at least walk around the block to go to the store. When she finally let me go i remember leaving the house as she stood at the window watching me from the time i left to the time i got back. I absolutely hated living with that women. Of course that made me awkward around others people i felt like i didn’t know how to make conversation with other people. I hated myself for it, i ran away multiple times, tried killing myself, we argued constantly,yet, my mother couldn’t understand why. *NOBODY SHOULD BE AROUND 1 PERSON literally 24/7.* I felt lost with myself. I started shutting down and stopped telling her stuff about my life. The only reason i was allowed to even go to school by myself eventually was because a therapist told her to give me a little independence and at least let me go to school by myself! Everybody who meets me immediately can tell I’ve been sheltered because of how i act and respond to things about the outside world. Because well shit, i don’t know much about the outside world because i wasn’t allowed to get involved with it! I’m 25 now and about to start college..she’s still a helicopter parent but not as much because i don’t tell her anything about my life. Anything she asks I respond with “fine”. What i do is my business. She doesn’t need to know anything about what’s going on with me. Let me make my own mistakes and life choices, let me experience things in the world and live my life!
James Hill honestly I’ve been tempted to shut her out for good, but here’s the thing. I’ve always been an only child until a few years ago when my sibling was born. They were the only reason I even continued talking to her. Which is weird because it seems to have been a cycle in my family. My mom and her mom didn’t speak from the time she was a child until her 20’s when i was born. Then i sat down and thought about it. I want to break that cycle.
Having Tea With the Devil honestly my friend, that’s a tough situation, best you can do is break contact down, from daily, to weekly, to monthly, and then once a few months, that way you can be in your siblings life if necessary and can give them some form of independence when they’re older in the form of “babysitting” That being said your own health is most important, so in the event that you do not believe yourself able to maintain contact for your own sanity, then I would suggest a blank slate approach of ghosting her, however you need a place to stay, work, figure out a way to get to/from work, and I would also suggest changing all of your bank details and security passwords; lastly I would suggest informing the police of your situation so they have a record in case she attempts to have you committed to a mental health facility
When I was at high school (we don't have school buses here; just a side note) - had to text my mom when I was on the bus. - had to call her when I got off and went to school. - had to call her after school on my way to the bus. - had to call her when I arrived to the city I lived in. I'm now 25 and still have to do that when going somewhere.
jayxfrost Why don’t you cut ties with her? I know it’s hard but if she doesn’t realise that she has to respect your boundaries then you will end up in a shitty place.
@@pet3r387 I still live with them -_- I'm currently unemployed..... and yeah, I don't have anyone else to live with (I wouldn't be allowed to live on my own, just me alone in an apartment)
Alphanator Proton - Not sure if you realize, but depending on the state that you live in (in the US) it’s actually illegal to record a phone conversation without consent. Soo, there’s that.
Last year I went to a movie with my friends on a Wednesday, put my phone in my bag car on silent on the way there, we are dinner, saw the movie etc. All up about 3 hours. Got to my car to 12 missed calls from my mum, 4 from dad, texts from them all and my brother, and a tearful voicemail asking me to call "my mother" immediately "so she knows I'm not dead in a ditch". I'm 31 and have lived out of home for 9 years.
I remember watching a television documentary on helicopter parents many years ago, when mobile phones were still quite new and costly. Parents of a teenage girl bought her one so they could check on her any time they wanted. She went out, and her phone rang: "where are you?" "I just got out of the front door and heading towards the front gate."
Champ Too chances are the kid will eventually just stop playing or putting any effort in, or he’ll pull something that gets him booted off the team like start fights or illegal plays
yeah for most of my life they were helicopter parents (went nicely along with the abuse) but then realized that they were fucking me up doing that and promptly stopped when i was in 9th grade so yay i guess?
Had a girl I went to cosmetology school with who’s mom would call the school to make sure she was their even throw her parents had a tracker on her phone, the owner eventually told the mom that she was 18 and needed to stop calling. She did but not without throwing a missy fit. (This is just the icing on the cake this mom did a bunch of other stuff that pissed everyone off.)
14:04 I have an aunt who did this to one of my cousins, though in her case, we suspect it was mostly cover for marital problems with my uncle, because they also sold their house and he got an apartment in their hometown. Either way, you could tell my cousin was miserable all four years. Last I heard she was looking at grad schools overseas.
Parents who are obviously paranoid about strangers. No, mom, not everybody is going to try to lure me into a van with candy. I strongly believe that the paranoia is caused by watching too much news.
What these parents absolutely fail to understand is that the ones who’s kids CAN’T do anything for themselves because of how they raised them, they fail to comprehend that when they die, they’ll no longer be able to “help” their kid, and since they grew up completely dependent, they’ll only be able to watch from hell (chances of a helicopter parent going to Heaven are pretty slim in my book) as their kid gets eaten alive by the real world.
9:40 I remember a similar story not long ago of a father who was controlling his son's life because he was "destined" to be the "best football player in story", to the point were the kid's entire life revolved around it. it ended with the kid killing the father.
Probably not a helicopter parent, but..... Back in 3rd grade at my old school, we had these cards on the wall with your clothes pin, and if you got gold and above, you were allowed a extra privilege. One of these I always took was the Bring your Stuff (electronics). I would mostly bring my iPod and my friends and I would play Clash Royale. One brought his tablet, and during class, his mom came and didn't go crazy, just said nicely to give the tablet. She probably saw the tablet was gone, but still she was nice.
𝒵ℯ𝒶𝒵ℴ𝓁𝒻 sounds more likely it wasn’t the kids tablet to take, or that she didn’t want to risk an expensive electronic being broken or stolen I’d say that’s just being a responsible parent rather than a helicopter one
Im in the military and when I was in my advance training school we had to get pepper sprayed in the face, fight the criminal and handcuff them. When my mom called me after that I told her I ended up with a few bruises and a small cut on my lip. She freaked out asking for a picture, wanting to talk to the CO etc. I told my mom I was tired and my face, eyes and ears burn so I hang up. Kept on calling me when I was pouring Dawn dish soap in my eyes under the cold shower. Then order some food and watch a movie in my barracks. Mom blew up my phone as I was recovering.
Just a wild guess, but the dad who is sure his son was going to be a star quarterback has obviously not seen the ESPN documentary on Todd Marinovich, whose dad did the same thing.
When ever I was doing something that might get me hurt my dad always said to watch out. And if I got hurt he would just I told you. What did you learn.
Same. Thats my dad. My mom on the other hand, starts complaining how unlike other kids I never listen to parents then goes on a 30 minute rant. Now shes alot better though after she started reading some parenting stuff on the internet.
I know the family of a trophy kid. A dad forced his kid to become a pro boxer. With the son saying he didn't want to. .. Long story short, once he actually became good and is received his first professional world title as an adult, the first person he fired was his dad. He now lives alone and the dad is an alcoholic, I'm guessing his meal ticket plan didn't account for the boy making his own decisions.
For the Football one I can relate oop. After about 4 years of doing competitive swimming, I had finally convinced my mother to let me quit swimming. However, she wanted to be active so she told me to pick another thing to do. Understandable, so I said Taekwondo cause my sister used to do it and was SUPER good at it, being on their demo team. At first I was fine with it, as I made some friends and was having fun with them. However as the years went on the classes difficulty spiked and it reached almost military levels. I didn’t help that I moved from the kids class to the adult class. I asked my mom to quit about 2 years into it so I had done quite a bit, but she refused and I was forced to do it for about 2.5 more years. After constant begging to quit and pleading my case (with assistance from my dad and sister who also went through something similar when she was there) I finally got to quit. (For reference, idk if it’s really military level stuff but he used to serve in the army, and doing 200 squats on a wooden log where your toes and heels don’t have anything to stand on nonstop to a 12 year old is pretty brutal. Adding on to the fact that If you stopped or even let out a tear you’d have to start over, and I was an honest kid so I did all of them)
Ariana Cochran that level of exercise is insanely unhealthy for a child, hell even for an adult you’d have to be in a competitive bodybuilding gig to do 200 squats with those conditions, I wouldn’t at all be surprised if your knees and hip joints are fucked
My mom had me do Tae Kwon Do for 6 years so I feel your pain. 😬Maybe not literally because we were never forced to do that much but I guess my mom being an instructor for the class kind of makes up for it lol.
I had a friend a few years ago that had a helicopter mom. She had to text her mom whenever she got to school (she lived 10 minutes away), she had to take the bus home after a cinema visit with our class, instead of the train, even though the train would have been way faster. Also, when she took the bus during the winter, her mom brought her to the bus stop and picked her up in the evening because it was dark. She was 16 at the time. The top of the iceberg was when her parents did a second honeymoon that winter and left her alone in the house for 2 weeks. We had two free lessons before PE and she wasn't allowed to go to PE because her mom wouldn't be there to pick her up from the bus stop. She has two older brothers and from what I know, they weren't treated like that
Oh my! Listening to this I’m glad my mother walked out and my dad just let me do whatever I wanted, sure I made mistakes in life and made bad decisions but at least I learned how to fail and bounce back.
We had an Easter Egg hunt at the library. We hid paper eggs that could be traded in for chocolate eggs. One mother dragged her 5 year old around, grabbing the eggs, once she even grabbed one out of another child’s hand. I intervened and gave her child a few chocolate eggs and then told them to leave. The mother was furious but she dragged her kid out. We had the kids go into the conference room and I quickly re hid the paper eggs and then let the kids loose.
man some of this is rough. i wouldve love parents that commited time and money to my wellbeing, but these parents are throwing time and money at their own desires for these poor damn kids.
I know a girl since we were born and were really close friends as kids. Her mother is one of the worst parents I haver meet. We are no longer friends bc of the mother. When we were in years 5 and 6, every study group had to be at her house, her mother would check on us every 15min bc we had a boy in our study group. Her mother picked her outfits every day until year 12, this included socks, panties and bra. Until year 9, she "allowed" me to be her friend bc I was smarter than her and could help her in school. She had tutors for every discipline bc her mother though she needed(she didn't, she was quite smart herself, just a little bit of a slow learner). In year 10 we got putted in a class with some girls that are actuly really good academicly speaking and came from old money and her mother forbade her from being my friend bc I wasn't girly and forced her to be friends with this other girls. At 13 she started dating her now husband and her mother would go to our school to prevent them from being together. The guy had promised her to give his grandma engagement ring at her 18th birthday, what her mother did? Bought an old type of engagement ring and gift her as soon as she woke up on her 18th birthday. This are just some of what I remember, but I truly believe that she marry her husband just to say an big f u to her mother. She was one of the sweets girl a ever met but I did stop hanging out with her bc of her mother. Also, she has an younger brother that even got it worse than her.
Has the football dad never heard of cross-training? It makes sports more interesting and makes sure you are working out all the major muscle groups opposed to just the ones you sport requires.
My friends grandparents were always really strict of where he could go in there house and he always found it annoying but it’s just coz they were growing some weed
Horrible failures as parents. Your job is to raise them so that they don't need to rely on you. You are supposed to develop a functioning, independent adult. Let them face as much adversity as they can handle and overcome. The best lessons are learned through failure.
You know what I'm just realising with the museum story? OP should have given instructions to the kid which results in a complete failure. When the mum explodes, OP shrugs and says "I had a theory I was testing. Guess I was wrong. Want me to try again?" The mum would either have to give in or leave in a huff. Either way, the kid learns that just because someone knows the answer, doesn't mean they'll give you the RIGHT one if you ask, and also shows adults CAN be wrong, and that it's OK to be wrong.
I had a coworker friend who, at age 35, just got her license. She still lived at home. Her parents would take her to work every day, and pick her up. Both of them. Her father would go with her in the passenger seat of her car, mother would follow behind so she could then drive the father home. Both would drive to pick her up so that dad could again sit in the car with her and mom would follow. If it was raining or snowing, even lightly, her father would drive instead. Still followed by her mom. Just in case the weather cleared and she could drive home herself. This went on for a full 6 months, until I left that job. I believe her parents still continued this routine long after I left.
My dad always let me get hurt REALLY bad, for example when I was like: "Hey dad is the oven hot?" He would always say "Yes, dont touch it." Well one time i decided to ignore him and touch it, and it hurt ALOT. But I never touched the oven after that. I thank my dad for that, because it tought me what not to do rather than just being told "no" over and over. Thanks father.
Dark Angel 666 if she’s that brilliant I wouldn’t have been surprised if she had basically her own apartment Her parents probably ruined her life because they wouldn’t let her develop her individuality, kids like that often fall into heavy drug use, depression and some even commit suicide
7:52 I started doing theater shows this year. We did Annie in the winter and we're trying to do Mary Poppins now. My parents don't care about how I do or what I get as long as I don't die. May be a bit too relaxed, considering how close the ensembles have been.
I don't have helicopter parents but I do know what living with one is like because for a month and a half during the summer in middle school I stayed with my uncle who is a complete helicopter parent. At first I was excited because I hadn't seen him and my cousin for years because his wife's family is basically a clan, but after the first few days I instantly regretted staying there. He treated me like his own kids and controlled when I read, when I ate, when I could do things, what I could drink, and just a bunch of shit like that. And I was underweight at the time so I lost 20 pounds when I stayed there because he believed that being underweight gives you an advantage. He also made me do tennis all the time, and although I do like sports tennis isnt really my thing though and when I tried to tell him I wanted to do something else hed always argue about it. In fact, he always argued about everything. When I told him I had trouble paying attention because I have adhd, he said that it's not that I don't have ADHD it's that I choose not to pay attention. And he'd even argue about the weirdest topics as well, such as you can die in your dreams and other weird shit like that randomly. And what was worse was that my cousin ended up being exactly like him. After I came home, I really appreciated my parents a lot more. His views on mental illness changed though because we found out after a year it happened that my cousin fell into a serious depression around his junior year and even wrote a suicide note and his grades dropped massively and he's barely gonna graduate high school. I do feel really bad for what happened to my cousin, but I also do know the reasons why people become helicopter parents as well. When my uncle was a kid, he had a lot of freedoms and he was pretty naughty and never tried on his tennis team. The problem with him is he's so obsessed with his past failures instead of just moving on from them and restarting, that he wants his kids to be how he wants them to be instead of how my parents are when letting me be who I wanna be. Even though I struggle with ADHD and depression, I'm a lot happier now and I appreciate my parents and I'm gonna be very successful in life as well. People like helicopter parents always accuse my parents of spoiling me when theyve really taught me how hard life really is and how to get through it.
My mom and dad look through what apps I have, if I message someone online (I only do if I role play), my photos/camera roll, what I buy with *my* money, and my search history. And when one of my Discord friends messages me asking if I was ok and I re download the app after they deleted it, then they take away my phone until I clean my room (I was going to anyway). They don’t let me do anything without permission.
@@sheilaclemett4353 Don't even remember typing this, lol. I already know the term. I think I was referring to parents who take their kids for the smallest reasons.
I want to be successful in life and I am trying to get better as an individual but my mom just thinks I can't do ANYTHING on my own so she feels the need that she has to do EVERYTHING with me and I can't better myself as an individual because I am being hidden behind her protective bush that I don't need. I can't escape. I'd feel bad if she saw this but I just can't tell her myself... I legit failed a college chemistry course and I am taking it over the summer that she said she paid for instead of letting me get into student debt and paying it off like a big boy as everyone else does in this world. She is even taking the course WITH ME which adds more pressure to make me feel like I can't learn anything by myself. She even says "Well, it looks like we'll be taking these courses together for the next couple of summers that I am going to have to pay for and put myself in debt because you won't be able to pass these courses when you're by yourself" this also makes me question if I am a normal person, like, do I need a doctors' visit to see if there is something she has been hiding from me about my mental state, do I have a disability that I have not been told about that supposedly hinders my ability to function normally on a regular basis? There are so many things that I personally think are wrong with me because she is helicoptering me more and more as I get older and it's becoming more of an issue that I feel I can not control. I just want to be independent for once in my like without her assistance. Don't get me wrong, I love my mom but she is just caring for me too much, like, I mean, I'm 19, I'm an adult, I can take responsibilities into my own hands as any other adult can. Also, my parents weren't married for too long either. They divorced when I was in kindergarten and she hasn't had a man tell her about this helicopter thing. I'm sure he would totally understand but I don't even know if he was helicoptered as a child. It looks like it is my job to say it to her face that I am uncomfortable with how much she is caring for me because I know she loves to care but too much is too much. Also, I don't know if this message. may come across to you as me being an ungrateful little fu*k but I really don't know what else to think or say in the matter. If any of you take the time to read this, I'd really appreciate your feedback, or maybe tell me a little of your own experience about being helicoptered because that is what's we are all here for, right? Maybe I should just leave without her knowing? So I can finally gain my independence and accomplish my life goals individually one day at a time? I don't have a car though so that probably won't help :)
When I was young, we had a big playground right in front of our home. I lived there until I was 5. At the end, I was allowed to go unsupervised to that playground with my elder brother (3 years older than me), because it was basically our extended garden. It had a tower of abour 2m in height, that we would jump from into the sand and a metal slide that was nice and fast, among other things. I never got seriously injured and there usually was an adult around anyway supervising all the neighbors kids. When I was 5+1/2 my twin brothers were born and we moved to another village. When they were Kindergarten age, my elder brother and me took them to the playground - which was about a 5 minute walk including crossing a road. My mom taught us well. My childhood must've been the nightmare of every helicopter parent. 😂
Simple, a lot of parents wouldn´t let their children to go out by their own because they would throught that a child rapist would appear to kidnap and kill children
Trust me try having ASIAN helicopter parents. They manipulate me and my sister. They constantly compare us to our cousins. We have no self confidence at all because of them
Lol my friend charlie is Chinese. One time chalie was caught watching anime instead of studying. So her mum tied her to a chair and beat her with a golf stick until the floor was covered in blood and she eventually became unconscious. Another time, charlies mum tried to teach charlie Mandarin. Charlie messed up a word so her mum brought a knife to her fingers and threatened to cut them off if Charlie made another mistake. That's not even the most damaging part of their relationship. Charlie is gorgeous, muscular and extremely intelligent. Her mum constantly, called her fat, ugly, said she had wonky teeth, looked like a whale, told my friend she didn't love her etc. My friend genuinely believed she was fat, ugly and an idiot. It seriously messed with her mental health and self esteem. Charlie's mum used to wake Charlie up at 6am to make her run 10km everyday with no rest day. One day, Charlie twisted her ankle and hurt it. She was too scared to tell her mum, so she just kept running 10km every morning and 5 years later her ankle is fucked. Charlie was insanely good at art. She used to sell her art to make money on the side. One time Charlie didn't wash the dishes properly. Her mum then go all her art and threw it in the fire. Another time, Charlie's younger sister attempted suicide. Charlie's mum came up with a brilliant plan to help her suicidal daughter. She decided to abandon the family because they were all failures. So Charlie's mum got a job in another city and told Charlie (age 17) that she'd have to raise her younger sisters from now on. She left Charlie with €10k and left. That was barely enough money for one years rent. Then Charlie's mum returned a few weeks later. I'm not sure if they apologised but I guess Charlie realised that her mum does so much for them that she rekindled the relationship with her mum and now they get along great. Anyway, a year after that fiasco, Charlie was allowed invite a friend over for the first time. I met her mum for the first time. Her mum was rly nice to me and bought us lots of food. All my friends seemed to like Charlies mum, but they also come from slightly abusive homes.
I herd Fiddler on the Roof and my memory of being Sasha the Russian Soldier in middle schools kicked in. All “Townspeople” we just random characters but in different costumes. I was both Sasha and a villager.
One time, my friend Charlie was caught watching anime instead of studying. So her mum tied her to a chair and beat her with a golf stick until the floor was covered in blood and she eventually became unconscious. Another time, charlies mum tried to teach charlie Mandarin. Charlie messed up a word so her mum brought a knife to her fingers and threatened to cut them off if Charlie made another mistake. That's not even the most damaging part of their relationship. Charlie is gorgeous, muscular and extremely intelligent. Her mum constantly, called her fat, ugly, said she had wonky teeth, looked like a whale, told my friend she didn't love her etc. My friend genuinely believed she was fat, ugly and an idiot. It seriously messed with her mental health and self esteem. Charlie's mum used to wake Charlie up at 6am to make her run 10km everyday with no rest day. One day, Charlie twisted her ankle and hurt it. She was too scared to tell her mum, so she just kept running 10km every morning and 5 years later her ankle is fucked. Charlie was insanely good at art. She used to sell her art to make money on the side. One time Charlie didn't wash the dishes properly. Her mum then go all her art and threw it in the fire. Another time, Charlie's younger sister attempted suicide. Charlie's mum came up with a brilliant plan to help her suicidal daughter. She decided to abandon the family because they were all failures. So Charlie's mum got a job in another city and told Charlie (age 17) that she'd have to raise her younger sisters from now on. She left Charlie with €10k and left. That was barely enough money for one years rent. Then Charlie's mum returned a few weeks later. I'm not sure if they apologised but I guess Charlie realised that her mum does so much for them that she rekindled the relationship with her mum and now they get along great. Anyway, a year after that fiasco, Charlie was allowed invite a friend over for the first time. I met her mum for the first time. Her mum was rly nice to me and bought us lots of food. All my friends seemed to like Charlies mum, but they also come from slightly abusive homes.
For the parents fearing her child failing. My parents up until I was probably 9 they would punish me for mistakes in homework and now at 16 I have intense anxiety and cry when I make a mistake because I’m scared of what will happen. My parents are trying to fix their mistake but it’s not working cuz if my anxiety. Edit: When I was in 1st grade my dad used to yell at me because I couldn’t do what was on the homework correctly and I would get yelled at and he’d threaten to force feed me stuff I didn’t like and would check over my homework and yell for me to solve it right.
My parents sheltered me pretty heavily, but comparing them to the parents in these videos makes me feel a lot better. As far as my stories go, I wasn't allowed to watch Star Wars until 4th grade, I wasn't allowed to watch R rated movies until 16, and even then I was only allowed to watch the Breakfast Club, I wasn't allowed to be in public without my parents past 9pm, I wasn't allowed to go anywhere without telling them where I would be and what time I would be back and whom I would be with, etc., and I wasn't allowed to talk to anyone online that I hadn't met in person first, which made online gaming very difficult. All those rules did is forced me to hide my interests from my parents because I don't know what they would and wouldn't punish me for doing, so it's safer just to have them not know what I'm doing.
Me: Hmm, I kind of want to ask that girl for her number but I'm kind of shy 'Mother is there with you at the time" Mom: Here, I'll do it for you honey 😊 Me: NO NO NO NO NO, PLEASE DON'T EMBARRASS ME, I'LL DO IT ANOTHER DAY "WHEN IM ALONE" Mom: Proceeds to walk to the girl Me: Ah sh*t, here we go again Mom: Hey, what's your name? My son would really like to get to know you. Can I please have your number so I can give it to him. Me: Proceeds to bolt out of the facility Mom: "Notices the dust trail I've left behind when I fled the scene" Also mom: I think he likes you
I remember when me and my brother were kids we lived in a community where the kids were allowed to roam the trailer park forest. If we broke a bone? We delt with it. If one of us cracked our head open? Off to the hospital and the next day our friend was out. All the kids had to do was be home before street lights. What pisses me off is that this was the early 2000s BTW today's parents are to over protective.
Helicopter parents are just training their kids to become a very good liar, often with terrible social skills and anxiety.
Putri Hamran It’s ironic that helicopter parents encourage behavior they are trying to make their kids go against.
Exactly and they fuck up the relationship to their children.
For real tho
Well. That explains my lack of social skills. I wasn’t even allowed out of my room growing up. No going ANYWHERE. And if i did go somewhere say, to the store around the corner, I’d look up and see my mom standing in the window watching me from the time i left to the time i got back. But that was as far as i was allowed to go. I’m 25 and she’s still like that. I’m going to start college soon, i refuse to have her handhold and helicopter parent me through college! *ENOUGH IS ENOUGH*
Can confirm. I have terrible social skills and Anxiety..
Helicopter parents are just setting their kids up for disaster/failure. Those kids will rebel 100x harder because they weren’t allowed to do jack squat in their childhood.
true. and then helicopter parent would start helicoptering even more when their kids start acting out, and eventually get even more insane.
This would only end a self feeding loop that can and will result in disaster
Or they will have social anxiety like myself.
My mother showing up to my new school with me and tries to sit in class with me to "help" me with work. Mrs. Randolph told her to leave. Thank you so much Mrs. Randolph
Mrs Randolph is a true G
My grandfather’s last name is Randolph
Now Mrs. Randolph is a great teacher.
more proof that some people shouldn't have kids.
BlitzkriegOmega There’s a saying.
Every Child deserves a home, but not every home deserves a Child.
We need a breeding lisence
More proof that these people need to be sterilized
BlitzkriegOmega, more proof we need to make having privacy a human right
_"Instead of scraping by some aspects of parenting in which they lack, let's not allow them to have children in the first place!"_
Seems kinda like burning the farm for 1 rotten plank if you ask me...
Helicopter Parents need to learn that their are 5 Paths that their kids will
take
1. Huge rebel that will keep rebelling, even if the kid gets hurt/grounded
2. Successful adult with parents out of the picture
3. At home listening to you (also known as the least likely path
4. A person who will get a huge slap in the face when they learn the real world has swear words, people who don’t care about them, and… SEX! OH THE HORROR!
5. Will end up running away/giving up and start working at a nsfwjob
For the record, that first one isn't helicopter parenting.
Those are glaring signs of an abusive home.
melissa saint was it the poetry night
The first one is just horrible
I'm so glad my parents were not like that
Txomin Abel same
@@danioking5369 No, I meant the first...that was the second one. That situation was probably really about anxiety because she was 15 in college.
A 15 year old genius may be academically ready for college, but because of the transitional development of the brain at that age, they would be even more vulnerable to "bad actors" and pitfalls of all kinds than your typical 18/19 yo freshman**
They were being very extreme, yes, but a significant degree of anxiety about letting her live on campus was justifiable. She could have been drugged and raped, she could have been talked into situations that might hurt her or derail her entire life...but, if they were THIS concerned, they probably should have discussed other options, like commuting or a gap year! They were causing their own kind of trauma.
**This is a preposterously extreme example, but interestingly, that's part of what went wrong with Ted Kaczynski, the Unabomber. He was doing fine socially until it was discovered that he had an IQ of 167, was jumped ahead grades until he had no developmental peers, became marginalized and preyed upon, and entered Harvard at 16 where, despite graduating, his social/emotional wheels came off the rest of the way. Among other things, he volunteered to be part of a study that was very psychologically damaging to him at a vulnerable stage of his development. By the time he left university, he was no longer ok and it was almost certain that he would eventually kill someone.)
9:00 sounds like it could be totally unprocessed PTSD from losing a child, which is a hell of a thing.
But the parents should have (kindly) stepped in.
A women looked horrified when her kid got hit in a paintball match. He literally rushed into our "formation" guns blazing.
Honestly what the fuck. Imagine a parent horrified running into the arena "saving" her kid who just got hit with a paintball. . .
If we knew she was a helicopter parent, I’d tell my team to open fire on her mercilessly. If kid was on my team, I’d tell them to let him get the most hits in.
I wanna play paintball someday
Saving private helicopter
Me to parents: So do you guys consider yourself helicopter parents?
Parents: Yes.
Killer Kreeper literally me too. They even call themselves helicopter parents
Same I asked my mom
Are you a helicopter parent
And she was like yeah
And it’s nice to always know where you are always at
@Gray Golurk Sad Thing Is , My Sister Was The Helicopter Mom...One Day I Finally Learned The Parent Controls Password , And I Just Changed It To Some Random Letters , Put It Random Letters In My iPad’s Note App ( Which Only I Know The Password Of ) , And Then Deactivated The Parent Controls. My Sister Gave Up After That xD
**ENGINE START**
**ROTORS SPIN UP**
@CommFox :o Pink D.: *_NOPE NOPE NOPE NOpe nop... . . . ._*
these people know this seriously hurts their kids right?
They dont care or are just flat out incompetent.
Thy don’t care, so long as it looks good to them it’s all right, it’s essentially someone looking at their window with a blind that has a city painted on to it, all they see is good when in actual fact the society behind that blind is up in flames.
Their kids are property an extension of them so what do they care.
They don’t really view their kids as people.
I don't think so, some might, but others, (speaking from experience here), really think that their childen are ungrateful brats when they're supposedly "protecting" them, and see nothing wrong in their own behavior
I'm such an idiot I thought the title was referring to helicopter owners
yeah me too lol
I assumed parents that identify as Helicopters
It's ok I'm stupid to
im not the only idiot :dab:
lol
A mom on the playground wanted to call an ambulance when my babysitter kid fell off of a slide. Not 3 minutes later he was back on the same slide to show me how he fell XD
But the mom was furious because I just sat there on a bench and let a 6 yo play with the other children (and his 8 yo sister) without staying beside them like she did with her kids.
How do they not realize how bad it looks when they show up to their kid's job interview??? 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
They don't see their behaviour as abnormal.
Exactly you’re literally ruining their chances of getting a hob
Growing up my mom was definitely a helicopter parent. In her eyes the world was a dangerous place and she needed to protect me. Therefore i was NOT allowed out of the house except for school, and even then my mother would take me, there and back. From middle school until i was a senior in high school! Practically held my hand to walk me to class. Absolutely no after school clubs or getting myself involved in any extra curricular activities. Or letting me develop social skills or develop as a person I felt like i was going insane! I felt like she was deliberately trying to keep me in this 10 year old child like state and i HATED mom for it. There was a world out there that i was missing out on because she kept me locked down. She didn’t work so she stayed home all day. So we definitely didn’t get out of the house. Once i asked her if i could at least walk around the block to go to the store. When she finally let me go i remember leaving the house as she stood at the window watching me from the time i left to the time i got back. I absolutely hated living with that women. Of course that made me awkward around others people i felt like i didn’t know how to make conversation with other people. I hated myself for it, i ran away multiple times, tried killing myself, we argued constantly,yet, my mother couldn’t understand why. *NOBODY SHOULD BE AROUND 1 PERSON literally 24/7.* I felt lost with myself. I started shutting down and stopped telling her stuff about my life. The only reason i was allowed to even go to school by myself eventually was because a therapist told her to give me a little independence and at least let me go to school by myself! Everybody who meets me immediately can tell I’ve been sheltered because of how i act and respond to things about the outside world. Because well shit, i don’t know much about the outside world because i wasn’t allowed to get involved with it! I’m 25 now and about to start college..she’s still a helicopter parent but not as much because i don’t tell her anything about my life. Anything she asks I respond with “fine”. What i do is my business. She doesn’t need to know anything about what’s going on with me. Let me make my own mistakes and life choices, let me experience things in the world and live my life!
Having Tea With the Devil tbh sounds like you’ll end up shutting her out once you move out for a decade my dude
James Hill honestly I’ve been tempted to shut her out for good, but here’s the thing. I’ve always been an only child until a few years ago when my sibling was born. They were the only reason I even continued talking to her. Which is weird because it seems to have been a cycle in my family. My mom and her mom didn’t speak from the time she was a child until her 20’s when i was born. Then i sat down and thought about it. I want to break that cycle.
Having Tea With the Devil honestly my friend, that’s a tough situation, best you can do is break contact down, from daily, to weekly, to monthly, and then once a few months, that way you can be in your siblings life if necessary and can give them some form of independence when they’re older in the form of “babysitting”
That being said your own health is most important, so in the event that you do not believe yourself able to maintain contact for your own sanity, then I would suggest a blank slate approach of ghosting her, however you need a place to stay, work, figure out a way to get to/from work, and I would also suggest changing all of your bank details and security passwords; lastly I would suggest informing the police of your situation so they have a record in case she attempts to have you committed to a mental health facility
When I was at high school (we don't have school buses here; just a side note)
- had to text my mom when I was on the bus.
- had to call her when I got off and went to school.
- had to call her after school on my way to the bus.
- had to call her when I arrived to the city I lived in.
I'm now 25 and still have to do that when going somewhere.
jayxfrost Why don’t you cut ties with her? I know it’s hard but if she doesn’t realise that she has to respect your boundaries then you will end up in a shitty place.
Record the calls and report to the police for stalking
@@pet3r387 I still live with them -_- I'm currently unemployed..... and yeah, I don't have anyone else to live with (I wouldn't be allowed to live on my own, just me alone in an apartment)
Alphanator Proton - Not sure if you realize, but depending on the state that you live in (in the US) it’s actually illegal to record a phone conversation without consent. Soo, there’s that.
then just dont tell her your going any were
I want a 1 hour video about helicopter parents now
Last year I went to a movie with my friends on a Wednesday, put my phone in my bag car on silent on the way there, we are dinner, saw the movie etc. All up about 3 hours. Got to my car to 12 missed calls from my mum, 4 from dad, texts from them all and my brother, and a tearful voicemail asking me to call "my mother" immediately "so she knows I'm not dead in a ditch".
I'm 31 and have lived out of home for 9 years.
I remember watching a television documentary on helicopter parents many years ago, when mobile phones were still quite new and costly. Parents of a teenage girl bought her one so they could check on her any time they wanted. She went out, and her phone rang: "where are you?" "I just got out of the front door and heading towards the front gate."
The football story...doesn’t the dad watch the news? So many football players suffer brain damage.
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He doesn't need a brain. It's not important for playing football.
Champ Too chances are the kid will eventually just stop playing or putting any effort in, or he’ll pull something that gets him booted off the team like start fights or illegal plays
Thank God my parents aren't like this.
Right? My parents more or less leave me the hell alone if I’m getting a 2.5 or better and not doing anything illegal.
i know
I thank the Heavenly father that my parents are not like that
You guys are sooooo fucking lucky
yeah for most of my life they were helicopter parents (went nicely along with the abuse) but then realized that they were fucking me up doing that and promptly stopped when i was in 9th grade so yay i guess?
Had a girl I went to cosmetology school with who’s mom would call the school to make sure she was their even throw her parents had a tracker on her phone, the owner eventually told the mom that she was 18 and needed to stop calling.
She did but not without throwing a missy fit.
(This is just the icing on the cake this mom did a bunch of other stuff that pissed everyone off.)
14:04 I have an aunt who did this to one of my cousins, though in her case, we suspect it was mostly cover for marital problems with my uncle, because they also sold their house and he got an apartment in their hometown. Either way, you could tell my cousin was miserable all four years. Last I heard she was looking at grad schools overseas.
She crashed into our football field and her rotars evicerated both football teams on the field.
Hehehe. Nice pun.
For the football one, that is living through your kids
Parents who are obviously paranoid about strangers. No, mom, not everybody is going to try to lure me into a van with candy. I strongly believe that the paranoia is caused by watching too much news.
Exactly!
Right
I saw someone making their child train to fly a helicopter.
Helicopter parents: the next generation.
Now that’s an actual final okay helicopter parent
"I'm not scared!" 😏
Wow. What crazy parents. 😣
What these parents absolutely fail to understand is that the ones who’s kids CAN’T do anything for themselves because of how they raised them, they fail to comprehend that when they die, they’ll no longer be able to “help” their kid, and since they grew up completely dependent, they’ll only be able to watch from hell (chances of a helicopter parent going to Heaven are pretty slim in my book) as their kid gets eaten alive by the real world.
I actually think they do know this and want to keep their children dependent on them.
Helicopter parents: *helicopter noises*
It's even more rich when helicopter parents act nasty to other parents for *not* being smother parents raising potential mental patients.
9:40 I remember a similar story not long ago of a father who was controlling his son's life because he was "destined" to be the "best football player in story", to the point were the kid's entire life revolved around it.
it ended with the kid killing the father.
Well, least That son was tired of His dad.
How did he off his father anyways?
Probably not a helicopter parent, but.....
Back in 3rd grade at my old school, we had these cards on the wall with your clothes pin, and if you got gold and above, you were allowed a extra privilege. One of these I always took was the Bring your Stuff (electronics). I would mostly bring my iPod and my friends and I would play Clash Royale. One brought his tablet, and during class, his mom came and didn't go crazy, just said nicely to give the tablet.
She probably saw the tablet was gone, but still she was nice.
𝒵ℯ𝒶𝒵ℴ𝓁𝒻 sounds more likely it wasn’t the kids tablet to take, or that she didn’t want to risk an expensive electronic being broken or stolen
I’d say that’s just being a responsible parent rather than a helicopter one
Im in the military and when I was in my advance training school we had to get pepper sprayed in the face, fight the criminal and handcuff them. When my mom called me after that I told her I ended up with a few bruises and a small cut on my lip. She freaked out asking for a picture, wanting to talk to the CO etc. I told my mom I was tired and my face, eyes and ears burn so I hang up. Kept on calling me when I was pouring Dawn dish soap in my eyes under the cold shower. Then order some food and watch a movie in my barracks. Mom blew up my phone as I was recovering.
Just a wild guess, but the dad who is sure his son was going to be a star quarterback has obviously not seen the ESPN documentary on Todd Marinovich, whose dad did the same thing.
Carl FromTheOC link pls
@@3adgamd3r Long story short, dude became a drug addict.
When ever I was doing something that might get me hurt my dad always said to watch out. And if I got hurt he would just I told you. What did you learn.
That isn't really helicopter parenting. That's actually kind of reasonable discipline
@@CrabOnABeach I think that's the point he's trying to make
GameGod that was the point I had good parents who let me learn from mistakes
Same. Thats my dad. My mom on the other hand, starts complaining how unlike other kids I never listen to parents then goes on a 30 minute rant. Now shes alot better though after she started reading some parenting stuff on the internet.
It makes sense, he tells you “there’s a risk” and when you screw up he just says “at least I told you the risks”
Honestly, my mom never even let me use a knife to cook until I was in 7th grade
I know the family of a trophy kid. A dad forced his kid to become a pro boxer. With the son saying he didn't want to. .. Long story short, once he actually became good and is received his first professional world title as an adult, the first person he fired was his dad. He now lives alone and the dad is an alcoholic, I'm guessing his meal ticket plan didn't account for the boy making his own decisions.
5:06 i already disslike the fact that my dad wants me to enroll in the navy (even though i want to). But god damn, that takes the cake
For the Football one I can relate oop.
After about 4 years of doing competitive swimming, I had finally convinced my mother to let me quit swimming. However, she wanted to be active so she told me to pick another thing to do. Understandable, so I said Taekwondo cause my sister used to do it and was SUPER good at it, being on their demo team.
At first I was fine with it, as I made some friends and was having fun with them. However as the years went on the classes difficulty spiked and it reached almost military levels. I didn’t help that I moved from the kids class to the adult class.
I asked my mom to quit about 2 years into it so I had done quite a bit, but she refused and I was forced to do it for about 2.5 more years. After constant begging to quit and pleading my case (with assistance from my dad and sister who also went through something similar when she was there) I finally got to quit.
(For reference, idk if it’s really military level stuff but he used to serve in the army, and doing 200 squats on a wooden log where your toes and heels don’t have anything to stand on nonstop to a 12 year old is pretty brutal. Adding on to the fact that If you stopped or even let out a tear you’d have to start over, and I was an honest kid so I did all of them)
Ariana Cochran that level of exercise is insanely unhealthy for a child, hell even for an adult you’d have to be in a competitive bodybuilding gig to do 200 squats with those conditions, I wouldn’t at all be surprised if your knees and hip joints are fucked
My mom had me do Tae Kwon Do for 6 years so I feel your pain. 😬Maybe not literally because we were never forced to do that much but I guess my mom being an instructor for the class kind of makes up for it lol.
I had a friend a few years ago that had a helicopter mom. She had to text her mom whenever she got to school (she lived 10 minutes away), she had to take the bus home after a cinema visit with our class, instead of the train, even though the train would have been way faster. Also, when she took the bus during the winter, her mom brought her to the bus stop and picked her up in the evening because it was dark. She was 16 at the time. The top of the iceberg was when her parents did a second honeymoon that winter and left her alone in the house for 2 weeks. We had two free lessons before PE and she wasn't allowed to go to PE because her mom wouldn't be there to pick her up from the bus stop.
She has two older brothers and from what I know, they weren't treated like that
Merle Hülsmann this is actually pretty common with girls, case in point is the rapper T.I. and his creepy af treatment of his daughter
@@3adgamd3r Unfortunately. It needs to end.
Yah there are definitely some crazy LDS parents but generally most are chill.
12:48
OP: Oh trust me I'll watch him.
Heli Mother in shocked horror: WHAT
OP with an suddenly innocent face and smile: What
7:38 My mom made me sign the FERPA form so that she could get that information...
Girl, same.
Oh my! Listening to this I’m glad my mother walked out and my dad just let me do whatever I wanted, sure I made mistakes in life and made bad decisions but at least I learned how to fail and bounce back.
We had an Easter Egg hunt at the library. We hid paper eggs that could be traded in for chocolate eggs. One mother dragged her 5 year old around, grabbing the eggs, once she even grabbed one out of another child’s hand. I intervened and gave her child a few chocolate eggs and then told them to leave. The mother was furious but she dragged her kid out. We had the kids go into the conference room and I quickly re hid the paper eggs and then let the kids loose.
Champ Too Stealing stuff is unacceptable.
But stealing CHOCOLATE?! FROM A CHILD?!
This stuff is child abuse, people need to report this shit to social services when this kind of stuff happens
man some of this is rough. i wouldve love parents that commited time and money to my wellbeing, but these parents are throwing time and money at their own desires for these poor damn kids.
I know a girl since we were born and were really close friends as kids. Her mother is one of the worst parents I haver meet. We are no longer friends bc of the mother. When we were in years 5 and 6, every study group had to be at her house, her mother would check on us every 15min bc we had a boy in our study group. Her mother picked her outfits every day until year 12, this included socks, panties and bra. Until year 9, she "allowed" me to be her friend bc I was smarter than her and could help her in school. She had tutors for every discipline bc her mother though she needed(she didn't, she was quite smart herself, just a little bit of a slow learner). In year 10 we got putted in a class with some girls that are actuly really good academicly speaking and came from old money and her mother forbade her from being my friend bc I wasn't girly and forced her to be friends with this other girls. At 13 she started dating her now husband and her mother would go to our school to prevent them from being together. The guy had promised her to give his grandma engagement ring at her 18th birthday, what her mother did? Bought an old type of engagement ring and gift her as soon as she woke up on her 18th birthday. This are just some of what I remember, but I truly believe that she marry her husband just to say an big f u to her mother. She was one of the sweets girl a ever met but I did stop hanging out with her bc of her mother.
Also, she has an younger brother that even got it worse than her.
Helicopter parents do ALL this and then they wonder why they grow up and become Failures. Poor people who have this problem
my dad told me his dad forced him to play football and take ROTC he just wanted to do marching band.
Friend of mines mom tracks his current location and previous location. Kids paranoid about everywhere he goes
I had a helicopter study hall teacher. She always told me to do late work as opposed to work that's happening right now so i can keep doing late work.
Has the football dad never heard of cross-training? It makes sports more interesting and makes sure you are working out all the major muscle groups opposed to just the ones you sport requires.
My friends grandparents were always really strict of where he could go in there house and he always found it annoying but it’s just coz they were growing some weed
Horrible failures as parents. Your job is to raise them so that they don't need to rely on you. You are supposed to develop a functioning, independent adult. Let them face as much adversity as they can handle and overcome. The best lessons are learned through failure.
You know what I'm just realising with the museum story? OP should have given instructions to the kid which results in a complete failure. When the mum explodes, OP shrugs and says "I had a theory I was testing. Guess I was wrong. Want me to try again?" The mum would either have to give in or leave in a huff. Either way, the kid learns that just because someone knows the answer, doesn't mean they'll give you the RIGHT one if you ask, and also shows adults CAN be wrong, and that it's OK to be wrong.
Minute and a half and I’m out. Sorry I guys I can’t watch this. Ticks me off too much.
I had a coworker friend who, at age 35, just got her license. She still lived at home. Her parents would take her to work every day, and pick her up. Both of them. Her father would go with her in the passenger seat of her car, mother would follow behind so she could then drive the father home. Both would drive to pick her up so that dad could again sit in the car with her and mom would follow. If it was raining or snowing, even lightly, her father would drive instead. Still followed by her mom. Just in case the weather cleared and she could drive home herself. This went on for a full 6 months, until I left that job. I believe her parents still continued this routine long after I left.
IM NOT SCARED OF YOU PANCAKE MAN!!!!!!!!
My dad always let me get hurt REALLY bad, for example when I was like: "Hey dad is the oven hot?" He would always say "Yes, dont touch it." Well one time i decided to ignore him and touch it, and it hurt ALOT. But I never touched the oven after that. I thank my dad for that, because it tought me what not to do rather than just being told "no" over and over. Thanks father.
Wait, she lived in a dorm at 15? I thought teen geniuses going to college lived at home since they aren’t 18 yet.
Dark Angel 666 if she’s that brilliant I wouldn’t have been surprised if she had basically her own apartment
Her parents probably ruined her life because they wouldn’t let her develop her individuality, kids like that often fall into heavy drug use, depression and some even commit suicide
Little do you know, pancake man has a machete
7:52 I started doing theater shows this year. We did Annie in the winter and we're trying to do Mary Poppins now. My parents don't care about how I do or what I get as long as I don't die. May be a bit too relaxed, considering how close the ensembles have been.
"I'm not scared!"
I don't have helicopter parents but I do know what living with one is like because for a month and a half during the summer in middle school I stayed with my uncle who is a complete helicopter parent. At first I was excited because I hadn't seen him and my cousin for years because his wife's family is basically a clan, but after the first few days I instantly regretted staying there. He treated me like his own kids and controlled when I read, when I ate, when I could do things, what I could drink, and just a bunch of shit like that. And I was underweight at the time so I lost 20 pounds when I stayed there because he believed that being underweight gives you an advantage. He also made me do tennis all the time, and although I do like sports tennis isnt really my thing though and when I tried to tell him I wanted to do something else hed always argue about it. In fact, he always argued about everything. When I told him I had trouble paying attention because I have adhd, he said that it's not that I don't have ADHD it's that I choose not to pay attention. And he'd even argue about the weirdest topics as well, such as you can die in your dreams and other weird shit like that randomly. And what was worse was that my cousin ended up being exactly like him. After I came home, I really appreciated my parents a lot more.
His views on mental illness changed though because we found out after a year it happened that my cousin fell into a serious depression around his junior year and even wrote a suicide note and his grades dropped massively and he's barely gonna graduate high school. I do feel really bad for what happened to my cousin, but I also do know the reasons why people become helicopter parents as well. When my uncle was a kid, he had a lot of freedoms and he was pretty naughty and never tried on his tennis team. The problem with him is he's so obsessed with his past failures instead of just moving on from them and restarting, that he wants his kids to be how he wants them to be instead of how my parents are when letting me be who I wanna be.
Even though I struggle with ADHD and depression, I'm a lot happier now and I appreciate my parents and I'm gonna be very successful in life as well. People like helicopter parents always accuse my parents of spoiling me when theyve really taught me how hard life really is and how to get through it.
Ahhh yes everything is a choice wait what? You lost your leg? You choosed to lose your leg.
That first story is especially tragic.
My mom and dad look through what apps I have, if I message someone online (I only do if I role play), my photos/camera roll, what I buy with *my* money, and my search history. And when one of my Discord friends messages me asking if I was ok and I re download the app after they deleted it, then they take away my phone until I clean my room (I was going to anyway). They don’t let me do anything without permission.
If i ever see a helicopter parent i will take much joy in telling them they are terrible parents and should feel ashamed of themselves
There should be a medical term for helicopter parents, like the ones who constantly take their kids to the hospital for sympathy and attention.
There is. They suffer from Munchausen's Syndrome by Proxy. Check it out in the true crime vids.
@@sheilaclemett4353 Don't even remember typing this, lol. I already know the term. I think I was referring to parents who take their kids for the smallest reasons.
@@kendoruslink7017 They are either paranoid or they want to instill fear into their children.
I want to be successful in life and I am trying to get better as an individual but my mom just thinks I can't do ANYTHING on my own so she feels the need that she has to do EVERYTHING with me and I can't better myself as an individual because I am being hidden behind her protective bush that I don't need. I can't escape. I'd feel bad if she saw this but I just can't tell her myself... I legit failed a college chemistry course and I am taking it over the summer that she said she paid for instead of letting me get into student debt and paying it off like a big boy as everyone else does in this world. She is even taking the course WITH ME which adds more pressure to make me feel like I can't learn anything by myself. She even says "Well, it looks like we'll be taking these courses together for the next couple of summers that I am going to have to pay for and put myself in debt because you won't be able to pass these courses when you're by yourself" this also makes me question if I am a normal person, like, do I need a doctors' visit to see if there is something she has been hiding from me about my mental state, do I have a disability that I have not been told about that supposedly hinders my ability to function normally on a regular basis? There are so many things that I personally think are wrong with me because she is helicoptering me more and more as I get older and it's becoming more of an issue that I feel I can not control. I just want to be independent for once in my like without her assistance. Don't get me wrong, I love my mom but she is just caring for me too much, like, I mean, I'm 19, I'm an adult, I can take responsibilities into my own hands as any other adult can. Also, my parents weren't married for too long either. They divorced when I was in kindergarten and she hasn't had a man tell her about this helicopter thing. I'm sure he would totally understand but I don't even know if he was helicoptered as a child. It looks like it is my job to say it to her face that I am uncomfortable with how much she is caring for me because I know she loves to care but too much is too much. Also, I don't know if this message. may come across to you as me being an ungrateful little fu*k but I really don't know what else to think or say in the matter. If any of you take the time to read this, I'd really appreciate your feedback, or maybe tell me a little of your own experience about being helicoptered because that is what's we are all here for, right?
Maybe I should just leave without her knowing? So I can finally gain my independence and accomplish my life goals individually one day at a time? I don't have a car though so that probably won't help :)
“I’m not scared.”
I'm NOT SCARED !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
When I was young, we had a big playground right in front of our home. I lived there until I was 5.
At the end, I was allowed to go unsupervised to that playground with my elder brother (3 years older than me), because it was basically our extended garden. It had a tower of abour 2m in height, that we would jump from into the sand and a metal slide that was nice and fast, among other things.
I never got seriously injured and there usually was an adult around anyway supervising all the neighbors kids.
When I was 5+1/2 my twin brothers were born and we moved to another village. When they were Kindergarten age, my elder brother and me took them to the playground - which was about a 5 minute walk including crossing a road. My mom taught us well.
My childhood must've been the nightmare of every helicopter parent. 😂
These parents are insane.
Imagine them with biology class
When I was young I used to go walking in the woods by myself all the time. My parents did not freak out about that at all.
Simple, a lot of parents wouldn´t let their children to go out by their own because they would throught that a child rapist would appear to kidnap and kill children
A Helicopter Parents worst nightmare: A Bee
Reason? Because Bees have STINGERS, right?
Trust me try having ASIAN helicopter parents. They manipulate me and my sister. They constantly compare us to our cousins. We have no self confidence at all because of them
Indian parents here... I feel u bro
Have you Tried to Poison them?
Lol my friend charlie is Chinese.
One time chalie was caught watching anime instead of studying. So her mum tied her to a chair and beat her with a golf stick until the floor was covered in blood and she eventually became unconscious.
Another time, charlies mum tried to teach charlie Mandarin. Charlie messed up a word so her mum brought a knife to her fingers and threatened to cut them off if Charlie made another mistake.
That's not even the most damaging part of their relationship. Charlie is gorgeous, muscular and extremely intelligent. Her mum constantly, called her fat, ugly, said she had wonky teeth, looked like a whale, told my friend she didn't love her etc. My friend genuinely believed she was fat, ugly and an idiot. It seriously messed with her mental health and self esteem.
Charlie's mum used to wake Charlie up at 6am to make her run 10km everyday with no rest day. One day, Charlie twisted her ankle and hurt it. She was too scared to tell her mum, so she just kept running 10km every morning and 5 years later her ankle is fucked.
Charlie was insanely good at art. She used to sell her art to make money on the side. One time Charlie didn't wash the dishes properly. Her mum then go all her art and threw it in the fire.
Another time, Charlie's younger sister attempted suicide. Charlie's mum came up with a brilliant plan to help her suicidal daughter. She decided to abandon the family because they were all failures. So Charlie's mum got a job in another city and told Charlie (age 17) that she'd have to raise her younger sisters from now on. She left Charlie with €10k and left. That was barely enough money for one years rent.
Then Charlie's mum returned a few weeks later. I'm not sure if they apologised but I guess Charlie realised that her mum does so much for them that she rekindled the relationship with her mum and now they get along great.
Anyway, a year after that fiasco, Charlie was allowed invite a friend over for the first time. I met her mum for the first time. Her mum was rly nice to me and bought us lots of food. All my friends seemed to like Charlies mum, but they also come from slightly abusive homes.
I herd Fiddler on the Roof and my memory of being Sasha the Russian Soldier in middle schools kicked in. All “Townspeople” we just random characters but in different costumes. I was both Sasha and a villager.
One time, my friend Charlie was caught watching anime instead of studying. So her mum tied her to a chair and beat her with a golf stick until the floor was covered in blood and she eventually became unconscious.
Another time, charlies mum tried to teach charlie Mandarin. Charlie messed up a word so her mum brought a knife to her fingers and threatened to cut them off if Charlie made another mistake.
That's not even the most damaging part of their relationship. Charlie is gorgeous, muscular and extremely intelligent. Her mum constantly, called her fat, ugly, said she had wonky teeth, looked like a whale, told my friend she didn't love her etc. My friend genuinely believed she was fat, ugly and an idiot. It seriously messed with her mental health and self esteem.
Charlie's mum used to wake Charlie up at 6am to make her run 10km everyday with no rest day. One day, Charlie twisted her ankle and hurt it. She was too scared to tell her mum, so she just kept running 10km every morning and 5 years later her ankle is fucked.
Charlie was insanely good at art. She used to sell her art to make money on the side. One time Charlie didn't wash the dishes properly. Her mum then go all her art and threw it in the fire.
Another time, Charlie's younger sister attempted suicide. Charlie's mum came up with a brilliant plan to help her suicidal daughter. She decided to abandon the family because they were all failures. So Charlie's mum got a job in another city and told Charlie (age 17) that she'd have to raise her younger sisters from now on. She left Charlie with €10k and left. That was barely enough money for one years rent.
Then Charlie's mum returned a few weeks later. I'm not sure if they apologised but I guess Charlie realised that her mum does so much for them that she rekindled the relationship with her mum and now they get along great.
Anyway, a year after that fiasco, Charlie was allowed invite a friend over for the first time. I met her mum for the first time. Her mum was rly nice to me and bought us lots of food. All my friends seemed to like Charlies mum, but they also come from slightly abusive homes.
For the parents fearing her child failing.
My parents up until I was probably 9 they would punish me for mistakes in homework and now at 16 I have intense anxiety and cry when I make a mistake because I’m scared of what will happen.
My parents are trying to fix their mistake but it’s not working cuz if my anxiety.
Edit: When I was in 1st grade my dad used to yell at me because I couldn’t do what was on the homework correctly and I would get yelled at and he’d threaten to force feed me stuff I didn’t like and would check over my homework and yell for me to solve it right.
I litterally thought that it would be or: parents in helicopters or a helicopter family. My brain went: POOF
School friend of mine had exceptionally stupid and embarassing parents.He became a fucking SAILOR to get away from them.
My parents sheltered me pretty heavily, but comparing them to the parents in these videos makes me feel a lot better. As far as my stories go, I wasn't allowed to watch Star Wars until 4th grade, I wasn't allowed to watch R rated movies until 16, and even then I was only allowed to watch the Breakfast Club, I wasn't allowed to be in public without my parents past 9pm, I wasn't allowed to go anywhere without telling them where I would be and what time I would be back and whom I would be with, etc., and I wasn't allowed to talk to anyone online that I hadn't met in person first, which made online gaming very difficult. All those rules did is forced me to hide my interests from my parents because I don't know what they would and wouldn't punish me for doing, so it's safer just to have them not know what I'm doing.
i am absolutely scared please do not hurt me
I don't have the nerve emotions to be able to fear the man of pancakes
10:57 Daughters Just a Meal Ticket
Like If U Get Reference
13:10 I think I have seen that video. My school showed it to us because we had to do something like it
I vote the Rocky Moives and eye of the tiger is iconic you don’t have to say the band but anyway that’s clever
Love not vote
Side note, fiddler on the roof is a old but great movie btw
I do not fear you pancake Man, for I have the one weapon that shell destroy you!
*Holds up syrup bottle*
What...the...(*BLEEP*)
Most of these may have shitty endings, keep in mind that the wicked shall receive their harsh punishment from above.
Man, thanos was right. We need balance
3:30 KAREN MOMENT
Me: Hmm, I kind of want to ask that girl for her number but I'm kind of shy 'Mother is there with you at the time"
Mom: Here, I'll do it for you honey 😊
Me: NO NO NO NO NO, PLEASE DON'T EMBARRASS ME, I'LL DO IT ANOTHER DAY "WHEN IM ALONE"
Mom: Proceeds to walk to the girl
Me: Ah sh*t, here we go again
Mom: Hey, what's your name? My son would really like to get to know you. Can I please have your number so I can give it to him.
Me: Proceeds to bolt out of the facility
Mom: "Notices the dust trail I've left behind when I fled the scene"
Also mom: I think he likes you
man i hate myself so much
I have enough on my hands trying to run my own damn life, let alone my grown kids lives, good Lord.
Give the parents a break! They are doing their best. It's gotta be hard to raise a big flying vehicle in a human family. 😏
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You had me in the first half
Same
You got me in the first half ngl
I remember when me and my brother were kids we lived in a community where the kids were allowed to roam the trailer park forest. If we broke a bone? We delt with it. If one of us cracked our head open? Off to the hospital and the next day our friend was out. All the kids had to do was be home before street lights.
What pisses me off is that this was the early 2000s BTW today's parents are to over protective.
was thinking parents that own helicopters lol.