If my mother-in-law showed up to my wedding in a white dress, I would turn to my fiance and tell him, "One white dress is leaving this wedding. It's up to you to decide which one."
On the story of accidentally arriving at ex-boyfriend's wedding 10 years later. I might suggest that she ask her boyfriend to write a letter to the bride (who invited him) explaining that he brought his new GF (you) as a plus-1 and neither of you knew that the groom (with the common name) was her ex-BF. That you tried to leave at the soonest possible opportunity, but he was already upset. Then at least she has a chance to know and work with it, and neither of them has to deal with contact with you.
First story: what the best man did was extremely selfish. You do not confess your love to someone in a relationship, but you absolutely don't do it right before or especially AT their wedding events.
It's wasn't just selfish. It was DUMB. He was best man, so I'm guessing he had a close reliationship with the groom. That ruined now if I would take a guess. If he really was into her and REALLY couldn't hold back, he could just talk to her before the wedding and PRIVATELY. Still a dumb move, but at least you don't ruin a wedding and avoid public humiliation...
If I am allowed to give my personal opinion (hi :3) he was not in love, he was obsessed with her. Otherwise he would be happy for her because she is happy and wouldn't have describe graphic things he wanted to do to her (eww) poor bride
In the first story: How much are you willing to bet the mother set this whole thing up? I bet she convinced the best man to declare his "love" and contacted the ex just to ruin the wedding and make the bride upset.
My sisters ex attended the wedding and gave the most heartfelt, sweet speech ever, made me sob as I’d known the man since we were 16! In fact her and her husband and son are on their way to spend Labor Day with her ex and his new wife as I type this! Sometimes it works out, but I’d say they are the exception.
That's great, ideal, you are in a relationship with a friend and even if that does not work out, what made one friends does not need to change... I know several cases of exes being chill and still imported in each others life's but I get how that would not work, if the only thing drawing one to the other would be wanting to jump their bones
The sober woman who was feeling guilty for accidentally attending her ex’s wedding was unusually relatable for me. I’m 13 years clean, but I was a drug addict, trying to childhood bury trauma, from 14 to 40. When you’ve undergone an enormous change, done a lot of work, and changed your entire way of being, it’s very much as though that person who did all the thoughtless, unkind or even unlawful things you did were done by someone else. It’s natural and human for one’s ego to protect them from the truth, which could literally drive a person to suicide. We all view ourselves and our behavior in a biased way to protect ourselves from the emotional harm that a more honest view could cause. ❤ Allow yourself and others to change. ❤ Honor the positive changes. Remember too, the making amends step is specifically stipulated “except when doing so would cause more harm.”
Congratulations on your sobriety and your emotional growth! It's not easy, but it is certainly worthwhile. This internet stranger is very proud of you 💕
@@alicianelson1252i agree. I completely understand that when someone is in active addiction (whether drugs or alcohol), they can cause a lot of trauma for others but, the way this guy purposely humiliated her is just wrong. She tried to leave as soon as she realized it was him but for him, that just wasn’t good enough. He sounds like a real asshat that hasn’t let go of whatever happened in the past, all while she made the steps to change and become a better person
I was the maid of honor at my ex-husband's second wedding. He married my then best friend. I mainly did it to show our four children that parents can still be civil and they were very loved by both of us. The casualty of the wedding was losing a best friend. The upside was that my children never had to experience the volatile relationship that many children of divorce go through. To this day I don't regret my decision. Love your channel, Charlotte. 💕
Outch, but you sure had your priorities well sorted and props to you!!! My best friend was for years on end with a cheater and got pregnant from him, she finaly broke up and all, but she remains cival with him for their daughters sake even if he is kinda the worst... By now she can laugh about him but it was hard and I rarely ever respected something more!
My nephew got married for the 2nd time recently and it was beautiful. They had dinner with their kids and their exes before and talked to the kids about how the family is just growing and there will be more love, not less.
No one ruined my wedding because we got married at a courthouse, but when my ex found out, he and his significant other began planning their wedding and married on the same date the following year. She was a super nice person and told me a while later during our kids play date (half siblings) that he insisted on that date even though it was in the middle of the week and never told her why. She was irate when she realized. Weird as hell 😅
The only time that an ex should be allowed to go to the wedding is if they are mutually over those feelings. My maid of honor was my husband's ex-turned-best friend. No drama to be found.
lol Charlotte asked "how do you ACCIDENTALLY attend your ex's wedding???" and I was like "pssh, easy... the other party invited you and you didn't know they were engaged to your ex"
I worked with a woman and a guy (Barbara and Bill, both great people) who got married. She had children from her prior marriage, but every two weeks, her ex and the ex's new wife and kids, and Bill and Barbara and her kids, would go to a restaurant to have dinner. It was a fantastic thing for the kids. Everyone probably showed up for both weddings (I wouldn't be surprised).
I invited one of my exes to my wedding, we broke up because we realized that we made much better friends than girlfriends. She showed up dressed beautifully and appropriately, she was kind and charming to everyone including my husband, because she is a normal and decent human being who was genuinely happy for me. My wedding was lovely. My husband and I both felt happy and celebrated on the day, and I'm still friends with my ex.
Was invited to my ex's wedding. Our relationship ended because he started dating her. No animosity towards her, she didn't know I existed. I just took it as a good sign and walked away. When I received the invite my reply was Lol, NO. 2 weeks after the wedding he called me wondering where the gift was. Since I was invited, I was required to send a gift even thou I chose to not attend. All I did was laugh, say no and hung up. Blocked him everywhere afterwards. Lol
My best friend is my ex. I was his 'best man' at his wedding. We realized early we were not a good couple but great friends. The bride and I had a private coffee date and I gushed over how happy she made my best friend. She could see there was nothing romantic between her fiancee and myself. Even the couple's parents could see there was nothing but a really good friendship. My 'best man' speech reiterated how happy he is and I whole-heatedly thanked her. Zero drama. EXs CAN ATTEND THE WEDDING.
@CSteeg-em2fh it seems you misread. All she said was that he IS happy, as in currently with his new wife, and that she thanked his new wife for it. I don't think she would dredge up their past relationship during the wedding to his new wife, that would come off as jealous or make it obvious that there are still feelings involved, when there aren't any
I have attended weddings as the ex of the groom when I was in my 20's. NBD. I knew they weren't the one, they knew I wasn't the one and we remained close friends afterwards. Sometimes, it doesn't have to be a big deal. I was genuinely happy for them and I'm thankful I got to share in the celebration of their love with their new partners. It really doesn't have to be a dramatic mess. Sometimes adults can adult.
Rarely, but I am really happy for you!!! One would think it was not that hard, but somehow it is. It probably depends a lot on what expectations one had in the relationships and if one was also friends or just attracted.....
I went to an ex's wedding in 2021. We dated for 6 months in 2012. We were teens and each other's first love, and things ended mutually without any negative feelings. We were friends before we dated and stayed friends afterwards. So it was great to go to the wedding (I brought a +1), see our mutual friends, amd celebrate my ex marrying a lovely person. It's not a common situation but I think it's perfectly possible to attend an ex's wedding on purpose where everyone has a nice time.
I can say ex (whom I NEVER contacted) called to inform me he was getting married, via my step dad. I wouldn't take his call and missed the wedding drama that could've been. People are strange 😂
My bf once told me about his ex gf who was really abusive and said horrible things to him. They had a really bad break up, she moved out and they never spoke since then. 10 years later he applied for a job and it was a really good offer until he saw his ex's name mentioned in one of the emails. He had to double check and asked the HR about the name. It appeared it really was his ex. So my bf had to turn down the company's offer even though they were really interested in hiring him. The HR said that when he asked that girl about him, she actually said, "Once he knows it's me, he will not agree to work here." Some things can never be forgiven, even after many years. And she knew that also.
I went to my ex-husband's wedding about 3 years after the divorce. We have a child together and I had spent a lot of time around his girlfriend, then fiance, and really loved her. She is an amazing person and she helped mediate as we worked through our differences in order to co-parent better. She is an amazing person and I honestly am so happy for them. I have no lingering feelings for my ex, nor he for me, and I think if you are able to get to a place where you can actually be friendly, and work together so you can enjoy time together in the new family dynamic then there isn't any drama at all. It takes a lot of work and self-reflection (not for the faint of heart, it is tough) but it is possible to get along with your ex in a healthy way and to move on. It helps if they have a new partner that is someone you love to spend time around and do things with.
My ex from high school wanted to come to my husband & I's wedding, no problems at all. We've been friends for years, I'm on good terms with all my ex except one, I'm sure that's common for most. He brought his plus one which is a girl he dated & had a kid with, I'm friends with her too. He sat with my other friends I had known since high school. Everyone was respectful, I'm grateful everyone was so supportive on our big day 😊
As someone else commented, I think the MIL was behind all of it. She had to have been witchy toward the bride way beforehand, and I would have dealt with it before the wedding. It may have resulted in no wedding, but like the previous poster said: it's a sign of very bad things to come.
In the AA Program, Step 9 is to "Make direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others." So, yes, making amends is super important, but using good judgement is even _more_ important. If one has gotten as far as Step 9 and is still unsure if their motivation for wanting to make amends to a certain person is wise or not, perhaps working previous steps again is in order.
Can I ask, what does it mean exactly when it says unless it would "injure" someone to do it? Bruise their ego? Hurt their feedings? Or actually physically injured someone
My wedding was one disaster after another. No ex drama, but things just continuity went wrong. My wife and I have been married for almost 25 years. So there is some truth to disastrous weddings.
Mine was also a series of disasters, the smallest one being the officiant ghosted us the day of. 4 years later I still get upset about it all but hey, atleast we got married and are still married.
My wedding day itself was great... We had all the drama the week before, including my dad's suicide.... But 10 years later we are still happier than ever....
4:55 is a really good point. It's polite to send an invitation, but receiving an invite doesn't mean you're expected or even wanted to come. Sometimes it really is just a formality and people completely expect you to say no like you want to. You don't need to accept every invite you receive.
My highschool ex was at my wedding, but by that point we were just really good old friends. He sat with my other highschool friends and his date was another friend I didn't think would have wanted to come but did. It was fun, and we were all in a very different places in our lives by that point and there wasn't any weirdness.
I guess it all depends on how you broke up. 2 of my exes I would have no problem being friends with and would actually attend their weddings if invited and be happy for them. But there are also other relationships that turned out bad and I will never want to hear from these people ever again in my life.
My daughter got married a couple of months ago. She invited her ex. He is married and recently had a son. He is in the same group of friends as my daughter and her husband. There was absolutely no drama. It was great to see him again.
I feel for the woman and her ex at the wedding where he spotted her. I have not had an incident between myself or another individual like they did. I believe her story based on my own experience. The number of times where I am far away in a random store or at an event that I expect not to know anyone and here I get tapped on the shoulder by folks I knew decades ago from another time and place very far away from where we bump into each other again (both equally like "woah, this is weird") has happened a lot. I believe her. It's a small world. Feels like it gets smaller all the time.
This honestly this to be honest I feel so bad for her too I don't think she meant to go to her ex wedding to be honest her boyfriend hoping husband now ask her to come because of the Bride he was friends with to be honest I also get the ex because she gave him trauma honestly he has some rights to be mad but he shouldn't have done in a place where everybody can hear him he made a embarrassing scene of himself
I got invited to my ex's wedding. I knew both of them as I'm the one who introduced them to each other 🤨 (they got together while I was still dating my ex) my invite to the wedding was attached to a address that was never mine (it was a house that had a bunch of our friends who room together - I never lived there) I personally feel it was an after thought to add my name to the invite address envelope. *I did not go* (Update the couple got divorced 3 years later as she got her citizenship so she was done with him- kharma for him, still waiting for her kharma)
My mother joined the second wedding of my father. It was one of the best parties ever, and I used to party three times a week 😉 Family members from the Caribbean islands, Australia, and Irland came over to Germany, it was legendary🥳
Sounds amazing! I am a big fan of acting like adults and being civil with eachother after a break up or even stay close if possible (hard exception for abusive or mutualy toxic relationships)!
4:06 my kids mom has been one my best friends ever since our break up. In a relationship we do not see eye to eye but, as far as our kids and our friendship, our relationship is unmatched!! We love each other in a way that only best friends could understand. So yes, if I were to get married, her and her husband would be there because I invited them and they would be there to support me in my happiest of times.
For most, 18 is much too young for marriage. I was an exception (as is the story of my life). I got married at 18 & we're still going strong over 20 years later. We have two beautiful children and one amazing grandbaby. And, yes, there was plenty of drama from his family on our wedding day. We got brought in late & doors were locked to stop his family's plans. It worked & they didn't ruin our day.
I was also an 18 year old bride. It has been 17 years for us. The drama with his family came after we had been married and has lasted way too long. I am glad you were able to save your special day.😊
We were married at 17/19. Had our first child at 23 5years in. Had two more children. As of today we have 9 grands and have been married 48years so far.there have been many marriages in the same year maybe 30 who did last a year.
I was 19 (turned 20 a few days later) and my husband was 20. We’d already been together through high school and a really tough deployment. We’ve now been married 11 years and together for 15.
Agreed. :) I'm happy for you, that's awesome! My daughter and SIL eloped when they were just 18 and out of HS (he went into the military). Thirteen years later and 2 beautiful daughters later, they are stronger than ever. They have a truly blessed and wonderful relationship and family... A rarity in today's standards! It's nice to see when this actually happens.
I was 17, hubby 21. We've been married for 36 years, and I can't imagine it being different. I always say, "It's not always been easy, but it's always been worth it."
I was invited to and attended both of my ex boyfriends’ wedding. No drama, made sure to compliment the brides (they both did look absolutely lovely). They (the exes and their wives) were at my wedding as well. We all belong to the same friend group and regularly hang out together. I literally had lunch with one of the wives today (she’s really sweet and we’re now friends in our own right). We had super amicable breakups, and I do cherish the time I spent with both. They just weren’t right for me, and I wasn’t right for them. I honestly don’t understand why the need for so much drama for some people.
In my country, it's customary to send wedding announcements to all your wider circle, and the people that are actually invited receive a separate invitation in the same envelope. I think it's a nice custom to acknowledge the people in your life that you want to keep updated, and then you don't have to invite everyone and their mother. No gifts are expected for non guests, but sometimes people send flowers to the bride after the honeymoon or something (completely optional). I feel so much relief when there isn't an invitation inside because the whole ordeal is SO EXPENSIVE
Keeping people informed of majour events in one's life, ESPECIALLY when you know they're not on social media is still acceptable in the US as well. It's not a call for gifts, just to inform them of something important happening with you.
Our family sends “save the date” cards, then invites 8 weeks out and Marriage Announcements to those not invited but within the wider circle of friends and family. The rest of our community just yells out at the pub when and where they’re getting married and it’s a true Irish weekend of fun! My husband and I had a courthouse ceremony with just parents then sent out announcements. Sheer perfection. Fifteen years later we renewed our vows in a church as it was important to my Nana. Total of 10 people were invited, our children stood up for us and my da floated me down the aisle, he was so pleased. We had a blast. We’ve been married for 26 years now. Two years ago my Nana died (96 years young), she was going on about how fun it was the day she passed. My da and I were sitting with her smiling and laughing with her.
I was 20 when I got married- that was too young and I did regret it. Go out and enjoy life. Travel. Work. Study. Don’t get married- it’s too early to settle down.
I have heard of one wedding where the ex husband escorted the bride down the aisle and was the person the vicar asked who gives this bride. I cemented a handover of responsibilities and a continuing friendship of all involved. Very unusual, but heart warming.
Being in AA, the 9th step states: "Made direct amends to such people (referring to the 8th step which is making a list of everyone we have harmed) wherever possible, EXCEPT when to do so would injure them or others." If she's on the 9th step, she should know that and should have been considering that it might be harmful. If she didn't think about the harm it could cause, she's not far enough in the steps to go there yet. This is a conversations she should be having with her sponsor and other wise council, not her boyfriend who isn't in the program. The steps are in this order for a reason.
My ex was a groomsman at my wedding, and I was a bridesmaid at his LOL It absolutely depends on the people involved. That was 20 years ago and we've remained good friends to this day. I absolutely adore his wife and he and my husband were good friends. He is also one of my children's favorite uncles ❤
I invited an ex to my wedding and he was super chill and didn't cause any drama. He actually helped us shovel out our path and drive way to the backyard tent because it snowed like 2 feet overnight even though it was clear literally every day before and melted within the next day. He was also he only one to show up early and leave late and made sure to help with any last minute set up and helped a bit with cleanup. Him and my husband are super cool with each other we all play video games together, even have a minecraft server together. It might also help we are all guys lol
Yes I always do! Not just for Charlotte, but also because that is a tell for me that I have watched the video if I happen to click on the video in the future.
Accidently went to exs wedding: firstly, im so proud of you for your sobriety. In this situation, i think i would have thought to ask the groom to see photos of the bride if you thought even for a second that it could have been your ex getting married or maybe stalked the brides social media for couples pics that way, the moment you realized you could have backed out way before. You did do the respectful thing by bowing out of the reception but not getting up and leaving during the ceremony because that would be noticed. Im also glad you ex supported you in that also. You honestly didnt do anything wrong. While you ex had the right to be unnerved by your presence, he didnt have the right to react the way he did and could have given a chance to explain that it was your bf who got invited from the brides side and you're a plus one and had no ides it was him getting married but that you also wanted to apologize for how bad to him you were in the past and that you have been sober for years after getting the help you needed. Wishing him the best and then excusing yourself.
Wife and I got married on the 18th, dress code was wear what you are comfortable in, food was potluck made by friends in Lou of a gift. One friend did Tarot readings, there were 2 kids who when meeting for the first time had so much fun they temporarily forgot they were at a wedding. Our vows were full of love and laughter. Thanks to all the wedding vids you’ve done we knew what not to do. And the doggos were being adorable. Thanks Charlotte! We appreciate and love your content
After spending my morning listening to the nonsense that passes for the news these days this is exactly what I needed! Thanks for another great video Charlotte!
Way back in the day; we're talking the 90s here. I went to an ex's wedding. I dated & was friends with both the groom & the bride. My husband was also friends with them both. We got invited to their wedding, went, and had a great time. Hugged them both & gave them well wishes. Had a great night, even danced with both of them lol. Even had a very touching talk with my ex while we danced together. Over 30+ years later my hubby & I are still together, but ex & his wife didn't last 5yrs sadly.
Charlotte the editing in your videos cracks me up! Props to you and / or your editor ❤ the "surfer in Australia" edit was really funny 🕷 ETA: STOOOP the "Bob Smith" / "Steve Jones" edit 😂😂
My ex was one of my husband’s groomsmen at our wedding and did a beautiful reading from LotR during the ceremony. I’m so grateful he agreed to be a part of our day and we got to have him there. He’s one of my husband’s best friends (when I was with my ex they were friends, but not as close). Sometimes it can work if you’re mature adults and neither of you was/is toxic or there wasn’t cheating or a super acrimonious ending. My husband’s ex was invited to our wedding, but her current partner wouldn’t let her attend because he was still worried about my husband being into her *eyeroll*
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your kitty! Having to say goodbye to a furbaby is awful, especially if it's unexpected. Take your time to grieve, and I hope you can find a little bit of peace. Big hugs to you!! (((((❤❤❤❤)))))
"Would you ever invite your ex to your wedding?" Only 1. Reason being, this ex and I got paired up by a mutual friend of ours, and our 1 week relationship was much more awkward than our 2 year friendship, so we went back to being friends. This was all in middle school 😂
I’ve known this one girl’s family for a long time; she’s super nice. I found out recently that she’s engaged to a guy she met at church. The wedding will be in January and after that his job will take them to Texas (we’re from Illinois). He finished college in May. She finished high school in May. I love this for her. What’s interesting to me is that her mom also got married at 18 and they’re still together, happily by all accounts.
My ex was one of my bridesmen. lol No drama during our wedding. Was a great day and great turn out. All sides of the families were polite even though they didn't see eye to eye normally. Felt perfect even though nothing was perfect. All we wanted was to have the people we loved and cared about to be present to share our joyous day. Didn't even have to worry about the white situation, cause I had everyone, but me, wear white in the wedding party. lol
Last story: If OP drank that much and DIDNT GET DRUNK then their alcoholism was seriously advanced. My dad was an alcoholic and would start drinking as soon as he got home from work. It took him about 2 hours of continuous beers and then martinis for him to show any effect.
The story where the woman accidentally went to the ex's wedding. If she was going to leave without making a scene and the groom freaked out for no reason then he ruined it not her. He could have seen her and not flipped out, waited to see what happened. She quietly leaves, no drama, no reason to cause a scene and alert the bride.
Honestly I can agree with you with that but at the same time can you really blame the op ex he got traumatized because of her he has every right to be mad at the same time the fact that he said she ruined his own wedding which is not true because he literally did that himself by embarrassing himself honestly he shouldn't let her talk explain the situation I get the ex trauma is trauma and some people can't really get over it you should always let people explain especially when it's a mistake (sometimes)
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First story: I have a 100% feeling that it was the mother in law that orchestrated that whole fiasco with the ex being there, best man confessing love and my proof she was 45 min late and wore a white dress enough said
I did invite my ex. He and my now husband had actually already met (husband and I were friends when I started dating my ex). Together, they had helped me through a very traumatic event and the only reason that relationship had ended was that he had found another job in a different state and I wasn't willing to move. No drama was had that night.
I know a man who invited his ex wife to his wedding and he had constant contact with her. They would often talk and meet up with each other and are still good friends to this day. Even his former in-laws get along well with him and his new wife. That man is my dad. The ex is my mom and the new wife is my rad step mom. They meet up because I’m still young. My dad’s family is also in Ohio and my step mom’s family is in Pennsylvania so it’s nice to have extended family out here.
My husband's ex was in our wedding. 😂 she's our friend though and a very nice person. They ended in good terms and they have a huge friend group they're part of, so it's better this way, less drama 😂
I attended my ex's wedding this year. We've been separated for more than 10 years and were very young when we were together. I was so scared of offending someone, as the bride and i used to have a somewhat strained relationship (all is good now tho), but it was just really nice all around. I was genuinely happy for them and even happier that i was invited to witness their big day. There was nothing but support and love there and it was just a really beautiful day. So i guess it isn't always horrible to invite your ex to your wedding 😅
Charlotte I invited my ex because him & I have two boys together & I wanted to show our kids we can still get along on important occasions & the wedding was a great day & the after party was fun too everyone had a good time 😊
I invited my ex to our wedding lol Ex actually went to elementary and little league with my husband and he was our only mutual friend on FB when we first met. Ex and I only dated for a year and a half and had a really bad breakup, but after sorting my own dramatics and realizing I had to choose between leaving the community of the hobby I loved or be friends since he had a very active role. Honestly, we are much better friends than we ever were together and I'm so happy that we have a good relationship now. So proud of his growth and accomplishments. So when the guest list was getting settled, I asked my now husband if he would be okay with me inviting Ex and he had no problem. Ex actually came to the wedding and was the only one of my friends that came out (other than my bridesmaids) to our destination wedding. There was no drama whatsoever and his partner was such a joy to have around, too, even telling me they would be my bodyguard if any relatives got unruly. My husband *did* find it hilarious watching his friends expressions when he pointed him out like, "oh yeah, that's her ex!" 😅
Would I invite my ex to my wedding? Yes, yes I would. You see, my ex realized she was trans when we were together, and I helped and supported her through the early stages of her transitioning. The relationship didn’t last partly bc I’m straight and not into women, but she’s still a treasured friend and would 100% be one of my bride’s maids.
First story couple must be the most amazing two perfect people on the planet to cause that much jealousy 😂 good for you guys! Many many happy years to you ❤
My parents are divorced and both remarried. They had kinda shared custody (vacations and 1 weekend per month for dad, rest of the time for mom), but still they didn't invite the other to their respective weddings! It would have been messy af, as my stepmom hates my mom, and my stepdad hates my dad, my brother and I lol. Such a weird idea. I mean, I definitively wouldn't want my partner's exes to our wedding, no exceptions.
I had 2 of my ex's at my wedding and both of them were very respectful and had a great time. I think the example should be, 'don't invite people to your wedding who are likely to create drama, including MOTHERS who are going to cause drama.' My husband's parents were not at our wedding, because we thought they would cause drama.'
My husband’s ex and her girlfriend (at the time now wife) came to our wedding. We invited both of them. We’ve ended becoming good friends actually. She’s on of our biggest supporters
That first one just sounds legitimately like a romcom lmao. At least it was a happy ending. That last one was hilarious but a little questionable. Even if it's casual I maybe wouldn't show up to a wedding in jeans and sneakers? Idk, that's just me lol. Maybe there was some confusion about the dress code because that does happen. Not everyone knows the meaning of certain terms or states the dress code properly. But it seems like it was a fun time, and that all we hope for at a wedding. 😁
After being forced to go to weddings for decades I have come to the conclusion that if everything is perfect at your wedding your marriage is doomed. Every perfect ceremony and reception I’ve been to has ended in divorce. The ones that had stuff go wrong they are still married. It’s like perfection pisses off the universe.
I had a sort of ex at my wedding. He was a short fling but he stayed a friend and was actually the brother of a family friend(who was my bridesmaid), only like a 2 month thing. But we all stayed friends and the only bad thing with the wedding was he didn't read the message prior about the wedding being child-free and brought his daughters. The kids were good for the wedding and fine for the reception but there had been friends who weren't there because it was child-free and couldn't get a babysitter so was slightly annoying. But I also had just sent a message on Facebook Messenger about it and didn't follow up to make sure he read it or realized it and he truly wasn't on FB often at that time(2010) and didn't read it. He read it like a week later and apologized. Fast forward many years later, my brother got divorced and my Ex-SIL is now with him and have been happily with him for years. We're all still friends, I kept my SIL in the divorce.
@@Sorchia56 It's been around 11 years since their divorce and I'm still good friends with her and their family. My brother and her do have a son together and they have always wanted to stay good to be great co-parents. My family even makes a year's worth of lefsa in the fall and give her a batch to keep for holidays since she fell in love with it at our holiday tables when she was with my brother
I attended my high school boyfriend's wedding in 2019 and he just attended mine in April! It has been great to celebrate each other's big life moments. We even had a good laugh at my wedding about how we ended up with the right people because even though we dated for almost all of high school, he never knew the things about me that my husband said in his vows. 😂
My ex was my best hobbit (it was a Halloween wedding and they’re genderfluid) at my wedding, because they’re also my best friend. Everything went perfect, and they saved the party since my phone wouldn’t hook up to the sound system and theirs did. But ours is a unique situation. No regrets. ❤
wife and I have been together since 1995 - legally married for 12. We invited her ex & wife to our marriage. They raised 3 kids together, neither wants to be together anymore which helped me with any jealousy. They are still part of our extended family.
I was actually a member of one of my ex's wedding. I had a great time, no drama! and at the time didn't think it was weird, Now that I'm older I understand that this is NOT normal. Would I do it again NO but they are still a couple and I'm still friends with both of them.
Okay, but if you handled it well and you are still friends, why not? You are clearly all mature enough to handle it. Don't limit yourself just because you are on a different level.😊
Why not, you where all mature and friends and some people can actually act like adults, those should not deprive themselfs of a great memory togeather, just because others can't?
I did invite my ex-husband to my second wedding, who had become one of my closest friends and my business partner... He himself realized he did not know how he would feel, and thanked me for the invitation but said he did not want to chance feeling uncomfortable (he would have known many of the people there). I honoured his feelings, and he did say he was happy for me. Fast-forward, we are still good friends and business partners, and although he and my current husband would never be the types of hang out, they do like each other overall and are respectful.
My heart goes out to the first couple. They say rocky road, happy marriage so I am glad they are living their best lives with their children. Where do some people get off behaving like that!
My ex was my man of honor, we dated as teens and realised we made better friends than lovers even though when we were both single we'd be fwb because we knew that neither of us had strings attached to one another in any other way other than getting rocks off once in awhile but if there were any issues before the wedding he wouldn't have been in the wedding he was excited when my husband proposed to me and was amazing and a good sport walking down the aisle with my husbands best man
I swear to the stars above, if one of my exs or one my partners exs (hes got a crazy one in particular who dresses up in disguises to show up to our work - she WOULD do this), came to announce their never-ending undying love for one of us, i will lose all semblance of sanity 😅
I attended my ex's wedding and it was wonderful. By the time he was getting married, we had been friends for longer than we had dated. We ended it because we were just bad for one another as a couple but great as friends. Not only did I attend his wedding but he attended my "wedding/reception" a couple years prior. I put that in quotes because it was really just a party after my husband and I eloped (best decision ever). The thing is, if you are hesitating, you know you shouldn't go. In my case, our past failed relationship was never even a consideration for me whether to invite him to my wedding or to attend his. I adore him and his wife (truly perfect for one another) and I felt honored to be there to witness their happy day.
Re the OP that accidentally went to the ex's wedding. NTA - It was a freaky accident. And OP didn't ruin the wedding, the groom did. OP and her bf tried to quietly exit. It was the groom who caused/made a big scene. He should have just let them leave. I would hope since OP's bf is (or maybe was, now) a friend of the bride that he got a chance to explain what actually happened to the bride &/or her family. That they tried to quietly leave and sincerely apologize for the incident. * Ofc, that all depends on how close he is or was to the bride.
I'm seven months late to this video, but I wanted to say that my son's dad and his then fiance(now wife) came to our wedding. We are all family and treat each other as such. Our son has two little sisters from each side, and we are like aunts/uncles to each other's daughters.
If my ex, who caused me trauma, showed up at my wedding, i'd stop it, middle of the ceremony and all, and have her removed. Then after, joke it off and hit the reset button for me and my bride-to-be. I'd rather the story be "Groom's ex showed up, he paused the ceremony to have her removed, then restarted the whole thing over again" than me losing my temper and saying/doing things i'd later regret with my wife
my husband and I got married when I was 21. he's 7 years older than me. we met when I was 19. It was a super small wedding, just close family and a few friends. I had 5 1/2 months to plan it alone and it was the most stressful thing I had ever done. We'll be married for 10 years in May and are planning a week long trip to Japan to celebrate! I'm so excited and can't wait. A lot of people have asked me if I feel like I missed out on my 20s or anything like that, and I always say no. My life wouldn't be how it is now without him. He has been my rock through the passing of my grandma, mom, and now grand aunt. I love my husband dearly!
I know that my situation is definitely not common. But not only did I invite my ex; the father of my daughter, and his mother to my wedding, they along with my daughter were my family side during my wedding. I thank God that we get along so well and even more bc my husband and my ex are great friends. We're all one big family and celebrate all holidays and birthdays together. I wish all ex's could get along like we do when there's kids involved.
If my mother-in-law showed up to my wedding in a white dress, I would turn to my fiance and tell him, "One white dress is leaving this wedding. It's up to you to decide which one."
Best. Response. Ever.
I would also be talking to fiancé and handling it. Get on it man. I’m the wife now.
An other thing would be to laugh at her whenever you see her , and to ask your friends and family to do the same.
I'm so confused by mother's who do that whole son husband thing
Tartaris ya!
Perfect!
On the story of accidentally arriving at ex-boyfriend's wedding 10 years later. I might suggest that she ask her boyfriend to write a letter to the bride (who invited him) explaining that he brought his new GF (you) as a plus-1 and neither of you knew that the groom (with the common name) was her ex-BF. That you tried to leave at the soonest possible opportunity, but he was already upset. Then at least she has a chance to know and work with it, and neither of them has to deal with contact with you.
Agreed
First story: what the best man did was extremely selfish. You do not confess your love to someone in a relationship, but you absolutely don't do it right before or especially AT their wedding events.
It's wasn't just selfish. It was DUMB. He was best man, so I'm guessing he had a close reliationship with the groom. That ruined now if I would take a guess. If he really was into her and REALLY couldn't hold back, he could just talk to her before the wedding and PRIVATELY. Still a dumb move, but at least you don't ruin a wedding and avoid public humiliation...
If I am allowed to give my personal opinion (hi :3) he was not in love, he was obsessed with her. Otherwise he would be happy for her because she is happy and wouldn't have describe graphic things he wanted to do to her (eww) poor bride
That guy thought he’s the guy in Love Actually 🤣
@@andreear6444That's exactly what I thought😂😂😂
Someone's watched a few too many romcoms.
In the first story: How much are you willing to bet the mother set this whole thing up? I bet she convinced the best man to declare his "love" and contacted the ex just to ruin the wedding and make the bride upset.
My thoughts exactly😂 MIL from hell
That’s what I was thinking tooooooo omg for sureeee
I didn't think of that but omg for sure.
She probably paid him 😂
But why would the best man (who's usually the groom's best friend) ruin his friendship with the groom over something like this??
My sisters ex attended the wedding and gave the most heartfelt, sweet speech ever, made me sob as I’d known the man since we were 16! In fact her and her husband and son are on their way to spend Labor Day with her ex and his new wife as I type this! Sometimes it works out, but I’d say they are the exception.
Wait just to be clear cause I'm confused did she marry the man that she walked down the aisle to marry or did she marry the man who gave a speech
@@HeatherQuinn-Psykhaethe man she walked to not the one that gave a speech
That's great, ideal, you are in a relationship with a friend and even if that does not work out, what made one friends does not need to change... I know several cases of exes being chill and still imported in each others life's but I get how that would not work, if the only thing drawing one to the other would be wanting to jump their bones
This is so wholesome
That's wholesome.
The sober woman who was feeling guilty for accidentally attending her ex’s wedding was unusually relatable for me. I’m 13 years clean, but I was a drug addict, trying to childhood bury trauma, from 14 to 40. When you’ve undergone an enormous change, done a lot of work, and changed your entire way of being, it’s very much as though that person who did all the thoughtless, unkind or even unlawful things you did were done by someone else. It’s natural and human for one’s ego to protect them from the truth, which could literally drive a person to suicide. We all view ourselves and our behavior in a biased way to protect ourselves from the emotional harm that a more honest view could cause. ❤ Allow yourself and others to change. ❤ Honor the positive changes. Remember too, the making amends step is specifically stipulated “except when doing so would cause more harm.”
Congratulations on your sobriety and your emotional growth! It's not easy, but it is certainly worthwhile. This internet stranger is very proud of you 💕
To be honest I don’t think her ex is as innocent as she says he is he went out of his way to humiliate her even though she was leaving
@@alicianelson1252i agree. I completely understand that when someone is in active addiction (whether drugs or alcohol), they can cause a lot of trauma for others but, the way this guy purposely humiliated her is just wrong. She tried to leave as soon as she realized it was him but for him, that just wasn’t good enough. He sounds like a real asshat that hasn’t let go of whatever happened in the past, all while she made the steps to change and become a better person
I was the maid of honor at my ex-husband's second wedding. He married my then best friend. I mainly did it to show our four children that parents can still be civil and they were very loved by both of us. The casualty of the wedding was losing a best friend. The upside was that my children never had to experience the volatile relationship that many children of divorce go through. To this day I don't regret my decision. Love your channel, Charlotte. 💕
You’re a great person, and a great mom💕
Outch, but you sure had your priorities well sorted and props to you!!!
My best friend was for years on end with a cheater and got pregnant from him, she finaly broke up and all, but she remains cival with him for their daughters sake even if he is kinda the worst... By now she can laugh about him but it was hard and I rarely ever respected something more!
My nephew got married for the 2nd time recently and it was beautiful. They had dinner with their kids and their exes before and talked to the kids about how the family is just growing and there will be more love, not less.
I was the witness of my ex-husbands wedding.
We have a daughter together so we enjoyed the celebration 🎉
@@Claireannette77 thank you.
No one ruined my wedding because we got married at a courthouse, but when my ex found out, he and his significant other began planning their wedding and married on the same date the following year. She was a super nice person and told me a while later during our kids play date (half siblings) that he insisted on that date even though it was in the middle of the week and never told her why. She was irate when she realized. Weird as hell 😅
Soooo weird omg 😂
Lol that poor woman, I can't even imagine how that conversation would go.
My ex husband married his second wife on my birthday. I would love to know if his wife knows, but I'm no contact.
@daisy9910 Sooo weiRRRRd lol Why are people so frkkn weird??
The ex is either still in love with you, or wants to one up you. Or both.
The only time that an ex should be allowed to go to the wedding is if they are mutually over those feelings. My maid of honor was my husband's ex-turned-best friend. No drama to be found.
Well of cause
Wow! That’s good you all were able to be amiable!
I would happily attend my ex’s wedding. He’s a good human and I want them to be happy!
We came to each other's weddings and then took each other's children and our shared child. ❤️ 20 years later they are still our best couple friends
Or if there are kids involved. Like the if the ex’s coparent and needs to be at the wedding for the kids.
lol Charlotte asked "how do you ACCIDENTALLY attend your ex's wedding???" and I was like "pssh, easy... the other party invited you and you didn't know they were engaged to your ex"
I worked with a woman and a guy (Barbara and Bill, both great people) who got married. She had children from her prior marriage, but every two weeks, her ex and the ex's new wife and kids, and Bill and Barbara and her kids, would go to a restaurant to have dinner. It was a fantastic thing for the kids. Everyone probably showed up for both weddings (I wouldn't be surprised).
I invited one of my exes to my wedding, we broke up because we realized that we made much better friends than girlfriends. She showed up dressed beautifully and appropriately, she was kind and charming to everyone including my husband, because she is a normal and decent human being who was genuinely happy for me. My wedding was lovely. My husband and I both felt happy and celebrated on the day, and I'm still friends with my ex.
Weird because your profile picture seems to imply your OK with rape and murder
Was invited to my ex's wedding. Our relationship ended because he started dating her. No animosity towards her, she didn't know I existed. I just took it as a good sign and walked away. When I received the invite my reply was Lol, NO. 2 weeks after the wedding he called me wondering where the gift was. Since I was invited, I was required to send a gift even thou I chose to not attend. All I did was laugh, say no and hung up. Blocked him everywhere afterwards. Lol
He called to ask where your gift was? That's insanely rude and tacky..
😂😂😂
DAMN! everyone this guy ends up with is doomed. you should take the chance and celebrate not-getting-married to a #€%&@. :) congrats!
My best friend is my ex. I was his 'best man' at his wedding. We realized early we were not a good couple but great friends. The bride and I had a private coffee date and I gushed over how happy she made my best friend. She could see there was nothing romantic between her fiancee and myself. Even the couple's parents could see there was nothing but a really good friendship. My 'best man' speech reiterated how happy he is and I whole-heatedly thanked her. Zero drama. EXs CAN ATTEND THE WEDDING.
In ur speech u mentioned your past relationship ? Or I misread
@CSteeg-em2fh it seems you misread. All she said was that he IS happy, as in currently with his new wife, and that she thanked his new wife for it. I don't think she would dredge up their past relationship during the wedding to his new wife, that would come off as jealous or make it obvious that there are still feelings involved, when there aren't any
I have attended weddings as the ex of the groom when I was in my 20's. NBD. I knew they weren't the one, they knew I wasn't the one and we remained close friends afterwards. Sometimes, it doesn't have to be a big deal. I was genuinely happy for them and I'm thankful I got to share in the celebration of their love with their new partners. It really doesn't have to be a dramatic mess. Sometimes adults can adult.
Rarely, but I am really happy for you!!! One would think it was not that hard, but somehow it is. It probably depends a lot on what expectations one had in the relationships and if one was also friends or just attracted.....
That's awesome you remained such good friends! It probably would've been weird if you hadn't gone since you are close. Very good outcome.
I went to an ex's wedding in 2021. We dated for 6 months in 2012. We were teens and each other's first love, and things ended mutually without any negative feelings. We were friends before we dated and stayed friends afterwards. So it was great to go to the wedding (I brought a +1), see our mutual friends, amd celebrate my ex marrying a lovely person. It's not a common situation but I think it's perfectly possible to attend an ex's wedding on purpose where everyone has a nice time.
I can say ex (whom I NEVER contacted) called to inform me he was getting married, via my step dad. I wouldn't take his call and missed the wedding drama that could've been. People are strange 😂
He probably thought he was being thoughtful.
@@annt7384 or the free gift
He sounds massively messy. Good on you for keeping out of that disaster. 😊
He was projecting his feelings on you!!! Thinks you'll be jealous. Lol
My bf once told me about his ex gf who was really abusive and said horrible things to him. They had a really bad break up, she moved out and they never spoke since then.
10 years later he applied for a job and it was a really good offer until he saw his ex's name mentioned in one of the emails. He had to double check and asked the HR about the name. It appeared it really was his ex. So my bf had to turn down the company's offer even though they were really interested in hiring him. The HR said that when he asked that girl about him, she actually said, "Once he knows it's me, he will not agree to work here."
Some things can never be forgiven, even after many years. And she knew that also.
I went to my ex-husband's wedding about 3 years after the divorce. We have a child together and I had spent a lot of time around his girlfriend, then fiance, and really loved her. She is an amazing person and she helped mediate as we worked through our differences in order to co-parent better. She is an amazing person and I honestly am so happy for them. I have no lingering feelings for my ex, nor he for me, and I think if you are able to get to a place where you can actually be friendly, and work together so you can enjoy time together in the new family dynamic then there isn't any drama at all.
It takes a lot of work and self-reflection (not for the faint of heart, it is tough) but it is possible to get along with your ex in a healthy way and to move on. It helps if they have a new partner that is someone you love to spend time around and do things with.
My ex from high school wanted to come to my husband & I's wedding, no problems at all. We've been friends for years, I'm on good terms with all my ex except one, I'm sure that's common for most. He brought his plus one which is a girl he dated & had a kid with, I'm friends with her too. He sat with my other friends I had known since high school. Everyone was respectful, I'm grateful everyone was so supportive on our big day 😊
that first wedding sounds like a nightmare😂😂😂😂
Right, it just kept getting worse and worse, sheesh‼️
If it were me, I would think that God is sending me a GIGANTIC sign to not continue...🤭
As someone else commented, I think the MIL was behind all of it. She had to have been witchy toward the bride way beforehand, and I would have dealt with it before the wedding. It may have resulted in no wedding, but like the previous poster said: it's a sign of very bad things to come.
In the AA Program, Step 9 is to "Make direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others."
So, yes, making amends is super important, but using good judgement is even _more_ important.
If one has gotten as far as Step 9 and is still unsure if their motivation for wanting to make amends to a certain person is wise or not, perhaps working previous steps again is in order.
Can I ask, what does it mean exactly when it says unless it would "injure" someone to do it? Bruise their ego? Hurt their feedings? Or actually physically injured someone
My wedding was one disaster after another. No ex drama, but things just continuity went wrong. My wife and I have been married for almost 25 years. So there is some truth to disastrous weddings.
Mine was also a series of disasters, the smallest one being the officiant ghosted us the day of. 4 years later I still get upset about it all but hey, atleast we got married and are still married.
My wedding day itself was great... We had all the drama the week before, including my dad's suicide.... But 10 years later we are still happier than ever....
4:55 is a really good point. It's polite to send an invitation, but receiving an invite doesn't mean you're expected or even wanted to come. Sometimes it really is just a formality and people completely expect you to say no like you want to. You don't need to accept every invite you receive.
My highschool ex was at my wedding, but by that point we were just really good old friends. He sat with my other highschool friends and his date was another friend I didn't think would have wanted to come but did. It was fun, and we were all in a very different places in our lives by that point and there wasn't any weirdness.
Congrats on all being reasonable adults. 👏 There seems to be so few left in the dang world. 🫡
I guess it all depends on how you broke up. 2 of my exes I would have no problem being friends with and would actually attend their weddings if invited and be happy for them. But there are also other relationships that turned out bad and I will never want to hear from these people ever again in my life.
@@akherousia It was highschool drama type break up and prom was involved but we got over it. Probably even before prom even happened
My daughter got married a couple of months ago. She invited her ex. He is married and recently had a son. He is in the same group of friends as my daughter and her husband. There was absolutely no drama. It was great to see him again.
I feel for the woman and her ex at the wedding where he spotted her. I have not had an incident between myself or another individual like they did. I believe her story based on my own experience. The number of times where I am far away in a random store or at an event that I expect not to know anyone and here I get tapped on the shoulder by folks I knew decades ago from another time and place very far away from where we bump into each other again (both equally like "woah, this is weird") has happened a lot. I believe her. It's a small world. Feels like it gets smaller all the time.
I would Army crawl out of there.
@@SchadenFreude_AMVhonestly this. He's friends with the bride, he could have explained it to her at the time or after the fact.
This honestly this to be honest I feel so bad for her too I don't think she meant to go to her ex wedding to be honest her boyfriend hoping husband now ask her to come because of the Bride he was friends with to be honest I also get the ex because she gave him trauma honestly he has some rights to be mad but he shouldn't have done in a place where everybody can hear him he made a embarrassing scene of himself
1st story:
"Speak now, or forever hold your peace" was brought to a whole new level!
I got invited to my ex's wedding. I knew both of them as I'm the one who introduced them to each other 🤨 (they got together while I was still dating my ex) my invite to the wedding was attached to a address that was never mine (it was a house that had a bunch of our friends who room together - I never lived there) I personally feel it was an after thought to add my name to the invite address envelope.
*I did not go*
(Update the couple got divorced 3 years later as she got her citizenship so she was done with him- kharma for him, still waiting for her kharma)
She’ll get hers! It might take a while, but it will come!
First story if true is one of the wildest wedding stories I’ve heard so far, glad to hear it didn’t ruin the marriage.
My mother joined the second wedding of my father. It was one of the best parties ever, and I used to party three times a week 😉
Family members from the Caribbean islands, Australia, and Irland came over to Germany, it was legendary🥳
I wish I could have come🎉😊
Sounds amazing! I am a big fan of acting like adults and being civil with eachother after a break up or even stay close if possible (hard exception for abusive or mutualy toxic relationships)!
That DOES sound legendary
4:06 my kids mom has been one my best friends ever since our break up. In a relationship we do not see eye to eye but, as far as our kids and our friendship, our relationship is unmatched!! We love each other in a way that only best friends could understand. So yes, if I were to get married, her and her husband would be there because I invited them and they would be there to support me in my happiest of times.
For most, 18 is much too young for marriage. I was an exception (as is the story of my life).
I got married at 18 & we're still going strong over 20 years later.
We have two beautiful children and one amazing grandbaby.
And, yes, there was plenty of drama from his family on our wedding day.
We got brought in late & doors were locked to stop his family's plans.
It worked & they didn't ruin our day.
I was also an 18 year old bride. It has been 17 years for us. The drama with his family came after we had been married and has lasted way too long. I am glad you were able to save your special day.😊
We were married at 17/19. Had our first child at 23 5years in. Had two more children. As of today we have 9 grands and have been married 48years so far.there have been many marriages in the same year maybe 30 who did last a year.
I was 19 (turned 20 a few days later) and my husband was 20. We’d already been together through high school and a really tough deployment.
We’ve now been married 11 years and together for 15.
Agreed. :) I'm happy for you, that's awesome! My daughter and SIL eloped when they were just 18 and out of HS (he went into the military). Thirteen years later and 2 beautiful daughters later, they are stronger than ever. They have a truly blessed and wonderful relationship and family... A rarity in today's standards! It's nice to see when this actually happens.
I was 17, hubby 21. We've been married for 36 years, and I can't imagine it being different. I always say, "It's not always been easy, but it's always been worth it."
I was invited to and attended both of my ex boyfriends’ wedding. No drama, made sure to compliment the brides (they both did look absolutely lovely). They (the exes and their wives) were at my wedding as well. We all belong to the same friend group and regularly hang out together. I literally had lunch with one of the wives today (she’s really sweet and we’re now friends in our own right).
We had super amicable breakups, and I do cherish the time I spent with both. They just weren’t right for me, and I wasn’t right for them.
I honestly don’t understand why the need for so much drama for some people.
In my country, it's customary to send wedding announcements to all your wider circle, and the people that are actually invited receive a separate invitation in the same envelope. I think it's a nice custom to acknowledge the people in your life that you want to keep updated, and then you don't have to invite everyone and their mother. No gifts are expected for non guests, but sometimes people send flowers to the bride after the honeymoon or something (completely optional). I feel so much relief when there isn't an invitation inside because the whole ordeal is SO EXPENSIVE
Keeping people informed of majour events in one's life, ESPECIALLY when you know they're not on social media is still acceptable in the US as well. It's not a call for gifts, just to inform them of something important happening with you.
Where are you from?
Our family sends “save the date” cards, then invites 8 weeks out and Marriage Announcements to those not invited but within the wider circle of friends and family. The rest of our community just yells out at the pub when and where they’re getting married and it’s a true Irish weekend of fun! My husband and I had a courthouse ceremony with just parents then sent out announcements. Sheer perfection. Fifteen years later we renewed our vows in a church as it was important to my Nana. Total of 10 people were invited, our children stood up for us and my da floated me down the aisle, he was so pleased. We had a blast. We’ve been married for 26 years now. Two years ago my Nana died (96 years young), she was going on about how fun it was the day she passed. My da and I were sitting with her smiling and laughing with her.
I was 20 when I got married- that was too young and I did regret it.
Go out and enjoy life. Travel. Work. Study. Don’t get married- it’s too early to settle down.
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I have heard of one wedding where the ex husband escorted the bride down the aisle and was the person the vicar asked who gives this bride. I cemented a handover of responsibilities and a continuing friendship of all involved. Very unusual, but heart warming.
If they have been able to maintain a good relationship, power to them.
The first story is insanely crazy
Yeah almost doesn't sound realistic 😅
@@Katz_PajamasFr it just kept escalating
Being in AA, the 9th step states: "Made direct amends to such people (referring to the 8th step which is making a list of everyone we have harmed) wherever possible, EXCEPT when to do so would injure them or others." If she's on the 9th step, she should know that and should have been considering that it might be harmful. If she didn't think about the harm it could cause, she's not far enough in the steps to go there yet. This is a conversations she should be having with her sponsor and other wise council, not her boyfriend who isn't in the program. The steps are in this order for a reason.
My ex was a groomsman at my wedding, and I was a bridesmaid at his LOL It absolutely depends on the people involved. That was 20 years ago and we've remained good friends to this day. I absolutely adore his wife and he and my husband were good friends. He is also one of my children's favorite uncles ❤
I invited an ex to my wedding and he was super chill and didn't cause any drama. He actually helped us shovel out our path and drive way to the backyard tent because it snowed like 2 feet overnight even though it was clear literally every day before and melted within the next day. He was also he only one to show up early and leave late and made sure to help with any last minute set up and helped a bit with cleanup. Him and my husband are super cool with each other we all play video games together, even have a minecraft server together. It might also help we are all guys lol
Does anyone else like the video before the video even starts? Lol great to see another video Charlotte. They're really helping to cheer me up lately.
Yes I always do! Not just for Charlotte, but also because that is a tell for me that I have watched the video if I happen to click on the video in the future.
'weddings are just funerals with cake.' I will now put it in my funeral plans to have cake!!!
Accidently went to exs wedding: firstly, im so proud of you for your sobriety. In this situation, i think i would have thought to ask the groom to see photos of the bride if you thought even for a second that it could have been your ex getting married or maybe stalked the brides social media for couples pics that way, the moment you realized you could have backed out way before. You did do the respectful thing by bowing out of the reception but not getting up and leaving during the ceremony because that would be noticed. Im also glad you ex supported you in that also. You honestly didnt do anything wrong. While you ex had the right to be unnerved by your presence, he didnt have the right to react the way he did and could have given a chance to explain that it was your bf who got invited from the brides side and you're a plus one and had no ides it was him getting married but that you also wanted to apologize for how bad to him you were in the past and that you have been sober for years after getting the help you needed. Wishing him the best and then excusing yourself.
Wife and I got married on the 18th, dress code was wear what you are comfortable in, food was potluck made by friends in Lou of a gift. One friend did Tarot readings, there were 2 kids who when meeting for the first time had so much fun they temporarily forgot they were at a wedding. Our vows were full of love and laughter. Thanks to all the wedding vids you’ve done we knew what not to do. And the doggos were being adorable. Thanks Charlotte! We appreciate and love your content
After spending my morning listening to the nonsense that passes for the news these days this is exactly what I needed! Thanks for another great video Charlotte!
Way back in the day; we're talking the 90s here. I went to an ex's wedding. I dated & was friends with both the groom & the bride. My husband was also friends with them both. We got invited to their wedding, went, and had a great time. Hugged them both & gave them well wishes. Had a great night, even danced with both of them lol. Even had a very touching talk with my ex while we danced together. Over 30+ years later my hubby & I are still together, but ex & his wife didn't last 5yrs sadly.
Charlotte the editing in your videos cracks me up! Props to you and / or your editor ❤ the "surfer in Australia" edit was really funny 🕷
ETA: STOOOP the "Bob Smith" / "Steve Jones" edit 😂😂
My ex was one of my husband’s groomsmen at our wedding and did a beautiful reading from LotR during the ceremony. I’m so grateful he agreed to be a part of our day and we got to have him there. He’s one of my husband’s best friends (when I was with my ex they were friends, but not as close).
Sometimes it can work if you’re mature adults and neither of you was/is toxic or there wasn’t cheating or a super acrimonious ending. My husband’s ex was invited to our wedding, but her current partner wouldn’t let her attend because he was still worried about my husband being into her *eyeroll*
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"Would you ever invite your ex to your wedding?" Only 1. Reason being, this ex and I got paired up by a mutual friend of ours, and our 1 week relationship was much more awkward than our 2 year friendship, so we went back to being friends. This was all in middle school 😂
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I’ve known this one girl’s family for a long time; she’s super nice. I found out recently that she’s engaged to a guy she met at church. The wedding will be in January and after that his job will take them to Texas (we’re from Illinois). He finished college in May. She finished high school in May.
I love this for her.
What’s interesting to me is that her mom also got married at 18 and they’re still together, happily by all accounts.
3:18 Maybe they proved that the marriage can survive everything the world can throw at them! 💞💞
My ex was one of my bridesmen. lol No drama during our wedding. Was a great day and great turn out. All sides of the families were polite even though they didn't see eye to eye normally. Felt perfect even though nothing was perfect. All we wanted was to have the people we loved and cared about to be present to share our joyous day. Didn't even have to worry about the white situation, cause I had everyone, but me, wear white in the wedding party. lol
Last story: If OP drank that much and DIDNT GET DRUNK then their alcoholism was seriously advanced. My dad was an alcoholic and would start drinking as soon as he got home from work. It took him about 2 hours of continuous beers and then martinis for him to show any effect.
The story where the woman accidentally went to the ex's wedding.
If she was going to leave without making a scene and the groom freaked out for no reason then he ruined it not her.
He could have seen her and not flipped out, waited to see what happened.
She quietly leaves, no drama, no reason to cause a scene and alert the bride.
I can see his point though. I wouldn’t want to be reminded of past trauma on my wedding day 😢
Honestly I can agree with you with that but at the same time can you really blame the op ex he got traumatized because of her he has every right to be mad at the same time the fact that he said she ruined his own wedding which is not true because he literally did that himself by embarrassing himself honestly he shouldn't let her talk explain the situation I get the ex trauma is trauma and some people can't really get over it you should always let people explain especially when it's a mistake (sometimes)
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First story: I have a 100% feeling that it was the mother in law that orchestrated that whole fiasco with the ex being there, best man confessing love and my proof she was 45 min late and wore a white dress enough said
I did invite my ex. He and my now husband had actually already met (husband and I were friends when I started dating my ex). Together, they had helped me through a very traumatic event and the only reason that relationship had ended was that he had found another job in a different state and I wasn't willing to move. No drama was had that night.
I know a man who invited his ex wife to his wedding and he had constant contact with her. They would often talk and meet up with each other and are still good friends to this day. Even his former in-laws get along well with him and his new wife.
That man is my dad. The ex is my mom and the new wife is my rad step mom. They meet up because I’m still young. My dad’s family is also in Ohio and my step mom’s family is in Pennsylvania so it’s nice to have extended family out here.
With the first one I just wish I could watch a video of all this happening. It’s terrible for them but I’m cracking up.
My husband's ex was in our wedding. 😂 she's our friend though and a very nice person. They ended in good terms and they have a huge friend group they're part of, so it's better this way, less drama 😂
These wedding stories legit make me want to elope and tie it in with the honeymoon… that way there is zero stress or drama.
I attended my ex's wedding this year. We've been separated for more than 10 years and were very young when we were together. I was so scared of offending someone, as the bride and i used to have a somewhat strained relationship (all is good now tho), but it was just really nice all around. I was genuinely happy for them and even happier that i was invited to witness their big day. There was nothing but support and love there and it was just a really beautiful day. So i guess it isn't always horrible to invite your ex to your wedding 😅
Charlotte I invited my ex because him & I have two boys together & I wanted to show our kids we can still get along on important occasions & the wedding was a great day & the after party was fun too everyone had a good time 😊
I love that !
I invited my ex to our wedding lol
Ex actually went to elementary and little league with my husband and he was our only mutual friend on FB when we first met. Ex and I only dated for a year and a half and had a really bad breakup, but after sorting my own dramatics and realizing I had to choose between leaving the community of the hobby I loved or be friends since he had a very active role. Honestly, we are much better friends than we ever were together and I'm so happy that we have a good relationship now. So proud of his growth and accomplishments. So when the guest list was getting settled, I asked my now husband if he would be okay with me inviting Ex and he had no problem. Ex actually came to the wedding and was the only one of my friends that came out (other than my bridesmaids) to our destination wedding. There was no drama whatsoever and his partner was such a joy to have around, too, even telling me they would be my bodyguard if any relatives got unruly.
My husband *did* find it hilarious watching his friends expressions when he pointed him out like, "oh yeah, that's her ex!" 😅
Would I invite my ex to my wedding? Yes, yes I would. You see, my ex realized she was trans when we were together, and I helped and supported her through the early stages of her transitioning. The relationship didn’t last partly bc I’m straight and not into women, but she’s still a treasured friend and would 100% be one of my bride’s maids.
And THAT'S the way to human, my friend! More people need to learn how to do that! 😊
First story couple must be the most amazing two perfect people on the planet to cause that much jealousy 😂 good for you guys! Many many happy years to you ❤
My parents are divorced and both remarried. They had kinda shared custody (vacations and 1 weekend per month for dad, rest of the time for mom), but still they didn't invite the other to their respective weddings! It would have been messy af, as my stepmom hates my mom, and my stepdad hates my dad, my brother and I lol. Such a weird idea. I mean, I definitively wouldn't want my partner's exes to our wedding, no exceptions.
I had 2 of my ex's at my wedding and both of them were very respectful and had a great time. I think the example should be, 'don't invite people to your wedding who are likely to create drama, including MOTHERS who are going to cause drama.' My husband's parents were not at our wedding, because we thought they would cause drama.'
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My husband’s ex and her girlfriend (at the time now wife) came to our wedding. We invited both of them. We’ve ended becoming good friends actually. She’s on of our biggest supporters
Thank you for another funny video beautiful lady! O needed the laughs today!!
That first one just sounds legitimately like a romcom lmao. At least it was a happy ending. That last one was hilarious but a little questionable. Even if it's casual I maybe wouldn't show up to a wedding in jeans and sneakers? Idk, that's just me lol. Maybe there was some confusion about the dress code because that does happen. Not everyone knows the meaning of certain terms or states the dress code properly. But it seems like it was a fun time, and that all we hope for at a wedding. 😁
After being forced to go to weddings for decades I have come to the conclusion that if everything is perfect at your wedding your marriage is doomed. Every perfect ceremony and reception I’ve been to has ended in divorce. The ones that had stuff go wrong they are still married. It’s like perfection pisses off the universe.
OMG the bride in the first one.. my heart goes out to her! I hope she manages to look back and Laugh over that clusterf**k
I had a sort of ex at my wedding. He was a short fling but he stayed a friend and was actually the brother of a family friend(who was my bridesmaid), only like a 2 month thing. But we all stayed friends and the only bad thing with the wedding was he didn't read the message prior about the wedding being child-free and brought his daughters. The kids were good for the wedding and fine for the reception but there had been friends who weren't there because it was child-free and couldn't get a babysitter so was slightly annoying. But I also had just sent a message on Facebook Messenger about it and didn't follow up to make sure he read it or realized it and he truly wasn't on FB often at that time(2010) and didn't read it. He read it like a week later and apologized. Fast forward many years later, my brother got divorced and my Ex-SIL is now with him and have been happily with him for years. We're all still friends, I kept my SIL in the divorce.
I love that! I’ve been told by my family they’ll keep my husband and dump me 😂! We all laugh about it.
@@Sorchia56 It's been around 11 years since their divorce and I'm still good friends with her and their family. My brother and her do have a son together and they have always wanted to stay good to be great co-parents. My family even makes a year's worth of lefsa in the fall and give her a batch to keep for holidays since she fell in love with it at our holiday tables when she was with my brother
I attended my high school boyfriend's wedding in 2019 and he just attended mine in April! It has been great to celebrate each other's big life moments. We even had a good laugh at my wedding about how we ended up with the right people because even though we dated for almost all of high school, he never knew the things about me that my husband said in his vows. 😂
My ex was my best hobbit (it was a Halloween wedding and they’re genderfluid) at my wedding, because they’re also my best friend. Everything went perfect, and they saved the party since my phone wouldn’t hook up to the sound system and theirs did. But ours is a unique situation. No regrets. ❤
wife and I have been together since 1995 - legally married for 12. We invited her ex & wife to our marriage. They raised 3 kids together, neither wants to be together anymore which helped me with any jealousy. They are still part of our extended family.
I was actually a member of one of my ex's wedding. I had a great time, no drama! and at the time didn't think it was weird, Now that I'm older I understand that this is NOT normal. Would I do it again NO but they are still a couple and I'm still friends with both of them.
Okay, but if you handled it well and you are still friends, why not? You are clearly all mature enough to handle it. Don't limit yourself just because you are on a different level.😊
Why not, you where all mature and friends and some people can actually act like adults, those should not deprive themselfs of a great memory togeather, just because others can't?
I did invite my ex-husband to my second wedding, who had become one of my closest friends and my business partner... He himself realized he did not know how he would feel, and thanked me for the invitation but said he did not want to chance feeling uncomfortable (he would have known many of the people there). I honoured his feelings, and he did say he was happy for me. Fast-forward, we are still good friends and business partners, and although he and my current husband would never be the types of hang out, they do like each other overall and are respectful.
My heart goes out to the first couple. They say rocky road, happy marriage so I am glad they are living their best lives with their children. Where do some people get off behaving like that!
My ex was my man of honor, we dated as teens and realised we made better friends than lovers even though when we were both single we'd be fwb because we knew that neither of us had strings attached to one another in any other way other than getting rocks off once in awhile but if there were any issues before the wedding he wouldn't have been in the wedding he was excited when my husband proposed to me and was amazing and a good sport walking down the aisle with my husbands best man
I swear to the stars above, if one of my exs or one my partners exs (hes got a crazy one in particular who dresses up in disguises to show up to our work - she WOULD do this), came to announce their never-ending undying love for one of us, i will lose all semblance of sanity 😅
Charlotte that picture behind you is hanging for dear life 😂
I attended my ex's wedding and it was wonderful. By the time he was getting married, we had been friends for longer than we had dated. We ended it because we were just bad for one another as a couple but great as friends. Not only did I attend his wedding but he attended my "wedding/reception" a couple years prior. I put that in quotes because it was really just a party after my husband and I eloped (best decision ever). The thing is, if you are hesitating, you know you shouldn't go. In my case, our past failed relationship was never even a consideration for me whether to invite him to my wedding or to attend his. I adore him and his wife (truly perfect for one another) and I felt honored to be there to witness their happy day.
Aaaaaaaand they STILL got married…. That’s one strong marriage right there 🙌🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Re the OP that accidentally went to the ex's wedding. NTA - It was a freaky accident. And OP didn't ruin the wedding, the groom did. OP and her bf tried to quietly exit. It was the groom who caused/made a big scene. He should have just let them leave.
I would hope since OP's bf is (or maybe was, now) a friend of the bride that he got a chance to explain what actually happened to the bride &/or her family. That they tried to quietly leave and sincerely apologize for the incident.
* Ofc, that all depends on how close he is or was to the bride.
I'm seven months late to this video, but I wanted to say that my son's dad and his then fiance(now wife) came to our wedding. We are all family and treat each other as such. Our son has two little sisters from each side, and we are like aunts/uncles to each other's daughters.
First story it was the best man who professed his love to the bride. The Best Man!!
With the first one, I believe that the groom’s mother orchestrated all that mess. Messy people flock together!
If my ex, who caused me trauma, showed up at my wedding, i'd stop it, middle of the ceremony and all, and have her removed. Then after, joke it off and hit the reset button for me and my bride-to-be. I'd rather the story be "Groom's ex showed up, he paused the ceremony to have her removed, then restarted the whole thing over again" than me losing my temper and saying/doing things i'd later regret with my wife
my husband and I got married when I was 21. he's 7 years older than me. we met when I was 19. It was a super small wedding, just close family and a few friends. I had 5 1/2 months to plan it alone and it was the most stressful thing I had ever done. We'll be married for 10 years in May and are planning a week long trip to Japan to celebrate! I'm so excited and can't wait.
A lot of people have asked me if I feel like I missed out on my 20s or anything like that, and I always say no. My life wouldn't be how it is now without him. He has been my rock through the passing of my grandma, mom, and now grand aunt. I love my husband dearly!
"right to jail", "you interrupt wedding vows, right to jail" 😂😂😂
I know that my situation is definitely not common. But not only did I invite my ex; the father of my daughter, and his mother to my wedding, they along with my daughter were my family side during my wedding. I thank God that we get along so well and even more bc my husband and my ex are great friends. We're all one big family and celebrate all holidays and birthdays together. I wish all ex's could get along like we do when there's kids involved.