This was probably one of the most complete therapy sessions I have seen with Dr. K. Not that the other ones were bad, but Muta is just so cooperative and introspective he makes it work flawlessly.
They didn't really come to any solid conclusions to a lot of his problems though. There's been a lot of sessions where they're able to map out a game plan and understand in-depth the philosophy of the solutions.
Muta's case is a bit harder because we don't really know about his background is rather unknown, you don't really get much glimpse about his past except from what he said. I know muta is kinda that guy who can communicate well but for sure, it's gonna be a bit harder to crack down his mental problem in a session. Hope there's more Dr. K session with mutahar soon.
@@Kaiziak I think that's mostly on Mutahar's part and how much of a hard time he has opening up, other ppl are a lot more expressive of their personal emotions while all of Muta's case here was literally him TRYING to open up because he hasn't before. So I'd say they did A LOT of progress.
As an Indian kid growing up in Canada, working since high school and only trying to wind down now at 27...after 90-hour workweeks, this video was so relatable! Thank you for hosting this session!
how did you ever manage 90 hour work weeks?I had to work 80 hours a week 3 weeks straight when I used to landscape at this place that held fairs but it was only once a year and during that 3 week span they required us to work 80 hours a week but we literally did nothing because we couldn't operate the machinery during visitor hours lmao so we would mow from 6am-9am then they had us just walk around the fair and do whatever we wanted the rest of the day...so I just got stoned and drunk lmao and even then it was a pain in the ass working that many hours but you're telling me you did 90 hours SOBER?? WOW
@@MattIsLoling I'm lucky enough to be technically skilled to have an office job. It was hard at first with loneliness but it became a routine after a while...life just switched to autopilot. I wouldn't recommend this route to anyone.
Man, I remember Muta very briefly and vaguely mentioning that there's been stuff going on in his life in one of his videos :/ I hope to see a follow-up at some point and I really think that he should consider regularly seeing a therapist. It seems like this was his first exposure to something of the sort and I think that even he realized that it could really be beneficial. Much love to you both
@49:00 It really broke my heart that he said falling in love with a terminal person was a mistake. I really hope he genuinely doesn't see it as a mistake.
All jokes aside, i have a feeling that Muta is basically living for the tomorrow that never comes. He's always working to make sure (heh) that everything goes smoothly tomorrow or later in the week, (and i think that, while he would probably die before admitting this to anyone, but no matter how small / miniscule, some part of him wants to one day just say, everything's been taken care of, i can finally have time for myself) but when that day / week ends, there's always more. There's always more to be done, more things to worry about, more things that he needs to make sure (heh) go smoothly in the future that he never gets any rest or in general just time for himself that he doesn't feel is wasted because he could be working on something else.
@@PessoaAleatoria01 Man, sounds fucked up but I wish I had that problem because I can't get myself to do anything, even the things that I need to do, are easy to do, and are causing me distress. Then again, having the opposite problem doesn't sound nice either.
My dad is like that and I think a lot of immigrant parents do of never wanting helping and always having to work to give their kids the optimal life. Now here I am being a guilty lazy commentor on youtube
Mtua describing how things in the Greater Toronto Area have been during lockdown is unbelievably cathartic as everyone else seems to have returned to normal and we are just barely breaking lockdown now.
Here I was thinking, "you haven't done anything since August 2019, you could've been doing things all the way into March 2020 still..." and also in Ontario, all I see is 6 cars at a place and the cops never come to bust anything going on even if it's weekly or daily. Also using the "police can stop anyone driving around" thing as an example is weird when he says a moment later that they never even enforced it and didn't mention the government backpedaled on it hard.
Someone who shares the same racing mind that never stops predicting every single outcome that could possibly happen and nonstop working at the same time.
No memes or jokes, the bottling up of emotions may be part of the reason Muta had that severe case of constipation a year or so back that nearly put him in the hospital. An over abundance of stress in one's life can cause chronic abdominal tension that can be a major factor in becoming constipated. Then the stress itself of being constipated then starts a negative cognitive loop, which itself is further amplified by the stress disorder, that causes the muscle tension in the abdomen to become maximumly tense turning the case of constipation into a severe to worse case scenario ordeal.
I love how every guest comes in with a specific theme in mind and Dr. K ALWAYS extracts a much deeper conversation surrounding the guest’s life and helps them get a better grip on their situation.
Muta's relationship with his dad is sad. My dad literally did what Muta wishes to do for his future children and I am grateful for it. I could not imagine how my life would have be if my dad kept moving us around.
This was pretty mind blowing taking a deep dive into Muta's mind. What a wonderful and strong dude. Love you bro, thank you for teaching us all how to be strong and persevere!
Mutahar sharing his mental health struggles are very relatable and gives me more hope in life to know that one of my favorite influencers on this platform goes through a lot of the same things
well you had 32 mil less cases and 575.000 less dead. Overall you only haave 4,2% of the dead than USA has..... I mean ist still a hard price to pay but loosing half a million people more is also kinda bad :D
@@TheDreadbrain population density is much, much higher in the US. The entirety of the Canadian population can be seen on a heat map as solely across the border and in two main cities.
Ive lived all my life with that burning feeling of making sure. I grew up in abject poverty and with my parents being poor, mental health was never even a question. I doubt I am going to ever get past that mindset of "Make every possible move to avoid annihilation" because this thing has been drilled into my head. Coming from a country where death is meaningless due to a number of reasons and the value of a life is measured by personal wealth, I figured way back that in order to survive I will have to switch off feelings. I wish Muta good luck and maybe one day I too will be able to find an end to my suffering.
I'm sure you'll get there, life isn't perfect suffering does happen but there is good too.I'm sure your hardwork will pay off or you'll see the good moments that are there too
Man, I didn't expect all these feels coming from Muta but that's a rough situation with his loved one and he still shares humor on the daily. I hope that situation at least progresses in a way with the most peace possible
I really love the episodes that have that well rounded mature vibe... I'm not saying that younger streamers are immature I just don't know how else to say it. It's more relatable to me, it's chill, it's feel good even when tougher topics are being covered.
yea Im just bawling my eyes out halfway thru this. So grateful for these videos. Been a fan of Muta for a minute and it means alot to see him open up like this.
Sometimes, on a first impression, you just get that amazing feeling of what a great person someone is. I felt that for this guy. Fab episode. Really loving what Dr K's doing here, can't stop watching!
I have to say I was following Muta very recently. I felt that he was special not only that he deals with the same shit I felt for years. I have more respect for him to share his life story. You ain't alone bro. You got support. Just don't lose yourself to your own mind. ❤❤
Pretty interesting how anxious Muda's childhood and teenagehood was but he calls it a "normal one" I mean it is externally but internally I think it hurt and was very stressful, makes you wonder how many people thinks they had a normal childhood but actually it was not very pleasant, not saying that is good or bad, its just interesting to see each persons pov on their view of life.
it's actually really common. almost all of the books I've read on childhood traumas mention the group with well-meaning but still damaging parents are surprised and often resist the idea that their parents caused damage even though they tried their best.
Ego tells us we are alone in our own beliefs, but most people share the same emotions of inadequacy. We are all flawed in our respective rights, but we all can help each other to achieve the REAL self of what we achieve to be just by talking about it. Great podcast. Love you both.
Super happy that he took the opportunity to talk to you. If I remember correctly, I asked him to reach out to you some months ago. I doubt that he did it because of me, but I'm happy that he did nonetheless.
I am not from India but I am a child of immigrants, first generation in the US. So much of his story resonates with me. My only question I wish was touched upon was how to deal with feelings of guilt when it comes to parents. I just feel I NEED to make sure they have a good retirement knowing that it’s gonna be much more taxing than if I only provided for myself. I wish they had the means to have a more financially secure future but we all struggled and they helped me go to college at the cost of their retirement.
The thing is, it was much more easier in my parents time (1980's when they immigrated) to work a median wage and get the house, the car, and the dog. Us kids of first gen immigrants have a much harder time simply providing that stuff for ourselves, let alone providing for our parents in their old age. Dont let it bog you down too much, the deck is heavily stacked against us.
Why should you be concerned with if they have a good retirement or not? That's their problem not yours. Focus on your own problems you don't have to fix other people's problems. All they want is for you to be successful they don't want you to pay their retirement fund for them.
There’s actually an interview with someone where they talk about that kind of guilt specifically! I’ll finish this and dig up the link for you, or the name of the person he interviews, at least.
I mean, beating yourself up and having that constant fear of uncertainty pushing your mind to work continuously and hardly settle down resonates deep down my soul. I've had many such similar conversations with my dad as well (only lately, ngl) and I can't believe at the amount of relatable stuff I found in his experience and in mine. Sure I don't live in Canada (living in India), but the things are pretty much the same, though, jeez man, Muta you worked your ass off, whereas I just didn't do shit because I was too weak to act (failed to get good grades in 12th, failed JEE, had backlogs in CSE course). I shared the same paranoia that you had, but the difference is that you acted upon it and worked your ass off, whereas I didn't (maybe I did, I dunno, I don't have any spectators to cross check). Muta is my favorite guy on TH-cam now.
I feel like this has helped me learn more about myself and how I should treat college and my professional life when I get there. Thank you Mutahar and Dr. k
The conversations and ideas exchanged in this video made it so difficult to watch, that the 2h felt like 5. This is why you treat people nicely, and don't judge by the cover. A lot to unpack here
extraordinarily brave of you to come on & do this. i can relate a lot re: being forced to grow up too fast, struggling to finish school, dysfunctional family with communication issues, the brutal self-imposed pressure, fearing uncertainty... & oh man... that panic when dr k mentioned Having A Conversation with your father... i feltttttt that, holy shit. shit like this is so hard to work through. i really admire your courage in showing this side of yourself to the world. it's so hard to ask for help. i'm so happy you were able to reach out. you certainly are a fantastic guy.
29:01 i couldnt relate to this more. im always pushing to get something done, no matter how big or small it is. its as if i feel guilty for relaxing for 15 minutes after a whole day of recording videos and working on content.
Man, I love Muta's tech-related and gaming videos because, well, I also love tech and gaming. But now I know that I can relate a lot to him, and it officially makes him one of my favorite TH-camrs. Thank you for this interview. :) Edit: I watched the whole interview... It was pretty interesting because I've been through a lot of what he has said: putting pressure on yourself to just _make sure._ Will you do a follow-up to this, if Muta is willing to?
These are always fascinating and valuable, sometimes it kind of baffles me what people just put on the internet (I'm also thinking of particular non-celebrities I know) but I'm so glad they do because it helps me get a better understanding of the world and the human mind, of which I definitely also have, so it seems helpful. Maybe that is a complex I have haha, but seriously thanks
That moment when Muta can speak about his pain is so nice to watch. He wants and needs to speak about that but you can tell he doesn't talk about this side enough.
watching this as someone learning counselling therapy, its incredible, his use of silence is incredible and making muta see the way instead of pushing him there and seeing it being done with someone who i highly respect like muta, is incredible as well. this is the first video ive properly watched from dr K and im amazed
also the body language during closing thoughts section, awesome! dr k put his arms round his chair n made it more relaxed, like as they said, just two dudes having a chat and relaxed made the whole thing feel less "in a therapist office on the therapist lay-down chair" which muta admitted he would have a harder time doing, which is totally understandable. this should be shown to those entering councilling studies like me
I recently got into mutas videos and keep getting recommended videos from this page and damn. Not was I was expecting from every direction, but in the best possible way
Sounds to me like his house's words were "no weak links." Dad is working how he has to and can't be home a lot, mom is living as a single mom, brother is just a kid like you. Everyone is doing what they have to, so you got to do what you have to. If that means doing a semester of work in less than 1 month so you don't get held behind, then you do it, because there are no weak links.
Just stumbled across this, big respect to you both. I had no idea he was going through so much, and can definitely back up what was said about how terminally ill ppl just want to have authentic two-way relationships since someone explained this to me very well before they passed away, they - like Muta - didn't want to be seen as weak or the pity case or treated like the walking dead person. They craved that normalcy and I think that's an important point that all of us can take away regardless of how much we can relate to the anxiety controlling our lives.
There are seldom times where I tear up watching TH-cam content, but shit, hearing all of this come out like that, I have never physically felt words more in my life.
My friend is dying actually as im writing this from cancer, its been 5 and a half years sincehis diagnosis, 85% of patients do not survive that long, just like muta's girl, my friend has been strong, but now my friend is laying in a hospital bed.
Just clicked on this from the Charley one. No way, this happened too. I guess that's how I got recommended Dr K, by watching Charley and Muta! They're all good people too, I'm listening to the right circle.
this feels like my 2 uncles at a barbecue
They’re both Indian
Uncle and older cuz
Dude your CS content is so helpful and entertaining, nice to see you here too!
I was expecting you to call them frauds like you call everyone that's not you.
Go do some leetcode bruh
Appreciate that Dr K is interviewing the Gfuel Tower
hey
Gabriel oh
the gfuel has some deep feelings
This was probably one of the most complete therapy sessions I have seen with Dr. K. Not that the other ones were bad, but Muta is just so cooperative and introspective he makes it work flawlessly.
They didn't really come to any solid conclusions to a lot of his problems though. There's been a lot of sessions where they're able to map out a game plan and understand in-depth the philosophy of the solutions.
Muta's case is a bit harder because we don't really know about his background is rather unknown, you don't really get much glimpse about his past except from what he said.
I know muta is kinda that guy who can communicate well but for sure, it's gonna be a bit harder to crack down his mental problem in a session.
Hope there's more Dr. K session with mutahar soon.
Mr robot, what a true alpha
This is literally the best way to do therapy, completely open and honest. Not only to your Dr but yourself more importantly
@@Kaiziak I think that's mostly on Mutahar's part and how much of a hard time he has opening up, other ppl are a lot more expressive of their personal emotions while all of Muta's case here was literally him TRYING to open up because he hasn't before. So I'd say they did A LOT of progress.
Little disappointed that they didn't just bust out speaking in Hindi.
same
That would have been great lol
It depend whether Dr.K speak Hindi, he might another dialect
@@ABC-yh8bt I believe Dr.K is Gujarati.
@@JurgaBurgaFlintines If he is gujarati, then he can speak hindi
A number of south indian, cant speak hindi
I pretend to be both these people quite often
Bro I love your videos keep up the good work and don't waste your money investing in shitcoins and whatnot.
Eyyy! Not expected you to be here..
based
indian?
BAY ZED
Muta is a gift to this planet. The amount of hours of joy this man has brought to me is countless.
also the god of VMs
That's what makes his situation so sad, he seems almost unable to bring joy to himself.
As an Indian kid growing up in Canada, working since high school and only trying to wind down now at 27...after 90-hour workweeks, this video was so relatable! Thank you for hosting this session!
how did you ever manage 90 hour work weeks?I had to work 80 hours a week 3 weeks straight when I used to landscape at this place that held fairs but it was only once a year and during that 3 week span they required us to work 80 hours a week but we literally did nothing because we couldn't operate the machinery during visitor hours lmao so we would mow from 6am-9am then they had us just walk around the fair and do whatever we wanted the rest of the day...so I just got stoned and drunk lmao and even then it was a pain in the ass working that many hours but you're telling me you did 90 hours SOBER?? WOW
I feel like they they actually actively avoided it because it was expected of them
@@MattIsLoling I'm lucky enough to be technically skilled to have an office job. It was hard at first with loneliness but it became a routine after a while...life just switched to autopilot. I wouldn't recommend this route to anyone.
Money =/= happiness, making money past what you're comfortable with is useless, focus on being happy.
Are you also a Virtual Machine enthusiast
I'm convinced Dr. K knows exactly who's in my sub box 🙄
same
Sike he’s a former hacker who use to work for the CIA
Sasha Grey? ;)
Jk me too
That just means you're too normie
ikr
Man, I remember Muta very briefly and vaguely mentioning that there's been stuff going on in his life in one of his videos :/
I hope to see a follow-up at some point and I really think that he should consider regularly seeing a therapist. It seems like this was his first exposure to something of the sort and I think that even he realized that it could really be beneficial.
Much love to you both
SAMEEEE
how do u have bandos on but wear a stupid hat on to mess up the fasion scape
@@heftymagic4814 I think you're just jealous of my hat
I bet you don't even know what it is
@@MicrowavedFurby nice fez noob
@49:00 It really broke my heart that he said falling in love with a terminal person was a mistake. I really hope he genuinely doesn't see it as a mistake.
All jokes aside, i have a feeling that Muta is basically living for the tomorrow that never comes. He's always working to make sure (heh) that everything goes smoothly tomorrow or later in the week, (and i think that, while he would probably die before admitting this to anyone, but no matter how small / miniscule, some part of him wants to one day just say, everything's been taken care of, i can finally have time for myself) but when that day / week ends, there's always more. There's always more to be done, more things to worry about, more things that he needs to make sure (heh) go smoothly in the future that he never gets any rest or in general just time for himself that he doesn't feel is wasted because he could be working on something else.
@@PessoaAleatoria01 Man, sounds fucked up but I wish I had that problem because I can't get myself to do anything, even the things that I need to do, are easy to do, and are causing me distress. Then again, having the opposite problem doesn't sound nice either.
@@Gilsworth building momentum isn't easy but once you do
My dad is like that and I think a lot of immigrant parents do of never wanting helping and always having to work to give their kids the optimal life. Now here I am being a guilty lazy commentor on youtube
@@Gilsworth the famous executive disfunction my man
I didn't expect to see my favorite Indian boys together! Thanks for having papa Muta on!
Bro, I was wondering why it had not happened until now😂😂😂
Mtua describing how things in the Greater Toronto Area have been during lockdown is unbelievably cathartic as everyone else seems to have returned to normal and we are just barely breaking lockdown now.
Because Ontario is ground zero socialism
@@dt5072 how does that even relate?
onrtario has greater pop density especially toronto
socialism has zero correlation with covid
Trudeau and Doug Ford completely fucked up as far as handling Covid goes. I hope (proverbial) heads roll once this is all said and done.
Here I was thinking, "you haven't done anything since August 2019, you could've been doing things all the way into March 2020 still..." and also in Ontario, all I see is 6 cars at a place and the cops never come to bust anything going on even if it's weekly or daily.
Also using the "police can stop anyone driving around" thing as an example is weird when he says a moment later that they never even enforced it and didn't mention the government backpedaled on it hard.
@@softb LMAO
IT'S THE INDIA VM MACHINE MAN. LET'S GOOOO
LMAO
Virtual machine machine man
@@egosumipsumsolus3460 mutahar is a cyborg
@@marcomendex8780 Rebuilt stronger, faster, and more capable of VMing
LETS FUCKING GOOOOOO
Someone who shares the same racing mind that never stops predicting every single outcome that could possibly happen and nonstop working at the same time.
Too relatable. But mine go south most often. I found the term for it, it was catastrophizing
@@Walamonga1313 relatable as well
I felt this to a disturbing degree. It’s like your mind is both your best friend and worst enemy
@@TheSandborn Its funny i cant relate to him at all, im the completete oposite.
No memes or jokes, the bottling up of emotions may be part of the reason Muta had that severe case of constipation a year or so back that nearly put him in the hospital. An over abundance of stress in one's life can cause chronic abdominal tension that can be a major factor in becoming constipated. Then the stress itself of being constipated then starts a negative cognitive loop, which itself is further amplified by the stress disorder, that causes the muscle tension in the abdomen to become maximumly tense turning the case of constipation into a severe to worse case scenario ordeal.
Dr K talked about that with hotshotgg that your mental health can affect your bowels and the rest of the body.
I love how every guest comes in with a specific theme in mind and Dr. K ALWAYS extracts a much deeper conversation surrounding the guest’s life and helps them get a better grip on their situation.
It seems like his dad really made him rethink his whole life with that single sentence
What are u referring to?
Wot
I think he is referring to when his dad said "Do you know if you are even going to be alive when you are 40"
@@4R73M1S. and that is so true, even 30...
Ladies and gentlemen, today is the day of an incredible crossover.
Muta's relationship with his dad is sad. My dad literally did what Muta wishes to do for his future children and I am grateful for it. I could not imagine how my life would have be if my dad kept moving us around.
Now he will be healthy ordinary gamer
Watching Muta for years now and it feels like watching a good friend.
Wasn't one of his earlier videos creepy pasta readings?
@@Tarik360 yessir some of the original content
@@Maverekt So it was him, the only reason I recognized him was that he's used the same nickname and pfp throughout all these years.
48:38 got soo dark. That genuinely broke my heart.
Dude same, I couldn't believe it.
It's really sad when you think about how common it really is for people.
This was pretty mind blowing taking a deep dive into Muta's mind. What a wonderful and strong dude. Love you bro, thank you for teaching us all how to be strong and persevere!
Only when you mentionned it, I heard one >_
I envy him. I wish I had that fortitude
All the best to you Muta. Dealing with a terminally ill close one is hard, whish you two peace
Mutahar sharing his mental health struggles are very relatable and gives me more hope in life to know that one of my favorite influencers on this platform goes through a lot of the same things
Im a simple guy, i see my boy Muta, I click
tried to tweet at him to suggest he talk to you months ago, glad to see he finally got with you
As a Canadian, REALLY felt that whole bit about dealing with lockdowns. It's been a rough few months.
well you had 32 mil less cases and 575.000 less dead. Overall you only haave 4,2% of the dead than USA has..... I mean ist still a hard price to pay but loosing half a million people more is also kinda bad :D
@@TheDreadbrain That's because they have 10% of the population of the US you bozo
@@syed2694 well even than usa has doubvle the cases :D :D
@@TheDreadbrain population density is much, much higher in the US. The entirety of the Canadian population can be seen on a heat map as solely across the border and in two main cities.
@@syed2694 what does that have to do with anything? Canadians still live in cities lmao. Canada certainly has less deaths per capita from covid.
Your statement "It's better to be dead than weak" holy shit it described me perfectly
Exactly this.
Same
edgy emo wannabe
It’s better to be weak then to die :)
It's weaker to die than be better!
The crossover event I was looking for
Ive lived all my life with that burning feeling of making sure. I grew up in abject poverty and with my parents being poor, mental health was never even a question. I doubt I am going to ever get past that mindset of "Make every possible move to avoid annihilation" because this thing has been drilled into my head. Coming from a country where death is meaningless due to a number of reasons and the value of a life is measured by personal wealth, I figured way back that in order to survive I will have to switch off feelings. I wish Muta good luck and maybe one day I too will be able to find an end to my suffering.
I'm sure you'll get there, life isn't perfect suffering does happen but there is good too.I'm sure your hardwork will pay off or you'll see the good moments that are there too
Man, I didn't expect all these feels coming from Muta but that's a rough situation with his loved one and he still shares humor on the daily. I hope that situation at least progresses in a way with the most peace possible
The perfect duo doesn't ex---
U? And meee?
They're like brothers which one just got out of parents house first so he got slimmed
@Sheev Palpatine
@@anywow5120 holy shit that was fucking clean
@@Cat-ki3hy oh well, I thought it was trash but i guess im wrong
I really love the episodes that have that well rounded mature vibe... I'm not saying that younger streamers are immature I just don't know how else to say it. It's more relatable to me, it's chill, it's feel good even when tougher topics are being covered.
Of all the streams to call "chill". 😂
He was always so chilled, I never expected he is so overworked and has such a bad life in general ...
yea Im just bawling my eyes out halfway thru this. So grateful for these videos. Been a fan of Muta for a minute and it means alot to see him open up like this.
I really hope muta gets the necessary attention from a professional. We really fucking love you mutahar, always remember that
Sometimes, on a first impression, you just get that amazing feeling of what a great person someone is. I felt that for this guy. Fab episode. Really loving what Dr K's doing here, can't stop watching!
The wake-up hours are still ungodly
The job still sucks
But this
This made my day better
@@OkarinHououinKyouma Damn ^^ That's pretty accurate, and scarily obvious now that I see it
@@OkarinHououinKyouma No I don't? lol I wanna live for myself and achieve things based on what I want, not based on them.
@@LethalByChoice you did not get his point but okay.
God damnit I cant beleive how much I relate to Muta... I could imagine everything he said to my own life... I have much to think about from this..
I hope your thoughts were fruitful
God damn, Muta. really happy to see him open up
He was a day trader with a compsci degree, what a chad
I have to say I was following Muta very recently. I felt that he was special not only that he deals with the same shit I felt for years. I have more respect for him to share his life story. You ain't alone bro. You got support. Just don't lose yourself to your own mind. ❤❤
I love how excited Dr. K gets whenever someone with Indian background comes on, he can barely contain himself 😂
How many Indians have been on the show before? I thought Muta was the only one.
Pretty interesting how anxious Muda's childhood and teenagehood was but he calls it a "normal one" I mean it is externally but internally I think it hurt and was very stressful, makes you wonder how many people thinks they had a normal childhood but actually it was not very pleasant, not saying that is good or bad, its just interesting to see each persons pov on their view of life.
it's actually really common. almost all of the books I've read on childhood traumas mention the group with well-meaning but still damaging parents are surprised and often resist the idea that their parents caused damage even though they tried their best.
I love Muta but once you're conscious of how much he says " yknow " , it cracks me up everytime I hear it
For me it was when Dr k talked about making sure, I realized that muta says that a lot.
@@sbsftw4232 yeah I think it's just a therapist thing to not make muta feel uncomfortable
two of my favorite people on youtube came together to speak about life, damn
I love how open Mutahar is and how easily he talks about pretty big stuff.
Ego tells us we are alone in our own beliefs, but most people share the same emotions of inadequacy. We are all flawed in our respective rights, but we all can help each other to achieve the REAL self of what we achieve to be just by talking about it. Great podcast. Love you both.
Super happy that he took the opportunity to talk to you. If I remember correctly, I asked him to reach out to you some months ago. I doubt that he did it because of me, but I'm happy that he did nonetheless.
I am not from India but I am a child of immigrants, first generation in the US. So much of his story resonates with me. My only question I wish was touched upon was how to deal with feelings of guilt when it comes to parents. I just feel I NEED to make sure they have a good retirement knowing that it’s gonna be much more taxing than if I only provided for myself. I wish they had the means to have a more financially secure future but we all struggled and they helped me go to college at the cost of their retirement.
The thing is, it was much more easier in my parents time (1980's when they immigrated) to work a median wage and get the house, the car, and the dog. Us kids of first gen immigrants have a much harder time simply providing that stuff for ourselves, let alone providing for our parents in their old age. Dont let it bog you down too much, the deck is heavily stacked against us.
@@NorthHollywood you mean, do what I can and don’t worry about it? Like how the guest’s dad told him how he doesn’t even know if he’ll live past 40?
Why should you be concerned with if they have a good retirement or not? That's their problem not yours. Focus on your own problems you don't have to fix other people's problems. All they want is for you to be successful they don't want you to pay their retirement fund for them.
There’s actually an interview with someone where they talk about that kind of guilt specifically!
I’ll finish this and dig up the link for you, or the name of the person he interviews, at least.
@@Finkeldinken thanks! I’ll keep an eye on this comment thread
Thank you for speaking on the Canadian lockdown!! It's been brutal!!! 😭
Mutah has helped me countless times cope when i was still in high school a couple of months ago so it hurts me to see him in turmoil and anguish
I mean, beating yourself up and having that constant fear of uncertainty pushing your mind to work continuously and hardly settle down resonates deep down my soul. I've had many such similar conversations with my dad as well (only lately, ngl) and I can't believe at the amount of relatable stuff I found in his experience and in mine. Sure I don't live in Canada (living in India), but the things are pretty much the same, though, jeez man, Muta you worked your ass off, whereas I just didn't do shit because I was too weak to act (failed to get good grades in 12th, failed JEE, had backlogs in CSE course). I shared the same paranoia that you had, but the difference is that you acted upon it and worked your ass off, whereas I didn't (maybe I did, I dunno, I don't have any spectators to cross check). Muta is my favorite guy on TH-cam now.
just keep swimming
but look what you have done along the way
@@manywinters will do, thanks man
I feel like this has helped me learn more about myself and how I should treat college and my professional life when I get there. Thank you Mutahar and Dr. k
This is a match made in heaven. I never knew I needed this.
My impression on Muta when he shared his feelings was that he was brave, absolutely not weak.
I think something's really wrong with me to assume He'd start the session with "Hello Guys & Gals, me Mutahar"
Yay! 2 of my favorite dudes! Watching now in 2023. Sounds like it was absolutely horrible in Canada, jeesh.
The conversations and ideas exchanged in this video made it so difficult to watch, that the 2h felt like 5. This is why you treat people nicely, and don't judge by the cover. A lot to unpack here
extraordinarily brave of you to come on & do this. i can relate a lot re: being forced to grow up too fast, struggling to finish school, dysfunctional family with communication issues, the brutal self-imposed pressure, fearing uncertainty... & oh man... that panic when dr k mentioned Having A Conversation with your father... i feltttttt that, holy shit.
shit like this is so hard to work through. i really admire your courage in showing this side of yourself to the world. it's so hard to ask for help. i'm so happy you were able to reach out. you certainly are a fantastic guy.
29:01 i couldnt relate to this more. im always pushing to get something done, no matter how big or small it is. its as if i feel guilty for relaxing for 15 minutes after a whole day of recording videos and working on content.
Muta is a Legend for doing this conversation in public. This takes balls of steel.
Dr. K's facial expression reactions are literally the best
Man, I love Muta's tech-related and gaming videos because, well, I also love tech and gaming. But now I know that I can relate a lot to him, and it officially makes him one of my favorite TH-camrs. Thank you for this interview. :)
Edit: I watched the whole interview... It was pretty interesting because I've been through a lot of what he has said: putting pressure on yourself to just _make sure._ Will you do a follow-up to this, if Muta is willing to?
These are always fascinating and valuable, sometimes it kind of baffles me what people just put on the internet (I'm also thinking of particular non-celebrities I know) but I'm so glad they do because it helps me get a better understanding of the world and the human mind, of which I definitely also have, so it seems helpful. Maybe that is a complex I have haha, but seriously thanks
I've always been like "wow, how does this dude make a video almost everyday has a hobby and has a job parallel to this?". Now I get it.
“i’m gonna ask questions that are uncomfortable..lmk if i step too far” i love it. love the approach
Ngl, i wasn't expectin mutahar to be on this. Hope he has that convo with his dad in the future
That moment when Muta can speak about his pain is so nice to watch. He wants and needs to speak about that but you can tell he doesn't talk about this side enough.
The collab that we all waited for.
Mutah's story sounds so hard. Like jeez bottling all that stuff up like that is tough and definitely taxing. I wish and hope only for the best
i needed this talk and I didnt even know it.
Me too, my man. Me too.
I can't help but feel this conversation needed to say a little more about his dying friend. There's work to be done there, before it's too late...
watching this as someone learning counselling therapy, its incredible, his use of silence is incredible and making muta see the way instead of pushing him there and seeing it being done with someone who i highly respect like muta, is incredible as well. this is the first video ive properly watched from dr K and im amazed
also the body language during closing thoughts section, awesome! dr k put his arms round his chair n made it more relaxed, like as they said, just two dudes having a chat and relaxed made the whole thing feel less "in a therapist office on the therapist lay-down chair" which muta admitted he would have a harder time doing, which is totally understandable. this should be shown to those entering councilling studies like me
have the same type of dad. also still need to talk to him.... and thank him.
thanks for the vid guys, great talk
I recently got into mutas videos and keep getting recommended videos from this page and damn. Not was I was expecting from every direction, but in the best possible way
Sounds to me like his house's words were "no weak links." Dad is working how he has to and can't be home a lot, mom is living as a single mom, brother is just a kid like you. Everyone is doing what they have to, so you got to do what you have to. If that means doing a semester of work in less than 1 month so you don't get held behind, then you do it, because there are no weak links.
I appreciate this interview, I feel like I think like muta and this really helped me calm down my "anxious" mind.
They have such good chemistry it's so easy to watch !!!!!💗
I mean yeah, a good therapist must have good chemistry for the patient to open up and talk how it is
I wish i had a part of this "making sure monster". When i sit down 15 minutes chilling, my brain just wants another 15 minutes and so on.
Just stumbled across this, big respect to you both. I had no idea he was going through so much, and can definitely back up what was said about how terminally ill ppl just want to have authentic two-way relationships since someone explained this to me very well before they passed away, they - like Muta - didn't want to be seen as weak or the pity case or treated like the walking dead person. They craved that normalcy and I think that's an important point that all of us can take away regardless of how much we can relate to the anxiety controlling our lives.
There are seldom times where I tear up watching TH-cam content, but shit, hearing all of this come out like that, I have never physically felt words more in my life.
Hey guys ! Soo cool that you connected. I feel that many of us has your issue Muta. I glad you shared i will do the same. Take care 👊
This is a side to someone I was always curious to know more about
Thanks
Muta has such a badass mindset. So admirable. Good mindset to have.
This was wholesome
lol been binging Muta and i love Dr. k so I’m stoked i checked to see if he was on here yet!
This is so painfully relatable to me, the whole interview feels so much alike to my life until now :')
My friend is dying actually as im writing this from cancer, its been 5 and a half years sincehis diagnosis, 85% of patients do not survive that long, just like muta's girl, my friend has been strong, but now my friend is laying in a hospital bed.
Did not know Muta is the protag to Your lie in April... but my heart really goes out to him 💜
I was literally wishing for a Dr. K interview with Muta a few days ago. My prayers have been answered!
Ty Dr. K and Muta for the honest and open discussion. SomeOrdinaryGamers is a very good YT channel.
I've been waiting for this for so long.
This was a fantastic session and having it as a public upload is really insightful. Muta's cooperation was impressive!
never expected to see muta on here. let's goooo!!!!
Wassup god
Oh is this a crossover episode ? Love both of y'all 💖
this interview was absolutely incredible
*The most ambitious crossover since Avengers Endgame*
Just clicked on this from the Charley one. No way, this happened too. I guess that's how I got recommended Dr K, by watching Charley and Muta! They're all good people too, I'm listening to the right circle.