How I stopped hating myself
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Many men have gained the world but lost their soul. They have the car, the house, the girl, but have lost themselves along the way. External results mean nothing without the inner peace and integration to enjoy them. The outer trappings and achievements just become the icing on the cake, not the cake itself.
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Alternate titles (for the algo)
Dealing with self loathing
I used to hate myself
Suffering is a gift
stoicism, stoic, meditations Marcus Aurelius, self improvement, productivity, philosophy, Epictetus, Seneca, Spirituality, Carl Jung, the shadow, Alan watts, The Hero's Journey, Jordan Peterson
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2 views in 8 seconds, bro has made it
I wish I could go back in time and hug that little kid and tell him it's not his fault and he deserves to be loved
Powerful video, man. I appreciate your content.
This hit home. I’m 38 and I realized yesterday that I actually hate myself. I dropped something and instantly said “ you dumbass loser”. Ive ignored this for too long. On the outside everyone I know thinks im successful and have it made. But if only they knew how I feel on the inside. I’ve lost 35 pounds in 2 years. I think about doing things to end this suffering. I’m tired.
I want to add something from IFS Therapy. Inner critic is a protector that learned to work very hard to meet the expectations or trying to be perfect. Ask that part what are his fears and what can happen if he stops to do his work.
Under that part there's a very wounded and scary child that needs love. So the work is giving love to the critic and the wounded part.
Thank you man. I appreciate that I've stumbled over your videos.
I'm strangely being affected when you call the viewer a brother. You almost feel like an older, wiser version of or brother to me (similarities in appearance and aesthetic hobbies doesn't help). Being on the cusp of 30 years old I have deep existential problems. I'm a perpetual 21-year old in my mind, and scared of true change. Sure I have some "success" on paper; an MD, a pretty girl, safe livelihood etc. But I lack the mental and physical health, and I've realized more and more that this is deep self loathing that I've just barely unraveled. I'm rediscovering heavy trauma from the past. But scared of diving deeper and feeling fully.
Sorry for the long rant. I am very grateful for your videos, and will continue watching you man.
Nice addition to the Shadow Work video!
Im loving myself. Im working out. Im telling nice things to myself. Still im lonely. Im in great shape. I eat healthy. Im social. I humoristic with random people. Still im lonely. Still on the streets at nights. I dont use drugs. No alcohol. I dont have a girlfriend no relashionship something i wont mind having. Its so easy to say but so hard to do. I am devastated & at the same im proud & motivated to countinue the same path ive been walking in my last 4 months.
You are doing excellent brother, just don’t tell yourself you are lonely. That’s because things are going to keep coming to you that will reaffirm that belief, that’s no good.
@@AblackGenie I will take consider. It is just harder to see it in other view. thank you my brother 🙏
Only you can fill the void within yourself, not another man or woman
I feel you bro. Keep up the good habits and things will always get better. Enjoy yourself a beer from time to time though 🍻
@@matthewdarr3112 I actually like coffee 💫
You are amazing, brother, and thank you for this great channel on TH-cam, your inspiring videos, and your willingness to be vulnerable with us on your spiritual journey - which is information otherwise sorely lacking on TH-cam.🙏
I'm so glad the vids are resonating brother. Appreciate the kind words.
I did the meditation but I wasn't met by an angry hateful voice, it was a sad and broken one, I thought about the pain my past self went trough, which I had surpressed and I started crying, the rest was just silence.
Dudes another dude trying to sell shit
He's also a dude that is just trying to do something he is passionate about and seeing if he can make some money off of it. I see nothing wrong here.
Before I even watch, I wanna say this is my current battle. Literally today I told myself that I have to stop abusing myself. I'm beating my self up mentally. Not loving myself, so angry with myself. I pushed my ex away. The love of my life. My dream girl. My crush 🥺
I'm so upset with myself. I'm trying to forgive myself so I can be a better person. I'm literally holding myself back. So, I will watch this with an open mind. Because I'm done just taking advice frok everyone. Everyone knows the answers let them tell it. I hope you have some good advice for me brother. I do like your talks. I'm not attacking you when I say that. I'm saying that, listening to other people is what lead me to losing my girl. So I'm not accepting much advice these days. I'm listening to myself going forward.
Blessings my guy. Thank you for the talks. I need the company on another lonely Saturday night.
hey buddy, sometimes i also start to push people i love away including her because of voices inside my head. I'm working on it too. I just cannot afford to lose this girl because of my own issues. Can you give me some tips?
@youkai7838 Well after I completely lost my love, I was forced to open my eyes to my reality. I had to understand why I do what I do, and how to change it. I was holding on to Trauma and also I was thinking things that were not true, yet I let those thoughts control my actions. You have to look internally, to find all the bad habits and reasons for bad attitudes or not being present in the moment.
But more importantly, if you love that woman like you say you do, figure it out fast, or be like me. Let my lose be a lesson. Listen to that woman. She's gonna tell you what she wants.
Sending So Much High Vibrational Compassion & Empathetic Energy via the airwaves to all the men doing the incredibly difficult work of facing their Inner Demons!!!
You are witnessed & you matter.
I am afraid that If I stop being that ruthless tyrant to myself then I stop moving forward but if I don't shut the machine off then I might collapse. I feel a bit like a diesel engine, that you can't seem to turn off, that just keeps running. Whatever I do to relax, it doesn't work, I can't relax.
i cried.
That's often times what healing looks like. Face all of it. On the other side is freedom and your true authentic self.
Much love.
I don't hate myself, I love myself so much that I can't accept myself going the wrong way.
Another session for mental health 🎉
I think age 30 marks the Maturity line for most of men. Isn't that so??
For me it started quite early, I am 18 years old and it started two years ago
I guess this is what Jesus said about loving your enemies. At the end all our enemies are we just projected on others.
dude, its crazy. I do the same thing. I talk to my inner wounded child, one version of it, be it 3 or 7 or whatever. I tell him he is allowed to feel it and Im here for him, I will support him, its like having an older brother and at the same time being the older brother. When my younger version is ready, I imagine myself embracing him, like I would embrace my own child. Thats healing as fuck, it feels like I am connecting myself to all these lost versions of myself, of course it hurts first but in the end I feel so much more whole. Thank you for this video, it really helped me to analyze and share my own healing process
Beautiful man ❤️, combining this type of work with JulienHimself’s type of letting go is the way forward. I really appreciate what ur doing, for the sake of me and probably others watching keep spreading the love and wisdom, its very useful.
Your content is tremendous.
Thank you Ryan, this was a very useful episode
🤟🏽💪🏽🙏🏾
You are doing amazing, meaningful work. Thank you.
Idk if anyone can help me with this but I have a problem being proud of myself and happy with myself. I had to leave my ex after 4 years because she cheated and was horrible to me and always tore me down. I go to the gym 2 times a day and I played a year of college football. I’m a bigger guy 6 foot 310. I have some body fat obvi but nothing close to my 600 pound life. Since the breakup she has slept around and I’m over here with 0 female interaction. I’m a year away from graduating college. I work 3 jobs and have my one brand new truck I bought myself. I have a lot of reasons to be proud but I’m not. I know you shouldn’t base yourself of being able to get females but as a 21 year old guy I kinda feel like a loser for not even having girls interested. Can anyone older help me out with some advice?
yesterday when i was going home i got bullied (like this guy ran into me and said watch out bro) in someway i knew that he meant it and he was trying to initiate of fight i didnt make a reaction but when i got home i had that feeling of (i was litterly a pu**y) and tbh i found that fear of fighting even when i get disrespected is habit im really thinking to get into a maritial art gym (maybe its gonne boost my confidance somehow) but tbh idk what to feel about it espacially that it got stuck into my mind and idk if thats what i'am for life or an maritial art gym can change smomething
I REALLY NEED YOUR OPINION ABOUT THIS AND THANKS MAN FOR THIS GREAT CONTENT
I can't express how much I appreciate you for doing this.
Thanks man, I'll try that mediation
Ol bro, this is a follow up to my comment left before I watched the video. After pausing the video and crying my eyes out, I managed to tell myself that I love myself. It wasn't easy, but your advice is great. Thank you. This video added value to my life. I will continue to fight for my love.
Thank you brother. You are loved.
Thank you, brother.