To each their own! I’m not into makeup and hair and nails like that…but I love clothes…and I’m a plus sized person. Some feel the need to tell me that I’m overdressed. We are all individuals so my casual maybe your overdressed and that’s ok. The problem comes when I push my preference on you or you try to push your preference on me. I’ll be dressy dressy on formal or gala nights simply because I like to and because I don’t have other occasions to do so. Live in YOUR comfort zone!
Well said. Unless the dress code is specified (black tie, tails, etc.), then it all comes down to our own personal interpretation of dressy. Good point.
I'm with ya no heals no nails no makeup ! Not plus size just dress clean and comfy They over dress and try to be who,they want to be not who they are ! Champagne looks on A Beer income
I recently packed my black tux and my white tux dinner jacket for an 11 day cruise. My Wife made fun of me saying : What do you think it is 1960 & Who do you think you are James Bond? Well I wore my white dinner jacket tux one evening and walked thru the public spaces, I could feel eyes following me, I got compliments from Men, Woman and the crew. I was told I was classy , I was yold looking good, I was told I looked like a sharp dressed man. I felt good about myself! No more negative coments from my Wife and yes we had the ships photographer take professional pictures. I think it is cool to dress sharply even if the rest of the crowd doesnt. 3 days later I wore my black tux white tie with same results. I say go for it.
Great story 👏👏 Right when you mentioned the white tux & black tux my first thought was Ooo James Bond😆 I was so surprised to hear that's what your wife said to😁 I agree, go for it👍
Social media has ruined our society. People have such bravery to say something online that I really don’t think they would say to that person’s face. To the couple going on Princess: we did Alaska cruise tour last Sept. my husband does not own a suit or tie. I just asked him what he wore and if he felt underdressed. I can tell you neither of us even remember what we wore. Meaning if we were under dressed we didn’t feel it at that time well enough to remember! Enjoy!!
@@carlosa.sanchez896my husband is a large man and his suit and dress shoes would take up most of what would fit in the luggage he is brining as we will be travelling through Italy prior to the cruise and dragging big suitcases with us will be a struggle. Also, it seems you are equating class wth moral character. I’ve seen a lot of “ugly” dressed up in nice clothes.
@@carlosa.sanchez896 Suits don't designate class. Politicians, clergy and Hollywood stars all wear suits and they're about as trashy and classless as a person can get. Manners are far more important.
I’m a Fellow Canadian living in Florida & working for Port Everglades.. for the cruise ships…tuck a big fancy necklace or a glitzy bracelet & wonderful earrings in your luggage.. this will take you to the next level for your gala evening..
@@melt9863You don’t have to take expensive jewlery. Today you can buy things for minimal cost that look expensive. I never take my wedding ring on a cruise, just get a fake. Plenty of pretty ones.
I am a HAL regular, and my husband and I definitely dress up on Dressy Nights. There's no point in having a kilt if no one gets to see you wear it! But we are also perfectly happy to dine with people who choose to wear whatever they like. You and your family looked perfect and we'd be more than happy sharing a table with you! :)
I went on my first cruise ever and knew absolutely nothing about formal night. Was never told and it wasn’t listed in the on board activities. So I brought nothing formal with me and felt so underdressed that I stayed in my room. We were later told that some obscure FB group tells you all about what things will be happening on your cruise dates. We also knew nothing about the Halloween dress up night so we missed that party too.
@@southernparadise9896it's called research. I could never imagine not researching. But then again, people rarely read anything or even think about what documents are needed or port rules
Your family looks great. I travel on HAL exclusively and, trust me, you all fit in perfectly fine. People on social media are just plain mean sometimes. It's always easier to be snarky when you don't have to worry about coming in contact with someone in person.
I think times have changed over the last few years. I personally do not care for formal nights and often dine elsewhere on those nights. BTW, I am 85 years old. To each his/her own, dress the way you feel comfortable and enjoy your cruise.
As my husband had to wear suit and tie every day for business, they are now saved for weddings and funerals. Before covid he always wore suits and ties. We will now be dressing less formal. Because of the cost of bringing luggage on airlines, I think it’s great that people are just enjoying their vacations and not worrying so much of overdressing, especially when you’re in the Caribbean.
I’ve wanted to go on a cruise for SO long. I am a very socially anxious person. The last thing I need is to be stressing about whether my attire meets the brief. I can certainly understand there being certain rules in place about being inappropriately dressed (skimpy, bathing suit in restaurants 😅, etc.), but damn.. on vacation I just want to relax and not be judged. To the OP.. you, and your family, looked lovely.
When you’re on a long trip (two weeks or longer) it is very hard to pack for physical activities and include formal wear. Airlines are getting more and more restrictive on the amount of luggage you can check and carry onto the plane. You met the dress code of collared shirts, jackets, and dress. You looked absolutely fine.
You looked fine. I agree, times have changed. Bought a tux for our first cruise, haven’t worn it in 15 years. Took a suit for the rest of our cruises, and noticed, as you did, that everyone has a different definition of “dressy”. The coolest was on our last HAL cruise four gents were in kilts and all the associated regalia!!
Saw a gentleman turned away from a Poconos venue who was dressed in formal Scot dress: kilt, knee socks etc. The man behind him had jeans and a tee shirt and was admitted. He was okay?
First let’s just say that social media has a lot of trolls who put down anything that makes them envious or jealous. What you and your husband wore looked very chic and totally appropriate for the occasion. Famous designer Coco Chanel famously said, “It’s always better to be slightly underdressed.”
SM has given a lot of ignorant human beings an easy way to vent their spleens along with a highly exaggerated sense of their own importance. I believe Chanel also advised removing one thing from your outfit before you leave the house, which is usually an accessory or piece of jewelry. I've done that myself many times and it made a difference!
I personally enjoy formal nights on a cruise. Us Americans have gotten way too casual and sloppy with clothing options so it’s nice to see people dressed up and looking their best for a change. Btw since the pandemic many men no longer wear ties even in business settings, so a suit without a tie is perfectly fine.
I'm American, and I think that your son looked awful. I don't care about the length of his trousers, but the white athletic socks looked terrible! And then no jacket, and rolling up his shirt sleeves? He looked like a "greaser" from the 1950's. John Travolta in "Grease".
Can people find something else to complain about that actually matters??!! You and your family look terrific - and your son’s slacks are fine, he’s a young man and it’s the style . WOW
Right?!?! I'd love for them to please explain how this personally negatively affected their lives SO much that people felt the need to be so rude? Discussion is fine but rude comments are totally unnecessary!
My husband and I sailed on RCL and Celebrity this past fall. Before going we went to Men's Wearhouse to get a new suit (he needed it for other situations also). When it came time to measure for the pant length the sales associate showed us a chart of pant lengths. There was the traditional length which shows a break at the shoe, and a shorter, more modern length that younger men were currently wearing, and one length in between. So, choose what you are comfortable with. We do dress up for formal/chic/dressy night - it's part of the fun and part of the tradition of cruising that made it different from what we wear and do everyday.
I love dressing up a bit in a cruise, because I don’t in my everyday life and also because it makes the cruise feel special and different. My dad doesn’t cruise anymore, but he used to pack a tux every time he cruised. So dashing, I loved it.
We were on two Holland America cruises this summer. On formal night, I only saw a couple of formal dresses and suits with ties. The rest, us included, were in black pants with a dressier top. There were some dresses and men were in slacks and button up shirts. The formal wear was really an anomaly. With airline luggage restrictions, who wants to waste the luggage space for an outfit that takes a lot of space and you would only wear for a few hours.
And then you have to spend time steaming it because you crammed it into an already full suitcase. 😂I don’t recall anyone being overly dressed up on our HAL cruise in 2019.
Agreed! I've been on 15 HAL cruises and times have changed - saw formal dressed 15 years ago, but never now (and those people almost stick out as being ridiculously dressed). Black pants and a dressy top for the win!!
My husband and I took our 1st cruise last July on the Caribbean Princess. We went full out on formal nights which gave me a change to wear my mother-of-the-bride gowns again, and my husband wore a black suit that looks like a tux, one night with a bow tie, and the next with a regular one. We LOVED it and received many compliments from complete strangers! We were pleasantly surprised to see several others dressed to the nines as well, especially after reading so many blogs saying that most do not dress up anymore. We plan to go all out on our next cruise too.
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I just spent $$$ on new dressy clothing and realized later that all I needed to do was head over to my second hand clothing shop, select the dress clothing necessary for formal nights etcetera. Upon arrival at the end of the cruise give away the second hand clothing or keep the dress clothing for other events. Save money.
I used to wear a suit, then I went to a sport coat and now I just wear nice slacks and a collared shirt. I feel more comfortable and this type of dress seems completely acceptable. We just got off Holland America and many others did the same. Lots of folks really dressed up which is great too.
Trousers, shirt and a sports jacket will be what my husband will wear on our cruise next year. Just a smidgen less dressy than a suit which suits him perfectly.
I think your family looked just fine for formal night. In my life(I'm 70), I have never had an occasion to wear a ball gown, and I certainly wouldn't buy one just for a cruise. As for formal night on Princess ships, they are pretty lenient, so a nice dress or even a pant suit would be fine.
Not everybody is a dress person or feels comfortable wearing that. We booked a cruise with our small kids and I am getting ready emotionally to handle tough moments so the last thing I need is to be anxious about buying a dress and looking acceptable.
The way you handled these rude comments is so perfect, Ilana! By responding in such a lighthearted, confident way , it shines more of a spotlight on how out-of-line some commenters were. Your whole family looks great! You are the essence of classy. These questions and answers in this video were so interesting. Thank you for the video! ☺🥰
Hi! Been cruising for years. Been through the gowns and all, but now that I'm more seasoned I prefer to dress the way I feel. Since I'm paying my own fare I really don"t care what anyone thinks. Depending on how my feet and knees feel that's the way I dress. You guys looked great, hope you had a good time! Thats what vacations are all about.
When it’s hot and muggy, I think a more casual dressy look is totally appropriate… but we are going on Norwegian’s Jewel after the first of the year for three weeks with at least two ‘formal’ dinners, so we went to the local thrift store and bought a nice looking jacket and tie he can wear for that event - only out $15.
We’ve just come off 3rd NCL cruise this year & have found even in main dining room they are more & more casual to point of allowing shorts for men & women at dinner. On Jade just this month there were no formal designated nights. My husband chose to not wear even jacket or tie & wore polo shirts, I didn’t wear a dressy dress, only sundresses.
For the for the couple about to cruise on Princess, don’t stress over what you wear. We just sailed on Princess 11/05/23 and we are “those” people who dress for dinner. However, when we arrived at the port, we realized that my husband had forgotten the garment bag with our dressy clothes. We had plenty of casual clothes in our suitcases, but nothing really dressy. So… we had to fake it. I had two plain black tank dresses in my suitcase- I simply dressed them up each night with scarves and accessories I had with me. I had to wear black flats every night, but my feet thanked me for that. Hubby had one pair of dress slacks, one pair of nice jeans, one button down shirt and one polo. He managed to make it work. Dressy nights were simply the button down shirt and black slacks. No jacket or tie, but luckily he had his dress shoes in his suitcase. All of my daughter’s dressy clothes were in the AWOL garment bag. She pulled together a look with the nice black jeans she wore when we boarded the ship, a couple of nice tops, and the only shoes she had that weren’t beach shoes- her black cowboy boots, also what she wore for embarkation. No one died, we weren’t kicked out of the dining room, and even our pictures look pretty good. Princess is fairly lenient on their dress code.
We were on the Regal Princess that same week. While they were rather cool about dressy, most people did dress up very nicely. That might be the fact that the cruise was about 50% Texan
@@jlawrence0181 I completely agree. My point was simply that while we weren’t dressed as well as we normally would have, we did the best we could with more casual clothes and still managed to look presentable, so there’s no need to get terribly stressed out about what to wear. The best rule of thumb is just dress nicely. No one on Princess is going to have a fit and kick you out if you’re not in an evening gown and tux (Cunard, yes. Princess, no). BTW, we are part of that 50% plus group of Texans, hence my daughter boarding a cruise ship in neatly pressed jeans and cowboy boots 😊
Our first cruise was Celebrity and we didn’t find the formal night too formal. It was smart but as I dint own that type of clothing I just wore a longer length plain sun dress with a large shawl type scarf and sparkly flat sandals. It was absolutely fine. Princess was almost non existent in their formal night clothing. We’ve been in a UK line that was more formal on 2 nights but again got away with not wearing really really formal, just smart and a bit dressy. The last line was a luxury line and again most wore smart or dressy but not many wore ballgowns and tuxedos.
Formal nights are part of the cruise experience to me so I love dressing the part to feel good and maybe turn some heads depending on how adventurous I get 😂. The hardest part for me when it comes to it though is packing enough and making sure it doesn’t get too wrinkled as well as trying to make sure what I wear is comfortable/breathable enough for the weather since I tend to overheat easily (the downside of more traditionally formal mens clothes).
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I am in the "boat" that does believe you ultimately have to wear what you are comfortable wearing. Having said that I kind of miss when formal meant super dressy; it felt like attending my high school prom all over again. When cruise ships relaxed the standards, it lost some of the magic.
Especially on Caribbean cruises……things are a lot less formal, just like the region. And I agree, there are generational and cultural differences on what dressy looks like. And then you add the fact the cruise lines have loosened the guidelines. Bottom line to me: you do you! This is vacation, and opinions belong kept to one’s self! You all looked fabulous❤
I just went on my first Princess cruise, which cruised to Mexico. I didn't eat in the MDR but on "dressy" "gala" whatever they called it night, I saw very few people in formal or really dressy attire heading to the dining rooms. However I did see a few couples who wore formal attire (gowns and tuxes) and they didn't seem to mind at all that not everyone waa dressed like them. I ate at a specialty restaurant and, again, people weren't dressed especially fancy. Ilana, I think you and your family looked great on the formal night(s) and love how you all coordinated.
I enjoy your channel very much because your commentary is always very balanced and reasonable. The cruise industry has changed dramatically since I first cruised in January 1970. (I am 81 and still cruising mostly on HAL). During my life I have taken many different types of vacations which included tent camping. I thoroughly enjoyed the relaxed atmosphere and activities in the various campgrounds. When the conversation about dress codes arises I like to put this comparison out for consideration: If I walked around the campground in an evening gown and my husband in his tuxedo or dinner jacket we would certainly be free to do so. However, we would really stick out like a sore thumb. The other campers would think we were strange. If being dressed like that I went to the campground manager and asked where and when the ballroom dancing would be or where the fine dining restaurant was or at what time was the chamber music concert would begin, I probably could expect his answer to be something like "Lady, this is a campground not a blooming cruise ship". Likewise, I don't expect to dress and behave as if I were at a campground when I am on a cruise ship. If that were what I wanted, I would have gone to a campground. I believe that there is a time and place for everything. This is just my humble opinion and I do adhere to its principles. Please keep up the good work.
Yes, my husband wore a collared shirt and tie to work every day. And he wasn’t even required to do so. I was always proud of how nice he looked, going off to work. And that’s work, it’s not even a formal night on a cruise ship. It’s one of the reasons we like HAL, because they are a bit more traditional in their approach. There are many other casual cruises out there.
You and your family looked chic and put together! Perfect for Gala Night! I try to only pack a carry-on for cruises and I'm not wasting my precious luggage space with a beaded, floor-length gown that I will wear for a total of 4 hours during the week. It's all about mixing and matching, so I pack one lightweight, flowy dress that I can accessorize with a silk scarf and jewelry to make different looks. Another great video, Ilana!
I share a similar style, I live and sail on a 30' sailboat I don't have room for bulky things I may only wear once or twice a year. I find scarves stretch and dress up my wardrobe, going from a normal look to a dressy look with just a scarf and some simple accessories which take up very little space.
I so agree that your family looked so smart for the evening event. The shorter pants on younger generations is so in style. Whoever called you out on your choices of formal wear are not up with the times. I recently sailed on Oceania and they don’t have any “formal “ nights. Most passengers were nicely dressed for evening dining (no shorts, no jeans, no tank tops, no workout wear) but we must respect every culture/generations style and who decides what is acceptable or not anyways? Truly can’t believe they called you out on this?
I think your evening attire clothing is totally acceptable. We have been on quite a few cruises on various lines and most people dress in the manner that you, your husband and son did. On our next cruise even for "formal" night it will be on the casual side. I don't think anyone wears a gown or tuxedo anymore.
You look amazing! Your son's pants are in style, especially for his generation. Love the fact that your husband isn't wearing a tie. Love your style and don't let the haters bother you. There are so many people that are very underdressed for the dining room. Your family looks fantastic!
I consider dressy to be what I would wear to an evening wedding. That would be a modest, solid color cocktail dress that hits below my knee but is not floor length. If it's chilly, I'd wear a fancy jacket.
I think you all look great. We went on Princess last June and on "formal" night I wore a knee length dress and husband wore Khakis, shirt and tie. I did not feel underdressed. We saw everything from gowns and suits to jeans in the dining room on formal night
You all looked fantastic! We bought dressy clothes (tux and evening gown) for a gala in 2020, then the pandemic hit and it was cancelled. We are wearing them on our upcoming cruise because we can! Everyone has a different taste! You be you!
I'd love to remind the lady who was curious about her husband's clothing being fancy enough. Don't forget thrift shops have GREAT pieces for less than you'd think! You might be able to get your hubby a suit for twenty bucks or so! Whatever you choose though, don't stress as it's all about enjoying yourself! xoxo
I know a woman, who works for a custom made suits company. She said there are many suits that customers don't like because of something's wrong (the company have to remake for them). They donate all the rejected suits to charities. So, I guess if people could go to Goodwill or Salvation Army or those charitable thrift stores, they could find a brand new suit with discount price.
He could dress it up a bit by adding a tie. I have found that most men takeoff their suit jackets while sitting at the table, so he would look just like all the other men in their dress shirts and ties. And if it’s a thin dress shirt, a white undershirt will bump that up a notch in dressiness.
The guidelines specifically said collared shirts - not a mention of a tie. Your gentlemen looked perfectly well dressed. And I love your dress - classy, understated and perfectly appropriate for the occasion. What do people want - a six-foot train and a tiara? Personally, I look forward to dressing up a bit on my upcoming cruise as I don’t get a chance to do that at home. But I will be dressing to please myself, and I assume other people will be wearing what pleases them, and it’s none of my concern.
lol @ a train and tiara! I screamed because that is what I was thinking… Me: What do you mean I can’t bring this horse and carriage on board??? They’re for formal night!!!
no open toed shoes, no bare shoulders, no shirts without collars, etc. if one goes to a good restaurant they will have the same dress code and one will not get in if underdressed. By all means dress to please yourself but just don't go to a dress night if underdressed.
Wow I am very surprised you got called out I think you all look absolutely lovely. It’s not like it was 20 years ago with long gowns and tuxedos, you all looked wonderful.
On my first cruise my mother had made friends with a couple who cruised quite often. On dressy night they came down the stairs and they were stunning! She had on a very fancy beaded gown but what knocked my socks off was his tux. It was Western cut and he was wearing a black felt cowboy hat. He was a very good looking man and she was a gorgeous woman. I will never forget that scene. My second cruise I didn't even bother taking a dress, I just went to the buffet and sat with some new friends. I want to be comfortable and relaxed. To each his own.
I like formal night, but I don't go overboard. See what I did there? 😆I think, as long as you feel dressed up, you're fine. I am shocked how rude people can be. They think your son's attire was not proper but their comments are. Who are they to judge? They weren't there. They were sitting at home creeping on TH-cam spreading meanness. You three looked great!
I have cruised 11 times on Holland America and I think what you and your family were wearing was perfectly ok for '"dressy' night in the Caribbean. When we go on a Caribbean cruise we have restrictions on luggage on the flights so I tend to wear mix and match outfits.
That's a great point. It might not be dressy for NYC or London, but it is Certainly dressy for the Caribbean or the South Pacific. We're cruising out of Brisbane (Australia) in December and the general consensus on all of the FB groups I've joined is that a cute sun dress for women and dressy shorts and a collared top for men is totally appropriate for the MDR, even on formal night, perhaps even more appropriate than a jacket and long pants because of the weather (it's summer in Dec in the southern hemisphere). My husband is planning to bring long pants, but if everyone is wearing shorts on formal night, he is planning to change.
Hi Ilana, just saw this video. You and your family look amazing. You guys always look great. My mom always said if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all. You are one of the best dressed cruise bloggers. Your advice is always helpful and truthful. I’ve seen people looking awful on cruise ships. Many looked like the they just rolled out of bed. They give casual a whole new meaning.LOL keep doing what you are doing and wearing what you do. Thanks for all you do. AnnaMaria
I think it's great that you made this video to get it off your chest and address rude commenters. I also think that when we spend our good hard earned money to go on these cruises... it's about the memories we make... not how well we "adhere" to dress attire labels. Wear what you want... you all looked lovely.
the problem is that if there is a rule for attire, people should follow it. Its not a preference at that point. The cruise lines are trying to create an ambiance for that night and its rude to ignore it. If people dont like this, they can skip that cruise or skip that restaurant that night. not a big deals. But the idea that everyone just does as they please is just gross and entitled
@@caribbeanbound8357 The problem is that you replied to my comment in a manner that is gross and entitled. I fully understand that they are trying to “create an ambiance” so dress to the 9s and go about your business. If someone wants to wear pants and a blaser but doesn’t put on a tie… oh… well! Consider going on a $25k 3 day cruise that practices exclusivity… where everyone’s taste is up to your standard vs suggesting that people not partake in an included dinner that they paid for on their cruise. Clearly there is a reason the cruise line does not strictly enforce it… because it is a rediculous notion to prohibit someone from entering a formal dinner that requires formal wear… formal wear can be subjective. It’s ridiculous to be overly critical of peoples attire on a non luxury cruise. Subbing out a pair of shoes or an article of clothing for comfort while still bein respectably dressed is nothing to be engrossed over for the sake of “ambiance." Quite frankly I think that’s pathetic.
@@QueensNative Look at you being all triggered when I said nothing offensive. Have fun being entitled and not following the dress codes then. They literally have it listed and a video about it on their website. Just remember that i'm not the entitled one who doesnt want to go with the fun and take part in what the cruise line is trying to create. Have fun dressing like a walmart shopper in a nice restaurant that would have otherwise appreciated something more formal.
@@caribbeanbound8357 Clearly you’re uncultured swine. I’m not going to give you the satisfaction of a written evisceration… I will say this though, your energy is giving… the classiest outing you’ve ever had was “formal night” on a cruise.
You, your husband and your son looked great. I don’t understand why people would be so offensive. They have to be jealous of your handsome men and how beautiful you looked. I bet none of them got asked to assist the Captain. He must have felt you looked appropriate. ❤
I absolutely LOVE the outfits you wore. I notice how you coordinate the shades of blue as a family, looks great in pictures. Isn't that the point? To make and document beautiful memories as you travel? Your son's tailoring looks on point, very cool. Especially with the no socks. Yes older men and ladies... it's really gonna be ok if her son ( Laddie 😂)doesn't wear socks on dressy night. 😂
Nobody wants to sit beside men with no socks,all feet sweat and it just not nice. Some resemblance of Standards have to be kept even when on holiday. I thinks that's why now European restaurants are now banning people who aren't dressed decently from entering restaurants. People have to cover up going to the beech huts for lucky and its only right and you can now be fined for walking on the streets in your swim wear so putting on a pair of socks to go to dinner and especially a formal evening should be compulsory in my opinion,. Its quite disgusting actually not to put on socks and smart shoes.
My parents took a wonderful cruise in the 70's, through the Panama Canal, from Florida to California. Their formal night was definitely formal then, and they were even invited to the Captain's table. My Mother wore a full length sparkly gown, my Dad wore a very nice suit and a cummerbund made of his Scots plaid, and a bow tie covered in pheasant feathers. They looked amazing, and for mid-western ranchers they had a ball! I definitely do wear a gown, perhaps one I could change accessories for different nights, and my hubby loves his assortment of suits, dinner jackets and beautiful ties, which he would likely wear to dinner every night, while I would wear tea length dresses as those are my favorite. Dressing up to us is a perk of cruising in the first place.
On our canal journey Feb 2023, we had 3 formal nights. 2 with jacket and tie, the last one I wore just a jacket. Too many cloths to pack. Thanks for sharing
I love the formal night on cruises. The very first time I went on a cruise. No one told me that there was a formal night and I was so upset that I didn't have anything special to wear. I have been on 7 or 8 cruises since then and enjoyed shopping for and wearing formal dresses on every one of them. I am going on another cruise January 2oth 2024 and will look forward to that formal night. Thank you for all that you do.
I think you and your family looked great! You followed the suggested attire for the evening and looked dressy, yet comfortable! If people want to wear tuxes and formals, go for it, but what a pain it is to pack them! Some people just can't stand to not find faults in others.
that is not what dress night is, it is about not wearing beach wear such as no open toed shoes, no bare shoulders, no shirts without collars etc it is called dressing up for one evening to pretend to be of a higher class
I think your outfits looked great! Years ago we got really dressed up for formal nights but it's too difficult to pack and I didn't always feel comfortable. If some people want to wear a gown and tux, then go for it. If you want to wear a nice dress and slacks, thats fine too. I think the most important thing is to feel comfortable and have a good time. I've noticed that formal night has gotten more casual which is fine. This allows everyone to decide for themselves how dressy they want to be and people should just worry about themselves and not everyone else.
I think what your whole family wore was perfect! Some people live to judge others. Social media is the worst for people judging others. You're doing great!! ❤😊
The last time I cruised (back in 1992 and 1996) there were no formal nights because you had to wear at least the equivalent of nice church attire to get in the dining room for supper. We are sailing in May and I'm excited to dress up for 2 nights (because we never have an excuse to do so), but I'm also glad the attire is more casual on the other nights.
Formal nights are fine as long as I don't have to join in! You all looked wonderful on your HAL cruise, including your son. People need to adapt to newer, younger styles. We are Celebrity Elite Plus....what you all wore on HAL will be just fine on Celebrity! I worked for 30 years of my career in a suit and tie, and it is the last thing I want to do on a cruise! We won't sail Cunard, Regent or Silver Seas for the same reason. Relax, everyone, it's a vacation! You and your family looked smart, and chic.....enjoy, and thanks for this channel!
That’s a great comment thank you. I was gradually going through the thread and was changing my mind about going on a cruise. I don’t enjoy formal wear, but also my personality does not suit the more casual cruise lines. After reading some of the comments I was being feeling pressured into dressing up, hiding in the cabin for formal night or just avoiding the cruise. I am by no means scruffy, but some of the comments were rude. Well done for being thick skinned I think you all looked great
@@davidhurwitz2291Great comment. Pick the cruise line that "suits" your taste. My wife and I prefer a formal night, to each his own. Have a great day.
Cruise lines have changed how they refer to their most dressy nights. VERY few cruise lines still call them "formal nights" or insist on formal wear to enter the dining room. "Formal night" seems to have disappeared long before covid. We have 50 cruises to our credit and I honestly don't remember the last time I packed a formal. I do remember trying to talk my daughter out of brining her prom dress on one cruise--she and one other teen were the only really formally dressed people we saw. Many cruises use terms like "Dress up night" or "Gala Night". I've even seen suggestions of "wear the most dressy thing you brought." And honestly, I don't care what other people think! If Holland America doesn't require a gown, why should you (unless you want to!)
I love to see people dressed up. We just came back from an 8 day cruise which had 2 formal nights. It was refreshing to see people dressed beautifully and having a great time.
I am glad the formal has become dressy. Much more comfortable and easier to pack. I do think that it was fun for the girls to wear their prom dresses. They may not get another chance to wear them.
Honestly love the idea we're no longer obligated to wear formal dress for dinner and I wouldn't be concerned what folks think but I get it you have a TH-cam channel and post things to social media. Disregard the negative content and move on. Don't allow the naysayers to get in your head because at the end of the day you and your family had a wonderful time together.☺️
Here’s what I think, you paid for your cruise not anybody else, you wear what you want to wear it’s nobody else’s business, people can be so rude & some quite snobbish.
@@junehitchcock170not everybody likes being in formal clothes and people shouldn’t have to buy something for one night on a cruise. It’s actually really stupid.
It's nice to dress up a bit on gala nights or whatever the cruise line calls it. I always have a few dressy outfits --- usually a blazer with slacks and a nice collared shirt and leather shoes and some evening jewelry/watch. I have a white linen suit that I sometimes wear on warm weather cruises, as well as a Chinese men's formal top. I do attend formal events occasionally where I live and I enjoy that, but no black tie for me on a cruise. (Maybe if I cruised on Cunard, or went on a wedding cruise, or some special circumstance, I might decide to pack all the formal black tie stuff, but not normally.) And yet I always enjoy folks who do dress up in formal wear or who wear dressy casual ensembles.
You all looked great in your dressy wear! I think people that don’t think this is ‘dressy enough’ have not cruised in quite a while. I’ve noticed that cruise lines are often not even calling it formal night anymore. On my most recent Princes cruise I believe they called it ‘dress to impress’ night. I just wore a dressy top and capris and my husband wore dress pants and a collared shirt. We rarely pack formal clothes anymore.
@@LifeWellCruised In your son's case, what I tend to do is wear the jacket going in then put it on the back of the chair as soon as I reach my seat. Socks probably would have stopped comments about the length of the pants, but in the end it's whether he really cares about comments from people on the internet none of you have ever met (which includes me).
I always used to bring a tuxedo. Until one year I weighed the tux, shoes, trousers, shirt etc. and it came to 13 pounds ! Now I just bring carry-on and wear a nice silk shirt on dressy occasions. Things have changed.
I've been a cruiser for a number of decades. I truly wish people would go back to the ball gowns & tuxedos. My husband is a retired Marine & we do other functions that require formal attire and we just love going full glam! Now that he's retired we'll be going on cruises and he will wear his custom made tuxedo.
Recently we attended a formal night on the Caribbean Princess. About 10 teenage boys and 2 girls walked in and sat at their table. 2 of the boys took their shirt off and sat bare chested at the dining table. We were horrified and thought they should have been removed immediately. The staff did speak to them and they put their shirts back on but as soon as they left they removed them again. They were not removed from the dining room and i felt they should have been. They showed no respect for anyone else. I feel Princess have let their standards slip.
Ilana, As the mom of 2 teenage boys, I totally get the short pant-no sock trendy look. After sailing w/ 5 different cruise lines I’ve concluded that if you’re comfortable and within dress code, who cares what others think. Enjoy your vacay. Y’all look nice.
My husband and I love the dressy/formal nights. It makes for a whole different atmosphere when everyone is dressed like this. People tend to act like they're dressed. I can understand those that don't want to participate and that's fine but I think if they're not going to follow the dress code and guidelines, they should dine elsewhere for that night.
In the past, the culinary experience at the gala dinner was extraordinary. Today it's not worth carrying so many clothes, makeup and shoes for just one day because dinner is no longer the same. I use the main restaurant the rest of the night and on the day of the gala I go to the buffet or ordered room service . That way I charge with less luggage, after all I'm on vacation. I don't want anyone to tell me what to do or how to dress.
My husband just wears dress pants, a shirt and tie on HAL. I wear a nice dress not formal. We never felt out of place. More people are dressing this way than really formal. Same goes for Princess. Jackets not required. You all look great❤️
For the person who wondered what to bring for a Princess "formal night": We sail on Princess a lot, and find "office casual" to be perfectly acceptable on "formal nights". A button down shirt and black or tan jeans are acceptable for men; you don't need a tie. I wouldn't wear shorts or blue jeans. As a man I know better than to make women's clothing recommendations.
Update on our cruise which was a blast! Blues cruises don’t have dress codes for any restaurant. I like that. It’s an older crowd so we all have common sense. ❤
I've done about 12 Holland America cruises, and my friends and I always dressed in gowns and suits w/ jacket and ties. It was fun, but gowns take up so much packing space. Hearing different opinions since cruising resumed after the pandemic. It would be nice to wear a nice cocktail dress if they are loosening the dresses code.
Do you pack those in regular luggage or do you use an independent garment bag? I've considered getting a garment bag, but it doesn't seem like they make the durable ones anymore.
@hariseldon6550 I use packing cubes. I bring wrinkle release spray and hang things in the bathroom and run the hot shower for steam. Works on most everything. I also buy cruise clothes that are materials that will resist wrinkles. Any really bad I do send off to be pressed, but I hardly ever have to do that.
We were recently on a New England cruise and we chose to skip the formal night because I just didn't feel like I had a dress that was fancy enough. We didn't miss going to the main dining room for that one night.
Wow, you got called out for that? My husband only wears a suit coat on colder weather cruises. I usually wear a maxi style dress with maybe a cover up depending on the itinerary. You looked great! ❤
This woman and her family has gone on way too many cruises for y'all on watchers to criticize what she should and should not wear. She knows exactly how to dress for any event. This is not her 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th or 5th rodeo😒. She has done nothing but been helpful and very informative to help others that are going on cruises. For people to be so negative and judgemental is so 😈 Y'all look very nice! Each one of y'all looks just fine and I like how y'all colors flow together! There is absolutely nothing wrong with anything either of you are wearing. That's terrible how people will have a "personal" opinion and preference and then think anyone not within the same opinion and preference is wrong. Be careful not to judge others because while you are busy judging them someone is also judging you.
She ASKED for people’s opinions. It’s hardly fair to be so incredibly rude to people who disagree with you. I would never tell someone that they were dressed inappropriately without being specifically asked. But she did ask.
Negative? I feel her comments overall are pretty negative. People tend to reflect your behavior back to you. And she’s only giving hearts to people who agree with her. That’s also very telling.
I absolutely love formal nights and dress up in a grown. It’s so special and something you don’t do normally. And the pictures come out great. I hope they never phase it out!
Amazing how some people suddenly become fashion gurus. Social media is a curse these days frequented by wannabe fashion critics amongst other things. I consider myself quite up to date when it comes to fashion and could see absolutely nothing wrong in what you and your men wore. I am now 74 yrs and feel I have the experience in life to make such a statement. To be honest I have always wondered why a piece of cloth tied around a neck was so important. Ridiculous when you think about it! There rant over, keep the videos coming and as you rightly do, ignore these unqualified critics who seem to have such small lives with nothing better to do. If you don’t have anything good to say then don’t bother saying anything social media wise 👍
You all looked totally appropriate for gala night on any cruise line. I’ve seen people on cruises that seem to think that changing out of a Bud Lite tee shirt to a plain tee shirt should cover formal night attire.
I’m retired and we cruise quite often. I spent a large portion of my life in uniform and after retirement worked at a jobs that required a certain level of dress. Since then I don’t own a suit. When I dress for formal night I meet the minimum suggested dress. I believe there are many reasons people are now dressing down. If you fly to a cruise luggage becomes expensive. If I can travel with only a carry-on I will. This means no jacket or dress clothes. Cruise lines have lessened the requirements and on some ships the dining room menu doesn’t reflect a formal dinner. Keep calm and cruise on.
I luv what you & your husband wear. Perfect for cruising. Your dresses are always wonderful. Not many wear a tie anymore. Your son looks like he is gonna dance the night away🎉
I’ve been on several cruises… and while I think your family dressed nicely… I think that I’d consider all the outfits “basic dress dinner wear.” Gala outfits would indeed be fancier. Ties or a ticked on scarf, for men… and long dresses or flowy evening slacks and more blingy jewelry, for women.
Having been on a Cunard cruise pre Covid and having had to acquire and wear a black “tuxedo” suit and a somewhat less dressy sports coat and dress pants with dress shirts and ties to all meals let alone the “Formal” nights - I can say that I understand people feeling annoyed to have “followed the rules” when others appear to have made “little effort”. I can also say that the experience did make the cruise feel more special than the dress shirt and casual pants I wear to most restaurants feels. On the other hand if cruise lines are willing to accept any dress/casual look, tie no tie, open collar, rolled sleeves, jacket no jacket, sandals no socks etc. then the cruise lines should stop calling these evenings formal, dress, gala or anything similar and stop suggesting a dress code that they won’t enforce. I fell the problem is not really what anyone is wearing as much as it is the confused expectation of cruise passengers who look to the cruise line for guidance and enforcement. I could have saved hundreds of dollars on that Queen Elizabeth cruise had I been able to avoid buying two new suits and accessories, but I also would not have had the memories of siting at dinner with my friends and all of us feeling like we were partaking of a very special occasion to sit and dine on that fine ship. You and your family look fine and like you were having a great time. I hope you remember it as fun.
With airlines charging for each bag, even carry on, people can’t bring trunks of dress formals like they use to. Cruising is suppose to be carefree fun, not a burden.
With airlines charging for each bag, even carry on, people can’t bring trunks of dress formals like they use to. Cruising is suppose to be carefree fun, not a burden.
I am so happy that you brought up this subject. You are so right about different cultures, styles, and generations. We really don't have as many "formal" affairs as we used to, so it's so much fun to dress UP for a couple of nights and join the team. Look at how much money is spent on Halloween costumes! Borrow, rent, or buy a gown for the week. Do your hair and makeup a little differently. Have your date do the same. You'll be surprised how much fun it is. For our last cruise, one of our friends was recovering from a serious cancer surgery. He and his wife simply did not feel like dressing up, and I couldn't blame them. They were happy to be alive and on a cruise. He wore dress pants and a collared shirt but no tie or jacket. She wore a very nice sun dress, so the rest of us did the same, but I did miss dressing up. No one had a problem with it. So to each his own. The point is that it is fun to participate, but we can't judge others.
Snobs Had a funny experience on a recent cruise, didn’t know it was a Formal night on this occasion and my wife and I came out of the Theatre following a show. Got to the exit and saw this guy in tuxedo and thanked him as we walked past him. Luckily he saw the funny side
To each their own! I’m not into makeup and hair and nails like that…but I love clothes…and I’m a plus sized person. Some feel the need to tell me that I’m overdressed. We are all individuals so my casual maybe your overdressed and that’s ok. The problem comes when I push my preference on you or you try to push your preference on me. I’ll be dressy dressy on formal or gala nights simply because I like to and because I don’t have other occasions to do so. Live in YOUR comfort zone!
Its like I wrote this myself😁💯
This is spot on! I feel exactly the same. ❤
If more people took this view the world would be a HAPPY place!
Well said. Unless the dress code is specified (black tie, tails, etc.), then it all comes down to our own personal interpretation of dressy. Good point.
I'm with ya no heals no nails no makeup ! Not plus size just dress clean and comfy
They over dress and try to be who,they want to be not who they are ! Champagne looks on A Beer income
I recently packed my black tux and my white tux dinner jacket for an 11 day cruise.
My Wife made fun of me saying :
What do you think it is 1960
&
Who do you think you are James Bond?
Well I wore my white dinner jacket tux one evening and walked thru the public spaces, I could feel eyes following me, I got compliments from Men, Woman and the crew. I was told I was classy , I was yold looking good, I was told I looked like a sharp dressed man. I felt good about myself!
No more negative coments from my Wife and yes we had the ships photographer take professional pictures.
I think it is cool to dress sharply even if the rest of the crowd doesnt.
3 days later I wore my black tux white tie with same results.
I say go for it.
Love it!!
Get a new wife.
@@bullirish good idea
Great story 👏👏
Right when you mentioned the white tux & black tux my first thought was Ooo James Bond😆
I was so surprised to hear that's what your wife said to😁
I agree, go for it👍
Gotta love a man in a tux & a man in a white dinner jacket! ❤️
Social media has ruined our society. People have such bravery to say something online that I really don’t think they would say to that person’s face.
To the couple going on Princess: we did Alaska cruise tour last Sept. my husband does not own a suit or tie. I just asked him what he wore and if he felt underdressed. I can tell you neither of us even remember what we wore. Meaning if we were under dressed we didn’t feel it at that time well enough to remember! Enjoy!!
Does hubby ever attend a wedding, funeral, baptism, First Communion, Bar Mitzvah, etc? Only in America are people so classless.
NO YOU CAN FIND CLASSLES PEOPLE ALL OVER THE WORLD @@carlosa.sanchez896
@@carlosa.sanchez896my husband is a large man and his suit and dress shoes would take up most of what would fit in the luggage he is brining as we will be travelling through Italy prior to the cruise and dragging big suitcases with us will be a struggle. Also, it seems you are equating class wth moral character. I’ve seen a lot of “ugly” dressed up in nice clothes.
@@mhtammi Okay, your husband is an unusual exception. Most people who underdress don't have his reasons.
@@carlosa.sanchez896 Suits don't designate class. Politicians, clergy and Hollywood stars all wear suits and they're about as trashy and classless as a person can get. Manners are far more important.
I’m a Fellow Canadian living in Florida & working for Port Everglades.. for the cruise ships…tuck a big fancy necklace or a glitzy bracelet & wonderful earrings in your luggage.. this will take you to the next level for your gala evening..
I wouldn’t want my jewelry to get stolen or lost though.
there is a bit more to it than that, no bare shoulders or shorts and in fine dining no open toed shoes, it is not about cheap glitz it is about
attire
@@user-fl1pc7zu7f What happens if a person cannot afford expensive clothes and real diamonds?
@@melt9863Costume jewelry
@@melt9863You don’t have to take expensive jewlery. Today you can buy things for minimal cost that look expensive. I never take my wedding ring on a cruise, just get a fake. Plenty of pretty ones.
I am a HAL regular, and my husband and I definitely dress up on Dressy Nights. There's no point in having a kilt if no one gets to see you wear it!
But we are also perfectly happy to dine with people who choose to wear whatever they like. You and your family looked perfect and we'd be more than happy sharing a table with you! :)
I find it rather great that if you have a kilt, there is no need to wear a tux. (no rental or purchase of a tux)
Very few men wear tux.
You had me at "kilt." I want to sit at your table next time. (sighing with a dreamy smile on my face)
Would absolutely feel you were dressed formally if you wore a kilt.
There was nothing wrong with the clothes you and your family worn on elegant/dress night. It was clean and modern 😊
It was not what the cruise defined as formal.
I went on my first cruise ever and knew absolutely nothing about formal night. Was never told and it wasn’t listed in the on board activities. So I brought nothing formal with me and felt so underdressed that I stayed in my room. We were later told that some obscure FB group tells you all about what things will be happening on your cruise dates. We also knew nothing about the Halloween dress up night so we missed that party too.
@@tombeegeeeye5765 Would it make your lobster and steak taste any different?
@@southernparadise9896it's called research. I could never imagine not researching. But then again, people rarely read anything or even think about what documents are needed or port rules
@@lovesfall2168it'd make mine more palatable
Your family looks great. I travel on HAL exclusively and, trust me, you all fit in perfectly fine. People on social media are just plain mean sometimes. It's always easier to be snarky when you don't have to worry about coming in contact with someone in person.
I think times have changed over the last few years. I personally do not care for formal nights and often dine elsewhere on those nights. BTW, I am 85 years old. To each his/her own, dress the way you feel comfortable and enjoy your cruise.
I agree. I have no desire to get all dressed up on vacation. I just want to relax.
As my husband had to wear suit and tie every day for business, they are now saved for weddings and funerals. Before covid he always wore suits and ties. We will now be dressing less formal. Because of the cost of bringing luggage on airlines, I think it’s great that people are just enjoying their vacations and not worrying so much of overdressing, especially when you’re in the Caribbean.
I love going on cruises now cause I do not do the dress up ( formal) use to enjoy NO MORE!! A Sundress or pants n a pretty top.😊
You are wrong use the buffet
I’ve wanted to go on a cruise for SO long. I am a very socially anxious person. The last thing I need is to be stressing about whether my attire meets the brief. I can certainly understand there being certain rules in place about being inappropriately dressed (skimpy, bathing suit in restaurants 😅, etc.), but damn.. on vacation I just want to relax and not be judged. To the OP.. you, and your family, looked lovely.
When you’re on a long trip (two weeks or longer) it is very hard to pack for physical activities and include formal wear. Airlines are getting more and more restrictive on the amount of luggage you can check and carry onto the plane. You met the dress code of collared shirts, jackets, and dress. You looked absolutely fine.
You looked fine. I agree, times have changed. Bought a tux for our first cruise, haven’t worn it in 15 years. Took a suit for the rest of our cruises, and noticed, as you did, that everyone has a different definition of “dressy”. The coolest was on our last HAL cruise four gents were in kilts and all the associated regalia!!
Saw a gentleman turned away from a Poconos venue who was dressed in formal Scot dress: kilt, knee socks etc. The man behind him had jeans and a tee shirt and was admitted. He was okay?
Kilts are determined Formal!!
@@kathrynr5026 It sounds as if the staff were ignorant and needed to be corrected.
I find a man in a kilt quite attractive, even the work kilts(think Carhartt).
First let’s just say that social media has a lot of trolls who put down anything that makes them envious or jealous. What you and your husband wore looked very chic and totally appropriate for the occasion.
Famous designer Coco Chanel famously said, “It’s always better to be slightly underdressed.”
Oooh I like Coco 😉
SM has given a lot of ignorant human beings an easy way to vent their spleens along with a highly exaggerated sense of their own importance.
I believe Chanel also advised removing one thing from your outfit before you leave the house, which is usually an accessory or piece of jewelry. I've done that myself many times and it made a difference!
I personally enjoy formal nights on a cruise. Us Americans have gotten way too casual and sloppy with clothing options so it’s nice to see people dressed up and looking their best for a change. Btw since the pandemic many men no longer wear ties even in business settings, so a suit without a tie is perfectly fine.
Here in Spain the fashion for men is now shorter trousers just like the ones your son is wearing. So well done.🎉🎉
I'm American, and I think that your son looked awful. I don't care about the length of his trousers, but the white athletic socks looked terrible! And then no jacket, and rolling up his shirt sleeves? He looked like a "greaser" from the 1950's. John Travolta in "Grease".
Can people find something else to complain about that actually matters??!! You and your family look terrific - and your son’s slacks are fine, he’s a young man and it’s the style .
WOW
lol right?
Right?!?! I'd love for them to please explain how this personally negatively affected their lives SO much that people felt the need to be so rude? Discussion is fine but rude comments are totally unnecessary!
@@BM-rd3lq I agree, some people have nothing better to do with their lives than be judgmental and rude, so brave behind a keyboard aren't they.
My husband and I sailed on RCL and Celebrity this past fall. Before going we went to Men's Wearhouse to get a new suit (he needed it for other situations also). When it came time to measure for the pant length the sales associate showed us a chart of pant lengths. There was the traditional length which shows a break at the shoe, and a shorter, more modern length that younger men were currently wearing, and one length in between. So, choose what you are comfortable with. We do dress up for formal/chic/dressy night - it's part of the fun and part of the tradition of cruising that made it different from what we wear and do everyday.
I love dressing up a bit in a cruise, because I don’t in my everyday life and also because it makes the cruise feel special and different. My dad doesn’t cruise anymore, but he used to pack a tux every time he cruised. So dashing, I loved it.
Exactly. I’m a SAHM, so the only opportunities for dressing up are weddings & cruises. 😍
We were on two Holland America cruises this summer. On formal night, I only saw a couple of formal dresses and suits with ties. The rest, us included, were in black pants with a dressier top. There were some dresses and men were in slacks and button up shirts. The formal wear was really an anomaly. With airline luggage restrictions, who wants to waste the luggage space for an outfit that takes a lot of space and you would only wear for a few hours.
yes, agree completely about the added luggage. It isn't just the dress but the shoes, the purse, the accessories. black everything is my friend. LOL
And then you have to spend time steaming it because you crammed it into an already full suitcase. 😂I don’t recall anyone being overly dressed up on our HAL cruise in 2019.
Agreed! I've been on 15 HAL cruises and times have changed - saw formal dressed 15 years ago, but never now (and those people almost stick out as being ridiculously dressed). Black pants and a dressy top for the win!!
My husband and I took our 1st cruise last July on the Caribbean Princess. We went full out on formal nights which gave me a change to wear my mother-of-the-bride gowns again, and my husband wore a black suit that looks like a tux, one night with a bow tie, and the next with a regular one. We LOVED it and received many compliments from complete strangers! We were pleasantly surprised to see several others dressed to the nines as well, especially after reading so many blogs saying that most do not dress up anymore. We plan to go all out on our next cruise too.
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I just spent $$$ on new dressy clothing and realized later that all I needed to do was head over to my second hand clothing shop, select the dress clothing necessary for formal nights etcetera. Upon arrival at the end of the cruise give away the second hand clothing or keep the dress clothing for other events. Save money.
I got an amazing sequin dress (that originally retailed for a couple hundred dollars) for $13. I love going to the thrift store
I used to wear a suit, then I went to a sport coat and now I just wear nice slacks and a collared shirt. I feel more comfortable and this type of dress seems completely acceptable. We just got off Holland America and many others did the same. Lots of folks really dressed up which is great too.
Trousers, shirt and a sports jacket will be what my husband will wear on our cruise next year. Just a smidgen less dressy than a suit which suits him perfectly.
I think your family looked just fine for formal night. In my life(I'm 70), I have never had an occasion to wear a ball gown, and I certainly wouldn't buy one just for a cruise. As for formal night on Princess ships, they are pretty lenient, so a nice dress or even a pant suit would be fine.
Good to know since I will be sailing on Princess 2024 for the first time🥰
no ball gown just no open toed shoes, bare shoulders, no shirts without collars, sad that people can't dress for one evening.
Not everybody is a dress person or feels comfortable wearing that.
We booked a cruise with our small kids and I am getting ready emotionally to handle tough moments so the last thing I need is to be anxious about buying a dress and looking acceptable.
@@IrisP989 then maybe it is too much for you to go or just go to the things where families go not the dress night
Honestly I don’t see anything wrong with your outfits ❤❤❤ I am glad that you had a great time ❤❤
The way you handled these rude comments is so perfect, Ilana! By responding in such a lighthearted, confident way , it shines more of a spotlight on how out-of-line some commenters were. Your whole family looks great! You are the essence of classy. These questions and answers in this video were so interesting. Thank you for the video! ☺🥰
Hi! Been cruising for years. Been through the gowns and all, but now that I'm more seasoned I prefer to dress the way I feel. Since I'm paying my own fare I really don"t care what anyone thinks. Depending on how my feet and knees feel that's the way I dress. You guys looked great, hope you had a good time! Thats what vacations are all about.
When it’s hot and muggy, I think a more casual dressy look is totally appropriate… but we are going on Norwegian’s Jewel after the first of the year for three weeks with at least two ‘formal’ dinners, so we went to the local thrift store and bought a nice looking jacket and tie he can wear for that event - only out $15.
We’ve just come off 3rd NCL cruise this year & have found even in main dining room they are more & more casual to point of allowing shorts for men & women at dinner. On Jade just this month there were no formal designated nights. My husband chose to not wear even jacket or tie & wore polo shirts, I didn’t wear a dressy dress, only sundresses.
Norwegian does not have really dressy nights, some do but not many it is more dressy casual dining now, that is why we love it.
For the for the couple about to cruise on Princess, don’t stress over what you wear. We just sailed on Princess 11/05/23 and we are “those” people who dress for dinner. However, when we arrived at the port, we realized that my husband had forgotten the garment bag with our dressy clothes. We had plenty of casual clothes in our suitcases, but nothing really dressy. So… we had to fake it. I had two plain black tank dresses in my suitcase- I simply dressed them up each night with scarves and accessories I had with me. I had to wear black flats every night, but my feet thanked me for that. Hubby had one pair of dress slacks, one pair of nice jeans, one button down shirt and one polo. He managed to make it work. Dressy nights were simply the button down shirt and black slacks. No jacket or tie, but luckily he had his dress shoes in his suitcase. All of my daughter’s dressy clothes were in the AWOL garment bag. She pulled together a look with the nice black jeans she wore when we boarded the ship, a couple of nice tops, and the only shoes she had that weren’t beach shoes- her black cowboy boots, also what she wore for embarkation. No one died, we weren’t kicked out of the dining room, and even our pictures look pretty good. Princess is fairly lenient on their dress code.
We were on the Regal Princess that same week. While they were rather cool about dressy, most people did dress up very nicely. That might be the fact that the cruise was about 50% Texan
@@jlawrence0181 I completely agree. My point was simply that while we weren’t dressed as well as we normally would have, we did the best we could with more casual clothes and still managed to look presentable, so there’s no need to get terribly stressed out about what to wear. The best rule of thumb is just dress nicely. No one on Princess is going to have a fit and kick you out if you’re not in an evening gown and tux (Cunard, yes. Princess, no). BTW, we are part of that 50% plus group of Texans, hence my daughter boarding a cruise ship in neatly pressed jeans and cowboy boots 😊
@@jodeegu I completely agree we were just on discovery princess for Thanksgiving and similar experience
It all worked out and was great!
Our first cruise was Celebrity and we didn’t find the formal night too formal. It was smart but as I dint own that type of clothing I just wore a longer length plain sun dress with a large shawl type scarf and sparkly flat sandals. It was absolutely fine. Princess was almost non existent in their formal night clothing. We’ve been in a UK line that was more formal on 2 nights but again got away with not wearing really really formal, just smart and a bit dressy. The last line was a luxury line and again most wore smart or dressy but not many wore ballgowns and tuxedos.
@@traceybartlam7737 semi formal no open toed shoes, no bare shoulders, no shirts without collars, etc.
Formal nights are part of the cruise experience to me so I love dressing the part to feel good and maybe turn some heads depending on how adventurous I get 😂. The hardest part for me when it comes to it though is packing enough and making sure it doesn’t get too wrinkled as well as trying to make sure what I wear is comfortable/breathable enough for the weather since I tend to overheat easily (the downside of more traditionally formal mens clothes).
Always roll your clothes, rather than folding them when packing. Keeps wrinkles to a minimum.
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You guys looked amazing, don’t let arm chair critics ruin your trip.
Sometimes I skip formal nite and just go to the buffet
Exactly. I don't need the grief on a vaycay I'm paying for.
I am in the "boat" that does believe you ultimately have to wear what you are comfortable wearing. Having said that I kind of miss when formal meant super dressy; it felt like attending my high school prom all over again. When cruise ships relaxed the standards, it lost some of the magic.
Especially on Caribbean cruises……things are a lot less formal, just like the region. And I agree, there are generational and cultural differences on what dressy looks like. And then you add the fact the cruise lines have loosened the guidelines. Bottom line to me: you do you! This is vacation, and opinions belong kept to one’s self! You all looked fabulous❤
I just went on my first Princess cruise, which cruised to Mexico. I didn't eat in the MDR but on "dressy" "gala" whatever they called it night, I saw very few people in formal or really dressy attire heading to the dining rooms. However I did see a few couples who wore formal attire (gowns and tuxes) and they didn't seem to mind at all that not everyone waa dressed like them. I ate at a specialty restaurant and, again, people weren't dressed especially fancy.
Ilana, I think you and your family looked great on the formal night(s) and love how you all coordinated.
I enjoy your channel very much because your commentary is always very balanced and reasonable. The cruise industry has changed dramatically since I first cruised in January 1970. (I am 81 and still cruising mostly on HAL).
During my life I have taken many different types of vacations which included tent camping. I thoroughly enjoyed the relaxed atmosphere and activities in the various campgrounds. When the conversation about dress codes arises I like to put this comparison out for consideration:
If I walked around the campground in an evening gown and my husband in his tuxedo or dinner jacket we would certainly be free to do so. However, we would really stick out like a sore thumb. The other campers would think we were strange.
If being dressed like that I went to the campground manager and asked where and when the ballroom dancing would be or where the fine dining restaurant was or at what time was the chamber music concert would begin, I probably could expect his answer to be something like "Lady, this is a campground not a blooming cruise ship".
Likewise, I don't expect to dress and behave as if I were at a campground when I am on a cruise ship. If that were what I wanted, I would have gone to a campground. I believe that there is a time and place for everything.
This is just my humble opinion and I do adhere to its principles.
Please keep up the good work.
Yes, my husband wore a collared shirt and tie to work every day. And he wasn’t even required to do so.
I was always proud of how nice he looked, going off to work.
And that’s work, it’s not even a formal night on a cruise ship. It’s one of the reasons we like HAL, because they are a bit more traditional in their approach. There are many other casual cruises out there.
Your humble opinion happens to be spot on! You said what I’m thinking, but you said it so much better than I could!
You and your family looked chic and put together! Perfect for Gala Night! I try to only pack a carry-on for cruises and I'm not wasting my precious luggage space with a beaded, floor-length gown that I will wear for a total of 4 hours during the week. It's all about mixing and matching, so I pack one lightweight, flowy dress that I can accessorize with a silk scarf and jewelry to make different looks. Another great video, Ilana!
I share a similar style, I live and sail on a 30' sailboat I don't have room for bulky things I may only wear once or twice a year. I find scarves stretch and dress up my wardrobe, going from a normal look to a dressy look with just a scarf and some simple accessories which take up very little space.
I so agree that your family looked so smart for the evening event. The shorter pants on younger generations is so in style. Whoever called you out on your choices of formal wear are not up with the times. I recently sailed on Oceania and they don’t have any “formal “ nights. Most passengers were nicely dressed for evening dining (no shorts, no jeans, no tank tops, no workout wear) but we must respect every culture/generations style and who decides what is acceptable or not
anyways? Truly can’t believe they called you out on this?
I’m so curious about Oceania. Thanks for sharing
I think your evening attire clothing is totally acceptable. We have been on quite a few cruises on various lines and most people dress in the manner that you, your husband and son did. On our next cruise even for "formal" night it will be on the casual side. I don't think anyone wears a gown or tuxedo anymore.
You look amazing! Your son's pants are in style, especially for his generation. Love the fact that your husband isn't wearing a tie. Love your style and don't let the haters bother you. There are so many people that are very underdressed for the dining room. Your family looks fantastic!
I consider dressy to be what I would wear to an evening wedding. That would be a modest, solid color cocktail dress that hits below my knee but is not floor length. If it's chilly, I'd wear a fancy jacket.
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I think you all look great. We went on Princess last June and on "formal" night I wore a knee length dress and husband wore Khakis, shirt and tie. I did not feel underdressed. We saw everything from gowns and suits to jeans in the dining room on formal night
You all looked fantastic! We bought dressy clothes (tux and evening gown) for a gala in 2020, then the pandemic hit and it was cancelled. We are wearing them on our upcoming cruise because we can! Everyone has a different taste! You be you!
I'd love to remind the lady who was curious about her husband's clothing being fancy enough. Don't forget thrift shops have GREAT pieces for less than you'd think! You might be able to get your hubby a suit for twenty bucks or so! Whatever you choose though, don't stress as it's all about enjoying yourself! xoxo
If he doesn't own a suit, I would have to assume he doesn't want to have one.
I know a woman, who works for a custom made suits company. She said there are many suits that customers don't like because of something's wrong (the company have to remake for them). They donate all the rejected suits to charities.
So, I guess if people could go to Goodwill or Salvation Army or those charitable thrift stores, they could find a brand new suit with discount price.
He could dress it up a bit by adding a tie.
I have found that most men takeoff their suit jackets while sitting at the table, so he would look just like all the other men in their dress shirts and ties. And if it’s a thin dress shirt, a white undershirt will bump that up a notch in dressiness.
The guidelines specifically said collared shirts - not a mention of a tie. Your gentlemen looked perfectly well dressed. And I love your dress - classy, understated and perfectly appropriate for the occasion. What do people want - a six-foot train and a tiara? Personally, I look forward to dressing up a bit on my upcoming cruise as I don’t get a chance to do that at home. But I will be dressing to please myself, and I assume other people will be wearing what pleases them, and it’s none of my concern.
lol @ a train and tiara! I screamed because that is what I was thinking…
Me: What do you mean I can’t bring this horse and carriage on board??? They’re for formal night!!!
no open toed shoes, no bare shoulders, no shirts without collars, etc. if one goes to a good restaurant they will have the same dress code and one will not get in if underdressed. By all means dress to please yourself but just don't go to a dress night if underdressed.
Wow I am very surprised you got called out I think you all look absolutely lovely. It’s not like it was 20 years ago with long gowns and tuxedos, you all looked wonderful.
On my first cruise my mother had made friends with a couple who cruised quite often. On dressy night they came down the stairs and they were stunning! She had on a very fancy beaded gown but what knocked my socks off was his tux. It was Western cut and he was wearing a black felt cowboy hat. He was a very good looking man and she was a gorgeous woman. I will never forget that scene. My second cruise I didn't even bother taking a dress, I just went to the buffet and sat with some new friends. I want to be comfortable and relaxed. To each his own.
The chance to dress up is one of my favourite things about cruising and I will continue to do it 😊 xx
I like formal night, but I don't go overboard. See what I did there? 😆I think, as long as you feel dressed up, you're fine. I am shocked how rude people can be. They think your son's attire was not proper but their comments are. Who are they to judge? They weren't there. They were sitting at home creeping on TH-cam spreading meanness. You three looked great!
I have cruised 11 times on Holland America and I think what you and your family were wearing was perfectly ok for '"dressy' night in the Caribbean.
When we go on a Caribbean cruise we have restrictions on luggage on the flights so I tend to wear mix and match outfits.
That's a great point. It might not be dressy for NYC or London, but it is Certainly dressy for the Caribbean or the South Pacific. We're cruising out of Brisbane (Australia) in December and the general consensus on all of the FB groups I've joined is that a cute sun dress for women and dressy shorts and a collared top for men is totally appropriate for the MDR, even on formal night, perhaps even more appropriate than a jacket and long pants because of the weather (it's summer in Dec in the southern hemisphere). My husband is planning to bring long pants, but if everyone is wearing shorts on formal night, he is planning to change.
Hi Ilana, just saw this video. You and your family look amazing. You guys always look great. My mom always said if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all. You are one of the best dressed cruise bloggers. Your advice is always helpful and truthful. I’ve seen people looking awful on cruise ships. Many looked like the they just rolled out of bed. They give casual a whole new meaning.LOL keep doing what you are doing and wearing what you do. Thanks for all you do. AnnaMaria
I think it's great that you made this video to get it off your chest and address rude commenters. I also think that when we spend our good hard earned money to go on these cruises... it's about the memories we make... not how well we "adhere" to dress attire labels. Wear what you want... you all looked lovely.
the problem is that if there is a rule for attire, people should follow it. Its not a preference at that point. The cruise lines are trying to create an ambiance for that night and its rude to ignore it. If people dont like this, they can skip that cruise or skip that restaurant that night. not a big deals. But the idea that everyone just does as they please is just gross and entitled
@@caribbeanbound8357 The problem is that you replied to my comment in a manner that is gross and entitled. I fully understand that they are trying to “create an ambiance” so dress to the 9s and go about your business. If someone wants to wear pants and a blaser but doesn’t put on a tie… oh… well!
Consider going on a $25k 3 day cruise that practices exclusivity… where everyone’s taste is up to your standard vs suggesting that people not partake in an included dinner that they paid for on their cruise. Clearly there is a reason the cruise line does not strictly enforce it… because it is a rediculous notion to prohibit someone from entering a formal dinner that requires formal wear… formal wear can be subjective. It’s ridiculous to be overly critical of peoples attire on a non luxury cruise. Subbing out a pair of shoes or an article of clothing for comfort while still bein respectably dressed is nothing to be engrossed over for the sake of “ambiance." Quite frankly I think that’s pathetic.
@@QueensNative Look at you being all triggered when I said nothing offensive. Have fun being entitled and not following the dress codes then. They literally have it listed and a video about it on their website. Just remember that i'm not the entitled one who doesnt want to go with the fun and take part in what the cruise line is trying to create. Have fun dressing like a walmart shopper in a nice restaurant that would have otherwise appreciated something more formal.
@@caribbeanbound8357 Clearly you’re uncultured swine. I’m not going to give you the satisfaction of a written evisceration… I will say this though, your energy is giving… the classiest outing you’ve ever had was “formal night” on a cruise.
You, your husband and your son looked great. I don’t understand why people would be so offensive. They have to be jealous of your handsome men and how beautiful you looked. I bet none of them got asked to assist the Captain. He must have felt you looked appropriate. ❤
I absolutely LOVE the outfits you wore. I notice how you coordinate the shades of blue as a family, looks great in pictures. Isn't that the point? To make and document beautiful memories as you travel? Your son's tailoring looks on point, very cool. Especially with the no socks. Yes older men and ladies... it's really gonna be ok if her son ( Laddie 😂)doesn't wear socks on dressy night. 😂
No on stinky feet with no socks.
@@raymccarty4612 Do you say that to the ladies in sandals
That is completely different from closed toe dress shoes. Common sense applies here. @@lovesfall2168
Nobody wants to sit beside men with no socks,all feet sweat and it just not nice. Some resemblance of Standards have to be kept even when on holiday.
I thinks that's why now European restaurants are now banning people who aren't dressed decently from entering restaurants. People have to cover up going to the beech huts for lucky and its only right and you can now be fined for walking on the streets in your swim wear so putting on a pair of socks to go to dinner and especially a formal evening should be compulsory in my opinion,. Its quite disgusting actually not to put on socks and smart shoes.
My parents took a wonderful cruise in the 70's, through the Panama Canal, from Florida to California. Their formal night was definitely formal then, and they were even invited to the Captain's table. My Mother wore a full length sparkly gown, my Dad wore a very nice suit and a cummerbund made of his Scots plaid, and a bow tie covered in pheasant feathers. They looked amazing, and for mid-western ranchers they had a ball!
I definitely do wear a gown, perhaps one I could change accessories for different nights, and my hubby loves his assortment of suits, dinner jackets and beautiful ties, which he would likely wear to dinner every night, while I would wear tea length dresses as those are my favorite.
Dressing up to us is a perk of cruising in the first place.
On our canal journey Feb 2023, we had 3 formal nights. 2 with jacket and tie, the last one I wore just a jacket. Too many cloths to pack. Thanks for sharing
You are a treasure of info for everyone wanting to cruise. You and family looked amazing!!! Much love❤️
I love the formal night on cruises. The very first time I went on a cruise. No one told me that there was a formal night and I was so upset that I didn't have anything special to wear. I have been on 7 or 8 cruises since then and enjoyed shopping for and wearing formal dresses on every one of them. I am going on another cruise January 2oth 2024 and will look forward to that formal night. Thank you for all that you do.
I think you and your family looked great! You followed the suggested attire for the evening and looked dressy, yet comfortable!
If people want to wear tuxes and formals, go for it, but what a pain it is to pack them! Some people just can't stand to not find faults in others.
You don't have to pack them. Just rent them from the cruise line--gown and shoes and whatever else were $100 the last time I checked.
You missed the point.... It's a personal choice not yours as a tux and formal gown are not needed!@@monabiehl6213
that is not what dress night is, it is about not wearing beach wear such as no open toed shoes, no bare shoulders, no shirts without collars etc it is called dressing up for one evening to pretend to be of a higher class
I think your outfits looked great! Years ago we got really dressed up for formal nights but it's too difficult to pack and I didn't always feel comfortable. If some people want to wear a gown and tux, then go for it. If you want to wear a nice dress and slacks, thats fine too. I think the most important thing is to feel comfortable and have a good time. I've noticed that formal night has gotten more casual which is fine. This allows everyone to decide for themselves how dressy they want to be and people should just worry about themselves and not everyone else.
I think what your whole family wore was perfect! Some people live to judge others. Social media is the worst for people judging others.
You're doing great!! ❤😊
The last time I cruised (back in 1992 and 1996) there were no formal nights because you had to wear at least the equivalent of nice church attire to get in the dining room for supper. We are sailing in May and I'm excited to dress up for 2 nights (because we never have an excuse to do so), but I'm also glad the attire is more casual on the other nights.
Cryise formal night is a chance to look your best. Have fun with it. Most importantly, be comfortable.
Formal nights are fine as long as I don't have to join in! You all looked wonderful on your HAL cruise, including your son. People need to adapt to newer, younger styles. We are Celebrity Elite Plus....what you all wore on HAL will be just fine on Celebrity! I worked for 30 years of my career in a suit and tie, and it is the last thing I want to do on a cruise! We won't sail Cunard, Regent or Silver Seas for the same reason. Relax, everyone, it's a vacation! You and your family looked smart, and chic.....enjoy, and thanks for this channel!
That’s a great comment thank you. I was gradually going through the thread and was changing my mind about going on a cruise. I don’t enjoy formal wear, but also my personality does not suit the more casual cruise lines. After reading some of the comments I was being feeling pressured into dressing up, hiding in the cabin for formal night or just avoiding the cruise. I am by no means scruffy, but some of the comments were rude. Well done for being thick skinned I think you all looked great
The best part about your comment is very relevant… It’s your vacation… Dress as you would like to go. That’s all it is for me that’s enough.
We will not cruise on cruise lines that require formal wear. Our 2 cruise lines of choice are Celebrity and Viking Ocean. No formal nights.
@@davidhurwitz2291Great comment. Pick the cruise line that "suits" your taste. My wife and I prefer a formal night, to each his own. Have a great day.
Cruise lines have changed how they refer to their most dressy nights. VERY few cruise lines still call them "formal nights" or insist on formal wear to enter the dining room. "Formal night" seems to have disappeared long before covid. We have 50 cruises to our credit and I honestly don't remember the last time I packed a formal. I do remember trying to talk my daughter out of brining her prom dress on one cruise--she and one other teen were the only really formally dressed people we saw. Many cruises use terms like "Dress up night" or "Gala Night". I've even seen suggestions of "wear the most dressy thing you brought." And honestly, I don't care what other people think! If Holland America doesn't require a gown, why should you (unless you want to!)
I love to see people dressed up. We just came back from an 8 day cruise which had 2 formal nights. It was refreshing to see people dressed beautifully and having a great time.
I am glad the formal has become dressy. Much more comfortable and easier to pack. I do think that it was fun for the girls to wear their prom dresses. They may not get another chance to wear them.
Honestly love the idea we're no longer obligated to wear formal dress for dinner and I wouldn't be concerned what folks think but I get it you have a TH-cam channel and post things to social media. Disregard the negative content and move on. Don't allow the naysayers to get in your head because at the end of the day you and your family had a wonderful time together.☺️
Here’s what I think, you paid for your cruise not anybody else, you wear what you want to wear it’s nobody else’s business, people can be so rude & some quite snobbish.
I think those you come to formal night dinner in jeans and a check shirt for instance is just rude to others who followed the code.
@@junehitchcock170not everybody likes being in formal clothes and people shouldn’t have to buy something for one night on a cruise. It’s actually really stupid.
You paid for the cruise according to their rules... Play by them
If you don't want to follow the rules for formal nights in the dining room.....eat in the buffet. Problem solved
@babblesp1367 no. No. No. You don't belong if you can't follow protocol.
It's nice to dress up a bit on gala nights or whatever the cruise line calls it. I always have a few dressy outfits --- usually a blazer with slacks and a nice collared shirt and leather shoes and some evening jewelry/watch. I have a white linen suit that I sometimes wear on warm weather cruises, as well as a Chinese men's formal top. I do attend formal events occasionally where I live and I enjoy that, but no black tie for me on a cruise. (Maybe if I cruised on Cunard, or went on a wedding cruise, or some special circumstance, I might decide to pack all the formal black tie stuff, but not normally.) And yet I always enjoy folks who do dress up in formal wear or who wear dressy casual ensembles.
OMG! All three of you look amazing and perfectly appropriate! People are weird. 🤷🏻♀️
You all looked great in your dressy wear! I think people that don’t think this is ‘dressy enough’ have not cruised in quite a while. I’ve noticed that cruise lines are often not even calling it formal night anymore. On my most recent Princes cruise I believe they called it ‘dress to impress’ night. I just wore a dressy top and capris and my husband wore dress pants and a collared shirt. We rarely pack formal clothes anymore.
You’re right. Things have definitely changed
@@LifeWellCruised In your son's case, what I tend to do is wear the jacket going in then put it on the back of the chair as soon as I reach my seat. Socks probably would have stopped comments about the length of the pants, but in the end it's whether he really cares about comments from people on the internet none of you have ever met (which includes me).
We are Elite on Princess. Dress slacks & botton front shirt is very common for dressy nights.
I always used to bring a tuxedo. Until one year I weighed the tux, shoes, trousers, shirt etc. and it came to 13 pounds ! Now I just bring carry-on and wear a nice silk shirt on dressy occasions. Things have changed.
I've been a cruiser for a number of decades. I truly wish people would go back to the ball gowns & tuxedos. My husband is a retired Marine & we do other functions that require formal attire and we just love going full glam! Now that he's retired we'll be going on cruises and he will wear his custom made tuxedo.
Not everyone can afford to pay extra luggage fees. If you want formal, try some overseas cruise if you want to go plush.
Recently we attended a formal night on the Caribbean Princess. About 10 teenage boys and 2 girls walked in and sat at their table. 2 of the boys took their shirt off and sat bare chested at the dining table. We were horrified and thought they should have been removed immediately. The staff did speak to them and they put their shirts back on but as soon as they left they removed them again. They were not removed from the dining room and i felt they should have been. They showed no respect for anyone else. I feel Princess have let their standards slip.
No doubt a dare to each other by ill mannered teens.
Oh my
That’s not ok. Whatever happened to “no shirt, no shoes, no service?”
It's the parents that have let standards slip.
Ilana,
As the mom of 2 teenage boys, I totally get the short pant-no sock trendy look.
After sailing w/ 5 different cruise lines I’ve concluded that if you’re comfortable and within dress code, who cares what others think. Enjoy your vacay. Y’all look nice.
There is no problem with what you wore. You all look great!
My husband and I love the dressy/formal nights. It makes for a whole different atmosphere when everyone is dressed like this. People tend to act like they're dressed. I can understand those that don't want to participate and that's fine but I think if they're not going to follow the dress code and guidelines, they should dine elsewhere for that night.
In the past, the culinary experience at the gala dinner was extraordinary. Today it's not worth carrying so many clothes, makeup and shoes for just one day because dinner is no longer the same. I use the main restaurant the rest of the night and on the day of the gala I go to the buffet or ordered room service . That way I charge with less luggage, after all I'm on vacation. I don't want anyone to tell me what to do or how to dress.
My husband just wears dress pants, a shirt and tie on HAL. I wear a nice dress not formal. We never felt out of place. More people are dressing this way than really formal. Same goes for Princess. Jackets not required. You all look great❤️
For the person who wondered what to bring for a Princess "formal night": We sail on Princess a lot, and find "office casual" to be perfectly acceptable on "formal nights". A button down shirt and black or tan jeans are acceptable for men; you don't need a tie. I wouldn't wear shorts or blue jeans.
As a man I know better than to make women's clothing recommendations.
Hi Ilana. I think you all looked great. And honestly I'm too busy enjoying my cruise to be looking at or caring what anyone else is wearing.
I tend to agree on the sentiment. I really never care what others wear either
AMEN
You are a true asset to the cruise line business. I have done many cruises and can say all your advice is accurate. Best wishes fro Texas
Going on blue’s cruise in march, I’m sure this crowd could care less what I’m wearing, good people. We are all there just for the music and fun.
Update on our cruise which was a blast! Blues cruises don’t have dress codes for any restaurant. I like that. It’s an older crowd so we all have common sense. ❤
I hate formal night,especially on warm weather cruises,you guys dressed just fine
Agree..and forget about packing all that extra clothing. I do black Flats, new black jeans, black t top and a fancy jacket.
I've done about 12 Holland America cruises, and my friends and I always dressed in gowns and suits w/ jacket and ties. It was fun, but gowns take up so much packing space. Hearing different opinions since cruising resumed after the pandemic. It would be nice to wear a nice cocktail dress if they are loosening the dresses code.
Do you pack those in regular luggage or do you use an independent garment bag? I've considered getting a garment bag, but it doesn't seem like they make the durable ones anymore.
@hariseldon6550 I use packing cubes. I bring wrinkle release spray and hang things in the bathroom and run the hot shower for steam. Works on most everything. I also buy cruise clothes that are materials that will resist wrinkles. Any really bad I do send off to be pressed, but I hardly ever have to do that.
We were recently on a New England cruise and we chose to skip the formal night because I just didn't feel like I had a dress that was fancy enough. We didn't miss going to the main dining room for that one night.
Best solution.
I always enjoyed dressing for dinner on cruises. It adds a touch of glamor and nostalgia to how formal and elegant cruises once were.
If your enjoyment depends on what other people wear, that’s a “you problem”. Your family looks fantastic
Wow, you got called out for that? My husband only wears a suit coat on colder weather cruises. I usually wear a maxi style dress with maybe a cover up depending on the itinerary. You looked great! ❤
lol, thanks for sharing
This woman and her family has gone on way too many cruises for y'all on watchers to criticize what she should and should not wear. She knows exactly how to dress for any event. This is not her 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th or 5th rodeo😒. She has done nothing but been helpful and very informative to help others that are going on cruises. For people to be so negative and judgemental is so 😈 Y'all look very nice! Each one of y'all looks just fine and I like how y'all colors flow together! There is absolutely nothing wrong with anything either of you are wearing. That's terrible how people will have a "personal" opinion and preference and then think anyone not within the same opinion and preference is wrong. Be careful not to judge others because while you are busy judging them someone is also judging you.
She ASKED for people’s opinions. It’s hardly fair to be so incredibly rude to people who disagree with you. I would never tell someone that they were dressed inappropriately without being specifically asked. But she did ask.
Negative?
I feel her comments overall are pretty negative. People tend to reflect your behavior back to you.
And she’s only giving hearts to people who agree with her. That’s also very telling.
We were on celebrity constellation this summer in Italy/greece. I was surprised at how casual people dressed but they looked classy still. Not shabby
I absolutely love formal nights and dress up in a grown. It’s so special and something you don’t do normally. And the pictures come out great. I hope they never phase it out!
Amazing how some people suddenly become fashion gurus. Social media is a curse these days frequented by wannabe fashion critics amongst other things. I consider myself quite up to date when it comes to fashion and could see absolutely nothing wrong in what you and your men wore. I am now 74 yrs and feel I have the experience in life to make such a statement. To be honest I have always wondered why a piece of cloth tied around a neck was so important. Ridiculous when you think about it! There rant over, keep the videos coming and as you rightly do, ignore these unqualified critics who seem to have such small lives with nothing better to do. If you don’t have anything good to say then don’t bother saying anything social media wise 👍
You all looked totally appropriate for gala night on any cruise line. I’ve seen people on cruises that seem to think that changing out of a Bud Lite tee shirt to a plain tee shirt should cover formal night attire.
I’m retired and we cruise quite often. I spent a large portion of my life in uniform and after retirement worked at a jobs that required a certain level of dress. Since then I don’t own a suit. When I dress for formal night I meet the minimum suggested dress. I believe there are many reasons people are now dressing down. If you fly to a cruise luggage becomes expensive. If I can travel with only a carry-on I will. This means no jacket or dress clothes. Cruise lines have lessened the requirements and on some ships the dining room menu doesn’t reflect a formal dinner. Keep calm and cruise on.
You guys looked fantastic, particularly your son! People are so out of touch. Rock on and ignore the hating!
I luv what you & your husband wear. Perfect for cruising. Your dresses are always wonderful. Not many wear a tie anymore. Your son looks like he is gonna dance the night away🎉
I’ve been on several cruises… and while I think your family dressed nicely… I think that I’d consider all the outfits “basic dress dinner wear.” Gala outfits would indeed be fancier. Ties or a ticked on scarf, for men… and long dresses or flowy evening slacks and more blingy jewelry, for women.
Having been on a Cunard cruise pre Covid and having had to acquire and wear a black “tuxedo” suit and a somewhat less dressy sports coat and dress pants with dress shirts and ties to all meals let alone the “Formal” nights - I can say that I understand people feeling annoyed to have “followed the rules” when others appear to have made “little effort”. I can also say that the experience did make the cruise feel more special than the dress shirt and casual pants I wear to most restaurants feels. On the other hand if cruise lines are willing to accept any dress/casual look, tie no tie, open collar, rolled sleeves, jacket no jacket, sandals no socks etc. then the cruise lines should stop calling these evenings formal, dress, gala or anything similar and stop suggesting a dress code that they won’t enforce. I fell the problem is not really what anyone is wearing as much as it is the confused expectation of cruise passengers who look to the cruise line for guidance and enforcement. I could have saved hundreds of dollars on that Queen Elizabeth cruise had I been able to avoid buying two new suits and accessories, but I also would not have had the memories of siting at dinner with my friends and all of us feeling like we were partaking of a very special occasion to sit and dine on that fine ship. You and your family look fine and like you were having a great time. I hope you remember it as fun.
With airlines charging for each bag, even carry on, people can’t bring trunks of dress formals like they use to. Cruising is suppose to be carefree fun, not a burden.
With airlines charging for each bag, even carry on, people can’t bring trunks of dress formals like they use to. Cruising is suppose to be carefree fun, not a burden.
Your outfits met the HAL standard; therefore no harm no foul. Nice looking family BTW!🤗
I think you all looked great!!!! It always amazes me how rude people can be on social media!
I am so happy that you brought up this subject. You are so right about different cultures, styles, and generations. We really don't have as many "formal" affairs as we used to, so it's so much fun to dress UP for a couple of nights and join the team. Look at how much money is spent on Halloween costumes! Borrow, rent, or buy a gown for the week. Do your hair and makeup a little differently. Have your date do the same. You'll be surprised how much fun it is. For our last cruise, one of our friends was recovering from a serious cancer surgery. He and his wife simply did not feel like dressing up, and I couldn't blame them. They were happy to be alive and on a cruise. He wore dress pants and a collared shirt but no tie or jacket. She wore a very nice sun dress, so the rest of us did the same, but I did miss dressing up. No one had a problem with it. So to each his own. The point is that it is fun to participate, but we can't judge others.
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Had a funny experience on a recent cruise, didn’t know it was a Formal night on this occasion and my wife and I came out of the Theatre following a show. Got to the exit and saw this guy in tuxedo and thanked him as we walked past him.
Luckily he saw the funny side