I can't thank you enough for making this video. I am currently going through what I guess is post-weaning anxiety and I thought I was just losing my mind. Sleepless nights, never-ending feeling of acute anxiety with no rational explanation, etc. I cried watching this video because I don't feel alone anymore, and I know that I can get through this. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Okay ,so this is a thing. As soon asI night weaned my son I started feeling anxiety. I maybe dropped 4 feedings kind of all once. I’ve been having moments of anxiety since then, even though I haven’t fully weaned yet. It makes me nervous to drop any more. He’s 19 months abs I want to be done.
@@Montessori_Motherhood Yes, it's totally a thing, and I wanted to say that my anxiety symptoms absolutely went away over the course of about 6 weeks, and though it was a struggle, my hormones regulated, sleep returned, and I feel like myself again. I'm currently weaning my third son, and this time around it's not nearly as scary when the anxiety returns because I understand that my brain chemistry is shifting, my body is processing a major change, and that it will settle down in time.
I'm actually a medical student. Your videos is amazing! More people need to listen to this message. There is nothing to be ashamed off and those pills are not forever. Thank you for bringing light to this subject and I'm happy that you feel better !! There is always hope
Thank you for discussing post weaning anxiety and depression. I didn't expect any symptoms when I decided to stop nursing and the amount of anxiety that came with it was unbelievable. Everyone always talks about post partum but post weaning is equally as important and feel as if it's unexpected since it's not discussed as much.
Angela Lanter it really isn't. I hope you are doing better and glad to hear Matt took care of you when you needed it.. Thank you for replying, it made my day 😊
Everything's connected in our bodies. Hormones, immunity, stress, sleep (or lack of it) and of course our mentality. It can get very overwhelming and it's important to know that there's no need to be ashamed of asking for help! We all deserve to feel good and be healthy. I'm glad you got the help you need. You're brave for overcoming the fear and huge props to Matt for being a good husband and supporting you. Sending love to you and your family
Thank you so much for your story ❤️ I'm dealing with the same situation, my daughter is 13 months and I'm weaning her. I'm dealing with awful symptoms of night sweats, terrible terrible insomnia, depression, and anxiety. I started an antidepressant and feel so ashamed taking it and wanted to stop taking it. Ever since I watched your video it gave me strength to continue to take it. Thank you so much for spending the time and helping women out and making us feel not alone. There's a lack of knowledge of PPD and post weaning depression in society. Your pressured so much to breastfeed your baby and it's so much focus on the baby but what about the mother. We need to educate mothers on PPD and especially post weaning depression. No one ever told me the roller coaster ride I would be on after weaning my daughter! Thank you so much again!
My son is 3 years old now and I went through the exact same thing when he was 10 months, I had just stopped breast feeding. I’m still taking medicine after a few trial and errors, I am now taking something that has given me my life back. It was the hardest thing I have ever gone through. I felt so guilty for putting my son and husband through that dark time. I never gave up and did everything I could to get through it. Thank you for making this video!!! Your such an inspiration❤️
I am not a mom, not even close to be one, but I loved that video. It is so hard to feel depressed and like joy is out of reach. I love how honest and down-to-earth you are. Best wishes for the road you still have ahead and lot of love to your family. xx
You are definitely not alone momma. When you talked about the electricity running through you, I had that too. I would say my nerves were shot. I’ve been taking anti anxiety/depression medication since before my first was born. Good for you for doing what you needed to do to take care of yourself and your family. You’re a warrior ❤️💪🏻
I was scared of starting medication initially. I was afraid of what it would do, and for some reason, I had this vague worry that it would change me or alter my brain in some major way. The truth is it's not like that at all. After being in the midst of mental health battles for so long, it's easy to make anxiety or depression synonymous with your identity, but THAT'S NOT TRUE. People, you are more than the problems you suffer from, so don't think that losing them is gonna make you not yourself! Plus it's not an overnight thing. The change is gradual, so sometimes you can't even realize the progress or change that's happening until you compare yourself to how you were maybe a few weeks before. Glad you're feeling better, Angela!
Danae Smith how long did it take yours to start working. I’ve been on mine 3 weeks and I thought I was getting better but I’ve had a couple bad days and I’m scared it’s not working.
As someone that works in mental health, whenever someone questions whether or not medication is right for them, I simply say, if there was something wrong with your heart, you wouldn't hesitate to take them. Your mind is just as important. There is nothing wrong with admitting you need help and sometimes it may not be what you want, but your needs always come above your wants. Not just for those you love, but most importantly for yourself. If you can't be your full self, you can't give your full self. Props to you Mama, you opened your mind in order to help fix your mind. You got this. 💪❤️
Thank you for being so vulnerable, and raw and brave. I went through something similar following my divorce 7 years ago. The buzzing anxiety and the fear etc. I was literally sucked into a black hole and felt like there was no light. It was paralyzing and horrifying .I got through also eventually after years of therapy and medication. It took me years before I could even talk about it and I dont think I would have EVER in a million years ever been able to talk about it today the way you did. I'm thankful for you , and women like you and my mom , who can speak about it , and by leading by example teach the rest of us (women like me , and my beautiful 11 year old daughter). Words just cannot Express the gratitude I feel that you shared this. You have a beautiful soul mama and your daughter has a wonderful role model of strength and perseverance. Being brave isn't not being afraid. Being brave is being absolutely terrified and taking that leap anyways. I'm glad you're feeling better ❤
My heart hurts for you, Mama. I've been in your shoes, and it's not an easy ride. Good for you for taking the steps towards mental health and wellness! Hang in there, brighter days are coming!
Thank you for sharing this. I am not going through post partum or weening depression but I deal with anxiety and depression often and it’s always comforting to hear that I’m not alone and other people are going through the same thing. So thank you ❤️
I think you are so brave to show this online where you are opening yourself to so much judgement. It made me so teary watching this, I identified so much with so much of what you were saying. I struggle with depression, anxiety and panic attacks and have done since about the age of 13, and mine does seem to be linked to a hormone imbalance (though not post-partum). It does help when you see others opening up about it as there does seem to be such a taboo on mental health, and especially taking medications for it (which I also do).
Much better. But as you say in your video, having a name for it helps so much. You learn how to work with it, whether it is medication or breathing techniques for the panic attacks.
Thank you for sharing your story. I have a similar story and have struggled to take medications for over a year for severe anxiety after having my 2 girls. I hit rock bottom and finally took the medicine that my doctor prescribed me over a year ago that was sitting in my medicine cabinet. I started going to a counselor and wow, yes yes yes. I am also finally starting to feel like myself again. Broken bruised and battered but still here and never giving up. I feel like my family and relationships are not suffering anymore. Love you Angela. ❤️
I honestly can’t thank you enough for being so open and honest. Being a mom is tough. We just welcomed our second daughter in December, along with our 19 month old (at the time). It rocked my world in the best way and most difficult way. The past 4 months have been the hardest of my life and I constantly questioned if I was a good wife, mom, friend, everything. It’s all leveling out now, thank goodness, but I know I never would have made it through without my supportive, amazing husband, friends, family, prayer, everything. Thank you for being so vulnerable and real ❤️
I’m so happy to see you doing better Ang. I’m sending you all our love & prayers from NC. I battled with postpartum depression with my daughter it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through and as a young mom I didn’t even know what I was experiencing because no one ever talked about it. I just thought I didn’t love my child enough. The days would be good but I’d always dread night time. I would constantly watch a clock and every minute it got closer to getting dark I’d get more and more anxious. I lived like that for two years before I found out about postpartum depression. I’m so proud of you for being a voice with your story because I know there are people out there who follow you who will see this and it will change their life! On another note your hair looks soo good! I can’t wait to see more videos from you and I hope this medicine helps you.
I don’t understand why doctors and professionals don’t speak more on the mental health and even the physical stuff associated with weaning. It’s scary, it felt bad with my first and boy I think because I breastfed so long with my second my hormones went wild. Watching this really helps, to hear I’m not alone. Super insomnia for me also. But I had issues with mood with pregnancy too with my first too. Hormones screw everything up 😢
You're the first youtuber i started watching EVER ... I remember coming back to things i learned from you as i started my own journey , we had a chat a few times on your facebook page & then i hardly ever saw you pop up on my facebook feed. I searched you up and you had just posted about you and matt expecting mckenly ... Shortly after that i found out about my own pregnancy. I have a girl too.. Along the years you've influenced my life SO POSITIVELY. you've ended up being a part of it. Thankyou so much, especially for this one. My prayers and well wishes are with you. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing. I had postpartum with my first 3 years ago and didn't get help. It is only by the grace of God that I am here today. I now have a second baby and am so thankful for the awareness that is starting to be out there regarding all of this.
You are a true inspiration. I am so proud of you for being honest and raw with us. Life is challenging, but God is always there right by our side.I'm sure you're helping many others by sharing this video. I'm sending love your way.
Omg you got me at the end(tears). I know that there are so many mental issues we can't fathom. But when you said you have judge people in the past I knew you got it. Before that I was think why is she not doing what is right for herself. Thank you
I’m so glad you let us in and shared this. It seems like perfect timing for me and answered prayer. I recently was prescribed some meds and have yet to start them. I’ve been staring at them for over a week. I’m nervous of the side effects ( weight gain and possibly a heightened anxiety in the beginning). I want to be better for my kids and I’m so scared to take it but starting to realize my mental health is more important. I’m so encouraged by you and the comments! 😭
Such a powerful, graceful, dignified video, Angela. Your honesty about your struggle is really commendable. Your TH-cam channel is about so much more than just foundation (although I'm all about that too, of course!) 🙌🙌
Hi love, was so worried about you! Glad you stepped back and took a needed break instead of pretending it was all good and it truly wasn't. So glad your doing much better and taking back control of your life. You shined some light on a not so talked about subject and for that, Thank you. Love you
Thank you for sharing your story . My 18 month just weaned and I started to feel crazy ...sad crying all the time . I was snapping at my husband a lot and building everything up in my head . They finally decided to research if weaning has any effects on your hormones . I’m glad I know know . I thought I was just going crazy .
My goodness. You beautiful, wonderful woman. You have shown such strength. Please use that to carry you forward. By sharing your story you will no doubt raise another woman up and that is what we must continue to do. My daughter is now 10. I knew she would be last child and so perhaps selfishly, I fed her until she was almost 2. It continued the bond that you spoke about. When she decided she’d had enough it was heart wrenching to stop feeding her and it took me a long time to get my head around. My husband was quite nonchalant about it, but yours shows himself as a pillar of strength in his support of you. I wish you every good thing in this world and may you continue to grow stronger every day. With lots of love as good wishes to you from the UK. Xxxx😘
Being open and talking about it is the key! I also suffer from Depression at the moment but because of my really high dosed Hormon pills for my endometriosis... I was really bad for a few weeks. Because I had thought about how the world would look like when I’m gone, I decided talk to my mum and friends and being open about my condition. For me it was the first step in the right direction! So I’m feeling much better since two weeks! Being open is so important on any depression! 💪🏼 thanks for sharing Angela!💗 sorry for my bad english!🙈 i’m a swiss😅
Awe Angela it will be ok! I have been suffering from depression and anxiety since 2014 and I struggled with not wanting to take medication. Eventually I took it and it saved my life! It was so scary I would even gag and almost choke on the pills lol but I’m not ashamed because it helps! I came to terms that at the time natural things were not working for me. You reminded me that I’m not alone! Thank you for this.
Thank you for sharing your story. I can relate to so many parts of this. For me, I had postpartum anxiety which started in 2010, and it slowly spiraled ever since. Like you I was very nervous about taking SSRIs bc I had some side effects from ones that didn’t agree with me. After finally starting Lexapro this year…I am having so much relief! From the terrifying panic attacks, to obsessing about medication and irrational thoughts, I identify with so many of your experiences. Thank you for being transparent, relatable & real! ❤
Thank you for sharing your story with us, gorgeous. 💕 It will get easier, trust me. 🍀 And you’re going to enjoy every moment of life again, appreciate the love that surrounds you even more. Slowly but one day at a time. 🙏🏼 Keep your faith and may God bless you and your family. 😘😘😘
Normally I don’t comment on videos, but I wanted to thank you for this. I dealt with postpartum depression after I had my daughter in November. I felt so guilty and shameful for having these feelings when I should be grateful for my beautiful baby. I found relief with medication and therapy, and while I do have my days where I do still struggle at times (anxiety is something I’ve always struggled with), I’ve learned how to cope better. I no longer feel guilt or shame for having these feelings, and I know now that I’m not a bad mother for feeling this way. Sorry for the rant! Thank you again for sharing your story! Sending positive vibes your way, mama! ❤️
You are very fortunate to have never needed to be on antidepressants before. I've had to take them off and on for so many years. Some of my earliest memories were of having panic attacks. I've eaten better, specific diets, different work out routines, nutritionist, chiropractors, counselors, homeopathic doctors, etc but sometimes it's just the chemicals in your brain. I'm glad you have a better outlook on it however, it still feels like you are holding a stigma about it with how much you kept reiterating that it was temporary and you'd get off it eventually. It still feels like you are holding some shame about it. Since it's been 4 years I hope that you've continued to understand and have empathy for those who need it and not ever side eye when someone is on it. You never know what's going on behind the scenes. It was surprising to me to hear how easily you would take something for your sleep but not for a chemical imbalance in your brain. It breaks my heart any one feels that negatively about something that helps so many. Anyways not here to make you feel bad just hope that you don't go back to those feelings after you don't need it anymore, because not everyone is that fortunate.
thank you being so courageous!! I teared up at the end. I'm so happy for you that you're in a better emotional space now and slowly feeling like yourself again. I've been dealing with depression and anxiety for almost 4 years and didn't want to take medication for a long time. I think I started taking med about 2 years in and did it for 6 months and got off as fast as I could because I really didnt want to be on it. but then last year I went on it and have been for now a year. I'm at the point that I know can get off it again. but each time I've had to learn that it's okay to go on meds, its not forever. I've been having a rough patch feeling real low over the last few weeks and tonight was actually quite bad. but watching this has giving me another push to keep going. so thank you for reminding me that things will get better. there's always light and hope. much love xx
I’m going through postpartum depression again. Went thru it back in 2011 now I’m here again just had my fifth baby a month ago. It’s so frightening and the fact that u can barely process ur own thought is hard. It’s like u don’t trust ur own judgement or u don’t even know ur self. Ur physically here but mentally goooone. Luv ur video very inspiring
Thank you so much for this beautiful video! I wish I had something like that to listen to 17 years ago when I had my child and struggled with pretty much the same things you talked about. You’re brave and you are truly a beautiful person inside which is rare to find in a world where much, if not everything, is a facade and we are pressured to always “pretend” to be perfect. Love to you and your family from Italy ❣️
Thank you so much for your transparency and vulnerability. You are beautiful inside and out. I so appreciate it. I’ve struggled on and off with postpartum and this really spoke to me. It made me realize I need to be the best version of myself for my kids and take steps to get me back!
You are such a strong and amazing woman. Thank you for your honesty. So many women struggle with this and I'm glad you were strong enough to share your journey.
You strong and you are doing great and just remember we all go through the same . I did go through postpartum depression & anxiety after one week later I had my baby also it last me a years , first few months later I didn’t know what I was going through, there was a days I cry all day long , didn’t want to go out I had bad thoughts then I had counselling but know am doing great!
Oh my gosh I needed this video so bad today! I warned my almost 2 year old about 7 weeks ago and I feel all of this sooooo deeply! I feel like I absolutely can’t stand myself. I will make any excuse to get out of the house once the kids go to bed just to get out and get some space! Thank you for sharing!
Hey Angela, I’m such a fan of yours. You are always so open and vulnerable with your followers, never change! I’m an ER nurse in Ireland and have struggled with depression post losing a baby via ectopic pregnancy. My hormones were completely off kilter and it triggered a bout of deep depression. I felt so stuck and just really over life in general (and I normally LOVE my life and am aware I am extremely privileged). It was a real struggle so I absolutely can empathise with the irrational/scary thoughts and feelings. I really hope you have gotten through this difficult time and feel more like yourself again. Best wishes from Belfast, Ireland!
Angela, this brought tears to my eyes, to hear how you suffered through it for so long. There is no shame in postpartum depression and taking medication. After our second son I started having extreme mood swings (almost like really bad pms!) in my head I knew I was being irrational but i couldn’t stop. I tried a dosage of a medication suggested by my Dr and it’s like I felt like me again. Don’t feel shame over taking the medication, it may take some time to feel like you 100% again but you’ll get there. Praying for you!
Thank you for being so raw and honest. This is so important for other women and potential soon-to-be mom's to understand that this could happen and to recognize the emotions/feelings that come along with pregnancy. Praying that God transforms your life through this hard experience - and He is already using you to speak into others lives :)
Thank you so much for sharing this journey with us! I had no idea that you can go through postpartum after breastfeeding. I’m currently going on 10 months of breastfeeding and don’t plan on stopping soon. I’m so glad you shared this so I can educate myself on this now just in case it happens to me. I’m so sorry it happened to you 💜
Don’t be scared I know meds can be scary but at the end they’re just meds, you are so BRAVE and I’m so proud of you, your life is so precious and worth it, so keep going I know you can do it!! 💖
Hello, thank you so much for this video! You were able to put in words what I am feeling with my daughter of 13 months. I will show him tonight for sure. I am taking steps to go outside more and get fresh air and sun. I hope you and I will feel better and enjoy the time with our babies. Take care
My heart melted !! I had the same exact thing happen even though my husband is a doc we didn't realize what had happen , you always judged people because you didn't think it's real if that makes sense , sending tones of love you way 💗💗
Bless your heart! Your story sounds just like mine. I’m sorry your going through this. There is nothing worse. Praying you get better Soon! Know that your not alone. It does get better!
Thank you for this!! It’s so hard to be in the midst of it… got on Zoloft 4 weeks and am still waiting for it to fully work. I’m happy to hear that so many feel relief in 2-3 weeks… not the case here, but there is Hope ❤️
Wow actual tears watching this. Thank you for sharing, you are so strong. As a new-ish mum I can relate to this a lot and am so glad you got the help you needed and are feeling better ♥️ love to you and your beautiful family x
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my TH-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
What an amazing incredible story I am not a mother yet but hearing your story if it happens. to me I'll know what to do and focus on being healthy hearing your story was just so beautiful and you can hear the emotions in your voice stay positive, praying for you and from one gorgeous girl to another, stay strong!
Thank you for this video. I am dealing with PPD after 13 months. Its nice to know I'm not alone. I'm almost finished weaning my daughter and its been such a struggle the past couple of weeks. I've really been going through it and your video helped me. So thank you
I’ve listened to every episode of Hello Bump/Baby and I love it! I love how real y’all are and how honest you are even when real life isn’t pretty. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for sharing this. I have always been a little anxious and was during my pregnancy but everything was manageable. Then, I weaned off breastfeeding, we moved and I went back to work full time. My body feels like it is in constant fight or flight. I don't sleep. My doctor just prescribed Lexapro and feel like you, terrified to take meds. I plan to take my first dose today or tomorrow. I feel scared but thankful that so many women like you are willing to share their story.
Thank you! I really feel like your story is the one that helped me to pull the trigger and really ask for help. Day two of taking meds and keeping my fingers crossed @@angelalanter
depression and anxiety meds should not be a stigma and taking them is nothing to be ashamed of. They have helped me immensely in conjunction with therapy. While my depression and anxiety are not from having a child, I have had very similar thoughts to what you describe--especially the one where you were thinking what if you just packed up and went to live alone.
So glad you are doing better, I went through some of that with all 3 of my daughters but back then they didn't even know what postpartum depression was so I suffered in silence. Looking forward to new videos!!!
Hey. Yes post partem depression is very real. There's the baby blues which last a couple weeks. If your so overwhelmed it's depression most likely. When weeing stops it's very mixed feelings. I felt awful. It's a feeling of oh they don't need me anymore. The bond isn't as strong. Everyone feels different. Your body goes through so much making a baby then you give birth then it's breast feeding etc. Your hormones are totally out of wack. It's extremely overwhelming. I had 3 girls 2 years apart each. I was depressed during pregnancy at times. I didn't think it was a thing at all. I was exhausted. I had to go on meds. You need lots of support. I have anxiety. Awful awful. Panic attacks are horrible. Sadly I developed panic disorder. I hear you with that electric feeling. That's a scary feeling. Counselling is great. But nothing is a true fix. It sucks. That's it. . Nothing worked nothing. Not exercise not pills not talking nothing.I was going crazy.so eventually I saw a physiatrist. Well thank the lord for him. It still wasn't a fix but he sure helped. You need sleep sleep sleep. It's a tough road to go down. Taking meds at first is like nope nope not going there. But I had no choice. trust me it gets better. My Dr said it takes about 2 years to get over having a baby. So I wasn't recovering as I was always pregnant. Im so sorry you went through this. I truly know how horrid it can be. Reach out get help. Oh lord get help. I'm so happy your feeling better. True ITS NOTHING to be ashamed of. Nothing at all. I'm glad you have a husband who stuck by you no matter what. I was not that lucky. But I'm fine. I still have my days but I had other issues as well. Anyway I hope your video helps other women. We need to stick together. Support each other. Take time for you. Always. It's so important. It's good to talk about. Yes being a woman is sooooo hard lol. But we are tough. Best of luck darling. Your so kind and beautiful. 💓💓💓💓With a great heart. God bless
Angela Lanter thank you Angela very much. I'm OK. I have great days good days some bad days. Depression and anxiety is aweful. I've had a lot of trauma in my life. But it's something at times you can't change you just have to accept. When I feel hopeless I remember the Serenity prayer and footprints poem which personally I love. I know I'm not alone. Nor are you. You are one brave woman to go on social media and speak about this issue. Even though its recognised a lot more now and accepted that it in no way can be helped there are still people that say its all in your head snap out of it. If only it was that easy we would do it. So thank you for bringing up a subject a lot of women deal with after or during pregnancy. It's not easy being a mum. Especially a first time one. It's very hard. Hormones suck. Lol. But we aren't alone. Everyone can get help get a support network(so important) see a medical professional. Remember women our bodies do the best thing ever. Make a beautiful human for 9 months. We go through labour.. We don't need to be super humans. Rest when baby does give our bodies time to heal. Don't stress over a bit of a tummy. Trust me it will go into shape. Bonding with bubs is much more important than housework. Everyone is different and copes. differently. I didn't at all. But I'm OK. I hope all you women out there take care of themselves. Get a facial get your nails done. Read a book. Whatever makes you happy. But look after yourselves baby needs you. Angela I hope you are OK. I truly do. I empathise so much. You will be fine. I promise. God bless. Xx
Thank you for sharing this! I just stopped nursing my daughter 2 months ago and since then my anxiety has got worse and I've seemed therapy through my provider. I definetly feel alone because no woman around me has talked about post weening. Also I have a 4 year old son and was still nursing him when I was pregnant with my daughter so my body never got to level out hormones wise...so this has been hitting me like a ton of bricks. Thank you for this video truly
I know what you mean Angela, you hear of someone taking medication and think did they really need it or to be on it so long or maybe they still take the same dosages. You have the support of Matt who loves you to the end of the world and back love and your darling daughter so thank you for sharing your story. I struggled with Menopause or I suppose still going through it not had a menstrual in over two years now and 50yr last November but the amount of people especially my mother in law who was very judgemental everything was oh your too warm all the time for goodness sake I was never like that is it not just in your head, what do you mean you cant sleep you cant concentrate, some people if its not happening to them they dont want to know. I dont have any children as I cant have any but I understand what mothers can go through you are trying to be there for your child, your husband, your family and most of all you NEED to be there for yourself to look after. Im glad you are getting a lot better now, stay strong as I said in my last message I sent. Lots of Love Arlene xxx
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability! No doubt this video will continue to lift the stigma around perinatal mood and anxiety disorders and normalize the conversation. You're making an impact! :)
Thank you for sharing your story. So important to keep an open dialogue on these topics so we can help those who are struggling to know they aren’t alone. ❤️
Thank you for posting this to make this conversation start. I have not had a baby but will eventually in the future and knowing this will help ease my mind when the time comes. Love this raw video!
Its sad that us woman feel like we have to try to fix it ourselves. I definitely had this too. Except I never asked for help I diagnosed myself but wouldnt let myself actually go see my doctor. Part of my anxiety was about leaving the house and traveling to town to shop. I only felt safe at home. None of mine was related about my son I was just sooo anxious. I now feel like I'm coming out of it 3.5 months after the last time I weaned, and the 6 months before as I was slowly decreasing nursing It was getting worse and worse. Its such an irrational thing and it doesnt make sense. Im hopeing its the end of it and that I can start to enjoy going out and doing things with my son and husband again. Instead of letting the anxiety dictate my life.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Although I don’t have a child I have suffered severely from depression and anxiety in the past and like you was given medication but never took it. You’ve made me feel like maybe it’s okay.
I know it’s been a while since you posted this, it just popped up in my recommendations. God works like that I guess haha. I pray you’re 100% back to yourself🙂 I’m in tears watching this. The fear you talked about with not wanting to take the medicine is exactly how I’ve felt. It feels like an endless cycle, the desperation for relief and needing to be better, but thank the Lord, God is greater and it will end. I needed to hear this so much and I’m so thankful that you shared your story so openly and real. Thank you! God bless 💜
I’m not a mommy yet but I became a pseudo mom when my nephew was born *the father is absent and I stepped in to help my twin sister out with raising my nephew and niece* and I feel all of the this. I let myself go. I felt the depression and anxiety and not feeling enough. I get it and I’m so glad you posted this video to help new mamas not feel so alone.
Angela Lanter thank you! So very much! Your encouragement and shedding light on this truly warms my heart and we are all so grateful! I shared this with my sister as well! We are getting back to normal now! Oh took a few years but it’s getting better! Bless you!
Thank you so much for sharing! I have suffered from depression and anxiety for years. Its such a awful thing to go though. So glad you are feeling better ❤
Thank you. I’m having anxiety as soon as I night weaned my son. It’s what I would call mild, I usually feel anxious at a certain time of day and I was wondering what happened. I’m nervous to continue weaning because I don’t want it to get worse. It’s news to me that you can be postpartum for 3 years, that’s wild! Sorry you went through that- that sounds so hard. It’s wild hormones can do this to us!
@@angelalanter thank you! It went away, so it was the night weaning. Luckily my body adjusted. I don’t see him totally weaning for awhile, but I will definitely keep an eye on it when I stop!
Everything you described is everything I have been dealing with right now...but I didn't even think to ask my doctor about any of it. I have been so confused with myself lately. My daughter is currently 16 months and breastfeeding story sounds just like yours.
Thank you!!!! I found this bc I knew someone else had to be talking about this. My first clue was that I began taking ashwagandha and hoped to treat my own depression. At that point I was just beginning to wean. Then four months later my periods became twice a month and I weaned, it all crumbled around. I talked to my family and they were not supportive of meds. I took the pill two days ago and I do feel better now.
This was such a beautiful & honest video. Thank you for bravely sharing your journey! Praying you continue to feel better. I know this video will be such an encouragement to other women.
I am so worried about this. I don’t think I had anything more than normal frustration and lack of sleep in the beginning either but every time I have thought of weaning I start to cry. We are almost 17 months in and I would like to make it through next winter. I just know I won’t be able to wean her, and hope she will do it herself 😫
God bless you for sharing your story- I feel like I was meant to come across your video. My 14 month old just weaned and I was not prepared as it was very sudden. I’m very emotional right now and my sleep has been terrible. I’m hoping each day gets easier...
Thank you for sharing your journey I have a 15 month old. And have had post partum since the day after I had her. I was put on medicine and its better but not completely gone. I still have severe anxiety esp when it comes to my little girl. But I am so glad its talked about more.
you are amazing and strong woman I am sending prayers and positive vibe for you. I am proud of you for opening up that message about that topic it is a tough topic to talk about. you are so brave. you are raising your voice to other new moms who is going thru the same thing that is a quite of a accomplish. you can do this, I believe in you. I love you
@@angelalanter I went to the gorgeous girls community Facebook page and I just joined the group I am waiting for the confirm to it. It said request something like that
When I had my second baby, my first baby was barely 2 years old. Three months into having my youngest home, I found myself crying over everything. No reason for it. I would go to put my oldest, Alex, down for his nap, and then my youngest, Zach, would want to be fed. Since Alex didn't want to go to sleep by himself, I would have to sit in there with him and feed Zach at the same time. Then Alex, though he had been weaned for over a year, would get jealous and feel like Zach was getting all of the attention. Then a temper tantrum would happen. I just didn't know how to handle it, and I would get so overwhelmed that I would cry for much longer than Alex was pitching his own tantrum. This made me feel terrible; like I was neglecting my first born because he seemed like he felt like he needed more and I didn't know how to cope and give him what he needed. Then, it got to a point to where everything that could go wrong, did, even though I am told by my husband that none of it was as bad as it was affecting me. My interest in everything declined. I neglected my husband and my children. I took care of their every need, don't get me wrong. They were cared for. But I did not show the affection and I was not as present for them as I should have been. Luckily, I had a very special friend who noticed all of this and told me, well, basically made me go to the doctor. She noticed all the symptoms I was exhibiting of postpartum. So I did. I went and saw my doctor, and I ended up on an antidepressant, and I have no shame in admitting that. It was the only way that I could care for my children without breaking down at the drop of a hat. It helped me through the hard times I was experiencing. Now I have an overenthusiastic but loving 4-year-old, and a sweet as can be 2-year-old, and I am so glad that I took my doctor's advice and started the medication. It helped me to really be present in their lives. There is nothing wrong with taking the medication that will help you. Postpartum is not to be taken lightly. I am proud that you were finally able to do so. Much love, from mine to yours darling. Enjoy that sweet child and wonderful husband you have, girl. You've GOT this =)
I know this was 4 years ago but I’m going through the same thing! It’s horrible! I just want to sleep again. It’s been a weeks. I was on medication but it stopped helping me so now I’m without anything and it’s awful
Girl, I never comment, but had to because I went through this. For me it all started when I was weaning my son (who was almost 2 at the time). I too didn’t think it could be PPD. I’m now 6 months post wean and it’s getting better! The part that rang true for me was the tingling and body electricity feeling. It was crazy!
Angela, did you have good and bad days once the medication started working? I started Lexapro three weeks ago and it started working but then I had a couple “bad” anxiety days. I’m looking for encouragement to keep going and that this is not a setback. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
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I can't thank you enough for making this video. I am currently going through what I guess is post-weaning anxiety and I thought I was just losing my mind. Sleepless nights, never-ending feeling of acute anxiety with no rational explanation, etc. I cried watching this video because I don't feel alone anymore, and I know that I can get through this. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Okay ,so this is a thing. As soon asI night weaned my son I started feeling anxiety. I maybe dropped 4 feedings kind of all once. I’ve been having moments of anxiety since then, even though I haven’t fully weaned yet. It makes me nervous to drop any more. He’s 19 months abs I want to be done.
@@Montessori_Motherhood Yes, it's totally a thing, and I wanted to say that my anxiety symptoms absolutely went away over the course of about 6 weeks, and though it was a struggle, my hormones regulated, sleep returned, and I feel like myself again. I'm currently weaning my third son, and this time around it's not nearly as scary when the anxiety returns because I understand that my brain chemistry is shifting, my body is processing a major change, and that it will settle down in time.
I'm actually a medical student. Your videos is amazing! More people need to listen to this message. There is nothing to be ashamed off and those pills are not forever. Thank you for bringing light to this subject and I'm happy that you feel better !! There is always hope
Thank you for discussing post weaning anxiety and depression. I didn't expect any symptoms when I decided to stop nursing and the amount of anxiety that came with it was unbelievable. Everyone always talks about post partum but post weaning is equally as important and feel as if it's unexpected since it's not discussed as much.
Angela Lanter it really isn't. I hope you are doing better and glad to hear Matt took care of you when you needed it.. Thank you for replying, it made my day 😊
Facts!!!
Everything's connected in our bodies. Hormones, immunity, stress, sleep (or lack of it) and of course our mentality. It can get very overwhelming and it's important to know that there's no need to be ashamed of asking for help! We all deserve to feel good and be healthy. I'm glad you got the help you need. You're brave for overcoming the fear and huge props to Matt for being a good husband and supporting you. Sending love to you and your family
Thank you so much for your story ❤️ I'm dealing with the same situation, my daughter is 13 months and I'm weaning her. I'm dealing with awful symptoms of night sweats, terrible terrible insomnia, depression, and anxiety. I started an antidepressant and feel so ashamed taking it and wanted to stop taking it. Ever since I watched your video it gave me strength to continue to take it. Thank you so much for spending the time and helping women out and making us feel not alone. There's a lack of knowledge of PPD and post weaning depression in society. Your pressured so much to breastfeed your baby and it's so much focus on the baby but what about the mother. We need to educate mothers on PPD and especially post weaning depression. No one ever told me the roller coaster ride I would be on after weaning my daughter! Thank you so much again!
That part "no one told me (about) the roller coaster ride after weaning..."
My son is 3 years old now and I went through the exact same thing when he was 10 months, I had just stopped breast feeding. I’m still taking medicine after a few trial and errors, I am now taking something that has given me my life back. It was the hardest thing I have ever gone through. I felt so guilty for putting my son and husband through that dark time. I never gave up and did everything I could to get through it. Thank you for making this video!!! Your such an inspiration❤️
I went through horrible postpartum too and I am now on Zoloft which has literally changed my life! Praying and sending you positive vibes💕
I am not a mom, not even close to be one, but I loved that video. It is so hard to feel depressed and like joy is out of reach. I love how honest and down-to-earth you are. Best wishes for the road you still have ahead and lot of love to your family. xx
You are definitely not alone momma. When you talked about the electricity running through you, I had that too. I would say my nerves were shot. I’ve been taking anti anxiety/depression medication since before my first was born. Good for you for doing what you needed to do to take care of yourself and your family. You’re a warrior ❤️💪🏻
I was scared of starting medication initially. I was afraid of what it would do, and for some reason, I had this vague worry that it would change me or alter my brain in some major way. The truth is it's not like that at all. After being in the midst of mental health battles for so long, it's easy to make anxiety or depression synonymous with your identity, but THAT'S NOT TRUE. People, you are more than the problems you suffer from, so don't think that losing them is gonna make you not yourself! Plus it's not an overnight thing. The change is gradual, so sometimes you can't even realize the progress or change that's happening until you compare yourself to how you were maybe a few weeks before.
Glad you're feeling better, Angela!
Danae Smith how long did it take yours to start working. I’ve been on mine 3 weeks and I thought I was getting better but I’ve had a couple bad days and I’m scared it’s not working.
As someone that works in mental health, whenever someone questions whether or not medication is right for them, I simply say, if there was something wrong with your heart, you wouldn't hesitate to take them. Your mind is just as important. There is nothing wrong with admitting you need help and sometimes it may not be what you want, but your needs always come above your wants. Not just for those you love, but most importantly for yourself. If you can't be your full self, you can't give your full self.
Props to you Mama, you opened your mind in order to help fix your mind. You got this. 💪❤️
@@angelalanter ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for being so vulnerable, and raw and brave. I went through something similar following my divorce 7 years ago. The buzzing anxiety and the fear etc. I was literally sucked into a black hole and felt like there was no light. It was paralyzing and horrifying .I got through also eventually after years of therapy and medication. It took me years before I could even talk about it and I dont think I would have EVER in a million years ever been able to talk about it today the way you did. I'm thankful for you , and women like you and my mom , who can speak about it , and by leading by example teach the rest of us (women like me , and my beautiful 11 year old daughter). Words just cannot Express the gratitude I feel that you shared this. You have a beautiful soul mama and your daughter has a wonderful role model of strength and perseverance. Being brave isn't not being afraid. Being brave is being absolutely terrified and taking that leap anyways. I'm glad you're feeling better ❤
My heart hurts for you, Mama. I've been in your shoes, and it's not an easy ride. Good for you for taking the steps towards mental health and wellness! Hang in there, brighter days are coming!
Thank you for sharing this. I am not going through post partum or weening depression but I deal with anxiety and depression often and it’s always comforting to hear that I’m not alone and other people are going through the same thing. So thank you ❤️
I think you are so brave to show this online where you are opening yourself to so much judgement. It made me so teary watching this, I identified so much with so much of what you were saying. I struggle with depression, anxiety and panic attacks and have done since about the age of 13, and mine does seem to be linked to a hormone imbalance (though not post-partum). It does help when you see others opening up about it as there does seem to be such a taboo on mental health, and especially taking medications for it (which I also do).
Much better. But as you say in your video, having a name for it helps so much. You learn how to work with it, whether it is medication or breathing techniques for the panic attacks.
Thank you for sharing your story. I have a similar story and have struggled to take medications for over a year for severe anxiety after having my 2 girls. I hit rock bottom and finally took the medicine that my doctor prescribed me over a year ago that was sitting in my medicine cabinet. I started going to a counselor and wow, yes yes yes. I am also finally starting to feel like myself again. Broken bruised and battered but still here and never giving up. I feel like my family and relationships are not suffering anymore. Love you Angela. ❤️
I honestly can’t thank you enough for being so open and honest. Being a mom is tough. We just welcomed our second daughter in December, along with our 19 month old (at the time). It rocked my world in the best way and most difficult way. The past 4 months have been the hardest of my life and I constantly questioned if I was a good wife, mom, friend, everything. It’s all leveling out now, thank goodness, but I know I never would have made it through without my supportive, amazing husband, friends, family, prayer, everything. Thank you for being so vulnerable and real ❤️
I’m so happy to see you doing better Ang. I’m sending you all our love & prayers from NC. I battled with postpartum depression with my daughter it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through and as a young mom I didn’t even know what I was experiencing because no one ever talked about it. I just thought I didn’t love my child enough. The days would be good but I’d always dread night time. I would constantly watch a clock and every minute it got closer to getting dark I’d get more and more anxious. I lived like that for two years before I found out about postpartum depression. I’m so proud of you for being a voice with your story because I know there are people out there who follow you who will see this and it will change their life!
On another note your hair looks soo good! I can’t wait to see more videos from you and I hope this medicine helps you.
I don’t understand why doctors and professionals don’t speak more on the mental health and even the physical stuff associated with weaning. It’s scary, it felt bad with my first and boy I think because I breastfed so long with my second my hormones went wild. Watching this really helps, to hear I’m not alone. Super insomnia for me also. But I had issues with mood with pregnancy too with my first too. Hormones screw everything up 😢
It's truly amazing that it isn't talked about more! Thanks for watching!
You're the first youtuber i started watching EVER ... I remember coming back to things i learned from you as i started my own journey , we had a chat a few times on your facebook page & then i hardly ever saw you pop up on my facebook feed. I searched you up and you had just posted about you and matt expecting mckenly ... Shortly after that i found out about my own pregnancy. I have a girl too..
Along the years you've influenced my life SO POSITIVELY. you've ended up being a part of it. Thankyou so much, especially for this one.
My prayers and well wishes are with you. ❤
@@angelalanter omg i had not yet, just submitted request to join xx
Thank you so much for sharing. I had postpartum with my first 3 years ago and didn't get help. It is only by the grace of God that I am here today. I now have a second baby and am so thankful for the awareness that is starting to be out there regarding all of this.
I felt like I couldn't find anyone talking about it when I went through it. I knew I needed to share my journey!
You are a true inspiration. I am so proud of you for being honest and raw with us. Life is challenging, but God is always there right by our side.I'm sure you're helping many others by sharing this video. I'm sending love your way.
@@angelalanter This shows everyone how strong you are. It also gives hope to many people, so thank you! 💕
Omg you got me at the end(tears). I know that there are so many mental issues we can't fathom. But when you said you have judge people in the past I knew you got it. Before that I was think why is she not doing what is right for herself. Thank you
I’m so glad you let us in and shared this. It seems like perfect timing for me and answered prayer. I recently was prescribed some meds and have yet to start them. I’ve been staring at them for over a week. I’m nervous of the side effects ( weight gain and possibly a heightened anxiety in the beginning). I want to be better for my kids and I’m so scared to take it but starting to realize my mental health is more important. I’m so encouraged by you and the comments! 😭
Angela Lanter thanks Angela!
Such a powerful, graceful, dignified video, Angela. Your honesty about your struggle is really commendable. Your TH-cam channel is about so much more than just foundation (although I'm all about that too, of course!) 🙌🙌
Hi love, was so worried about you! Glad you stepped back and took a needed break instead of pretending it was all good and it truly wasn't. So glad your doing much better and taking back control of your life. You shined some light on a not so talked about subject and for that, Thank you. Love you
Thank you for sharing your story . My 18 month just weaned and I started to feel crazy ...sad crying all the time . I was snapping at my husband a lot and building everything up in my head . They finally decided to research if weaning has any effects on your hormones . I’m glad I know know . I thought I was just going crazy .
I'm so sorry to hear you've been struggling, friend. You're definitely not going crazy.
My goodness. You beautiful, wonderful woman. You have shown such strength. Please use that to carry you forward. By sharing your story you will no doubt raise another woman up and that is what we must continue to do. My daughter is now 10. I knew she would be last child and so perhaps selfishly, I fed her until she was almost 2. It continued the bond that you spoke about. When she decided she’d had enough it was heart wrenching to stop feeding her and it took me a long time to get my head around. My husband was quite nonchalant about it, but yours shows himself as a pillar of strength in his support of you. I wish you every good thing in this world and may you continue to grow stronger every day. With lots of love as good wishes to you from the UK. Xxxx😘
Being open and talking about it is the key! I also suffer from Depression at the moment but because of my really high dosed Hormon pills for my endometriosis... I was really bad for a few weeks. Because I had thought about how the world would look like when I’m gone, I decided talk to my mum and friends and being open about my condition. For me it was the first step in the right direction! So I’m feeling much better since two weeks! Being open is so important on any depression! 💪🏼 thanks for sharing Angela!💗 sorry for my bad english!🙈 i’m a swiss😅
Awe Angela it will be ok! I have been suffering from depression and anxiety since 2014 and I struggled with not wanting to take medication. Eventually I took it and it saved my life! It was so scary I would even gag and almost choke on the pills lol but I’m not ashamed because it helps! I came to terms that at the time natural things were not working for me. You reminded me that I’m not alone! Thank you for this.
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Thank you for sharing your story. I can relate to so many parts of this. For me, I had postpartum anxiety which started in 2010, and it slowly spiraled ever since. Like you I was very nervous about taking SSRIs bc I had some side effects from ones that didn’t agree with me. After finally starting Lexapro this year…I am having so much relief! From the terrifying panic attacks, to obsessing about medication and irrational thoughts, I identify with so many of your experiences. Thank you for being transparent, relatable & real! ❤
I'm so glad you're taking care of yourself, friend!!! Thank you for watching and sharing your story with me!
I love you Angela ❤. I'm praying for you everyday. Don't worry and stay blessed 😊.
Thank you for sharing your story with us, gorgeous. 💕 It will get easier, trust me. 🍀 And you’re going to enjoy every moment of life again, appreciate the love that surrounds you even more. Slowly but one day at a time. 🙏🏼 Keep your faith and may God bless you and your family. 😘😘😘
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and honest with your experience. It helps women that feel alone understand that they’re not xx
You are so welcome, friend. Thanks for watching!
Normally I don’t comment on videos, but I wanted to thank you for this. I dealt with postpartum depression after I had my daughter in November. I felt so guilty and shameful for having these feelings when I should be grateful for my beautiful baby. I found relief with medication and therapy, and while I do have my days where I do still struggle at times (anxiety is something I’ve always struggled with), I’ve learned how to cope better. I no longer feel guilt or shame for having these feelings, and I know now that I’m not a bad mother for feeling this way. Sorry for the rant! Thank you again for sharing your story! Sending positive vibes your way, mama! ❤️
I love how open and honest you are. It gives me hope that there are still some genuine people left in this world 💕
Truly the scariest feelings, you feel as if nobody can relate. Thanks for sharing Angela. xoxoxo
You are very fortunate to have never needed to be on antidepressants before. I've had to take them off and on for so many years. Some of my earliest memories were of having panic attacks. I've eaten better, specific diets, different work out routines, nutritionist, chiropractors, counselors, homeopathic doctors, etc but sometimes it's just the chemicals in your brain. I'm glad you have a better outlook on it however, it still feels like you are holding a stigma about it with how much you kept reiterating that it was temporary and you'd get off it eventually. It still feels like you are holding some shame about it. Since it's been 4 years I hope that you've continued to understand and have empathy for those who need it and not ever side eye when someone is on it. You never know what's going on behind the scenes. It was surprising to me to hear how easily you would take something for your sleep but not for a chemical imbalance in your brain. It breaks my heart any one feels that negatively about something that helps so many. Anyways not here to make you feel bad just hope that you don't go back to those feelings after you don't need it anymore, because not everyone is that fortunate.
I definitely have! I'm still on meds and totally fine with it! :)
thank you being so courageous!! I teared up at the end. I'm so happy for you that you're in a better emotional space now and slowly feeling like yourself again. I've been dealing with depression and anxiety for almost 4 years and didn't want to take medication for a long time. I think I started taking med about 2 years in and did it for 6 months and got off as fast as I could because I really didnt want to be on it. but then last year I went on it and have been for now a year. I'm at the point that I know can get off it again. but each time I've had to learn that it's okay to go on meds, its not forever.
I've been having a rough patch feeling real low over the last few weeks and tonight was actually quite bad. but watching this has giving me another push to keep going. so thank you for reminding me that things will get better. there's always light and hope.
much love xx
Thank you for sharing! I hope you’re getting better and so proud of you for prioritizing your health! Take care!
I’m going through postpartum depression again. Went thru it back in 2011 now I’m here again just had my fifth baby a month ago. It’s so frightening and the fact that u can barely process ur own thought is hard. It’s like u don’t trust ur own judgement or u don’t even know ur self. Ur physically here but mentally goooone. Luv ur video very inspiring
Thank you so much for this beautiful video! I wish I had something like that to listen to 17 years ago when I had my child and struggled with pretty much the same things you talked about. You’re brave and you are truly a beautiful person inside which is rare to find in a world where much, if not everything, is a facade and we are pressured to always “pretend” to be perfect.
Love to you and your family from Italy ❣️
Thank you so much for your transparency and vulnerability. You are beautiful inside and out. I so appreciate it. I’ve struggled on and off with postpartum and this really spoke to me. It made me realize I need to be the best version of myself for my kids and take steps to get me back!
You are such a strong and amazing woman. Thank you for your honesty. So many women struggle with this and I'm glad you were strong enough to share your journey.
You strong and you are doing great and just remember we all go through the same .
I did go through postpartum depression & anxiety after one week later I had my baby also it last me a years , first few months later I didn’t know what I was going through, there was a days I cry all day long , didn’t want to go out I had bad thoughts then I had counselling but know am doing great!
Oh my gosh I needed this video so bad today! I warned my almost 2 year old about 7 weeks ago and I feel all of this sooooo deeply! I feel like I absolutely can’t stand myself. I will make any excuse to get out of the house once the kids go to bed just to get out and get some space! Thank you for sharing!
Hey Angela, I’m such a fan of yours. You are always so open and vulnerable with your followers, never change! I’m an ER nurse in Ireland and have struggled with depression post losing a baby via ectopic pregnancy. My hormones were completely off kilter and it triggered a bout of deep depression. I felt so stuck and just really over life in general (and I normally LOVE my life and am aware I am extremely privileged).
It was a real struggle so I absolutely can empathise with the irrational/scary thoughts and feelings. I really hope you have gotten through this difficult time and feel more like yourself again. Best wishes from Belfast, Ireland!
Thanks for sharing, Molly. I'm back to normal and just came off Lexapro a few months ago. I'm so glad you're feeling better!
Hi, did you take any medication to get through depression?
Angela, this brought tears to my eyes, to hear how you suffered through it for so long. There is no shame in postpartum depression and taking medication.
After our second son I started having extreme mood swings (almost like really bad pms!) in my head I knew I was being irrational but i couldn’t stop. I tried a dosage of a medication suggested by my Dr and it’s like I felt like me again. Don’t feel shame over taking the medication, it may take some time to feel like you 100% again but you’ll get there. Praying for you!
Thank you for being so raw and honest. This is so important for other women and potential soon-to-be mom's to understand that this could happen and to recognize the emotions/feelings that come along with pregnancy. Praying that God transforms your life through this hard experience - and He is already using you to speak into others lives :)
Thankyou for sharing. Thankyou for being vulnerable. Thankyou for being honest. I admire you. You are beautiful inside and out💗
Thank you so much for sharing this journey with us! I had no idea that you can go through postpartum after breastfeeding. I’m currently going on 10 months of breastfeeding and don’t plan on stopping soon. I’m so glad you shared this so I can educate myself on this now just in case it happens to me. I’m so sorry it happened to you 💜
Don’t be scared I know meds can be scary but at the end they’re just meds, you are so BRAVE and I’m so proud of you, your life is so precious and worth it, so keep going I know you can do it!! 💖
Angela Lanter All my love to you, soon you’ll be better than ever!
Hello, thank you so much for this video! You were able to put in words what I am feeling with my daughter of 13 months. I will show him tonight for sure. I am taking steps to go outside more and get fresh air and sun. I hope you and I will feel better and enjoy the time with our babies. Take care
My heart melted !! I had the same exact thing happen even though my husband is a doc we didn't realize what had happen , you always judged people because you didn't think it's real if that makes sense , sending tones of love you way 💗💗
Bless your heart! Your story sounds just like mine. I’m sorry your going through this. There is nothing worse. Praying you get better Soon! Know that your not alone. It does get better!
Adding the "post weaning" & timeframe of up to 3yrs 🤯 Thank you for sharing your testimony & authentic self. This has helped me sooo much! 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you for this!! It’s so hard to be in the midst of it… got on Zoloft 4 weeks and am still waiting for it to fully work. I’m happy to hear that so many feel relief in 2-3 weeks… not the case here, but there is Hope ❤️
Praying for you, friend!! Hoping you feel better soon!
@@angelalanter thank you 🙏🏻
Wow actual tears watching this. Thank you for sharing, you are so strong. As a new-ish mum I can relate to this a lot and am so glad you got the help you needed and are feeling better ♥️ love to you and your beautiful family x
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my TH-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
What an amazing incredible story I am not a mother yet but hearing your story if it happens. to me I'll know what to do and focus on being healthy hearing your story was just so beautiful and you can hear the emotions in your voice stay positive, praying for you and from one gorgeous girl to another, stay strong!
Thank you for this video. I am dealing with PPD after 13 months. Its nice to know I'm not alone. I'm almost finished weaning my daughter and its been such a struggle the past couple of weeks. I've really been going through it and your video helped me. So thank you
I'm so glad it helped you, Sara. Take care of yourself and reach out anytime!
I’ve listened to every episode of Hello Bump/Baby and I love it! I love how real y’all are and how honest you are even when real life isn’t pretty. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for sharing this. I have always been a little anxious and was during my pregnancy but everything was manageable. Then, I weaned off breastfeeding, we moved and I went back to work full time. My body feels like it is in constant fight or flight. I don't sleep. My doctor just prescribed Lexapro and feel like you, terrified to take meds. I plan to take my first dose today or tomorrow. I feel scared but thankful that so many women like you are willing to share their story.
I'm so proud of you, friend! I hope it works as well for you as it did for me. I'm so thankful for it! Please keep me updated on your progress!
Thank you! I really feel like your story is the one that helped me to pull the trigger and really ask for help. Day two of taking meds and keeping my fingers crossed @@angelalanter
depression and anxiety meds should not be a stigma and taking them is nothing to be ashamed of. They have helped me immensely in conjunction with therapy. While my depression and anxiety are not from having a child, I have had very similar thoughts to what you describe--especially the one where you were thinking what if you just packed up and went to live alone.
So glad you are doing better, I went through some of that with all 3 of my daughters but back then they didn't even know what postpartum depression was so I suffered in silence. Looking forward to new videos!!!
Thank you so much for being so open about your journey with this. You’re not alone mama!
Such a brave raw vulnerable video. Im in the process of weaning my 20 month old and im worried about my hormones. Thank you for sharing ♡
Feel free to reach out anytime, friend! I'm here for you!
Would love to see a follow up video to this one, to see how your travelling now and how it all worked out
Here is an update: angelalanter.com/2019/08/gtt-my-postpartum-depression-and-anxiety-update/
Hey. Yes post partem depression is very real. There's the baby blues which last a couple weeks. If your so overwhelmed it's depression most likely. When weeing stops it's very mixed feelings. I felt awful. It's a feeling of oh they don't need me anymore. The bond isn't as strong. Everyone feels different. Your body goes through so much making a baby then you give birth then it's breast feeding etc. Your hormones are totally out of wack. It's extremely overwhelming. I had 3 girls 2 years apart each. I was depressed during pregnancy at times. I didn't think it was a thing at all. I was exhausted. I had to go on meds. You need lots of support. I have anxiety. Awful awful. Panic attacks are horrible. Sadly I developed panic disorder. I hear you with that electric feeling. That's a scary feeling. Counselling is great. But nothing is a true fix. It sucks. That's it. . Nothing worked nothing. Not exercise not pills not talking nothing.I was going crazy.so eventually I saw a physiatrist. Well thank the lord for him. It still wasn't a fix but he sure helped. You need sleep sleep sleep. It's a tough road to go down. Taking meds at first is like nope nope not going there. But I had no choice. trust me it gets better. My Dr said it takes about 2 years to get over having a baby. So I wasn't recovering as I was always pregnant. Im so sorry you went through this. I truly know how horrid it can be. Reach out get help. Oh lord get help. I'm so happy your feeling better. True ITS NOTHING to be ashamed of. Nothing at all. I'm glad you have a husband who stuck by you no matter what. I was not that lucky. But I'm fine. I still have my days but I had other issues as well. Anyway I hope your video helps other women. We need to stick together. Support each other. Take time for you. Always. It's so important. It's good to talk about. Yes being a woman is sooooo hard lol. But we are tough. Best of luck darling. Your so kind and beautiful. 💓💓💓💓With a great heart. God bless
Angela Lanter thank you Angela very much. I'm OK. I have great days good days some bad days. Depression and anxiety is aweful. I've had a lot of trauma in my life. But it's something at times you can't change you just have to accept. When I feel hopeless I remember the Serenity prayer and footprints poem which personally I love. I know I'm not alone. Nor are you. You are one brave woman to go on social media and speak about this issue. Even though its recognised a lot more now and accepted that it in no way can be helped there are still people that say its all in your head snap out of it. If only it was that easy we would do it. So thank you for bringing up a subject a lot of women deal with after or during pregnancy. It's not easy being a mum. Especially a first time one. It's very hard. Hormones suck. Lol. But we aren't alone. Everyone can get help get a support network(so important) see a medical professional. Remember women our bodies do the best thing ever. Make a beautiful human for 9 months. We go through labour.. We don't need to be super humans. Rest when baby does give our bodies time to heal. Don't stress over a bit of a tummy. Trust me it will go into shape. Bonding with bubs is much more important than housework. Everyone is different and copes. differently. I didn't at all. But I'm OK. I hope all you women out there take care of themselves. Get a facial get your nails done. Read a book. Whatever makes you happy. But look after yourselves baby needs you. Angela I hope you are OK. I truly do. I empathise so much. You will be fine. I promise. God bless. Xx
Thank you for sharing this! I just stopped nursing my daughter 2 months ago and since then my anxiety has got worse and I've seemed therapy through my provider. I definetly feel alone because no woman around me has talked about post weening. Also I have a 4 year old son and was still nursing him when I was pregnant with my daughter so my body never got to level out hormones wise...so this has been hitting me like a ton of bricks. Thank you for this video truly
I'm so glad too, friend! You're definitely not alone! HUGS!
I know what you mean Angela, you hear of someone taking medication and think did they really need it or to be on it so long or maybe they still take the same dosages. You have the support of Matt who loves you to the end of the world and back love and your darling daughter so thank you for sharing your story. I struggled with Menopause or I suppose still going through it not had a menstrual in over two years now and 50yr last November but the amount of people especially my mother in law who was very judgemental everything was oh your too warm all the time for goodness sake I was never like that is it not just in your head, what do you mean you cant sleep you cant concentrate, some people if its not happening to them they dont want to know. I dont have any children as I cant have any but I understand what mothers can go through you are trying to be there for your child, your husband, your family and most of all you NEED to be there for yourself to look after. Im glad you are getting a lot better now, stay strong as I said in my last message I sent. Lots of Love Arlene xxx
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability! No doubt this video will continue to lift the stigma around perinatal mood and anxiety disorders and normalize the conversation. You're making an impact! :)
Thank you for sharing your story. So important to keep an open dialogue on these topics so we can help those who are struggling to know they aren’t alone. ❤️
@angelalanter So proud of you for getting out there and being open and honest! One of the reasons why I love your channel.
Thank you for posting this to make this conversation start. I have not had a baby but will eventually in the future and knowing this will help ease my mind when the time comes. Love this raw video!
Its sad that us woman feel like we have to try to fix it ourselves. I definitely had this too. Except I never asked for help I diagnosed myself but wouldnt let myself actually go see my doctor. Part of my anxiety was about leaving the house and traveling to town to shop. I only felt safe at home. None of mine was related about my son I was just sooo anxious. I now feel like I'm coming out of it 3.5 months after the last time I weaned, and the 6 months before as I was slowly decreasing nursing It was getting worse and worse. Its such an irrational thing and it doesnt make sense. Im hopeing its the end of it and that I can start to enjoy going out and doing things with my son and husband again. Instead of letting the anxiety dictate my life.
I completely understand, friend. I'm so so sorry you're going through it. You don't deserve to suffer.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Although I don’t have a child I have suffered severely from depression and anxiety in the past and like you was given medication but never took it. You’ve made me feel like maybe it’s okay.
I know it’s been a while since you posted this, it just popped up in my recommendations. God works like that I guess haha. I pray you’re 100% back to yourself🙂
I’m in tears watching this. The fear you talked about with not wanting to take the medicine is exactly how I’ve felt. It feels like an endless cycle, the desperation for relief and needing to be better, but thank the Lord, God is greater and it will end. I needed to hear this so much and I’m so thankful that you shared your story so openly and real. Thank you! God bless 💜
Thank you for sharing, not many people talk abt PPD but it is very common. I went through it and think you are so brave to speak up abt it ❤️
I’m not a mommy yet but I became a pseudo mom when my nephew was born *the father is absent and I stepped in to help my twin sister out with raising my nephew and niece* and I feel all of the this. I let myself go. I felt the depression and anxiety and not feeling enough. I get it and I’m so glad you posted this video to help new mamas not feel so alone.
Angela Lanter thank you! So very much! Your encouragement and shedding light on this truly warms my heart and we are all so grateful! I shared this with my sister as well! We are getting back to normal now! Oh took a few years but it’s getting better! Bless you!
Thank you so much for sharing! I have suffered from depression and anxiety for years. Its such a awful thing to go though. So glad you are feeling better ❤
Thank you. I’m having anxiety as soon as I night weaned my son. It’s what I would call mild, I usually feel anxious at a certain time of day and I was wondering what happened. I’m nervous to continue weaning because I don’t want it to get worse. It’s news to me that you can be postpartum for 3 years, that’s wild! Sorry you went through that- that sounds so hard. It’s wild hormones can do this to us!
Praying for you, Momma!!!
@@angelalanter thank you! It went away, so it was the night weaning. Luckily my body adjusted. I don’t see him totally weaning for awhile, but I will definitely keep an eye on it when I stop!
Everything you described is everything I have been dealing with right now...but I didn't even think to ask my doctor about any of it. I have been so confused with myself lately. My daughter is currently 16 months and breastfeeding story sounds just like yours.
Thank you!!!! I found this bc I knew someone else had to be talking about this.
My first clue was that I began taking ashwagandha and hoped to treat my own depression. At that point I was just beginning to wean. Then four months later my periods became twice a month and I weaned, it all crumbled around.
I talked to my family and they were not supportive of meds.
I took the pill two days ago and I do feel better now.
I'm so so glad to hear it, Michelle! Take care of YOU!!
This was such a beautiful & honest video. Thank you for bravely sharing your journey! Praying you continue to feel better. I know this video will be such an encouragement to other women.
You are an amazing and strong woman ♥️ I'm so thankful that you are so open with us 🙂thank you so much ♥️ bless you and your beautiful family 🙏
I love you Angela!! You are doing amazing things with how honest you are! I love watching and listening to you.
Thanks you so much for being open and honest with us. ❤️ I’m praying for you!
Thank you for sharing so much of your soul with us. Always rooting for you, Angela.
I am so worried about this. I don’t think I had anything more than normal frustration and lack of sleep in the beginning either but every time I have thought of weaning I start to cry. We are almost 17 months in and I would like to make it through next winter. I just know I won’t be able to wean her, and hope she will do it herself 😫
God bless you for sharing your story- I feel like I was meant to come across your video. My 14 month old just weaned and I was not prepared as it was very sudden. I’m very emotional right now and my sleep has been terrible. I’m hoping each day gets easier...
It will, friend. Just take it one day at a time and take care of yourself too!
Thank you for sharing your journey I have a 15 month old. And have had post partum since the day after I had her. I was put on medicine and its better but not completely gone. I still have severe anxiety esp when it comes to my little girl. But I am so glad its talked about more.
you are amazing and strong woman I am sending prayers and positive vibe for you. I am proud of you for opening up that message about that topic it is a tough topic to talk about. you are so brave. you are raising your voice to other new moms who is going thru the same thing that is a quite of a accomplish. you can do this, I believe in you. I love you
@@angelalanter I went to the gorgeous girls community Facebook page and I just joined the group I am waiting for the confirm to it. It said request something like that
When I had my second baby, my first baby was barely 2 years old. Three months into having my youngest home, I found myself crying over everything. No reason for it. I would go to put my oldest, Alex, down for his nap, and then my youngest, Zach, would want to be fed. Since Alex didn't want to go to sleep by himself, I would have to sit in there with him and feed Zach at the same time. Then Alex, though he had been weaned for over a year, would get jealous and feel like Zach was getting all of the attention. Then a temper tantrum would happen. I just didn't know how to handle it, and I would get so overwhelmed that I would cry for much longer than Alex was pitching his own tantrum. This made me feel terrible; like I was neglecting my first born because he seemed like he felt like he needed more and I didn't know how to cope and give him what he needed.
Then, it got to a point to where everything that could go wrong, did, even though I am told by my husband that none of it was as bad as it was affecting me. My interest in everything declined. I neglected my husband and my children. I took care of their every need, don't get me wrong. They were cared for. But I did not show the affection and I was not as present for them as I should have been. Luckily, I had a very special friend who noticed all of this and told me, well, basically made me go to the doctor. She noticed all the symptoms I was exhibiting of postpartum. So I did. I went and saw my doctor, and I ended up on an antidepressant, and I have no shame in admitting that. It was the only way that I could care for my children without breaking down at the drop of a hat. It helped me through the hard times I was experiencing. Now I have an overenthusiastic but loving 4-year-old, and a sweet as can be 2-year-old, and I am so glad that I took my doctor's advice and started the medication. It helped me to really be present in their lives. There is nothing wrong with taking the medication that will help you. Postpartum is not to be taken lightly. I am proud that you were finally able to do so. Much love, from mine to yours darling. Enjoy that sweet child and wonderful husband you have, girl. You've GOT this =)
Sarah Elaine Piper how long did it take yours to work completely? ❤️
I know this was 4 years ago but I’m going through the same thing! It’s horrible! I just want to sleep again. It’s been a weeks. I was on medication but it stopped helping me so now I’m without anything and it’s awful
Oh no, friend! Go chat with your doctor about it!
So proud of your courage in telling your story.
Girl, I never comment, but had to because I went through this. For me it all started when I was weaning my son (who was almost 2 at the time). I too didn’t think it could be PPD. I’m now 6 months post wean and it’s getting better! The part that rang true for me was the tingling and body electricity feeling. It was crazy!
Angela Lanter Thanks for your reply!! I wish you the best and hope you feel better soon! 💋💋💋
I'm so glad that you shared this video. I am glad you're doing much better now.
Angela, did you have good and bad days once the medication started working? I started Lexapro three weeks ago and it started working but then I had a couple “bad” anxiety days. I’m looking for encouragement to keep going and that this is not a setback. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
I'm currently taking Lexapro, 4 weeks in. How are you doing now? Did it seem to help you? I hope you're ok
I hope you will get through this quickly and become even stronger. Wish you and your family all the best. xo